WEBVTT - Tell Me Your Fantasy

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect n N. And just like that,

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<v Speaker 1>we're back on the air. Welcome back to another carefully

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<v Speaker 1>Reckless episode with your girl just hilarious. I do not

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<v Speaker 1>have a guest today. I'm gonna get back to the

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<v Speaker 1>old format. Okay. A lot of y'all are requesting that

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<v Speaker 1>I just do my podcast by myself. I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>have fun with my friends and my family a little bit,

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit, But now I'm getting back to it.

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<v Speaker 1>So grab your sea, grab your halls. It's story time

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<v Speaker 1>and this ship is about me. Okay. So some time ago,

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<v Speaker 1>like back in a long, long long time agose days,

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<v Speaker 1>I was having sex with my current boyfriend. Right. It

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<v Speaker 1>was getting steamy. Now, if you are an avid Carefully

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<v Speaker 1>Reckless listener, y'all know I told you all there are

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<v Speaker 1>only a few ways that I can come right, my

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<v Speaker 1>favorite being being on top riding Dick. I love it. Okay. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not even all about me being in power writing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's about me looking down at my partner, looking at

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<v Speaker 1>his eyes, and him looking back up at me. He

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<v Speaker 1>got one hand around my neck, the other one around

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<v Speaker 1>my waist like slamming me down on that ship right now.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that. I also love a guy to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to me, oh, because I talk bad. Y'all know I

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<v Speaker 1>talk all the time, so why wouldn't not talking a bit?

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<v Speaker 1>But even more interesting enough, sex is very sensual for me,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's very mental. So I'm riding him and riding

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<v Speaker 1>him and writing him right, and I'm not looking down

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<v Speaker 1>on him because I'm actually fantasizing about somebody else. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's crazy. I know what y'll thinking. This person I

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<v Speaker 1>never even had sex with, right, But I was being

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<v Speaker 1>trained at that time. I was working out and I

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<v Speaker 1>had a trainer. He was fine, chocolate, handsome, he's a

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<v Speaker 1>boxer's talking only think about him, tang niggers up in

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<v Speaker 1>the ring and ship, and that ship was just sexy

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<v Speaker 1>to me. And resign it with my fucking pussy. It

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<v Speaker 1>resignated with my hormones at that time. And my boyfriend

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<v Speaker 1>then just wasn't doing it for me because I was

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<v Speaker 1>fantasizing about another guy. Now. Like I said, I had

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<v Speaker 1>never gotten intimate with the guy I was fantasizing about,

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<v Speaker 1>but I ended up closing my eyes and imagining that

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<v Speaker 1>I was fucking him now I'm becoming more wet, more moist,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm about to climax, right, I yell out other

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<v Speaker 1>guy's name. Ain't that about a bit now? Listen. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if this has never happened to any of

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<v Speaker 1>you out there, but it happened to me. Needless to say,

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<v Speaker 1>I was accused of cheating, and I literally just had

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<v Speaker 1>to come clean because I didn't want to lie. In

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<v Speaker 1>that moment, I knew I sucked up. I still got

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<v Speaker 1>my nut. He stopped. He instantly got so off ship.

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<v Speaker 1>That wasn't gonna stop me. I was already coming anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was like an immediate embarrassment. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh shit, with the funk that I just do. He goes,

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<v Speaker 1>so you're sucking the train and nig that you'd be

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<v Speaker 1>working out with. Because he knew who this guy was.

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<v Speaker 1>He just didn't know that I was attracted to the guy, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I said, No, I never had sex with him. I

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<v Speaker 1>pleaded my case because I didn't. I didn't guy, for real,

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<v Speaker 1>that's real ship. I did not ever lay down with

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<v Speaker 1>this guy. I didn't even tell him that I liked him.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course I was flirty with him, but I never

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<v Speaker 1>even told him or even expressed to him, I want

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<v Speaker 1>to have sex with you. I fantasized about you, blah

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<v Speaker 1>blah blah. There are just some things that some people

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<v Speaker 1>don't need to know. So with that being said, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like crying. I'm doing all of you know, because this

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<v Speaker 1>is my boyfriend. This is my boyfriend, and although I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not happy at the time, that's not how I want

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<v Speaker 1>to break up with somebody like Oh, Ship, she said

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<v Speaker 1>another nigga's names, so she's sucking another guy. No, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even want you to think I'm cheating on you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm happy for other reasons. But you know, Ship, now

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<v Speaker 1>you're unhappy because you think I'm a cheater. Needless to say,

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<v Speaker 1>we did break up not because of that, but shortly

