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Speaker 1: And look, there are times where you do have to

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Speaker 1: compose yourself and keep it moving. You have an argument

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Speaker 1: with your partner and you have to go to work,

440
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:03,600
Speaker 1: you find out bad news, but you have to show

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00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:06,720
Speaker 1: up and you have to be in front of people,

442
00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 1: or you have to carry on with your day. Like

443
00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:11,959
Speaker 1: you can't let your emotions constantly overwhelm you because then

444
00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:14,639
Speaker 1: you can't get things done during the day. And you know,

445
00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 1: in my life, I can really relate to that. I

446
00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:21,560
Speaker 1: get messages a lot on social media saying why do

447
00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:24,440
Speaker 1: you always seem so happy? You can't always be this happy,

448
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:26,680
Speaker 1: And to be honest, I feel like I do share

449
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:29,680
Speaker 1: a lot of downs too, but I do choose every

450
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 1: single day to show up as the best version of myself.

451
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:35,160
Speaker 1: And the fact is that you can feel two things

452
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Speaker 1: at once. I can be crying for an hour before

453
00:23:39,359 --> 00:23:42,800
Speaker 1: I get on camera and I film something and still

454
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,600
Speaker 1: be sad while still trying to show up and be

455
00:23:45,720 --> 00:23:48,719
Speaker 1: happy at the same time. Both can be true at

456
00:23:48,720 --> 00:23:50,920
Speaker 1: the same time. It doesn't mean that you are faking

457
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 1: it or that you're lying, but we always assume that

458
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:55,280
Speaker 1: you can only if you're sad, then you can only

459
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Speaker 1: be sad, and if you're happy, then you can only

460
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Speaker 1: be happy. But actually, I think about this a lot,

461
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Speaker 1: and I use this term a lot recently, But we

462
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:06,080
Speaker 1: have to learn how to see people in the gray

463
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Speaker 1: and live in the gray. Nothing is black and white.

464
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Speaker 1: There is not one or the other. We are all

465
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Speaker 1: so much at the same time, and so when you're sad,

466
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 1: you're not always just sad, and when you're angry or

467
00:24:17,760 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 1: not always just angry. And so for me, I always

468
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:23,360
Speaker 1: choose to squeeze out any parts of joy that are there,

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00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,159
Speaker 1: even if I'm not feeling them at the time, I

470
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Speaker 1: know that they're there, and even though I know that

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Speaker 1: even though if I'm not feeling very happy when I've

472
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Speaker 1: woken up this morning, I know that happy exists within me,

473
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Speaker 1: and so I will try my best to squeeze all

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Speaker 1: of it out. I think you can be really selective

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Speaker 1: with what parts of you that you share with people

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Speaker 1: and how you decide to show up. I think I've

477
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Speaker 1: become so aware of the ripple effect that your emotions

478
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Speaker 1: can have on other people, and so whether it's talking

479
00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:53,680
Speaker 1: to friends or showing up online, it's a choice of

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Speaker 1: what ripple effect do I want to have on somebody?

481
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Speaker 1: Do I want to create sadness in other people's lives?

482
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Speaker 1: Or would I rather share a little lighthearted joy? And

483
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:04,960
Speaker 1: that doesn't mean that you have to fake it. There's

484
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Speaker 1: obviously so much in going out there and sharing and

485
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Speaker 1: being vulnerable with your friends and with your family, And

486
00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:13,919
Speaker 1: so when I think about sharing emotions with people, I

487
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:16,159
Speaker 1: do I do have those few people that I really

488
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Speaker 1: am able to just be like, you know, I'm having

489
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Speaker 1: a really bad day to day, But do I want

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Speaker 1: to share that with two million people and ruin their

491
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Speaker 1: day too? Because we feed off other people's emotions and

492
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:31,200
Speaker 1: energy so much, and so yeah, sometimes I will choose

493
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Speaker 1: and be selective about where I spread and scatter my

494
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Speaker 1: negative energy because I'm so aware of the ripple effect

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Speaker 1: that it has on other people, especially when someone is

