WEBVTT - A Day of Gratitude

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, my beautiful boss bees, my honey bees. Happy Thanksgiving Week.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my goodness, Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. As you know,

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<v Speaker 1>if you know me, you know that Thanksgiving is so today,

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<v Speaker 1>and so naturally I wanted to dedicate an entire episode

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<v Speaker 1>to it, and I'm going to be sharing what I'll

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<v Speaker 1>be doing this year, some of my family traditions, and

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm most grateful for. So let's hop into today's episode. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So why do I love Thanksgiving? Yes, yes, because the

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<v Speaker 1>food is great and I like to eat. Yes, But

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like every day should be Thanksgiving, and I

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<v Speaker 1>love the fact that we have at least one day

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<v Speaker 1>out of the year to really just highlight the importance

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<v Speaker 1>of having an attitude of gratitude. I share this a

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<v Speaker 1>lot on the podcast. I share this a lot on

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<v Speaker 1>my social media. The power and being grateful for what

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<v Speaker 1>you have because in the world that we live in,

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<v Speaker 1>in this society, it shows us on social media, on

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<v Speaker 1>our feed. You just think of something that you want,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't even have to verbalize it now, and it

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<v Speaker 1>comes on the feed. I don't know how that happens,

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<v Speaker 1>but it happens. And we're constantly chasing more everything.

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<v Speaker 2>More, and more.

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<v Speaker 1>I want this, I want that, I want what they have,

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<v Speaker 1>what people are portraying on their social media, because a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of it is a facade, guys, sorry to break

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<v Speaker 1>it to you, but a lot of it is just

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<v Speaker 1>for social media, and we just are it's starting our

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<v Speaker 1>face everywhere on ads on television, like what we want

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<v Speaker 1>by this, get that, and so we don't sit and

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<v Speaker 1>just embrace the beauty. That's a lot of things that

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<v Speaker 1>are free, you know, like being able to see the

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<v Speaker 1>sunrise and the sunset and breathing air and running water

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<v Speaker 1>and having a roof over our head. And that's one

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<v Speaker 1>thing I always say, God, thank you so much for

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<v Speaker 1>the roof over my head, for the clothes on my back,

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<v Speaker 1>for the food and my tummy, and my refrigerator, for

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<v Speaker 1>the I have this whole thing that I say because

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<v Speaker 1>there are things that we just overlook because we're constantly like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not making enough money, or I need this, or

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<v Speaker 1>I need to pay that, and we just need to

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<v Speaker 1>sit the heck down on Thanksgiving and be freaking grateful.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's why it's my favorite favorite favorite holiday. We

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to worry about buying gifts and it's just

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<v Speaker 1>we are eating, which we all enjoy and whatever it

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<v Speaker 1>is it you eat. Because a lot of people don't

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<v Speaker 1>eat turkey on Thanksgiving, I like to eat turkey.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very traditional in that way. Some people eat.

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<v Speaker 1>Them alis and all, you know, whatever it is that

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<v Speaker 1>you eat in your country or from where you're from.

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<v Speaker 1>But the point is it's a moment to gather with

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<v Speaker 1>your loved ones, to just really sit in your thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>and in your grateful spirit. And that's why I absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>love Thanksgiving and I have a lot of great memories

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<v Speaker 1>around Thanksgiving with my mom, with my siblings on the

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<v Speaker 1>reality show if you guys watched I Love Jen. It

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<v Speaker 1>was a huge holiday for us, and my mom knew

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<v Speaker 1>it was my absolute favorite Thanksgiving, and unfortunately, I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>able to celebrate or to spend the last Thanksgiving that

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<v Speaker 1>my mom had on Earth with her. We were not

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<v Speaker 1>on talking terms and I had to spend it and

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<v Speaker 1>not had to. It was actually an honor and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so grateful that I spent it with one of my

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<v Speaker 1>very good friends, Brianna, who has been on the podcast

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<v Speaker 1>Missed Brianna Hauser, and they opened up the doors to

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<v Speaker 1>their home and since then they've been a family to

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<v Speaker 1>me because they didn't have to do that, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was just as sad as it was not to spend

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<v Speaker 1>it with my siblings and with my mom not knowing

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<v Speaker 1>obviously was going to be her last Thanksgiving. I spent

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<v Speaker 1>it with a beautiful family and we did exactly what

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<v Speaker 1>I just said. I wasn't with my family, but I

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<v Speaker 1>was with a family, eating delicious food and talking about

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<v Speaker 1>how grateful we are, and that's what we like to do.

