WEBVTT - "I STALK PEOPLE ONLINE" 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:05.559 Hello, Hello, Hey, is this Leah? 0:00:06.200 --> 0:00:06.560 Yes? 0:00:07.480 --> 0:00:08.160 What's going on? 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:17.880 Well? I am currently having a problem because I think 0:00:18.040 --> 0:00:24.120 I have a problem with like talking people online. Okay, 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:28.800 I like made a fake account like two years ago, 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:31.960 and it's like still an obsession of mine. 0:00:32.960 --> 0:00:36.599 Hmm, what made you want to make this fake account? 0:00:36.680 --> 0:00:37.720 And what do you do with it? 0:00:39.520 --> 0:00:39.880 Okay? 0:00:39.960 --> 0:00:42.720 So a long time ago, my dad has this girlfriend 0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:46.120 that actually left him because he's fluck with She fleuck 0:00:46.200 --> 0:00:49.800 with my boyfriend, and so I made an account so 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:53.240 I could like look at her profile and like see 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:58.240 what she like was saying about us, and she accepted 0:00:58.240 --> 0:01:02.120 my friend requests on like the stake account. So I 0:01:02.280 --> 0:01:05.320 just like continued it and now I have like a 0:01:05.400 --> 0:01:06.480 bunch of people on there. 0:01:08.520 --> 0:01:10.720 Okay, So how long ago was it that you made 0:01:10.760 --> 0:01:17.880 this account to look at your father's whatever's person's thing. 0:01:20.480 --> 0:01:24.440 It was probably like late twenty eighteen, early twenty nineteen. 0:01:24.920 --> 0:01:27.360 All right, so is a little bit ago, and what 0:01:27.440 --> 0:01:28.560 do you use the account for now? 0:01:30.840 --> 0:01:38.160 I currently log on daily sometimes more, and I just 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:40.920 like look at any posts she posts, and like any 0:01:41.000 --> 0:01:43.720 of my friends, like my enemies. There's my friends on 0:01:43.760 --> 0:01:46.959 that account, I guess, but like I look at whatever 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:49.760 they got going on. Like a lot of them post 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:52.080 like all their drama on there, so I can kind 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:54.600 of like get the inside details. 0:01:54.840 --> 0:01:58.040 Is your dad still engaged with this woman or are 0:01:58.080 --> 0:01:58.800 they done? 0:01:59.400 --> 0:01:59.760 No? 0:02:00.160 --> 0:02:02.640 No, they split up after she slept with my boyfriend. 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:07.400 Okay, and why what what what is causing you to 0:02:07.440 --> 0:02:10.440 still be interested in her life? 0:02:10.760 --> 0:02:14.760 I have absolutely no idea, Okay, but. 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:18.359 I think it's just the curiosity of it all. And 0:02:18.480 --> 0:02:22.040 like she has like circles kind of close to my 0:02:22.200 --> 0:02:25.200 circles of like friend groups, so I kind of just like, 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:28.160 you know, keep your friends close, your closer. 0:02:28.960 --> 0:02:35.240 Your father's ex girlfriend has has a lot of mutual 0:02:35.280 --> 0:02:36.079 friends with you. 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:40.320 Yeah, well she was actually my friend. 0:02:40.160 --> 0:02:43.839 First, but like she didn't know my dad was my god. 0:02:45.080 --> 0:02:49.440 Okay, uh, who what give me an example of another 0:02:49.520 --> 0:02:52.320 person that you follow on here and what your relationship 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:56.680 to them is? 0:02:56.919 --> 0:03:01.520 Oh wow, I wasn't expecting that question. Well, I have 0:03:01.760 --> 0:03:07.080 like my ex boyfriends girlfriends on there, or like my 0:03:07.280 --> 0:03:12.200 ex boyfriends groommates, or like people that are like close 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:18.200 to the people that like have caused issues in my past. 0:03:19.000 --> 0:03:23.240 Okay, and you you log on every day and you're 0:03:23.280 --> 0:03:28.799 looking at updates and photos and whatnot from Uh, your 0:03:28.960 --> 0:03:35.200 ex boyfriend's new girlfriend, her friends, his friends, your dad's 0:03:35.200 --> 0:03:37.680 ex girlfriends, all these people you're you're logging in every 0:03:37.760 --> 0:03:42.880 day and looking at updates from them? 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:44.040 Yeah, pretty much? 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:51.920 And how do do you do you get strong emotional 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:57.040 reactions from these updates? 