WEBVTT - Teaching Kids Good Mourning w/ Theresa Caputo 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:03.119 Welcome to Katie's Crib, a production of Shonda Land Audio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:06.240 in partnership with I Heart Radio. Sometimes I look at 0:00:06.320 --> 0:00:10.280 Vera and I'm like, are you Vera? Like like I 0:00:10.320 --> 0:00:14.440 feel like, can that happen? Absolutely happens. I asked her 0:00:14.480 --> 0:00:16.319 to validated and she showed me that you sensed and 0:00:16.360 --> 0:00:19.160 felt her so much. And now it's almost like, where 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:21.560 is Grandma. That's what I do. That's what I do, 0:00:21.720 --> 0:00:26.960 that's she's She's literally in the crib right now taking 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:37.440 a nap. Hi everybody, and welcome back to Katie's Crib. Today, 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:42.200 we are talking about death. We're talking about losing ones 0:00:42.240 --> 0:00:45.199 we love. We are talking about how the heck do 0:00:45.240 --> 0:00:48.279 we talk about that with our kids. At the time 0:00:48.320 --> 0:00:52.840 of this recording, we lost our Gigi Ma Faye Aaronson, 0:00:53.240 --> 0:00:58.560 who was nine seven when she passed away, and uh, 0:00:58.800 --> 0:01:00.800 there's a lot of questions from my three and a 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:03.800 half year old about that. And now I can say, 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:07.200 at the time of recording this intro, we just lost 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:11.560 our dog, Roger, who is eleven. And both instances are 0:01:11.640 --> 0:01:14.399 my son's first experience with death and he's got a 0:01:14.440 --> 0:01:16.440 lot of questions about it, and so who better to 0:01:16.480 --> 0:01:20.760 have on than the Long Island Medium herself, Teresa Caputo. 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:23.840 She is a medium. She's a psychic medium. You guys 0:01:23.880 --> 0:01:26.319 know her from her TLC reality TV series The Long 0:01:26.319 --> 0:01:28.960 Island Medium, which I've been on. She's been a practicing 0:01:29.000 --> 0:01:31.000 medium for more than ten years and she's certified with 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:34.279 the Forever Family Foundation. She's a New York Times bestselling author. 0:01:34.600 --> 0:01:37.800 She's published books like There's More to Life Than This 0:01:38.240 --> 0:01:41.160 and you Can't Make This Stuff Up. She has helped 0:01:41.200 --> 0:01:44.640 countless people find closure to embrace life without their loved ones. 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:47.559 And you can check out her most recent book called 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:51.920 Good Morning, Moving through everyday Losses with Wisdom from the 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:55.160 Other Side now wherever books are sold. She has her 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:58.480 own like personal guidance to help us. Because she's a 0:01:58.520 --> 0:02:02.000 mom of two grown children, Victoria and Larry, and you guys, 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:05.200 she's going to be a grandmother. She's like the hottest 0:02:05.200 --> 0:02:07.720 grandmother in the world. Her daughter, Victoria is expecting her 0:02:07.760 --> 0:02:12.239 first child with her husband Michael, sometime in February. Welcome 0:02:12.280 --> 0:02:21.600 to Katie's Crib, Teresa, and congrats. I'm so happy to 0:02:21.639 --> 0:02:25.880 see you again. You have touched me in my family's life. 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:28.200 The first time we met and you did a reading 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:32.400 and we spoke to my grandmother Edna, who had passed on, 0:02:32.560 --> 0:02:36.440 and my grandpa Charlie, who had passed on. You're so sweet. 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:39.080 I love you so much. I can't believe it's been 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:40.680 the last time I saw you was when you were 0:02:40.720 --> 0:02:44.040 on Broadway. Yeah, you came and you saw us on waitress. Yes, 0:02:45.160 --> 0:02:47.560 before that was the reading and oh no. Then we 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:49.560 hung out in l A one time. We went to 0:02:49.720 --> 0:02:53.600 until Morman. We did. I've never been so fancy before. 