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Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect n N. And just like that,

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Speaker 1: we're back on the air. Welcome back to another carefully

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Speaker 1: Reckless episode with your girl just hilarious. I do not

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Speaker 1: have a guest today. I'm gonna get back to the

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Speaker 1: old format. Okay. A lot of y'all are requesting that

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Speaker 1: I just do my podcast by myself. I wanted to

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Speaker 1: have fun with my friends and my family a little bit,

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Speaker 1: a little bit, But now I'm getting back to it.

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Speaker 1: So grab your sea, grab your halls. It's story time

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Speaker 1: and this ship is about me. Okay. So some time ago,

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Speaker 1: like back in a long, long long time agose days,

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Speaker 1: I was having sex with my current boyfriend. Right. It

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Speaker 1: was getting steamy. Now, if you are an avid Carefully

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Speaker 1: Reckless listener, y'all know I told you all there are

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Speaker 1: only a few ways that I can come right, my

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Speaker 1: favorite being being on top riding Dick. I love it. Okay. Now,

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Speaker 1: it's not even all about me being in power writing.

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Speaker 1: It's about me looking down at my partner, looking at

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Speaker 1: his eyes, and him looking back up at me. He

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Speaker 1: got one hand around my neck, the other one around

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Speaker 1: my waist like slamming me down on that ship right now.

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Speaker 1: I love that. I also love a guy to talk

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Speaker 1: to me, oh, because I talk bad. Y'all know I

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Speaker 1: talk all the time, so why wouldn't not talking a bit?

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Speaker 1: But even more interesting enough, sex is very sensual for me,

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Speaker 1: and it's very mental. So I'm riding him and riding

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Speaker 1: him and writing him right, and I'm not looking down

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Speaker 1: on him because I'm actually fantasizing about somebody else. And

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Speaker 1: it's crazy. I know what y'll thinking. This person I

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Speaker 1: never even had sex with, right, But I was being

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Speaker 1: trained at that time. I was working out and I

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Speaker 1: had a trainer. He was fine, chocolate, handsome, he's a

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Speaker 1: boxer's talking only think about him, tang niggers up in

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Speaker 1: the ring and ship, and that ship was just sexy

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Speaker 1: to me. And resign it with my fucking pussy. It

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Speaker 1: resignated with my hormones at that time. And my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: then just wasn't doing it for me because I was

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Speaker 1: fantasizing about another guy. Now. Like I said, I had

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Speaker 1: never gotten intimate with the guy I was fantasizing about,

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Speaker 1: but I ended up closing my eyes and imagining that

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Speaker 1: I was fucking him now I'm becoming more wet, more moist,

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Speaker 1: and I'm about to climax, right, I yell out other

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Speaker 1: guy's name. Ain't that about a bit now? Listen. I

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Speaker 1: don't know if this has never happened to any of

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Speaker 1: you out there, but it happened to me. Needless to say,

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Speaker 1: I was accused of cheating, and I literally just had

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Speaker 1: that moment, I knew I sucked up. I still got

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Speaker 1: That wasn't gonna stop me. I was already coming anyway,

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Speaker 1: but it was like an immediate embarrassment. I was like,

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Speaker 1: so you're sucking the train and nig that you'd be

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Speaker 1: working out with. Because he knew who this guy was.

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Speaker 1: He just didn't know that I was attracted to the guy, right,

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Speaker 1: I said, No, I never had sex with him. I

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Speaker 1: pleaded my case because I didn't. I didn't guy, for real,

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Speaker 1: that's real ship. I did not ever lay down with

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Speaker 1: this guy. I didn't even tell him that I liked him.

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Speaker 1: Of course I was flirty with him, but I never

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Speaker 1: even told him or even expressed to him, I want

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Speaker 1: to have sex with you. I fantasized about you, blah

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Speaker 1: blah blah. There are just some things that some people

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Speaker 1: don't need to know. So with that being said, I'm

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Speaker 1: like crying. I'm doing all of you know, because this

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Speaker 1: is my boyfriend. This is my boyfriend, and although I'm

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Speaker 1: not happy at the time, that's not how I want

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Speaker 1: to break up with somebody like Oh, Ship, she said

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Speaker 1: don't even want you to think I'm cheating on you.

