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Speaker 1: slash the PSG podcast now. Please keep in mind that

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Speaker 1: all of my guests are nones, so let's again this

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Speaker 1: week's episode. So I'm super excited to bee to my

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Speaker 1: guests today as she shares her journey on her gender

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Speaker 1: affirmation surgery. So to my guests, how are you doing? Hello?

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Speaker 1: How you feeling. I'm feeling fine. I can't keep playing,

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Speaker 1: just like saying at the moment, a little exhausted from

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Speaker 1: working but her woman's jobs down. I was telling her, y'all,

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Speaker 1: I was like, don't let these nigga stress you out

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Speaker 1: chow and she is exhausted. I'm not exhausted from the

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Speaker 1: damn niggas. No, no, not niggas. Isn't like man niggas. No,

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Speaker 1: I'm telling my people people is nigga? Yes, niggas is

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Speaker 1: a now a person plays. So I want to say

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Speaker 1: thank you so much for being part of the show,

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Speaker 1: which I have already told you this. Um. I watched

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Speaker 1: your documentary and on your journey journey and just be

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Speaker 1: hon inspiring and I know that it's going to inspire

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Speaker 1: others to live life on their turns. So it's been

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Speaker 1: a little over a year since you had your surgery.

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Speaker 1: So does they feel like it's been a year already?

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Speaker 1: It does feel like it's been I can't even explain it.

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Speaker 1: It feels like it's been longer than a year. For

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Speaker 1: some reason, it's just m hm oh that's a good

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Speaker 1: feeling though. Absolutely. Yeah. So before we started your story,

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Speaker 1: can you explaining with gender affirmation surgery is so gender

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Speaker 1: afformented surgery is a UM, a vaginal plastie um surgery

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Speaker 1: that um from male to female and it's very painful.

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Speaker 1: Did you watch any videos to like prepare yourself? Because

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Speaker 1: when I was watching the videos, I was like, but

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Speaker 1: when I was like, the human body is amazing, and

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Speaker 1: if the too, I was like, I know they had

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Speaker 1: mean I didn't watch any videos. To be honest with you,

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Speaker 1: I knew I was a video for some reason. I

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Speaker 1: just knew my story was a video before I even

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Speaker 1: fucking did it, you know what I mean? Right, So

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Speaker 1: it was like, you know, even speaking with you, and

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Speaker 1: like again I told you that I was so excited

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Speaker 1: like this surgery mentally physically has made me feel like

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Speaker 1: I had it. I was actually reborn, so I feel

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Speaker 1: like I knew life, you know, mm hmm. I'm love

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Speaker 1: a lot. When I was watching your videos, and I

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Speaker 1: can tell after your surgery, I can tell you like

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Speaker 1: you like like something changing you mm hmm did you

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Speaker 1: do you well? Do you feel it? Sure, it's partly,

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Speaker 1: it's part of almost like exhausted to again, but um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's yeah. I changed. Of course you supposed to change.

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Speaker 1: You know, this is this is nothing to play with,

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Speaker 1: you know, so you have to you know, of course

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Speaker 1: I did. I even walk different. I talked different every days,

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Speaker 1: be a candidate for this procedure? Yeah, I have lots

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Speaker 1: of recommendations. Um, but the most important part is not

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Speaker 1: has to be something that you have thought and had

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Speaker 1: in your mind from day one. Day won't mean as

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Speaker 1: early as however long a person may feel different about

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Speaker 1: before we continue, I was like, I need to see

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Speaker 1: you as in action at the balls because I'm like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I said, she is given it. So we have the court. Well,

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Speaker 1: we both have each other numbers now, so you have

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Speaker 1: support you. Honey. Yeah, I haven't walked the ball in

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Speaker 1: You know. Again, this is not you know, something that

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Speaker 1: And that's more so so so most important part about

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Speaker 1: there and so many people are saying to me, like,

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Speaker 1: I wish I could just have my mind and just

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Speaker 1: like because it's just so real what's happening and how

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Speaker 1: it's happening. But when you're proud of God, God believes

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Speaker 1: you know the things that she should be, you know

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Speaker 1: that more constructive things for you to live your life

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Speaker 1: and feel more comfortable. And that's where I'm met in life. Now.

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Speaker 1: You know, I can't nobody's or my Jory break k it.

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Speaker 1: You know, I try not let nobody make me upset.

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Speaker 1: right and for the most part, like I'm complete and

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Speaker 1: I'm a whole new you know, it's a whole new

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Speaker 1: talking ship, it's a whole new woman. Okay, listen, I'm

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Speaker 1: happy for listen. I don't all about people, especially women,

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Speaker 1: living life on their terms, because life is hard, especially

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Speaker 1: when you don't have the support to navigate through this

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Speaker 1: ghetto ass world. So listen, talk to your ship. I

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Speaker 1: think that what you did was amazing, Like and I can't.

