Speaker 1: Welcome to Katie's Crib, a production of Shonda Land Audio
Speaker 1: in partnership with I Heart Radio. Sometimes I look at
Speaker 1: Vera and I'm like, are you Vera? Like like I
Speaker 1: feel like, can that happen? Absolutely happens. I asked her
Speaker 1: to validated and she showed me that you sensed and
Speaker 1: felt her so much. And now it's almost like, where
Speaker 1: is Grandma. That's what I do. That's what I do,
Speaker 1: that's she's She's literally in the crib right now taking
Speaker 1: a nap. Hi everybody, and welcome back to Katie's Crib. Today,
Speaker 1: we are talking about death. We're talking about losing ones
Speaker 1: we love. We are talking about how the heck do
Speaker 1: we talk about that with our kids. At the time
Speaker 1: of this recording, we lost our Gigi Ma Faye Aaronson,
Speaker 1: who was nine seven when she passed away, and uh,
Speaker 1: there's a lot of questions from my three and a
Speaker 1: half year old about that. And now I can say,
Speaker 1: at the time of recording this intro, we just lost
Speaker 1: our dog, Roger, who is eleven. And both instances are
Speaker 1: my son's first experience with death and he's got a
Speaker 1: lot of questions about it, and so who better to
Speaker 1: have on than the Long Island Medium herself, Teresa Caputo.
Speaker 1: She is a medium. She's a psychic medium. You guys
Speaker 1: know her from her TLC reality TV series The Long
Speaker 1: Island Medium, which I've been on. She's been a practicing
Speaker 1: medium for more than ten years and she's certified with
Speaker 1: the Forever Family Foundation. She's a New York Times bestselling author.
Speaker 1: She's published books like There's More to Life Than This
Speaker 1: and you Can't Make This Stuff Up. She has helped
Speaker 1: countless people find closure to embrace life without their loved ones.
Speaker 1: And you can check out her most recent book called
Speaker 1: Good Morning, Moving through everyday Losses with Wisdom from the
Speaker 1: Other Side now wherever books are sold. She has her
Speaker 1: own like personal guidance to help us. Because she's a
Speaker 1: mom of two grown children, Victoria and Larry, and you guys,
Speaker 1: she's going to be a grandmother. She's like the hottest
Speaker 1: grandmother in the world. Her daughter, Victoria is expecting her
Speaker 1: first child with her husband Michael, sometime in February. Welcome
Speaker 1: to Katie's Crib, Teresa, and congrats. I'm so happy to
Speaker 1: see you again. You have touched me in my family's life.
Speaker 1: The first time we met and you did a reading
Speaker 1: and we spoke to my grandmother Edna, who had passed on,
Speaker 1: and my grandpa Charlie, who had passed on. You're so sweet.
Speaker 1: I love you so much. I can't believe it's been
Speaker 1: the last time I saw you was when you were
Speaker 1: on Broadway. Yeah, you came and you saw us on waitress. Yes,
Speaker 1: before that was the reading and oh no. Then we
Speaker 1: hung out in l A one time. We went to
Speaker 1: until Morman. We did. I've never been so fancy before.
Speaker 1: By the way, Well you're very fancy. Are you coming
Speaker 1: to me from a closet as well? I am, Holy it, Teresa,
Speaker 1: your closet is stunning. I mean, guys, you could see
Speaker 1: what I'm seeing. It's just like it's so organized. But
Speaker 1: it's also I mean, because you love clothes, you love shoes,
Speaker 1: you love the whole thing. So you've really I mean,
Speaker 1: it's a huge part of your person, like your identity is,
Speaker 1: like you love it. It's an expression of yourself. Well,
Speaker 1: your closet does not disappoint. My mom always says, She says,
Speaker 1: I don't know where you came from. You were born
Speaker 1: with a label on your forehead. She's like, and nobody
Speaker 1: in my family is like that. I've always been like that, right, Well,
Speaker 1: you just are who you are. I mean, I mean,
Speaker 1: we're going to talk about all of this, but like
Speaker 1: I think, babies, Oh, I'm so curious. So I just
Speaker 1: thought of another good question to talk to ask a medium.
Speaker 1: Let's first get to a little bit of the okay,
Speaker 1: not medium stuff, just like, did you always know you
Speaker 1: wanted to be a mom? Oh? Yeah, you were always
Speaker 1: going to be a mom. Yeah. From the time I
Speaker 1: was little, I was always like, I'm gonna get married young,
Speaker 1: I'm going to have children at a young age. And
Speaker 1: what I realized, honestly is I would not have been
Speaker 1: able to do what I do if I had children
Speaker 1: later in life. I wouldn't be able to travel and
Speaker 1: and just dedicate who I am to my work. Right.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't write to leave them right right, you Right?
Speaker 1: It would have been much harder for you. Like you're
Speaker 1: always on the road and you're always doing shows and
Speaker 1: all of these things. That makes sense, Okay, So you
Speaker 1: did it. You got married young, right, Yeah, you had
Speaker 1: your babies really young. I had my babies really young.
Speaker 1: I had my son at twenty three, and Victoria, I
Speaker 1: was twenty seven. My son Larry, he was so he
Speaker 1: was such an easy baby. Victoria, she's very different. Larry
Speaker 1: came in in the world, very laid back, like he
Speaker 1: didn't want to leave the womb. I don't think he
Speaker 1: still wants to leave his mama, but very laid back Victoria.
Speaker 1: I mean, I didn't even make it into the operating room.
Speaker 1: She was born right in the labor bed. Came in
Speaker 1: like a tornado. And that is Victoria is how does
Speaker 1: it feel having two adult children because we don't get
Speaker 1: a lot. It's this is so great to have you on,
Speaker 1: but we don't get like I feel like you're done.