0:03:57.320 --> 0:03:58.880 Sometimes? 0:03:58.960 --> 0:04:01.800 Like when I see her doing the same things that 0:04:01.840 --> 0:04:04.920 she did to me when we were friends to other people, like, 0:04:05.000 --> 0:04:08.480 it gets me really mad because people don't see what 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:11.279 I see in her, because she like showed her true colors, 0:04:11.560 --> 0:04:15.600 so like to me, I want other people to see 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:19.000 her like that. But I'm not trying to like attack 0:04:19.120 --> 0:04:23.080 her or like put her information on Facebook or nothing 0:04:23.160 --> 0:04:24.919 like that. Like I don't want to look like the 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:28.880 antagonists or anything. But I am curious, like how long 0:04:28.920 --> 0:04:30.360 she's going to get away with like. 0:04:30.720 --> 0:04:33.800 Doing the same thing to all these other people. 0:04:36.080 --> 0:04:40.080 And your ex boyfriend? When did you break up with them? 0:04:41.560 --> 0:04:42.520 Twenty nineteen? 0:04:43.440 --> 0:04:44.920 Oh yeah, b'go them three years ago? 0:04:46.880 --> 0:04:47.640 Yeah? 0:04:47.760 --> 0:04:51.359 Do you still talk to them? 0:04:51.800 --> 0:04:56.640 He constantly is trying different ways to like get a 0:04:56.640 --> 0:05:00.440 hold of me, But we actually split up because he 0:05:00.640 --> 0:05:04.520 was physically abusive, so and she was one of the 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:07.000 girls that helped me pack my stuff and get away 0:05:07.000 --> 0:05:09.840 from him, and then like she went ahead and just 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:13.480 like moved in after moving me out. 0:05:13.520 --> 0:05:17.000 And do you think about your ex boyfriend a lot? 0:05:19.720 --> 0:05:22.479 I mean I have a lot of nightmares about him. 0:05:23.440 --> 0:05:26.360 I have like diagnosed PTSD because of like a lot 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:28.200 of the ship. Oh, I don't know if I can 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:36.640 say that. Sorry, like he put me through Yeah, sorry. 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:45.240 No, no, it's okay, okay. And have you ever made 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:54.680 an attempt to have you ever considered deleting this Facebook account? 0:05:56.000 --> 0:06:00.520 I want to, but a part of me like can't 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:02.599 let go of it, Like a part of me wants 0:06:02.640 --> 0:06:04.599 to just like move on and like forget all of 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:08.479 that happened to me, because like my life has moved on, 0:06:08.680 --> 0:06:12.480 but like my my emotions are still so stuck and 0:06:12.560 --> 0:06:16.640 like that hurts, Like I got betrayal from like both sides. 0:06:18.760 --> 0:06:23.360 What do you think is in between you and letting 0:06:23.400 --> 0:06:26.560 go of this stuff? If you had to really really 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:30.120 put it under a microscope. 0:06:30.960 --> 0:06:36.599 I think it's hard to move on because they're constantly around, Like, 0:06:38.279 --> 0:06:40.760 for example, so and so might work with one of 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:44.839 my family members, or this person I see every time 0:06:44.880 --> 0:06:47.880 I go to the store because they work there, or 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:51.560 like I because I live in a very like small area, 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:55.599 like maybe twenty five mile writing, so like we're constantly 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:58.800 bumping into each other and so like I kind of 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:00.920 like to know where they're at, where their minds that. 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:03.880 But what I do want to let go of it, 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:07.440 but I'm afraid at the moment I do, like something's 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:08.240 going to get hurt. 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:10.320 Mm hmm. 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:14.679 So you're running into just you know, as you're about 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:17.400 town living in a small town, you're running into your 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:23.600 ex boyfriend's friends, You're running into people from uh you 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:27.760 know that that time in your life, and that's making 0:07:27.800 --> 0:07:31.559 it harder to let go. Yeah, all right, uh so 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:34.840 so let's let's get into now. Welcome back to this 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:37.520 Facebook account. But what is your life like now? 