1 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:11,960 Speaker 1: Hi everyone, and welcome back to Golden Hour. We're here 2 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:16,560 Speaker 1: for part two with Jess and Spencer. Let's get into it. 3 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 2: How about the holidays? Did you get to spend those together? 4 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:22,319 Speaker 2: We did? 5 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:24,680 Speaker 3: We did? Yeah, Yeah, it was amazing. 6 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 4: We actually a family tradition of hers is going to 7 00:00:28,640 --> 00:00:29,920 Speaker 4: the biltmore that. 8 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's beautiful, beautiful. 9 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:39,279 Speaker 3: Yeah, so I like, sign up for next year. 10 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:44,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm I'm like, I love houses in real estate, 11 00:00:44,440 --> 00:00:47,080 Speaker 4: Like me and my mom would walk neighborhoods and just 12 00:00:47,120 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 4: look at houses. 13 00:00:47,880 --> 00:00:49,880 Speaker 3: Sometimes I'm like, you love this one. 14 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:52,879 Speaker 4: So it was fun and we got to do this 15 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:58,440 Speaker 4: Eve and we actually drove we loved Dallas to Tennessee, 16 00:00:59,160 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 4: stayed for about nine days, was it? 17 00:01:01,640 --> 00:01:01,880 Speaker 1: Yeah? 18 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:08,040 Speaker 4: Nine days? Did Christmas Eve in Tennessee? Christmas Eve? Was 19 00:01:08,080 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 4: it day that we drove? It was Christmas Day. We 20 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:13,320 Speaker 4: drove back to Dallas. All my family was here, my 21 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 4: brothers flew in, and we had the rest of our 22 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 4: Christmas part two here in Dallas. 23 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 3: And we did that living in Salt Lake with his 24 00:01:20,600 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 3: dad and brothers. 25 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:24,959 Speaker 1: So what traditions do you guys? I mean, that sounds 26 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:28,080 Speaker 1: like a great tradition to or a great holiday this year. 27 00:01:28,360 --> 00:01:30,840 Speaker 1: What traditions. Do you guys want to start? Have you 28 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: started any yet? 29 00:01:33,240 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're going ahead. 30 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 4: I love My family does not have a ton of traditions. 31 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:43,480 Speaker 4: One tradition that her family has, would you like to 32 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:44,839 Speaker 4: tell them about the pickle present? 33 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 3: Oh, that's funny. It's actually a German tradition. 34 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:50,200 Speaker 4: I don't know. 35 00:01:51,880 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 3: And so we started doing this tradition where you have 36 00:01:56,880 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 3: a pickle ornament and you hide it in the tree 37 00:02:00,120 --> 00:02:02,800 Speaker 3: and what it's supposed to be like whoever finds the 38 00:02:02,840 --> 00:02:06,279 Speaker 3: pickle gets the pickle present. But like, I'm an only child, 39 00:02:06,480 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 3: so I always want the pickle. 40 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:11,520 Speaker 4: What was your best present? The best present, the best present? 41 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:13,160 Speaker 3: So I mean I always got it. 42 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 4: If we had done that in my family, there would 43 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:16,960 Speaker 4: be bloodshed. 44 00:02:17,200 --> 00:02:20,520 Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, that's definitely something that we're going to do 45 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:24,640 Speaker 3: for I guess, for each other when we have kids. 46 00:02:24,680 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 3: One day. 47 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:33,360 Speaker 1: Hold on, let me explain something to you. You can't 48 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:36,519 Speaker 1: give each other pickle presents when you have children. Your 49 00:02:36,639 --> 00:02:40,720 Speaker 1: children have to have it. No, no, no, and then they're 50 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: going there and then bloodshed. 51 00:02:44,400 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 4: Yeah. I just like the pickle present tradition. That's one 52 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:49,679 Speaker 4: that I like. I like that for a whole lot 53 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:51,519 Speaker 4: and we didn't have a ton of traditions, so I'm 54 00:02:51,560 --> 00:02:54,359 Speaker 4: just like globbing onto all of her. Yes, now you 55 00:02:54,480 --> 00:02:55,560 Speaker 4: have line, so. 56 00:02:56,800 --> 00:02:59,720 Speaker 2: Maybe you can bring your mom suspense to the Biltmore. 57 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:01,960 Speaker 4: That's she would love. 58 00:03:02,040 --> 00:03:04,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, she wants to come to Tennessee. So about she 59 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 3: is my The town that I'm from is so small 60 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:10,919 Speaker 3: and like I've shown her pictures and we have this 61 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:14,440 Speaker 3: thing in the fall, the first weekend in October every 62 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:17,600 Speaker 3: year called the Apple Festival, and so his mom really 63 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 3: wants to go to the Apple Festival this year. Unfortunately, 64 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:23,639 Speaker 3: it's literally the weekend before the Chicago Marathon. So I'm 65 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 3: not sure we're gonna make it, but maybe she'll just 66 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:29,120 Speaker 3: go and she can go. 67 00:03:29,160 --> 00:03:30,800 Speaker 2: Take it up to with the Builtmore. 68 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:31,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. 69 00:03:32,360 --> 00:03:34,560 Speaker 1: Wait, I don't understand when you went to the billbohere, 70 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 1: you don't stay there, right, no. 71 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 4: No no, no, no no no. Although they do have like 72 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 4: they have a spell on they do on site and 73 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:44,040 Speaker 4: it's like a whole. 74 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:50,839 Speaker 3: But oh yeah, the winder and I was d drove 75 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:52,040 Speaker 3: us home. It was great. 76 00:03:52,680 --> 00:03:55,120 Speaker 1: Yes, it sounds like so funny. I want to do it. 77 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:57,839 Speaker 4: Why don't you come with next time? 78 00:03:58,200 --> 00:03:59,400 Speaker 1: I thought you never asked? 