Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I gotta I gotta do, Bernie, I gotta
Speaker 1: read this. This is a dangerous, dangerous question. Okay, I
Speaker 1: want to ask it to you. Do We got time,
Speaker 1: We got we good? Yeah, we're good. Welcome to the
Speaker 1: Granger Smith Podcast. Back with us, mister Bernie, I'm back again.
Speaker 1: Thanks for having me repeat weeks. So we are answering questions.
Speaker 1: That's what we do on this podcast, Bernie, is a
Speaker 1: master question answer. Can I say master bullshit? Or is
Speaker 1: that okay? Yes? Those that know me, no, those that
Speaker 1: know you understand you're speaking wisdom. That's what they know.
Speaker 1: You're speaking wisdom. If you have a question for us,
Speaker 1: email Granger Smith Podcast at gmail dot com. Could be
Speaker 1: about any kind of subject. If you've heard this podcast before,
Speaker 1: this is up ninety four. We've done this many times,
Speaker 1: We've answered many questions, and it's still fresh. It's still
Speaker 1: fun every time we do it. Yeah, it really is. Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's all leading up to number one hundred man number one.
Speaker 1: What are we going to do after that? One on one?
Speaker 1: So we birdays on the podcast last week and we
Speaker 1: had a bunch of questions that we didn't answer. So
Speaker 1: we're going to continue some of these subjects that we
Speaker 1: didn't answer, starting with left arm just comes from Jen.
Speaker 1: This question says, what does the blue represent on your
Speaker 1: bicep tattoo left? And why aren't the birthdays in ch
Speaker 1: chronicological order? But she kind of answered a quite the
Speaker 1: first question with the second question what is the blue?
Speaker 1: Or maybe she's answering actually the specifically the color blue.
Speaker 1: It doesn't really, it's just artwork. Really, it doesn't have
Speaker 1: a special I remember the guy was like, you want
Speaker 1: to something behind it, kind of flowy, and I said yeah,
Speaker 1: he said, want me to put blue? And I said sure.
Speaker 1: That's about all it was. Why are the birthdays not
Speaker 1: in chronological order? Of the kid's birthdays started with London
Speaker 1: in the middle. I just got it, and then I
Speaker 1: got Lincoln on top of hers, and then River. There
Speaker 1: was space under London. So that's the logic behind it.
Speaker 1: So now I gotta get another one for Maverick. So
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna go on top of Lincoln, so
Speaker 1: it'll be Maverick, Lincoln, London, Riv and that order, nothing
Speaker 1: nothing else to it. Bertie, you want to you want
Speaker 1: to help me with some of these we have? What's next?
Speaker 1: Not clickbait? Q and A life advice regarding lack of relationships,
Speaker 1: podcast question how to get over Death Grief Help. I'm
Speaker 1: the baby in the office, so people don't take me seriously.
Speaker 1: These are all suc close. Let's let's go getting over death.
Speaker 1: But then we'll go baby in office after that, just
Speaker 1: to okay, we can we can go down a little bit.
Speaker 1: Then we're gonna come back up. We're gonna lift you back. Guys,
Speaker 1: we got time. We're gonna rock this thing. We're gonna
Speaker 1: answer so many questions today. I feel it. It's like, yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: all right, I got it. Hey Granger, Me and my
Speaker 1: brother been listening to the Smiths and your podcast and
Speaker 1: your music for a very long time. We live in Plymouth, Indiana.
Speaker 1: Our dog was sadly hit on the highway on January
Speaker 1: twenty ninth, twenty twenty one. He was our best friend,
Speaker 1: our brother, and certainly the best dog in the world.
Speaker 1: And when I saw him laying there, my heart was broken.
Speaker 1: I felt like I lost my brother, and I did.
Speaker 1: I was wondering what things you did to get your
Speaker 1: mind off river? We pray every day, we look to
Speaker 1: the Lord and pray. What else should we do? This
Speaker 1: is from oh Man, O'Malley home. That is an awesome name.
Speaker 1: O'Malley home. Shout out to Indiana, thank you for writing
Speaker 1: this podcast. Buddy. The death of a dog is not
Speaker 1: the first time I've had to answer that on this
Speaker 1: on this podcast. It's tough. You've lost a dog, right,
Speaker 1: I have. I've lost I've lost three Sadie Abbey Rio, Okay,
Speaker 1: Sadi Abby Rio. Rio was the toughest. I had him
Speaker 1: for sixteen years. You lived for sixteen years, and we
Speaker 1: went through He moved with me from Tennessee to back
Speaker 1: to Texas. I remember when you got Rio. Yeah, you're
Speaker 1: with me when we got him, so that was I
Speaker 1: remember going to the pet store with you to to
Speaker 1: not get him. Well, you went to we were looking
Speaker 1: for a dog, okay, and you were. You were my escort.
Speaker 1: But we didn't get a dog at the pets. We
Speaker 1: I ended up going by myself down to par Tennessee
Speaker 1: and buying him on this place right by the river.
Speaker 1: That's why I named him Rio. Losing the dog is tough.
Speaker 1: I have not I have not walked up on a
Speaker 1: dog that I loved laying in the street, killed by
Speaker 1: a car on the highway that's gotta be that's gotta
Speaker 1: be a new level of losing a dog. Yeah, oh
Speaker 1: for sure. He He doesn't say how old he is, O'Malley, No, no,
Speaker 1: not that it matters. But I know when you're younger too,
Speaker 1: those relationships and just understanding death and the world and
Speaker 1: everything is a little bit heavier. So O'Malley. I say
Speaker 1: this every time when I get a question like this
Speaker 1: about a dog, and people don't always agree with me,
Speaker 1: but I promise you're asking my advice. This works for
Speaker 1: me and guys, I've been really close to dogs, like
Speaker 1: I love my dogs. I have three of them right now.
Speaker 1: You have one. Now I get close to him. I
Speaker 1: understand the bond between man and dog. The answer to
Speaker 1: your question comes in the form of a puppy. And
Speaker 1: at first you might not like the puppy. You might
Speaker 1: just to have a little have a little envy for
Speaker 1: the puppy a little, you know, you might you might
Speaker 1: not appreciate this puppy because it's never going to live
Speaker 1: up to your dog. You don't say your dog's name,
Speaker 1: And of course you got a little little bit of
Speaker 1: time go by. But we can because now that I'm
Speaker 1: reading this podcast, This happened in January twenty ninth, So
Speaker 1: if you haven't already, O'Malley, it's time for a pupp
Speaker 1: and I would go the same breed as the dog
Speaker 1: that you lost, the same gender. It doesn't say if
Speaker 1: it's a boy or girl. I don't think probably a boy.
