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Speaker 1: Ashley I Almost famous podcast with our radio. I'm Ben,

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Speaker 1: I'm Ashley. Hello everyone. Hey Ben, how you doing on

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Speaker 1: this Thanksgiving week? I'm so good. My family's in town.

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Speaker 1: I'm in Denver. I didn't make the trip to l

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Speaker 1: to do is work on my house. Me too. My

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Speaker 1: parents do that when they couldn't buy places. It's the

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Speaker 1: wildest thing. I uh this trip. They drove out from Indiana,

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Speaker 1: about my little house. Oh but I love that. Every

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Speaker 1: time my mom goes to one of my apartments, and

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Speaker 1: it's the parents way of saying, you know, we can't

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Speaker 1: We still love you, and we still know what's best

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Speaker 1: lose my own stuff all the time. Yeah. Um, well,

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Speaker 1: well how is um? How is Guatemala? You came back

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Speaker 1: a couple of days ago, Like what, Oh my goodness

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Speaker 1: it was. It was really really good. I did have

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Speaker 1: a little bit of disappointed. So I went to an

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Speaker 1: island called Rotan, which is an island right off the Honduras.

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Speaker 1: It's a beautiful and one of the most beautiful places

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Speaker 1: sounds kind of tranquil. It was the weirdest part though.

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Speaker 1: And this is this is a compliment to you, Ash.

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Speaker 1: So I'm in Roatan and I'm getting one of those

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Speaker 1: beach massages that you know, the ones that you know

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Speaker 1: So it's the roton is a big island for cruise ships,

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Speaker 1: that says that January Jones went on Cordon the Late

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Speaker 1: to not to be rejected. She said, So, yeah, what's up.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you just ask her? I think she's cute

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Speaker 1: know what, January, I understand that you're way too pretty

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Speaker 1: need to give an update on Jimmy Garoppolo because I'm

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Speaker 1: getting a lot of tweets asking like, Ashley, what's your status?

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Speaker 1: And well, Amy hasn't told me what my status is.

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Speaker 1: it's the off season. That is exactly what I was

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Speaker 1: football season. Yeah, come February, well for him January, because

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Speaker 1: terrible this year. Yes, so he just won their first

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Speaker 1: Uh that, Ashley, that was a really sweet comment that

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Speaker 1: very understandable. It's all that's my new thing. It's all

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Speaker 1: the Bachelorette. Trista Sta will be coming on this show today.

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Speaker 1: kind the wedding. Oh yeah, way, um, very awkward. He

425
00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:08,960
Speaker 1: was like in the room when Ryan and Bob his

426
00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:12,560
Speaker 1: dad were having their little like last minute talk before

427
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:16,639
Speaker 1: they went out. I mean, super awkward. But um, just

428
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:19,040
Speaker 1: one of those things that you know, we agreed to

429
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:22,040
Speaker 1: deal with because we wanted to be able to have

430
00:23:22,400 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 1: you know, this dream wedding that we could you know,

431
00:23:26,600 --> 00:23:30,280
Speaker 1: end up showing our kids on a VHS tape nonetheless, Right,

432
00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:34,359
Speaker 1: My big question for you then, would you, because of

433
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:36,360
Speaker 1: all the perks and there are there is a downside

434
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:38,560
Speaker 1: we all know it, would you allow your daughter to

435
00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:42,560
Speaker 1: go on the show. I would because you know what,

436
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:46,440
Speaker 1: Um as as you know, I hope that my book

437
00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:49,640
Speaker 1: kind of shows and my post and everything. I try

438
00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 1: to be a positive person and focus more on the

439
00:23:51,720 --> 00:23:56,359
Speaker 1: positive than in the negative and I mean obviously for

440
00:23:56,520 --> 00:24:00,200
Speaker 1: me and Ryan and the ability to be introduced through

441
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:05,840
Speaker 1: a crazy, untraditional way on The bachelorat um, it was

442
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:09,160
Speaker 1: the best positive ever. And I would love for her

443
00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:12,800
Speaker 1: to be able to meet someone. I mean I when

444
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:14,760
Speaker 1: I was on the show and when I was asked

445
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 1: to do the show after being on The Bachelor, Um,

446
00:24:19,000 --> 00:24:22,239
Speaker 1: you know this, this kind of genre, this kind of

447
00:24:22,240 --> 00:24:26,199
Speaker 1: format had never been done before, and for a woman

448
00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:29,760
Speaker 1: to kind of take the reins was like unheard of.

449
00:24:29,840 --> 00:24:32,560
Speaker 1: Like people were gasping in the reporting world. Like I

450
00:24:32,640 --> 00:24:36,760
Speaker 1: remember being called every name in the book and saying

451
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:38,919
Speaker 1: that I was going to be sending the women's movement

452
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: back you know, decades or whatever. And um, just trying

453
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:44,800
Speaker 1: to be strong through it because I knew that it

454
00:24:44,880 --> 00:24:49,000
Speaker 1: could potentially be life changing for me. And so yes,

455
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 1: I would say, and I say to all the people

456
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:56,119
Speaker 1: who anyone who asked me if they should do the show,

457
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 1: if they should do a wedding, you know, then we

458
00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:01,960
Speaker 1: talked about it. I feel at one point, um, I

459
00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 1: feel like, yes, the benefits far outweigh the negatives because

460
00:25:06,840 --> 00:25:09,240
Speaker 1: I have a beautiful family from it. I met my

461
00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 1: husband who I am still in love with. To the

462
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:15,639
Speaker 1: Stave and more so and two beautiful kiddos that I

463
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 1: are in my life now. So it's interesting that you

464
00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:22,600
Speaker 1: say people gave you a hard time for being like

465
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:28,000
Speaker 1: the female lead and taking feminism back. Um, that's interesting

466
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:30,439
Speaker 1: because I think you are in a position of power

467
00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 1: and like they give you all these options and the

468
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 1: guys have to work for you, and then you're the

469
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,399
Speaker 1: one making the decisions. And I think that is actually

470
00:25:37,440 --> 00:25:40,160
Speaker 1: a very powerful female role. I agree, but I think

471
00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 1: it was in a way that they felt like I

472
00:25:42,760 --> 00:25:44,719
Speaker 1: was going to look like a slut, you know that

473
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:46,879
Speaker 1: I was. I had twenty five guys that I was

474
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:49,200
Speaker 1: choosing from. And if the guy is doing the choosing

475
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,399
Speaker 1: and they're like Bob, like he was like the kissing

476
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:56,000
Speaker 1: bandit or something, Um, you know, like if they're Bob,

477
00:25:56,080 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 1: then every everyone can laugh about them being a kissing bandit.

478
00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:04,640
Speaker 1: But when I was doing it, um like two thousand two, Um,

479
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 1: I believe our show air and for a girl like

480
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:13,160
Speaker 1: now he I swear to god, they kissed every single

481
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:16,359
Speaker 1: person on the show. You know, it's not an abnormal thing.

482
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:19,400
Speaker 1: But when I was on, I literally kissed I think

483
00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 1: four guys. Um, yeah, I mean I remember This is

484
00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:25,679
Speaker 1: really funny. Amy. I don't know if you remember this,

485
00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 1: but Jamie blyth Um was one of the guys and

486
00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:33,480
Speaker 1: we were on this barbecue date and he is like Kendall,

487
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:38,960
Speaker 1: like perfect Kendall played professional basketball or wanted anyway, perfect guy,

488
00:26:39,119 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 1: you know whatever, And I just was an inter him

489
00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:44,440
Speaker 1: at the time and he was like, do you think

490
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:46,720
Speaker 1: I could give you a kiss? And I was like

491
00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 1: maybe on the cheek, Like literally, how crazy is that?

492
00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:55,919
Speaker 1: Remember rust Woods being so so sweaty by that fire

493
00:26:56,320 --> 00:26:58,439
Speaker 1: on like his final night, like it was he was

494
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,520
Speaker 1: down to the top three, I think, yeah, and he

495
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 1: was just profusely sweat Yeah, because that was definitely an

496
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:08,119
Speaker 1: awkward We were not getting along at the time, so

497
00:27:08,480 --> 00:27:10,680
Speaker 1: she was like, oh crap. Like we had Bob on

498
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:12,520
Speaker 1: not too long ago, and I do remember one of

499
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:16,000
Speaker 1: the guys eating out of a dog bowl. Oh they

500
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:18,399
Speaker 1: were okay. So my guys were just like it was

501
00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 1: like a fraternity house. They had the best time. To

502
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:24,119
Speaker 1: this day, I swear we did an interview like a

503
00:27:24,160 --> 00:27:27,639
Speaker 1: month ago and Ryan was talking about how they wanted

504
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:30,119
Speaker 1: to hang out more with each other at the house

505
00:27:30,320 --> 00:27:32,720
Speaker 1: then go out of dates with me at the in

506
00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 1: the beginning. They were like, we were having way too

507
00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:38,520
Speaker 1: much fun together. I mean, I love Bob, I adore

508
00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 1: him and Um and and all of the guys on

509
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,159
Speaker 1: my show, but they were great. I was really lucky

510
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:49,680
Speaker 1: you keep in touch with from my season. Um. Maybe

511
00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 1: just Bob, I mean I saw we saw Russ maybe

512
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 1: like I don't know, eight years ago or something like that. Um,

513
00:27:58,000 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 1: we've heard about Charlie through friends of friends. UM. Everyone

514
00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:05,800
Speaker 1: asked me if Alex Michelle, the very first Bachelor, is

515
00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:09,920
Speaker 1: someone I have ever run into, And the answer is no. UM,

516
00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:14,159
Speaker 1: I have no idea what had propped off the faces

517
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:15,919
Speaker 1: quite a bit. I'm trying to think who else from

518
00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 1: your season? Bob, Yeah, Bob, Jamie Blite. I've talked to um,

519
00:28:22,359 --> 00:28:25,720
Speaker 1: but that's mainly it. I mean, and Ryan doesn't necessarily

520
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:29,480
Speaker 1: stay in touch with with any of the other guys either,

521
00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: But girls from my season, Shannon Oliver, Um, she was

522
00:28:33,119 --> 00:28:37,679
Speaker 1: on the Bachelor, and Amy and Zell Um, you know,

523
00:28:37,800 --> 00:28:40,240
Speaker 1: I'm sure you both actually and Ben you you know,

524
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 1: you make life long long friends from it. And it's

525
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: the connections, um are really what matter afterwards, you know.

526
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously, for me, my relationship is priority but

527
00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:56,960
Speaker 1: I love that we can establish these connections even though

528
00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:00,160
Speaker 1: there is this huge age gap now like for me

529
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 1: and all of you, all the rest of you. But um, well,

530
00:29:03,800 --> 00:29:05,600
Speaker 1: just as saying that, I want to say that I

531
00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 1: think you're like the Bachelor Evergreen. Like I think it's

532
00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:12,440
Speaker 1: amazing that you just said that you and Ryan still

533
00:29:12,480 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: do interviews on the regular, you know what I mean.