79 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 4: You all be there tasty. You guys have a grand 80 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 4: old time, and I'll just get everyone back home. 81 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, that sounds like a plan. And you have to 82 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:10,160 Speaker 2: tell me when you're going to Austin because I'll come down. 83 00:04:10,480 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, we need to plan over do I 84 00:04:13,360 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 3: say it over? 85 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:15,560 Speaker 1: Down? 86 00:04:16,279 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 3: It's like it's down and over. 87 00:04:18,760 --> 00:04:20,360 Speaker 1: You know what, who cares as long as we all 88 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:25,400 Speaker 1: end up in the same place, exactly right, exactly? Okay. 89 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:28,320 Speaker 1: So now we're going to get into our advice portion. 90 00:04:28,960 --> 00:04:32,920 Speaker 1: And I recently had something happen and I think you, 91 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:37,000 Speaker 1: Spencer and Jess would have a really interesting perspective on it. 92 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: So you're ready to listen and tell us things. Yeah, 93 00:04:40,200 --> 00:04:45,280 Speaker 1: I did. So I was out of town recently and 94 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:49,279 Speaker 1: I went into this restaurant and uh, the woman, the 95 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 1: maid or d the hostess whatever, recognized me and she said, 96 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:56,359 Speaker 1: I love you so much. You're just I mean, she 97 00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:59,039 Speaker 1: just made me feel like a million bucks. She said, 98 00:04:59,160 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 1: I love you the you give you give everyone such 99 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:06,159 Speaker 1: a positive outlook on life. My daughter is really going 100 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:11,400 Speaker 1: through a tough time and I would And so I said, well, 101 00:05:11,400 --> 00:05:13,240 Speaker 1: plot your phone. I'll you know, I'll do a quick 102 00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:15,479 Speaker 1: video for her. And so I did. And she goes, 103 00:05:15,520 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 1: would you talk to her on the phone. So YEP, 104 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:20,680 Speaker 1: dialed her up, talked to her on the phone, and 105 00:05:21,560 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 1: she is about your guys age. She has been married 106 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 1: a few years, more than a few years, I guess, 107 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:32,560 Speaker 1: because she has a I think a two year old child. 108 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 1: Her name is Ashley, and she's finishing up her PhD 109 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 1: in June. And she said to me, I'm really struggling 110 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:45,560 Speaker 1: because I'm married, I have a full time career. I'm 111 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 1: trying to balance life with this toddler and my marriage. 112 00:05:49,320 --> 00:05:53,560 Speaker 1: And she said, I'm struggling, you know, to find myself, 113 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 1: to find this balance. And you know, I'd had a 114 00:05:57,240 --> 00:05:59,480 Speaker 1: couple of drinks at that point. So I'm not exactly 115 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 1: sure what I told her, but I'll tell you what 116 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 1: I told her. At first. I'm curious, what would your 117 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:05,800 Speaker 1: advice be to her? 118 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:11,240 Speaker 3: Oh, you know what, I've been, not obviously in that 119 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:14,120 Speaker 3: exact scenario, but I think both of us have been 120 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 3: in scenarios where we've definitely lost ourselves. And I think 121 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 3: that it's just so important for one and like what 122 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:24,160 Speaker 3: we've done is like we've had to communicate what we 123 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 3: need from each other. I think that's so important to 124 00:06:26,880 --> 00:06:29,120 Speaker 3: be able to be open and honest with your partner 125 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:32,680 Speaker 3: like hey, I am feeling really overwhelmed right now, like 126 00:06:32,760 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 3: I need you to do this, this and this. And 127 00:06:35,160 --> 00:06:38,480 Speaker 3: I will say Spencer is so good at like trying 128 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 3: to find a solution, whereas sometimes I am I will 129 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:46,760 Speaker 3: like dwell on like the negativity of the moment, and 130 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:50,640 Speaker 3: so I don't know if it's so much advice is 131 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:53,720 Speaker 3: just like I'm very grateful to have someone who like 132 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 3: will be like, Hey, we're not going to do that, 133 00:06:56,680 --> 00:06:58,440 Speaker 3: We're going to find a solution. What do you need 134 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 3: from me? What can I help? Like Literally this happened 135 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:03,160 Speaker 3: like a couple of days ago. I came in. I 136 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:05,720 Speaker 3: was just like not having a good day. I have 137 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:08,760 Speaker 3: some family stuff going on, and he's like, what do 138 00:07:08,800 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 3: you need? Baby? Like what can I help you do? 139 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:14,200 Speaker 3: And he like finished unloading all the groceries Like it's 140 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 3: just like little things like that, and I'm like, oh, 141 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 3: thank you. I think it's just showing support and over 142 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:23,480 Speaker 3: communicating what you need from your partner. 143 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:26,920 Speaker 4: And I would say, I think it's very important that 144 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:33,320 Speaker 4: in whatever relationship you have, you retain something that's for you. Yes, 145 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 4: for me, that's like going to work out, going to 146 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 4: the gym for her. She really likes to paint and 147 00:07:39,720 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 4: do that. 148 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:41,120 Speaker 3: I love it. 149 00:07:41,160 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 4: I love a hobby, like a little hobby, and so 150 00:07:43,440 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 4: it's nice to always have something that's yours. And I 151 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 4: think that you know a lot of people if you're 152 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 4: stretched thin on time. If you went on your phone 153 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 4: and looked at your screen time for social media, you 154 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:59,360 Speaker 4: would find about three four hours a day there. I 155 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:01,960 Speaker 4: think that could be yeah, I think that could be 156 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 4: cut down by an hour, hour and a half. And 157 00:08:04,880 --> 00:08:08,640 Speaker 4: whether it be reading a book, like going to a 158 00:08:08,680 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 4: fitness class, finding a nice little hobby, I think having 159 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:16,400 Speaker 4: something for yourself, because if you don't give to yourself, 160 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:19,480 Speaker 4: it's tough to give to a relationship. 