WEBVTT - This is a very dangerous question 0:00:00.360 --> 0:00:02.599 Oh yeah, I gotta I gotta do, Bernie, I gotta 0:00:02.600 --> 0:00:06.080 read this. This is a dangerous, dangerous question. Okay, I 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:07.840 want to ask it to you. Do We got time, 0:00:07.920 --> 0:00:21.439 We got we good? Yeah, we're good. Welcome to the 0:00:21.440 --> 0:00:27.360 Granger Smith Podcast. Back with us, mister Bernie, I'm back again. 0:00:28.000 --> 0:00:32.040 Thanks for having me repeat weeks. So we are answering questions. 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:34.879 That's what we do on this podcast, Bernie, is a 0:00:35.080 --> 0:00:41.280 master question answer. Can I say master bullshit? Or is 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:45.800 that okay? Yes? Those that know me, no, those that 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:49.360 know you understand you're speaking wisdom. That's what they know. 0:00:49.400 --> 0:00:52.080 You're speaking wisdom. If you have a question for us, 0:00:52.240 --> 0:00:56.320 email Granger Smith Podcast at gmail dot com. Could be 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:59.120 about any kind of subject. If you've heard this podcast before, 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:01.800 this is up ninety four. We've done this many times, 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:05.839 We've answered many questions, and it's still fresh. It's still 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:08.800 fun every time we do it. Yeah, it really is. Yeah. 0:01:09.040 --> 0:01:11.280 It's all leading up to number one hundred man number one. 0:01:11.560 --> 0:01:15.120 What are we going to do after that? One on one? 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:22.280 So we birdays on the podcast last week and we 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:25.160 had a bunch of questions that we didn't answer. So 0:01:25.160 --> 0:01:28.240 we're going to continue some of these subjects that we 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:31.920 didn't answer, starting with left arm just comes from Jen. 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:35.440 This question says, what does the blue represent on your 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:39.240 bicep tattoo left? And why aren't the birthdays in ch 0:01:39.760 --> 0:01:43.640 chronicological order? But she kind of answered a quite the 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:46.760 first question with the second question what is the blue? 0:01:47.000 --> 0:01:51.000 Or maybe she's answering actually the specifically the color blue. 0:01:52.760 --> 0:01:56.920 It doesn't really, it's just artwork. Really, it doesn't have 0:01:57.000 --> 0:01:59.880 a special I remember the guy was like, you want 0:01:59.920 --> 0:02:02.280 to something behind it, kind of flowy, and I said yeah, 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:04.240 he said, want me to put blue? And I said sure. 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:07.720 That's about all it was. Why are the birthdays not 0:02:07.880 --> 0:02:11.359 in chronological order? Of the kid's birthdays started with London 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:15.720 in the middle. I just got it, and then I 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:21.960 got Lincoln on top of hers, and then River. There 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:25.600 was space under London. So that's the logic behind it. 0:02:25.639 --> 0:02:29.400 So now I gotta get another one for Maverick. So 0:02:29.440 --> 0:02:31.400 I think I'm gonna go on top of Lincoln, so 0:02:31.440 --> 0:02:36.800 it'll be Maverick, Lincoln, London, Riv and that order, nothing 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:41.040 nothing else to it. Bertie, you want to you want 0:02:41.040 --> 0:02:44.840 to help me with some of these we have? What's next? 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:51.639 Not clickbait? Q and A life advice regarding lack of relationships, 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:59.560 podcast question how to get over Death Grief Help. I'm 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:02.320 the baby in the office, so people don't take me seriously. 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:09.320 These are all suc close. Let's let's go getting over death. 