1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: So I believe this is from Reddit, but it's been 2 00:00:03,360 --> 00:00:07,160 Speaker 1: reported a few places. So yeah, this guy, he recently 3 00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:13,200 Speaker 1: posted to Reddit about an argument that they're having. I 4 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:20,720 Speaker 1: guess about the lottery, so his wife, I guess one. 5 00:00:21,120 --> 00:00:22,360 Speaker 1: I want to make sure I have this right. Well 6 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 1: it make sure it doesn't really matter who is whom. 7 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: But just let's just say in this case the wife. 8 00:00:26,600 --> 00:00:28,920 Speaker 1: The wife won the lottery, not enough to pay off 9 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:33,159 Speaker 1: the mortgage, but a nice big chunk of money, and 10 00:00:33,200 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 1: so this would allow both of them to scale back 11 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:39,240 Speaker 1: on work and live a much easier life. Okay, and 12 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:41,959 Speaker 1: I'm paraphrasing this story because the Reddit post just goes 13 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:45,120 Speaker 1: on and on. But once the cash hit, the wife 14 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:47,880 Speaker 1: had other plans. She doesn't want to work at all, 15 00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:51,040 Speaker 1: and she told him it was her ticket and her decision. 16 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 1: And when he tried to talk to things through and 17 00:00:54,080 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 1: suggests compromise, she accused him of being a gold digger. 18 00:00:57,240 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: Now the marriage is on shaky ground and divorces he 19 00:01:00,240 --> 00:01:02,279 Speaker 1: come up and commenttions on this or split. Some say 20 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:05,120 Speaker 1: the wife is being selfish and revealed her true colors. 21 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:08,200 Speaker 1: All others say that both need a reality check and 22 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:11,880 Speaker 1: that a windfall financial advisor, you know that kind of thing, 23 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: couples therapy, all these different things before you go and 24 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 1: get divorced. Because I'm pretty sure if they get divorced. Man, 25 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 1: I don't know if they have prenaps or whatever, but 26 00:01:17,560 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure if they get divorced, they had to 27 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: put the money anyway, right, like whatever it is is. 28 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:24,480 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know the details of their marriage, 29 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: but I don't think she don't like that option. But 30 00:01:28,240 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 1: she won the money, and she wants to change her life, 31 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:36,000 Speaker 1: not their lives day to day. What's wrong with the 32 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:39,840 Speaker 1: uh eight five five, five nine one three five, Well, 33 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 1: because I have a feeling if he'd won, and we're 34 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:45,120 Speaker 1: saying the same thing, she'd have a problem with it. Well, yeah, 35 00:01:45,280 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 1: as anybody won, because because if if you as a 36 00:01:49,480 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: couple win, I mean, if one of you wins the lottery, 37 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 1: the couple won the lottery, right, So. 38 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:58,320 Speaker 2: If he won the lottery, I should retire. If I 39 00:01:58,400 --> 00:01:59,960 Speaker 2: won the lottery, I should also. 40 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: See that least surprising least surprising analysis. Okay, okay, but 41 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: if you wouldn't you look at this from a standpoint 42 00:02:09,639 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 1: of we won the lottery, so whatever, And then we 43 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:14,640 Speaker 1: get to this side what maybe he'll maybe he would 44 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:17,520 Speaker 1: agree with that. Maybe he would be like, yeah, actually, yeah, 45 00:02:17,600 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: you know, I make a lot more money, or you 46 00:02:19,760 --> 00:02:22,639 Speaker 1: hate your job. But I think if if I won 47 00:02:22,680 --> 00:02:24,760 Speaker 1: the lottery and I'm in a relationship and I'm marchinari, 48 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: I go, I won the lottery and I'm quitting, but 49 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: you get to go to work at you know, fifty 50 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:31,240 Speaker 1: hours a week at at your job or whatever. I'm 51 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:33,360 Speaker 1: gonna send the couch simply because I'm the one who 52 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:36,200 Speaker 1: picked up the ticket. I don't know how that would 53 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: go over. No, it wouldn't go over well. But you're 54 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:40,240 Speaker 1: saying to it anyway. 