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Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio Podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hi Catherine, it's your day.

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Speaker 2: Day's good. Good, just you know, getting ready for the holidays,

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Speaker 2: holiday season?

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Speaker 1: So whoop do you do you sounds so excited?

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Speaker 2: No, No, I am actually really excited. I love the holidays,

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Speaker 2: and I love the fact that I have my kids

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Speaker 2: for Christmas Eve. So that's going to be fun. You

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Speaker 2: have them this year? I do, So It's just and

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Speaker 2: that was one of the things that I thought of

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Speaker 2: when I was moving into here. I'm like, Okay, get

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Speaker 2: my kids in the new house on Christmas Eve, yeah

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Speaker 2: and Christmas morning. Like that's just the dream, right, It

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Speaker 2: is so good. I'm excited for you. Are you stressed?

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Speaker 2: Are you done with shopping? Like what's going on?

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm actually not stressed, and I'm pretty much

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Speaker 1: done shopping, which is a first for me.

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Speaker 2: I know, I'm on top of it. This year.

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Speaker 1: I basically did it all Black Friday. Oh yeah online.

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Speaker 1: I mean you can't beat this, yeah, both deals.

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Speaker 2: But now I'm not stressed.

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Speaker 1: I'm like towing that line of like really wanting to

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Speaker 1: do a lot and be social and then also not

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Speaker 1: put too much on my plate and be present, you know.

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Speaker 1: It's such a It's like, I really want to see

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Speaker 1: my friends this year, and really I don't want to

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Speaker 1: just like shut off, you know. But then I'm like,

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Speaker 1: how do you balance this like actually being home and

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Speaker 1: you know you know, yeah, but everyone's trying to balance

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Speaker 1: in the season.

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Speaker 2: How's Nick.

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Speaker 1: He's good, He's good.

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Speaker 2: He's nothing.

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Speaker 1: That's very exciting. No, I'm trying to think. So you're like,

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Speaker 1: are we at a month.

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Speaker 2: Or well, when this airs, we're at a month with Roman,

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Speaker 2: but when this airs, it'll be a month. And when

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Speaker 2: is this air? This airs? This airs next next week.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, he's he's He'll be five weeks next week.

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Speaker 1: So like, how are you feeling? Because that's like a

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Speaker 1: big I feel like that month to six weeks is

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Speaker 1: just such like a I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I hear footsteps. I too, and she's probably going to

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Speaker 2: be coming a hot, coming in hot. He's ope, she's

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Speaker 2: still come outstairs. She went down the shoe downstairs, going

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Speaker 2: up the stairs. No, I uh, it's good. I think

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Speaker 2: it's one of those things where we're just now figuring

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Speaker 2: it out with schedules and stuff, and it's going to

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Speaker 2: be really interesting what we do in the new year

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Speaker 2: when work actually comes up. Yeah, because it's one of

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Speaker 2: those things where when I was when we were planning

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Speaker 2: for a new wind down dates and like, oh yeah,

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Speaker 2: I don't have the kids that weekend. Oh wait, I

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Speaker 2: always have.

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Speaker 3: He will always have it.

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Speaker 2: That is such a change she has changed. And again

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Speaker 2: I'm so grateful obviously, but I've had the I don't

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Speaker 2: want to say I would never have called this a

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Speaker 2: luxury before, but to be able to schedule things knowing

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Speaker 2: I don't have kids a certain weekend.

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Speaker 1: Like we would schedule like, these are the weekends I don't.

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Speaker 2: Have the kid, we would schedule yeah, wind down on

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Speaker 2: the non mic or either on on Mike weekends. Right.

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Speaker 2: So now it's like, oh no, oh wait, wait told up,

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Speaker 2: wait a minute. Uh so yeah, So just trying to

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Speaker 2: figure out because what I also want to what I'm

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Speaker 2: mindful of now. I like your socks KB, mister cute.

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Speaker 2: One of my things. I don't know if you girls

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Speaker 2: would like to have is what I give to them.

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Speaker 2: So what I will say is on days, I'll go, hey,

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Speaker 2: of your schedule because I want that same thing back.

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Speaker 2: So I usually put it out there to then have

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Speaker 2: it then be reciprocated, because if not, if they come

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Speaker 2: I have I I have work to do too. I'm

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Speaker 2: not just to be here and he's never done that.

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Speaker 2: But like I had, I knew that was something that

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Speaker 2: would be in the past where I go, oh, that

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Speaker 2: so I don't want it to just be put on

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Speaker 2: I say, hey, what do you have tomorrow? So we

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Speaker 2: ahead of being passive or being angry that my stuff

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Speaker 1: So knowing you you have to have some kind of plan.

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Speaker 1: What is the plan when y'all are both working?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I genuinely don't know. I've I've talked

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Speaker 2: to the preschool, but I don't as much as I

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Speaker 2: was like, hey, I've gone to price school. I don't know,

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Speaker 2: but I also don't want to. I don't also don't

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Speaker 2: want a nanny. So but I need help because it's

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Speaker 2: a million dollars. It's very expensive. I don't like people

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Speaker 2: in my space. I when I do, Like, something happened

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Speaker 2: the other night where I'm so specific with my schedule

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Speaker 2: and that's one thing I thought I was going to

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Speaker 2: be more leaning on. I'm not.

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Speaker 1: And that's fine. With the baby schedule, Yes, oh I

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Speaker 1: knew you wouldn't.

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Speaker 2: It's fine. Isn'tly okay with that? Like because too my

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Speaker 2: kids were amazing scheduled.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't different with the third with the schedule, So

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Speaker 1: I'm not coming down on you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'm like, but at first I was like, ah,

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Speaker 2: it's gonna be fine. I s no, I'm still like,

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Speaker 2: why aren't they gys closed? Should be in the.

