Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife.
Speaker 2: She cooked, she cleaned, cared for her children and the
Speaker 2: man of the house, and of course she.
Speaker 1: Didn't talk back. She was both obedient and soft by nature.
Speaker 2: She was a good woman who always made good choices.
Speaker 1: That we're good mom's bad choices? Who single mom? Who said?
Speaker 1: But the patriarchy shared all their bad choices and found
Speaker 1: out they were so bad.
Speaker 3: After all, we're experts overhairs and your new vestie.
Speaker 1: Sit back and do the ride. I can do a
Speaker 1: pat I can do on my.
Speaker 4: Welcome back to good mom's bad choices. I'm Erica and
Speaker 4: I'm Meela. And it's Wednesday, bitches.
Speaker 3: It's Hemp Day, but really for us, it's Friday. Have
Speaker 3: a four day weekend?
Speaker 1: Oh my god.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, it's what's the holiday, you know, Memorial Day? Yeah,
Speaker 4: you know what, this was a great idea to wear
Speaker 4: pajamas just as you.
Speaker 1: Actually, fuck, I was gonna say this is what I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be doing all weekend, But that's a fucking lie. Mom.
Speaker 4: Life is calling, and I have my last motherfucking volleyball
Speaker 4: tournament of IRI's club team volleyball, and I cannot.
Speaker 1: Wait for this shit to be over.
Speaker 4: I might be the reason why IRI doesn't progress in
Speaker 4: life because I don't like participating and having to drive
Speaker 4: far distances. Shout out to the moms and my mom
Speaker 4: who made it happen because I was on like multiple
Speaker 4: club teams and shit, I don't know how the fuck
Speaker 4: or how or why all for me not to go
Speaker 4: to college to play soccer.
Speaker 1: Okay, why didn't she curse me the fuck out when
Speaker 1: you signed up for this?
Speaker 3: I was like, they're gonna be games where it's because
Speaker 3: all county, all the moms are doing it. I was like,
Speaker 3: wait in the fuck are you talking about?
Speaker 4: All the moms are driving out of their motherfucking way
Speaker 4: to enhance their kids' lives, and I just want to say, what.
Speaker 1: The fuck isn't what college was for? Like that's when
Speaker 1: they start doing you need to get a car, you know.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I realize my parents didn't really show up to shit,
Speaker 3: so I'm biased. I mean, actually I might be able
Speaker 3: to traumatize, but I guess I just car pulled with
Speaker 3: other people.
Speaker 4: I mean I did a lot of car pulling too,
Speaker 4: because my mom was you know, busy, and also like
Speaker 4: Rory would driving me around like everyone was driving my grandfather.
Speaker 1: Everyone was.
Speaker 4: There was a tribe, so it wasn't just on her,
Speaker 4: but like it's and I have a tribe too, for sure,
Speaker 4: but it's like some of my tribe members are not
Speaker 4: driving to fucking Earth.
Speaker 3: I was gonna say, I love you and I love Iri.
Speaker 3: I'm not driving to Rarin for anyone. I'm not driving
Speaker 3: to Ervine for Jesus of Nazareth himself.
Speaker 4: Even like I'm collaborating with a mom this weekend and
Speaker 4: I'm driving them.
Speaker 1: You need Sunday.
Speaker 3: You need to make more friends. You need to make
Speaker 3: more mom friends so that you don't have to drive
Speaker 3: at all.
Speaker 1: Well that's what I did. I made one. I always
Speaker 1: might always find one.
Speaker 3: You gotta find that.
Speaker 4: I can't guarantee more than that, but shout out to
Speaker 4: the one. We're holding each other down. This season have
Speaker 4: been hard. And she's a mom of three and she's
Speaker 4: been doing this shit for three kids. I'm like, bitch,
Speaker 4: are you all and it's short. They've all been in
Speaker 4: volleyball club or some sort of club team at some
Speaker 4: point in their life, and I'm just like, sometimes your kids,
Speaker 4: there's one that's just not going to be like if
Speaker 4: your kid is an uncoordinated bitch, don't put just let
Speaker 4: them go to art class.
Speaker 3: You know, I think we're coming from a like we're
Speaker 3: coming from a You should be the first person to
Speaker 3: tell your kid when they're not good at something. Don't
Speaker 3: pretend like, don't give your don't give your kid delusional confidence.
Speaker 4: Ari told me that she next season she wants to
Speaker 4: join a club team that's by your house.
Speaker 1: So I was like, so you want me to pick.
Speaker 4: You up from I'll tell you a by my house,
Speaker 4: but then I have to take her there, and then
Speaker 4: I have to drive back. And then some days I'm
Speaker 4: here and I have to go pick you up at
Speaker 4: school and then bring you back.
Speaker 3: I was just like, my cousin hur kid is sixteen though,
Speaker 3: but he goes and him and his friend's going Weimo
Speaker 3: all the time.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I don't know where you guys are listening from. But
Speaker 3: in La Weimo is a fucking driverless car, which hell no,
Speaker 3: but yeah, her kids go in Waimo because there's wait.
Speaker 3: Speaking of Waimo and driverless cars and niggas on the internet,
Speaker 3: they're always like waitit wait allmen, allman, have you seen
Speaker 3: on Uber there's one for female drivers only.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like they've been had that, I know.
Speaker 3: But I'm like everybody's talking like women are delusional. Uber
Speaker 3: literally has a section for women drivers.
Speaker 1: Because they've had so many sexual assaults.
Speaker 3: It's because we can't trust niggas.
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're disgusting.
Speaker 4: Well I don't, Yeah, I mean well. And also, like
Speaker 4: late at night, I feel more. I would feel more
Speaker 4: comfortable being driven by a woman or any or nothing, yeah,
Speaker 4: or nothing or empty car. I guess, I guess yes.
Speaker 4: But I have yet to be in a waimo just
Speaker 4: because I'm it.
Speaker 1: Just you've been you've been in one before? No, no,
Speaker 1: I said, yet to be in one.
Speaker 3: I want to go on one one time, and one
Speaker 3: time I only do some research. I just want to
Speaker 3: go on the back and have sex in it, Okay,
Speaker 3: because why else would I beat a driverless car unless
Speaker 3: I'm in fucking the Jetsons.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 3: Only to have sex in the buck I got, so,
Speaker 3: I don't know. It's not only of appeal and it's
Speaker 3: not on the top of my list, But if I
Speaker 3: was going to do it, that's the only way I
Speaker 3: do it.
Speaker 1: But the fucked up part is like.
Speaker 4: But they're watching you. There's way you know, our friend Nerlyn,
Speaker 4: she has a friend that works for weymo. They have
Speaker 4: all the camera I heard.
Speaker 3: But then I was like, I'm not going to renew
Speaker 3: my subscription. I just want to do this one thing,
Speaker 3: this one time. But the sad part is is like,
Speaker 3: are we at that part of humanity where we'd rather
Speaker 3: be reliant on an empty driver than a human?
Speaker 1: Yes? Yes we are, and we're at that part of humanity.
Speaker 1: We're part of my resistance for it.
Speaker 4: I'm like, why do I want to be driven by
Speaker 4: nothing like a not reactive non human.
Speaker 3: It sounds insane. I don't want to drive with a
Speaker 3: robot that I don't know. No, I don't like it.
Speaker 3: I know I'm resistant to the ais and the mechanicals
Speaker 3: and the technological.
Speaker 1: But anyway, back to.
Speaker 4: Your volleyball, I just thought, wow, if you're just tuning
Speaker 4: in and you're watching on YouTube, we're actually wearing our
Speaker 4: pajamas because Jamila's daughter suggested we have pajama day today
Speaker 4: on the episode, so we said, you know what.
Speaker 1: Yes, let's do that.
Speaker 4: Although Mela said let's do it, and then I came
Speaker 4: with all my pajamas and she said, oh, I didn't
Speaker 4: know you were going to bring your pajamas, Like, bitch,
Speaker 4: what you said?
Speaker 1: It's pajama Day is the only outfit I fucking brought.
Speaker 3: You know, sometimes my brain is a little delayed.
Speaker 1: Mela's wearing my pajamas. Great, you might not get these back.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: I don't own a lot.
Speaker 1: I don't do a lot of pajama ring at my house.
Speaker 4: I don't really either, but I've somehow been invited to
Speaker 4: like multiple pajama parties, so I have like silky pajamas.
Speaker 3: I'm like, do I need to put jama party? Every
Speaker 3: time I put silky pajamas on? Even though this is
Speaker 3: probably a poly blend from Amazon, I think I don't
Speaker 3: go chase. No, No, that's the wrong one. Creep and creep.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like to keep it. I'm down, though. Have
Speaker 1: you forgave and Chili yet? Have you forget it? Been
Speaker 1: Chili for liking the Magi shit? Did we talk about that? Yeah?
Speaker 1: We did.
Speaker 3: She's going to a constant. They're going on concert. I
Speaker 3: would haven't even about tickets because Chili was chirping.
Speaker 1: I mean, we're still gonna go. People are still going
Speaker 1: to go, Chili I'm not really need you to hold
Speaker 1: it down.
Speaker 3: There's only two TLC left, and I'm gonna need you
Speaker 3: not to be a Magis supporter. Okay, just for TLC,
Speaker 3: just for left Eye, Like, come on, I know you're
Speaker 3: dating old boy from Boy Meets World, and I mean.
Speaker 1: Is that what happened? Is that why?
Speaker 3: I think she's always been funny acting. Apparently if you
Speaker 3: pay attention, she's always been a little uh in black denial.
Speaker 1: Really I didn't like, well she said she's not black.
Speaker 3: There was another clip that surfaced about someone calling her
Speaker 3: like chocolate and she's like, I'm not chocolate or something.