55 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:43,120 Speaker 2: No, I'm saying for you, you should retire your lady. 56 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. 57 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 1: Okay, So, no matter, no matter what, the woman in 58 00:02:47,600 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 1: this scenario, no matter what, the woman in this scenario 59 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 1: gets what she wants. 60 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:52,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, it's what we want. 61 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 1: You want me at home? 62 00:02:54,240 --> 00:02:54,440 Speaker 2: Right? 63 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: You want me at home? I'm not sure? 64 00:02:58,040 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 3: Wait on you. 65 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:02,240 Speaker 1: Do you know I want you in this room for 66 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 1: five hours. Whether I want you at home or not, 67 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 1: I haven't decided. But the fact of it matter is 68 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:09,240 Speaker 1: I just won the lottery and somehow you retired so no. 69 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: The answer is I don't think I want you at home. 70 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:14,639 Speaker 1: I love you deeply, but no, I want me and 71 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: my money at home. I don't know. So you win 72 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:21,280 Speaker 1: the lottery, Okay, you win the lottery, I know what 73 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: happens with what happens with the money? You go home? 74 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: You tell Hobby I won the lottery. And it's not 75 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:29,920 Speaker 1: five hundred million dollars. Let's say it's a million dollars. 76 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:33,720 Speaker 1: Let's say it's something that we'll say maybe your take 77 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: home is a million dollars, an amount of money that 78 00:03:35,720 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 1: is that is enough that you can make things very 79 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 1: easy for yourself, but not enough that nobody has to 80 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:44,120 Speaker 1: do anything, because unfortunately, a million dollars is not what 81 00:03:44,160 --> 00:03:46,720 Speaker 1: a million dollars once was. A million dollars. Let's say 82 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 1: you've got a house. Let's say you've got some student loans, 83 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:51,800 Speaker 1: maybe some credit card debt. That's probably half of that, 84 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:54,320 Speaker 1: you know, and then the rest of it you'd have 85 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 1: to two of you would have to live on and 86 00:03:55,720 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: maybe a family for the rest of your life is 87 00:03:57,440 --> 00:04:00,360 Speaker 1: not going to happen. So one person is going to 88 00:04:00,400 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: get to go easy or have an easier life. Now, 89 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:09,200 Speaker 1: you could argue Paulina, Well, I don't have a pension, 90 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 1: you do. You know what I'm saying, Like, I can 91 00:04:12,240 --> 00:04:13,720 Speaker 1: take care of the kids, so we don't have to, 92 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 1: you know, rely on family or childcare. Yeah, so we're 93 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:20,400 Speaker 1: gonna save money there, you know whatever. But you could 94 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:24,120 Speaker 1: also say, I'm now now that money isn't as important 95 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: and I'm in a job that doesn't pay as well 96 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 1: as some because we're let's face it, we've all sort 97 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 1: of traded off, you know. I would have like point 98 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:34,719 Speaker 1: one percent of this business gets paid anything. The rest 99 00:04:34,720 --> 00:04:37,679 Speaker 1: of us are you know, well compensated, but but also 100 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:39,640 Speaker 1: doing it because we love it. You could say, I'm 101 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:42,839 Speaker 1: gonna chase my passion for not a ton of money. 102 00:04:43,120 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 1: You can now watch the kid all day because we 103 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:48,719 Speaker 1: have enough money to subsidize it. You So, in essence, 104 00:04:48,760 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 1: you could make that call. What would you do? 105 00:04:52,279 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 4: Well, I probably would do what he does to me 106 00:04:53,920 --> 00:04:56,279 Speaker 4: when he wins when he's gambling and tells me he, 107 00:04:56,400 --> 00:04:58,560 Speaker 4: you know, won X amount of dollars, but it's like 108 00:04:58,680 --> 00:04:59,840 Speaker 4: it's really more than he wants. 