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Speaker 4: Consistency for your own life, because you are right and

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Speaker 4: there is things to schedule.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's just sometimes I just so that's the thing.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't want to have a full

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Speaker 2: time because I don't need full time. I'd also don't

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Speaker 2: want to pay for full time. But I also don't

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Speaker 2: know if I want to go straight into the daycare

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Speaker 2: because that it's just so it's like once once January hits,

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Speaker 2: then we'll maybe know more about Alan's schedule because he's

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Speaker 2: really ramping up with coaching and stuff. And it's one

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Speaker 2: of those conversations like the other day, it's like, oh,

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Speaker 2: well I have this on this same so now we

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Speaker 2: need we not just I we will And he's like, again,

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Speaker 2: those things to then put it out there to go, Okay,

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Speaker 2: let's both figure this out. And he reciprocates, which I'm

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Speaker 2: so thankful of. He's like, well, I'll move I'm no, no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: here's the thing. I'm not asking you to move anything. Now.

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Speaker 2: Your thing is not more important than my thing, and

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Speaker 2: my thing is not more important than your thing. Let's

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Speaker 2: just figure this out together. Ye, we can just And

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Speaker 2: I like that.

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Speaker 4: I think it's difficult too, when like their jobs require

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Speaker 4: travel and out of the house, and a lot of

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Speaker 4: what you do is in your home but you're working, right.

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Speaker 2: And then the other piece is traveling uptown too, right

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Speaker 2: for wind downs and stuff.

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Speaker 4: But it's oh, well, you're here today, but you're not

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and.

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Speaker 1: Well and then a preschool doesn't solve that problem.

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Speaker 2: Well, because here's the problem with the preschools is again,

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Speaker 2: when how last minute do we get things? Yeah, exactly,

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Speaker 2: I don't, and you have to watch well, thank you

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Speaker 2: and I love you and I'm going to definitely use that,

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Speaker 2: but I can't do that when I'm going to shoot

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Speaker 2: a movie or so. It's like we're going to figure

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Speaker 2: it out. Yeah, and I have no doubt that we will.

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Speaker 2: But I was just curious when it comes to do

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Speaker 2: you guys put out things to then get that received back.

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Speaker 2: Is there a situation where you're like, I'm going to

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Speaker 2: but I do it just so I don't become passive.

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Speaker 4: I think we well, I'll say this and I don't

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Speaker 4: know if therapist Amy would sanction this, but I am

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Speaker 4: default primary parent, Like it's happening this week. I have

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Speaker 4: something that I had planned for a month and he's

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Speaker 4: now planned something and so I'm my friends, I'm coming.

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Speaker 5: No, it's my fault though, but here's what I'll say.

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Speaker 4: Sorry, no, no, no, no, I this is what is

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Speaker 4: valuable and what has saved my marriage.

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Speaker 2: I should have to call you to ask, talk to

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Speaker 2: you about it. Answer there can be no, there's one

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Speaker 4: This is what I'm saying, and this what's great about this,

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Speaker 5: I always default till.

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Speaker 2: I'm primary parent, and so I learned a couple of

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Speaker 2: years ago in order to not resent him, I cover

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Speaker 2: everything as if I can't count on him to be

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Speaker 2: with the kid. Though his life is like your life though,

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Speaker 2: I mean it's like last minute, it's calls.

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Speaker 5: That's a lot of last minute shows, right, I mean

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Speaker 1: Lot of the like I used to be is to

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Speaker 2: Common, used to get make it shows up quite a bit, right.

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Speaker 1: But I plan it all sure it literally the calendar

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Speaker 1: have to ask. But yes, I still think the scheduling

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Speaker 4: But I also think, like women, I just want to

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Speaker 4: it's he would do it if he could. Guys, I'm

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Speaker 4: not making money, he's he's the primary breadwinner. So I

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Speaker 4: just think, like I had to learn, where do I

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Speaker 4: get resentful? I get resentful when my things don't feel

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Speaker 4: my things are important to me, and that's where I

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Speaker 4: have to start. And so I just get it, like everything.

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Speaker 4: I already had coverage for this week based on if

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Speaker 4: he could be there, if he couldn't, because if it

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Speaker 4: wasn't this, it would be something. That's what I've learned.

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Speaker 4: It's a call, especially management. Right now, Catherine, what are

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Speaker 4: you up to a client? It's like it's another show impromptu,

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Speaker 4: And I think everybody has that fluctuation in their own

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Speaker 4: corner of the world, whether it's I mean, not all

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Speaker 4: of us are shooting movies, right, that's not normal.

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Speaker 2: Hopefully ramp it up.

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Speaker 4: I just think we have to do what we know

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Speaker 4: to help ourselves too. Like what you're saying, like you

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Speaker 4: ask him so that he can reciprocate. I will say,

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Speaker 4: now Preston does ask how do the podcast go? He

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Speaker 4: didn't super ask about Matthew McConaughey. But that's Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 4: a little we had a little jealousy.

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Speaker 2: Guy, did you start asking after he was on? Can I? Yes?

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Speaker 5: But can I share this embarrassing?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: This is embarrassing for him, not for me. He's like,

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Speaker 4: oh yeah, yeah, you guys, if this doesn't show true colors.

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Speaker 4: Today was that podcast with like Michael McConaughey or whatever, Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Hi. Here, I am in my Christmas bread.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I would like to find that. All these things

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Speaker 4: Because I feel like Dad might not be We don't

436
00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:18,440
Speaker 4: actually want him to be super savvy on Instagram.

437
00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:21,280
Speaker 1: You know, it's great his phone number and reach out

438
00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:22,320
Speaker 1: to him. Who cares.

439
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:27,919
Speaker 3: There's a guy, another guy that has which is funny.