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:46.160 Well, I'm married, I'm trying to have a baby. I 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:49.000 have a lot of fertility issues, so we're it's kind 0:07:49.040 --> 0:07:49.400 of like the. 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:50.560 Only option we have right now. 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:59.720 So you're married, Yes, does your husband know about the account? 0:08:02.000 --> 0:08:05.920 He does, but he doesn't know like the details of it, 0:08:05.960 --> 0:08:07.680 Like he doesn't know the name of it, or he's 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:10.240 not friends with it or anything, but he does know 0:08:10.280 --> 0:08:13.040 it exists. But my whole family kind of plays off 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:13.560 as a joke. 0:08:15.160 --> 0:08:17.320 But they not, just like you know whether or not 0:08:17.320 --> 0:08:21.040 it exists. But does does he know the nature of it? 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:22.560 Does he know why you use it? 0:08:25.240 --> 0:08:27.760 Yes, he knows that. I like look at people that 0:08:27.800 --> 0:08:30.280 I've had issues with in the past, and I like 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:32.120 friend them and look at their stuff. 0:08:34.480 --> 0:08:35.520 How does he feel about that? 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:42.320 Like I said, everybody kind of like plays off as 0:08:42.320 --> 0:08:46.040 a joke. Nobody thinks it's like an issue, I guess, 0:08:46.120 --> 0:08:48.760 But me, everybody else is like, oh, that's like what 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:52.439 girls do, like their little FBI agents, you know, YadA YadA. 0:08:53.679 --> 0:08:55.560 Interesting And do they know that you've been doing it 0:08:55.559 --> 0:08:56.320 for three years? 0:08:58.840 --> 0:08:59.240 Yes? 0:08:59.679 --> 0:09:04.760 Yeah, okay, but nobody else seems to nobody else it's 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:07.360 a serious issue. Everyone just kind of thinks it's like 0:09:07.360 --> 0:09:07.960 a funny thing. 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:14.920 Yeah, everybody just kind of thinks it's like it's funny 0:09:14.920 --> 0:09:17.559 that nobody's notice as a fake account. Yet, like I've 0:09:17.600 --> 0:09:20.840 taken it this far and nobody like has picked up like, 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:23.040 oh this person doesn't even exist. 0:09:23.840 --> 0:09:30.240 Mm hmmm, I'm interesting. Okay, But we know that it's 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:32.360 an issue. We know that you want to move on. 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:34.480 I don't know if we if I've asked you this yet, 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:36.840 but do you do you have a desire to move 0:09:36.880 --> 0:09:38.480 on from from all of this. 0:09:39.200 --> 0:09:46.160 Yes, yes, I I want to delete it or deactivate it, 0:09:46.559 --> 0:09:47.560 proferbly delete it. 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:49.280 But I have like. 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:53.040 Nobody to really like hold me accountable to it. Like 0:09:54.960 --> 0:09:58.200 there's nobody that's like, hey, you should believe you should 0:09:58.240 --> 0:10:00.520 believe it, like you should stop at it. 0:10:01.920 --> 0:10:07.080 Mm hmmm mm hmm. I mean here's the here's the 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:10.920 great thing about this is that, uh, once you you can, 0:10:11.559 --> 0:10:13.680 once you delete it, you can delete it forever. I 0:10:13.720 --> 0:10:17.080 know that Facebook. Facebook does this fucking annoying thing that 0:10:17.120 --> 0:10:21.320 they do on purpose where you can deactivate it, which 0:10:21.360 --> 0:10:24.640 doesn't really do anything. This logs you out, but you 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:26.200 need to go in there and you need to de 0:10:26.400 --> 0:10:33.600 elete it irreversibly. And you know, I feel like, and 0:10:33.679 --> 0:10:35.240 this is how I felt when I've you know, had 0:10:35.360 --> 0:10:38.880 had these these sort of whatever things with social media, 0:10:39.360 --> 0:10:42.719 where like, you know, if you ever find yourself in 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:47.480 