1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:03,119 Speaker 1: Welcome to Katie's Crib, a production of Shonda Land Audio 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:06,240 Speaker 1: in partnership with I Heart Radio. Sometimes I look at 3 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:10,280 Speaker 1: Vera and I'm like, are you Vera? Like like I 4 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:14,440 Speaker 1: feel like, can that happen? Absolutely happens. I asked her 5 00:00:14,480 --> 00:00:16,319 Speaker 1: to validated and she showed me that you sensed and 6 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: felt her so much. And now it's almost like, where 7 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:21,560 Speaker 1: is Grandma. That's what I do. That's what I do, 8 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: that's she's She's literally in the crib right now taking 9 00:00:27,000 --> 00:00:37,440 Speaker 1: a nap. Hi everybody, and welcome back to Katie's Crib. Today, 10 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:42,200 Speaker 1: we are talking about death. We're talking about losing ones 11 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:45,199 Speaker 1: we love. We are talking about how the heck do 12 00:00:45,240 --> 00:00:48,279 Speaker 1: we talk about that with our kids. At the time 13 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:52,840 Speaker 1: of this recording, we lost our Gigi Ma Faye Aaronson, 14 00:00:53,240 --> 00:00:58,560 Speaker 1: who was nine seven when she passed away, and uh, 15 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:00,800 Speaker 1: there's a lot of questions from my three and a 16 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 1: half year old about that. And now I can say, 17 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:07,200 Speaker 1: at the time of recording this intro, we just lost 18 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:11,560 Speaker 1: our dog, Roger, who is eleven. And both instances are 19 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:14,399 Speaker 1: my son's first experience with death and he's got a 20 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 1: lot of questions about it, and so who better to 21 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:20,760 Speaker 1: have on than the Long Island Medium herself, Teresa Caputo. 22 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 1: She is a medium. She's a psychic medium. You guys 23 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:26,319 Speaker 1: know her from her TLC reality TV series The Long 24 00:01:26,319 --> 00:01:28,960 Speaker 1: Island Medium, which I've been on. She's been a practicing 25 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 1: medium for more than ten years and she's certified with 26 00:01:31,000 --> 00:01:34,279 Speaker 1: the Forever Family Foundation. She's a New York Times bestselling author. 27 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: She's published books like There's More to Life Than This 28 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:41,160 Speaker 1: and you Can't Make This Stuff Up. She has helped 29 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 1: countless people find closure to embrace life without their loved ones. 30 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:47,559 Speaker 1: And you can check out her most recent book called 31 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:51,920 Speaker 1: Good Morning, Moving through everyday Losses with Wisdom from the 32 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 1: Other Side now wherever books are sold. She has her 33 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: own like personal guidance to help us. Because she's a 34 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: mom of two grown children, Victoria and Larry, and you guys, 35 00:02:02,400 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: she's going to be a grandmother. She's like the hottest 36 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: grandmother in the world. Her daughter, Victoria is expecting her 37 00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:12,239 Speaker 1: first child with her husband Michael, sometime in February. Welcome 38 00:02:12,280 --> 00:02:21,600 Speaker 1: to Katie's Crib, Teresa, and congrats. I'm so happy to 39 00:02:21,639 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 1: see you again. You have touched me in my family's life. 40 00:02:26,080 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 1: The first time we met and you did a reading 41 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 1: and we spoke to my grandmother Edna, who had passed on, 42 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 1: and my grandpa Charlie, who had passed on. You're so sweet. 43 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:39,080 Speaker 1: I love you so much. I can't believe it's been 44 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:40,680 Speaker 1: the last time I saw you was when you were 45 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:44,040 Speaker 1: on Broadway. Yeah, you came and you saw us on waitress. Yes, 46 00:02:45,160 --> 00:02:47,560 Speaker 1: before that was the reading and oh no. Then we 47 00:02:47,639 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: hung out in l A one time. We went to 48 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:53,600 Speaker 1: until Morman. We did. I've never been so fancy before. 49 00:02:53,600 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 1: By the way, Well you're very fancy. Are you coming 50 00:02:55,760 --> 00:03:00,560 Speaker 1: to me from a closet as well? I am, Holy it, Teresa, 51 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:04,639 Speaker 1: your closet is stunning. I mean, guys, you could see 52 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:07,640 Speaker 1: what I'm seeing. It's just like it's so organized. But 53 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:10,200 Speaker 1: it's also I mean, because you love clothes, you love shoes, 54 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:12,840 Speaker 1: you love the whole thing. So you've really I mean, 55 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:15,640 Speaker 1: it's a huge part of your person, like your identity is, 56 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:18,079 Speaker 1: like you love it. It's an expression of yourself. Well, 57 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:22,080 Speaker 1: your closet does not disappoint. My mom always says, She says, 58 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:24,080 Speaker 1: I don't know where you came from. You were born 59 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:28,080 Speaker 1: with a label on your forehead. She's like, and nobody 60 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:31,640 Speaker 1: in my family is like that. I've always been like that, right, Well, 61 00:03:31,680 --> 00:03:34,520 Speaker 1: you just are who you are. I mean, I mean, 62 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: we're going to talk about all of this, but like 63 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:39,040 Speaker 1: I think, babies, Oh, I'm so curious. So I just 64 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: thought of another good question to talk to ask a medium. 65 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: Let's first get to a little bit of the okay, 66 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 1: not medium stuff, just like, did you always know you 67 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:50,560 Speaker 1: wanted to be a mom? Oh? Yeah, you were always 68 00:03:50,560 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: going to be a mom. Yeah. From the time I 69 00:03:53,440 --> 00:03:55,760 Speaker 1: was little, I was always like, I'm gonna get married young, 70 00:03:55,840 --> 00:03:58,480 Speaker 1: I'm going to have children at a young age. And 71 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:00,960 Speaker 1: what I realized, honestly is I would not have been 72 00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:02,840 Speaker 1: able to do what I do if I had children 73 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 1: later in life. I wouldn't be able to travel and 74 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:09,200 Speaker 1: and just dedicate who I am to my work. Right. 75 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 1: You wouldn't write to leave them right right, you Right? 76 00:04:11,760 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 1: It would have been much harder for you. Like you're 77 00:04:13,360 --> 00:04:15,360 Speaker 1: always on the road and you're always doing shows and 78 00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:17,720 Speaker 1: all of these things. That makes sense, Okay, So you 79 00:04:17,760 --> 00:04:21,040 Speaker 1: did it. You got married young, right, Yeah, you had 80 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: your babies really young. I had my babies really young. 81 00:04:23,800 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: I had my son at twenty three, and Victoria, I 82 00:04:26,880 --> 00:04:29,719 Speaker 1: was twenty seven. My son Larry, he was so he 83 00:04:29,839 --> 00:04:33,960 Speaker 1: was such an easy baby. Victoria, she's very different. Larry 84 00:04:34,040 --> 00:04:36,279 Speaker 1: came in in the world, very laid back, like he 85 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 1: didn't want to leave the womb. I don't think he 86 00:04:38,440 --> 00:04:43,160 Speaker 1: still wants to leave his mama, but very laid back Victoria. 87 00:04:43,279 --> 00:04:45,520 Speaker 1: I mean, I didn't even make it into the operating room. 88 00:04:45,600 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 1: She was born right in the labor bed. Came in 89 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 1: like a tornado. And that is Victoria is how does 90 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:56,480 Speaker 1: it feel having two adult children because we don't get 91 00:04:56,520 --> 00:04:57,919 Speaker 1: a lot. It's this is so great to have you on, 92 00:04:58,000 --> 00:04:59,680 Speaker 1: but we don't get like I feel like you're done. 93 00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 1: Do you feel like you're done or you feel like 94 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:06,239 Speaker 1: you're never done. I don't think we're ever done period. Amen, 95 00:05:06,320 --> 00:05:08,440 Speaker 1: your mother. Once you're a mother, I would say, a 96 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:12,599 Speaker 1: woman never done. Yeah, We're never done, and you're always 97 00:05:12,640 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 1: going to be a mom. I mean, my kids still 98 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:17,159 Speaker 1: come to me with things. Right when that phone rings, 99 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:21,919 Speaker 1: it's like, oh God, why why, I'm like, what's the matter. 