0:02:53.600 --> 0:02:55.720 By the way, Well you're very fancy. Are you coming 0:02:55.760 --> 0:03:00.560 to me from a closet as well? I am, Holy it, Teresa, 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:04.639 your closet is stunning. I mean, guys, you could see 0:03:04.639 --> 0:03:07.640 what I'm seeing. It's just like it's so organized. But 0:03:07.680 --> 0:03:10.200 it's also I mean, because you love clothes, you love shoes, 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:12.840 you love the whole thing. So you've really I mean, 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:15.640 it's a huge part of your person, like your identity is, 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:18.079 like you love it. It's an expression of yourself. Well, 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:22.080 your closet does not disappoint. My mom always says, She says, 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:24.080 I don't know where you came from. You were born 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:28.080 with a label on your forehead. She's like, and nobody 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:31.640 in my family is like that. I've always been like that, right, Well, 0:03:31.680 --> 0:03:34.520 you just are who you are. I mean, I mean, 0:03:34.520 --> 0:03:36.120 we're going to talk about all of this, but like 0:03:36.280 --> 0:03:39.040 I think, babies, Oh, I'm so curious. So I just 0:03:39.040 --> 0:03:42.040 thought of another good question to talk to ask a medium. 0:03:42.160 --> 0:03:44.680 Let's first get to a little bit of the okay, 0:03:44.800 --> 0:03:47.280 not medium stuff, just like, did you always know you 0:03:47.320 --> 0:03:50.560 wanted to be a mom? Oh? Yeah, you were always 0:03:50.560 --> 0:03:53.400 going to be a mom. Yeah. From the time I 0:03:53.440 --> 0:03:55.760 was little, I was always like, I'm gonna get married young, 0:03:55.840 --> 0:03:58.480 I'm going to have children at a young age. And 0:03:58.520 --> 0:04:00.960 what I realized, honestly is I would not have been 0:04:01.000 --> 0:04:02.840 able to do what I do if I had children 0:04:02.920 --> 0:04:05.240 later in life. I wouldn't be able to travel and 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:09.200 and just dedicate who I am to my work. Right. 0:04:09.320 --> 0:04:11.720 You wouldn't write to leave them right right, you Right? 0:04:11.760 --> 0:04:13.360 It would have been much harder for you. Like you're 0:04:13.360 --> 0:04:15.360 always on the road and you're always doing shows and 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:17.720 all of these things. That makes sense, Okay, So you 0:04:17.760 --> 0:04:21.040 did it. You got married young, right, Yeah, you had 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:23.680 your babies really young. I had my babies really young. 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:26.800 I had my son at twenty three, and Victoria, I 0:04:26.880 --> 0:04:29.719 was twenty seven. My son Larry, he was so he 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:33.960 was such an easy baby. Victoria, she's very different. Larry 0:04:34.040 --> 0:04:36.279 came in in the world, very laid back, like he 0:04:36.320 --> 0:04:38.400 didn't want to leave the womb. I don't think he 0:04:38.440 --> 0:04:43.160 still wants to leave his mama, but very laid back Victoria. 0:04:43.279 --> 0:04:45.520 I mean, I didn't even make it into the operating room. 0:04:45.600 --> 0:04:47.760 She was born right in the labor bed. Came in 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:52.080 like a tornado. And that is Victoria is how does 0:04:52.080 --> 0:04:56.480 it feel having two adult children because we don't get 0:04:56.520 --> 0:04:57.919 a lot. It's this is so great to have you on, 0:04:58.000 --> 0:04:59.680 but we don't get like I feel like you're done. 0:04:59.760 --> 0:05:01.680 Do you feel like you're done or you feel like 0:05:01.720 --> 0:05:06.239 you're never done. I don't think we're ever done period. Amen, 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:08.440 your mother. Once you're a mother, I would say, a 0:05:08.480 --> 0:05:12.599 woman never done. Yeah, We're never done, and you're always 0:05:12.640 --> 0:05:14.920 going to be a mom. I mean, my kids still 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:17.159 come to me with things. Right when that phone rings, 0:05:17.200 --> 0:05:21.919 it's like, oh God, why why, I'm like, what's the matter. 