Speaker 3: Some are car Something's fucking ridiculous. You know, you know
Speaker 3: how it feel about black people and their self hate.
Speaker 3: The man has done a hell of a job. And
Speaker 3: apparently not even Chili's exempt.
Speaker 1: Damn well.
Speaker 4: Speaking of bad choices, I think we have a bad
Speaker 4: choice of the week from somebody that is actually pretty
Speaker 4: fucking hilarious.
Speaker 5: Bad mom, not a bad mom, but a bad mom
Speaker 5: so good.
Speaker 3: And she's a OG tribe member. Yes, I wrote it.
Speaker 3: I read it out loud today this morning and I
Speaker 3: was like, this is hilarious, and also this is very
Speaker 3: much sunny, where is it?
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Speaker 3: Okay, thanks, thanks for that, you know, I mean technology. Okay,
Speaker 3: bad choice of the week. I needed a new plug
Speaker 3: for shroomies now that organics are in season. I have
Speaker 3: a business partner I get everything from and he just
Speaker 3: doesn't love as many hippie things as I do. So
Speaker 3: he hooked me up with his link and I had
Speaker 3: to go by myself about sixty miles away up in
Speaker 3: the desert mountains. But he said, you and her will click.
Speaker 3: She's you in twenty years. I wasn't nervous or anything,
Speaker 3: just interested to see what this encounter was about to be.
Speaker 3: Like ha ha ha ha. I put it in order
Speaker 3: for a pound. If you know, you know that's a.
Speaker 1: Lot pound, bitch, When do you moving weight? Basically, we're
Speaker 1: going to we're going to your house.
Speaker 3: Don't do mushroom.
Speaker 1: It's gonna have a pound of I don't know, but
Speaker 1: we mushrooms are very light.
Speaker 3: We're coming over. Wow, a pound is wild off. But
Speaker 3: you know she's sober, so I mean, you know, like
Speaker 3: she's a drink so.
Speaker 1: Some sort of business bitch.
Speaker 3: So that's a lot loll So I get I don't know,
Speaker 3: I'm only one who says lol lol. So I get
Speaker 3: up to the place. She was so nice to meet me, sweet,
Speaker 3: So I get, sorry, can you read, bitch, I'm trying
Speaker 3: to read, discord. I put it in an order for
Speaker 3: a pound. If you know you know that's a lot?
Speaker 1: Yes, it is.
Speaker 3: So I get up to the place she was so
Speaker 3: nice to me. She said she heard a lot about me.
Speaker 3: We both are queer and this style of business. So
Speaker 3: we chatted a bit about being a female plug. She
Speaker 3: shared some horror stories about back in her day. We
Speaker 3: did the exchange, and then she said, hey, would you
Speaker 3: give me a ride down the hill to the casino.
Speaker 1: I agreed. Then, while in the.
Speaker 3: Car, she asked me if I would try a micro
Speaker 3: mushroom choco. She had been working on Choco Choco, maybe chocolate.
Speaker 3: It's in short form Erica, Okay, it's discord, get with
Speaker 3: it with her knowledge around the mush she's it's sunny.
Speaker 1: She's writing in fucking abbreviations. Can you write full?
Speaker 3: Wait, I'm gonna write it. I just thow she read
Speaker 3: it with her knowledge around the mushies. I agreed, and
Speaker 3: we pulled up to the casino. She gets out and says, oh,
Speaker 3: did I say micro? I actually gave you the macro?
Speaker 3: Have fun?
Speaker 1: Thanks for the ride.
Speaker 3: I laughed at first, and then realized I better get
Speaker 3: my ass home asap.
Speaker 1: Ha ha ha.
Speaker 3: I knew I had about thirty minutes before I had
Speaker 3: start to feel the effects, but I was an hour
Speaker 3: away from home.
Speaker 1: Laugh out loud, I just kept driving.
Speaker 3: Once the trip started I pulled over and sat in
Speaker 3: the back of my truck for a while. I was
Speaker 3: in the desert area, so it was peaceful, not too hot,
Speaker 3: and just vibed off of nature for a while. I
Speaker 3: wouldn't say the trip was macro, but I definitely had
Speaker 3: to call my wife to pick up arkid loll. I
Speaker 3: didn't get home till tennish after tripping in the desert.
Speaker 3: Ha ha ha. I got cold and went home. All
Speaker 3: in all, great bad decision. The shroomies were great, organic,
Speaker 3: and I met a new friend.
Speaker 1: Ha ha ha. You're getting you're vetoed from reading out loud.
Speaker 1: First of all, Lola home.
Speaker 3: First of all, I'm reading it like it was in bitch.
Speaker 1: I can read just fine. You're not gonna try and
Speaker 1: play me on live podcasting. I wrote a book that
Speaker 1: is I can read, goddamn it. You know there's a
Speaker 1: literacy issue in America. Well, it's not with me.
Speaker 3: First of all, I'm First of all, I'm not sixty percent.
Speaker 3: I can read very well. I'm in publish author. Okay,
Speaker 3: don't play with me, relax.
Speaker 1: You're very intelligent. You are the smartest people I know, Jamil.
Speaker 1: Don't give me that fucking patronizing asshoice.
Speaker 4: Even anyway bad choice of the week that was funny and.
Speaker 1: Hilarious.
Speaker 3: I would have freaked out, So shout out to you
Speaker 3: for keeping calm.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't have I mean, I don't.
Speaker 4: I can't take I could never even take a micro
Speaker 4: and decide to drive because I just never know what's
Speaker 4: going to happen.
Speaker 3: It actually reminds me of one time when you went
Speaker 3: to San Diego with one of those that Scammer Bay,
Speaker 3: and you guys took mushrooms at the beach and then
Speaker 3: like then it ended, and.
Speaker 1: No one knew where to go or where to do.
Speaker 3: I remember this. I wasn't there, but I remember you
Speaker 3: calling me like I was so mad.
Speaker 1: He had no plan.
Speaker 3: I was like, so let me get the shake. I
Speaker 3: sicked mushrooms at the beach.
Speaker 4: And then that was and then he cried that sounds
Speaker 4: about Scammer Bay.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I remember. No, I don't remember that.
Speaker 3: Really, he went to San Diego and he didn't have
Speaker 3: a plan anywhere passed.
Speaker 1: Like a plan in San Diego or a plan after
Speaker 1: the mushrooms, plan after the mushrooms? What kind of plans
Speaker 1: was I hoping for?
Speaker 3: I don't know, like to get from point A to
Speaker 3: point by hotel.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I do not know how to be more to the story,
Speaker 3: I didn't do a lot of traveling with scammer Bay
Speaker 3: because I knew he was a scammer very early on
Speaker 3: by his face. But that's a different story.
Speaker 1: For a different day.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that was I think I've tried to erase that
Speaker 4: time from my mind. Only fragments of it exist still,
Speaker 4: teeth and teeth and his obsession with different types of
Speaker 4: bacon and I do your roommate relationship and Erica.
Speaker 1: The dentist story of him will never ever.
Speaker 3: I hope tell that story every year for the rest
Speaker 3: of podcasting life, because the fuck is he was insane.
Speaker 3: You should listen to me. We knew he was a nuts.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, Erica's scammer Bay stole.
Speaker 3: Eric's scammra Bay asked her for her dentist, her black
Speaker 3: dentist contact. I don't care if you've heard this before,
Speaker 3: we're hearing it again.
Speaker 4: Shout out to doctor Thompson. If you're looking for a
Speaker 4: black dentist in Los Angeles, he's your guy.
Speaker 3: But don't do this.
Speaker 4: But maybe don't tell him I sent you because from
Speaker 4: Eric He's probably mad at me too, because I went
Speaker 4: in to get in visi line and he took molds
Speaker 4: of my teeth and I think I never came back.
Speaker 1: But he was too far.
Speaker 3: Erica gave her scammer boyfriend her black dentist contact. This
Speaker 3: fucking scammer goes there, gets his fucking Veneers shaved down
Speaker 3: for Veneers, proceeds after the procedure to go to the bathroom,
Speaker 3: locks the key in the bathroom, and just doesn't come back.
Speaker 3: He tried to run off with his like he tried
Speaker 3: to dine and dash at the dentist, I know, which
Speaker 3: is crazy work. And then the dumb ass had to
Speaker 3: come back because Veneers take two steps. First, you shave
Speaker 3: him down and get them fitted, and then you come
Speaker 3: back and get the permanent ones. So this nigg is
Speaker 3: scamming all around LA with fucking temporary teeth from a
Speaker 3: black doctor, talking about he supports black businesses, and the
Speaker 3: poor doctor is fucking calling around Erica.
Speaker 1: But you know what, asking her why the fuck would
Speaker 1: he let him come back. He let him come back.
Speaker 1: He let that nigga come back. He's a cancer.
Speaker 3: The dentist, Yeah, because what the fuck he has to
Speaker 3: be a cancer doctor. Thompson, Thompson, where's your birthday? I
Speaker 3: need to know, because I can't believe you got got twice?
Speaker 1: Did he pay the second time? I don't. I think he.
Speaker 4: I don't know, girl, he probably had to. He had
Speaker 4: to pay the second time.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 4: It doesn't Actually he doesn't have had to do anything.
Speaker 4: He didn't do a lot of weird.
Speaker 3: A grown man who is bold enough to go to
Speaker 3: his girlfriend's dentist who is black, who he supposedly openly
Speaker 3: supports black businesses, only to intentionally lock the key in
Speaker 3: the bathroom and run is in. That is insane work.
Speaker 3: That is a ballsy move. I would never like, I
Speaker 3: would feel too bad, but apparently sociopath.
