1 00:00:00,480 --> 00:00:01,880 Speaker 1: Uh, do you want to go? Or should I go? 2 00:00:02,440 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 2: You go? Girl? 3 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:13,880 Speaker 3: More More, more, more better, more better, more, a little 4 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:19,840 Speaker 3: more better more. 5 00:00:19,880 --> 00:00:23,919 Speaker 1: Welcome to More Better Podcast, where we stop pretending to 6 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 1: have it all together and embrace the stuff, the whatever. 7 00:00:29,480 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 1: You know. We're gonna work on this opening guys, We're 8 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:34,040 Speaker 1: gonna maybe mix it up, We're gonna judge it. But 9 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: if you are just tuning in, that's most of Marrow 10 00:00:38,159 --> 00:00:42,960 Speaker 1: and that's Stephanie Beatrice and uh We're we do this 11 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:46,920 Speaker 1: podcast because sometimes, you know, the world is kind of 12 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 1: full of crap and we'd like a little corner of 13 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: the internet for your ear holes. That's like kind of 14 00:00:55,000 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 1: nice and more. 15 00:00:56,800 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 2: Better, a little bit of joy and. 16 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:07,200 Speaker 1: A little bit of maybe some deep depth stuff sometimes maybe, 17 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:13,880 Speaker 1: but we'll stiffly no promises, no promises at all. 18 00:01:14,880 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 2: My friends. 19 00:01:15,640 --> 00:01:17,560 Speaker 1: I'm okay, yeah, yeah. 20 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 3: Uh. 21 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: Do you want to know what I've done lately that's 22 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:20,400 Speaker 1: more better? 23 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:21,119 Speaker 2: Yes? 24 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:29,280 Speaker 1: I do, really, I don't know. I don't know. I 25 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:35,839 Speaker 1: went to a protest that was good, that's great. Uh 26 00:01:35,959 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: yeah you yeah, yeah. 27 00:01:38,680 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 4: I mean I feel like we are all in this 28 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:45,959 Speaker 4: space of like are more better is just like getting 29 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 4: out of bed every day and being a good person 30 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:52,480 Speaker 4: and I are trying to be are we all there though, Melissa, 31 00:01:52,800 --> 00:01:58,600 Speaker 4: just trying not to completely disintegrate under the crushing weight 32 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:03,520 Speaker 4: of everyday life and the world right now. My more 33 00:02:03,600 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 4: better lately has been I've actually been very disciplined about uh, 34 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 4: working out, moving my body, and like eating good stuff 35 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:17,160 Speaker 4: because what I want to do every day is scream 36 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 4: at people, drink tequila and eat shitty food. But I 37 00:02:22,120 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 4: know that that will just make me feel even worse. 38 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 4: But that is what I'm like, the urge I'm fighting 39 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:28,799 Speaker 4: every day for sure. 40 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: Like the lower conscious level you would make your choices 41 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,560 Speaker 1: so that they could numb she could numb out, yes, 42 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 1: But the higher consciousness you is like, let me try 43 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:42,240 Speaker 1: to take care of myself, Let me do these things 44 00:02:42,240 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: for myself, let me let me try to have consciousness 45 00:02:45,720 --> 00:02:48,320 Speaker 1: around this moment as opposed to numb out, because the 46 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:49,800 Speaker 1: numbing out is just going to make you deal with 47 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 1: it anyway later. 48 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:53,080 Speaker 4: Yeah, but really, all I want to do is fucking 49 00:02:53,160 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 4: numb out. Numbing out sounds great right now. I don't 50 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:57,760 Speaker 4: blame myself for doing it. 51 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:01,800 Speaker 1: Sometimes, no, like we all, yeah, sometimes it's what you 52 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 1: can do in that time. Sometimes it's what you're capable 53 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:08,040 Speaker 1: of that time in your life, you know. 54 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:11,560 Speaker 4: And yeah, listen, there have definitely been nights where my 55 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:12,679 Speaker 4: husband's come home. 56 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: And I've been like, we're making cocktail. 57 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 2: It's like three pm. 58 00:03:19,200 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, yeah, I get it. 59 00:03:21,400 --> 00:03:25,400 Speaker 2: I mean, I've been very supportive in my yeah. 60 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:30,079 Speaker 4: So, but for the most part, I've been making good choices, 61 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 4: which feels like a fucking victory right now. 62 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 1: It's really amazing. And the hill battles sometimes so good. 63 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:40,960 Speaker 2: Only thank you, thank you, thank you. 64 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 3: More better. 65 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 1: What are we talking about today? 66 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:56,440 Speaker 4: Oh man, we're talking about big resets, big resets, little resets, resets, 67 00:03:56,920 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 4: which uh one of our producers picked this topic, shout 68 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:02,000 Speaker 4: out to Leo. 69 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 2: And I really like it. I like the idea. I 70 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 2: feel like it's something that actually you and I are 71 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 2: forced to do a lot in just on a line 72 00:04:10,760 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 2: of work. Move to this new city for five months now, 73 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:18,800 Speaker 2: moved back now. Yeah yeah, so yeah. 74 00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:22,160 Speaker 1: But it's something that I've never really thought, uh in 75 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:23,040 Speaker 1: depth about. 76 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 3: You. 77 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:28,080 Speaker 1: You know, I think about it a lot because probably 78 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:32,600 Speaker 1: because of our jobs, because of you know, for at 79 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:35,160 Speaker 1: least most women, and I think like a lot of 80 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: people are dealing with diet culture. I think about it 81 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:42,000 Speaker 1: in that way a lot, because you're sort of sold 82 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 1: this idea that like if you reset yourself and do 83 00:04:44,720 --> 00:04:47,680 Speaker 1: all these like new things, then you'll solve all your problems, 84 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:51,120 Speaker 1: right right. There's like the lie of the big reset 85 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:54,279 Speaker 1: of like if you just reset yourself, then everything's going 86 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: to be fine. And then there's the resets that you're 87 00:04:56,480 --> 00:05:02,560 Speaker 1: kind of forced into, which is like when everything starts 88 00:05:02,680 --> 00:05:07,520 Speaker 1: over or feels like it starts anew because like you know, 89 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: you have a baby, or there's a pandemic, or your 90 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:17,720 Speaker 1: job ends and or your marriage ends, or you know whatever. 