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:24.920 And my son will literally say to me, Mom, I'm 0:05:24.960 --> 0:05:27.719 just calling because I'm checking. I'm like, Okay, I didn't 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:30.200 know something, I didn't do that. I'm I'm like that 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:32.200 with my own mother. Now it's like the rules of 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:34.040 her verse. She used to do that to me, where 0:05:34.040 --> 0:05:35.479 she'd be like, I haven't heard from you in twenty 0:05:35.520 --> 0:05:37.440 four hours. If you don't call me back, I'm calling 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:39.200 the police. I'm going to think something's wrong. Blah blah 0:05:39.200 --> 0:05:40.560 blah blah blah. Now when I don't hear from her 0:05:40.600 --> 0:05:45.400 in twenty four hours, I'm like, Mom, your daughter got married, 0:05:46.880 --> 0:05:50.160 So you might be like, we're not going to say 0:05:50.160 --> 0:05:51.719 the word and you're not going to go buy grandma? 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:53.440 Are you? Like? What would be the word for you? 0:05:53.600 --> 0:05:55.680 We were just talking about that. I'm like, should I 0:05:55.720 --> 0:06:02.159 go by glamy or yes? Done? Sign seal delivered glamy? 0:06:02.240 --> 0:06:06.000 It is, It's perfect. It's absolutely pergrive because you're way 0:06:06.040 --> 0:06:09.720 too cool and hot and interesting like Grandma. I love Grandma. 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:12.360 Don't get me wrong for people who have grandma's grandma's 0:06:13.000 --> 0:06:15.680 I honestly, it really doesn't matter to me. I you know, 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:18.360 I have to share this though my girlfriend, and she 0:06:18.520 --> 0:06:21.400 she's also one of she's my right hand man. She 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:22.800 says to me, she goes, well, my, I think I'm 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:26.240 gonna be called Alex's mom or Morgan's mom. I go, 0:06:26.320 --> 0:06:29.200 you cannot do that. That is your grandchild, Yeah, you 0:06:29.240 --> 0:06:31.760 can't you And also I got news for you. I 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:34.200 think a lot of times the kids sort of decides 0:06:34.560 --> 0:06:36.760 I was just going to say that, Yeah, my mom 0:06:36.839 --> 0:06:39.320 is amah and that was Now it's stuck, and that's 0:06:39.320 --> 0:06:41.400 what I would be picked my son and that's just 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:44.520 what she is from now on. Okay, no, wait, wait, 0:06:44.760 --> 0:06:48.880 you realized you had a gift to speak to souls 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:50.839 and people who have passed on. At what age? When 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:53.720 did you first realize? I was four, Well, I didn't know. 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:56.200 I just thought it was normal. But I can remember 0:06:56.240 --> 0:06:58.600 when I look back at the age of four, um 0:06:58.720 --> 0:07:00.839 being in the house that we lived in and seeing 0:07:00.839 --> 0:07:02.880 a woman standing at the end of my bed. And 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:05.719 I didn't find out for decades later that it was 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:09.119 my great grandmother that had passed right before I was born. 0:07:09.640 --> 0:07:14.760 And UM always sensing and feeling things that nobody else did. Wow. 0:07:15.320 --> 0:07:19.560 But that's the thing. We think everyone experiences what we do, right, 0:07:19.640 --> 0:07:21.360 or everyone feels the same, and it just isn't so 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:23.360 no matter what it is in life. So I just 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:26.200 thought it was normal that everyone heard someone speak to 0:07:26.200 --> 0:07:27.360 them in a room and there was no one else 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:31.080 in the room but themselves, you know, and so did 0:07:31.120 --> 0:07:34.480 you once you realized what your gift was? Did that 0:07:34.720 --> 0:07:37.720 change for you at all? Being a mother? I feel 0:07:37.720 --> 0:07:42.800 like it makes people really get involved, like cyclically with 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:45.440 the life and death of it all. I mean, so 0:07:45.520 --> 0:07:48.160 the fact that you're so in touch with people who 0:07:48.200 --> 0:07:51.680 are no longer here, did that make you want to 0:07:51.720 --> 0:07:55.040 have kids even more or less? Well? I didn't know 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:59.040 until after I had Victoria, So I suffered from anxiety. 