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:12.200 But then we'll go baby in office after that, just 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:15.040 to okay, we can we can go down a little bit. 0:03:15.080 --> 0:03:17.239 Then we're gonna come back up. We're gonna lift you back. Guys, 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:20.040 we got time. We're gonna rock this thing. We're gonna 0:03:20.080 --> 0:03:23.680 answer so many questions today. I feel it. It's like, yeah, okay, 0:03:24.080 --> 0:03:28.240 all right, I got it. Hey Granger, Me and my 0:03:28.280 --> 0:03:30.200 brother been listening to the Smiths and your podcast and 0:03:30.200 --> 0:03:32.919 your music for a very long time. We live in Plymouth, Indiana. 0:03:33.520 --> 0:03:36.480 Our dog was sadly hit on the highway on January 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:38.560 twenty ninth, twenty twenty one. He was our best friend, 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:42.800 our brother, and certainly the best dog in the world. 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:45.840 And when I saw him laying there, my heart was broken. 0:03:46.120 --> 0:03:48.040 I felt like I lost my brother, and I did. 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:50.520 I was wondering what things you did to get your 0:03:50.520 --> 0:03:53.600 mind off river? We pray every day, we look to 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:58.560 the Lord and pray. What else should we do? This 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:04.160 is from oh Man, O'Malley home. That is an awesome name. 0:04:04.200 --> 0:04:10.600 O'Malley home. Shout out to Indiana, thank you for writing 0:04:10.600 --> 0:04:14.240 this podcast. Buddy. The death of a dog is not 0:04:14.320 --> 0:04:15.800 the first time I've had to answer that on this 0:04:15.920 --> 0:04:20.000 on this podcast. It's tough. You've lost a dog, right, 0:04:20.080 --> 0:04:28.760 I have. I've lost I've lost three Sadie Abbey Rio, Okay, 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:32.280 Sadi Abby Rio. Rio was the toughest. I had him 0:04:32.320 --> 0:04:34.800 for sixteen years. You lived for sixteen years, and we 0:04:34.839 --> 0:04:38.280 went through He moved with me from Tennessee to back 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:40.760 to Texas. I remember when you got Rio. Yeah, you're 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:42.960 with me when we got him, so that was I 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:48.159 remember going to the pet store with you to to 0:04:48.200 --> 0:04:50.640 not get him. Well, you went to we were looking 0:04:50.680 --> 0:04:54.279 for a dog, okay, and you were. You were my escort. 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:57.200 But we didn't get a dog at the pets. We 0:04:57.279 --> 0:05:01.200 I ended up going by myself down to par Tennessee 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:03.800 and buying him on this place right by the river. 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:08.760 That's why I named him Rio. Losing the dog is tough. 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:13.280 I have not I have not walked up on a 0:05:13.320 --> 0:05:17.400 dog that I loved laying in the street, killed by 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:22.480 a car on the highway that's gotta be that's gotta 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:24.920 be a new level of losing a dog. Yeah, oh 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:33.360 for sure. He He doesn't say how old he is, O'Malley, No, no, 0:05:33.520 --> 0:05:38.000 not that it matters. But I know when you're younger too, 0:05:39.760 --> 0:05:45.640 those relationships and just understanding death and the world and 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:49.560 everything is a little bit heavier. So O'Malley. I say 0:05:49.600 --> 0:05:52.440 this every time when I get a question like this 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:55.200 about a dog, and people don't always agree with me, 0:05:55.279 --> 0:05:58.599 but I promise you're asking my advice. This works for 0:05:58.800 --> 0:06:02.960 me and guys, I've been really close to dogs, like 0:06:03.040 --> 0:06:05.400 I love my dogs. I have three of them right now. 