Speaker 1: No, that's insane. That's crazy.
Speaker 4: But if you're gonna dine and dash, I mean you
Speaker 4: might as well dine on the big big things. Man,
Speaker 4: dash on the big things. Well, I'm not gonna dash
Speaker 4: it Deaddy's I wanted to dash, dash on these mother teeth.
Speaker 3: I dash up Step two. You need to dash when
Speaker 3: this ship's not jack.
Speaker 1: Step one required payment. So that was the problem.
Speaker 3: Well he should have dash his ass to Columbia like everybody.
Speaker 3: The fuck else and got those big chick lay teeths.
Speaker 3: The fuck I cannot stand him? Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, he's an interesting fellow.
Speaker 3: We each had at least one to three boyfriends that
Speaker 3: were lovers of each other's that we absolutely fucking couldn't stand.
Speaker 1: That's true. That's a fact, because I could think of.
Speaker 4: Yours is only one that I couldn't stand thein the
Speaker 4: ones I knew weren't your niggers, but I I wouldna
Speaker 4: say I can't stay.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, but that one. You couldn't stand. That
Speaker 3: one with the dog our friendship almost when I moved
Speaker 3: the dog in.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was bad.
Speaker 3: Oh god, I'm so happy we're not in the Hinge
Speaker 3: streets anymore.
Speaker 1: Is not what you wanted to talk about, Hinge. No,
Speaker 1: just where we were, then where we are, and then
Speaker 1: where we are now. Yeah I did because.
Speaker 3: I started the podcast when I was twenty nine and
Speaker 3: I will be thirty eight next month. That is crazy work.
Speaker 3: I mean, it's just a it's been such a journey,
Speaker 3: and I think that we're a testimony of the baby
Speaker 3: Mama glow Up. I like that Baby Mama glow Up.
Speaker 3: You know, there's always a think piece from bitches and
Speaker 3: niggas on the internet about why single moms are not
Speaker 3: worthy and we don't have worth and we're not desired
Speaker 3: and high valued men don't want us, blah blah blah.
Speaker 1: It's usually bitches that don't have kids.
Speaker 3: It's bitches wh don't have husband or kids, or they
Speaker 3: have husbands and they haven't found out yet that that.
Speaker 1: Doesn't make you a winner.
Speaker 3: Yeah, just getting a first of all. I just want
Speaker 3: everybody to know, just in case you didn't know, anybody
Speaker 3: can get married.
Speaker 1: You could literally go to Vegas. I just did it.
Speaker 3: You just go, you get a paperwork, you pay one
Speaker 3: hundred and fifty dollars boom. Doesn't guarantee shit. In fact
Speaker 3: that nigga might have another wife and the next state over.
Speaker 1: We never know. You never know.
Speaker 3: People are married twice four times all the time. So
Speaker 3: bitches on the internet going around bragging about being wives
Speaker 3: or putting other women down because they're not wives and
Speaker 3: they have kids. You're fucking up the plot. You're fucking
Speaker 3: up the feminism, like you're really fucking it up. You
Speaker 3: might as well go be with Trump Ooh yeah, I
Speaker 3: said it, go'll be with Trump, bitch.
Speaker 4: I agree Sarah, Doctor Sarah. I don't don't what are
Speaker 4: we doing with the doctor things? What are we What's
Speaker 4: I'm going on with these doctors?
Speaker 3: Unless I got you as a referral from my fucking primary.
Speaker 4: Hello, this is good. Mom's my choice is My name
Speaker 4: is Erica, doctor Dickerson. Actually not even Erica.
Speaker 1: I am doctor Dickerson.
Speaker 4: I'm your honorary doctor of all things related to single motherhood, motherhood,
Speaker 4: having fun, being a bad bitch, and that would be cool.
Speaker 1: Doctor Dick. You can fix a day, I can fix
Speaker 1: a dick. I'm doctor Day. You should be doctor Dick,
Speaker 1: the dick fixer.
Speaker 3: There's a lot of problems with dicks these days, and
Speaker 3: sexologists can help you. So we could get doctor Dick
Speaker 3: and High Priestess Mila.
Speaker 1: You don't want to be a doctor.
Speaker 3: I mean I'm already high Priestess. I wasn't lying on
Speaker 3: that one. Let me find something more, PhD.
Speaker 1: You know is that doctor?
Speaker 4: I feel like we put in our time, we put
Speaker 4: in our time, we put it in our hours.
Speaker 1: I'm at least a therapist. We have we're definitely honorary doctor.
Speaker 1: I'm not do you know what I mean?
Speaker 4: I think that I think our tribe would rightfully nominate
Speaker 4: us as doctors in this space.
Speaker 3: Does anyone have the capability of making us honorary doctors?
Speaker 1: Who works at the university?
Speaker 4: And you know what, I want to take it a
Speaker 4: step further. I think I want to get knighted. We
Speaker 4: just get knighted?
Speaker 1: Do women get doctor? Did women get knighted? You can?
Speaker 3: I want to be a queen. Wait, what do they
Speaker 3: call them, sir?
Speaker 1: Like their mam ma'am, madam, Madam Mila.
Speaker 3: Oh, kind of sound like a hooker slash at the
Speaker 3: top of the hookers, Madam Mela, Adam Mila.
Speaker 1: Would you like to come to doctor Dick or Madam Mila,
Speaker 1: we can help you. That was referred to you by
Speaker 1: doctor Dick.
Speaker 3: Oh you're having some dig problems, are you, Madam Mila
Speaker 3: of the Whorehouse on Ventura and Lancasham.
Speaker 1: Oh my god? Anyway, yeah, play the club the trauma.
Speaker 2: If you had the worst parents in the world, you
Speaker 2: had the worst experience in the world. By you are
Speaker 2: adult enough to start correcting it. You have kids young,
Speaker 2: I get it. Most people have kids young. You don't
Speaker 2: have to have multiple children and just keep going with
Speaker 2: all these men that won't commit to you and then
Speaker 2: stop teaching it to our daughters. That's the problem. So
Speaker 2: do you want to say, there's a lot of single
Speaker 2: moms out here, that's the problem. Can we just address
Speaker 2: the elephant in the room. It is the problem.
Speaker 1: Just okay to be a single mom. No, it's not
Speaker 1: okay to be more than anyone.
Speaker 2: I don't want to have conversations about like what your
Speaker 2: baby daddy? Like, I don't know, how's your husband that.
Speaker 1: Everybody? People have six outside of marriage, they end up
Speaker 1: having bags. They're already ruined. They because for themselves, yes
Speaker 1: they did.
Speaker 2: They absolutely lowered their wife value on the market because
Speaker 2: they were frivolous with their body.
Speaker 1: It's one thing to be what the fuck their wife?
Speaker 1: Their wife value? What are we fucking carfax? We are?
Speaker 1: Are we carved?
Speaker 5: No? No?
Speaker 3: No, I have property, like and there's my value gone
Speaker 3: down because the beach front came up?
Speaker 4: Like well this is this is like, this is exactly
Speaker 4: patriarchal thinking. If we're talking about our bodies as first
Speaker 4: of all commodities, that's even that's beyond patriarchal.
Speaker 1: That's fucking slavery, bitch.
Speaker 4: And secondly, the fact that we have someone me you
Speaker 4: by anybody listening who has multiple children, Like our gift
Speaker 4: to the world is life, right, is to create life
Speaker 4: in some capacity. The fact that it's been villainized now
Speaker 4: of course, like I don't think anybody strives to be
Speaker 4: a baby mama, right, Like nobody's like, yeah, I have
Speaker 4: an idea.
Speaker 1: Some women.
Speaker 4: Okay, we'll say there's some women that are like, I'm
Speaker 4: gonna just do whatever needs to be done.
Speaker 1: But do you blame them? But this is the thing.
Speaker 4: It is just like, first of all, Sarah font No,
Speaker 4: the fact that you rate bage women.
Speaker 1: I don't really know how you fucking sleep at night, bitch, because.
Speaker 4: The way in which you are actually degrading black women
Speaker 4: by perpetuating this idea that our value is somehow linked
Speaker 4: to whether or not we're married. Like Mela said it
Speaker 4: takes nothing to be married, bitch. It takes nothing to
Speaker 4: be married and you're not. There's this this topic is
Speaker 4: so layered because it's not considering so many factors involved,
Speaker 4: like and like abuse, trauma, like socioeconomic shaite, like just
Speaker 4: like mental health, things that are just not even be attracted.
Speaker 4: And then saying that by twenty two we're supposed to
Speaker 4: start the healing problem. I don't know where the fuck
Speaker 4: you got that motherfucking angel number bitch, Like my mama said,
Speaker 4: I'm like, okay, so we see who where your mind is,
Speaker 4: and like I don't even know if like she's really questioned,
Speaker 4: Like your mother seems to be like the voice of
Speaker 4: reason in your mind. She's the woman who's telling you
Speaker 4: what is supposed to be because she references her all
Speaker 4: the time. And of course, like it's fine to be
Speaker 4: it's fine to be guided by the people that have
Speaker 4: created you. But it's just sounds like, yo, mama is
Speaker 4: part of the problem and so always you bitch.
Speaker 3: Do you remember what I said earlier about the parents
Speaker 3: are giving children delusional confidence?
Speaker 1: This is a prime example.
Speaker 3: It the issue in the in the black community, specifically
Speaker 3: amongst black women, specifically a youngst amongst black back mothers.
