Speaker 1: The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan.
Speaker 2: Part one.
Speaker 1: I hang a scene with a member of the show.
Speaker 2: What's Up Party People. It's Saturday morning, and Mike Dye
Speaker 2: is joining me. Hello, Bike, Hey are you?
Speaker 3: I'm good If you hear my voice a little bit differently,
Speaker 3: that is because they have a little bit of a
Speaker 3: head cold.
Speaker 2: So we're just gonna ignore that.
Speaker 1: Okay, That's why I asked, how are you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we are. I'm bundled in a blanket right now.
Speaker 3: I'm either incredibly warm or incredibly hot or incredibly cold,
Speaker 3: and there's no in between in my life.
Speaker 2: Right now.
Speaker 1: I usually run cold, Like I usually get cold more
Speaker 1: than I get hot.
Speaker 3: Really, you don't like ever like sweat profusely and you're like,
Speaker 3: holy cravity.
Speaker 1: Not really. I'm usually on the opposite end, like it
Speaker 1: could be like sixty I'm freezing in.
Speaker 3: Here, Okay, after feeling that lately, especially as I get older,
Speaker 3: do you think that's the thing is we get older?
Speaker 1: Yeah, i feel like I'm withering away. My bones are like,
Speaker 1: that's too cold in here.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because whenever I go to the retirement home, it's
Speaker 2: always so warm, like so.
Speaker 3: Warm, and I'm like, maybe that's the thing because we
Speaker 3: get older and then you get colder.
Speaker 1: Because I also find myself driving with like nothing, no acon,
Speaker 1: no airflow whatsoever, and my wife hates it. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I like thrive in the warmer, just like car environment.
Speaker 3: That's funny too, because most of the time it's always
Speaker 3: the dudes who want like the air on below sixty,
Speaker 3: you know, in the house or in the car.
Speaker 2: That's interesting.
Speaker 1: No, I like it just warm and muggy. I guess do.
Speaker 2: You guys spide over the temperature in the house.
Speaker 1: No, not really, because I've kind of gotten used to it.
Speaker 1: But I think it's more so in the car, like
Speaker 1: our sides of the car complete opposites.
Speaker 2: So she gets really hot and you get really.
Speaker 1: Goodah, She'll crank it down all the way and then
Speaker 1: I'm like, keep it like seventy two.
Speaker 2: So what do you guys keep your house hat most
Speaker 2: of the time?
Speaker 1: Probably like seventy four.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's not an invent.
Speaker 1: My wife also likes to save money, so she's like,
Speaker 1: I'm not expecting that much money on like tristity to
Speaker 1: keep it cold. So that's kind of where the balance
Speaker 1: comes in.
Speaker 2: Okay, I see it.
Speaker 3: I need an update have you gone and done a
Speaker 3: run club and have you made any new friends in
Speaker 3: a red club?
Speaker 1: I have not gotten to a run club. I have
Speaker 1: not made any friends. I've said hi to more people
Speaker 1: on the trails.
Speaker 2: Okay, this is improvement.
Speaker 1: Like one of them happens to be like a sixty
Speaker 1: five year old man who crushes it. But I finally
Speaker 1: got him to like acknowledge.
Speaker 2: Me before he just ignore you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And he's the only person I've seen consistently for
Speaker 1: the last three years, and he like runs faster and
Speaker 1: more than I do. And I'm always just impressed by him.
Speaker 1: But he would just like keep going straight along. And
Speaker 1: I've had at least had him acknowledge me.
Speaker 2: Did he give me like the head nod?
Speaker 1: Kind of like the head nod wave. There's like a
Speaker 1: runner wave.
Speaker 2: There's a runner wave.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what is it? It's kind of like just to your side.
Speaker 1: You either do like a quick little like it's kind
Speaker 1: of like putting out your fin That's funny.
Speaker 3: It's probably because like if you're moving, you don't want
Speaker 3: to like full wave. Your body is going forward to
Speaker 3: the momentum.
Speaker 2: Does it make it?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just to quick just.
Speaker 2: It's kind of like a salute, but not.
Speaker 1: Yeah the quick because like walkers usually like to say hello,
Speaker 1: and they'll do like a full wave. Bikers don't say
Speaker 1: anything to you at all. They'll just try to run
Speaker 1: you over or yell at you or on your left.
Speaker 1: But I feel like there's a bond between anybody I
Speaker 1: encounter who is running because you like feel that same pain,
Speaker 1: You feel that same like, oh, you're going through it
Speaker 1: right now. So they're just that runner's wave because you
Speaker 1: don't want to put too much energy into saying hello,
Speaker 1: because it's like you're trying to conserve it all.
Speaker 3: Isn't it funny how we have humans have created so
Speaker 3: many different variations of like hello's. Like there's the jeep wave,
Speaker 3: there's the runner's wave, there's the head nod, like all
Speaker 3: these different lines of communication.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because there's also a Mexican high where it's you
Speaker 1: throw your head back.
Speaker 2: Wait, so you don't do like the head nod.
Speaker 1: No, it's the opposite of the head nod. You literally
Speaker 1: throw your head back, your head back. Sometimes you add
Speaker 1: in the arms, like that's a little bit more if
Speaker 1: we're trying to fight them, But sometimes just the head
Speaker 1: nod is like a salute to maybe it's some Mexican
Speaker 1: dude thing, but I feel like I've seen some ants
Speaker 1: do it as well.
Speaker 2: Like I've seen some ants throw hands. That's funny. It's
Speaker 2: so crazy. Humans are wild. It also like who starts
Speaker 2: that one day? You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: I mean it's I think it's just like animals too.
Speaker 1: Like animals have different ways they say hi, So humans
Speaker 1: have different ways they say hi. Like dogs sniff each
Speaker 1: other's butts. We do, weird waves, we do.
Speaker 3: We've added so many different things. It was funny. I
Speaker 3: follow the account Good News Movement.
Speaker 2: Have you heard of that?
Speaker 3: One they posted a video of these two guys in
Speaker 3: Argentina and they were on the street in their cars
Speaker 3: and they were like yelling at each other from their
Speaker 3: cars and they're like angry over road rage. And then
Speaker 3: as they got closer to each other, they realized they
Speaker 3: were friends and then like hugged each other.
Speaker 2: I was like, that's such so weird.
Speaker 3: And then you see the wives come out of the
Speaker 3: cars and also like embrace each other, and I was like,
Speaker 3: what an interesting way of approaching each other. And it
Speaker 3: was like all in the comments was like, oh yeah,
Speaker 3: this is the Argentina way.
Speaker 1: That's why I don't have road rage, because I always
Speaker 1: worry that it's going to be somebody that I know, Like,
Speaker 1: especially like leaving work, I'm like, I'm not yelling at anybody,
Speaker 1: honking at anybody. His chances are we like pulled into
Speaker 1: the same garage, like, oh crap, they both work here.
Speaker 2: That's for sure happened to me before.
Speaker 3: We're like we're going to the same place, or like
Speaker 3: if you're fighting over kind of a parking spot and
Speaker 3: who's gonna get it, and you get it and.
Speaker 2: Then you end up walking in at the same time
Speaker 2: and you're like, oh, this is awkward. Yeah, that happened
Speaker 2: to be at Pilatis the other day.