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:11.200 You have one. Now I get close to him. I 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:17.760 understand the bond between man and dog. The answer to 0:06:17.800 --> 0:06:23.360 your question comes in the form of a puppy. And 0:06:24.360 --> 0:06:27.520 at first you might not like the puppy. You might 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:31.760 just to have a little have a little envy for 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:35.479 the puppy a little, you know, you might you might 0:06:35.520 --> 0:06:39.280 not appreciate this puppy because it's never going to live 0:06:39.400 --> 0:06:42.479 up to your dog. You don't say your dog's name, 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:44.719 And of course you got a little little bit of 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:46.720 time go by. But we can because now that I'm 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:51.039 reading this podcast, This happened in January twenty ninth, So 0:06:51.560 --> 0:06:54.400 if you haven't already, O'Malley, it's time for a pupp 0:06:55.480 --> 0:06:58.000 and I would go the same breed as the dog 0:06:58.040 --> 0:07:01.640 that you lost, the same gender. It doesn't say if 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:04.160 it's a boy or girl. I don't think probably a boy. 0:07:04.400 --> 0:07:08.440 I'd get a boy, and I would just come in 0:07:08.480 --> 0:07:11.040 with the expectations that this dog ain't gonna be close 0:07:11.120 --> 0:07:14.000 to the one that died, and just look at it 0:07:14.000 --> 0:07:16.240 every day and go, you ain't nothing like your older 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:20.320 brother was. And watch that dog change your world. Yeah, yeah, 0:07:20.360 --> 0:07:22.160 I think you're right. And it starts getting older, you 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:26.000 start going, huh, it's actually really smart. Yeah, it's actually 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:29.800 better than I expected. Oh yeah, he used to do 0:07:29.840 --> 0:07:32.520 that same thing and that. So this dog will win 0:07:32.560 --> 0:07:36.080 you over. And a lot of people struggle with like 0:07:36.200 --> 0:07:39.920 I can't get another one, Now you can. Yeah, just 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:43.400 go do it. It's going to satisfy all those all 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:48.200 that stuff. So I appreciate you writing Buddy Barnes that 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:52.520 you have a Yeah what do we you said? You 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:55.800 said the baby, Yeah, I'm the baby in the office. 0:07:56.040 --> 0:07:59.360 It says, hey, Granger, I've been I've been binging this 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:03.040 podcast and dang, you have some wisdom. I want your 0:08:03.040 --> 0:08:07.160 input on my current work situation. Thank you. It says 0:08:07.320 --> 0:08:11.160 I've always been terribly mature for my age, which is 0:08:11.160 --> 0:08:14.560 probably why I graduated college in two and a half years. Wow, 0:08:15.000 --> 0:08:17.080 and I went on to get my masters. I finished 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:20.000 this week in less time than most kids spend an 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:24.040 undergrad congratulations. Wow, it's amazing, way smarter than me. I 0:08:24.080 --> 0:08:28.840 started a quote unquote adult job in January with a 0:08:28.840 --> 0:08:30.760 company that I really like. The weird thing is that 0:08:30.800 --> 0:08:34.120 I'm the youngest at my work by a good decade. 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:37.160 I'm twenty one years old. I report directly to the 0:08:37.200 --> 0:08:40.440 senior VP. In my role, I serve as the liaison 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:44.000 between the communications director and the division directors, all of 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:48.320 whom are fifty years old fifty year old men. I 0:08:48.360 --> 0:08:50.840 also keep tabs on other employees around the company, some 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:53.760 of whom have been with the company for forty plus years. 