Speaker 3: One of the biggest heaviest weights of being a single
Speaker 3: mother and being black is that there's this stereotype right
Speaker 3: that you are, you know, prone to be on on welfare,
Speaker 3: You're you know, you're never going to make it out
Speaker 3: of poverty, like they're they're they're you're promiscuous, promiscuous, You're
Speaker 3: what did she say, with your body, frivolous, frivolous with
Speaker 3: your body, and if you have if you're a baby
Speaker 3: mama twice, that's a thousand percent your fault. It takes
Speaker 3: two people to have a baby, Guys. No one's fucking
Speaker 3: themselves and just making themselves a baby mama, and the
Speaker 3: people who are are actually doing it intentionally, happily and
Speaker 3: in peace.
Speaker 1: The problem with this narrative is that it's already hard.
Speaker 3: Enough in the world to be a black woman. You
Speaker 3: add stereotypes and narratives like this, and what you do
Speaker 3: is you villainize only the woman in these relationships. When
Speaker 3: single moms are created because of two dynamics to partners,
Speaker 3: it's not it's generally not a one person's problem. Like
Speaker 3: you said in another clip, most women do not sign
Speaker 3: up to do this alone. No, most women, ninety nine
Speaker 3: point cent of women do not sign up for motherhood alone.
Speaker 3: So if someone is leaving a relationship once, twice, three times,
Speaker 3: forty fucking times, bitch, it's because there's probably a reason
Speaker 3: people change all the time. Just because you marry someone
Speaker 3: going in one way, you have a baby. Niggas lie,
Speaker 3: niggas she Niggas pretend niggas manipulate, and so do women.
Speaker 1: But the point is is like dismissing.
Speaker 3: The fact that there's a whole other party that contributes
Speaker 3: to single parent households, literally put the all of the
Speaker 3: blame as if first of all, it's something to blame.
Speaker 3: Single moms are okay, They're doing just fucking fine, you know. So,
Speaker 3: Like this type of narrative makes women stay in unhealthy dynamics,
Speaker 3: abusive relationships and like relationships that are not peaceful, that
Speaker 3: are not growth oriented.
Speaker 4: All because they're so afraid of being a single mom. This,
Speaker 4: this idea of being a single mom especially is.
Speaker 3: For black women, saying it's worth saying. You will have
Speaker 3: women fighting tooth and nail a nigga that they should
Speaker 3: have let go of five years ago because a bitch
Speaker 3: called a doctor named Sarah Fondon. Her fucking mama said
Speaker 3: you're worthless or you can't. You can't, you are less
Speaker 3: desirable now that you.
Speaker 1: Have a child. That is absolutely not true.
Speaker 3: Our worth is not based on whether another nigga likes
Speaker 3: me or who wants to wife me up. That is
Speaker 3: not how I see my value, and as humans, we
Speaker 3: should not see our value based on our fucking relationship status.
Speaker 1: Men.
Speaker 3: You never hear a man say, damn, you're thirty five
Speaker 3: and you ain't married, what's wrong with you? Right, because
Speaker 3: women inherently have taken up because of the patriarchy, this
Speaker 3: narrative that our value is primarily tied to our relationship status.
Speaker 3: And it's absolutely fucking bullshit, Like single moms get made
Speaker 3: every day, and single moms are successful every day, and
Speaker 3: single moms get remarried every day.
Speaker 1: Hi, hello, it's.
Speaker 4: Me Nah, have beautiful relationships, have successful businesses, have beautiful
Speaker 4: bonds with their children, have great relationships with their baby daddies,
Speaker 4: And do you know.
Speaker 1: What I'm saying, Like it's just like you're not even
Speaker 1: telling the whole story. It just sounds like misery and
Speaker 1: like the ghetto.
Speaker 3: But because she has been she specifically has been sold
Speaker 3: this story that if you get married somehow that protects
Speaker 3: you from all the nuances of life. And that is
Speaker 3: just simply not true, babe. And I can't wait till
Speaker 3: some shit hits you right in the face, because it
Speaker 3: will because that's life, lifing. Everything is not a fucking
Speaker 3: Disney movie, bitch. And for you to get on the
Speaker 3: goddamn fucking Internet, Beyonce's Internet and talk like this is
Speaker 3: absolutely fucking crazy. I mean, look at Erka Bado three
Speaker 3: baby daddies. She's doing fucking great. That's what I'm gonna say, Erkabadu. Yeah, good,
Speaker 3: Mom's by choices.
Speaker 1: Bitch.
Speaker 3: The Internet and the algorithm and the gender wars is
Speaker 3: so fucking tired.
Speaker 4: It's it's so played out, it's manufactured, you know. And
Speaker 4: and when you look at someone like doctor Sarahphonton, like
Speaker 4: the rage baiting pisses me off because I see.
Speaker 3: It all over her fucking doctor.
Speaker 4: Please God, her fucking rage baiting on the page of
Speaker 4: just her captions are literally to piss women off. She's
Speaker 4: like a female Sammy, And I'm like, what, what, how
Speaker 4: are you contributing?
Speaker 1: Like what are you?
Speaker 4: How are you being part of you have all these
Speaker 4: issues and these statements. How are you actually helping women?
Speaker 4: Are you actually sitting with women and talking to them
Speaker 4: and face to face? Are you just sitting on your
Speaker 4: fucking podcast, Mike and judging them? Listening to your mother
Speaker 4: and all these numbers, Like when I think about how
Speaker 4: she talks about things, it's like twenty two two babies,
Speaker 4: Like you have more.
Speaker 1: Than two if you're twenty. I'm like, bitch, like you
Speaker 1: knows timeline are we on? Bitch? Whose timeline are we on?
Speaker 4: Like all of our paths are different, Like please stop,
Speaker 4: just please stop it too.
Speaker 3: You're barely getting fucking bitch hairry your pussy, literally barely
Speaker 3: the bitch I was in the club drinking patrone, buy
Speaker 3: you a drink. I was not thinking about like healing,
Speaker 3: like everyone's process is different, and like Sarah, you're obviously
Speaker 3: not healed, or she wouldn't be on the internet perpetrating
Speaker 3: and fucking promoting this negative, terrible stereotype for women.
Speaker 4: But if you actually gave a fact it's this negative stereotype,
Speaker 4: then the reason it also pisses me off is because
Speaker 4: it's like dressed in this like like facade of I'm
Speaker 4: trying to help you, like I want you to do better,
Speaker 4: so I'm.
Speaker 1: Gonna share this thing. Bitch, please stop.
Speaker 3: While also like secret like kicking you while you're down.
Speaker 3: That's not women empowerment.
Speaker 1: That's the listening you guys. That's a bitch.
Speaker 3: She wants to get on the algorithm and a bit
Speaker 3: she wants to be Internet famous.
Speaker 4: Please stop taking advice from bitches who got married and
Speaker 4: left the nigga that she was with for a long
Speaker 4: time to marry her friend, who finally said, will you
Speaker 4: marry me and put a ring on it. The same
Speaker 4: bitch who said I'm gonna kill my I'm gonnakill my
Speaker 4: babies over my husband.
Speaker 3: No, she said, if they were all drowning, I would
Speaker 3: save my husband and let my kids drown because we
Speaker 3: can make more kids.
Speaker 1: First of all, go have some kids and come back.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 4: Her fear of being a single mother is so apparent
Speaker 4: that she would rather her kids drowned and save her husband.
Speaker 3: This is an important case study women are So.
Speaker 1: That is the biggest fear.
Speaker 3: You'd rather save your husband and not your kids, so
Speaker 3: you won't be a single mom because you think single
Speaker 3: mom is a detriment of the fucking world. And that
Speaker 3: is absolutely insane.
Speaker 4: Noh wow, Yeah, so everyone's valuable because God made you.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 4: No, this is like you have nothing to be ashamed about.
Speaker 4: You have nothing to be ashamed about. You're allowed to
Speaker 4: leave and not have allowed to change your mind. Yeah,
Speaker 4: you're allowed to leave. You're allowed to change your mind.
Speaker 4: You're allowed to grow, You're allowed to make bad choices
Speaker 4: and still be worthy of love, of care, of marriage.
Speaker 1: Of marriage, of your nuclear family. Like it's just it's
Speaker 1: all of farce.
Speaker 4: And there's no timeline as long as you have agreed
Speaker 4: to the healing, you know, Like there's no timeline of
Speaker 4: like at twenty two, as long as we're actively growing,
Speaker 4: and even when you're not, that's okay too.
Speaker 1: And sometimes you're gonna take rests from the growing. Growth
Speaker 1: is a lot. Yeah, you gotta got her embodies, you
Speaker 1: gott yeah, like a little toxic shit he come back,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 3: Like that's the problem is like the Internet promotes this
Speaker 3: idea of all these fucking experts, these holistic experts and
Speaker 3: these personas and you get these thirty second think clips
Speaker 3: or think pieces, and like that's not reality that like
Speaker 3: the world is not healed. Nobody is healed. The entire
Speaker 3: journey is the healing process if we are committed to
Speaker 3: being better versions of ourselves, and the timeline is non existent.
Speaker 1: Time doesn't even really exist.
Speaker 3: So this timeline of when you should be married or
Speaker 3: if you have this amount of kids, then your value,
Speaker 3: your value goes down or you know you're not gonna
Speaker 3: be able to find a head. You will find whoever
Speaker 3: is supposed to fucking find you. As long as you
Speaker 3: know who the fuck you are and you know what
Speaker 3: your value is, no one else can give you your value.
Speaker 1: You're not a car and and there are no miles.
Speaker 1: It's just fornicte and so do men all the time.
Speaker 1: And black women deserve the most grace in the whole
Speaker 1: motherfucking world.
Speaker 3: So stop anyway, any other thing pieces.
Speaker 1: That I need to comment on. I think we can
Speaker 1: like take a little smoke break, now, you know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that was a lot that was That was that
Speaker 4: rounded ed up For like two hours before we actually
Speaker 4: recorded episode.
