Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks so
Speaker 1: much for coming back and joining us. Kathy, you excited
Speaker 1: about today?
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, if you did not listen to Wednesday's episode,
Speaker 2: we could have gone on for hours. We had Braden
Speaker 2: and Christina on and they are amazing. So if you
Speaker 2: haven't listened to it yet, get on.
Speaker 1: And I'm waiting. How about the good head on their shoulders.
Speaker 1: They're in their twenties. I mean, they really spoke well,
Speaker 1: they learned how to communicate. I really think this one's
Speaker 1: going to last.
Speaker 2: Susan, all the ones, all the ones in the recent
Speaker 2: past from Bachelor Nation, they're all Kelsey and Dowton, and
Speaker 2: I mean, all those couples amazing.
Speaker 3: What about Hey, all the going I I love what
Speaker 3: Braden had to say about the step daughter.
Speaker 2: Can I just tell you we touched on that, you know,
Speaker 2: my parents were divorced and the fact that he is
Speaker 2: you know, you didn't hear him say, oh, you know,
Speaker 2: we go to Target and I buy her whatever she wants.
Speaker 2: He gives the gift of time and that.
Speaker 1: He is always there right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you know what kids, as I said during
Speaker 2: the episode, it's not what you say it's the trust
Speaker 2: that he'll be there and he's giving her the time
Speaker 2: and attention that she needs that's so much more valuable.
Speaker 2: They're amazing, man. I wish them the best, perfect And
Speaker 2: you know what, you and I played it right, because
Speaker 2: you know what, you may be marrying them, officiating the
Speaker 2: wedding and I'm and I'm definitely going to be there.
Speaker 2: And we did offer to be matrons of honor, said Christina.
Speaker 2: Don't forget us.
Speaker 1: Don't forget we're coming.
Speaker 2: And Braden, I'll buy your really special pair of earrings
Speaker 2: for the special day.
Speaker 1: So, Kath, we're going to get started on today's Fan
Speaker 1: Questions episode with our topic of the day, but this
Speaker 1: time with a little twist. Ok okay, So today's topic
Speaker 1: of the day is inspired by a listener who wrote
Speaker 1: in shall be shall Be asks, I'm in a long
Speaker 1: term relationship and I'm reaching the point where I'm just
Speaker 1: not happy anymore and I'm seeing more red flags from
Speaker 1: my partner. A part of me wants to break up
Speaker 1: with him, but I know I'm going to regret it.
Speaker 1: How do you think I should proceed? So, Kathy, our
Speaker 1: question of the day is, how do you figure out
Speaker 1: when to break up and how do you go about
Speaker 1: a breakup? Oh my god?
Speaker 2: Oh you know what you know, y'all? I love I
Speaker 2: love Susan and we talk a lot about She and
Speaker 2: I are very different. So Susan, you go first tell
Speaker 2: everybody how do you manage your breakup? I don't.
Speaker 1: I stay way too long because I always feel bad.
Speaker 1: She was going to regret it. Now, if you're going
Speaker 1: to break up, why are you going to regret it?
Speaker 2: Wow? Let me just say listen to what she said.
Speaker 2: Shelby says, I'm reaching the point where I'm just not
Speaker 2: happy happy anymore. I really it doesn't really matter. Why, right?
Speaker 2: I mean, you're you're not happy. You're not happy if
Speaker 2: he doesn't fold the socks or you know so much
Speaker 2: that gives red. Wait.
Speaker 1: She did say she has been in a long term relationship.
Speaker 1: Now she decides she's not happy. It's better that you
Speaker 1: didn't get married yet.
Speaker 2: So how do you figure it's?
Speaker 1: How you do it? keV, I want to break up twice.
Speaker 2: It's done here. That's exactly Susan. That's why I love you.
Speaker 2: How do you figure out when to break up? Shelby?
Speaker 2: If you are done, you're done. Don't be a jerk
Speaker 2: about it, But you tell the person kindly, and I'm
Speaker 2: being serious now, you tell the person your feelings have changed.
Speaker 2: You're just not that into them. I think there was
Speaker 2: a movie you call that you know, he's just not
Speaker 2: that into you. You're just not that into him. And
Speaker 2: you just tell him and you're really sorry and you
Speaker 2: wish him the best, and you know what, he may
Speaker 2: have broken heart, he may not. When is the right
Speaker 2: time to break up? It's when you feel it is,
Speaker 2: and you're I'm about to say something that I'm going
Speaker 2: to take a lot of heat for. It's like when
Speaker 2: you say, when is the right time to put a
Speaker 2: dog down or a cap down? When you feel it's
Speaker 2: the right time. Right, So when you know it's time,
Speaker 2: it's time, do it. Why do people struggle, Susan? Why
Speaker 2: do you struggle?
Speaker 1: Because I feel like I'm going to make them sad
Speaker 1: and I don't like hurting people's speaking.