Speaker 1: That's really awkward.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So, like there was two spaces, but one of
Speaker 3: them was a handicap space, and scrumpled into the handicap space.
Speaker 2: I don't know if she thought I was trying to
Speaker 2: fight her over, but I.
Speaker 3: Was like, I know that's a handicap space, but sure
Speaker 3: you can have it. And then like I pulled into
Speaker 3: the other one and we like literally start walking in
Speaker 3: at the same time. I was like, I feel really
Speaker 3: uncomfortable because like you might get a ticket, but it's fine.
Speaker 3: It was an awkward moment. Okay, Mike, I need updates
Speaker 3: on life. How's your wife? Kell's see, how is life
Speaker 3: in general? Any new things going on?
Speaker 1: We are good right now. I think I've been focused
Speaker 1: on the word I told you was going to be
Speaker 1: my word of the year. Invest Yeah, and I've been
Speaker 1: taking time to invest in myself. And I think it's
Speaker 1: because in this industry, in any industry, you go through
Speaker 1: burnout where you just feel like, man, I'm doing the
Speaker 1: same thing over and over again. Everything's still great, but
Speaker 1: I kind of feel like I want to do some
Speaker 1: more things that are for me, and I think I've
Speaker 1: done that in the last month of focusing on the
Speaker 1: things I've been wanting to do for a while, and
Speaker 1: that has been primarily with my podcast and trying to
Speaker 1: branch out a little more.
Speaker 3: So.
Speaker 1: I've taken on some events that I never thought I
Speaker 1: would do, Like I hosted my first movie screening. I
Speaker 1: saw that, which was kind of taking myself out of
Speaker 1: my comfort zone, but also what I'm comfortable with because
Speaker 1: I've spent time on a stage. I've done things like that,
Speaker 1: just not in that capacity. So it was nerve wracking
Speaker 1: but also comforting At the same time. Yeah, And I
Speaker 1: think just taking time to do things like that, it's
Speaker 1: kind of how I break out of that burnout of
Speaker 1: feeling like, Okay, I still have all these other things
Speaker 1: I need to do, but I kind of have to
Speaker 1: prioritize some time for things that I want to do
Speaker 1: that make me feel like alive, because I think we
Speaker 1: just start doing things over and over again and we're like, man, like,
Speaker 1: I feel like I haven't done anything for myself in
Speaker 1: a while. It still works, though, so I'm still doing
Speaker 1: things like career driven, but it just kind of feels
Speaker 1: like afresh, just like ah, this feels good again.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you becoming that routine of the work to live
Speaker 3: rather than like living and working, and.
Speaker 2: It's not a fun place to be.
Speaker 3: When that starts to happen, you feel like you're missing
Speaker 3: out on a lot of life and you're like things
Speaker 3: are just passing you by, and you wake up it's
Speaker 3: like three years later and you've missed everything that happens.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the time passing is just crazy when you get
Speaker 1: older and you just see like man, years have gone by,
Speaker 1: Like what do I have to show for it? Yeah, So,
Speaker 1: in like the last month, I've kind of just been
Speaker 1: just focused on that doing more interviews with my podcast,
Speaker 1: which is something I've just been trying to get better at,
Speaker 1: and I just find myself at times feeling like I
Speaker 1: suck at it, but I know that I need the
Speaker 1: reps to be able to do it more.
Speaker 2: So, you feel like you suck at interviews?
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I feel like I suck at everything anything
Speaker 1: I do on my own. I feel like I suck
Speaker 1: at and you.
Speaker 3: Don't let me reassure you that you don't. Your interviews
Speaker 3: are awesome and you're great at what you do. But
Speaker 3: I also understand like this, uh it's called imposter syndrome.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't even know if exact exactly if it's
Speaker 1: imposter syndrome. I just feel that I'm somebody who gets
Speaker 1: so prepared, like I'm over prepared for an interview. I
Speaker 1: read all about the person for me, I have to
Speaker 1: watch a movie for every interview, which I love to do,
Speaker 1: and that's like my favorite thing. And I feel like
Speaker 1: I get in my head too much of like, oh,
Speaker 1: I have all these perfect questions I want to ask,
Speaker 1: and then in the moment, I'm like I lose myself
Speaker 1: and I'm like I don't know how I take how
Speaker 1: I feel about things and translate it back into here
Speaker 1: without me sounding like an idiot, or without me getting
Speaker 1: to everything, or without me feeling like I didn't have
Speaker 1: a good conversation at the end of it. So I
Speaker 1: still feel like there's a learning thing I need to
Speaker 1: get over in that process. When I listen back to them,
Speaker 1: I'm like, Oh, it's not as bad as a fella
Speaker 1: in the moment, Like in the moment, I feel like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm ruining this right now, and then later I listen
Speaker 1: back or cut clips from it, and I'm like, Oh,
Speaker 1: it's actually not bad.
Speaker 3: I feel like there's two things I've really learned when
Speaker 3: it's come to interviews, and one being you.
Speaker 2: Can never be weird for geeking out.
Speaker 3: People love when people geek out, even if it's over
Speaker 3: them or over something they did. Like. People love seeing
Speaker 3: people being passionate, especially if it's about things that like
Speaker 3: there's similar things that they're also passionate about.
Speaker 2: So I don't feel like.
Speaker 3: You're ever gonna look stupid for like sharing your feelings
Speaker 3: and thoughts as you're like processing something. I think that's
Speaker 3: one thing that's kind of a misconception about interviews because
Speaker 3: we especially when, especially for you, you're gonna get actors and
Speaker 3: these people that you've probably looked up to or watched
Speaker 3: a lot of their stuff. I think so much of
Speaker 3: what they do as an artist wants to be seen
Speaker 3: in that way. They'd rather someone be so excited and
Speaker 3: passionate or like have a lot of questions about what
Speaker 3: they've done, then somebody who just comes to and says,
Speaker 3: this is really cool, you did a good job.
Speaker 2: Can you tell me why you came up with that?
Speaker 2: You know what I mean? So you can never not
Speaker 2: geek out enough.
Speaker 3: And two, throwing out the questions is sometimes better and
Speaker 3: just allowing yourself to have a conversation with another like
Speaker 3: human being and just existing within that moment rather than
Speaker 3: being like, I have to hit all of these things,
Speaker 3: whether it's for fans of the movie or fans of
Speaker 3: a certain type of thing that's that person is involved with.
Speaker 3: Like sometimes throwing out that role book of these are
Speaker 3: important things to get to.
Speaker 2: Is necessary to get to, like a really good interview.
Speaker 3: There's been times where I've like prepped for interviews and
Speaker 3: it will just go in a completely different direction.
Speaker 2: And it's worth it.
Speaker 3: It's always been worth it, and never once where I
Speaker 3: was like, dang, I should have stayed on my track.
Speaker 3: I was like, no, we got somewhere so much better
Speaker 3: and so much deeper. So those two things are things
Speaker 3: that I feel like I've really learned in interviews.
Speaker 2: I don't know if that helps at all.
