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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Carly and this is your host, Riley,

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Speaker 1: your favorite Okay storytell host, and we've got some great

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Speaker 2: from the sponsors that keep the show alive. My boyfriend's

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Speaker 2: family walked in on me unannounced while I was dancing unclothed.

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Speaker 3: Did they join you clothe your unclothes?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know match the energy, I guess.

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Speaker 2: This is so, so, so embarrassing, but I can't take

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Speaker 2: it anymore. I have to know if I'm in the

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Speaker 2: wrong here. I twenty one female, was told by my

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Speaker 2: boyfriend Nate twenty six male, that i'd get the house

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Speaker 2: to myself for the weekend. He said he had to

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Speaker 2: go visit his parents to take care of a property

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Speaker 2: related issue. I was pretty excited to have the house

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Speaker 2: to myself because I've been living with Nate since I

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Speaker 2: was nineteen and I missed living alone. Though Nate is

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Speaker 2: the love of my life and in no way a

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Speaker 2: trouble to live with. By the way, this comes from,

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Speaker 2: am I the a whole dancing half unclothed And if

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Speaker 5: I'm Carly, I'm Sophia, I'm Keon.

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Speaker 2: And we're here to give good advice goofiy, but we

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Speaker 2: don't have all the answers. We only know what we

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Speaker 2: would do. Let us know what you'd do in the comments.

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Speaker 2: As Op says, I had this tradition of spending a

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Speaker 2: lot of my weekends baking while in my lingerie. I

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Speaker 2: don't know, it makes me feel pretty. Yes, I know

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Speaker 2: it's stupid, but it just makes me stupid happy with

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Speaker 2: music and dancing. Super embarrassing to admit, but I also

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Speaker 2: do silly things like pretending I'm a Victoria's Secret model

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Speaker 2: or a singer and I sing along loudly. I mentioned

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Speaker 2: this because this means the house is usually a mess,

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Speaker 2: my dresses are all over, and the music is super loud,

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Speaker 2: which is obviously not okay. I hadn't done that in

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Speaker 2: a long time because Nate hates loud music and he's

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Speaker 2: not a fan of my cupcakes. So I decided to

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Speaker 2: do it this weekend. So it's Sunday and I put

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Speaker 2: on What a Feeling by One Direction and it's super

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Speaker 2: loud and I'm only wearing lingerirette. The Victoria's kind so

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Speaker 2: lacey af which I regret so much looking back. My

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Speaker 2: boyfriend used his key to open the door, and I

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Speaker 2: didn't hear him come in because, like I said, it's

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Speaker 4: If you like do this or have done this before.

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Speaker 4: If I hear really loud music, I'm like, shoot, my

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not probing my parents in yad house.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm like, shoot, oh, I'm going in there right now.

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Speaker 2: Give me five minutes.

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Speaker 3: I give me thirty minutes.

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Speaker 2: You guys leave, come back in thirty, come back in

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Speaker 2: ten five thirty seconds. Apparently he wanted to surprise men.

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Speaker 2: Brought his mom, dad, and sisters, two kids who are

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Speaker 2: like ten mail or months, probably ten mail. They come

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Speaker 2: in and there I am for rozen in a dance

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Speaker 2: pose like an idiot. I quickly ran to our room,

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Speaker 2: yelling sorry, I wasn't expecting anyone and was putting on clothes.

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Speaker 2: When Nate comes in, he was so angry.

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Speaker 4: Immediate, immediate, We're done, Immediately, we're done.

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Speaker 5: Listen. Yeah, honestly, that's on you, my guy, you said,

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Speaker 5: I had the house free, and you'd even message me that, Hey, this.

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Speaker 3: Is how I'm reacting. This is my hot, my hot?

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Speaker 3: Who I faking cupcakes? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Hot whatever. Girlfriend is dancing in frilly lingerie. I walk in.

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Speaker 4: I am embarrassed because my family is there. She's also baking.

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Speaker 4: She runs out, Oh my god, I'm so embarrassed.

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Speaker 5: I come in.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, you're hot, so sorry. Should have texted you

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Speaker 4: that when they were coming so hot, you look so hot.

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Speaker 3: Let's get back to this.

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Speaker 4: Put some clothes on, we'll we'll talk to them and

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Speaker 4: then I'll tell them to keep this on.

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Speaker 2: Underneath, close over. It's put some layers on, but like,

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Speaker 2: keep this on.

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Speaker 3: Will keep this on, and we'll come back to this.

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Speaker 4: The second that he said, oh I don't like them

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Speaker 4: the cupcakes, red flag red.

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Speaker 3: I knew it.

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Speaker 2: He said I was acting like a child and that

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Speaker 2: I embarrassed him. His parents wanted Nate to drop them

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Speaker 2: back asap, refusing to stay, and his mom called me

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Speaker 2: a lot of names and said the kids had seen everything,

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Speaker 2: and that made me feel guilty. Af Here's why I'm

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Speaker 2: losing sleep over this. On one hand, I didn't know

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Speaker 2: clean up my mess before Nate came home too. Also,

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Speaker 2: Nate and his mom were mad at me a lot,

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Speaker 2: but when you look at it from their perspective, I

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Speaker 2: was behaving like an immature person. The house was mess,

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Speaker 2: I looked a mess. There were baking supplies scattered. Nate

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Speaker 2: just wanted to surprise me and do something nice. Nate

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Speaker 2: is still not completely talking to me. I don't know

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Speaker 2: how to face his family, and I also know his

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Speaker 2: sister told him to make me behave or something, so

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Speaker 2: I feel like I should apologize before things get worse.

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Speaker 2: But I can't decide for sure if I'm in the

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Speaker 2: wrong hare so I need your help. Edit to add

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Speaker 2: Nate's family is also really conservative and he was brought

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Speaker 2: up like that as well. Someone mentioned I should have

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Speaker 2: added this in. Also I'm from the US. Since a

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Speaker 2: lot of people asked, we have a verdict and an update.

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Speaker 2: But what say you?

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Speaker 4: Just too many red flags coming from him? Why would

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Speaker 4: you want to be friends or not friends? Why would

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Speaker 4: you want to be with someone who doesn't like having

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Speaker 2: You know you bake him cookie cupcakes and he's like,

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Speaker 2: I don't like these, and you.

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Speaker 3: Dance around in your lingerie and he's like, and.

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Speaker 2: He doesn't sit there calling them like this, He's.

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Speaker 3: Like, actually crazy.

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Speaker 2: Update nine days later, after reading what everyone wrote, I

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Speaker 2: quickly realized that what Nate did was so so wrong.

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Speaker 2: A lot of great moms in the comments also helped

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Speaker 2: me understand the fact that even conservative moms like Nate's

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Speaker 2: wouldn't react so rudely. It hit me like a wave

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Speaker 2: when I realized what my life had come to. I

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Speaker 2: didn't say anything to Nate about the post, but he

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Speaker 2: must have figured out that I was upset at him.

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Speaker 2: I was doubting our relationship and pulling away from him.

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Speaker 2: He started talking to me again, and for a day

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Speaker 2: I didn't really say anything, but I knew I had

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Speaker 2: get so many responses telling me I was not the

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Speaker 2: a few days after I made the post, I told

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Speaker 2: Nate that we needed to talk. I said I would

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Speaker 2: be staying with a friend until I felt comfortable around him.

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Speaker 2: He didn't know what I was referring to, which just

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Speaker 2: made me angry because how can he forget a fight

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Speaker 2: that big? And I told him I was upset with

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Speaker 2: how he treated me after the whole your family walking

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Speaker 2: in on me incident. I also mentioned how I shouldn't

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Speaker 2: have to wait for him to be a way to dance, bake,

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Speaker 2: He tried convincing me.

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Speaker 3: To stay, but I left.

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Speaker 2: I think he knew I wouldn't let this go like

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Speaker 2: the other things. Thanks to you guys in the comments yesterday,

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Speaker 2: I asked him to meet me at a cafe so

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Speaker 2: we could have a conversation about everything that happened. Nate cried,

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Speaker 2: like for the first time ever since I have known him.

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Speaker 2: He apologized, told me he messed up and that he

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Speaker 2: would change because he realized his mistakes now. I told

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Speaker 2: if he does actually change, I'd give us another chance.

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Speaker 3: Good job, you did it. I'm proud of you.

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Speaker 2: Go.

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Speaker 3: You know what you were nineteen when they moved in together.

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Speaker 2: Glad you stuck to yourself. I'm like, no, this makes

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Speaker 2: me happy. I'm gonna do it. Yeah, I just needed

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Speaker 2: to which I said, yeah, you should have. I actually

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Speaker 2: borrowed direct sentences to explain why he was in the

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Speaker 2: wrong from some comments you guys left because it was

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Speaker 2: so helpful. It went better than how I imagined it

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Speaker 2: would go. Also, thank you. Thank you doesn't even begin

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Speaker 2: to cover what I really want to say to everyone

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Speaker 2: who helped me, and also to the mods who removed

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Speaker 2: a lot of creepy comments. Thanks for sharing your stories

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Speaker 2: about dancing in your underwear as well. It made me

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Speaker 2: feel better to know I wasn't some freak for enjoying

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Speaker 2: those things. I'm going to use those baking tips you

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Speaker 2: guys gave me and make cupcakes right now, actually, because

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Speaker 2: I can. I feel so relieved.

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Speaker 3: Heart nice, lovely, h perfect story.

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Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

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Speaker 2: to the next one.

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Speaker 4: I snooped on my boyfriend's phone and I think you

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Speaker 3: Oh well, good for your girl. You made it.

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Speaker 4: Thirty one male boyfriend let's call him Mike, and I

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Speaker 4: twenty one female. I've been dating for almost two years.

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Speaker 4: We clicked immediately. Why things are easy and great. We're

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Speaker 4: totally meant for each other. We talked early on about

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Speaker 4: marriage proposals in the abstract, and Mike made it clear

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Speaker 4: welcome to propose. He actually likes the idea that I

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Speaker 3: Around for him, so he doesn't want to do it.

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Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Andrey, and if you

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Speaker 4: slash Okay storytime separate it.

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Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Savannah, I'm Carly, and we're.

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Speaker 4: Here to give good advice goofy, but we don't have

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Speaker 4: all the answers. Mainly know what we'd do, so let

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Speaker 4: us note you do in the comments and hope, he says.