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:02.400 So so from me. A lot of my anxiety came 0:08:02.440 --> 0:08:04.760 from because I'm empathic and I was picking up other 0:08:04.760 --> 0:08:08.080 people's emotions. And it wasn't until I was like twenty 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:11.520 eight that I discovered Victoria was already a year old, 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:15.640 my son was five, and that I had the ability 0:08:15.680 --> 0:08:17.880 not only to connect with my own departed loved ones, 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:21.520 but everyone else's. Then I struggled with it for five years. 0:08:21.560 --> 0:08:25.440 I could not imagine why in the world would I 0:08:25.520 --> 0:08:27.960 be blessed with this gift, and I really really struggled 0:08:28.000 --> 0:08:31.960 with it. It wasn't until nine eleven. After nine eleven 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:35.240 happened when I decided to do what I do for 0:08:35.280 --> 0:08:41.360 a living. Wow, amazing, and my husband's grandmother just passed 0:08:41.360 --> 0:08:44.000 away on because look at what I just wrote. What 0:08:44.120 --> 0:08:47.320 I wrote before we sat down. I wrote this on 0:08:47.400 --> 0:08:51.200 my pet Grandma, of course, because you're amazing. But is 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:53.880 she a name? She she tells me she has a namesake. 0:08:54.200 --> 0:08:56.240 So a namesake for me would be form of a 0:08:56.320 --> 0:08:58.600 name or a middle name. Oh, she's a pip like 0:08:58.640 --> 0:09:02.920 she is this little like this little bowl of energy. 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:05.560 And she's like, I don't want to disturb you and 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:09.600 your conversation, but like she doesn't stop. She's like dancing 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:12.120 and singing and I would never know. She's like, how 0:09:12.120 --> 0:09:14.360 old do I look? You think I'm like sixty? Right? 0:09:15.120 --> 0:09:20.920 She looks amazing, So yes, correct, of course you're nailing it. 0:09:21.000 --> 0:09:24.200 Even through the Zoom I learned through the pandemic that 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:28.240 zoom was the new phone reading for me. How powerful 0:09:28.360 --> 0:09:31.680 and to even feel through doing it through zoom to 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:33.599 be able to connect people with their loved ones that 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:37.880 have died and people that passed during cold So okay, 0:09:37.920 --> 0:09:41.440 you're reading me right now. So Grandma Fay passed on Monday. 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:46.080 No shut up. My daughter is Vera Faye, and Grandma 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:50.520 Faye passed away. She was seven and she was at 0:09:50.520 --> 0:09:54.160 her house in her bed and you know, I think 0:09:54.160 --> 0:09:56.720 about my God, Yes, if this had been seven months ago, 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.000 and let's say she was in the hospital for whatever reason, 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:01.720 we wouldn't have been able to be there. There's a 0:10:01.760 --> 0:10:04.240 bunch of people in Miami celebrating her life right now, 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:07.560 gathering because thank god they're vaccinated and can and you know, 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:11.840 so so it's as much as it's so sad, it's 0:10:11.880 --> 0:10:15.840 also I'm relieved. I'm just gonna explain to how she 0:10:15.920 --> 0:10:19.000 made me feel. It's almost like she's like, literally she 0:10:19.040 --> 0:10:21.160 stood next to me and whispered in my ears. She goes, 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:23.839 can you believe I died? I'm like no, But it's 0:10:23.840 --> 0:10:25.720 almost like she's like, I thought I really was going 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:29.520 to live forever. We all did. I mean, she's