100 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:24,920 Speaker 1: And my son will literally say to me, Mom, I'm 101 00:05:24,960 --> 00:05:27,719 Speaker 1: just calling because I'm checking. I'm like, Okay, I didn't 102 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:30,200 Speaker 1: know something, I didn't do that. I'm I'm like that 103 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:32,200 Speaker 1: with my own mother. Now it's like the rules of 104 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:34,040 Speaker 1: her verse. She used to do that to me, where 105 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:35,479 Speaker 1: she'd be like, I haven't heard from you in twenty 106 00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:37,440 Speaker 1: four hours. If you don't call me back, I'm calling 107 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 1: the police. I'm going to think something's wrong. Blah blah 108 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Now when I don't hear from her 109 00:05:40,600 --> 00:05:45,400 Speaker 1: in twenty four hours, I'm like, Mom, your daughter got married, 110 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:50,160 Speaker 1: So you might be like, we're not going to say 111 00:05:50,160 --> 00:05:51,719 Speaker 1: the word and you're not going to go buy grandma? 112 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: Are you? Like? What would be the word for you? 113 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: We were just talking about that. I'm like, should I 114 00:05:55,720 --> 00:06:02,159 Speaker 1: go by glamy or yes? Done? Sign seal delivered glamy? 115 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:06,000 Speaker 1: It is, It's perfect. It's absolutely pergrive because you're way 116 00:06:06,040 --> 00:06:09,720 Speaker 1: too cool and hot and interesting like Grandma. I love Grandma. 117 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong for people who have grandma's grandma's 118 00:06:13,000 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 1: I honestly, it really doesn't matter to me. I you know, 119 00:06:15,880 --> 00:06:18,360 Speaker 1: I have to share this though my girlfriend, and she 120 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:21,400 Speaker 1: she's also one of she's my right hand man. She 121 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 1: says to me, she goes, well, my, I think I'm 122 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 1: gonna be called Alex's mom or Morgan's mom. I go, 123 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 1: you cannot do that. That is your grandchild, Yeah, you 124 00:06:29,240 --> 00:06:31,760 Speaker 1: can't you And also I got news for you. I 125 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:34,200 Speaker 1: think a lot of times the kids sort of decides 126 00:06:34,560 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 1: I was just going to say that, Yeah, my mom 127 00:06:36,839 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: is amah and that was Now it's stuck, and that's 128 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: what I would be picked my son and that's just 129 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 1: what she is from now on. Okay, no, wait, wait, 130 00:06:44,760 --> 00:06:48,880 Speaker 1: you realized you had a gift to speak to souls 131 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:50,839 Speaker 1: and people who have passed on. At what age? When 132 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:53,720 Speaker 1: did you first realize? I was four, Well, I didn't know. 133 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 1: I just thought it was normal. But I can remember 134 00:06:56,240 --> 00:06:58,600 Speaker 1: when I look back at the age of four, um 135 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:00,839 Speaker 1: being in the house that we lived in and seeing 136 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: a woman standing at the end of my bed. And 137 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:05,719 Speaker 1: I didn't find out for decades later that it was 138 00:07:05,760 --> 00:07:09,119 Speaker 1: my great grandmother that had passed right before I was born. 139 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:14,760 Speaker 1: And UM always sensing and feeling things that nobody else did. Wow. 140 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:19,560 Speaker 1: But that's the thing. We think everyone experiences what we do, right, 141 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:21,360 Speaker 1: or everyone feels the same, and it just isn't so 142 00:07:21,480 --> 00:07:23,360 Speaker 1: no matter what it is in life. So I just 143 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 1: thought it was normal that everyone heard someone speak to 144 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:27,360 Speaker 1: them in a room and there was no one else 145 00:07:27,400 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: in the room but themselves, you know, and so did 146 00:07:31,120 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 1: you once you realized what your gift was? Did that 147 00:07:34,720 --> 00:07:37,720 Speaker 1: change for you at all? Being a mother? I feel 148 00:07:37,720 --> 00:07:42,800 Speaker 1: like it makes people really get involved, like cyclically with 149 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:45,440 Speaker 1: the life and death of it all. I mean, so 150 00:07:45,520 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 1: the fact that you're so in touch with people who 151 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 1: are no longer here, did that make you want to 152 00:07:51,720 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: have kids even more or less? Well? I didn't know 153 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:59,040 Speaker 1: until after I had Victoria, So I suffered from anxiety. 154 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:02,400 Speaker 1: So so from me. A lot of my anxiety came 155 00:08:02,440 --> 00:08:04,760 Speaker 1: from because I'm empathic and I was picking up other 156 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 1: people's emotions. And it wasn't until I was like twenty 157 00:08:08,080 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 1: eight that I discovered Victoria was already a year old, 158 00:08:11,560 --> 00:08:15,640 Speaker 1: my son was five, and that I had the ability 159 00:08:15,680 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 1: not only to connect with my own departed loved ones, 160 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: but everyone else's. Then I struggled with it for five years. 161 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:25,440 Speaker 1: I could not imagine why in the world would I 162 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:27,960 Speaker 1: be blessed with this gift, and I really really struggled 163 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 1: with it. It wasn't until nine eleven. After nine eleven 164 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:35,240 Speaker 1: happened when I decided to do what I do for 165 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:41,360 Speaker 1: a living. Wow, amazing, and my husband's grandmother just passed 166 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:44,000 Speaker 1: away on because look at what I just wrote. What 167 00:08:44,120 --> 00:08:47,320 Speaker 1: I wrote before we sat down. I wrote this on 168 00:08:47,400 --> 00:08:51,200 Speaker 1: my pet Grandma, of course, because you're amazing. But is 169 00:08:51,200 --> 00:08:53,880 Speaker 1: she a name? She she tells me she has a namesake. 170 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:56,240 Speaker 1: So a namesake for me would be form of a 171 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:58,600 Speaker 1: name or a middle name. Oh, she's a pip like 172 00:08:58,640 --> 00:09:02,920 Speaker 1: she is this little like this little bowl of energy. 173 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:05,560 Speaker 1: And she's like, I don't want to disturb you and 174 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:09,600 Speaker 1: your conversation, but like she doesn't stop. She's like dancing 175 00:09:09,640 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: and singing and I would never know. She's like, how 176 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:14,360 Speaker 1: old do I look? You think I'm like sixty? Right? 177 00:09:15,120 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 1: She looks amazing, So yes, correct, of course you're nailing it. 178 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:24,200 Speaker 1: Even through the Zoom I learned through the pandemic that 179 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: zoom was the new phone reading for me. How powerful 180 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:31,680 Speaker 1: and to even feel through doing it through zoom to 181 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:33,599 Speaker 1: be able to connect people with their loved ones that 182 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:37,880 Speaker 1: have died and people that passed during cold So okay, 183 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:41,440 Speaker 1: you're reading me right now. So Grandma Fay passed on Monday. 