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Speaker 1: I mean, as we get more into your story, I

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Speaker 1: just can't even imagine the things that you endure to

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Speaker 1: So girl, get your shirt off. It's it's been it's

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Speaker 1: been quite a lot of you know, things that I've

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Speaker 1: you know, being singled out a lot of times when

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Speaker 1: like unbelievable because I remember as a child being punchedoring

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Speaker 1: And I liked that about my life because I don't

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Speaker 1: Like I feel like obvious, this is my first time

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Speaker 1: I just feel like you just had senching affectionist personality

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Speaker 1: You can have different imaginations about your child is going

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Speaker 1: have to love them because at one point in time

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Speaker 1: to do. Right now, did you know anybody else that

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Speaker 1: it was just I'm so I'm so thankful, I'm so grateful,

426
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:55,360
Speaker 1: I'm so humble right now, Like it's just so like girl,

427
00:28:55,880 --> 00:29:00,120
Speaker 1: it is so amazing, like you know, to to to

428
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 1: to go after a dream. And I would not never

429
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,240
Speaker 1: think I would live to see me do what I

430
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 1: just what I don't. I wouldn't have never thought I

431
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 1: would live to see this to happen to me. Really

432
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 1: mm hmmm, why is that? Do you think that you

433
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 1: wasn't gonna be here or no. I just thought that

434
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 1: it was so impossible. I thought about this when I

435
00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 1: was a child. Oh wow, Yeah, I thought it was

436
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 1: so impossible, like coming from my background and you know,

437
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:39,160
Speaker 1: not having a father in my life for many years,

438
00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 1: and you know, just just a typical black family, you

439
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:49,600
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Yeah, So I wouldn't have never

440
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 1: thought a day girl this when I when I like girl,

441
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,120
Speaker 1: I'd be like, I get it. I would be saying

442
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:00,920
Speaker 1: this ship walking around the house like I did this

443
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 1: ship and not only dinner, I did it with graves

444
00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 1: m facts like is it feels so real dad, like

445
00:30:13,640 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 1: I did this? By my Oh my god, I swear

446
00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 1: you sound just like me. So I feel like I'm

447
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:25,440
Speaker 1: getting emotional because I know that feeling like that again

448
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 1: something that you really wanted and even wanted for a

449
00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 1: long time. Yeah, and when you finally did, it's like,

450
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 1: it's not that you didn't think you couldn't do it,

451
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 1: you just didn't think you didn't know when you was

452
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:41,320
Speaker 1: gonna do it. Yeah, I felt that ship. Just like

453
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: to know that you did that ship by yourself means

454
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:45,960
Speaker 1: and it's it's always good to have help, but when

455
00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 1: you do ship by yourself much is something that costs money,

456
00:30:48,840 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 1: time and sacrifice that that it means a lot. It

457
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:56,320
Speaker 1: was so many people along my journey from different states,

458
00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 1: from d sen to to Baltimore and two different state

459
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:04,719
Speaker 1: he said Toby, no, no, no, do this, No you

460
00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 1: can't do that. But that did not make me give

461
00:31:07,080 --> 00:31:10,320
Speaker 1: up at all. I kept fighting. Like I said, I've

462
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:14,280
Speaker 1: been trying to do this, do this whole process. I

463
00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 1: didn't started this so many different times. I went to

464
00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 1: so many different doctors. I probably know all of them,

465
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 1: you know what I'm like, I didn't went to so

466
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 1: many different doctors. I talked to so many different doctors

467
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 1: who told me um different things. I tell you know,

468
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 1: like what was some of the things was he back

469
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:38,440
Speaker 1: then it was it was hard to even get hormones there.

470
00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 1: Then it was yeah, to these these this stuff that

471
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 1: they got this, all this programmedness and programmed this stuff

472
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 1: is new compared to my generation. You know, back get

473
00:31:55,920 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 1: a part of the new stuff too. Sometimes you know

474
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:03,520
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, right, that's yeah, like but but but

475
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:06,080
Speaker 1: they didn't have all of this way these people was

476
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:10,080
Speaker 1: getting this to get that, and it was you wanted.

477
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:14,400
Speaker 1: But I remember going into the pharmacy. Oh my god,

478
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:19,360
Speaker 1: I remember going into the pharmacy and and and I

479
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:23,600
Speaker 1: had my pusscription and then it almost made me when

480
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 1: I cry everything. So I remember going into the pharmacy

481
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 1: and I told I gave the lady my pusscription, and

482
00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 1: she says she looked at it, and she looked at me,

483
00:32:35,680 --> 00:32:38,240
Speaker 1: and she was like, you're not supposed to take this.

484
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 1: And I was looking at her like, how are you

485
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 1: gonna tell me what I'm not supposed to take when

486
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:49,160
Speaker 1: my doctor roll it? Who are you like? And then

487
00:32:49,240 --> 00:32:51,200
Speaker 1: did not give it to me. But if I knew,

488
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 1: But if I knew what I know now far as

489
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:59,320
Speaker 1: laws and different stuff and um and I'm right, some

490
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:02,000
Speaker 1: stuff us and all this stuff, if I knew that,

491
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:05,040
Speaker 1: then I probably could have had so many different cases.

492
00:33:05,120 --> 00:33:10,200
Speaker 1: But how I was being treated like made me so

493
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 1: strong and again living in the un brother of so

494
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 1: many different um um brands and flavors and colors. You know,

495
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 1: um honestly, it's what you make of life. It is

496
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 1: because it could either break you or make you b

497
00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: Now my life, get the life of baby. Oh no,

498
00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: in facts like you you don't know what you really

499
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 1: made of when you really go through some ships and

500
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:46,360
Speaker 1: you're able to come back at one time, like you know,

501
00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:49,160
Speaker 1: like nothing ain't never happened. Like that's how I feel

502
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:53,280
Speaker 1: about this surgery. Like it's like I went to surgery,

503
00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:57,880
Speaker 1: I came out and I was like I remember just

504
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:01,520
Speaker 1: being new. I felt like I was in so much

505
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:05,960
Speaker 1: pain and it was like Okay, let me keep up.

506
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 1: And it was like I kept going to the hospital.

507
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 1: You gotta keep going to these hospitals after because that's

508
00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:14,520
Speaker 1: the major surgery. You know what I mean? What is

509
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:17,279
Speaker 1: the talk about the day of the surgery? Because I

510
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 1: feel like when I was watching the video, I was

511
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:23,319
Speaker 1: just like, oh, like how long did it take? It was?

