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Speaker 1: Hello.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, Hi I gecko. Hi.

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Speaker 1: Who is this? This is Mara, Mara. How are you? Mara?

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Speaker 2: I'm great? How are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm a gecko on the computer.

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Speaker 2: Yes you are.

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Speaker 1: What's going on, Mara? How can I get to.

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 2: So I kind of called because I have an uncle.

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Speaker 2: I live with him. I live with him and my grandparents,

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Speaker 2: and a while ago, on my birthday, he messaged me

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Speaker 2: at midnight and gave me like a full paragraph about

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Speaker 2: how I was a disappointment and I was a terrible

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Speaker 2: like niece. It was a great birthday present, basically, and

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Speaker 2: we haven't really talked since. It's been pretty awkward, and uh,

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Speaker 2: you know, I really want to like make make it up,

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Speaker 2: make it up to him, or not make it up

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Speaker 2: to him, but talk to him about it, because it's

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Speaker 2: it's bad being awkward with him, and he has an

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Speaker 2: apologized sense. And when I did call him out for it,

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Speaker 2: I feel like, yeah, I did pretty childish, and he

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Speaker 2: sent me an even longer paragraph saying that he still

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Speaker 2: thought I was a disappointment and I just want to

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Speaker 2: talk to him, but I don't know how to really

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Speaker 2: talk to him about it because I don't feel sorry like,

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Speaker 2: I don't feel like I need to say sorry, but

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Speaker 2: I know he thinks I need to say sorry.

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Speaker 1: So, Okay, when he sent you this text message, what

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Speaker 1: exactly was he saying in it? What was he feel about?

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Speaker 2: So I have a boyfriend. He's great, but because I

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Speaker 2: have this boyfriend who's sitting right next to me, I'm

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Speaker 2: not home very often and he didn't like that. Basically,

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Speaker 2: he was saying that, I like, since I was never home,

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Speaker 2: I like didn't care about them basically, and it was

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Speaker 2: like disrespectful since I live with them and I never

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Speaker 2: see them. Basically.

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Speaker 1: So your uncle called you a horrible person because you

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Speaker 1: don't see him enough because you're hanging out with your boyfriends.

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Speaker 2: Uh yeah, pretty much. He The reason he got really

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Speaker 2: mad is because we were over that night for the

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Speaker 2: day before my birthday and we made food and apparently

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Speaker 2: I left like two dirty dishes in the sink and

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Speaker 2: that really sent him over the edge.

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Speaker 1: Okay, let me ask you a question. I want you

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Speaker 1: to answer it honestly. If I asked him why he

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Speaker 1: was upset, what would he say to me?

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Speaker 2: Well, he from what I've heard from my mom, because

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Speaker 2: he's talked to my mom about it. He would say

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Speaker 2: it's because I'm never home and because I have animals

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Speaker 2: that live there, but I do. I'd like to make

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Speaker 2: it clear because I know, you know, leaving my animals

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Speaker 2: at their house when I'm never home it sounds pretty bad.

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Speaker 2: But I go over there constantly. I give them food,

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Speaker 2: I give them attention. I make sure they're not taking

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Speaker 2: care of them because I don't want to make them

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Speaker 2: their burden. But he feels like since I'm not home,

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Speaker 2: I am, and it's not I'm not only away just

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Speaker 2: because my boyfriend. I also have a job and I

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Speaker 2: work like eight hours a day and that's usually at night,

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Speaker 2: and so when I get home, they're asleep, so they

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Speaker 2: don't see me. But they worked early in the morning

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Speaker 2: and so usually I'm sleeping in.

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Speaker 1: Okay, but so you you have you talked to your

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Speaker 1: uncle about this text since you received it. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you said it was a little bit cold with him.

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Speaker 2: So when he first messaged me, I basically was just like,

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Speaker 2: I'm really sorry that you feel that way. What specifically

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Speaker 2: is upsetting you? And then I said I don't understand

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Speaker 2: why you had to message me right after, like right

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Speaker 2: as it turned midnight on my birthday, I felt like

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Speaker 2: that was kind of immature, and I was like, I

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Speaker 2: don't know what I could do better, and I was like,

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Speaker 2: but I'll try, And then he respond getting angry at

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Speaker 2: me and said, okay, I have a great birthday. Sorry,

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Speaker 2: I'm so petty. I won't ask you.

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Speaker 3: To do shit.

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Speaker 2: And that's his exact message that he said to me.

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Speaker 1: You believe he was saying that sarcastically.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well, definitely. He He is known in my

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Speaker 2: family for being he holds grudges like very hard.

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Speaker 1: Why are you Are you living with him just to

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Speaker 1: save money?

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Speaker 2: No, well, I guess yeah, technically I don't have the

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Speaker 2: funds to move out. I moved with my grandparents originally

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Speaker 2: for college, but I ended up leaving for now because

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Speaker 2: I don't know what I'm doing for sure yet, so

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Speaker 2: I'm just kind of working to build up money. He

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Speaker 2: just is there. He lives in like RV outside in

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Speaker 1: Okay, so your your uncle lives in a r V

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Speaker 1: outside of your grand parents house and you're staying with them. Yes, yeah, okay, we.

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Speaker 2: Have like a huge pot of land, so we're in

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Speaker 2: the same area. He literally lives like ten feet outside

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Speaker 2: of our.

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Speaker 1: House, and is is he like, how long have you

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Speaker 1: been living at your grandparent's house with him outside there

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Speaker 1: in the RV?

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Speaker 2: About a year and a half.

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Speaker 1: Okay. Throughout that year and a half, has he been recurringly?

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Speaker 1: Has he been a recurring source of negativity and unhappiness

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Speaker 2: Yes, definitely. He gets onto me a lot about small things,

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Speaker 2: and he makes it pretty clear that he's not fond

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Speaker 2: of me, and I try to be nice to him,

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Speaker 2: but he's just pretty like cold.

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Speaker 1: Okay, And how to how much unhappiness and negativity is

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Speaker 2: I never want to be home. I only go home

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Speaker 2: at this point to see my grandparents and take care

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Speaker 2: of the animals, okay, But other than that, I'm like

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Speaker 2: never home. And when I see him, I like don't

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Speaker 2: say hi to him or anything, because when I was

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Speaker 2: doing that, he would like literally turn the other way

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Speaker 2: and ignore me, which kind of hurt more so I

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Speaker 2: just kind of stopped. I'll say hi to him sometimes,

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Speaker 2: or I'll say by when I'm leaving, but that's about

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Speaker 2: as far as it goes.

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Speaker 1: Okay, is that working for you?

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Speaker 2: It makes me feel slightly better just because I don't

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Speaker 2: have to. It's basically like pushing away the issue, but

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Speaker 2: I'd rather resolve it rather than keep like putting it away.

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Speaker 2: I just don't know how to approach him about it, because,

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Speaker 2: like I said, he's he's just known to hold a

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Speaker 2: I guess I'd describe it as immature. And so the

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Speaker 2: first time I did try to address it, he just

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, this is tough. I you know, in any

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Speaker 1: situation like this, it's really tough because you can't control

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you are right.

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Speaker 1: You can do your best to tell your uncle that

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Speaker 1: he's he's bothering you and that he's being unreasonable and

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Speaker 1: this and that and the other thing. But at the

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Speaker 1: end of the day, you know, people are going to

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Speaker 1: do what they're going to do, you know, regardless of

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Speaker 1: what you say to them. And then it's kind of

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Speaker 1: in your situation is like, well, I'm in this bad

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Speaker 1: living situation, but this person that's making me feel unhappy,

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Speaker 1: how do I leave it? Tell me about your job.

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Speaker 1: What are you are you not making enough money? You

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Speaker 1: said you're not making enough money to move out?

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Speaker 2: Definitely not. No, I worked retail, so okay, I work

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Speaker 2: like almost forty hours a week and I still am

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Speaker 2: not making a bunch for forty.

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Speaker 1: Hours a week in retail. And you're not making enough

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Speaker 2: Bill's kind of is it doesn't in for me. I

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Speaker 2: pay for my own insurance and my car and everything

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Speaker 2: like that. So and then I also I'm financially responsible

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Speaker 2: for my animals. I mean, I do bet visits.