109 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:00,479 Speaker 1: Of course it is. 110 00:05:00,560 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 4: Yeah, so I'd say, oh, yeah, I want half a 111 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:04,680 Speaker 4: million dollars. So he thinks this whole time, it's five 112 00:05:04,720 --> 00:05:06,719 Speaker 4: hundred thousand. You know it's really a million? 113 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 3: Yes, Mark, you got it. 114 00:05:08,160 --> 00:05:10,560 Speaker 1: You got to don't you share bank accounts? 115 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:10,720 Speaker 5: No? 116 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 1: Oh okay, So you could just sit on a half 117 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 1: a million dollars and he'd never know. 118 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:17,760 Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying. Move some money about you tell 119 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:19,839 Speaker 4: him it was half, tell him it's half. Okay, and 120 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 4: then we're going to start. 121 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 1: With a lie. That's great. And what's the second part 122 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:23,280 Speaker 1: of the life. 123 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 4: The second part is as much as I'd follow my passion, 124 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:28,039 Speaker 4: I'm not allowed to do anymore. So I was talking 125 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 4: to my mom the other day and I forgot what 126 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 4: we were talking about, and she told me that she 127 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:34,679 Speaker 4: she has so much saying this. She would never allow 128 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:36,280 Speaker 4: me to be a stay at home mom because I 129 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 4: would quote drive everybody crazy. 130 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 3: Yes, my own mother told me that she has no 131 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:42,280 Speaker 3: saying And I wish my. 132 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:44,800 Speaker 1: Sister heard this because I think there's there's a mom 133 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 1: daughter honesty. Yeah, that is. That is. It's just different 134 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:52,240 Speaker 1: between moms and sons. If Marte had a son, it 135 00:05:52,279 --> 00:05:55,000 Speaker 1: would be she would treat him completely different and the 136 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:57,720 Speaker 1: same amount of love, but the approach would be different. 137 00:05:57,760 --> 00:05:58,960 Speaker 1: That's a whole topic in itself. 138 00:05:59,040 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 3: Yes it is. 139 00:05:59,480 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 4: I'm so tired of these boy moms cheating. There's grown 140 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 4: ass sons. That's a whole other conversation though that's pretty common. 141 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:08,559 Speaker 1: But again, you're trying it. His mom involved in fights. 142 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:11,120 Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm immature, I know, I claim it. 143 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 1: Okay, So then what would you do? Then we would 144 00:06:13,440 --> 00:06:16,279 Speaker 1: say you have to retire from being a firefighter and 145 00:06:16,320 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 1: stay home with the kid, and then I'm going to 146 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:20,440 Speaker 1: go do this radio stuff and my social media stuff 147 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:22,719 Speaker 1: and my influencer stuff and see where it goes because 148 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:24,279 Speaker 1: because we don't have to worry as much about the 149 00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: money now. 150 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:25,279 Speaker 3: True. 151 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:29,599 Speaker 4: So like for me, I'm a complicated situation because I 152 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 4: don't like quality time as much as most women probably do. 153 00:06:32,880 --> 00:06:34,520 Speaker 4: So women are like I love being with my man 154 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:36,039 Speaker 4: twenty four seven and I want to beating your skin. 155 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:38,559 Speaker 3: I'm not like that, Like I love being away. 156 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:40,400 Speaker 1: So that's what I'm saying. So you'd force him to 157 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 1: retire so that you could go to work, because it 158 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 1: doesn't matter that you make less than him now because 159 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:47,520 Speaker 1: you're subsidizing it with your lottery winnings. So now you 160 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:49,320 Speaker 1: make the same or more than him because you can 161 00:06:49,320 --> 00:06:51,159 Speaker 1: contribute because you got all this money in the bank. 162 00:06:51,360 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 4: I think I want to lead him to his passion, 163 00:06:53,279 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 4: which is fighting fires. 