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Speaker 4: As time went on and it became clearer that we're

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Speaker 4: totally gotta get hitched, I made sure to check in

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Speaker 3: And it is so.

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Speaker 4: I'm bought a ring and I'm planning on pop in

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Speaker 4: the question when Mike comes up to visit in about

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Speaker 4: a week for New Years. We're currently long distance, though

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Speaker 4: that ends this spring.

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Speaker 3: Eyay. Oh wait, so your reunion's gonna be a proposal? Wait?

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Speaker 3: Hold on, so how long have you been long distance?

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Speaker 3: We don't know. You're twenty one, he's thirty one.

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Speaker 4: You've been together for two years, some of that has

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Speaker 4: been long distance, and now you're gonna get married after

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Speaker 4: a long.

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Speaker 3: Distance Yeah, these people sound domy dome, dome, dome.

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Speaker 4: It's our anniversary, it's meaningful, et cetera, et cetera.

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Speaker 3: Here's the thing.

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Speaker 4: My best friend, let's call her Sally, has been all

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Speaker 4: in know something you don't know for the past couple

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Speaker 4: of weeks. It drives me nuts. He knows it drives

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Speaker 4: me nuts. Anyway, long stories slightly shorter. I snooped on

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Speaker 3: Ringing in the new Year. Yeah, get going to.

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Speaker 4: Ringing in the new ringing to ring gean ring ring,

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Speaker 3: Really cute. I haven't told Mike or Sally about the

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Speaker 4: It wasn't anything like bad, so I think you're fine.

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Speaker 4: had some reservations, but it seems like y'all are good,

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Speaker 4: Seems like this was solid, but we'll see. Wish you

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Speaker 4: I shouldn't have snooped. It served to confirm something I

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Speaker 4: it didn't help me at all, did more harm than

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Speaker 4: I was assured that that's a mistake I won't be

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Speaker 4: it's great. We've already started looking at venues and working

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Speaker 3: Ha ha, And that's the end of the story. My

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Speaker 3: been together over thirteen months, good relationship, but we hadn't

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Speaker 3: fourteen seventy nine, and if you want to spend your

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Speaker 3: I'm Savannah, I'm Sylvia, and we are here to give

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Speaker 3: you some good advice. Goofy. We don't have all the answers.

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Speaker 3: in this situation, but let's us know what your pretty

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Speaker 3: minds would do down in the comments. As Opie says,

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Speaker 3: I was done. The lies were enough for me. Also,

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Speaker 4: Only lied for two weeks. I could have been lying

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Speaker 3: I'm not overreacting. I can't trust him. He lied and

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Speaker 3: hit that you were over there, two you hit that

436
00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:55,800
Speaker 3: she was your ex, and three you probably cheated. You

437
00:21:56,080 --> 00:22:00,440
Speaker 3: lied for two weeks about it, bro, what like huh?

438
00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:02,280
Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

439
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Speaker 2: to the next one.

440
00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:07,359
Speaker 4: My girlfriend's family booked a cabin with no running water,

441
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:08,959
Speaker 4: and I couldn't tolerate it.

442
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:10,760
Speaker 2: I can't tolerate that.

443
00:22:10,880 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 3: I need my water.

444
00:22:12,960 --> 00:22:16,160
Speaker 4: My twenty eight female girlfriend, twenty nine female and I

445
00:22:16,240 --> 00:22:18,919
Speaker 4: headed five hours away on a Thursday morning for a

446
00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:21,480
Speaker 4: long week and of skiing at her aunt and uncle's cabin.

447
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:24,840
Speaker 4: Her sister twenty six joined us, and their parents drove

448
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:27,920
Speaker 4: up separately on Friday. By the way, this comes from

449
00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:30,000
Speaker 4: Taylor Falls thirty eight forty eight and if you want

450
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Speaker 4: to spit your own stories, go to the r slash

451
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Speaker 4: Okay storytime subreddit.

452
00:22:33,560 --> 00:22:36,879
Speaker 2: I'm Sophia, I'm Savannah, and I'm Carly, and we're.

453
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Speaker 4: Here to give good advice Kithley, but we don't have

454
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Speaker 4: all the answers. We only know what we'd do, So

455
00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:41,640
Speaker 4: let us know what you would do in the comments,

456
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:45,000
Speaker 4: and Opie says, this was my third visit to the cabin.

457
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:49,720
Speaker 4: It's nice, well kept in modern with three bedrooms and baths.

458
00:22:50,160 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 4: When we arrived late Thursday afternoon.

459
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Speaker 3: The water wasn't on.

460
00:22:54,800 --> 00:22:57,560
Speaker 4: My girlfriend contacted her aunt, who connected with the neighbor

461
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Speaker 4: in the community. We learned the pipes were frozen and

462
00:23:00,840 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 4: we thus had no access to water and only the

463
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 4: toilets if we didn't flush. My girlfriend and her sister

464
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:11,560
Speaker 4: seemed unfazed, but I was annoyed. We were exhausted, though,

465
00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:14,200
Speaker 4: so we grabbed a bite to eat, here's the toilet there,

466
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,879
Speaker 4: and bought some bottled water to brush our teeth, wash

467
00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:20,240
Speaker 4: your vases, et CETERA. Friday morning, my girlfriend's aren't called

468
00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:22,880
Speaker 4: and said there was no timetable for access to water.

469
00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:26,640
Speaker 4: So after a morning of skiing, I recommended we check

470
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Speaker 4: in at an inn about two miles down the road.

471
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:31,880
Speaker 4: The three of us have good professional jobs and could

472
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Speaker 4: easily afford it, given we were staying another two nights

473
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Speaker 4: and three days. It felt ridiculous to not have access

474
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Speaker 4: to a flushing toilet, as well as a shower when

475
00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:44,840
Speaker 4: we were sweating. My girlfriend and her sister disagreed. They

476
00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:47,879
Speaker 4: recommended we each take a toilet and not flesh and

477
00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 4: shower in the gym at the ski resort. I understand

478
00:23:52,040 --> 00:23:55,439
Speaker 4: that some people are chillers and they can just do

479
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:59,720
Speaker 4: whatever and be fine, But I'm staying at the end.

480
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Speaker 3: But I can afford it. I'm staying at the inn. Yeah,

481
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:08,240
Speaker 3: I there's no way I couldn't. Like, I get mad.

482
00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:12,879
Speaker 3: My mom and my older sister like when they like Pete,

483
00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,440
Speaker 3: they won't flush the door because because they're just like, no,

484
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:20,200
Speaker 3: like that's wasteful of water. Yeah, and that's actually crazy. Yeah,

485
00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:22,879
Speaker 3: And I go in there, I'm like, that's because my

486
00:24:22,880 --> 00:24:26,399
Speaker 3: mom's like very like yeah, sometimes she just forgets and

487
00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 3: I'm like freaking want it.

488
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Speaker 4: Her parents also arrived that afternoon and went out of

489
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Speaker 4: their way to cook chicken without water instead of going out. Again,

490
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 4: money is not an issue for any of us.

491
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Speaker 2: What do you really need water to cook chicken for?

492
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,320
Speaker 2: I don't know where you gonna boil it, right, Like,

493
00:24:43,359 --> 00:24:45,120
Speaker 2: there's other ways to make it, bake it.

494
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:47,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's that's not the biggest thing. I guess maybe

495
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Speaker 4: if they wanted to.

496
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Speaker 2: Clean the chicken.

497
00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:52,800
Speaker 3: Sure, some people like cleaving the chicken. Yeah.

498
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:55,480
Speaker 4: That evening, without making a scene, I told my girlfriend

499
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,040
Speaker 4: I was checking into the end and anyone was more

500
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Speaker 4: than welcome to join two queen beds. She joined, but

501
00:25:00,840 --> 00:25:02,679
Speaker 4: I could tell she was annoyed, and the rest of

502
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:03,720
Speaker 4: her family told me I.

503
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Speaker 3: Was being dramatic. Well too bad.

504
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 4: I'm gonna go enjoy my hot shower, and you guys

505
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:12,399
Speaker 4: enjoy peeing and pooping in your toilets that don't flush.

506
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 4: Funny enough, though, they all came over the next two

507
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:17,959
Speaker 4: mornings to use the bathroom and shower.

508
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:20,600
Speaker 3: I'd be like, oh, that's funny. I thought I was

509
00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 3: being dramatic.

510
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 4: My girlfriend gave me the cold shoulder the rest of

511
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,119
Speaker 4: the weekend and flipped out once we got home, saying

512
00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:30,439
Speaker 4: I behaved embarrassingly. Was I overreacting by wanting basic amenities?

513
00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 3: No, all of her family came over and used your shower. Yeah,

514
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:38,680
Speaker 3: so they wanted too. They literally wanted it, just didn't

515
00:25:38,680 --> 00:25:40,320
Speaker 3: want to like pay for it or something. But like,

516
00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:42,400
Speaker 3: that's that's crappy of them.

517
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Speaker 4: To answer some questions, I say cabin, yes, but it's

518
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:48,080
Speaker 4: not in a remote area of the woods.

519
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:50,280
Speaker 3: It's in a gated community.

520
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 4: About three miles from the ski resort. The community consists

521
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:56,159
Speaker 4: of about thirty to forty single family cabins built in

522
00:25:56,160 --> 00:25:58,960
Speaker 4: the nineteen eighties. They are well kept and on the

523
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Speaker 4: modern side. My girlfriend's on and uncle haven't been to

524
00:26:02,160 --> 00:26:05,120
Speaker 4: the property since New Year's and seemed surprised to hear

525
00:26:05,160 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 4: the pipes were frozen. So I don't think this is

526
00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:10,400
Speaker 4: a yearly occurrence. I've been there the past two winters

527
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:14,199
Speaker 4: without issues. My girlfriend's parents are one would consider to

528
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:17,159
Speaker 4: be upper middle class. Her mom is an attorney and

529
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,720
Speaker 4: her dad is an engineer. They own a second home

530
00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 4: at the beach and go on nice vacations. Money is

531
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Speaker 4: not an issue. No, I did not eat the chicken,

532
00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:29,200
Speaker 4: which I think really offended my girlfriend. Her mom boiled

533
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 4: two gallons of store bought water to use for cleaning

534
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:34,879
Speaker 4: up and her hands as she prepared the meal. I

535
00:26:34,920 --> 00:26:37,280
Speaker 4: still think it was ridiculous when there are about six

536
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:38,959
Speaker 4: restaurants with a three mile radius.