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<v Speaker 1>My siblings and I are very on the same page

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes to that. We like to pray for

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<v Speaker 1>our food, and usually I cook. This year, I'm not cooking.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll get into that right now. But usually it's let's pray,

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<v Speaker 1>let's all gather. I want everyone that's supposed to be

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<v Speaker 1>there to be there. We won't eat until the last

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<v Speaker 1>person gets there, which is usually Mikey, my brother.

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<v Speaker 2>Mike.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't get upset, but it's usually the last one, and

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<v Speaker 1>we wait, and we pray, and we will go around

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<v Speaker 1>the table and say hey, especially to the kids, because

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<v Speaker 1>we need to plant that seed in their heart and

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<v Speaker 1>in their mind that being grateful is important. So we

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<v Speaker 1>always ask them, what are at least three things that

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<v Speaker 1>you're grateful for right now, and they could be silly

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<v Speaker 1>things to us, but to them they mean a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think it is important to open up the

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<v Speaker 1>table and the time for the adults and the children.

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<v Speaker 1>And I love that, like I love doing that. Usually

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<v Speaker 1>we don't dress up when it's at my house. It's

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<v Speaker 1>usually been at my house Thanksgiving. I love it because

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<v Speaker 1>I love to host it because by the time I'm

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<v Speaker 1>done cooking, I'm tired and I don't want to wear makeup.

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<v Speaker 1>So this year we're going to spend it at Jenica's house.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how we decided that. I think actually

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<v Speaker 1>it was because Jenica's house is so cozy and everyone

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<v Speaker 1>you know, she just got it not so long ago,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's just so cozy. It's just so cute, and

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<v Speaker 1>we want to celebrate this big moment for her. She

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<v Speaker 1>bought her her second home. I think that's how it happened.

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<v Speaker 1>And she's a great cook. I might help. She hasn't

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<v Speaker 1>asked me to yet. But at first I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, I can't believe that we're going to

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<v Speaker 1>break a tradition. But I think this is starting a

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<v Speaker 1>new tradition, and I'm excited to just be a guest

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<v Speaker 1>and have time to brush my hair and put on

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<v Speaker 1>some makeup and just enjoy because usually I'm the one

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<v Speaker 1>to host, and I love to host guys, so I

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<v Speaker 1>won't sit down. Emilio's always like, baby, can you just

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<v Speaker 1>sit down enjoy your food? Like, just relax. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how, Like, I just want to make

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<v Speaker 1>sure everyone has something to drink. And I'm actually looking

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<v Speaker 1>forward to not worrying I might make a dish. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what I'm going to make, but Jenica, I

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<v Speaker 1>know can handle it. Usually make the turkey. My turkey

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<v Speaker 1>is always delicious. I bake one and I fry one.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't got to worry about the house being a mess

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<v Speaker 1>this year. But I'm excited that I'm still going to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to spend it with my siblings, my husband

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<v Speaker 1>because it is my first Thanksgiving as a married woman.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys, Oh my gosh, for the first time in

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<v Speaker 1>years that I don't have to wear my Signora hat

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<v Speaker 1>on that day, so I could just be a cute

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<v Speaker 1>little wife. So I'm excited about that, and most likely

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<v Speaker 1>for sure all my siblings and the kids, my nieces

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<v Speaker 1>and nephews will be there. I think Immedio's mom and

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<v Speaker 1>his grandma, who I absolutely love. She's my grandma too,

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<v Speaker 1>but don't call her grandma.

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<v Speaker 2>She likes amma.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think they'll probably be joining us because Amedio's family,

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<v Speaker 1>which is great.

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<v Speaker 2>It works out.