161 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:25,040 Speaker 2: Because we all do ourselves very thin, and to have 162 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:30,120 Speaker 2: some alone time absolutely critical. It has to be actually 163 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 2: find yourself time. 164 00:08:31,600 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 3: Make us an extra long steamy shower with some. 165 00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:37,280 Speaker 2: Yes that's soaking, a bubble ba, lock the door, you 166 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:39,480 Speaker 2: know's it's important. 167 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 4: That's some advice I got from my mom when she 168 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 4: was talking about dealing with having four sons and a 169 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:49,199 Speaker 4: full time job and nothing for herself. So being able 170 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:53,240 Speaker 4: to give into yourself a little bit and find the 171 00:08:53,280 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 4: time to make that happen. I think even though you 172 00:08:56,480 --> 00:08:58,120 Speaker 4: may be hard pressed to find the time, I think 173 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:01,559 Speaker 4: there's a way to find the time. And sometimes it's 174 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:04,440 Speaker 4: easy to rely on the excuse of there's no time, 175 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:08,160 Speaker 4: there's no time, instead of the reality of you have 176 00:09:08,200 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 4: to make the time, you know, which is. 177 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:14,839 Speaker 2: Easy of difference. And you're so fortunate just that he 178 00:09:15,640 --> 00:09:18,680 Speaker 2: can hear you and you can vent a lot of 179 00:09:18,720 --> 00:09:23,600 Speaker 2: couples the other partner don't like the venting. It's all 180 00:09:23,679 --> 00:09:28,000 Speaker 2: that negativity. They can't handle it. So consider yourself, people. 181 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:32,160 Speaker 3: He helps me be more positive, honestly, like he really, I'm. 182 00:09:32,080 --> 00:09:34,480 Speaker 2: All about that. So I tell Kathy every day. 183 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:39,719 Speaker 1: Yeah no, no, Susan, Susan, there is no such thing. 184 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:42,160 Speaker 1: There could be a hurricane coming through her living room. 185 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:47,440 Speaker 1: And she's like, yeah, that's not positivity. There's another word 186 00:09:47,480 --> 00:09:48,720 Speaker 1: for that, Susan. 187 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 4: I feel you, you and I think. 188 00:09:51,679 --> 00:09:56,560 Speaker 2: The best, think the best. My cousin, she's always no 189 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:59,840 Speaker 2: matter what, I'll say something and she'll go, yeah, but 190 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:03,000 Speaker 2: oh my god, why did you think of the worst 191 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 2: possible scenario? Yeah, she goes, would you look through rose 192 00:10:07,120 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 2: colored glasses? As Kathy once said, you can live in 193 00:10:10,400 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 2: Susan's world all you want nobody else. 194 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:17,680 Speaker 1: Well, I think positivity is a great thing, and I 195 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 1: think all this are positive people. First of all, I 196 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:28,560 Speaker 1: want to congratulate both of you that you have such 197 00:10:28,640 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 1: insight and such love for each other that you can 198 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:33,760 Speaker 1: really think about those things and talk to each other 199 00:10:33,800 --> 00:10:36,400 Speaker 1: and share your thoughts. It just shows that you guys 200 00:10:36,480 --> 00:10:40,120 Speaker 1: have such a strong relationship. The other thing I told her, 201 00:10:40,120 --> 00:10:42,000 Speaker 1: and I hope I would give this advice to you 202 00:10:42,000 --> 00:10:46,160 Speaker 1: guys too. You're not going to do everything perfectly. You're 203 00:10:46,240 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 1: not going to be perfect for each other. Your job 204 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:52,760 Speaker 1: is going to be perfect, your children will not be perfect. 205 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:56,680 Speaker 1: You can't do you can't give one hundred percent to 206 00:10:57,080 --> 00:10:59,679 Speaker 1: each thing in your life. Some days you only have 207 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:02,000 Speaker 1: seven percent to give and you got to divide it up. 208 00:11:02,080 --> 00:11:04,600 Speaker 1: And that's what I told her, isn't don't be so 209 00:11:04,679 --> 00:11:07,480 Speaker 1: hard on yourself some days trying to do it all. 210 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:10,640 Speaker 1: Just can't do it all. Let the laundry go, spend 211 00:11:10,640 --> 00:11:13,560 Speaker 1: time with your partner, spend time reading with your children. 212 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:16,240 Speaker 1: Those are things you don't get back in time. And 213 00:11:16,320 --> 00:11:18,880 Speaker 1: you know what, so I think that's great. 214 00:11:19,040 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 2: You're right, You're right, And I never used to do that. 215 00:11:22,040 --> 00:11:26,280 Speaker 2: I spread myself then always you still be tasking at 216 00:11:26,320 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 2: it rest. Now that I'm getting older, it's more difficult, 217 00:11:31,679 --> 00:11:33,599 Speaker 2: you know, And you got to be a little selfish 218 00:11:33,679 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 2: for you. 219 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:35,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure. 220 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:38,080 Speaker 4: Well, if you're selfish, I think you end up everyone 221 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:42,880 Speaker 4: else ends up reaping the benefits of you feeling better 222 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 4: about everything that you have going on. I know that 223 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:55,840 Speaker 4: if I don't get my gym time, I'm a. 224 00:11:54,120 --> 00:11:56,000 Speaker 3: I'm like, I know. 225 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 2: Let me tell you, if you go to Austin, bring sneakers, Jess, 226 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:01,880 Speaker 2: because when I get the catch, we're walking the lake 227 00:12:01,960 --> 00:12:05,000 Speaker 2: now rail trail. 