WEBVTT - “Top To Booty Reset” | Big Resets 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:01.880 Uh, do you want to go? Or should I go? 0:00:02.440 --> 0:00:03.480 You go? Girl? 0:00:04.000 --> 0:00:13.880 More More, more, more better, more better, more, a little 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:19.840 more better more. 0:00:19.880 --> 0:00:23.919 Welcome to More Better Podcast, where we stop pretending to 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:29.280 have it all together and embrace the stuff, the whatever. 0:00:29.480 --> 0:00:31.720 You know. We're gonna work on this opening guys, We're 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:34.040 gonna maybe mix it up, We're gonna judge it. But 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:37.640 if you are just tuning in, that's most of Marrow 0:00:38.159 --> 0:00:42.960 and that's Stephanie Beatrice and uh We're we do this 0:00:43.000 --> 0:00:46.920 podcast because sometimes, you know, the world is kind of 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:50.440 full of crap and we'd like a little corner of 0:00:50.479 --> 0:00:54.760 the internet for your ear holes. That's like kind of 0:00:55.000 --> 0:00:57.000 nice and more. 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:59.280 Better, a little bit of joy and. 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:07.200 A little bit of maybe some deep depth stuff sometimes maybe, 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:13.880 but we'll stiffly no promises, no promises at all. 0:01:14.880 --> 0:01:15.520 My friends. 0:01:15.640 --> 0:01:17.560 I'm okay, yeah, yeah. 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:18.360 Uh. 0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:19.920 Do you want to know what I've done lately that's 0:01:19.959 --> 0:01:20.400 more better? 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:21.119 Yes? 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:29.280 I do, really, I don't know. I don't know. I 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:35.839 went to a protest that was good, that's great. Uh 0:01:35.959 --> 0:01:38.560 yeah you yeah, yeah. 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:42.280 I mean I feel like we are all in this 0:01:42.440 --> 0:01:45.959 space of like are more better is just like getting 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:48.640 out of bed every day and being a good person 0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:52.480 and I are trying to be are we all there though, Melissa, 0:01:52.800 --> 0:01:58.600 just trying not to completely disintegrate under the crushing weight 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:03.520 of everyday life and the world right now. My more 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:09.840 better lately has been I've actually been very disciplined about uh, 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:14.040 working out, moving my body, and like eating good stuff 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:17.160 because what I want to do every day is scream 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:22.040 at people, drink tequila and eat shitty food. But I 0:02:22.120 --> 0:02:24.720 know that that will just make me feel even worse. 0:02:24.760 --> 0:02:27.280 But that is what I'm like, the urge I'm fighting 0:02:27.320 --> 0:02:28.799 every day for sure. 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:33.960 Like the lower conscious level you would make your choices 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:36.560 so that they could numb she could numb out, yes, 0:02:36.600 --> 0:02:40.440 But the higher consciousness you is like, let me try 0:02:40.440 --> 0:02:42.240 to take care of myself, Let me do these things 0:02:42.240 --> 0:02:45.720 for myself, let me let me try to have consciousness 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:48.320 around this moment as opposed to numb out, because the 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:49.800 numbing out is just going to make you deal with 0:02:49.800 --> 0:02:50.600 it anyway later. 0:02:51.000 --> 0:02:53.080 Yeah, but really, all I want to do is fucking 0:02:53.160 --> 0:02:56.280 numb out. Numbing out sounds great right now. I don't 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:57.760 blame myself for doing it. 0:02:57.800 --> 0:03:01.800 Sometimes, no, like we all, yeah, sometimes it's what you 0:03:02.400 --> 0:03:06.000 can do in that time. Sometimes it's what you're capable 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:08.040 of that time in your life, you know. 0:03:08.320 --> 0:03:11.560 And yeah, listen, there have definitely been nights where my 0:03:11.600 --> 0:03:12.679 husband's come home. 0:03:12.560 --> 0:03:14.320 And I've been like, we're making cocktail. 