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Speaker 1: Call from Nina.

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Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, what's up. How's it going?

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Speaker 1: Hi, it's going pretty good. I did not expect you

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Speaker 1: to pick up. This is crazy.

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Speaker 2: What's your name? Nina Mina or Nina?

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Speaker 1: Nina like? And I am a N with an N.

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Speaker 1: Yes with an N.

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Speaker 2: That's a stupid thing to say, N with an N.

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Speaker 2: That was you know how people say like b as

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Speaker 2: in boy. That was the opposite. It was like ooohs

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Speaker 2: and boo. I had no new information on the second line.

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Speaker 2: I was just saying about that nonsense, you know what?

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Speaker 1: And that's okay. I feel like people fuck up the

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Speaker 1: phonetic alphabet a lot.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, n Nina. Yes, it's very forgiving of you.

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Speaker 2: What were you going to say?

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say, how's your day?

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Speaker 2: Knowing how's my day going? Uh, my day's going okay.

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Speaker 2: I'm in the middle of a lot of mental reorganization.

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Speaker 2: H But I think that that is kind of a

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Speaker 2: constant of life. Things keep moving, something ever stays the same.

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Speaker 2: Uh what about you? What's up with you?

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Speaker 1: Me?

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Speaker 2: And what made you want to call the Gecko Show today?

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Speaker 3: Well, I like, I always listen to your podcast, so

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Speaker 3: I just really wanted.

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Speaker 1: To call in and I guess I was like kind

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Speaker 1: of like an.

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Speaker 3: Ongoing issue that I don't really think there's a solution to.

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Speaker 2: I guess interesting.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, yeah, sorry, I kind of have to make

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Speaker 3: this a little quick because I am at work. But yeah,

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Speaker 3: so basically I don't really like have a great relationship

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Speaker 3: with my dad, you know, like he just consistently is

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Speaker 3: not really there for me in the ways that I

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Speaker 3: need him to be, like emotionally, Like he's there for

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Speaker 3: me financially, but like that's not all like a person needs,

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Speaker 3: you know. And so basically like we constantly will get

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Speaker 3: him to like fights about this because he doesn't like

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Speaker 3: understand that you know that you can you have to

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Speaker 3: show for someone in multiple ways. And he also like

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Speaker 3: when I try to kind of like curate that relationship

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Speaker 3: and build it, he'll like constantly like use anything that

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Speaker 3: I say, like about myself like against me.

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Speaker 1: But it's kind of like a.

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Speaker 2: Difference, I'm sorry, or he'll use what you say about

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Speaker 2: you against you. What does that mean?

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Speaker 3: So, like, for example, like I had like this ex boyfriend,

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Speaker 3: situation because we had broken up, and I told him

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Speaker 3: that like my ex boyfriend had said that he thought

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Speaker 3: I was a bit selfish, and my dad was like, yeah,

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Speaker 3: your ex boyfriend was right, you definitely are selfish, and

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Speaker 3: you like told me that like while we were in

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Speaker 3: an argument. So it's like things that I say, like

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Speaker 3: in my life, Like he'll use that against me.

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Speaker 2: Who but what's your dad's what's your dad's deal? Like,

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Speaker 2: who is he is the person? What's what's give me?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so he has a lot going on himself too,

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Speaker 3: Like he was adopted and he also like was adopted

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Speaker 3: by a family that was like not really great, Like

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Speaker 3: my dad's a black man and he was adopted by

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Speaker 3: a white family.

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Speaker 1: And so it's just it wasn't really like a great

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Speaker 3: Like kind of I would say, abusive, I guess. So

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Speaker 3: he never really had like a great like upbringing. He

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Speaker 3: ended up like going to like jail for like a

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Speaker 3: he became a lawyer. So now he's a lawyer, So

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Speaker 3: he has like a really like crazy upbringing.

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Speaker 2: But because I don't are here your mom still together?

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Speaker 1: No, So they were actually like.

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Speaker 3: They only dated for like a little bit, but then

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Speaker 3: they had me when my mom was like twenty and

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Speaker 3: he was like twenty thirty or something like that.

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Speaker 1: So they were like just dating. They were never married

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Speaker 2: Hmm. And so should I go up? Uh huh yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: go ahead, go ahead?

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Speaker 1: Okay. So should I go on about like the actual

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Sorry? Sorry, I didn't I thought. Uh I thought you

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Speaker 3: Sorry, So, like, so he's there for me financially, like

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Speaker 3: I'm in school now and he's able to, like I guess,

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Speaker 3: like pay for that stuff. But like I really hate

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Speaker 3: like that. And if I like try to like not

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Speaker 3: threaten me like to like stop paying for school or

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Speaker 3: something like that. So like I feel like I'm kind

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Speaker 3: of like really stuck in this situation because like I

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Speaker 2: Ooh interesting, okay, yeah, okay, So the dilemma is that

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Speaker 2: for you, but you also are still reliant upon him

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Speaker 2: financially exactly. But also but in addition to that, there

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it really wasn't. I feel like I just

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Speaker 3: tried so many times, and like recently in November, like

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Speaker 3: things that were like really hurtful to me. And I

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's really tough. And I'm I I Mina.

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Speaker 3: Me and or Nina, Nina, and I am I heard

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Speaker 2: I heard an end? Yeah, Nina, first of all, Mina,

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Speaker 2: I I'm really uh genuine, I'm very sorry to hear

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Speaker 2: because uh no one fucking you know deserves that from

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Speaker 2: their parents. Yeah, you know, it's it's it's it's not cool.

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Speaker 2: You deserve better. And uh I'm sorry that you got unlucky.

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Speaker 2: Uh in this situation because uh, I mean, that's the

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Speaker 2: that's a really tough but kind of sad thing, is

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Speaker 2: that the onus after you've kind of done your best

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Speaker 2: it's such a bummer because you can't force anyone to

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Speaker 2: a bummer because you see, you're his fucking daughter. He

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Speaker 2: should he shouldn't be, you know, telling you that you're

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Speaker 2: So that's that's a shame, and I'm sorry about that. Now.

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Speaker 2: As as far as like what do you do, like

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Speaker 2: do you keep hanging out with him? Listen, I don't

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Speaker 2: do it whatever you know, if if that was the

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Speaker 2: part of trying to be a good daughter, whatever whatever

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Speaker 2: that's good enough for me to go to sleep at

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Speaker 2: I don't think I don't think there's anything wrong with

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Speaker 2: things with him. I'm not gonna, I'm gonna I'm gonna disengage.

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Speaker 2: I've put myself out on the table. I've told him

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna disengage. I'm not gonna take any bait. I'm

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know if that was helpful, but that's

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Speaker 3: That's kind of the conclusion I came to already. But

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Speaker 3: like it just kind of sucks like a lot, and

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Speaker 3: like it also is like really annoying because I think,

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Speaker 3: similar personalities and we're both pretty prideful people. So like

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Speaker 3: swallowing my pride is like a bit hard for me.

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Speaker 3: But I mean, I've like this kind of in this situation,

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Speaker 3: I feel like there's actually no winning, so I've kind

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Speaker 2: Mm hmmm, hm, no, I feel I feel for you, dude.

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Speaker 2: It does suck, like it's it's ha's your relationship with

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Speaker 1: Actually so good?

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Speaker 3: I love my mom so much. Me and her have

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Speaker 3: Like she gets me, I feel like on every.

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Speaker 1: Level, So like that's wow.

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Speaker 3: A positive thing that I feel like I have out

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Speaker 3: of this is like my.

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Speaker 1: Mom knows my dad.

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Speaker 3: She's been a him for longer than I have, so

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Speaker 3: to like get what I need financially, but like not

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Speaker 2: What's your mom's take on this whole thing?

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Speaker 1: She is kind of just like.

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Speaker 3: She kind of thinks one, I should kind of just

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Speaker 3: I still have to go Like right now, I'm in

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Speaker 3: So she's like either faked so you make it, or

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Speaker 2: What just like blaming childhood trauma for a little too long?

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Speaker 1: That you're at.

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Speaker 2: Mm hmm. What are you going to school for?

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Speaker 1: Behavioral neuroscience?

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Speaker 2: Do you ever like think of yourself as a rat

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Speaker 3: I feel like I keep pulling the lever that is

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you think you think the rats? Ever? Do

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Speaker 1: But I don't know.

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Speaker 3: The stuff that I've like or the studies that I've

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Speaker 2: Nina, Is there anything else you want to say to

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Speaker 1: I guess just like, never give up on yourself.

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Speaker 2: Beautiful, Thank you Nina?