228 00:12:05,720 --> 00:12:09,319 Speaker 1: So they just spencer when you guys come. Susan's right, 229 00:12:10,080 --> 00:12:12,200 Speaker 1: she came and I made her walk. She did great 230 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:14,200 Speaker 1: because Susan's on a big walker, and I will say 231 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:17,640 Speaker 1: she did a great job. But they just finished the 232 00:12:17,760 --> 00:12:21,880 Speaker 1: trail and I'm gonna probably probably not Susan. I believe 233 00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:24,160 Speaker 1: it's eleven miles now I'm going to do it. It's 234 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:25,559 Speaker 1: the connected. 235 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:27,760 Speaker 4: Allah, let's grab a coffee, let's go on a walk. 236 00:12:27,880 --> 00:12:30,079 Speaker 1: I will absolutely eleven miles. 237 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:33,000 Speaker 2: We'll do five, Jess, and then we'll go back and 238 00:12:33,040 --> 00:12:34,000 Speaker 2: make some discussion. 239 00:12:34,760 --> 00:12:39,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, they all cooked for us. And you know, 240 00:12:39,480 --> 00:12:41,760 Speaker 1: we'll have worked off the calories and we come home 241 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:43,160 Speaker 1: and up a nice big lunch, and. 242 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:46,200 Speaker 3: Me and Susan will be popping some champagne waiting for 243 00:12:46,240 --> 00:12:48,920 Speaker 3: you some we might go shop. 244 00:12:49,559 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 1: Just gonna say, if you know Susan. She they all came, 245 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:55,560 Speaker 1: I don't if you all know this. Nancy and Joan 246 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:58,520 Speaker 1: and Susan came to visit me, and I wanted to 247 00:12:58,520 --> 00:13:00,200 Speaker 1: take him on the walk around the lake, and I 248 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:02,400 Speaker 1: wanted to show them the Capitol, and I wanted to 249 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:04,280 Speaker 1: take them up to the restaurant that has a viewel 250 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 1: like travel. 251 00:13:05,080 --> 00:13:07,840 Speaker 3: Don't you remember you were sending me voice memos? We were, 252 00:13:08,120 --> 00:13:09,720 Speaker 3: we were, we were. 253 00:13:09,679 --> 00:13:14,040 Speaker 2: Talking every time we went by a structure. She goes, look, 254 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:14,960 Speaker 2: did you recognize it? 255 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:20,600 Speaker 1: That's all they wanted to shop, So Spencer, you and 256 00:13:20,640 --> 00:13:21,440 Speaker 1: I were doing it. 257 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:25,280 Speaker 2: Done and they picked the meal. Kathy not can I 258 00:13:25,280 --> 00:13:28,200 Speaker 2: tell them about food shopping? She's like panicking us. I 259 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:30,440 Speaker 2: got there first. She's like, I don't cook. I said, 260 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 2: I got you, I got you, but we have to 261 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:36,000 Speaker 2: go food shopping. Yeah, this girl was like a fish 262 00:13:36,040 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 2: out of water. 263 00:13:37,800 --> 00:13:40,440 Speaker 1: I just I just think the grocery store is for 264 00:13:40,520 --> 00:13:41,760 Speaker 1: people who don't have a life. 265 00:13:42,080 --> 00:13:44,120 Speaker 4: Do you use a lot of uber eats? 266 00:13:45,760 --> 00:13:47,199 Speaker 3: Doesn't I do eat? 267 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 1: But I very simple thing. 268 00:13:48,559 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 4: Well that's another way to do. 269 00:13:50,559 --> 00:13:52,200 Speaker 3: She's an almond mom for sure. 270 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:56,720 Speaker 1: I see really simple things, you know, scrambled eggs, piece 271 00:13:56,720 --> 00:14:00,200 Speaker 1: of toast, a salad, and a slice of turnkey. 272 00:14:00,360 --> 00:14:03,760 Speaker 2: I mean, we're supposed to make the chicken at night, 273 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:06,720 Speaker 2: and we ended up with all these orders we had 274 00:14:07,120 --> 00:14:10,200 Speaker 2: and we weren't hungry. So she goes, now you better 275 00:14:10,280 --> 00:14:12,280 Speaker 2: eat this food. You better make this because it's gonna 276 00:14:12,280 --> 00:14:14,120 Speaker 2: go bad. She made I made up for breakfast. 277 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:16,560 Speaker 1: She did. She made me buy one of those things 278 00:14:16,679 --> 00:14:20,720 Speaker 1: like seven dollars a jar. What those little things called capers? 279 00:14:20,800 --> 00:14:21,600 Speaker 3: That's what goes on? 280 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:22,320 Speaker 2: Capers? 281 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:26,080 Speaker 1: Really, you gotta spend money on capers. Seriously, I'd rather 282 00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:34,520 Speaker 1: have a new goners. Do you buy capers, you guys? 283 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:38,520 Speaker 4: I buy capers from time to time when certain meal calls. 284 00:14:40,040 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes, okay, Well we like the cook So. 285 00:14:45,720 --> 00:14:48,440 Speaker 4: After the walk, here's what will happen. I'll go and 286 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:52,360 Speaker 4: Susan and I will start cooking. Yes, I'm on double duty. 287 00:14:52,800 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 4: I'll just switch you off. I go hang out a lot. 288 00:14:56,280 --> 00:14:58,520 Speaker 1: I could say, just what you're gonna do. I've been 289 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:00,840 Speaker 1: growing my hair and I need you to teach me 290 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 1: how to use a curly nine. 291 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:03,320 Speaker 3: I can do that. 292 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:06,840 Speaker 2: We'll cook, shower, and then Jessa and I are going 293 00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:13,480 Speaker 2: to shop and Okay, now we want to get to 294 00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:17,600 Speaker 2: your take on some of our most asked questions. This 295 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:23,800 Speaker 2: was the part about dating. Okay, I'll go first, Jess, 296 00:15:24,120 --> 00:15:28,200 Speaker 2: what advice do you have for single women when it 297 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 2: comes to not settling? 