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:18.760 It's like three pm. 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.240 Yeah, okay, yeah, I get it. 0:03:21.400 --> 0:03:25.400 I mean, I've been very supportive in my yeah. 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:30.079 So, but for the most part, I've been making good choices, 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:33.040 which feels like a fucking victory right now. 0:03:33.080 --> 0:03:38.000 It's really amazing. And the hill battles sometimes so good. 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:40.960 Only thank you, thank you, thank you. 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:46.560 More better. 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:50.000 What are we talking about today? 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:56.440 Oh man, we're talking about big resets, big resets, little resets, resets, 0:03:56.920 --> 0:04:01.160 which uh one of our producers picked this topic, shout 0:04:01.200 --> 0:04:02.000 out to Leo. 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:05.320 And I really like it. I like the idea. I 0:04:05.400 --> 0:04:07.960 feel like it's something that actually you and I are 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:10.720 forced to do a lot in just on a line 0:04:10.760 --> 0:04:15.840 of work. Move to this new city for five months now, 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:18.800 moved back now. Yeah yeah, so yeah. 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:22.160 But it's something that I've never really thought, uh in 0:04:22.360 --> 0:04:23.040 depth about. 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:23.680 You. 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:28.080 You know, I think about it a lot because probably 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:32.600 because of our jobs, because of you know, for at 0:04:32.720 --> 0:04:35.160 least most women, and I think like a lot of 0:04:35.279 --> 0:04:40.120 people are dealing with diet culture. I think about it 0:04:40.200 --> 0:04:42.000 in that way a lot, because you're sort of sold 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:44.560 this idea that like if you reset yourself and do 0:04:44.720 --> 0:04:47.680 all these like new things, then you'll solve all your problems, 0:04:47.800 --> 0:04:51.120 right right. There's like the lie of the big reset 0:04:51.200 --> 0:04:54.279 of like if you just reset yourself, then everything's going 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:56.400 to be fine. And then there's the resets that you're 0:04:56.480 --> 0:05:02.560 kind of forced into, which is like when everything starts 0:05:02.680 --> 0:05:07.520 over or feels like it starts anew because like you know, 0:05:07.960 --> 0:05:12.640 you have a baby, or there's a pandemic, or your 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:17.720 job ends and or your marriage ends, or you know whatever. 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:20.560 There's like so many reasons that it's kind of forced 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:24.080 upon you. I like the idea of doing it for 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:28.480 myself as opposed to like having it done to me, right, 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:32.160 And I would include like like diet resets as like 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:35.360 a that's something that's happening to me because like I'm 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:38.440 not choosing to. Well, we can get into it, we 0:05:38.480 --> 0:05:39.240 can get into ami. 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:40.880 We can because I have a lie. 0:05:41.000 --> 0:05:43.479 I have a lie as a person who has struggled 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:45.920 with body image and disordered eating, Like I just have 0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:49.440 so many thoughts about it and who has a pretty 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:51.920 healthy relationship with food. Right now, but like you know, 0:05:52.120 --> 0:05:55.680 things slide around. It's not linear, right, Like That's the 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:58.400 other thing about these reset moments. It's like your growth 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:00.960 as a human being is not linear. Your growth it's 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:05.360 like up and down and backwards and forwards and byways 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:09.279 all these bits to it, and collectively those bits will 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:11.920 