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Speaker 3: For them, everything like that.

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Speaker 2: So a lot of money goes to that. Okay, I'm

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Speaker 2: saying as much as I can. Me and my boyfriend

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Speaker 2: are trying to save up and hopefully well we can

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Speaker 2: move out, like get a house together.

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Speaker 1: But okay, at the end of your we're gonna go

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Speaker 1: financial gecko here at the end of your like, at

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Speaker 1: the end of the month, what's how much how much

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Speaker 1: is left?

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Speaker 2: Let me do them master quick. I'd sick. Probably around

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Speaker 2: three hundred.

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Speaker 1: Four really, and that's after it's after taking care of

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Speaker 1: the animals, paying your insurance, car payment and all that stuff.

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Speaker 2: Food, Yeah, stuff like that.

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Speaker 1: God damn, can I I don't want to get I

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Speaker 1: don't want to get you in trouble, but I really

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Speaker 1: want to ask who you work for? And you don't

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Speaker 1: have to tell her. You don't want to Target, really Target?

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Speaker 1: You can work forty hours week of Target and you

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Speaker 1: won't have enough money saved over to even get a

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Speaker 1: place with roommates. Yes, sir, what the fuck? That's fucked up?

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Speaker 1: That's crazy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, trying to get another job right now?

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Speaker 1: But can I ask you?

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Speaker 3: What?

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Speaker 1: Can I and you? Again, you don't have to tell me,

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Speaker 1: but I'm very curre. What do they pay you at Target?

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Speaker 2: Right now? I'm making fifteen fourteen in an hour?

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Speaker 1: Can I ask the state? You don't have to tell

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Speaker 1: me that your longitude and latitude? What state do you

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Speaker 2: Uh? North Dakota?

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Speaker 1: Okay, you have three hundred dollars.

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Speaker 2: We are there. We're like a really small city and

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Speaker 2: we're like the only Target too, So it's like crazy busy.

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Speaker 2: So fourteen fifteen is not enough for what I do.

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Speaker 2: And then also it just it wouldn't if I got

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Speaker 2: a place, it wouldn't last me.

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Speaker 3: Basically, what is there?

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Speaker 1: Is there even an option for you to you and

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Speaker 1: your boyfriend to like get a place with I mean,

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Speaker 1: what if you and your boyfriends And I'm just spitball

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Speaker 1: in here, but if you're and your boyfriend you found

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Speaker 1: another couple. I got a friend who does this. You

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Speaker 1: and your boyfriend, you find another couple, you get like

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Speaker 1: a two bedroom, and then you split up between the

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Speaker 1: four people. Is that an option of school?

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Speaker 2: I guess it could be. But I know my boyfriend

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Speaker 2: was with his family and he likes it, and he

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Speaker 2: from what it sounds like, he isn't super interested in

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Speaker 2: moving out right away because he's a lot more financially

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Speaker 2: like what's the word, he's better at it than me, okay,

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Speaker 2: and he wants to be like, really sure we can

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Speaker 2: afford it. I have a dog and two cats, so

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Speaker 2: I'm also worried about moving just because I know a

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Speaker 2: lot of people aren't fond of that, and a lot

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Speaker 2: of apartments around here they they tack on like an extra,

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Speaker 2: like a thousand per pet for like you know, deposits,

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Speaker 2: And I can't afford that either, So.

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Speaker 1: Damn, that's fucked. It's fucked up that target that you

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Speaker 1: can work a full forty hours a week for a

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Speaker 1: place and they don't pay you enough to be able

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Speaker 1: to like afford an apartment.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, I'm trying to get a job.

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Speaker 1: What what what what? What other? What other job would

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Speaker 1: you want to get?

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Speaker 2: I can't describe it to you. It's a government job,

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Speaker 2: So my grandparents own them to land.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, no, I love them to piece.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, really, even on even on like the hardest

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Speaker 1: This is what I said, Mari. I said, you have

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Speaker 1: An animal sanctuary of horses.

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Speaker 2: You know, I think I'm pretty good with people because

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Speaker 1: So how old your grandparents?

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Speaker 1: Man, you are fucked man.

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Speaker 2: I know, I appreciate you telling me that No.

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Speaker 1: I think I actually think you're very not fucked. I

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Speaker 1: I hope you're okay. I hope that you eventually get

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Speaker 2: You know, my boyfriend also works there and he thinks

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Speaker 2: it's pretty good. So I think it'll be fun. I

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Speaker 1: Mara, Is there anything else you want to say to

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Sure, you know, don't kill your grandparents if they

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Speaker 2: Get it out of the way, because I need to

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Speaker 1: Hey, thank you for calling Mara.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much for taking my call. Have a

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Speaker 2: great night lyle you too, thank you.

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Speaker 1: I like, I liked her a lot. She I like,

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Speaker 1: I said, she has a lot more integrity than I do,

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Speaker 1: and I couldn't think of it in time, so I

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Speaker 1: said this, So I said this instead. This is my podcast.

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Speaker 1: Thank you Mara for calling in. I hope things I

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Speaker 1: hope things go go your way.

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Speaker 3: Hello, Hello, Hi, is this the Gecko?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Is this Jim thirty three years old, from New Jersey.

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Speaker 3: It could be for the lo low price of nine nine.

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Speaker 3: Please send your no, I'm just kidding. Yeah, it's it's.

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Speaker 1: Me, Jim. It says here that you want to talk about.

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Speaker 1: Oh wait a minute, Fuck, I picked the wrong call. Bye, Okay,

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Speaker 1: hold on, I'm going to want to put you back

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Speaker 1: in the cube. But we'll talk again.

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Speaker 3: Cheers, let me take this.

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Speaker 1: Just let me take this one call, and then we'll

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Speaker 1: take another, and then we'll take another one.

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Speaker 3: I appreciate you nonetheless.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, just give me one. I'll be back.

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Speaker 1: Just give me one second, Jim, cheers. Okay, I like

441
00:23:22,760 --> 00:23:27,720
Speaker 1: that guy. Okay, give me one second. Hello, Hi, mister

442
00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:29,480
Speaker 1: yet Yeah, who's this?

443
00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:30,840
Speaker 5: I'm Andrew?

444
00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:32,719
Speaker 1: What's going on? Andrew?

445
00:23:33,040 --> 00:23:33,760
Speaker 5: Nice to meet you.

446
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:35,400
Speaker 2: Not too bad?

447
00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 5: How are you doing?

448
00:23:37,480 --> 00:23:41,440
Speaker 1: Andrew? How can I help you today?

449
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:41,800
Speaker 2: You know?

450
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 5: I just want to tell a funny story, maybe get

451
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 5: some advice from you.

452
00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:46,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, what's up?

453
00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:52,680
Speaker 5: So what I called in for is this last Thursday,

454
00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 5: I went to a strip club with my mom and

455
00:23:54,800 --> 00:24:00,040
Speaker 5: my friend. And it was something I'll tell you that.

456
00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:04,680
Speaker 1: Why did you go to a strip club with your mom?

457
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:12,560
Speaker 5: I was like half blacked out and I could not

458
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 5: process anything. So that's that's how.

459
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:23,400
Speaker 1: That happened, Andrew, I don't understand how. See, I see,

460
00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 1: I've drank before, but there is no amount of There

461
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 1: is no amount of alcohol that can physically pick your

462
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:34,720
Speaker 1: body up and move you places, and physically move your

463
00:24:34,720 --> 00:24:39,720
Speaker 1: mouth for you and physically text your phone. And so therefore,

464
00:24:40,760 --> 00:24:43,720
Speaker 1: regardless of the amount of alcohol you drank in this situation,

465
00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 1: you had to have taken some form of action, in fact,

466
00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 1: multiple forms of action to get into this situation. You did,

467
00:24:53,040 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 1: and I want to know what those forms of action were.

468
00:24:56,640 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 5: Okay, So I I passed out around like a thirty.