Speaker 1: That's good advice because I think listening to you say
Speaker 1: that and thinking of like how I would go into
Speaker 1: some of these is I would try to emulate some
Speaker 1: of the people I like a little bit too much,
Speaker 1: because there's some interviewers that I like that get to
Speaker 1: the point really quickly and ask questions that I'm like, ah, like,
Speaker 1: that's just a great formulated question, And I think I've
Speaker 1: tried to do that too much, where I'm like, I
Speaker 1: need to scale it back because I need to think
Speaker 1: about how I approach even how I talk about movie
Speaker 1: where it's more from a place of passion in a
Speaker 1: place of like how things make me feel. I was like,
Speaker 1: I got to focus on that more. I got to
Speaker 1: stop trying to be the guy who's going to ask
Speaker 1: questions that is going to like rattle them or blow
Speaker 1: their minds a little bit of like, oh, he went
Speaker 1: into this amount of depth for this question. I think
Speaker 1: I got to get away from that and just talk
Speaker 1: how I talk about stuff on my podcast.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's also hard.
Speaker 3: Sometimes getting to the point leaves out a lot of
Speaker 3: the like vulnerable good moments. Sometimes when you just make
Speaker 3: him like get to this like very like yes, it
Speaker 3: may be deep and maybe like, oh I've never heard
Speaker 3: that question before, But most of the time when you
Speaker 3: allow them to just like be passionate and excited that
Speaker 3: you end up getting stuff that they would never say
Speaker 3: anyway because they're excited and they're passionate.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think you nailed it right there. I'm always
Speaker 1: trying to like, I think that's the best thing as
Speaker 1: an interviewer is somebody saying I've never been asked that before,
Speaker 1: and I've been chasing that too much, where I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm getting way too specific. I'm just trying too hard
Speaker 1: in that capacity. Yeah, I need to just ask them.
Speaker 1: Sometimes it feels like you're not trying as hard when
Speaker 1: you ask more simple questions. But sometimes I probably just
Speaker 1: keeping it simple just helps it breathe a little bit.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I don't think here's the thing too, Like
Speaker 3: there is probably a side of this where you're interviewing
Speaker 3: people who are on these circuits and they're getting so
Speaker 3: many of the same questions.
Speaker 2: But I think when you get.
Speaker 3: To geek out is when you start asking questions that
Speaker 3: they've never heard. Because so many of those people who
Speaker 3: are in those circuits are in the media and they're
Speaker 3: not watching or they're not really in depth into the
Speaker 3: movie space. They're probably more involved with them as an
Speaker 3: actor or as a person. So them getting to like
Speaker 3: really geek out about like their art and their project
Speaker 3: is going to be something that they're not having much
Speaker 3: experience with already. So you leaning into that side, I
Speaker 3: think is gonna accomplish that without trying. I don't know
Speaker 3: if that makes any sense. It does since in my brain,
Speaker 3: as obviously.
Speaker 1: It does, because that is the battle I have is
Speaker 1: they are on circuits where they're doing one after another
Speaker 1: for two to three hours, and I'm like, they're probably
Speaker 1: burnt by the time they get to me. They've been
Speaker 1: answering the same question over and over. But there are
Speaker 1: certain questions I need to get that I feel are
Speaker 1: the best representation. I'm like, gosh, how do you do it?
Speaker 1: And then I also get shorter amounts of time. It's
Speaker 1: like ten fifteen minutes most times because they are in
Speaker 1: these circuits and it's like very limited. So I'm like,
Speaker 1: I gotta just come right out of the gate and
Speaker 1: try to get something out of them quickly.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think maybe more of a strategy. It's like
Speaker 3: you ask your two things that you have to ask for,
Speaker 3: like necessity, and then you just start geeking out, especially
Speaker 3: if you love something, if you watch something and you
Speaker 3: were so excited about it.
Speaker 2: I know there's sometimes you watch no, it wasn't very good,
Speaker 2: but you watch.
Speaker 3: Something you get excited about it, and you have an
Speaker 3: interview with one of them be excited about it. I
Speaker 3: think we get so caught up in this idea of
Speaker 3: like trying to work in other people's perceptions, and the
Speaker 3: best interviews are always the ones or you just be
Speaker 3: who you are and allow that to come through.
Speaker 2: Those are the ones that are people enjoy listening to too.
Speaker 1: That is something somebody asked me recently on I think
Speaker 1: they do a dm me on Instagram is what do
Speaker 1: you do if you don't like the movie they did?
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I find that I've been lucky that most everybody I've
Speaker 1: interviewed I've actually enjoyed their work is because I find.
Speaker 1: If I don't, I usually won't take it because it's
Speaker 1: really hard when it's so focused on the movie to
Speaker 1: not like it. It come from a place and it
Speaker 1: depends because I feel like I could find something in
Speaker 1: anything even if I didn't like the movie. I could
Speaker 1: find something of the elements of filmmaking or other work
Speaker 1: that they've done that I could ask them about without
Speaker 1: me saying that I didn't like this movie. It's really
Speaker 1: hard to do, so I don't normally do that. But
Speaker 1: for the most part, I think there's something you can
Speaker 1: find in anything even if the project is bad. But
Speaker 1: I won't lie and say that I liked the movie
Speaker 1: that I didn't like and I won't give it a
Speaker 1: good review if I did it, I just kind of
Speaker 1: will tiptoe around it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like other ways to talk about different.
Speaker 1: Pieces because also like somebody will like it, Like if
Speaker 1: I don't like it, somebody else will like it. And
Speaker 1: I think that's always the perspective I try to give
Speaker 1: in my reviews, like I hated this, but if you
Speaker 1: like so and so, you might enjoy it. So I
Speaker 1: don't try to ruin other people from enjoying something. I
Speaker 1: just give you my honest opinion.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you and I have had various like opposite reviews
Speaker 3: on a lot of things, but every time I'm like, no,
Speaker 3: I respect it, Like that's a fair point.
Speaker 2: But also I still feel the way that I feel.
Speaker 1: I think that's why I like doing this is because
Speaker 1: it is subjective. Like just because I say I like
Speaker 1: something doesn't mean that that thing is actually good. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you could watch it and hate it. That's why I
Speaker 1: enjoy and I enjoy the debate of people who like
Speaker 1: something that I don't like or don't like something that
Speaker 1: I like. That's what makes it fun. And also, like
Speaker 1: when you're talking about movies, it doesn't feel as rage
Speaker 1: feel when you're like arguing about politics or something, because
Speaker 1: it's like nobody's right here. It's it's all fiction. Yeah,
Speaker 1: nobody's gonna yeah, there's no real true it's all opinion.
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's not a lot of like you don't have
Speaker 3: like punishment for feeling how you feel. Okay, we're gonna
Speaker 3: take a quick break. We're gonna come back and get
Speaker 3: some more updates from Mike. We got on a little
Speaker 3: rant there about movies and topics, which I know is
Speaker 3: fun for you to always talk about but I know,
Speaker 3: like you also have your own podcast about that, so
Speaker 3: I try and avoid it. I do want to hear
Speaker 3: about like your wife, how are things going with your wife?
Speaker 3: And other stuff outside of work.
Speaker 2: We focus on work, let's focus outside of work.
Speaker 1: Outside of work, she is trying to convince me we
Speaker 1: need to get a dog every single day.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you still haven't caved.