create what the shape of your life looks like at 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:15.600 the end of it. To you, it's up to you, 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:19.000 a dear listener, to decign how that happens. But sometimes 0:06:19.040 --> 0:06:21.360 it just happens to you, which is also like you 0:06:21.400 --> 0:06:22.480 don't have control over. 0:06:22.440 --> 0:06:24.280 That, right Like right you have to move to a 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:29.800 new city for a job, or you have a surprise pregnancy, or. 0:06:30.240 --> 0:06:33.840 You or like you give yourself a birth plan of 0:06:34.000 --> 0:06:37.080 like I have a friend who she had this plan 0:06:37.279 --> 0:06:40.040 and she was gonna have the baby like bath water 0:06:40.400 --> 0:06:43.680 boop a boop, and like had a guitar, Like I 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:45.440 think I've told you this. She had like a like 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:47.599 a like a friend of theirs was going to play 0:06:47.640 --> 0:06:51.760 like classical guitar and like probably like a few hours 0:06:51.839 --> 0:06:55.159 in her doula was like, ah, this is a danger 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:56.880 You're in danger zone. You gotta go to the hospital. 0:06:56.960 --> 0:06:59.600 And they hadn't planned for it at all, so like 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:02.920 she didn't have a doctor in a hospital that she 0:07:03.120 --> 0:07:05.960 was like, it was an all emergency situation and then 0:07:06.080 --> 0:07:10.080 oh god, that's so scary a cesarean. So it was 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:18.080 like her entire experience of the reset post baby was 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:20.760 not what she thought it was going to be, right, 0:07:20.920 --> 0:07:23.240 and so like it was coming to terms with all 0:07:23.320 --> 0:07:26.800 of these things that she didn't want or plan for. 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:27.400 Right. 0:07:28.440 --> 0:07:31.320 She didn't choose to have a cesarean. It was something 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:35.920 that happened for her safety, but like it's not what 0:07:36.080 --> 0:07:39.720 she wanted, right, Like that was a reset that she 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:43.400 was she just it happened, right, or like just today, 0:07:43.520 --> 0:07:47.040 I was having coffee with a friend and she was 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:48.400 like blah blah blah blah blah. You know when I 0:07:48.480 --> 0:07:50.320 had colon cancer. And I was like, oh my god, 0:07:50.400 --> 0:07:54.440 that's right, that's right. This sweet friend of mine that's 0:07:54.480 --> 0:07:58.000 like roughly our age had colon cancer, right, and like 0:07:58.600 --> 0:08:01.720 her whole life had to change because that happened. And 0:08:02.000 --> 0:08:04.360 here she is like in front of me, you know, 0:08:05.560 --> 0:08:08.400 fine in remission and like having coffee with me, you know, 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:11.120 And like even the way I think about her has 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:14.000 reset since I first met her, because when I first 0:08:14.080 --> 0:08:15.840 met her, I was so intimidated by her. I thought 0:08:15.880 --> 0:08:19.200 she was so cool. She was she's like incredibly talented, 0:08:20.080 --> 0:08:22.120 and I was very like, I don't like her, and 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:26.880 like part of that was my own insecurity about women 0:08:27.000 --> 0:08:31.360 at the time, about her being in my same job, 0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:36.240 like she's also an actor, incredible singing voice just like 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:40.160 and even just the way I've known her through the 0:08:40.280 --> 0:08:44.400 years prior to her even getting cancer was like, oh, 0:08:44.480 --> 0:08:47.240 I totally reset like who she is to me in 0:08:47.320 --> 0:08:50.760 my mind. So right, anyway, there's like a lot there's 0:08:50.800 --> 0:08:53.360 a lot of ways to think about this topic. There 0:08:53.640 --> 0:08:55.559 is can you tell my coffee that I had with 0:08:55.600 --> 0:08:57.400 her as tin? 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:00.560 I can't. 0:09:01.480 --> 0:09:03.000 I love caffeinated Stephanie. 0:09:03.120 --> 0:09:05.560 What a Chelsea proti uscation called coffee cranking? 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:09.719 I am a coffee cranking. Yes, you are karanking. Is 0:09:09.800 --> 0:09:11.120 that coffee that you're downing right now? 