Speaker 1: Do you feel like you're done or you feel like
Speaker 1: you're never done. I don't think we're ever done period. Amen,
Speaker 1: your mother. Once you're a mother, I would say, a
Speaker 1: woman never done. Yeah, We're never done, and you're always
Speaker 1: going to be a mom. I mean, my kids still
Speaker 1: come to me with things. Right when that phone rings,
Speaker 1: it's like, oh God, why why, I'm like, what's the matter.
Speaker 1: And my son will literally say to me, Mom, I'm
Speaker 1: just calling because I'm checking. I'm like, Okay, I didn't
Speaker 1: know something, I didn't do that. I'm I'm like that
Speaker 1: with my own mother. Now it's like the rules of
Speaker 1: her verse. She used to do that to me, where
Speaker 1: she'd be like, I haven't heard from you in twenty
Speaker 1: four hours. If you don't call me back, I'm calling
Speaker 1: the police. I'm going to think something's wrong. Blah blah
Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Now when I don't hear from her
Speaker 1: in twenty four hours, I'm like, Mom, your daughter got married,
Speaker 1: So you might be like, we're not going to say
Speaker 1: the word and you're not going to go buy grandma?
Speaker 1: Are you? Like? What would be the word for you?
Speaker 1: We were just talking about that. I'm like, should I
Speaker 1: go by glamy or yes? Done? Sign seal delivered glamy?
Speaker 1: It is, It's perfect. It's absolutely pergrive because you're way
Speaker 1: too cool and hot and interesting like Grandma. I love Grandma.
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong for people who have grandma's grandma's
Speaker 1: I honestly, it really doesn't matter to me. I you know,
Speaker 1: I have to share this though my girlfriend, and she
Speaker 1: she's also one of she's my right hand man. She
Speaker 1: says to me, she goes, well, my, I think I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be called Alex's mom or Morgan's mom. I go,
Speaker 1: you cannot do that. That is your grandchild, Yeah, you
Speaker 1: can't you And also I got news for you. I
Speaker 1: think a lot of times the kids sort of decides
Speaker 1: I was just going to say that, Yeah, my mom
Speaker 1: is amah and that was Now it's stuck, and that's
Speaker 1: what I would be picked my son and that's just
Speaker 1: what she is from now on. Okay, no, wait, wait,
Speaker 1: you realized you had a gift to speak to souls
Speaker 1: and people who have passed on. At what age? When
Speaker 1: did you first realize? I was four, Well, I didn't know.
Speaker 1: I just thought it was normal. But I can remember
Speaker 1: when I look back at the age of four, um
Speaker 1: being in the house that we lived in and seeing
Speaker 1: a woman standing at the end of my bed. And
Speaker 1: I didn't find out for decades later that it was
Speaker 1: my great grandmother that had passed right before I was born.
Speaker 1: And UM always sensing and feeling things that nobody else did. Wow.
Speaker 1: But that's the thing. We think everyone experiences what we do, right,
Speaker 1: or everyone feels the same, and it just isn't so
Speaker 1: no matter what it is in life. So I just
Speaker 1: thought it was normal that everyone heard someone speak to
Speaker 1: them in a room and there was no one else
Speaker 1: in the room but themselves, you know, and so did
Speaker 1: you once you realized what your gift was? Did that
Speaker 1: change for you at all? Being a mother? I feel
Speaker 1: like it makes people really get involved, like cyclically with
Speaker 1: the life and death of it all. I mean, so
Speaker 1: the fact that you're so in touch with people who
Speaker 1: are no longer here, did that make you want to
Speaker 1: have kids even more or less? Well? I didn't know
Speaker 1: until after I had Victoria, So I suffered from anxiety.
Speaker 1: So so from me. A lot of my anxiety came
Speaker 1: from because I'm empathic and I was picking up other
Speaker 1: people's emotions. And it wasn't until I was like twenty
Speaker 1: eight that I discovered Victoria was already a year old,
Speaker 1: my son was five, and that I had the ability
Speaker 1: not only to connect with my own departed loved ones,
Speaker 1: but everyone else's. Then I struggled with it for five years.
Speaker 1: I could not imagine why in the world would I
Speaker 1: be blessed with this gift, and I really really struggled
Speaker 1: with it. It wasn't until nine eleven. After nine eleven
Speaker 1: happened when I decided to do what I do for
Speaker 1: a living. Wow, amazing, and my husband's grandmother just passed
Speaker 1: away on because look at what I just wrote. What
Speaker 1: I wrote before we sat down. I wrote this on
Speaker 1: my pet Grandma, of course, because you're amazing. But is
Speaker 1: she a name? She she tells me she has a namesake.
Speaker 1: So a namesake for me would be form of a
Speaker 1: name or a middle name. Oh, she's a pip like
Speaker 1: she is this little like this little bowl of energy.
Speaker 1: And she's like, I don't want to disturb you and
Speaker 1: your conversation, but like she doesn't stop. She's like dancing
Speaker 1: and singing and I would never know. She's like, how
Speaker 1: old do I look? You think I'm like sixty? Right?
Speaker 1: She looks amazing, So yes, correct, of course you're nailing it.
Speaker 1: Even through the Zoom I learned through the pandemic that
Speaker 1: zoom was the new phone reading for me. How powerful
Speaker 1: and to even feel through doing it through zoom to
Speaker 1: be able to connect people with their loved ones that
Speaker 1: have died and people that passed during cold So okay,
Speaker 1: you're reading me right now. So Grandma Fay passed on Monday.
