WEBVTT - Say good job

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that when somebody does a good job at something,

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<v Speaker 1>say so. No one dislikes having their efforts noticed, so

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<v Speaker 1>a simple compliment can go a long way. So I

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<v Speaker 1>have heard people joke that they love going to the

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<v Speaker 1>dentist because the hygienist compliments their oral hygienes so generously. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps brushing twice a day and flossing doesn't really amount

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<v Speaker 1>to going above and beyond, but it is rare that

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<v Speaker 1>we get complimented for doing life's necessities. I'm sure that

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<v Speaker 1>anyone working at a dentist's office has seen far worse

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<v Speaker 1>that you are doing well, and I see why these

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<v Speaker 1>folks who have been complimented are then correspondingly happy to

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<v Speaker 1>schedule that next appointment. People do a lot of stuff

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<v Speaker 1>in life, and much of it is thankless. No one

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<v Speaker 1>tells me good job for brushing my four year old's

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<v Speaker 1>teeth or making sure my middle schoolers get on the

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<v Speaker 1>bus on time in the morning. No one tells me

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<v Speaker 1>good job for filing my taxes on time, and we

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<v Speaker 1>generally don't expect praise for these sorts of things, but

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<v Speaker 1>that makes it all the nicer when it does happen.

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<v Speaker 1>So why not be that person for someone else. If

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<v Speaker 1>your neighbors have trimmed the vines on their siding and

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<v Speaker 1>it looks a lot neaterer, tell them that, wow, good

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<v Speaker 1>job on the landscaping. It's looking great. If the barista

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<v Speaker 1>spels your complicated name correctly, say wow, I'm impressed. Most

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<v Speaker 1>people don't get that. If your spouse it's a job

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<v Speaker 1>interview somewhere, even if he or she has been going

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<v Speaker 1>on dozens, go ahead and say good job for this

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<v Speaker 1>one too. A simple wow, you are rocking it text

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<v Speaker 1>will suffice, because really, why not? No one knows what

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<v Speaker 1>tomorrow will bring. A tree could fall on your neighbor's

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<v Speaker 1>roof and the vines will be the least of anyone's worries.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe that coffee shop will close and you will never

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<v Speaker 1>see that barista to compliment her again. Maybe your spouse

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<v Speaker 1>won't get a second interview and you will have missed

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<v Speaker 1>the opportunity to say good job on the first one.

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<v Speaker 1>I think maybe the reason we are stingy with praise

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<v Speaker 1>is that we feel people should do what they are

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to do anyway, and perhaps there is something to that.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. I do not generally say good job if

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<v Speaker 1>my husband has managed to put the four year old

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<v Speaker 1>to bed, because I believe he should be doing this

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<v Speaker 1>exactly half the time by default. I guess I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to imply that it isn't his job. But on

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<v Speaker 1>the other hand, I wind up putting that kid to

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<v Speaker 1>bed a lot, and I wouldn't mind if someone told

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<v Speaker 1>me good job, even if it is my job. So

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<v Speaker 1>there's no real reason not to compliment things that go well.

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<v Speaker 1>It is simply encouraging and the world probably needs more

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<v Speaker 1>of that. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening,

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<v Speaker 1>and here's to making the most of our time. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas,

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