537
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:40,240
Speaker 3: Wait, why didn't you eat the chicken?

538
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 2: I think you should have eat the chicken.

539
00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:44,560
Speaker 3: I'm confused. Why you didn't eat the chicken? What was

540
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:50,720
Speaker 3: wrong with the chicken? She washed her hands. I'm so confused. Chicken. Huh.

541
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Speaker 4: Yes, I know you can flush a toilet with water,

542
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:55,679
Speaker 4: but this was a three day trip five if you

543
00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:59,520
Speaker 4: include travel days on Thursday and Sunday. Three baths and

544
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 4: five people constantly pouring water down toilets is asking for

545
00:27:03,119 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 4: plumbing trouble. In my opinion, my girlfriend's family are generally

546
00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:09,359
Speaker 4: clean and tidy people. I think they just saw this

547
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 4: as some kind of cool experience to look back and

548
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 4: laugh on. But whatever, I don't fully agree with the

549
00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 4: last things that you said. But I also think it's

550
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 4: not a huge deal if you can afford a nicer place.

551
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:24,879
Speaker 3: Yeah, what happened to the chicken might having the chicken.

552
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:27,320
Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

553
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:28,959
Speaker 2: to the next one.

554
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:33,000
Speaker 3: My boyfriend proposed to me on Christmas. I said yes,

555
00:27:33,280 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 3: but with conditions. I want to meet Sanna. My significant

556
00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 3: other is Chinese with loans and mortgages on investment properties,

557
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:45,679
Speaker 3: but he lives with his family. His parents manage all

558
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:49,640
Speaker 3: of his finances and his physical assets slash investments. If

559
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:52,360
Speaker 3: you take into account all of his debts, his actual

560
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:56,359
Speaker 3: worth comes out to about zero dollars about give or

561
00:27:56,440 --> 00:28:00,679
Speaker 3: tags zero. It's like roughly nothing. That's the end of

562
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 3: that story. And we got another one as the rent

563
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:09,240
Speaker 3: on the properties covers the mortgages, so he nets zero

564
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 3: dollars profit and has seen no actual real return on

565
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 3: any of his investments. By the way, this comes from

566
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Speaker 3: Specific Home six And if you want to submit your

567
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:20,199
Speaker 3: own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime Separate.

568
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:22,960
Speaker 3: I'm Savannah, I'm Sophia, and we are here to give

569
00:28:23,000 --> 00:28:24,919
Speaker 3: some good advice. But we're gonna do it in a

570
00:28:25,040 --> 00:28:27,239
Speaker 3: really really funny way. That's gonna make you left so

571
00:28:27,280 --> 00:28:30,520
Speaker 3: hard you're gonna pee a little pants and then guess what.

572
00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,159
Speaker 3: Then you're gonna tell some jokes. We're gonna read them

573
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,479
Speaker 3: and then p our little pants. So let us know

574
00:28:36,520 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 3: how you're gonna pee your pants in the common as

575
00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:44,479
Speaker 3: of he says, the perceived value is inflated because they

576
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 3: keep refinancing and never paying anything off. This is despite

577
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:50,880
Speaker 3: him making about twenty times as much as me. I'm

578
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 3: a CPA, he's a lawyer. He asked me to marry him. No.

579
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 3: I was excited, but after we calmed down, I told

580
00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:00,240
Speaker 3: him gently that I love him and want to marry him.

581
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:05,480
Speaker 3: But under these conditions. Number One, he has to pay

582
00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 3: off his debts first. He could pay off his loans

583
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 3: today and not notice the thing and the city his

584
00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 3: properties are in. Never has anything on the market for

585
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:17,080
Speaker 3: more than sixty days. I have been debt free for

586
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 3: over a decade. I don't want that in my life again. Two,

587
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 3: he has to stop relying on his family for his finances.

588
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,959
Speaker 3: Decisions would have to be made jointly between the two

589
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 3: of us. This would specifically mean that he would not

590
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 3: rely on his family to run his rental properties. Anymore,

591
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 3: he would have to get rid of those or manage

592
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 3: them himself, and he doesn't have the time for that.

593
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 3: Number Three, I have to come first until if we

594
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 3: have kids, in which case they have to come first.

595
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 3: I've personally seen how his parents have encouraged him to

596
00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:53,120
Speaker 3: do things which were great for them but bad for him,

597
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 3: and he blindly followed their advice just because that's the

598
00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 3: Chinese way to do things. I don't want him to

599
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 3: prioritize parents over his wife and potential children. And on

600
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 3: the other side of the coin, I do not want

601
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:07,680
Speaker 3: him to ever sabotage his children for his own personal gain.

602
00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 3: Number Four, he has to sign up prenup. I have

603
00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 3: no debts and I have a fair number of assets

604
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 3: to my name. I would also ensure there's a clause

605
00:30:17,320 --> 00:30:19,760
Speaker 3: in there that protects his assets and income so that

606
00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 3: we're both equals under the document. He was understandably upset.

607
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 3: No one wants to hear yes, but when they propose,

608
00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:30,240
Speaker 3: am I the a hole for stating my conditions for marriage?

609
00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 3: I don't think I'm being unreasonable, given that once we're married,

610
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:36,480
Speaker 3: our lives and finances and families become one. I don't

611
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 3: think you're the a hole. Yeah, I don't think. I

612
00:30:38,720 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 3: don't think you're the a hole either for wanting to

613
00:30:40,520 --> 00:30:42,520
Speaker 3: protect yourself. He's in a lot of debt and you

614
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:44,480
Speaker 3: don't want that. You got out of your debt. I

615
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 3: don't think why would you want to get more debt

616
00:30:47,680 --> 00:30:48,520
Speaker 3: just from being married?

617
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 4: And he's really really tied to his family and like

618
00:30:51,120 --> 00:30:54,080
Speaker 4: maybe an unhealthy way. I think these are all really valid.

619
00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:57,160
Speaker 4: Maybe if you did it like right after he proposed,

620
00:30:57,720 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 4: I can understand why he just might be a little

621
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 4: bit in But in terms of what you actually said,

622
00:31:04,200 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 4: not an issue.

623
00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:07,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I just don't. I don't think he's really like

624
00:31:09,040 --> 00:31:13,640
Speaker 3: matured and like has thought about like obviously he's thought about,

625
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:15,360
Speaker 3: oh I want to marry you whatever, I want to

626
00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 3: spend the rest of my life with you. But he

627
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:21,760
Speaker 3: doesn't have all of his ducks in a row, you know. Yeah, Uh,

628
00:31:21,800 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 3: there is an edit important info. I mentioned that he's

629
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 3: Chinese because he uses it's the culture as an excuse

630
00:31:28,120 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 3: for his family's behavior. Also, yes, he did propose on Christmas,

631
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 3: and yes, me saying all this did ruin Christmas. And

632
00:31:36,720 --> 00:31:39,520
Speaker 3: no he is not mad anymore. We are both taking

633
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 3: time to think. But he continually calls slash text me

634
00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 3: to let me know that he's not mad and wants

635
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:46,320
Speaker 3: to make sure I'm not mad, and then he still

636
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 3: wants to marry me. Another edit. A few people question

637
00:31:50,520 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 3: how I make twenty times less than a lawyer as

638
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:57,840
Speaker 3: a CPA. I work in the nonprofit sector. Yeah, that'll do.

639
00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 3: It's all we need to know. And the majority of

640
00:32:00,760 --> 00:32:03,280
Speaker 3: my work is taking people out of debt. I don't

641
00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 3: make as much as I could with a large firm,

642
00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 3: but my work is very rewarding.

643
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:07,560
Speaker 5: Oh.

644
00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:10,360
Speaker 4: He goes to a partner and she's like, dude, don't worry.

645
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 4: I do this all the time.

646
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:15,560
Speaker 3: This is literally my passion. Hmm. I love getting people

647
00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:17,440
Speaker 3: out of debt. Let's get you out of yours. I'm

648
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 3: gonna get I'm gonna get you out of this little

649
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 3: hole you've made. Come with me. He, on the other hand,

650
00:32:23,400 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 3: works for a significant law firm as a now named partner.

651
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 3: Oh happy edit has a nice little adjectivity.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Last night, at almost exactly midnight, he showed up on

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Speaker 3: my door for the first time. He asked me to

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Speaker 3: show him what I meant. I laid out that his

656
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Speaker 3: liabilities far exceed what anyone should be comfortable with, and

657
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Speaker 3: that the equity he has is spread so thin. I

658
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Speaker 3: showed him the amount in profit that his parents have

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Speaker 3: taken over the ears, and the amount in interest that

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Speaker 3: he has paid both on his mortgages and on his

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Speaker 3: other loans. As the cherry on top, I reminded him

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Speaker 3: of the major ash back in seven which caused him

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Speaker 3: to lose more inequity than he has actually gained. Since

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Speaker 3: he listened and asked questions and we've come up with

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Speaker 3: the plan. He is going to sell about ninety percent

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Speaker 3: of his properties, as that is after penalties, what he

667
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Speaker 3: must sell in order to get the money he needs

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Speaker 3: to completely pay off both his loans and the mortgages

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Speaker 3: for the remaining ten percent, which is worth about double

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Speaker 3: of his assets. There you go, he is going. So

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Speaker 3: that's two. We have two.

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Speaker 4: Dollars double zero zero, still zero, that's double his assets.

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Speaker 3: Sorry, still zero? S if I double zero, guess what

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Speaker 3: I got two? Right here? He is going to hire

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Speaker 3: his sister to manage those properties and give her a

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Speaker 3: decent salary as well as one of those houses to

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Speaker 3: live in rent free while she is working for him,

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Speaker 3: with the intent that she'll be working less and have

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Speaker 3: time to pursue her own previously suppressed dreams. No longer

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Speaker 3: living with the parents, the profits that he makes will

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Speaker 3: be reinvested into an e with the same investment banker

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Speaker 3: that I use. Will work out the exact details later.

