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Speaker 1: Get your hand us together and we're going to start

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Speaker 1: to party.

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Speaker 2: Start.

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Speaker 3: I'm ready to party.

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Speaker 1: See Elvis Duran after party.

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Speaker 4: So long ago, we were talking on the show about

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Speaker 4: these Japanese scientists that have figured something out that is

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Speaker 3: What remind everyone what it is? Gandhi?

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Speaker 1: So Japanese researchers developed a technique using blue light and

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Speaker 1: what they call optogenics to be able to go into

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Speaker 1: your brain and selectively weaken or erase completely very specific memories.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 4: So I have Gerald here who texted in when we

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Speaker 4: were talking about that. Hi, Jerald, how you doing.

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Speaker 2: I'm doing good? How are you guys doing?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 4: And I know that this conversation may be a bit

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Speaker 4: touchy for you, but I'm so I'm glad that you're

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Speaker 3: So if you could have one of.

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Speaker 4: These Japanese scientists go into your brain and somehow erase

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Speaker 4: a memory, would you do it? We had a back

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Speaker 4: and forth on it. Some of us thought, well, they'd

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Speaker 4: be great to erase a memory. Then some people said, no,

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Speaker 4: there's some memories, as awful as they are, we need

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Speaker 3: Do you want to tell your story and your your

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Speaker 3: thoughts on this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, for me, about five years ago, I had the

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Speaker 2: unpleasure experience of watching my wife pass away in my arms.

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Speaker 2: And it's not just me, it's my daughter, who was

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Speaker 2: at the time. Those memories haunt us every single day.

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Speaker 2: I don't sleep at night until after I know the

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Speaker 2: ambulance took her body. Every night, I get up at two,

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Speaker 2: I stay up until three thirty, and I got to

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Speaker 3: To this day, from still this is still gyrating through

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Speaker 3: every day something something you just conquer.

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Speaker 2: And I know that if it's this hard for me

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Speaker 2: can't imagine what they go through. Sorry. If someone could

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Speaker 2: take that away from them, I would love it.

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Speaker 4: So you're thinking, as their father, you would want to

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Speaker 4: make a decision where they had some sort of whatever

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Speaker 4: this technique is to erase those moments from their their lives.

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Speaker 2: They know their mom passed away, but the things they

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Speaker 2: saw that night, I would take it away from him

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Speaker 3: Wow, oh god, you know being a being a mom, Danielle,

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Speaker 3: do you is there anything you want to say about this?

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Speaker 5: I mean you, anything that your kids go through that

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Speaker 5: you know that they're going through in a bad way,

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Speaker 5: you would want to take away from them no matter

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Speaker 5: if it's a terrible thing you you'd rather you go

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Speaker 5: probably one of the worst things they ever have to

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Speaker 2: You know, I just and that's the issue. I would

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Let me ask you a quick question. Gerald. Let's say

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Speaker 4: Now, she's fifteen, Okay, Let's say one day she's twenty five,

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Speaker 4: and you to sit down and have a conversation about

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Speaker 3: Know that she's going through that painful moment over and

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Speaker 3: And look, how would you explain to her, like this

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Speaker 2: I would sit her down. My daughter has she's not

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Speaker 2: I'd say I made that decision to take that away

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Speaker 2: Like she doesn't like now. She has issues with you know,

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Speaker 2: about it, I apologize, But it's the decision I had

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Speaker 4: That's another thing about being parents, Gandhi. This is why

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Speaker 4: you and I have we need to have a kid, okay.

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Speaker 1: So we can make heavy decisions together.

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Speaker 4: Because you and I without having kids, we we are

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Speaker 4: being able to be forced to make these tough decisions

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Speaker 4: for your kids, you know, Gerald, Danielle, I just I

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Speaker 4: don't know how you do it, you know.

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Speaker 3: God bless you.

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Speaker 2: It's it's tough, but looking them in the eye and

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Speaker 2: getting to see her through them, and it makes everything

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Speaker 2: worth it. It makes me get up in the morning,

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Speaker 1: A gym, right, yeah, absolutely.

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Speaker 6: I'm listening to this and I'm thinking, what a hell

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Speaker 6: of a guy you are.

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Speaker 3: I'm coming I'm coming over. Gerald. If you're single, I'm

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Speaker 2: I am single. I am single. Unfortunately, when you go

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you right now, I guarantee we're gonna get

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Speaker 1: a ton of people reaching out, like, what's up with Gerald?

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Speaker 2: Do you want to your number?

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Speaker 5: Like, you know, just in case you want to pass it.

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Speaker 2: On for you. I'm in Madison, Wisconsin.

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Speaker 6: Isn't this how that movie started with Tom Hanks?

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Speaker 1: Sort of?

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Speaker 3: What was that movie? Yes, that's right, it is short.

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Speaker 4: It is yeah with Gerald, you know so, but you

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Speaker 3: You wouldn't do it for you. Though you didn't say that,

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Speaker 4: I wasn't you wouldn't you need to be like the

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Speaker 2: So I think that I need to hold on to that.

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Speaker 2: But for them being so young and still going through

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Speaker 3: Go Erald, any of the thoughts in the room.

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Speaker 6: Well, I'll say this, Memories fade over time. We all

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Speaker 6: So as much as you want to take that memory

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Speaker 2: So I see it every day, and the part that

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Speaker 2: I'm like, I wish I could take all of it away.

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Speaker 4: Wow, how many times did your mom and dad when

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Speaker 3: I wish I could take that pain away from you.

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Speaker 4: I mean, something is trivial, is like closing your finger

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Speaker 1: More like a breakup when you're being so dramatic and

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Speaker 4: Yeah, if my daughter, I tell you, generally, if my

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Speaker 4: I'm like, you know what, Okay, I'll take the pain away.

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Speaker 4: Call the Japanese guy like speed dial.

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Speaker 2: My daughter has a boyfriend and I and I would go, oh,

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Speaker 2: I feel so bad for him.

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Speaker 4: Oh, Gerald, Well, Jerald, Look, it's an honor to speak

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Speaker 4: with you, and I know, I know it's even when

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Speaker 4: you're talking to us about it, it's you reliving it again.

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Speaker 2: And you know your show has meant so much to

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Speaker 2: me because when we moved to Wisconsin a couple of

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Speaker 2: years ago, I found your show and my therapy for

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Speaker 2: to music. And then I found you guys in the morning,

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Speaker 2: and it has so amazing. You make me laugh every morning,

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Speaker 2: You make me not think about those bad things, and

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Speaker 2: I can't tell you how much I appreciate you guys. Wow.

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Speaker 4: On the other side, other people listening to listening to

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Speaker 4: our show going, oh, this show is awful today.

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Speaker 3: Can I have this erased that that phone tap sucked? Goodbye?

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Speaker 4: All right, Gerald, Peace and love for you and your family.

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Speaker 4: And you're a great guy, and it's and it's a

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Speaker 4: pleasure to have you here. Thank you so much for

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Speaker 2: You guys, have a great day. Elvis ter Ran after

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