WEBVTT - Awkward Tuesday: Amber Life Alert

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<v Speaker 1>You asked, you demanded, and we sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen sometimes sometimes Hey, it's Brooke and Jeffrey and you

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<v Speaker 2>found the Second Day podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>We're trying out video with our podcasts.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so now for the first time, you can see

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<v Speaker 2>a second Date update.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you see it.

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<v Speaker 2>We've got it up right now on our YouTube page.

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<v Speaker 2>It is one from last week. Yes, it took us

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<v Speaker 2>a little while to edit the video to go with

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<v Speaker 2>the audio, and you know, we're working on it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a process.

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<v Speaker 2>It's a process with us through the process. So if

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<v Speaker 2>you want to watch a second Date update, you can

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<v Speaker 2>today on our YouTube page.

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<v Speaker 1>Just go to again Brook and Jeffrey. So there you go.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'll be curious to see what people think in

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<v Speaker 2>the comments of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe we'll have this one two weeks from now. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Yeah, we'll get there. You'll have to keep checking. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you'll get there.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, if your comments are only about how

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<v Speaker 2>disappointed in what we look like you yeah you are,

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<v Speaker 2>then that's okay too.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we expect it exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>But for now, let's get to a brand new awkward

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<v Speaker 2>Tuesday phone call. Uh, it's gonna start here.

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<v Speaker 1>We go.

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<v Speaker 3>Some things take every ounce of willpower not to do Oh, yes,

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<v Speaker 3>don't make a joke while you're in the middle of

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<v Speaker 3>an adult circumcision.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't make him laugh. Don't do it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good point. You don't want anyone's shaken.

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<v Speaker 4>Did it again.

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<v Speaker 3>Too, We'll try again next Wednesday. But maybe even harder

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<v Speaker 3>than that is finding the willpower to not text your

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<v Speaker 3>X back after a messy breakup.

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<v Speaker 4>Don't do it well.

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<v Speaker 3>One of our listeners was able to hold off for

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<v Speaker 3>a long long time, but today he doesn't want to

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<v Speaker 3>text her. He wants to call her, and you're gonna

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<v Speaker 3>find out why. What changed his mind in your brand

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<v Speaker 3>new awkward Tuesday phone call?

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<v Speaker 1>Next, It's awkward, It's Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 5>It's awkward Tuesday phone call.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what phrase you never hear?

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<v Speaker 1>What's that?

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<v Speaker 3>Jeff I just had a great breakup with my girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 4>It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>No, Usually those are pretty messy, pretty complicated, little sexy

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<v Speaker 3>you maybe one last hurrah, but for the most part

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<v Speaker 3>not great. Yeah, but one of our listeners, Cash says

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<v Speaker 3>he achieved it, maybe not right when it first happened,

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<v Speaker 3>but shortly afterwards with the help of his friends.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh and somehow that has led to a whole nother

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<v Speaker 4>issue and he needs our help. We're gonna find out

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<v Speaker 4>about it right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are we going to mess with a good thing?

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<v Speaker 1>Just leave it alone.

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<v Speaker 3>It ended well, Apparently it's not so well anymore.

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<v Speaker 4>Cash, Welcome to the show man.

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<v Speaker 6>Thank you.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh you're getting messy for you, bro.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, you could say that we are.

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<v Speaker 2>We blaming the friends at this point?

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<v Speaker 1>Or where are we at?

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<v Speaker 5>No?

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<v Speaker 4>What happened with you in your ex girlfriend?

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<v Speaker 1>Is that right?

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<v Speaker 3>So?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I was dating a girl for a long time, and.

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<v Speaker 1>Define long time for us.

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<v Speaker 5>Sorry, you know, over the course of like a year

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<v Speaker 5>or two they broke up.

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<v Speaker 1>Or it's one of those we were on that we're off.

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<v Speaker 4>Off you know.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, it was like that type of thing.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So that was it was on again, off again

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<v Speaker 3>for you said a year or two.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, mostly multiple years, I think, on and off again,

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<v Speaker 5>you know. And about four months ago, she got really

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<v Speaker 5>mad one night and just dumped me.

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<v Speaker 4>That's the spicy side of her. But you like that.