512
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 1: It was it was over seven hours, I believe, seven

513
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 1: or eight hours shift. Yeah, it's the whole ship ship.

514
00:34:36,480 --> 00:34:49,680
Speaker 1: It was like, yeah, just talking about reconstructing girl, we're

515
00:34:49,680 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 1: talking about neurology and all different parts. So that surgery

516
00:34:55,480 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 1: where I had met a team of doctors I believe

517
00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:01,280
Speaker 1: of like five or six or something at one point.

518
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:04,640
Speaker 1: So yeah, like you know, I have to it's different.

519
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:08,680
Speaker 1: It's different, it's different things pertaining it, and it's a

520
00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:13,320
Speaker 1: very risky surgery. It's one It is one mistake and

521
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 1: you might be gone. I was watching the video because

522
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 1: I was like, I just wanted to get a visual

523
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:19,799
Speaker 1: or what or what the procedure looked like. And I

524
00:35:19,840 --> 00:35:26,879
Speaker 1: was like, oh, you gotta be skilled because one wrong cut. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

525
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:31,640
Speaker 1: one'm wrong cut, One'm wrong? You turn Okay. It's amazing,

526
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:36,000
Speaker 1: though it's I was just like wow, like I was

527
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 1: so amazed about it. But I'm gonna tell you something.

528
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:45,680
Speaker 1: And maybe I might get bold one day to I

529
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:52,960
Speaker 1: don't know, but so but honestly, what you gonna show us,

530
00:35:54,560 --> 00:35:57,439
Speaker 1: I might showing m by like only things, my dad,

531
00:35:57,640 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Only things. I mean, I

532
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 1: got small, only things. But I don't be on there

533
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,040
Speaker 1: like that, to be honest, I got on these fans,

534
00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:07,759
Speaker 1: I I got take time, I got better. I don't

535
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:11,480
Speaker 1: be like that I need to, but I got um Instagram,

536
00:36:11,560 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 1: all that stuff gonna be charging these niggas babies. Listen,

537
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:20,280
Speaker 1: I ain't really like you know, once once my followers

538
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 1: come up or get up or whatever, maybe I might

539
00:36:22,719 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 1: start my only fans stuff. So you know what I'm saying,

540
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:30,759
Speaker 1: like seeing what it looks like, you know what, I'll

541
00:36:30,800 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 1: tell you that or a peak of it when I

542
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 1: go get lazer and stuff. Because I go get the

543
00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 1: Bazilians and stuff. I like my bol Prets and stuff

544
00:36:40,600 --> 00:36:44,240
Speaker 1: really smooth and clean and stuff. I see you laughing.

545
00:36:44,360 --> 00:36:46,879
Speaker 1: I was like child, I was like she just full

546
00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 1: a Google. I feel they're crying and stuff. Do you

547
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:53,719
Speaker 1: have to keep it? Do you have to maintain it

548
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:55,920
Speaker 1: by keeping it lazer and stuff? Or can you let

549
00:36:55,920 --> 00:36:59,440
Speaker 1: it grow out here? Um? You because that it's not

550
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:03,120
Speaker 1: going to really grow as much because normally when certain

551
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 1: technology now it was kind of burning it off. But

552
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:09,879
Speaker 1: they don't know hel won't grow back. I suppose, but

553
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:13,719
Speaker 1: I just you know, I know how I want everything

554
00:37:13,760 --> 00:37:17,200
Speaker 1: to be pretty for me. You know. Wait, so when

555
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: you first saw your vagina, like, what was your reaction?

556
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:25,160
Speaker 1: It was? It was it was I just I smiled.

557
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,680
Speaker 1: I was actually it's pictures I got some pictures. Um,

558
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:34,720
Speaker 1: but yeah I smiled. Um, I smiled. It's a little

559
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:39,239
Speaker 1: small video to somewhere. I gotta kind of look for that.

560
00:37:39,360 --> 00:37:42,880
Speaker 1: But anyway, yeah, I smiled, like really really hard to

561
00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:48,520
Speaker 1: know that, Like they did something. It was I was

562
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:51,280
Speaker 1: in a days too, so it was like they did something.

563
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:55,799
Speaker 1: I'm smiling, it is? What did I do? It was

564
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 1: like it was a mixture of different like the actions

565
00:37:59,120 --> 00:38:01,880
Speaker 1: and feelings and like and I was like, my legs

566
00:38:01,960 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 1: is tied up, not tied up, but just more so

567
00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:08,359
Speaker 1: like you know, compression stockings and all this stuff. Wit

568
00:38:08,400 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 1: when you first saw it, did you see when you

569
00:38:10,200 --> 00:38:11,759
Speaker 1: woke up from the surgery or it was a couple

570
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 1: of days later. No, I saw it on my birthday.

571
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 1: Oh what a nice gift to yourself. Man, Oh my god,

572
00:38:21,760 --> 00:38:25,160
Speaker 1: I not my song. It was on my forty I know.

573
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:28,280
Speaker 1: So what does that mean to you to give yourself

574
00:38:28,320 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 1: something so something that you always wanted wanted on your

575
00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 1: fortieth birthday? Like what does that? How does that feel? Oh?