440
00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:31,199
Speaker 3: He's in his late fifties and as we all know

441
00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:35,760
Speaker 3: now the world knows, Kathy is seventy. And this guy

442
00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:38,960
Speaker 3: reached out to a friend of mine. He knows her,

443
00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:41,480
Speaker 3: and he said, you know, she's she's so pretty, she's

444
00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:43,359
Speaker 3: she might be too too young for me?

445
00:21:45,600 --> 00:21:47,600
Speaker 2: Is that a pickup line? Kathy? I don't know what

446
00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:48,080
Speaker 2: to do with that.

447
00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:50,280
Speaker 3: You know what, that's going to be my next pickup

448
00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:53,639
Speaker 3: line exactly. You know you're too young for me, but okay,

449
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,120
Speaker 3: let's try it. So yeah, that's been the extent of it.

450
00:21:56,760 --> 00:22:00,760
Speaker 2: So is there someone in the entertainer meant because now

451
00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:02,800
Speaker 2: you can call yourself you know, you're an entertainment girl.

452
00:22:02,920 --> 00:22:06,360
Speaker 2: So is there someone that you've kind of always gone ooh,

453
00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:09,480
Speaker 2: I kind of think he's cute and maybe and that

454
00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:12,080
Speaker 2: you know is single, that you know, because we could

455
00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,680
Speaker 2: just reach right now to him on the show and

456
00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 2: just go hey, Like.

457
00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:21,160
Speaker 3: I mean, honestly, I know because most of the men

458
00:22:22,880 --> 00:22:26,479
Speaker 3: you know, I that are that I find attractive are married.

459
00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:28,680
Speaker 2: And I don't mean that in any no, for sure,

460
00:22:28,760 --> 00:22:29,360
Speaker 2: for sure.

461
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:33,160
Speaker 3: But honestly for me, yes, let's stay ask me that

462
00:22:33,320 --> 00:22:35,320
Speaker 3: you know on the show looks so important to me.

463
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:38,960
Speaker 3: But my biggest nightmare would be going on one of

464
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:42,040
Speaker 3: those shows where you can't see the person, like I

465
00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:44,359
Speaker 3: have to be attractive when I first meet them.

466
00:22:44,600 --> 00:22:47,560
Speaker 5: Right, Yeah, we actually have talked about that here too.

467
00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:49,959
Speaker 4: I do think there's some validity to that, Like I remember,

468
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,959
Speaker 4: I remember the moment I met my husband, second husband.

469
00:22:52,960 --> 00:22:55,919
Speaker 4: For what it's worth, Kathy and I like the world

470
00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:59,679
Speaker 4: stopped for me. And I wasn't my type or anything,

471
00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:03,000
Speaker 4: but there is something too, like the actual instinctual.

472
00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 2: Attraction you have.

473
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:04,960
Speaker 3: How long you been married?

474
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,800
Speaker 4: Eight We've been together nine years now eight years, it's

475
00:23:09,040 --> 00:23:09,680
Speaker 4: eight years married.

476
00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 5: It was all fast, but.

477
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 3: Well, that's why I believe that Golden Bachelor. You people asked, ridiculous.

478
00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:19,040
Speaker 3: Oh no, I believe it. I met my husband at

479
00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:23,080
Speaker 3: a frat party and the room was filled with single

480
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:27,159
Speaker 3: guys carrying red cups. And I scanned the room and

481
00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 3: I saw him, and I was with a friend of mine.

482
00:23:29,600 --> 00:23:31,760
Speaker 3: I said, I'm going to marry that guy. And I did.

483
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:33,239
Speaker 2: I love that.

484
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:36,399
Speaker 3: I just it was just this immediate attraction when I

485
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:39,880
Speaker 3: saw him and he saw me. So I know, maybe

486
00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 3: that makes me a little you know.

487
00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:44,000
Speaker 2: It doesn't. It doesn't because I have a recording that

488
00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:46,320
Speaker 2: I'm going to when I do marry my fiance. I

489
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:49,240
Speaker 2: have a recording the It was like two or three

490
00:23:49,320 --> 00:23:51,560
Speaker 2: days after I met him. I recorded to have a timestamp.

491
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:52,800
Speaker 2: I was like, I know, this is crazy all, but

492
00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:53,800
Speaker 2: I'm going to marry him.

493
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,359
Speaker 1: I was just thinking about that because for the Christmas party,

494
00:23:56,440 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 1: yeah popped up. Yeah, last year when You're like, Okay,

495
00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:00,520
Speaker 1: you're gonna think I'm crazy, but I'm going to marry

496
00:24:00,560 --> 00:24:00,760
Speaker 1: this guy.

497
00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, you are.

498
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:06,360
Speaker 3: I believe here we are, there's four of us here.

499
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:11,960
Speaker 3: I believe that you can fall in love quickly. And

500
00:24:12,720 --> 00:24:15,119
Speaker 3: uh so, you know I have time. I mean the

501
00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:16,560
Speaker 3: clock's ticking, but I have time.

502
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:19,880
Speaker 2: No, I can't believe you're seventy. I know you're great.

503
00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:24,320
Speaker 3: Thank you, Yeah, thank you. I'm you know, I have

504
00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:27,560
Speaker 3: make up, hair dye.

505
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:31,720
Speaker 5: Listen. None of us are going on natural over here either, But.

506
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:35,000
Speaker 3: I mean that word is not even in my vocabulary.

507
00:24:35,080 --> 00:24:37,040
Speaker 2: I don't at right now.

508
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:41,080
Speaker 3: Horns, juice, maybe natural, That's about where I drop that one.

509
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:43,159
Speaker 5: That's fair. I just think you look so stunning.

510
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:45,360
Speaker 4: I'd imagine too, because you're so energetic, Like it does

511
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 4: matter to meet someone in person, because you need someone

512
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:50,080
Speaker 4: that can keep up with you and has same charisma

513
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:51,080
Speaker 4: for life as you do.