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Speaker 1: All right, No, go have a good day.

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Speaker 2: That was Nina. Mm hmm, yeah, man, that stuff's a bummer.

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's just another one of those situations

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Speaker 2: wanta hello, Hello, Hi, what's up?

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Speaker 7: Oh my gosh, no way, nothing, what's up with you?

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Speaker 2: What's up with me? I'm in a room. It's kind

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Speaker 7: My name is Maddix.

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Speaker 2: Did you say that already?

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Speaker 2: I don't think So what are you doing, Maddis?

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Speaker 7: I am sitting here with my boyfriend and just watching

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Speaker 2: Now, what game is your boyfriend playing?

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Speaker 1: What are you playing? Rivals?

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Speaker 2: Marvel Rivals, Marvel Rivals. I've heard of Marvel Rivals. This

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Speaker 2: And what do you use? What character do you see?

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Speaker 7: She's got a great bod of really big booty, but

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Speaker 2: Invisible woman, Invisible woman, No way, is that fucking real?

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Speaker 2: That's wait, the Invisible woman is hold on Visible Woman?

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Speaker 8: I know I am playing as her, but my my

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Speaker 2: She really wants to talk about something else. Okay, you

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Speaker 1: Oh say, okay, I'm here.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So you really want to talk about something besides

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Speaker 1: Do you?

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Speaker 7: Do you have any context from my text or is

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Speaker 7: Well, my mother is she has a severe spending addiction

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Speaker 7: She just will not quit buying things. I'm an only child,

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Speaker 3: Hmm.

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Speaker 2: Okay. And but she likes very very she likes very okay.

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Speaker 7: No. So I moved out when I was nineteen because

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Speaker 2: And how did you find out that your mom was

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Speaker 7: I found out because when I was sixteen, she.

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Speaker 7: Yes, and he's the CEO of a company, married with

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Speaker 2: guy is your You said you're twenty two. This guy

446
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:50,240
Speaker 2: is this guy's twenty two?

447
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 7: No, no, no, no, he worked with my mom. He's

448
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:58,399
Speaker 7: my mom's age, so in his fifties, but his kids

449
00:26:58,440 --> 00:26:59,159
Speaker 7: are my age.

450
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:02,399
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, Okay that freaked me out for a second.

451
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:04,879
Speaker 2: I was like, this is gonna be way crazier of

452
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 2: a story that I anticipated.

453
00:27:07,080 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 7: Okay, go ahead, No, it's already crazy enough.

454
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:16,600
Speaker 5: But oh so his mom, the guy that she is

455
00:27:16,680 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 5: sleeping with.

456
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 7: His mom was actually my grandpa's secretary for like thirty

457
00:27:23,119 --> 00:27:27,359
Speaker 7: years as well, So there's like a lot of lore there.

458
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 7: So like our families really know each other well. So

459
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,120
Speaker 7: that makes it even more uncomfortable. We don't like hang

460
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:42,000
Speaker 7: out with them or anything. But I mean, I guess

461
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 7: my mom does, but not my dad and I m.

462
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 2: Hm okay, so are you what are you are you

463
00:27:56,960 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 2: thinking about like revealing this or because it's been six years,

464
00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:05,520
Speaker 2: are you like have you kind of learned to just

465
00:28:05,600 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 2: live with it? Like what's your vibe?

466
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:12,800
Speaker 4: No?

467
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:17,639
Speaker 7: No, it's it's something that eats away.

468
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:18,960
Speaker 1: I mean every day.

469
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:23,200
Speaker 7: I mean I can't it's so hard to look at

470
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:23,639
Speaker 7: my mom.

471
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:27,640
Speaker 5: It's hard to look at my dad. But they have.

472
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:30,639
Speaker 7: Never had a good marriage.

473
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 1: They have fought my whole childhood.

474
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:40,800
Speaker 7: They my mom told me, not like maybe a couple

475
00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:44,040
Speaker 7: of years ago, that they hadn't had sex in like

476
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:50,680
Speaker 7: fifteen years. Like they're just they've never been affectionate, so

477
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:54,240
Speaker 7: it's not a good marriage. My dad is kind of

478
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 7: still with my mom because she He doesn't want her

479
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 7: to take like all his retirement and all his money

480
00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 7: if they get a divorce now, like everything he's worked for.

481
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 7: It's kind of what he told me. My mom's bipolar,

482
00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:18,440
Speaker 7: so that's also a factor. She's threatened to severely harm

483
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 7: and kill my dad and I before she's gone too

484
00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 7: had psychotic breaks, so he also is worried about her

485
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 7: and what a divorce would do.

486
00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 1: To her mental state as well. So there's just a

487
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:30,440
Speaker 1: lot there.

488
00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 5: Bro, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

489
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 2: No no no no no no no no no no

490
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:40,240
Speaker 2: no no no no, this you have nothing to be

491
00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 2: sorry for.

492
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:40,920
Speaker 4: It all.

493
00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 2: The follow up to me saying Bro, is so you're

494
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 2: twenty two, what's going on with you? Because at a

495
00:29:50,320 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 2: certain point, right at a certain point, I believe that

496
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 2: you know at the age two, if you so desire

497
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:07,760
Speaker 2: to be like, you know what, my family is a

498
00:30:07,800 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 2: little fucking crazy. And I think my responsibility as a

499
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:19,360
Speaker 2: young adult is for me to now focus on developing

500
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 2: my own life, whatever that looks like for me, and

501
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:31,520
Speaker 2: not being so deeply engulfed in my family's drama. Do

502
00:30:31,520 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? I know that's a really

503
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:35,800
Speaker 2: hard thing to do, but I feel like that's at

504
00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 2: a certain point where your brain's got to be at,

505
00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? So where are you in

506
00:30:41,720 --> 00:30:43,880
Speaker 2: that context?

507
00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 5: No, definitely. And I think depending on what is going on,

508
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:53,800
Speaker 5: like how I'm.

509
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:59,040
Speaker 7: Doing mentally, I guess like kind of dictates how involved

510
00:30:59,080 --> 00:30:59,520
Speaker 7: I get into it.

511
00:30:59,560 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 1: Cauld.

512
00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 7: I think if I'm I don't know, if I'm am

513
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 7: being true to like shit at work and I'm like depressed,

514
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 7: then I think I'm more I like, go into it more,

515
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 7: if that makes sense, Like I I don't know, I

516
00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 7: don't know. It's almost like maybe I don't know. I

517
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,120
Speaker 7: think about my fucked up family to not think about

518
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 7: to face my problems that are actually happening.

519
00:31:22,200 --> 00:31:24,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, that makes perfect sense. That makes every sense.

520
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 5: And I think it's easy to be like, oh, my

521
00:31:27,240 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 5: family's sucked up and all this shit's going on, so.

522
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 1: Let me deal with that.

523
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 7: But it's like I am realizing now, like how many

524
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 7: years am I gonna deal with this bullshit?

525
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:39,520
Speaker 1: And like worry about this bullshit?

526
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:42,840
Speaker 7: Like this worrying is doing nothing for me, and so

527
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:46,040
Speaker 7: I'm it's hard, like you said, but I'm trying to

528
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:49,719
Speaker 7: distance myself from that. But it's just hard when I'm

529
00:31:49,760 --> 00:31:52,800
Speaker 7: an only child too, and I feel like I need

530
00:31:52,800 --> 00:31:55,720
Speaker 7: to take care of my parents and be there for them.

531
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 9: So that's part yeah, yeah, because it because right, because

532
00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:01,720
Speaker 9: if you had a brother or sister and they were

533
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 9: checked out, you might be able to look at them

534
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 9: and go all right, well they're checked out.

535
00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna go ahead and check out too.

536
00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:10,960
Speaker 2: Or if you had a brother, so that was like,

537
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:13,960
Speaker 2: you know, dealing with it, you'd be like, oh, it

538
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 2: might break, could bring you either way. But yeah, I

539
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 2: understand why as an only child, do you feel this

540
00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 2: like responsibility of some kind to still be involved.

541
00:32:30,840 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 7: M hmm.

542
00:32:32,640 --> 00:32:37,280
Speaker 2: But I mean you have a boyfriend who's playing Marvel Rivals.

543
00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, you have a job mm hmm.

544
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 2: And you you rent an apartment. You don't live with

545
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 2: your parents.

546
00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 7: Right, right, yes, I do have an apartment, all.

547
00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 2: Right, So you've got your own life going on. Yes,

548
00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 2: you've got your own gardens to water.

549
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,320
Speaker 4: Mm hmmm mm hmmm.