534
00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: So you've never gotten You've never been not relevant in

535
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 1: this franchise. And maybe it's because you're the first girl

536
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:26,320
Speaker 1: and you're the first marriage out of it, you're the

537
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 1: first kids out of it. But I need to ask you,

538
00:29:29,360 --> 00:29:32,680
Speaker 1: why do you think the track record for bachelorettes that

539
00:29:32,760 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 1: you started is better than the track record for bachelor's

540
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:40,600
Speaker 1: Because there's only one married bachelor to his winner, which

541
00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:42,840
Speaker 1: is Sean and Catherine. So why do you think that

542
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,880
Speaker 1: the girls have more success? Well, Number one, I want

543
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 1: to say thank you for saying that. I think that's

544
00:29:47,840 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: very sweet because I don't necessarily always agree. I think

545
00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 1: I'm irrelevant a lot of the time. I'm basically living

546
00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:01,160
Speaker 1: my life here in Colorado and you know, focusing on

547
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:04,280
Speaker 1: the kids and when we get the opportunity to do um,

548
00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 1: you know, spokesperson rules or partnerships or whatever. We love

549
00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:11,120
Speaker 1: doing that kind of stuff. We had an HDTV show

550
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:13,960
Speaker 1: or pilot, you know, those kind of things are super

551
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: fun for us, but they definitely don't come around UM

552
00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:19,880
Speaker 1: on the regular and necessarily. But so anyway, thank you

553
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 1: for saying that. And I think that UM, in terms

554
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:25,960
Speaker 1: of the bachelors compared to the Bachelor's I think, honestly,

555
00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:31,840
Speaker 1: it's just the girls for some reason are are And

556
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 1: I don't know that it's necessarily a girl versus guy thing.

557
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 1: It's an individual thing. I think that judge, the girls

558
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,360
Speaker 1: who have come on the shows are just ready for

559
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:43,760
Speaker 1: that commitment. They end up finding that person that they're

560
00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:46,520
Speaker 1: meant to be with. Whether you call it fate or

561
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:52,160
Speaker 1: or luck or whatever your belief system is. I think

562
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:55,720
Speaker 1: that just the girls ended up being ready for their

563
00:30:55,760 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: relationship and um, for whatever reason they ended up and

564
00:31:01,600 --> 00:31:04,360
Speaker 1: the ending up together, you know, and and making it

565
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:08,800
Speaker 1: a reality after reality TV. It is interesting there has

566
00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:14,120
Speaker 1: not been one bachelor divorce. Yeah, that's true. Well, God

567
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:18,640
Speaker 1: God forbid, hopefully is a good. I mean, if you

568
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 1: look at statistics of just regular people, you're right, I mean,

569
00:31:22,520 --> 00:31:25,080
Speaker 1: how many do you guys, know how many marriages there?

570
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:29,240
Speaker 1: I mean, at least there's five or six, right me?

571
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:35,560
Speaker 1: Think they got to count Sean, does Jason Molly? If

572
00:31:35,560 --> 00:31:40,680
Speaker 1: you count them? Yeah, you count them? Um? I count them? Um?

573
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 1: Who else? Who am I missing? M Ashley and she

574
00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 1: got Ashley and j p Well and Carly and Evan,

575
00:31:47,320 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 1: Jade and Tanner. Right, true, that's true. And no divorces

576
00:31:53,040 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 1: knock on wood. Let's hope that never happened. Wild, I mean,

577
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:59,560
Speaker 1: it is kind of crazy that. I just think even

578
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 1: as you talking, there's Trista. There has been a lot

579
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:04,959
Speaker 1: to change. What are the biggest changes? And outside of

580
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:08,120
Speaker 1: the weddings and outside of the man versus woman, you

581
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 1: know what works better? What has changed from the time

582
00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 1: that you were the bachelorrete to today? Number one? You

583
00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:18,040
Speaker 1: guys gone way better trips, Like, come on, seriously, I

584
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 1: went to Santa Fe and Deadwood, South Dakota. Okay, well yeah,

585
00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:27,280
Speaker 1: my might might be on my level, but I went

586
00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:32,080
Speaker 1: to Seattle, and um, and I love Seattle. That's where

587
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 1: I fell in love with my husband. But um, Seattle

588
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 1: and Cabo was like the farthest we went. Um. I

589
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:39,680
Speaker 1: did go to Ali on the very first Bachelor, but

590
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:42,160
Speaker 1: come on. I mean, it's like they're traveling the world.

591
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:45,080
Speaker 1: Can you tell him a little a little jealous? Um? Wait,

592
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:46,720
Speaker 1: I want to go back to you falling in love

593
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: with Ryan in Seattle. What was the moment you know? Um? God? Well,

594
00:32:54,360 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 1: so backing up Veil was we came to Veil for

595
00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 1: his hometown date and then is when I knew I

596
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: could fall in love with him. He handed me this

597
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 1: little note in one of the cars, like none of

598
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 1: the cameras were rolling, and it told me I was falling.

599
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 1: He was falling in love with me. And I was

600
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:14,600
Speaker 1: just like, we're I don't know if you know the book, um,

601
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 1: the Five Love Languages, but I am a words of

602
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:21,040
Speaker 1: affirmation girl, like I any kind of words written or spoken,

603
00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 1: um is my think. So anyway, he hands me this

604
00:33:24,160 --> 00:33:26,600
Speaker 1: note tells me he's falling in love with me, and

605
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:28,600
Speaker 1: I was. I was falling for him at the time.

606
00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 1: And then we went to Seattle and besides just the

607
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 1: like romantic aspect of who he is, um, there was

608
00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 1: a lot of passion. Let's just say. I mean we

609
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:42,920
Speaker 1: were making out on the couch in our hotel room

610
00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:46,760
Speaker 1: at the w UM and I remember Jason Carbone do

611
00:33:46,800 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 1: you remember Jason Carbone Amy Sugarman. Um, he was one

612
00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:54,280
Speaker 1: of the producers on the show, and he was sitting

613
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 1: in the hotel room with you know, the cameraman and everything,

614
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:02,200
Speaker 1: and I looked at after probably like an hour or

615
00:34:02,240 --> 00:34:06,160
Speaker 1: two hours or three hours, it was it was obnoxious. Um,

616
00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 1: And I was like, really, you guys are not getting

617
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 1: any more than this, so can you please leave, like

618
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:14,040
Speaker 1: just git out of her. We really kind of wanted

619
00:34:14,040 --> 00:34:17,160
Speaker 1: to have this night to ourselves. So, um, I think

620
00:34:17,239 --> 00:34:21,040
Speaker 1: I just it all came together there his he I

621
00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:23,000
Speaker 1: think a lot of people remember us being on our

622
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:29,200
Speaker 1: date and the what's I called the space needle, and um,

623
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:32,239
Speaker 1: his humor came out and that like they he had

624
00:34:32,239 --> 00:34:35,359
Speaker 1: never watched the show before. And the date card comes

625
00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 1: out and I say, okay, do you want to go

626
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 1: to our forego our individual seats and go to the

627
00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 1: fantasy sweet and he goes check please, And people to

628
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:51,839
Speaker 1: this day never forget that. And I think his, you know,

629
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 1: it just all came together for me in Seattle. So anyway,

630
00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:57,480
Speaker 1: I can't even remember what the conversation was before that,

631
00:34:57,600 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 1: but um, yeah, I mean I think it's awesome. You

632
00:35:01,800 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 1: mentioned a great book to The Five Love Language is

633
00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:07,360
Speaker 1: what a great great book. And then I mean, just

634
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 1: looking back on your story, Trista, it is an incredible

635
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 1: one one that we've you know, we still see clips

636
00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 1: from I've loved to getting to meet you and Ryan

637
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:18,279
Speaker 1: in person. And and before we move on to to

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Speaker 1: our final topic here, because I want to make sure

639
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:23,560
Speaker 1: that we touched on your latest project, I want to

640
00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:25,799
Speaker 1: give you a little shout out. The first time I

641
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 1: met Trista, I was in Denver, downtown Denver with my

642
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,799
Speaker 1: aunt and my uncle and my my cousins and we

643
00:35:32,840 --> 00:35:35,239
Speaker 1: had gone out to brunch and I had never met

644
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 1: Trista before. I had just gotten off The Bachelor at

645
00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:41,399
Speaker 1: actually I think The Bachelor was still airing. You had

646
00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:44,319
Speaker 1: no clue how it ended. And you called me out

647
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:46,839
Speaker 1: and you said, hey, I know you And I said, well, hey,

648
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:48,839
Speaker 1: I know you too, And you came up and you

649
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 1: talked to my family and I for you know, a

650
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:54,720
Speaker 1: long long time, and it was such a cool moment

651
00:35:55,360 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 1: for me to get to know somebody who I had

652
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 1: watched on TV a relationship ship that I admired and

653
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:03,600
Speaker 1: I was hoping to have. Uh. And this for you

654
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:05,080
Speaker 1: guys to take the time out just to hang out

655
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:06,719
Speaker 1: with us. So that meant a lot to me and

656
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,800
Speaker 1: it started out my journey then and to be din Bachelor. Um,

657
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 1: keeping it in the back of my head the whole

658
00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:14,160
Speaker 1: time was Hey, these people did it. They're great people. Um,

659
00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 1: there's somebody I should look up too. So thanks Just

660
00:36:16,360 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 1: to thank you Ryan for taking that time out that day.

661
00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 1: You are so sweet. I mean, I was super excited.

