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Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice on your relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: one today. Okay, buck up, hold on tight, We got

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Speaker 1: it for you. Here. It is the Strawberry Letter, subject

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Speaker 1: Doggie style Lifestyle. Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a twenty

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Speaker 1: seven year old woman and I just moved in with

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend. We've been dating for one year and we

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Speaker 1: have a great relationship. But of course there's an issue,

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Speaker 1: or I wouldn't be writing you. I love making is

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Speaker 1: very good, but we are never alone. When we're intimate,

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Speaker 1: there's always four extra eyes very close by, staring at us.

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Speaker 1: It's his dog. He has a Doberman and a German Shepherd,

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Speaker 1: and these dogs are very spoiled and run the house.

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Speaker 1: When my boyfriend and I get in the bed, they

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Speaker 1: jump into Since I moved in, my boyfriend has forced

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Speaker 1: them to sleep on the floor next to our bed.

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Speaker 1: Since I didn't want them in our bed. I have

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Speaker 1: asked them. I have asked him to put the dogs

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Speaker 1: there at night. But he says I'm being inconsiderate and silly.

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Speaker 1: He says, they're dogs and they don't understand what we're

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Speaker 1: doing when we're intimate. But it creeps me out. They

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Speaker 1: always come right up to the bed and stare at

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Speaker 1: us the entire time. I have asked my boyfriend over

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Speaker 1: and over to close our bedroom door and keep them

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Speaker 1: out while we have sex, but he says they will

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Speaker 1: wind the entire time and spoil the mood. I think

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Speaker 1: this is very weird. I can't enjoy sex with these

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Speaker 1: two big dogs breathing on us. How can I get

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Speaker 1: them out of our bedroom? Or maybe I should go

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Speaker 1: and let the dog stay. I didn't sign up for

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Speaker 1: this doggie style life. Please help. Wow. Yeah, I agree

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Speaker 1: with you. This is weird. Okay, watching is watching. I

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Speaker 1: don't care if it is dogs watching. I don't care

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Speaker 1: unless you're into that sort of thing, and clearly you're not.

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Speaker 1: This is weird. I mean, I think your man should

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Speaker 1: definitely put his dogs in another room or give them

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Speaker 1: something to do while you guys are doing it. I

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Speaker 1: think that's only normal. I mean, I know people love

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Speaker 1: their dogs, and they're crazy about their dogs, and they

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Speaker 1: treat them like people and all of that. But this

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Speaker 1: right here is ridiculous. You're uncomfortable, you know, it makes

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Speaker 1: you feel creeped out and everything. I think he's being

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Speaker 1: disrespectful to you, putting the dogs above you. I think

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Speaker 1: he is, you know, because since you're officially moved in now,

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Speaker 1: you know, I know, it hasn't been that long. It's

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Speaker 1: only been about a month or so, you say. But

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Speaker 1: guess what, it's your house too, so you get to

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Speaker 1: say something about you know, how you want your house

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Speaker 1: to be run. You're the woman of the house. That

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Speaker 1: means you shouldn't be uncomfortable in your own home. You

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Speaker 1: shouldn't be uncomfortable in this relationship. It sounds like he's

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Speaker 1: disregarding your feelings. You don't want the dogs in there

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Speaker 1: during intimacy. He doesn't seem to have a problem with it.

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Speaker 1: Is this a deal breaker to you? If it is,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna have to keep it moving, Steve, Well, well,

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Speaker 1: well let me just say this right here. If we

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Speaker 1: really in here, tell us some damn don't. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: there were we talking about in the bedroom. No, now,

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Speaker 1: twenty seven year old lady, she'd have moved in with

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Speaker 1: a boyfriend. They've been dating for a year, they've got

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Speaker 1: a great relationship. But like she said in her letter,

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Speaker 1: you know, something gotta be wrong that I wouldn't be

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Speaker 1: writing y'all. I love making this very good, but we're

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Speaker 1: never alone. It's always extra eyes very close by. And

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Speaker 1: it's two damn dogs. Now, these ain't you wis and

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Speaker 1: you know, you know shit sues, and these ain't little

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Speaker 1: picking knees deesus German shepherds and Dobermans. Yeah, these two

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Speaker 1: damn big ass dogs now all up in the here.