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:15.800 That's an espressotonic? Side note? Did you know? I did 0:09:15.880 --> 0:09:19.319 not know that an espressotonic is basically a soda. 0:09:20.640 --> 0:09:21.800 What's an espressotonic? 0:09:22.120 --> 0:09:25.520 It's an espresso shot or two? And then they with 0:09:25.720 --> 0:09:31.839 carbonated water had an espressotonic. Melissa, I don't know that 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:34.400 I want bubbles with my spersonic water. You'll love it. 0:09:34.640 --> 0:09:37.120 You'll love it. You'll love it. I don't even like 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:40.079 watered down the coffee. You'll love it. 0:09:40.960 --> 0:09:44.439 I well, next time we record, I'm going to get 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:47.600 one and we'll say, whoa, I don't like. What's the other? 0:09:47.840 --> 0:09:50.319 Like bullshit coffee drink that they just put hot water in? 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:51.000 What is that? 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:54.640 I'm an Americana America, but that's garbage. That's it's garbage. 0:09:55.080 --> 0:09:56.360 I don't want water. 0:09:56.760 --> 0:09:59.760 I don't want coffee flavored water. No hot water in 0:09:59.840 --> 0:10:00.360 my coffee. 0:10:00.440 --> 0:10:01.520 Why I don't want that? 0:10:02.080 --> 0:10:04.920 No, unless we coffee concentrate. And now I'm having a 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:08.199 cup of coffee. Anyway, should we do an episode on 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:08.840 coffee guys? 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:20.679 Let us know, okay? Or what would you say is 0:10:20.760 --> 0:10:22.840 the last big reset that you did? 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:27.160 I mean, I had a hard week last week. 0:10:27.200 --> 0:10:27.880 I'm not gonna lie. 0:10:28.640 --> 0:10:32.480 Yeah, And I did what I used to always do, 0:10:32.640 --> 0:10:36.920 which is I let myself get really really down in 0:10:36.960 --> 0:10:39.679 the dumps. I ate all of the things that I 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:43.640 know that don't really serve me, meaning like not great 0:10:43.640 --> 0:10:45.960 for my digestion, not great for my energy, not great 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:49.480 for like you know, in the moment, they feel so 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:54.079 great going down. Yeah, and also and also as somebody 0:10:54.080 --> 0:10:56.720 who used to be a binge eater, there was an 0:10:56.760 --> 0:10:58.880 element of like I want to get so full that 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:02.439 like this is what I think instead of everything else, right. 0:11:03.280 --> 0:11:06.319 And I also I'm very it's self aware and insightful. 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:08.400 May well it would have been more self aware of 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:11.080 I just like put the dorthiaz down, like that would great, 0:11:11.320 --> 0:11:14.560 But I didn't. I ate half athias from my favorite place, 0:11:14.640 --> 0:11:16.439 home state. But what are you gonna do? But you 0:11:16.559 --> 0:11:19.920 know what, knowing why you're eating the dorthias is half 0:11:19.960 --> 0:11:23.760 the battle is half the battle that's growth. 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:25.800 The other the tortillas. 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:30.920 Girl, not me, like dipping them in nacho cheese, and like, 0:11:31.640 --> 0:11:33.240 I mean it was what I needed to do in 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:39.240 the moment, listen. But the reset is that there was 0:11:39.360 --> 0:11:40.959 like a couple of days of that. It was like 0:11:41.120 --> 0:11:42.640 maybe four days of that, and then I was like, 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:45.720 I don't feel great, Like I don't feel this way either. 0:11:45.800 --> 0:11:49.679 This isn't really helping me. So on Monday I went 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:53.520 to Pilate's class and I, you know, drank some water. 0:11:56.120 --> 0:11:56.640 I mean, like. 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:02.880 It had been days without days, I was. 0:12:02.960 --> 0:12:06.079 Probably getting some kind of hydration from something. Be it 0:12:06.200 --> 0:12:09.960 the pizza or the garlic sauce that I was dipping 0:12:10.040 --> 0:12:10.959 it in. I'm not sure. 0:12:11.040 --> 0:12:14.439 There's moisture in everything, in the air and everything, you know, 0:12:15.360 --> 0:12:16.720 just take some deep breaths. 