576
00:38:35,760 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: My god? Alright? Like girl, I just feel like I

577
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:43,359
Speaker 1: did with the hell I had to do, and I

578
00:38:43,360 --> 00:38:50,520
Speaker 1: accomplished it with dignity, with pride, with abuse, with infection,

579
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 1: with with heartbreaks, with bullies, with with name calling, with punches,

580
00:38:56,800 --> 00:39:01,040
Speaker 1: with beatings. I accomplished all of this, and I just

581
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 1: want to say whatever anybody dream of truth is living

582
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:08,600
Speaker 1: your truth and be who you wanna be, because nobody

583
00:39:08,640 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: can make it yourself happy more than yourself and big,

584
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:17,080
Speaker 1: I tell you, I feel so overwhelmed with so much joy.

585
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:21,000
Speaker 1: I feel so good, I'm so humble, I'm so I'm

586
00:39:21,040 --> 00:39:24,520
Speaker 1: so I'm so trill. I want to be that normal girl,

587
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:28,640
Speaker 1: but I feel this normal girl and like, but I

588
00:39:28,719 --> 00:39:31,280
Speaker 1: just want to feel like I just feel like this,

589
00:39:31,280 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 1: this God has so much in store for me, like

590
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 1: so much more. I was so anticipating on this, like

591
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:42,759
Speaker 1: go chat with you, you know, I got another little

592
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 1: situation and it's like God, it's like really moving channels

593
00:39:47,640 --> 00:39:50,439
Speaker 1: and I'm like being humble, helping the world and doing

594
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:54,360
Speaker 1: the best that I can and just and I can't feel.

595
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:59,160
Speaker 1: I can't feel. I'm so overwhelmed with what I did

596
00:39:59,360 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 1: on my ford your birthday, Like I just you can't,

597
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: like I said, you can't make those dates. Uh you can't.

598
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 1: You know you can't call it doctor, right, Hey, I

599
00:40:09,600 --> 00:40:13,400
Speaker 1: want this before for July, you know now, you can't.

600
00:40:13,880 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 1: You can't do that, and for that to happen, it

601
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 1: just made me feel so rebirthed mm hmm, so refreshed,

602
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:28,759
Speaker 1: um new born, yeah, um, you know, and then all

603
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:33,879
Speaker 1: of these things say hashtag you know what I mean,

604
00:40:34,239 --> 00:40:37,479
Speaker 1: and I just feel so like I'm just new. I'm

605
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:42,319
Speaker 1: just new. I just you know, I feel so you

606
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:44,319
Speaker 1: look like it too, Like I, like I said, I

607
00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:49,080
Speaker 1: was watching the videos. It's like, um, what's the how

608
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:50,720
Speaker 1: to phrase that? I can't even think of the phrase,

609
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:54,640
Speaker 1: Like a weight was lifted off your shoulders, like you know,

610
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:58,080
Speaker 1: certain you just look so lighter and granted you have

611
00:40:58,120 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 1: a great personality, but I just feel like, since you

612
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:02,960
Speaker 1: want this so bad, he was able to find like

613
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:07,719
Speaker 1: you got it. Yeah it shows m hmmm. And I'm

614
00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:12,640
Speaker 1: glad in the way. It's just it's it moves me

615
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 1: so better in life. It moves me to the point

616
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:21,959
Speaker 1: where so I am so honored. And just if if

617
00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 1: I want to get married one day, but if I

618
00:41:24,880 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 1: never do, I will marry myself like love self love

619
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 1: as like you know eventually you know you know well,

620
00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:44,440
Speaker 1: speaking of marriage and not to get in your business,

621
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:47,759
Speaker 1: just answer for a general question, how long does a

622
00:41:47,800 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: person have to wait to have sex. Oh, there we go, y'all.

623
00:41:55,440 --> 00:42:06,360
Speaker 1: She did a deep style. Not so, I mean I

624
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:10,760
Speaker 1: I wouldn't. I mean, that's saying I don't recommend nobody

625
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 1: will be going out here, you know, having those sex

626
00:42:13,840 --> 00:42:16,439
Speaker 1: and no three to six months. I don't know. That's

627
00:42:16,480 --> 00:42:20,839
Speaker 1: just that, you know, you know, but I think it is,

628
00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:26,760
Speaker 1: I like recommended like after a year or so, because um,

629
00:42:26,840 --> 00:42:31,600
Speaker 1: and that's kind of that was my search circumstances, because

630
00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:34,640
Speaker 1: I had to make sure that I don't catch no

631
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 1: new infection, so I don't want so. And and the

632
00:42:38,520 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 1: only reason why I say that it's because, you know,

633
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 1: not that I just didn't. I just was learning my body,

634
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 1: learning my tone, learning my walk, learning my food language,

635
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:55,360
Speaker 1: learning my essence. So I didn't have time to entertain

636
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:58,879
Speaker 1: that part, you know what I'm saying. So now that

637
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:02,399
Speaker 1: that year has, you know, went by, and I feel,

638
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:04,319
Speaker 1: like I said, I feel like I had this like

639
00:43:04,480 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 1: baby like for all my life. I just feel so refreshed,

640
00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:10,439
Speaker 1: Like you know, it's just like, oh my God, like

641
00:43:10,560 --> 00:43:14,279
Speaker 1: you know, this is like really amazing that I was

642
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:18,759
Speaker 1: able to live to see this like and then live

643
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:24,480
Speaker 1: to see it, see it talk about it it's not um,

644
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:28,560
Speaker 1: you know girls that would share a story um coming

645
00:43:28,600 --> 00:43:31,759
Speaker 1: from low poverty. I love poverty city girl, not no

646
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:35,279
Speaker 1: city girl like me. You know what. I'm like, a

647
00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:37,440
Speaker 1: lot of people do stuff and kind of lead the

648
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 1: hushy hush about it, you know, but I'm not like

649
00:43:40,800 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit vocal. I don't here. Nobody can

650
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:45,360
Speaker 1: break me or you know what I mean. So like,