Speaker 1: I'd get a boy, and I would just come in
Speaker 1: with the expectations that this dog ain't gonna be close
Speaker 1: to the one that died, and just look at it
Speaker 1: every day and go, you ain't nothing like your older
Speaker 1: brother was. And watch that dog change your world. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think you're right. And it starts getting older, you
Speaker 1: start going, huh, it's actually really smart. Yeah, it's actually
Speaker 1: better than I expected. Oh yeah, he used to do
Speaker 1: that same thing and that. So this dog will win
Speaker 1: you over. And a lot of people struggle with like
Speaker 1: I can't get another one, Now you can. Yeah, just
Speaker 1: go do it. It's going to satisfy all those all
Speaker 1: that stuff. So I appreciate you writing Buddy Barnes that
Speaker 1: you have a Yeah what do we you said? You
Speaker 1: said the baby, Yeah, I'm the baby in the office.
Speaker 1: It says, hey, Granger, I've been I've been binging this
Speaker 1: podcast and dang, you have some wisdom. I want your
Speaker 1: input on my current work situation. Thank you. It says
Speaker 1: I've always been terribly mature for my age, which is
Speaker 1: probably why I graduated college in two and a half years. Wow,
Speaker 1: and I went on to get my masters. I finished
Speaker 1: this week in less time than most kids spend an
Speaker 1: undergrad congratulations. Wow, it's amazing, way smarter than me. I
Speaker 1: started a quote unquote adult job in January with a
Speaker 1: company that I really like. The weird thing is that
Speaker 1: I'm the youngest at my work by a good decade.
Speaker 1: I'm twenty one years old. I report directly to the
Speaker 1: senior VP. In my role, I serve as the liaison
Speaker 1: between the communications director and the division directors, all of
Speaker 1: whom are fifty years old fifty year old men. I
Speaker 1: also keep tabs on other employees around the company, some
Speaker 1: of whom have been with the company for forty plus years.
Speaker 1: Some of my colleagues don't take me seriously since I'm
Speaker 1: so young and lack the years of experience that they have.
Speaker 1: Others don't like me because I do keep tabs on
Speaker 1: their marketing efforts and provide suggestions based on data and
Speaker 1: research that require current plans to change and for them
Speaker 1: to work with me. How do I overcome the perception
Speaker 1: of being the baby of the office. Will this idea
Speaker 1: change as I spend more and more time with the
Speaker 1: company and actually grow up and not be college aged
Speaker 1: in the meantime, how would you suggest I balance my
Speaker 1: role of being higher on the organization chart and sitting
Speaker 1: in meetings with people who have been in the industry
Speaker 1: longer than I've been alive. I appreciate your insight to this, Mikayla. Mickayla. So, Mickayla,
Speaker 1: first thing that jumps out is you need to understand
Speaker 1: there is a difference between wisdom and intelligence. So you
Speaker 1: may have the intellect and the understanding at twenty one
Speaker 1: that some of these people that are fifty may not
Speaker 1: have and know how to do a job a certain way,
Speaker 1: and you've learned more and very short amount of time,
Speaker 1: and that may be just a fact, but that's not
Speaker 1: the people that are fifty plus or plus or older
Speaker 1: been in the company thirty years looking at you. There's
Speaker 1: a certain wisdom that comes with experience, and there is
Speaker 1: no changing that without gaining the experience over time. I
Speaker 1: think the only thing when you hold that level of
Speaker 1: intellect and lack of experience. The way that you can
Speaker 1: show them wisdom is through humility. So carrying the sharpness
Speaker 1: that you have in a way that is disarming to
Speaker 1: them and inviting to them and showing them that you're
Speaker 1: there to support them and for them to be successful
Speaker 1: is going to show a certain level of humility that will,
Speaker 1: I think, communicate to them. Man, she's wise beyond her years,
Speaker 1: because most young kids will come in here and be like, man,
Speaker 1: I'm smarter and all of y'all, I know how to
Speaker 1: do this. Yeah, And meanwhile the old timers are like, dude,
Speaker 1: you don't know what you're talking about. So, Mikayla, that's great. Burns, Mickayla,
Speaker 1: I want to say, I want to first compliment you
Speaker 1: and just say congratulations on accomplishing what most people can't.
Speaker 1: You do. You graduated college in two and a half
Speaker 1: years and then get your masters in less time than
Speaker 1: most kids spend in undergrad You started it sounds like
Speaker 1: a twenty roun that and a really good job, and
Speaker 1: you have a great responsibility. I want to compliment you,
Speaker 1: and then I want to throw you an egg and
Speaker 1: say I feel like part of your education needs to
Speaker 1: continue to grow through humility, and they're in your email
Speaker 1: just judging from your email, I try to say judging,
Speaker 1: I did say that there is nothing that's kind of
Speaker 1: tossing the credit back to anything else other than your yourself,
Speaker 1: including your job, including your position, including the benefit of
Speaker 1: having these older people around you, which is incredible for
Speaker 1: you for your growth. And so I don't want to
Speaker 1: I want to. I don't want to come across as
Speaker 1: as being too judgmental on you at all, but I
Speaker 1: do want to just suggest to you that that humility,
Speaker 1: like Bernie said, could be your friend. And it takes
Speaker 1: a long time to cultivate that, just as it does
Speaker 1: to cultivate the intellect that you've grown with all your education,
Speaker 1: you got to cultivate your humility. And how does that
Speaker 1: work in the workplace? What works like this? It works
Speaker 1: when you have you're you're the supervisor of someone that
Speaker 1: has been at the company forty plus years. So you
Speaker 1: have to come at them with ultimate humility. You have
Speaker 1: to come at them and say, Bob, whatever his name is,
Speaker 1: can I ask you something? Because I just feel like
Speaker 1: I could really soak in a lot from you. You've
Speaker 1: been here for forty years and I've only been here
Speaker 1: since January, and this job can be overwhelming, and I
Speaker 1: just want to make sure that I have an open
Speaker 1: door of communication with you because I've just really I
Speaker 1: know I'm gonna have some questions for you, and I
Speaker 1: know that they've put me as your supervisor. So we
Speaker 1: both met you, and I both know that I'm going
Speaker 1: to be the one asking the questions here and it
Speaker 1: might not be the truth totally, but that kind of
Speaker 1: humility coming at Bob, he's gonna put his guard down
Speaker 1: because right now he's thinking, Man, I've been here forty years.