Speaker 1: No shut up. My daughter is Vera Faye, and Grandma
Speaker 1: Faye passed away. She was seven and she was at
Speaker 1: her house in her bed and you know, I think
Speaker 1: about my God, Yes, if this had been seven months ago,
Speaker 1: and let's say she was in the hospital for whatever reason,
Speaker 1: we wouldn't have been able to be there. There's a
Speaker 1: bunch of people in Miami celebrating her life right now,
Speaker 1: gathering because thank god they're vaccinated and can and you know,
Speaker 1: so so it's as much as it's so sad, it's
Speaker 1: also I'm relieved. I'm just gonna explain to how she
Speaker 1: made me feel. It's almost like she's like, literally she
Speaker 1: stood next to me and whispered in my ears. She goes,
Speaker 1: can you believe I died? I'm like no, But it's
Speaker 1: almost like she's like, I thought I really was going
Speaker 1: to live forever. We all did. I mean, she's nine,
Speaker 1: and she was never um, she never was really sick sick.
Speaker 1: They feel like she never skipped a beat. She she
Speaker 1: just was always going, going, going, And then I was
Speaker 1: like one day I had a cold and I didn't
Speaker 1: feel good. She goes in. The next thing I know,
Speaker 1: my husband's calling me from the other side and telling
Speaker 1: me to come home. Wow, great, you're nailing it. As
Speaker 1: here all singing, and there's just such a celebration on
Speaker 1: the other side. But more importantly, I hear singing here,
Speaker 1: so I don't know, but I can feel everyone gathered
Speaker 1: around my bed, so whether if everyone was there, like
Speaker 1: I can feel people hold my hand telling me that
Speaker 1: it's okay to go. But I hear singing and laughter,
Speaker 1: she says, and then they were crying. She says. That
Speaker 1: kind of made me mad because I don't want anyone
Speaker 1: to cry. Not really mad, but that just showing her
Speaker 1: personality of oh, yeah, she's tough, was a tough cookie.
Speaker 1: Don't you cry? Yeah, like very but also I think
Speaker 1: that you're nailing it. As per usual, she was surrounded
Speaker 1: not when she actually passed, but her daughter was there
Speaker 1: an hour before she passed away. But what's so amazing
Speaker 1: is that her room. Adam was just face timing me
Speaker 1: from her bedroom which is where she passed, and there
Speaker 1: was just pictures of all of us around her, like
Speaker 1: her brother, her father, her two husbands that she outlived
Speaker 1: both of them. She had two beautiful loves of her life,
Speaker 1: also her all of her grandchildren, all of her great grandchildren,
Speaker 1: her daughters. There were pictures of everybody around her, and
Speaker 1: Adam just took me through over FaceTime. He was just like,
Speaker 1: look at this. We were all with her, you know,
Speaker 1: like we were all the pictures around her. She she
Speaker 1: was the matriarch, you know, she was the matriarch of
Speaker 1: a loving, big family where everybody it was just a
Speaker 1: beautiful thing. But that but that's what spirit does. They
Speaker 1: make me feel how they feel. So I love how
Speaker 1: she made me feel like everyone was there and I
Speaker 1: can feel the feelful love. So how did you tell
Speaker 1: your kids, because here's my question. My son is going
Speaker 1: to be like, my son keeps being like, why is
Speaker 1: daddy in Miami? And Adam keeps saying, wait for me
Speaker 1: to come home, and we're going to tell him that
Speaker 1: Gigim died. And the school, his nursery school has been
Speaker 1: very clear to say you use the word dead, not sick,
Speaker 1: because you don't want him to associate like when I
Speaker 1: get a cold, it's a saying. And then we're supposed
Speaker 1: to say she was very very very very old. What
Speaker 1: did you do with your kids and what advice could
Speaker 1: you give parents listening? Well, first I have to say,
Speaker 1: my poor kids went to school. And you know when
Speaker 1: everyone's asking what do your parents do for a living,
Speaker 1: everyone's like, oh, my mom's a nurse. My dad's a
Speaker 1: police officer. There are my kids. My dad's an Italian importer,
Speaker 1: and my mom speaks to dead people. So I'm dead.
Speaker 1: I can't love it. Don't make things complicated. Less is more.
Speaker 1: It's almost like she went to heaven. She's gonna she
Speaker 1: went to live in heaven, and when we go to
Speaker 1: heaven one day, we'll we'll see her again. And then
Speaker 1: maybe you can look for signs or symbols are and
Speaker 1: then explain to him that there might be things that
Speaker 1: remind you of her, or you might think that you
Speaker 1: still see her at times, because young children are very
Speaker 1: sensitive to spirit. That's the other thing I was going
Speaker 1: to ask you about. Is that true that you think
Speaker 1: you're gonna see that with him? You're going to see
Speaker 1: that with him. You might even see you with your
Speaker 1: daughter if she starts looking over your shoulder like you
Speaker 1: could be talking to her, and then all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: like Adam, she's not even paying attention to me. She's
Speaker 1: looking in the corner, because she might be looking at
Speaker 1: a soul and loved ones that have gone before us.
Speaker 1: Then the reason for that is because their minds aren't
Speaker 1: bogged down with burdens and buzziness of a day, responsive abilities, nothing,
Speaker 1: It's so present moment that they're like open a window
Speaker 1: enough to like see. I think as children and even
Speaker 1: some adults were afraid of death. We're afraid to die
Speaker 1: right because it's the unknown. We don't know what is.
Speaker 1: It's so scary. And I think what I do and
Speaker 1: how I work it really validates that the souls are
Speaker 1: at peace. They're not afraid, they're not scared, they're not
Speaker 1: suffering that from the moment the soul leaves the physical body.
Speaker 1: And what I love is how Adam's grandmother validated her personality.
Speaker 1: How would I know her personality? She made me feel that,
Speaker 1: And that's the that's the amazing thing about what I do.