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Speaker 3: As for the prenup, he has a friend he went

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Speaker 3: to school with that's an excellent attorney with a wonderful

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Speaker 3: track record, And since I don't know much about the law,

686
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Speaker 3: but my significant other obviously does, we're going to go

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Speaker 3: with him.

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Speaker 4: I think this is good. I feel like we're heading

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Speaker 4: in a great direction. Seems like it is a good

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00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:27,880
Speaker 4: time to mention all of this. It seems like he

691
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Speaker 4: is on board with working on these issues and you're

692
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Speaker 4: gonna you guys are gonna do it together as partners,

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Speaker 4: So prop to you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think this was a good wake up call

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Speaker 3: for him. I don't. I don't think he like really

696
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Speaker 3: understood the severity of it until he's like, oh wait,

697
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Speaker 3: maybe I should take advice from this girl who literally

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Speaker 3: gets people out of debt for a living. So I

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Speaker 3: think I think he was right to take your advice. Agreed. Penultimately,

700
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Speaker 3: he has recognized, at least in part that the advice

701
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Speaker 3: he's been given and the help he's been given by

702
00:35:04,560 --> 00:35:07,479
Speaker 3: his family is all a load of crap. He's having

703
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Speaker 3: trouble accepting that their word isn't always best, but he's

704
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Speaker 3: coming around. They do love him, but their relationship will

705
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Speaker 3: be so improved by letting them just love him and

706
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Speaker 3: not tower over his finances. He hasn't had a meaningful

707
00:35:19,800 --> 00:35:22,959
Speaker 3: conversation with them that didn't involve work in some way

708
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Speaker 3: in almost a decade, it seems. Finally, he asked if

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Speaker 3: I would be willing to make compromises, specifically in gifting

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Speaker 3: so much to his sister, and in sending some money

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Speaker 3: to his parents and family back in China each month,

712
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Speaker 3: and looking for houses closer to where they live. I

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Speaker 3: said yes to all. After eight or so hours of deliberation,

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Speaker 3: were officially engaged. Thanks for letting me vent here. I

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Speaker 3: appreciate the varied insights. Yea day, you're welcome. We fixed

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Speaker 3: your relationship for you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we did it all all by ourselves.

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Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. We're going to

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Speaker 2: go to the next one.

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Speaker 2: I told my friends a man was obsessing over me,

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Speaker 5: Is this religion you?

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Speaker 2: Back in twenty eighteen, I visited Georgia to see family.

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Speaker 2: I went to church with my grandma to make her

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Speaker 2: and we're here to give good advice goofully, but we

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Speaker 2: don't have all the answers. We only know what we

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Speaker 2: would do. Let us know what you would do in

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Speaker 2: the comments and opie sas I did tell them from

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Speaker 2: the get go I was an atheist. They were very

738
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Speaker 2: nice to me. Even after that. I decided to stay

739
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Speaker 2: friends with them because no one tried to convert me. Ever,

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Speaker 2: I always tried to show people that being an atheist

741
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Speaker 2: doesn't mean I am a baby eating, soulless heathen. I

742
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Speaker 2: was polite and nice, but I was firm about where

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Speaker 2: I stand. I guess if I ever talk Slash see

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Speaker 2: him again, or if this escalates let's hope it doesn't.

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Speaker 2: I would have to play the soul as heathen card

746
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Speaker 2: and see if that works. Among them was Mark. It

747
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 2: was nice and polite, but super religious and I am

748
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Speaker 2: not at all. And once he expressed interest in me,

749
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Speaker 2: I politely rejected him. I had a boyfriend and was

750
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Speaker 2: not interested in a long distance relationship. In twenty nineteen,

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Speaker 2: I visited twice. The first time I found out Mark

752
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Speaker 2: was talking to some girl in Mexico. He met her

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Speaker 2: through a friend who had gone to her church while

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Speaker 2: in Mexico. Okay, is Mark obsessed with her because he's

755
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Speaker 2: super religious and things he can convert her?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it's the challenge accepted kind of thing, Like I

757
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Speaker 5: like a challenge.

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Speaker 2: Mark tried coming on to me again during this trip,

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Speaker 2: and I had again expressed I had a boyfriend. He's like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I don't care about the cheating part.

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Speaker 3: You just really need to be religious.

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Speaker 2: I'm saving you by committing a sin.

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Speaker 5: Yikes.

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Speaker 2: On my second visit, I got to meet his girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: Let's name her Candy.

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Speaker 5: Oh, she's probably really sweet.

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Speaker 2: She was visiting and my first impression was that she

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Speaker 2: was pretty tall, blonde, super long hair, and cute style.

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Speaker 2: But she was ice cold towards me. There was anger

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Speaker 2: in her eyes every time she looked my way. It

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Speaker 2: was strange, but I ignored it because I don't live

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Speaker 2: in Georgia and I wouldn't have to deal with them

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Speaker 2: for long.

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Speaker 5: Is it because you're she thinks one you're a soul

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Speaker 5: eating heathen, or two that Mark has expressed interest in

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Speaker 5: you multiple times? Or third option both.

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Speaker 2: Then in March of this year, I visited and found

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Speaker 2: out that they were engaged. When I saw her, I

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00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:47,799
Speaker 2: was shocked. She looks like a photo copy of me.

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Speaker 2: Her hair now pitch black, exact same haircut as me,

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Speaker 2: and her style had morphed into mine. We used to

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Speaker 2: have very different styles.

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Speaker 3: It was so bad.

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Speaker 2: People were mentioning it to me and telling me how

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Speaker 2: creepy it was. Later, during a gathering, I found Candy

786
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Speaker 2: crying in the bathroom. After some trust building, she spilled

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Speaker 2: the beans. She said Mark had taken her for a

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Speaker 2: makeover and he had chosen everything for her. That she

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Speaker 2: realized he was trying to change her, but she loved

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Speaker 2: him and ignored it. But when she saw me, she

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Speaker 2: couldn't believe Her eyes dang to get back to blonde

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Speaker 2: from that too, like near impossible. You definitely not one

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Speaker 2: hair salon trip.

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Speaker 5: Candy didn't stop to think for one second of like,

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Speaker 5: what's inspiring all of this? Like why does he want

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Speaker 5: me to look like?

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Speaker 2: Oh? She just it was a surprise, I know.

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Speaker 5: And then she saw he was like close.

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Speaker 2: Your eyes, you'll get such a nice.

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Speaker 3: You'll over isn't it sweet? Like Candy.

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Speaker 2: She also said he had told her that at some

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Speaker 2: point he and I were an item, and he had

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Speaker 2: rejected me. Oh but when she asked common friends, she

804
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Speaker 2: was told that wasn't true. She was broken. She said

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Speaker 2: she was poor but had dignity, and I felt awful

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Speaker 2: for her.

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Speaker 5: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: I returned home and I have kept in touch with her.

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Speaker 2: They are no longer.

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Speaker 5: Together, thank goodness.

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Speaker 2: Then last week he called me and told me he

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Speaker 2: wanted a chance. He said he knew I was single.

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Speaker 2: He let it slip that he knew my address and workplace.

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Speaker 2: I don't share this and I'm not active online, and

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Speaker 2: that I was his twin flame. This man is stalking you.

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Speaker 5: This man is weird. This man, this man got cops

817
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:37,920
Speaker 5: or whatever anything get him away at far away.

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Speaker 2: That we were two halves of the same soul. I

819
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Speaker 2: freaked out and went off on him about Candy and

820
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Speaker 2: how creepy he sounded. I said he couldn't love me

821
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Speaker 2: because he didn't know me, and to never contact me again.

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Speaker 2: I don't know what he told our friends, but now

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Speaker 2: they're calling me, telling me I'm the a hole because

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Speaker 2: Mark is just in love with me, and I'm overreacting.

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Speaker 2: I don't think I am. What do you think? An

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Speaker 2: edit for those of you asking, Candy is safe and

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Speaker 2: staying with a family from her church until she can

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Speaker 2: safely return home. I live alone, but in a different state.

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Speaker 2: I have two very loud dogs and a security system.

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Speaker 2: I travel a lot, so I had it before this mess,

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Speaker 2: and fence defense with a fire station. I asked my

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Speaker 2: firefighter friends for advice and they've been checking on me.

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Speaker 2: Thanks everyone for your advice and concern.

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Speaker 5: Well that's good, that's great. You have like three security measures.

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Speaker 5: You have the firefighters right next to you. You have

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Speaker 5: your security system and the best one yet, a live

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Speaker 5: security system with two loud dogs. Love that for you. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: the people who are calling you an a hole, you did?

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Speaker 5: They not remember how creepy it was. They that he

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Speaker 5: literally changed Candy pretty much into you and then I

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Speaker 5: don't know.

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Speaker 2: I'm wondering if they were at that gathering or if

843
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:55,400
Speaker 2: they just maybe heard about it, because it sounds like

844
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:57,479
Speaker 2: Marcus spinning the story however he wants.

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Speaker 5: I was gonna say, or is Mark lying like he

846
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:00,600
Speaker 5: lied to Candy?

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00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,400
Speaker 2: But I think if you want to keep those friends,

848
00:42:03,440 --> 00:42:05,560
Speaker 2: you call him up and you explain the story. But

849
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:10,040
Speaker 2: like the fact that they're already even still just like, well,

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Speaker 2: he's just in laugh with you. No, he's stalking me.

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00:42:13,120 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 5: No, he's obsessed with me. Let's not love. He doesn't

852
00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:19,960
Speaker 5: know me. Also weird, I've not told him any of

853
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 5: this information, and this guy says we're two halves of

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Speaker 5: the same soul.

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Speaker 2: Edit too. Thanks to everyone for your feedback. I'm currently

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Speaker 2: working from home, but once my office reopens in mid June,

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Speaker 2: I will make sure to ask them to not give

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Speaker 2: out my info. I thought that was common sense, but

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00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:40,000
Speaker 2: several people have mentioned that's not always the case. I'm

860
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Speaker 2: going to call a couple of my Georgia friends today.

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00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 2: I want to hear what he told them and document that.

