1 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:10,040 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning, 2 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:14,960 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: tip is about little ways you can show your love 4 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:21,480 Speaker 1: to the important people in your life. The rose industry 5 00:00:21,520 --> 00:00:25,119 Speaker 1: always does a booming business right around February fourteen, which 6 00:00:25,120 --> 00:00:28,080 Speaker 1: is Valentine's Day, and those places that celebrate this holiday 7 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:31,639 Speaker 1: of romantic love, and certainly a big bunch of roses 8 00:00:31,680 --> 00:00:34,839 Speaker 1: can send a romantic message. Though my husband and I 9 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:37,839 Speaker 1: joke that because our anniversary of meeting and also of 10 00:00:37,840 --> 00:00:41,319 Speaker 1: getting engaged a year later is February fifteen, we can 11 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:45,919 Speaker 1: conveniently show our love with heavily discounted Valentine's Day merchandise. 12 00:00:47,200 --> 00:00:49,160 Speaker 1: But there are lots of creative ways to show love, 13 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,440 Speaker 1: and not just on Valentine's Day but through the year. 14 00:00:53,479 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 1: Many of us are on our phones all day anyway. 15 00:00:56,880 --> 00:01:00,760 Speaker 1: A quick affectionate text to your partner or kides can 16 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:04,240 Speaker 1: turn your phone and theirs into something more than just 17 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: a source of stress. Or you can write a real note. 18 00:01:08,160 --> 00:01:10,480 Speaker 1: A few words on a sticky note put on the 19 00:01:10,520 --> 00:01:15,039 Speaker 1: bathroom mirror can bring a smile to someone's face. Flowers 20 00:01:15,040 --> 00:01:18,319 Speaker 1: on Valentine's Day might be expected, but flowers on your 21 00:01:18,400 --> 00:01:21,959 Speaker 1: average Tuesday are not, So pick up a small bouquet 22 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: at the grocery store or even the gas station and 23 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 1: add a little beauty to the next time you say hello. 24 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 1: Other little gifts can work, too, like picking up a 25 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 1: book at the library that you know the person would enjoy. 26 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:37,920 Speaker 1: Part of saying hello is actually well saying hello, and 27 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: increasingly I believe that one of the best gifts we 28 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: can give people is the gift of full focus. So 29 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:46,440 Speaker 1: put the phone away for a while, ask someone a 30 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: question and really listen to the answer. You can also 31 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: show your love by allowing the other person to listen 32 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 1: to you saying something nice. Pretty Much everyone loves being 33 00:01:56,840 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: complimented in front of other people, and this is great 34 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:02,560 Speaker 1: when you in a multi person conversation. But I think 35 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:07,320 Speaker 1: it's even nicer if the person accidentally overhears you say 36 00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 1: a kid while you're talking on the phone with Grandma 37 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 1: or your spouse when you're on the phone with a friend. 38 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:15,360 Speaker 1: Since the person doesn't know for sure, if you know 39 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: they're listening, it comes across it's more authentic. Sometimes the 40 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: best gift you can give is letting someone off the hook. 41 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:25,800 Speaker 1: If you know the other person is really dreading an 42 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:29,960 Speaker 1: event or a particular chore like calling customer service. Offer 43 00:02:30,040 --> 00:02:31,080 Speaker 1: to take this off their plate. 44 00:02:31,680 --> 00:02:35,079 Speaker 2: You'll attend the family event, you'll call to file the complaint. 45 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:37,960 Speaker 2: Lots of couples with young kids split who wakes up 46 00:02:37,960 --> 00:02:40,239 Speaker 2: early with them on weekends. But if you've not made 47 00:02:40,240 --> 00:02:43,320 Speaker 2: an explicit split, offer to do it someday and let 48 00:02:43,400 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 2: your partner know ahead of time so he or she 49 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 2: can relish the coming rest. When I've written about some 50 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 2: of these ideas in the past, I've often heard from 51 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:55,240 Speaker 2: readers or listeners who remind me about Gary Chapman's book 52 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 2: The Five Love Languages. And you know, we can assign 53 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 2: too much stock to strict frame works, but it is 54 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 2: true that certain ways to show love register more with 55 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:08,400 Speaker 2: some people than others. Some people get excited about fancily 56 00:03:08,400 --> 00:03:12,240 Speaker 2: wrapped gifts, and some people are more physically affectionate for 57 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:15,720 Speaker 2: someone else. Vacuuming out the car is the equivalent of 58 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:18,760 Speaker 2: a dozen roses, So it might be worth noting how 59 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:22,000 Speaker 2: your partner tries to express love to you, because that 60 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:24,840 Speaker 2: might hold clues about how he or she would like 61 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:28,920 Speaker 2: you to express love. But in any case, when you 62 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:32,080 Speaker 2: study the research on human happiness, it's pretty clear that 63 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 2: a bunch of little things often out weighs one big thing. 64 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 2: We get used to much, and the glow from a 65 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:41,960 Speaker 2: big present well very cool, don't get me wrong. May 66 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 2: fade to baseline over a while, but learning again and 67 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 2: again how much you are loved makes every day seem 68 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 2: like a gift. So how do you to express love creatively? 69 00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 2: You can let me know at Before Breakfast podcast at 70 00:03:56,880 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 2: iHeartMedia dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura. 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