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Speaker 1: already not in a great mood, and then they meet

497
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Speaker 1: someone else not in a great mood, and then they're

498
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Speaker 1: sharing that not great mood and they affect one another,

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Speaker 1: and then they carry it on to the next person,

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Speaker 1: and the next person and the next person. I think,

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Speaker 1: I just always think, do I want to be creating

502
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Speaker 1: a rippule of sadness or do I want to try

503
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Speaker 1: and uplift someone else around me if I have the

504
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:03,879
Speaker 1: opportunity to do so, and I have the capacity and

505
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Speaker 1: space to do so. So That's what I try and

506
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Speaker 1: do every single day. And yeah, there have been days

507
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Speaker 1: where I found out bad news about family members or

508
00:26:12,240 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 1: I've felt really really upset about something. But does that

509
00:26:15,800 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 1: mean that I have to stop my whole life and

510
00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:20,680
Speaker 1: just sit in that feeling or am I going to

511
00:26:20,720 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 1: try and control what I'm feeling for now and then

512
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:26,440
Speaker 1: carry on with whatever I need to get done, because

513
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,440
Speaker 1: it's life. We have jobs to go to, things to do,

514
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:33,960
Speaker 1: and then take time to release it and process it

515
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Speaker 1: when it feels safe and appropriate to do so. Because

516
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Speaker 1: I just want to make this part really clear that

517
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Speaker 1: being emotional doesn't mean you are emotionally vomiting and that

518
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 1: you are uncontrolled in the way that you spill your emotions.

519
00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 1: It's not a spontaneous thing. It's not something where you

520
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:58,399
Speaker 1: are just constantly just overflowing with emotion with everyone and anything. No,

521
00:26:59,160 --> 00:27:02,520
Speaker 1: it's a control the means of tuning into your emotions,

522
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 1: accepting and being aware of what you're feeling, and knowing

523
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: exactly when you are able to process it, reflect on it,

524
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:13,639
Speaker 1: and then eventually let it go. Now, I feel like

525
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:15,159
Speaker 1: I've been talking to all of you, like you're all

526
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 1: criers like me, but I feel like I really need

527
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 1: to acknowledge the non.

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Speaker 2: Criers out there.

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Speaker 1: And I remember this one vivid moment in my life

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00:27:21,600 --> 00:27:24,880
Speaker 1: where I was speaking to someone and I was so emotional.

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00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 1: I was crying, and I was really emotionally. It was

532
00:27:28,520 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 1: about us. We were talking, and this person was like

533
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:34,640
Speaker 1: downright just staring me in the face, just like really

534
00:27:34,760 --> 00:27:38,400
Speaker 1: understanding and really being there, but so calm and collected

535
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:40,399
Speaker 1: and literally not one tear in their eye. And I

536
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:42,880
Speaker 1: was like, literally, are you bionic? Or what is happening?

537
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:45,440
Speaker 1: Why are you not crying with me? But we were

538
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:48,399
Speaker 1: just wonderful, unique aliens. And there are just some people

539
00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 1: who do not cry. And look, it could be deeply

540
00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:54,600
Speaker 1: suppressed or they just express their emotion in different ways.

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Speaker 1: And if crying isn't your cup of tea, there are

542
00:27:57,480 --> 00:27:59,720
Speaker 1: also so many other ways that you can release.

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Speaker 2: One of them is writing. There's also movement.

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Speaker 1: When you feel stagnant in certain parts of your life,

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Speaker 1: Like let's say you're feeling stagnant emotionally, moving your body

546
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 1: physically can also help with those emotions. If you're feeling

547
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:18,840
Speaker 1: stagnant physically, you can write things down and let things

548
00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:23,680
Speaker 1: flow in movement, emotionally and in writing. Movement is such

549
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 1: a big part of every part of life. So whether

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00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 1: you dance, or you stretch, or you get a massage,

551
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: or you do breath work, all of that counter's movement.