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Speaker 1: You got these big dogs in your house and you

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Speaker 1: want them in the other room. Now you had your

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Speaker 1: you had your boyfriend kick them out the bed. I

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Speaker 1: didn't understand that they're getting up in the bed now

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Speaker 1: they ain't. Why we stay get in the floor, his sheets,

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Speaker 1: his best bread steak. Because she let me explain something.

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Speaker 1: You dogs smell like dogs. I don't kill who the

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Speaker 1: hell you bathe them every day? Dogs still smell like dogs.

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Speaker 1: Now as soon as you bathe them, they're okay. But

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Speaker 1: don't let the hands run outside and come back in.

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Speaker 1: They goes outside and gets a lot of dog on them,

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Speaker 1: and now they back in the house. So now you

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Speaker 1: want them in the other room. You ask him to

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Speaker 1: do that, He says, you're being inconsiderate. Wow, okay, Now,

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Speaker 1: how is your man and is he stupid? Don't you

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Speaker 1: think they're on the same age? Howld is your man

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Speaker 1: and is he stupid? To tell your woman you being inconsiderate? Now,

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Speaker 1: Shirley said it right, because you're the woman of the house.

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Speaker 1: You can't be uncomfortable in your own home ever. Ever.

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Speaker 1: A woman should never be uncomfortable in her home. Ever.

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Speaker 1: I got news for you. A man should never be

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Speaker 1: uncomfortable in their home ever. And your children deal with it.

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Speaker 1: But even a child wants to come home and be comfortable.

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Speaker 1: I don't care if it is just in their room.

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Speaker 1: Everybody wants a place where they can go and be comfortable.

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Speaker 1: But the dogs can't have to run at the house.

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Speaker 1: Shirley's absolutely right. You deserve to have comfort in your

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Speaker 1: home and you can get it. I'm just gonna tell

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Speaker 1: you what's gonna happen during end of this thing. If

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Speaker 1: we don't get the dogs out the room. I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: just t I'm fantation. Can I wake up the other

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Speaker 1: night with your Doberman licking your hand? Man? It freaks

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Speaker 1: you out? My damn, this shot him through that sitting

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Speaker 1: that Tom and Jay and a cat carton. All right,

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Speaker 1: we'll have part two if Steve's response coming up in

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Speaker 1: twenty three after the hour. Subject of the Strawberry letter

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Speaker 1: today doggie style lifestyle right after this. You're listening, all right?

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Speaker 1: Come on, let's recap today's letters. Twenty seven year old

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Speaker 1: to live with her man Tyler. The letter is what

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Speaker 1: your doggy style lifestyle? Wow, she got moved in with

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Speaker 1: her boyfriend, been there for a year. That the dogs

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Speaker 1: is getting on the nurse because when they intimate, they

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Speaker 1: ain't never in the ruin by theirselves day and they're

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Speaker 1: watching crying now she wants dogs to be put out.

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Speaker 1: He didn't told a girl he ain't putting them out

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Speaker 1: because she'd being inconsiderate and silly. That is what you think,

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Speaker 1: the dog think. The dog don't even know what's happening.

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Speaker 1: I promise you that big ass is wanting what is

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Speaker 1: all his moaning? What is all this driving? Why y'all naked,

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Speaker 1: you're fitting to heal someone. Next thing, you know, you're

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Speaker 1: gonna have a dog moving in close because dogs like

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Speaker 1: to snip. No, I'm just telling you facts about dogs.

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Speaker 1: That's their primary sense. It's not feel, it's smell and haste.

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Speaker 1: They're gonna eventually come sniffing around. Now I'm a little

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Speaker 1: edgy when the dog is sniffing me with my clothes on.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm somewhere ass naked. Well, I can't have it

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Speaker 1: that little cold ass nose touch me. You know the

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Speaker 1: nose be cold. Yeah, you're on your back and all

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Speaker 1: of a sudden you feel this little cold dot on

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Speaker 1: your ass. We really need this visual. Yeah, you need

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Speaker 1: this visual because we gotta get the dogs out this rule.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm trying to help this lady wrote this letter.

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Speaker 1: Now you think you're tripping right now, that's because they

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Speaker 1: ain't moved in to participate. But them dogs is fitting

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Speaker 1: to participate. Oh we played. They thank y'all in that playing.