514
00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:57,120
Speaker 3: And I have to say when I when I people

515
00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:59,639
Speaker 3: always ask me, would you want to be the golden bachelorette?

516
00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:03,159
Speaker 3: Who you wouldn't want to be the golden bachhorette in

517
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 3: a room with twenty two guys? Okay, I'll do that,

518
00:25:07,600 --> 00:25:11,199
Speaker 3: But as I've said, and I'll say to you it

519
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:13,919
Speaker 3: would be a challenge to find twenty two guys who

520
00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 3: could keep up with me.

521
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 4: So here's my question, because you are you know, like

522
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:20,440
Speaker 4: I feel like as we get older and we're all

523
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:25,359
Speaker 4: forties here, yeah, well again not natural.

524
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:27,880
Speaker 2: Cat's gonna say I'm only thirty nine.

525
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:31,920
Speaker 5: It gets weird when I'm like thirty nine for a time.

526
00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,679
Speaker 4: But as I've gotten older, like I've just realized my

527
00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:38,359
Speaker 4: window of tolerance for certain things is so much lower.

528
00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:41,160
Speaker 4: And it's I even people I want to be friends with,

529
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:43,639
Speaker 4: which it sounds like mean or something, but it's like

530
00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,399
Speaker 4: you can kind of instantly know andtutally who you're connected

531
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 4: to and who you're not.

532
00:25:47,640 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 2: So does that feel that way to you?

533
00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:53,600
Speaker 4: Like I can't imagine, by the way, my allergy to

534
00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 4: the gender as a whole when I met my husband

535
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:57,720
Speaker 4: was so off the charts, like I thought, there's no

536
00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:00,359
Speaker 4: way I'll get married again. It's I had raised husband,

537
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:04,560
Speaker 4: I was exhausted, So I imagined by seventy you're like, okay, dude,

538
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 4: you know, like, how do you feel when you walk

539
00:26:07,040 --> 00:26:08,879
Speaker 4: into a room. Can you kind of scan quickly and

540
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:10,400
Speaker 4: go this isn't gonna work.

541
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:12,959
Speaker 2: This is and do they ever? Do they at this

542
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:16,199
Speaker 2: point too? Is it the same stuff? Like they don't communicate, Well,

543
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,000
Speaker 2: you have to. You have to teach them because we

544
00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:20,400
Speaker 2: have dietary restrictions.

545
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:21,680
Speaker 5: Like I'm exhausted for you.

546
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 3: Let's just be honest. You know, it's always take your

547
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:30,040
Speaker 3: damn plate to the sink, pick up move you know

548
00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:32,200
Speaker 3: you're hog in the bed? You know, can you find

549
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:34,360
Speaker 3: the hamper for your clothes? I mean, come on, it's

550
00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:38,119
Speaker 3: I don't care if you're seven or seventy. That's just me.

551
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:43,240
Speaker 3: But I will say that my tolerance, in some ways

552
00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 3: I've gotten become much more tolerant with age, and in

553
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 3: some ways I'm like two pieces of Sooran wrap. Like tolerance.

554
00:26:54,200 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 3: I think that no one's perfect. My husband, as great

555
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:04,000
Speaker 3: as he was, was not perfect. And so I think

556
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 3: I just realized now it's more about so the man

557
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:12,040
Speaker 3: that I'm looking for, Please God, or it would be

558
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:16,280
Speaker 3: a miracle, there will be no more children, So you know,

559
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 3: you don't have those kinds of issues to work around.

560
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:22,000
Speaker 3: It's more about shared values and how we want to

561
00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:25,359
Speaker 3: spend our time together. So I think the process is

562
00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:28,320
Speaker 3: a little bit different when you get to be my age.

563
00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 3: But I think I think the instantaneous attraction that I

564
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 3: think all that stasts the same. But like, for example,

565
00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:41,119
Speaker 3: I don't want to cook every night. And in fact,

566
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:43,520
Speaker 3: when I was on the dating maps, that was like

567
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:47,359
Speaker 3: my first thing. If you're looking for a cook, I'm out, like, no,

568
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 3: I'm not going to dinner every night. That's I don't.

569
00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 2: Want to unless you want a bowl of cereal. But

570
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 2: that's all I got for you.

571
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 3: There's cheerios and oatmeal. Go figure it out. But I

572
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 3: love the idea of having, you know, a glass of

573
00:28:02,119 --> 00:28:06,280
Speaker 3: wine or you know, tequila and soda and cooking together.

574
00:28:07,160 --> 00:28:10,159
Speaker 3: I love that idea of having that kind of companionship.

575
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:14,719
Speaker 3: But I don't want to. I've raised three kids. I

576
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:17,040
Speaker 3: really I can't raise another husband. I can.

577
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:21,159
Speaker 4: So I wonder, because now all of our wheels are

578
00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,679
Speaker 4: turning and we're just going to note you as a person,

579
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:26,600
Speaker 4: as a player in our friend game here and now

580
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 4: we'll keep our eyes open. But I'm wondering, if you

581
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 4: could pick like an ideal next partner, would they be

582
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:34,080
Speaker 4: a golfer?

583
00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:35,320
Speaker 2: Do you love tennis? Like?

584
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:36,879
Speaker 5: What are your favorite things?

585
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 4: Kind of non negotiable, like you have to do this

586
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 4: with me, or we do a lot of life separate.

587
00:28:41,760 --> 00:28:45,800
Speaker 3: So I look at a little bit differently. I'm open

588
00:28:45,840 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 3: to anything. The only non negotiation it can't be a smoker.

589
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:51,480
Speaker 3: I cannot cigarette smoke.

590
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 2: Just what about cigars? I know, I know men like cigars.

591
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:58,000
Speaker 3: I smoked cigars, so my husband did, so I sort

592
00:28:58,040 --> 00:28:59,760
Speaker 3: of have a soft spot for cigars.