651
00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:47,799
Speaker 1: I can talk, but I like to talk. I like

652
00:43:47,920 --> 00:43:51,480
Speaker 1: to talk, you know. I like it. I like it,

653
00:43:51,760 --> 00:43:53,960
Speaker 1: but I don't like the fact that you're being transparent

654
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 1: because I also feel like when things start to get

655
00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 1: trendy or get popular and people want to jump on

656
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:00,960
Speaker 1: the bandwagon. So I ain't that what you're doing is

657
00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:05,080
Speaker 1: very honorable because you're not gaining anything, and if anything,

658
00:44:05,080 --> 00:44:08,960
Speaker 1: you're helping people out. Yeah, and God sees that, and

659
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:11,640
Speaker 1: God knows the right people to put in my circle

660
00:44:11,719 --> 00:44:14,960
Speaker 1: and make sure that those channels and the way that

661
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: He needs to move them. And I'm just gonna stay

662
00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 1: remain humble and keep doing. And I don't want to

663
00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:23,960
Speaker 1: helping people and and and whatever you know it is.

664
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:26,760
Speaker 1: I can't do the next thing their hand to whatever,

665
00:44:27,440 --> 00:44:32,400
Speaker 1: because I know that words matter to People's words matter

666
00:44:32,480 --> 00:44:34,759
Speaker 1: to people. It's a it's the tone that you talk

667
00:44:34,880 --> 00:44:37,600
Speaker 1: to a person, and it's how you talk to a

668
00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:40,439
Speaker 1: person because some people may not be in the right

669
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:44,160
Speaker 1: mood to understand what you're saying. You gotta understand or

670
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:47,480
Speaker 1: going through and people are going through so many different

671
00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:50,400
Speaker 1: things where they want to live out. And this is

672
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:54,320
Speaker 1: just not girl wanting to be boy, boy wanting to

673
00:44:54,360 --> 00:44:57,320
Speaker 1: be girl. This is not that situation. This is broader

674
00:44:57,360 --> 00:45:00,720
Speaker 1: than that. This is about you know, even husband wanting

675
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 1: to tap into messing with his homeboy. It gets deep

676
00:45:04,480 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 1: out here in each streets, you know. So nobody say

677
00:45:08,680 --> 00:45:10,480
Speaker 1: it's a lot of ship going doing, a lot of

678
00:45:10,480 --> 00:45:13,000
Speaker 1: shaky ship going on, you know what, I'm still do

679
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:16,480
Speaker 1: as a person because I feel like you I always

680
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:18,719
Speaker 1: say this about myself, like I feel like right now,

681
00:45:18,840 --> 00:45:20,840
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm at home with myself, Like I

682
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:24,000
Speaker 1: feel like I am me, Like I feel like I'm center.

683
00:45:24,160 --> 00:45:26,759
Speaker 1: I know who I am, and can nobody sway me

684
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:29,920
Speaker 1: to be any other different, any other different version of

685
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:32,360
Speaker 1: myself than who I am now. But I feel like

686
00:45:32,400 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 1: through life you have to you have to become different

687
00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:38,080
Speaker 1: versions of yourself to get to that whole self. So

688
00:45:38,160 --> 00:45:40,279
Speaker 1: when you're in a situation and you see things as

689
00:45:40,320 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 1: shaky or you see people that's not living in their truth,

690
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:46,040
Speaker 1: what do you do in those situations? Well, one that

691
00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:48,680
Speaker 1: I still make them feel comfortable, because again, like I'm

692
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:52,759
Speaker 1: about comfortability, So I'm gonna affect people as if they

693
00:45:52,760 --> 00:45:55,960
Speaker 1: want to con hide it for an example, I'm not

694
00:45:56,000 --> 00:46:00,960
Speaker 1: gonna bring it out, you know, not though, But for

695
00:46:01,000 --> 00:46:04,800
Speaker 1: the most part, you know, normally, you know, most people

696
00:46:04,920 --> 00:46:09,280
Speaker 1: that suspect stuff like that under that you know, um,

697
00:46:09,320 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: broader I'm brother, they kind of be more nicer to

698
00:46:12,239 --> 00:46:16,439
Speaker 1: that person. So I would, you know, follow the same procedures.

699
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:18,760
Speaker 1: I wouldn't be mean, because you can't make a person

700
00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 1: feel that way, you know sometimes, you know, dealing with

701
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:28,319
Speaker 1: that broader I'm brother. You know, just certain people, you

702
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:31,439
Speaker 1: know make them feel even more hatred, you know, because

703
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:33,919
Speaker 1: I would have been in job interviews where I didn't

704
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:37,879
Speaker 1: see my own kind and they like being shady and

705
00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:42,080
Speaker 1: like like treating me like I hit him comprotestion, you

706
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:45,360
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying Through all that, you know, but

707
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:47,840
Speaker 1: I feel like people do that because it's a reminder

708
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:50,799
Speaker 1: who they are that they forgot about. Yeah, and they

709
00:46:50,840 --> 00:46:52,920
Speaker 1: and they want to they wanna beat you, but they

710
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:59,160
Speaker 1: can't be and they want to be how you are ectally. Well, yeah, exactly,

711
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:03,560
Speaker 1: that's my yes, and that's where I'm at, Like you know,

712
00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:07,920
Speaker 1: and this is unfortunate that you know, some people don't

713
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 1: had that driving life and they felt like, damn, well

714
00:47:12,960 --> 00:47:15,080
Speaker 1: she did it. I want to do it. You know,

715
00:47:15,160 --> 00:47:21,080
Speaker 1: that's not make you that person. This is something that

716
00:47:21,120 --> 00:47:23,480
Speaker 1: I just didn't do because I just woke up and

717
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 1: said I wanted to do it again. This is something

718
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:29,760
Speaker 1: that I've been This is when I was a child,

719
00:47:30,320 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 1: you know, my big age. So with my mom here,

720
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:37,840
Speaker 1: did you did you know about the procedure as a

721
00:47:37,960 --> 00:47:39,800
Speaker 1: child or you just knew that you want you was

722
00:47:39,840 --> 00:47:42,239
Speaker 1: gonna do whatever it takes for you to be who

723
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:50,759
Speaker 1: you knew you were. I knew as a child. Mm hmm.