Speaker 2: Great, So let's day with the guy another six months
Speaker 2: and maybe the martyr. No, listen to what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: So you're going to stay with a guy another six months,
Speaker 2: he's going to be more invested in you. And then
Speaker 2: you're like, yes, sorry, I want to do it six
Speaker 2: months ago, but I didn't like I don't understand.
Speaker 1: Okay, let me share this and it's a bad habit,
Speaker 1: but I do do it. I end up feeling so
Speaker 1: guilty and not wanting to break anybody's heart that I
Speaker 1: do things that will annoy him, that get him to
Speaker 1: not like me anymore. Self sabotage. I mean, what do
Speaker 1: you call that? It's stupid.
Speaker 2: I call it stupid. That's what I call it. But
Speaker 2: I just I don't know, Susan. You, you and I
Speaker 2: are very similar. I've broken up. I mean that guy
Speaker 2: that I dated before I came on The Bachelor, who was,
Speaker 2: you know, a nice guy and I knew, I knew
Speaker 2: he wasn't the guy, but I kept thinking, you know, Kathy,
Speaker 2: just give it some time, because that's what everyone told me.
Speaker 2: Give it time, give it time. Literally, when was the
Speaker 2: right time? I literally said, he said something that I
Speaker 2: won't repeat, ask me a question, and I said, you
Speaker 2: know what, I think we're done here, and he just
Speaker 2: looked at me and it was like I I it
Speaker 2: didn't matter. I just knew. And you know what, you
Speaker 2: can hurt him now or you can hurt him six
Speaker 2: months from now. But the sooner you move on, the
Speaker 2: sooner you your heart can open for someone else. So
Speaker 2: Shelby move along. Be nice about it, be nice about it,
Speaker 2: but tell him to take justice like me. Yeah, don't
Speaker 2: be a Susan.
Speaker 1: It's torture.
Speaker 2: All right. Let's do some of our questions of the day,
Speaker 2: because not question today are are fan questions. Victoria asks, Hi,
Speaker 2: Kathy and Susan. I'm twenty seven years old and currently engaged.
Speaker 2: I'll actually be getting married in May next year. But
Speaker 2: it's been a bittersweet experience. It'll be a year since
Speaker 2: I lost my dad on a expectedly this June, and
Speaker 2: I've been struggling with celebrating these milestones. But I know
Speaker 2: my mom is struggling in her own way experiencing this
Speaker 2: time without my dad. Do you have any advice or
Speaker 2: words of encouragement for us as we continue to navigate
Speaker 2: milestones like this. Okay, I'm trying not to cry.
Speaker 1: I know, let's breaking my heart. Yes, absolutely, keep your
Speaker 1: mom so in the loop. Have your mom walk you
Speaker 1: down the aisle and talk about you wish your dad
Speaker 1: was here. But make her the center and the focus
Speaker 1: and need her and let her know she's needed. And
Speaker 1: you're so grateful that at least she's here for you.
Speaker 1: It's okay to mourn your dad and wish she was there,
Speaker 1: but make your mom both your mom and your dad
Speaker 1: on that day. That's yeah.
Speaker 2: I would say, Victoria, my daughter got married two and
Speaker 2: a half years ago and her dad passed away by suicide,
Speaker 2: and so the marriage was really a year later than
Speaker 2: would have been. And I will tell you, sweetie, it's
Speaker 2: really hard. It's really hard. Your dad should be there
Speaker 2: to walk you down the aisle. It's it's hard, but
Speaker 2: I would encourage you. My words of encouragement to you
Speaker 2: is you love this guy. You're starting your life together.
Speaker 2: Try to focus on that and that's your happiest day.
Speaker 2: If you want your mom. You know, my daughter didn't
Speaker 2: want me to walk her down the aisle. I wanted to,
Speaker 2: but she didn't. And remember, Victoria, it's your day. So
Speaker 2: love your mom and talk to her about things. But
Speaker 2: this is your day, and my advice to you is
Speaker 2: love the moment. Be sad that your dad's not there,
Speaker 2: but your dad would want you to be happy on
Speaker 2: your wedding day. He would want and you know what,
Speaker 2: he'll be there. He'll be watching over you.
Speaker 1: And have a big picture of him there that he's there,
Speaker 1: you know, and you.
Speaker 2: Know what, There's going to be tough milestones when you
Speaker 2: have your first child, or you know, a career move
Speaker 2: or something that you wish you could celebrate with him,
Speaker 2: But just be patient with yourself and your mom and
Speaker 2: your family and the tray. I wish you a lifetime
Speaker 2: of happiness.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, and include your mommy because she's sad too. That's yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: God bless you. Okay. This one is anonymous. My father
Speaker 1: in law passed away from lung cancer in December. Since then,
Speaker 1: my mother in law has spent her time planning a
Speaker 1: memorial party for him. The party is in a couple
Speaker 1: of weeks, but I'm really worried about her after it happens,
Speaker 1: because she doesn't have much to pass her time. She
Speaker 1: is in her late sixties, doesn't drive more than a
Speaker 1: couple miles, and can't walk for more than a mile
Speaker 1: or so at a time. Her daughter lives with her,
Speaker 1: but otherwise she may go days with her only social
Speaker 1: interaction coming from social media. Do you have any tips
Speaker 1: for activities we might suggest, any ideas of how to
Speaker 1: meet friends in your golden years?