184 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:46,080 Speaker 1: No shut up. My daughter is Vera Faye, and Grandma 185 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 1: Faye passed away. She was seven and she was at 186 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:54,160 Speaker 1: her house in her bed and you know, I think 187 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:56,720 Speaker 1: about my God, Yes, if this had been seven months ago, 188 00:09:56,760 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 1: and let's say she was in the hospital for whatever reason, 189 00:09:59,440 --> 00:10:01,720 Speaker 1: we wouldn't have been able to be there. There's a 190 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 1: bunch of people in Miami celebrating her life right now, 191 00:10:04,320 --> 00:10:07,560 Speaker 1: gathering because thank god they're vaccinated and can and you know, 192 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:11,840 Speaker 1: so so it's as much as it's so sad, it's 193 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:15,840 Speaker 1: also I'm relieved. I'm just gonna explain to how she 194 00:10:15,920 --> 00:10:19,000 Speaker 1: made me feel. It's almost like she's like, literally she 195 00:10:19,040 --> 00:10:21,160 Speaker 1: stood next to me and whispered in my ears. She goes, 196 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:23,839 Speaker 1: can you believe I died? I'm like no, But it's 197 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 1: almost like she's like, I thought I really was going 198 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:29,520 Speaker 1: to live forever. We all did. I mean, she's nine, 199 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 1: and she was never um, she never was really sick sick. 200 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: They feel like she never skipped a beat. She she 201 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:38,040 Speaker 1: just was always going, going, going, And then I was 202 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 1: like one day I had a cold and I didn't 203 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: feel good. She goes in. The next thing I know, 204 00:10:41,120 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 1: my husband's calling me from the other side and telling 205 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:47,280 Speaker 1: me to come home. Wow, great, you're nailing it. As 206 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:50,960 Speaker 1: here all singing, and there's just such a celebration on 207 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 1: the other side. But more importantly, I hear singing here, 208 00:10:53,840 --> 00:10:56,440 Speaker 1: so I don't know, but I can feel everyone gathered 209 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:59,800 Speaker 1: around my bed, so whether if everyone was there, like 210 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:02,240 Speaker 1: I can feel people hold my hand telling me that 211 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:04,800 Speaker 1: it's okay to go. But I hear singing and laughter, 212 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:08,680 Speaker 1: she says, and then they were crying. She says. That 213 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 1: kind of made me mad because I don't want anyone 214 00:11:10,559 --> 00:11:14,319 Speaker 1: to cry. Not really mad, but that just showing her 215 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:18,760 Speaker 1: personality of oh, yeah, she's tough, was a tough cookie. 216 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:22,400 Speaker 1: Don't you cry? Yeah, like very but also I think 217 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,760 Speaker 1: that you're nailing it. As per usual, she was surrounded 218 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 1: not when she actually passed, but her daughter was there 219 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 1: an hour before she passed away. But what's so amazing 220 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 1: is that her room. Adam was just face timing me 221 00:11:35,840 --> 00:11:37,679 Speaker 1: from her bedroom which is where she passed, and there 222 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:40,840 Speaker 1: was just pictures of all of us around her, like 223 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:45,679 Speaker 1: her brother, her father, her two husbands that she outlived 224 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:48,520 Speaker 1: both of them. She had two beautiful loves of her life, 225 00:11:48,679 --> 00:11:52,120 Speaker 1: also her all of her grandchildren, all of her great grandchildren, 226 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 1: her daughters. There were pictures of everybody around her, and 227 00:11:56,040 --> 00:11:59,320 Speaker 1: Adam just took me through over FaceTime. He was just like, 228 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 1: look at this. We were all with her, you know, 229 00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 1: like we were all the pictures around her. She she 230 00:12:04,440 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 1: was the matriarch, you know, she was the matriarch of 231 00:12:06,920 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 1: a loving, big family where everybody it was just a 232 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:14,280 Speaker 1: beautiful thing. But that but that's what spirit does. They 233 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:16,880 Speaker 1: make me feel how they feel. So I love how 234 00:12:17,240 --> 00:12:20,080 Speaker 1: she made me feel like everyone was there and I 235 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:23,760 Speaker 1: can feel the feelful love. So how did you tell 236 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:27,400 Speaker 1: your kids, because here's my question. My son is going 237 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:29,360 Speaker 1: to be like, my son keeps being like, why is 238 00:12:29,440 --> 00:12:31,480 Speaker 1: daddy in Miami? And Adam keeps saying, wait for me 239 00:12:31,520 --> 00:12:32,880 Speaker 1: to come home, and we're going to tell him that 240 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 1: Gigim died. And the school, his nursery school has been 241 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:40,240 Speaker 1: very clear to say you use the word dead, not sick, 242 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 1: because you don't want him to associate like when I 243 00:12:42,800 --> 00:12:45,640 Speaker 1: get a cold, it's a saying. And then we're supposed 244 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:49,320 Speaker 1: to say she was very very very very old. What 245 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:51,720 Speaker 1: did you do with your kids and what advice could 246 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:54,520 Speaker 1: you give parents listening? Well, first I have to say, 247 00:12:54,559 --> 00:12:56,960 Speaker 1: my poor kids went to school. And you know when 248 00:12:57,000 --> 00:12:59,040 Speaker 1: everyone's asking what do your parents do for a living, 249 00:12:59,080 --> 00:13:01,440 Speaker 1: everyone's like, oh, my mom's a nurse. My dad's a 250 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: police officer. There are my kids. My dad's an Italian importer, 251 00:13:04,920 --> 00:13:08,839 Speaker 1: and my mom speaks to dead people. So I'm dead. 252 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 1: I can't love it. Don't make things complicated. Less is more. 253 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:17,280 Speaker 1: It's almost like she went to heaven. She's gonna she 254 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:19,520 Speaker 1: went to live in heaven, and when we go to 255 00:13:19,559 --> 00:13:23,240 Speaker 1: heaven one day, we'll we'll see her again. And then 256 00:13:23,280 --> 00:13:25,880 Speaker 1: maybe you can look for signs or symbols are and 257 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:27,760 Speaker 1: then explain to him that there might be things that 258 00:13:27,800 --> 00:13:29,840 Speaker 1: remind you of her, or you might think that you 259 00:13:29,880 --> 00:13:32,439 Speaker 1: still see her at times, because young children are very 260 00:13:32,480 --> 00:13:34,920 Speaker 1: sensitive to spirit. That's the other thing I was going 261 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:37,840 Speaker 1: to ask you about. Is that true that you think 262 00:13:38,160 --> 00:13:40,360 Speaker 1: you're gonna see that with him? You're going to see 263 00:13:40,360 --> 00:13:42,000 Speaker 1: that with him. You might even see you with your 264 00:13:42,080 --> 00:13:44,720 Speaker 1: daughter if she starts looking over your shoulder like you 265 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:46,520 Speaker 1: could be talking to her, and then all of a sudden, 266 00:13:46,520 --> 00:13:48,200 Speaker 1: like Adam, she's not even paying attention to me. She's 267 00:13:48,240 --> 00:13:50,440 Speaker 1: looking in the corner, because she might be looking at 268 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:53,559 Speaker 1: a soul and loved ones that have gone before us. 269 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:56,400 Speaker 1: Then the reason for that is because their minds aren't 270 00:13:56,440 --> 00:14:00,960 Speaker 1: bogged down with burdens and buzziness of a day, responsive abilities, nothing, 271 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:04,200 Speaker 1: It's so present moment that they're like open a window 272 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:07,760 Speaker 1: enough to like see. I think as children and even 273 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:11,080 Speaker 1: some adults were afraid of death. We're afraid to die 274 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:13,280 Speaker 1: right because it's the unknown. We don't know what is. 275 00:14:13,320 --> 00:14:17,120 Speaker 1: It's so scary. And I think what I do and 276 00:14:17,160 --> 00:14:20,400 Speaker 1: how I work it really validates that the souls are 277 00:14:20,440 --> 00:14:23,520 Speaker 1: at peace. They're not afraid, they're not scared, they're not 278 00:14:23,640 --> 00:14:27,200 Speaker 1: suffering that from the moment the soul leaves the physical body. 279 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:30,840 Speaker 1: And what I love is how Adam's grandmother validated her personality. 280 00:14:31,960 --> 00:14:35,480 Speaker 1: How would I know her personality? She made me feel that, 281 00:14:35,560 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: And that's the that's the amazing thing about what I do. 282 00:14:39,160 --> 00:14:41,680 Speaker 1: And I think that I also refer to it um 283 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:46,040 Speaker 1: as heaven um. I sometimes refer to it at home 284 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 1: m hm. Our souls are here just having a physical experience. 