550
00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:08,720
Speaker 2: So I love so I love that. So that's pretty good.

551
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:10,600
Speaker 2: That's pretty good.

552
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:18,320
Speaker 7: I guess where where do I start with that? Because

553
00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:24,400
Speaker 7: I feel like I've lived in such this like trauma.

554
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:27,160
Speaker 1: Written state, or like just a state of.

555
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:31,400
Speaker 7: High anxiety and how can I fix things? And walking

556
00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 7: on eggshells and that I just don't even know how

557
00:33:33,560 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 7: to go about prioritizing myself, I guess, And I feel

558
00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:39,200
Speaker 7: so stealfish for that.

559
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:41,240
Speaker 1: And yeah, well.

560
00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:42,640
Speaker 2: For what I mean. You look, you're already doing it

561
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:49,240
Speaker 2: right like you have Uh. I mean, I feel like

562
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 2: in America, if you can, I really do. I feel

563
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 2: like in America we have a thing where it's like, listen,

564
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 2: if you can pay your bills and you are in

565
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:12,080
Speaker 2: a relationship that makes you happy, that's uh. Not every

566
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 2: relationship has some form of problem, right, But if you're

567
00:34:14,520 --> 00:34:19,919
Speaker 2: in a relationship that you know one could look at

568
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:23,040
Speaker 2: and judge it to be healthy, and your bills are

569
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:30,040
Speaker 2: paid and you feel moderately happy, You're not on drugs,

570
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 2: you're not killing anyone you're you're like pretty crazy successful

571
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 2: if you can accomplish those basic things as an independent adult,

572
00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 2: and you're you're managing to accomplish them, so you know,

573
00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:51,719
Speaker 2: a plus already on that, So you're already you're already

574
00:34:51,760 --> 00:35:00,759
Speaker 2: doing it. So I think this like hieing anxiety thing

575
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:03,880
Speaker 2: is like, well, well, I don't know, I don't. I

576
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:07,640
Speaker 2: don't really know what other aspects of your life you're

577
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 2: hoping to develop and endeavor for or just maintain and

578
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:18,480
Speaker 2: and uh enjoy. If those are the two real things

579
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:21,080
Speaker 2: we can do in life, is either continue to develop

580
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,719
Speaker 2: it or or or enjoy it for whatever it is.

581
00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 2: That's your task is just being in your own life.

582
00:35:33,600 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 2: How do you go about doing it? I mean, you're already,

583
00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:40,760
Speaker 2: I don't you're already doing it, so like a limit

584
00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:45,520
Speaker 2: the amount of time you spend indulging in your family's

585
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 2: drama and uh, you know, indulge in your own drama.

586
00:35:53,239 --> 00:35:55,920
Speaker 2: You know, I'm sure tell your boyfriend he's playing too

587
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:58,239
Speaker 2: much more rivals, he's gotta you know.

588
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:04,560
Speaker 7: Yeah, yeah, I like that.

589
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:09,359
Speaker 5: I like that, And okay that thank you.

590
00:36:09,440 --> 00:36:12,960
Speaker 7: That was amazing and I needed to hear that. This

591
00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 7: leads me into another question. I just got this new

592
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:23,879
Speaker 7: travel job. And do you have any tips on being

593
00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:29,720
Speaker 7: on the road being away from one place your home?

594
00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 2: I guess since you travel, have you done much travel?

595
00:36:35,160 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 7: I have, just not for work and not for like

596
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:43,839
Speaker 7: weeks at a time or a month at a time.

597
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:46,839
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm. Where are you going?

598
00:36:50,200 --> 00:36:50,719
Speaker 1: Wherever?

599
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:51,719
Speaker 5: They send me?

600
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:58,440
Speaker 7: Any anywhere, but probably I'm in Kansas and so probably

601
00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 7: around the the very area.

602
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:01,560
Speaker 1: First.

603
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 2: Okay, are they sending you to the land of Oz?

604
00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:09,520
Speaker 2: That was like a dad joke? That wasn't that funny?

605
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:14,560
Speaker 1: Uh? Oh?

606
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:18,320
Speaker 2: Wait? Do I have any tips for traveling around Missouri?

607
00:37:19,040 --> 00:37:19,400
Speaker 1: No?

608
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 7: No, no, no, Just in general, like, do you bring

609
00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:27,359
Speaker 7: anything for comfort from home or any I don't know

610
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:31,080
Speaker 7: any kind of beginner travel for work tips.

611
00:37:32,239 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 2: Why bring a tooth bring a toothbrush?

612
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 6: Uh?

613
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:43,799
Speaker 2: Almonds? Bring bring almonds to not eat and to buy

614
00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 2: skittles at the gas station instead and eat those that

615
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 2: have omens to look at you're going, by the way. Well, truthfully,

616
00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 2: if you live in Kansas, Kans in Missouri are kind

617
00:38:01,600 --> 00:38:04,720
Speaker 2: of the exact same place. There's no true difference between

618
00:38:04,800 --> 00:38:11,279
Speaker 2: those two places. There's a version, there's you know, your

619
00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:15,759
Speaker 2: exact life and the exact life of all of your

620
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:18,799
Speaker 2: friends and family. Also, someone has the exact same life

621
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 2: in Missouri. There's a McDonald's in your hometown of Missouri.

622
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:29,760
Speaker 2: That is also there's another McDonald's there. It's the same.

623
00:38:30,600 --> 00:38:35,960
Speaker 2: It's all the same. Kansas and Missouri are pretty much

624
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:38,680
Speaker 2: the same exact place, and someone who lives there might

625
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:41,839
Speaker 2: get upset with me about that, but I don't. I mean,

626
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:44,760
Speaker 2: they're I mean, I mean, listen, I'll take it further.

627
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:47,960
Speaker 2: I think everywhere is also. I think everywhere is kind

628
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 2: of the same. That's what you learn traveling, is that

629
00:38:52,040 --> 00:38:58,799
Speaker 2: everywhere is exactly the same. You know. I think Missouri

630
00:38:59,719 --> 00:39:09,319
Speaker 2: and its Becca, Stan and Beijing and Australia are all

631
00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:12,839
Speaker 2: the same place. I'm sorry this is a horrible answer

632
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 2: to your question, but.

633
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:17,880
Speaker 7: No, I think my question was just horrible.

634
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:21,920
Speaker 2: So that's it was not a horrible question. It was

635
00:39:22,920 --> 00:39:24,719
Speaker 2: it was a nice question. I should have a better

636
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:30,960
Speaker 2: answer to that. Yeah, just I don't have fun going

637
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 2: a walk. That's my actual answers. Wherever, if you I'm

638
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:38,319
Speaker 2: that serious, If you okay, that's my actual answer. If

639
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 2: you get stuck in some like shit assu laquenta in

640
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:47,319
Speaker 2: on the side of the road, in Missouri. Just go

641
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:49,799
Speaker 2: on a walk and look at stuff and just be like,

642
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:53,320
Speaker 2: this stuff is different from the stuff that is directly

643
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 2: around me most of the time. So just walk around

644
00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:58,760
Speaker 2: and look at stuff. That's my best travel advice.

645
00:40:00,440 --> 00:40:03,160
Speaker 1: That's good. I like that. I like that.

646
00:40:04,280 --> 00:40:05,799
Speaker 2: Is there anything you want to say to the people

647
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:08,840
Speaker 2: of the computer before we go? Maddx?

648
00:40:12,960 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 7: Oh God, just be kind to one another. You never

649
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:24,400
Speaker 7: know what someone's going through. Don't comment on other people's bodies.

650
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:28,400
Speaker 7: It's really none of your business. And everyone, have a

651
00:40:28,440 --> 00:40:30,319
Speaker 7: great night and love you all.

652
00:40:30,440 --> 00:40:32,839
Speaker 2: Love you guys, Thank you, maddox, have a good rest

653
00:40:32,840 --> 00:40:33,200
Speaker 2: of the night.

654
00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:34,640
Speaker 3: Bye.

655
00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:40,960
Speaker 2: Okay, Marvel Rivals. It's not an ad, but I'm it

656
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:42,840
Speaker 2: seems like something i'd like. I mean, I like video

657
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:50,320
Speaker 2: games a lot. Uh. Okay, it's a PvP shooter. Is

658
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:53,480
Speaker 2: it on the switch? Okay, it's not on the switch,

659
00:40:53,520 --> 00:40:59,840
Speaker 2: so I'm not gonna play it. It's free to play.