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<v Speaker 2>It sounds like that's a rollercoaster. You definitely knew you

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<v Speaker 2>were on She.

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<v Speaker 5>Got spicy for sure. A couple of weeks later, she

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<v Speaker 5>texted me again.

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<v Speaker 6>I think she's sorry. Coming up and talk back.

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<v Speaker 7>To the sweet side didn't work out.

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<v Speaker 1>So did you guys get back together?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, my friends were like, dude, you can't fall back

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<v Speaker 5>into it. You gotta just ignore her cold turkey, don't

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<v Speaker 5>text back, you know. And it was tough, but I didn't.

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<v Speaker 5>I stayed strong and well you.

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<v Speaker 1>Just left her on red.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it's honestly probably the healthiest thing. Like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>those up and down relationships are we've all been in

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<v Speaker 2>them before about.

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<v Speaker 3>And if anything, it's only going to make her think

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<v Speaker 3>that you're even sexier watch you more.

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<v Speaker 5>Right. But over the next few months, you know, she

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<v Speaker 5>texted me every so often, like saying nice things, trying

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<v Speaker 5>to lure me in, and my friends would kind of

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<v Speaker 5>remind me, like, don't respond, don't do it. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 5>sometimes they take my phone for the night just to

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<v Speaker 5>make sure I didn't text her back.

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<v Speaker 4>I started drinking a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you got to change your name and your phone

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<v Speaker 1>to do not reply.

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<v Speaker 3>You're right, so clearly the temptation was still there for

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<v Speaker 3>you and you needed some help with like an intervention

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<v Speaker 3>to make sure it was stopped.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it was hard not to fall back in the

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<v Speaker 5>same kind of toxic pattern. And about a month ago,

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<v Speaker 5>she texted me telling me that her grandmother just died.

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<v Speaker 5>And I had met her grandmother a few times. I

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<v Speaker 5>knew she wasn't in great health. But my friends were saying,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, don't fall for it.

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<v Speaker 6>She's baiting you. Don't take back.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, that's hard man. Yeah, I could or could

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<v Speaker 1>not be Yeah, totally Brook.

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<v Speaker 3>How would you feel if you texted one of your

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<v Speaker 3>exes that knew your grandma and they never responded back.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>One time an ex texted me after a family thing,

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<v Speaker 2>and it felt so good to write who's this, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't have your number, saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I really didn't have his number, saying you were I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't really know who it was. And then when he

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<v Speaker 1>went back, I went, oh, well that was still doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>ring up.

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<v Speaker 3>So after that message about her grandma, how many more

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<v Speaker 3>did she send you?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, she didn't send me anymore after that. That was

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<v Speaker 5>the last time I heard from her.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that means that she may really have needed

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<v Speaker 2>somebody in that moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you sure she actually passed away that?

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<v Speaker 6>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you stop her socials?

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<v Speaker 2>Like you checked the newspaper obituary.

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<v Speaker 5>I didn't, but I mean, I'm pretty sure it happened,

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<v Speaker 5>Like I don't think she would lie about it, And

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<v Speaker 5>like I said, she wasn't like really bad help.

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<v Speaker 2>So are you feeling like regret that you didn't support

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<v Speaker 2>her when.

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<v Speaker 4>She needed it?

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<v Speaker 6>Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 5>I felt bad in the moment, like it was really hard,

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<v Speaker 5>But even like three or four weeks later, I feel

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<v Speaker 5>even worse because that I was with her for two years.

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<v Speaker 5>You know, we were really close.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, So what are you needing our help with in

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<v Speaker 2>that situation?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I feel like now I've had enough time where

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<v Speaker 5>I'm ready to talk to her and maybe we can

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<v Speaker 5>be friends.

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<v Speaker 4>That's really good.

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<v Speaker 3>Right after you cold shouldered her about her grandma passing,

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<v Speaker 3>now you're in a good spot to be friends.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I think, like you know, after a certain amount

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<v Speaker 5>of time, it becomes healthier to kind of talk again.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, but it's just awkward.

