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Speaker 1: I refuse to give any of my inheritance to my

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Speaker 1: a fair baby sister to save her life?

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole? I mean? Is she gonna die?

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Speaker 2: You know? Ay, she's an a fair baby sister.

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Speaker 3: I always like when we have these these multiple relationships

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Speaker 3: and like like family and friendship dynamics, I'm like, what

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll find out. Yeah, we are about to.

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Speaker 1: So when I was twenty five, we found out that

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Speaker 1: my father had been cheating on my mother for years

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Speaker 1: and he had a seven year old daughter with his mistress.

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Speaker 2: Wow, we're coming out of this story swinging. Yeah, we

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Speaker 2: are starting off with a bang over here.

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Speaker 1: In one split second, the happy family I knew was

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Speaker 1: completely gone, and I went through one of the darkest

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Speaker 2: Yikes. Rough.

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Speaker 1: My parents divorced and further prenup. My mother walked away

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Speaker 1: with most of their assets since she also contributed more

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Speaker 1: to the family income, and she never forgave my dad

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Speaker 1: for what he did and never talked to him again,

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Speaker 1: though she grudgingly allowed me to have whatever relationship I

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Speaker 1: wanted to have with him. I eventually forgave my dad,

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Speaker 1: mostly just because I was tired of carrying so much

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Speaker 2: Hurt in my heart.

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Speaker 1: I talked to him, but I want nothing to do

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Speaker 1: with his mistress or my half sister.

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Speaker 3: The affair baby, the afair baby. Yeah, but you gotta

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Speaker 3: be so mean into the affair baby. The fair baby

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Speaker 3: didn't do anything. I understand, maybe being mad at the

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Speaker 3: mistress with the affair baby.

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Speaker 1: Come on, caught in the cry, Hey, you're catching shrapnel.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I'm shooting. I'm shooting, and you're catching trap kill.

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Speaker 2: It's a fair baby.

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Speaker 3: It's just John hates a fair babies. John likes to

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Speaker 3: shoot trapnel into affair babies.

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Speaker 2: You heard he hair first. Folks.

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Speaker 1: In twenty years, there's gonna be like the whatever Twitter

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Speaker 1: is in the future, and it's to.

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Speaker 3: Be like John Fry like shooting babies. Say no to

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Speaker 3: John Frod's right. Baby shooter, baby shooter.

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Speaker 1: Uh. My mother passed away last year and left me everything.

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Speaker 1: She got all of her inheritance, her money, her real estate, assets,

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Speaker 3: Now own and operate. Whoa like, we're assets assets over here,

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Speaker 3: and like the mom was the richer of the two,

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Speaker 1: Came had fat assets, fat big old jiggly assets.

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Speaker 2: But doing good doin.

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Speaker 1: I'm in a relatively comfortable financial position while my dad

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Speaker 2: Daddy's poor. Hey, but at least he's got his mistress. Now,

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Speaker 2: he's all right, he's guy his mistress and he's got

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Speaker 2: is a fair baby. He's good to go.

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Speaker 3: He's young at heart. And then the wiener got that

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Speaker 2: That young ca.

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Speaker 1: All right, he was never a good businessman on his

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Speaker 2: Yikes.

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Speaker 1: This year, my half sister was diagnosed with a life

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Speaker 1: the last four months. The bills are mounting, and my

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Speaker 2: Oh geez.

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Speaker 3: So basically like, if she doesn't get treated, then she dies,

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Speaker 3: That's what it's.

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Speaker 1: This is a really really, really, really really tough situation.

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Speaker 1: The thing is, I don't want to use my mother's

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Speaker 2: I like how she keeps saying, like half sistan sticking

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Speaker 1: It feels so unfair when I think that the money

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Speaker 1: I'd really rather use it to grow her company and

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Speaker 2: They are her parents after all.

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Speaker 1: And the only thing tying her to me is my

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Speaker 1: because she doesn't get the treatment she needs, would you

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Speaker 2: So the question is.

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Speaker 3: Some emotional manipulation right there, the massive emotional manipulation.

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Speaker 2: So the question is am I the a hole? Oh god?

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Speaker 1: This is this is one of the one of the

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Speaker 2: It's like the trolley problem.

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Speaker 3: It's like, you know, right, like if you don't pull

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Speaker 1: Except this, no, no one's the trolley one is like

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Speaker 3: Like there's also the other trolley problem if it's like

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Speaker 3: that way if you kill like one or ten people.

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Speaker 3: But it's like if you move it, are you still

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Speaker 3: right right? Whereas if you just let it go, you're

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Speaker 3: killing ten people. But but you're also I guess you're

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Speaker 3: also responsible because you have the power too. But basically

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Speaker 3: like OPI has the power to save a life, and

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Speaker 3: it's like do you do it? And are you morally responsible?

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Speaker 3: But on a also on a darker note, like everyone

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Speaker 2: It sounds like we're doing it. Yeah, it literally sounds

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Speaker 3: Where it's like five cents can save this child, give

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Speaker 1: Literally due this Yeah, it's this is I think one

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Speaker 1: Like it's it's either way is kind of super fucked

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Speaker 1: because honestly she is. I get the situation, and I'm

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Speaker 1: not saying that she's totally responsible for her, but that

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Yeah, there's definitely ties. And I think like as

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Speaker 3: I think that's a valid question. It kind of yeah,

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Speaker 3: Like it's like, don't do it for anyone else?

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Speaker 2: Right, do it?

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Speaker 3: Like will you act? If you don't do this, will

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Speaker 3: you regret it? Will you be able to live with yourself?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: And if you're like fuck, if I care, I don't

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Speaker 3: you probably should should help.

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Speaker 1: I would yeah, Like I feel like op knows what

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Speaker 1: she wants to do, but like I would just be lost.

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Speaker 3: And it's also like, you know, you're kind of going

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Speaker 2: You know in what way, Oh, by by doing it, bye.

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Speaker 3: By giving, by giving, Like if you were to give

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Speaker 3: all this money away, right, you're you're.

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Speaker 2: To the affair baby.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know, I think there's I I actually

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Speaker 3: do think there is a middle ground here, Like I

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Speaker 3: like like I feel like OP is framing it like

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Speaker 3: she to help her dad and this affair, baby, she

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Speaker 3: has to give away the entire fortune. Yes, yes, and

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Speaker 3: I can't imagine that's true. But even if it is,

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Speaker 3: let's say it is. Yeah, I think the the middle

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Speaker 3: ground is like like here, let me, let me give

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Speaker 3: you like twenty five like fifty k to keep going.

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Speaker 3: But she doesn't have to sell the business to yeah,

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Speaker 3: or sell the real estate or anything. Yeah, maybe she could.

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Speaker 1: What she probably should do is like, look, in order

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Speaker 1: to get this amount, you need to like you know,

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Speaker 1: start a GoFundMe like get like figure out figure out

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Speaker 1: the absolute most the both of you can do with this.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna give you this amount once you get all

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Speaker 1: that like the gears running, and then I'm out like

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Speaker 1: this this is not my responsibility or problem.

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Speaker 3: So but yeah, but I do want to, like I

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Speaker 3: do want to help in some way, So yeah, I

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Speaker 3: don't want to just leave her defensive. So but damn

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Speaker 3: complicated situation. Yeah, for sure,