660
00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:01,920
Speaker 2: I don't love if I fuck with those free to

661
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:07,920
Speaker 2: play games. Who do you play? Who are the characters

662
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:12,799
Speaker 2: in it? Playable characters? Penny Parker? Who the fuck?

663
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 4: Is that?

664
00:41:15,719 --> 00:41:22,879
Speaker 2: All right? You can play as thor that's cool, you guys.

665
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Speaker 2: Remember Marvel versus capcom No, all right, hello, Hello, Hi,

666
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Speaker 2: what is your name?

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Speaker 1: I'm Lindsay. Nice to meet you.

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Speaker 2: Nice to meet you too, Lindsay. How's life, Lindsey? What's

669
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Speaker 2: going on?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 1: Life is really weird right now. I am living in

672
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Speaker 1: a new town and I don't know anyone. So I've

673
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 1: been spending a lot of time at like this coffee

674
00:41:51,600 --> 00:41:55,520
Speaker 1: shop that's open for twenty four hours every day. I

675
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:58,479
Speaker 1: am there almost as much as an employee. I would

676
00:41:58,480 --> 00:41:59,959
Speaker 1: think it's kind of sad.

677
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:06,759
Speaker 2: Hmm. It's opened twenty four hours.

678
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:09,880
Speaker 1: It's opened twenty four to seven and never closes.

679
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Speaker 2: Are you in and what hours are you typically in there?

680
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Speaker 1: It really ranges like sometimes I'm in there from like

681
00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:22,879
Speaker 1: one PM to like.

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Speaker 7: Five.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm in there like in the night. The weird

684
00:42:29,640 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 1: stuff always happens there in the night. I don't know,

685
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:34,040
Speaker 1: so I try to go like more in the evening time.

686
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:38,440
Speaker 2: Okay, you said weird stuff happens at night. I really

687
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:40,040
Speaker 2: want to know if you've been in there at like

688
00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:41,759
Speaker 2: three am, and if you have what.

689
00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:46,839
Speaker 1: Is the vibe? I have only one and I'm never

690
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:50,880
Speaker 1: going back in there because I got chased by a

691
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:54,120
Speaker 1: man that was in there, and then I didn't have

692
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:57,360
Speaker 1: any pepper spray, but I bought pepper spray immediately afterwards.

693
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Speaker 2: WHOA you got chased? Was there any context or like

694
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:04,400
Speaker 2: this dude just starts chasing It was I mean.

695
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 1: He was like in there and he was kind of

696
00:43:06,120 --> 00:43:09,440
Speaker 1: acting weird and like looking at me a lot, and

697
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:12,560
Speaker 1: I was like, I can tell that, like there's something

698
00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:15,960
Speaker 1: wrong with you. And he kept on trying to give

699
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 1: me stuff while we were in there. It was just

700
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:21,279
Speaker 1: us too in this coffee shop. Nobody else was in

701
00:43:21,280 --> 00:43:23,839
Speaker 1: there beside the barista, and I was like, I don't

702
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:26,279
Speaker 1: really know what she's supposed to do about this, So

703
00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:30,160
Speaker 1: I just kind of was like, Okay, I think I

704
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:34,279
Speaker 1: need to get out of here. M So I went

705
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:36,719
Speaker 1: to go leave and he followed me outside and I

706
00:43:37,440 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 1: started to run, and then he started to run, and

707
00:43:41,960 --> 00:43:45,319
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, what the fuck? And

708
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:47,960
Speaker 1: I like, I did like the horror movie fumble with

709
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:52,320
Speaker 1: the keys in my car, and I almost I almost

710
00:43:52,360 --> 00:43:53,720
Speaker 1: had to run him over to get away.

711
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Speaker 2: Jesus.

712
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:58,800
Speaker 1: But I mean, that was just strange. But the weirdest

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Speaker 1: thing that I've seen in the carffee shop has been

714
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Speaker 1: this past week or so I've seen the same person

715
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Speaker 1: three times and they keep on peeing in the coffee

716
00:44:10,840 --> 00:44:12,239
Speaker 1: shop chairs.

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Speaker 2: They get peeing in the coffee shop chairs, yes, like

718
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 2: like you're seeing them do it?

719
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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm pretty sure that it's pee.

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Speaker 3: Fuck it's.

721
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:35,120
Speaker 2: What are you like going over there and sniff at it, Like,

722
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:36,160
Speaker 2: how do you know that it's p.

723
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Speaker 1: Well, this happened three times now, three times a few

724
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Speaker 1: A few days ago, I was in there, and I mean,

725
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:49,120
Speaker 1: it's just like this person. I mean, I'm twenty. They

726
00:44:49,120 --> 00:44:53,040
Speaker 1: look like they're probably around my age, like college age,

727
00:44:53,280 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 1: and they always bring in this giant gaming computer like

728
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:03,239
Speaker 1: it's just like a very heavy duty, Like I don't

729
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:05,400
Speaker 1: really know that much about computers, but it's it's like

730
00:45:05,480 --> 00:45:07,520
Speaker 1: pretty big. I wouldn't really expect that you would like

731
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:09,719
Speaker 1: take it out of your house, but they just go

732
00:45:09,840 --> 00:45:13,759
Speaker 1: in there and set on. They're in there for hours,

733
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Speaker 1: just like on the game, and they like I don't know,

734
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:21,239
Speaker 1: I guess they just sit there for so long. I

735
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:23,440
Speaker 1: don't know if they have like a week bladder or something.

736
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:29,120
Speaker 1: But I am I suspect that they are peeing. I

737
00:45:29,160 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 1: don't have any I guess, real proof, but they Reek

738
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 1: of Peace Reek and the chair is always wet when

739
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:40,000
Speaker 1: they get out.

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Speaker 2: So why do you like this coffee shop? I've only

741
00:45:44,840 --> 00:45:46,560
Speaker 2: heard horrible things so far.

742
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Speaker 4: You know what.

743
00:45:48,680 --> 00:45:51,680
Speaker 1: All of my friends ask you that same exact question.

744
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 1: And honestly, it's just like a really it's you know,

745
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:00,240
Speaker 1: it's really cool in there.

746
00:46:00,280 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 4: Like it's a cool place.

747
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:06,200
Speaker 1: It's usually pretty busy, and like it's pretty cheap, and

748
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:08,760
Speaker 1: I'm in college, I don't really have that much money.

749
00:46:09,239 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 1: It's open late, so I can go to homework whenever

750
00:46:12,960 --> 00:46:15,760
Speaker 1: I want. I don't have to worry about leaving at

751
00:46:15,840 --> 00:46:19,920
Speaker 1: any specific time. I mean, there are a lot of

752
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 1: things that are good about it, but also it is

753
00:46:24,080 --> 00:46:28,879
Speaker 1: prime people watching. It's peak people watching in there because

754
00:46:28,920 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 1: there are so many characters that come in.

755
00:46:31,520 --> 00:46:34,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, you've got a way how much you

756
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:36,880
Speaker 2: like people watching with the fact that it sounds like

757
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:38,480
Speaker 2: people are also watching you.

758
00:46:40,080 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: That is true. That is true. I feel like now

759
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 1: I have protection. I have like I mean, I don't

760
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Speaker 1: really know how much pepper spray would do to a person.

761
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Speaker 2: But so have you made any friends there? You had?

762
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Speaker 2: You seem like you kind of mentioned a little bit

763
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 2: that you were you were lonely, that you just moved

764
00:47:03,560 --> 00:47:06,480
Speaker 2: to this new place. Have you kind of found what

765
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:08,800
Speaker 2: you've been looking for at this coffee shop in terms

766
00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:13,400
Speaker 2: of making new connections, I mean.

767
00:47:13,640 --> 00:47:15,600
Speaker 1: I don't really like I usually just kind of go

768
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:21,640
Speaker 1: to do homework, but I've met a couple of people.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes it's pretty busy and there aren't really enough seats

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Speaker 1: for like everyone to sit down when it gets pretty busy,

771
00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:34,719
Speaker 1: so sometimes people will come sit with me kind of

772
00:47:34,719 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 1: like talk to me. That's pretty nice. But honestly, the

773
00:47:37,640 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 1: person that I feel like I've bonded with the most

774
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:42,640
Speaker 1: in the coffee shop is one of the Bearistas. I

775
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:45,959
Speaker 1: just like, I just got her phone number the other day.

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00:47:47,719 --> 00:47:49,480
Speaker 1: She's pretty cool, but I don't know if I would

777
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 1: ever actually ask her to hang out, just because I

778
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:56,239
Speaker 1: don't even know like what to do and like the

779
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:58,719
Speaker 1: area that I'm in, But I mean, I don't really

780
00:47:58,760 --> 00:47:59,080
Speaker 1: go there.