662
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:24,319
Speaker 1: I'm still a huge fan. I just didn't interview this

663
00:36:24,400 --> 00:36:28,759
Speaker 1: morning and I literally called myself a consummate fan. How

664
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:30,840
Speaker 1: many times have I said literally, I mean that I

665
00:36:30,920 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 1: did another interview. That's how relevant you are. Okay, well, well, okay,

666
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:38,759
Speaker 1: So anyway, so I did an interview and they were

667
00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:40,520
Speaker 1: they were like, do you still watch the show? And

668
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 1: I told them that I have never. I have never

669
00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:48,080
Speaker 1: missed an episode, whether it is Bachelor, Bachelor At, Bachelor

670
00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:51,879
Speaker 1: in Paradise, UM, Bachelor Pad, Bachelor Winter Games, I will

671
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 1: be watching. I mean honestly, it's and I know you

672
00:36:55,200 --> 00:36:57,359
Speaker 1: guys feel the same way because I know you have

673
00:36:57,880 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 1: friendships and connections through a show, But it's like a family,

674
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:07,040
Speaker 1: Like it's I feel connected to people even when I

675
00:37:07,080 --> 00:37:10,919
Speaker 1: meet them, you know, at brunch, UM, and I've never

676
00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:15,279
Speaker 1: met them before. I feel connected to everyone and I

677
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:19,400
Speaker 1: love that I can, I can have those connections because

678
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:21,799
Speaker 1: that really is what life is about, you know, It's

679
00:37:21,800 --> 00:37:24,719
Speaker 1: about connections and relationships. At least it is to me

680
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:29,880
Speaker 1: and UM to be able to have a shared experience, UM,

681
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:33,000
Speaker 1: you know, in a mutual admiration for people who have

682
00:37:33,080 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 1: been through the same thing. We know what it's like

683
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:38,560
Speaker 1: to go through the show. We know what it's like, UM,

684
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:42,640
Speaker 1: to experience what we did. UM. It's really really unique

685
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:45,120
Speaker 1: and really cool to me. So anyway, that was a

686
00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 1: day I'll never forget. And I have a fawful memory,

687
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:50,759
Speaker 1: but I totally remember you were You were standing there

688
00:37:50,760 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 1: taking a picture of your family, and I totally called

689
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:58,160
Speaker 1: you out because I was a fan because I was, well,

690
00:37:58,200 --> 00:37:59,879
Speaker 1: my family was a big fan to my aunt Sindy

691
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:01,880
Speaker 1: standing there going I know that girl, and she was freaking.

692
00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:04,120
Speaker 1: I was like, hey, you gotta calm yourself down, like

693
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:07,560
Speaker 1: I'm doing the same show she did. Before we head

694
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 1: out here, I gotta ask you about your latest project. UM,

695
00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:14,640
Speaker 1: and so you before you answer that question, can you

696
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 1: make me one commitment you come back on then? Uh,

697
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 1: somewhere mid season for our season, and will you help

698
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 1: us dissect everything going on in this and in the episodes? Oh,

699
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:28,560
Speaker 1: I love to Okay, perfect, So we're booking to come

700
00:38:28,600 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 1: back for some analysis and then so now, please tell

701
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:34,560
Speaker 1: everybody listening out there about this awesome new Bookie Road.

702
00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:38,120
Speaker 1: It's called Happily ever After The life changing Power of

703
00:38:38,120 --> 00:38:41,520
Speaker 1: a Grateful Heart. It's perfect for the Thanksgiving season. Tryst,

704
00:38:41,560 --> 00:38:43,319
Speaker 1: I'll let you kind of take it from here. Well,

705
00:38:44,640 --> 00:38:46,880
Speaker 1: I love that you're bringing it up because it actually

706
00:38:47,239 --> 00:38:52,279
Speaker 1: I wrote it three years ago, and um I wrote it.

707
00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 1: I wanted to write a children's book. I was one

708
00:38:54,719 --> 00:38:59,600
Speaker 1: of my kind of dreams. And um I told an

709
00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:01,840
Speaker 1: agent that I was working with at the time that

710
00:39:01,920 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 1: it was something that I wanted to work on, and

711
00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:07,040
Speaker 1: she connected me to a literary agent, and the literary

712
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:10,719
Speaker 1: agent told me, um, you really should start with an

713
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:14,120
Speaker 1: adult book. But people don't have much success with children's books.

714
00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:16,880
Speaker 1: So I thought, Okay, what the hell could I write about?

715
00:39:17,560 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 1: And at the time, gratitude was really important to me.

716
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:25,040
Speaker 1: It still is. I think, um it's an incredible way

717
00:39:25,120 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 1: for people who are put into the public eye, like

718
00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:33,880
Speaker 1: like actually the four of us, um, you know, a

719
00:39:33,920 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 1: way to stay grounded, and I think that's really important.

720
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,960
Speaker 1: I'm you know, from the Midwest. It's those are part

721
00:39:40,040 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 1: of my Midwestern values, is really staying grounded and connected

722
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:49,360
Speaker 1: to UM who I am, true to myself and not

723
00:39:49,560 --> 00:39:52,799
Speaker 1: just two people know me as on television. So UM.

724
00:39:52,840 --> 00:39:55,759
Speaker 1: I told my agent that I what about gratitude, and

725
00:39:55,800 --> 00:39:58,399
Speaker 1: she thought, said, I love that. So we went with it.

726
00:39:58,520 --> 00:40:04,840
Speaker 1: And I include stories of UM from myself, from my husband,

727
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: from my family and friends. I mean, I talked about

728
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:11,160
Speaker 1: how my mom was date raped and how I have

729
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:14,440
Speaker 1: a half sister because of it. UM. I share stories

730
00:40:14,480 --> 00:40:17,240
Speaker 1: of watching people across the finish line at the Iron

731
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 1: Man and seeing actual will in front of my eyes,

732
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 1: you know, mind over matter kind of stuff. UM, and

733
00:40:24,520 --> 00:40:27,600
Speaker 1: then just share UM. You know, there's some fun stuff

734
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:30,359
Speaker 1: in there too. But it was it was such an

735
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:35,200
Speaker 1: amazing project to be able to do because I feel

736
00:40:35,239 --> 00:40:37,880
Speaker 1: like it's a legacy for my kids, you know, when

737
00:40:38,000 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 1: I do pass on. And you know, this summer I

738
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:44,800
Speaker 1: actually experienced the seizure and kind of had that UM,

739
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:52,880
Speaker 1: that knowledge and reminder that we are all mortal and

740
00:40:53,000 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 1: our our day will come. So whenever my day does come,

741
00:40:57,320 --> 00:41:00,640
Speaker 1: when I when I'm gone. You know, I love that

742
00:41:00,760 --> 00:41:05,040
Speaker 1: I am able to leave this legacy of um of

743
00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 1: gratitude behind for my kids. So thank you for bringing

744
00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:10,360
Speaker 1: it up considering it definitely is not a new project,

745
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:12,720
Speaker 1: but it's definitely a passion project for me and always

746
00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 1: will be. I mean, that's incredible. Yeah, I mean for

747
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:17,640
Speaker 1: the Thanksgiving season, that sounds like no matter if it

748
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:20,239
Speaker 1: was written three years ago, if it was written a

749
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 1: week ago, it's relevant. And uh and Trista, thank you,

750
00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:26,240
Speaker 1: thank you for sharing that. And so if you're interested

751
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:31,440
Speaker 1: anybody listening out there again, it's called Happily ever After. Wow,

752
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:34,719
Speaker 1: what a title, Trista Happily ever After, But you really

753
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:38,080
Speaker 1: do have a happily ever aftering. Well, I've been a

754
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:41,480
Speaker 1: part of Happily ever After myself, the life changing power

755
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 1: of a greatful art of Trista Center. You are the

756
00:41:46,640 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 1: original Bachelor. We appreciate you coming on the podcast. Thank

757
00:41:49,560 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 1: you so much. Thank you, guys. Can't wait to have

758
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,600
Speaker 1: you back to talk to you soon. Okay, bye, guys,

759
00:41:55,760 --> 00:42:00,959
Speaker 1: Happy are you Thanksgiving? Speaking of Thanksgiving, the holidays are here,

760
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:04,640
Speaker 1: families in town. Time to make some food my parents,

761
00:42:04,719 --> 00:42:07,800
Speaker 1: Like I said, we'll be rearranging my furniture, cleaning my house,

762
00:42:08,440 --> 00:42:11,160
Speaker 1: adding pictures, new lights. Who knows what's gonna happen by

763
00:42:11,200 --> 00:42:14,879
Speaker 1: the time I get home today, So with them being busy,

764
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Speaker 1: I might need to cook. Blue Apron is the leading

765
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Speaker 1: meal kit delivery service in the US, and while you

766
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Speaker 1: may know what they do, you may not know about

767
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Speaker 1: the types of meals you eat when you cook with

768
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Speaker 1: Blue Apron. It's not just burgers, short ribs, burgers with

769
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Speaker 1: hoppy cheddar sauce on a pretzel buntags and time pan

770
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Speaker 1: sauce with mashed potatoes, green beans, and crispy shllets. This

771
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Speaker 1: is all in under forty five minutes and without a

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00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:44,160
Speaker 1: trip to the grocery store. Blue Aprons mission is to

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Speaker 1: make incredible home cooking accessible to everyone. Hey, Ashley, I

774
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 1: gotta tell you, um, Blue Apron delivered a box to

775
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 1: my house this week. And as I'm up in the office,

776
00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:55,840
Speaker 1: my parents are working around the house. Like I said,

777
00:42:56,200 --> 00:42:58,799
Speaker 1: they need a lunch. And I'm not kidding you. They

778
00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:00,839
Speaker 1: pulled out the Blue Apron kit and my mom at

779
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:02,880
Speaker 1: a great time. She loves to cook, and I was

780
00:43:02,920 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 1: surprised how much he didn't love to cook. The Blue

781
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:08,319
Speaker 1: apron because she got she got to feel um like

782
00:43:08,320 --> 00:43:09,879
Speaker 1: she was cooking without going to grocery store. So it's

783
00:43:09,880 --> 00:43:12,920
Speaker 1: a great. My mom loves it too. She thinks it's genius.

784
00:43:13,440 --> 00:43:15,000
Speaker 1: It really is. So I want to tell you all

785
00:43:15,040 --> 00:43:17,520
Speaker 1: the listeners to check out. These are recipes for November

786
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 1: roasted chicken and fall vegetables with cranberry and ginger, Compo butternut,

787
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:25,400
Speaker 1: squashed pasta with kale and brown butter walnuts. Is it

788
00:43:25,520 --> 00:43:27,520
Speaker 1: me or is there something sexy if Ben was cooking

789
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 1: dinner for us? Ashley? Oh, I think we've already had

790
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:33,920
Speaker 1: this imagery before. Oh that was right? Now are you

791
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:36,759
Speaker 1: getting it? I feel like I feel like I'm not

792
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:39,239
Speaker 1: throwing the vibes today, so I'm surprised you're getting it

793
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:43,880
Speaker 1: on picturing. It's like the fire going and like cooking

794
00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:45,959
Speaker 1: and like kind of wiping your hands off on a towel,

795
00:43:46,040 --> 00:43:47,879
Speaker 1: like a drink in your hand. I don't know, I'm

796
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:50,280
Speaker 1: really going there. And I see that now, I see

797
00:43:50,320 --> 00:43:52,720
Speaker 1: that there is something about a man making a steak

798
00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 1: that is sexy. I do have my white apron that

799
00:43:55,719 --> 00:44:03,000
Speaker 1: I really do enjoy and blue apron is your first

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804
00:44:17,600 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 1: a better way to cook? All right, Ben? Should we

805
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:24,799
Speaker 1: move on to some listener emails? It's my favorite favorite part.

806
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 1: All right, Well, let's do it. This is from Renee.