298 00:15:31,400 --> 00:15:33,000 Speaker 3: Ooh, that's a really good one. 299 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:35,360 Speaker 2: It's a hard one, honestly, it is. 300 00:15:36,760 --> 00:15:41,400 Speaker 3: Honestly, I'm not gonna lie. I My picker was off 301 00:15:41,440 --> 00:15:46,440 Speaker 3: for a while, so I feel like there's definitely been scenarios, 302 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 3: Like not every single guy that I've been on dates 303 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 3: with or you know whatever was horrible. The majority of 304 00:15:53,320 --> 00:15:57,000 Speaker 3: them were, but not all of them. I think that 305 00:15:57,080 --> 00:16:00,240 Speaker 3: there was just things that like until meetings spin through, 306 00:16:00,360 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 3: like I did not realize like these were not big 307 00:16:03,880 --> 00:16:08,200 Speaker 3: asks like these were. I almost felt awkward, Like when 308 00:16:08,200 --> 00:16:10,720 Speaker 3: he's like opening the door for me and he is 309 00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:15,000 Speaker 3: like asking all these little things about me and my family, 310 00:16:15,080 --> 00:16:19,920 Speaker 3: and like just I just literally caring, Like I just 311 00:16:20,480 --> 00:16:25,520 Speaker 3: have never had someone actually care so much about all 312 00:16:25,600 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 3: these little intricate things things that like I feel like 313 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:32,280 Speaker 3: I probably haven't even thought up about myself before, and 314 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:35,600 Speaker 3: he like asked us because he wanted to know, and 315 00:16:36,480 --> 00:16:41,400 Speaker 3: I don't know. I just think that you if you're 316 00:16:41,440 --> 00:16:45,560 Speaker 3: sitting and you're questioning like moments like oh well, I 317 00:16:45,600 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 3: guess it's because this that and the other I I 318 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:52,119 Speaker 3: this is Yes, when you find yourself making those excuses, 319 00:16:52,160 --> 00:16:55,560 Speaker 3: it's like, no, no, you shouldn't have to make excuses 320 00:16:55,600 --> 00:16:58,080 Speaker 3: for anyone. Of course, like everyone has their bad days 321 00:16:58,120 --> 00:17:00,920 Speaker 3: and like like said earlier, like no one's perfect. There's 322 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:03,960 Speaker 3: always gonna be things. But I think the huge thing 323 00:17:04,040 --> 00:17:06,720 Speaker 3: is like is your partner being understanding? Is the person 324 00:17:06,760 --> 00:17:09,800 Speaker 3: you're dating being understanding? Like if you're having a moment, 325 00:17:09,840 --> 00:17:14,879 Speaker 3: are they like, oh well, okay, good luck to yeah, 326 00:17:15,359 --> 00:17:17,680 Speaker 3: or are they like trying to find ways to support you? 327 00:17:18,320 --> 00:17:21,199 Speaker 3: Like that was one thing that Yeah, I was not 328 00:17:21,359 --> 00:17:25,240 Speaker 3: used to that, and I was like, wow, there's people 329 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:25,720 Speaker 3: that do that. 330 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:26,879 Speaker 1: I love it all right. 331 00:17:27,080 --> 00:17:31,760 Speaker 2: So what you're saying, you're telling women dating if something 332 00:17:31,840 --> 00:17:37,120 Speaker 2: doesn't feel right, it isn't it's going to don't sell. 333 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:39,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like if you have to bring up these 334 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:43,600 Speaker 3: things multiple times and you're seeing no effort in them 335 00:17:43,640 --> 00:17:46,000 Speaker 3: trying to make it better than like there, that's your 336 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:46,800 Speaker 3: They don't. 337 00:17:46,920 --> 00:17:48,879 Speaker 1: That's your Yeah, they don't care. 338 00:17:49,200 --> 00:17:51,560 Speaker 2: It's like you and I going on the date and 339 00:17:51,600 --> 00:17:54,240 Speaker 2: they never asked you one thing about you. 340 00:17:54,400 --> 00:17:55,840 Speaker 3: They talk about themselves. 341 00:17:55,840 --> 00:17:57,600 Speaker 2: It's like, when is this going to be? 342 00:17:59,040 --> 00:18:00,720 Speaker 1: We're gonna do You'll have to tune in, sous and 343 00:18:00,800 --> 00:18:03,200 Speaker 1: I'm going to do a whole episode on dating apps. 344 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:11,760 Speaker 1: You it's a nightmare. But I have two questions. One, well, 345 00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:14,679 Speaker 1: I might as lost the dating app question. First, do 346 00:18:14,720 --> 00:18:17,520 Speaker 1: you think it's even possible to meet someone on the 347 00:18:17,680 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 1: dating app? 348 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:20,000 Speaker 3: Did you? 349 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:22,960 Speaker 4: Did you do dating apps for a couple of weeks, 350 00:18:24,040 --> 00:18:27,440 Speaker 4: just a couple of weeks, but yeah, it didn't pan out. Well, 351 00:18:29,840 --> 00:18:33,280 Speaker 4: it depends on the type of person that you are. 352 00:18:33,480 --> 00:18:37,600 Speaker 4: You know, people give and receive love in different ways, 353 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:41,480 Speaker 4: and people need different things from relationships. Like I'm a 354 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:45,280 Speaker 4: big quality time person, so I need that face to 355 00:18:45,320 --> 00:18:49,439 Speaker 4: face interaction. There are words of affirmation. People that just 356 00:18:49,480 --> 00:18:52,040 Speaker 4: want to be told good things about themselves and makes 357 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:55,040 Speaker 4: them feel great. I think it just depends. I do 358 00:18:55,160 --> 00:19:04,600 Speaker 4: think that people don't socially interact with people enough in 359 00:19:04,840 --> 00:19:12,840 Speaker 4: modern day dating I think that adding a phone is 360 00:19:12,880 --> 00:19:15,560 Speaker 4: adding another layer of disconnect between people. And I think 361 00:19:15,600 --> 00:19:19,920 Speaker 4: it's really easy to have back and forth of two 362 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:24,360 Speaker 4: or three messages and write someone off completely and or 363 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 4: have a few messages and think they're the best thing ever, 364 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:30,600 Speaker 4: and then you have zero contexts on who they actually 365 00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:34,120 Speaker 4: are as a person. So I think if it's done intently, 366 00:19:34,680 --> 00:19:41,000 Speaker 4: it's possible. But I everyone that I had ever gone 367 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:43,159 Speaker 4: on a date with or anything have been people that 368 00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:47,040 Speaker 4: I've met in person, and I know, lucky with us 369 00:19:47,320 --> 00:19:49,560 Speaker 4: it was so nice. I mean, that was the biggest 370 00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:54,440 Speaker 4: thing I think we can thank Paradise for was giving 371 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 4: us where we didn't have any outside influences and it 372 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:00,840 Speaker 4: was just us being able to spend time together get 373 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:04,959 Speaker 4: to know each other with literallyzier other stress besides some 374 00:20:05,000 --> 00:20:06,200 Speaker 4: of the challenges and games. 375 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 3: But actually I actually have more to say on that too, Actually, 376 00:20:10,560 --> 00:20:13,199 Speaker 3: but I I agreed to most of your points. I 377 00:20:13,240 --> 00:20:17,760 Speaker 3: feel like, yeah, honestly, any of the successful dates that 378 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:21,199 Speaker 3: I had before Spencer, I feel like it was honestly 379 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:25,199 Speaker 3: me putting myself out there and being like, hey, I 380 00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:28,680 Speaker 3: think that you're attractive, Like are you single? And it's either. 381 00:20:28,480 --> 00:20:31,000 Speaker 1: Way you whoa, whoa, sorry. 382 00:20:32,560 --> 00:20:37,320 Speaker 3: To men and so yeah oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. 383 00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:40,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, I assume to be single. 