164 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 3: I keep him, I'm saying, to keep him working. 165 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:58,560 Speaker 1: I want him working well. 166 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 4: Be smart the pensh and the smart healthcare, like I 167 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 4: We've got to be smart about this. 168 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 3: And then obviously quality time is not my love language. 169 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:08,280 Speaker 4: So I like my man at work, so then when 170 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:10,880 Speaker 4: he comes home, then I can take it maybe easy, 171 00:07:10,880 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 4: and like, you know, I could hire a nanny or 172 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 4: do things like that so we can have our time. 173 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 1: Okay, so nothing would change, but you'd hire nanny pretty much. 174 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 4: Okay, all right, let me see you pay my mom 175 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:20,880 Speaker 4: back or something? 176 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 1: What Christina do? Hey Christina? How you doing? 177 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:24,960 Speaker 6: Good morning? 178 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:25,400 Speaker 5: How are you? 179 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 1: I thanks for calling? So you are you in a 180 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 1: I can't even say the word. It's hard for me 181 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 1: to spit it out. Are you a see it doesn't 182 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 1: even come out of my mouth. A relationship? 183 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 6: Yes I am. I'm married for seventeen years. 184 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:41,560 Speaker 1: All right, So your husband comes home, Let's say with 185 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:44,400 Speaker 1: a million dollars. He want a million dollars free and 186 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:48,520 Speaker 1: clear from the lottery, And you're like, great, so we 187 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 1: can do X Y Z and he let's just say, 188 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 1: and I'm sure Christina, your husband would never do this, 189 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:58,680 Speaker 1: but he says, no, Actually, I am going to do 190 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:01,280 Speaker 1: this with the money. What do you think. 191 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 6: Because at the end of the day, like we are, 192 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:08,920 Speaker 6: we are partners. We are partners in life and everything 193 00:08:08,960 --> 00:08:12,560 Speaker 6: that we do with money and everything, it's always about 194 00:08:12,680 --> 00:08:15,480 Speaker 6: the benefit of our partnership, the benefit of our kids, 195 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:18,360 Speaker 6: the benefit of our kids' future and their kids future, 196 00:08:18,920 --> 00:08:22,239 Speaker 6: and so money, money is something that we talk about 197 00:08:22,280 --> 00:08:25,240 Speaker 6: every day. And if he won a million dollars to 198 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 6: and be like said. 199 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 5: That, you know, you don't get anything, it would go 200 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:31,560 Speaker 5: into our mutual investment account. 201 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:33,719 Speaker 6: We would invest it for our future so that when 202 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 6: he retires in two years that he can be like, 203 00:08:37,440 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 6: you know what, like I worked really hard. I was 204 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:42,720 Speaker 6: successful because we worked as a partnership, and now we 205 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:45,599 Speaker 6: will both benefit from this lottery money as opposed to 206 00:08:45,679 --> 00:08:49,080 Speaker 6: being selfish and only thinking of their well being. Because again, 207 00:08:49,520 --> 00:08:53,079 Speaker 6: being married, you you were in this together, and these decisions, 208 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:56,440 Speaker 6: these life altering decisions have to be made together, because otherwise, 209 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 6: why are you married? 210 00:08:57,720 --> 00:08:59,640 Speaker 1: I agreat like you might as well divorce if you're 211 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:02,079 Speaker 1: that kid. Yet that's what it's supposed to be right there. 212 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 2: That's what it should be. 213 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:05,760 Speaker 1: Man. Now, if I call him, I trust he'll say 214 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 1: the exact same thing. 215 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:11,400 Speaker 6: I have no doubt whatsoever, Kiki. 216 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:14,760 Speaker 1: So it's it's they make the decision together. It's not 217 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 1: what benefits you either way. 218 00:09:16,360 --> 00:09:16,840 Speaker 3: That's right. 219 00:09:16,920 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 2: And you know what, her man loves her, and her 220 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 2: man will probably want her to stop working. 