some sort of emotional motivative state where you're like, you 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:49.000 know what, I'm gonna do it, I'm going to delete it, 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:50.960 take advantage of that and just fucking delete it right 0:10:51.000 --> 0:10:53.080 in there, because because then when you are in that 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:56.520 addict d phase where you're like, no, I got a check, 0:10:57.400 --> 0:10:58.719 you will not even be able to. 0:11:02.520 --> 0:11:06.560 Yeah, yeah, I definitely agree with that. 0:11:06.920 --> 0:11:11.600 I feel like I feel like talking about it is 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:16.000 the first stuff I've really taken where somebody's like acknowledged 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:18.040 that it's an issue because I've brought it up with 0:11:18.880 --> 0:11:21.559 like my gods before where I'm like, like, this is 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:24.640 kind of crazy, like I probably shouldn't be doing this. 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:31.080 But it all started when people were like giving information 0:11:31.160 --> 0:11:33.400 on my Facebook out to these people that I don't like. 0:11:33.520 --> 0:11:35.960 So I felt like, if they're in dating my privacy, 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.560 I should be able to invade theirs. But now that 0:11:39.640 --> 0:11:40.720 I look at it, like. 0:11:42.160 --> 0:11:43.839 It's it's just social media, Like. 0:11:43.800 --> 0:11:46.720 It's not a reflection of their real life or my 0:11:46.800 --> 0:11:50.719 real life. It's just what we're what we're putting out 0:11:50.760 --> 0:11:56.040 for people to see. So is not getting any information 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:58.800 inside So. 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:02.040 Honestly, outside side of just like the nuts and vaults 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:04.960 of there's a Facebook account that needs to be deleted, 0:12:05.240 --> 0:12:12.520 the larger issue is one of moving on from these people. Yeah, 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:16.920 which you know symbolically could be represented by deleting this 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:21.880 Facebook account, But even after you delete it, it's about 0:12:21.920 --> 0:12:23.920 how can you move on and you have that you 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:25.840 have a whole life, you know, I mean the one. 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:29.040 The real way to move on from this previous time 0:12:29.040 --> 0:12:31.760 in your life is to dive deep into the time 0:12:31.800 --> 0:12:34.560 of your life that you're in right now. You are married. 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:36.600 How long did you say? How long did you say 0:12:36.640 --> 0:12:37.240 you were married for? 0:12:39.240 --> 0:12:42.280 It's been a little over like six seven months? 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:45.680 Okay, six or seven months? Are you happily married? You 0:12:45.760 --> 0:12:46.720 enjoy your relationship? 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:52.400 Yes, I've never felt so comfortable with somebody or so 0:12:52.520 --> 0:12:55.400 loved by someone, like we really do have great communication, 0:12:55.920 --> 0:13:00.320 like a wonderful partnership. Like I'm incredibly grateful for him, 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:03.920 especially for coming into my life when he did and 0:13:03.920 --> 0:13:06.600 how he did. So Yeah, he's great. 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:09.880 Okay, all right, So you're happily married. What do you 0:13:09.880 --> 0:13:12.240 what are you doing? You sort of professionally on your 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:13.679 own outside of your relationships. 0:13:16.440 --> 0:13:18.000 I'm I'm a full fum student. 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:27.800 Mm hmm. Okay, So you you have a life. Yeah, so, Lee, 0:13:27.920 --> 0:13:35.800 you're happily married, You're enjoying your life? What? Uh uh? 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:37.959 Why do you think it is hard for you, if 0:13:38.000 --> 0:13:44.600 you have a thing going on for yourself to let 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:46.199 let everything in your past go? 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:53.679 I think Okay, So going back to like the ex boyfriend. 