285 00:14:51,880 --> 00:14:53,600 Speaker 1: And when people are like, what is it like? And 286 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 1: I'm like, imagine your physical body is like a piece 287 00:14:56,000 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 1: of dry ice, and you know how you see the 288 00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:00,800 Speaker 1: vapor like and then it just kind it disappears and 289 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:03,520 Speaker 1: it's still there but we can't see it. That's like 290 00:15:03,560 --> 00:15:06,600 Speaker 1: what our soul is like I was still there, but 291 00:15:06,680 --> 00:15:09,120 Speaker 1: we can't see it. We can maybe feel it, we 292 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:12,840 Speaker 1: can maybe smell it, but we can't maybe necessarily touch it. 293 00:15:13,840 --> 00:15:16,440 Speaker 1: But it doesn't mean that they're not with us. God, 294 00:15:16,440 --> 00:15:18,160 Speaker 1: I still need to hear this about because my God, 295 00:15:18,200 --> 00:15:22,320 Speaker 1: I have such death anxiety and I don't want that 296 00:15:22,400 --> 00:15:25,160 Speaker 1: for my children. You know. I just feel like I'm 297 00:15:25,200 --> 00:15:29,920 Speaker 1: so afraid of it, And I wonder, did you do 298 00:15:29,960 --> 00:15:31,840 Speaker 1: you think, because of what you do and because it's 299 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:34,320 Speaker 1: such an part of your life, do you think your 300 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:40,240 Speaker 1: kids have a good relationship with death? Absolutely? Really, I 301 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:42,920 Speaker 1: don't want to die, right, But let's face it, We're 302 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: all going to die, right, It's the circle of life. 303 00:15:45,440 --> 00:15:48,120 Speaker 1: I don't sound cliche, but it's true. I don't want 304 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:50,360 Speaker 1: to die, but I know when it is my time 305 00:15:50,680 --> 00:15:53,920 Speaker 1: that I know I'm going to be at peace. I'm 306 00:15:53,960 --> 00:15:56,840 Speaker 1: going to be safe, and I'm going to be greeted 307 00:15:56,840 --> 00:16:00,920 Speaker 1: by other loved ones that have gone before me. Everything else, 308 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:04,760 Speaker 1: I'll find it when I get there, right. But But 309 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 1: I mean that was I mean, honestly, I think we 310 00:16:07,720 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 1: all at some point we have a fear of death 311 00:16:10,680 --> 00:16:13,120 Speaker 1: because we don't know what it's like. But I've learned 312 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:17,040 Speaker 1: to um and listen. I do struggle with it still 313 00:16:17,080 --> 00:16:20,680 Speaker 1: at times, but majority of the time I'm able to 314 00:16:20,760 --> 00:16:24,640 Speaker 1: focus on faith not fear. So I try to say, 315 00:16:24,720 --> 00:16:28,120 Speaker 1: just focus on the positive and release anything negative or 316 00:16:28,160 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 1: that doesn't serve you any purpose. Let go of. Just 317 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:34,160 Speaker 1: because we let go of like pain, sorrow and negative 318 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:36,920 Speaker 1: emotions doesn't mean that we don't care. It just means 319 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:39,480 Speaker 1: that we're letting go of things that that don't serve 320 00:16:39,480 --> 00:16:42,960 Speaker 1: as a purpose or aren't good for us. I love that. 321 00:16:54,760 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 1: I always think it, and this is my like, woo woo. 322 00:16:57,480 --> 00:16:59,200 Speaker 1: I don't know if it's true. When a baby or 323 00:16:59,240 --> 00:17:04,240 Speaker 1: a soul comes into a person to be born, Are 324 00:17:04,280 --> 00:17:08,320 Speaker 1: they like passing a hallway of somebody leaving? Is that 325 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:11,120 Speaker 1: like like I literally picture it. I'm like, are they 326 00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: coming and going? Is like that sort of the vibe 327 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:15,760 Speaker 1: it can be. But from what spirit has shown me, 328 00:17:15,800 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 1: this like a soul circle. Okay, we do re enter 329 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:22,800 Speaker 1: and I've done something called a past life regression. There's 330 00:17:22,840 --> 00:17:25,080 Speaker 1: the one example that I always used to show people 331 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:26,520 Speaker 1: what I mean by a soul circle. It was this 332 00:17:26,600 --> 00:17:28,680 Speaker 1: one life I was a young man. There was a 333 00:17:28,720 --> 00:17:31,920 Speaker 1: fire and I'm searching for someone and looking for someone. 334 00:17:31,920 --> 00:17:34,840 Speaker 1: And when I finally found this young boy, the woman 335 00:17:34,880 --> 00:17:37,439 Speaker 1: conducting it first she asked me who I found and said, oh, 336 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:39,159 Speaker 1: I found my brother, and I was a man in 337 00:17:39,200 --> 00:17:41,400 Speaker 1: a previous life. And she says, look in his eyes, 338 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:43,520 Speaker 1: and who do you see? And I saw my nephew, 339 00:17:43,680 --> 00:17:46,720 Speaker 1: my brother's son, So in a previous life, I was 340 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:51,600 Speaker 1: his older brother. I am so with you on this stuff, truly, 341 00:17:52,160 --> 00:17:56,080 Speaker 1: because I I know, like they say, souls travel together, 342 00:17:56,359 --> 00:17:59,520 Speaker 1: and I just feel like, like I've known my kids 343 00:17:59,600 --> 00:18:04,320 Speaker 1: before are in different relationshipferent way. It's super weird, Like 344 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:06,119 Speaker 1: I'm like, why do I know that about her? Like 345 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:08,159 Speaker 1: why do I know that? And then I'm like, why 346 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:10,840 Speaker 1: is this kid my test? Right now? I'm always like, 347 00:18:10,880 --> 00:18:14,600 Speaker 1: were you like my dad and we didn't get along? 348 00:18:15,800 --> 00:18:18,679 Speaker 1: My son, I'm like, I know exactly what. It's the 349 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:21,600 Speaker 1: same thing when people have fears for no reason, right. 350 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:25,040 Speaker 1: I've also done that where I've had fears of pouring rain, 351 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:27,720 Speaker 1: like I could, I literally could. I would be paralyzed, 352 00:18:27,760 --> 00:18:29,679 Speaker 1: I could not go out in the pouring rain. And 353 00:18:29,720 --> 00:18:32,480 Speaker 1: I did a past life regression years later and found 354 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 1: out that I did. I had died on a boat 355 00:18:34,080 --> 00:18:37,280 Speaker 1: in a very bad storm and I had drowned. So 356 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:39,840 Speaker 1: there is sometimes because I have a fear of snakes, 357 00:18:40,040 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 1: they most likely in a previous life right incident with 358 00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:47,280 Speaker 1: a snake. And and sometimes people even have that feeling 359 00:18:47,280 --> 00:18:48,840 Speaker 1: and they're like, I feel like something's going to happen. 360 00:18:49,200 --> 00:18:51,399 Speaker 1: Doesn't mean something is going to happen. You can also 361 00:18:51,440 --> 00:18:55,280 Speaker 1: mean that in a previous life. This is when something 362 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:57,280 Speaker 1: happened in your life, but when you passed at that 363 00:18:57,400 --> 00:19:01,399 Speaker 1: age in a previous life. Have you ever been given 364 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:05,879 Speaker 1: parenting advice in any of your readings? I think you know. 365 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:10,160 Speaker 1: Spirit will make acknowledgements like if um, if something isn't working, 366 00:19:10,240 --> 00:19:12,760 Speaker 1: or like if there's something wrong like say like allergies 367 00:19:13,000 --> 00:19:15,440 Speaker 1: or you know, uh, you know things like that they're 368 00:19:15,480 --> 00:19:18,679 Speaker 1: things that we can prevent or improve. That's when Spirit 369 00:19:18,720 --> 00:19:22,280 Speaker 1: will intervene and give advice. I really want people to 370 00:19:22,320 --> 00:19:25,040 Speaker 1: know that there really is an afterlife, and more importantly, 371 00:19:25,040 --> 00:19:27,760 Speaker 1: that you still have this soul bond and connection with 372 00:19:27,800 --> 00:19:30,200 Speaker 1: your departed loved ones. To know that all the little 373 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:32,520 Speaker 1: things that go on around you that remind you of 374 00:19:32,560 --> 00:19:34,639 Speaker 1: them or that you just think of them, to know 375 00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:38,679 Speaker 1: that they're little hellos from heaven and that you're not crazy. 376 00:19:38,720 --> 00:19:41,439 Speaker 1: It's not your imagination, it is their soul with you. 377 00:19:42,440 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 1: And if spirit brings up things that we're thinking about 378 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:47,399 Speaker 1: doing wanting to do, it's to validate that they're with 379 00:19:47,480 --> 00:19:49,640 Speaker 1: us at that exact moment, but more importantly, that they 380 00:19:49,680 --> 00:19:54,480 Speaker 1: support our choices and decisions. M hmm. I had never 381 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:58,320 Speaker 1: felt when I got pregnant with my daughter. I had 382 00:19:58,440 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 1: never felt my great grandma's presence that much. And it's 383 00:20:03,840 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 1: like we conceived her. I hadn't even peed on a 384 00:20:07,400 --> 00:20:10,840 Speaker 1: stick yet to know I was pregnant, and I was like, oh, 385 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:14,879 Speaker 1: my gosh, she's Vera. She's my grand I didn't know 386 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:18,320 Speaker 1: if she was my grandma Vera or like, but I've 387 00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:19,760 Speaker 1: never thought of that as a name. And then I 388 00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:21,000 Speaker 1: went to a him and I was like, I know it, 389 00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:24,119 Speaker 1: I know her name, and I said it's Vera and 390 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:26,600 Speaker 1: Adam said, oh my God, that is her name. Everything 391 00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:29,159 Speaker 1: was on such an inspired path, and I and I 392 00:20:29,240 --> 00:20:31,359 Speaker 1: just prayed to her so much because I struggled so much. 393 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:33,440 Speaker 1: My pregnancy was the entire I got pregnant a week 394 00:20:33,440 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 1: before shutdown, so at the beginning of the pregnancy, it 395 00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:38,680 Speaker 1: was a lot of fear based I had every fear 396 00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:40,800 Speaker 1: beyond everybodief. I thought I was gonna die. I thought 397 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:44,880 Speaker 1: she was gonna die. No one knew how COVID affected fetuses, 398 00:20:44,920 --> 00:20:47,960 Speaker 1: how it affected pregnancy. I was around a lot of 399 00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:51,440 Speaker 1: people who got COVID at the beginning because it was um, 400 00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:53,040 Speaker 1: you know, I was on a set with hundreds of 401 00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:56,439 Speaker 1: people who were sick before