469
00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:08,400
Speaker 5: I woke up at around like one again, and then

470
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 5: my friend was like, and we were we were all straight,

471
00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 5: and my mom was there too, and we were all

472
00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:17,560
Speaker 5: my friend said, let's go to the strip club, and

473
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 5: I said okay, and we order an uber and my

474
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:27,160
Speaker 5: mom says she's coming with us. And I didn't think

475
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:30,919
Speaker 5: or realized that my mother is about to be in

476
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 5: the strip club with me, and I just didn't process

477
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 5: until I was there.

478
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:41,400
Speaker 1: Okay, down for me, Okay, I already have many questions you.

479
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: You were texting with your friends and you ordered an

480
00:25:45,160 --> 00:25:47,680
Speaker 1: uber to the strip club. And then all of a sudden,

481
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,480
Speaker 1: your mom says, and your mom said, she's coming with you.

482
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:54,160
Speaker 5: We were all we were all drinking.

483
00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:57,600
Speaker 1: You, your friend and your mom were all drying her.

484
00:25:57,600 --> 00:26:02,000
Speaker 5: House, a couple of my friends. Yeah, yes, at my

485
00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:04,840
Speaker 5: mother's house because we were not enough to own for

486
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 5: rent places yet. Because he's not the money.

487
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 1: You know, we're you're not old enough because you don't

488
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:12,800
Speaker 1: have the money.

489
00:26:14,200 --> 00:26:16,840
Speaker 5: I'm I'm in debt to the college.

490
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 1: Okay. Yeah. By the way, your mom sounds cool.

491
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:24,800
Speaker 5: She's she's a great person.

492
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:25,640
Speaker 2: She is.

493
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 1: What what did you guys do there together?

494
00:26:33,840 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 5: She was not interested at all. I don't know why

495
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:41,240
Speaker 5: she was there, and it kind of deterred me from

496
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 5: everything because we were just squooking to have fun. And

497
00:26:47,760 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 5: and that's how that all happened.

498
00:26:51,119 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 1: Dude, are you with your mom right now? Like, is

499
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 1: she in the house.

500
00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:57,120
Speaker 5: I'm not. No, I'm not at my house right now.

501
00:26:57,600 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: Can you call her? Can we can we like phone

502
00:26:59,720 --> 00:26:59,879
Speaker 1: her in?

503
00:27:02,240 --> 00:27:07,119
Speaker 5: Yeah? Yeah, let's uner in. Okay, Okay, hopefully she answered,

504
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:10,879
Speaker 5: this is my mom.

505
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:15,399
Speaker 1: Hello, Hi, Is this is this Andrew's mom?

506
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 6: Yes, it is.

507
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:17,520
Speaker 1: What what's your name?

508
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:19,920
Speaker 6: This is Aaron?

509
00:27:22,240 --> 00:27:25,480
Speaker 1: Is this a police no, no, no, no, no, I'm I'm

510
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 1: I'm I'm a I'm a gecko. No one, nobody's in trouble.

511
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:31,320
Speaker 6: You're a gecko.

512
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 1: I'm a gecko. Oh guy, Aaron, I wanted to ask

513
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:41,199
Speaker 1: you about it. Sounds like your your son called me

514
00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 1: on the phone to tell me about how he had

515
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:46,840
Speaker 1: a crazy night with you at the strip club the

516
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:47,280
Speaker 1: other night.

517
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:52,200
Speaker 2: Oh my god, And.

518
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:54,600
Speaker 1: I wanted to tell your side of that story.

519
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 6: Thanksgiving?

520
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:57,120
Speaker 4: You know.

521
00:28:01,840 --> 00:28:04,360
Speaker 1: What, how what is it that that made you want

522
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 1: to go to a ship club with your son?

523
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:14,160
Speaker 6: Well, I had to, you know, make sure they all

524
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 6: got in the uber.

525
00:28:17,800 --> 00:28:19,240
Speaker 1: So you were going there to make sure that he

526
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: didn't do anything crazy. You were going there to kind

527
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:23,040
Speaker 1: of ensure his safety throughout the evening.

528
00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 6: No, I think we encouraged him to get dollar bills

529
00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 6: and get that pussy in his face.

530
00:28:30,560 --> 00:28:32,560
Speaker 1: And did he get dollar bills and get that pussy

531
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:37,920
Speaker 1: in his face? He did? And how did you feel

532
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:39,240
Speaker 1: in that moment when you were watching that? Do you

533
00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:44,560
Speaker 1: feel proud? Did you feel like you had raised a

534
00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 1: good boy? What were kind of your thoughts surrounding the situation?

535
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 6: Well, of course I was proud.

536
00:28:55,960 --> 00:29:01,280
Speaker 1: Did you yourself get into any any any lap dances

537
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 1: or anything like that.

538
00:29:03,920 --> 00:29:11,360
Speaker 6: Oh my god, not in the front room.

539
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 1: Oh it sounds like this sounds like this is new

540
00:29:14,400 --> 00:29:15,560
Speaker 1: information for your son.

541
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 3: It could be.

542
00:29:20,240 --> 00:29:23,480
Speaker 1: So you do you pay for him to get lap dances?

543
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:29,960
Speaker 5: Who is it?

544
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 2: I'm a.

545
00:29:34,680 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 6: Just encouraged him to do that. So what was the

546
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:43,720
Speaker 6: A lot of other boys involved in this. It wasn't

547
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 6: just my son. There was a lot of other boys involved.

548
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:49,760
Speaker 1: Okay, no, no, no, no, this by the way, Aaron,

549
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:51,880
Speaker 1: nobody thinks that your son did anything wrong.

550
00:29:57,240 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 6: I didn't do anything wrong.

551
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,719
Speaker 1: No, no, nobody did anything on Okay.

552
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:03,840
Speaker 2: And you're not a cop.

553
00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 5: No, I'm not a He's not a cop. Not a cop.

554
00:30:10,280 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 1: Would you be concerned if I was? Yes, that makes sense.

555
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:19,560
Speaker 1: What's your relationship like with your son? Do you guys

556
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 1: like sort of do fun stuff like this often?

557
00:30:24,160 --> 00:30:24,360
Speaker 3: Well?

558
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 6: Yeah, he's he's the best. He's my favorite.

559
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:30,320
Speaker 5: Love you mom, Love.

560
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:34,440
Speaker 1: You too, Andrew? What other kinds of uh things do

561
00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 1: you do to bond with your mom?

562
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 5: Okay? So go to Braska football games. Those are always

563
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:41,800
Speaker 5: the best tailgate.

564
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 6: Yeah, we get some video the cheerleaders.

565
00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, the best he concerts? You know, good rock

566
00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 5: was waiting to see Nelly he ever comes back.

567
00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:05,840
Speaker 1: Now, how about uh? How about Dad? How come Dad

568
00:31:05,880 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 1: wasn't at the strip club?

569
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:14,640
Speaker 5: He's not he's not the friendliest.

570
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:21,000
Speaker 3: Okay the cops.

571
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 1: Really, So that's the kind of guy Dad is. He

572
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 1: would call the cops on you for going to the strip?

573
00:31:27,920 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, oh yeah?

574
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 1: Really? Why do you think he's so against that kind

575
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:32,720
Speaker 1: of thing?

576
00:31:34,440 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 6: He's against everything?

577
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 1: Does he know that you guys went to the strip

578
00:31:43,880 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 1: club together?

579
00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:47,800
Speaker 7: No?

580
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 4: No, interesting, don't tell you.

581
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 3: I won't.

582
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 1: I won't, And the sisters don't know either. By the way,

583
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:56,640
Speaker 1: I am pretty sure your your dad doesn't sound like

584
00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 1: he listens to this podcast, so I think he'll be okay, I.

585
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 5: Don't city knows that you are?

586
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 4: Yeah?

587
00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:05,240
Speaker 1: Why but okay? But why not? Why can't we tell

588
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 1: the sisters though? What is the are the sisters like?

589
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 1: Do they take after the dad? Where they also don't

590
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:10,160
Speaker 1: like fun things?

591
00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 5: There? There are some snitches sometimes.

592
00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:15,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, she narched on something?

593
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 4: Really?

594
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:27,000
Speaker 1: What did she knock on? What did what did she

595
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:27,840
Speaker 1: knock on you guys for?

596
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 5: Was it Evelyn?

597
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 1: Oh?