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:19.760 That was the last reset. That was That was the 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:22.800 last reset. And I feel like the thing that I 0:12:23.360 --> 0:12:29.320 really learned was I wasn't giving myself like I had 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:31.520 a lot of rage. I think a lot of people 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:33.920 right now have a lot of rage. I wasn't giving 0:12:34.000 --> 0:12:38.040 myself any space, so like get it out of my body. Yeah, 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:40.640 and it's just and like it's still kind of just 0:12:40.760 --> 0:12:42.920 like sitting there. So I'm like trying to figure out, 0:12:43.000 --> 0:12:43.719 like what does that mean? 0:12:43.880 --> 0:12:47.760 Like do I like how do I work that out? 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:48.079 You know? 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:54.280 And I think ultimately the reset part of it was 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:58.200 like this isn't working right if it's like a self, 0:12:58.320 --> 0:13:00.560 if it's a choice, right, it's like, this isn't working. 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:04.280 This thing that I'm doing, I've done however many times, 0:13:04.800 --> 0:13:06.959 isn't really working. How do I reset myself so that 0:13:07.160 --> 0:13:10.240 like I can make I can choose a new path 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:13.760 of something that does work for me, right, Like that's 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:16.760 the self. That's the sort of like self guided audio 0:13:16.880 --> 0:13:21.560 tour of your reset in your brain. Yeah, but sometimes 0:13:21.600 --> 0:13:26.320 you can't choose right. Sometimes it just it just happens 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:28.880 to you, like it happened to your friend in the 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:31.600 middle of her birth. Yeah, it just be Yeah, it's 0:13:31.679 --> 0:13:34.200 just the guitar players, Like, I can't go on. You're 0:13:34.800 --> 0:13:39.360 you're gonna die if you stay inside that uh inside 0:13:39.400 --> 0:13:43.040 the inflatable pol You need to put some pants on. 0:13:43.320 --> 0:13:44.199 And go to the hospital. 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:46.000 Should it play some jazz? Would that help? 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:48.920 Would that help you get dressed faster? 0:13:49.760 --> 0:13:52.679 Can you imagine he just starts playing like a faster 0:13:52.840 --> 0:13:55.880 be god to help her move? 0:13:57.080 --> 0:13:59.599 What was the last big reset that you did or 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:04.839 had happen or oh man, you want to discuss I 0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:08.360 definitely similar to You've been having a lot of like 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:12.520 mini resets as I have sort of like slogged through 0:14:12.720 --> 0:14:17.600 this past month of just waiting to hear anything about 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:20.440 how the show is doing and the possibility of having 0:14:20.480 --> 0:14:22.360 a job for another year or if I've got to 0:14:22.440 --> 0:14:26.680 like get back to the hustle. I just like it's 0:14:26.720 --> 0:14:28.440 the one part of our job that I'm not good at. 0:14:29.040 --> 0:14:31.520 I'm good at I'm pretty good at everything else. 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:38.920 Like the one I don't know, Melissa, Wow, things that 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:42.240 are out of our control. Like I don't think any 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:45.040 are good at that, Melissa, nobody is good at that. 0:14:45.160 --> 0:14:47.200 That is a horrible thing that we have to deal with. 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:49.560 It's it sucks. 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:53.600 It's that donkey dick, excuse my language, but. 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:55.320 I feel like I know a lot of people that 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:58.320 are able to like remain positive and be like, I know, 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:00.520 I got a good feeling like we'll see, like I 0:15:00.600 --> 0:15:01.680 think we're going to be back. 0:15:01.560 --> 0:15:03.680 And like, you know, I don't know, that's a nice 0:15:03.720 --> 0:15:06.000 day out loud, yeah and then. 0:15:07.720 --> 0:15:10.520 Yeah, yeah, you're right, you're right. I just feel like 0:15:10.800 --> 0:15:14.400 very tortured. So I've had a lot of like mini resets, 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:16.960 you know, where