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:57.199 Some of my colleagues don't take me seriously since I'm 0:08:57.240 --> 0:09:00.800 so young and lack the years of experience that they have. 0:09:01.440 --> 0:09:03.720 Others don't like me because I do keep tabs on 0:09:04.040 --> 0:09:07.120 their marketing efforts and provide suggestions based on data and 0:09:07.160 --> 0:09:11.200 research that require current plans to change and for them 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:14.600 to work with me. How do I overcome the perception 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:17.600 of being the baby of the office. Will this idea 0:09:17.800 --> 0:09:19.920 change as I spend more and more time with the 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:23.840 company and actually grow up and not be college aged 0:09:23.880 --> 0:09:25.839 in the meantime, how would you suggest I balance my 0:09:26.000 --> 0:09:30.200 role of being higher on the organization chart and sitting 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:32.319 in meetings with people who have been in the industry 0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:40.240 longer than I've been alive. I appreciate your insight to this, Mikayla. Mickayla. So, Mickayla, 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:45.079 first thing that jumps out is you need to understand 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:52.679 there is a difference between wisdom and intelligence. So you 0:09:52.800 --> 0:09:57.480 may have the intellect and the understanding at twenty one 0:09:57.559 --> 0:09:59.320 that some of these people that are fifty may not 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:03.000 have and know how to do a job a certain way, 0:10:03.080 --> 0:10:07.520 and you've learned more and very short amount of time, 0:10:07.559 --> 0:10:13.199 and that may be just a fact, but that's not 0:10:13.480 --> 0:10:18.240 the people that are fifty plus or plus or older 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:21.760 been in the company thirty years looking at you. There's 0:10:21.800 --> 0:10:25.200 a certain wisdom that comes with experience, and there is 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:30.720 no changing that without gaining the experience over time. I 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:33.520 think the only thing when you hold that level of 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:36.880 intellect and lack of experience. The way that you can 0:10:36.920 --> 0:10:43.680 show them wisdom is through humility. So carrying the sharpness 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:48.680 that you have in a way that is disarming to 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:51.640 them and inviting to them and showing them that you're 0:10:51.640 --> 0:10:54.840 there to support them and for them to be successful 0:10:55.400 --> 0:10:59.960 is going to show a certain level of humility that will, 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:04.960 I think, communicate to them. Man, she's wise beyond her years, 0:11:05.440 --> 0:11:08.280 because most young kids will come in here and be like, man, 0:11:08.280 --> 0:11:09.720 I'm smarter and all of y'all, I know how to 0:11:09.760 --> 0:11:13.320 do this. Yeah, And meanwhile the old timers are like, dude, 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:23.720 you don't know what you're talking about. So, Mikayla, that's great. Burns, Mickayla, 0:11:25.720 --> 0:11:28.000 I want to say, I want to first compliment you 0:11:28.120 --> 0:11:32.440 and just say congratulations on accomplishing what most people can't. 0:11:32.559 --> 0:11:34.839 You do. You graduated college in two and a half 0:11:34.920 --> 0:11:37.360 years and then get your masters in less time than 0:11:37.360 --> 0:11:41.520 most kids spend in undergrad You started it sounds like 0:11:41.559 --> 0:11:45.880 a twenty roun that and a really good job, and 0:11:45.960 --> 0:11:48.560 you have a great responsibility. I want to compliment you, 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:51.680 and then I want to throw you an egg and 0:11:51.800 --> 0:11:57.160 say I feel like part of your education needs to 0:11:57.559 --> 0:12:04.240 continue to grow through humility, and they're in your email 0:12:04.679 --> 0:12:07.520 just judging from your email, I try to say judging, 0:12:07.679 --> 0:12:11.440 I did say that there is nothing that's kind of 0:12:11.480 --> 0:12:16.559 tossing the credit back to anything else other than your yourself, 0:12:17.040 --> 0:12:22.280 including your job, including your position, including the benefit of 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:25.400 having these older people around you, which is incredible for 0:12:25.480 --> 0:12:29.840 you for your growth. And so I don't want to 