0:13:53.720 --> 0:13:56.480 Why look at his stuff is because like he has 0:13:56.480 --> 0:14:01.040 a very large history of violence. So for me, I 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:03.400 feel like keeping tabs on like where he's at or 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:06.439 who he's with kind of gears me towards like, Okay, 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:10.200 stay away from these people this area, like and you can, 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:17.040 you'll be safe. But for my dad's ex girlfriend, I 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:20.240 really feel like there's not really a motive behind looking 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:24.800 at her stuff anymore, Like it doesn't there's not really 0:14:24.800 --> 0:14:27.880 a reason to look at her stuff anymore besides just 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:33.120 like the odds that I would run into her. But 0:14:33.200 --> 0:14:35.760 the ex boyfriend, I definitely do it because like it 0:14:35.840 --> 0:14:38.240 just makes me feel so much safer for knowing what 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:40.920 he's doing where he's at, because it took me so 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:43.480 long to get away from him that it just feels 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:46.520 like so much more comfortable knowing that he's like on 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:48.720 this side of town or staying around these people. 0:14:54.360 --> 0:14:58.040 This is really difficult because you know, look, on one hand, 0:14:58.120 --> 0:15:01.040 I really get you know, I get it, I get 0:15:01.080 --> 0:15:04.120 while you're operating out of the sphere because you really 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:06.120 don't want to run into him. But I also I 0:15:06.200 --> 0:15:09.840 just I hate hearing that you're living your your that 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:13.520 this fear is like policing your whole life and causing 0:15:13.560 --> 0:15:17.760 you to, you know, be on this Facebook account that 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:22.720 you really shouldn't be on. Yeah, and I'm trying to 0:15:22.760 --> 0:15:25.280 think of solutions for you. I mean there's a few. 0:15:25.400 --> 0:15:27.000 I mean, look, if this guy really has done some 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:29.640 terrible shit to you, I'm sure you have the grounds 0:15:29.760 --> 0:15:35.040 to get a to get a legitimate restraining order against him. Well, 0:15:35.080 --> 0:15:37.200 I think that's actually I think that's a better idea. 0:15:38.400 --> 0:15:38.720 Okay. 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:42.200 I was eighteen and he was thirty five. He was 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:44.120 straight out of like he just came out of prison 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:47.880 and he was like getting back on his feet, and 0:15:48.040 --> 0:15:49.920 so we started dating. I have no idea what was 0:15:49.960 --> 0:15:53.360 going through my mind. Besides, I thought an older dudes 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:59.000 would bring me like more stability, I guess. But one like, 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:01.760 it started getting like physically aggressive between me and him, 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:03.760 and one day, like I called my dad to come 0:16:03.760 --> 0:16:05.760 pick me up and I never hung up the phone. Well, 0:16:05.800 --> 0:16:08.440 my dad heard him hit me, so my dad came. 0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:09.480 They got into a fight. 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:13.520 Like three months or three weeks later, my dad went 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:16.680 back there and fought them again, and my ex boyfriend 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:20.040 ended up having to go to get meta fled into 0:16:20.120 --> 0:16:24.720 the hospital. And so because of that like I I mean, 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:27.560 I've tried to get a restraining order will their order 0:16:27.560 --> 0:16:31.280 of protections in my county. But I tried to get 0:16:31.280 --> 0:16:35.160 like an order of protection, but because my dad had 0:16:35.280 --> 0:16:39.000 instigated a problem with him, like, they didn't want to 0:16:39.000 --> 0:16:42.000 get involved too much with it. So they just kind 0:16:42.000 --> 0:16:44.520 of told him stay away from her. You stay away 0:16:44.520 --> 0:16:48.360 from him, because like it's already on police records and everything. 