Speaker 1: Who is this young college kid gonna tell me how
Speaker 1: to turn in my work. Mikayla, this is gonna be
Speaker 1: a huge roadblock for you. If you don't correct this immediately,
Speaker 1: you're gonna have hell for the next several years. And
Speaker 1: here's the thing, Mikayla, me, Bernie and everyone else listening
Speaker 1: to this podcast, at one point we were the youngest
Speaker 1: of something that we did. I remember the longest time
Speaker 1: being the youngest guy in the band by a lot,
Speaker 1: and every every musician has been the youngest guy in
Speaker 1: the band. And then I'm as far as the players
Speaker 1: on me and Todd are the same age. But now
Speaker 1: Fish either guitar players twenty seven. So now he's the
Speaker 1: young guy and we just make fun of him and
Speaker 1: we know this banter, and I tell him, I'm like
Speaker 1: Fish one day, one day, you're gonna be the old
Speaker 1: guy in the band, because I will too. One day
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be the old guy. And Mikayla, you're gonna
Speaker 1: be the old girl in the office. One day. You're
Speaker 1: gonna be the forty plus year in employee one day
Speaker 1: somewhere might not be this job, but somewhere, just remember that,
Speaker 1: but someone else is gonna it's's going to always going
Speaker 1: to be. It's gonna be a rotating door with these
Speaker 1: college kids coming in. Keep that in mind. That's going
Speaker 1: to help fuel your humility. But walk with a sense
Speaker 1: of reverence, a sense of respect to your elders, and
Speaker 1: that doesn't that's not reflected in your paycheck. It's not
Speaker 1: reflected in who they answer to or who you answer to.
Speaker 1: Respect is different than all those m Yeah, for sure, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I could I could have I could have respect for
Speaker 1: the guy that's taken out the garbage behind the restaurant
Speaker 1: that I'm meeting at because he's older than me. Of
Speaker 1: respect for that guy, even though I was just a
Speaker 1: patron in the restaurant that's paying his bill. Technically, that's
Speaker 1: nothing to do with respect, right, or our generosity or
Speaker 1: gratefulness or patience or love or any any of those
Speaker 1: kind of traits have nothing to do with education or
Speaker 1: staf our age. So Bernie said it, and I'm just reinforcing,
Speaker 1: you're gonna being being humbled towards these people is going
Speaker 1: to be your friend. Yeah, I think too understanding Caleb
Speaker 1: that humility and confidence are not opposites. It's not like
Speaker 1: you have to choose one or the others. So you
Speaker 1: good points say that again, humility and curate humility and
Speaker 1: confidence are not opposites. So you you've been educated, you
Speaker 1: you do have some experience, you have some skill, or
Speaker 1: else they would have hired you. And so there there
Speaker 1: is a perception and regardless of how your coworkers respond
Speaker 1: to you, you should have the mindset of man, I
Speaker 1: am here to learn and serve other people. But I'm
Speaker 1: gonna run circles around everybody here because I'm gonna hustle.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna work as hard as I can, and I'm
Speaker 1: going to be confident in the abilities that I have.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to like lure those abilities over other people,
Speaker 1: but I'm going to use those in a way that
Speaker 1: shows confidence. And I think that people will start to
Speaker 1: respect your talents and your skills when you carry in
Speaker 1: balance humility, in confidence. And also I think with that confidence,
Speaker 1: you don't worry so much about what Bob says. It's like, ah,
Speaker 1: Bob's just being old. Whatever. Man, he thinks you're young,
Speaker 1: he thinks that one you have terrible work ethic, because
Speaker 1: that is kind of a consensus of millennials and below,
Speaker 1: like they don't have the right work ethic. Proven wrong. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they don't have the experience, they don't have humility. Hey,
Speaker 1: take all of that as feedback and be like, thanks Bob, MICHAELA,
Speaker 1: show up earlier than everyone, right, be there when Bob
Speaker 1: gets there. Every time. Clean Bob's coffee pot yep, who
Speaker 1: cleaned this? Who cleaned the coffee? Oh? Sorry, Bob, I
Speaker 1: did that. I just saw it was dirty. MICHAELA. Well,
Speaker 1: thank you. Iniative every time. And then and then the
Speaker 1: last thing I'll say is speak less, listen more, speak less.
Speaker 1: You could accomplish this the same you could you could
Speaker 1: excel in your job. You could, you could crush it,
Speaker 1: but you could still speak less and listen more. Listen
Speaker 1: to Bob more, and you speak less when you go
Speaker 1: to a meeting. Don't be the first one to talk,
Speaker 1: don't be the last one to talk. Just listen. Listen.
Speaker 1: That's your that's that's what the person that just started
Speaker 1: in January does. They listen and once again, has nothing
Speaker 1: to do with seniority. Right, that's good. Cool. Thank you
Speaker 1: for writing, MICHAELA. I kind of I kind of would
Speaker 1: love to hear like a year a year update on
Speaker 1: her situation. Yeah, but yeah, that's fun. Congratulations on all
Speaker 1: your success, Mikaila. Did you have another one? Burns Bob?
Speaker 1: A question? Relationship advice, handling being told? No, I like
Speaker 1: that title. Let's do that? Do that, says hegre and your.
Speaker 1: My name is Brooke. I'm a country girl from Chattanooga,
Speaker 1: but I live in East Tennessee, almost at the very
Speaker 1: pointy end of the state. Lol. I graduated last May
Speaker 1: with a bachelor's degree. Bad year to do this then,
Speaker 1: But since then, I've applied for so many jobs I
Speaker 1: would say around thirty plus. I've only had two companies
Speaker 1: call me for an interview. I have little experience in
Speaker 1: my degree management and accounting minor, but I'm looking for
Speaker 1: that one company to give me a start. It's been hard,
Speaker 1: to say the least. It's been hard and mentally being
Speaker 1: told no so often. I do my best to give
Speaker 1: it all to God, but after a while, I feel
Speaker 1: like I don't have anything left to give. Companies don't
Speaker 1: want to train an employee with little to no experience,
Speaker 1: which I get because it takes time and money. At
Speaker 1: the same time, everyone had to start from scratch. It's
Speaker 1: hard to gain experience when no company is willing to
Speaker 1: give you a chance to gain experience. Yep, I'm sure
Speaker 1: you've had You've heard a bunch of no in the
Speaker 1: music business. My question is how do you keep going?
Speaker 1: How do you handle the nose? Thank you? Brooke? So
Speaker 1: crazy going back to back mm hmm with these two
Speaker 1: with MICHAELA and Brooke back to back, but they sound
Speaker 1: like about the same age. I wonder if she's if
Speaker 1: Brook's open to move because I'm in Austin, Texas, and
Speaker 1: everybody I know is hiring and we can't find people
Speaker 1: fast enough. So and I know there's a few other
Speaker 1: places in the country that are that are just like
Speaker 1: going bonkers, and so maybe this is opportunity to go
Speaker 1: go experience another sounds like she's been in Tennessee. Her
Speaker 1: whole life right went down, maybe ut or universal. So
Speaker 1: let's throw out that because you're right, Bernie, I think
Speaker 1: there's the job opportunities are crazy right now. So let's
Speaker 1: let's focus on how do you handle no? How do
Speaker 1: you handle someone saying no to you? Hm hmm. I
Speaker 1: mean we've both been told no many times a lot.