Speaker 3: Erica kept playing it so she could like we could
Speaker 3: we could record it, so we could play it. Every
Speaker 3: time she played it, I got mad all over it.
Speaker 1: Give me in the other room, like, I'm like, girl,
Speaker 1: you heard it. I don't care. I don't care, I
Speaker 1: don't care.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna I'm gonna be common as many times as
Speaker 3: I see it and I be in the comments. She's
Speaker 3: also the same person who said this is another thing
Speaker 3: that she was saying. Oh, she said, I'm so tired.
Speaker 3: I don't want to hear about anybody's baby daddy or
Speaker 3: baby mom. I don't want to ask how your baby daddy,
Speaker 3: I want to ask how your husband is husband's be beating.
Speaker 1: Bitch's asses every day.
Speaker 3: Second of all, she's also the same bitch who said
Speaker 3: her husband can't go to lunch with any female friends.
Speaker 3: They could come to the house and she can make lunch.
Speaker 4: So she doesn't want to know women in their wholeness.
Speaker 4: She wants to meet women, however she decides they're supposed
Speaker 4: to be viewed and what makes her feel comfortable about
Speaker 4: her worthiness. That's because she's about her worthiness, because she's
Speaker 4: suppressed the parts of herself to be accepted, to be loved,
Speaker 4: this idea of what being lovable looks like. Because yeah,
Speaker 4: it's not realistic. No, because why wouldn't you want to
Speaker 4: ask me about my child's father?
Speaker 1: Why is it like what if me and him have
Speaker 1: a beautiful relationship, my daughter's thriving and doing well.
Speaker 4: But because it didn't work out, and because we didn't
Speaker 4: get married, and maybe he was a nigga I fucked
Speaker 4: with for six months that when I was twenty three
Speaker 4: and trying to figure some shit out. But somehow my
Speaker 4: storyline is less valuable than yours.
Speaker 1: Because you you have a ring on your finger, bit
Speaker 1: you married your heart oh wait, Like what are you
Speaker 1: talking about? Like that? That's what I mean.
Speaker 4: Like, she doesn't want to she doesn't want to understand
Speaker 4: women holistically, because that's not that's just not realistic. That's
Speaker 4: not even how society was meant to be set up.
Speaker 4: That is literally a social construct that we're all abiding
Speaker 4: by and failing at because it's actually not natural to us,
Speaker 4: do you know what I mean? And so it's just
Speaker 4: like this idea that whatever, we can go on about
Speaker 4: it this, but I just feel like, bit, you don't
Speaker 4: really like women. That's why you don't. You don't really
Speaker 4: like women. You don't really which means you don't really
Speaker 4: like yourself. But you're not gonna maybe you'll never face
Speaker 4: that or turn that page and realize that. But one
Speaker 4: day you'll wake up and realize the detriment. Someone's gonna
Speaker 4: come to you and tell you a story and it's
Speaker 4: gonna fuck you up because of the shit that you've
Speaker 4: said and the way you haven't really supported women. So anyway, ashay,
Speaker 4: but I wish you well, we should come on our couche,
Speaker 4: we should talk.
Speaker 1: That'll be fine. Come, Yeah, you can have a healthy debate.
Speaker 3: I'm here for a healthy debate always, always, but yeah,
Speaker 3: tearing down women for the algorithm is not my cup
Speaker 3: of tea. And everybody's different. Everybody's story is different. Everybody's
Speaker 3: baby daddy story, everybody's break up story is different, and
Speaker 3: you know, shit happens. People have kids every day and
Speaker 3: sometimes it's it's for a lot of reasons. So yeah,
Speaker 3: have some kids first and come back and holler at me. Anyway,
Speaker 3: how are you?
Speaker 1: I'm great. We have an advice question.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's see.
Speaker 1: This is a nice question.
Speaker 4: That's okay, long story short. I'm a new mom of
Speaker 4: two years of a two year old daughter who's completely
Speaker 4: stuck on my bed. To make a long story short,
Speaker 4: this was just a great relationship in which we fucked
Speaker 4: when we had the time, friends with benefits. I get
Speaker 4: pregnant and three months and he ghosts me. I pull
Speaker 4: up on him on my due date and come to
Speaker 4: find out he got another girl pregnant and she had.
Speaker 1: She had been. This is funny to go into this
Speaker 1: after the conversation. Does that make sense? Should be? Does
Speaker 1: it mean what? Okay, it's just this. I mean, let's
Speaker 1: be clear, there are some bitches that whatever.
Speaker 3: We'll just read the goddamn story.
Speaker 4: Okay, advice question, Okay, I pull I pull up on
Speaker 4: him on my due date and come to find out
Speaker 4: he had another girl pregnant and she had a pre
Speaker 4: me twin girls a month before I was due for mine.
Speaker 4: Fast forward, I tried to work and heal myself while
Speaker 4: just focusing on my daughter and doing the whole happy
Speaker 4: family co parenting thing, which is which is causing almost
Speaker 4: a three year ce celibacy streak. I can't help but
Speaker 4: look for my BD and other men I find myself flirting.
Speaker 4: I can't help but find my bed and other men
Speaker 4: I find myself learning with. Despite his horror qualities, he's
Speaker 4: been holding it down financially and sees her here and
Speaker 4: there when he has the time. We have, g Lord,
Speaker 4: we have a great friendship dynamic which makes it harder,
Speaker 4: which makes it harder, up until recently where I asked
Speaker 4: him for help with our daughter and it just fell
Speaker 4: upon deaf ears. I work from home ten hours a
Speaker 4: day without help, and I needed him help weaning her,
Speaker 4: and I needed help to wean her at nights since
Speaker 4: I've been breastfeeding this whole time.
Speaker 1: Instead of him checking up on me the.
Speaker 4: Next day, he just ignored it, which triggered the feeling
Speaker 4: of abandonment during my pregnancy that I suppressed. I need
Speaker 4: help moving on, but I just feel like a virgin again.
Speaker 4: For background, I'm turning thirty three this summer and went
Speaker 4: through my whole phase proudly. Due to this trauma, I'm
Speaker 4: spending my thirties as a born again virgin and can't
Speaker 4: even trust men to go on the first date. What's
Speaker 4: fun What's funny is that I've never felt sexier in
Speaker 4: my new mombad, but even after but even another man
Speaker 4: looking at me doesn't feel right because it almost feels
Speaker 4: like cheating on my baby dag. I know I deserve love,
Speaker 4: but just can't feel like. I just don't feel like
Speaker 4: it's out there for me anymore. I don't know what
Speaker 4: else to do to get over this.
Speaker 3: I think this is good that we've read this advice
Speaker 3: question directly following Sarah Vondant's think piece.
Speaker 4: Because because some bitches you got, you have to hold
Speaker 4: bitches accountable no matter what.
Speaker 3: Okay, first of all, that's not your friend. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 3: your baby daddy's not your friend. If he pops in
Speaker 3: on your baby every so often, that that's not your friend.
Speaker 3: Anybody who don't take care of their kids cannot be
Speaker 3: a friend, period. If it's your kid, if it's a
Speaker 3: kid that's not yours, if it's a kid in Dallas
Speaker 3: while he lives in fucking Houston, whatever. Any person, any
Speaker 3: parent that is not an active parent in a child,
Speaker 3: their child's life, cannot be a friend. They are not
Speaker 3: loyal to their own DNA. They're damn sure not going
Speaker 3: to be loyal in a friendship.
Speaker 1: That's it. That's period. Second of all.
Speaker 3: Ladies, and you know I'm going to give you grace.
Speaker 3: You're thirty three, but wrap it up. Come on, bitch,
Speaker 3: let's I don't want to have to talk to you
Speaker 3: like this.
Speaker 1: But don't be a dumb bitch. No, you have to
Speaker 1: sometimes we had to do. I love you, so I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be like, the discernment is not optional. It's true.
Speaker 3: After you have a baby, especially as a black woman,
Speaker 3: especially because of all of the stereotypes, all of the
Speaker 3: the think pieces around being a single black mom.
Speaker 1: It puts you.
Speaker 3: It puts it in perspective, and what it really puts
Speaker 3: in perspective, who am I choosing to lay the fuck
Speaker 3: down with because a baby is a long term decision.
Speaker 1: Even with us.
Speaker 3: We knew our baby daddy's forever forever we've had we
Speaker 3: had long term relationships before becoming baby mamas, and still
Speaker 3: we had to learn, and still we had to heal,
Speaker 3: and still we had to love ourselves more than we.
Speaker 1: Love these niggas. And that's really what it is.
Speaker 3: You need to love yourself before even trying to lay
Speaker 3: your ass down with or have a relationship.
Speaker 1: If you want to hoe hope with protection home with protection.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because this is what niggas do. They they'll they'll
Speaker 3: nut in you and then they'll be like.
Speaker 1: You should get an abortion. I mean I think, yeah,
Speaker 1: they're not responsible.
Speaker 3: The freaking news. Niggas are not responsible. If a niggas
Speaker 3: says get an abortion, it's because you don't have that conversation.
Speaker 3: Do not let niggas nut in you. They can't even
Speaker 3: pull out twenty dollars for a tip. They definitely can't
Speaker 3: pull their dick out of the kouchie in time. Terrible idea.
Speaker 3: Stop letting these niggas nut in you.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we can't. Like, Yes, it's up to us. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's our right. I believe in abortion. I believe in you.
Speaker 1: It is your choice, choice. Baby.
Speaker 3: Don't have expectations of a nigga that he has. No,
Speaker 3: he don't have expectation for himself. We are expecting shit
Speaker 3: from niggas that never gave us not one fucking inclination
Speaker 3: that they are performing a certain way.