807
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:34,719
Speaker 1: It says, hey, Ben, Ashley, and Amy. I am a

808
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 1: forty seven year old mother of eleven children. The ages

809
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:48,280
Speaker 1: ranged from eight years old. Several of my older daughters

810
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:50,799
Speaker 1: and I have watched the show together for years. I

811
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:55,920
Speaker 1: faithfully listen to your podcasts while I'm cleaning the house. Today,

812
00:44:56,080 --> 00:44:58,759
Speaker 1: I was listening to the discussion about age difference between

813
00:44:58,800 --> 00:45:01,360
Speaker 1: men and women. I just wanted to share the experience

814
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 1: of my husband's parents. They were thirty two years apart

815
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 1: in age. Papa was in his fifties when they when

816
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:14,440
Speaker 1: he married Jean, who was in her twenties. Papa had

817
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 1: been married before and didn't have children. After they had

818
00:45:18,000 --> 00:45:21,920
Speaker 1: been married for several years, Papa, the grandfather, became a

819
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:26,400
Speaker 1: father at the age of sixty four for the first time.

820
00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:30,720
Speaker 1: My husband came along two years after that, when Papa

821
00:45:30,840 --> 00:45:34,640
Speaker 1: was sixty six. Because of that union, my husband and

822
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:38,960
Speaker 1: I have been married for twenty eight years. I know

823
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:41,920
Speaker 1: it was a different era when Papa and Jean were married,

824
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:44,200
Speaker 1: but they made it work until he died at the

825
00:45:44,239 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: age of ninety four. I thought it would share. I

826
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,279
Speaker 1: thought I would share a great success story for you

827
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:54,640
Speaker 1: on this topic. Thanks for keeping me entertained and have

828
00:45:54,680 --> 00:45:58,400
Speaker 1: a happy Thanksgiving. That is an amazing story. The cutest

829
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Speaker 1: picture of all the kids, of all eleven kids. Yeah,

830
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:07,560
Speaker 1: conceptualizing it, I get it. Yeah, this is amazing. I mean,

831
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Speaker 1: what an incredible story. Yeah, Renee, were stoked to hear this.

832
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:15,520
Speaker 1: This is exactly the kind of emails were hoping for, right,

833
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:18,840
Speaker 1: I mean one that rocket world a little bit. Yeah.

834
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Speaker 1: I was thrown off at the first the first line

835
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Speaker 1: because it says she is eleven kids, and I'm like,

836
00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:25,879
Speaker 1: how do the eleven kids play into this? Well, it's

837
00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:31,280
Speaker 1: because her husband's parents were thirty years is apart, and

838
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:35,160
Speaker 1: if it weren't for those parents getting together, then these

839
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:37,719
Speaker 1: eleven children wouldn't exist. I like to bring everything back

840
00:46:37,719 --> 00:46:40,360
Speaker 1: to celebrities, and did you know Catherine Say Jones is

841
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:43,319
Speaker 1: twenty five years younger than Michael Douglas. Even though they

842
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 1: had a hiccup, they made it work. Oh. I love

843
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:48,440
Speaker 1: that they made it work because I love them together.

844
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 1: They're just sexy together. Sometimes does work. Yeah, very very interesting, Renee. Alright,

845
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:59,520
Speaker 1: so then you're so good with dating and breakup advice.

846
00:46:59,760 --> 00:47:02,360
Speaker 1: You gave the best advice last weekend. I think people

847
00:47:02,440 --> 00:47:05,760
Speaker 1: are wanting more from you. So this is from Katie

848
00:47:06,000 --> 00:47:08,319
Speaker 1: Ashley and Ben. Ben seems to be like a person

849
00:47:08,360 --> 00:47:11,959
Speaker 1: who really values the importance of communication in a relationship.

850
00:47:12,360 --> 00:47:14,359
Speaker 1: I hope he can share his advice with me because

851
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 1: I'm lacking a male's perspective on the situation. My three

852
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:21,839
Speaker 1: and a half year long relationship ended roughly three months ago.

853
00:47:22,320 --> 00:47:25,480
Speaker 1: I met my ex in my hometown, and after we

854
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:28,560
Speaker 1: graduated from college, we moved to Nashville together. We were

855
00:47:28,560 --> 00:47:30,879
Speaker 1: twenty three, but I was head over heels and love

856
00:47:30,920 --> 00:47:33,880
Speaker 1: and I had known that I had found my soul mate.

857
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 1: After two years of dating, he abruptly broke up with

858
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:39,520
Speaker 1: me after a bad argument. Y'all. To say that I

859
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:43,000
Speaker 1: was devastated was an understatement. I panicked and took a

860
00:47:43,120 --> 00:47:45,920
Speaker 1: job offer out of state and moved Six weeks later,

861
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:48,759
Speaker 1: on top of the breakup, I discovered that my X

862
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 1: was suffering from an opiate addiction. I can't even put

863
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:55,480
Speaker 1: into words how difficult it was to leave behind the

864
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 1: person that I was still so in love with, knowing

865
00:47:58,239 --> 00:48:01,960
Speaker 1: that he needed real help. To my surprise, my ex

866
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:05,040
Speaker 1: called me three weeks later after I moved, pleading to

867
00:48:05,080 --> 00:48:08,880
Speaker 1: give him another chance. He checked himself into an outpatient

868
00:48:09,040 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 1: rehab program, and I decided to move back, get back

869
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:15,360
Speaker 1: together with him, and support him. While visiting him on

870
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: the fourth of July this year, we ended our visit

871
00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:22,320
Speaker 1: with a massive fight, one which extremely hurt my feelings

872
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:24,920
Speaker 1: because of things that were said between both of us.

873
00:48:25,600 --> 00:48:28,479
Speaker 1: Six weeks later, we finally talked and decided to cut

874
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:31,799
Speaker 1: ties over the phone. It wasn't what I wanted at all.

875
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:36,680
Speaker 1: Two months later, I moved back to Nashville Anyway. I

876
00:48:36,719 --> 00:48:38,600
Speaker 1: have a great group of friends here and I am

877
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 1: so happy to be back in a familiar surrounding. I've

878
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:43,720
Speaker 1: been back for a few weeks that it's been amazing.

879
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:46,960
Speaker 1: This leads me to the question that I have for Ben.

880
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:49,680
Speaker 1: Is it important to reach out to him and ask

881
00:48:49,760 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 1: for closure or if he cared about me what he've

882
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:56,840
Speaker 1: already reached out despite everything we've been through and the

883
00:48:56,960 --> 00:48:59,439
Speaker 1: love that we shared. Why do you think he could

884
00:48:59,440 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 1: complete least shut me out in the manner that he did.

885
00:49:02,480 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 1: Do you think it's healthy to move on by blocking

886
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:09,919
Speaker 1: someone out? Life has been so crazy recently, and I'm

887
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 1: hoping to receive some advice from a man who seems

888
00:49:13,040 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 1: like he really has his life together the end, I

889
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:18,680
Speaker 1: wish I had my LIFEKA. That's that's sweet of you

890
00:49:18,719 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 1: to to assume. Um. All right, So just a summarize here,

891
00:49:22,239 --> 00:49:25,840
Speaker 1: Katie and her boyfriend had a very very serious relationship. UM.

892
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:30,719
Speaker 1: After some rough spots, not only personally between themselves individuals

893
00:49:30,760 --> 00:49:34,720
Speaker 1: as individuals. Um, they broke up, end up getting back together,

894
00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:37,600
Speaker 1: and then broke up again, and now she's looking for

895
00:49:37,640 --> 00:49:40,920
Speaker 1: some help. So as I'm reading this, I'm thinking a

896
00:49:40,920 --> 00:49:43,920
Speaker 1: few things. First off, I, UM, I'm sorry to hear

897
00:49:43,920 --> 00:49:47,520
Speaker 1: about your boyfriend. UM. Opiate addiction is nothing to to

898
00:49:47,640 --> 00:49:51,440
Speaker 1: take lightly. And uh really, uh, you know, coming from

899
00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:54,160
Speaker 1: right come in in Indiana into something that's prevalent. It's

900
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:55,919
Speaker 1: tough and it's tough to watch and it's tough to see.

901
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:58,080
Speaker 1: And the one thing I do know about opio addiction

902
00:49:58,239 --> 00:50:00,640
Speaker 1: is that it does change your care there, it does

903
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:03,080
Speaker 1: change your personality at times. And so some of this

904
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:06,000
Speaker 1: to me, kind of the fluctuation in this story kind

905
00:50:06,000 --> 00:50:09,240
Speaker 1: of seems like something else is going on behind the scenes. UM.

906
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:10,759
Speaker 1: And I don't know if that's true or not, but

907
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:13,160
Speaker 1: that doesn't change the end result. The result is that

908
00:50:13,200 --> 00:50:17,440
Speaker 1: now you aren't together and you're looking for an answer. UM.

909
00:50:17,600 --> 00:50:20,239
Speaker 1: So my my first initial thought is, I don't know

910
00:50:20,400 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 1: if talking to him will ever bring closure. UM. You know,

911
00:50:24,000 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 1: if it goes really well, UM, then you probably miss them.

912
00:50:28,200 --> 00:50:30,719
Speaker 1: If it goes terribly then you're going to be resentful

913
00:50:30,760 --> 00:50:33,600
Speaker 1: and angry at them. So that's my first thought. My

914
00:50:33,680 --> 00:50:37,800
Speaker 1: second thought is this, UM, closure comes from within. Closure

915
00:50:37,840 --> 00:50:41,440
Speaker 1: comes from yourself. And so I know my past relationships,

916
00:50:41,440 --> 00:50:44,279
Speaker 1: ones that have haven't worked out, um, and ones that

917
00:50:44,320 --> 00:50:47,400
Speaker 1: have been really successful for a long time. UM. My

918
00:50:47,440 --> 00:50:49,839
Speaker 1: feelings towards the other person and my feelings towards your

919
00:50:49,840 --> 00:50:53,440
Speaker 1: relationship are affected by how I feel internally. And so

920
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:56,600
Speaker 1: as you're looking at this relationship now, UM, kind of

921
00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:58,360
Speaker 1: on the back end of it and thinking about the

922
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 1: good times and the bad times, and thinking about the

923
00:51:00,080 --> 00:51:02,400
Speaker 1: times that were spent together and the times that you

924
00:51:02,480 --> 00:51:04,800
Speaker 1: leaned on him and he leaned on you for support advice,

925
00:51:04,800 --> 00:51:06,520
Speaker 1: and you start to miss him and you just want

926
00:51:06,520 --> 00:51:10,080
Speaker 1: to get him out of your head. It probably sounds

927
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:12,839
Speaker 1: like here you just want to forget about it. Um.