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<v Speaker 1>after that because there were so much other things going

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<v Speaker 1>on in the relationship that I did not feel that

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<v Speaker 1>it was worth staying and fighting through. You know what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying or fighting for. So that's that story that

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<v Speaker 1>brings me to my question the topic. Do you think

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<v Speaker 1>it's common to fantasize about some and else while you

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<v Speaker 1>with your partner? Is it common? Really? Now, Listen, that's

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<v Speaker 1>not the only time that I've done that. That's the

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<v Speaker 1>only time where a bitch was so into it that

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<v Speaker 1>I said the guy's name. You know what I'm saying

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<v Speaker 1>That that went too fucking far. I went too far,

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<v Speaker 1>and I do regret that sexual an encounter. I do

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<v Speaker 1>regret that because that was very disrespectful. He was so

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<v Speaker 1>upset and he was like, damn, they're about to kill me.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, damn, why would you? Why would you? Bet?

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<v Speaker 1>You ain't even sucking. At least you could have sucked

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<v Speaker 1>them if it was worth all this and ship. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. But I'm not a cheater. I

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<v Speaker 1>just was fantasizing. Is it common? I feel like it is.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like it's natural for men and women both

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<v Speaker 1>to think about other people or like maybe a crush

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<v Speaker 1>or a sexy celebrity that you could see yourself sleeping

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<v Speaker 1>with or you imagine yourself being with while you're having

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<v Speaker 1>sex with your partner. Now, that doesn't go to say

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<v Speaker 1>it happens every time, or you're unhappy with your partner.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes you just thank you getting your mind and you

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<v Speaker 1>you know, why are you riding that dick or you

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<v Speaker 1>getting hit from the back or whatever you think of something. Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>it's just like watching porn. If you are one of

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<v Speaker 1>those couples who have to spice it up, or you

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<v Speaker 1>just like watching porn with your partner to get the

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<v Speaker 1>ships going, that's fantasizing too, you know what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 1>You're using something else to get it going with your

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<v Speaker 1>partner anyway. You know what I'm saying. Now, if both

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<v Speaker 1>parties agree, I don't see anything wrong with it. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, I've done it before. That wasn't the first

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<v Speaker 1>time that I did that. Um, do you think fantasizing

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<v Speaker 1>is cheating? I don't think it's cheating unless it goes

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<v Speaker 1>to fucking far. A fantasy is just supposed to stay

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<v Speaker 1>a fantasy, you know what I'm saying. Like you can't

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<v Speaker 1>make your fantasy come true, then you're sucking cheating. Then

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<v Speaker 1>you you already feel a little guilty because you're already

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about somebody else while you're with your partner. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>But if that's how you need to get off and

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<v Speaker 1>your partner just don't know it, I think it's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's permissible. That's just me though. Is it

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<v Speaker 1>okay to fantasize about another person if your partner don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>if they don't know in this case, this is the

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<v Speaker 1>only case I will say what they don't know will

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<v Speaker 1>not hurt them because some people can't take that. You

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<v Speaker 1>keeping that a secret from some people who can't handle

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<v Speaker 1>it is preventing insecurity, It's preventing a lot of drama.

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<v Speaker 1>It's preventing a lot of trust issues that you don't

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<v Speaker 1>probably need to have. You know what I'm saying that

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<v Speaker 1>you probably don't already have. If you do, okay, that's

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<v Speaker 1>something else. But in my mind, I feel like it's

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<v Speaker 1>better for them not to know, depending on the type

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<v Speaker 1>of person they are, Like if you are very open

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<v Speaker 1>with your sexuality and a relationship, then it can be

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<v Speaker 1>agreed upon. Like if you are the type of couple

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<v Speaker 1>who swing, or you'll open, or you'll fun girls together

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<v Speaker 1>or your fun guys together or what have you, then

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really think that that's a bad thing for

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<v Speaker 1>you guys. But if you are straight, monogamous and if

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<v Speaker 1>your partner does not believe in anything outside of me,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't be fucking with it. I think it needs

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<v Speaker 1>to remain a secret, and and it should because everything

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<v Speaker 1>is not for everybody. That brings me to my next question,

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<v Speaker 1>are you open enough to reveal this to your partner,

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<v Speaker 1>that you've antasize about somebody else. Like I said, it

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<v Speaker 1>goes for a certain type of person. It takes a

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<v Speaker 1>strong fucking person, a very secure, solid person for you

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<v Speaker 1>to bring that up to. None of my exes are

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<v Speaker 1>are are? Which? None of them? None of them I