Speaker 1: Sometimes they do.
Speaker 3: Sometimes people lie and they pretend and they put a facade,
Speaker 3: but there's always cracks like please, ladies, like this was.
Speaker 1: This, The cracks were shattered, bitch at the beginning.
Speaker 4: He goes to you and then you found out that
Speaker 4: he had a baby with someone else.
Speaker 1: That should have told you right then and there. That's
Speaker 1: not your friend. He didn't even have the he didn't
Speaker 1: have to tell you.
Speaker 4: Now you're practic, you can't do anything about that. You're
Speaker 4: gonna have the baby. You know less life, right, But
Speaker 4: this nigga is not your friend.
Speaker 1: She showed you from the beginning.
Speaker 3: Stop fucking with the nigga, like say, you're a salibate
Speaker 3: for three years because you're not fucking him.
Speaker 1: At least be fucking him. What are you doing? Like,
Speaker 1: why aren't you fucking at all? Don't be fucking him.
Speaker 4: I'm just saying, don't do that. But I'm just saying
Speaker 4: if you're what are you celibate for? Like you're so
Speaker 4: you're holding yourself hostage to this?
Speaker 1: What is it? What are you doing? But this is
Speaker 1: this is another thing.
Speaker 3: This is another reason it's important when you have kids
Speaker 3: with someone, inevitably, especially for women, and in bilicalcord, a
Speaker 3: cord is created energetically with a child, but with that
Speaker 3: other person.
Speaker 1: And because as women, a lot.
Speaker 3: Of society tells us that our worth should be tied
Speaker 3: to the kids with the hope of having a happily
Speaker 3: ever after. Then you're in a position like this young
Speaker 3: lady here, who is literally, I don't know what the
Speaker 3: fuck you're doing, waiting out for him to wake up
Speaker 3: and love you or be respectful of you or whatever,
Speaker 3: and that you're literally preventing yourself from maybe finding love
Speaker 3: or just doing the work that you Just.
Speaker 1: Why are you punishing yourself?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I don't understand it. It's just.
Speaker 3: When when it's time to go, it's time to go.
Speaker 3: When someone shows you who they are, believe them. And
Speaker 3: if you say you love yourself, do the actions and
Speaker 3: the people you choose reflect that truly? If you love yourself,
Speaker 3: do the people that you keep truly reflect someone who
Speaker 3: loves you, because bitch just gonna be like, I love myself,
Speaker 3: I love myself, I love myself.
Speaker 1: I'm all that.
Speaker 3: I'm all that. But then you go up with pooky
Speaker 3: in them or fucking Jerome or Zach or whoever the
Speaker 3: fuck you're laying with, and they are disrespecting you, they're cheating,
Speaker 3: they're netting in you and then telling you they want
Speaker 3: you to get an abortion. They're not being like, there's
Speaker 3: so many things that we do that does not align
Speaker 3: with love, if you like, even on casual sex, because
Speaker 3: do whatever you want, like pussies are for pleasure. Let
Speaker 3: it be intentional, Let it be respectful, Let it be
Speaker 3: fulfilling you. It may not be your husband, but let
Speaker 3: it be intentional. Don't just let anybody bird brain ask
Speaker 3: nigga fuck you.
Speaker 1: Even with a condom.
Speaker 3: That shit is contagious. Stupidity is contagious, y'all. We were
Speaker 3: stupid before a lot of times because we were.
Speaker 1: Doing the dirty with dirty, Like when you do.
Speaker 4: You lay with it impacts how you show up in
Speaker 4: so many micro and macro ways that you don't even realize.
Speaker 1: But let me tell you, your friends realize. They all know.
Speaker 3: We all know, even as smart women, even the smartest
Speaker 3: women can lay with the wrong dick and get dumb.
Speaker 3: I have seen so many women do it, and then
Speaker 3: they recover quietly and recover in shame because they feel ashamed.
Speaker 3: Don't be ashamed. We fuck up, we make mistakes. It's
Speaker 3: important to have these conversations. This is why like the
Speaker 3: Sarah Fondants or whatever the fuck her name is, is
Speaker 3: so problematic because nobody is perfect, right. We are all
Speaker 3: seagering at the fuck out and I can love you
Speaker 3: through it, and we can.
Speaker 1: We have to love ourselves through it, but we also
Speaker 1: have to hold ourselves accountable.
Speaker 3: And but the only way we do that is so
Speaker 3: that you have to tell your bitches. So like what
Speaker 3: I'm saying, stop playing yourself. I've told a lot of
Speaker 3: my friends, stopped playing yourself. And I've had to tell
Speaker 3: them a lot of times. But I love them, and
Speaker 3: so I'll tell them a lot of times and eventually
Speaker 3: we come.
Speaker 1: About of it.
Speaker 4: But you know what, the difference between that and what
Speaker 4: Sarah does is like holding people accountable but then not
Speaker 4: shaming them and acting as if like their their worthiness
Speaker 4: and life and like their value in this life is destroyed.
Speaker 3: Because because kids you can't send back to the maker
Speaker 3: like literally like oh sorry, you did what permanent?
Speaker 1: Like nothing is permanent? Every day isn't new?
Speaker 4: I think that Like for my advice to you, advice
Speaker 4: question is the first thing that we said, which was
Speaker 4: this man is not your friend, and so your first
Speaker 4: step is deciding that. Your first step is believing that
Speaker 4: and doing something about it and stop treating him as so,
Speaker 4: because once you do that, you're really gonna start to
Speaker 4: see how who he is because you're a comp. I'm
Speaker 4: sure you're a comp. You're clearly accommodating him baby off
Speaker 4: for working ten hours a day reading a baby off
Speaker 4: by yourself, and he comes around and helps you sometimes, bitch, no, no,
Speaker 4: So the first step is understanding that this nigga is
Speaker 4: not your motherfucking friend and creating boundaries around what that
Speaker 4: means now and then you'll see and it's gonna be
Speaker 4: hard because he's gonna show his ass and you're gonna
Speaker 4: want to go back because it was easier and you
Speaker 4: love him, and blood fuck that shit.
Speaker 1: It is so good over here, bitch.
Speaker 4: Let me tell you, as a single mother who had
Speaker 4: her whole face in her single motherness, it was so
Speaker 4: good here. It has been so good here, so much pleasure,
Speaker 4: so much joy, so many lessons. Yeah, bad choices, but
Speaker 4: that does not make me any more valuable. That did
Speaker 4: not make anything less possible for me. That did not
Speaker 4: make my joy any any bit smaller or make me
Speaker 4: not want or crave love in a nuclear family. That's
Speaker 4: not what we're out here doing is trying to fragment
Speaker 4: our homes.
Speaker 3: So baby, and that's why it's important that like mothers
Speaker 3: have these conversations addressing other mothers, real mom because the
Speaker 3: thing is as a mother, ninety nine point nine percent,
Speaker 3: like we're not ever going to put our child intentionally
Speaker 3: in harm's way.
Speaker 1: If I can make it the best for you, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna make it the best for you.
Speaker 3: And like, sometimes this narrative is so heavy that they
Speaker 3: choose unhappiness for the sake of the marriage instead of
Speaker 3: choosing themselves.
Speaker 1: And it's just like it's it's.
Speaker 3: Choose yourself, choose your happiness. Things are not one size
Speaker 3: fits all, no one. You're not not valuable because you
Speaker 3: have one kid or two kids or three kids or
Speaker 3: fucking pop on hop on green eggs on ham, Like
Speaker 3: it's just it's just life. Yeah, And as long as
Speaker 3: you're committed to like loving yourself a little bit more
Speaker 3: each day, like love yourself like you love your baby.
Speaker 3: When your baby falls down, your baby gets a bag grade,
Speaker 3: or baby says, oh, I don't know how to do this,
Speaker 3: You say, yes, you do. You're so smart.
Speaker 1: I love you. You pick them up every time.
Speaker 3: If they fall a hundred times, youre gonna pick them
Speaker 3: up and tell them try again, and brush him moth
Speaker 3: and hug them and kiss him. You literally have to
Speaker 3: tend to yourself the same way. The second you let
Speaker 3: bitches and niggas on the internet tell you you're not worthy,
Speaker 3: and you let that start to dilute, like start to
Speaker 3: like be a cancer to your body, and you decide
Speaker 3: that you just give up on man and you're gonna
Speaker 3: be celibate and men, are you know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like because this is all you deserve because no one's
Speaker 3: gonna want you. That's when that's your reality. When you
Speaker 3: know this.
Speaker 4: Is this this she's in like like freeze mode. This
Speaker 4: like reaction to this circumstance is exactly the prescription of
Speaker 4: what a Sarah prescribes right like the shame, like I
Speaker 4: have to figure this out.
Speaker 1: I am not.
Speaker 4: I can't go out and seek and date and be
Speaker 4: worthy of love now because I've been frivolous with my body. Yeah,
Speaker 4: like I'm beholden to my baby daddy, Like what the fuck?
Speaker 5: Like?
Speaker 3: No, And sometimes you make bad choices. Sometimes your baby
Speaker 3: daddy is it who you thought he was?
Speaker 1: He's a reflection of your twenty seven year old self.
Speaker 1: Do you really think they've married?
Speaker 4: People are like fucking adverse from making bad decisions. So
Speaker 4: once you're married, you just make all the best choices
Speaker 4: there too, Like, are you fucking kidding me?
Speaker 3: News flash, bitches, marry the wrong nigga every day, yeah,
Speaker 3: and vice versa, just for the sake most of the day,
Speaker 3: just for the sake of being married most the day.