928
00:51:12,960 --> 00:51:14,839
Speaker 1: You have to come to terms of that yourself, and

929
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:17,080
Speaker 1: so one way to do that is to forgive. Make

930
00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:20,120
Speaker 1: sure you forgive first. I think forgivenesses is the most

931
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 1: important step here. You have to forgive him for anything

932
00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 1: that he said that was wrong, anything he did that

933
00:51:24,280 --> 00:51:27,040
Speaker 1: hurt you, um, anything that may be stung deep with

934
00:51:27,080 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 1: inside you personally. You have to forgive him. You have

935
00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:31,200
Speaker 1: to release him from that and you have to release

936
00:51:31,239 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 1: yourself from that that burden. UM. And after you forgive him,

937
00:51:34,640 --> 00:51:35,920
Speaker 1: you have to hope for the best. And I know

938
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:38,120
Speaker 1: that sounds cliche and corny and super light, but you

939
00:51:38,160 --> 00:51:40,279
Speaker 1: really do. You have to hope that he has the

940
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:44,920
Speaker 1: best life possible, because one thing you can't do is

941
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:47,680
Speaker 1: control him that this is not it. And so so

942
00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 1: meeting with him I don't think the smart decision. But

943
00:51:49,640 --> 00:51:52,040
Speaker 1: if you can forgive, and you can allow yourself to

944
00:51:52,080 --> 00:51:54,960
Speaker 1: get in a good place mentally on your thoughts towards him,

945
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 1: I think then closure will come because you'll be in

946
00:51:57,600 --> 00:52:00,080
Speaker 1: a better place to move on, either with some to

947
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:02,880
Speaker 1: your maybe with with nobody, but you'll at least be

948
00:52:02,880 --> 00:52:04,879
Speaker 1: able to move on as an individual. And Katie, I'm

949
00:52:04,920 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 1: telling you that is the most important thing right now

950
00:52:06,800 --> 00:52:08,359
Speaker 1: is you have to find a way to move on

951
00:52:08,440 --> 00:52:11,040
Speaker 1: as an individual so that you can live your best

952
00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:15,359
Speaker 1: life possible. All right, I think you said at all.

953
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:22,640
Speaker 1: I can't elaborate on that. Wow, Yes, Ben, get into ministry.

954
00:52:23,560 --> 00:52:26,360
Speaker 1: I think that you need to be like the next

955
00:52:27,640 --> 00:52:31,400
Speaker 1: huge minister. No, I like that though he should be

956
00:52:31,760 --> 00:52:34,759
Speaker 1: the new doctor Phil. You could definitely do that too.

957
00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:37,160
Speaker 1: That's a great idea, Amy, get on it. I've already

958
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:42,439
Speaker 1: trademarked it. You know. I really do enjoy talking about

959
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:44,840
Speaker 1: relationships and talking about life. You know. Chester brought up

960
00:52:44,840 --> 00:52:47,680
Speaker 1: a book called the Five Love Languages, a book that's

961
00:52:47,760 --> 00:52:50,040
Speaker 1: meant a lot to me as I've tried to explore, Okay,

962
00:52:50,080 --> 00:52:54,040
Speaker 1: where my my weakness is, where my strengths. Um, we

963
00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:56,479
Speaker 1: lived in this life that is so rich and so deep,

964
00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:58,880
Speaker 1: and I find myself so often saying there has to

965
00:52:58,920 --> 00:53:00,520
Speaker 1: be more right, There has to me more, There has

966
00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:03,239
Speaker 1: to be more emotion, There has to be more feelings. Um,

967
00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:05,840
Speaker 1: pain has to feel less at times, and the joys

968
00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 1: have to feel like I have to feel more joy.

969
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:10,759
Speaker 1: And it's just so fun to talk about because we're

970
00:53:10,760 --> 00:53:13,600
Speaker 1: all in this crazy journey together. And so if we

971
00:53:13,680 --> 00:53:16,239
Speaker 1: can get these emails in from our listeners and we

972
00:53:16,280 --> 00:53:18,520
Speaker 1: can discuss it, you're making my life a lot of fun.

973
00:53:18,520 --> 00:53:21,480
Speaker 1: So I appreciate it. Thanks Katie for being super super

974
00:53:21,520 --> 00:53:28,840
Speaker 1: honest with us. Uh. It is physical touch, actually, I um,

975
00:53:28,840 --> 00:53:32,680
Speaker 1: background honestly is and I'm not this is not. My

976
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:35,840
Speaker 1: grandma told me that as a little baby, when I

977
00:53:35,880 --> 00:53:38,120
Speaker 1: would cry or would be upset, if you just come

978
00:53:38,160 --> 00:53:40,480
Speaker 1: in and rub my back real lightly, I would stop

979
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:42,719
Speaker 1: crying and I would become peaceful. And my mom said

980
00:53:42,719 --> 00:53:45,360
Speaker 1: the same thing, and it works today. If I'm stressed

981
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:48,319
Speaker 1: out and anybody that's close to me and that loves me, Um,

982
00:53:48,360 --> 00:53:50,600
Speaker 1: if I'm really stressed out, if I'm really hurting, a

983
00:53:50,640 --> 00:53:53,799
Speaker 1: hand on my back and just it just calms me.

984
00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:56,800
Speaker 1: And so the physical touch is one way for somebody's

985
00:53:56,800 --> 00:53:59,040
Speaker 1: show that they care, if they love me, and they're

986
00:53:59,080 --> 00:54:02,160
Speaker 1: willing to do something that's not exactly benefiting themselves to

987
00:54:02,239 --> 00:54:04,719
Speaker 1: make my life better and that's that just feels really

988
00:54:04,800 --> 00:54:08,399
Speaker 1: good a little Ben. Yeah, now I know I Ben

989
00:54:08,480 --> 00:54:10,719
Speaker 1: always gives us a massage the second he sees as

990
00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:13,520
Speaker 1: it's like his hug, welcome Mountain. I always just like

991
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:17,440
Speaker 1: rub his arm. It's really nice. Thanks Amy. Yeah, an

992
00:54:17,480 --> 00:54:25,600
Speaker 1: excuse to touch you language. Mine is definitely touched with

993
00:54:25,920 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 1: quality time. It's like all I need of you is

994
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:31,319
Speaker 1: to like sit on the couch with anis nuggle for long.

995
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:37,560
Speaker 1: All I need is you is all of your time. Yeah.

996
00:54:37,640 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 1: I'm a big touch person too. That's awesome. Well, alright,

997
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:42,640
Speaker 1: so we have a few more emails here that I

998
00:54:42,680 --> 00:54:44,920
Speaker 1: want to read through. Um, I'm going to read this

999
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:47,360
Speaker 1: one because to Ashley, it would be weird if Ashley

1000
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:49,759
Speaker 1: read to herself and then answered for herself. So this

1001
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:53,560
Speaker 1: is from Patricia. Hi, Ashley. I'm a big fan of

1002
00:54:53,560 --> 00:54:55,040
Speaker 1: both you and Ben, and I think I saw a

1003
00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 1: tweet from you talking about Taylor Swift album and how

1004
00:54:57,800 --> 00:54:59,680
Speaker 1: you like the album but needed someone to be in

1005
00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:02,799
Speaker 1: love to relate forgive me if those are not the

1006
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:05,440
Speaker 1: exact word, she says. And then I thought, wasn't Wells

1007
00:55:05,480 --> 00:55:08,239
Speaker 1: your getaway car? And probably one of the reasons the

1008
00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:12,280
Speaker 1: relationship didn't go too far. Also, I can totally see

1009
00:55:12,600 --> 00:55:15,719
Speaker 1: in Game as a song for you and Jared, even

1010
00:55:15,960 --> 00:55:18,799
Speaker 1: if not applic cool now, and really, you don't feel

1011
00:55:18,840 --> 00:55:22,520
Speaker 1: like singing gorgeous to Dean, even if he is just

1012
00:55:22,680 --> 00:55:25,840
Speaker 1: a friend. Come on, Taylor probably follows you on social

1013
00:55:25,840 --> 00:55:29,920
Speaker 1: media and created this song. Don't blame me for you, athlete.

1014
00:55:32,600 --> 00:55:35,680
Speaker 1: The song has your name all over it. L O L.

1015
00:55:36,280 --> 00:55:38,560
Speaker 1: You can tell I love Taylor Swift. I relate to

1016
00:55:38,640 --> 00:55:41,640
Speaker 1: every song, even though I don't really relate to any

1017
00:55:41,680 --> 00:55:44,880
Speaker 1: song she has. She's happily married with two kids. And

1018
00:55:44,920 --> 00:55:47,600
Speaker 1: then she says, Ben, I know this about Ashley, but

1019
00:55:47,680 --> 00:55:50,479
Speaker 1: you are truly the best bat. Okay, we're good. Hey

1020
00:55:51,560 --> 00:55:54,640
Speaker 1: what do you think he's trying your coffee? Oh? Yeah, hey,

1021
00:55:54,640 --> 00:55:56,200
Speaker 1: thanks for trying the coffee. I didn't read that part.

1022
00:55:56,320 --> 00:55:57,960
Speaker 1: Trying to coffee is onto my to do list. Hey,

1023
00:55:57,960 --> 00:56:01,960
Speaker 1: everybody out there, generous coffee of you to try it. Yeah.

1024
00:56:02,239 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 1: I love when people can compare their lives. I mean,

1025
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:08,640
Speaker 1: that's that's what I do with Taylor. It's honestly, like

1026
00:56:08,719 --> 00:56:11,840
Speaker 1: every two to three years, I have a new diary

1027
00:56:12,040 --> 00:56:14,960
Speaker 1: entry that like I gave her the material for, but

1028
00:56:14,960 --> 00:56:18,880
Speaker 1: then she put together in pretty words and pretty sounds,

1029
00:56:19,200 --> 00:56:21,920
Speaker 1: and she wrapped it up in a gift and she goes, here, Ashley,

1030
00:56:22,000 --> 00:56:25,040
Speaker 1: here's your life in music. And I'm so so thankful

1031
00:56:25,080 --> 00:56:27,920
Speaker 1: for Taylor Swift for having this talent in which that

1032
00:56:28,000 --> 00:56:30,479
Speaker 1: she writes for all of us girls. What's interesting about

1033
00:56:30,480 --> 00:56:32,600
Speaker 1: the Reputation album is I do think it's a little

1034
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:37,880
Speaker 1: bit more specific to her stories and the language isn't

1035
00:56:37,920 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 1: as broad. I know, I know, but so yes. I

1036
00:56:42,200 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 1: did tweet when the album came out that like, there's

1037
00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 1: a lot of love songs. We're we're used to like

1038
00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:51,560
Speaker 1: moodier songs about Taylor being nostalgic of a past heartbreak

1039
00:56:51,960 --> 00:56:55,200
Speaker 1: and this there's a lot of love songs and there's

1040
00:56:55,200 --> 00:56:58,920
Speaker 1: a lot of steamy songs, and I'm like, Okay, gotta

1041
00:56:59,000 --> 00:57:02,200
Speaker 1: find someone ol so I can relate to this music more.