Speaker 1: No is no is a very valuable yeah lesson to
Speaker 1: be to learn. It's it's essentially saying losing. It's essentially
Speaker 1: saying yeahs If you go to one of these interviews
Speaker 1: and they say we're going to go a different direction,
Speaker 1: as much feedback as you can get from them, because
Speaker 1: no is an opportunity to to grow. No say that again.
Speaker 1: No is the opportunity to grow of you. Today you
Speaker 1: spew these one liners out and I just want to
Speaker 1: stop you and make you repeat it. But no is
Speaker 1: an opportunity to grow and even rhymes yeah yeah, brook
Speaker 1: take that man, take that and run with that one
Speaker 1: line and every time you hear it, when a company
Speaker 1: calls you and it says no, just go knows an
Speaker 1: opportunity to grow. So then what do you do You first,
Speaker 1: like Bernie said, you ask them thank you, Bob. We'll
Speaker 1: act like it's bob, Hey, Bob, I appreciate your time
Speaker 1: so much. In order for me to grow from your no,
Speaker 1: can I please get a little bit of feedback on
Speaker 1: maybe what I need to improve on or what you
Speaker 1: saw that you didn't like. And just if you did
Speaker 1: that three or four times, you can go to a
Speaker 1: superstar list of your resume. Yeah. Absolutely, and it could
Speaker 1: even help you grow in the things that you're good at, because,
Speaker 1: let's say, because I am a boss that hires people,
Speaker 1: interviews people, and if they email me, Let's say Brooke
Speaker 1: email me, and she did these things great. Even though
Speaker 1: I said no, I'd be like, Hey, your experience on
Speaker 1: your resume is impressive. The way that you like kept
Speaker 1: eye contact and were really focused in the meeting, the
Speaker 1: way that you were just very came across is very sincere. Man.
Speaker 1: Those things are all great. The reason that we had
Speaker 1: to say no is we just lost a project and
Speaker 1: we can't. You know, we would love to take you
Speaker 1: on maybe in a few months, but we can't right now,
Speaker 1: because that has nothing to do with Brooke, but that
Speaker 1: no can all of a sudden turn into like these
Speaker 1: things that they really did, Like it can build confidence
Speaker 1: of like, oh, yeah, these things are good. I love. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's great. And you have to do that, Brooke. And
Speaker 1: you also have to kind of lower your expectations. I
Speaker 1: think if you if anyone's out there that's struggling with
Speaker 1: finding a job, which is crazy in this market, but
Speaker 1: if you're struggling to find it a job or a
Speaker 1: career and you've been through several paths that have dead
Speaker 1: ended for you, lower your you have to lower your
Speaker 1: expectations a bit, not necessarily in the in a company,
Speaker 1: but in the position of the company. If you want
Speaker 1: to work in some company. Really in the music business,
Speaker 1: if you want to work at a record label, you
Speaker 1: literally start in the mail room every time, or you
Speaker 1: start as the janitor. That's how they do it. The
Speaker 1: music business sucks in a lot of ways, but it's
Speaker 1: it's very unique and it's it's very powerful in the
Speaker 1: way that it that it runs people up the ladder.
Speaker 1: Then you can't do that, like at a bank or
Speaker 1: at an accounting firm, you can't start in the mail
Speaker 1: room and then you're an a lead accountant. It doesn't work.
Speaker 1: But in the music business, start in the mail room
Speaker 1: and one day you own the label. It's really cool
Speaker 1: how Nashville and New York and LA can do that.
Speaker 1: And you could take that same approach with you and
Speaker 1: Chattanooga and and just go listen what she she does
Speaker 1: management and accounting account So if you find there's an
Speaker 1: accounting firm that you just this is like the Pinnacle.
Speaker 1: This is it's in downtown Chattanooga. It's got it, it's great,
Speaker 1: and you want to come in there, lower your expectations
Speaker 1: and just say, can I start at the reception desk?
Speaker 1: That's how bad I want to My degree is going
Speaker 1: to merit this kind of job. But I love this
Speaker 1: company and what you guys do and what you stand
Speaker 1: for and where you're going so much. Is there an
Speaker 1: entry level position, an assistant position answering the phones? I
Speaker 1: want that because I love this company. And then see
Speaker 1: he says, yeah, I think you're absolutely right. I think
Speaker 1: what you're saying, in a roundabout way is that it's
Speaker 1: really about relationships, and relationships form the trust that opens opportunity. Right. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So once that person once Bob sees, man, we have
Speaker 1: her as a receptionist, and we asked her to do do
Speaker 1: these things, and I completely trust she got it done.
Speaker 1: Maybe trust has grown. Maybe we now Julie left and
Speaker 1: that there's an opportunity here man, we give it to her. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So it's really about forming, like taking it, like you're saying,
Speaker 1: taking advantage of any window of opportunity and saying, hey,
Speaker 1: I'm going to get in here. I'm going to learn
Speaker 1: and serve as much as I can, knowing that that
Speaker 1: that could open up more opportunities to get where I
Speaker 1: want to get. I think a lot of companies these
Speaker 1: days too, are wanting to hire within and kind of
Speaker 1: cultivate their their culture inside the company. It's it's a
Speaker 1: lot easier to get someone with a lesser experience, yep,
Speaker 1: and just train them up in the culture that you want. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's how we operate. That's awesome. Absolutely, all right,
Speaker 1: we'll take a quick break. We'll be back right. Podcast
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Speaker 1: I checked yesterday Burns it was. This is crazy. This
Speaker 1: is It's number twenty six on the chart of all
Speaker 1: music podcasts. Wow. And we don't even talk about musically.
Speaker 1: That's incredible. I know, man, it blows me away. And
Speaker 1: we're just sitting here answering, answering people's questions, like we're
Speaker 1: sitting around and camp fire. Yeah. And there's so many
Speaker 1: people that are so talented at podcasts and are so
Speaker 1: well produced, and they're so stories, are so in depth
Speaker 1: and to be like consistently top thirty of all music
Speaker 1: podcasts in the world. And me and your answering questions.
Speaker 1: Relationship career advice is blows me away. Yeah, and maybe
Speaker 1: it speaks to the culture too that people just genuinely
Speaker 1: like to listen in on a long form discussion over
Speaker 1: life problems, real life stuff, real life for sure. Yeah,
Speaker 1: now there's nothing another bake in this podcast. Yeah for sure.
