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Speaker 1: Hey, guys, welcome to Tommy Talk, and today's topic is

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Speaker 1: success has no age limit. Man, I am super passionate

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Speaker 1: and that's amazing. If you do, that's truly amazing. There's

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Speaker 1: so many lists out there like Forbes thirty under thirty

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Speaker 1: and I think that's all really super valid and amazing,

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Speaker 1: and all success should be celebrated. But the reality is

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Speaker 1: many people reach their highest levels of success later in life,

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Speaker 1: but we don't talk about it, and society doesn't glorify

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Speaker 1: and praise that in the same ways, success has no

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Speaker 1: age limit. You can reach your wildest success way later

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Speaker 1: in life, and in fact many people have. But the

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Speaker 1: stories we hear about are the Mark Zuckerberg's who when

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Speaker 1: So their stories seem to suggest that success comes early,

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Speaker 1: or maybe not at all, because that's what's constantly profiled.

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Speaker 1: But I'm interested in the people who reached those levels

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Speaker 1: of success later forties, fifties, even sixties, because so much

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Speaker 1: of that is true and is out there, we just

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Speaker 1: don't know about it. So here are some examples just

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Speaker 1: so you know that you might be surprised by Eric

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Speaker 1: Wand he founded Zoom at the age of forty one.

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Speaker 1: Zoom one of the biggest things in the world. Coleman Domingo,

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Speaker 1: who is a buddy of mine, at fifty years old,

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Speaker 1: at fifty, which is unbelievable. Arianna Huffington. She was first

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Speaker 1: he was two more. Leo Goodwin, he was writing insurance

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Speaker 1: company known as Geico, and he did that at fifty

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Speaker 1: years old, per the company website. And one more for you.

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Speaker 1: Vera Wang. She was a figure skater and a journalist

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Speaker 1: iconic Vera Wang. So these are just certain examples of

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Speaker 1: people who have reached beautiful, crazy levels of success later

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Speaker 1: in life. And again it's not really talked about that,

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Speaker 1: but I think that experience brings wisdom and perspective. So

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Speaker 1: all your years working allows you to make a pivot

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Speaker 1: if you want to one day to do something that

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Speaker 1: also want to take a minute to say that success

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Speaker 1: waking up every day and being proud of the work

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Speaker 1: I think that if you can do that, you're successful.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it has to necessarily only mean a

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Speaker 1: they want to reach high levels of success. So that's

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Speaker 1: why this conversation is important for me to have, because

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Speaker 1: just because you're forty or fifty or sixty, it doesn't

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Speaker 1: can do anything you want to. I'd say American dream

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Speaker 1: baby like, it doesn't mean it's over if you're out

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Speaker 1: passionate about this. The idea that you have to have

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Speaker 1: You don't always have to have it all figured out.

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Speaker 1: I mean there are certain things like if you're a doctor,

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Speaker 1: you know, the have it all figured out is definitely

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Speaker 1: a social construct. I never imagine I'd be where I

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Speaker 1: So you don't always have to have a plan for it.

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Speaker 1: I guess passion and purpose will get you there, and

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Speaker 1: those things don't expire. Those things don't expire. Passion and

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Speaker 1: purpose is something that if it's in you, you feel it,

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Speaker 1: And I love the examples of the people that I

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Speaker 1: too late. I also think success means that at different

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Speaker 1: times in your life. Success can mean career, but it

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Speaker 1: can also mean relationships. It can also mean family, it

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Speaker 1: can mean personal growth. I mean all of these things

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Speaker 1: think I have a lot of friends who are having

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Speaker 1: that's okay too. I think that those are different definitions

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Speaker 1: But your potential really doesn't have an expiration date, and

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Speaker 1: that's the key thing here, And it's easy in this

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Speaker 1: I doing wrong? I'm never going to be who I

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Speaker 1: get to. And that's not true. That's just simply not true.

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Speaker 1: Because if you do have the passion to do something,

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Speaker 1: So if you're sending in a job where you're like,

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Speaker 1: at any point. It's not too late. It really isn't

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Speaker 1: too late. And I want to stress that in this

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Speaker 1: you can create so much now that you don't have

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Speaker 1: people who are considered in the second act of their

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Speaker 1: things are quite possible. They really are. And yes, it

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Speaker 1: Doesn't mean we're gonna work any less hard than somebody

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Speaker 1: It can really really happen. And I, oh, there's an

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Speaker 1: but that's a New York baby. Sorry for the noise.

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Speaker 1: So I just I'm really passionate about this whole second

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Speaker 1: It's not too late. It's not too late. Age is

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Speaker 1: seriously a number, and if anyone's telling you otherwise, screw

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Speaker 1: then screw them. And again I don't want everyone listening

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Speaker 1: at everything I've done in my career, and I've had

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Speaker 1: I worked in social media, I was a consultant, and

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Speaker 1: not saying I'm great, but like I've developed a skill

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Speaker 1: where you still want to go. But you're not stopping

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Speaker 1: And I have to say I'm very grateful that I'm

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Speaker 1: But my bottom line is age is just a number.

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Speaker 1: There's no limit to success, there's no expiration date. You

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Speaker 1: And don't compare your success to anyone else because we

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Speaker 1: all have our own journey and people who are super

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Speaker 1: means waking up and being proud of the work that

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Speaker 1: work in my career, the work as a husband, my

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Speaker 1: work as a friend, my work as a son, all

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Speaker 1: of it, it all is one. But but those amazing

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Speaker 1: aspirations you have for your career, just remember there's there

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Speaker 1: who have achieved the unimaginable at different points of their

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Speaker 1: never too late. I am so excited to see what

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Speaker 1: each and every one of you are going to continue

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Speaker 1: creating in your life and your journey. And let's go, baby,

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Speaker 1: Let's fucking go. Sorry, mom, she listens and hates when

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Speaker 1: I cursed, but sometimes you just need to have a life.

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Speaker 1: Let's fucking go out there, right Until next time, guys,

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