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:31.959 I want to. I don't want to come across as 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:34.840 as being too judgmental on you at all, but I 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:37.560 do want to just suggest to you that that humility, 0:12:37.600 --> 0:12:41.640 like Bernie said, could be your friend. And it takes 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:45.400 a long time to cultivate that, just as it does 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:49.440 to cultivate the intellect that you've grown with all your education, 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:53.520 you got to cultivate your humility. And how does that 0:12:53.559 --> 0:12:56.760 work in the workplace? What works like this? It works 0:12:56.840 --> 0:13:02.080 when you have you're you're the supervisor of someone that 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:05.760 has been at the company forty plus years. So you 0:13:05.920 --> 0:13:09.840 have to come at them with ultimate humility. You have 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:13.480 to come at them and say, Bob, whatever his name is, 0:13:14.960 --> 0:13:18.760 can I ask you something? Because I just feel like 0:13:18.840 --> 0:13:20.920 I could really soak in a lot from you. You've 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:24.880 been here for forty years and I've only been here 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:31.760 since January, and this job can be overwhelming, and I 0:13:31.840 --> 0:13:33.520 just want to make sure that I have an open 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:36.280 door of communication with you because I've just really I 0:13:36.360 --> 0:13:40.040 know I'm gonna have some questions for you, and I 0:13:40.080 --> 0:13:42.840 know that they've put me as your supervisor. So we 0:13:42.880 --> 0:13:45.400 both met you, and I both know that I'm going 0:13:45.480 --> 0:13:48.800 to be the one asking the questions here and it 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:52.320 might not be the truth totally, but that kind of 0:13:52.679 --> 0:13:55.719 humility coming at Bob, he's gonna put his guard down 0:13:55.720 --> 0:13:58.600 because right now he's thinking, Man, I've been here forty years. 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:02.920 Who is this young college kid gonna tell me how 0:14:02.960 --> 0:14:05.400 to turn in my work. Mikayla, this is gonna be 0:14:05.480 --> 0:14:08.520 a huge roadblock for you. If you don't correct this immediately, 0:14:08.920 --> 0:14:12.280 you're gonna have hell for the next several years. And 0:14:12.360 --> 0:14:17.320 here's the thing, Mikayla, me, Bernie and everyone else listening 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:19.960 to this podcast, at one point we were the youngest 0:14:20.320 --> 0:14:23.680 of something that we did. I remember the longest time 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:26.680 being the youngest guy in the band by a lot, 0:14:27.560 --> 0:14:31.040 and every every musician has been the youngest guy in 0:14:31.080 --> 0:14:35.320 the band. And then I'm as far as the players 0:14:35.360 --> 0:14:37.920 on me and Todd are the same age. But now 0:14:37.960 --> 0:14:43.040 Fish either guitar players twenty seven. So now he's the 0:14:43.080 --> 0:14:45.040 young guy and we just make fun of him and 0:14:45.080 --> 0:14:47.800 we know this banter, and I tell him, I'm like 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:50.200 Fish one day, one day, you're gonna be the old 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.600 guy in the band, because I will too. One day 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:55.120 I'm gonna be the old guy. And Mikayla, you're gonna 0:14:55.120 --> 0:14:58.040 be the old girl in the office. One day. You're 0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:00.840 gonna be the forty plus year in employee one day 0:15:00.960 --> 0:15:04.200 somewhere might not be this job, but somewhere, just remember that, 0:15:04.600 --> 0:15:06.720 but someone else is gonna it's's going to always going 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:08.720 to be. It's gonna be a rotating door with these 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:12.280 college kids coming in. Keep that in mind. That's going 0:15:12.360 --> 0:15:15.600 to help fuel your humility. But walk with a sense 0:15:15.640 --> 0:15:21.800 of reverence, a sense of respect to your elders, and 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:24.720 that doesn't that's not reflected in your paycheck. It's not 0:15:24.760 --> 0:15:27.720 reflected in who they answer to or who you answer to. 