384 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:43,080 Speaker 2: Would I ever ask someone out on the date? 385 00:20:43,119 --> 00:20:45,480 Speaker 1: I said, of course, I am very outgoing, but I 386 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 1: will not go up to a guy and say, hey, 387 00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:51,800 Speaker 1: are you single? I think find you know that's never happened. 388 00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:54,800 Speaker 1: Keep talking, Jess, keep going. 389 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,119 Speaker 3: But also I feel like, I don't know, I feel 390 00:20:58,119 --> 00:21:00,920 Speaker 3: like dating apps it can like is people that are 391 00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:04,399 Speaker 3: are introverts and they're just not comfortable with going up 392 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:07,040 Speaker 3: to someone like that because like getting shut down in 393 00:21:07,119 --> 00:21:12,160 Speaker 3: person is way harder got down over your phone. So 394 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:14,840 Speaker 3: I do think that there can there can definitely be 395 00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,520 Speaker 3: success stories over the dating app. I think it really 396 00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:20,320 Speaker 3: just depends on, like you said, the individual, the individual 397 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:21,560 Speaker 3: and who you are as a person. 398 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:25,520 Speaker 4: Although I don't think you should just rely on one 399 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:29,919 Speaker 4: channel of finding someone, like still make an effort to 400 00:21:30,080 --> 00:21:34,760 Speaker 4: like go out to event or fitness class or Farmer's 401 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:42,040 Speaker 4: mark or whatever, or like honestly like meet people through friends, 402 00:21:42,960 --> 00:21:44,000 Speaker 4: church or I don't know. 403 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:48,399 Speaker 2: It's more about people that are struggling to put themselves 404 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:50,400 Speaker 2: out there. What advice would you give them? 405 00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 4: Both, I would find a community through something that you're 406 00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:58,560 Speaker 4: passionate about. So I actually met my best friends here 407 00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:04,800 Speaker 4: through a church event that we went to. I know 408 00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:07,399 Speaker 4: that I've met a lot of other friends through like 409 00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:12,560 Speaker 4: fitness classes. There's run clubs, there's pilates classes, there's yoga, 410 00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:14,720 Speaker 4: there's like all these things to do. Go to the 411 00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:17,480 Speaker 4: farmers market, go to a book club. I know that 412 00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:20,680 Speaker 4: there's book clubs and stuff like that for people to 413 00:22:20,800 --> 00:22:23,760 Speaker 4: enjoy reading. I would just find something you're passionate about 414 00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:25,840 Speaker 4: and find a community that's also passionate about it, and 415 00:22:25,880 --> 00:22:27,359 Speaker 4: get to meet people. 416 00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:30,280 Speaker 3: In at least one thing that connects you. Then like 417 00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:33,920 Speaker 3: that's already like you're you're passionate about it, so it's 418 00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:35,040 Speaker 3: going to be easy to talk about. 419 00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:38,239 Speaker 4: And then from there she would be texpert right now 420 00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:42,000 Speaker 4: because she's like finding new friends and everything. Because obviously 421 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 4: all my friends love her, which is awesome, But I 422 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 4: do think it'd be really nice for her to be 423 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:53,119 Speaker 4: able to have like her own girlfriends that you are. 424 00:22:53,560 --> 00:22:56,360 Speaker 1: Such a breath. You are one of those people that 425 00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:58,439 Speaker 1: you light up a room when you walk in. You 426 00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:02,400 Speaker 1: are mascot. You know, I'm honest, you are not gonna 427 00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:05,600 Speaker 1: have ten seconds of alone time. You're gonna have so 428 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:06,800 Speaker 1: many friends to many of the. 429 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:17,320 Speaker 3: Time, I'm not I haven't put myself out there that 430 00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:21,280 Speaker 3: much like meet girls here in Dallas yet, just because 431 00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:25,560 Speaker 3: like honestly, I've been focused on getting all their stuff settled, 432 00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:29,080 Speaker 3: and there's also just like so many things that we 433 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:31,760 Speaker 3: still haven't gotten to do together here. I'm like I 434 00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:34,840 Speaker 3: will and like I have been trying new fitness classes 435 00:23:34,880 --> 00:23:38,080 Speaker 3: and things like that, going to events and stuff. But 436 00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,280 Speaker 3: when I'm working out, like I'm one of those people 437 00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:41,600 Speaker 3: that I'm like, I want to work out. 438 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:45,000 Speaker 2: And not be talked to, Like I'm yeah on privacy, 439 00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:46,960 Speaker 2: does everybody recognize you when you go? 440 00:23:48,480 --> 00:23:48,720 Speaker 1: Yeah? 441 00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:52,479 Speaker 3: But I feel like people are like super respectful, like 442 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:55,080 Speaker 3: well either I like, I love when people are just like, 443 00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:58,000 Speaker 3: oh my gosh, I watch you. It's so awesome to 444 00:23:58,119 --> 00:23:59,840 Speaker 3: like see you out here in Dallas and then like 445 00:24:00,280 --> 00:24:03,600 Speaker 3: go on and go about your day. And then some people, 446 00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:07,480 Speaker 3: like I can I can tell that, like they they notice, 447 00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:10,840 Speaker 3: but like they don't say anything, and it's almost like 448 00:24:11,160 --> 00:24:13,880 Speaker 3: awkward because I They'll be like, you look so familiar, 449 00:24:13,920 --> 00:24:16,840 Speaker 3: and I never want to assume that it's because they 450 00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:17,639 Speaker 3: walk to show I'm like. 451 00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:23,000 Speaker 4: Really familiar looking face. 452 00:24:23,440 --> 00:24:25,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, because I never want like, I just feel like 453 00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:31,480 Speaker 3: I'm never going to be like, oh, yes, that's so yeah, 454 00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 3: I know that's all right. 