Speaker 3: One thing about being a baby mama and having the
Speaker 3: experience of having a child with someone that you don't
Speaker 3: end up with is that when you do get married
Speaker 3: to have that nuclear family, you're going to be so
Speaker 3: fucking incredibly intentional and clear because you have done some
Speaker 3: research and development in these fucking field research streets. Because
Speaker 3: you're like, nope, not that, Nope, not this, Oh actually
Speaker 3: that doesn't really, this doesn't feel good. You start to
Speaker 3: do the work that your mom said should have been
Speaker 3: done at twenty two, because you can't just wake up
Speaker 3: at twenty two and say it's the work. You have
Speaker 3: to have lived experience, and have experience comes to having
Speaker 3: relationships and inner relationship commity decisions and making dicising choice
Speaker 3: and communicating with yourself and others and saying no, I
Speaker 3: don't like this, or yes I do like this. That
Speaker 3: is how healing works. It's not just internal. It is
Speaker 3: very much based on your experience.
Speaker 1: Yes, So it makes no sense.
Speaker 3: So and I would like any of Sarah's childhood friends
Speaker 3: to come to the front and tell us some bad
Speaker 3: choices that Sarah has made, because I'm sure she has
Speaker 3: not exempt. I'm sure she has made some bad choices.
Speaker 3: I'm sure she's done some frivolous shit with her pussy,
Speaker 3: because pussies do that sometimes. I'm sure she might have
Speaker 3: had a hope sweet sixteen like everybody else, or maybe not.
Speaker 3: But I guarantee you there's not zero bad choices that
Speaker 3: you've made and that don't make you permanent, stained or
Speaker 3: terrible or unworthy of marriage or love or et cetera.
Speaker 4: Amen, Amen, Amen to women as a women in all
Speaker 4: of it, and mothers.
Speaker 1: Yeah, in all stages and phases.
Speaker 3: This season of the Internet is like such a clear
Speaker 3: indication of what it looks like when the woman is fragmented.
Speaker 3: For so long, we've only been allowed like the only
Speaker 3: version of an acceptable, worthy woman looks like this.
Speaker 1: Like this, like this, like this.
Speaker 3: So when you see a woman where what she wants
Speaker 3: or say no, I did leave and I was fine.
Speaker 3: When you see a woman step outside of this like
Speaker 3: super rigid mold of whatever, this fucking virgin Mary housewife
Speaker 3: character that you've created in your head, it's so alarming.
Speaker 1: And she's run.
Speaker 3: Through and she's this, and she's unworthy and she's frivolous
Speaker 3: with her body and she got two baby daddies and
Speaker 3: now she's worthless. This is why women have to show
Speaker 3: up in their full feathers, in every embodiment and every
Speaker 3: piece of us, Like we're not a monolith. We are
Speaker 3: literally fucking, fluid, fucking powerful goddesses. We rage, we'll kill,
Speaker 3: we'll protect, we'll fight, will love, you, will nurture you,
Speaker 3: will water you, will literally feed you.
Speaker 1: We will give you life, and.
Speaker 3: We'll dance on a table and we'll drink and the
Speaker 3: same life we gave as a product of the pleasure
Speaker 3: we're experiencing and the sensuality in our body. You cannot
Speaker 3: have a piece of the woman without having the whole
Speaker 3: fucking thing. And that's why we're in a society that
Speaker 3: loves women but fucking hates them. They love pussies but
Speaker 3: hate women. It's crazy. I'm looking on the internet and
Speaker 3: niggas are like being gay as fuck in the comments,
Speaker 3: like full full homo straits. There's a so many homo straits.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, nay, I don't have the niggat On
Speaker 3: the fucking stupid ass podcast, the Fit in the Fury
Speaker 3: or whatever the fucking stupid fit in the.
Speaker 1: Said in the Manisphere, ill.
Speaker 3: Pussy's female female vagina's discussed.
Speaker 1: I saw that.
Speaker 3: First of all, what the fuck is a female vagina?
Speaker 1: What the other kind of vaginas are there? The other
Speaker 1: ones that he's playing with. The point is that's called
Speaker 1: they call that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and and and for the bitches, stop doing this,
Speaker 3: stop stop stop for a be smarter, be be yourself.
Speaker 3: See stop feeding into this fucking fairy tale bullshit.
Speaker 1: Because everybody's confused and unplugged from the matrix.
Speaker 4: Because there's also like I feel like social media validation
Speaker 4: is a poison, and you see how it infiltrates certain
Speaker 4: people that don't have like a super power. I don't know,
Speaker 4: they don't have like the foundation, yeah, the foundation, or
Speaker 4: like I don't know, the belief in themselves. I don't
Speaker 4: know what the real friend like that too, and like
Speaker 4: just like how toxic it can be. It can be,
Speaker 4: because that's really what I see on so many pages
Speaker 4: is just like the repurposing of this narrative because she's
Speaker 4: spoken on this many many times, different ways all the time,
Speaker 4: different ways all the time, and.
Speaker 1: It's for this, It's for this exact reason.
Speaker 4: It's like what I said to like make women rage
Speaker 4: and feel and feel unworthy. And I don't really know
Speaker 4: what she what she gets from that, Like it's it's
Speaker 4: it's I don't, I don't, I don't get it.
Speaker 3: Well, maybe is she a doctoring her service and she's
Speaker 3: a plant. She's a I don't even know what that
Speaker 3: word means. If you don't even have to be a plane.
Speaker 1: They love it. It's a real word.
Speaker 3: Anyway, Speaking of the matrix, I'm co hosting a play party.
Speaker 1: Oh what a beautiful intro.
Speaker 3: It's called Rage against the Machine. This is the Machine
Speaker 3: and it's on Juneteenth, So come join us if you're in,
Speaker 3: if you're not in La, Flying to La.
Speaker 1: I teamed up.
Speaker 3: With Michael Hollis, the Prince of Play, and I'm hosting
Speaker 3: a Juneteenth play party with him here in La. And
Speaker 3: it's about pleasure, revolutionary pleasure. So you could just chill
Speaker 3: the fuck out and unplug and stop listening to bitches
Speaker 3: on the internet and listen to yourself and listen to
Speaker 3: your body and dress up and dress up.
Speaker 1: Like the Matrix.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because death. It's also my birthday weekend, so come
Speaker 3: hang out amazing anyway.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well that guides.
Speaker 4: Me into Horris horror stories, horror stories. We have a
Speaker 4: horror submission. The title of this is Bohemian House of
Speaker 4: Espresso plus Chy. I don't know why. I don't know
Speaker 4: why it says that, but horror story, if you could
Speaker 4: call it. That ended a relationship, and shortly after and
Speaker 4: ended a relationship, and shortly after ended up having my
Speaker 4: first threesome with two gentlemen who owned a cannabis company
Speaker 4: together and were roommates in college at three am when
Speaker 4: they realized there was only one room left wait. At
Speaker 4: three am, when they realized there was only one condom left.
Speaker 4: Both of them wanted to have sex with me. They
Speaker 4: rock paper scissor battled for three rounds for who was
Speaker 4: going to go to the store.
Speaker 1: I think I did it. We think if we did
Speaker 1: read this, we did read it again. Okay, it went.
Speaker 4: To sunrise and was equal part sexy and hilarious because
Speaker 4: of how attuned to each other and attuned to each
Speaker 4: other and secure in the dynamic. Also, they're not American,
Speaker 4: so that helps.
Speaker 1: It does help.
Speaker 4: It felt pretty great to experience that after being single
Speaker 4: for the first time in almost eleven years.
Speaker 1: Have fun, bitch, do the thing, honestly, literally make the
Speaker 1: bad choice. Bitch, have some fun.
Speaker 4: I please have some fun, for the love of God,
Speaker 4: because we don't really know what's going to happen.
Speaker 3: Having two dicks come together for you, I'm pretty sure
Speaker 3: is the cheat code to goddessness. There's some kind of
Speaker 3: something goes off, some kind of signals go off in
Speaker 3: your brain when you feel safe enough to do that,
Speaker 3: and you're like kind of like power rangeers. You're like,
Speaker 3: I did it, and it happened, and I was like,
Speaker 3: literally in the moment in my head, I said, this
Speaker 3: is why they tell you not to do this. I
Speaker 3: literally was like, oh my god, I'm so cool, and
Speaker 3: I was like, this is why they tell you how
Speaker 3: to do this. And I've asked several other people and
Speaker 3: they said the same thing. So all I'm saying, if
Speaker 3: you have the opportunity to have a loving threesome with
Speaker 3: two nice penises and two nice men that respect you,
Speaker 3: it's all about your pleasure and it's not rape, and
Speaker 3: it's just about you and it's safe.
Speaker 1: Do it.
Speaker 5: Do it?
Speaker 3: Okay, Remember this voice in your head, what would you
Speaker 3: meanbly do do that? Remember all the speculations. Remember love
Speaker 3: yourself everything with everything. Okay, just so you guys know,
Speaker 3: we have a book. Everything we say you a have
Speaker 3: to love yourself fell first, hoe later. Okay, these are
Speaker 3: some things we've said. Okay, don't get digmatized. Don't be
Speaker 3: a dumb bitch. These are the ten commandments of the
Speaker 3: Good Moms.
Speaker 1: I think we need to start it. Don't be a
Speaker 1: dumb bitch academy.
Speaker 4: I like, right, don't be a dumb bitch academy. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I got the curriculum right here, it's right in this episode.
Speaker 4: This is episode one.
Speaker 3: I literally don't be dumb bitch academy, the academy to
Speaker 3: make finding your husband, since husbands are so hot on
Speaker 3: the streets.
Speaker 1: Right now, we're gonna sell a husband.