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:31.760 Respect is different than all those m Yeah, for sure, Yeah, 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:35.000 I could I could have I could have respect for 0:15:35.840 --> 0:15:38.920 the guy that's taken out the garbage behind the restaurant 0:15:38.920 --> 0:15:42.000 that I'm meeting at because he's older than me. Of 0:15:42.000 --> 0:15:44.040 respect for that guy, even though I was just a 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:47.840 patron in the restaurant that's paying his bill. Technically, that's 0:15:47.920 --> 0:15:53.680 nothing to do with respect, right, or our generosity or 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:57.560 gratefulness or patience or love or any any of those 0:15:57.600 --> 0:15:59.720 kind of traits have nothing to do with education or 0:15:59.720 --> 0:16:06.600 staf our age. So Bernie said it, and I'm just reinforcing, 0:16:08.960 --> 0:16:12.440 you're gonna being being humbled towards these people is going 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:16.960 to be your friend. Yeah, I think too understanding Caleb 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:20.720 that humility and confidence are not opposites. It's not like 0:16:21.480 --> 0:16:24.280 you have to choose one or the others. So you 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:29.240 good points say that again, humility and curate humility and 0:16:29.280 --> 0:16:34.320 confidence are not opposites. So you you've been educated, you 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:36.520 you do have some experience, you have some skill, or 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:40.640 else they would have hired you. And so there there 0:16:40.800 --> 0:16:46.360 is a perception and regardless of how your coworkers respond 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:50.640 to you, you should have the mindset of man, I 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:54.280 am here to learn and serve other people. But I'm 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:57.440 gonna run circles around everybody here because I'm gonna hustle. 0:16:57.440 --> 0:17:01.080 I'm gonna work as hard as I can, and I'm 0:17:01.080 --> 0:17:03.480 going to be confident in the abilities that I have. 0:17:03.640 --> 0:17:06.600 I'm not going to like lure those abilities over other people, 0:17:07.359 --> 0:17:09.280 but I'm going to use those in a way that 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:12.119 shows confidence. And I think that people will start to 0:17:12.160 --> 0:17:16.359 respect your talents and your skills when you carry in 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:22.399 balance humility, in confidence. And also I think with that confidence, 0:17:22.880 --> 0:17:25.720 you don't worry so much about what Bob says. It's like, ah, 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:29.720 Bob's just being old. Whatever. Man, he thinks you're young, 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:33.280 he thinks that one you have terrible work ethic, because 0:17:33.960 --> 0:17:37.280 that is kind of a consensus of millennials and below, 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:41.840 like they don't have the right work ethic. Proven wrong. Yeah, 0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:45.760 they don't have the experience, they don't have humility. Hey, 0:17:45.920 --> 0:17:49.800 take all of that as feedback and be like, thanks Bob, MICHAELA, 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:54.120 show up earlier than everyone, right, be there when Bob 0:17:54.160 --> 0:18:00.440 gets there. Every time. Clean Bob's coffee pot yep, who 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:04.639 cleaned this? Who cleaned the coffee? Oh? Sorry, Bob, I 0:18:04.680 --> 0:18:07.280 did that. I just saw it was dirty. MICHAELA. Well, 0:18:07.280 --> 0:18:10.159 thank you. Iniative every time. And then and then the 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:15.719 last thing I'll say is speak less, listen more, speak less. 0:18:16.520 --> 0:18:19.080 You could accomplish this the same you could you could 0:18:19.119 --> 0:18:22.480 excel in your job. You could, you could crush it, 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:26.359 but you could still speak less and listen more. Listen 0:18:26.359 --> 0:18:28.879 to Bob more, and you speak less when you go 0:18:28.960 --> 0:18:30.720 to a meeting. Don't be the first one to talk, 0:18:30.920 --> 0:18:34.560 don't be the last one to talk. Just listen. Listen. 