221 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:23,599 Speaker 1: Do you think that would be the case. Do you 222 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:24,960 Speaker 1: think if you had that kind of money that your 223 00:09:25,040 --> 00:09:27,320 Speaker 1: husband would say, you know what, want you stay home 224 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:29,040 Speaker 1: and play pickleball day? 225 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:31,800 Speaker 6: So you know what? So I am. I'm a stay 226 00:09:31,800 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 6: at home mom already. 227 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:38,160 Speaker 1: H that's a good woman, because that's a very hard 228 00:09:38,240 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 1: job and everything else. Yeah, okay, well see now I 229 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:43,839 Speaker 1: would argue that, I would argue that the nice thing, 230 00:09:43,960 --> 00:09:46,040 Speaker 1: if you really wanted to do something nice, he hires 231 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:47,719 Speaker 1: a nanny and then you don't have to do much 232 00:09:47,720 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 1: of anything because what you're doing is equally hard. Honest Yeah, 233 00:09:51,679 --> 00:09:54,840 Speaker 1: you are pollin is onto something tail sold stuff. 234 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 5: I don't want anybody else, Honestly, I wouldn't want anybody 235 00:09:57,840 --> 00:10:00,839 Speaker 5: else raising my kids, Okay, honestly, all right, fair enough 236 00:10:00,960 --> 00:10:03,640 Speaker 5: at all? I see kids day and I'm like, nope, 237 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:05,880 Speaker 5: I wouldn't want anyone else touching there and raising them. 238 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:08,840 Speaker 1: Pauline is open to it. So how did the day, Christina? 239 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:10,680 Speaker 1: Thank you for calling Glad. 240 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, it takes a village, guys. 241 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:14,839 Speaker 1: I'm open to it. I don't even hack you, right, 242 00:10:15,520 --> 00:10:18,400 Speaker 1: I mean, I pop in, I pop in, I supervise 243 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:20,640 Speaker 1: the process. You know, how are things going with the 244 00:10:20,720 --> 00:10:22,719 Speaker 1: raising of my kids? I would say things like that, you. 245 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:24,679 Speaker 4: Know, to be fair for parents who do know, use 246 00:10:24,760 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 4: daycare or use nanny's, Like, that's not quote raising your kids. 247 00:10:27,559 --> 00:10:30,000 Speaker 4: I'm sorry to crush her bubble. It's not raising anybody's kids. 248 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:32,800 Speaker 4: You're still raising your children. It's called a village. It's 249 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:33,280 Speaker 4: called help. 250 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:33,480 Speaker 6: Oh. 251 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: I would agree with that if you take it, If 252 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 1: you take your kids a daycare because both of you 253 00:10:36,920 --> 00:10:39,680 Speaker 1: have to work, that's that no one's raising your children exactly. 254 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:42,160 Speaker 3: They're helping you, exactly one. They're the greatest help. 255 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:44,080 Speaker 1: I think when people say that, they're referring to the 256 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 1: folks who have nanny's twenty four to seven. 257 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:48,319 Speaker 4: You know, like Kim Kardashi don't care, but we handle 258 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:50,000 Speaker 4: like all the day to day, right, we. 259 00:10:50,000 --> 00:10:51,800 Speaker 3: Don't got like that. But you know, a little bit 260 00:10:51,880 --> 00:10:54,319 Speaker 3: of a break here and there is nice okay, and. 261 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 1: Then Camlin, I don't even. The funny thing is I 262 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 1: don't even have to ask where you stand on this 263 00:10:57,280 --> 00:10:59,040 Speaker 1: because I already know you would just be equitable. You 264 00:10:59,160 --> 00:11:00,000 Speaker 1: just put it down the middle. 265 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:02,720 Speaker 7: No, I would not, you wouldn't, absolutely not. No, I'm 266 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:05,600 Speaker 7: somewhere in between. I I'm somewhere in between. 267 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:07,680 Speaker 1: I know, Tason would I figured the two on this 268 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:09,559 Speaker 1: side of the table would be you know, tasting, but well, 269 00:11:09,600 --> 00:11:13,440 Speaker 1: what's fair is you know? And then I say, okay, 270 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: I love it enough with that really, so you okay, 271 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:16,680 Speaker 1: what would. 