91 00:05:18,080 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: There's like so many reasons that it's kind of forced 92 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 1: upon you. I like the idea of doing it for 93 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:28,480 Speaker 1: myself as opposed to like having it done to me, right, 94 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:32,160 Speaker 1: And I would include like like diet resets as like 95 00:05:32,240 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 1: a that's something that's happening to me because like I'm 96 00:05:35,440 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: not choosing to. Well, we can get into it, we 97 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:39,240 Speaker 1: can get into ami. 98 00:05:39,440 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 2: We can because I have a lie. 99 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,479 Speaker 1: I have a lie as a person who has struggled 100 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:45,920 Speaker 1: with body image and disordered eating, Like I just have 101 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 1: so many thoughts about it and who has a pretty 102 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:51,920 Speaker 1: healthy relationship with food. Right now, but like you know, 103 00:05:52,120 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: things slide around. It's not linear, right, Like That's the 104 00:05:55,720 --> 00:05:58,400 Speaker 1: other thing about these reset moments. It's like your growth 105 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 1: as a human being is not linear. Your growth it's 106 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:05,360 Speaker 1: like up and down and backwards and forwards and byways 107 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:09,279 Speaker 1: all these bits to it, and collectively those bits will 108 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:11,920 Speaker 1: create what the shape of your life looks like at 109 00:06:11,920 --> 00:06:15,600 Speaker 1: the end of it. To you, it's up to you, 110 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 1: a dear listener, to decign how that happens. But sometimes 111 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:21,360 Speaker 1: it just happens to you, which is also like you 112 00:06:21,400 --> 00:06:22,480 Speaker 1: don't have control over. 113 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:24,280 Speaker 4: That, right Like right you have to move to a 114 00:06:24,400 --> 00:06:29,800 Speaker 4: new city for a job, or you have a surprise pregnancy, or. 115 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:33,840 Speaker 1: You or like you give yourself a birth plan of 116 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: like I have a friend who she had this plan 117 00:06:37,279 --> 00:06:40,040 Speaker 1: and she was gonna have the baby like bath water 118 00:06:40,400 --> 00:06:43,680 Speaker 1: boop a boop, and like had a guitar, Like I 119 00:06:43,720 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: think I've told you this. She had like a like 120 00:06:45,520 --> 00:06:47,599 Speaker 1: a like a friend of theirs was going to play 121 00:06:47,640 --> 00:06:51,760 Speaker 1: like classical guitar and like probably like a few hours 122 00:06:51,839 --> 00:06:55,159 Speaker 1: in her doula was like, ah, this is a danger 123 00:06:55,320 --> 00:06:56,880 Speaker 1: You're in danger zone. You gotta go to the hospital. 124 00:06:56,960 --> 00:06:59,600 Speaker 1: And they hadn't planned for it at all, so like 125 00:07:00,400 --> 00:07:02,920 Speaker 1: she didn't have a doctor in a hospital that she 126 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 1: was like, it was an all emergency situation and then 127 00:07:06,080 --> 00:07:10,080 Speaker 1: oh god, that's so scary a cesarean. So it was 128 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:18,080 Speaker 1: like her entire experience of the reset post baby was 129 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:20,760 Speaker 1: not what she thought it was going to be, right, 130 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:23,240 Speaker 1: and so like it was coming to terms with all 131 00:07:23,320 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 1: of these things that she didn't want or plan for. 132 00:07:27,240 --> 00:07:27,400 Speaker 3: Right. 133 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 1: She didn't choose to have a cesarean. It was something 134 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 1: that happened for her safety, but like it's not what 135 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: she wanted, right, Like that was a reset that she 136 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 1: was she just it happened, right, or like just today, 137 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 1: I was having coffee with a friend and she was 138 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 1: like blah blah blah blah blah. You know when I 139 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:50,320 Speaker 1: had colon cancer. And I was like, oh my god, 140 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:54,440 Speaker 1: that's right, that's right. This sweet friend of mine that's 141 00:07:54,480 --> 00:07:58,000 Speaker 1: like roughly our age had colon cancer, right, and like 142 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: her whole life had to change because that happened. And 143 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:04,360 Speaker 1: here she is like in front of me, you know, 144 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:08,400 Speaker 1: fine in remission and like having coffee with me, you know, 145 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:11,120 Speaker 1: And like even the way I think about her has 146 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:14,000 Speaker 1: reset since I first met her, because when I first 147 00:08:14,080 --> 00:08:15,840 Speaker 1: met her, I was so intimidated by her. I thought 148 00:08:15,880 --> 00:08:19,200 Speaker 1: she was so cool. She was she's like incredibly talented, 149 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: and I was very like, I don't like her, and 150 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:26,880 Speaker 1: like part of that was my own insecurity about women 151 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 1: at the time, about her being in my same job, 152 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:36,240 Speaker 1: like she's also an actor, incredible singing voice just like 153 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:40,160 Speaker 1: and even just the way I've known her through the 154 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 1: years prior to her even getting cancer was like, oh, 155 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: I totally reset like who she is to me in 156 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 1: my mind. So right, anyway, there's like a lot there's 157 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:53,360 Speaker 1: a lot of ways to think about this topic. There 158 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:55,559 Speaker 1: is can you tell my coffee that I had with 159 00:08:55,600 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 1: her as tin? 160 00:09:00,200 --> 00:09:00,560 Speaker 3: I can't. 161 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:03,000 Speaker 2: I love caffeinated Stephanie. 162 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:05,560 Speaker 1: What a Chelsea proti uscation called coffee cranking? 163 00:09:05,760 --> 00:09:09,719 Speaker 2: I am a coffee cranking. Yes, you are karanking. Is 164 00:09:09,800 --> 00:09:11,120 Speaker 2: that coffee that you're downing right now? 165 00:09:11,360 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 1: That's an espressotonic? Side note? Did you know? I did 166 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:19,319 Speaker 1: not know that an espressotonic is basically a soda. 167 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 2: What's an espressotonic? 168 00:09:22,120 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 1: It's an espresso shot or two? And then they with 169 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:31,839 Speaker 1: carbonated water had an espressotonic. Melissa, I don't know that 170 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: I want bubbles with my spersonic water. You'll love it. 171 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:37,120 Speaker 1: You'll love it. You'll love it. I don't even like 172 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:40,079 Speaker 1: watered down the coffee. You'll love it. 173 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:44,439 Speaker 2: I well, next time we record, I'm going to get 174 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 2: one and we'll say, whoa, I don't like. What's the other? 175 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,319 Speaker 1: Like bullshit coffee drink that they just put hot water in? 176 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:51,000 Speaker 3: What is that? 177 00:09:51,160 --> 00:09:54,640 Speaker 2: I'm an Americana America, but that's garbage. That's it's garbage. 178 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:56,360 Speaker 2: I don't want water. 179 00:09:56,760 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: I don't want coffee flavored water. No hot water in 180 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:00,360 Speaker 1: my coffee. 