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: That's so sweet that they're worried about her. Though, First
Speaker 1: and foremost.
Speaker 2: There are so so many senior groups out there. It
Speaker 2: takes a little bit of time anonymous, but research online.
Speaker 2: When my husband died, my daughter researched. I didn't even
Speaker 2: know the word meetup groups, but my daughter did it
Speaker 2: and I joined some walking groups. I know your mom
Speaker 2: can't do that, but your mother in law can't do that,
Speaker 2: but look for some meetup groups. They do things like
Speaker 2: go out for meals or go to movies or things
Speaker 2: like that, and it's a great way for your mother
Speaker 2: in law to have social interaction and meet some new people.
Speaker 1: She may rejected at first because she's going to have
Speaker 1: to mour and she's keeping herself very occupied planning this thing.
Speaker 1: She's got to go through all the steps of morning,
Speaker 1: you know, and you can't make her find a friend,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. But it does put you
Speaker 1: have myself out there. Yes, well exactly maybe maybe you.
Speaker 2: Know, yeah, do you have any tips for activities we
Speaker 2: might suggest, so, you know, meet up groups, that kind
Speaker 2: of thing, and our senior centers, a knitting group. I mean,
Speaker 2: there's all kinds of things. And that's a book and
Speaker 2: that's how you get the lightest ball in the alley
Speaker 2: and get a gutter ball. But but it's going to
Speaker 2: be tough for a little while. And I don't know.
Speaker 2: I was lucky enough to make some great friends going
Speaker 2: on the Golden Bachelor. Maybe right here, she's saitting right there,
Speaker 2: but she and God bless you for worrying about isn't
Speaker 2: that nice that she cares about her mother in law
Speaker 2: so much? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: Absolutely? Alrighty Jeff asks, Hey, ladies, how goes it?
Speaker 2: Jeff?
Speaker 1: Here? I'm sixty five, work in Washington, DC, and I'm
Speaker 1: a major league fan of The Golden Bachelor. Where are you? Jeff?
Speaker 1: I enjoy your show and all your ig posts. Here's
Speaker 1: a question I have, and I actually thought of it
Speaker 1: after the second episode of The Golden Bachelor. Both of
Speaker 1: you are consistently upbeat and funny. I know it's not
Speaker 1: insincere because I've worked in politics most of my life
Speaker 1: and can spot posers rather quickly. You know, those individuals
Speaker 1: who are always forcing a happy disposition. I know there's
Speaker 1: a lot of men and women our age who want
Speaker 1: to have your kind of loose approach to everyday life. Hence,
Speaker 1: my question is do you girls have any pointers or
Speaker 1: advice on how people can adopt being happy, go lucky
Speaker 1: and authentic. Is there a mindset you carry within you
Speaker 1: that makes you just roll with it all and with
Speaker 1: a good attitude. Is there something daily someone can do
Speaker 1: to be this way? Thanks for taking my question again,
Speaker 1: Love you ladies and the show. Wow, Susan, you're not
Speaker 1: going to believe warm warm.
Speaker 2: Wait, you are not going to believe this.
Speaker 1: You know them?
Speaker 2: I do now, Sorry, adding I think I know who
Speaker 2: this is. We have talked online, We've talked about meeting
Speaker 2: at some point. I think this is who it is.
Speaker 2: But I'm not going to say she gets to get
Speaker 2: you know what. I was very good in math too.
Speaker 2: Minus zero is still too to do nothing, Kathy, Jeff,
Speaker 2: if this is the Jeff that I know, that is
Speaker 2: his name, and I didn't see it when you said
Speaker 2: I didn't, And I'm thinking.
Speaker 1: Why sharing your DMN with me? You said, now, I
Speaker 1: got crickets. Crickets, that's what you said. You're hiding them.
Speaker 2: Tell the truth. Cat. We have just chatted a few times.
Speaker 2: He's he does work in the DC area. If this
Speaker 2: is the same guy, so let me let me address
Speaker 2: the question though, I don't think Susan and I have
Speaker 2: a loose approach to life. We're definitely not loose. I
Speaker 2: think that we just enjoy life because we have seen
Speaker 2: some of the sadness and the hard times in life.
Speaker 2: And Susan stopped me if I'm wrong or if you disagree,
Speaker 2: but we have lived some tough times and we know
Speaker 2: that there is a you know, the salt's going to
Speaker 2: run out of the shake or whatever that metaphor is
Speaker 2: at some point, and you need to enjoy life. And
Speaker 2: so adopting being happy, go lucky or authentic, I think
Speaker 2: being authentic you either are or you aren't, and we
Speaker 2: are and I think you are. Being happy go lucky
Speaker 2: is a choice, Jeff. It is a choice the mindset.
Speaker 1: People don't have happy in them, the happy.