Speaker 1: Still haven't caved. But I'm closer to it, okay, because
Speaker 1: I think she makes really good points of she just
Speaker 1: wants somebody who because she works from home four out
Speaker 1: of the five days of the week. She's like, I
Speaker 1: just need somebody here to like hang out with me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And I think I'm at that point where I could
Speaker 1: see it, because.
Speaker 2: What's your hold up so far?
Speaker 1: The only thing is like right now, I like the
Speaker 1: ability for us to be able to leave on a whim.
Speaker 1: We like to travel, and we like to book last
Speaker 1: minute trips, Like we just booked a trip to go
Speaker 1: home next month, and it was kind of like, okay,
Speaker 1: we can we can make it, get everything in line,
Speaker 1: we can go. I feel like adding in a dog
Speaker 1: will complicate that. But I also don't think we're going
Speaker 1: to be like that forever, right now like I feel
Speaker 1: like we have another year or two before we start
Speaker 1: thinking about kids, that we have this window that we
Speaker 1: want to be like have no restraints. That's really my
Speaker 1: only hold up at the moment, and also just I
Speaker 1: think me having to contribute to that as well, like
Speaker 1: I know, like she really wants a dog and said,
Speaker 1: like it's almost like if like a kid really wants
Speaker 1: a dog, like no, I'll take care of it. I'll
Speaker 1: walk it, I'll feed it. And I know I'll take
Speaker 1: on some of that responsibility because I will, and I'll
Speaker 1: eventually go to find a way to fit that into everything.
Speaker 1: But I think right now that feels a little overwhelming still,
Speaker 1: So that's still my only hang up. And the fact
Speaker 1: that like it's so easy to just get out of
Speaker 1: here if we want to and not worry about that,
Speaker 1: because that is hard to do. It is is what
Speaker 1: do you do when you when you leave town?
Speaker 2: I have to have friends. I like calling all my friends.
Speaker 2: I'm like, Okay, who can come stay at the house.
Speaker 3: And it's like I don't even like sending that text
Speaker 3: sometimes just because it feels like I'm asking somebody to
Speaker 3: like really help and contribute to my life and it's tough,
Speaker 3: like it really does add a thing. I've learned how
Speaker 3: to travel with them a lot. I've had to just
Speaker 3: it's like, Okay, if I really want to go somewhere
Speaker 3: on a whim, like a weekend trip, Okay, where can
Speaker 3: I go that I can drive and they're tagging along.
Speaker 3: That's kind of the attitude I've had to change around it.
Speaker 3: But then when I really want to go on other trips,
Speaker 3: it's finding people to watch them, and how does that work?
Speaker 3: And I kind of set myself up for a lot
Speaker 3: of friends to watch and like sometimes I'll drive home
Speaker 3: and literally drop them off with my parents and I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 3: thanks guys, but I have to drive twenty two hours
Speaker 3: of my life to make that happen. But in all honesty,
Speaker 3: that is so worth it to me. That's like a
Speaker 3: they are so worth it. It's worth that trade off
Speaker 3: for me to travel a few times a year to
Speaker 3: kind of change my routes and what I have to do.
Speaker 3: I will say, though, I do think you guys could
Speaker 3: start fostering, and I think that would help.
Speaker 1: That's probably yeah, that's probably a good in between.
Speaker 3: I think it would allow her to have somebody there
Speaker 3: all the time, and it would allow you to see
Speaker 3: how an animal would fit INTERI.
Speaker 2: As his lifestyle.
Speaker 1: How about the way she is. I could just see
Speaker 1: her like, no, we're not giving them back, We're not
Speaker 1: doing it.
Speaker 2: And that is true, and you've said that before.
Speaker 3: But it could be like you're like, hey, I'm willing
Speaker 3: to like give this a shot. Let's just foster and
Speaker 3: see how this goes, and let me see how I
Speaker 3: feel and if you can get her to be on
Speaker 3: in agreement with you of like, this isn't a guarantee,
Speaker 3: like this is what I want, but like I need
Speaker 3: to see how I I'm gonna be able to fit this
Speaker 3: into my life and just maybe that's an option.
Speaker 1: Yeah. The compromise I would make with her is we
Speaker 1: could foster a dog when we also have to foster
Speaker 1: a cat.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I'm more of a cat guy and she's not. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm like I grew up having cats. I love cats.
Speaker 1: Every now and then we'll get a cat who comes
Speaker 1: by the house just to chill and I'll feed them,
Speaker 1: I'll hang out with them, yeah, and then they go
Speaker 1: about their way. I just love I just love.
Speaker 2: Cats like they are more independent.
Speaker 1: I think that's why because they kind of chill do
Speaker 1: their own thing. They'll come over and show you a
Speaker 1: little affections and they're like, all right, I'm good man,
Speaker 1: just feed me, give me some water, and I'm good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you totally could. You can totally foster.
Speaker 3: Listen, I gotta rescue that saves dog dayan cats, so
Speaker 3: you can foster both.
Speaker 2: And I love both.
Speaker 3: I have one of each, and they're they're vastly different,
Speaker 3: but like my and maybe we need to get Kelsey
Speaker 3: to meet my cat, because everybody who's not a cat
Speaker 3: person meets my cat and they're like.
Speaker 2: Oh, I like cats.
Speaker 3: You have to have had the right interaction because there
Speaker 3: are a lot of mean cats. Like cats are, they're
Speaker 3: sassy and they have a personality, but like Siamese growing
Speaker 3: up with them, they act like dogs. They're very like
Speaker 3: attentive and they really want to be around you. They're
Speaker 3: not like like, my cat would love to be next
Speaker 3: to me and all my lap at all hours of
Speaker 3: every day, whereas some cats are like, no, don't touch me.
Speaker 3: I'll come to you when I want to hang out,
Speaker 3: you know that. Like there's different personality types. So maybe
Speaker 3: we need to get Hurt to meet my cats. And
Speaker 3: then she can be open to the idea of also
Speaker 3: fostering a cat, and then you guys both get something here.
Speaker 1: How was that integrating a dog and a cat? Do
Speaker 1: they really fight at the very beginning? Is it kind
Speaker 1: of like an adjustment? Because I remember even when I
Speaker 1: would have two cats, they would kind of feel each
Speaker 1: other at a little bit, they'd like miss at each other,
Speaker 1: kind of chase each other, and then they'd be cool
Speaker 1: after a while.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah, especially because listen, Remy, my dog is
Speaker 3: she is an only child.
Speaker 2: She wanted to be an only child her entire life.
Speaker 2: That is all she ever wanted.
Speaker 3: So when I first started astering Hazel, it was for
Speaker 3: sure an adjustment for her. And they would have moments
Speaker 3: like Hazel's got a solid left right hook on her,
Speaker 3: so solid. I have to keep those nails trimmed all
Speaker 3: the time because if Remy gets too close and they're
Speaker 3: like having.
Speaker 2: A moment, it is fight. Wwe in my kitchen.
Speaker 3: So it still happens, It's okay, Yeah, It's just like
Speaker 3: they have so much, so many more moments now where
Speaker 3: they coexist so well, and they both greet me at
Speaker 3: the back door, no issues, and they've kind of like
Speaker 3: found their spaces to dominate.
Speaker 2: But Remy is super possessive over the couch, and I'm not.