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<v Speaker 1>Actually, they have Thanksgiving like at eleven AM or one

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<v Speaker 1>pm the latest, and they're done by four. They're like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>get out of the house by you know. So it's

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<v Speaker 1>perfect because in our family we usually start at like

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<v Speaker 1>six seven pm. So it works out wonderfully. So I

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<v Speaker 1>can go do that and then come hang out with

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<v Speaker 1>the family and eat. So yeah, and you know, we're

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<v Speaker 1>very traditional. We make the turkey, we make the mashed

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<v Speaker 1>potato from scratch. The macaroni and cheese. I make this

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<v Speaker 1>like macaroni and cheese that has like Doritos on top

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<v Speaker 1>of it. I'm not making it this year because Jenica

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely surpassed my recipe. She just made it the other

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<v Speaker 1>day for a friend of hers. Some macaroni and cheese.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, you guys, ah amazing. I will take

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<v Speaker 1>pictures and you guys will see it on my feed.

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<v Speaker 1>But that is what we're going to be doing. And

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<v Speaker 1>we also like to do you know, the stuffing and

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<v Speaker 1>a green. Jackie's usually the one in charge. My sister

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<v Speaker 1>Jackie's usually the one in charge to make either mushrooms

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<v Speaker 1>or spinach or some type of green because we need greens.

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<v Speaker 2>And of course the corn bread. Oh my gosh, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>looking forward to cornbread.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm assuming Jennica is going to make all of

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<v Speaker 1>this because she has not asked me to make anything.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll probably take some soda or something. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to back in the days, guys, I used

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<v Speaker 1>to wake up early and do all the Black Friday

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<v Speaker 1>shopping and go to Best Buy and try to get

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<v Speaker 1>the best TV and all that stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't do that anymore. That was I want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Say, at least fifteen years ago. I would wait in

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<v Speaker 1>those lines at four in the morning. Or we did

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<v Speaker 1>this one time that they were doing something I think

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<v Speaker 1>at one of the electronic stores, I don't remember which one.

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<v Speaker 1>They were having this amazing crazy sell and everyone was there,

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<v Speaker 1>like I want to say, like it seemed like to

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<v Speaker 1>be right after Thanksgiving dinner, but it got so crazy

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<v Speaker 1>after that, I'm like, I'm not doing this. We waited

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<v Speaker 1>in line, we basically camped out. How to chair the

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<v Speaker 1>whole thing and all to buy. It was a television

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<v Speaker 1>like a sound system thing, and it was insane. The

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<v Speaker 1>amount of like when they opened the doors and how

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<v Speaker 1>everyone was rushing through. It was just not cute. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not doing it again. So I'm just going to

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<v Speaker 1>do a lot of online shopping and of course on

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<v Speaker 1>my brands, we will definitely have great deals for you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>so look forward to that. I mean, I just had

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<v Speaker 1>to bring up Black Friday because it's literally the next

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<v Speaker 1>day after Thanksgiving. I've always wondered why Thanksgiving lands on

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<v Speaker 1>a Thursday. I don't know if there's a reason for that.

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<v Speaker 1>But anyways, back to the food, because the food's important.

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<v Speaker 1>I always say Sundays no one gains weight. You can

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<v Speaker 1>eat whatever you want on Sundays because it's the Lord's

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<v Speaker 1>Day and calories do not count. Obviously, you know, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to limit yourself, but anything and access is

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<v Speaker 1>bad for you. Anything, don't be excessive. But on Thanksgiving, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like this same that's.

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<v Speaker 2>The same rule.

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<v Speaker 1>You can eat whatever you want, and you know, if

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<v Speaker 1>you pray for your food, especially if you ask God

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<v Speaker 1>for it not to affect you in a negative way

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<v Speaker 1>and make you gain weight, you won't. So I don't

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily limit myself per se. I'll eat everything in like

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<v Speaker 1>my everyday life, including Thanksgiving, but of course portion control

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<v Speaker 1>that's been important to me. So I'll have a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of everything, and I'll have seconds and of course dessert.

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<v Speaker 1>But I definitely like to try everything because then the

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<v Speaker 1>next morning I'll wake up and I'm like, oh, I

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<v Speaker 1>want this. Why didn't I have that? And I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to regret it. So that's kind of how I

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<v Speaker 1>do it in my everyday life. You know, if I'm

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<v Speaker 1>trying to be good during the week and I want

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<v Speaker 1>some chocolate cake, I'll have a little bit for sure,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if I worked out, and I like to work

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<v Speaker 1>out on Thanksgiving. So we're working out on Thanksgiving, Pape okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and meeting it's right here. He's sitting right in front

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<v Speaker 1>of me. He thinks I'm crazy he's working, but I

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<v Speaker 1>think Equinox is open on Thanksgiving? My love, are we going?