Speaker 4: Yeah, do you want to wind up at the day
Speaker 4: at the end of the whole husband healthy Wait, but
Speaker 4: the gag is and at the end of the whole
Speaker 4: academy like you don't surprise, just kidding.
Speaker 1: This is how you don't find a husband. That's how
Speaker 1: you find yourself, bitch. Now, this is how you find yourself.
Speaker 1: And whoever comes that's never worth it. But it might
Speaker 1: take a little bit longer, but you will find him.
Speaker 1: Don't worry. It just might not be right now after
Speaker 1: these twelve weeks.
Speaker 3: I mean, but seriously, a PSA announcement for the bitches
Speaker 3: like stop like I don't want to see one more bitch,
Speaker 3: get a boyfriend and your pictures stop thirsting, like bitch,
Speaker 3: we need you to stay the same after the relationship.
Speaker 3: I need bitches to show up as themselves.
Speaker 1: Please continue. I can't be the only one.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I went to speaking about choice invited
Speaker 3: me snoop Dog's wife has all all male strip club.
Speaker 3: Apparently at his had his compound, so dune me look.
Speaker 4: Kept saying compound, and I was like, like, what a house?
Speaker 1: Like where are we are? We in a warehouse section.
Speaker 3: Hinder like a warehouse by the airport.
Speaker 1: It is a compound. There's security.
Speaker 3: There is this male lip there No, no, I think
Speaker 3: he just has a lot of shit going on there.
Speaker 3: But this back in the back is the boss ladies.
Speaker 1: Mail strip club.
Speaker 3: Okay, thirty dollars to get in open bar, top shelf
Speaker 3: licker their polls. No, niggas don't use poles, no, no,
Speaker 3: but but.
Speaker 1: The niggas were hood as fucked.
Speaker 3: They're good, nice bodies, they're cute, but they probably gay
Speaker 3: banged this morning like they were hood Wait what do
Speaker 3: you mean they like? Oh oh, they were literally like
Speaker 3: wearing red and blue bandanas like it was some hood niggas.
Speaker 1: They were stripping.
Speaker 3: Anyway, I had like a shot as soon as I
Speaker 3: walked to the door, and the MC had to say
Speaker 3: several times on the microphone, you.
Speaker 1: Are not to show, you are not to show. You
Speaker 1: think I would be embarrassed, but not at all. I
Speaker 1: just kept coming back every periodically, every three songs, I'd be.
Speaker 4: Like, how about now was because nope, was anybody in
Speaker 4: there doing anything? There was a lot of people there,
Speaker 4: but they're saying were they participating?
Speaker 3: Not enough? Not enough for my taste. So I decided
Speaker 3: to crawl on the floor. Anyway, I was like posting
Speaker 3: some of the story and like the stripper was like
Speaker 3: holding me up. I was like throwing my jacket to
Speaker 3: the to the audience and like going up and down
Speaker 3: and putting.
Speaker 1: Money on him.
Speaker 3: I was doing the sherry thing. He just someone had
Speaker 3: the usher thing. And someone commented in my and my
Speaker 3: DMS and said, my husband would fucking kill me. I said,
Speaker 3: my husband knows you've married a wild bitch. And the
Speaker 3: next day I was like, look, babe, they kicked me
Speaker 3: off the stage like three times.
Speaker 1: Look look did you see my stories? He's like, yeah, girl,
Speaker 1: I saw. I was like, I got so drunk. He's like, bitch.
Speaker 3: Anyway, I'll have to say, you could be yourself and
Speaker 3: you could be married, and that's it. Love yourself, don't
Speaker 3: be a dumb bitch. Look out for our academy. It's
Speaker 3: coming soon, you guys. I think it's Tarot time.
Speaker 1: Tarot time. Do you want to pick or do you
Speaker 1: want me to?
Speaker 3: I think you should pick?
Speaker 1: Okay, The Queen of Pentacles I like this card.
Speaker 3: Queen of Pentacles.
Speaker 4: Give me money, honey, abundance, love, respect, everything I.
Speaker 3: Need, Queen of Pentacles. And that's the thing. When you know,
Speaker 3: without a shadow of a doubt, your worth and everything
Speaker 3: that you need comes to you, It's like so easy. Okay,
Speaker 3: let's see what the Queen of Pentacles is talking about.
Speaker 3: The create of Pentacles is the nurturing mother of the
Speaker 3: material world. At home, she knows her love for others
Speaker 3: by cooking nutritious meals, maintaining a clean and inviting home,
Speaker 3: and giving warm cuddles to those who needed most. She's
Speaker 3: also able to work a full time job and make
Speaker 3: a financial contribution to the household, often as the primary breadwinner.
Speaker 3: She is masterful at taking care of the practical needs
Speaker 3: of work, home, and family, while also giving her love
Speaker 3: and support to those she cares about. The Queen of
Speaker 3: Pentacles appears in a trail reading when you're embodying the
Speaker 3: ultimate working parent archetype, you care for your family and
Speaker 3: domestic responsibilities while also making a living for yourself and
Speaker 3: creating financial abundance. You can maintain a healthy balance between
Speaker 3: home and work by integrating the two and finding your
Speaker 3: place of flow and alignment. You strive to create a
Speaker 3: warm and secure environment for your family and loved ones
Speaker 3: while giving your love and support freely. This is literally
Speaker 3: the embodiment of the single mother. I don't know what
Speaker 3: other card we could have. Possibly this is literally mm hmmm.
Speaker 1: I say I, Shay, I receive it and then like
Speaker 1: a collective.
Speaker 3: Similarly, the Queen of Pentacle suggests that it is important
Speaker 3: to you to live independently with a stable income and
Speaker 3: with enough time and space to also nurture your loved ones.
Speaker 3: You may be trying to strike a better balance between
Speaker 3: your home and work lives, giving it your all both domains,
Speaker 3: giving all in both domains. At this time, you find
Speaker 3: time for yourself and prioritize me time in between all
Speaker 3: of your other commitments. Love yourself and everything else will follow.
Speaker 1: Amen.
Speaker 3: Do we have an affirmation for the for the girls today?
Speaker 1: Single motherhood doesn't devalue my worthiness. Single motherhood that a
Speaker 1: shit single motherhood.
Speaker 3: Single moms are the shit.
Speaker 1: Single moms, Single moms are the shit. Fuck. What Sarah
Speaker 1: Fontinan's talking about kind of has a rate to it.
Speaker 4: That's the affirmation, all right, So say that over and
Speaker 4: over again every time someone tries to shame you.
Speaker 1: Just remember single mother to the ship. We don't have
Speaker 1: to say her name.
Speaker 3: It's it's so stupid that we have to prefer preface
Speaker 3: it with well, it's not because I chose it, because it.
Speaker 1: Didn't work out, because well I'm not a single mom.
Speaker 1: Because bitch.
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, well yes that speaks volumes, and thank
Speaker 3: you for that affirmation.
Speaker 1: It's been no problem. We're gonna have brush off the dome.
Speaker 1: It's gonna look great on it's gonna go viral, just
Speaker 1: like her, I know, and I have to be a mom. Sucks.
Speaker 1: She got your pajamas on. Sure, well, I guess we'll
Speaker 1: see you guys next time. I love you. Wait should we?
Speaker 1: Should you say? The retreat sign up for the tree.
Speaker 3: That's actually that's the speed up of Don't be a
Speaker 3: Dumb Bitch.
Speaker 1: That's the accelerated program. It truly is. It's the Good Vibe.
Speaker 4: Retreat is the accelerated Don't be a Dumb Bitch Academy.
Speaker 4: It's like, don't be dune bitch on crack and maybe
Speaker 4: you'll find your husband next year after you come to
Speaker 4: the retreat.
Speaker 1: The summer.
Speaker 3: Literally, it's a manifest manifestation intensive. It's don't be dumb
Speaker 3: bitch intensive. It's a settle your nervous system intensive. It's
Speaker 3: a who am I? What is my voice inside? And
Speaker 3: it's everything, and it's friendship and community and we'll be there.
Speaker 3: I actually went with Toyo to the strip club from
Speaker 3: the retreet.
Speaker 1: Did she enjoy yourself? Did she get in there? She
Speaker 1: did it.
Speaker 3: She was just like taking secret videos in me and saying, bitch,
Speaker 3: you're crazy. I said, yeah all the time, but yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't be dumb bitch, and come to the retreat
Speaker 3: if you have any plans this summer.
Speaker 1: We are going to be there July twenty fourth through
Speaker 1: the twenty ninth.
Speaker 4: Yep, and make sure you subscribe to this motherfucking YouTube
Speaker 4: and leave a comment on Apple podcasts.
Speaker 1: Just show your girl some love. Just look in the
Speaker 1: links and the comments and do the things and we'll
Speaker 1: see next. Wakang Jes.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm living so good, can't you tell? I went
Speaker 5: through a drought.
Speaker 1: That's until I found out, Well, may my have been known?
Speaker 5: Earth that used to be broken Hell now got the
Speaker 5: blues handser like Beyonce, justall throat shot with popping his
Speaker 5: cow wearing our voices.
Speaker 1: Patriarchy kept it in the box to exploit it. Women
Speaker 1: put the pee in power, so it's pointless.
Speaker 5: They want me to be good, so I made that choice.
Speaker 5: Bad mom, not a bad mom, but a bad mom
Speaker 5: getters in on put cannabis in their bath. Bon walked
Speaker 5: in bossas cap and I blew his cat ball hot dog.
Speaker 1: Now I'm immune to the cat call.
Speaker 5: Heard me and no waisted straight to it like a
Speaker 5: dollar sign. Mother rent the lover went to it like
Speaker 5: a water someone where you're rent, the winter resentual will
Speaker 5: win the summer time