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:51.880 So if anything like really happens between us, I guess 0:16:51.920 --> 0:16:54.840 those targets would be brought back up, but they'd be 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:58.840 brought up on my dad. So him, like him instigating 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:02.760 things with me could potentially get my dad in legal trouble. 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:08.120 But like he's always like literally up until I got married, 0:17:08.840 --> 0:17:13.040 he was always like around and trying to like cause problems. 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:16.080 And so that's kind of when I started the Facebook 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:21.040 was as soon as I left him. Sorry, that was 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:21.440 a lot. 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:25.200 Sorry, No, no, don't be sorry. I mean this is 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:28.320 a mess, dude. 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:30.040 Story kind of help? 0:17:31.920 --> 0:17:32.480 I know it does? 0:17:33.359 --> 0:17:37.000 Story helped terify it? 0:17:37.000 --> 0:17:40.560 Does? It does? It does? Because I think, you know, 0:17:41.000 --> 0:17:43.359 I kind of go from you know, now that you 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:45.840 give me this backstory, I I kind of go from 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:49.359 you know, she needs to move on to Now, Okay, 0:17:49.400 --> 0:17:51.919 this is coming from a point where this is not 0:17:52.520 --> 0:17:55.280 uh you know, an ex that you're not over. This 0:17:55.400 --> 0:18:01.439 is your uh you know, policing, uh you know, his whereabouts, 0:18:01.480 --> 0:18:03.919 out of out of out of your own you know, 0:18:04.080 --> 0:18:06.960 fear for your safety. 0:18:06.920 --> 0:18:14.680 Yeah, yeah, yeah, that was my girlfriend at the time 0:18:14.680 --> 0:18:17.359 when all that happened. And then she went and like 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:19.520 helped me move out and then moved all of her 0:18:19.560 --> 0:18:24.200 stuff in like as like all of this like legal 0:18:24.320 --> 0:18:28.280 stuff and this like all started erupting. She just like 0:18:28.400 --> 0:18:31.320 up and left my dad and moved in. 0:18:31.200 --> 0:18:32.840 With my abusive boyfriend. 0:18:33.800 --> 0:18:37.320 So that's kind of like really why I started the account, 0:18:38.080 --> 0:18:41.359 And I want to I want to like delete it, 0:18:41.600 --> 0:18:45.080 I really do, but I'm so afraid that like the 0:18:45.119 --> 0:18:48.400 moment I do, something's gonna pop off, even though it's 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:49.680 been for years. 0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:54.720 Leah, let me. Can I ask you this too, Leo? 0:18:54.840 --> 0:18:57.280 What what is? What the fuck is stopping you from? 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:02.040 And I know it's I know there are a lot 0:19:02.040 --> 0:19:12.240 of situations where the answer to this question can get complicated, 0:19:12.880 --> 0:19:16.760 and and I respect that, but I gotta what the 0:19:16.760 --> 0:19:19.240 fuck is stopping you from leaving this shitty little town? 0:19:19.400 --> 0:19:21.840 What the fuck is stopping you from getting out of here, 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:25.399 And I I hate, I hate, I hate the idea 0:19:25.880 --> 0:19:27.639 that this guy you know, I get it, you have 0:19:27.680 --> 0:19:29.280 your friends here, you have your family here. I'm sure 0:19:29.280 --> 0:19:30.680 there's a lot of reasons. I'm gonna let you speak 0:19:30.680 --> 0:19:32.400 in a second, but there's a lot of reasons why. 0:19:32.440 --> 0:19:34.719 And I hate the idea that you know, you almost 0:19:34.720 --> 0:19:37.960 are you know this this guy is like, you know, 0:19:38.840 --> 0:19:41.359 has the power to make you leave. I hate that idea. 0:19:41.400 --> 0:19:45.880 But what is stopping you from leaving? Man? I hate 0:19:45.880 --> 0:19:46.359 this place. 0:19:48.200 --> 0:19:52.760 We actually plan on leaving in next April or mark wonderful. 0:19:53.160 --> 0:19:56.280 So we have like a little savings account that we started. 0:19:58.040 --> 0:20:00.440 It's just it does us because like me and my 0:20:00.520 --> 0:20:02.960 husband met here, so of course he has his family. 0:20:03.160 --> 0:20:07.000 I have mine, but my family kind of we are 0:20:07.119 --> 0:20:11.280 a different group of dysfunctions, so like we kind of 0:20:11.320 --> 0:20:13.560 are all spread out. We don't really talk to We 0:20:13.680 --> 0:20:15.320 talk to each other, but not like we used to. 0:20:16.200 --> 0:20:19.800 So it's just like for me, we do want to 0:20:19.800 --> 0:20:21.760 get out of here. We do plan on it because 0:20:21.800 --> 0:20:27.960 it's a very toxic conservative like backwards town, like everything's 0:20:28.040 --> 0:20:28.639 kind of corrupt. 