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<v Speaker 2>Sure? He's over me? Are you over me? Or you

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<v Speaker 2>love me? How much are you going to be grateful

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<v Speaker 2>for me this Thanksgiving?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? I love it, guys. I just thought it would

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<v Speaker 1>be cute for you guys to hear that. But now,

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<v Speaker 1>if you know, we should definitely talk about you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm grateful for this year, and a lot has happened, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>This year has been full of ups and downs. Mainly

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<v Speaker 1>ups for sure, but a few very low moments, but

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<v Speaker 1>they've balanced each other out in some way.

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<v Speaker 2>I've had a lot of work.

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<v Speaker 1>I have been more tired than I've been in the

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<v Speaker 1>last I don't know how many years. I haven't felt

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<v Speaker 1>this amount of fatigue or like on the verge of

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<v Speaker 1>a mental breakdown in a very long time, in years

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<v Speaker 1>and years. But thank goodness, I've done the work. I've

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<v Speaker 1>done therapy, I meditate, I've learned to do all these

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<v Speaker 1>healthy things that make me feel like my healthy self.

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<v Speaker 1>Even if I'm having a bad day, I know how

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<v Speaker 1>to navigate through it and work through it. But it

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<v Speaker 1>has been a tough year. But I'm very, very grateful

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<v Speaker 1>for everything that's happened, even the miscarriage. Guys, it might

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<v Speaker 1>sound weird, but I'm grateful. I'm grateful. Only God knows

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<v Speaker 1>why it happened, and it just it helped me understand

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<v Speaker 1>that my body is doing what it needs to do

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<v Speaker 1>and that I'm going to be okay, and as painful

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<v Speaker 1>as it was emotionally, I'm grateful for that because it

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<v Speaker 1>brought it me to and I and I've always said,

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm going to conceive, I do want to be married,

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<v Speaker 1>and we weren't married.

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<v Speaker 2>Yet, so I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>It just helped me understand a lot of my life

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<v Speaker 1>and why things have happened, and I shared all of

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<v Speaker 1>that with you guys on the podcast already. But I

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<v Speaker 1>am definitely grateful for my husband and the relationship that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm in right now and enjoying it, and grateful for

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<v Speaker 1>my past as well, because if none of that would

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<v Speaker 1>have happened, then I wouldn't be able to really enjoy

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<v Speaker 1>and embrace what I'm living now. So I'm grateful for

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<v Speaker 1>my siblings, for my nieces and nephews. Oh my gosh, Jayla,

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<v Speaker 1>the eldest granddaughter is fifteen, now, what the f Literally,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm grateful that I'm going to be able to spend

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<v Speaker 1>some time with them. We're going to New York on

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<v Speaker 1>a trip on a girl's trip for her birthday, so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really excited for that. I'm excited for the amount

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<v Speaker 1>of work guys that we've had, so.

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<v Speaker 2>There's a lot to be grateful for.

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<v Speaker 1>And yes, we all have those moments where we are sad.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, I just had a little breakdown last week, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>I did. I was not feeling it. I something was

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<v Speaker 1>going on, and all I needed was to rest. I

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<v Speaker 1>literally slept and I felt better. So make sure you

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<v Speaker 1>guys are listening to your body. Be grateful that your

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<v Speaker 1>that your body speaks to you. We just have to listen.

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<v Speaker 1>We have to quiet our mind and listen to what

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<v Speaker 1>our body is saying and not ignore those things and

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<v Speaker 1>try to push through. It's very important to rest your mind,

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<v Speaker 1>your body, your soul, to listen to it and honor that.

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<v Speaker 1>And yeah, that among so many things that I'm grateful for.