272 00:11:16,440 --> 00:11:19,160 Speaker 7: You do somewhere in between? So I you know, I 273 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:21,720 Speaker 7: would have to see how much I want. First of all, honey, 274 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:24,880 Speaker 7: we are taking care of my loans, my debt, which, 275 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 7: of course I'm gonna lace you up like I'm gonna 276 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 7: get you some fits whatever. We're gonna go on some 277 00:11:29,120 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 7: nice date nights once all my debt is paid. Gotta 278 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:34,800 Speaker 7: take care of my mom whatever she needs. I mean, 279 00:11:34,840 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 7: that woman's been there since the beginning. 280 00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:40,679 Speaker 1: Okay, So the money's gone, so that much debt? Damn well, 281 00:11:40,720 --> 00:11:43,080 Speaker 1: I mean a million dollars. I'm serious. If you if 282 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:44,920 Speaker 1: you really sit down and think about it, a million 283 00:11:44,960 --> 00:11:47,679 Speaker 1: dollars these days would go fast. What the amount of 284 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:50,880 Speaker 1: student debt people have, and y and credit card debt 285 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:52,839 Speaker 1: and all the different kinds of things, mortgages. Maybe you 286 00:11:52,840 --> 00:11:54,559 Speaker 1: would and put a down payment on a house. Maybe 287 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:56,880 Speaker 1: you tried to buy a house. Money's gone. Million dollars 288 00:11:56,960 --> 00:11:58,400 Speaker 1: is not good. It's not what it was when we 289 00:11:58,400 --> 00:11:59,199 Speaker 1: were really little. 290 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 7: Yeah, I have, like, you know, a couple thousand dollars 291 00:12:01,559 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 7: in debt, so I'd be okay, break my mom off 292 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 7: a little bit, you know, a little bit for my 293 00:12:05,320 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 7: sister or whatever, and then I take I would take 294 00:12:07,960 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 7: care of his debt for sure. But I'm I'm yes, yes, 295 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:14,319 Speaker 7: I'm sorry. 296 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:17,120 Speaker 3: I've been in debt for longer than I've known this man. 297 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:19,040 Speaker 3: You know what I mean. Debt have a relationship, you 298 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:19,839 Speaker 3: were married. 299 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:21,400 Speaker 1: Would it be different, would you treat the same? Well, 300 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:22,480 Speaker 1: I think you might have to. 301 00:12:22,760 --> 00:12:25,840 Speaker 7: If I was married again, I'm still taking care of 302 00:12:25,840 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 7: my debt first. 303 00:12:26,760 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 3: And I'm so sorry. 304 00:12:27,840 --> 00:12:30,280 Speaker 7: But my mom is she was a single mom, like 305 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:32,840 Speaker 7: she's got to get something. There's something that's going on. 306 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 7: But of course I would. I would spend the rest 307 00:12:35,080 --> 00:12:36,200 Speaker 7: of the money on my partner. 308 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:40,360 Speaker 1: Of course, if he's won, if he well, I know 309 00:12:40,400 --> 00:12:41,080 Speaker 1: what he would. 310 00:12:40,840 --> 00:12:43,040 Speaker 7: Need if he wants, I would need him to take 311 00:12:43,080 --> 00:12:44,720 Speaker 7: care of his debt because he's got debt and he 312 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:45,560 Speaker 7: needs to take care of it. 313 00:12:45,640 --> 00:12:47,680 Speaker 1: I feel like he would just candy the check and 314 00:12:47,720 --> 00:12:56,560 Speaker 1: to bow to you. 315 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:57,480 Speaker 3: Because I want, like, well, then his debt. 316 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:01,560 Speaker 7: It's crazy that he loves me, but it's like, listen, like, 317 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:04,000 Speaker 7: you gotta take care of your debt. You got to 318 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:05,959 Speaker 7: be in the best position to be my partner. That's 319 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:08,439 Speaker 7: not my fair point, seriously, like I would rather you 320 00:13:08,600 --> 00:13:09,520 Speaker 7: not have debt than. 321 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:11,200 Speaker 3: Just buy me, you know whatever. I can't wait for 322 00:13:11,240 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 3: that day. Yeah, it'll be like twenty eighty nine, but 323 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:13,480 Speaker 3: I can't. 324 00:13:13,320 --> 00:13:17,120 Speaker 1: Wait twenty eighty nine. Congratulate that it'll be wonderful. I 325 00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:19,000 Speaker 1: look forward to that debt. Put from my calendar. I'll 326 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 1: send you a calendar invite for twenty eighty nine. 327 00:13:21,360 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 3: What I got you peased? 328 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:24,360 Speaker 1: See if I never did you say that? But Hobby 329 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 1: loves Paulina. But they would be a totally different conversation 330 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:28,600 Speaker 1: at the Paulina house and it would be at the 331 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:29,559 Speaker 1: at the Kailin House.