598
00:32:33,600 --> 00:32:36,640
Speaker 6: Yeah, when your little sister got suspended, it wasn't wasn't

599
00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 6: your condoms in the trash can.

600
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 5: No, no, you know I'm practicing.

601
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:49,640
Speaker 1: Take you know your your sister narked on you for

602
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:51,680
Speaker 1: having condoms in your trash can?

603
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:58,600
Speaker 5: No, no, no, no, okay, so he found economy in my

604
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:03,400
Speaker 5: trash can My sister narts on my little sister for

605
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 5: didn't suspended when so my currents.

606
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:06,560
Speaker 2: Are divorced.

607
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 1: Of course, Okay I figured that.

608
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, so he like I have a half sister, and

609
00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 5: then she got suspended and then my dad found out,

610
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:20,360
Speaker 5: and then it was just like he just uses that

611
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 5: against my mom to like make her seem like a

612
00:33:23,920 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 5: bad person.

613
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:26,480
Speaker 2: Which is this like therapy?

614
00:33:27,840 --> 00:33:29,000
Speaker 5: He's not a real therapist.

615
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:32,880
Speaker 6: No, he needs a therapist.

616
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:35,720
Speaker 1: Do you think I need a therapist?

617
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 2: Oh?

618
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:41,440
Speaker 6: No, his dad does. But we aunt Andrew got in

619
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 6: therapy for a while.

620
00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 1: Yeah. So, mat have you been have you been like

621
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 1: dating other people ever since you got divorced? Yeah? How

622
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 1: have the dates been going?

623
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:00,960
Speaker 6: How long ago with daddy?

624
00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:01,200
Speaker 7: Andrew?

625
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:05,320
Speaker 2: Fifteen years ago, Joshua, I left your dad?

626
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:08,839
Speaker 5: Oh my god, yeah something like that. Fifteen fifteen years ago?

627
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:13,440
Speaker 1: Have you have you been going on?

628
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,920
Speaker 6: I got a new baby, daddy, just one, just one

629
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:16,760
Speaker 6: new baby, daddy.

630
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:18,640
Speaker 1: Oh, you have a new baby dad. How do how

631
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:21,960
Speaker 1: do uh, Andrew? How do we like the baby daddy?

632
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:22,759
Speaker 1: Is he a good guy?

633
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:25,759
Speaker 3: We kind of dead? Yes?

634
00:34:26,000 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 6: No?

635
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 5: Oh Joshua?

636
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:32,600
Speaker 1: Oh oh oh Josha Wait wait wait why why do

637
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 1: we hope Joshua is dead?

638
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:38,520
Speaker 3: On?

639
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:41,359
Speaker 6: Yeah, he's not in the picture no more.

640
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:42,320
Speaker 2: He's bad news bear.

641
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:48,439
Speaker 1: Ah Okay, yeah, he sounds like he probably did something bad.

642
00:34:49,840 --> 00:35:00,719
Speaker 7: Yeah, and.

643
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:06,359
Speaker 6: So did you know one of your friend's dad came

644
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 6: to the door at four a m. That morning of the.

645
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:13,360
Speaker 5: Trip club or yeah, and he Matt fell asleep and yeah.

646
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:15,319
Speaker 6: I covered him up with blankets on the floor. I thought,

647
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:17,759
Speaker 6: did he like Paul his dad? Because he was like

648
00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:19,719
Speaker 6: sleeping on the floor or was going on?

649
00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:20,799
Speaker 3: I don't know?

650
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:22,239
Speaker 6: Or was I being too loud?

651
00:35:23,200 --> 00:35:25,240
Speaker 5: No, you're cline, Andrew.

652
00:35:25,239 --> 00:35:26,799
Speaker 1: Do you have much of a relationship with your dad?

653
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 3: Now?

654
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 2: I do? I do?

655
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:32,120
Speaker 5: I do have a decer. I do a good relationship

656
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:32,440
Speaker 5: with him.

657
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:33,520
Speaker 6: You lived with him?

658
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 2: Yeah?

659
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:34,880
Speaker 5: I do with with him?

660
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:39,160
Speaker 1: Oh you do? Okay, there's no chance that he can

661
00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:40,600
Speaker 1: like gear us talking now, can he?

662
00:35:42,320 --> 00:35:44,640
Speaker 5: No, I'm not at my house right now, I'm.

663
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:48,719
Speaker 1: Not was was your dad? Was your dad always a dick?

664
00:35:48,800 --> 00:35:49,879
Speaker 1: Or is this like a recent thing.

665
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:52,279
Speaker 5: No, he's always been a kid.

666
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 1: Interesting. What what first?

667
00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:57,840
Speaker 5: I'm trying to move out, but.

668
00:35:59,120 --> 00:36:02,319
Speaker 1: Mom canse A's what first attracted you to him? If?

669
00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:02,680
Speaker 2: If?

670
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 1: If he's sort of a dick?

671
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:06,080
Speaker 6: Oh, I have probably some daddy is.

672
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:13,319
Speaker 1: Interesting. So like his dickishness like appeared at first to

673
00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:13,920
Speaker 1: be attractive.

674
00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:23,360
Speaker 6: No, I probably just wanted a daddy. He's quite a

675
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 6: bit older than me.

676
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 1: How old is there?

677
00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:35,160
Speaker 5: It's fifty six now, uh, Evan, No, fifty six?

678
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 3: Mm hmm.

679
00:36:40,520 --> 00:36:41,439
Speaker 1: What's going on in your life?

680
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:41,720
Speaker 3: Andrew?

681
00:36:42,040 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 5: But right now I'm in school.

682
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:48,800
Speaker 6: Where was the last party?

683
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 5: There's no finals week, there's no parties going on?

684
00:36:53,120 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 6: Oh party was here?

685
00:36:57,239 --> 00:36:58,480
Speaker 5: Yeah? I don't know.

686
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 1: You guys had a part at the house.

687
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 6: Yeah that was trip club night. How many boys were

688
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:04,399
Speaker 6: their here?

689
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 3: Just?

690
00:37:06,680 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 2: Yeah a couple wek up in the.

691
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,840
Speaker 6: Morning and like your little sister was like, it looked

692
00:37:11,080 --> 00:37:14,920
Speaker 6: like a frat house, sucking vomited everywhere, and there was

693
00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:15,959
Speaker 6: your vomit.

694
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 1: And okay, has has has has your guys house always

695
00:37:23,120 --> 00:37:24,480
Speaker 1: kind of been the party house.

696
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:30,200
Speaker 5: Kinda? I mean I don't. I was never I never

697
00:37:30,320 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 5: like grew up at my mom's house, So I never

698
00:37:32,040 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 5: really had friends there that often.

699
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 1: Mom, Do you do you like ever get involved in

700
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:42,799
Speaker 1: the partying? Like do you drink with the boys and

701
00:37:42,840 --> 00:37:52,040
Speaker 1: hang out? Well, now that they're old enough, Andrew says,

702
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:52,759
Speaker 1: you're twenty.

703
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 3: Though I'm twenty.

704
00:37:55,280 --> 00:37:59,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, and just a reminder, I am not a cop.

705
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:03,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, what's happ.

706
00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:12,880
Speaker 1: I would have to tell you if I am, and Donna.

707
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:19,960
Speaker 4: I can neither confirm nor deny, Well, Andrew and Andrew's mom.

708
00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:22,400
Speaker 1: Is there anything else you guys feel like is on

709
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 1: your minds right now that you want to talk about

710
00:38:24,040 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 1: before we go?

711
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 6: And do you just need some therapy or like? What

712
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:29,320
Speaker 6: was this all about?

713
00:38:30,000 --> 00:38:32,359
Speaker 5: I just wanted to tell a fun story to meet

714
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:33,320
Speaker 5: the therapy.

715
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 1: Get go.

716
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:36,719
Speaker 6: Okay, that's good therapy. I love you.

717
00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:37,919
Speaker 5: I love you too.

718
00:38:38,840 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 7: Okay, Hi, my mom.

719
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:44,759
Speaker 1: Andrew is still there.

720
00:38:46,280 --> 00:38:46,919
Speaker 5: I'm still here.