455 00:24:33,359 --> 00:24:35,960 Speaker 1: We got to wrap here quickly. But Susan, you've got. 456 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 3: To question all day. 457 00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:39,199 Speaker 4: Let's take this off the. 458 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,240 Speaker 1: More questions. Susan, you always ask it? What is the 459 00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:44,920 Speaker 1: question you always ask our guests? 460 00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:49,199 Speaker 2: Okay, before we go, I do either of you have 461 00:24:49,359 --> 00:24:51,160 Speaker 2: any questions for us? 462 00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:52,080 Speaker 1: Oh? 463 00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:53,639 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. I wish I would have looked at the. 464 00:24:55,400 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 4: Expect I think we need a little bit more time podcast, 465 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:00,520 Speaker 4: because we do. 466 00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:03,440 Speaker 2: I think we need a part two, definitely, part three, 467 00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:04,120 Speaker 2: Part three. 468 00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,760 Speaker 3: Well, what you do you have something? 469 00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:09,280 Speaker 4: You go first? 470 00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:14,480 Speaker 3: Okay? Well, Susan, you're you're dating someone? Yes, okay, So 471 00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:16,360 Speaker 3: part of my question is I want to know how 472 00:25:16,480 --> 00:25:20,040 Speaker 3: y'all met. And then Kathy, I need to update on 473 00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:21,080 Speaker 3: what you've been up. 474 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,159 Speaker 1: Well, why don't I go first because my update is 475 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:23,840 Speaker 1: very short? 476 00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:25,560 Speaker 3: Oh no, I. 477 00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:27,400 Speaker 4: Hate a short update from you right now? 478 00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:29,200 Speaker 2: Really? 479 00:25:30,560 --> 00:25:34,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, Kathy was with me, so yeah, So but I'm open. 480 00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:37,000 Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm going to go out to the gym, 481 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:39,560 Speaker 1: the library, the music venues. I'm going to just do 482 00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:42,800 Speaker 1: it all. Spencer and Jess told me I would meet 483 00:25:42,800 --> 00:25:45,359 Speaker 1: the man of my dreams if I went to these things. 484 00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:52,600 Speaker 1: That's what I would love to be dating. But right now, no, 485 00:25:53,200 --> 00:25:56,160 Speaker 1: I just you know, I mean, we don't have time 486 00:25:56,200 --> 00:26:01,440 Speaker 1: to day. I don't settle that's at all. Yeah, I don't, 487 00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,280 Speaker 1: so for me, Okay, Now, Susan on to you because 488 00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:05,040 Speaker 1: my story was true. 489 00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:07,040 Speaker 2: Well, thank god Kathy had a little bit of French 490 00:26:07,600 --> 00:26:10,399 Speaker 2: because when I met him at Kathy and I were 491 00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:14,719 Speaker 2: on vacation in Saint Martin and so I had an 492 00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:18,199 Speaker 2: espresso martini after dinner one night. We came back and 493 00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:20,760 Speaker 2: we Chi check girl talk, watched our face all that, 494 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:22,639 Speaker 2: and we go to bed. She goes up. I go 495 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:25,639 Speaker 2: to my bed and I'm wide awake. I'm playing games 496 00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:28,639 Speaker 2: on my iPad and I was bored. Great, I can't. 497 00:26:28,359 --> 00:26:30,400 Speaker 4: Sleep play games on your iPad too. 498 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:36,320 Speaker 2: I do, and I downloaded Tinder stop first person I saw, 499 00:26:36,359 --> 00:26:38,840 Speaker 2: But then I didn't go back and check for three days. 500 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,880 Speaker 2: It was just a moment thing. And when I finally did, 501 00:26:41,960 --> 00:26:45,600 Speaker 2: it was like what Kathy had to speak for me, because. 502 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:47,920 Speaker 1: So, yeah, so su success me, I met a guy. 503 00:26:48,640 --> 00:26:51,120 Speaker 1: We're going to meet him Tennis, and I'm not meeting anybody? 504 00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:53,480 Speaker 1: What are you out of your mind? And so she goes, 505 00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:55,680 Speaker 1: he doesn't speak English, and you gotta be kidding me. 506 00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:58,840 Speaker 1: So fast forward. We walk over to the bar. He 507 00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:01,760 Speaker 1: literally does not speaks English. Susan does not speak a 508 00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:07,200 Speaker 1: word of French, and I speak enough to do you know? Yeah, yeah, 509 00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:11,520 Speaker 1: we stayed Spanish. So I introduced them in French and 510 00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:14,200 Speaker 1: then I said I'm out of here, and. 511 00:27:14,000 --> 00:27:16,280 Speaker 2: He said no, no, no, no. 512 00:27:15,520 --> 00:27:18,159 Speaker 1: No, no no no. And there they got their phones 513 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:19,360 Speaker 1: out and they're translating. 514 00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:21,600 Speaker 2: Well that was he. When he asked me out, he 515 00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:24,880 Speaker 2: said three questions for you. I said, yes, Number one 516 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:26,880 Speaker 2: do you like to dance? Number two? Do you have 517 00:27:26,960 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 2: ear pods? And number three I hope your French is 518 00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:32,000 Speaker 2: better than my English. I said two yes is and 519 00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:32,560 Speaker 2: one though. 520 00:27:32,800 --> 00:27:33,320 Speaker 3: Oh. 521 00:27:33,400 --> 00:27:35,920 Speaker 2: So when she left, we had them in our ears. 522 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 2: We were there for like three hours and at one 523 00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:42,960 Speaker 2: point I said, you know where I come from. When 524 00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:45,639 Speaker 2: I go meet somebody or a date or whatever this is, 525 00:27:45,840 --> 00:27:48,479 Speaker 2: I usually make eye contact. I can't even tell you 526 00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:49,040 Speaker 2: what color. 527 00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:50,720 Speaker 3: Your eyes are looking at this phone. 528 00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:54,880 Speaker 1: So that this is why we have to wrap this episode. 