shutdown and um, and I 402 00:20:56,480 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 1: was already one week pregnant but didn't know yet, and 403 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:01,760 Speaker 1: as and I in my mind like I was like, 404 00:21:01,800 --> 00:21:04,200 Speaker 1: holy shit, I think I'm pregnant, and holy shit, I'm 405 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:07,800 Speaker 1: really afraid. I prayed a lot during this pregnancy for 406 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:11,480 Speaker 1: help and for ancestors and for any guides to help 407 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:14,960 Speaker 1: me through my feelings, and Vera just kept popping up. 408 00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:17,439 Speaker 1: And then I was like, I know that she's fair 409 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:20,640 Speaker 1: skinned and like blue wide. My husband and I are 410 00:21:20,760 --> 00:21:26,320 Speaker 1: brownsk like tan olive and dark eyes. My daughter is 411 00:21:26,560 --> 00:21:30,440 Speaker 1: just like my Irish great grandma Era. Well, I am 412 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 1: going to say that you felt a presence and maybe 413 00:21:33,240 --> 00:21:37,080 Speaker 1: you might not feel her as much. Is that correct? Yeah, 414 00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:41,439 Speaker 1: her soul probably re entered into Vera. You think so, 415 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:44,560 Speaker 1: because I just because when I wrote Grandma down the 416 00:21:44,600 --> 00:21:48,080 Speaker 1: first time, I felt new, like I didn't feel like 417 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:51,600 Speaker 1: I had been gone for some time. Oh so Grandma 418 00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:54,119 Speaker 1: Fae passed on Monday, so that's like a new like 419 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:57,119 Speaker 1: she's just left. She just liked the building, just left. 420 00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:00,399 Speaker 1: At the time of this recording, she's been gone for 421 00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:04,080 Speaker 1: five days. Less crazy. So let let me let me 422 00:22:04,119 --> 00:22:06,720 Speaker 1: ask you. This was there time throughout your pregnancy where 423 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 1: you really felt you grab I don't know if it 424 00:22:09,080 --> 00:22:11,040 Speaker 1: was or you would always just like picture her house 425 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:14,440 Speaker 1: dress or something like a particular clothing that she would wear, 426 00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 1: and I feel like I would smell her. And now 427 00:22:16,560 --> 00:22:18,920 Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I feel her, but I don't 428 00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:21,479 Speaker 1: feel her, if that makes sense to you, Yeah, she 429 00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:23,840 Speaker 1: might be in there. Sometimes I look at Vera and 430 00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, are you Vera, Like like I feel like, 431 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:32,280 Speaker 1: can that happen? Absolutely happens. I did a reading years ago. 432 00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:35,159 Speaker 1: It was long before Long Island Medium. It was a 433 00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:37,920 Speaker 1: mother and a daughter and the daughter I said to her, 434 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:40,679 Speaker 1: I feel like your sister's here, but she's not here. 435 00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:43,000 Speaker 1: And she's telling me that you used to send her 436 00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:45,080 Speaker 1: all the time and you don't anymore. And then she's 437 00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:47,399 Speaker 1: showing me your daughter, and you see your sister and 438 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,080 Speaker 1: your daughter. And she said, I used to see my 439 00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:53,000 Speaker 1: sister all the time, and the day my daughter was born, 440 00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:56,160 Speaker 1: I stopped seeing my sister. That's like what I had. 441 00:22:57,040 --> 00:23:00,760 Speaker 1: That's really weird. I asked her to validated, and she 442 00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:02,840 Speaker 1: showed me that you sensed and felt her so much. 443 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:05,800 Speaker 1: And now it's almost like, where is Grandma. That's what 444 00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:08,239 Speaker 1: I do, That's what I do. That's she's in the 445 00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:12,440 Speaker 1: best net. She's literally in the crib right now taking 446 00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 1: a nast well. And I keep looking at her and like, 447 00:23:14,520 --> 00:23:16,440 Speaker 1: why Adam, And I keep saying, why don't you look 448 00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:18,800 Speaker 1: anything like us? Why do you look like this? Because 449 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:23,399 Speaker 1: my son is is my spinning image. You know. Our 450 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:30,000 Speaker 1: Vera is like this little Irish granny, which don't be surprised. 451 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,280 Speaker 1: Don't be surprised if she is like a little old lady. 452 00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:33,720 Speaker 1: Like if you're like, oh my god, she's such an 453 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:37,160 Speaker 1: old soul. Well we named for Vera. I'm like, it's yes, 454 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:41,119 Speaker 1: she she might she could be. We were you guys 455 00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:43,800 Speaker 1: just talking about her getting her ears pierced or something, 456 00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:46,760 Speaker 1: or about not piercing them. Yeah, we were talking about 457 00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 1: not piercing perfect. I just asked spirit to validate that 458 00:23:50,840 --> 00:23:54,200 Speaker 1: we're interpreting everything correctly. And they're like talked her about 459 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:57,080 Speaker 1: the non piercing of the ear. First they showed me 460 00:23:57,119 --> 00:24:00,080 Speaker 1: piercing and the like no, no, no, no, no, that 461 00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:03,760 Speaker 1: is are you kidding. We just had this conversation where 462 00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:06,359 Speaker 1: people were like, because I've had a son, I didn't 463 00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:09,760 Speaker 1: think about these things. And so I've been thinking like, oh, 464 00:24:09,840 --> 00:24:12,719 Speaker 1: like people do pierce their little girl's ears like early 465 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:15,639 Speaker 1: and her next door neighbor is a doctor and in 466 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:20,240 Speaker 1: COVID she was piercing baby's ears in front lawn. Oh 467 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:21,840 Speaker 1: my god. And so I was like, oh, we could 468 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:23,720 Speaker 1: always bring her over there, and we were been like no, no, no, 469 00:24:23,720 --> 00:24:26,280 Speaker 1: We're not piercing her until she's like ted. Well, this 470 00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:28,120 Speaker 1: is an example of what I talked about before. Now 471 00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:30,240 Speaker 1: this doesn't mean you go up, Adam. I I spoke 472 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 1: to Teresa and she said that our our ancestor said, 473 00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:35,600 Speaker 1: never pierced their ears or get the ears passed. It's 474 00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:39,719 Speaker 1: validating that their souls were present for that conversation. And 475 00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:43,960 Speaker 1: more importantly, I think acknowledging you that your daughter carries 476 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,040 Speaker 1: your grandmother's soul and you're a part of her soul 477 00:24:47,080 --> 00:25:02,040 Speaker 1: with her. Yeah, this might be a little bit hard, 478 00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:04,840 Speaker 1: but I you're tersa capuda, so you can do I think, 479 00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:08,679 Speaker 1: what do you tell people who want to speak to 480 00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:11,680 Speaker 1: you about children they've lost or pregnancies they've lost. It's 481 00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:13,359 Speaker 1: so interesting because I was going to ask you about 482 00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:17,320 Speaker 1: a miscarriage to a miscarriage. Of course you know that 483 00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:21,159 Speaker 1: I did well. And that also went back to on 484 00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,960 Speaker 1: how I started to write fear down in the beginning 485 00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:27,560 Speaker 1: because there was this fear of you losing the child 486 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:30,119 Speaker 1: again and not knowing what to do. A soul is 487 00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,520 Speaker 1: a soul. A bond is a bond. So when I 488 00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:35,080 Speaker 1: see a blue blanket, it's my similar for a child 489 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:37,679 Speaker 1: that did not get the opportunity to walk into the 490 00:25:37,680 --> 00:25:40,439 Speaker 1: physical world. But the soul is still a soul, and 491 00:25:40,480 --> 00:25:43,920 Speaker 1: this still is a connection. So women who feel who 492 00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,800 Speaker 1: who have miscarriages, I mean that is that's a soul. 493 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:49,159 Speaker 1: I mean that is a soul that they've connected to 494 00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:55,320 Speaker 1: that has now left even a termination. You know. Um, 495 00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:59,719 Speaker 1: I've also learned through what I do, how people don't 496 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:04,480 Speaker 1: or they change because of a decision that they that 497 00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 1: had to be made for whatever reason at that time. Miscarriage, 498 00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:11,520 Speaker 1: termination doesn't matter. It was a soul that did not 499 00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:14,080 Speaker 1: get the opportunity to walk here in the physical world 500 00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:16,760 Speaker 1: is acknowledging that it has grown on the other side, 501 00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:20,320 Speaker 1: still loving, guiding and protecting you from the other side. 502 00:26:20,920 --> 00:26:25,080 Speaker 1: Oh that's so beautiful. Yeah. Yeah, that's really hard. People 503 00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:28,320 Speaker 1: have to make some hard decisions for multitude of reasons, 504 00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:32,200 Speaker 1: and it's so hard. Your body like still went through something. 