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Speaker 1: Hey y'all, this is Dr Joy from the Therapy for

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Speaker 1: Black Girls podcast, and this it's a booster session. As

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Speaker 1: a reminder, the information included is meant to be educational

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Speaker 1: and entertaining, but it is not a substitute for a

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Speaker 1: relationship with a licensed mental health professional. Hey y'all, it's

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Speaker 1: Dr Joy and I had to drop in because I

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Speaker 1: have some strong feelings about what we saw yesterday at

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Speaker 1: the US Open. I missed it in real time because

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Speaker 1: I was asleep, but I awoke from my nap to

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Speaker 1: see my Twitter timeline in a complete uproar about Serena

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Speaker 1: losing the match. So apparently, the umpire says she was

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Speaker 1: cheating and took a point away from her which resulted

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Speaker 1: in her losing the match, and Serena, of course is

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Speaker 1: rightfully upset because this is high stakes and she's not

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Speaker 1: a cheater, and she tells him so apparent. Men in

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Speaker 1: the sport have done much worse and have not been

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Speaker 1: penalized for it, but of course Serena is so. Not

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Speaker 1: only is this an awful loss for Serena, it's also

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Speaker 1: a less than ideal way for our young sister, Naomi

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Speaker 1: Osaka to win her first title what we saw yesterday

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Speaker 1: was the personification of our parents, always telling us you

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Speaker 1: have to be twice as good to get half the respect,

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Speaker 1: something that is not even an issue when other people do.

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Speaker 1: It is magnified when it happens with black women. And

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Speaker 1: let's be clear, this wasn't just about this one call,

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Speaker 1: though for a competitor like Serena, of course it was

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Speaker 1: a big deal. This was about the repeated drug tests,

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Speaker 1: about her not being taken seriously in the hospital, about

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Speaker 1: her being told she can't wear her jumpsuit, about the

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Speaker 1: constant attacks on her body and her performance, and it

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Speaker 1: was just enough. She had had enough. She's exhausted in

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Speaker 1: much the same ways that so many of us are

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Speaker 1: exhausted by things we have no control over. People wanting

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Speaker 1: to touch our hair, people making comments about how well

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Speaker 1: we speak, questioning who we are to be in the

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Speaker 1: positions were in, being micromanaged in the workplace, Fearing for

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Speaker 1: our lives anytime police are in the area, wondering if

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Speaker 1: someone on our bus is going to do or say

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Speaker 1: something to hurt or offend us. This constant state of

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Speaker 1: having to be on guard and protect ourselves is overwhelming,

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Speaker 1: and it's just plain exhausting. Just a quick glance through

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Speaker 1: the timeline and you can see how many women could

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Speaker 1: identify with exactly what Serena was feeling. And it made

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Speaker 1: me wonder, what was your first US open moment? Do

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Speaker 1: you remember the first time it was obvious to you

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Speaker 1: that even though you do or if something, you might

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Speaker 1: not get it, or that you were being treated differently

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Speaker 1: just because you were a black woman. Mine was my

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Speaker 1: senior year of high school. It was the last couple

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Speaker 1: of weeks of school, and I was said to be

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Speaker 1: the valedictorian of our class. My English teacher asked me

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Speaker 1: to stay after class one day and he tells me

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Speaker 1: that one of my white classmates is very close to

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Speaker 1: having a matching g P A, and all she needs

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Speaker 1: is an A in his class and we would be

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Speaker 1: co valedictorians. So if she makes an A on the

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Speaker 1: final he would give her an A in the class,

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Speaker 1: even though she had not rightfully earned an A. Y'all,

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Speaker 1: I was livid. I had worked my tail off for

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Speaker 1: years to have good grades, and in that moment it

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Speaker 1: all felt like it had been for nothing. But in

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Speaker 1: that moment, I also realized that this is how the

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Speaker 1: world was set up now, she didn't make the A

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Speaker 1: and the class, so we weren't co valedictorians, but it

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Speaker 1: still felt like something that should not have even been

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Speaker 1: on the table. And I have to be honest with y'all.

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Speaker 1: I struggled about whether I would even record this booster

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Speaker 1: for you today, because typically I like to leave you

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Speaker 1: with some tips or some sort of resolution, but I

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Speaker 1: realized that it's also important for me to make space

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Speaker 1: for us to just be upset and disgusted. So what

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Speaker 1: was your first US open moment or what's your recent

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Speaker 1: moment if you can't remember the first? Shared with us

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Speaker 1: using the hashtag tv G in session, and let's keep

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Speaker 1: this conversation going. I'll be back on Wednesday with your

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Speaker 1: full episode, but until then, take care of yourself. Wanted

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