724
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:55,360
Speaker 1: I knew as a child. Um because I never wanted

725
00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:58,400
Speaker 1: to get her. I ain't even know scratches on it.

726
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:07,960
Speaker 1: And then my father used to say where when you

727
00:48:08,160 --> 00:48:12,200
Speaker 1: used to get bruized you were friend and cries and

728
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 1: talk about where the perpoxide and all that stuff. It's

729
00:48:18,480 --> 00:48:27,560
Speaker 1: pretty very What are some of the things that you

730
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:32,200
Speaker 1: sacrifice in life to become the woman you are today. Wow.

731
00:48:32,880 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 1: Freedom of speege, freedom of speech, U. Dignity, um, authority. Um,

732
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:47,920
Speaker 1: I'm standing for something because I won't let nobody make

733
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:53,440
Speaker 1: me feel like I'm nothing, you know, um, you know,

734
00:48:53,640 --> 00:48:57,560
Speaker 1: just just being a flow of life, making myself feel comfortable.

735
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:00,920
Speaker 1: It's about me. It's about I am me, you know,

736
00:49:01,200 --> 00:49:06,719
Speaker 1: so and and bossy and you know, like some of

737
00:49:06,760 --> 00:49:17,640
Speaker 1: the girl hot girls. Okay, hot girls, summer here I come. So.

738
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 1: I know your mom is no longer here with us physically,

739
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:22,640
Speaker 1: but if she can see you, now, what do you

740
00:49:22,680 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 1: think she'll say to you? Oh? My god, she said,

741
00:49:26,960 --> 00:49:30,160
Speaker 1: she actually says something to me. And she spoke to me.

742
00:49:31,560 --> 00:49:35,759
Speaker 1: She said, baby, you did it. Oh, I'm glad you

743
00:49:35,840 --> 00:49:40,879
Speaker 1: were able to feel comfortable the way that you want

744
00:49:40,920 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 1: to live your life because she always told me, live

745
00:49:44,280 --> 00:49:49,000
Speaker 1: your life, baby, be happy. Don't let nobody tell you

746
00:49:49,080 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 1: what she can't do. And you know, my mom she's

747
00:49:53,040 --> 00:49:58,839
Speaker 1: been um, she's been going for about three or four years, man,

748
00:49:59,360 --> 00:50:02,400
Speaker 1: And like this week, she speaks to me quite often.

749
00:50:02,800 --> 00:50:08,080
Speaker 1: Yeah me, you know a flow and you know she

750
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:13,239
Speaker 1: she she she got me, she got me, And you

751
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:16,879
Speaker 1: look just like your mama. Oh I see to put

752
00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:21,120
Speaker 1: your yall. I'm like, y'all look just like now, what

753
00:50:21,280 --> 00:50:23,520
Speaker 1: is your relationship with your siblings? Like, were they are

754
00:50:23,560 --> 00:50:27,839
Speaker 1: part of your supporterism doing this journey? Well, yeah, my sister. Um,

755
00:50:27,880 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 1: I had a couple of business and friends. Um, I

756
00:50:31,040 --> 00:50:34,239
Speaker 1: know you poked with your cousin. Huh, I said, I

757
00:50:34,239 --> 00:50:40,960
Speaker 1: know you're close with your cousin. Yeah he and differently

758
00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 1: that um. But then again, like after about a month

759
00:50:48,040 --> 00:50:54,000
Speaker 1: or so, about a moms out, things change, not what

760
00:50:54,239 --> 00:50:57,680
Speaker 1: the people per se, but with me. Mm hmmm, what

761
00:50:57,719 --> 00:51:00,400
Speaker 1: do you mean? I just, you know, just kind of

762
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:04,080
Speaker 1: wanted to learn myself. It was time to come home. Okay,

763
00:51:04,120 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 1: I'm at the hospital. He heat party to here. You know,

764
00:51:06,640 --> 00:51:09,920
Speaker 1: my party was extended from being in there, you know,

765
00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:13,680
Speaker 1: you know after that kind of you know, it just

766
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 1: was kind of like, Okay, I guess I had to

767
00:51:18,200 --> 00:51:21,399
Speaker 1: turn the bed into a hospital suite to be every

768
00:51:21,480 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 1: mental hospital sweep. Some things had to It's a mental

769
00:51:25,160 --> 00:51:28,640
Speaker 1: it's very it's very serious. It's not a game. It's

770
00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:34,040
Speaker 1: not a game at all. Um. So you know, things change,

771
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:37,600
Speaker 1: and I was wanting to be more about myself and

772
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:41,719
Speaker 1: learning my body and doing certain things, and you know,

773
00:51:41,840 --> 00:51:47,400
Speaker 1: it just it's it was. It was painful. It was painful,

774
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:51,040
Speaker 1: and I'm assuming you have to take um obviously you

775
00:51:51,120 --> 00:51:57,439
Speaker 1: taking medication for the pain. Well, um, not anymore. Yeah,