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<v Speaker 1>I can. I can honestly say I've never been with

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<v Speaker 1>somebody who I can. I feel like I can open

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<v Speaker 1>up to and be like, look, I fantasize about this

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<v Speaker 1>person or you know what I'm saying, not so much,

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<v Speaker 1>let's bring this person into the bedroom. But this person

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<v Speaker 1>is sexy to me, and sometimes when I'm having sex

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<v Speaker 1>with you, I think about him. Fuck No, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what something is. What you shot my head off

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<v Speaker 1>of that ship? You know what I'm saying. Now, let's

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<v Speaker 1>look at it from both perspectives. I've also never been

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<v Speaker 1>with somebody who I want to hear that ship from either,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you know what I'm saying, I've never I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>the type of person if you're gonna fantasize about another bit,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't need to be sucking me. And I know

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<v Speaker 1>that's very contradicting and it's very one sided. It's very biased.

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<v Speaker 1>I do understand that. However, it's different strokes for different folks.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't control how I feel, and what I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know won't hurt me either. In that sense, you understand

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. So if my man has to fantasize

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<v Speaker 1>or he does fantasize when he's having sex with me,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't need to know. I don't need to know.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes you can tell. Sometimes you definitely can tell. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that my my ex boyfriend from story Time,

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<v Speaker 1>I think he could tell because I wasn't looking down

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<v Speaker 1>at him, I wasn't really talking to him. I had

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<v Speaker 1>my eyes closed, head up to the ceiling. I was

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<v Speaker 1>feeling on myself, like I used. I'm usually like very touchy,

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<v Speaker 1>feelly during sex, you know, with the partner, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean. And I think he could tell. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying. And then when I just said

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<v Speaker 1>the name, that ship just sent rockets up in the air,

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<v Speaker 1>like hold up, bitch. It was like a big bomb dropped,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. So to answer my own question, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I am not open enough to reveal to my partner

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<v Speaker 1>that I fantasized. Now I haven't done it in a

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<v Speaker 1>long time. I have not fantasized in a very long time,

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<v Speaker 1>and needless to say, right now, I don't need to

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<v Speaker 1>I don't need to hold up, hold up. I noticed

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<v Speaker 1>ship getting good. But listen to just a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen.

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<v Speaker 1>What is too far? What is going too far? Now?

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<v Speaker 1>I gave an example in story time. I said the

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<v Speaker 1>guy's name, what is going too far? Though, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>give you another example. Going too far would have been

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<v Speaker 1>telling my trainer that I fantasized about him and I

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<v Speaker 1>want him to fulfill the fantasy that's going to fucking far,

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<v Speaker 1>or any type of communication with the person that you're

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<v Speaker 1>fantasizing about. Because if you're fantasizing about someone, whether they

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<v Speaker 1>are a business partner or somebody you you gotta see

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<v Speaker 1>at your kids school or you know at the gym

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<v Speaker 1>you see or whether you do or don't notice, motherfucker,

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<v Speaker 1>you are not supposed to be openly communicating with them

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<v Speaker 1>because you want to do some things with that person,

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<v Speaker 1>especially if if you're in a relationship. I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>where the boundary needs to be said. The line has

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<v Speaker 1>been crossed, and now you are cheating, because it's the

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<v Speaker 1>difference between fantasized and cheating, and no, I do not

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<v Speaker 1>feel that they go hand in hand. They're very close,

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<v Speaker 1>but there is a very thin line in between them. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the other question that I should have asked

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<v Speaker 1>y'all because y'all know I'm doing just fix my mess,

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<v Speaker 1>and y'all y'all sent me in some good ship. But

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<v Speaker 1>think about this one. Have you ever fantasized about an

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<v Speaker 1>ex somebody that you did fun before, even if it's

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<v Speaker 1>not an ex, somebody that you had sex, but before

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<v Speaker 1>that you didn't, you know, gave the goodies up to

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<v Speaker 1>whole that tell me about that in my d M.

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<v Speaker 1>We're gonna go over to just fix my mess now,

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<v Speaker 1>I asked on Instagram, have you ever fantasized about someone

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<v Speaker 1>else while with your partner? Be honest, Pacos please on

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<v Speaker 1>Instagram says yes. Scared the funk out of me. I thought,

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<v Speaker 1>my niggare in my mind now listen, Shane do as

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<v Speaker 1>bad as me, but she's so It was that guilty

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<v Speaker 1>conscience eating her up, like, oh my god, I know

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<v Speaker 1>this is wrong. I know I'm not supposed to be

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about this, nigga. This nigga, but damn you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and and it gets to you like that, like I,

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, I've done it before, and I have

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<v Speaker 1>in my mind thought that my partner was reading my

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<v Speaker 1>mind as well. So no, I definitely get a girl.