Speaker 1: I listen when I'm not on it, So I mean
Speaker 1: I resonate. That resonates with me too, Man, I want
Speaker 1: to I want to listen to you know who else
Speaker 1: listens all the time? My mom? Oh, really shout out
Speaker 1: to my mom. Yeah, she's was so good. Yesday I
Speaker 1: got to give a shout out to my sister Wendy
Speaker 1: because I gave a shout out to my brother in
Speaker 1: law Josh, And the first text I got was like,
Speaker 1: what the heck do you want to give a shout
Speaker 1: out to him and not your own sister that has
Speaker 1: supported you your whole life and listen to everything? So
Speaker 1: love you, siss, appreciate. So did do you remember any
Speaker 1: of these questions? We have what's next? Not clickbait? We
Speaker 1: have Q and A, we have grief help, no subject,
Speaker 1: relationship advice, let's go, let's go, no subject, just to
Speaker 1: keep keep roll the dice, keep me good. Okay, this
Speaker 1: is a one sentence question with no subject from Brayden.
Speaker 1: It says, what do I do if I like a
Speaker 1: girl and I'm afraid to tell her? Obviously young? Yeah, Braiden,
Speaker 1: I feel you, dude. I've asked that question to myself.
Speaker 1: It's a few moments of fear or a lifetime or regret? Boom,
Speaker 1: what are you doing today? Man? What's to push into
Speaker 1: a few moments of fear or a lifetime? I regret? Wow,
Speaker 1: she could be your wife, Braiden. Yeah, you'll know. I
Speaker 1: feel like Braiden's like twelve. Yeah, I feel like he is.
Speaker 1: So it's funny because when I when I was twelve
Speaker 1: or I wouldn't. I wouldn't deal with that. When I
Speaker 1: was twelve, let's say fourteen, I was writing notes on
Speaker 1: college dull paper and folding them up, passing them around class.
Speaker 1: Did you guys? Oh yeah, absolutely? That was like what
Speaker 1: you did? That was that was before text messages. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I did one time in middle school, except I wrote
Speaker 1: something really bad about the teacher and she came and
Speaker 1: took it up, and I was like, oh, my parents
Speaker 1: got called. I was in in school suspension. It was terrible.
Speaker 1: I bet you got in trouble a lot. I bet
Speaker 1: you're like the giggler. The thing is is I was
Speaker 1: the baby of the family and I always found it.
Speaker 1: I would get into trouble, but I was I would
Speaker 1: always find a way to be like, ah, come on, guys,
Speaker 1: just playing around right, Like, okay, just let him go.
Speaker 1: I see that in my my my youngest son. I
Speaker 1: see it in him. He's the same way. It's like
Speaker 1: he's so mischievous, but he's just like and so I
Speaker 1: looked at him like, all right, get out of here.
Speaker 1: I did get into some trouble, but most of it
Speaker 1: was innocent. Most of it was innocent. I see that.
Speaker 1: But yeah, passing notes, so I would say, I would say,
Speaker 1: Branden if it was me, and this might not be you,
Speaker 1: this is a personality thing. I would write her a note.
Speaker 1: I would write, or not if you're because this one thing,
Speaker 1: like Bartie said, just to you know, have some confidence
Speaker 1: and walk home and just say Mikayla, maybe it's michaela.
Speaker 1: I'm like interchanging names if we're using people to podcast. So,
Speaker 1: but what I would do, I don't think i'd be
Speaker 1: that brave at a young age. Yeah, I would write
Speaker 1: her I was better always better in my life writing
Speaker 1: things than I was saying them. So I would write,
Speaker 1: I would get a little card or a piece of
Speaker 1: paper and just say four or five lines a little paragraph. Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm terrified even put that be vulnerable. I'm terrified to
Speaker 1: tell you this in person because you're so beautiful, but
Speaker 1: I really like you, and I have to tell you
Speaker 1: or something. And then and then put in her put
Speaker 1: it in her locker. We're literally assuming he's in junior
Speaker 1: high right now. It would be funny he's like fifty
Speaker 1: and but even if he's in junior high, I think
Speaker 1: that this goes like, don't send a text. Text are
Speaker 1: the worst guys. Text are the worst. Text and social
Speaker 1: media the worst way you can communicate. Communicate with people,
Speaker 1: Like I think a note like this it can go
Speaker 1: sometimes even further than doing it in person. It's like,
Speaker 1: oh man, that was very thoughtful, and like you have
Speaker 1: to say what you want to say and George Straight
Speaker 1: check yes or no? That's the song, yep, do you
Speaker 1: love me? Do you want to be my friend? Check
Speaker 1: yes or no? Yeah, you can even say, hey, I'm
Speaker 1: a big George Straight fan? Are you he has this song?
Speaker 1: And then like you have a box at the bottom,
Speaker 1: and you know that could be the stard yaws boom,
Speaker 1: easy question, easy answer. All right, See we have I
Speaker 1: love that we answer these questions and we feel like, dude,
Speaker 1: we are nailing this. I wonder if people actually like, Hey,
Speaker 1: Greager Bernie, I did what you said and she likes me.
Speaker 1: It was a terrible in my life, this podcast ruined
Speaker 1: by I think what you said? You idiots. Yeah, that's
Speaker 1: why we we only take questions. We don't take like
Speaker 1: the outcome of what you do. All right, let's see
Speaker 1: we have we have Granger Smith podcast. Oh yeah, I
Speaker 1: gotta I gotta do Burnie, I gotta read this. This
Speaker 1: is a dangerous, dangerous question. Okay, I'm gonna ask it
Speaker 1: to you. Do we got? We got? We good? Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're good. I saw this very short but very dangerous. Okay.
Speaker 1: It says it's from Mark. It says, what are your
Speaker 1: thoughts on the Great Reset? Is it possible? Do you
Speaker 1: think it will happen? Or is it just a conspiracy theory?
Speaker 1: What's this guy's name? Mark? All right, you're gonna have
Speaker 1: to enlighten me on Mark's question the Great Reset. I
Speaker 1: think what he's talking about. I'm pretty sure what he's
Speaker 1: talking about, especially since you get to the conspiracies, like
Speaker 1: the Great Reset. Is this underground deep state, small group
Speaker 1: of people that are resetting the world economy through and
Speaker 1: he sent this question in last year, so the end
Speaker 1: of Okay, So they they're like resetting the world stage
Speaker 1: for their interest, their purpose, setting it up towards either
Speaker 1: one world currency or something. Okay, to believe that that's possible,
Speaker 1: I think that's what he's asking. Okay, So this is
Speaker 1: the idea that like, hey, there's like twenty people that
Speaker 1: control everything and they're getting together saying, hey, well let's
Speaker 1: do this and this and this and then this is
Speaker 1: the quote unquote deep state idea that's more powerful than
Speaker 1: DC that actually runs DC. And yeah, Russia, And I
Speaker 1: let you go first, Well, how I would how I
Speaker 1: would approach it for me personally? Well, he says, is
Speaker 1: it possible? Yeah, yeah, sure, I'd agree, it's sure. For sure.