552
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 1: You go out, you go for a run, you go

553
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:37,800
Speaker 1: for a walk, that movement in body will also help

554
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:41,240
Speaker 1: movement in mind too. Another thing is breath work. Breath work,

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Speaker 1: I just mentioned it now, but it's so important and

556
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 1: it really does help. Your breath and your emotions are

557
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 1: so intertwined and connected, and so it says that once

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00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 1: if you have control of your breath. It talks about

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00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 1: this a lot in yoga. If you have control of

560
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 1: your breath, you can control your emotions, and it really

561
00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 1: does make sense because if you think about it, what's

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Speaker 1: the thing that changes the most when you are feeling

563
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 1: certain emotions. If you're anxious, you're breathing goes fast. If

564
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:09,160
Speaker 1: you're feeling calm, you're breathing is slower. When you start crying,

565
00:29:09,200 --> 00:29:12,360
Speaker 1: you notice the breath pattern change. And so trying to

566
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 1: actually control your breath during the time that you're feeling

567
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 1: emotions can help you also control them, but can also

568
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:22,800
Speaker 1: help you release them too. Meditation and sitting in stillness

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Speaker 1: it's something that I feel we just don't do as

570
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: much as we should. Me included, I just don't do

571
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 1: it as much as I should. And sometimes we avoid

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00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 1: sitting in stillness because we don't want to hear what's

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00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 1: happening in our mind. But that can be a really

574
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:38,040
Speaker 1: beautiful way for emotions to come to the surface because

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Speaker 1: you're saying, hi, body, high mind, I am here and

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00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 1: I'm listening. It's just like a partner. Like think of yourself.

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00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 1: I always say you have to date yourself, right, you

578
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 1: have to get to know yourself. You have to spend

579
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Speaker 1: time with yourself, just like you would with a partner.

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00:29:50,520 --> 00:29:52,440
Speaker 1: And so in the same way, if your body feels

581
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 1: like you've been neglecting it. If your body feels like

582
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 1: you've been rejecting it, you haven't been acknowledging its feelings,

583
00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:01,840
Speaker 1: you haven't been wanting to hear what's happening. Your body's

584
00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:03,720
Speaker 1: going to feel suppressed and it's not going to want

585
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 1: to talk to you or let you know what's happening.

586
00:30:05,880 --> 00:30:08,800
Speaker 1: And so taking those moments in stillness and in thought

587
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 1: and saying, hi, body, I am here and I'm listening

588
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 1: to you, and I want to hear what you're feeling,

589
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,640
Speaker 1: and I want to heal with you. You'll be surprised

590
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 1: what starts coming up and what your body starts telling you.

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh. In touch.

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00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 1: Touch is such a beautiful way to release emotion. It's

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Speaker 1: like when someone hugs you when you're at that tipping

594
00:30:27,440 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 1: point of crying.

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00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 2: Sometimes it can bring.

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Speaker 1: Comfort, and you know that feeling of wait, don't hug me,

597
00:30:32,760 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 1: or I'm going to cry. It's because when you feel

598
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Speaker 1: comfort in someone else, your body suddenly feels like it

599
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 1: lets its guards down and you feel like you're able

600
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 1: to let things out and let things flow. And so

601
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 1: go give someone a hug that you feel loved by

602
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 1: and cared by. And that can also really help. There's

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00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:53,920
Speaker 1: actually two breath works. Just want to go back to

604
00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 1: breath work because there's two breath works that I did

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00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:59,120
Speaker 1: do in my Yobu teacher training. It was really interesting

606
00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:04,479
Speaker 1: and released emotions like I have never experienced before.

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00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:05,520
Speaker 2: One thing that I.

608
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 1: Tried there's holotropic breathing. I think it's breathing a really fast,

609
00:31:09,880 --> 00:31:12,880
Speaker 1: straight and a fast pace. But the one I tried

610
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:16,720
Speaker 1: was Pramer breath work, and it's another breath pattern. Basically,

611
00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 1: different speeds and different mechanisms of breathing or different patterns

612
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 1: evoke different things in your body, and it's almost like

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00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 1: a purging breath work.

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00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:27,960
Speaker 2: It was wild.