593
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 2: So we'll let a cigar pass.

594
00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 3: What a cigar smoker slide by? But I'll say anything.

595
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:09,680
Speaker 3: You know, I do play golf, and I played pickleball

596
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 3: Gary and I did win that contest with Ellen. I

597
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:22,520
Speaker 3: love to bake. I baked from scratch. I love to

598
00:29:22,560 --> 00:29:26,520
Speaker 3: need a I hike. I love mountainous hiking, rigorous hiking.

599
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 3: I walk five miles a day.

600
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 2: When's your birthday?

601
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:43,160
Speaker 3: Do you want to guess?

602
00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 2: Sagittarius? Are you sad or you're not? Clarious?

603
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 3: Taurus the bull?

604
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 4: Oh, my friend from home is a Taurus. This is

605
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 4: all very on brand.

606
00:29:58,080 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 3: When's her birthday?

607
00:29:59,320 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 2: She's May fish teenth, that's my sister's I'm May ninth. Okay, okay,

608
00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 2: love it? Sorry?

609
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:08,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, but yeah, so adventure. You want adventure and you

610
00:30:08,760 --> 00:30:10,040
Speaker 4: can do it on your own.

611
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 3: You know, I can do it on my own. But again,

612
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 3: I like doing things with people. Yeahah, but there's nothing

613
00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:20,360
Speaker 3: I like a bicycle. There's if I want a guy

614
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 3: who wants you've heard my thing, I'm used.

615
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 2: To guys, right, I didn't hear that one.

616
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:28,920
Speaker 3: Okay, So the men I find a lot of them

617
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 3: are used to guys. They used to play tennis, they

618
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 3: used to sit on the sofa. So I don't want

619
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 3: to used to guy I want. It doesn't he doesn't

620
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:42,800
Speaker 3: have to be good at it. He just has to

621
00:30:42,800 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 3: have interest. He has to I love to kayak. You know,

622
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:49,040
Speaker 3: I have a two man kayak. It's sitting there because

623
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 3: you know, I don't have anyone to go out. I mean,

624
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 3: I have girlfriends I got with, but I just want

625
00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 3: someone who is willing to get up and take take

626
00:30:58,400 --> 00:31:01,680
Speaker 3: the day and do stuff. Because we only get this

627
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:04,840
Speaker 3: one one spend. You know, we only get this one shot,

628
00:31:05,120 --> 00:31:06,400
Speaker 3: so don't waste it.

629
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:08,600
Speaker 2: And I know this is a big, wide world now,

630
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 2: But would you do long distance?

631
00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:16,920
Speaker 3: I would? I mean, I as on the show, most

632
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 3: of us are not prepared to pack up and leave

633
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 3: our homes permanently, but that there's this little thing called

634
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 3: an airplane, and you know you can fly and come

635
00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:31,080
Speaker 3: back and see. Ideally, Ideally, I mean, if we're, if

636
00:31:31,080 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 3: we're you know, it is Christmas time, it is Sonica.

637
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:36,160
Speaker 3: Let's just let's just throw it out there and see

638
00:31:36,160 --> 00:31:39,120
Speaker 3: what wish has come true. I would I would find

639
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:42,520
Speaker 3: a guy who has children and grandchildren where we could

640
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 3: meld our families together and spend time in both locations.

641
00:31:48,400 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 3: That to me would be idyllic dream.

642
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 2: I think we should be ideal and say what you want, yeah,

643
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 2: and put it out there.

644
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 3: Sit on Santa's lap and tell him your next guy.

645
00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:03,080
Speaker 2: We got to be off, Kathy. If so obviously, like

646
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 2: you said, anyone will want to be you know, the

647
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 2: next Golden Bachelorette or that the you know, the the

648
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 2: you know, the new one, the one and only. Essentially, uh,

649
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:16,400
Speaker 2: what if it's not you, who would you want to

650
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 2: have that role?

651
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 3: You know you're That's not the first time I've been

652
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:26,880
Speaker 3: asked that question. I know those ladies so well, Susan

653
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 3: and Nancy and I have a really strong friendship, so

654
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 3: of course I would love to see one of them

655
00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 3: be the Golden Bacheuette. I think, uh, you know, faith,

656
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:42,280
Speaker 3: all the faith doesn't really want to leave home. But

657
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 3: you know, Faith is a lovely person. Leslie, as we

658
00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:49,520
Speaker 3: all know, is heartbroken. I would love to see Leslie, honestly,

659
00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 3: I'd like to see any of them after me because

660
00:32:57,440 --> 00:32:59,280
Speaker 3: the love starts right behind me.

661
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:02,600
Speaker 2: I love it. I personally would like to see a

662
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:09,320
Speaker 2: golden Paradise that because you know, because there's the bachelor

663
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 2: in paradise. That would be super fun to do the

664
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 2: like that. I would, I just would. I would love that,

665
00:33:15,280 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 2: and that that would give you more opportunity to have

666
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 2: more men.

667
00:33:18,280 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 3: Uh huh. The problem is this body is not putting

668
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:22,760
Speaker 3: on a bikini.

669
00:33:23,960 --> 00:33:29,800
Speaker 2: Well, first of all, there is this one wraps and

670
00:33:29,800 --> 00:33:32,320
Speaker 2: stuff too, you know, a little so wrong and hope

671
00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:34,720
Speaker 2: we could get there. How about this? And then there

672
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:38,400
Speaker 2: you go ABC. It's yeah, so it's like a an

673
00:33:38,440 --> 00:33:42,320
Speaker 2: adventuross golden and golden and snow, I don't know, gold.

674
00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:48,280
Speaker 3: Beach ski day. One day you're up in the mountains

675
00:33:48,320 --> 00:33:50,640
Speaker 3: hiking and the afternoon come down the ocean, go swimming.