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00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 2: I want to know if anyone provided him my personal

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00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:51,920
Speaker 2: info or if he looked it up himself. I have

864
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:54,759
Speaker 2: a very unique lass name, as in, when you google me,

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Speaker 2: only crap from when I was a teen comes up

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Speaker 2: because I'm the only one with that full name and

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Speaker 2: I'm not active on social media anymore. I closed Facebook

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Speaker 2: a year ago and never really shared anything of value

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Speaker 2: there except for Insta and I use a pseudonym. I

870
00:43:08,680 --> 00:43:10,520
Speaker 2: will give you, guys an update. Once I talked to

871
00:43:10,520 --> 00:43:13,360
Speaker 2: the Georgia group, I'm not gonna lie. Once my friends

872
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:16,760
Speaker 2: started saying I was overreacting, they made me doubt myself.

873
00:43:17,120 --> 00:43:19,240
Speaker 2: I knew better and from the get go I should

874
00:43:19,239 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 2: have said something, but they just kept telling me he

875
00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 2: was just in love and didn't know how to behave

876
00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 2: because of church.

877
00:43:25,640 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 5: No, no, those are no.

878
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:30,880
Speaker 2: I don't don't see because of church.

879
00:43:31,080 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 5: Those aren't excuses. We're not excusing that. Show them the

880
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:36,680
Speaker 5: receipts OPI.

881
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:39,640
Speaker 2: Which honestly is a lot of BS. But I thought

882
00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 2: if I ignored it it would go away. And we

883
00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:43,800
Speaker 2: have the final update.

884
00:43:45,360 --> 00:43:47,800
Speaker 5: If it's getting to this point where even your Georgia

885
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:51,560
Speaker 5: friends are calling you a little like, oh no, he's

886
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 5: just you're like overreacting, like you said, you're in yours.

887
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 5: Those quotes, uh, friends, those aren't maybe your friends, and

888
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:02,160
Speaker 5: maybe stop going to Georgia. If this is the case,

889
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:04,239
Speaker 5: every time, it seems like it just gets worse and

890
00:44:04,280 --> 00:44:08,640
Speaker 5: worse for Mark, so maybe just stay away.

891
00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 2: I wasn't expecting this much engagement. Thanks to everyone for

892
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 2: sharing your stories and for providing advice. I tend to

893
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:18,880
Speaker 2: avoid confrontation, but reading all this information made me realize

894
00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:22,200
Speaker 2: I need to take the situation seriously. I used one

895
00:44:22,239 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 2: of the websites mentioned here and search for my name

896
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 2: plus my state. It was freaky all the information I found.

897
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:29,959
Speaker 2: I'm going to check to see if I can ask

898
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:32,960
Speaker 2: for my information to be removed. I spoke with one

899
00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:35,839
Speaker 2: of the friends from Georgia. She said Mark is giving

900
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 2: them a different story to save you the details. Basically,

901
00:44:38,760 --> 00:44:40,839
Speaker 2: he told them I've been teasing him and giving him

902
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,880
Speaker 2: mixed signals and that he had my personal info because

903
00:44:43,880 --> 00:44:47,080
Speaker 2: he wanted to send me flowers. I sent her the

904
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:50,280
Speaker 2: screenshots and she will talk to the others. At this point,

905
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:53,920
Speaker 2: my mind is exhausted, so are we. I want to

906
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:56,720
Speaker 2: clarify that I don't believe his religion is at fault

907
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 2: for his mental state, because his obsession with religion is

908
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 2: quite free as well.

909
00:45:02,080 --> 00:45:02,279
Speaker 1: Yeah.

910
00:45:02,360 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 5: No, he spooky man, very very very spooky. Be cautious,

911
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:12,319
Speaker 5: do not accept anything from this man. And hopefully these

912
00:45:12,320 --> 00:45:16,319
Speaker 5: friends can at least keep an eye on this guy

913
00:45:16,400 --> 00:45:19,319
Speaker 5: because this is such weird behavior. It wasn't a red

914
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 5: flag when he made Candy literally morph into you. They

915
00:45:24,520 --> 00:45:26,120
Speaker 5: didn't say oh, they even said they was like, oh,

916
00:45:26,160 --> 00:45:26,880
Speaker 5: that's a little weird.

917
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:29,480
Speaker 2: But I hope she got her blonde hair book and

918
00:45:29,560 --> 00:45:30,399
Speaker 2: her style buck.

919
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:35,879
Speaker 5: Yeah, Mark needs help, and the last person who needs

920
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:40,440
Speaker 5: help from is UOP, So stay away. Maybe have your

921
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:43,640
Speaker 5: Georgia friends come out to you, because this is not

922
00:45:43,920 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 5: safe to go there anymore. At this point, I.

923
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:49,680
Speaker 2: Will continue to take precautions and look into getting something

924
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:52,400
Speaker 2: on record. At this time, he hasn't done anything to

925
00:45:52,480 --> 00:45:55,399
Speaker 2: merit or restraining order per one of the firefighters next

926
00:45:55,440 --> 00:45:58,880
Speaker 2: door and the Internet, but I will at least keep records.

927
00:45:59,120 --> 00:46:00,879
Speaker 2: I wish all of this was an episode of some

928
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:05,000
Speaker 2: show or a product of a very active imagination. Unfortunately

929
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:07,880
Speaker 2: for me, this is reality. But thank you for making

930
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 2: me laugh with the ninety day fiance references. And that

931
00:46:11,719 --> 00:46:12,800
Speaker 2: is the end of that story.

932
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:17,960
Speaker 5: Yikes on the bikes. I hope you know it. Subsides

933
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:22,040
Speaker 5: and Mark learns to leave you alone and stop this obsession.

934
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 5: But yeah, who's to say. And if it continues, hopefully

935
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:27,719
Speaker 5: you can get that restraining order.

936
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:29,000
Speaker 2: It's crazy how hard it leaves.

937
00:46:29,000 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 5: You only get those though, I know.

938
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 2: So I'm glad that you have the firefighters right next

939
00:46:33,760 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 2: to you.

940
00:46:34,400 --> 00:46:38,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, you have firefighters, dog security system. I think you

941
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:41,319
Speaker 5: got yourself all good. But I know this is really

942
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:43,280
Speaker 5: crappy and that sucks. Op, you didn't do anything.

943
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story. We're gonna go

944
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:46,319
Speaker 2: to the next one.

945
00:46:47,280 --> 00:46:49,680
Speaker 5: I lost my place at my best friend's wedding until

946
00:46:49,680 --> 00:46:51,000
Speaker 5: her fiance did something.

947
00:46:51,280 --> 00:46:52,319
Speaker 2: Now you're the best man.

948
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 5: I twenty eight female, and entangled in a wedding drama

949
00:46:55,680 --> 00:47:00,000
Speaker 5: of epic proportions. My recently engaged best friend, twenty nine female,

950
00:47:00,160 --> 00:47:02,480
Speaker 5: asked me to be her maid of honor, and words

951
00:47:02,480 --> 00:47:05,879
Speaker 5: can't describe how happy I was. We've been inseparable since

952
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:09,360
Speaker 5: kindergarten and I was ready to make her big day unforgettable.

953
00:47:09,719 --> 00:47:12,160
Speaker 5: By the way, this concert user made of honor throw

954
00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:14,160
Speaker 5: away one and if you want to submit your own stories,

955
00:47:14,160 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 5: go to the r slash Okay storytime suppurate it. I'm

956
00:47:16,320 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 5: key on, I'm Carly, and we're here to give good advice. Goofily.

957
00:47:19,640 --> 00:47:21,400
Speaker 5: We don't have all the answers. We only know what

958
00:47:21,440 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 5: we'd do, so let us know what you do in

959
00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:26,920
Speaker 5: the comments. As Opie says, I spent nearly seven hundred

960
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:30,280
Speaker 5: dollars on her bachelorette party, buying cute outfits for everyone

961
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:33,520
Speaker 5: and riding a party bus with all you can drink drinks.

962
00:47:34,040 --> 00:47:37,040
Speaker 5: The other girls pitched in, but I'm the most financially stable,

963
00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:39,600
Speaker 5: so the majority fell on me. I helped plan the

964
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 5: wedding of her dreams, right down to contacting the vendors

965
00:47:42,520 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 5: and sending dates when she was too busy. I made

966
00:47:45,680 --> 00:47:48,520
Speaker 5: the save the date and invitation cards. What I'm trying

967
00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:50,480
Speaker 5: to say is that I did a lot for her,

968
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 5: and then two weeks before the wedding, my best friend

969
00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:57,680
Speaker 5: asked me to step down and said that her future

970
00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:00,399
Speaker 5: sister in law would be taking the role of maid

971
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:04,200
Speaker 5: of honor. I was pissed and we got into a

972
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:07,239
Speaker 5: huge argument over this, where I admittedly said things I

973
00:48:07,320 --> 00:48:11,320
Speaker 5: wasn't proud of. Since then I received text from our friends,

974
00:48:11,560 --> 00:48:14,880
Speaker 5: best friend's family, their groom's family, and even sister in

975
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:17,319
Speaker 5: law tell me that I'm a drama queen who needs

976
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 5: to get over herself and that it isn't about me.

977
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:23,000
Speaker 5: This has really gotten to me and I need to

978
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:26,160
Speaker 5: know was I in the wrong. And we haven't edit too.

979
00:48:26,400 --> 00:48:28,840
Speaker 5: But before we enter that edit too, Hey, what do

980
00:48:28,880 --> 00:48:29,200
Speaker 5: you think?

981
00:48:30,160 --> 00:48:34,759
Speaker 2: I mean, that's crazy, that's yeah.

982
00:48:34,800 --> 00:48:35,480
Speaker 3: That hurts.

983
00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:38,400
Speaker 5: If there wasn't, I mean, it's very weird. Yeah, you

984
00:48:38,480 --> 00:48:41,640
Speaker 5: did all those things and then the switch the swap up.

985
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 5: I would ask why a sudden swap? Why didn't you

986
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:50,680
Speaker 5: ask me first to can you swap? Rather than telling

987
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:52,680
Speaker 5: me I did all these things for you and it

988
00:48:52,680 --> 00:48:55,360
Speaker 5: seems it seems like you're ungrateful. I would be pretty upset,

989
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:57,719
Speaker 5: but to the point of like, again, it's your it's

990
00:48:57,719 --> 00:49:01,120
Speaker 5: her wedding, her rules, but that's like really crappy to

991
00:49:01,200 --> 00:49:02,600
Speaker 5: do it two weeks before the wedding.