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<v Speaker 1>We gotta stop doing this ship Okay. Hell Mel underscores three,

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<v Speaker 1>says yeah, I do all the time about you, looks her. Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>wait a minute, this is not what we're gonna do.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that you are single because if you're a

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<v Speaker 1>girl here's this, she's gonna kill you and she's probably

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<v Speaker 1>gonna come kill me too. I don't know you, hell Mel,

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<v Speaker 1>stop it, but thank you though eighth of all Skills

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<v Speaker 1>LLLC says yep. I think nothing is wrong with it

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<v Speaker 1>as long as it doesn't go into action. Now listen,

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<v Speaker 1>that's getting around til it being common again. It's very

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<v Speaker 1>common for a woman to think about another man, or

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<v Speaker 1>a man to think about another woman. You can't say

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<v Speaker 1>when you're in a relationship, Oh, I want my man

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<v Speaker 1>to only have eyes from me, or I want my

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<v Speaker 1>woman to only think about me, not not not have

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<v Speaker 1>eyes for me, but only think about me. I want

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<v Speaker 1>my nigga to only think about me it's it's him

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<v Speaker 1>and Lee. Unrealistic for that to happen, Guys, I mean seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>especially with all this temptation today, all of these bodies

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<v Speaker 1>that that are being done. It's a bunch of bitches

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<v Speaker 1>that look a good bunch of guys that's all oiled

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<v Speaker 1>up and ship on Instagram. They're putting a ship in

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<v Speaker 1>our face. Their goddamn advertising. They're promoting sex. Sex is

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<v Speaker 1>promoted everywhere on TV, online billboards, wherever, Sex is promoted everywhere.

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<v Speaker 1>Sexy is promoted everywhere, not even only sex, of a

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<v Speaker 1>sexy attractiveness everything. So it's kind of hard for you

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<v Speaker 1>to be in a relationship and you expect for your

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<v Speaker 1>man or your woman not to even think about somebody else.

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<v Speaker 1>But as long as it doesn't go into action, I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's where you crossed the line. Like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't gotta do nothing about it, and you damn

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<v Speaker 1>su I don't gotta let your partner know because nine

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<v Speaker 1>times out of tend he think about some ship too,

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<v Speaker 1>or she think about some other nickea too, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, But not thinking in terms of acting

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<v Speaker 1>on some ship. It's just this person is sexy to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Should you know what I'm saying? Money underscore talks underscore

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<v Speaker 1>less says all the time the only way I busting up? Damn.

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<v Speaker 1>So see now that that's that's a little different. Joel,

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<v Speaker 1>his name is Joel. The last quays I don't agree

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<v Speaker 1>with that. I don't. I think that is super fucked up. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>your girl just don't make you busting up like you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta fantasize all the time. Or are you saying that

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<v Speaker 1>you're single and you just be beating your dick? Now?

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<v Speaker 1>If that's the case, all right, okay. If if your

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<v Speaker 1>hand is pleasing you you have to fantasize that way,

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<v Speaker 1>then okay. But if you're in a relationship, Joel, and

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<v Speaker 1>you can only busting up by fantasizing about somebody else

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<v Speaker 1>while having sex with your partner, you need some help.

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<v Speaker 1>You need some help, and that girl she needs to

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<v Speaker 1>to sex see it up a little bit. You'all need

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<v Speaker 1>to figure out what y'all can do together, because that's

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<v Speaker 1>a little disturbing, Joel. Get it together, honey, no judgment,

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<v Speaker 1>Just get it together. Infamous on Instagram says, wonder who

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<v Speaker 1>you fantasized about? I told you listen to story time

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<v Speaker 1>that said, y'all don't need to know who ever, who

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<v Speaker 1>else I've fantasized about in my life. No, y'all don't

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<v Speaker 1>need to know. Although I'm gonna be very honest with y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>let me just let you all in on one thing,

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<v Speaker 1>and one thing only. I fantasized one time about Lakeith

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<v Speaker 1>Standfield the first time I saw him in a movie.

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<v Speaker 1>This was like, what maybe three years ago. Lakeith Stanfield.

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<v Speaker 1>He's so fucking fine to me, and that's just what

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<v Speaker 1>it is. I don't fantasize about him anymore, but I did,

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<v Speaker 1>like once or twice drink cold water. Devin the Dude

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<v Speaker 1>on Instagram says, not at all. You bitches are weird

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<v Speaker 1>these days. All rights great, Okay, everything ain't for everybody,

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<v Speaker 1>and I do get it. I appreciate your dad to do.