Speaker 2: Oh you know what, I You've said that to me before.
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't surround myself with people like that that.
Speaker 1: I had really good friends that were gloom and doom
Speaker 1: and miserable most of the time. I don't like to
Speaker 1: be near those kind of people.
Speaker 2: I think he said, is there something daily? And you know, honestly,
Speaker 2: every morning I wake up and I thank God for
Speaker 2: this day, and I and I just I literally say
Speaker 2: a prayer of being grateful for the day, and then
Speaker 2: I try to find during the day just any little
Speaker 2: thing to be grateful for. I mean, like today it
Speaker 2: was my garage door is broken. That's a whole nother story.
Speaker 2: You know, a thousand dollars spring is coming my way,
Speaker 2: and it's one hundred degrees here, and I'm just grateful
Speaker 2: that there was an open space in the shape park
Speaker 2: my car. I'm grateful for that.
Speaker 1: It makes me happy, which brings me to You can't
Speaker 1: make people have a positive attitude. I suggest some books
Speaker 1: that I've read along the way that helped me about
Speaker 1: the universe and what you're putting out there, the vibe
Speaker 1: that you're putting. If you're feeling negative thoughts and asking
Speaker 1: for these positive things, it's not going to blend. You've
Speaker 1: got to be one and the same. You've got to believe.
Speaker 1: I wake up every morning grateful as well. I also
Speaker 1: ask God, please let me walk straight to the bathroom
Speaker 1: and nothing hurt. Some days, I go, oh.
Speaker 2: Wait a minute. If you're waking up and nothing's hurt
Speaker 2: hurting you, you're bionic. At this point. I mean literally,
Speaker 2: I was at my daughters the other night and I
Speaker 2: got up. You know, I walk five miles every day
Speaker 2: and I if I don't stretch, it catches up me. Literally.
Speaker 2: I got off the sofa and Caitlin looks at me.
Speaker 2: She goes, mom, what's wrong do you? I said, I
Speaker 2: walked five miles and I'm old. I'm stiffed. What's wrong
Speaker 2: with you? She started laughing. The point is, Jeff, the
Speaker 2: point is the happiest getting up and walking the five miles.
Speaker 2: The good attitude is, yeah, I didn't stretch it. You know,
Speaker 2: you don't focus on the not stretching and the hurting
Speaker 2: when you wake up in the morning. You focus on
Speaker 2: the good stuff. You focus on the friendships, your children,
Speaker 2: all the good things in life.
Speaker 1: Look for the positives. It's not the dwell on the negatives.
Speaker 2: And if this is the Jeff that I know, reach
Speaker 2: back out to me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, call me. Why is she getting everything?
Speaker 2: Thanks Jef, Thanks Jeff for your for your for your question.
Speaker 2: We love hearing from you. All Right, we've got time
Speaker 2: for another one here. This is from anonymous.
Speaker 1: There are a lot of the not are you name no?
Speaker 2: No? If you feel you know what I want to
Speaker 2: say that people, if you're not comfortable. We are fine
Speaker 2: with you being anonymous, because.
Speaker 1: If you want to ask me out, I need a name.
Speaker 2: Well, and he's asking me first, so there's that. But
Speaker 2: the point is if you're asking the question, if you're
Speaker 2: asking a question, somebody else has the same question. So okay,
Speaker 2: here we go, Anonymous, says Hi, Kathy and Susan. I
Speaker 2: need some advice. I'm really confused right now. I've been
Speaker 2: dating my boyfriend Jack for about two years. Everything has
Speaker 2: been going great, and I really thought I knew everything
Speaker 2: about it. Yeah. No. We're part of a close knit
Speaker 2: friend group, a mix of his friends from college and mine,
Speaker 2: and we all hang out together a lot. There's this
Speaker 2: girl in our group, Lisa. She was part of the
Speaker 2: sorority that mixed with my boyfriend's frat when they were
Speaker 2: in college. I've always gotten along with Lisa really well.
Speaker 2: She's fun, smart, and we've become pretty close friends. Last weekend,
Speaker 2: a few of us went out for drinks and after
Speaker 2: a couple of hours, the conversation turned to past relationships
Speaker 2: and flings. I wasn't really paying attention until one of
Speaker 2: the ax friends, clearly tipsy, blurted out, remember when you
Speaker 2: and Lisa used to hook up. Everyone went silent, and
Speaker 2: Jack looked really uncomfortable. Lisa turned bright red and awkwardly
Speaker 2: laughed it off. Santa was a long time ago and
Speaker 2: not a big deal. I was stunned. Jack had never
Speaker 2: mentioned anything about having to pass with Lisa, and it
Speaker 2: hit me out of nowhere. I didn't really want to
Speaker 2: make a scene, so I didn't say anything. But now
Speaker 2: I can't stop thinking about it. Why didn't either of
Speaker 2: them tell me? Jack tried to talk to me about
Speaker 2: it later that night, but I was too upset and
Speaker 2: asked him to give me some space. I don't know
Speaker 2: what to do. Should I confront Jack and Lisa about
Speaker 2: this again? Should I just let it go since it
Speaker 2: happened before we were together. I'm worried this might change
Speaker 2: the dynamic of our friend group or make things really awkward.