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00:31:28,320 --> 00:31:30,960
Speaker 1: We were all in a room, all trying this breath

616
00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 1: work being guided by our teachers, and I remember it

617
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 1: was like that was the breath pattern that we were doing.

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00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:43,080
Speaker 1: Within like ten minutes, it was people screaming out in pain,

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Speaker 1: people crying their eyes out, like emotions like I never

620
00:31:46,960 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 1: seen them released in my life, and we were all

621
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:50,719
Speaker 1: in a room doing that. So you can imagine how

622
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:54,800
Speaker 1: overwhelming that was. But that's also apparently meant to be

623
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,040
Speaker 1: a really great way to unlock trauma and emotion from

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00:31:57,040 --> 00:31:57,680
Speaker 1: the body too.

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00:31:58,120 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 2: And there is.

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Speaker 1: One word that has change my whole view of emotions,

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00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,080
Speaker 1: and it's actually used a lot in spiritual texts, and

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00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,960
Speaker 1: it's this world called equanimity, and it means to feel

629
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 1: a balance of emotions through the ups and the downs,

630
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 1: through the waves of life. Your mind and your emotions

631
00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 1: and your body are able to stay equanomous, like I

632
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:19,720
Speaker 1: think that's the word.

633
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:21,320
Speaker 2: I able to stay stable.

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00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 1: You feel the waves, but you're almost riding them rather

635
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 1: than trying to, you know, trying to swim against them.

636
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 1: And it's the practice of really surrendering, receiving, processing, and

637
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:39,080
Speaker 1: releasing emotions as they come, just like water flowing. And

638
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 1: so you end up having lows but not too low,

639
00:32:42,560 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: and you end up having the highs of life, but

640
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 1: you don't feel it too deeply. You realize that you're

641
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:51,880
Speaker 1: someone that is just experiencing them rather than you actually

642
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,640
Speaker 1: being the emotion or feeling the emotion.

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00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 2: And it takes a lot to get there. I can't

644
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 2: say I've experienced it, but it's.

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Speaker 1: One thing I really aspire for, because you know, when

646
00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:05,440
Speaker 1: you end up seeing the larger perspective of things when

647
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 1: you're going through emotions, you always realize.

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00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 2: Sometimes you just have to surrender.

649
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 1: You cannot be in control of everything, and you have

650
00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 1: to be okay with the waves of life coming your way.

651
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 1: And you can either fight them and get tired of fighting,

652
00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 1: or you can try and cope with them and ride

653
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:27,600
Speaker 1: the waves and accept what's coming to you. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: some of the things that have actually helped me the most,

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Speaker 1: I'd say is daily meditation just to ground me and

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Speaker 1: create this bubble around me, and I actually changed the

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Speaker 1: perspective that I see the world through and life through

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Speaker 1: on a daily basis. It really feels like I'm looking

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Speaker 1: at the world through more of a healed lens rather

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Speaker 1: than a triggered lens and physical movement every single day.

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Speaker 1: My goodness, I'm a whole different human when you catch

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Speaker 1: me before a workout and emotionally, I think writing writing

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Speaker 1: has really been the other thing that's helped me. And

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Speaker 1: most importantly, I know we hear this word every single

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Speaker 1: day all the time on our social media with everybody,

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Speaker 1: but it's so important gratitude during the difficult times, trying

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Speaker 1: to see perspective and the bigger picture during those times

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00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:16,920
Speaker 1: literally will carry you through. And even from that experiment

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Speaker 1: that was done, it so that when you feel happiness

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Speaker 1: and you feel gratitude, the other emotions kind of fade away.

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Speaker 1: And so trying to remain in gratitude, think of anything,

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Speaker 1: even just the smallest thing that you're grateful for in

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Speaker 1: the time that you feel in your darkest or your worst,

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Speaker 1: and it has the ability to lift you up, just

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Speaker 1: that little bear. And So to end this, I want

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Speaker 1: to just say something that I totally made up. It's

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Speaker 1: the different kind of cry is and I'm pretty sure

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Speaker 1: I have been all of them at one point in life,

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Speaker 1: but I'm going to show you what they are. So

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Speaker 1: the first one is the loud, ugly cry. And you

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Speaker 1: all have that friend that has that loud, ugly cry.