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Speaker 1: They're gonna want in on that. That's gonna start with

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Speaker 1: the breathing. Then it's gonna go to sniffing. They're gonna

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Speaker 1: be smelling your breath either. Now he might be all

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Speaker 1: right with that, because you know how it probably had

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Speaker 1: a little cold nose on his ass before I'm telling

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Speaker 1: you he has. He'd been in that house with these dogs.

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Speaker 1: You ain't consider you silly? Why because he's so comfortable

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Speaker 1: with Yeah, he comfortable. They've been in the bed before

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Speaker 1: she moved in. He's slepperty two, big ass dog. DEM's

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Speaker 1: taking as my damn dog. Smell like a dog. He

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Speaker 1: got bad breath. Make go get away from me. There

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Speaker 1: are a lot of dog lovers, Steve Dog, you can

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Speaker 1: be a dog lover. This is my joke. My joker

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Speaker 1: is for people that ain't dog lovers. This is my joke.

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Speaker 1: Is not fun dog lovers. You might not. I don't

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Speaker 1: think that's fun at all. But how high it is

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Speaker 1: to me? She says, they're very spoiled and they run

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Speaker 1: the house. Hell, yeah, they spoiled, they run the house.

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Speaker 1: But now here, come on. See now, we didn't breathed

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Speaker 1: and we'n sniff I ain't got none to tell you

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Speaker 1: said it wasn't next now, okay, if we hadn't done

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Speaker 1: all the breathing and all the sniffing, tell me what

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Speaker 1: you have seen your dog do that makes you uncomfortable,

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Speaker 1: and every body is uncom aftable with it, even the

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Speaker 1: dog love. How many times you've been sitting up there

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Speaker 1: it's going to town man, because I eat. Marjorie loves dog,

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Speaker 1: but damn bad. Sometimes we get in front of that

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Speaker 1: fireplace and ain't nobody looking, and Bad just started looking everywhere,

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Speaker 1: and now Marjorie don't want a damn dog no more?

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Speaker 1: Stop it Brown and Bad be looking up like what

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Speaker 1: dog stop? And I'm looking at him going, oh my god. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: if I could do that, you could do what if

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Speaker 1: I could do what my dog dog? God to myself? Man,

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Speaker 1: you know the moment I would have been the hat

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Speaker 1: you're so crazy, Steve, where you had I ain't coming

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Speaker 1: now I ain't saying nothing nasty. I'm not saying nothing cruel.

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Speaker 1: I'm allowing you to write your own joke on your

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Speaker 1: way to work. But we all know what our dogs

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Speaker 1: do that embarrass us. Yeah, well he gonna walk up

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Speaker 1: to you and really embarrass you. He said, wait a minute.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh everybody got the oh oh, everybody got theirs out. Now, Oh,

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Speaker 1: there's what we're doing. First, he's gonna start with Jess itself. Oh,

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Speaker 1: then what we're doing. Dogs are smart. You've got to

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Speaker 1: they're gonna want to make the want to participate. Is

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Speaker 1: this a deal breaker? I think it is. Now, here's

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Speaker 1: what I think you could do, young ladies. This is

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Speaker 1: I think you can solve the problem. You're going to

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Speaker 1: have to issue an ultimatum. Either you put the dogs

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Speaker 1: get okay with being in the room. They're gonna learn

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Speaker 1: to stop the whining. They're gonna stop. And if you

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Speaker 1: don't get them used to it, then you're gonna hear

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Speaker 1: my wine and we're gonna see which one of these

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Speaker 1: you like better, the dogs wine than than my wine,

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Speaker 1: because my whining comes with consequences. I'm not making love

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Speaker 1: it now. I want to be with you, but I'm

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Speaker 1: not doing it anymore in front of these dogs. Period. Secondly,

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Speaker 1: if that don't work, here comes the other altimatum. Either

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Speaker 1: you put the dogs out, I'll go out. Let me

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Speaker 1: go back to where I was until the dogs can

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Speaker 1: have privacy. You didn't ask the man to get rid

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Speaker 1: gonna look silly? You aren't there with them damn dogs,

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Speaker 1: and you're don't looking at each other. Now they can

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