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Speaker 1: I'm happy for other reasons. But you know, Ship, now

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Speaker 1: you're unhappy because you think I'm a cheater. Needless to say,

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Speaker 1: we did break up not because of that, but shortly

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Speaker 1: brings me to my question the topic. Do you think

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Speaker 1: not the only time that I've done that. That's the

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Speaker 1: only time where a bitch was so into it that

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Speaker 1: I said the guy's name. You know what I'm saying

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Speaker 1: That that went too fucking far. I went too far,

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Speaker 1: and I do regret that sexual an encounter. I do

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Speaker 1: I was like, damn, why would you? Why would you? Bet?

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Speaker 1: You ain't even sucking. At least you could have sucked

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Speaker 1: them if it was worth all this and ship. You

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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. But I'm not a cheater. I

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Speaker 1: just was fantasizing. Is it common? I feel like it is.

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Speaker 1: I feel like it's natural for men and women both

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Speaker 1: it happens every time, or you're unhappy with your partner.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you just thank you getting your mind and you

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Speaker 1: you know, why are you riding that dick or you

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Speaker 1: getting hit from the back or whatever you think of something. Listen,

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Speaker 1: it's just like watching porn. If you are one of

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Speaker 1: ships going, that's fantasizing too, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: You're using something else to get it going with your

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Speaker 1: parties agree, I don't see anything wrong with it. Like

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Speaker 1: I said, I've done it before. That wasn't the first

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Speaker 1: time that I did that. Um, do you think fantasizing

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Speaker 1: to fucking far. A fantasy is just supposed to stay

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Speaker 1: But if that's how you need to get off and

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Speaker 1: I think it's permissible. That's just me though. Is it

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Speaker 1: okay to fantasize about another person if your partner don't know,

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Speaker 1: if they don't know in this case, this is the

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Speaker 1: only case I will say what they don't know will

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Speaker 1: not hurt them because some people can't take that. You

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Speaker 1: keeping that a secret from some people who can't handle

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Speaker 1: it is preventing insecurity, It's preventing a lot of drama.

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Speaker 1: something else. But in my mind, I feel like it's

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Speaker 1: I don't really think that that's a bad thing for

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Speaker 1: that you've antasize about somebody else. Like I said, it

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Speaker 1: goes for a certain type of person. It takes a

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Speaker 1: to bring that up to. None of my exes are

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Speaker 1: are are? Which? None of them? None of them I

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Speaker 1: let's bring this person into the bedroom. But this person

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Speaker 1: look at it from both perspectives. I've also never been

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Speaker 1: Like you know what I'm saying, I've never I'm not

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Speaker 1: the type of person if you're gonna fantasize about another bit,

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Speaker 1: that's very contradicting and it's very one sided. It's very biased.

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Speaker 1: I do understand that. However, it's different strokes for different folks.

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Speaker 1: know won't hurt me either. In that sense, you understand

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Speaker 1: I am not open enough to reveal to my partner

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Speaker 1: that I fantasized. Now I haven't done it in a

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Speaker 1: and needless to say, right now, I don't need to

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Speaker 1: I don't need to hold up, hold up. I noticed

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Speaker 1: What is too far? What is going too far? Now?

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Speaker 1: I gave an example in story time. I said the

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Speaker 1: telling my trainer that I fantasized about him and I

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Speaker 1: want him to fulfill the fantasy that's going to fucking far,

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Speaker 1: or any type of communication with the person that you're

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Speaker 1: you are not supposed to be openly communicating with them

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Speaker 1: especially if if you're in a relationship. I think that's

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Speaker 1: but there is a very thin line in between them. Now,

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Speaker 1: y'all because y'all know I'm doing just fix my mess,

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Speaker 1: and y'all y'all sent me in some good ship. But

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Speaker 1: We gotta stop doing this ship Okay. Hell Mel underscores three,

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Speaker 1: and Lee. Unrealistic for that to happen, Guys, I mean seriously,

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Speaker 1: So see now that that's that's a little different. Joel,

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Speaker 1: the B e C Show, Lena Wave Show. I off

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Speaker 1: we come to the end of another Carefully Reckless episode.

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