1042
00:57:02,600 --> 00:57:05,240
Speaker 1: But UM so interesting the way that you are listening

1043
00:57:05,239 --> 00:57:07,920
Speaker 1: to Taylor's album and you're thinking about me for it.

1044
00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:10,120
Speaker 1: That means the world to me. That is like the

1045
00:57:10,160 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 1: sweetest thing. Thank you, thank you for thinking of me. Patricia,

1046
00:57:15,239 --> 00:57:17,960
Speaker 1: Don't Blame Me could have been my bachelor theme song.

1047
00:57:18,480 --> 00:57:22,440
Speaker 1: Never thought about Getaway Car with Wells, but I suppose

1048
00:57:22,520 --> 00:57:27,240
Speaker 1: in a sense, yes, Um, endgame. I never think about

1049
00:57:27,320 --> 00:57:29,800
Speaker 1: Jared during that song either, but now I will during

1050
00:57:29,840 --> 00:57:33,480
Speaker 1: a period of time. Um in our past. And Gorgeous

1051
00:57:33,520 --> 00:57:36,120
Speaker 1: I mean you're right. Gorgeous is a song about Dean

1052
00:57:36,560 --> 00:57:39,920
Speaker 1: like the Eyes so blue? Right, Holy moly, all right,

1053
00:57:39,960 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 1: but thank you Patricia, UM thoughtful right now? Uh poncho

1054
00:57:45,080 --> 00:57:52,400
Speaker 1: and left by Merle Haggard. Well, it's a good song.

1055
00:57:53,360 --> 00:57:59,200
Speaker 1: It's that Um. I also need to give a little

1056
00:57:59,200 --> 00:58:01,680
Speaker 1: plug to myself. The entire I Don't Get a podcast

1057
00:58:01,760 --> 00:58:04,280
Speaker 1: this week is about breaking down the lyrics in Taylor's

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Speaker 1: dot com. Here all right, well we got another email

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Speaker 1: from Meryll, Hey, Ben and Ashley. I've been with my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend for two years and nine months now. A year

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Speaker 1: and a half of that has been long distance after

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Speaker 1: he moved away from New York to accept a job

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Speaker 1: in d C. He recently quit his job, which I

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Speaker 1: thought would enable him to move in with me while

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Speaker 1: he continues to look for a new job in New York.

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Speaker 1: But that happened two months ago, and he's still living

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Speaker 1: with his parents in d See, visiting me occasionally. He

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Speaker 1: says it would not go over well with his family

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Speaker 1: if he moved in with me without having a job.

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Speaker 1: He seems to always care about his parents opinions a lot,

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Speaker 1: and I often think that they're more important than mine. Well, well, Merrill,

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Speaker 1: they probably should be. Um. Another issue that we've had

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Speaker 1: comes with the long distance sex. He has trouble performing

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Speaker 1: when he's tired, or stressed or busy. All of those

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Speaker 1: have little quotation marks around them, which is basically all

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Speaker 1: the time. In the course of staying with me for

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Speaker 1: a week, We'll do it maybe one or two times.

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Speaker 1: I can't live like this. I love him, but we

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Speaker 1: should I know I love him, But what's the last

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Speaker 1: straw in this relationship be? We fight a lot, and

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Speaker 1: I don't think it's healthy. I know he's in a

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Speaker 1: tough situation right now, and I want to be supportive.

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Speaker 1: But what is the time to put your foot down

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Speaker 1: for what you do? But what is the time to

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Speaker 1: put your But what is the time that you put

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Speaker 1: your foot down for what you believe deserve? Okay, well, Meryl,

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Speaker 1: I do wish that I knew your age, because there

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Speaker 1: are like a certain age range in our lives that

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Speaker 1: parents opinions need to be more important than a significant

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Speaker 1: others Um Okay, still think that if Meryl Tree, the

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Speaker 1: parents probably need to their opinions are a little bit

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Speaker 1: more important, especially if he's being financially supported by the

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Speaker 1: parents right now, right, I I would completely agree. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think your parents opinion is incredibly important. I think

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Speaker 1: there is a level too when you make that vow

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Speaker 1: oh yeah no, if we're talking like you guys are engaged,

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Speaker 1: totally different story, I think I think you're completely right.

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Speaker 1: I think when you're just considered a boyfriend, girlfriend, and

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Speaker 1: your parents um have a huge role in your life.

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Speaker 1: Still you know they really are. And once you decide to,

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Speaker 1: as the good old Bible says, get up and and

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Speaker 1: leave your family through marriage and through that engagement in

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Speaker 1: is it time to take the parents to take a

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Speaker 1: step back. But as I'm reading this, I'm thinking, man,

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Speaker 1: his parents are his best confidence right now. You know,

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Speaker 1: his parents are the people that love him and probably

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Speaker 1: care about him, um the most, even including you Maryland.

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Speaker 1: So it's important that he listens to them. Yeah, and Meryl,

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Speaker 1: if he quit his job, and he doesn't have a

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Speaker 1: job right now, and you want him to go you

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Speaker 1: want him to go live in New York. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean I don't think you'd like that either. I

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Speaker 1: think that he needs to get his own life together

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Speaker 1: before joining joining you. Does that make sense? Does that

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Speaker 1: you agree with that? Yeah? I mean I think before

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Speaker 1: we make too many assumptions on on this relationship, I

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Speaker 1: think there's some things here that really stand out. One is, um,

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Speaker 1: there's obviously unhappiness, there's unsettled anger. Just from reading this

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Speaker 1: emale right there's there's some disappointment. So my first question

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Speaker 1: to Meryll, without saying hey, this is what I think

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Speaker 1: you should feel, is have you asked have you talked

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Speaker 1: him about this? You? Have you brought this stuff up

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Speaker 1: to him? Have you have you asked him about you know,

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Speaker 1: if if sex is important to you and you've both

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Speaker 1: decided to participate in it UM as a couple, uh,

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Speaker 1: and you feel like you're not getting near into the

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Speaker 1: deal or what you would expect if you feel like

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Speaker 1: there's distance there in your physical your physical relationship, have

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Speaker 1: you sat him down and talked to him about it?

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Speaker 1: Because if you haven't, that would be the first step.

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Speaker 1: And if you feel uncomfortable doing that, I would ask

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Speaker 1: you why why you have you had a boyfriend for

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Speaker 1: two years and nine months and you don't feel comfortable

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Speaker 1: talking to him about some of the basic elements in

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Speaker 1: life and relationships. Yeah, and Ben correct me if I'm wrong,

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Speaker 1: because obviously no expert in this department. But if a

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Speaker 1: guy is jobless and kind of feeling down and out,

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Speaker 1: he's not going to be like super horn dog, right,

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Speaker 1: He's not going to be horny. Yeah. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: don't just you're you're you're spot on. I mean I

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Speaker 1: think when when any guy is you know, what men

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Speaker 1: need in life is is to kind of were so fragile.

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Speaker 1: We really are. Most men are so fragile and they

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Speaker 1: can get beaten down so quickly. And so you know,

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Speaker 1: if he doesn't have a job, and if he feels

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Speaker 1: kind of lost and he he's kind of tossing and turning,

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Speaker 1: he doesn't feel like Meryl is happy with him, he

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Speaker 1: could feel pretty down on himself and as a result

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Speaker 1: of that, his libido and his his confidence could be

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Speaker 1: way way down. And so Meryl, with that, you are

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Speaker 1: committed to this man as a boyfriend, right, I mean

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Speaker 1: the list. At this point, you're committing to this, and

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Speaker 1: so you have agreed to be with him even in

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Speaker 1: those moments that he is down. And so my job

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Speaker 1: or my advice you Mary will beat in this season

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Speaker 1: of his life. Lift him up, because I hope that

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Speaker 1: he would do the same to you when you'd fell

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Speaker 1: down and out is lift you up. And that's how

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Speaker 1: relationships work. It's a dance. It's like you two are

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Speaker 1: assaulting together, right, You're taking one step back and one

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Speaker 1: step forward, and you're you're pulling each other along. That's

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Speaker 1: a relationship. You're dancing together. And so, hey, Meryl, dance

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Speaker 1: with him a little bit. I agree, And Meryl, you

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Speaker 1: can come visit him down here. It's just a three

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Speaker 1: hour train ride, yeah, I mean never, We can take

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Speaker 1: a train. So hey, Meryl, here's my advice. Thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for writing in. But I think you have

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Speaker 1: some things to talk about with your boyfriend. Um, none

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Speaker 1: of this email looks like he doesn't care about you

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Speaker 1: or he doesn't love view, and it doesn't look like

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Speaker 1: you don't love him or care about him. It looks

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Speaker 1: like you guys got to kind of take the step

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Speaker 1: back and go back to the basics. And say, hey,

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Speaker 1: we've been together two and a half or two years

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Speaker 1: and nine months. What are we missing? What are we doing? Well?

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Speaker 1: How can we continue to move forward? Because I love

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Speaker 1: you and I care about you and I don't want

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Speaker 1: to lose you. Think about that conversation. How cool would

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Speaker 1: that be is at the end of that conversation, you

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Speaker 1: guys have a big old smooch and see where it

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Speaker 1: takes you. Dr Ben great advice once again. If you

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Speaker 1: you guys start a new segment called Dr Ben where

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Speaker 1: you just ask bend or relationship advice and then it's

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Speaker 1: so good and you're so articulate and you just like

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Speaker 1: understand human being so well. I like it. I understand

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Speaker 1: every human being accept myself cannot do um. But no,

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Speaker 1: I mean I think, uh, I think this is fun.

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Speaker 1: We have a good time talking about this. But let's

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Speaker 1: let's lighten it up a little bit, um and talk

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Speaker 1: about um some celebrities for me to date? All right, well, Ben, Um,

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Speaker 1: A lot of people emailed in with celebrity suggestions for

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Speaker 1: possible romance with for you. Are you ready to hear

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Speaker 1: who they want you to be with? I'm kind of

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Speaker 1: excited about this. Yeah, I'm very interested. All right, Well

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Speaker 1: we start off with two from the Bachelor franchise, Danielle

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Speaker 1: m and Christina, two girls in the Nashville area, two

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Speaker 1: girls that are seemed very sweet, very humble, and just

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Speaker 1: like and I think that you've expressed a little interest

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Speaker 1: in Christina before, so I've expressed into no ever Hello Bentina, Ben? Right,

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Speaker 1: that was that thing you shipped that a while back.

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Speaker 1: Now she's been you know her and Dean's a great

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Speaker 1: buddy of mine. They've been kind of off and on

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Speaker 1: or on. I don't really know what's happening with him

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Speaker 1: for a while. That just seems like a place that

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Speaker 1: wouldn't be respectful for me to Yeah, okay, I agree there.