nine, 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:33.120 and she was never um, she never was really sick sick. 0:10:33.360 --> 0:10:35.920 They feel like she never skipped a beat. She she 0:10:36.120 --> 0:10:38.040 just was always going, going, going, And then I was 0:10:38.080 --> 0:10:39.600 like one day I had a cold and I didn't 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:41.000 feel good. She goes in. The next thing I know, 0:10:41.120 --> 0:10:43.400 my husband's calling me from the other side and telling 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:47.280 me to come home. Wow, great, you're nailing it. As 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:50.960 here all singing, and there's just such a celebration on 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:53.480 the other side. But more importantly, I hear singing here, 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:56.440 so I don't know, but I can feel everyone gathered 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:59.800 around my bed, so whether if everyone was there, like 0:10:59.800 --> 0:11:02.240 I can feel people hold my hand telling me that 0:11:02.280 --> 0:11:04.800 it's okay to go. But I hear singing and laughter, 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:08.680 she says, and then they were crying. She says. That 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:10.520 kind of made me mad because I don't want anyone 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:14.319 to cry. Not really mad, but that just showing her 0:11:14.320 --> 0:11:18.760 personality of oh, yeah, she's tough, was a tough cookie. 0:11:19.080 --> 0:11:22.400 Don't you cry? Yeah, like very but also I think 0:11:22.400 --> 0:11:25.760 that you're nailing it. As per usual, she was surrounded 0:11:26.480 --> 0:11:30.160 not when she actually passed, but her daughter was there 0:11:30.200 --> 0:11:32.960 an hour before she passed away. But what's so amazing 0:11:33.040 --> 0:11:35.760 is that her room. Adam was just face timing me 0:11:35.840 --> 0:11:37.679 from her bedroom which is where she passed, and there 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:40.840 was just pictures of all of us around her, like 0:11:41.000 --> 0:11:45.679 her brother, her father, her two husbands that she outlived 0:11:45.679 --> 0:11:48.520 both of them. She had two beautiful loves of her life, 0:11:48.679 --> 0:11:52.120 also her all of her grandchildren, all of her great grandchildren, 0:11:52.120 --> 0:11:55.880 her daughters. There were pictures of everybody around her, and 0:11:56.040 --> 0:11:59.320 Adam just took me through over FaceTime. He was just like, 0:11:59.360 --> 0:12:01.280 look at this. We were all with her, you know, 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:04.320 like we were all the pictures around her. She she 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:06.880 was the matriarch, you know, she was the matriarch of 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:11.760 a loving, big family where everybody it was just a 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:14.280 beautiful thing. But that but that's what spirit does. They 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:16.880 make me feel how they feel. So I love how 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:20.080 she made me feel like everyone was there and I 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:23.760 can feel the feelful love. So how did you tell 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:27.400 your kids, because here's my question. My son is going 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:29.360 to be like, my son keeps being like, why is 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:31.480 daddy in Miami? And Adam keeps saying, wait for me 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:32.880 to come home, and we're going to tell him that 0:12:32.960 --> 0:12:36.360 Gigim died. And the school, his nursery school has been 0:12:36.480 --> 0:12:40.240 very clear to say you use the word dead, not sick, 0:12:40.480 --> 0:12:42.760 because you don't want him to associate like when I 0:12:42.800 --> 0:12:45.640 get a cold, it's a saying. And then we're supposed 0:12:45.679 --> 0:12:49.320 to say she was very very very very old. What 0:12:49.400 --> 0:12:51.720 did you do with your kids and what advice could 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:54.520 you give parents listening? Well, first I have to say, 0:12:54.559 --> 0:12:56.960 