676
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, well real fast based on physical capability that way.

677
00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 3: And you know what, you can almost you can almost

678
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:05,680
Speaker 3: look and tell guy true story. I did a guy

679
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 3: for a very short period of time, but he wanted

680
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 3: to take me to Florida, and he's fit. He sat

681
00:34:14,080 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 3: in the hotel room, in the hotel room on his computer.

682
00:34:19,520 --> 00:34:22,320
Speaker 3: Do you need to ask a relationship ended? Yeah?

683
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:24,080
Speaker 2: Did you leave like immediately?

684
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:27,279
Speaker 3: I made friends down on the beach, I had a.

685
00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:30,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, I still I made it. I had a terror.

686
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 2: I went to Cabo one time with someone and it

687
00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 2: was just not great. I still talk to the people

688
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 2: that I met on that Cabo trip.

689
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 5: Isn't it crazy?

690
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 2: How your great vacation friends. That's funny.

691
00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 4: If you had one piece of advice, because you have lived,

692
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 4: not even by age, just by circumstance, a lot of life,

693
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:51,920
Speaker 4: like a deep, rich life. You have grandkids, you have kids.

694
00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:55,280
Speaker 4: You also were married to someone you've that's a tragedy.

695
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:58,240
Speaker 4: That loss is not just, you know, a loss, it's

696
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 4: you didn't get to probably say things you wanted to say.

697
00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:04,799
Speaker 4: So what would your advice be to anybody listening that

698
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:06,279
Speaker 4: is younger than you?

699
00:35:07,560 --> 00:35:09,840
Speaker 3: Oh? Boy, I mean I have a lot of advice,

700
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 3: but I think if we're talking about dating, I think

701
00:35:15,960 --> 00:35:20,040
Speaker 3: the best piece of advice I could give is live

702
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 3: live your own life, do the things you love, and

703
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:28,439
Speaker 3: the right people will come into your life, be who

704
00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 3: you are, be your authentic self, and if you're doing

705
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 3: the things you love, you have the best chance of

706
00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:39,399
Speaker 3: meeting other people that will love you for who you are.

707
00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:43,200
Speaker 2: That's really beautiful advice. And then what about marriage advice?

708
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 2: What's something that you was your biggest lesson that you

709
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,560
Speaker 2: learned with or struggle that you learned well?

710
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:53,800
Speaker 3: In my case, I needed to learn to zip it

711
00:35:54,440 --> 00:35:54,839
Speaker 3: a lot.

712
00:35:55,960 --> 00:35:58,800
Speaker 5: I don't like that advice. Next, next piece of advice.

713
00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:01,839
Speaker 3: I think, honestly, in marriage, all these things you know

714
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:04,359
Speaker 3: when you talk about these these things that are all

715
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 3: tried and true, they're tried and true pieces of advice

716
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:10,840
Speaker 3: because they've worked over the years. And I have nothing

717
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:15,160
Speaker 3: new under the sun to say other than marriage is compromise.

718
00:36:15,719 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 3: Any relationship is compromise and communication, and that looks very

719
00:36:20,920 --> 00:36:25,200
Speaker 3: different for different people. How do you best communicate? How

720
00:36:25,200 --> 00:36:28,800
Speaker 3: do you you know? How are you going to compromise?

721
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 3: Because if you're always demanding it your way, that's just

722
00:36:35,760 --> 00:36:38,799
Speaker 3: not going to work. So I really think those things

723
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:43,399
Speaker 3: like communicating with your partner, really talking things through and

724
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:47,239
Speaker 3: finding the common ground and knowing that it's better for

725
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:52,800
Speaker 3: each of you to be somewhat happy than one person

726
00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:56,720
Speaker 3: miserable and the other one elated because they got their way.

727
00:36:57,560 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 3: I think that's what I learned. Compromise.

728
00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that. I think that's what I need

729
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:03,840
Speaker 2: to do a little better.

730
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 5: I'm trying. Yeah, same, I'm trying.

731
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:06,200
Speaker 3: Yeah.

732
00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:08,160
Speaker 2: But also you guys again, you run the ship.

733
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:11,760
Speaker 3: Wait hard to compromise, ladies, because.

734
00:37:11,560 --> 00:37:12,520
Speaker 2: Our way is the right way.

735
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:13,480
Speaker 3: No, we're right.

736
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:16,919
Speaker 5: They get to me. Let's hang out.

737
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 4: I'll go boat with you and play pickleball with you,

738
00:37:19,200 --> 00:37:21,880
Speaker 4: you little fox in the neighborhood.

739
00:37:21,880 --> 00:37:24,399
Speaker 3: I live right like Austin. We can get walked down

740
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:29,239
Speaker 3: like Austin. And the weather's great this time. You do

741
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:30,360
Speaker 3: not want to come in the summer.

742
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:35,040
Speaker 2: Ever, Well, we're in Nashville, so.

743
00:37:34,200 --> 00:37:36,560
Speaker 3: You're in Nashville. I don't quite that.

744
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 2: We love it.

745
00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:42,440
Speaker 3: Can I tell you another truism? Please, I've just had

746
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:45,840
Speaker 3: to accept it and still live my best life and

747
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 3: be grateful for every day I have. But the truism is,

748
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:54,399
Speaker 3: we do live in a society where there's a lot

749
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:57,360
Speaker 3: of agism. You know. I don't look at you and

750
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 3: say you're thirty nine. Wow, you look great, because we

751
00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:06,319
Speaker 3: both you don't think thirty nine. She looks great period, right,

752
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:09,800
Speaker 3: not fear age, but seventy. So we live in that

753
00:38:10,000 --> 00:38:12,600
Speaker 3: siding and I have to accept that, and that's fine.