Speaker 3: Really sure why, Like you would think she's possessive over
Speaker 3: her food or her toys. Which like food, she's fine,
Speaker 3: she knows she's gonna be fed all the time.
Speaker 2: Toys, she has her moments.
Speaker 3: But the couch, there's something about the couch that when
Speaker 3: Hazel like tries to be on it, when I'm on it,
Speaker 3: it's like it really is wwe. So I'm working on
Speaker 3: Remy to try and me like girlfriend, there's lots of
Speaker 3: room on this couch for ultiple animals, but that's still
Speaker 3: always a work in progress. Besides that, we've we've come
Speaker 3: a really long way. It was it was an adjustment,
Speaker 3: for sure, But I also introduced two adult animals. I
Speaker 3: think it is a lot easier when you would introduce
Speaker 3: younger animals.
Speaker 1: Together because they just get more used to it. It's like, oh,
Speaker 1: this is just normal.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like Remy was eight years old when I adopted Hazel.
Speaker 3: Hazel was also eight years old when I adopted her.
Speaker 2: Did I say that right?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Remy was eight years old when I adopted Hazel,
Speaker 3: and Hazel was eight when I adopted her, so they
Speaker 3: were both adult cat, adult animals, like already very stuck
Speaker 3: in their own ways, and I'm like here figured out.
Speaker 3: So I do think it helps when they're a little
Speaker 3: bit younger, so you're not like Remy had eight years
Speaker 3: of her life where it was just her, and then
Speaker 3: Hazel had eight years of our life where she was
Speaker 3: around one hundred and thirty.
Speaker 2: Other cats, So we were dealing with a lot of
Speaker 2: variables there.
Speaker 1: It'd be hard for humans. I can imagine pets.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but can And there's so many people who have
Speaker 3: dogs and cats and they get along and they cut
Speaker 3: all the time. So you just find maybe you start
Speaker 3: with a cat, and then you every time you foster
Speaker 3: a dog, you make sure that it is cat friendly,
Speaker 3: because that's always a thing. I've had plenty of fosters
Speaker 3: who are great with cats. But then I found the
Speaker 3: one little grimlin from the street and she.
Speaker 2: Wanted to chase my cat.
Speaker 3: So they all have their things, their little personalities. But
Speaker 3: I do think this is a compromise and a way
Speaker 3: in for you guys, for sure.
Speaker 2: Just an idea.
Speaker 1: I think she'll love that idea because then you.
Speaker 3: Can help too, and you can both start to feel out,
Speaker 3: like what feels right for you guys instead of just
Speaker 3: like throwing yourselves to the wolves.
Speaker 2: And you're like, well, we have a dog and this is.
Speaker 3: Where we're at, you know, because I do think a
Speaker 3: lot of people do that and they're like, what do
Speaker 3: we get ourselves into? Not in a bad way, it's
Speaker 3: just it is a lifestyle change, for sure. I always
Speaker 3: have to think about them. I'm like, Okay, we're done
Speaker 3: with work, i gotta run home, gotta let all the
Speaker 3: animals like they're they're missing me. It's a it's a
Speaker 3: process for sure, but I'll be excited when you guys.
Speaker 3: Do I think you guys will be great pet parents?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I think so too. I think it'll grow on me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like maybe, but I totally I didn't know
Speaker 3: you were a cat person.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Like I I've always loved cats since I
Speaker 1: was a kid. Like in the trailer park there was
Speaker 1: always stray cats, and I'd be the one who would
Speaker 1: feed them, so they would all come to our trailer
Speaker 1: to hang out.
Speaker 2: Or your parents like wark all these cats around.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then they would just kind of embrace it.
Speaker 1: And then I made them cat people now because they
Speaker 1: have like maybe four cats at home.
Speaker 2: That's amazing. Yeah see, and they're awesome.
Speaker 3: I'm a huge cat lover, but there's more often than
Speaker 3: not people don't like cats. But I think it's most
Speaker 3: of the time they've had a bad experience with them.
Speaker 2: And they're also they can scratch you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess that's the thing.
Speaker 3: When I first cut Hazel's nails, I was like, oh okay.
Speaker 3: I literally was like in the head to head to toe.
Speaker 3: I even had gloves on, like not like uh text
Speaker 3: clove like gloves that you'd wear in the wintertime. I
Speaker 3: was so prepared for her to just like scratch the
Speaker 3: crap out of me, and she just literally sat there
Speaker 3: like okay, fine, just get this over with, like no
Speaker 3: big deal.
Speaker 2: I was like, cool, I really appreciate this because we're
Speaker 2: gonna have to do it like once a week.
Speaker 1: I mean, my cat that we had in from like
Speaker 1: maybe middle school to high school would be my alarm
Speaker 1: clock for school every morning. I love, like you would
Speaker 1: wake me up. As soon as he started like digging
Speaker 1: into my back, I was like, Oh, time to wake
Speaker 1: up for school.
Speaker 2: This is so cool. When they opened the biscuit factory.
Speaker 2: It's my favorite thing. That's what I call it.
Speaker 1: Oh, the biscuit Oh okay, oh yeah, you're like, what
Speaker 1: are you talking about. My cat didn't have a job.
Speaker 2: You know what they need?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I call it the biscuit factories open because Hazel
Speaker 3: goes to down on some biscuits.
Speaker 2: Man, it's the whole thing. Okay, we're gonna take one
Speaker 2: more quick break.
Speaker 3: We'll be right back, all right, Mike, any other life
Speaker 3: updates before we get into some random questions.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm pretty close to getting my braces off.
Speaker 1: I had an orthodonist appointment yesterday and they're like, it's
Speaker 1: looking good. I have a dentist appointment coming up. This
Speaker 1: is the thing I've been just driving myself crazy with
Speaker 1: going back and forth between Orthodontia's and Denis. So I
Speaker 1: have another dentist appointment where they're going to look at
Speaker 1: the spacing in my teeth, and if they say it's
Speaker 1: good to go to get the bridge placed in there now,
Speaker 1: maybe in the next month or so that process begins.
Speaker 1: I don't know how long that process is yet, because
Speaker 1: I've been asking it for so long and they're like,
Speaker 1: we don't want to give you a timeline at this moment,
Speaker 1: but I think soon they'll come off. And I don't
Speaker 1: know how long the other process is going to be
Speaker 1: because I'm just trying to get over one hurdle.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and it's probably better to just focus on one,
Speaker 3: yeah than be like, Okay, there's eight different timelines in
Speaker 3: my brain.
Speaker 2: That's exciting, yeah.
Speaker 1: Because I'm just tired of having things poke me in
Speaker 1: the mouth and like scraping me. I'm just tired of
Speaker 1: having them that I've kind of that point of like
Speaker 1: I don't want to wait any longer. I've been patient
Speaker 1: for too long now. So I think that's probably the
Speaker 1: most exciting thing right now. That is exciting because I
Speaker 1: remember that feeling when I had them off briefly of
Speaker 1: like being able to like touch my teeth for the
Speaker 1: first time, and it just felt freeing and liberating. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I kind of want that all the time. I'm
Speaker 1: also starting to think about the post process of like
Speaker 1: wearing a retainer and all those things, which is gonna suck,
Speaker 1: but I think that's worth it.