Speaker 1: And I think that I also refer to it um
Speaker 1: as heaven um. I sometimes refer to it at home
Speaker 1: m hm. Our souls are here just having a physical experience.
Speaker 1: And when people are like, what is it like? And
Speaker 1: I'm like, imagine your physical body is like a piece
Speaker 1: of dry ice, and you know how you see the
Speaker 1: vapor like and then it just kind it disappears and
Speaker 1: it's still there but we can't see it. That's like
Speaker 1: what our soul is like I was still there, but
Speaker 1: we can't see it. We can maybe feel it, we
Speaker 1: can maybe smell it, but we can't maybe necessarily touch it.
Speaker 1: But it doesn't mean that they're not with us. God,
Speaker 1: I still need to hear this about because my God,
Speaker 1: I have such death anxiety and I don't want that
Speaker 1: for my children. You know. I just feel like I'm
Speaker 1: so afraid of it, And I wonder, did you do
Speaker 1: you think, because of what you do and because it's
Speaker 1: such an part of your life, do you think your
Speaker 1: kids have a good relationship with death? Absolutely? Really, I
Speaker 1: don't want to die, right, But let's face it, We're
Speaker 1: all going to die, right, It's the circle of life.
Speaker 1: I don't sound cliche, but it's true. I don't want
Speaker 1: to die, but I know when it is my time
Speaker 1: that I know I'm going to be at peace. I'm
Speaker 1: going to be safe, and I'm going to be greeted
Speaker 1: by other loved ones that have gone before me. Everything else,
Speaker 1: I'll find it when I get there, right. But But
Speaker 1: I mean that was I mean, honestly, I think we
Speaker 1: all at some point we have a fear of death
Speaker 1: because we don't know what it's like. But I've learned
Speaker 1: to um and listen. I do struggle with it still
Speaker 1: at times, but majority of the time I'm able to
Speaker 1: focus on faith not fear. So I try to say,
Speaker 1: just focus on the positive and release anything negative or
Speaker 1: that doesn't serve you any purpose. Let go of. Just
Speaker 1: because we let go of like pain, sorrow and negative
Speaker 1: emotions doesn't mean that we don't care. It just means
Speaker 1: that we're letting go of things that that don't serve
Speaker 1: as a purpose or aren't good for us. I love that.
Speaker 1: I always think it, and this is my like, woo woo.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's true. When a baby or
Speaker 1: a soul comes into a person to be born, Are
Speaker 1: they like passing a hallway of somebody leaving? Is that
Speaker 1: like like I literally picture it. I'm like, are they
Speaker 1: coming and going? Is like that sort of the vibe
Speaker 1: it can be. But from what spirit has shown me,
Speaker 1: this like a soul circle. Okay, we do re enter
Speaker 1: and I've done something called a past life regression. There's
Speaker 1: the one example that I always used to show people
Speaker 1: what I mean by a soul circle. It was this
Speaker 1: one life I was a young man. There was a
Speaker 1: fire and I'm searching for someone and looking for someone.
Speaker 1: And when I finally found this young boy, the woman
Speaker 1: conducting it first she asked me who I found and said, oh,
Speaker 1: I found my brother, and I was a man in
Speaker 1: a previous life. And she says, look in his eyes,
Speaker 1: and who do you see? And I saw my nephew,
Speaker 1: my brother's son, So in a previous life, I was
Speaker 1: his older brother. I am so with you on this stuff, truly,
Speaker 1: because I I know, like they say, souls travel together,
Speaker 1: and I just feel like, like I've known my kids
Speaker 1: before are in different relationshipferent way. It's super weird, Like
Speaker 1: I'm like, why do I know that about her? Like
Speaker 1: why do I know that? And then I'm like, why
Speaker 1: is this kid my test? Right now? I'm always like,
Speaker 1: were you like my dad and we didn't get along?
Speaker 1: My son, I'm like, I know exactly what. It's the
Speaker 1: same thing when people have fears for no reason, right.
Speaker 1: I've also done that where I've had fears of pouring rain,
Speaker 1: like I could, I literally could. I would be paralyzed,
Speaker 1: I could not go out in the pouring rain. And
Speaker 1: I did a past life regression years later and found
Speaker 1: out that I did. I had died on a boat
Speaker 1: in a very bad storm and I had drowned. So
Speaker 1: there is sometimes because I have a fear of snakes,
Speaker 1: they most likely in a previous life right incident with
Speaker 1: a snake. And and sometimes people even have that feeling
Speaker 1: and they're like, I feel like something's going to happen.
Speaker 1: Doesn't mean something is going to happen. You can also
Speaker 1: mean that in a previous life. This is when something
Speaker 1: happened in your life, but when you passed at that
Speaker 1: age in a previous life. Have you ever been given
Speaker 1: parenting advice in any of your readings? I think you know.
Speaker 1: Spirit will make acknowledgements like if um, if something isn't working,
Speaker 1: or like if there's something wrong like say like allergies
Speaker 1: or you know, uh, you know things like that they're
Speaker 1: things that we can prevent or improve. That's when Spirit
Speaker 1: will intervene and give advice. I really want people to
Speaker 1: know that there really is an afterlife, and more importantly,
Speaker 1: that you still have this soul bond and connection with
Speaker 1: your departed loved ones. To know that all the little
Speaker 1: things that go on around you that remind you of
Speaker 1: them or that you just think of them, to know
Speaker 1: that they're little hellos from heaven and that you're not crazy.
Speaker 1: It's not your imagination, it is their soul with you.