992
00:49:04,280 --> 00:49:07,840
Speaker 2: I'm wondering if it was a family thing, maybe that

993
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:10,440
Speaker 2: was like, what do you mean your new sister in

994
00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:12,160
Speaker 2: law is not gonna be your maid of honor? How

995
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:12,640
Speaker 2: dare you?

996
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:15,040
Speaker 5: Or like the sister in law was like I want

997
00:49:15,040 --> 00:49:16,040
Speaker 5: to be the maid of honor. I want to be

998
00:49:16,040 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 5: the maid of honor.

999
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 2: We don't know yet, find out where the pushback came from,

1000
00:49:19,360 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 2: or if it truly was just her decision kind of thing.

1001
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:23,799
Speaker 2: But you'd think that would have been just resolved in

1002
00:49:23,840 --> 00:49:24,799
Speaker 2: the conversation then.

1003
00:49:24,920 --> 00:49:27,960
Speaker 5: But do you think op, he was in the wrong

1004
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:30,120
Speaker 5: or the right by blowing up like the way she

1005
00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:31,160
Speaker 5: did or.

1006
00:49:31,880 --> 00:49:34,920
Speaker 2: I mean, you can't really, I can't really speak for that.

1007
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:36,960
Speaker 2: It's one of those things where it's like that's gonna

1008
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:39,000
Speaker 2: be hurtful, and sometimes it's just hard to control your

1009
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:42,600
Speaker 2: emotions him the heat of the Yeah, do I think

1010
00:49:42,640 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 2: it was like a productive thing to do? Probably not,

1011
00:49:47,800 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 2: But I guess good on you to like voice that

1012
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:51,960
Speaker 2: it's upsetting you.

1013
00:49:52,520 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 5: This did kind of happen to me where I was

1014
00:49:55,040 --> 00:49:55,759
Speaker 5: still the best man.

1015
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:57,360
Speaker 2: You got removed as the maid of honor.

1016
00:49:57,800 --> 00:49:59,480
Speaker 5: No, I was the best man. But they also want

1017
00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 5: to be as the race bearer until like the very

1018
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:06,880
Speaker 5: last day they're like, could the fiance's brother be the

1019
00:50:07,120 --> 00:50:09,759
Speaker 5: ring bearer or the ring holder? And I said, yeah,

1020
00:50:09,760 --> 00:50:12,839
Speaker 5: that's totally fine, Like I am not offended at all.

1021
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:14,919
Speaker 5: And he like even checked with me, like everyone checked

1022
00:50:14,920 --> 00:50:16,720
Speaker 5: with like is it okay? And I was like, yeah, guys,

1023
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:19,440
Speaker 5: I'm not offended. I'm not gonna I wasn't gonna lose it,

1024
00:50:19,480 --> 00:50:21,239
Speaker 5: but like, if you guys think it's more sentimental, then

1025
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:23,839
Speaker 5: to have him hold it and give it the ring.

1026
00:50:24,239 --> 00:50:27,160
Speaker 5: I think it's totally cool. So no, I was not

1027
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:31,479
Speaker 5: no offense there, but this is very weird. I hope

1028
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 5: we get the answer and reason why. Edit too. I'm

1029
00:50:34,719 --> 00:50:36,799
Speaker 5: going to wait a week to let emotions cool and

1030
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:38,759
Speaker 5: then try and have a sit down with my friend

1031
00:50:38,760 --> 00:50:41,840
Speaker 5: to talk about this. Edit three small update and to

1032
00:50:41,880 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 5: answer some questions. I asked for two hundred dollars of

1033
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:46,600
Speaker 5: the money back because five hundred dollars was a repayment

1034
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:48,879
Speaker 5: from when she paid my rent in college for a month.

1035
00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:51,960
Speaker 5: I hadn't paid her back sooner because she requested I

1036
00:50:52,040 --> 00:50:54,880
Speaker 5: use it for her bachelorette. She's been dating her fiance

1037
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:57,920
Speaker 5: for eight years and we're waiting to be more financially

1038
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:00,800
Speaker 5: stable before getting married. And we're we have an update.

1039
00:51:01,040 --> 00:51:03,000
Speaker 5: We're gonna go straight into it. I called her this

1040
00:51:03,040 --> 00:51:05,600
Speaker 5: morning and asked to talk. She agreed, and we set

1041
00:51:05,640 --> 00:51:07,840
Speaker 5: up a meeting on Thursday at a local coffee shop.

1042
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:11,239
Speaker 5: I'm a bit concerned because she sounded really shy and

1043
00:51:11,360 --> 00:51:14,360
Speaker 5: nervous on the phone. Hopefully that goes well and I

1044
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:17,480
Speaker 5: can do an official update with happy news. Thank you

1045
00:51:17,520 --> 00:51:21,319
Speaker 5: so much for your advice and comments. Update two go

1046
00:51:21,400 --> 00:51:24,280
Speaker 5: right into it. I met my friend arout nine am

1047
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:27,520
Speaker 5: yesterday at a local coffee shop. She looked really bad.

1048
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:31,360
Speaker 5: Her hair was super greasy and unkempt, she had really

1049
00:51:31,400 --> 00:51:35,360
Speaker 5: bad eyebags, and she seemed totally exhausted. I wonder why,

1050
00:51:35,560 --> 00:51:38,799
Speaker 5: because you weren't helping. Remember, everything was under like you

1051
00:51:38,840 --> 00:51:42,760
Speaker 5: were controlling everything. You were the brick and mortar holding

1052
00:51:42,760 --> 00:51:45,200
Speaker 5: everything up. When I asked her what was wrong, she

1053
00:51:45,360 --> 00:51:47,920
Speaker 5: just apologized. I kept prodding, and it turns out that

1054
00:51:47,960 --> 00:51:50,160
Speaker 5: her in laws are real pieces of work.

1055
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:50,880
Speaker 2: Called it.

1056
00:51:51,320 --> 00:51:56,280
Speaker 5: Apparently they've been pestering her for nearly three years about

1057
00:51:56,280 --> 00:51:58,839
Speaker 5: having sister in law as the maid of honor. Called it,

1058
00:51:59,080 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 5: you did, Carly, call called it about three years having

1059
00:52:02,600 --> 00:52:04,760
Speaker 5: sister in law as the maid of honor at the wedding,

1060
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:08,279
Speaker 5: and when my friend chose me, they went ballistic. My

1061
00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:10,080
Speaker 5: friend said she thought she'd be able to handle it

1062
00:52:10,160 --> 00:52:12,240
Speaker 5: until the wedding day, but then mother in law threatened

1063
00:52:12,239 --> 00:52:15,160
Speaker 5: to ruin her wedding unless sister in law was the

1064
00:52:15,239 --> 00:52:18,600
Speaker 5: maid of honor. My friend panicked and that's when she

1065
00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:21,400
Speaker 5: told me I would no longer be her maid of honor.

1066
00:52:22,120 --> 00:52:24,960
Speaker 5: She apologized for the money hungry comment and said that

1067
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:27,680
Speaker 5: she was just in such an awful place mentally that

1068
00:52:27,800 --> 00:52:31,080
Speaker 5: hearing me mention the money made her really upset. The

1069
00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:33,680
Speaker 5: reason that all of her friends were attacking me is

1070
00:52:33,719 --> 00:52:36,200
Speaker 5: because they knew about the mother in law situation, as

1071
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:38,160
Speaker 5: my friend never mentioned it to me because she didn't

1072
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:40,160
Speaker 5: want me to step down because of the mother in law,

1073
00:52:40,560 --> 00:52:43,719
Speaker 5: and they thought I also knew the whole story. And

1074
00:52:44,000 --> 00:52:46,520
Speaker 5: as for the fiance, he was completely in the dark.

1075
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 5: He doesn't have a good relationship with his mother already,

1076
00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:51,719
Speaker 5: and my friend didn't want to be what destroyed that relationship.

1077
00:52:52,239 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 5: When my friend told me all this, I felt awful.

1078
00:52:55,600 --> 00:52:58,040
Speaker 5: I didn't know she was enduring three years of intimidation

1079
00:52:58,400 --> 00:53:03,040
Speaker 5: because of me. I immediately apologized, and she apologized, and

1080
00:53:03,080 --> 00:53:06,719
Speaker 5: we both cried a lot. When the tears stopped, she

1081
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:09,120
Speaker 5: pulled out an envelope with two hundred dollars and gave

1082
00:53:09,160 --> 00:53:12,360
Speaker 5: it to me. I originally refused, but she insisted, so

1083
00:53:12,680 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 5: I took it. I encouraged her to tell her fiance

1084
00:53:16,040 --> 00:53:19,160
Speaker 5: because keeping this from him wasn't helping anyone, and if

1085
00:53:19,160 --> 00:53:21,560
Speaker 5: he decided to cut off mother in law, then that

1086
00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:23,240
Speaker 5: was his decision, not hers.

1087
00:53:24,760 --> 00:53:28,759
Speaker 2: You called it, Carly, I called it, yeah, because that's

1088
00:53:28,800 --> 00:53:32,720
Speaker 2: weird because like you guys didn't have like any strange

1089
00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 2: falling out or anything, and there was no reason, right,

1090
00:53:35,719 --> 00:53:37,640
Speaker 2: so it just seemed really random. So I was like,

1091
00:53:37,680 --> 00:53:41,080
Speaker 2: it's gotta be some family pressure for a sister in law,

1092
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:43,920
Speaker 2: like not even another best friend and not even.

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Speaker 5: Another like one hundred percent. But also sucks because everyone else,

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00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:51,160
Speaker 5: well not everyone else. All the other bridesmaids knew about this, yeah,

1095
00:53:51,200 --> 00:53:56,479
Speaker 5: but then they just assumed you knew. Yeah, I mean, yeah,

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00:53:56,560 --> 00:54:01,000
Speaker 5: it's really crappy that the sister in law sucks. The

1097
00:54:01,000 --> 00:54:04,799
Speaker 5: mother in law sucks. They should know, Like it's her

1098
00:54:04,800 --> 00:54:08,080
Speaker 5: wedding day. Who were you guys to demand who and

1099
00:54:08,200 --> 00:54:11,440
Speaker 5: what should be in place for you know, you know,

1100
00:54:11,880 --> 00:54:16,800
Speaker 5: her wedding. I think the I think Opie's friend should

1101
00:54:16,800 --> 00:54:20,400
Speaker 5: one hundred percent tell her fiance and be like this

1102
00:54:20,440 --> 00:54:23,600
Speaker 5: is what's happening. Also, my question is how is the

1103
00:54:23,600 --> 00:54:24,920
Speaker 5: mother in law go to ruin the wedding?