529 00:27:54,920 --> 00:27:58,280 Speaker 1: Because I have my bags packed with my computer my 530 00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:04,239 Speaker 1: phone and my ear pod speak kind of man, I'm 531 00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:06,080 Speaker 1: just gonna translate such. 532 00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:10,080 Speaker 3: A fun story, though. So has your French gotten better 533 00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:13,440 Speaker 3: or has his English gotten better a little bit? 534 00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:20,560 Speaker 4: Baby? I guess my question would be, if you could 535 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:25,000 Speaker 4: go back in time and spend more time doing any 536 00:28:25,200 --> 00:28:29,800 Speaker 4: one thing, whether that be spending time on a hobby, 537 00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:35,400 Speaker 4: spending time with family, like whatever, what would you have prioritized. 538 00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:37,680 Speaker 1: At what age? I mean when you say go back, 539 00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:38,720 Speaker 1: go back to what age? 540 00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:43,960 Speaker 4: I would go back anytime, like anytime past the age 541 00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:47,280 Speaker 4: of thirty. Let's say that's more applicable to myself, and 542 00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:47,960 Speaker 4: I'm selfish. 543 00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:51,280 Speaker 1: Sometimes I got the answer. Do you have an answer? Sitisan, 544 00:28:51,560 --> 00:28:52,520 Speaker 1: go ahead, you go first? 545 00:28:52,520 --> 00:28:52,560 Speaker 4: No? 546 00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:55,600 Speaker 2: If you have a go no, I've got ten different ones. 547 00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:58,360 Speaker 1: Well, the one so do I The one that jumped 548 00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:03,239 Speaker 1: out at me was exactly what I told Ashley. I 549 00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:08,560 Speaker 1: wish that I had not been such a quote unquote 550 00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:12,200 Speaker 1: perfect parent. My kids practice piano an hour today. My 551 00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:14,680 Speaker 1: kids did all their homework, they were in book clubs, 552 00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:17,440 Speaker 1: and they read books in the summer. I was so 553 00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:19,760 Speaker 1: much about them achieving. 554 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:21,760 Speaker 3: We didn't. 555 00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:24,360 Speaker 1: I mean, I love my kids in their wonderful. 556 00:29:24,480 --> 00:29:26,560 Speaker 2: I think that's what he's asking, and he's asking something 557 00:29:26,600 --> 00:29:27,120 Speaker 2: that you and. 558 00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:29,000 Speaker 1: I wish I had spent more time. Oh, I thought, 559 00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:31,760 Speaker 1: what you Yeah, I know that's but that's I had 560 00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:35,080 Speaker 1: spent more time just enjoying my kids and the small 561 00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:38,080 Speaker 1: moments and not worrying so much about what was going 562 00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:39,479 Speaker 1: to happen to them when they grew up. 563 00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:43,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, to me, that sounds like like a regret, almost 564 00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:46,200 Speaker 2: like something you would want to do well. 565 00:29:46,480 --> 00:29:50,240 Speaker 4: And but that that makes sense though, because it could 566 00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:53,400 Speaker 4: be something that, like I look back at things, I'm like, man, 567 00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:55,480 Speaker 4: I wish I would have spent more time doing this, 568 00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:58,720 Speaker 4: And it's not as much a regret as it would 569 00:29:58,720 --> 00:29:59,920 Speaker 4: have been interesting to have. 570 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, I regret I was a great mom. I wasn't 571 00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:05,400 Speaker 1: a perfect mom. I'm just saying something I wish i'd 572 00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,280 Speaker 1: done more of is spend more time with them doing 573 00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:11,720 Speaker 1: silly stuff. You know, we had lots of traditions and stuff, 574 00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:15,360 Speaker 1: but just fun, silly stuff with my kids. 575 00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:18,320 Speaker 2: When I took it as something like a moment that 576 00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:20,200 Speaker 2: I was having so much fun, I wish I could 577 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,959 Speaker 2: do it longer. And that would have been sharing that 578 00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:27,800 Speaker 2: bedroom in the mansion and bonding with you girls. That 579 00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:31,360 Speaker 2: I could have done that for a month. 580 00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:34,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, totally. 581 00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:37,520 Speaker 4: Those are both good. I can't go back to the 582 00:30:37,520 --> 00:30:40,120 Speaker 4: mansion and bond in bed with all the guys. 583 00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:44,400 Speaker 1: But I wait, God, that note running out. We're cutting 584 00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:51,240 Speaker 1: right there. That doesn't literally for today's episode, we literally 585 00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:53,880 Speaker 1: could talk to you guys for hours. You are simply 586 00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:58,360 Speaker 1: the best. I personally adore you both. Thank you so 587 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,000 Speaker 1: much for coming on. We truly have. 588 00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:02,560 Speaker 4: You. 589 00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:03,600 Speaker 3: It's so fine. 590 00:31:03,720 --> 00:31:04,320 Speaker 1: We love this. 591 00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:07,480 Speaker 2: We're definitely going to do more of this, and thank 592 00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:12,800 Speaker 2: you to our listeners. I hope you enjoyed Spencer and 593 00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:16,200 Speaker 2: just as much as we do. Be sure to subscribe 594 00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:20,040 Speaker 2: because we have new episodes dropping every week with more 595 00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,720 Speaker 2: of your Bachelor Nation favorites. 596 00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:29,160 Speaker 1: But maybe not as favorite as Spencer Jess favorite couple favorite. 597 00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:32,680 Speaker 4: All right, so sweet man, I'll slip you guys the 598 00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:33,600 Speaker 4: twenty later. 599 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:38,080 Speaker 1: Us up. Just come back to Austin. Just come back 600 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:43,600 Speaker 1: to Austin. Yeah okay. Well, having said all that, we 601 00:31:43,720 --> 00:31:46,560 Speaker 1: hope that you all will listen to Bachelor Happy Hours 602 00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:50,360 Speaker 1: Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen 603 00:31:50,400 --> 00:31:53,640 Speaker 1: to your podcast. Until next time, have a great week.