181 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 2: Why I don't want that? 182 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:04,920 Speaker 1: No, unless we coffee concentrate. And now I'm having a 183 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:08,199 Speaker 1: cup of coffee. Anyway, should we do an episode on 184 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:08,840 Speaker 1: coffee guys? 185 00:10:08,920 --> 00:10:20,679 Speaker 2: Let us know, okay? Or what would you say is 186 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:22,840 Speaker 2: the last big reset that you did? 187 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 1: I mean, I had a hard week last week. 188 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. 189 00:10:28,640 --> 00:10:32,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I did what I used to always do, 190 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 1: which is I let myself get really really down in 191 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:39,679 Speaker 1: the dumps. I ate all of the things that I 192 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 1: know that don't really serve me, meaning like not great 193 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:45,960 Speaker 1: for my digestion, not great for my energy, not great 194 00:10:46,040 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 1: for like you know, in the moment, they feel so 195 00:10:49,640 --> 00:10:54,079 Speaker 1: great going down. Yeah, and also and also as somebody 196 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:56,720 Speaker 1: who used to be a binge eater, there was an 197 00:10:56,760 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 1: element of like I want to get so full that 198 00:10:59,040 --> 00:11:02,439 Speaker 1: like this is what I think instead of everything else, right. 199 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:06,319 Speaker 2: And I also I'm very it's self aware and insightful. 200 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:08,400 Speaker 1: May well it would have been more self aware of 201 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:11,080 Speaker 1: I just like put the dorthiaz down, like that would great, 202 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:14,560 Speaker 1: But I didn't. I ate half athias from my favorite place, 203 00:11:14,640 --> 00:11:16,439 Speaker 1: home state. But what are you gonna do? But you 204 00:11:16,559 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 1: know what, knowing why you're eating the dorthias is half 205 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:23,760 Speaker 1: the battle is half the battle that's growth. 206 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 2: The other the tortillas. 207 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:30,920 Speaker 1: Girl, not me, like dipping them in nacho cheese, and like, 208 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:33,240 Speaker 1: I mean it was what I needed to do in 209 00:11:33,320 --> 00:11:39,240 Speaker 1: the moment, listen. But the reset is that there was 210 00:11:39,360 --> 00:11:40,959 Speaker 1: like a couple of days of that. It was like 211 00:11:41,120 --> 00:11:42,640 Speaker 1: maybe four days of that, and then I was like, 212 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:45,720 Speaker 1: I don't feel great, Like I don't feel this way either. 213 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:49,679 Speaker 1: This isn't really helping me. So on Monday I went 214 00:11:49,720 --> 00:11:53,520 Speaker 1: to Pilate's class and I, you know, drank some water. 215 00:11:56,120 --> 00:11:56,640 Speaker 3: I mean, like. 216 00:11:58,320 --> 00:12:02,880 Speaker 2: It had been days without days, I was. 217 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:06,079 Speaker 1: Probably getting some kind of hydration from something. Be it 218 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:09,960 Speaker 1: the pizza or the garlic sauce that I was dipping 219 00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:10,959 Speaker 1: it in. I'm not sure. 220 00:12:11,040 --> 00:12:14,439 Speaker 4: There's moisture in everything, in the air and everything, you know, 221 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:16,720 Speaker 4: just take some deep breaths. 222 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:19,760 Speaker 1: That was the last reset. That was That was the 223 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,800 Speaker 1: last reset. And I feel like the thing that I 224 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:29,320 Speaker 1: really learned was I wasn't giving myself like I had 225 00:12:29,360 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 1: a lot of rage. I think a lot of people 226 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:33,920 Speaker 1: right now have a lot of rage. I wasn't giving 227 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:38,040 Speaker 1: myself any space, so like get it out of my body. Yeah, 228 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:40,640 Speaker 1: and it's just and like it's still kind of just 229 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: like sitting there. So I'm like trying to figure out, 230 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:43,719 Speaker 1: like what does that mean? 231 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:47,760 Speaker 2: Like do I like how do I work that out? 232 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:48,079 Speaker 3: You know? 233 00:12:48,360 --> 00:12:54,280 Speaker 1: And I think ultimately the reset part of it was 234 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:58,200 Speaker 1: like this isn't working right if it's like a self, 235 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:00,560 Speaker 1: if it's a choice, right, it's like, this isn't working. 236 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:04,280 Speaker 1: This thing that I'm doing, I've done however many times, 237 00:13:04,800 --> 00:13:06,959 Speaker 1: isn't really working. How do I reset myself so that 238 00:13:07,160 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 1: like I can make I can choose a new path 239 00:13:10,360 --> 00:13:13,760 Speaker 1: of something that does work for me, right, Like that's 240 00:13:13,840 --> 00:13:16,760 Speaker 1: the self. That's the sort of like self guided audio 241 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:21,560 Speaker 1: tour of your reset in your brain. Yeah, but sometimes 242 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:26,320 Speaker 1: you can't choose right. Sometimes it just it just happens 243 00:13:26,320 --> 00:13:28,880 Speaker 1: to you, like it happened to your friend in the 244 00:13:28,960 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 1: middle of her birth. Yeah, it just be Yeah, it's 245 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:34,200 Speaker 1: just the guitar players, Like, I can't go on. You're 246 00:13:34,800 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: you're gonna die if you stay inside that uh inside 247 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:43,040 Speaker 1: the inflatable pol You need to put some pants on. 248 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:44,199 Speaker 2: And go to the hospital. 249 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 1: Should it play some jazz? Would that help? 250 00:13:47,679 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 2: Would that help you get dressed faster? 251 00:13:49,760 --> 00:13:52,679 Speaker 1: Can you imagine he just starts playing like a faster 252 00:13:52,840 --> 00:13:55,880 Speaker 1: be god to help her move? 253 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:59,599 Speaker 4: What was the last big reset that you did or 254 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:04,839 Speaker 4: had happen or oh man, you want to discuss I 255 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:08,360 Speaker 4: definitely similar to You've been having a lot of like 256 00:14:08,520 --> 00:14:12,520 Speaker 4: mini resets as I have sort of like slogged through 257 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:17,600 Speaker 4: this past month of just waiting to hear anything about 258 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 4: how the show is doing and the possibility of having 259 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 4: a job for another year or if I've got to 260 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 4: like get back to the hustle. I just like it's 261 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:28,440 Speaker 4: the one part of our job that I'm not good at. 262 00:14:29,040 --> 00:14:31,520 Speaker 4: I'm good at I'm pretty good at everything else. 263 00:14:32,280 --> 00:14:38,920 Speaker 1: Like the one I don't know, Melissa, Wow, things that 264 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 1: are out of our control. Like I don't think any 265 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:45,040 Speaker 1: are good at that, Melissa, nobody is good at that. 266 00:14:45,160 --> 00:14:47,200 Speaker 1: That is a horrible thing that we have to deal with. 267 00:14:47,400 --> 00:14:49,560 Speaker 2: It's it sucks. 