0:20:30.880 --> 0:20:35.960 I'm I'm so glad to hear that you're leaving, Leah. 0:20:36.000 --> 0:20:38.760 I think I think you should delete the Facebook account. 0:20:39.440 --> 0:20:43.720 I think that you should just focus on getting the 0:20:43.720 --> 0:20:45.639 fuck out of there and if you get if you 0:20:45.680 --> 0:20:47.680 just if you get anything out of this phone call. 0:20:50.160 --> 0:20:56.040 Your brain is like wrapped up in all of the 0:20:56.119 --> 0:21:00.560 everything that that happens to you in this smallest town, 0:21:01.080 --> 0:21:04.439 and I'm just telling you, if you fucking get anything 0:21:04.440 --> 0:21:06.119 out of this, I want it to be that. Like 0:21:07.359 --> 0:21:12.600 you're so young, don't let your view of the world 0:21:12.760 --> 0:21:17.520 and view of relationships be defined by what happened in 0:21:17.640 --> 0:21:21.800 this fucking place. Just as soon as you can, yeah, 0:21:22.240 --> 0:21:26.639 fucking leave it behind and go to a new place 0:21:27.520 --> 0:21:32.520 and move on from this stuff and form a new life, 0:21:32.640 --> 0:21:39.560 because you just can't. Your your life is too valuable 0:21:40.560 --> 0:21:44.280 to be poisoned by a bunch of bullshit going on 0:21:44.359 --> 0:21:48.879 with these fucking people that don't matter anymore. And you 0:21:48.920 --> 0:21:53.640 should just you should just leave and find a new 0:21:55.040 --> 0:21:59.920 course for your life and delete that fucking Facebook account. 0:22:02.000 --> 0:22:02.399 Thank you. 0:22:02.520 --> 0:22:06.080 I'm actually sorry, I'm crying. I don't know if you 0:22:06.080 --> 0:22:11.720 get that response, office, but right now good, I'm actually 0:22:11.840 --> 0:22:14.800 beleeting it. Right now I'm guiding to my password to 0:22:14.840 --> 0:22:15.280 delete it. 0:22:16.200 --> 0:22:20.680 Fuck are you really you're deleting it right now? Yeah? Good? 0:22:20.880 --> 0:22:22.520 Please delete it. 0:22:22.520 --> 0:22:28.480 It's about time, please delete it. Yeah. Yeah, you know, 0:22:28.520 --> 0:22:31.840 when you give me that backstory, it gives me a 0:22:31.840 --> 0:22:35.400 different perspective onto why you held onto it for so long. 0:22:35.680 --> 0:22:37.880 I hope that you have a real therapist, by the way, 0:22:37.920 --> 0:22:39.479 that you can, because I'm not I don't know how 0:22:39.480 --> 0:22:43.080 to fucking actually help people deal with their trauma and whatnot. 0:22:43.240 --> 0:22:44.920 I hope you have a real therapist. They can help 0:22:44.920 --> 0:22:46.480 you deal with the trauma of all these things. 0:22:48.359 --> 0:22:48.879 We're kind of. 0:22:50.560 --> 0:22:54.399 Hopefully we'll make it more up to eighteen soon, but 0:22:54.960 --> 0:22:58.400 good good. Also, I want to apologize for the way 0:22:58.400 --> 0:23:00.359 I hop on the call because I sot talking to 0:23:00.359 --> 0:23:02.480 one of your que guys again, which they are so 0:23:02.640 --> 0:23:03.840 nice by the way. 0:23:04.359 --> 0:23:06.320 Of course, no, you know, probably just for anything. 0:23:06.640 --> 0:23:08.280 I actually didn't know I was on the air. 0:23:10.760 --> 0:23:14.959 But yeah, I I hope you really internalize that. I 0:23:14.960 --> 0:23:17.560 hope you really make an effort to move on. I 0:23:17.600 --> 0:23:21.119 hope you never fucking think about these people ever. Again. 0:23:21.640 --> 0:23:26.119 They're not worth it. Your your life is too short 0:23:26.160 --> 0:23:29.400 and valuable for you to spend any of your headspace 0:23:29.520 --> 0:23:34.240 in just all this fucking bullshit. And I'm very excited 0:23:34.240 --> 0:23:35.359 for you that you were leaving soon. 0:23:37.720 --> 0:23:40.399 Yes, thank you, of course. 0:23:41.520 --> 0:23:44.800 Is there anything else that you want to say to 0:23:45.280 --> 0:23:46.920 me or the people of the computer, or that we 0:23:46.960 --> 0:23:50.160 didn't get to or final thoughts or just anything like that. 0:23:52.520 --> 0:23:53.800 I just want to say that I had a lot 0:23:53.840 --> 0:23:57.480 of adrenaline during the first like five minutes to the call, 0:23:57.640 --> 0:24:00.280 so it was kind of messy, but I if I 0:24:00.280 --> 0:24:03.440 got the whole situation out, so it kind of makes sense. 0:24:04.760 --> 0:24:07.520 Thank you very much for sharing, and seriously, good luck 0:24:07.520 --> 0:24:09.560 to you as you you move forward on this. 0:24:11.680 --> 0:24:14.080 Thank you so much. You've been a really great help. 0:24:15.040 --> 0:24:17.680 Awesome thank you for calling Lea. 0:24:18.320 --> 0:24:19.480