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<v Speaker 1>And now that we're here talking about being grateful, some

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<v Speaker 1>people may be going through a tough time, through somewhat

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<v Speaker 1>of a dark season in your life. I was there

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<v Speaker 1>in twenty twelve. Like I just mentioned, I was in

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<v Speaker 1>a very very very bad state emotionally mentally. But that

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<v Speaker 1>day I remember waking up I said, you know what, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going through this. I'm very sad. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>my life is falling apart. I remember that day waking

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<v Speaker 1>up and saying, okay, it's Thanksgiving. Today is the day

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<v Speaker 1>where we highlight being grateful. And I'm like, yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>need to be grateful. It would be a disservice to myself,

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<v Speaker 1>to God, to how good He's been to me to

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<v Speaker 1>not be grateful today and try to put a smile

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<v Speaker 1>on my face and put all those things to the

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<v Speaker 1>side for a moment and just live and just say

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<v Speaker 1>out loud what I'm grateful for. And I sat in

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<v Speaker 1>my little one bedroom. I was living in a garage

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<v Speaker 1>actually then, and I turned the only bedroom into a closet,

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<v Speaker 1>very Janet fashion, and I was sleeping in the living

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<v Speaker 1>room basically, and I'll never forget that apartment. I felt

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<v Speaker 1>so much peace. But I sat on my bed by myself,

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<v Speaker 1>I read a devotional, prayed, and I set it out loud.

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<v Speaker 1>I am grateful that I'm here. I'm grateful that I

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<v Speaker 1>have a roof over my head. I'm grateful that I

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<v Speaker 1>have this space where I feel safe. You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>live in the garage of a wonderful lady and her daughters,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're very nice to me. And I'm like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be okay, I'm gonna be okay, this too shall pass.

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<v Speaker 1>I kept telling myself that, and then I got a message, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>would you like to come spend Thanksgiving with us? And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh my gosh, I don't have to eat cereal.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was grateful for that. So I think there's definitely,

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<v Speaker 1>as cliche as it may sound, there is always something

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<v Speaker 1>that we can look at and be grateful for, even

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<v Speaker 1>if we're going through those tough times, if we if

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<v Speaker 1>it's our first Thanksgiving without our loved one. I went

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<v Speaker 1>through that as well the following year. Not only was

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<v Speaker 1>my mom on earth in twenty twelve and I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>able to spend it with her, the following year was

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<v Speaker 1>my first Thanksgiving with my siblings without my mom, and

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<v Speaker 1>that was very different.

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<v Speaker 2>And of course we just sat around and we're.

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<v Speaker 1>Thinking about all the beautiful moments we spent with her

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<v Speaker 1>and laughed and listened to her music and watch movies

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<v Speaker 1>and we did things that made our heart feel good.

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<v Speaker 2>So I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not alone. It will be okay. You just really

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<v Speaker 1>have to dig deep and inward and find at least

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<v Speaker 1>one thing to be grateful for, because there's always something

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<v Speaker 1>to be thankful for. So that is Thanksgiving, guys, that

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<v Speaker 1>is this is the week. I think, like I said earlier,

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<v Speaker 1>every day we should be grateful and have an attitude

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<v Speaker 1>of gratitude because I feel like when we do that,

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<v Speaker 1>we attract more good into our life. And it's not

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<v Speaker 1>just just to say it, it's you really have to

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<v Speaker 1>mean it. So I hope that you guys have a

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<v Speaker 1>wonderful Thanksgiving and take the time by yourself in the

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<v Speaker 1>morning or whenever you can before cooking, after cooking, to

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<v Speaker 1>sit by yourself and really just reflect and sit in

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<v Speaker 1>that atmosphere of thankfulness, and then do it with your family.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I just.

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<v Speaker 1>Needed to talk about it and express all these things,

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<v Speaker 1>and hopefully you guys enjoyed this episode and hopefully I

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<v Speaker 1>reminded you of a few things that maybe because of life,

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<v Speaker 1>because we're life in. Because life be life in, we

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<v Speaker 1>forget about. And if you are spending it alone this Thanksgiving,

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<v Speaker 1>do not worry.

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<v Speaker 2>It's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes being alone is beautiful because you can listen to

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<v Speaker 1>your thoughts, you can do whatever the heck you want

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<v Speaker 1>to do. So find something that is going to make

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<v Speaker 1>you feel good, that it's going to make you happy

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<v Speaker 1>and feed your soul. Okay, it doesn't have to be

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<v Speaker 1>a traditional Thanksgiving dinner. It could be I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>an order from popeyees, anything that you can pray for

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<v Speaker 1>and be grateful for. So AnyWho, guys, I love you, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>am also very grateful for you for taking the time

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<v Speaker 1>each and every single one of you, and I will

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