268 00:14:49,720 --> 00:14:53,600 Speaker 1: It's that donkey dick, excuse my language, but. 269 00:14:53,680 --> 00:14:55,320 Speaker 4: I feel like I know a lot of people that 270 00:14:55,840 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 4: are able to like remain positive and be like, I know, 271 00:14:58,400 --> 00:15:00,520 Speaker 4: I got a good feeling like we'll see, like I 272 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:01,680 Speaker 4: think we're going to be back. 273 00:15:01,560 --> 00:15:03,680 Speaker 2: And like, you know, I don't know, that's a nice 274 00:15:03,720 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 2: day out loud, yeah and then. 275 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:10,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, you're right, you're right. I just feel like 276 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:14,400 Speaker 4: very tortured. So I've had a lot of like mini resets, 277 00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:16,960 Speaker 4: you know, where I, like you were just describing it, 278 00:15:17,040 --> 00:15:20,280 Speaker 4: had a bad day, had a bad day, and then 279 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:21,640 Speaker 4: the next day I was like, all right, I have 280 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:26,400 Speaker 4: to like be very present conscious today in the moment, 281 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 4: choose what I eat, choose what I drink, like move 282 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:32,960 Speaker 4: my body, like do you go through the things that 283 00:15:33,040 --> 00:15:37,040 Speaker 4: I know will set me up for success that day, 284 00:15:37,360 --> 00:15:39,360 Speaker 4: and then just like every day try to do that. 285 00:15:40,840 --> 00:15:43,160 Speaker 4: But I guess like the biggest reset was coming back 286 00:15:43,200 --> 00:15:47,640 Speaker 4: from Atlanta after like five months of you know, being 287 00:15:47,680 --> 00:15:50,760 Speaker 4: away from the family, living in this apartment that was 288 00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:57,600 Speaker 4: like very minimalist and empty, which was also kind of wild, 289 00:15:57,760 --> 00:16:01,720 Speaker 4: and then coming home to a house of toys and stuff, 290 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:07,560 Speaker 4: and yeah, I went. When I got home, I kind 291 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:09,720 Speaker 4: of went through like a reset of our house and 292 00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:13,520 Speaker 4: did all the closets and throughout like bags and bags 293 00:16:13,600 --> 00:16:18,760 Speaker 4: of shit, and like bought new containers to organize closets 294 00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 4: and jodelers. And I think I sent you a picture 295 00:16:21,560 --> 00:16:22,160 Speaker 4: of my junk. 296 00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:23,680 Speaker 2: Drawer that I reorganized. 297 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:24,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, you did. 298 00:16:24,640 --> 00:16:25,720 Speaker 2: And I'm also. 299 00:16:27,280 --> 00:16:30,960 Speaker 4: Maybe gonna like buy some new furniture and get rid 300 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 4: of some furniture. And I don't know what that is about, 301 00:16:34,720 --> 00:16:38,640 Speaker 4: other than like I think, I think David and I 302 00:16:38,880 --> 00:16:41,480 Speaker 4: moved so many times before having kids, and this is 303 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:45,760 Speaker 4: like the longest we've ever lived somewhere, and I think 304 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 4: I just still get an itch every few years to 305 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:51,200 Speaker 4: like switch stuff up. But I'm not going to sell 306 00:16:51,280 --> 00:16:54,240 Speaker 4: my house and move, so I do it by like 307 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:57,320 Speaker 4: getting rid of furniture and maybe buying a furniture. 308 00:16:57,800 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, nothing crazy, just like I just feel like it's 309 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 1: not working. It's like energy, right, like yeah, like stuck energy, 310 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:11,439 Speaker 1: Like you need change. 311 00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:12,640 Speaker 2: I need movement. Yeah. 312 00:17:12,720 --> 00:17:12,920 Speaker 4: Yeah. 313 00:17:13,240 --> 00:17:16,560 Speaker 1: One of my favorite pilate's teachers at the studio. It's 314 00:17:16,640 --> 00:17:19,879 Speaker 1: not like a Woo Wu studio, but she is kind 315 00:17:19,920 --> 00:17:21,280 Speaker 1: of what's a Woo woo studio? 316 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:21,960 Speaker 2: Describe? 317 00:17:22,680 --> 00:17:26,000 Speaker 1: You know, when you finish the workout and like, okay, 318 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:30,280 Speaker 1: so this is a total sidebar. But like for me, 319 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:34,520 Speaker 1: if I'm gonna pay money, so go do a workout somewhere, 320 00:17:34,640 --> 00:17:36,399 Speaker 1: I don't want ten minutes of my workout to be 321 00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:40,720 Speaker 1: like okay, now calm your breath and that deep belly 322 00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:43,359 Speaker 1: breath in. I'm like five minutes, babe, five minutes and 323 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:46,280 Speaker 1: I can stretch five minutes by myself after class, Like 324 00:17:46,359 --> 00:17:49,359 Speaker 1: I don't need your Woo woo. I came for pilates, 325 00:17:49,400 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 1: not yoga. Okay, right, so even in yoga, I'm like, 326 00:17:53,040 --> 00:17:55,880 Speaker 1: do not Sometimes I don't want to hear your layoff floor. 327 00:17:55,960 --> 00:17:58,520 Speaker 2: You're not my guru, babe, You're not my guo or 328 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:03,800 Speaker 2: that's my guru. That's so she is not Woo Woo. 329 00:18:03,920 --> 00:18:05,960 Speaker 1: But at that what I really appreciate is like after 330 00:18:06,040 --> 00:18:08,480 Speaker 1: class is over, she'll encourage us to stay in stretch 331 00:18:08,560 --> 00:18:11,679 Speaker 1: and then she'll light a little like bundle of something 332 00:18:11,960 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: and it's not safe, it's something else, but she'll light 333 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:15,879 Speaker 1: like a little bundle, like walk around the studio, like 334 00:18:16,000 --> 00:18:19,520 Speaker 1: move the move the air, because you'll be in those 335 00:18:19,560 --> 00:18:23,040 Speaker 1: workout classes and sometimes people be like fucking crazy, like 336 00:18:23,440 --> 00:18:25,280 Speaker 1: crazy energy is coming off of people. 337 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:26,960 Speaker 2: And yeahtimes it's. 338 00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:30,960 Speaker 1: Like mad competitive or like I remember taking a class 339 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:32,680 Speaker 1: one time where it was like, oh my god, we're 340 00:18:32,680 --> 00:18:34,639 Speaker 1: all in this class is not a private Like you 341 00:18:34,760 --> 00:18:39,040 Speaker 1: can't keep stopping and having the teacher explain everything to you. 342 00:18:39,119 --> 00:18:42,159 Speaker 1: You should have taken an introduction, you know what I mean? Like, 343 00:18:42,520 --> 00:18:47,320 Speaker 1: oh no, so she resets the room and she resets 344 00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:49,560 Speaker 1: the energy, you know, And like, I think that's the 345 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:51,600 Speaker 1: same thing that you're talking about. It's like you came 346 00:18:51,640 --> 00:18:54,000 Speaker 1: back from this big job. You see your house with 347 00:18:54,119 --> 00:18:56,040 Speaker 1: fresh eyes. I did the same thing when when I 348 00:18:56,119 --> 00:18:57,920 Speaker 1: came back from the last job that I was in, 349 00:18:58,040 --> 00:19:00,280 Speaker 1: I like was like, oh, this closet is too full 350 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:02,240 Speaker 1: of clothes. I need to get rid of stuff. This 351 00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:05,040 Speaker 1: is yeah, why do we have all these toddler toys? 352 00:19:05,160 --> 00:19:07,200 Speaker 1: She's not a toddler anymore, you know? 353 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:10,160 Speaker 2: Right, Oh my god, I got rid of like five 354 00:19:10,280 --> 00:19:11,159 Speaker 2: bags of toys. 355 00:19:11,520 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 3: Damn. 356 00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:16,760 Speaker 4: It was great because we definitely had a jump and 357 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:19,200 Speaker 4: even I asked Axel. I was like, Axel, can I 358 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:23,560 Speaker 4: donate all these paw patrol toys or whatever not patrol 359 00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:24,719 Speaker 4: PJ masks? 360 00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 2: And he looked at it. He was like, yeah, like 361 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:28,800 Speaker 2: I don't. 362 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:31,320 Speaker 1: Wow, that's I don't want to care about those guys anymore. 