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<v Speaker 5>It's just like finding the way to break the ice

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<v Speaker 5>is the problem, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you want to go back and still have those

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<v Speaker 2>boundaries that you're not going to get back together, but

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<v Speaker 2>you also want to be there for her as someone

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<v Speaker 2>who cares for her.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean kind of you know, I do really, I

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<v Speaker 5>do really want to bear friend and it's been a

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<v Speaker 5>while and you know I do miss her.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so we may be getting back on the ride.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, but I think that's our challenge.

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<v Speaker 3>Just how do we have this conversation without getting him

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<v Speaker 3>back onto the ride?

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<v Speaker 1>Bro do sound like he's totally off every sure he

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't want to back on the ride?

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<v Speaker 3>He's saying he doesn't kind of, Well, the brain is

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<v Speaker 3>saying no, who knows what his heart is saying.

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<v Speaker 4>Kiss his friends, right, Yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, let's see what advice we can come up with

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<v Speaker 3>for you when we come back. Give you our advice

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<v Speaker 3>and let you call your ex girlfriend to say sorry

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't respond when your grandma passed away.

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<v Speaker 4>But we cool now.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but when you say it, it's going to be flawless.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely During your awkward Tuesday phone call right after this,

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<v Speaker 3>it's awkward.

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<v Speaker 4>It's Tuesday.

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<v Speaker 6>It's awkward Tuesday phone call.

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<v Speaker 3>Let me try to quickly recap this so we can

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<v Speaker 3>get to your awkward Tuesday phone call.

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<v Speaker 4>It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 3>But a listener of ours named Cash reached out to us,

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<v Speaker 3>and I don't think we've ever done a call quite

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<v Speaker 3>like this before, because he dated a young woman named

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<v Speaker 3>Amber for a few years on and off. She dumped him,

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<v Speaker 3>and his buddy suggested that he go cold turkey. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>doesn't respond to her texts, no calling her at night,

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<v Speaker 3>zero contact.

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<v Speaker 2>They'd been in that up and down cycle of breaking

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<v Speaker 2>up getting back together.

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<v Speaker 1>For a long time.

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<v Speaker 3>Up and guess what, she reached out to him more

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<v Speaker 3>than once. Yeah, and he stayed strong until one night

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<v Speaker 3>when she sent a text saying, Hey, my grandma just passed.

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<v Speaker 1>Away, a grandma that he knew too.

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<v Speaker 4>And what did Cash do? Nothing like he was supposed to.

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<v Speaker 4>And that was a.

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<v Speaker 3>Month ago, and now he's looking back pretty regretful about

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<v Speaker 3>not being there for her in her time of need

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<v Speaker 3>and cash it definitely sounds like you do miss her

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<v Speaker 3>and you want to mend this friendship while still leaving

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<v Speaker 3>the door open to the possibility of maybe more.

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<v Speaker 4>Is that right?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I guess never say never, which is exactly

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<v Speaker 2>what your friends don't want you to say.

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<v Speaker 3>But okay, but justin Bieber wants you to say that,

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<v Speaker 3>So that's good, Brook. How do you recommend he accomplished

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<v Speaker 3>that through this phone call?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think think I have.

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<v Speaker 2>I think you need to realize, Cash, is that you

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<v Speaker 2>left her.

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<v Speaker 1>On read after she texted you when she needed you.

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<v Speaker 4>Like you were supposed to good so we knew.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, honestly, this call is going to come off

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<v Speaker 2>like you're the one calling for a booty call. Oh

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<v Speaker 2>you know what I'm saying, Like you only call her

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<v Speaker 2>when you need something, not when she needs something.

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<v Speaker 6>I didn't think of that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So to save you from looking like a terrible person,

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<v Speaker 2>I think you need to maybe say, hey, did you

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<v Speaker 2>get the flowers?

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<v Speaker 1>Well he never says I sent him, but like, did

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<v Speaker 1>you get the flowers? Like, maybe let her just assume.

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<v Speaker 3>What do you think about that, Cash? Imply that flowers

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<v Speaker 3>were setting implied.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I guess that's one way to do it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's not the worst idea I've ever heard, Jose What

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<v Speaker 4>do you think?