Speaker 2: Any advice on how to handle this situation would be
Speaker 2: greatly appreciated.
Speaker 1: First of all, how long ago was college and dam
Speaker 1: that's his past. You didn't even know him, then you
Speaker 1: have no right to judge. I get it, it'll get
Speaker 1: in your head a little bit, but no, don't make
Speaker 1: a big deal out of this.
Speaker 2: No, I think you're missing this. Why she said, We're
Speaker 2: a part of a close knit friend group, a mix
Speaker 2: of his friends from college and mine. So Lisa was
Speaker 2: his friend. They've all been in this friend group theoretically
Speaker 2: for a while. She's dated the guy for two years. Susan,
Speaker 2: I am going to say, I wholeheartedly disagree with you
Speaker 2: on this. If we have a close friend group, you
Speaker 2: and I are in a close friend group and you
Speaker 2: have slept.
Speaker 1: With the guy that I at dating slept with.
Speaker 2: That Wait, honey, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, listen,
Speaker 2: you are sixty seven. Hook Up in this parlance means
Speaker 2: getting it on, having sex, doing the deed, sticking it whatever,
Speaker 2: you got it now, great, Okay, let's move on. Right,
Speaker 2: they did this, So they did the deed, And I
Speaker 2: gotta say, I find that very suspect that he or Lisa.
Speaker 1: Uh say, it was a long time ago.
Speaker 2: I don't care a small friend group. I'm saying, uh,
Speaker 2: you gotta, you, gotta, you gotta bring that one up.
Speaker 2: I mean, hooking up is different from having an emotional relation.
Speaker 1: Well, he said. She says here that he tried to
Speaker 1: talk to her about it that night.
Speaker 2: That's o Kamon, Susan, I would say, give me some space,
Speaker 2: like I I feel for her. Shocked all of the above.
Speaker 2: And you know what, Lisa turned red because she probably
Speaker 2: was really embarrassed that she was that.
Speaker 1: They agreed not to tell this girl.
Speaker 2: And so okay, So my advice anonymous, and again I'm
Speaker 2: You're not the only one in this boat, sweetie. So
Speaker 2: my advice to you is, take a breath, think about
Speaker 2: what you really want to ask him. Do you just
Speaker 2: want to know if they hooked up? Because they did,
Speaker 2: that's what you heard. So if you want to know,
Speaker 2: you know, I always say to my kids, don't ask
Speaker 2: a question that you don't want the answer to or
Speaker 2: you already know the answer to. So we already know
Speaker 2: we hooked up with her, and Susan just learned what
Speaker 2: hooking up means.
Speaker 1: I really thought it was makeout session.
Speaker 2: Yeah, my daughter made fun of me. I've got to
Speaker 2: be honest. I didn't know until my daughter school. But
Speaker 2: any who, so she already.
Speaker 1: I might have even said, yeah, I hooked up with him.
Speaker 1: I didn't sleep with them, my god.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well now you know, So should I let it
Speaker 2: go since it happened before we were together? Of course not,
Speaker 2: because it's already Let wait a minute. You can let
Speaker 2: it go in terms of not being angry, but you
Speaker 2: can have the conversation with Jack Anonymous and say, hey,
Speaker 2: we've been together two weeks, two years, and we've had
Speaker 2: this close friend group, and you know, it was just
Speaker 2: a horrible way to find out. It's not that I
Speaker 2: judge you for it. It's not I didn't even know
Speaker 2: you that. Like, she should be able to say what
Speaker 2: she thinks and he and he better say.
Speaker 1: He likes her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, And and Jack Man makes a suggestion buy
Speaker 2: her some beautiful.
Speaker 1: Flowers or diamond earrings.
Speaker 2: Or let's go for it, diamond ring if you if
Speaker 2: she's the one, make something happen here, Jack make some music.
Speaker 1: Feel bad for her. That sucks to find out like that.
Speaker 1: She probably had a pit in the bottom of her stomach.
Speaker 1: She wanted to throw up.
Speaker 2: Well, you know, the odd thing is the odd thing
Speaker 2: is they're all that's the red flag for me. They're
Speaker 2: all good, but me, well, I don't know if anybody,
Speaker 2: I don't know, if everyone knew, oh yes, good, yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean, and I.
Speaker 1: Would I would probably tell the whole Thanks guys, thanks
Speaker 1: you all of you knew this, and nobody tried.
Speaker 2: To tell me, Susan, I love you. That's a lot
Speaker 2: of bravado. I think you would be heartbroken and upset.
Speaker 1: You pissed off and for all you know, for all.
Speaker 2: Of you who have been listening to our podcast and
Speaker 2: love Susan. She has a stash of baseball bats, and
Speaker 2: I think one would come out here? Am I right? Yes?
Speaker 1: Are you ready to play some moral quandry?