363 00:19:31,520 --> 00:19:34,920 Speaker 2: I don't care about those guys. I'm not four. I 364 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:35,560 Speaker 2: had five. 365 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:39,520 Speaker 1: Miss Meanwhile, ros went to a party that was a 366 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:42,960 Speaker 1: a what are they called the mask, PJ MA the 367 00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:45,520 Speaker 1: PJ masks. It was like PJ mask theme and she 368 00:19:45,680 --> 00:19:48,480 Speaker 1: was like enthralled because you've never seen it before. And 369 00:19:48,560 --> 00:19:51,240 Speaker 1: I was like I'm starting now, Honey, Like, sorry about it. 370 00:19:51,359 --> 00:19:53,160 Speaker 1: You gonna miss out on that boat? 371 00:19:53,280 --> 00:19:53,560 Speaker 4: Baby? 372 00:19:55,080 --> 00:19:57,400 Speaker 1: Nope, no, no, no oh. 373 00:19:57,600 --> 00:19:59,640 Speaker 2: But the theme song is so catchy. Don't you want 374 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:01,440 Speaker 2: it to be stuck in your head for days on it? 375 00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 1: I absolutely don't. I would prefer any Disney musical, any 376 00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:09,119 Speaker 1: Disney musical, I would prefer if any of you know 377 00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:15,159 Speaker 1: that about me already, you're not surprised any Disney musical, 378 00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:19,080 Speaker 1: any of them. You choose Hercules, Bless my Soul, hercusan 379 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:20,920 Speaker 1: a roll. Do you have to pay rights for that? 380 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:21,520 Speaker 2: Okay? 381 00:20:23,880 --> 00:20:26,880 Speaker 1: What about like toxic people or situations that you want 382 00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:30,360 Speaker 1: to escape. Like what about like resetting a friendship? Can 383 00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:32,160 Speaker 1: you reset a friendship? I don't know if you can. 384 00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:36,159 Speaker 1: I think I think I've tried, but I definitely have 385 00:20:36,240 --> 00:20:37,800 Speaker 1: not seated in our friendship. 386 00:20:37,960 --> 00:20:41,159 Speaker 4: Oh like like oh like resetting the friendship, like this 387 00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:44,159 Speaker 4: is not working and we're going to try to improve it. 388 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:49,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's very I have succeeded once in that I 389 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:49,760 Speaker 1: have to. 390 00:20:49,920 --> 00:20:51,320 Speaker 2: Actually I just saw have one. Yeah. 391 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:54,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, it was a very hard, honest conversation. There were 392 00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:59,359 Speaker 1: a lot of times, yes, but it really has helped 393 00:20:59,440 --> 00:21:02,520 Speaker 1: me see this friend in a totally different light and 394 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:06,000 Speaker 1: like give her a lot more grace. And I think 395 00:21:06,119 --> 00:21:07,240 Speaker 1: she was able to give. 396 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:08,240 Speaker 2: Me more grace. 397 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, because we're sort of honest about like I don't 398 00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:15,280 Speaker 1: like when you do this, or I I don't like 399 00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:17,720 Speaker 1: when you do this. It doesn't this feels hard to 400 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:20,000 Speaker 1: me or whatever, like and you know, a lot of 401 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,119 Speaker 1: our friendships, I think a lot of people's friendships and 402 00:21:22,160 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 1: adulthood are based around like work relationships. So it's to 403 00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:30,080 Speaker 1: be tricky too, because like sometimes the sometimes there's like 404 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:34,600 Speaker 1: an inequality and like power there maybe like someone sure 405 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:39,080 Speaker 1: end of your boss or like you know, you're underneath them, yeah. 406 00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:43,439 Speaker 4: Or someone's like killing it. Yeah, And yeah, it can 407 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:46,320 Speaker 4: be tricky. It can get tricky. It can get really tricky. Yeah. 408 00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:50,200 Speaker 4: I found though, since I had a friendship reset once 409 00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:52,600 Speaker 4: and it was a very old friend and it was 410 00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:54,920 Speaker 4: kind of after I became a mom, and I sort 411 00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:56,840 Speaker 4: of felt like the friend wasn't. 412 00:21:57,520 --> 00:22:01,000 Speaker 1: Ingrained in my new life, right, like I same thing 413 00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:03,280 Speaker 1: that happened to me. I was like, yeah, where'd you go? 414 00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:06,800 Speaker 4: And it was very telling that with some people, I 415 00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:09,480 Speaker 4: was like, well, that's not surprising, like they've dropped off, 416 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:12,680 Speaker 4: you know, they've disappeared. But this person, I was like, 417 00:22:12,800 --> 00:22:15,960 Speaker 4: this is very upsetting to me. And that kind of 418 00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:18,680 Speaker 4: told me that that was a friendship I still cared 419 00:22:18,800 --> 00:22:21,280 Speaker 4: very deeply about. That was very important to me. And 420 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,360 Speaker 4: so I had the like hard conversation being like, Hey, 421 00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:27,359 Speaker 4: I feel like you're being a shitty friend. I feel 422 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:30,920 Speaker 4: like I've gone through this big life change and you 423 00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,119 Speaker 4: don't know anything about it and you don't know anything 424 00:22:33,119 --> 00:22:36,560 Speaker 4: about my kid, and yeah, you know care and it 425 00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:37,639 Speaker 4: feels gross and. 426 00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:38,320 Speaker 2: I don't like it. 427 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:42,000 Speaker 4: And it was a really hard conversation and the person 428 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:46,320 Speaker 4: was a little defensive at first, and it took actually 429 00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,480 Speaker 4: another friend of theirs outside that doesn't even know me 430 00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:53,680 Speaker 4: at the time. Wow, And they said to them, oh, well, 431 00:22:53,800 --> 00:22:56,760 Speaker 4: she's just mostly just fighting for your friendship, Like she's 432 00:22:56,920 --> 00:23:00,200 Speaker 4: just trying to fight for you to be back and 433 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:02,720 Speaker 4: like her life in the way you've always been. And 434 00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:05,320 Speaker 4: then that's what made the person go like, oh, and 435 00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:07,440 Speaker 4: then we have another good and then it was great 436 00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:09,840 Speaker 4: after that, and then they came out to visit and 437 00:23:09,920 --> 00:23:14,000 Speaker 4: spend time and like our relationship has been what it 438 00:23:14,240 --> 00:23:17,440 Speaker 4: used to always be ever since, you know, And I 439 00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:21,240 Speaker 4: find that it is that if you have that like 440 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:26,000 Speaker 4: whole of like I can't I want to say something. 441 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:28,399 Speaker 4: It's gonna be so hard, it's gonna be so uncomfortable, 442 00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:33,359 Speaker 4: but like I cannot let go without saying the things 443 00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:35,440 Speaker 4: that I feel like I need to say. And then 444 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:37,920 Speaker 4: there're some friends I feel like, especially as I get older, 445 00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:40,040 Speaker 4: I'm like, Nope, I do not. 446 00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:40,680 Speaker 3: Have it in me. 447 00:23:41,119 --> 00:23:47,119 Speaker 4: It girl bye you never Yeah, I'm gonna maybe ghost 448 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,280 Speaker 4: a little bit, and but or like just like not 449 00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:55,520 Speaker 4: try as much and I send you many blessings. 