505 00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:36,000 Speaker 1: It's crazy, you know, And I think, um, you know, 506 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:38,120 Speaker 1: we we we kind of touched on the pandemic. We're 507 00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:40,520 Speaker 1: talking about a loss as a loss. While I was 508 00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:44,160 Speaker 1: going through um my separation with Larry, I kept feeling 509 00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:46,480 Speaker 1: the need and spirit was pushing me to write another book. 510 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:49,719 Speaker 1: And I was like, I was like, the timing isn't right. 511 00:26:49,760 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: I was like going through through the divorce. And it 512 00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:55,640 Speaker 1: was about two years before Covid and I started writing 513 00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:58,240 Speaker 1: this book called Good Morning m O U R N 514 00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:01,560 Speaker 1: I n J. Such a good title, such a good title. 515 00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:04,240 Speaker 1: And what this book is about is that we have 516 00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:08,600 Speaker 1: losses every day and we don't grieve them. And that's 517 00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:12,239 Speaker 1: why sometimes when we have big, big things happen in 518 00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:16,000 Speaker 1: our life and then we hit that low of depression, anxiety, 519 00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:19,439 Speaker 1: or whatever it may be, because we allow all of 520 00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:23,160 Speaker 1: these things that we never grieved, maybe a miscarriage, maybe 521 00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:26,320 Speaker 1: it is a loved one. No matter what anyone went through, 522 00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:29,600 Speaker 1: even this past year, they were able to connect and 523 00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:32,439 Speaker 1: identify with things in this book because at the end 524 00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:35,240 Speaker 1: of the day, a loss is a loss. Some people 525 00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:38,119 Speaker 1: come to me because they lost a pet, but that 526 00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:41,480 Speaker 1: pet maybe they couldn't have children, So there their dog 527 00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:46,520 Speaker 1: or their cat was like huge family member. I mean, 528 00:27:46,560 --> 00:27:49,040 Speaker 1: I remember years ago doing a group reading and saying 529 00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:50,720 Speaker 1: I was, I was. I was like in front of 530 00:27:50,720 --> 00:27:52,680 Speaker 1: five thousand people. Woman in my front row and I 531 00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:54,200 Speaker 1: said to her, I said, did you lose your daughter? 532 00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,800 Speaker 1: And she said no, I never could have children. So 533 00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:00,280 Speaker 1: I said, well, there's a daughter soul standing next to you, 534 00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:02,840 Speaker 1: and she's telling me that you have to make choices 535 00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:05,320 Speaker 1: and decisions to her death, that you wear a braceleted 536 00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:08,600 Speaker 1: memory of her. And she was like, that's my cat, 537 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:12,040 Speaker 1: she said, And I'm wearing wearing the bracelet o and 538 00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:13,880 Speaker 1: had the cat's poor print on it. But her cat 539 00:28:14,000 --> 00:28:17,000 Speaker 1: was like her daughter. Wow. And that's how I communicate 540 00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:20,400 Speaker 1: with spirit is through feeling and through knowing. Sometimes I've wondered, 541 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:24,160 Speaker 1: I don't know this, Like if you miscarry or terminated 542 00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:27,480 Speaker 1: pregnancy or whatever. Does that soul come back if you 543 00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:30,560 Speaker 1: have another kid or is it a different soul? It can? 544 00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:33,560 Speaker 1: It can, it could be, it could be a different soul. Um. 545 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:37,919 Speaker 1: Sometimes I'll even have um, so they'll they'll say, oh, 546 00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:41,840 Speaker 1: I have now a sister, um, and that's the rainbow baby. 547 00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:44,400 Speaker 1: That means that that and and that soul stays on 548 00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:48,960 Speaker 1: the other side. Interesting, so cool. Another crazy thing is 549 00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:52,080 Speaker 1: what will happen. Sometimes they'll show me two babies, but 550 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,080 Speaker 1: only one baby here, and then they'll show me a 551 00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:57,720 Speaker 1: baby on the other side that pass or something. And 552 00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:02,160 Speaker 1: sometimes they'll say, my soul's purpose for that little bit 553 00:29:02,160 --> 00:29:08,040 Speaker 1: of time was to give life to my sibling. Oh yeah, 554 00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:12,240 Speaker 1: my god, that is um. What about people who have 555 00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:16,080 Speaker 1: lost children like have you? I've seen you do readings 556 00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,920 Speaker 1: like that. That is the fucking worship. Ever, I don't 557 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:20,800 Speaker 1: even know how you do what you do. I don't 558 00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:24,200 Speaker 1: like to compare losses because who's to say, right, what 559 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:27,640 Speaker 1: loss is harder than another. But parents are not supposed 560 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:30,000 Speaker 1: to bury their children. And you know, all we want 561 00:29:30,080 --> 00:29:32,360 Speaker 1: for our children is for them to be the best 562 00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:35,920 Speaker 1: that they can be successful, right, and just proud of 563 00:29:35,960 --> 00:29:41,600 Speaker 1: themselves and have confidence and and then you know, unfortunately, 564 00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:43,480 Speaker 1: there are children that I've channeled at the age of 565 00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 1: twelve that took their own life because they were bullied. 566 00:29:48,280 --> 00:29:52,240 Speaker 1: There are so many heartbreaking stories. But the peace that 567 00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:55,280 Speaker 1: they're able to give their parents is such an honor 568 00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:57,480 Speaker 1: and a privilege to do what I do. And it 569 00:29:57,520 --> 00:30:00,240 Speaker 1: doesn't make it doesn't make it easy for them, because 570 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:01,760 Speaker 1: I know the only thing would be to give them 571 00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:05,000 Speaker 1: their child back. But how amazing is it for them 572 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:06,959 Speaker 1: to validate that they're still with them, just in a 573 00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:10,959 Speaker 1: different way by communicating with that personality, giving having me 574 00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:13,800 Speaker 1: say things to their parents that make them laugh. We 575 00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:16,800 Speaker 1: just did a an episode on on my podcast. That's 576 00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:19,000 Speaker 1: how I started doing podcasting, was through the pandemic that 577 00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:21,880 Speaker 1: I realized I could read people over zoom. Lucky for 578 00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:25,440 Speaker 1: all of us, thank god, there was a woman that 579 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,960 Speaker 1: I had read and unfortunately she lost. Her name is Danielle, 580 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:31,080 Speaker 1: and she lost her daughter and we did it for 581 00:30:31,480 --> 00:30:33,680 Speaker 1: it turned out to be not knowing at the time 582 00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:36,560 Speaker 1: that the episode was airing was for Mother's Day and 583 00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:39,160 Speaker 1: that her daughter passed of a brain tumor, a very 584 00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:42,640 Speaker 1: rare form of brain cancer. And it turned out that 585 00:30:42,760 --> 00:30:48,520 Speaker 1: May was brain cancer p and pediatric you know, awareness month, 586 00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:50,480 Speaker 1: and we were like, whoa, this is like crazy. We 587 00:30:50,520 --> 00:30:53,840 Speaker 1: didn't even realize that at the time, and the messages 588 00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:57,120 Speaker 1: and the healing that was given that day is was 589 00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:02,760 Speaker 1: just incredible. Still hard, not easy, but I know that 590 00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:04,680 Speaker 1: for Danielle and her family it will make it a 591 00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:08,600 Speaker 1: little bit easier in embracing a day and knowing that 592 00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:11,480 Speaker 1: their daughter is still with them all these years. I'm 593 00:31:11,520 --> 00:31:15,720 Speaker 1: doing this right. Spirit never ceases to amaze me on 594 00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:18,479 Speaker 1: how they're able to give us that gift of healing 595 00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:23,520 Speaker 1: and peace. It also restores people's faith. I'm also just 596 00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:27,000 Speaker 1: gonna say this because I'm gonna I've I've just remembered something. 