my poor kids went to school. And you know when 0:12:57.000 --> 0:12:59.040 everyone's asking what do your parents do for a living, 0:12:59.080 --> 0:13:01.440 everyone's like, oh, my mom's a nurse. My dad's a 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:04.800 police officer. There are my kids. My dad's an Italian importer, 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:08.839 and my mom speaks to dead people. So I'm dead. 0:13:08.880 --> 0:13:13.880 I can't love it. Don't make things complicated. Less is more. 0:13:13.960 --> 0:13:17.280 It's almost like she went to heaven. She's gonna she 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:19.520 went to live in heaven, and when we go to 0:13:19.559 --> 0:13:23.240 heaven one day, we'll we'll see her again. And then 0:13:23.280 --> 0:13:25.880 maybe you can look for signs or symbols are and 0:13:25.920 --> 0:13:27.760 then explain to him that there might be things that 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:29.840 remind you of her, or you might think that you 0:13:29.880 --> 0:13:32.439 still see her at times, because young children are very 0:13:32.480 --> 0:13:34.920 sensitive to spirit. That's the other thing I was going 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:37.840 to ask you about. Is that true that you think 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:40.360 you're gonna see that with him? You're going to see 0:13:40.360 --> 0:13:42.000 that with him. You might even see you with your 0:13:42.080 --> 0:13:44.720 daughter if she starts looking over your shoulder like you 0:13:44.760 --> 0:13:46.520 could be talking to her, and then all of a sudden, 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:48.200 like Adam, she's not even paying attention to me. She's 0:13:48.240 --> 0:13:50.440 looking in the corner, because she might be looking at 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:53.559 a soul and loved ones that have gone before us. 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:56.400 Then the reason for that is because their minds aren't 0:13:56.440 --> 0:14:00.960 bogged down with burdens and buzziness of a day, responsive abilities, nothing, 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:04.200 It's so present moment that they're like open a window 0:14:04.360 --> 0:14:07.760 enough to like see. I think as children and even 0:14:07.800 --> 0:14:11.080 some adults were afraid of death. We're afraid to die 0:14:11.200 --> 0:14:13.280 right because it's the unknown. We don't know what is. 0:14:13.320 --> 0:14:17.120 It's so scary. And I think what I do and 0:14:17.160 --> 0:14:20.400 how I work it really validates that the souls are 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:23.520 at peace. They're not afraid, they're not scared, they're not 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:27.200 suffering that from the moment the soul leaves the physical body. 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:30.840 And what I love is how Adam's grandmother validated her personality. 0:14:31.960 --> 0:14:35.480 How would I know her personality? She made me feel that, 0:14:35.560 --> 0:14:38.600 And that's the that's the amazing thing about what I do. 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:41.680 And I think that I also refer to it um 0:14:41.840 --> 0:14:46.040 as heaven um. I sometimes refer to it at home 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:51.200 m hm. Our souls are here just having a physical experience. 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:53.600 And when people are like, what is it like? And 0:14:53.640 --> 0:14:55.960 I'm like, imagine your physical body is like a piece 0:14:56.000 --> 0:14:58.240 of dry ice, and you know how you see the 0:14:58.320 --> 0:15:00.800 vapor like and then it just kind it disappears and 0:15:00.840 --> 0:15:03.520 it's still there but we can't see it. That's like 0:15:03.560 --> 0:15:06.600 what our soul is like I was still there, but 0:15:06.680 --> 0:15:09.120 we can't see it. We can maybe feel it, we 0:15:09.160 --> 0:15:12.840 can maybe smell it, but we can't maybe necessarily touch it. 0:15:13.840 --> 0:15:16.440 But it doesn't mean that they're not with us. God, 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:18.160 I still need to hear this about because my God, 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:22.320 I have such death anxiety and I don't want that 0:15:22.400 --> 0:15:25.160 for my children. You know. I just feel like I'm 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:29.920 so afraid of it, And I wonder, did you do 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:31.840 you think, because of what you do and because it's 0:15:31.840 --> 0:15:34.320 such an part of your life, do you think your 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:40.240 kids have a good relationship with death? Absolutely? Really, I 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:42.920 don't want to die, right, But let's face it, We're 0:15:42.960 --> 0:15:45.400 all going to die, right, It's the circle of life. 