450 00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,840 Speaker 1: I'm not like trying to send any bad jus. 451 00:23:57,920 --> 00:23:58,560 Speaker 3: You your way. 452 00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:02,720 Speaker 1: Oh my god, God, that's so funny. Oh, bless her heart, 453 00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:07,960 Speaker 1: I send your blessing. I send her blessing. That's so funny, 454 00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:14,240 Speaker 1: God damn it. But also yeah, it's it's I'm okay 455 00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:17,879 Speaker 1: if I don't see you. You know you really said it, 456 00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:21,520 Speaker 1: though it's like you were that person said it. Mollis. 457 00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:24,280 Speaker 1: Is fighting for your friendship right, like a reason that 458 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:27,280 Speaker 1: you choose is you choosing to go I'm going to 459 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:30,240 Speaker 1: fight for something, right, I'm going to fight for that yes, 460 00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:33,640 Speaker 1: thing that I want. I'm going to fight to clear 461 00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:37,639 Speaker 1: out five bags of my kids toys of yeah, PJ masks. 462 00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:40,640 Speaker 1: I almost said Pa patrol that. It wasn't like I'm 463 00:24:40,680 --> 00:24:42,600 Speaker 1: going to fight for this friendship. I'm going to fight 464 00:24:42,680 --> 00:24:45,359 Speaker 1: for this like you know, new way of dealing with 465 00:24:45,560 --> 00:24:49,080 Speaker 1: my emotions or whatever, or I'm going to fight against 466 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:52,240 Speaker 1: this like I mean, I'm thinking of my friend with 467 00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:55,440 Speaker 1: that crazy birth was like I'm still going to fight 468 00:24:55,560 --> 00:24:57,640 Speaker 1: to have Like I'm not going to take this as 469 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:01,040 Speaker 1: like a failure on my part, like oh I failed, 470 00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:03,600 Speaker 1: you know, I didn't have the birth that I wanted. 471 00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,159 Speaker 1: But I'm still going to like use this moment to 472 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:10,359 Speaker 1: go like, well, there's not like Pollyanna ing it and 473 00:25:10,520 --> 00:25:12,879 Speaker 1: like going like there's still just look at the positives, 474 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:15,520 Speaker 1: but like, okay, well, what else is happening here? Like 475 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:17,359 Speaker 1: what else is in this moment? 476 00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:17,760 Speaker 3: Right? 477 00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:19,640 Speaker 2: Like it's still the birth of your child. 478 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:23,399 Speaker 4: It's still an incredible, amazing event that made Yeah, was 479 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,639 Speaker 4: she able to reset in the in the middle of 480 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:27,639 Speaker 4: it or do you know? 481 00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:31,119 Speaker 1: I think she? I think it was, Like honestly, I 482 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:34,159 Speaker 1: think it scarred her because when I was coming up 483 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:36,560 Speaker 1: with a birth plan, and for those of you don't 484 00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:41,240 Speaker 1: that don't have kids, a lot of doctors and doulas 485 00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:44,320 Speaker 1: and people that are helping birth a baby will tell 486 00:25:44,359 --> 00:25:45,800 Speaker 1: you to come up with like a plan of like 487 00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:48,280 Speaker 1: what you want to have happened? What's your ideal situation 488 00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:50,280 Speaker 1: when you have a baby, Like I don't want to 489 00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:52,600 Speaker 1: feel anything, and she just slides right out in ten minutes, 490 00:25:52,640 --> 00:25:54,600 Speaker 1: you know, Like that would be an ideal situation, a 491 00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,800 Speaker 1: great birth plan. Is it realistic? Probably not if it's 492 00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:01,280 Speaker 1: your first baby. But like when I was coming up 493 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:05,359 Speaker 1: with a birthlan, she was so adamant that I. 494 00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:07,280 Speaker 3: Not. 495 00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,080 Speaker 1: She well she wasn't like adamant, but she was like, 496 00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:13,160 Speaker 1: I don't know if you should get induced. I don't 497 00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:14,200 Speaker 1: know if you should get in and do this because 498 00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:17,320 Speaker 1: like a lot of inductions end with the cesarean, and like, 499 00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:19,000 Speaker 1: I just don't want you to have to have a cesarean. 500 00:26:19,080 --> 00:26:22,040 Speaker 1: And I was like, there's no controlling this, Like there's 501 00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:25,560 Speaker 1: no there's no real controlling this. There might be a 502 00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:28,320 Speaker 1: situation in which that is what ends up happening, and 503 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:32,600 Speaker 1: like I don't I'm not signing up to have one necessarily, 504 00:26:32,680 --> 00:26:35,399 Speaker 1: but like I'm not. I just want to come through this. 505 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:37,560 Speaker 1: I just want to come through this. I just want 506 00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:40,680 Speaker 1: to come through this. And so like maybe at the end, yeah, 507 00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,440 Speaker 1: And she kept talking about like how much recovery it was, 508 00:26:43,520 --> 00:26:46,160 Speaker 1: and I understand, it's a lot of recovery. I actually 509 00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,320 Speaker 1: don't understand because I didn't have one. It is, but 510 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:51,320 Speaker 1: you know what, your vagina is still intact after the 511 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:56,040 Speaker 1: sea section. Shout out to my C section sisters. Shout 512 00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:58,800 Speaker 1: out to those of you that can still poop like 513 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:00,400 Speaker 1: you used to be able to poop. 514 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,080 Speaker 2: I did not have a C section. 515 00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:06,040 Speaker 1: But and that's another episode next week. I'm more better, 516 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:08,639 Speaker 1: just kidding. You know all this, you know some people, 517 00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:12,359 Speaker 1: I get it. It is a it is a rougher recovery, 518 00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:16,120 Speaker 1: but yeah, I think she's your vagina still looks the same. 519 00:27:18,520 --> 00:27:22,600 Speaker 1: So there are pluses and minuses on both sides. Listen 520 00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:26,520 Speaker 1: to all things, to all things. I think the reset 521 00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:29,359 Speaker 1: of like having a baby is a big one, you know, 522 00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:31,280 Speaker 1: huge huge. 523 00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:37,040 Speaker 4: That is a huge top to bottom reset, top to 524 00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:39,800 Speaker 4: top to booty, top to booty too. 525 00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:42,560 Speaker 1: You can cut that out if you need to. Guys, 526 00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 1: just talking to our producers, they're probably horrified right now 527 00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:49,119 Speaker 1: that we're talking about this. 528 00:27:51,000 --> 00:27:52,280 Speaker 2: I do feel like. 529 00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:59,680 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's about having the understanding that like it's not 530 00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:02,520 Speaker 1: so this is where this is where the deity stuff 531 00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,840 Speaker 1: comes in, right, Like I on one hand, it's cool 532 00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:12,080 Speaker 1: that we're all interested in like longevity and having our 533 00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:16,119 Speaker 1: hearts work well and not having a build up of 534 00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:20,560 Speaker 1: cholesterol in our veins and and you know, having systems 535 00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:23,560 Speaker 1: that work well and support us for living as long 536 00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:24,160 Speaker 1: of a life as. 537 00:28:24,160 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 2: Aging gracefully whatever that means or just. 538 00:28:28,040 --> 00:28:31,040 Speaker 1: Plain aging like that would a privilege to get old, right. 