776
00:51:58,680 --> 00:52:01,399
Speaker 1: during the time where I came home. You know, when

777
00:52:01,400 --> 00:52:05,640
Speaker 1: you come home, you're you're you're extra woozy from the hospital,

778
00:52:05,760 --> 00:52:08,680
Speaker 1: so you know, but then when they you know, they

779
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:10,839
Speaker 1: give your you get your little wrist of a all

780
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:14,920
Speaker 1: because you might eat fall. You know, it's you know,

781
00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:20,040
Speaker 1: you're you're not, you know you're not. You have to

782
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:23,680
Speaker 1: walk and you have to use the bathroom before you

783
00:52:23,760 --> 00:52:26,000
Speaker 1: leave the hospital. If you don't do those things, you

784
00:52:26,080 --> 00:52:29,840
Speaker 1: can't leave the hospital. It's a few things that you

785
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:32,120
Speaker 1: have to do to kind of get out. And then

786
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:34,880
Speaker 1: once you get out, it's like you're going home and

787
00:52:34,960 --> 00:52:37,320
Speaker 1: you've still got some of the drug from the hospital

788
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:40,319
Speaker 1: doped up in you. And then home it is like

789
00:52:40,360 --> 00:52:43,080
Speaker 1: all you start to do a little bit more than

790
00:52:43,120 --> 00:52:45,080
Speaker 1: what you were throwing in the hospital, because it's like

791
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:47,600
Speaker 1: I want to you can get you can move around

792
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:49,640
Speaker 1: a little bit, just a little bit, just to eat

793
00:52:49,640 --> 00:52:51,960
Speaker 1: a little bit. If you get to moving around a

794
00:52:52,000 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 1: little bit too much, and it's like what the fuck

795
00:52:55,600 --> 00:53:00,400
Speaker 1: is happening? And I imagine, like you must have to

796
00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:02,919
Speaker 1: be uncomfortable for you to use the bathroom. The dude

797
00:53:02,960 --> 00:53:08,480
Speaker 1: to take a piss or ship. Oh my god. I mean,

798
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:12,919
Speaker 1: like I said, they sent me home with so many

799
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:17,560
Speaker 1: different pills for different pains. If lacks of tips you

800
00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:20,839
Speaker 1: have different things. Um, you know that you go home

801
00:53:20,920 --> 00:53:25,719
Speaker 1: with pain medisine. Um, depending on how extra out. I

802
00:53:25,760 --> 00:53:28,960
Speaker 1: had already told them I can't take time. So yeah,

803
00:53:28,960 --> 00:53:36,239
Speaker 1: I don't like I cannot do no pain. I was said, bad.

804
00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:39,439
Speaker 1: You want have thought I was having a baby every hour? Yeah,

805
00:53:39,640 --> 00:53:42,760
Speaker 1: I mean, if there's anything when I saw in that video,

806
00:53:42,840 --> 00:53:46,200
Speaker 1: I need to be doped up like I couldn't imagine. Miss.

807
00:53:49,360 --> 00:53:52,840
Speaker 1: I'm glad whatever chemicals they got, I think I was

808
00:53:52,880 --> 00:53:55,200
Speaker 1: on gas and so I don't know what they used

809
00:53:55,360 --> 00:54:05,120
Speaker 1: proper bowl, but because it looked part of me like

810
00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:10,360
Speaker 1: I was when you see me going that more or yeah,

811
00:54:10,800 --> 00:54:14,080
Speaker 1: like a being. And I made real good friendship. I

812
00:54:14,160 --> 00:54:16,960
Speaker 1: went in. Honestly, I gonna tell you something, if you

813
00:54:17,120 --> 00:54:20,000
Speaker 1: go into anything and like recall less of what it is.

814
00:54:20,080 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 1: When I went into my surgery, not only because it

815
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 1: was documented, because I was really happy. Yeah, and to

816
00:54:28,280 --> 00:54:32,759
Speaker 1: my surgery, very happy, very confident, right like I'm I

817
00:54:32,800 --> 00:54:35,600
Speaker 1: can do this, get this out the way, you know.

818
00:54:36,360 --> 00:54:39,080
Speaker 1: But when I got out, I was drunk up for

819
00:54:39,120 --> 00:54:42,439
Speaker 1: a couple of days. I know, like I don't even

820
00:54:42,440 --> 00:54:47,080
Speaker 1: know I had surgery already, you know, I it's you'd

821
00:54:47,080 --> 00:54:52,080
Speaker 1: be so like. And then the day it was time,

822
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:56,879
Speaker 1: it's called of the reveil. And then the day that

823
00:54:57,000 --> 00:54:59,759
Speaker 1: the revel was it was on my birthday. So I

824
00:54:59,880 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 1: was so like excited. I remember waking up, girl, like

825
00:55:03,040 --> 00:55:05,400
Speaker 1: six o'clock in the morning. They coming in there doing

826
00:55:05,560 --> 00:55:07,799
Speaker 1: vitals and this. You know, it was a vital type

827
00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:09,880
Speaker 1: of thing. They had to check your heart rate every

828
00:55:10,000 --> 00:55:13,359
Speaker 1: so often and everything like it was it was like

829
00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:16,200
Speaker 1: a lot. They kept sticking you with needles and stuff

830
00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:19,399
Speaker 1: for you know, possible blood clouds and this, and then

831
00:55:20,080 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 1: always you know, constant moving, you know, or you know,

832
00:55:25,120 --> 00:55:28,080
Speaker 1: people in the ron to check on you for a

833
00:55:28,120 --> 00:55:31,080
Speaker 1: major because that was a major surgery, you know, yeah

834
00:55:31,120 --> 00:55:37,239
Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah, so you know. Nevertheless, girl, I was

835
00:55:37,320 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 1: sailing on my thing. I'm gonna tell you, I was sailing.