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:37.800 That's your that's that's what the person that just started 0:18:37.880 --> 0:18:40.760 in January does. They listen and once again, has nothing 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:45.399 to do with seniority. Right, that's good. Cool. Thank you 0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:47.320 for writing, MICHAELA. I kind of I kind of would 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:49.560 love to hear like a year a year update on 0:18:49.600 --> 0:18:54.119 her situation. Yeah, but yeah, that's fun. Congratulations on all 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:59.000 your success, Mikaila. Did you have another one? Burns Bob? 0:18:59.040 --> 0:19:04.919 A question? Relationship advice, handling being told? No, I like 0:19:05.000 --> 0:19:09.040 that title. Let's do that? Do that, says hegre and your. 0:19:09.080 --> 0:19:11.560 My name is Brooke. I'm a country girl from Chattanooga, 0:19:11.600 --> 0:19:15.120 but I live in East Tennessee, almost at the very 0:19:15.160 --> 0:19:19.400 pointy end of the state. Lol. I graduated last May 0:19:19.440 --> 0:19:22.639 with a bachelor's degree. Bad year to do this then, 0:19:23.520 --> 0:19:25.800 But since then, I've applied for so many jobs I 0:19:25.840 --> 0:19:30.760 would say around thirty plus. I've only had two companies 0:19:30.800 --> 0:19:33.720 call me for an interview. I have little experience in 0:19:33.760 --> 0:19:38.400 my degree management and accounting minor, but I'm looking for 0:19:38.480 --> 0:19:42.399 that one company to give me a start. It's been hard, 0:19:42.440 --> 0:19:44.920 to say the least. It's been hard and mentally being 0:19:44.920 --> 0:19:47.640 told no so often. I do my best to give 0:19:47.640 --> 0:19:49.960 it all to God, but after a while, I feel 0:19:49.960 --> 0:19:53.680 like I don't have anything left to give. Companies don't 0:19:53.720 --> 0:19:56.000 want to train an employee with little to no experience, 0:19:56.400 --> 0:19:59.080 which I get because it takes time and money. At 0:19:59.119 --> 0:20:02.160 the same time, everyone had to start from scratch. It's 0:20:02.200 --> 0:20:04.879 hard to gain experience when no company is willing to 0:20:04.880 --> 0:20:07.320 give you a chance to gain experience. Yep, I'm sure 0:20:07.359 --> 0:20:09.000 you've had You've heard a bunch of no in the 0:20:09.080 --> 0:20:11.560 music business. My question is how do you keep going? 0:20:11.800 --> 0:20:17.879 How do you handle the nose? Thank you? Brooke? So 0:20:18.600 --> 0:20:21.720 crazy going back to back mm hmm with these two 0:20:21.800 --> 0:20:24.520 with MICHAELA and Brooke back to back, but they sound 0:20:24.560 --> 0:20:26.720 like about the same age. I wonder if she's if 0:20:26.720 --> 0:20:31.480 Brook's open to move because I'm in Austin, Texas, and 0:20:32.400 --> 0:20:36.280 everybody I know is hiring and we can't find people 0:20:36.359 --> 0:20:39.879 fast enough. So and I know there's a few other 0:20:39.920 --> 0:20:42.280 places in the country that are that are just like 0:20:43.840 --> 0:20:48.120 going bonkers, and so maybe this is opportunity to go 0:20:48.119 --> 0:20:52.760 go experience another sounds like she's been in Tennessee. Her 0:20:52.760 --> 0:20:58.240 whole life right went down, maybe ut or universal. So 0:20:58.320 --> 0:21:00.720 let's throw out that because you're right, Bernie, I think 0:21:00.720 --> 0:21:04.200 there's the job opportunities are crazy right now. So let's 0:21:04.320 --> 0:21:09.000 let's focus on how do you handle no? How do 0:21:09.000 --> 0:21:16.960 you handle someone saying no to you? Hm hmm. I 0:21:17.000 --> 0:21:19.400 mean we've both been told no many times a lot. 0:21:19.600 --> 0:21:24.080 No is no is a very valuable yeah lesson to 0:21:24.119 --> 0:21:29.560 be to learn. It's it's essentially saying losing. It's essentially 0:21:29.640 --> 0:21:33.320 saying yeahs If you go to one of these interviews 0:21:33.359 --> 0:21:35.200 and they say we're going to go a different direction, 0:21:35.840 --> 0:21:38.080 as much feedback as you can get from them, because 0:21:38.200 --> 0:21:42.080 no is an opportunity to to grow. No say that again. 