539 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:35,480 Speaker 1: But like on the other hanging and I remember doing 540 00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:39,040 Speaker 1: like juice cleanses and stuff, and you know, it's like 541 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:42,760 Speaker 1: I'm gonna reset my system, and like maybe that's the 542 00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:46,320 Speaker 1: case for you if you're doing a juice cleanse. But 543 00:28:46,640 --> 00:28:48,280 Speaker 1: the case for me was like I want to lose 544 00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:52,160 Speaker 1: some weight and like, right, I don't know, like that 545 00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:56,080 Speaker 1: kind of reset is not I don't I don't know 546 00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:59,320 Speaker 1: that that shocking your system and being like hard on 547 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:01,880 Speaker 1: yourself works for everybody. It does work for some people. 548 00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:04,480 Speaker 1: I have a friend who's a trainer. I have a 549 00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:06,840 Speaker 1: friend who's a trainer, and he had this fantastic birthday 550 00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:10,640 Speaker 1: party the other day. It was like in the backyard 551 00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,520 Speaker 1: and it was just a bunch of pizzas and a 552 00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:18,280 Speaker 1: cake and giant bowls of candy. It was amazing. It 553 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,520 Speaker 1: was like being at a lot of kids party, Like 554 00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,040 Speaker 1: they were like get back so he could fill with candy. 555 00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:27,720 Speaker 1: Cu like, Tony, how do you eat like this? You know, 556 00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:30,240 Speaker 1: like this this can't be good for you? And he 557 00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:32,040 Speaker 1: was like, oh, I've been on a diet for three months. 558 00:29:32,080 --> 00:29:33,640 Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, that can't be good for 559 00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:38,400 Speaker 1: you either, Like all right, I could never, but Tony 560 00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:40,800 Speaker 1: can you know? And he like that's like there's some 561 00:29:41,040 --> 00:29:44,040 Speaker 1: kind of like it's like those people that can do 562 00:29:44,160 --> 00:29:47,680 Speaker 1: like ultra marathoning and stuff sometimes where they're like I 563 00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:49,960 Speaker 1: have a goal for my body. I'm going I do 564 00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:51,880 Speaker 1: this so that like I can get to this gool 565 00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:55,760 Speaker 1: like to make myself stronger or whatever. And that's what 566 00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:58,520 Speaker 1: he's doing right. Like that, there's a difference of like 567 00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:00,920 Speaker 1: I have a goal that's a number, and I'm going 568 00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:03,920 Speaker 1: to reset myself to this number, and like everything's going 569 00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:05,760 Speaker 1: to be great. My whole life's going to be perfect, 570 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:07,920 Speaker 1: because like news flash, babe, Like you could do every 571 00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:11,080 Speaker 1: reset ever and like unless you'd be resetting your soul, 572 00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:14,480 Speaker 1: it's not gonna happen. 573 00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:15,040 Speaker 2: You know what I mean. 574 00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:19,000 Speaker 1: It's just not are we doing just outward work or 575 00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:22,360 Speaker 1: are we doing in or to outwards? Sometimes it's just outwards. 576 00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:26,200 Speaker 1: Sometimes it's just outward. Like people think they're going to 577 00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:30,880 Speaker 1: overhaul their like whole life by you know, losing ten 578 00:30:30,960 --> 00:30:34,480 Speaker 1: pounds and that's such a or by getting into a 579 00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:39,360 Speaker 1: relationship or whatever, yeah, breaking up with someone. And sometimes 580 00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,800 Speaker 1: that's true. I will say, like there was a big 581 00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:49,480 Speaker 1: reset for me when I got into this relationship with 582 00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:53,040 Speaker 1: Brad my husband. I don't know if you know, I'm 583 00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:59,040 Speaker 1: married Melissa and my husband's name is brain what, But 584 00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:01,920 Speaker 1: there was that a big reset there because I really 585 00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:05,280 Speaker 1: felt like, for the first time I felt like oh, 586 00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:08,600 Speaker 1: I really deserve to be happy, Like I deserve to 587 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:09,120 Speaker 1: be happy. 588 00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:10,640 Speaker 2: I remember that time. 589 00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:14,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, And it's not like he was the one that 590 00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,240 Speaker 1: was like that was the reason I was happy, But 591 00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:21,560 Speaker 1: I was happy, and it was just kind of feeling like, oh, 592 00:31:21,640 --> 00:31:23,600 Speaker 1: I can be in a relationship that's like kind of 593 00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:27,320 Speaker 1: functioning and I feel good and I feel happy and 594 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 1: we're not fighting all the time, and it's not like 595 00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:32,920 Speaker 1: I don't have to change everything about myself to like 596 00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:35,360 Speaker 1: fit into this idea of what this other person wants 597 00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:35,760 Speaker 1: me to be. 598 00:31:36,240 --> 00:31:36,400 Speaker 3: You know. 599 00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:41,000 Speaker 4: Yeah, that's the thing I remember being like a big 600 00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:43,920 Speaker 4: aha moment for you when you first met him, was like, oh, 601 00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:46,360 Speaker 4: I can just like completely be myselfself. 602 00:31:46,720 --> 00:31:49,280 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, and not have. 603 00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:54,040 Speaker 4: This feeling of wanting to shift or change anything to accommodate, 604 00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:57,720 Speaker 4: which had maybe been something you had done in the past. 605 00:31:57,800 --> 00:32:01,400 Speaker 4: More maybe I threw out something being huge short shorts 606 00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:05,080 Speaker 4: because the person that I was with was struggling with 607 00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:07,440 Speaker 4: my butt out for other people to see. 608 00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:15,560 Speaker 2: So yeah, more better. 609 00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:20,240 Speaker 3: Motter. 610 00:32:22,000 --> 00:32:25,640 Speaker 2: So oh, I thought this was interesting. 611 00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:30,240 Speaker 4: The Stanford end of the History Illusion, they did a 612 00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:34,600 Speaker 4: study and they found psychologists found that people consistently underestimate 613 00:32:34,760 --> 00:32:38,880 Speaker 4: how much they will change in the next decade compared 614 00:32:39,080 --> 00:32:44,040 Speaker 4: to how much they've already changed. Like they just think, well, 615 00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:47,760 Speaker 4: this is this is it that's so weird, right, Like 616 00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:53,719 Speaker 4: it's so weird to me because maybe and I mean, 617 00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:55,800 Speaker 4: this is something you and I have always had in common. 