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<v Speaker 7>Well, it does look bad that you didn't respond to

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<v Speaker 7>her for thirty days, all right, So that's why I

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<v Speaker 7>think you need to say something along the lines of

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<v Speaker 7>I've been so broken up over this, over your grandma

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<v Speaker 7>passing away. Oh, you're now finally emotionally available to make

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<v Speaker 7>this phone.

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<v Speaker 1>It was harder on you that it wasn't her grandma right,

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<v Speaker 1>won't make her mad at all.

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<v Speaker 3>Come on, so you've got two pieces of advice to

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<v Speaker 3>mediocre lies that you can toss her away. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>you're the one who dug this hole for yourself, so

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<v Speaker 3>we're giving you a ladder to maybe climb out.

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<v Speaker 5>You're right, that's what you mean.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm ready.

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<v Speaker 4>He doesn't sound very mentally athletic. Let's get ready to

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<v Speaker 4>lie to your ex girlfriend. I'm doing your number right now.

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<v Speaker 4>Let's go.

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<v Speaker 6>Hello, Hey, Cash.

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<v Speaker 8>Why are you calling?

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<v Speaker 6>WHOA? It's oh, I know how long it's been, right,

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<v Speaker 6>So I just I guess I kind of felt bad

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<v Speaker 6>about how things ended.

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<v Speaker 5>And okay it wasn't in a really great face, but

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<v Speaker 5>I just feel like neither was I.

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<v Speaker 8>So that's not an excuse. But okay, you can keep

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<v Speaker 8>talking at any time. I had nothing to say.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, you seem angry, so I'm trying. I'm doing

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<v Speaker 6>my best.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, if you have nothing to say, then I'll ask

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<v Speaker 8>a question. How come I haven't heard from you for months?

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<v Speaker 8>And I was texting you and you never responded ever?

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<v Speaker 5>Because I what in a good place, I didn't Yeah, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Said that already.

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<v Speaker 8>Neither would I come up with a better excuse.

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<v Speaker 5>You can listen, I can explain it to you.

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<v Speaker 8>You're talking, Well.

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<v Speaker 6>That's not the first time you said that to me.

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<v Speaker 5>I am aware.

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<v Speaker 8>I also have a memory of our relationship, no matter

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<v Speaker 8>how long.

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<v Speaker 5>If you have a memory, then you know that it was. Basically,

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<v Speaker 5>we're in a toxic cycle of the same both over

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<v Speaker 5>and over again. So me not responding to you was

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<v Speaker 5>an effort to break that.

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<v Speaker 8>Why are you calling me now?

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<v Speaker 6>What's the point? Why are you calling me now? Because

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<v Speaker 6>I feel bad.

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<v Speaker 5>About the way things. I feel bad about not responding

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<v Speaker 5>when your grandmother died, I just felt like I couldn't

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<v Speaker 5>at that point, and it took me along the process

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<v Speaker 5>thirty days.

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<v Speaker 8>It took you a while to process my grandmother.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, So how is this funeral.

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<v Speaker 8>Funny? Thing about the whole situation?

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<v Speaker 6>There's something funny about that situation?

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<v Speaker 8>Well, I mean you're asking how the funeral is was,

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<v Speaker 8>and I'm telling you that when I sent that text,

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<v Speaker 8>I thought she was gonna die.

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<v Speaker 6>That night, but she didn't wait what.

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<v Speaker 8>She you know, pulled through, so there wasn't a funeral.

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<v Speaker 6>She's still alive. Your grandmother dying, but.

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<v Speaker 8>She looked like she was almost dead.

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<v Speaker 5>Your grandmother always looked like she was almost dead.

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<v Speaker 4>Amber, Amber, can you I'm so.

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<v Speaker 6>Who is that?

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<v Speaker 8>Who's on this call?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, this is a radio show. We're called Brook and

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<v Speaker 3>Jeffrey in the Morning. Yes, we're doing a segment here.

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<v Speaker 3>It's called the Awkward Tuesday phone Call because you're.

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<v Speaker 8>He called me on a radio show.

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<v Speaker 2>Dude, it has been eating him up that he didn't

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<v Speaker 2>respond after that.

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<v Speaker 8>Grandma te Yeah, I'm sure, I'm sure it has.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, do not believe that.

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<v Speaker 5>No, I don't call your grandmother die. I didn't lie.