Speaker 3: It is, and as somebody who notoriously did not wear
Speaker 3: her retainer and then had to get a missline later
Speaker 3: in life, wear the retainer.
Speaker 2: Wear the freaking retainer.
Speaker 3: I also got the permanent one on my bottom teeth,
Speaker 3: so I don't wear a retainer.
Speaker 1: You have a permanent retainer.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you can see it here. I'm sorry you guys
Speaker 2: aren't going to see it on the podcast, but.
Speaker 1: Okay here.
Speaker 2: It's like a little silver it's literally just on my
Speaker 2: front teeth.
Speaker 1: You take it out and put it in, you stick
Speaker 1: it's in all the time. Dang, I didn't think it.
Speaker 3: My bottom teeth moved so much. That was really where
Speaker 3: my problem was was my bottom teeth. And I am
Speaker 3: really good about wearing my top retainer, but I also
Speaker 3: have all kinds of job.
Speaker 2: Problems and I'm just kind of incoreded I do any
Speaker 2: other things to worry about.
Speaker 3: But they were like, you could put this in and
Speaker 3: it's not a full retainer, so I don't have anything
Speaker 3: on my back teeth. It's just this little like metal
Speaker 3: bar that they sealed on like my two canines, and
Speaker 3: then it's right with the front teeth.
Speaker 2: So that could be an option.
Speaker 1: I didn't know that was a thing. I'm going to
Speaker 1: ask about that. Yeah, I've been learning all these things
Speaker 1: that are things that you can put in your mouth.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna take that way from Mike, But yes,
Speaker 3: it is an option because I just didn't trust myself
Speaker 3: with my bottom teeth. I trusted myself with my top
Speaker 3: for some reason, but not my bottom. So you can't
Speaker 3: do it and it doesn't. The only thing that sex
Speaker 3: is like you can't floss regularly, like use like a
Speaker 3: fake or what.
Speaker 1: I can't really do regular fluss right now, I like
Speaker 1: this gi flaws. That sucks.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's what kind of you have to use
Speaker 3: this needle thread if you really want to floss them,
Speaker 3: which I'll do once a week, but I use a
Speaker 3: floss uh water floss pick thing whatever they're called. I
Speaker 3: can't think of the name right now, but I use
Speaker 3: that and it works just fine. Every time I go
Speaker 3: to the dentists every six months, they're like.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you look good. I'm like, sweet, cool, it's working.
Speaker 2: So option.
Speaker 1: I guess that's the part that blows my mind, Like
Speaker 1: how long I've been wearing these that if you don't
Speaker 1: wear that, it can take them away. I'm like, how,
Speaker 1: like how did they move back?
Speaker 3: I know it is like they and they move crazy amounts. Mike,
Speaker 3: you should have seen mine, like I had full orthodonist
Speaker 3: work for seven years when I was a kid, and
Speaker 3: then I rebellion never wore any of my retainers. At
Speaker 3: one point I was wearing them and then I'd pop
Speaker 3: them out in the middle of.
Speaker 2: The night, like while I'm sleeping.
Speaker 3: That's how much I hated them, and I'd wake up
Speaker 3: and they'd be like on my face, like I don't
Speaker 3: really know how that happened, And then they just.
Speaker 2: I stopped wearing it and they wouldn't fit anymore.
Speaker 3: They were too tight because my mouth had already moved
Speaker 3: so much within even like a month.
Speaker 2: It's wild.
Speaker 1: It is because like this space that we've been trying
Speaker 1: to make is literally like millimeters they've been looking at
Speaker 1: like maybe even less than that, and it's take taken
Speaker 1: months for that. And to think that if I don't
Speaker 1: wear a retainer for like I don't know, like a month,
Speaker 1: it all goes away. I'm like, how does it move
Speaker 1: back quicker than it does? Straighten?
Speaker 2: Yep?
Speaker 3: I trust me, I don't understand teth And maybe it's
Speaker 3: different as you get older, maybe they don't move quite
Speaker 3: as much, but I don't know that exact science of things.
Speaker 2: So exciting though, Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think the thing I'm ready to be done with
Speaker 1: is the fact that when I go in, it's mostly
Speaker 1: all teenagers and kids, and I'm like the only adult,
Speaker 1: and they're always like so surprised of how well I
Speaker 1: take everything. Yeah, like I don't care about the pain,
Speaker 1: Like I don't.
Speaker 2: Like I'm in my thirties.
Speaker 1: What did you expect? I was like, I don't know
Speaker 1: what you expect for me to like act like these
Speaker 1: other patients in here, like I know how to do this.
Speaker 1: I'm I also like I pay attention to all the
Speaker 1: things they tell me to do, and I'm not going
Speaker 1: to like defy it. Like I'm so good at like
Speaker 1: following all those rules and like not eating the foods
Speaker 1: I'm not supposed to eat because I'll like break a
Speaker 1: bracket or whatever. I feel like they're always surprised by that.
Speaker 1: They're like, oh, we don't have to like get on
Speaker 1: to you about things. You take care of your teeth.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, like I'm paid for this.
Speaker 2: Yeah You're like, no, this is my hard.
Speaker 1: Money and come here every month for like an hour.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna mess everything up.
Speaker 3: Oh man, Well, hopefully that means my next best bits
Speaker 3: you'll maybe have them off.
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe because I have another or pho appointment again
Speaker 1: in a month from now, so maybe I'm at least
Speaker 1: at the point where I'm going in to find out
Speaker 1: that I'm still thinking like two months.
Speaker 3: Well here's the thing though, too, I bet more than anything,
Speaker 3: what you're excited about is just not to have all
Speaker 3: those appointments anymore. Yeah, because it's a lot, it's a
Speaker 3: lot of work, and for how long you've had them on, like,
Speaker 3: it's just become so part of your routine. I remember
Speaker 3: when I got my lasick and I had been using
Speaker 3: contacts and glasses my whole life. When I got to
Speaker 3: take out like my step of not wearing contacts in
Speaker 3: the morning and the night, I was like, dang, I
Speaker 3: just gained like thirty minutes back to my life.
Speaker 1: It was wild, because, yeah, I mean, it's like an
Speaker 1: hour appointment, but you get the factor in like the
Speaker 1: time it takes a get there, time it takes a
Speaker 1: get back. Every time it comes up that week, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: I got to structure my whole week around this one appointment. Yup,
Speaker 1: and it's ortho and dentist.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you have like a double whammy happening all
Speaker 2: the time.
Speaker 1: Luckily mine are right next to each other, so I
Speaker 1: try to plot it out where I can set the
Speaker 1: appointments back to back, and they've been pretty good because
Speaker 1: they're like they know each other and they like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: you go here, then you go there. Yeah, so I
Speaker 1: can knock out everything for the most part. If I
Speaker 1: have to go to both, I'll try to do it
Speaker 1: in the same visit, but then that goes away mm hmm, and.
Speaker 2: Then I'll go and you'll get so much time back.
Speaker 2: You're like, dang, what is my life? I'm telling you,
Speaker 2: it's a game changer. Okay. I wanted to ask you.
Speaker 3: I had this kind of crazy moment with a listener
Speaker 3: and I think I saw on your Facebook page you
Speaker 3: had posted something too about your running and a listener.