I, like you were just describing it, 0:15:17.040 --> 0:15:20.280 had a bad day, had a bad day, and then 0:15:20.320 --> 0:15:21.640 the next day I was like, all right, I have 0:15:21.800 --> 0:15:26.400 to like be very present conscious today in the moment, 0:15:26.840 --> 0:15:30.520 choose what I eat, choose what I drink, like move 0:15:30.600 --> 0:15:32.960 my body, like do you go through the things that 0:15:33.040 --> 0:15:37.040 I know will set me up for success that day, 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:39.360 and then just like every day try to do that. 0:15:40.840 --> 0:15:43.160 But I guess like the biggest reset was coming back 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:47.640 from Atlanta after like five months of you know, being 0:15:47.680 --> 0:15:50.760 away from the family, living in this apartment that was 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:57.600 like very minimalist and empty, which was also kind of wild, 0:15:57.760 --> 0:16:01.720 and then coming home to a house of toys and stuff, 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:07.560 and yeah, I went. When I got home, I kind 0:16:07.600 --> 0:16:09.720 of went through like a reset of our house and 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:13.520 did all the closets and throughout like bags and bags 0:16:13.600 --> 0:16:18.760 of shit, and like bought new containers to organize closets 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:21.520 and jodelers. And I think I sent you a picture 0:16:21.560 --> 0:16:22.160 of my junk. 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:23.680 Drawer that I reorganized. 0:16:23.880 --> 0:16:24.440 Yeah, you did. 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:25.720 And I'm also. 0:16:27.280 --> 0:16:30.960 Maybe gonna like buy some new furniture and get rid 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:34.520 of some furniture. And I don't know what that is about, 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:38.640 other than like I think, I think David and I 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:41.480 moved so many times before having kids, and this is 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:45.760 like the longest we've ever lived somewhere, and I think 0:16:45.800 --> 0:16:48.280 I just still get an itch every few years to 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:51.200 like switch stuff up. But I'm not going to sell 0:16:51.280 --> 0:16:54.240 my house and move, so I do it by like 0:16:54.840 --> 0:16:57.320 getting rid of furniture and maybe buying a furniture. 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:02.920 Yeah, nothing crazy, just like I just feel like it's 0:17:03.000 --> 0:17:09.240 not working. It's like energy, right, like yeah, like stuck energy, 0:17:09.480 --> 0:17:11.439 Like you need change. 0:17:11.520 --> 0:17:12.640 I need movement. Yeah. 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:12.920 Yeah. 0:17:13.240 --> 0:17:16.560 One of my favorite pilate's teachers at the studio. It's 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:19.879 not like a Woo Wu studio, but she is kind 0:17:19.920 --> 0:17:21.280 of what's a Woo woo studio? 0:17:21.480 --> 0:17:21.960 Describe? 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:26.000 You know, when you finish the workout and like, okay, 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:30.280 so this is a total sidebar. But like for me, 0:17:30.680 --> 0:17:34.520 if I'm gonna pay money, so go do a workout somewhere, 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:36.399 I don't want ten minutes of my workout to be 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:40.720 like okay, now calm your breath and that deep belly 0:17:40.840 --> 0:17:43.359 breath in. I'm like five minutes, babe, five minutes and 0:17:43.520 --> 0:17:46.280 I can stretch five minutes by myself after class, Like 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:49.359 I don't need your Woo woo. I came for pilates, 0:17:49.400 --> 0:17:52.800 not yoga. Okay, right, so even in yoga, I'm like, 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:55.880 do not Sometimes I don't want to hear your layoff floor. 0:17:55.960 --> 0:17:58.520 You're not my guru, babe, You're not my guo or 0:17:58.600 --> 0:18:03.800 that's my guru. That's so she is not Woo Woo. 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:05.960 But at that what I really appreciate is like after 0:18:06.040 --> 0:18:08.480 class is over, she'll encourage us to stay in stretch 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:11.679 and then she'll light a little like bundle of something 0:18:11.960 --> 0:18:13.840 and it's not safe, it's something else, but she'll light 0:18:13.920 --> 0:18:15.879 like a little bundle, like walk around the studio, like 0:18:16.000 --> 0:18:19.520 move the move the air, because you'll be in those 0:18:19.560 --> 0:18:23.040 workout classes and sometimes people be like fucking crazy, like 0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:25.280 crazy energy is coming off of people. 