0:21:42.200 --> 0:21:47.520 No is the opportunity to grow of you. Today you 0:21:47.920 --> 0:21:49.800 spew these one liners out and I just want to 0:21:49.840 --> 0:21:52.399 stop you and make you repeat it. But no is 0:21:52.440 --> 0:21:57.359 an opportunity to grow and even rhymes yeah yeah, brook 0:21:57.480 --> 0:21:59.840 take that man, take that and run with that one 0:21:59.880 --> 0:22:02.600 line and every time you hear it, when a company 0:22:02.640 --> 0:22:04.919 calls you and it says no, just go knows an 0:22:04.920 --> 0:22:08.159 opportunity to grow. So then what do you do You first, 0:22:08.200 --> 0:22:11.800 like Bernie said, you ask them thank you, Bob. We'll 0:22:11.880 --> 0:22:16.520 act like it's bob, Hey, Bob, I appreciate your time 0:22:16.880 --> 0:22:21.199 so much. In order for me to grow from your no, 0:22:22.280 --> 0:22:24.840 can I please get a little bit of feedback on 0:22:25.480 --> 0:22:27.600 maybe what I need to improve on or what you 0:22:27.680 --> 0:22:30.080 saw that you didn't like. And just if you did 0:22:30.119 --> 0:22:32.040 that three or four times, you can go to a 0:22:32.400 --> 0:22:39.400 superstar list of your resume. Yeah. Absolutely, and it could 0:22:39.480 --> 0:22:45.639 even help you grow in the things that you're good at, because, 0:22:46.359 --> 0:22:50.159 let's say, because I am a boss that hires people, 0:22:50.200 --> 0:22:53.520 interviews people, and if they email me, Let's say Brooke 0:22:53.560 --> 0:22:59.360 email me, and she did these things great. Even though 0:22:59.400 --> 0:23:03.600 I said no, I'd be like, Hey, your experience on 0:23:03.640 --> 0:23:08.359 your resume is impressive. The way that you like kept 0:23:08.400 --> 0:23:12.399 eye contact and were really focused in the meeting, the 0:23:12.440 --> 0:23:16.960 way that you were just very came across is very sincere. Man. 0:23:17.040 --> 0:23:20.840 Those things are all great. The reason that we had 0:23:20.880 --> 0:23:27.159 to say no is we just lost a project and 0:23:27.200 --> 0:23:29.679 we can't. You know, we would love to take you 0:23:29.760 --> 0:23:32.240 on maybe in a few months, but we can't right now, 0:23:32.280 --> 0:23:35.320 because that has nothing to do with Brooke, but that 0:23:35.400 --> 0:23:37.800 no can all of a sudden turn into like these 0:23:37.840 --> 0:23:40.639 things that they really did, Like it can build confidence 0:23:40.680 --> 0:23:43.959 of like, oh, yeah, these things are good. I love. Yeah, 0:23:44.000 --> 0:23:47.679 that's great. And you have to do that, Brooke. And 0:23:48.240 --> 0:23:50.399 you also have to kind of lower your expectations. I 0:23:50.400 --> 0:23:52.760 think if you if anyone's out there that's struggling with 0:23:52.840 --> 0:23:55.720 finding a job, which is crazy in this market, but 0:23:55.800 --> 0:23:57.560 if you're struggling to find it a job or a 0:23:57.640 --> 0:24:02.320 career and you've been through several paths that have dead 0:24:02.400 --> 0:24:04.800 ended for you, lower your you have to lower your 0:24:04.800 --> 0:24:09.120 expectations a bit, not necessarily in the in a company, 0:24:09.200 --> 0:24:11.640 but in the position of the company. If you want 0:24:11.680 --> 0:24:14.440 to work in some company. Really in the music business, 0:24:14.680 --> 0:24:16.760 if you want to work at a record label, you 0:24:16.840 --> 0:24:19.960 literally start in the mail room every time, or you 0:24:19.960 --> 0:24:22.720 start as the janitor. That's how they do it. The 0:24:22.760 --> 0:24:24.800 music business sucks in a lot of ways, but it's 0:24:24.880 --> 0:24:27.480 it's very unique and it's it's very powerful in the 0:24:27.480 --> 0:24:30.159 way that it that it runs people up the ladder. 0:24:31.119 --> 0:24:33.080 Then you can't do that, like at a bank or 0:24:33.119 --> 0:24:35.600 at an accounting firm, you can't start in the mail 0:24:35.640 --> 0:24:38.040 room and then you're an a lead accountant. It doesn't work. 0:24:38.240 --> 0:24:40.480 But in the music business, start in the mail room 0:24:40.480 --> 0:24:43.320 and one day you own the label. It's really cool 0:24:43.720 --> 0:24:46.119 how Nashville and New York and LA can do that. 0:24:47.000 --> 0:24:49.399 And you could take that same approach with you and 0:24:49.480 --> 0:24:54.400 Chattanooga and and just go listen what she she does 0:24:54.480 --> 0:24:59.560 management and accounting account So if you find there's an 0:24:59.560 --> 0:25:02.720 accounting firm that you just this is like the Pinnacle. 0:25:02.920 --> 0:25:05.800