1104
00:54:25,120 --> 00:54:27,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm wondering if it was like a financial thing,

1105
00:54:27,960 --> 00:54:30,240
Speaker 2: like maybe I will pull the funding I'll I'll cancel

1106
00:54:30,360 --> 00:54:34,160
Speaker 2: this or something that's like too soon to readbook or something.

1107
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 5: Right that sucks, that really does suck. What a what

1108
00:54:36,600 --> 00:54:38,000
Speaker 5: a monster in law?

1109
00:54:40,800 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 2: Funny.

1110
00:54:41,560 --> 00:54:44,800
Speaker 5: Hopefully it gets resolved. Let's finish up the story. After

1111
00:54:44,880 --> 00:54:48,000
Speaker 5: talking a lot more about future boundaries, our friendship and

1112
00:54:48,040 --> 00:54:50,320
Speaker 5: the wedding, I decided I would go to the wedding

1113
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:53,640
Speaker 5: and we'd still be friends. I know my friend didn't

1114
00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:56,120
Speaker 5: handle this in the best way, but I've known her

1115
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:59,560
Speaker 5: for over two decades and she's practically my platonic soulmate.

1116
00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:03,759
Speaker 5: That's not something you should throw away because of this. Originally,

1117
00:55:04,040 --> 00:55:06,560
Speaker 5: that was how my update ended, but as I was

1118
00:55:06,600 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 5: typing this, I received a text from my friend saying

1119
00:55:09,239 --> 00:55:13,600
Speaker 5: that fiance disinvited his mom and practically half the family,

1120
00:55:14,040 --> 00:55:16,880
Speaker 5: including sister in law, because of their treatment of my

1121
00:55:17,000 --> 00:55:20,359
Speaker 5: friend and me. She asked if I would be willing

1122
00:55:20,360 --> 00:55:22,600
Speaker 5: to be the maid of honor again, and I said

1123
00:55:22,719 --> 00:55:23,760
Speaker 5: yes again.

1124
00:55:24,120 --> 00:55:25,520
Speaker 3: Huzzah.

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00:55:25,600 --> 00:55:27,080
Speaker 5: I just want to give a final thank you to

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00:55:27,080 --> 00:55:29,160
Speaker 5: Reddit for helping me through this, and I hope all

1127
00:55:29,200 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 5: of you have a nice night. And that is the

1128
00:55:31,520 --> 00:55:33,880
Speaker 5: end of that story. Great way to get rid of

1129
00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:36,560
Speaker 5: the toxic people and just have a wedding to yourselves

1130
00:55:36,560 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 5: and enjoy the moment and as it should have been

1131
00:55:38,880 --> 00:55:39,600
Speaker 5: in their first place.

1132
00:55:40,120 --> 00:55:44,480
Speaker 2: I'm problems solved. Yeah, and that's the end of this story.

1133
00:55:44,520 --> 00:55:47,560
Speaker 2: We're going to go to the next one. Hey, it's Carly,

1134
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:49,080
Speaker 2: your favorite Jersey girl.

1135
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Speaker 3: Here.

1136
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Speaker 2: We're going to get back to the stories. But here's

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00:55:51,600 --> 00:55:55,560
Speaker 2: three minutes of ads from our sponsors. My friend mocked

1138
00:55:55,600 --> 00:55:58,560
Speaker 2: me for being exhausted, and it pushed me to finally

1139
00:55:58,600 --> 00:55:59,759
Speaker 2: stand up for myself.

1140
00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:01,480
Speaker 5: Way to go, be a proud of you.

1141
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:04,880
Speaker 2: Hello. I am part of a friend group of five girls,

1142
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:06,839
Speaker 2: all twenty to twenty two years old.

1143
00:56:07,200 --> 00:56:08,719
Speaker 3: We live in Europe.

1144
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:12,600
Speaker 2: My friend Elena had her birthday dinner with the group yesterday.

1145
00:56:13,080 --> 00:56:16,839
Speaker 2: Elena's friend Beatrice is twenty two and a stay at

1146
00:56:16,880 --> 00:56:20,120
Speaker 2: home mom. By the way, this comes from Diligent neat

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Speaker 2: eighty eight forty three And if you want to submit

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Speaker 2: your own stories, go to the r slash okay storytime subreddit.

1149
00:56:25,080 --> 00:56:28,520
Speaker 2: I'm Carly, I'm Keon, and we're here to give good advice. Goofily,

1150
00:56:28,719 --> 00:56:30,719
Speaker 2: But we don't have all the answers. We only know

1151
00:56:30,760 --> 00:56:32,359
Speaker 2: what we would do. Let us know what you would

1152
00:56:32,360 --> 00:56:36,160
Speaker 2: do in the comments and nope, says I am a

1153
00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 2: university student. Yesterday, when Beatrice arrived late, she looked at

1154
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:44,280
Speaker 2: me and said, you look like crap. Not very nice

1155
00:56:44,400 --> 00:56:48,200
Speaker 2: but true, so fair enough because I really look like crap.

1156
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:48,879
Speaker 3: Why.

1157
00:56:49,480 --> 00:56:51,279
Speaker 2: I have a lot of courses that I have to

1158
00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 2: attend and I cannot delay them. The exams are coming.

1159
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:57,600
Speaker 2: I am studying for more than ninety hours per week

1160
00:56:57,680 --> 00:57:02,560
Speaker 2: without counting the lectures, working although only three hours a week,

1161
00:57:02,600 --> 00:57:05,320
Speaker 2: with preparing at home for at least two more hours.

1162
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:08,240
Speaker 2: I am stressed, and I fear that I cannot pass

1163
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:12,600
Speaker 2: these exams. I kind of developed insomnia due to the stress.

1164
00:57:12,920 --> 00:57:15,320
Speaker 2: So I've not slept for the last three to four days,

1165
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:16,880
Speaker 2: and you can see it in my face.

1166
00:57:17,040 --> 00:57:18,680
Speaker 5: Girl, go to sleep.

1167
00:57:19,480 --> 00:57:21,439
Speaker 2: I am starting to think that if I pass away

1168
00:57:21,520 --> 00:57:24,000
Speaker 2: right now, at least I don't have to do the exams.

1169
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:26,920
Speaker 2: But I think I will feel better again after the exams.

1170
00:57:26,960 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 5: How are you walking for getting no sleep from three

1171
00:57:29,680 --> 00:57:30,400
Speaker 5: to four days.

1172
00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:34,240
Speaker 2: I I did not even want to go to dinner

1173
00:57:34,280 --> 00:57:36,520
Speaker 2: because I just have so much to do, but I

1174
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:39,440
Speaker 2: care about Alina, so I went. I said, yeah, I'm

1175
00:57:39,560 --> 00:57:43,440
Speaker 2: very tired from studying. She laughed and said her usual mantra,

1176
00:57:43,960 --> 00:57:46,800
Speaker 2: you don't know what tired is. I have three kids.

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00:57:46,960 --> 00:57:49,280
Speaker 2: Talk again about it. When you also have three kids,

1178
00:57:49,520 --> 00:57:51,440
Speaker 2: you could have at least put on some makeup.

1179
00:57:51,720 --> 00:57:54,520
Speaker 5: Oof. Okay, the tired When she first like, oh, you

1180
00:57:54,560 --> 00:57:56,560
Speaker 5: look like crap. My friends say like say that to

1181
00:57:56,560 --> 00:57:58,080
Speaker 5: me all the time, like we say that to each other.

1182
00:57:58,120 --> 00:58:01,400
Speaker 5: It's like, all right, yeah, thank you, But what was

1183
00:58:01,400 --> 00:58:02,920
Speaker 5: that for? Huh?

1184
00:58:03,000 --> 00:58:05,200
Speaker 2: Now, I don't really know what happened to me because

1185
00:58:05,200 --> 00:58:07,320
Speaker 2: we are all used to these kind of comments from her.

1186
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:10,640
Speaker 2: But I've snapped. I told her exactly how tired I am.

1187
00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:12,760
Speaker 2: I told her that she isn't the only one tired,

1188
00:58:13,080 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 2: and that her gatekeeping being tired is annoying and also

1189
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:19,600
Speaker 2: shows what a selfish person she is, and that being

1190
00:58:19,640 --> 00:58:24,640
Speaker 2: empathetic for one time would not unlive her. I followed

1191
00:58:24,680 --> 00:58:27,840
Speaker 2: saying that I am, without a doubt, more tired than her,

1192
00:58:28,240 --> 00:58:30,520
Speaker 2: since all of our kids are out of the house

1193
00:58:30,560 --> 00:58:33,240
Speaker 2: for ten hours a day a good daycare, since her

1194
00:58:33,280 --> 00:58:35,720
Speaker 2: husband has a good job, and all she has to

1195
00:58:35,760 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 2: do is cleaning and not even cooking because her husband

1196
00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:42,120
Speaker 2: does this. Moreover, she has her mother in law taking

1197
00:58:42,120 --> 00:58:45,640
Speaker 2: care of night duties because she and hubby are too tired.

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00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:49,320
Speaker 2: She told us all of this herself, while I have

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Speaker 2: to clean and cook and do all by myself. I

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00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:54,360
Speaker 2: think at the end I was kind of screaming because

1201
00:58:54,400 --> 00:58:57,520
Speaker 2: when I looked around, people were staring at us. She

1202
00:58:57,640 --> 00:59:00,439
Speaker 2: asked Elena if she had anything to say, and after

1203
00:59:00,480 --> 00:59:03,080
Speaker 2: Elena didn't say anything, she told me I was a

1204
00:59:03,200 --> 00:59:07,000
Speaker 2: childish witch and to go to heck. Then she left.