Speaker 3: I wanted you to share that because I had a
Speaker 3: listener reach out to me and it was like, actually,
Speaker 3: really sad.
Speaker 2: Because she had lost her dog.
Speaker 3: But what was wild was her dog in the last
Speaker 3: moments was experiencing vertigo and she wouldn't have known it
Speaker 3: if she hadn't seen my videos of my eyes.
Speaker 2: Her dog's eyes were doing.
Speaker 3: What mine were doing, and it gave her, like some
Speaker 3: clarity and understanding what was happening to her dog, and
Speaker 3: she had no idea, and it was a really weird
Speaker 3: and like horrible connection, not a connection that I would
Speaker 3: have wanted for her. But also she was really thankful
Speaker 3: that I had like posted like my insane medical experiences
Speaker 3: and it was like important, It felt important.
Speaker 2: And it mattered in a way, and.
Speaker 3: I just haven't had that kind of connection with a
Speaker 3: listener and like a hot minute you get to meet
Speaker 3: him and everybody's so kind and it's so special.
Speaker 2: But that was just like, Okay, I know I'm posting these.
Speaker 3: Like silly videos about my life experiences, but they matter
Speaker 3: and it's going to like help somebody. And just to
Speaker 3: know that I helped the listener not only that, but
Speaker 3: just like help feel some version of closure and understanding,
Speaker 3: like it was. I was so emotional when I got
Speaker 3: that message.
Speaker 1: So I didn't know dogs could also get verdi go.
Speaker 3: I think they, I believe, like it's very rare, but
Speaker 3: they can, and it's not. And it's even harder for
Speaker 3: them because like you imagine it's happening to me and
Speaker 3: I'm already sitting there like I have no idea what's
Speaker 3: happening to my body when it first happened.
Speaker 1: And you can, you can, you can hardly explain that disappointing.
Speaker 3: Yeah, let alone like a dog and you're like, what
Speaker 3: is happening in your dog? Like you probably think it's
Speaker 3: having a seizure and all these things. So it was
Speaker 3: just a really cool but unfortunate moment. And I'm so
Speaker 3: so heartbroken for them that this happened, but also just
Speaker 3: happy that the information.
Speaker 2: Was there and available to her to have.
Speaker 3: So I wanted to share that because I feel like
Speaker 3: it's important. Sometimes we get so lost in the mundane
Speaker 3: of like what we're doing doesn't really matter and oh yeah,
Speaker 3: you know, and.
Speaker 1: You also just never know what's going to connect. And
Speaker 1: you post something like that and somebody like, oh, I
Speaker 1: think I've experienced that too, or I think something like
Speaker 1: that is happening to me now, and you.
Speaker 2: Start to feel okay, like this is worth it.
Speaker 3: My silly videos, I know they're crazy, but it's helping people.
Speaker 2: So it felt really good And I saw you share
Speaker 2: something that I wanted you to share, that kind of
Speaker 2: running story.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was kind of a thing that I have
Speaker 1: been experiencing lately of like physically, I haven't felt like
Speaker 1: great about my body and like how I just feel
Speaker 1: overall I haven't felt comfortable with my clothes, and I
Speaker 1: started thinking about that my body has been allowing me
Speaker 1: to run, work out, and do the things that I
Speaker 1: want to do in life. And I realized that that
Speaker 1: kind of started to have more value than how I
Speaker 1: feel about myself. And I started thinking about like my running,
Speaker 1: like I'm able to run for hours at a time
Speaker 1: I'm and like my body has the strength to do
Speaker 1: that even though I feel like I'm not the most comfortable,
Speaker 1: Like my body is strong and it has the ability
Speaker 1: to push me. And I just started to approach running
Speaker 1: differently lately, of like I don't have to run, like
Speaker 1: I get to run, because sometimes it's hard to do,
Speaker 1: Like it's hard to do any kind of work out.
Speaker 1: You're like, I don't want to do this, I'm not
Speaker 1: feeling great, I'm feeling tired. What is it even going
Speaker 1: to change? But if I have that ability now, I
Speaker 1: have to do it because someday I won't be able
Speaker 1: to and that's going to suck when I physically can't.
Speaker 1: And I'm going to think back on those times where
Speaker 1: I wanted to and just or when I could do
Speaker 1: it and just didn't want to do it. And I
Speaker 1: think just in life, I've been able to learn from
Speaker 1: other people who've had that same type of feeling of
Speaker 1: thinking like they didn't know what they had until they
Speaker 1: lost it, and I didn't want to get to that point.
Speaker 1: Like I've been lucky in life to not have had
Speaker 1: major losses in my life or major just tragedies or
Speaker 1: traumas that people go through a lot of people going
Speaker 1: through a lot right now, and I haven't had to
Speaker 1: experience that personally to learn from it. So I think
Speaker 1: that's where this whole post came from, is like I
Speaker 1: just said, like, hey, like I run because I can
Speaker 1: right now. Someday I won't be able to. And I
Speaker 1: got a comment from a listener who said that she
Speaker 1: used to love, you know, walking, that was a big
Speaker 1: part of her life, and then she's had some health
Speaker 1: issues recently that she's not been able to do that
Speaker 1: and how much she just wants to get out there
Speaker 1: and just walk. And I thought, just walking, like that's
Speaker 1: just like a little thing we take for granted to
Speaker 1: be able to walk somewhere. So I replied to her
Speaker 1: and I'm like, next round, I'm doing I'm dedicating it
Speaker 1: to you, and I did. I went for a run
Speaker 1: the next day. I posted about it just for anybody
Speaker 1: else who maybe is going through something like that of
Speaker 1: not being able to do the thing they love right now.
Speaker 1: And I just didn't want to get to a point
Speaker 1: where I took that for granted anymore. And I know
Speaker 1: there's a lot of people out there with health issues
Speaker 1: right now that I just started reading the comments, it's like, man,
Speaker 1: like this sucks. But if I could do something like
Speaker 1: that for somebody just to feel like, oh, they acknowledge
Speaker 1: that and they're not taking it for granted, I think
Speaker 1: that meant a little bit.
Speaker 3: No, it absolutely did, and I'm sure to her she
Speaker 3: was like, Oh, somebody's validating this experience that I'm having,
Speaker 3: And it probably felt really good to her to just
Speaker 3: feel that from someone who she's connecting with on that level.
Speaker 2: So it did. That's why I wanted you to share it.
Speaker 2: And it's special. Like I'm so.
Speaker 3: Often it's it's really easy to get caught up in
Speaker 3: what we're doing. And just like as we were talking
Speaker 3: in the beginning, the burnout and gosh, Mike, the days
Speaker 3: I've been having lately where I'm like I work all
Speaker 3: the time. I don't have time to do any of
Speaker 3: this stuff. Like I was just telling something of the
Speaker 3: other days, like the lowest thing on my totem pole
Speaker 3: is like my like literal showering. If I get a shower,
Speaker 3: it's a good day. And they're like, well, when's the
Speaker 3: last time. I was like two days ago and it
Speaker 3: wasn't like, you know, not body shot.
Speaker 2: I'm trying like my full shower, because that's an experience. Yes,
Speaker 2: thank you.