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00:48:01,040 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 2: You said you don't really go to that make friends.

782
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:08,360
Speaker 1: No, I'm just kind of I'm just gonna try to

783
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:09,840
Speaker 1: learn how to be by myself.

784
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Speaker 2: M Okay, why did you move to this new place?

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00:48:15,880 --> 00:48:21,440
Speaker 1: Well, I I go here for college. This it's my

786
00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:23,840
Speaker 1: second year of college, and last year what I was

787
00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:27,640
Speaker 1: doing wasn't really like working for me. So I transferred

788
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Speaker 1: to like a new city, which is really only an

789
00:48:31,920 --> 00:48:36,160
Speaker 1: hour away from where I was at college before, and

790
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:39,120
Speaker 1: I made a lot of good friends over there, So honestly,

791
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:41,880
Speaker 1: on the weekends, I just kind of drive over to

792
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Speaker 1: where I used to go to college and hang out

793
00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:45,920
Speaker 1: with my friends from there.

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00:48:46,640 --> 00:48:52,480
Speaker 2: Mm okay, So are you trying to make a nice

795
00:48:52,520 --> 00:48:54,239
Speaker 2: place for you to be in the place that you're

796
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:56,399
Speaker 2: at so that you don't have to, you know, kind

797
00:48:56,400 --> 00:48:58,360
Speaker 2: of always go home for the weekend.

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00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:04,960
Speaker 1: Not really, I mean I'm kind of thinking about I

799
00:49:04,960 --> 00:49:07,520
Speaker 1: feel like this would make my life so much harder,

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00:49:07,600 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 1: like school wise, I'm thinking about just moving back to

801
00:49:14,600 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 1: where I went to college last year and just commuting

802
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:20,360
Speaker 1: to school like an hour every day. I mean the

803
00:49:20,400 --> 00:49:24,640
Speaker 1: bus ride that I take now, it only takes I

804
00:49:24,640 --> 00:49:26,960
Speaker 1: mean it takes an hour because like it does like

805
00:49:27,000 --> 00:49:28,480
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of stops and it goes a whole

806
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:33,399
Speaker 1: bunch of places. So there's a different bus that goes

807
00:49:33,440 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 1: between the two cities that also takes an hour, And

808
00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:39,960
Speaker 1: I feel like I would much rather do that and

809
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:44,239
Speaker 1: go live with my friends from like where I used

810
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 1: to live than continue to live here. I don't really

811
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 1: have that much time left in the school year, so

812
00:49:49,560 --> 00:49:52,360
Speaker 1: I feel like it's kind of too late for me

813
00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:55,920
Speaker 1: to try to find trust.

814
00:49:58,440 --> 00:49:59,240
Speaker 2: What are you studying.

815
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:04,000
Speaker 1: I am a product design major and I go to

816
00:50:04,040 --> 00:50:07,920
Speaker 1: an art school. It's a very small, very small art school.

817
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:11,279
Speaker 2: So you feel like you don't have enough time left

818
00:50:11,280 --> 00:50:13,440
Speaker 2: in school to even make friends.

819
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:18,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, at least not this year. Like, no one that

820
00:50:19,040 --> 00:50:24,799
Speaker 1: I would let consider living with. And I don't want

821
00:50:24,800 --> 00:50:28,080
Speaker 1: to like live by myself, but I live with these

822
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 1: roommates right now that are so bad. I can't deal

823
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:37,840
Speaker 1: with them anymore. Why this way to be up? They

824
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 1: just like I know that this doesn't seem like that

825
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:43,560
Speaker 1: big of a deal, but they are really just so

826
00:50:43,880 --> 00:50:47,920
Speaker 1: messy and I can't take it, especially in the kitchen.

827
00:50:49,040 --> 00:50:54,240
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm mothering. And they are also both

828
00:50:54,880 --> 00:50:56,160
Speaker 1: like a decade older than me.

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Speaker 2: What's the name of this coffee shop? I'm sorry, I

830
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:02,520
Speaker 2: can't really get it out of my head. It seems

831
00:51:02,520 --> 00:51:04,439
Speaker 2: like a fascinating place. I really want to go there.

832
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:11,520
Speaker 1: It's called the Bitter End Coffee Shop in Grand Rapids, Michigan.

833
00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:19,680
Speaker 2: Wait, hold on the Bitter Ends. Oh shit, Okay'm gonna okay,

834
00:51:19,719 --> 00:51:21,640
Speaker 2: I'm gonna try to check this place out when I

835
00:51:21,680 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 2: go to Grand Rapids this year.

836
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Speaker 4: Lease do.

837
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:30,000
Speaker 2: Grand Rapids, Okay.

838
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Speaker 4: I do.

839
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Speaker 2: Well, it's kind of it's I've never ever in my

840
00:51:34,560 --> 00:51:37,040
Speaker 2: life seen I'm looking at it on Google right now.

841
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 2: I've never in my life seen a twenty four hour

842
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:39,439
Speaker 2: coffee shop.

843
00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:42,880
Speaker 1: I know me either. That's why I was so excited.

844
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:45,799
Speaker 1: That's why I go there so much. It really is

845
00:51:45,840 --> 00:51:47,719
Speaker 1: cool in there. There's just there's just a lot of

846
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:49,560
Speaker 1: stuff happening a lot.

847
00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:52,360
Speaker 2: It's housed in an old bank building.

848
00:51:54,000 --> 00:51:57,400
Speaker 1: It's pretty cool in there. The interior is like really

849
00:51:57,920 --> 00:52:00,279
Speaker 1: pretty sweet. They have a lot of like artwork out

850
00:52:00,320 --> 00:52:00,800
Speaker 1: and stuff.

851
00:52:03,160 --> 00:52:04,320
Speaker 2: You really want to go to this place.

852
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:08,439
Speaker 1: This looks Yeah, some of the are regular. They are

853
00:52:08,640 --> 00:52:13,160
Speaker 1: this group of like seven or eight, Like I don't

854
00:52:13,160 --> 00:52:16,680
Speaker 1: know where they're from, but they are like I think

855
00:52:16,719 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 1: that they speak Arabic. I don't really know how to

856
00:52:20,120 --> 00:52:23,920
Speaker 1: distinguish a lot of different languages. I'm not very knowledgeable

857
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:28,160
Speaker 1: with languages. But they go in there and play cards

858
00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 1: for hours every day. And on the wall there is

859
00:52:32,000 --> 00:52:35,520
Speaker 1: a painting of them playing cards.

860
00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:38,920
Speaker 2: Oh that's awesome. Okay, I'm on our slash. I'm on

861
00:52:39,000 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 2: our slash coffee Shops and somebody posted the Bitter and

862
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:46,359
Speaker 2: Coffee House and the top comment is I am a

863
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:49,400
Speaker 2: Grand Rapids native and I have been here many times.

864
00:52:49,760 --> 00:52:56,840
Speaker 2: Do not recommend many, many, many things wrong with this place.

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Speaker 2: You know what's funny, I feel like that's telling about me,

866
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:02,200
Speaker 2: is that you you were like, uh, yeah, I went

867
00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:05,919
Speaker 2: into this place that I got chased by a stranger

868
00:53:06,040 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 2: to my car and almost died. And I'm like, oh,

869
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:10,759
Speaker 2: it sounds cool, let's go.

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00:53:11,080 --> 00:53:14,240
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, I love I mean, okay,

871
00:53:14,880 --> 00:53:18,239
Speaker 1: that happened to me, and I told my sister about it,

872
00:53:18,760 --> 00:53:21,840
Speaker 1: and then I went back the next day to do homework.

873
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:25,160
Speaker 1: It was like twelve hours later, and she was like,

874
00:53:25,200 --> 00:53:26,839
Speaker 1: I can't believe you're already back in there.

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00:53:28,320 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, have you seen that fucking guy before?

876
00:53:34,120 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 1: No, I have not seen him. I like told I mean,

877
00:53:39,200 --> 00:53:41,040
Speaker 1: I was kind of like in shock about what was

878
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:46,239
Speaker 1: happening while it happened, and then like I didn't really

879
00:53:46,280 --> 00:53:49,000
Speaker 1: know what to do about it, and I was like shit,

880
00:53:49,239 --> 00:53:52,160
Speaker 1: like I don't want this guy to chase anybody else

881
00:53:52,280 --> 00:53:55,040
Speaker 1: out of here like that. That was scary as fuck.