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<v Speaker 8>I genuinely thought she was going to die, But then

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<v Speaker 8>you never responded, So why would I update you?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I feel like there's good points on both sides.

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<v Speaker 1>Why would you respond to your own text?

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<v Speaker 5>So never mind, why would you produce somebody dead before

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<v Speaker 5>they're dead?

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 8>My mom told me she was about to die that night.

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<v Speaker 6>And are you a prea?

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<v Speaker 1>What does that have to do with anything?

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<v Speaker 5>A pried?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I understand that this situation wasn't handled the best way,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe maybe on either side, But to me, there's a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of history. There obviously a lot of fire in

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<v Speaker 3>chemistry and we're trying to get back to before the

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<v Speaker 3>break in communication.

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<v Speaker 5>When we broke up something you don't know. My friends

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<v Speaker 5>told me to go cold Turkey and not talk to you.

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<v Speaker 8>What why would they even get involved?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, because I think they saw the cycle that I

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<v Speaker 5>was talking about.

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<v Speaker 8>Yeah, but normally there's a conversation when a friendship ends,

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<v Speaker 8>or anything ends, normally a conversationship.

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<v Speaker 6>Remember, you broke up with me, right.

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<v Speaker 8>But you could have responded.

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<v Speaker 4>He wanted to respond, but his friends wouldn't let him.

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<v Speaker 1>That doesn't sound good.

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<v Speaker 8>Okay, so you only do what your friends tell you.

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<v Speaker 4>What I just said, argument with each other.

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<v Speaker 6>It wasn't just my friend, it was obvious.

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<v Speaker 8>My god, So who else have you talked to about us?

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<v Speaker 4>You know what? I think what you need to do,

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<v Speaker 4>Cash is just tell her what you want.

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<v Speaker 1>And moving forward?

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<v Speaker 4>Going forward? What do you want to get in the future.

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I was hoping despite all of this fake deaths,

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<v Speaker 5>we should maybe go back to having some kind of

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<v Speaker 5>friendship because I have missed you.

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<v Speaker 4>The aw button My bad.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, we're running out of time for our segment here, Amber,

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<v Speaker 3>so I don't want to rush you into this, But what.

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<v Speaker 8>Do you think honestly, right now, I don't think I

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<v Speaker 8>want to be your friend at the moment.

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<v Speaker 6>I don't think I want it anymore, So.

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<v Speaker 3>Boundary, Well, cash, call us back in two weeks and

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<v Speaker 3>we can try this all over again.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm sure it'll go better.

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<v Speaker 5>Noah, let me know when your grandmother really has.

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<v Speaker 6>That.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh sorry, brooking Jeffrey in the morning.

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<v Speaker 4>You know they're hooking up tonight, right, there's no way.

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<v Speaker 3>That's the type of couple that can't stay together but

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<v Speaker 3>can't stay away from each other.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I really heard in her voice that she

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<v Speaker 1>wants nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>To do with it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm not gonna lie, Jeff.

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<v Speaker 3>I agree with jeff I heard the same thing in

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<v Speaker 3>her voice, but in her body.

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<v Speaker 4>That's a totally different story. I'm telling you, Bro's.

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<v Speaker 1>On this one.

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<v Speaker 3>That's the fue that I got during the call.

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<v Speaker 4>A lot of fireworks. They are both good and bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Clearly, see I got her just railroading him, just running

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<v Speaker 2>a moment.

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<v Speaker 4>He would love to be rail roaded, Gante.

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<v Speaker 3>They definitely wanted to step back and process what just happened.

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<v Speaker 3>My money is on them processing it together close off.

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<v Speaker 1>No way.

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<v Speaker 4>This makes me want to call him in like a

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<v Speaker 4>week and be like, Okay, guys, let.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't think we're ever going to get an

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<v Speaker 2>update because I don't think they're ever going to talk again.

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<v Speaker 1>That's my money. That's bad.

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<v Speaker 4>That's too bad.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know what, if you want to do some processing,

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<v Speaker 3>you can go process the content on our podcast.

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<v Speaker 4>A lot of good stuff on there. Good segue you

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<v Speaker 4>find us at Brook and Jeffrey. Listen, close off if

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<v Speaker 4>you want. We don't