Speaker 3: As a woman, you have the everything shower where you
Speaker 3: actually wash your hair. And they're like dang, like you
Speaker 3: can't do that. And then the other night, a friend
Speaker 3: came over and we're about to go to a concert
Speaker 3: and I was literally eating olives.
Speaker 2: I was like, here's my dinner and she's like, no,
Speaker 2: you need to eat. I'm like, I haven't had time
Speaker 2: to eat. It's just not in my Like there's so
Speaker 2: many other things.
Speaker 3: I have to do that like eating and showering have
Speaker 3: become luxuries.
Speaker 1: I feel that way about eating, where it's it just
Speaker 1: feels like something I do to fuel myself. And I'm
Speaker 1: like some people enjoy making dinner and like they make
Speaker 1: different foods. I'm like I have to eat the same
Speaker 1: thing every day because I don't want to think about it.
Speaker 3: I know, and see that's what sucks for me. I
Speaker 3: love dinner, I love food. I love making meals, and
Speaker 3: I don't have time.
Speaker 2: I literally I had gone to the grocery store in
Speaker 2: like three weeks.
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure I was surviving off of olives and
Speaker 3: carrots for literally like days. I'm like, I need f dude,
Speaker 3: I need to actually be eating, and it's just become
Speaker 3: like the lowest thing on the totem pole. So I'm
Speaker 3: I'm working through that right now, trying to understand. But yes,
Speaker 3: all that to say, I know everything. We get really
Speaker 3: caught up and some days we're like, dang, this has
Speaker 3: even worth it, and I'm I'm tired.
Speaker 2: I want to sleep.
Speaker 1: For where you have food on your totem pole. I
Speaker 1: think that's where like my social stuff is, like that's
Speaker 1: like the lowest. The only thing I've kind of done
Speaker 1: recently is I've like Kelsey has made a lot of
Speaker 1: friends here now, like she has a lot of work friends.
Speaker 1: And we went to a ultimate Frisbee or match I
Speaker 1: guess a game because her one of her coworkers plays
Speaker 1: on the team, and I'm like slowly finding myself adopting
Speaker 1: to her friends because it's like she has her coworker
Speaker 1: friends who have husbands and like, you guys would get
Speaker 1: along great. And even after that, she was like, both
Speaker 1: of you guys like Pokemon. We're all going out and
Speaker 1: we're hanging out and we're making you guys friends. And
Speaker 1: it felt like parents setting up kids on a playdate
Speaker 1: where the common ground is Pokemon.
Speaker 2: You know, sometimes we need a little push.
Speaker 3: Sometimes that happens, and sometimes that's how you make really
Speaker 3: good friends. Though, and then maybe you make other friends
Speaker 3: by way of that friend and that becomes your friend.
Speaker 1: It could be my end it is.
Speaker 2: That's a way. You should totally own it. Like I
Speaker 2: get it, though. I get that that's like your lowest
Speaker 2: total pole and you're like, I don't have time for
Speaker 2: this and it's a lot of work. I get it.
Speaker 2: But also you do deserve to I deserve to.
Speaker 3: Shower and eat, and you deserve to have friends, you know,
Speaker 3: like we do deserve those things in our life.
Speaker 2: So I think you should do it. Are you Are
Speaker 2: you open to doing it?
Speaker 1: Are you like I'm open to doing it. I just
Speaker 1: feel there's an added pressure that they're so good friends already,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I don't know if I can match
Speaker 1: that level or even find the common ground.
Speaker 3: Okay, well, you don't have to become best friends with
Speaker 3: that person, but it could be at least a friend.
Speaker 3: It doesn't have to be like your best friend or
Speaker 3: someone that you're gonna call and hang out by yourselves,
Speaker 3: but it could be a surface friend. And a surface
Speaker 3: friend is better than no friends, that's true. So I
Speaker 3: have lots of service friends in my life, Like people
Speaker 3: have tried to connect me in all the time. I'm like, okay, yeah,
Speaker 3: and I'll hang out like surface friend. Cool, this is
Speaker 3: really nice to meet you. You're really awesome. It's just
Speaker 3: you know, you know, bond in that way. So you
Speaker 3: need all kinds of friendships. This is your start because
Speaker 3: especially you still have yet to go to a room club.
Speaker 2: Mike.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I've challenged you for like four best bits now,
Speaker 3: so you got to take a step in different direction.
Speaker 2: This isn't working.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I can try this one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is maybe easier.
Speaker 3: And you have your wife there, so like worst case
Speaker 3: scenario be like, hey, I'm sick, I need to go home,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Yeah, and she'll be like, Okay, bye,
Speaker 3: you know it's fine. Oh Michael, thanks for being here.
Speaker 3: Any last words, anything else you want to share that
Speaker 3: we haven't got to.
Speaker 1: Hopefully I come back with two updates with braces off
Speaker 1: and an acquaintance, a surface friend, a surface friend.
Speaker 2: Okay, I like this. Well, I have hope and I
Speaker 2: believe in you as I have in all the other weeks.
Speaker 3: But that hope is dwindling a little bit, at least
Speaker 3: a friend's side. The brace's side, we know that's coming,
Speaker 3: which is a matter of time. But the friend's side,
Speaker 3: I'm putting all of my energy into believing that this
Speaker 3: will happen for you.
Speaker 2: Okay, but that means you also have to. This cannot
Speaker 2: just be me.
Speaker 1: It just feels like dating again. When it was putting
Speaker 1: myself out there to find somebody to spend my life with,
Speaker 1: Now it's like putting yourself out there to find a friend.
Speaker 2: It is.
Speaker 3: It is like dating, and don't let anybody convince you otherwise,
Speaker 3: because it is.
Speaker 2: You have to be compatible.
Speaker 3: You have to want to hang around this person often,
Speaker 3: you want to call them in vulnerable moments like that's
Speaker 3: a friend, and that is dating in a way. That's
Speaker 3: why there's BUMBLEBFF for a reason.
Speaker 2: So, but you can do this, Okay. I have faith,
Speaker 2: my hope, manifestation, all.
Speaker 1: The things I believe in. You believing in me.
Speaker 2: Okay, I like it.
Speaker 3: That's what we're gonna end on. Mike, tell them where
Speaker 3: they can find you. Hear you all that good stuff.
Speaker 1: You can listen to my podcast, movie Mike's Movie Podcast
Speaker 1: interviews with actors directors. I do deep dives on things
Speaker 1: like I just did a big deep dive on a
Speaker 1: Goofy movie, which is one of my favorite movies as
Speaker 1: a kid.
Speaker 2: Nice.
Speaker 1: So it's a mix of everything fun.
Speaker 3: Yeah, go check that out. And I have a podcast
Speaker 3: called Take This Personally. Did a fun episode where we.
Speaker 2: Just talked about all your guys of stuff that you
Speaker 2: have happening in your guys' lives.
Speaker 3: It was really fun. Well that goes up Monday. Yeah, guys,
Speaker 3: I don't know my brain's self functioning.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: Anyways, go follow the show and subscribe to us on YouTube.
Speaker 3: Hopefully we can hit half a million in lunchbox Eddie
Speaker 3: and I can make some money.
Speaker 2: That'd be cool too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Yah, I can do it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I believe in us.
Speaker 3: Bye.
Speaker 2: Everybody.
Speaker 1: That's the best bits of the week with Morgan. Thanks
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