Speaker 1: I don't think anything's possible. Aliens could land tomorrow, Come on,
Speaker 1: it's possible. I mean what But but as a as
Speaker 1: a Bible reading man, I will say this, it doesn't matter. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter. So because it doesn't matter much, it
Speaker 1: matters a little bit because it doesn't matter like life,
Speaker 1: It doesn't affect me so deeply that I'm gonna be
Speaker 1: worried about it and stuck on the news or stuck
Speaker 1: on these weird conspiracy YouTube pages. I'm not. I'm not
Speaker 1: worried about my kids. I'm not one of the people
Speaker 1: that's like, I mean, I'm worried about the next year.
Speaker 1: I'm worried about my grandkids. They're going to inherit a
Speaker 1: terrible world. Well, the Bible says that they were born
Speaker 1: for a time as this, such as this, so that
Speaker 1: we're all brought into the Kingdom for a time such
Speaker 1: as this for a special reason for this time. So
Speaker 1: if there is some crazy world conspiracy, deep state, great reset.
Speaker 1: So bring it on, come on, come on. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think that's a great response, And like part of me
Speaker 1: doesn't even want to. I'll entertain it because they they
Speaker 1: put the question out there, and it's like, Okay, I
Speaker 1: want to, you know, answer what they're asking. But I think,
Speaker 1: really what my mind goes to is like I can't
Speaker 1: really give my short time here on earth give my
Speaker 1: energy to something like this when it's like it doesn't matter, man,
Speaker 1: God's will in front of me, and that's what I
Speaker 1: got to focus on. And if for some reason this
Speaker 1: great reset intersects with God's will for my life, then
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to address it, and He'll give me
Speaker 1: the tools to address it and how how to approach
Speaker 1: it and whatever. But at this time, I believe that
Speaker 1: he's sovereign and he's in control of this deep state. People,
Speaker 1: you're on fire. Whatever, you're on fire. You're on fire. God,
Speaker 1: You're always on fire. Yeah, that's that's that's awesome. Our
Speaker 1: short time here on this earth is just we can't
Speaker 1: focus on things that we can't control, and we can't
Speaker 1: control that we can't control. That's something outside of our government.
Speaker 1: We could We could vote, We could protest if you want.
Speaker 1: If if you're the kind of person that likes to protest,
Speaker 1: you could do that. You could march in the streets
Speaker 1: if that's the kind of thing you like to do.
Speaker 1: But that's about it. It's about it. The most important
Speaker 1: thing you could do is raise your kids with a
Speaker 1: loving family, with a mother and father. Yeah, and be present,
Speaker 1: be present, know the difference between the things you can
Speaker 1: control and the things you can't. Yeah, and the things
Speaker 1: you can't you gotta let them go. There are so
Speaker 1: many things mark in our lives that are in need
Speaker 1: of repair in some way that we can fix today, absolutely,
Speaker 1: that we shouldn't waste a second on the things that
Speaker 1: we can't. We don't have time, brother, There's too many
Speaker 1: problems today. There's too many things in disarray and things
Speaker 1: that need to be reordered and fixed and rebuilt and
Speaker 1: restored and mended. There's too many things today to worry
Speaker 1: about anything that we can't touch, that we can't that
Speaker 1: we can't affect in any way, So why worry about it?
Speaker 1: That's so good man. I will say this one quote
Speaker 1: from Piper, and I'm gonna try my best not to
Speaker 1: butcher this even though I know I'm going to. But
Speaker 1: he says, in the end days social media will prove
Speaker 1: as evidence that our lack of prayer was not due
Speaker 1: to lack of time. Man, that's crushing, you know. So, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we got a short amount of time to be about
Speaker 1: what you need to be about. Don't get caught up
Speaker 1: in this nonsense. Yeah, I don't care. I don't mean
Speaker 1: to mean this in any kind of bad way, but great,
Speaker 1: reset don't care. I love when you have your dumper
Speaker 1: don't care. Let's go we have life advice regarding lack
Speaker 1: of relationship. Do we have the one still that says
Speaker 1: not clickbait? Because I mean, I've heard it a few
Speaker 1: times and he's kind of got me. Okay, He says, Hey, Granger,
Speaker 1: have been a long time fan of your music. I
Speaker 1: listen to all your podcasts. I want to keep this
Speaker 1: short and sweet, since I assume you get hundreds of emails.
Speaker 1: It says you've had a long career in country music,
Speaker 1: playing hockey talks and charting on radio and albums. What
Speaker 1: are your goals moving forward? If you could see Granger
Speaker 1: Smith five to ten years from now, where do you
Speaker 1: see yourself? Also, I want to great question, he said,
Speaker 1: I want to update on Earl's truck that by the
Speaker 1: time this podcast is out, there'll be an update on
Speaker 1: the truck. That's Cody. Cody asked that question, Well, what
Speaker 1: are you so excited about? I want to hear what
Speaker 1: the answer to the question? Man? Yeah, what's next? Well,
Speaker 1: it's crazy because I have on my phone this voice
Speaker 1: memos of my band from twenty sixteen. I went around,
Speaker 1: I passed my phone around to everybody in the band
Speaker 1: and crew, and I said. I asked him a series
Speaker 1: about five questions, and one of the questions was, where
Speaker 1: do you see yourself in five years? Well at twenty sixteen.
Speaker 1: Now it's been five years. So I'm going to play
Speaker 1: it for him this weekend. It was June actually of
Speaker 1: twenty sixteen. That's such a great idea. And I listened
Speaker 1: to a couple of them and I was like, well,
Speaker 1: you didn't do that, and a couple of them I
Speaker 1: was like, bro, congrats, you did that. I don't know
Speaker 1: this show. I'm going to play it from this weekend.
Speaker 1: That's so cool. And and to you, Cody, what man,
Speaker 1: what's crazy is what I have learned in the last
Speaker 1: decade is unbelievable. This is ten years of my life.
Speaker 1: If I would look back at at twenty eleven and
Speaker 1: then I could say this, I could say, London was born,
Speaker 1: my daughter I was just freshly married. Earl Dibbles was invented.