Speaker 2: All right, go for it? All right, here we go.
Speaker 2: I'll start us off, and let's see where this goes.
Speaker 2: You use your friend's phone to take pictures of her,
Speaker 2: and you see a notification from a group chat of
Speaker 2: all your friends that you're not in. Do you confront her?
Speaker 2: Do you? Snoop? Do you ignore it?
Speaker 1: I go, hey, what is this about? Why did anybody
Speaker 1: tell me?
Speaker 2: That's what?
Speaker 1: I don't know?
Speaker 2: Wait, Susan, you blew it again. I am supposed.
Speaker 1: To supposed to guess what this game should be different.
Speaker 2: No, you need to learn the rules of the game.
Speaker 2: It's not the Susan to the world. Susan does not
Speaker 2: follow rules. So what do you think I would do?
Speaker 2: I know you would confront her. You you for.
Speaker 1: Sure confront her. I would, snoop? Would I ignore it,
Speaker 1: you would confront her.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're right, but I wouldn't do it in the meanway.
Speaker 2: I would just say, why why do you and Joan
Speaker 2: and Nancy have this thing going? Why didn't you include me?
Speaker 2: I would I'd probably have my feelings hurt if it
Speaker 2: were you know, friends, and I knew absolutely, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: have to erase the one we have all going that
Speaker 2: you're not in Susan.
Speaker 1: Great, you know some things are better left on them,
Speaker 1: But don't ask me to use your phone, your dumb head.
Speaker 1: No that yeah, you know what. That one's also at
Speaker 1: my age. I don't know that i'd be as upset,
Speaker 1: like as a teenager when I asked people to go
Speaker 1: to the mall and found out they went without me
Speaker 1: and told me they couldn't go. That hurts. They've done
Speaker 1: it to my daughter, like kids can be mean. But
Speaker 1: as an adult, maybe i'd be a surprise for me.
Speaker 2: I think I'd still be hurt if y'all went out
Speaker 2: for drinks and didn't invite me, I'd be hurt.
Speaker 1: Oh god, yeah, Okay, during a double date with your
Speaker 1: best friend and your boyfriend's her boyfriend puts his hand
Speaker 1: on your knee for a brief moment. He's always been
Speaker 1: really nice to you, and this action makes you rethink everything.
Speaker 1: Your friend seems oblivious, but your boyfriend clocks it immediately.
Speaker 1: What do you do?
Speaker 2: Okay? I think you would say something to the girl
Speaker 2: or the guy, like what are you doing? You'd make
Speaker 2: a joke of it, like okay, what are you doing? You?
Speaker 2: You would just make it. You would make it light and.
Speaker 1: Are trying to rub my leg it? Oh my god,
Speaker 1: my boyfriend here, you better watch out exactly. You would
Speaker 1: make a joke of.
Speaker 2: Me, but you would make a joke of it. You
Speaker 2: wouldn't say what the hell are you doing? What would
Speaker 2: you think I was comfortable? What do you think I
Speaker 2: would do?
Speaker 1: You get excited? You got to now?
Speaker 2: No, no, you know what I would do. I don't
Speaker 2: know what I can tell what I do. I would
Speaker 2: take nicely take his hand off of my thing, and
Speaker 2: I would turn to my boyfriend. I put no, yeah,
Speaker 2: I would. I would take his hand and put it
Speaker 2: back on because she said it made me rethink everything.
Speaker 2: I don't even know what that means. But I would
Speaker 2: like lean over and give my boyfriend a kiss and say,
Speaker 2: you know your mind? I just like I would just
Speaker 2: I wouldn't make a big thing of it. I would
Speaker 2: just end it.
Speaker 1: I mean, was it just for a second, or was
Speaker 1: he really like did he squeeze it?
Speaker 2: Or I might ask him to move his hand up
Speaker 2: and massage my whatever he.
Speaker 1: Just you know, like I do that, Like yeah, you know.
Speaker 2: People are very sensitive. They are too sensitive.
Speaker 1: I am harmless. So people think I'm the biggest in
Speaker 1: the world. I want everybody's boyfriend.
Speaker 2: I'm just flirty.
Speaker 1: I don't mean any.
Speaker 2: Excuse me to the world out there, Bachelor Nation and
Speaker 2: anyone else who's tuning in. I'm available. Susan's available, and
Speaker 2: she's only flirting unless she wants the guy. And then
Speaker 2: your toast, she's going in for the kill. All right,
Speaker 2: here's the next one. You see your current partner out
Speaker 2: at lunch with their ex that you didn't realize they
Speaker 2: still talk to. Do you go over to them, bring
Speaker 2: it up later, or try to forget about it? Get
Speaker 2: What would I do about it? You don't forget me me?
Speaker 2: Oh my god, Susan, I'm saying you wouldn't forget about it.
Speaker 2: Nobody would.
Speaker 1: That's that part don't count.
Speaker 2: Okay, So what would I do?
Speaker 1: You'd probably go up to them.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, no, no, Oh, are you kidding? I
Speaker 2: do not like confrontations.