754
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 3: But men who are not rolling quarters, you know from

755
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 3: their change at the grocery store, if they have any

756
00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:28,239
Speaker 3: any And I'm not talking wealth here, I'm just saying,

757
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:31,399
Speaker 3: you know, guys that have their acts together, they don't

758
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 3: want to date me. They want a sixty year old.

759
00:38:34,040 --> 00:38:37,719
Speaker 3: If they're seventy, they want a sixty year old. I can't,

760
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 3: you know. And if I were seventy and some sixty

761
00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 3: year old guy, the good looking athletic was like, Kathy,

762
00:38:43,440 --> 00:38:46,719
Speaker 3: you're the woman of my dreams. I'd probably go for that.

763
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 3: So I can't you know, can't blame them for that?

764
00:38:49,840 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 3: Well I can, but it's not going to get me anywhere.

765
00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 4: Now.

766
00:38:52,960 --> 00:38:54,480
Speaker 5: We see that too in our age group.

767
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 4: I've had a lot of single friends that you know,

768
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,880
Speaker 4: are stunning forty year old women. I mean, just a

769
00:39:00,040 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 4: complete package, independent, brilliant. Some of them even have abs,

770
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 4: which I'm not sure how that's attained. But still they're

771
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:09,720
Speaker 4: going to like our age group, or even ten years older,

772
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:11,440
Speaker 4: and they're going, oh, they want nothing to do with me.

773
00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:13,120
Speaker 4: They want someone in their thirties, and I'm like, what

774
00:39:13,360 --> 00:39:14,000
Speaker 4: is happening?

775
00:39:14,560 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 3: And I just tell you my son is about to

776
00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:21,280
Speaker 3: get married in March, remarried. He's divorced.

777
00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:22,239
Speaker 2: Oh does he?

778
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:27,040
Speaker 3: He is thirty eight, Okay, and he is marrying a

779
00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 3: woman who is forty eight.

780
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 2: Good for him.

781
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:33,759
Speaker 3: I love her. She has kids, he has a five

782
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:38,120
Speaker 3: year old daughter. I think, Susan newsflash, maybe might marry them.

783
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:42,520
Speaker 2: I'll just say this to me, that's you raise someone.

784
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 2: He sees a strong, independent, beautiful you know, like that's

785
00:39:48,440 --> 00:39:51,359
Speaker 2: that's and he likes that trait in you, Yeah, which

786
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 2: is why he picked I like that you say.

787
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 3: He is a great guy. You know, when my husband

788
00:39:57,920 --> 00:40:01,560
Speaker 3: passed away, he yoleaned on him hard, I mean, really

789
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:04,480
Speaker 3: helped me in so many ways get through that. All

790
00:40:04,560 --> 00:40:07,759
Speaker 3: my kids did. But you know, he lives here, and

791
00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:09,799
Speaker 3: my daughter lives here, and then my other son lives

792
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 3: in upstate New York. But yeah, and I love her.

793
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 3: She is lovely and they make a great pay and

794
00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 3: so I don't really think age is It's just hard

795
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 3: to overcome that in our culture because it's just what

796
00:40:25,239 --> 00:40:25,480
Speaker 3: it is.

797
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:30,200
Speaker 2: Well, Kathy, thank you for coming on. We really really

798
00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 2: really appreciate it. And we look forward to seeing the

799
00:40:35,440 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 2: golden in the mountains.

800
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 5: Kathy, if we hook you up with your next husband,

801
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 5: can we be bridesmaids?

802
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:42,839
Speaker 2: Marinate on it. We don't even answer right now.

803
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:47,400
Speaker 3: I don't have to think absolutely. And I have a question.

804
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:49,640
Speaker 3: You can't let me. Where are your fathers?

805
00:40:49,880 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 2: Oh, my father's well, anyone.

806
00:40:53,239 --> 00:40:55,320
Speaker 3: Your age is not going to date me. Your father's,

807
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 3: your uncles, what are they doing well?

808
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:02,919
Speaker 4: My dad passed away two years ago, And I will

809
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:06,879
Speaker 4: say this, Kathy, you would have just I know I'm

810
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:08,640
Speaker 4: trying to not have enough energy for what that would

811
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:10,160
Speaker 4: have been, even if he was to munched.

812
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: Dad's a good dad, single, but I don't know that

813
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:13,759
Speaker 1: he's doing all the things you're doing.

814
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:17,600
Speaker 2: Maybe he bit fire, I don't know.

815
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 1: We'll see, I don't know. Come to Nashville, maybe we'll

816
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:20,520
Speaker 1: try it out.

817
00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 2: I will say, my dad finally got it right and

818
00:41:22,560 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 2: has an amazing wife. He took as a hot second.

819
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:28,959
Speaker 3: Let me just say that really makes me happy. And people,

820
00:41:29,120 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 3: you didn't ask me, But I just want to say

821
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 3: one thing. People always ask me about Gary and Teresa,

822
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 3: And you know what, I look at them, and I

823
00:41:36,120 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 3: look at the way they look at each other. I'm

824
00:41:39,239 --> 00:41:43,960
Speaker 3: so happy for them. They are so sweet, gently in love.

825
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:46,840
Speaker 3: You can just see it. It's palpable. You can see it,

826
00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:49,840
Speaker 3: you can feel it. That's what I want. And so

827
00:41:50,080 --> 00:41:52,800
Speaker 3: for you to say that your dad is happily married,

828
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:56,560
Speaker 3: that's what That's what I want for everyone. Like that's joyful.

829
00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 3: That is really lovely to hear that. So congrats to them.