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Speaker 1: Ben should not data celebrity, but if he does, it

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Speaker 1: should be Nina dough brev. I do think she has

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Speaker 1: a boyfriend, But how do you think about that? Um,

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Speaker 1: I don't know who that is, so we should ventire diaries.

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Speaker 1: People are going to freak out that you don't know

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Speaker 1: who that is. Emma Watson, maybe single Ben may have

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Speaker 1: a chance. What do you think I Emma Watson and

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Speaker 1: I don't stand a chance. Let's keep going. I can

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Speaker 1: see you with her. How do you feel about a

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Speaker 1: foreign girl with a little bit of an accent. I

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Speaker 1: mean she she was my celebrity crush, I think last

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Speaker 1: week on on the podcast, so she I've always had

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Speaker 1: a thing for m Watson. Um, but she is just

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Speaker 1: like when I would be so intimidated around M. Watson

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Speaker 1: it would not be a good She's smart. Yeah, she's

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Speaker 1: an intellectual. She went to Brown Yeah, I would be intimidated,

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Speaker 1: you guys. Lily James, she played Cinderella in this like

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Speaker 1: the live action Cinderella that came out a few years ago.

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Speaker 1: She is stunning and if she's anything like her role,

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Speaker 1: she's perfect for Ben. That's my favorite so far. I'm

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Speaker 1: in let's keep going. January Jones. We already talked about that.

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Speaker 1: Britney Snow she's cute. I like her could say that

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Speaker 1: she could Amy, you can definitely do that one. Amelia Clark,

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Speaker 1: um you know, um klisy Sorry oh geez, yeah, I

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01:09:09,680 --> 01:09:13,000
Speaker 1: mean how you know how jealous my buddies would be

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Speaker 1: of me if I started dating Amelia Clark. I mean,

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01:09:15,200 --> 01:09:17,519
Speaker 1: I think every person I know has a crush on her.

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Speaker 1: She seems like a wonderful girl. I love her personality

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01:09:21,560 --> 01:09:25,080
Speaker 1: and interviews. She is Oh, I like that too. Second favorite,

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01:09:25,600 --> 01:09:27,760
Speaker 1: that's a little high, like that's that's maybe a little

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Speaker 1: hard to get, okay, Shane Mitchell, she has I think

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Speaker 1: a long term relationship. I don't know who Alexandra Shari.

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01:09:37,240 --> 01:09:39,200
Speaker 1: I do. She was in Baywatch and she was in

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01:09:39,280 --> 01:09:43,280
Speaker 1: that um earthquake movie with the rock San Andreas, and

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Speaker 1: she's a smoking hot like I think she had a

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Speaker 1: flingy fling with a Ehron Okay like me. Then she's

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Speaker 1: in the Zach. She's not a guy like me. I'm

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01:09:53,479 --> 01:09:55,400
Speaker 1: over Zach. Do we talk about how I'm over Zach?

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01:09:56,040 --> 01:09:59,320
Speaker 1: Maybe next week? How about next week? Okay. Lindsay Cox,

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Speaker 1: who was also pass Bachelorrette, it was uh yeah, Courtney,

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01:10:06,720 --> 01:10:11,480
Speaker 1: we're talking about that last week it was yeah, Lindsay Sterling.

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01:10:11,520 --> 01:10:13,400
Speaker 1: I don't know who that is Dancing with the Stars,

1292
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Speaker 1: the violinist. All right, finally, Ben, there are so many

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01:10:17,200 --> 01:10:20,639
Speaker 1: people that want you to date their sister or they're

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01:10:20,680 --> 01:10:23,439
Speaker 1: like best friend. I get tweets all the time, Ashley,

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01:10:23,479 --> 01:10:26,200
Speaker 1: can you set me up with Ben? Amy's reading emails.

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Speaker 1: Everybody wants you to be with their sister, and that's course,

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01:10:30,479 --> 01:10:33,879
Speaker 1: but of course you know, because Ben is that wholesome

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01:10:33,880 --> 01:10:35,599
Speaker 1: guy that you want to take home to mom and dad.

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Speaker 1: I won't say who. I won't say who, but I

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01:10:38,760 --> 01:10:43,040
Speaker 1: did forward one of them to Ben, so oh did

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Speaker 1: it come with a picture? Didn't come with a photo.

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01:10:45,200 --> 01:10:48,200
Speaker 1: And everybody listening just know that one of your people

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01:10:48,280 --> 01:10:51,080
Speaker 1: has a chance because I did forward. Oh my goodness,

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01:10:52,000 --> 01:10:57,120
Speaker 1: and she loved pretty pretty right on, and I knew

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01:10:57,600 --> 01:10:59,320
Speaker 1: I don't want any more. Ben. Did you like her?

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01:11:00,040 --> 01:11:01,640
Speaker 1: I don't know. Did I see it? You have to

1307
01:11:01,640 --> 01:11:03,320
Speaker 1: dig through your emails. I sent it like a few

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01:11:03,400 --> 01:11:05,240
Speaker 1: days ago. Okay, I don't know if I've seen it.

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01:11:05,439 --> 01:11:08,800
Speaker 1: That's super nice with people. I mean it is. That's

1310
01:11:08,840 --> 01:11:11,040
Speaker 1: actually you did not get. I was going to say,

1311
01:11:11,320 --> 01:11:15,519
Speaker 1: like nobody too. You got Aaron Rodgers, which I think, Oh,

1312
01:11:15,560 --> 01:11:17,679
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, nobody wants me to date their brother.

1313
01:11:18,560 --> 01:11:20,920
Speaker 1: Not yet, but I mean they'll come flooden now. But

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01:11:20,960 --> 01:11:23,080
Speaker 1: and Tim Tebow a lot of football players I think

1315
01:11:23,080 --> 01:11:29,840
Speaker 1: because of Jimmy. Yeah, I mean Tim, I don't need

1316
01:11:29,960 --> 01:11:32,560
Speaker 1: like I need somebody with a little bit more experience.

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01:11:32,680 --> 01:11:37,080
Speaker 1: If you couch from a door, if he like yourself, um, possibly,

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01:11:37,400 --> 01:11:40,360
Speaker 1: we don't know. It's unclear. Now. I think that Tebow

1319
01:11:40,400 --> 01:11:43,160
Speaker 1: seems like really sweet dude. I think he's like, I

1320
01:11:43,240 --> 01:11:45,840
Speaker 1: just need like more of an alpha, more of an alpha,

1321
01:11:46,280 --> 01:11:49,080
Speaker 1: and then I wouldn't imagine that on your wedding night,

1322
01:11:49,920 --> 01:11:55,080
Speaker 1: like earthquakes would occur, like the heavens would, fireworks would

1323
01:11:55,080 --> 01:11:58,559
Speaker 1: go off of the imagery is too gross for me

1324
01:11:58,600 --> 01:12:03,800
Speaker 1: to imagine. Me feel so awkward, Aaron Rodgers. That that's

1325
01:12:03,800 --> 01:12:05,400
Speaker 1: all I can think about is if you and Tebow

1326
01:12:05,439 --> 01:12:08,840
Speaker 1: did happen to get married, that literally it would the

1327
01:12:08,880 --> 01:12:11,280
Speaker 1: heavens would would open. I don't do it too soon.

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01:12:11,439 --> 01:12:12,960
Speaker 1: I want this world to last a while. I'm having

1329
01:12:13,000 --> 01:12:17,200
Speaker 1: to get Oh my god. Um, speaking of Tim Tebow,

1330
01:12:17,280 --> 01:12:18,920
Speaker 1: if you're out there and a fan of the Almost

1331
01:12:18,960 --> 01:12:20,840
Speaker 1: fame this podcast, we're really trying to get you with

1332
01:12:20,920 --> 01:12:24,240
Speaker 1: Tanya rad from Ryan Seacrest show, you guys would be

1333
01:12:24,560 --> 01:12:30,439
Speaker 1: the perfect pair. Hey, Um, actually have big Thanksgiving plans.

1334
01:12:31,479 --> 01:12:35,920
Speaker 1: Actually not not really. It's just gonna be my family

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01:12:35,920 --> 01:12:40,040
Speaker 1: of four plus you know, my best friend Naz, a

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01:12:40,080 --> 01:12:42,800
Speaker 1: friend of yours and a friend of all of ours.

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01:12:43,479 --> 01:12:46,240
Speaker 1: She came to Virginia and it's just gonna be the

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Speaker 1: five of us. And then my aunt and my cousin

1339
01:12:48,280 --> 01:12:49,760
Speaker 1: are going to come down the next day for like

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Speaker 1: Thanksgiving Part two. That's awesome. Now, I hope it is

1341
01:12:53,080 --> 01:12:55,479
Speaker 1: a great day for you, um, and I also hope

1342
01:12:55,479 --> 01:12:57,080
Speaker 1: it's full of a lot of memories and a lot

1343
01:12:57,080 --> 01:13:01,599
Speaker 1: of wine cooking. Wait, Ben, who's cooking? Your who's cooking? Are?

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01:13:01,600 --> 01:13:06,799
Speaker 1: I think we're having a big group Thanksgiving. So actually, Um, Friday,

1345
01:13:06,840 --> 01:13:09,240
Speaker 1: we're celebrating Thanksgiving and we're gonna go up to my

1346
01:13:09,280 --> 01:13:12,760
Speaker 1: buddy's house, the Fullers, who people out there followed quite often.

1347
01:13:12,760 --> 01:13:14,240
Speaker 1: So we're all going to get together at the Fuller's

1348
01:13:14,280 --> 01:13:17,000
Speaker 1: house and the whole Fuller family and my family and

1349
01:13:17,040 --> 01:13:19,280
Speaker 1: a bunch of friends are going to get together and

1350
01:13:19,320 --> 01:13:21,559
Speaker 1: we're going to celebrate Thanksgiving and all kind of a potlux.

1351
01:13:21,600 --> 01:13:24,160
Speaker 1: So it's gonna be really fun. That's really nice, Hey Ben,

1352
01:13:24,320 --> 01:13:27,599
Speaker 1: guess what my parents decided to do? What's the hat?

1353
01:13:27,880 --> 01:13:31,519
Speaker 1: They're catering it? Like, my parents do everything they possibly

1354
01:13:31,560 --> 01:13:34,479
Speaker 1: can to get out of cooking. So when we insisted

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01:13:34,520 --> 01:13:36,360
Speaker 1: that we don't go out to dinner because my dad

1356
01:13:36,479 --> 01:13:38,960
Speaker 1: wanted to go out to dinner for Thanksgiving, they try

1357
01:13:39,000 --> 01:13:40,840
Speaker 1: to pull us every year and my sister and I

1358
01:13:40,920 --> 01:13:44,200
Speaker 1: won't have it. We're like, no, no. So my dad

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01:13:44,240 --> 01:13:47,120
Speaker 1: just told us this morning. He's like, here's the receipt

1360
01:13:47,200 --> 01:13:49,559
Speaker 1: for the catering that we got for Thanksgiving. So all

1361
01:13:49,600 --> 01:13:51,280
Speaker 1: he's gonna do is make the stuffing and everything else

1362
01:13:51,360 --> 01:13:55,120
Speaker 1: is delivered. Hey, you know what, that's not a terrible idea, actually,

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01:13:55,160 --> 01:13:56,799
Speaker 1: I mean I get where your dad's coming from. Because

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01:13:57,040 --> 01:13:58,800
Speaker 1: you want to focus on the memories. You wanna focus

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01:13:58,840 --> 01:14:00,200
Speaker 1: on the people there. You want to focus on the

1366
01:14:00,200 --> 01:14:02,760
Speaker 1: relationships and not have to focus on the stress of

1367
01:14:02,760 --> 01:14:04,719
Speaker 1: cooking a good dinner. So I like your dad style.