Speaker 1: Now my clar.
Speaker 2: Wait, the guy I'm dating, my partner, he's out to
Speaker 2: lunch with his ex and I didn't realize they still
Speaker 2: there's an issue right there that I didn't know. They're
Speaker 2: still talking together. I'm thinking my current boyfriend's about to
Speaker 2: be my ex. But that's the whole next story. But
Speaker 2: I would never go over to them. I would ditch
Speaker 2: the place so quickly. You would go up to them.
Speaker 1: I don't know in the moment that I would really. Yeah,
Speaker 1: if it would depend if it's his ex girlfriend or
Speaker 1: his ex wife, I don't know. Like, if it's this
Speaker 1: ex girlfriend, I'm not going to be seen. I'm going
Speaker 1: to hide somewhere and watch. I'm going to stake it out.
Speaker 1: But if it's his ex wife, it could be anything.
Speaker 1: And if she knew about me, then yeah, i'd make
Speaker 1: my presence known.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess it depends on the ex. But yeah,
Speaker 2: I certainly would not go up to them. All Right,
Speaker 2: your neighbor is constantly flirting with your husband. Oh this
Speaker 2: is she bakes him his favorite cookies for his birthday.
Speaker 2: Will always say things like how they need to go
Speaker 2: on a golf trip together. She's nice to you, but
Speaker 2: only have her bring some topics you can't participate in.
Speaker 2: What do you do? Okay, Susan, I'm your neighbor and
Speaker 2: I'm constantly flirting with your husband that you don't have.
Speaker 2: What do you think? What do you think I would do?
Speaker 2: If the tables were reversed? You're coming over to my house?
Speaker 2: What would I do?
Speaker 1: You'd say something to her.
Speaker 2: No, you're flirting with my husband. What would I say,
Speaker 2: I'm doing it?
Speaker 1: Now? Would you say to me you want them?
Speaker 2: Can I just say We're gonna have to come up
Speaker 2: with a new game.
Speaker 1: Because I always think I'm reading the question and I'm
Speaker 1: feeling the answers of.
Speaker 2: What I do you?
Speaker 1: I don't know what anybody will you after you?
Speaker 2: But it just said your neighbor.
Speaker 1: You know I would go to my husband and say,
Speaker 1: do you see what I see? Is there something wrong
Speaker 1: with this picture? And then maybe at the right time,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you. You know what he's taken Your fucking cookies?
Speaker 1: Aren't that good?
Speaker 2: I bake? He's eating my cookies? First, let me just
Speaker 2: tell you, because you.
Speaker 1: Know what I send my next door neighbor ticket gutlets
Speaker 1: all the time, and his wife's there.
Speaker 2: Your wife is all His wife is over at your house,
Speaker 2: hanging with you all the time. There's nothing going on there.
Speaker 2: I will tell you I would not like it. I
Speaker 2: would not like it. I would not like it unless
Speaker 2: she was like, you know, forty years older. No, if
Speaker 2: it were you, Susan, you were flirting with my husband,
Speaker 2: it wouldn't bother me because I know the bond. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but you know, all right, your friend that went through
Speaker 2: a time why did you get to read them?
Speaker 1: All?
Speaker 2: Oh? Sorry, go read?
Speaker 1: No, go ahead, I like when you read.
Speaker 2: I'm a reader? All right? Your friend that went through
Speaker 2: a tough breakup shows you the profile of the guy
Speaker 2: on hinge who she's going on her first post breakup
Speaker 2: date with. You realize it's a guy you casually dated
Speaker 2: last year that you were super into, but he ghosted you.
Speaker 2: You don't say anything, assuming it won't last. Fast forward,
Speaker 2: they've been dating or a few weeks and he didn't
Speaker 2: remember you. When she quote introduced you unquote, what do
Speaker 2: you do? Okay? What would I do?
Speaker 1: I need to read it again?
Speaker 2: Okay, Well you're reading that. I'm gonna tell.
Speaker 1: You she on her first Okay, you realize that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you casually dated, you were super But he goes to you,
Speaker 1: are you going to tell you don't anything?
Speaker 2: Laughing at buta and he didn't remember you? When I would,
Speaker 2: what would I do? You would tell me? In a heartbeat?
Speaker 1: Absolutely, what would I do?
Speaker 2: Oh, don't overthink this, Susan.
Speaker 1: I overthink everything.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, girlfriend, I would tell you what a
Speaker 2: heartbeat you gonna tell? If you know me? If it's me,
Speaker 2: you're no, hell no, let me let me let me
Speaker 2: phrase this for you. Louise. You know Johnny, we just met.
Speaker 2: Guess what he didn't remember eating me. I remember him.
Speaker 2: He had about breath and stepped on my toes three weeks.
Speaker 1: Ago to him. You were very into him and he
Speaker 1: ghosted you. Hey, I want to give you a fair
Speaker 1: share here. That guy ghosted me. I was really into him.
Speaker 1: Maybe I wasn't for him, but I'm just telling you
Speaker 1: what happened.