882
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:57,400
Speaker 1: That's the first time anything like that's ever happened to me,

883
00:53:58,160 --> 00:54:02,080
Speaker 1: And like, I guess I'm from like a smaller like

884
00:54:02,840 --> 00:54:09,040
Speaker 1: town that has like less strange people, I guess, but

885
00:54:09,239 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 1: like I don't know. Anyways, I went back the next

886
00:54:12,280 --> 00:54:15,520
Speaker 1: day and I told the girl that was working in there, like,

887
00:54:15,640 --> 00:54:18,239
Speaker 1: hey had a weird like experience last night. I don't

888
00:54:18,280 --> 00:54:20,560
Speaker 1: know if you guys have like any cameras or anything

889
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:24,840
Speaker 1: that you could maybe look at, like you could like

890
00:54:24,920 --> 00:54:27,560
Speaker 1: see this guy like he keeps on coming up to

891
00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:32,759
Speaker 1: me and stuff, and maybe you could, like, I don't

892
00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:35,040
Speaker 1: know if you recognize them if he ever comes in

893
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:38,839
Speaker 1: here again, maybe just like down the leaf mm hmm.

894
00:54:40,800 --> 00:54:41,120
Speaker 6: I don't know.

895
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:46,920
Speaker 2: I'm definitely looks sick crazy are there? I don't even

896
00:54:46,920 --> 00:54:50,560
Speaker 2: know if I've never heard of any like twenty four

897
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 2: to seven coffee houses in the on in the world.

898
00:54:54,440 --> 00:54:57,160
Speaker 1: Uh, this is the first one I've ever seen.

899
00:54:58,040 --> 00:54:59,920
Speaker 2: Hit me. Hit me in the comments, folks, if you

900
00:55:00,080 --> 00:55:01,520
Speaker 2: know any, I want to I want to check them

901
00:55:01,520 --> 00:55:05,360
Speaker 2: all out because I like a good twenty four hour place.

902
00:55:05,920 --> 00:55:10,240
Speaker 2: I like being being in a place the late. But uh, yeah,

903
00:55:12,160 --> 00:55:12,719
Speaker 2: what'd you say?

904
00:55:13,880 --> 00:55:15,880
Speaker 1: COVID killed the twenty four hour established.

905
00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:18,439
Speaker 2: COVID killed the twenty four hour establishment. It's so lame.

906
00:55:18,520 --> 00:55:23,880
Speaker 2: I hate fucking New York like advertise itself as a

907
00:55:23,880 --> 00:55:27,239
Speaker 2: place that you can get anything and do anything all

908
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:32,279
Speaker 2: the time, but it's totally totally not that. At least

909
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:33,960
Speaker 2: in Brooklyn it is. I mean, there's some areas where

910
00:55:34,000 --> 00:55:36,040
Speaker 2: it is, but the whole city. I wish there were

911
00:55:36,040 --> 00:55:39,840
Speaker 2: more like twenty four hour e cities like that. But

912
00:55:40,680 --> 00:55:43,520
Speaker 2: you know, it starts, it starts. It starts with the

913
00:55:43,920 --> 00:55:48,000
Speaker 2: with having a weird coffee house so good. Yeah, good

914
00:55:48,000 --> 00:55:49,600
Speaker 2: looks to Grand Rapids.

915
00:55:50,280 --> 00:55:54,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. I'm so sad about the fact that, like

916
00:55:55,440 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 1: when COVID first happened, I was in I was just

917
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:03,560
Speaker 1: starting high school and like just kind of like starting

918
00:56:03,600 --> 00:56:05,800
Speaker 1: to get a little bit more like independent where I

919
00:56:05,800 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 1: could like go places by myself, and all I wanted

920
00:56:10,120 --> 00:56:12,960
Speaker 1: was to go to like do you know what Meyer is?

921
00:56:14,160 --> 00:56:14,480
Speaker 2: Meyer.

922
00:56:15,760 --> 00:56:20,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like it's kind of like Walmart, but it's

923
00:56:20,320 --> 00:56:24,439
Speaker 1: like justin Michigan and Ohio, but it's very popular here.

924
00:56:26,160 --> 00:56:27,120
Speaker 2: I haven't heard of it.

925
00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 1: But Meyer, it's kind of it's kind of just like Walmart.

926
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:36,120
Speaker 1: It's like any like supermarket really, but like they used

927
00:56:36,120 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 1: to be twenty four hours before COVID happened, and all

928
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:41,879
Speaker 1: I wanted was to go just like walk around into

929
00:56:41,920 --> 00:56:44,520
Speaker 1: Meyer at like four or five in the morning. That's

930
00:56:44,560 --> 00:56:47,640
Speaker 1: all I wanted. And now I can't do it because

931
00:56:47,960 --> 00:56:49,600
Speaker 1: none of them are twenty four hours anymore.

932
00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:53,239
Speaker 8: Nothing.

933
00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:57,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, not around here, you know. I when I first

934
00:56:57,680 --> 00:57:00,080
Speaker 2: got my driver's license, I really wanted to just go

935
00:57:00,200 --> 00:57:06,640
Speaker 2: to Target and play the uh the Xbox demo kiosk.

936
00:57:07,960 --> 00:57:10,799
Speaker 2: And they don't. They don't do them anymore. They don't

937
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:12,520
Speaker 2: really do the demo kiosks anymore.

938
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:15,360
Speaker 4: Huh.

939
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:18,320
Speaker 1: I mean, I've never I've never even touched an Xbox

940
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:23,280
Speaker 1: like in my life, so I really don't. I don't know,

941
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:26,560
Speaker 1: I've never seen anything.

942
00:57:26,320 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 2: Like that, Lindsay, Yes, is there anything else you want

943
00:57:32,640 --> 00:57:34,360
Speaker 2: to say to the people of the computer before we go?

944
00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:46,680
Speaker 1: If you think that somebody might chase you, run run run.

945
00:57:48,280 --> 00:57:49,600
Speaker 2: Thank you very much for calling Lindsay.

946
00:57:49,880 --> 00:57:51,439
Speaker 1: Hekrod Pepper spray too.

947
00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:53,000
Speaker 7: Yeah, that's it.

948
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:57,680
Speaker 1: Thank you so much, Geko for answering my uh my plea,

949
00:57:57,880 --> 00:57:58,360
Speaker 1: my text.

950
00:57:59,360 --> 00:58:04,120
Speaker 2: Thank you, Lindsey. I hope that you continue to have

951
00:58:04,280 --> 00:58:06,960
Speaker 2: enjoyable experiences at this coffee shop where you not get

952
00:58:07,080 --> 00:58:07,920
Speaker 2: chased by people.

953
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:11,520
Speaker 1: Thank you. I think it'll happen. I hope you have

954
00:58:11,560 --> 00:58:12,240
Speaker 1: a good night too.

955
00:58:13,120 --> 00:58:22,680
Speaker 2: Bye, Lindsey, Bye the Bitter End Coffee Shop. Okay, when

956
00:58:22,720 --> 00:58:28,600
Speaker 2: am I in Grand Rapids. I'm in Grand Rapids on

957
00:58:29,560 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 2: the twelfth of September. Tickets at theapy Gecko tour dot

958
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:45,360
Speaker 2: com for Grand Rapids and many other shows. Okay, when

959
00:58:45,360 --> 00:58:52,840
Speaker 2: I'm there, I will definitely be going to this. Hello, Hello,

960
00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:54,000
Speaker 2: what's up?

961
00:58:54,040 --> 00:58:54,200
Speaker 1: Man?

962
00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:57,880
Speaker 2: What's your name? My name is Johnny, Johnny, Johnny. Be good?

963
00:58:58,040 --> 00:58:59,760
Speaker 2: What's going on? Johnny?

964
00:59:00,360 --> 00:59:03,800
Speaker 4: Oh? No, them just chilling the night before day off,

965
00:59:03,840 --> 00:59:04,520
Speaker 4: you know, the.

966
00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:09,000
Speaker 2: Night before a day off, yep, day off of.

967
00:59:08,960 --> 00:59:11,720
Speaker 4: What from work?

968
00:59:12,800 --> 00:59:13,280
Speaker 2: What do you do?

969
00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:17,320
Speaker 4: I work in a pharmaceutical warehouse.

970
00:59:19,000 --> 00:59:20,960
Speaker 2: You ever take some of the pills just for fun,

971
00:59:21,480 --> 00:59:22,240
Speaker 2: see what they are?