Speaker 1: I actually got significant touring going for the first time
Speaker 1: in my life. My dad died, I got a record deal,
Speaker 1: my son died. I moved probably four times. You lived
Speaker 1: in a barn, lived in a bar in irb It
Speaker 1: got under zero degrees in Texas, there's a lot of
Speaker 1: things that happened to me, significant things that happened to
Speaker 1: me in the last ten years, all to say that
Speaker 1: I've learned more than any other time between age thirty
Speaker 1: and age forty. I've learned that those ten year plans
Speaker 1: can change, and the one thing that cannot change is God.
Speaker 1: It does not change His word and his plan does
Speaker 1: not change. So I read that, and I hang on
Speaker 1: for dear life, because the tossing and turning of the
Speaker 1: seas of life will take you overboard every time. And
Speaker 1: if I had, if I had realistically given you in
Speaker 1: twenty eleven a ten year plan, I would have given
Speaker 1: you a beautifully written, you know, little parable of what
Speaker 1: a life could be. But if I had followed it
Speaker 1: word for word, letter for letter, note for note in
Speaker 1: twenty eleven, I would have missed out on so much
Speaker 1: if I just held fast to the to the winds
Speaker 1: and my sales that God gave me. And that's something
Speaker 1: I couldn't told you. I couldn't have told you that
Speaker 1: at age twenty or age thirty, But I'm telling you
Speaker 1: now at age forty, that I've learned much more just
Speaker 1: to hang on to God, hang on to his plan
Speaker 1: and make the best opportunity that I can with the
Speaker 1: events that arise around me. And so part of that
Speaker 1: is keeping my eyes open to the events that are
Speaker 1: rising around me, like, well, this is a great opportunity
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna go for this, and I feel really
Speaker 1: good about it. And it could be EEE radio or
Speaker 1: it could be preaching a sermon on Sunday morning at
Speaker 1: a church. It could be that big of a range.
Speaker 1: It could be a new coat we're coming out with
Speaker 1: a ee or something. But I just, man, I'm just
Speaker 1: I'm kind of against five and ten year plans now, yeah,
Speaker 1: because I think I think it could get you either
Speaker 1: highly disappointed or you could miss your you could fail
Speaker 1: in expectation in some way, or maybe worse, you could
Speaker 1: follow a path too long that you never were supposed
Speaker 1: to be on. Yep, So what about you? A lot
Speaker 1: has changed for you in the same amount of time. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like I have tattooed on my arm some words from
Speaker 1: my mom. It's an adventure. And I think, really, when
Speaker 1: you're on an adventure in the most fun ones, like
Speaker 1: you don't really know what's coming. Like I've been on
Speaker 1: the back of a motorcycle writing through the remote villages
Speaker 1: of Honduras, don't speak a lot of Spanish, and this
Speaker 1: guy's taken me to meet his family. It's like, well,
Speaker 1: this will be fun. You know what, It's an adventure.
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, man, I I could have never planned that.
Speaker 1: I could have never written that. But when it was happening,
Speaker 1: and you're kind of like you said, you're you're staying
Speaker 1: close to the will of God, and you know that,
Speaker 1: like he's before the foundation of the world, he wrote this,
Speaker 1: these good works he prepared for us to walk in
Speaker 1: the feeling of knowing that, like, man, I'm in that
Speaker 1: good work. I know that I'm in it. I would
Speaker 1: have never planned this rather than oh yeah, here's my
Speaker 1: plan and checked it off. There's there's some sense of accomplishment,
Speaker 1: but there's some sense of like, I think that can
Speaker 1: develop a sense of control that we don't really need
Speaker 1: to have. One we're going to miss out, we're going
Speaker 1: to suffocate life. Yeah, but two we're going to be
Speaker 1: we're going to tend to be outside of the will
Speaker 1: of God because it's like, and let me just say,
Speaker 1: I don't think planning is a bad thing. I think
Speaker 1: planning and preparation is a good thing. I think Grizz
Speaker 1: and I both feel that, but there's a difference between
Speaker 1: you know, man will make his plans, but God will
Speaker 1: determine the steps. Yeah, so much has changed, and it's
Speaker 1: almost like I would rather be in the will of
Speaker 1: God unprepared, then know exactly where I'm going and have
Speaker 1: to deal with that, the failure of the expectation, the responsibility,
Speaker 1: the you know, the mind games that go along with that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't think that I can operate in that. Let
Speaker 1: me tell Cody, let me tell you in my life
Speaker 1: what I've planned. I planned on playing music. I still
Speaker 1: do that, That's about it. I planned on having a family.
Speaker 1: I didn't plan on this podcast. I didn't plan on
Speaker 1: Earl or ye ye are restoring Earl's truck or living
Speaker 1: in Central Texas or building a farmhouse or anything else
Speaker 1: besides playing music and having a family. There's only two
Speaker 1: things I planned on doing for a long time, and
Speaker 1: everything else has just happened. So but even with planning
Speaker 1: on having a family, even in that dynamic, you didn't
Speaker 1: plan on losing riv exactly. But how life changing and
Speaker 1: impactful has that been in your story? Yeah? You know,
Speaker 1: and I think that one thing I've taken from you
Speaker 1: and Amber over the years, the many years is just
Speaker 1: a sense of being present, being content, and always leading
Speaker 1: with gratitude. So I think if you do those things,
Speaker 1: the plan's already written for you. You don't have to
Speaker 1: write it, like, just let me throw let me throw
Speaker 1: another one out. We didn't plan on having a fourth
Speaker 1: biological baby, that's right. Yeah, and we're due next month,
Speaker 1: so yeah, there's you know that that this list is deep.
Speaker 1: I just I just think the joy of life is
Speaker 1: in the adventure. I really believe that, And it's in
Speaker 1: letting go of control. I think you said it right,
Speaker 1: Like you have to be present and see like the
Speaker 1: opportunities or the things are, be aware of the things
Speaker 1: around you. But know that man, if you are abiding
Speaker 1: in him, he's gonna say, hey, I know, no, go
Speaker 1: this way, go this way. Okay, Yeah, I don't care.
