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Speaker 1: I need you. What to Expect is a production of

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Speaker 1: I Heart Radio. I'm your host Heidi Murkop and I'm

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Speaker 1: a mom on a mission, a mission to help you

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Speaker 1: know what to expect every step of the way. Getting

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Speaker 1: ready to welcome your baby bundle, then get ready to

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Speaker 1: start shopping not only for that crip, that car seat,

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Speaker 1: and all those impossibly tiny and precious outfits, but also

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Speaker 1: shopping for a pediatrician. The right pediatriction can see you

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Speaker 1: and your little one and later you're not so little

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Speaker 1: one through eighteen years or so of checkups and unizations,

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Speaker 1: all varieties. Help you troubleshoot feeding problems, navigate napstraight, resolve rashes,

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Speaker 1: document your baby's amazing growth and development. So today we

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Speaker 1: are talking about how to find the baby doctor that's

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Speaker 1: right for you and your baby. And joining me today

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Speaker 1: is Dr Lauren Crosby, a board certified pediatrician here in

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Speaker 1: Los Angeles and my personal go to for all things baby,

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Speaker 1: not to mention full disclosure, pediatrician to two of my

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Speaker 1: favorite babies, Lenox and Sebastian. Welcome. Dr Crosby. Hi, hi ki,

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Speaker 1: thanks for having me. First of all, we have talked

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Speaker 1: a lot on what to expect about pregnancy and parenting

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Speaker 1: during a pandemic, and there's a lot to talk about.

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Speaker 1: But how has the pandemic changed the way that pediatricians practice.

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Speaker 1: That's a good question. So in a couple of ways.

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Speaker 1: One is the way our office runs is different. You know,

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Speaker 1: Like I've had very successful office visits for things like

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Speaker 1: discussing medication changes. The next best thing to be in there, right, Okay,

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Speaker 1: the best time to start looking for a pediatrician? Really,

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Speaker 1: anytime during pregnancy, except for not maybe the last few weeks,

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Speaker 1: and even maybe before like thirty five, thirty six weeks,

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Speaker 1: don't know how long it's going to take, or maybe

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Speaker 1: How do you start? What are the first things to consider?

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Speaker 1: you know, I think that that decision depends on the

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Speaker 1: family physicians experience. You know, pediatricians are specifically trained and

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Speaker 1: or wherever you listen to your favorite shows. In my

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Speaker 1: Arms right, don't You Stay? Knija Kneeda, Baby Love, Baby

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