721
00:38:47,000 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 1: Yeah. Was that weird for you?

722
00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:54,160
Speaker 5: It was weird, but you know, it felt good, really

723
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 5: felt good. Did you off my chest?

724
00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 4: I don't.

725
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:59,000
Speaker 5: I don't want to tell anyone because it's weird to say, like,

726
00:38:59,400 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 5: oh yeah, I want to strip hover my mom.

727
00:39:05,719 --> 00:39:07,239
Speaker 1: Yeah that was a little weird for me too, but

728
00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:11,720
Speaker 1: I kind of enjoyed the novelty of it.

729
00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 5: It's something new, it's something different, you know.

730
00:39:15,760 --> 00:39:17,239
Speaker 1: Is there a way you think it could have gone better?

731
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 5: You know, honestly, no, I my mom. I didn't expect

732
00:39:24,600 --> 00:39:26,400
Speaker 5: you to ask to come my mom, you know. But

733
00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:27,560
Speaker 5: that was a good that was a good touch.

734
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 3: It was fun.

735
00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:32,399
Speaker 1: Do you feel like it brought you guys closer together

736
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 1: in any way?

737
00:39:34,880 --> 00:39:37,680
Speaker 5: I think it did. I think it really did.

738
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:40,160
Speaker 1: Andrew's anything else you want to say to the people

739
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:43,319
Speaker 1: of the computer before we go, Yes.

740
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 5: Shout out to the Ravers, rold Jay's go bills.

741
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 1: Thank you me for get go, thank you for calling Andrew. Yep,

742
00:39:55,480 --> 00:40:03,840
Speaker 1: strange stuff is going on in Nebraska. I don't know

743
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,920
Speaker 1: what to make of that guy's mom. I liked her,

744
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:09,239
Speaker 1: I liked everyone involved in this situation. I even liked

745
00:40:09,280 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 1: the dad. I think I was like I think from Afar.

746
00:40:14,960 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 1: Their father's angriness is like appears cartoonish to me. Like

747
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 1: that they would have made a good like a like

748
00:40:20,920 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 1: family on like a sitcom or something. All those folks.

749
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:28,360
Speaker 1: The little sister was an interesting character. I felt like

750
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:32,279
Speaker 1: I didn't really get a whole lot of information about her,

751
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:35,160
Speaker 1: but she had kind of like a Megan Drake and

752
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 1: Josh vibe Andrew had kind of a drake vibe that

753
00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 1: was a good family dynamic. I don't know. I don't know.

754
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 1: I've you ever, and I've gotten phone calls on the

755
00:40:52,160 --> 00:40:57,319
Speaker 1: podcast about this from like people who have family dynamics

756
00:40:57,760 --> 00:41:01,120
Speaker 1: that are different from mine. I would never go to

757
00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:02,799
Speaker 1: a strip club with my mom. I don't think my

758
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:04,799
Speaker 1: mom would be I mean I would if my mom.

759
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 1: If my mom came to me and asked me to

760
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 1: accompany her to a strip club, I would do it

761
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 1: because I love her. I don't think she would ever

762
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 1: ever do that, but I of course I would do that.

763
00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 1: Sounds like a psychedelic experience being at a strip club

764
00:41:22,320 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 1: with your mom. Now, when your mom excuses herself to

765
00:41:28,120 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 1: go to the back room is maybe when reality hits.

766
00:41:33,680 --> 00:41:35,760
Speaker 1: But who am I to get into anyone else's business?

767
00:41:37,120 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 1: Oh wait, that's what this whole show is about. Hi, Jecko,

768
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:44,960
Speaker 1: is this Jim? This is all right, Jim, here's what happened.

769
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: I thought, all right, you're like the same age as

770
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 1: Chris and so I kind of thought that that you

771
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 1: guys were the same guy. But you're two different guys.

772
00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 3: This is fine. I'm still not Jim, but I'll be

773
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 3: your Jim because.

774
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:07,480
Speaker 1: It says here your name is. It says here your

775
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:09,479
Speaker 1: name is Jim. It says here, your name is Jim.

776
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:12,880
Speaker 3: It could be literally, I forgot the fake name I

777
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:16,440
Speaker 3: used two seconds after I said it, so I might

778
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:18,839
Speaker 3: have used that name. And since you're talking to me now,

779
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 3: it's probably proper that I am a fake Jim in

780
00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:29,799
Speaker 3: the same age range as thirty four thirty ish. In

781
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:32,360
Speaker 3: this group, I was told by the screener I'd be

782
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:35,440
Speaker 3: a root and toot and cowboy, which I can be

783
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:39,279
Speaker 3: because I was in the middle of playing Red Dead

784
00:42:39,520 --> 00:42:43,240
Speaker 3: Redemption two and I paused it and stopped it because

785
00:42:43,320 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, am I really talking

786
00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 3: to the gecko right now? And I guess I am.

787
00:42:48,200 --> 00:42:50,399
Speaker 1: Well, Jim, tell me about your life. Okay, what's going

788
00:42:50,440 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 1: on with you?

789
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:56,279
Speaker 5: Well?

790
00:42:56,320 --> 00:42:58,800
Speaker 3: What can I say? What can I say to the Gecko?

791
00:42:59,760 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 3: I really came here because I haven't really listened to

792
00:43:04,640 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 3: your show a lot. But the last two callers that

793
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 3: I did hear before I got distracted by the fantastic

794
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:17,080
Speaker 3: missions of that video game was Mora and that gentleman

795
00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:20,839
Speaker 3: who went to the strip club with his mom. Oh my, yeah,

796
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:24,080
Speaker 3: the best content I've ever heard in my entire life

797
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:28,040
Speaker 3: of any entertainment vector that I ever was.

798
00:43:29,560 --> 00:43:33,239
Speaker 1: You know your first you're you're lying because my show

799
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 1: is not as good as Read Their Redemption too, And

800
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 1: you know that.

801
00:43:37,560 --> 00:43:38,200
Speaker 2: I know that.

802
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:41,799
Speaker 3: But but those callers were really really good.

803
00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:44,560
Speaker 1: But you but you know what, Jim, You know what, Jim?

804
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,359
Speaker 1: You know what, Jim. Even if here's and here's my thing.

805
00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:50,359
Speaker 1: Even if you are lying, whatever you're doing, if you're

806
00:43:50,600 --> 00:43:52,880
Speaker 1: if you're telling me the truth, your intention is to

807
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:55,720
Speaker 1: is to be nice to me. And if you're lying,

808
00:43:55,760 --> 00:43:57,840
Speaker 1: your intention is still to be nice to me. So

809
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:00,359
Speaker 1: I like you, Jim. I appreciate what you're doing. They do.

810
00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 1: I want to know from you, what's your life?

811
00:44:03,120 --> 00:44:03,440
Speaker 3: Like you?

812
00:44:03,480 --> 00:44:05,279
Speaker 1: I want to I don't want to hear about write

813
00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:06,520
Speaker 1: their Redemption too, And I want to hear about the

814
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:08,160
Speaker 1: other cause I want to hear about you, Jim. What's

815
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:09,800
Speaker 1: going on with you? My friend?

816
00:44:11,360 --> 00:44:15,440
Speaker 3: You? You missed the third option, which was my jealousy

817
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:21,719
Speaker 3: of your position as a gecko. Uh who is capable

818
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:26,160
Speaker 3: of helping other people? That is so amazing. I wish

819
00:44:26,280 --> 00:44:29,120
Speaker 3: I could be a gecko who had the position, who

820
00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:31,319
Speaker 3: had the platform, who had the followers who had the

821
00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:36,759
Speaker 3: vision to say, hey, I'm a gecko, dial these ten

822
00:44:36,800 --> 00:44:38,760
Speaker 3: digits and tell me your problems.

823
00:44:38,960 --> 00:44:42,000
Speaker 1: We'll just try to help. Well, first of all, I

824
00:44:42,000 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't First of all, I don't know

825
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:45,040
Speaker 1: how much. I don't know how much I helped the

826
00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 1: strip club guy, but I was there for that.