Speaker 1: I'll go wherever you want me to go because I
Speaker 1: know that's where life is, that's where joys. That's what
Speaker 1: we're all pursuing, right. People that plan their five year
Speaker 1: plans are like, how can I be happy? What can
Speaker 1: I plan to be happy? We're all trying to be
Speaker 1: happy and what we're saying, is abide in Him, and
Speaker 1: that's where your joy is going to be. It doesn't
Speaker 1: matter if the road is rocky, or if it's smooth,
Speaker 1: or if it's uphill downhill. It doesn't matter if it
Speaker 1: takes you here or there. I was a musician and
Speaker 1: now I'm not. And I was at the point where
Speaker 1: I had no job, and I took an ad on
Speaker 1: Craigslist to take a construction job. Who would have thought
Speaker 1: that God was saying, hey man, actually this is the
Speaker 1: way we're gonna go. Okay, Yeah, it's fine. I think
Speaker 1: when we are satisfied most in Him, the road doesn't matter. Yep,
Speaker 1: the plan doesn't matter. He's got the plan when we
Speaker 1: trust him. Boom dropped the mic. You want to hit
Speaker 1: one more? Yep? Should we go deep or should we
Speaker 1: stay shallow? How much time we got got we could
Speaker 1: knock it out in ten eight minutes, eight minutes, go
Speaker 1: for it. Okay. I'm gonna trying to find a short one. Guys,
Speaker 1: they'll say this Bible question. Okay, says he Graander. I'm
Speaker 1: a huge country music fan, and I was thrilled to
Speaker 1: find a mainstream artist that reads the Bible every morning.
Speaker 1: I'm a Christian, so of course I won't hate you
Speaker 1: for your Calvinistic views, even though I don't agree with
Speaker 1: every point. We live in a society that we were
Speaker 1: told that marriage is unnecessary, et cetera. So what are
Speaker 1: your thoughts in the importance of marriage, sex before marriage, divorce, remarriage.
Speaker 1: My name is Dave, I'm sixteen. I'm from Pennsylvania. Have
Speaker 1: a great day, future Calvinist, David. Just kid me, Hey, buddy,
Speaker 1: as soon as you start reading the Bible a little
Speaker 1: bit more, you'll be a calvinistent me. What what What
Speaker 1: a world that we live in where Dave at sixteen
Speaker 1: one that he's thinking about these kind of things. I
Speaker 1: was not just that progressed as a human, and that
Speaker 1: he has the ability to email his favorite country music
Speaker 1: singer and then have him answer it and listen to
Speaker 1: What a world? Yeah? Okay, yeah, that's a good question, though, David,
Speaker 1: sixteen and you are. I'm unpacking this slowly. Thank you
Speaker 1: for thank you for emailing your way ahead of me.
Speaker 1: And when I was sixteen in any of this thoughts
Speaker 1: to even understand Calvinism at sixteen way way beyond me.
Speaker 1: That's way beyond And I'm not. I'm completely unashamed to
Speaker 1: say that. I'm a Calvinist and comp completely unashamed, and
Speaker 1: i will scream it from the rooftops and I'll say
Speaker 1: it every day if I have to. So that being said,
Speaker 1: you are you are a you said, yeah, I'm a Christian.
Speaker 1: That's what he says. So you're a Christian and you're
Speaker 1: asking me my thoughts on the importance of marriage, sex
Speaker 1: before marriage, divorce and remarriage. Yeah, so I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: this is a super easy one. I'm gonna go just
Speaker 1: what the word says. And it's the same thing you're thinking, David.
Speaker 1: I don't I don't disagree with you or with what
Speaker 1: it says. So there is a high, high level of
Speaker 1: importance on marriage, even though it's not a requirement by
Speaker 1: any means in the Bible, but high there's a high
Speaker 1: level of importance. There's a high discouragement of sex before marriage,
Speaker 1: a high discouragement of divorce, and the remarriage part, there's
Speaker 1: not a that's kind of a that's kind of null
Speaker 1: because you are encouraged. You're encouraged to remarry as a
Speaker 1: as a woman, especially if you're under sixty. You know
Speaker 1: you're supposed to you're supposed to remarry, and men, of
Speaker 1: course you're you're encouraged to remarry, So remarrige. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: throw that one out. I'll throw that out of the discussion.
Speaker 1: But just three questions then our marriage, sex before marriage,
Speaker 1: and divorce. It's pretty cut and dry. Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: so sixteen, he's asking some questions that he's thinking about
Speaker 1: his future here. Yeah. I think the biggest misconception of
Speaker 1: marriage these days is that it's about the two people involved.
Speaker 1: That's good, it's only about the two people involved. When
Speaker 1: assuming that what was this guy's name again, David Dave,
Speaker 1: if he's a Bible believing Christian, that the Word tells
Speaker 1: us that this thing of marriage is a reflection. That's
Speaker 1: what it's meant to be. It is the number one
Speaker 1: ministry that you have, is the way that you love
Speaker 1: and serve your wife and give yourself up in all things,
Speaker 1: the way that Jesus did for the church. Yeah, guys,
Speaker 1: it's a reflection, it's a tool. It's a ministry that
Speaker 1: we have to show everyone around us and the world
Speaker 1: the way that Jesus loved and gave himself up for
Speaker 1: the church. It's important too, to realize, David, that these
Speaker 1: things aren't set up in the Bible so that it
Speaker 1: hurts us or inhibits us, or restricts us, or puts
Speaker 1: laws or chains us. It's set up because we were
Speaker 1: created that way. We were created in such a way
Speaker 1: that God knows divorce crushes families. He knows that. Ye,
Speaker 1: And so that's why it's high discouraged. It's not forbidden,
Speaker 1: it's highly discouraged. Why because he knows the repercussions. So
Speaker 1: then you back up, so what causes divorce, Well, sex
Speaker 1: before marriage doesn't help, so that let's start talking about that.
Speaker 1: And there's these little things. It's not restrictions, it's not laws.
Speaker 1: It's just like, hey, you were built this way, and
Speaker 1: this is your best roadmap for you. Dave, it's age
Speaker 1: sixteen to have a successful marriage. Yeah. I think the
Speaker 1: one of the things you sent me from vote or
Speaker 1: maybe I sent it to you, I can't remember. But
Speaker 1: he talks about marriage being an illustration, right, and how
Speaker 1: some things can defile that illustration. I think that divorce
Speaker 1: can do that. I think that sex before marriage can
Speaker 1: do that. I feel like David's question really for us
Speaker 1: being sixteen is about the one in the middle, and
Speaker 1: I think I think he put the two on the
Speaker 1: ends just to make it seem like he's asking about
Speaker 1: all of them. Think you're right, But if he's sixteen
Speaker 1: year old dude, he's asking about the one in the metal.
Speaker 1: Think you're right. So I think you're right. If you're
Speaker 1: asking me, Dave, obviously look at the Word of God.
Speaker 1: See what it says is very clear. That's my final word. Yep,
Speaker 1: thank you for emailing. Dude. You're way ahead of me
Speaker 1: when I was sixteen. You're on a great path. And
Speaker 1: find a community of dudes too that believe the same thing,
Speaker 1: and older guys that can kind of help coach you
Speaker 1: along the way because it is a tough road. Brother. Yeah,
Speaker 1: thanks for emailing. Brother. I'm going to give a couple
Speaker 1: of shout outs here, Daisy Ward, Trevor Suer, thank you
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