1205
00:59:07,240 --> 00:59:11,000
Speaker 2: I think Alena was just too shocked to react. After that,

1206
00:59:11,080 --> 00:59:14,440
Speaker 2: I started crying and I immediately apologized to Elena for

1207
00:59:14,520 --> 00:59:17,560
Speaker 2: ruining her birthday dinner. Alena was kind and told me

1208
00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:19,400
Speaker 2: not to worry about it and that she would have

1209
00:59:19,400 --> 00:59:22,360
Speaker 2: a chat with Beatrice later. The other girls messaged me

1210
00:59:22,400 --> 00:59:25,240
Speaker 2: after we left, saying that I had to apologize to Beatrice,

1211
00:59:25,680 --> 00:59:29,160
Speaker 2: that I was insensitive to her struggles and did they

1212
00:59:29,160 --> 00:59:31,760
Speaker 2: hear the conversation, and that it was not okay to

1213
00:59:31,760 --> 00:59:34,040
Speaker 2: bring her home situation to the discussion.

1214
00:59:34,120 --> 00:59:38,200
Speaker 5: She brought it herself. She literally was comparing herself to

1215
00:59:38,240 --> 00:59:40,080
Speaker 5: you of like, I have three kids, do you know

1216
00:59:40,120 --> 00:59:42,320
Speaker 5: how tired I am? And I feel like OP snapped

1217
00:59:42,320 --> 00:59:46,600
Speaker 5: because she hasn't had any sleep for three to four days. Yeah,

1218
00:59:46,640 --> 00:59:49,680
Speaker 5: so obviously any like even if the wind blew at me,

1219
00:59:49,800 --> 00:59:51,600
Speaker 5: I would be annoyed and start yelling at the wind.

1220
00:59:52,440 --> 00:59:57,240
Speaker 5: And yeah, it's like, why are we comparing? But also

1221
00:59:57,360 --> 00:59:59,520
Speaker 5: why are you saying those things? I mean, yes, being

1222
00:59:59,560 --> 01:00:03,480
Speaker 5: comparent hard, but it shouldn't be comparing everyone to yourself.

1223
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Speaker 2: I wrote this during another sleepless night, and I'm only

1224
01:00:06,160 --> 01:00:08,680
Speaker 2: posting this now because I still don't know if I

1225
01:00:08,840 --> 01:00:11,960
Speaker 2: was in the right for responding like that. I mean,

1226
01:00:12,080 --> 01:00:14,640
Speaker 2: I still ruined Elena's birthday dinner, and I could have

1227
01:00:14,760 --> 01:00:18,400
Speaker 2: just ignored her comment. Regarding my friend Elena. I called

1228
01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:21,000
Speaker 2: her and I apologized again for yelling and ruining her

1229
01:00:21,080 --> 01:00:23,840
Speaker 2: dinner party. She said I did not ruin anything and

1230
01:00:23,880 --> 01:00:26,200
Speaker 2: that she should have put a stop to Beatrice's actions

1231
01:00:26,240 --> 01:00:29,560
Speaker 2: long ago. She also told me that I was paranoid

1232
01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:31,440
Speaker 2: as always and that I did not yell, but I

1233
01:00:31,560 --> 01:00:33,200
Speaker 2: just raised my voice a bit, and that it was

1234
01:00:33,240 --> 01:00:35,800
Speaker 2: normal that the table next to us seemed invested in

1235
01:00:35,840 --> 01:00:39,520
Speaker 2: our discussion. I insisted on taking her out to dinner

1236
01:00:39,640 --> 01:00:42,200
Speaker 2: just the two of us after my exams, and we

1237
01:00:42,240 --> 01:00:44,880
Speaker 2: went and we had a great time. We are both

1238
01:00:44,920 --> 01:00:47,960
Speaker 2: in no contact with Beatrice and low contact with the

1239
01:00:48,000 --> 01:00:51,880
Speaker 2: other girls. Oh wow, regarding my university problem. I contacted

1240
01:00:51,880 --> 01:00:54,720
Speaker 2: my teacher. He was as useful as always and told

1241
01:00:54,720 --> 01:00:56,840
Speaker 2: me that I should continue to do my work, meaning

1242
01:00:56,840 --> 01:00:59,080
Speaker 2: all the work, and that he would ask as superior

1243
01:00:59,120 --> 01:01:01,600
Speaker 2: for help. I did not hear back from him before

1244
01:01:01,640 --> 01:01:05,160
Speaker 2: my presentations. At that point, I was angry and bitter

1245
01:01:05,600 --> 01:01:07,440
Speaker 2: of all the work I had to do, so I

1246
01:01:07,440 --> 01:01:10,640
Speaker 2: said screw them, and I signed everything with my name

1247
01:01:10,680 --> 01:01:14,360
Speaker 2: only and presented alone with my colleagues standing next to me,

1248
01:01:14,480 --> 01:01:18,400
Speaker 2: completely silent. I repeated several times that I did everything

1249
01:01:18,440 --> 01:01:20,720
Speaker 2: alone and told my teacher that I sent him an

1250
01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:24,240
Speaker 2: email with proof of this email screenshots, et cetera. He

1251
01:01:24,320 --> 01:01:27,120
Speaker 2: said he had not seen the mail yet. He asked

1252
01:01:27,160 --> 01:01:29,560
Speaker 2: the others if it was true that I did everything alone,

1253
01:01:29,960 --> 01:01:32,800
Speaker 2: and three of them actually tried to lie after I

1254
01:01:32,840 --> 01:01:35,520
Speaker 2: told the teacher I had proof, but the last one

1255
01:01:35,560 --> 01:01:38,360
Speaker 2: I will call him, Matteo, said the truth and apologized

1256
01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:41,080
Speaker 2: to both me and the teacher. Mateo took me out

1257
01:01:41,120 --> 01:01:44,840
Speaker 2: to lunch after the presentation, apologized again and explained that

1258
01:01:44,880 --> 01:01:48,440
Speaker 2: he was stuck in a mental coma after a traumatic

1259
01:01:48,440 --> 01:01:51,680
Speaker 2: event that happened to him, and that I snapped him

1260
01:01:51,760 --> 01:01:53,959
Speaker 2: right out of it when I told the teacher about

1261
01:01:54,000 --> 01:01:55,360
Speaker 2: all the work I had to do alone.

1262
01:01:55,640 --> 01:01:56,840
Speaker 3: His words, he.

1263
01:01:56,760 --> 01:01:59,160
Speaker 2: Told me that he was thinking about quitting his studies

1264
01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:02,880
Speaker 2: because he was so behind, but I managed to dissuade him,

1265
01:02:03,200 --> 01:02:07,120
Speaker 2: and we now regularly meet up to study together. That's lovely.

1266
01:02:07,680 --> 01:02:09,680
Speaker 2: We've become good friends and he will be back on

1267
01:02:09,760 --> 01:02:13,400
Speaker 2: path with his studies in about a year. Hopefully you

1268
01:02:13,520 --> 01:02:16,440
Speaker 2: have your friend and a new friend tell you.

1269
01:02:16,920 --> 01:02:19,600
Speaker 5: I guarantee you again. Everyone's gonna side with Beatrice because

1270
01:02:19,640 --> 01:02:22,640
Speaker 5: they already have said it, but she started it. They're like,

1271
01:02:22,840 --> 01:02:24,760
Speaker 5: how dare you bring up her home life and her

1272
01:02:24,760 --> 01:02:29,400
Speaker 5: home situation, you mean the one where she's like, doesn't

1273
01:02:29,440 --> 01:02:32,000
Speaker 5: really stress too much. Yes, she's still a mother of three.

1274
01:02:32,080 --> 01:02:34,400
Speaker 2: She tells me, I look like crap, and then that

1275
01:02:34,520 --> 01:02:35,920
Speaker 2: I also can't be tired.

1276
01:02:36,120 --> 01:02:39,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, and like wants to compare compare us? Yeah, at

1277
01:02:39,200 --> 01:02:43,000
Speaker 5: a birthday dinner? What are we talking about here? Why

1278
01:02:43,040 --> 01:02:45,840
Speaker 5: are we bringing that to? Why we bringing the vibes

1279
01:02:45,880 --> 01:02:47,160
Speaker 5: like that down? Huh So?

1280
01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:50,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm glad Alina realized that you did nothing.

1281
01:02:51,160 --> 01:02:56,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I think again. Being being a parent

1282
01:02:56,760 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 5: is one of the quote unquote hardest jobs in the world,

1283
01:03:00,000 --> 01:03:00,880
Speaker 5: cause it's twenty four seven.

1284
01:03:01,040 --> 01:03:03,479
Speaker 2: But sure, but she's a stay at home mom whose

1285
01:03:03,600 --> 01:03:04,480
Speaker 2: kids are at daycare.

1286
01:03:04,640 --> 01:03:07,880
Speaker 5: Yeah. No, I was going to say, like, but it shouldn't.

1287
01:03:07,920 --> 01:03:11,160
Speaker 5: You should You still shouldn't compare yourself right to someone

1288
01:03:11,160 --> 01:03:13,840
Speaker 5: who literally looks like that. They already got the gist.

1289
01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:17,800
Speaker 2: Just as tired. Yeah, exactly, having not slept with insomnia

1290
01:03:17,840 --> 01:03:20,640
Speaker 2: for three to four days. Yeah, maybe she doesn't always

1291
01:03:20,640 --> 01:03:25,280
Speaker 2: feel the same tiredness that Beatrice feels, but in that moment,

1292
01:03:25,360 --> 01:03:27,760
Speaker 2: she was feeling the tiredness again.

1293
01:03:27,840 --> 01:03:30,520
Speaker 5: Like I said, if the wind blew on me when

1294
01:03:30,520 --> 01:03:33,720
Speaker 5: I'm three days of no sleep, I'm going to crack.

1295
01:03:34,080 --> 01:03:36,760
Speaker 2: I passed all my exams, but the colleagues failed all

1296
01:03:36,800 --> 01:03:39,840
Speaker 2: of them. The three other colleagues are currently facing some

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Speaker 2: troubles with the university for fraud, and she didn't. Since

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Speaker 2: they continue to claim they worked on the exams and

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Speaker 2: will not back down with these statements, my teacher is

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Speaker 2: confident that they will be expelled over their stubbornness. Poteo

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Speaker 2: is okay, as he admitted everything and just failed the exams.

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Speaker 2: I can sleep again and I am happy.

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Speaker 3: This is all. Thank you all again.

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Speaker 2: That's the end of that story. That's all for sleep.

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Speaker 5: Yeah. Sleep is your best friend

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Speaker 2: And that's the end of this story.