Speaker 1: And if spirit brings up things that we're thinking about
Speaker 1: doing wanting to do, it's to validate that they're with
Speaker 1: us at that exact moment, but more importantly, that they
Speaker 1: support our choices and decisions. M hmm. I had never
Speaker 1: felt when I got pregnant with my daughter. I had
Speaker 1: never felt my great grandma's presence that much. And it's
Speaker 1: like we conceived her. I hadn't even peed on a
Speaker 1: stick yet to know I was pregnant, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: my gosh, she's Vera. She's my grand I didn't know
Speaker 1: if she was my grandma Vera or like, but I've
Speaker 1: never thought of that as a name. And then I
Speaker 1: went to a him and I was like, I know it,
Speaker 1: I know her name, and I said it's Vera and
Speaker 1: Adam said, oh my God, that is her name. Everything
Speaker 1: was on such an inspired path, and I and I
Speaker 1: just prayed to her so much because I struggled so much.
Speaker 1: My pregnancy was the entire I got pregnant a week
Speaker 1: before shutdown, so at the beginning of the pregnancy, it
Speaker 1: was a lot of fear based I had every fear
Speaker 1: beyond everybodief. I thought I was gonna die. I thought
Speaker 1: she was gonna die. No one knew how COVID affected fetuses,
Speaker 1: how it affected pregnancy. I was around a lot of
Speaker 1: people who got COVID at the beginning because it was um,
Speaker 1: you know, I was on a set with hundreds of
Speaker 1: people who were sick before shutdown and um, and I
Speaker 1: was already one week pregnant but didn't know yet, and
Speaker 1: as and I in my mind like I was like,
Speaker 1: holy shit, I think I'm pregnant, and holy shit, I'm
Speaker 1: really afraid. I prayed a lot during this pregnancy for
Speaker 1: help and for ancestors and for any guides to help
Speaker 1: me through my feelings, and Vera just kept popping up.
Speaker 1: And then I was like, I know that she's fair
Speaker 1: skinned and like blue wide. My husband and I are
Speaker 1: brownsk like tan olive and dark eyes. My daughter is
Speaker 1: just like my Irish great grandma Era. Well, I am
Speaker 1: going to say that you felt a presence and maybe
Speaker 1: you might not feel her as much. Is that correct? Yeah,
Speaker 1: her soul probably re entered into Vera. You think so,
Speaker 1: because I just because when I wrote Grandma down the
Speaker 1: first time, I felt new, like I didn't feel like
Speaker 1: I had been gone for some time. Oh so Grandma
Speaker 1: Fae passed on Monday, so that's like a new like
Speaker 1: she's just left. She just liked the building, just left.
Speaker 1: At the time of this recording, she's been gone for
Speaker 1: five days. Less crazy. So let let me let me
Speaker 1: ask you. This was there time throughout your pregnancy where
Speaker 1: you really felt you grab I don't know if it
Speaker 1: was or you would always just like picture her house
Speaker 1: dress or something like a particular clothing that she would wear,
Speaker 1: and I feel like I would smell her. And now
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I feel her, but I don't
Speaker 1: feel her, if that makes sense to you, Yeah, she
Speaker 1: might be in there. Sometimes I look at Vera and
Speaker 1: I'm like, are you Vera, Like like I feel like,
Speaker 1: can that happen? Absolutely happens. I did a reading years ago.
Speaker 1: It was long before Long Island Medium. It was a
Speaker 1: mother and a daughter and the daughter I said to her,
Speaker 1: I feel like your sister's here, but she's not here.
Speaker 1: And she's telling me that you used to send her
Speaker 1: all the time and you don't anymore. And then she's
Speaker 1: showing me your daughter, and you see your sister and
Speaker 1: your daughter. And she said, I used to see my
Speaker 1: sister all the time, and the day my daughter was born,
Speaker 1: I stopped seeing my sister. That's like what I had.
Speaker 1: That's really weird. I asked her to validated, and she
Speaker 1: showed me that you sensed and felt her so much.
Speaker 1: And now it's almost like, where is Grandma. That's what
Speaker 1: I do, That's what I do. That's she's in the
Speaker 1: best net. She's literally in the crib right now taking
Speaker 1: a nast well. And I keep looking at her and like,
Speaker 1: why Adam, And I keep saying, why don't you look
Speaker 1: anything like us? Why do you look like this? Because
Speaker 1: my son is is my spinning image. You know. Our
Speaker 1: Vera is like this little Irish granny, which don't be surprised.
Speaker 1: Don't be surprised if she is like a little old lady.
Speaker 1: Like if you're like, oh my god, she's such an
Speaker 1: old soul. Well we named for Vera. I'm like, it's yes,
Speaker 1: she she might she could be. We were you guys
Speaker 1: just talking about her getting her ears pierced or something,
Speaker 1: or about not piercing them. Yeah, we were talking about
Speaker 1: not piercing perfect. I just asked spirit to validate that
Speaker 1: we're interpreting everything correctly. And they're like talked her about
Speaker 1: the non piercing of the ear. First they showed me
Speaker 1: piercing and the like no, no, no, no, no, that
Speaker 1: is are you kidding. We just had this conversation where
Speaker 1: people were like, because I've had a son, I didn't
Speaker 1: think about these things. And so I've been thinking like, oh,
Speaker 1: like people do pierce their little girl's ears like early
Speaker 1: and her next door neighbor is a doctor and in
Speaker 1: COVID she was piercing baby's ears in front lawn. Oh
Speaker 1: my god. And so I was like, oh, we could
Speaker 1: always bring her over there, and we were been like no, no, no,
Speaker 1: We're not piercing her until she's like ted. Well, this
Speaker 1: is an example of what I talked about before. Now
Speaker 1: this doesn't mean you go up, Adam. I I spoke
Speaker 1: to Teresa and she said that our our ancestor said,
Speaker 1: never pierced their ears or get the ears passed. It's
Speaker 1: validating that their souls were present for that conversation. And
Speaker 1: more importantly, I think acknowledging you that your daughter carries
Speaker 1: your grandmother's soul and you're a part of her soul
Speaker 1: with her. Yeah, this might be a little bit hard,
Speaker 1: but I you're tersa capuda, so you can do I think,
Speaker 1: what do you tell people who want to speak to
Speaker 1: you about children they've lost or pregnancies they've lost. It's
Speaker 1: so interesting because I was going to ask you about
Speaker 1: a miscarriage to a miscarriage. Of course you know that
Speaker 1: I did well. And that also went back to on
Speaker 1: how I started to write fear down in the beginning
Speaker 1: because there was this fear of you losing the child
Speaker 1: again and not knowing what to do. A soul is
Speaker 1: a soul. A bond is a bond. So when I
Speaker 1: see a blue blanket, it's my similar for a child
Speaker 1: that did not get the opportunity to walk into the
Speaker 1: physical world. But the soul is still a soul, and
Speaker 1: this still is a connection. So women who feel who
Speaker 1: who have miscarriages, I mean that is that's a soul.