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:48.120 I don't sound cliche, but it's true. I don't want 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:50.360 to die, but I know when it is my time 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:53.920 that I know I'm going to be at peace. I'm 0:15:53.960 --> 0:15:56.840 going to be safe, and I'm going to be greeted 0:15:56.840 --> 0:16:00.920 by other loved ones that have gone before me. Everything else, 0:16:00.960 --> 0:16:04.760 I'll find it when I get there, right. But But 0:16:04.800 --> 0:16:07.560 I mean that was I mean, honestly, I think we 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:10.480 all at some point we have a fear of death 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:13.120 because we don't know what it's like. But I've learned 0:16:13.680 --> 0:16:17.040 to um and listen. I do struggle with it still 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:20.680 at times, but majority of the time I'm able to 0:16:20.760 --> 0:16:24.640 focus on faith not fear. So I try to say, 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:28.120 just focus on the positive and release anything negative or 0:16:28.160 --> 0:16:31.440 that doesn't serve you any purpose. Let go of. Just 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:34.160 because we let go of like pain, sorrow and negative 0:16:34.200 --> 0:16:36.920 emotions doesn't mean that we don't care. It just means 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:39.480 that we're letting go of things that that don't serve 0:16:39.480 --> 0:16:42.960 as a purpose or aren't good for us. I love that. 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:57.440 I always think it, and this is my like, woo woo. 0:16:57.480 --> 0:16:59.200 I don't know if it's true. When a baby or 0:16:59.240 --> 0:17:04.240 a soul comes into a person to be born, Are 0:17:04.280 --> 0:17:08.320 they like passing a hallway of somebody leaving? Is that 0:17:08.440 --> 0:17:11.120 like like I literally picture it. I'm like, are they 0:17:11.200 --> 0:17:13.560 coming and going? Is like that sort of the vibe 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:15.760 it can be. But from what spirit has shown me, 0:17:15.800 --> 0:17:19.600 this like a soul circle. Okay, we do re enter 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:22.800 and I've done something called a past life regression. There's 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:25.080 the one example that I always used to show people 0:17:25.080 --> 0:17:26.520 what I mean by a soul circle. It was this 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:28.680 one life I was a young man. There was a 0:17:28.720 --> 0:17:31.920 fire and I'm searching for someone and looking for someone. 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:34.840 And when I finally found this young boy, the woman 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:37.439 conducting it first she asked me who I found and said, oh, 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:39.159 I found my brother, and I was a man in 0:17:39.200 --> 0:17:41.400 a previous life. And she says, look in his eyes, 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:43.520 and who do you see? And I saw my nephew, 0:17:43.680 --> 0:17:46.720 my brother's son, So in a previous life, I was 0:17:46.800 --> 0:17:51.600 his older brother. I am so with you on this stuff, truly, 0:17:52.160 --> 0:17:56.080 because I I know, like they say, souls travel together, 0:17:56.359 --> 0:17:59.520 and I just feel like, like I've known my kids 0:17:59.600 --> 0:18:04.320 before are in different relationshipferent way. It's super weird, Like 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:06.119 I'm like, why do I know that about her? Like 0:18:06.160 --> 0:18:08.159 why do I know that? And then I'm like, why 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:10.840 is this kid my test? Right now? I'm always like, 0:18:10.880 --> 0:18:14.600 were you like my dad and we didn't get along? 