827
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:52,399
Speaker 3: No, you you, I don't know how much you helped

828
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 3: of either. But in whether or whether or not you

829
00:44:57,840 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 3: help him, it reminded me of my relationship with my mother,

830
00:45:02,920 --> 00:45:08,120
Speaker 3: who is you know, was a who divorced at a

831
00:45:08,239 --> 00:45:10,440
Speaker 3: very young age when when I was at a very

832
00:45:10,480 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 3: young age. Uh, I'm a Peace Corps baby, if that

833
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:17,080
Speaker 3: helps at all. Uh. So, you know, my mom went

834
00:45:17,120 --> 00:45:19,719
Speaker 3: on the Peace Corps, went to another country and then

835
00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:24,600
Speaker 3: met somebody who uh you know, flavored her fancy and

836
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:28,920
Speaker 3: a couple of months later, poop here I am. Uh

837
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 3: And then you know, anchor babied him into the country.

838
00:45:34,440 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 3: He had a fantastic career. My father, but they divorced

839
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 3: when I was very young. So I had a very

840
00:45:39,480 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 3: you know, tumultuous childhood. But I persevered and decided whatever

841
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:51,360
Speaker 3: and related to that, you know fact that that that

842
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:59,040
Speaker 3: after growing up with a difficult childhood, and then you know,

843
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 3: going away to college, leaving the nest, I realized that,

844
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:09,360
Speaker 3: oh my god, my mother is a great person. So I, uh,

845
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:11,839
Speaker 3: you know that that conversation you had with the mother

846
00:46:11,880 --> 00:46:13,919
Speaker 3: who went to the strip club was like, Oh my god,

847
00:46:14,239 --> 00:46:15,640
Speaker 3: I would love to go to a strip club with

848
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 3: my mom.

849
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 1: That'd be so cool. Interesting, interesting, Okay, so did you

850
00:46:19,680 --> 00:46:21,319
Speaker 1: did you see a little bit of Did you see

851
00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:24,759
Speaker 1: a little bit of your mom in that caller's mom.

852
00:46:26,760 --> 00:46:29,080
Speaker 3: A little bit? You know, I'd be like, oh, she

853
00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:30,960
Speaker 3: would totally be on board. You know if like I

854
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:33,799
Speaker 3: got drunk, called an uber and went to a strip

855
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:36,920
Speaker 3: club and mom was like, where is this uber going?

856
00:46:37,680 --> 00:46:40,879
Speaker 3: Excuse me, We'll let me tag along. And I was like, oh, yeah,

857
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:42,520
Speaker 3: go to strip club? You want to come?

858
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, I want to come.

859
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 3: That'll be cool. Like I never had that actual experience

860
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:50,360
Speaker 3: with my mom, but like I could totally see it happening.

861
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 1: What do you do for What do you do for it? Kim?

862
00:46:55,880 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 3: I haven't worked in like two and a half years,

863
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:04,400
Speaker 3: even before the pandemic. I just got really really abused

864
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 3: by my employers. I was working like so many hours.

865
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 3: I wasn't getting compensated for it. I begged and begged

866
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:13,319
Speaker 3: and begged for them to hire more people so that

867
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 3: I didn't have to kill myself, and they refused, so

868
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:18,959
Speaker 3: I said, hey, I want to kill myself, so I'm

869
00:47:19,040 --> 00:47:19,799
Speaker 3: gonna quit.

870
00:47:22,000 --> 00:47:24,800
Speaker 1: That's a good reason to kill yourself.

871
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:29,760
Speaker 3: And then and then COVID happened, and my stepmother died

872
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:35,320
Speaker 3: and left my father all alone. So I was like, hey, uh,

873
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 3: that really kind of sucks for my father to be

874
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:42,520
Speaker 3: all alone. So I and this was after I quit

875
00:47:42,560 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 3: the job that was like allowing me to live independently,

876
00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:51,160
Speaker 3: and and my mother was in a better financial situation

877
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:53,200
Speaker 3: than my father was, so I went to live with

878
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 3: my mother. Then COVID happened, and then you know, that happened.

879
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:59,640
Speaker 3: So I said, hey, mom, I love you, thank you

880
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:02,759
Speaker 3: so much for like supporting me. I need to go,

881
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:04,719
Speaker 3: you know, help my dad out, you know, because he

882
00:48:04,719 --> 00:48:06,360
Speaker 3: helped me out so much when I was young, and

883
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 3: you guys were divorced and what up. So I need

884
00:48:09,960 --> 00:48:10,719
Speaker 3: to go help my dad.

885
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 1: And you and my dad and you've been living with

886
00:48:14,600 --> 00:48:16,320
Speaker 1: him and helping him for the past two years.

887
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:21,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, it's it's really been a pain in my

888
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:26,120
Speaker 3: ass not my dad, not helping him. It's just these

889
00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:30,279
Speaker 3: two dogs. You know, before my stepmother passed away, you know,

890
00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 3: they got these two dogs together. And he's trying to

891
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:37,560
Speaker 3: repatriate to the country of origin. Remember Peace Corps baby,

892
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,319
Speaker 3: all that stuff. So he's trying to go back there

893
00:48:40,400 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 3: with these dogs. It's just really complicated to travel with

894
00:48:43,480 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 3: with these dogs. And they're so I love them. I

895
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:52,359
Speaker 3: love them, but they're really annoying. Uh. And it's just

896
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:56,240
Speaker 3: been a matter of making sure my dad's okay, making

897
00:48:56,280 --> 00:48:58,920
Speaker 3: sure that he's not alone, making sure that there's somebody here,

898
00:48:59,600 --> 00:49:02,439
Speaker 3: you know, Uh, I can be there for him. Uh.

899
00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:04,879
Speaker 3: And and and to not be in the household where

900
00:49:04,920 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 3: his wife died and all of her stuff is still around, yeah,

901
00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:11,880
Speaker 3: you know, causing him a lot of pain. And and

902
00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:14,960
Speaker 3: that's why I'm here, like to like distract them from it.

903
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 1: And uh. Yeah, what besides playing right their redemption two

904
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:27,360
Speaker 1: and besides seeing care of your dad, what do you

905
00:49:27,400 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 1: see in the future for yourself? What do you what

906
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:29,600
Speaker 1: do you desire?

907
00:49:32,400 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 3: Man? I don't know. I want to help people like Mara,

908
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:42,760
Speaker 3: the caller you took earlier, who worked at GameStop Target.

909
00:49:44,239 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 3: I will related a lot to her because she said

910
00:49:48,280 --> 00:49:50,480
Speaker 3: she just wants to help people. You know, she takes

911
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:52,480
Speaker 3: a lot of pleasure from her job from helping people.

912
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:58,080
Speaker 3: And I feel like they're like, if you've ever been

913
00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:04,360
Speaker 3: around young children, you they're so willing, they're so like,

914
00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:07,360
Speaker 3: like wanting to help you with What do you really.

915
00:50:07,160 --> 00:50:08,839
Speaker 1: Feel that way? I feel I always feel like kids

916
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 1: are assholes and they're selfish. But I guess it's like

917
00:50:13,520 --> 00:50:15,239
Speaker 1: it's it. It's the same with people. You know, some

918
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:16,320
Speaker 1: of them are some of them aren't.

919
00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:20,040
Speaker 3: I mean, you're a get go so like they you

920
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:23,600
Speaker 3: as a toy. So I'm sure you have a bias

921
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:26,720
Speaker 3: opinion of what children might do. But like the child

922
00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:30,520
Speaker 3: sees you as like a helper or like a guardian.

923
00:50:31,680 --> 00:50:34,279
Speaker 3: They want to be like, hey, I figured this thing

924
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:36,400
Speaker 3: out for you, And you're like, that's so stupid. I

925
00:50:36,440 --> 00:50:37,440
Speaker 3: figured that out years ago.

926
00:50:37,520 --> 00:50:41,359
Speaker 1: But okay, so so Jim, So you want to help

927
00:50:41,440 --> 00:50:42,719
Speaker 1: you want to help people? How do you want to

928
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:45,440
Speaker 1: help people? What's what's your ideal way of helping people?

929
00:50:46,000 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 1: What's your ideal thing.