Speaker 1: I mean that is a soul that they've connected to
Speaker 1: that has now left even a termination. You know. Um,
Speaker 1: I've also learned through what I do, how people don't
Speaker 1: or they change because of a decision that they that
Speaker 1: had to be made for whatever reason at that time. Miscarriage,
Speaker 1: termination doesn't matter. It was a soul that did not
Speaker 1: get the opportunity to walk here in the physical world
Speaker 1: is acknowledging that it has grown on the other side,
Speaker 1: still loving, guiding and protecting you from the other side.
Speaker 1: Oh that's so beautiful. Yeah. Yeah, that's really hard. People
Speaker 1: have to make some hard decisions for multitude of reasons,
Speaker 1: and it's so hard. Your body like still went through something.
Speaker 1: It's crazy, you know, And I think, um, you know,
Speaker 1: we we we kind of touched on the pandemic. We're
Speaker 1: talking about a loss as a loss. While I was
Speaker 1: going through um my separation with Larry, I kept feeling
Speaker 1: the need and spirit was pushing me to write another book.
Speaker 1: And I was like, I was like, the timing isn't right.
Speaker 1: I was like going through through the divorce. And it
Speaker 1: was about two years before Covid and I started writing
Speaker 1: this book called Good Morning m O U R N
Speaker 1: I n J. Such a good title, such a good title.
Speaker 1: And what this book is about is that we have
Speaker 1: losses every day and we don't grieve them. And that's
Speaker 1: why sometimes when we have big, big things happen in
Speaker 1: our life and then we hit that low of depression, anxiety,
Speaker 1: or whatever it may be, because we allow all of
Speaker 1: these things that we never grieved, maybe a miscarriage, maybe
Speaker 1: it is a loved one. No matter what anyone went through,
Speaker 1: even this past year, they were able to connect and
Speaker 1: identify with things in this book because at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, a loss is a loss. Some people
Speaker 1: come to me because they lost a pet, but that
Speaker 1: pet maybe they couldn't have children, So there their dog
Speaker 1: or their cat was like huge family member. I mean,
Speaker 1: I remember years ago doing a group reading and saying
Speaker 1: I was, I was. I was like in front of
Speaker 1: five thousand people. Woman in my front row and I
Speaker 1: said to her, I said, did you lose your daughter?
Speaker 1: And she said no, I never could have children. So
Speaker 1: I said, well, there's a daughter soul standing next to you,
Speaker 1: and she's telling me that you have to make choices
Speaker 1: and decisions to her death, that you wear a braceleted
Speaker 1: memory of her. And she was like, that's my cat,
Speaker 1: she said, And I'm wearing wearing the bracelet o and
Speaker 1: had the cat's poor print on it. But her cat
Speaker 1: was like her daughter. Wow. And that's how I communicate
Speaker 1: with spirit is through feeling and through knowing. Sometimes I've wondered,
Speaker 1: I don't know this, Like if you miscarry or terminated
Speaker 1: pregnancy or whatever. Does that soul come back if you
Speaker 1: have another kid or is it a different soul? It can?
Speaker 1: It can, it could be, it could be a different soul. Um.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'll even have um, so they'll they'll say, oh,
Speaker 1: I have now a sister, um, and that's the rainbow baby.
Speaker 1: That means that that and and that soul stays on
Speaker 1: the other side. Interesting, so cool. Another crazy thing is
Speaker 1: what will happen. Sometimes they'll show me two babies, but
Speaker 1: only one baby here, and then they'll show me a
Speaker 1: baby on the other side that pass or something. And
Speaker 1: sometimes they'll say, my soul's purpose for that little bit
Speaker 1: of time was to give life to my sibling. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: my god, that is um. What about people who have
Speaker 1: lost children like have you? I've seen you do readings
Speaker 1: like that. That is the fucking worship. Ever, I don't
Speaker 1: even know how you do what you do. I don't
Speaker 1: like to compare losses because who's to say, right, what
Speaker 1: loss is harder than another. But parents are not supposed
Speaker 1: to bury their children. And you know, all we want
Speaker 1: for our children is for them to be the best
Speaker 1: that they can be successful, right, and just proud of
Speaker 1: themselves and have confidence and and then you know, unfortunately,
Speaker 1: there are children that I've channeled at the age of
Speaker 1: twelve that took their own life because they were bullied.