Speaker 2: That's exactly okay. And then I would say I have
Speaker 2: bad breath and stepped on my feet because he's not right.
Speaker 1: And he didn't dress in, his shoes were weird, and.
Speaker 2: You know what, you can have him.
Speaker 1: He's all yours, sweetheart, let me the first with no.
Speaker 1: But seriously, wait, this is kind of funny, Kathy listening
Speaker 1: to this. So my cousin Donna and I were both
Speaker 1: on dating site and she used to come to me
Speaker 1: and say, wait, I'm talking to this guy. Tell me first,
Speaker 1: did you already meet him? Yes, yeah, you're gonna have.
Speaker 2: Oh that's funny.
Speaker 1: I have a really funny story. I'm sorry. I got
Speaker 1: so an ex boyfriend. Okay, I'm friends with all these
Speaker 1: people down there. This couple's getting married and I'm invited
Speaker 1: to the wedding. So I'm on the phone with his
Speaker 1: daughter and we have to include him for something, for
Speaker 1: his charge card whatever. I'm helping her get the place,
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Long story short. I go, okay, I'm
Speaker 1: going to add your dad. So I add him to
Speaker 1: the call, and this man answers your phone.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: And this man answers the phone and I don't recognize
Speaker 1: the boys, and I'm saying his name and he goes yeah,
Speaker 1: and I go no, I go say your dad. He goes,
Speaker 1: who is this? And I said Susan. He goes, wait
Speaker 1: a minute, Wait a minute. Susan from the Golden bachelor.
Speaker 1: I was like, uh, yeah, he goes. We went on
Speaker 1: a date five years ago. I go, my god.
Speaker 2: Did your guy the wrong number?
Speaker 1: It was the wrong It was the same name, but
Speaker 1: one had an initial after it.
Speaker 2: And I was, you know, okay, I wanted to die.
Speaker 2: That is going to teach you. It's called calling your
Speaker 2: phone book.
Speaker 1: Call I see.
Speaker 2: If you're not dating them anymore, take the lead off
Speaker 2: the roster. Do you know what a roster is? Take
Speaker 2: them off. You can only have twenty eleven on a side,
Speaker 2: on a soccer team.
Speaker 3: You can't have fifteen eighteen, like nine thousand numbers.
Speaker 2: Well, you deserve everything you get. Well.
Speaker 1: Wait, I used to put fake names and try to
Speaker 1: remember who they were. I'd say that, Donna, don't I'm
Speaker 1: going on the dates and I don't remember the guy's name.
Speaker 2: Can I tell you? Wait? Can I just tell you?
Speaker 2: I trust me. I haven't dated very much. I'm I
Speaker 2: went on a date with a guy. There was a
Speaker 2: time for a little bit there when I sort of
Speaker 2: was really trying to date, just to you know, to
Speaker 2: meet people. And I had like three dates in a
Speaker 2: week and I called the guy by the wrong name.
Speaker 2: Have you ever done that? Oh, it's so embarrassing.
Speaker 1: So embarrassing, it sure is, and I admit it to
Speaker 1: one guy. You were my second date today. This ain't
Speaker 1: work to me, I'm out of here.
Speaker 2: No wonder you and I wonder why we're single.
Speaker 1: I know I can't You're not now. I just was saying,
Speaker 1: pat Kathy. For those of you listening in this today,
Speaker 1: I got to surprise Kathy. Some gentlemen, can I listen?
Speaker 2: This is what you're missing? You are wrote listening.
Speaker 1: Asking Katy out pretty much described himself. I mean, he
Speaker 1: was such a jump. I got to be there when
Speaker 1: they meet. I'm just saying, I'm a little.
Speaker 2: Susan's already fast forwarding to officiate the wedding. I know.
Speaker 1: Depends on where he lifts that.
Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you all, it really was a surprise.
Speaker 2: I had the idea, I'm trying to wrap up, have
Speaker 2: to see her face. She's looking through her papers because
Speaker 2: you don't have this copy. We had to try to
Speaker 2: surprise her, and I'm like, we'll just work with me here,
Speaker 2: shut zip it. I promise. I was totally surprised. I
Speaker 2: love it. You know what, though?
Speaker 1: That does it? It went so fast? That does it
Speaker 1: for today's episode of Happy Hour Golden Hour. Thanks so
Speaker 1: much for joining us.
Speaker 2: And be sure to submit your questions to us at
Speaker 2: bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour. We love, really, truly
Speaker 2: love getting to connect with all of you. We love
Speaker 2: hearing what's on your mind and giving you some advice,
Speaker 2: and in my case, I love getting suggestions for dates,
Speaker 2: so keep those coming to you and come. You know what.
Speaker 2: Susan's Susan's great too, so send her some impassivites as well.
Speaker 1: You can pretend, I mean, just like make me feel good,
Speaker 1: you know, but don't ghost me. Listen to Bachelor Happy
Speaker 1: Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you
Speaker 1: listen to your podcast until next time.
Speaker 2: See you, then bye