930
00:50:46,840 --> 00:50:51,399
Speaker 3: To help them? I mean it's too idealistic. I want

931
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 3: to save the world, you know, I want to do

932
00:50:53,239 --> 00:50:54,880
Speaker 3: all this that and the other thing, and then I

933
00:50:54,960 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 3: understand that's beyond my own means and that the way

934
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:03,160
Speaker 3: the world was set up, it's all about making money,

935
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:09,560
Speaker 3: and making money doesn't necessarily help people. Uh, you know,

936
00:51:09,760 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 3: like growing food, fishing, you know, sustainability, these are the

937
00:51:14,960 --> 00:51:17,800
Speaker 3: things that help people and capitalism.

938
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:20,400
Speaker 1: No, it doesn't really well mean, okay, well, jem I

939
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:22,799
Speaker 1: want to just I want to you know, just with

940
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:26,560
Speaker 1: you right now. Look here, And this is kind of

941
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:28,200
Speaker 1: what I was saying with when we're on the call

942
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:32,000
Speaker 1: with Mara, is like, all right, look, you can have

943
00:51:32,080 --> 00:51:36,239
Speaker 1: your problems with the way that the universe is, and

944
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:38,239
Speaker 1: you actually and you know, and look, you can do

945
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:41,319
Speaker 1: kind of a lot to influence the universe. You can

946
00:51:41,920 --> 00:51:48,360
Speaker 1: speak your ideas, you can vote, you can create organizations,

947
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:50,719
Speaker 1: you can you can create for you. I really do

948
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 1: believe that, like one person can rally groups of lots

949
00:51:53,600 --> 00:51:57,320
Speaker 1: of people to make genuine changes, or at least try,

950
00:51:57,560 --> 00:51:59,960
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know. I mean, there's probably a

951
00:52:00,000 --> 00:52:03,000
Speaker 1: group of reptilians that are like pulling all the levers

952
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:05,200
Speaker 1: and you know, are voting and signs don't really work.

953
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:07,320
Speaker 1: But that's not for me to talk about because I

954
00:52:07,320 --> 00:52:09,440
Speaker 1: got no fucking idea how the universe works, and you can.

955
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 1: But you can do these things. You can be an

956
00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:14,560
Speaker 1: agent of change for the universe and the systems that exist.

957
00:52:15,440 --> 00:52:20,160
Speaker 1: But you can also, simultaneously, while you're doing that, look

958
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 1: at your life, look at the way that society works

959
00:52:23,080 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 1: right now, and go, what can I do of my

960
00:52:28,600 --> 00:52:32,279
Speaker 1: own accord with what I have in the situations that

961
00:52:32,320 --> 00:52:37,920
Speaker 1: I am in to reduce the amount of unhappiness and

962
00:52:37,960 --> 00:52:41,840
Speaker 1: increase the amount of happiness in my life? And I

963
00:52:41,880 --> 00:52:44,560
Speaker 1: want to know from your perspective, just living in the

964
00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:46,879
Speaker 1: system that you are in, and maybe, and maybe the

965
00:52:46,920 --> 00:52:49,600
Speaker 1: sheer act of attempting to be an agent of change

966
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:52,120
Speaker 1: to the system is what fills you with happiness? And

967
00:52:52,160 --> 00:52:56,879
Speaker 1: if it is, then God blessed, that's amazing. But with

968
00:52:57,280 --> 00:53:00,200
Speaker 1: the system you live in, with what the tools you

969
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:03,960
Speaker 1: have available to you, what do you want to do?

970
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:10,600
Speaker 3: All right? Let me first say a phrase my grandfather

971
00:53:10,640 --> 00:53:14,080
Speaker 3: would always tell me. The world is not as you wish.

972
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:14,399
Speaker 1: It to be.

973
00:53:14,920 --> 00:53:19,640
Speaker 3: The world is as it is. This is that saying.

974
00:53:19,680 --> 00:53:23,719
Speaker 3: I hate that saying. It's like rolling over because you

975
00:53:23,800 --> 00:53:26,279
Speaker 3: can't get what you want. And if what you want

976
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:30,080
Speaker 3: is a good thing, then just roll over whatever. The

977
00:53:30,120 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 3: second thing I'll say is I have been applying to

978
00:53:32,680 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 3: jobs NonStop. I've have been struggling. I'm like a very educated,

979
00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 3: very capable person, and there are several jobs that turn

980
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:47,279
Speaker 3: down because they just don't align. I've recently applied to

981
00:53:47,320 --> 00:53:55,240
Speaker 3: a job that had the job description of helping youth

982
00:53:55,880 --> 00:54:01,040
Speaker 3: discourage youth applying to the workforce, you know, disadvantage use

983
00:54:01,360 --> 00:54:04,359
Speaker 3: that's the that's the word I was struggling to say.

984
00:54:04,520 --> 00:54:12,280
Speaker 3: Disadvantage youths. And the job is helping them craft their applications,

985
00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:19,000
Speaker 3: craft their you know, experiences into a marketable application, and

986
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:23,000
Speaker 3: and and place them into the workforce. I would love

987
00:54:23,080 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 3: to do that. I would love to help people. I

988
00:54:25,040 --> 00:54:28,160
Speaker 3: wish I had unlimited funds so that I could write

989
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:32,720
Speaker 3: grants to people who could, you know, write paragraphs, write

990
00:54:32,719 --> 00:54:37,279
Speaker 3: an essay that describes how they're going to improve their situation,

991
00:54:37,840 --> 00:54:40,920
Speaker 3: how are they going to improve their community situation? And

992
00:54:41,000 --> 00:54:44,560
Speaker 3: I wish I had the resources to say, Hey, these

993
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:50,320
Speaker 3: grant writers who have been proposing these ideas are great,

994
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:54,360
Speaker 3: here's the money, go do it. Go make your community

995
00:54:54,520 --> 00:54:58,200
Speaker 3: a better place. These are my goals. But where's the

996
00:54:58,200 --> 00:55:00,720
Speaker 3: money in it? We're in a cap the society.

997
00:55:01,239 --> 00:55:03,680
Speaker 1: We right, Okay, so this is what I'm okay, So

998
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:05,359
Speaker 1: this is what I'm saying to you, like this is

999
00:55:05,480 --> 00:55:10,800
Speaker 1: and I'll make this brief because as I've because listen, Jim,

1000
00:55:11,000 --> 00:55:13,279
Speaker 1: just because I have a podcast does not mean I

1001
00:55:13,320 --> 00:55:17,200
Speaker 1: have any idea what I'm talking about. But okay, yes

1002
00:55:17,200 --> 00:55:19,359
Speaker 1: you do. You're living a capitalist Well here's the thing

1003
00:55:19,400 --> 00:55:22,319
Speaker 1: you do. You live in a capitalist society, and you

1004
00:55:22,400 --> 00:55:26,640
Speaker 1: can do what is in your position to be what

1005
00:55:26,719 --> 00:55:30,359
Speaker 1: you can do what is within your resources. And your

1006
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:34,480
Speaker 1: resources are grand, Okay, you can do with with with

1007
00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:37,799
Speaker 1: what is within your resources, and you should to make

1008
00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:40,960
Speaker 1: the world the way that you desire it to be.

1009
00:55:42,000 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 1: But in the meantime, you do live in a capitalist society,

1010
00:55:46,640 --> 00:55:52,520
Speaker 1: and you could potentially benefit from figuring out how to

1011
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:59,160
Speaker 1: thrive in that capitalist society while simultaneously working to change

1012
00:56:01,200 --> 00:56:04,839
Speaker 1: the fabrics of society into something that you agree with more.

1013
00:56:05,719 --> 00:56:07,400
Speaker 1: I don't know if what I just said made sense.

1014
00:56:09,160 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 1: And I don't know. Some guy or a girl who

1015
00:56:11,480 --> 00:56:19,000
Speaker 1: some meg the rules? Say that again, who makes the rules?

1016
00:56:19,160 --> 00:56:23,880
Speaker 3: Who makes the rules? Like we've decided that making money

1017
00:56:23,920 --> 00:56:27,200
Speaker 3: is more important than eating food in some cases, like

1018
00:56:27,280 --> 00:56:28,960
Speaker 3: it's who who makes these?