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<v Speaker 1>D three A d Girls says. When I was with

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<v Speaker 1>my ex of six years, we hated each other. Our

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<v Speaker 1>entire relationship and intimacy was non existent. I stayed with

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<v Speaker 1>him because I was codependent and he had a big

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<v Speaker 1>old thing. I definitely thought about other people when we

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<v Speaker 1>were together. That's what doggies for. Damn. How do accused

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<v Speaker 1>staying in a relationship with somebody that you hate for

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<v Speaker 1>six years. I get it, codependent. His thing was big,

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<v Speaker 1>but damn, it takes more than just sex for me

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<v Speaker 1>to stay with you. I don't give a funk about

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<v Speaker 1>a big dick because the nigga's be having big dicks

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<v Speaker 1>and not know what to do with them. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't do it for my mental sanity. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>do it for my energy if my aura is off

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<v Speaker 1>around you, if I that reminds me of that fucking

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<v Speaker 1>avant song. Remember Separated the nigga came on a goddamn song.

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<v Speaker 1>He started the verse said, every time I see you,

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<v Speaker 1>I get a bad fun like wow. Every every time

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<v Speaker 1>you see a bit, you get a bad vibe like please.

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<v Speaker 1>But damn, I'm so sorry. I hope that you are

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<v Speaker 1>not with him And oh yeah, well you say it's

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<v Speaker 1>X so damn girl, y'all be in some funded up positions.

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<v Speaker 1>Rakida's Skita Boo says, I hope I got that right,

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<v Speaker 1>bo yes, And can't do nothing Bemoan because you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to accidentally say the wrong name like Jess dumbass.

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<v Speaker 1>And this is the last one I'm gonna read. Drago says, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>unfortunately be that way. Sometimes we're not perfect, and sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>we do it to ourselves from a lustful standpoint. Social

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<v Speaker 1>media paints pictures in our minds for us. I just

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<v Speaker 1>got finished saying that, yes they do everything is put

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<v Speaker 1>out their sex cells, sexy cells everything. When you got

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<v Speaker 1>bodies and the half naked asses everywhere online and Nigga's

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<v Speaker 1>posting pictures and their briefs and videos and ticktocks with

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<v Speaker 1>the prints hanging all out and ship and all that

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<v Speaker 1>type of stuff, it's kind of hard not to fantasize,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. So I guess just keep

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<v Speaker 1>your eyes on your prize while we kick it over

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<v Speaker 1>as the current news. Now listen, I recently just had

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<v Speaker 1>to go to l A to shoot something with Iman

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<v Speaker 1>shumperd and uh, the legendary Be Scott. I love B

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<v Speaker 1>who is a beautiful person, by the way, in person.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not saying that B is not beautiful online, but

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<v Speaker 1>when you see somebody in person, you'd be like, goddamn,

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<v Speaker 1>but you're beautiful. But yes, I sat down and um,

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<v Speaker 1>I did Be Scott Show and we covered the show Twenties,

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<v Speaker 1>the B e C Show, Lena Wave Show. I off

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<v Speaker 1>that show. You'll need to get into it. Season two

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<v Speaker 1>will be airing this fall, I believe. But I sat

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<v Speaker 1>on that couch with Iman Schampert and Be Scott and

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<v Speaker 1>we talked about the fantasizing, you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>and being sought after and and and and is it

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<v Speaker 1>okay to fantasize about somebody else while you're with your partner,

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<v Speaker 1>and the boundaries and everything. And that gave me a

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<v Speaker 1>wonderful fucking topic. And that's how I perfectly executed today's show.

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<v Speaker 1>So listen again for the people in the back. It

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<v Speaker 1>is common for you to fantasize, but should you be

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<v Speaker 1>so open to tell your partner about it, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>give you the advice of saying no. Unless your partner

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<v Speaker 1>is very comfortable in solid and need and ne okay

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<v Speaker 1>with all honesty from you, they're secure. But if it's

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<v Speaker 1>a person who ain't and who don't play that ship,

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<v Speaker 1>keep that ship to yourself, and do not be stupid

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<v Speaker 1>like me and fantasize about somebody so hard and get

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<v Speaker 1>so into it that you say they fucking name, because

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<v Speaker 1>you're nigga gonna wring your neck or your bitch gonna

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<v Speaker 1>cut you up in your sleep, and just like that,

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<v Speaker 1>we come to the end of another Carefully Reckless episode.

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