972
00:59:24,600 --> 00:59:26,440
Speaker 4: No, because I know what they are and I don't

973
00:59:26,440 --> 00:59:30,120
Speaker 4: necessarily need them. I have thought about, like nasal spray

974
00:59:30,120 --> 00:59:31,360
Speaker 4: for my allergies.

975
00:59:30,880 --> 00:59:38,240
Speaker 2: Though, what kind of pills are they? Heart medication?

976
00:59:39,600 --> 00:59:40,480
Speaker 4: We carry everything?

977
00:59:40,520 --> 00:59:44,440
Speaker 2: Then, yeah, nothing, you're not You're not like, let me

978
00:59:44,480 --> 00:59:46,760
Speaker 2: scoop a little bit of the penis stuff. Let me

979
00:59:47,080 --> 00:59:50,080
Speaker 2: take some allergy medication, let me take two allergy medications.

980
00:59:50,160 --> 00:59:55,280
Speaker 2: Just get a little uh good little loose for the shift.

981
00:59:56,800 --> 00:59:58,280
Speaker 4: No, that's what the after hours are for.

982
00:59:58,480 --> 00:59:58,560
Speaker 3: Uh.

983
00:59:58,880 --> 01:00:00,920
Speaker 4: It pays, it pays well if I can't really like

984
01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:01,440
Speaker 4: to lose it.

985
01:00:02,200 --> 01:00:08,960
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm mmmm. What's your life like outside of the

986
01:00:09,000 --> 01:00:10,160
Speaker 2: pharmaceutical warehouse?

987
01:00:12,200 --> 01:00:14,560
Speaker 4: I honestly pretty good. Got a girlfriend going on with

988
01:00:15,600 --> 01:00:17,960
Speaker 4: a little over two years, and we go in trouble

989
01:00:18,720 --> 01:00:21,240
Speaker 4: the world. I mean, I can't complain.

990
01:00:21,960 --> 01:00:23,680
Speaker 2: Where do you Where do you guys been going? What

991
01:00:23,800 --> 01:00:24,320
Speaker 2: you've been doing?

992
01:00:26,880 --> 01:00:27,040
Speaker 5: Well?

993
01:00:27,080 --> 01:00:31,560
Speaker 4: I've gone to Italy on my own, ah, I mean recently.

994
01:00:31,920 --> 01:00:34,320
Speaker 4: You know, it's still two years or so. Kind of

995
01:00:34,360 --> 01:00:37,840
Speaker 4: you for me, I guess. But we've gone Mexico City

996
01:00:39,200 --> 01:00:41,800
Speaker 4: trying to do coaster regulators this year and see how

997
01:00:41,840 --> 01:00:44,800
Speaker 4: that goes. Uh.

998
01:00:45,120 --> 01:00:47,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, Mexico City is awesome. Wait where in Italy did

999
01:00:47,600 --> 01:00:48,160
Speaker 2: you go alone?

1000
01:00:50,360 --> 01:00:53,240
Speaker 4: I went to Roman Florence cool man.

1001
01:00:54,360 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 2: I studied abroad in Italy a long time. Rome, Parlo

1002
01:01:01,080 --> 01:01:06,400
Speaker 2: unpo Italiano. I ate a lot of pizza, I got,

1003
01:01:06,680 --> 01:01:10,960
Speaker 2: I got fat. Uh. I looked at the fountain. I

1004
01:01:11,000 --> 01:01:14,760
Speaker 2: freaked out a little bit. I I I remember. I Actually,

1005
01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:17,280
Speaker 2: you know what's funny, I had my own like I

1006
01:01:17,560 --> 01:01:20,680
Speaker 2: went a little crazy when I was in Rome and

1007
01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:24,800
Speaker 2: I had, like I was listening to the Misfits on

1008
01:01:25,720 --> 01:01:29,800
Speaker 2: my phone and I had like a little joker stares

1009
01:01:29,960 --> 01:01:36,760
Speaker 2: moment on the Spanish steps, just like rocking out to

1010
01:01:36,920 --> 01:01:38,400
Speaker 2: punk music. You know what I'm talking about?

1011
01:01:39,880 --> 01:01:39,960
Speaker 3: Me?

1012
01:01:40,280 --> 01:01:41,440
Speaker 4: Isn't that what it's all about?

1013
01:01:41,960 --> 01:01:47,040
Speaker 2: So what it's all about is uh disturbing the locals?

1014
01:01:48,360 --> 01:01:51,360
Speaker 4: How did you? How did you feel about only having

1015
01:01:51,440 --> 01:01:52,919
Speaker 4: Italian blue dog that time?

1016
01:01:54,040 --> 01:01:57,120
Speaker 2: How did I feel about? I like Italian food, like preshudo,

1017
01:02:00,320 --> 01:02:05,280
Speaker 2: I like the bakeries. I there was there's a moment

1018
01:02:06,000 --> 01:02:10,560
Speaker 2: that I remember vividly from my time there, which was

1019
01:02:11,840 --> 01:02:15,680
Speaker 2: I was eating with a couple, like other kids in

1020
01:02:15,720 --> 01:02:20,080
Speaker 2: the program, outside of this pizza shop, and this like

1021
01:02:21,640 --> 01:02:25,960
Speaker 2: this girl a little older than us. She was kind

1022
01:02:25,960 --> 01:02:30,600
Speaker 2: of a tall and lanky and nerdy looking, and she

1023
01:02:30,600 --> 01:02:33,480
Speaker 2: she just sat at our table and she was like,

1024
01:02:33,720 --> 01:02:36,800
Speaker 2: I'm here alone and I don't have anyone to eat with,

1025
01:02:37,000 --> 01:02:39,760
Speaker 2: so I'm gonna eat with you guys. What are your names?

1026
01:02:40,320 --> 01:02:45,040
Speaker 2: And I was like, I was like, WHOA, that's awesome

1027
01:02:45,720 --> 01:02:50,360
Speaker 2: anytime someone anytime something like that happens. The people I

1028
01:02:50,400 --> 01:02:54,200
Speaker 2: was with were a little taken aback, but anytime anytime

1029
01:02:54,240 --> 01:02:56,360
Speaker 2: I see it It's a very real, recognized, real type

1030
01:02:56,400 --> 01:02:59,080
Speaker 2: of thing. I'm like, that was a bold move I'm

1031
01:02:59,120 --> 01:03:03,040
Speaker 2: inspired by. I'm gonna reward it. And so I started

1032
01:03:03,040 --> 01:03:05,360
Speaker 2: being like, my name is Lyle, how are you doing?

1033
01:03:05,400 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 2: What's going on? You know, start trying to I start

1034
01:03:07,600 --> 01:03:10,120
Speaker 2: really I like when I see when I see someone

1035
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:12,840
Speaker 2: reach out like that, like you know, you're kind of

1036
01:03:12,880 --> 01:03:14,480
Speaker 2: putting yourself out there when you do shit like that.

1037
01:03:14,520 --> 01:03:16,680
Speaker 2: I always want to try to reward it. I always

1038
01:03:16,680 --> 01:03:18,640
Speaker 2: want to be like, I'm gonna I want you to

1039
01:03:18,680 --> 01:03:21,520
Speaker 2: feel like you made the right decision coming over here.

1040
01:03:21,560 --> 01:03:24,360
Speaker 2: So we you know, we talked or whatever, and I

1041
01:03:24,400 --> 01:03:26,120
Speaker 2: don't remember anything about it de late. I just I

1042
01:03:26,160 --> 01:03:28,880
Speaker 2: only remember her doing that, and I was like, whoa,

1043
01:03:28,960 --> 01:03:31,560
Speaker 2: you could just do that shit. It really stands out.