597 00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:30,840 Speaker 1: What things are not a coincidence because we was supposed 598 00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:34,160 Speaker 1: to do this podcast like a month ago. I know. 599 00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:38,080 Speaker 1: See Grandma Fay was supposed to be here. She's like, 600 00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:40,520 Speaker 1: you bitch is weight You're not doing this podcast? So 601 00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:47,719 Speaker 1: that is so true. That's bizarre. Okay, before we wrap up, 602 00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:53,040 Speaker 1: I want to know do you have anything that left 603 00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:55,160 Speaker 1: that you want to say. First I'm going to say 604 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:58,880 Speaker 1: is that, um, don't ever veer from your gut instinct 605 00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:06,360 Speaker 1: or your intuition. You are responsible for your own happiness. People, things, experiences, 606 00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:09,120 Speaker 1: they can make you happy, but you, at the end 607 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:11,480 Speaker 1: of the day, are responsible for your own happiness. And 608 00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:15,000 Speaker 1: you know your children better than anyone else. I can 609 00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:18,680 Speaker 1: remember bringing my kids to the doctor and he would say, Okay, well, Teresa, 610 00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:20,600 Speaker 1: tell me this, and he'd be asking me these questions 611 00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:22,360 Speaker 1: and I'd be like them, hey, doc, like you know, 612 00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:25,520 Speaker 1: what are you asking me these for? And he said, Teresa, 613 00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,600 Speaker 1: you know your child better than anyone else. I can 614 00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:33,479 Speaker 1: just give you a name. It's so true, and I 615 00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:36,640 Speaker 1: think we're so hard on ourselves and we will do 616 00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:38,440 Speaker 1: it at times like am I good enough? Am I 617 00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:41,800 Speaker 1: doing this right? Nobody talks about, you know, being a 618 00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:46,440 Speaker 1: new mom, what it's like, you know, um having postponedum or, 619 00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:49,600 Speaker 1: and what about the next stage menopause. It's the same 620 00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:52,040 Speaker 1: thing with grieving. And I used to use this example 621 00:32:52,280 --> 00:32:54,840 Speaker 1: with grieving because people struggle with grieving. Am I doing 622 00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:56,200 Speaker 1: it right? I should be doing this, I should be 623 00:32:56,200 --> 00:32:58,280 Speaker 1: feeling this. And I would always say to them, listen, 624 00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,800 Speaker 1: it's like having a baby. No one give you a pamphlet, 625 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:03,040 Speaker 1: They give you a case of formula and they say, 626 00:33:03,120 --> 00:33:06,800 Speaker 1: good luck, good luck, have a nice life. And you 627 00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:10,080 Speaker 1: listen to your parents, your grandparents, your friends. But at 628 00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:12,320 Speaker 1: the end of the day, what do you do? You 629 00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:16,560 Speaker 1: take what works for you. You You listen. Some things you'll 630 00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:20,200 Speaker 1: you'll apply, and some things you won't. I can remember 631 00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:23,120 Speaker 1: I was breastfeeding and then um, it's different when you know, 632 00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:25,240 Speaker 1: and I went through the whole guilt of stopping because 633 00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:27,040 Speaker 1: I could only do it for a couple of weeks, 634 00:33:27,040 --> 00:33:28,080 Speaker 1: and I was like, I can't do this. I have 635 00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:32,080 Speaker 1: two children. Yes, I struggled with it because I felt guilty. Well, mom, 636 00:33:32,080 --> 00:33:36,640 Speaker 1: guilt is a real guilt in general. You gotta throw 637 00:33:36,640 --> 00:33:38,600 Speaker 1: that out the window right then. The second you feel 638 00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:40,400 Speaker 1: that guilt, you get that broom and you sweep that 639 00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:43,000 Speaker 1: right out of your thoughts. And I remember and the 640 00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:45,640 Speaker 1: doctors saying, put her on this formula, this formula, and 641 00:33:45,640 --> 00:33:47,800 Speaker 1: I she was on all these crazy formulas, and then 642 00:33:47,800 --> 00:33:50,200 Speaker 1: I felt guilty, like, oh my god, I shouldn't stop breastfeeding. 643 00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:52,760 Speaker 1: And then one day I'm like, I'm going to use 644 00:33:52,800 --> 00:33:55,720 Speaker 1: this gurb of powder. I was using these all organic 645 00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,800 Speaker 1: diapers and my and my nanny was like, she had 646 00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:02,160 Speaker 1: really to diprsh My now name is like I sometimes 647 00:34:02,280 --> 00:34:05,640 Speaker 1: think that we should just use pampers, and I was like, oh, okay, 648 00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:08,360 Speaker 1: I mean it's just funny, but like it's really there's 649 00:34:08,400 --> 00:34:12,080 Speaker 1: no right way. But I think trusting your gut is 650 00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:15,920 Speaker 1: really the most important thing, which God you really I 651 00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:18,439 Speaker 1: mean being able to speak two souls. You really got 652 00:34:18,440 --> 00:34:20,799 Speaker 1: to trust your gut. He's the other thing. Don't feel 653 00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,959 Speaker 1: guilty if things don't work out the first time you try, 654 00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:26,600 Speaker 1: try again, because he's going to take another dump in 655 00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:28,160 Speaker 1: his diaper. And then you get if you don't like 656 00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:31,160 Speaker 1: the pampers, you try something else exactly, you'll have the 657 00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:33,719 Speaker 1: opportunity and and and you know what, what people have 658 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:37,879 Speaker 1: to realize we're all the same. You're it's okay not 659 00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:40,879 Speaker 1: to be okay. Nothing has to be a big deal, 660 00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:43,080 Speaker 1: unless if we make it a big deal. I try 661 00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:45,920 Speaker 1: to look at things in life of things happen for me, 662 00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:48,440 Speaker 1: not to me. Try to look at things as like 663 00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:52,200 Speaker 1: problem solving, like okay, this is horrible, this is you know, 664 00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:54,840 Speaker 1: but listen. I have my days to where I like 665 00:34:54,960 --> 00:34:57,680 Speaker 1: totally like freak out over like the littlest thing, and 666 00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:59,759 Speaker 1: then I'm like all right, wait a minute, and then 667 00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:03,719 Speaker 1: I'm okay, you had your little mini breakdown. You're you're okay, like, 668 00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:06,359 Speaker 1: but it's okay. You have to have those moments. Don't 669 00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:09,080 Speaker 1: be so hard on yourself. If you look back on 670 00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,680 Speaker 1: things and anyone listening and you say, I don't know 671 00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:13,160 Speaker 1: if I would do that, I don't know if I 672 00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:15,879 Speaker 1: would make that decision again, then look at that as 673 00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:19,680 Speaker 1: a lesson learned, not a mistake, because you learned something, 674 00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:21,680 Speaker 1: you learned that you'd never do that again, or you 675 00:35:21,719 --> 00:35:25,680 Speaker 1: grew from that. Yeah, totally. And your kids are awesome, 676 00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:28,439 Speaker 1: So you did a good job. They really are, Like 677 00:35:28,600 --> 00:35:30,839 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. I just pray and hope that, 678 00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:34,920 Speaker 1: like I can have kids at your kid's age and 679 00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:37,440 