0:18:25.320 --> 0:18:26.960 And yeahtimes it's. 0:18:26.840 --> 0:18:30.960 Like mad competitive or like I remember taking a class 0:18:31.000 --> 0:18:32.680 one time where it was like, oh my god, we're 0:18:32.680 --> 0:18:34.639 all in this class is not a private Like you 0:18:34.760 --> 0:18:39.040 can't keep stopping and having the teacher explain everything to you. 0:18:39.119 --> 0:18:42.159 You should have taken an introduction, you know what I mean? Like, 0:18:42.520 --> 0:18:47.320 oh no, so she resets the room and she resets 0:18:47.359 --> 0:18:49.560 the energy, you know, And like, I think that's the 0:18:49.640 --> 0:18:51.600 same thing that you're talking about. It's like you came 0:18:51.640 --> 0:18:54.000 back from this big job. You see your house with 0:18:54.119 --> 0:18:56.040 fresh eyes. I did the same thing when when I 0:18:56.119 --> 0:18:57.920 came back from the last job that I was in, 0:18:58.040 --> 0:19:00.280 I like was like, oh, this closet is too full 0:19:00.320 --> 0:19:02.240 of clothes. I need to get rid of stuff. This 0:19:02.440 --> 0:19:05.040 is yeah, why do we have all these toddler toys? 0:19:05.160 --> 0:19:07.200 She's not a toddler anymore, you know? 0:19:07.560 --> 0:19:10.160 Right, Oh my god, I got rid of like five 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:11.159 bags of toys. 0:19:11.520 --> 0:19:11.840 Damn. 0:19:12.560 --> 0:19:16.760 It was great because we definitely had a jump and 0:19:16.880 --> 0:19:19.200 even I asked Axel. I was like, Axel, can I 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:23.560 donate all these paw patrol toys or whatever not patrol 0:19:23.920 --> 0:19:24.719 PJ masks? 0:19:25.640 --> 0:19:28.280 And he looked at it. He was like, yeah, like 0:19:28.520 --> 0:19:28.800 I don't. 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:31.320 Wow, that's I don't want to care about those guys anymore. 0:19:31.520 --> 0:19:34.920 I don't care about those guys. I'm not four. I 0:19:35.000 --> 0:19:35.560 had five. 0:19:36.160 --> 0:19:39.520 Miss Meanwhile, ros went to a party that was a 0:19:40.160 --> 0:19:42.960 a what are they called the mask, PJ MA the 0:19:43.119 --> 0:19:45.520 PJ masks. It was like PJ mask theme and she 0:19:45.680 --> 0:19:48.480 was like enthralled because you've never seen it before. And 0:19:48.560 --> 0:19:51.240 I was like I'm starting now, Honey, Like, sorry about it. 0:19:51.359 --> 0:19:53.160 You gonna miss out on that boat? 0:19:53.280 --> 0:19:53.560 Baby? 0:19:55.080 --> 0:19:57.400 Nope, no, no, no oh. 0:19:57.600 --> 0:19:59.640 But the theme song is so catchy. Don't you want 0:19:59.680 --> 0:20:01.440 it to be stuck in your head for days on it? 0:20:01.720 --> 0:20:06.000 I absolutely don't. I would prefer any Disney musical, any 0:20:06.040 --> 0:20:09.119 Disney musical, I would prefer if any of you know 0:20:09.320 --> 0:20:15.159 that about me already, you're not surprised any Disney musical, 0:20:15.359 --> 0:20:19.080 any of them. You choose Hercules, Bless my Soul, hercusan 0:20:19.160 --> 0:20:20.920 a roll. Do you have to pay rights for that? 0:20:21.200 --> 0:20:21.520 Okay? 0:20:23.880 --> 0:20:26.880 What about like toxic people or situations that you want 0:20:26.920 --> 0:20:30.360 to escape. Like what about like resetting a friendship? Can 0:20:30.480 --> 0:20:32.160 you reset a friendship? I don't know if you can. 0:20:32.400 --> 0:20:36.159 I think I think I've tried, but I definitely have 0:20:36.240 --> 0:20:37.800 not seated in our friendship. 0:20:37.960 --> 0:20:41.159 Oh like like oh like resetting the friendship, like this 0:20:41.400 --> 0:20:44.159 is not working and we're going to try to improve it. 0:20:44.520 --> 0:20:49.440 Yeah, it's very I have succeeded once in that I 0:20:49.560 --> 0:20:49.760 have to. 0:20:49.920 --> 0:20:51.320 Actually I just saw have one. Yeah. 0:20:51.440 --> 0:20:54.800 Yeah, it was a very hard, honest conversation. There were 0:20:54.800 --> 0:20:59.359 a lot of times, yes, but it really has helped 0:20:59.440 --> 0:21:02.520 me see this friend in a totally different light and 0:21:02.680 --> 0:21:06.000 like give her a lot more grace. And I think 0:21:06.119 --> 0:21:07.240 she was able to give. 0:21:07.280 --> 0:21:08.240 Me more grace. 0:21:09.040 --> 0:21:12.600 Yeah, because we're sort of honest about like I don't 0:21:12.720 --> 0:21:15.280 like when you do this, or I I don't like 0:21:15.359 --> 0:21:17.720 when you do this. It doesn't this feels hard to 0:21:17.800 --> 0:21:20.000 me or whatever, like and you know, a lot of 0:21:20.080 --> 0:21:22.119