830
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:02,719
Speaker 2: Well, she still has to put his dishes in the

831
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:04,479
Speaker 2: sink every time, Like when I go to his house,

832
00:42:04,520 --> 00:42:07,120
Speaker 2: I'm like, Dad, it's not that a thing hard put

833
00:42:07,160 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 2: your bowl. Compromise, I'm like, and I go, Laura, don't

834
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:12,759
Speaker 2: touch it. Do not touch that in my sink. Dad,

835
00:42:12,880 --> 00:42:14,520
Speaker 2: Go put your bowl and put it in the distrusher.

836
00:42:15,160 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 3: But wait, I'll be your dad does other things for

837
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:20,920
Speaker 3: her that make up for not putting the ball in

838
00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:23,080
Speaker 3: the sink. That's what I mean by compromise. You know,

839
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:26,279
Speaker 3: if literally it's a slug, which I'm sure he isn't,

840
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:30,239
Speaker 3: then you know, okay, that's a different story. But you know,

841
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:32,680
Speaker 3: if he brings I'm making it up. If he brings

842
00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:35,480
Speaker 3: her coffee in bed in the morning, or you know,

843
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:38,440
Speaker 3: goes to the gross store and brings her home flowers.

844
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 3: I can deal with them. I can deal with the bowl.

845
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:41,239
Speaker 4: You know.

846
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's sure, absolutely.

847
00:42:43,560 --> 00:42:48,279
Speaker 3: Important things in bowls, it's really yeah.

848
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 5: Still put it in dishrusher and bring me coffee.

849
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:55,040
Speaker 3: To say, but really, in real life, bring me the

850
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:57,960
Speaker 3: damn flowers and put the bowl right.

851
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,759
Speaker 4: Kathy, I love you, and I'm to find someone. I

852
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 4: have a feeling I like when God knits people together

853
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:04,200
Speaker 4: like this, it's for a reason.

854
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 3: I love chatting with you, guys. I love come to Austin.

855
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 3: Will all go kayaking. I'll take you so fun. You

856
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:13,240
Speaker 3: can be my wing women.

857
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so fun.

858
00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:17,279
Speaker 2: We're there.

859
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:17,719
Speaker 3: I love that.

860
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 2: Awesome. Well, thank you, Kathy, really appreciate you.

861
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:24,800
Speaker 3: I really enjoyed chatting with you guys. So long happy holidays.

862
00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, I want to go to the bar and

863
00:43:28,280 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 2: beer wing woman. That'd be so much fun. I really

864
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:31,840
Speaker 2: feeling for some.

865
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 5: Reason we're going to be the ones that know someone

866
00:43:34,160 --> 00:43:35,040
Speaker 5: that marries Kathy.

867
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:38,600
Speaker 2: I mean, let's yeah, I just got to think about it.

868
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:39,800
Speaker 1: Her energy is amazing.

869
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:40,279
Speaker 4: I love it.

870
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Speaker 2: I wonder, like that's what I always wonder. It's like

871
00:43:43,000 --> 00:43:45,480
Speaker 2: her energy is so palpable and wonderful, like it's got

872
00:43:45,600 --> 00:43:48,080
Speaker 2: to be hard to find someone that lives at that level.

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Speaker 1: I also learned a very valuable lesson today. What's that

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Speaker 1: Earlier when we were talking to her, when we asked

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Speaker 1: how old, I said, you look great? Oh shoot, And

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Speaker 1: then she brought that up and I was like, oh

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Speaker 1: my gosh, that's so true. I mean, it's just a

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Speaker 1: good point. Like I didn't mean it in any you know,

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Speaker 1: I didn't mean it in a bad way, but it's

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Speaker 1: just kind of how we are.

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Speaker 2: Well. I say, though I get hurt, like not to like.

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Speaker 2: But when I said them forger like you, oh, I

883
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Speaker 2: would have said you're like early thirty. I mean, I

884
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Speaker 2: never make me feel old.

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Speaker 1: I definitely think it happens in every age every but

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Speaker 1: also it's true it is, you know, ages on.

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Speaker 2: I guess at the end of the day.

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Speaker 5: But I told people I'm gonna start saying I'm fifty

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Speaker 5: because I look great.

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Speaker 1: For I don't think people mean anything by it, and

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Speaker 1: it doesn't bother but there's truth to that for sure.

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Speaker 2: It's It's almost like when you when we talk about wait, yeah,

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Speaker 2: and when like yeah, last way and I said, oh

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Speaker 2: my god, Catherine, you looked so good, and like, what

895
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Speaker 2: did I look like before? Yeah, and it's that same

896
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Speaker 2: kind of thing. Yeah, and I'm like, oh, I don't

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Speaker 2: mean no, just like that means that you didn't mean

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Speaker 2: to Yeah. Absolutely, she does look great for seventy Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but also as we.

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Speaker 1: Mean it as a compliment. Ninety percent of the time

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Speaker 1: when something like that is said, the person means it

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Speaker 1: as a compliment.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Just can be so interesting in different ways. She's

904
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Speaker 2: a light.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, she has to be bridesmaid.

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Speaker 2: So I'm on a much energy. I love it. I

907
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Speaker 2: need you to be my bridesmaid, first friend.

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Speaker 5: And anything you want to share with.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we got an email coming out to everyone. Okay,

910
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Speaker 2: listeners are just awesothing you guys. But I mean, hey,

911
00:45:18,960 --> 00:45:22,719
Speaker 2: if everyone wants to come, let's do it. Okay, I'll

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Speaker 2: be your bridesmaid anywhere.

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Speaker 4: You know that. I was like, it could be in

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Speaker 4: your backyard. I truly don't care, thank you. I also

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Speaker 4: would just put on an earpiece and resurrect my old

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Speaker 4: former event self. We did ask someone to the person

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Speaker 4: to marry us that we want to marry us. It's

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Speaker 4: gonna be I'm super excited. I'm not telling you who

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Speaker 4: it is.

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Speaker 1: I had a feeling.

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Speaker 3: I'm here. I love you.

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Speaker 2: Guys okay, Bye bye,