Speaker 1: There are so many heartbreaking stories. But the peace that
Speaker 1: they're able to give their parents is such an honor
Speaker 1: and a privilege to do what I do. And it
Speaker 1: doesn't make it doesn't make it easy for them, because
Speaker 1: I know the only thing would be to give them
Speaker 1: their child back. But how amazing is it for them
Speaker 1: to validate that they're still with them, just in a
Speaker 1: different way by communicating with that personality, giving having me
Speaker 1: say things to their parents that make them laugh. We
Speaker 1: just did a an episode on on my podcast. That's
Speaker 1: how I started doing podcasting, was through the pandemic that
Speaker 1: I realized I could read people over zoom. Lucky for
Speaker 1: all of us, thank god, there was a woman that
Speaker 1: I had read and unfortunately she lost. Her name is Danielle,
Speaker 1: and she lost her daughter and we did it for
Speaker 1: it turned out to be not knowing at the time
Speaker 1: that the episode was airing was for Mother's Day and
Speaker 1: that her daughter passed of a brain tumor, a very
Speaker 1: rare form of brain cancer. And it turned out that
Speaker 1: May was brain cancer p and pediatric you know, awareness month,
Speaker 1: and we were like, whoa, this is like crazy. We
Speaker 1: didn't even realize that at the time, and the messages
Speaker 1: and the healing that was given that day is was
Speaker 1: just incredible. Still hard, not easy, but I know that
Speaker 1: for Danielle and her family it will make it a
Speaker 1: little bit easier in embracing a day and knowing that
Speaker 1: their daughter is still with them all these years. I'm
Speaker 1: doing this right. Spirit never ceases to amaze me on
Speaker 1: how they're able to give us that gift of healing
Speaker 1: and peace. It also restores people's faith. I'm also just
Speaker 1: gonna say this because I'm gonna I've I've just remembered something.
Speaker 1: What things are not a coincidence because we was supposed
Speaker 1: to do this podcast like a month ago. I know.
Speaker 1: See Grandma Fay was supposed to be here. She's like,
Speaker 1: you bitch is weight You're not doing this podcast? So
Speaker 1: that is so true. That's bizarre. Okay, before we wrap up,
Speaker 1: I want to know do you have anything that left
Speaker 1: that you want to say. First I'm going to say
Speaker 1: is that, um, don't ever veer from your gut instinct
Speaker 1: or your intuition. You are responsible for your own happiness. People, things, experiences,
Speaker 1: they can make you happy, but you, at the end
Speaker 1: of the day, are responsible for your own happiness. And
Speaker 1: you know your children better than anyone else. I can
Speaker 1: remember bringing my kids to the doctor and he would say, Okay, well, Teresa,
Speaker 1: tell me this, and he'd be asking me these questions
Speaker 1: and I'd be like them, hey, doc, like you know,
Speaker 1: what are you asking me these for? And he said, Teresa,
Speaker 1: you know your child better than anyone else. I can
Speaker 1: just give you a name. It's so true, and I
Speaker 1: think we're so hard on ourselves and we will do
Speaker 1: it at times like am I good enough? Am I
Speaker 1: doing this right? Nobody talks about, you know, being a
Speaker 1: new mom, what it's like, you know, um having postponedum or,
Speaker 1: and what about the next stage menopause. It's the same
Speaker 1: thing with grieving. And I used to use this example
Speaker 1: with grieving because people struggle with grieving. Am I doing
Speaker 1: it right? I should be doing this, I should be
Speaker 1: feeling this. And I would always say to them, listen,
Speaker 1: it's like having a baby. No one give you a pamphlet,
Speaker 1: They give you a case of formula and they say,
Speaker 1: good luck, good luck, have a nice life. And you
Speaker 1: listen to your parents, your grandparents, your friends. But at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, what do you do? You
Speaker 1: take what works for you. You You listen. Some things you'll
Speaker 1: you'll apply, and some things you won't. I can remember
Speaker 1: I was breastfeeding and then um, it's different when you know,
Speaker 1: and I went through the whole guilt of stopping because
Speaker 1: I could only do it for a couple of weeks,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I can't do this. I have
Speaker 1: two children. Yes, I struggled with it because I felt guilty. Well, mom,
Speaker 1: guilt is a real guilt in general. You gotta throw
Speaker 1: that out the window right then. The second you feel
Speaker 1: that guilt, you get that broom and you sweep that
Speaker 1: right out of your thoughts. And I remember and the
Speaker 1: doctors saying, put her on this formula, this formula, and
Speaker 1: I she was on all these crazy formulas, and then
Speaker 1: I felt guilty, like, oh my god, I shouldn't stop breastfeeding.