1044
01:03:31,720 --> 01:03:36,160
Speaker 2: I feel like in Europe they have a yere. Maybe

1045
01:03:36,160 --> 01:03:39,440
Speaker 2: I don't know if it was like the mindset that

1046
01:03:39,480 --> 01:03:41,600
Speaker 2: I was in at the time. I was like twenty

1047
01:03:41,640 --> 01:03:44,960
Speaker 2: one and I was really I mean, my whole career

1048
01:03:45,000 --> 01:03:47,440
Speaker 2: is predicated on like talking to strangers and stuff. But

1049
01:03:47,520 --> 01:03:50,760
Speaker 2: I was really obsessed at that time with like how

1050
01:03:50,800 --> 01:03:53,280
Speaker 2: I could just do it naturally just in my personal life,

1051
01:03:53,320 --> 01:03:56,080
Speaker 2: Like I was obsessed with like weird connections I can

1052
01:03:56,160 --> 01:04:00,480
Speaker 2: make with folks on the train or the bus or whatever,

1053
01:04:00,560 --> 01:04:03,280
Speaker 2: and like, I really I really appreciated. I don't know

1054
01:04:03,280 --> 01:04:05,200
Speaker 2: if this is like a weird spontaneity I had in

1055
01:04:05,240 --> 01:04:09,160
Speaker 2: my brain about like, well, you know, whatever kind of

1056
01:04:09,200 --> 01:04:14,280
Speaker 2: moments you could make with people that you wouldn't necessarily expect,

1057
01:04:14,720 --> 01:04:17,600
Speaker 2: And so I was inspired by that lady. And I

1058
01:04:17,640 --> 01:04:19,040
Speaker 2: don't know if it was like the mindset I had

1059
01:04:19,080 --> 01:04:21,320
Speaker 2: at the time, or if it's like Europe in general,

1060
01:04:23,200 --> 01:04:25,600
Speaker 2: but like you know, there's certain places in the world

1061
01:04:25,720 --> 01:04:29,160
Speaker 2: people just talk to each other just to talk to

1062
01:04:29,240 --> 01:04:33,240
Speaker 2: each other, and I feel like Italy, Yeah, Italy and

1063
01:04:33,320 --> 01:04:38,720
Speaker 2: Europe are one of those places. Fucking in Iraq, I

1064
01:04:38,840 --> 01:04:43,160
Speaker 2: noticed a lot people would come up and like talk

1065
01:04:43,200 --> 01:04:46,000
Speaker 2: to me or talk to my friend who was showing

1066
01:04:46,080 --> 01:04:48,440
Speaker 2: us around there, just just because they would. I would like,

1067
01:04:48,800 --> 01:04:50,680
Speaker 2: I would think, I was like, is this person trying

1068
01:04:50,680 --> 01:04:51,960
Speaker 2: to ask you for money or whatever? They would just be

1069
01:04:51,960 --> 01:04:53,920
Speaker 2: talking like just because in like a place like New

1070
01:04:54,000 --> 01:04:57,040
Speaker 2: York or LA everyone only talks to each other. If

1071
01:04:57,120 --> 01:05:00,720
Speaker 2: someone starts talking to you randomly, it is because they

1072
01:05:00,760 --> 01:05:03,560
Speaker 2: want to ask you for something. But there are a

1073
01:05:03,600 --> 01:05:06,520
Speaker 2: lot of or like in fucking Japan, you know people

1074
01:05:06,560 --> 01:05:08,240
Speaker 2: and people never talk to you at all, but like

1075
01:05:09,720 --> 01:05:11,360
Speaker 2: there's certain places I feel like, eure, it's one of

1076
01:05:11,400 --> 01:05:15,160
Speaker 2: our people just randomly talk to each other for no reason.

1077
01:05:15,960 --> 01:05:16,760
Speaker 2: It's kind of nice.

1078
01:05:19,240 --> 01:05:23,080
Speaker 4: I've kind of felt that in New York. I go

1079
01:05:23,200 --> 01:05:27,880
Speaker 4: to New York, I would say semi often, and I

1080
01:05:27,920 --> 01:05:31,560
Speaker 4: feel like I'm near the Bay Area in California, and

1081
01:05:31,600 --> 01:05:35,840
Speaker 4: I feel like what you're saying about people not talking

1082
01:05:36,240 --> 01:05:38,760
Speaker 4: kind of happens in New York. I've met more people

1083
01:05:38,800 --> 01:05:42,360
Speaker 4: out there than I have here at home, which I

1084
01:05:42,400 --> 01:05:46,800
Speaker 4: really enjoy. New York City's probably one of my favorite places.

1085
01:05:47,160 --> 01:05:48,360
Speaker 2: And where do you live now?

1086
01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:54,240
Speaker 4: You're in the Bay Area in California, San Francisco.

1087
01:05:54,680 --> 01:05:58,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, very exciting. You know, what I'm realizing is that

1088
01:05:58,440 --> 01:06:02,680
Speaker 2: I just went on a whole rant to you about whatever,

1089
01:06:02,720 --> 01:06:05,480
Speaker 2: and I never asked you if there was a particular

1090
01:06:05,520 --> 01:06:07,680
Speaker 2: reason why you called me today, and so I would

1091
01:06:07,760 --> 01:06:08,960
Speaker 2: like to take this time to do that.

1092
01:06:10,960 --> 01:06:14,520
Speaker 4: A particular reason. Not really, but I mean I can

1093
01:06:14,600 --> 01:06:17,080
Speaker 4: go on about what you were talking about and just

1094
01:06:18,000 --> 01:06:21,360
Speaker 4: how you can respect someone that can kind of just

1095
01:06:21,400 --> 01:06:23,880
Speaker 4: put themselves out there like that, Like I respect it

1096
01:06:23,880 --> 01:06:28,960
Speaker 4: because in the same position that you were, I mean

1097
01:06:29,000 --> 01:06:30,720
Speaker 4: I would welcome them as well. I wouldn't be able

1098
01:06:30,760 --> 01:06:34,960
Speaker 4: to do that myself. I'm more of a go on

1099
01:06:35,000 --> 01:06:38,640
Speaker 4: my own kind of person. Yeah, I guess I can say.

1100
01:06:38,720 --> 01:06:42,040
Speaker 4: And I think I had my revelation about that maybe

1101
01:06:42,080 --> 01:06:46,560
Speaker 4: a few years ago. I had like one of my

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Speaker 4: close friends pass away and he was younger than I was,

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Speaker 4: and kind of put into light like why wait for

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Speaker 4: something I want to do? Because I used to ask

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Speaker 4: my friends if they wanted to go on trips with

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Speaker 4: me and everything, but you know, no time, no money,

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Speaker 4: blah blah blah, whatever excuse. And so that was part

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Speaker 4: of the reason I went to Italy, just why wait

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Speaker 4: for other people? You know?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, of course, do you have any other you know?

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Speaker 2: It's fine. I also try to live my life that way.

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Speaker 2: I also very much try to be like, you know,

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Speaker 2: anything you could possibly can see of wanting to do

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Speaker 2: with yourself, like, don't wait to do it?

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Speaker 4: Uh.

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Speaker 2: Part of me wonders if that applies to everything, or

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Speaker 2: like what it might not apply to or whatever, But like,

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Speaker 2: do you have anything that you can think of on

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Speaker 2: your list that you're like should I? I don't want to

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Speaker 2: wait to do that.

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Speaker 4: Not necessarily. I've been pretty good on getting on top

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Speaker 4: of what I want to do and doing it when

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Speaker 4: I want. The only thing for me is like, I'm

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Speaker 4: a big fan of baseball, so one of my things

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Speaker 4: is like, try to hit all of the baseball stadiums

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Speaker 4: in America, maybe even some international Just yeah, I've knocked

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Speaker 4: them down. I like that.

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Speaker 2: How many got left?

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Speaker 4: Oh? Maybe like twenty? There's thirty, you know there's any

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Speaker 4: twenty more? Maybe do you have.

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Speaker 2: Plans to do to see anymore in the future.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I haven't been to San Diego yet. So luckily

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Speaker 4: the girlfriend has been nice enough to join me along

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Speaker 4: with me on those trips, and she enjoys it as well,

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Speaker 4: which helps out a lot. She's really good with the

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Speaker 4: plow kind of person. I appreciate that.

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Speaker 2: M What are you gonna do with your day off tomorrow?

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Speaker 4: A whole lot of nothing. That's exactly what I like

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Speaker 4: to do my days off.

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Speaker 2: Johnny, Yes, thank you for calling. Thanks is nice. Thanks

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Speaker 2: for letting rant at you. I know that.

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Speaker 4: I yeah, no problem.

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Speaker 2: You know, I feel like we both got a lot

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Speaker 2: of stuff off our chest. This is a nice interaction.

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Speaker 4: I enjoyed it.

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Speaker 2: Is there anything else you want to say to the

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Speaker 2: people of the computer before we go.

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Speaker 4: Clean out your room because you don't know if they

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Speaker 4: might be infested with moths. I had that recently and

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Speaker 4: it was a pain to clean out.

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Speaker 2: You're saving a lot of people from moths and the

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Speaker 2: people appreciate it.

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Speaker 4: I think that's my purpose in this one.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Johnny. I have a good rest of the night.

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Speaker 4: You do love it there.

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Speaker 7: Repeat can't goes.

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Speaker 1: On the line taking your phone calls every night.

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Speaker 2: The repeak cant goes to on his eye. He's teaching

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Speaker 2: news about your life, but he's not really an expert.