1019
00:56:29,080 --> 00:56:30,840
Speaker 1: Well you can use well you can use money to

1020
00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:33,040
Speaker 1: buy food. I did that this morning. I went to

1021
00:56:33,080 --> 00:56:33,600
Speaker 1: Taco Bell.

1022
00:56:36,320 --> 00:56:36,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1023
00:56:36,560 --> 00:56:38,919
Speaker 1: But by the way, listen, somebody who's written a book

1024
00:56:38,920 --> 00:56:41,279
Speaker 1: about this ship would know more than I would. But

1025
00:56:41,320 --> 00:56:42,719
Speaker 1: I want to hear what you said just now.

1026
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:48,400
Speaker 3: No, No, I appreciate you, Geko, your your one of

1027
00:56:48,400 --> 00:56:51,040
Speaker 3: my favorites. I haven't tuned in in a while. And

1028
00:56:52,120 --> 00:56:57,000
Speaker 3: just hearing mars story about GameStop, and you know how

1029
00:56:57,480 --> 00:57:01,759
Speaker 3: she is somebody who just wants to help people. And

1030
00:57:01,840 --> 00:57:04,359
Speaker 3: I know I've seen kids who just want to help.

1031
00:57:04,640 --> 00:57:07,120
Speaker 3: They pick things up for you, like when you drop

1032
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:09,600
Speaker 3: them and say here, you drop this, and I'm like, yeah,

1033
00:57:09,640 --> 00:57:12,000
Speaker 3: I know it's garbage, but like they just want to help,

1034
00:57:12,400 --> 00:57:15,600
Speaker 3: you know, Like I hear that story in Mara and

1035
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:18,920
Speaker 3: wanting to help the people that she's around, and and

1036
00:57:18,960 --> 00:57:23,439
Speaker 3: that she's she's struggling because everybody's doing everybody's not doing

1037
00:57:23,480 --> 00:57:26,000
Speaker 3: the work, and she's doing the work just because she

1038
00:57:26,040 --> 00:57:29,560
Speaker 3: wants to be helpful. And and I hear that and

1039
00:57:29,600 --> 00:57:33,480
Speaker 3: I relate with that, and I hear this this person's

1040
00:57:33,520 --> 00:57:36,960
Speaker 3: mom who's like, I love my son, I want to

1041
00:57:36,960 --> 00:57:39,760
Speaker 3: be involved with what my son is doing and I

1042
00:57:39,760 --> 00:57:41,640
Speaker 3: don't care if he's drunk. I don't care if he's

1043
00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:44,520
Speaker 3: going through a strip mam. I'm just interested in my

1044
00:57:44,640 --> 00:57:47,840
Speaker 3: son having a good time and living a good life.

1045
00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:52,680
Speaker 3: And I'm trying. But my husband is crazy and and

1046
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:55,280
Speaker 3: doing all these things who are hurting my family. But

1047
00:57:56,320 --> 00:57:58,880
Speaker 3: I'm here for my son. You know, like these are

1048
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:01,880
Speaker 3: the stories that I'm hearing on your channel, Therapy Get Go.

1049
00:58:02,400 --> 00:58:05,000
Speaker 3: Thank you for bringing these stories to the light, and

1050
00:58:05,680 --> 00:58:10,240
Speaker 3: you know, offering people a chance to tell their story

1051
00:58:10,800 --> 00:58:14,760
Speaker 3: and for others to hear what who might be able

1052
00:58:14,760 --> 00:58:16,920
Speaker 3: to relate and say, yeah, I agree with that.

1053
00:58:17,120 --> 00:58:17,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, Jimmie there.

1054
00:58:18,000 --> 00:58:19,640
Speaker 3: You know, I haven't talked to my mom in a while,

1055
00:58:19,640 --> 00:58:22,160
Speaker 3: and I've been afraid to talk to my mom. But

1056
00:58:22,520 --> 00:58:25,000
Speaker 3: you know, hearing this guy story, maybe I shouldn't be

1057
00:58:25,040 --> 00:58:28,080
Speaker 3: so afraid. Maybe I should tell my mom these thoughts

1058
00:58:28,120 --> 00:58:32,440
Speaker 3: I'm having, you know, so cheers, Thank you, Hey.

1059
00:58:32,360 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 1: Jim I uh. I appreciate all the things you just said.

1060
00:58:36,760 --> 00:58:39,840
Speaker 1: I really do. And I hope that you're able to

1061
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:41,240
Speaker 1: find your place in the world. I hope you're able

1062
00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:43,960
Speaker 1: to help people and know whether you want to. I

1063
00:58:44,000 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 1: hope that you make another connection with your mother, because

1064
00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:49,200
Speaker 1: it sounds like that relationship is very important to you,

1065
00:58:50,040 --> 00:58:52,160
Speaker 1: and I'm glad to hear. I'm really glad to hear

1066
00:58:53,440 --> 00:58:57,320
Speaker 1: that the other calls in this podcast have resonated with you.

1067
00:58:58,120 --> 00:59:00,360
Speaker 1: That's my favorite thing about doing it is is the

1068
00:59:00,720 --> 00:59:07,480
Speaker 1: idea that other people's stories are resonating with other folks.

1069
00:59:07,560 --> 00:59:10,840
Speaker 1: So I'm happy to hear that. And I hope you

1070
00:59:10,840 --> 00:59:15,640
Speaker 1: have a good rest of the nights. And I hope

1071
00:59:16,440 --> 00:59:21,200
Speaker 1: that somebody gives you millions of dollars so that you

1072
00:59:21,240 --> 00:59:24,880
Speaker 1: can become corrupted and start loving capitalism, because that would

1073
00:59:24,920 --> 00:59:27,280
Speaker 1: be really funny. Have a good night, Jim.

1074
00:59:27,640 --> 00:59:29,200
Speaker 3: No, I don't want to want it.

1075
00:59:29,240 --> 00:59:30,240
Speaker 7: I don't want it.

1076
00:59:30,320 --> 00:59:31,800
Speaker 3: I don't want it at all.

1077
00:59:33,040 --> 00:59:36,200
Speaker 1: I hung up on Jim. But I love Jim. Listen.

1078
00:59:36,240 --> 00:59:38,120
Speaker 1: I'll just say this, How the hell did he get

1079
00:59:38,160 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 1: red Listen, I'll just say this, there's no red redemption

1080
00:59:40,600 --> 00:59:44,200
Speaker 1: two in a communist society. I don't know that. I

1081
00:59:44,200 --> 00:59:46,160
Speaker 1: don't know if that's true. But here's the but. But okay,

1082
00:59:46,280 --> 00:59:51,480
Speaker 1: to play, to play Devil's advocate to myself, does society

1083
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:58,640
Speaker 1: need red redemption two? Let's see, we could live in

1084
00:59:58,680 --> 01:00:04,320
Speaker 1: a capitalist society where people like Mara work forty hours

1085
01:00:04,320 --> 01:00:10,880
Speaker 1: a week and yet cannot afford to move out of

1086
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:17,120
Speaker 1: their parents' house. Or we could do communism. Everyone has

1087
01:00:17,120 --> 01:00:19,840
Speaker 1: a house and food and stuff, but no right the

1088
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:26,640
Speaker 1: Redemption two once again just as a disclaimer everyone listening,

1089
01:00:26,640 --> 01:00:28,000
Speaker 1: because I don't want anyone to email me and be

1090
01:00:28,040 --> 01:00:32,280
Speaker 1: like I was wrong. I say all this fully knowing

1091
01:00:33,280 --> 01:00:34,200
Speaker 1: that I am a get go and I have no

1092
01:00:34,280 --> 01:00:39,520
Speaker 1: idea what I'm talking about. I also love read The

1093
01:00:39,600 --> 01:00:41,880
Speaker 1: Redemption two, so I might make a decision based off

1094
01:00:41,880 --> 01:00:42,000
Speaker 1: of that.

1095
01:00:43,640 --> 01:00:46,880
Speaker 4: Goes on the line, taking your phone calls every nine

1096
01:00:47,200 --> 01:00:51,320
Speaker 4: de becon goes to its teaching you Cloud in the life.

1097
01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:53,840
Speaker 5: Money's not really an expert.