Speaker 1: just look at them and be like, you know that 680 00:35:37,520 --> 00:35:40,839 Speaker 1: I that I helped support and guide them, but they 681 00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:44,560 Speaker 1: are who they are and they're just living a life 682 00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:47,640 Speaker 1: that makes them happy where they are themselves and confident 683 00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:50,320 Speaker 1: and you know, just all of that stuff. I hope 684 00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:52,880 Speaker 1: I see And look at you. You did it. I 685 00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:55,200 Speaker 1: know you said you're not done, but from my perspective, 686 00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:58,200 Speaker 1: I'm like, holy crap, you have like adult children who 687 00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:02,480 Speaker 1: are making adult decisions. They are The other thing, Katie 688 00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:04,759 Speaker 1: is this is one of the things that I took 689 00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:08,120 Speaker 1: from COVID on on the lockdown of trying to find 690 00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:11,360 Speaker 1: the silver lining. Look at this connection. So maybe people 691 00:36:11,520 --> 00:36:14,240 Speaker 1: that don't live with their families or near their families, 692 00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:16,480 Speaker 1: so once a month they just get on a zoom call, 693 00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:21,400 Speaker 1: even if it's for fifteen minutes. COVID is as fucked 694 00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:24,840 Speaker 1: up as this whole year has been. Like my husband, 695 00:36:25,320 --> 00:36:28,040 Speaker 1: who used to speak to his parents probably once every 696 00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:31,319 Speaker 1: two weeks, he he facetimes his parents every day. Now 697 00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:35,600 Speaker 1: his kids, his parents see my kids every day on FaceTime. 698 00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:38,040 Speaker 1: It's it's so important, believable. He's never spoken to his 699 00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:41,640 Speaker 1: parents this much, is his His grandmother and grandfather rolled 700 00:36:41,640 --> 00:36:43,360 Speaker 1: their eyes and like, yeah, when he calls his parents 701 00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:48,279 Speaker 1: and like gets at him again and yeah, they talk 702 00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:51,359 Speaker 1: a lot. They talk a lot. And it's really like 703 00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:56,359 Speaker 1: been such a great thing because again I think that 704 00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,440 Speaker 1: it made him really close to his parents to go 705 00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:01,920 Speaker 1: through the loss of his grandmother, you know what I mean. 706 00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:06,640 Speaker 1: He feels so the family feels very bonded, even though 707 00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:11,560 Speaker 1: they've been apart physically. I'm going to say this and 708 00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:13,279 Speaker 1: I don't mean to interrupt you, And I think you 709 00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:16,440 Speaker 1: said nothing because I think we brought up COVID a 710 00:37:16,480 --> 00:37:18,840 Speaker 1: couple of times, so I'm going to say this for 711 00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:22,719 Speaker 1: anyone listening. Realize also that when a soul leaves a 712 00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:27,080 Speaker 1: physical body, they leave behind every and any disability under ailment. 713 00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,600 Speaker 1: They do not take it with them. So for maybe 714 00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:31,600 Speaker 1: the folks out there that might have to up laid 715 00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:35,080 Speaker 1: their loved ones to rest differently because of COVID or 716 00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:37,800 Speaker 1: not the way that they would have if it wasn't 717 00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:41,360 Speaker 1: for the lockdown, know that. And I don't mean to 718 00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:44,319 Speaker 1: sound cold or rude by this. They don't care what 719 00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:47,040 Speaker 1: we do with their physical body. That's for us. They're 720 00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:49,239 Speaker 1: not a part of that. So if somebody is out 721 00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:53,640 Speaker 1: there struggling with that, don't let that go and replace 722 00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:56,919 Speaker 1: it with something positive. Knowing and remembering them to really 723 00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,960 Speaker 1: validate that that the souls are at peace. That makes 724 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:05,200 Speaker 1: me really happy to hear that she's over there. Um, 725 00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:08,319 Speaker 1: And I want to you to say answer one thing. 726 00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:18,160 Speaker 1: Parenthood is. Yeah, it is, but it's also the most 727 00:38:18,239 --> 00:38:22,120 Speaker 1: rewarding it is. And if your children are out there 728 00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:25,560 Speaker 1: saying that they're they're seeing someone in their room or 729 00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:28,600 Speaker 1: a presence, show them a picture of someone that has died. 730 00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:30,480 Speaker 1: I guarantee a little be like, oh, yeah, that's the 731 00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:33,520 Speaker 1: man that's in my room. I know that that's what's 732 00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,640 Speaker 1: happening because my husband, my son was just on face 733 00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:39,680 Speaker 1: time with Adam and Adam was in the hotel room 734 00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:42,560 Speaker 1: in Miami, a room he's never seen. And Adam and 735 00:38:42,680 --> 00:38:49,560 Speaker 1: my son was like Gigi mas there literally yeah. And 736 00:38:49,600 --> 00:38:51,160 Speaker 1: it isn't until this moment where I was like, oh 737 00:38:51,160 --> 00:38:52,600 Speaker 1: my god, do you think he really saw her? I 738 00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:55,759 Speaker 1: had just sort of let it go that, oh, he 739 00:38:55,800 --> 00:38:58,000 Speaker 1: knows Adams in Miami, but he was in a room 740 00:38:58,040 --> 00:39:01,120 Speaker 1: he'd never seen. But that's also a way of embracing 741 00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:03,080 Speaker 1: you talked to you asked me earlier about death, Like 742 00:39:03,320 --> 00:39:05,920 Speaker 1: what a way of saying yes, even though she's in heaven, 743 00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,279 Speaker 1: she's still with you, just in a different way. Her 744 00:39:08,320 --> 00:39:10,799 Speaker 1: soul is still with you. And know that if you 745 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:13,120 Speaker 1: see things that remind you of her, know that that's 746 00:39:13,160 --> 00:39:16,440 Speaker 1: just her way of saying hello from heaven. So I 747 00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:21,319 Speaker 1: just heard you connect with hummingbirds. Well, look for the hummingbirds. Yeah, 748 00:39:21,320 --> 00:39:24,000 Speaker 1: we always look for hummingbirds. They're always at my front 749 00:39:24,000 --> 00:39:26,239 Speaker 1: of my house. See I don't have them. I live 750 00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:28,080 Speaker 1: on the East Coast. We don't have hummingbirds. Yeah, I 751 00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:35,280 Speaker 1: have hummingbirds like nobody's business. Okay, so that's faye. Wow. Yeah, 752 00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:39,160 Speaker 1: I'm going to tell Adam like the this is so helpful. 753 00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:43,400 Speaker 1: Perfect way to end. Teresa Caputo, you are the best 754 00:39:44,040 --> 00:39:45,920 Speaker 1: um and I see you licking your lips, which is 755 00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:50,440 Speaker 1: I means souls are here. They are among us, they 756 00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:52,879 Speaker 1: are with us. If you watch The Long Island Medium, 757 00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:55,560 Speaker 1: which I've seen quite many episodes, one of the favorite 758 00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:58,799 Speaker 1: best television shows of all time, Teresa licks her lips 759 00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:01,480 Speaker 1: when souls are present. Right, I didn't even know I 760 00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,120 Speaker 1: was licking my lips. She does this like whole lip thing. 761 00:40:04,560 --> 00:40:09,160 Speaker 1: Thank you for coming up, love you, Love you so much. Fight. 762 00:40:16,160 --> 00:40:18,040 Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much for listening to Katie's Crib. 763 00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:20,319 Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed today's episode and I want to 764 00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:22,600 Speaker 1: hear from you. What else should we be talking about? 765 00:40:22,600 --> 00:40:24,279 Speaker 1: What guests should we have on? You can always hit 766 00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:26,880 Speaker 1: me up at Katie's Crib at Shonda land dot com. 767 00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:35,399 Speaker 1: Thanks guys. Katie's Crib is a production of Shonda Land 768 00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,480 Speaker 1: Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. For more podcasts 769 00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:40,799 Speaker 1: from Shanda Land Audio, visit the I Heart Radio app, 770 00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,560 Speaker 1: Apple podcasts, or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. 771 00:40:57,239 --> 00:41:01,640 Speaker 1: You never know. I'm it s quickly be need to 772 00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:03,879 Speaker 1: ride and got the door