836
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:43,360
Speaker 1: And my doctors, you know, they were very impressing. Still

837
00:55:43,640 --> 00:55:46,839
Speaker 1: is I still go to the doctors and I will

838
00:55:47,040 --> 00:55:50,319
Speaker 1: continue to do everything that I'm doing on my end

839
00:55:50,680 --> 00:55:56,080
Speaker 1: to make me um feel very comfortable and her even better.

840
00:55:56,480 --> 00:56:00,359
Speaker 1: And this wonderful looking Oh my god, I'm so it's

841
00:56:00,480 --> 00:56:05,800
Speaker 1: pretty pretty kudos at Temples in my Backtor Blacker Black Lives.

842
00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:09,600
Speaker 1: I mean it got a little. I know it looked

843
00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:11,400
Speaker 1: nice because I feel like when I was watching documented,

844
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:15,560
Speaker 1: they were just like, oh this is good. Like see

845
00:56:15,560 --> 00:56:17,080
Speaker 1: that's what I was said. That is trying to figure

846
00:56:17,080 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 1: out what should I do? The only thing saying let me,

847
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Speaker 1: let me, let me. Look, I'm pallible somebody I don't

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Speaker 1: I don't know yet, but yeah, I'm very humble in life.

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Speaker 1: I'm content. I've never been mishappy ever in my life. Um,

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Speaker 1: so yeah, you know. Oh well we got two more questions.

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Speaker 1: What do you hope people take away from your story

852
00:56:43,120 --> 00:56:47,000
Speaker 1: being who they want to be, being proud to staying

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00:56:47,040 --> 00:56:51,800
Speaker 1: on their own ten toes and um, not just doing

854
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Speaker 1: something in life to be who you want to be,

855
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Speaker 1: but be the best, you know, because being the best,

856
00:57:00,360 --> 00:57:03,520
Speaker 1: don't look at values and things in your life that

857
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Speaker 1: you just want to be this person, be the best

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Speaker 1: person that you want to be, and just be happy

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Speaker 1: and and and the things that I'm saying. I hope

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Speaker 1: that into it, you know what it already then touched millions,

861
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Speaker 1: then touched millions. The guard w I just told me

862
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Speaker 1: to say, your time is coming your life and baby

863
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Speaker 1: like you know. So, I just want everybody to just

864
00:57:30,960 --> 00:57:35,000
Speaker 1: feel so accepted, regardless of what you've got going on

865
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Speaker 1: in your life, living your truth. You know, truth lives

866
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Speaker 1: in your truth. You know, that's what's gonna make this

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Speaker 1: world a better place. This world would be a better

868
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Speaker 1: place if people just living their truth and be honest

869
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Speaker 1: and state and they damn lane and mind your fucking move. Yeah, facts, facts,

870
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Speaker 1: So I hope they get a lot out of that

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Speaker 1: at last, at least. What is some advice you would

872
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Speaker 1: give to someone if they are considering this procedure? Oh yeah,

873
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Speaker 1: do as much research as possible. Like I said, go

874
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Speaker 1: get a couple of consultations. Um, just don't go off

875
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Speaker 1: the first one. Get two and three. Um you know, um,

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Speaker 1: stop smoking, Um, get in the gym. I was very

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Speaker 1: active in the gym. Um. What about drinking? Can you

878
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Speaker 1: not not drink? I mean, listen, I'm not an ALCOHOLI anyway,

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Speaker 1: Um or a drink occasionally, but yeah, like I mean,

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Speaker 1: I would not You're not able to do anything. I'm sure.

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Speaker 1: I mean, as I remember two or three days before

882
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Speaker 1: surgery anyway, So put any kind of poising inside my

883
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Speaker 1: system knowing that I have to undergo a serious surgery

884
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Speaker 1: like that anyway, especially if they're telling you you have

885
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Speaker 1: maybe like, um, if they called me today and say, well,

886
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Speaker 1: would you help up until July or whatever, I'm stopping.

887
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Speaker 1: I was stopping the call right writing on the water

888
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Speaker 1: up in that thing. No, that's who I am. Like

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Speaker 1: if I know, like do something like a life changing

890
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Speaker 1: even like I'm going cold turkey listen, so um yeah, like, um,

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Speaker 1: I just I just I just hope that you know,

892
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Speaker 1: my my words touched the people who feel alone, the

893
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Speaker 1: people who feel like nobody's listening. I hope my words touched.

894
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Speaker 1: I know my words are gonna touch millions again, and

895
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Speaker 1: I just want to feel like, you know what they can't.

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Speaker 1: I'm the voice for them. I'm the boy for them.

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Speaker 1: I I am, And I don't mind being the voice

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Speaker 1: for them because I know I got a very great voice. No,

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Speaker 1: in facts, guy, I think I think you're gonna your

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Speaker 1: story is gonna definitely help somebody out for sure, yeah,

901
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Speaker 1: but I appreciate you. I think this was an amazing conversation.

902
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Speaker 1: I mean, we was ships and Googles most of the

903
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Speaker 1: time because we gotta key king, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: we gotta you know, I appreciate you. I'm pretty sure

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Speaker 1: we're gonna definitely be in contact with each other. So

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Speaker 1: if to the listeners, if I have any questions, comments

907
01:00:43,800 --> 01:00:46,160
Speaker 1: and concerns, please make sure to email me hello at

908
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Speaker 1: the PhD podcast dot com. And until next time, everyone

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Speaker 1: Later Ah