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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on tight. We got it for

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Speaker 1: you here. It is a strawberry letter. All right, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Subject my husband's supportive secretary. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been

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Speaker 1: married for fourteen years and we have two sons. My

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Speaker 1: husband is a middle school principal and I work full

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Speaker 1: time in an office. Excuse me. My husband and I

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Speaker 1: have a great social life, and we used to focus

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Speaker 1: on keeping the romance alive in our marriage. But my

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Speaker 1: boys are very active in sports now, so it's hard

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Speaker 1: to find time to hang out together. It has not

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Speaker 1: affected my husband's social life at all, though he still

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Speaker 1: hangs out after work and I have a big issue

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Speaker 1: with who he chooses to spend his time with. He

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Speaker 1: has been going out with his secretary to have a

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Speaker 1: quick dinner or just to grab a drink, as he says.

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Speaker 1: His secretary is married too, but her kids are grown

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Speaker 1: so she doesn't have to rush home after work. After

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Speaker 1: the first couple of times the two of them went out,

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Speaker 1: I went up to the school and had a talk

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Speaker 1: with both of them. She told me that they are

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Speaker 1: merely call workers and good friend that tell each other everything.

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Speaker 1: He told me that I should not have come up

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Speaker 1: me that I don't support who he is as a

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Speaker 1: black man, and the secretary is easy to talk to,

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Speaker 1: she listens to him. I was furious and humiliated. Meanwhile,

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Speaker 1: he's hanging out after work. I am running around with

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Speaker 1: our boys, making sure there at all of their practices

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Speaker 1: and games. But I'm not supportive. I really need some

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Speaker 1: good advice before I ring his neck. Please help, go

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Speaker 1: ahead and ring his neck go ahead, because he is wrong.

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Speaker 1: I mean, your husband's out of order. He's ignoring everything

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Speaker 1: you're telling him and just doing whatever he wants to

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Speaker 1: do with his so called best friend and very supportive secretary.

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Speaker 1: I think your husband's disrespectful and he knows. Should you

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Speaker 1: have gone up to his job? No, no, you shouldn't

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Speaker 1: know what happened after that. But he didn't, So that's okay.

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Speaker 1: If you guys can't work this stuff out at home,

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Speaker 1: there is something really serious going on. A telling line

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Speaker 1: in the letter, he said, a couple of them, I

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Speaker 1: don't think that you don't support who he is as

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Speaker 1: a black man. What does that have to do with anything?

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Speaker 1: What does that have to do with anything? Right? But yeah,

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Speaker 1: And but this is a real telling line. The secretary

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Speaker 1: is easy to talk to. She listens to him. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that was a very telling line. And you had every

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Speaker 1: She listens to him. But he's not listening to you

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Speaker 1: at all. And where he wants your support? Where's his support?

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Speaker 1: You're the one running around with the boys making sure

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Speaker 1: they're at all of their practices and games. Isn't that

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Speaker 1: something that usually the dad does? Or you guys? You together,

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Speaker 1: you both support your children. Meanwhile he's at the club,

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Speaker 1: hanging out, doing his thing with his secretary. No, this

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Speaker 1: not supporting you as a black woman, as a black wife,

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Speaker 1: as a mother, as a lover, all of these things. Okay,

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Speaker 1: he's wrong. He needs to get it together, and I'm

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Speaker 1: All he gonna do is go over there and get

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Speaker 1: So he say she easy to talk to because she listens.

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Speaker 1: Here you is ringing next. Now I got to go

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Speaker 1: Hefel that's talking to me and listening, pushing me. You're

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Speaker 1: written for you. Now let me walk you through it.

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Speaker 1: Steve you wrong on this one. Whatever, it's a letter

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Speaker 1: out these people. He wrong for that. You and your

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Speaker 1: husband have a great social life. We used to focus

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Speaker 1: is his live here denner out drinking. His social life

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Speaker 1: it's hard to find time to hang out together. U.

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Speaker 1: It ain't affected my husband's social life. I told you

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Speaker 1: I ain't coming home. I'm going to grab some dinner

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Speaker 1: gonna be a little lay all right, take it easy

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Speaker 1: and how that sound. So after they did it a

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Speaker 1: It ain't go like your thought, did it. We come back,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna go over what God said to your face?

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Speaker 1: What you miss that didn't get said to your face?

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Speaker 1: Let the church say amen. Amen. Then used to have

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Speaker 1: because he going out after work dinner, drinks, and you

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Speaker 1: I don't know who this stupid as a husband is yours.

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Speaker 1: You're married too. But there ain't no where in the

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Speaker 1: up hill talking to both of us, right, chew up

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Speaker 1: hill fault. Ain't nothing going on now. Later, when he

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Speaker 1: I got news for you. He told her that I

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Speaker 1: He lying. But then he said, and the secretary easy

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Speaker 1: Then you come up down time. I talked to about

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Speaker 1: First of all, what you're gonna when you say ring

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Speaker 1: real educated dude. We're squas dude. He came in and

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Speaker 1: asked me, was I Howard? Of course I couldn't lie.

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Speaker 1: I said, yes, I'm mister Howard. And plat ou right

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Speaker 1: We gotta go email us, Instagram, not even if she

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Speaker 1: And she looked like me, I'm no good here. Well,

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