618 00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:58,240 Speaker 4: Why we even started this podcast, why this is even 619 00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:00,840 Speaker 4: like the topic of this podcast is, like, I have 620 00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,640 Speaker 4: no idea who I'm going to be in ten years. No, 621 00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:05,840 Speaker 4: At the same time, I feel like I'm very much, 622 00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:08,480 Speaker 4: in a lot of ways the same person I was 623 00:33:08,680 --> 00:33:13,280 Speaker 4: ten years ago, right in a way. And I think 624 00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:17,520 Speaker 4: just in terms of like core values and like, I 625 00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:21,560 Speaker 4: don't think my personality has changed that much since like ever, 626 00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:27,240 Speaker 4: but I think that I've grown in ways I could 627 00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:31,080 Speaker 4: not have possibly imagined. I think I'm more resilient and 628 00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,400 Speaker 4: tougher than I could have ever imagined. 629 00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:36,640 Speaker 2: Like I thought I was so tough when I was younger, 630 00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:38,600 Speaker 2: and I look back and I'm like, you were a sheep. 631 00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:46,360 Speaker 1: But I looking ahead, I have no idea. 632 00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:47,440 Speaker 2: I have no idea. 633 00:33:49,240 --> 00:33:54,200 Speaker 1: I have aspirations, hopefully of who I'm going to be 634 00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:59,080 Speaker 1: in ten years. I widen my eyes at the same 635 00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:01,440 Speaker 1: time that you said aspirations and I just want you 636 00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:03,640 Speaker 1: to know that that was not because you said aspirations, 637 00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:05,960 Speaker 1: but it was because I was writing down twenty thirty 638 00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:09,800 Speaker 1: five and I was like, what, how how is that 639 00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:13,239 Speaker 1: a real number that we are gonna hopefully be alive for, 640 00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:14,920 Speaker 1: you know, like we're. 641 00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:16,239 Speaker 2: Going to be alive. Yeah. 642 00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:18,480 Speaker 1: So the idea of just like, oh no, I'll just 643 00:34:18,600 --> 00:34:22,879 Speaker 1: be this but ten years older, I don't know. There's 644 00:34:22,920 --> 00:34:26,719 Speaker 1: something that kind of makes me sad about that mentality. 645 00:34:27,040 --> 00:34:29,759 Speaker 1: But also don't you remember being like eighteen and being like, well, 646 00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:30,360 Speaker 1: I guess this is it. 647 00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:31,480 Speaker 4: I mean, this is. 648 00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:35,759 Speaker 1: As this is it. I'm going to be like this 649 00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:36,360 Speaker 1: is it? 650 00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:37,080 Speaker 3: Yeah? 651 00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:41,120 Speaker 4: Or I remember like freaking out about turning thirty goding 652 00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:45,719 Speaker 4: like right, and it was so the beginning of so 653 00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:46,560 Speaker 4: many things. 654 00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:49,520 Speaker 2: I hadn't even broke booked Brooklyn when I came through. 655 00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:54,320 Speaker 1: It, Like I mean, think about brag. But how I 656 00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:55,960 Speaker 1: know everybody has to go through it. They have to 657 00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:58,920 Speaker 1: go through their own little like oh god, I'm so 658 00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:02,719 Speaker 1: terrified it's turning thre you know, I understand that, But 659 00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:06,640 Speaker 1: from the other side of it, it's like brah, you know, 660 00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:10,719 Speaker 1: like it's great, it's awesome, It's there's nothing to be 661 00:35:10,800 --> 00:35:15,480 Speaker 1: scared of. You can be dead inside when you're seventeen, 662 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:18,600 Speaker 1: or you can be the fullest, most alive version of 663 00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:21,000 Speaker 1: yourself when you're eighty seven. It's all about like how 664 00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:30,160 Speaker 1: you're holding that inside, you know. Yeah, I just I 665 00:35:30,239 --> 00:35:33,000 Speaker 1: wrote down twenty thirty five, two thousand and forty five, 666 00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:35,080 Speaker 1: twenty and fifty five, and then I'm going to write 667 00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:37,239 Speaker 1: how old I'm going to be next to each of them. 668 00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:39,400 Speaker 1: But then I stopped doing because my hands started sweating. 669 00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:41,960 Speaker 1: My back's also sweating when I'm thinking about this, So 670 00:35:42,120 --> 00:35:45,640 Speaker 1: apparently I'm also nervous about these resets that are coming 671 00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:46,359 Speaker 1: up in my life. 672 00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:51,360 Speaker 3: More Better. 673 00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:56,080 Speaker 1: Anyway, what'd you learn today? I learned that I'm terrified 674 00:35:56,120 --> 00:35:57,360 Speaker 1: of the future. Jesus. 675 00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,000 Speaker 4: I learned that I think I've been through a lot 676 00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:06,600 Speaker 4: more resets than I ever thought about. And it's all okay, 677 00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:09,800 Speaker 4: but it's all like good. I think most of the resets. 678 00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:11,759 Speaker 4: I mean, of course, there's some. We didn't even talk 679 00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:14,440 Speaker 4: about bad resets. Dealing with bad resets. 680 00:36:15,239 --> 00:36:15,759 Speaker 2: We don't need to. 681 00:36:15,920 --> 00:36:18,239 Speaker 1: This podcast is called More Better. It's okay, you know, 682 00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:26,080 Speaker 1: let's keep it pause. But yeah, but that like I think, 683 00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:30,000 Speaker 1: I think, I really like the idea of a reset. 684 00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:32,640 Speaker 4: I think I like the idea of it being an 685 00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:38,239 Speaker 4: option as a way to like move forward or have 686 00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:42,680 Speaker 4: some or feel just movement, like I'm in control of 687 00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:45,720 Speaker 4: changing the narrative, or I'm in charge, I'm in control 688 00:36:45,880 --> 00:36:49,840 Speaker 4: of reframing the situation right, because that's what sometimes a 689 00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:54,040 Speaker 4: reset is, is just reframing the thing right to help 690 00:36:54,080 --> 00:36:56,400 Speaker 4: yourself work through it or get on the other side 691 00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:58,480 Speaker 4: of it, or process it. 692 00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:01,680 Speaker 1: Take the cartridge out blowing it, put it back to 693 00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:05,080 Speaker 1: blowing it. If you get that reference, we love you 694 00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:07,880 Speaker 1: so much, gen Z is not going to get that 695 00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:10,640 Speaker 1: I love you so much. You're in the right spot. 696 00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:13,279 Speaker 4: If you don't get that reference, Good for you for 697 00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:15,279 Speaker 4: being here, because I did not. 698 00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:21,200 Speaker 1: Seek out this type of narrative when I was your age. 699 00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:24,719 Speaker 1: So welcome, welcome. Do you feel a little more better? 700 00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:26,759 Speaker 1: I always feel a little more better. 701 00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:28,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm with you. 702 00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:33,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, when I'm with you, Okay, I'll talk to you 703 00:37:33,280 --> 00:37:37,640 Speaker 1: next time. 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