0:18:15.800 --> 0:18:18.679 My son, I'm like, I know exactly what. It's the 0:18:18.720 --> 0:18:21.600 same thing when people have fears for no reason, right. 0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:25.040 I've also done that where I've had fears of pouring rain, 0:18:25.160 --> 0:18:27.720 like I could, I literally could. I would be paralyzed, 0:18:27.760 --> 0:18:29.679 I could not go out in the pouring rain. And 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:32.480 I did a past life regression years later and found 0:18:32.520 --> 0:18:34.040 out that I did. I had died on a boat 0:18:34.080 --> 0:18:37.280 in a very bad storm and I had drowned. So 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:39.840 there is sometimes because I have a fear of snakes, 0:18:40.040 --> 0:18:44.000 they most likely in a previous life right incident with 0:18:44.080 --> 0:18:47.280 a snake. And and sometimes people even have that feeling 0:18:47.280 --> 0:18:48.840 and they're like, I feel like something's going to happen. 0:18:49.200 --> 0:18:51.399 Doesn't mean something is going to happen. You can also 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:55.280 mean that in a previous life. This is when something 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:57.280 happened in your life, but when you passed at that 0:18:57.400 --> 0:19:01.399 age in a previous life. Have you ever been given 0:19:02.040 --> 0:19:05.879 parenting advice in any of your readings? I think you know. 0:19:06.000 --> 0:19:10.160 Spirit will make acknowledgements like if um, if something isn't working, 0:19:10.240 --> 0:19:12.760 or like if there's something wrong like say like allergies 0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:15.440 or you know, uh, you know things like that they're 0:19:15.480 --> 0:19:18.679 things that we can prevent or improve. That's when Spirit 0:19:18.720 --> 0:19:22.280 will intervene and give advice. I really want people to 0:19:22.320 --> 0:19:25.040 know that there really is an afterlife, and more importantly, 0:19:25.040 --> 0:19:27.760 that you still have this soul bond and connection with 0:19:27.800 --> 0:19:30.200 your departed loved ones. To know that all the little 0:19:30.240 --> 0:19:32.520 things that go on around you that remind you of 0:19:32.560 --> 0:19:34.639 them or that you just think of them, to know 0:19:34.760 --> 0:19:38.679 that they're little hellos from heaven and that you're not crazy. 0:19:38.720 --> 0:19:41.439 It's not your imagination, it is their soul with you. 0:19:42.440 --> 0:19:44.480 And if spirit brings up things that we're thinking about 0:19:44.520 --> 0:19:47.399 doing wanting to do, it's to validate that they're with 0:19:47.480 --> 0:19:49.640 us at that exact moment, but more importantly, that they 0:19:49.680 --> 0:19:54.480 support our choices and decisions. M hmm. I had never 0:19:54.720 --> 0:19:58.320 felt when I got pregnant with my daughter. I had 0:19:58.440 --> 0:20:03.760 never felt my great grandma's presence that much. And it's 0:20:03.840 --> 0:20:07.320 like we conceived her. I hadn't even peed on a 0:20:07.400 --> 0:20:10.840 stick yet to know I was pregnant, and I was like, oh, 0:20:10.880 --> 0:20:14.879 my gosh, she's Vera. She's my grand I didn't know 0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:18.320 if she was my grandma Vera or like, but I've 0:20:18.440 --> 0:20:19.760 never thought of that as a name. And then I 0:20:19.760 --> 0:20:21.000 went to a him and I was like, I know it, 0:20:21.040 --> 0:20:24.119 I know her name, and I said it's Vera and 0:20:24.119 --> 0:20:26.600 Adam said, oh my God, that is her name. Everything 0:20:26.640 --> 0:20:29.159 was on such an inspired path, and I and I 0:20:29.240 --> 0:20:31.359 just prayed to her so much because I struggled so much. 0:20:31.440 --> 0:20:33.440 My pregnancy was the entire I got pregnant a week 0:20:33.440 --> 0:20:35.560 before shutdown, so at the beginning of the pregnancy, it 0:20:35.600 --> 0:20:38.680 was a lot of fear based I had every fear 0:20:38.760 --> 0:20:40.800 beyond everybodief. I thought I was gonna die. I thought 0:20:40.800 --> 0:20:44.880 she was gonna die. No one knew how COVID affected fetuses, 0:20:44.920 --> 0:20:47.960 how it affected pregnancy. I was around a lot of 0:20:47.960 --> 0:20:51.440 people who got COVID at the beginning because it was um, 0:20:51.480 --> 0:20:53.040 you know, I was on a set with hundreds of 0:20:53.080 --> 0:20:56.439