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Speaker 2: You know what. I've been that person.

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Speaker 1: I'm not ashamed of it, but it's the the one

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Speaker 1: who really knows how to let loose with their emotions.

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Speaker 2: The ugly, the loud, the everything. That's number one. Number

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Speaker 2: two is the breathless. We all know that. I just

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Speaker 2: don't know what it's like.

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Speaker 1: You can't even understand what they're saying. There's like a

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Speaker 1: whole lot of breathing going on. That's number two. Then

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Speaker 1: there's a sniffler and the snotty, there is water coming

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Speaker 1: from every part of the body. They're just snotty and

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Speaker 1: sniffly when they're trying to cry. And it's not cute either,

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Speaker 1: to be honest. The high pitched one, Oh, you know,

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Speaker 1: this one is like that.

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Speaker 2: I just don't know what's happening in me.

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Speaker 1: I've had a few of them, and it's kind of

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Speaker 1: hard because you kind of want to cry with them,

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Speaker 1: but at the same time you can't help but laugh.

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00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:46,479
Speaker 1: And then that I'm not crying, you're crying cryer where

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Speaker 1: it's just I've got something in my eye and they're

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Speaker 1: waving their hand in front of their face and it's just,

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Speaker 1: you know, trying to avoid wanted dropping out of their eye.

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Speaker 1: And the last one is the silent crier, one who

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Speaker 1: is almost beautifully annoyingly crying and sobbing in the corner,

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Speaker 1: wiping the tears from the corner of their eyes gently

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Speaker 1: with a napkin, and they'll have their little cry and

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Speaker 1: then they'll check their makeup and it will be beautiful

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Speaker 1: and still okay, and they'll carry on with their day.

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Speaker 1: So those are my versions of all the different criers.

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Speaker 1: Think about which one you are. I say, the uglier

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Speaker 1: the cry, the better, to be quite honest, So I

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Speaker 1: really hope that this podcast was useful. I hope that

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Speaker 1: it's helped you to think about connecting deeper to your

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Speaker 1: emotions and reflecting on a regular basis, making sure you

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Speaker 1: are taking emotional inventory. I think that's really a really

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Speaker 1: good word. Okay, emotional inventory. Are you taking emotional inventory

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00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 1: every single week to figure out what is happening inside?

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Speaker 1: And I really hope that it helps you become more

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Speaker 1: comfortable with managing your emotions. And if you only do

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Speaker 1: one thing away from this, let it be to cry

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Speaker 1: it unapologetically and as ugly as you want it to be.

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Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: I was actually pretty nervous recording this. I can't believe

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Speaker 1: I actually made.

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Speaker 2: It through my first solo podcast.

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Speaker 1: It's kind of exciting we did it, and there is

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00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:15,719
Speaker 1: so much more to come, and I feel like we

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Speaker 1: actually covered a lot in this episode. I wasn't sure

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Speaker 1: I was going to be able to make thirty minutes,

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Speaker 1: and it's like, I don't even know how long this

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Speaker 1: has been. But thank you all so much for listening.

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Speaker 1: If you made it all the way to the end,

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you.

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Speaker 2: I really do.

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Speaker 1: And let's all work together to normalize crying, shall we,

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Speaker 1: And also please tag me in all your ugly cry pictures.

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Speaker 1: I recommend you document when you are crying because I

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Speaker 1: think that we take pictures of ourselves when we're really happy,

739
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 1: or take pictures of ourselves smiling in different moments, but

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Speaker 1: let's also start taking pictures of the growth moments, the

741
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 1: times that we were finding difficult, so that we can

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Speaker 1: look back and see how much we have grown, or

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Speaker 1: even just to start normalizing that. You know what, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm crying today, just accepting it another way of accepting

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Speaker 1: our emotions. Thank you so much, sending your so much love,

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Speaker 1: and I hope you have such a wonderful day or

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Speaker 1: evening or wherever and whenever you are listening