Speaker 1: And then one day I'm like, I'm going to use
Speaker 1: this gurb of powder. I was using these all organic
Speaker 1: diapers and my and my nanny was like, she had
Speaker 1: really to diprsh My now name is like I sometimes
Speaker 1: think that we should just use pampers, and I was like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: I mean it's just funny, but like it's really there's
Speaker 1: no right way. But I think trusting your gut is
Speaker 1: really the most important thing, which God you really I
Speaker 1: mean being able to speak two souls. You really got
Speaker 1: to trust your gut. He's the other thing. Don't feel
Speaker 1: guilty if things don't work out the first time you try,
Speaker 1: try again, because he's going to take another dump in
Speaker 1: his diaper. And then you get if you don't like
Speaker 1: the pampers, you try something else exactly, you'll have the
Speaker 1: opportunity and and and you know what, what people have
Speaker 1: to realize we're all the same. You're it's okay not
Speaker 1: to be okay. Nothing has to be a big deal,
Speaker 1: unless if we make it a big deal. I try
Speaker 1: to look at things in life of things happen for me,
Speaker 1: not to me. Try to look at things as like
Speaker 1: problem solving, like okay, this is horrible, this is you know,
Speaker 1: but listen. I have my days to where I like
Speaker 1: totally like freak out over like the littlest thing, and
Speaker 1: then I'm like all right, wait a minute, and then
Speaker 1: I'm okay, you had your little mini breakdown. You're you're okay, like,
Speaker 1: but it's okay. You have to have those moments. Don't
Speaker 1: be so hard on yourself. If you look back on
Speaker 1: things and anyone listening and you say, I don't know
Speaker 1: if I would do that, I don't know if I
Speaker 1: would make that decision again, then look at that as
Speaker 1: a lesson learned, not a mistake, because you learned something,
Speaker 1: you learned that you'd never do that again, or you
Speaker 1: grew from that. Yeah, totally. And your kids are awesome,
Speaker 1: So you did a good job. They really are, Like
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I just pray and hope that,
Speaker 1: like I can have kids at your kid's age and
Speaker 1: just look at them and be like, you know that
Speaker 1: I that I helped support and guide them, but they
Speaker 1: are who they are and they're just living a life
Speaker 1: that makes them happy where they are themselves and confident
Speaker 1: and you know, just all of that stuff. I hope
Speaker 1: I see And look at you. You did it. I
Speaker 1: know you said you're not done, but from my perspective,
Speaker 1: I'm like, holy crap, you have like adult children who
Speaker 1: are making adult decisions. They are The other thing, Katie
Speaker 1: is this is one of the things that I took
Speaker 1: from COVID on on the lockdown of trying to find
Speaker 1: the silver lining. Look at this connection. So maybe people
Speaker 1: that don't live with their families or near their families,
Speaker 1: so once a month they just get on a zoom call,
Speaker 1: even if it's for fifteen minutes. COVID is as fucked
Speaker 1: up as this whole year has been. Like my husband,
Speaker 1: who used to speak to his parents probably once every
Speaker 1: two weeks, he he facetimes his parents every day. Now
Speaker 1: his kids, his parents see my kids every day on FaceTime.
Speaker 1: It's it's so important, believable. He's never spoken to his
Speaker 1: parents this much, is his His grandmother and grandfather rolled
Speaker 1: their eyes and like, yeah, when he calls his parents
Speaker 1: and like gets at him again and yeah, they talk
Speaker 1: a lot. They talk a lot. And it's really like
Speaker 1: been such a great thing because again I think that
Speaker 1: it made him really close to his parents to go
Speaker 1: through the loss of his grandmother, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: He feels so the family feels very bonded, even though
Speaker 1: they've been apart physically. I'm going to say this and
Speaker 1: I don't mean to interrupt you, And I think you
Speaker 1: said nothing because I think we brought up COVID a
Speaker 1: couple of times, so I'm going to say this for
Speaker 1: anyone listening. Realize also that when a soul leaves a
Speaker 1: physical body, they leave behind every and any disability under ailment.
Speaker 1: They do not take it with them. So for maybe
Speaker 1: the folks out there that might have to up laid
Speaker 1: their loved ones to rest differently because of COVID or
Speaker 1: not the way that they would have if it wasn't
Speaker 1: for the lockdown, know that. And I don't mean to
Speaker 1: sound cold or rude by this. They don't care what
Speaker 1: we do with their physical body. That's for us. They're
Speaker 1: not a part of that. So if somebody is out
Speaker 1: there struggling with that, don't let that go and replace
Speaker 1: it with something positive. Knowing and remembering them to really
Speaker 1: validate that that the souls are at peace. That makes
Speaker 1: me really happy to hear that she's over there. Um,
Speaker 1: And I want to you to say answer one thing.
Speaker 1: Parenthood is. Yeah, it is, but it's also the most
Speaker 1: rewarding it is. And if your children are out there
Speaker 1: saying that they're they're seeing someone in their room or
Speaker 1: a presence, show them a picture of someone that has died.
Speaker 1: I guarantee a little be like, oh, yeah, that's the
Speaker 1: man that's in my room. I know that that's what's
Speaker 1: happening because my husband, my son was just on face
Speaker 1: time with Adam and Adam was in the hotel room
Speaker 1: in Miami, a room he's never seen. And Adam and
Speaker 1: my son was like Gigi mas there literally yeah. And
Speaker 1: it isn't until this moment where I was like, oh
Speaker 1: my god, do you think he really saw her? I
Speaker 1: had just sort of let it go that, oh, he
Speaker 1: knows Adams in Miami, but he was in a room
Speaker 1: he'd never seen. But that's also a way of embracing
Speaker 1: you talked to you asked me earlier about death, Like
Speaker 1: what a way of saying yes, even though she's in heaven,
Speaker 1: she's still with you, just in a different way. Her
Speaker 1: soul is still with you. And know that if you
Speaker 1: see things that remind you of her, know that that's
Speaker 1: just her way of saying hello from heaven. So I
Speaker 1: just heard you connect with hummingbirds. Well, look for the hummingbirds. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we always look for hummingbirds. They're always at my front
Speaker 1: of my house. See I don't have them. I live
Speaker 1: on the East Coast. We don't have hummingbirds. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: have hummingbirds like nobody's business. Okay, so that's faye. Wow. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm going to tell Adam like the this is so helpful.
Speaker 1: Perfect way to end. Teresa Caputo, you are the best
Speaker 1: um and I see you licking your lips, which is
Speaker 1: I means souls are here. They are among us, they
Speaker 1: are with us. If you watch The Long Island Medium,
Speaker 1: which I've seen quite many episodes, one of the favorite
Speaker 1: best television shows of all time, Teresa licks her lips
Speaker 1: when souls are present. Right, I didn't even know I
Speaker 1: was licking my lips. She does this like whole lip thing.
Speaker 1: Thank you for coming up, love you, Love you so much. Fight.
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