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01:14:04,760 --> 01:14:07,439
Speaker 1: I think there's more to that than we might just see.

1369
01:14:09,040 --> 01:14:10,599
Speaker 1: And and the one thing you can also do. If

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01:14:10,600 --> 01:14:12,000
Speaker 1: you want to cater in food, you might as well

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01:14:12,080 --> 01:14:14,880
Speaker 1: cater in some some alcohol. So Ashley, what is the

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Speaker 1: most common alcohol for Thanksgiving? To those Americans say they're

1373
01:14:19,520 --> 01:14:25,479
Speaker 1: most likely to drink? What do you find? Yea wine,

1374
01:14:25,600 --> 01:14:27,560
Speaker 1: beer or liquor. This is the perfect time of the

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01:14:27,640 --> 01:14:31,360
Speaker 1: year to get Saucy, the Alcohol Deliveries app. Saucy delivers

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Speaker 1: your favorite wine, beer, and liquor right to your door

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Speaker 1: on the man. It's the uber of alcohol. So if

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Speaker 1: you're in l A, San Francisco, Chicago, San Diego, or Sacramento.

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Speaker 1: Your saucy order will arrive right at your door in

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Speaker 1: thirty minutes or less. And can I just say that

1381
01:14:46,200 --> 01:14:48,439
Speaker 1: nobody's trying to go to the grocery store during the

1382
01:14:48,479 --> 01:14:52,280
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving rush to buy just wine. So you know, if

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01:14:52,320 --> 01:14:56,040
Speaker 1: you're just in need of wine, just saucy it. That's right.

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01:14:56,080 --> 01:14:58,120
Speaker 1: I mean, it's it's the best thing. And so okay,

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01:14:58,160 --> 01:15:00,600
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving is a few days away. After you listen to

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01:15:00,640 --> 01:15:03,200
Speaker 1: this podcast, it's gonna be posted. Um. And if you

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01:15:03,240 --> 01:15:04,920
Speaker 1: don't live in those cities, and I have some advice

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01:15:04,960 --> 01:15:07,920
Speaker 1: for you, if you go to Saucy App and you

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01:15:07,960 --> 01:15:11,759
Speaker 1: don't live in l A, San Francisco, Chicago, San Diego A, Sacramento,

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01:15:12,120 --> 01:15:14,720
Speaker 1: then you can still order your alcohol. It will be

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Speaker 1: at your door in two days or less, with no

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Speaker 1: order minimums and no delivery fees. The Saucy app is

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Speaker 1: fully stocked bar on your phone. Again, the Saucy app

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01:15:24,200 --> 01:15:27,599
Speaker 1: is a fully stocked bar on your phone. It's smart,

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01:15:28,080 --> 01:15:30,880
Speaker 1: it's efficient, it's easy, it's great for the holiday season.

1396
01:15:30,880 --> 01:15:33,280
Speaker 1: I'm telling you take the stress away, focus on the

1397
01:15:33,280 --> 01:15:36,240
Speaker 1: people around you, get off your phones, get off the internet,

1398
01:15:36,600 --> 01:15:38,519
Speaker 1: maybe watch a little football, but focus on the people

1399
01:15:38,560 --> 01:15:41,000
Speaker 1: around you, So you have to eliminate all the stresses

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Speaker 1: and for a limited time you can get fifteen dollars

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Speaker 1: off when you download the Saucy app and into promo code.

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01:15:45,880 --> 01:15:48,800
Speaker 1: What do you think it is almost famous? Your free

1403
01:15:48,840 --> 01:15:51,639
Speaker 1: time should be spent that way, free, not dragging yourself

1404
01:15:51,640 --> 01:15:54,160
Speaker 1: to the grocery store to get some beer or a

1405
01:15:54,200 --> 01:15:57,040
Speaker 1: bottle of line. That's where the Saucy app comes in.

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01:15:57,080 --> 01:16:00,639
Speaker 1: Spelled saucy s a u ce y an inner promo

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01:16:00,680 --> 01:16:05,639
Speaker 1: code almost famous for fifteen dollars off. Do it? Hey, Ashley,

1408
01:16:05,680 --> 01:16:07,280
Speaker 1: can I take a second? Amy, I'm gonna take a

1409
01:16:07,280 --> 01:16:09,679
Speaker 1: second here, and I need um to talk about something

1410
01:16:09,720 --> 01:16:12,040
Speaker 1: that I am involved in this week of Thanksgiving and

1411
01:16:12,080 --> 01:16:15,160
Speaker 1: it means a lot to me. UM. So here's the deal.

1412
01:16:15,360 --> 01:16:17,960
Speaker 1: I've talked about generous coffee quite often in the podcast.

1413
01:16:18,400 --> 01:16:20,200
Speaker 1: A lot of you have ordered the coffee and I

1414
01:16:20,240 --> 01:16:22,880
Speaker 1: appreciate that, and we I was just in honderous seeing

1415
01:16:22,920 --> 01:16:24,479
Speaker 1: kind of the results of what's been going on, and

1416
01:16:24,520 --> 01:16:25,920
Speaker 1: it really is incredible, and I hope all of you

1417
01:16:25,920 --> 01:16:27,880
Speaker 1: can come with me on a trip sometime. UM. If

1418
01:16:27,880 --> 01:16:31,120
Speaker 1: you're interested, make sure you email Humanity and Hope United

1419
01:16:31,439 --> 01:16:33,840
Speaker 1: UM to find out when we're going and when I'm

1420
01:16:33,880 --> 01:16:37,479
Speaker 1: going UM. But we came up with a different idea

1421
01:16:37,560 --> 01:16:39,960
Speaker 1: for the holiday season, one that we we hope UM

1422
01:16:40,080 --> 01:16:42,880
Speaker 1: will make a huge impact. We've partnered Generous Coffee Company

1423
01:16:42,880 --> 01:16:45,040
Speaker 1: has partnered with a brand called go X Apparel. Go

1424
01:16:45,200 --> 01:16:47,040
Speaker 1: X Apparel makes all the T shirts out of recycled

1425
01:16:47,040 --> 01:16:50,439
Speaker 1: water bottles, UM or recycled bottles, I should say, so

1426
01:16:50,840 --> 01:16:53,519
Speaker 1: a lot less waste. It's good for the environment and

1427
01:16:53,520 --> 01:16:56,639
Speaker 1: and their profits. Just like Generous Coffees profits. Their profits

1428
01:16:56,680 --> 01:16:59,559
Speaker 1: are going to children all around the world. So here's

1429
01:16:59,560 --> 01:17:02,000
Speaker 1: the deal. Give the gift of opportunity to children. Buy

1430
01:17:02,200 --> 01:17:04,320
Speaker 1: the gift. That's our that's our mission, that's our statement.

1431
01:17:04,840 --> 01:17:07,080
Speaker 1: We have one week and we're trying to sell five

1432
01:17:07,080 --> 01:17:09,400
Speaker 1: thousand shirts and it will support too. If we sell

1433
01:17:09,479 --> 01:17:13,960
Speaker 1: five thousand shirts, it will support two thousand UM children

1434
01:17:14,040 --> 01:17:18,600
Speaker 1: in school and countries like Honduras, Haiti, India, Lolly and Ethiopia.

1435
01:17:18,680 --> 01:17:21,320
Speaker 1: So I'm telling you please go out there. The link

1436
01:17:21,400 --> 01:17:23,880
Speaker 1: is in my bio on Instagram. We really are giving

1437
01:17:23,920 --> 01:17:26,200
Speaker 1: all profits away. This is just an avenue to raise

1438
01:17:26,240 --> 01:17:29,160
Speaker 1: a bunch of money for kids who uh maybe haven't

1439
01:17:29,240 --> 01:17:31,040
Speaker 1: had the opportunities of the rest of us have and

1440
01:17:31,120 --> 01:17:33,679
Speaker 1: have been born into situations at a little bore desperate.

1441
01:17:33,760 --> 01:17:36,519
Speaker 1: So please go out there, buy a shirt, buy some coffee. Um,

1442
01:17:36,640 --> 01:17:40,160
Speaker 1: let's choose to do good this holiday season together. And guys,

1443
01:17:40,200 --> 01:17:42,519
Speaker 1: the coffee is delicious. It was delivered to me this week.

1444
01:17:42,760 --> 01:17:45,040
Speaker 1: You're going to enjoy it and you're doing something good

1445
01:17:45,120 --> 01:17:48,240
Speaker 1: at the same time, which is always amazing. Thanks. I

1446
01:17:48,320 --> 01:17:51,400
Speaker 1: appreciate that. So you're if you are killing it, you're

1447
01:17:51,520 --> 01:17:55,439
Speaker 1: killing it like you are. You're truly the most generous

1448
01:17:55,439 --> 01:17:58,240
Speaker 1: person I know. So, I mean, it really is. It's

1449
01:17:58,240 --> 01:18:00,360
Speaker 1: been a lot of fun and um, you know, I

1450
01:18:00,360 --> 01:18:03,519
Speaker 1: think there's a level to life when so many things

1451
01:18:03,560 --> 01:18:05,880
Speaker 1: go really good for you, like the show and like

1452
01:18:05,920 --> 01:18:08,360
Speaker 1: a podcast that I really enjoy doing, and they feel

1453
01:18:08,439 --> 01:18:11,200
Speaker 1: very they very they uplift my spirits that then all

1454
01:18:11,240 --> 01:18:12,880
Speaker 1: of a sudden, you go, wow, life has been so

1455
01:18:12,880 --> 01:18:16,280
Speaker 1: good to me. I have to give back. And you

1456
01:18:16,320 --> 01:18:18,000
Speaker 1: do the same, Ashley. And it kind of comes back

1457
01:18:18,040 --> 01:18:19,600
Speaker 1: to the statement that an old man once told me

1458
01:18:19,640 --> 01:18:22,320
Speaker 1: to bar um. And we'll close with this, uh, And

1459
01:18:22,320 --> 01:18:24,639
Speaker 1: we'll close with this this holiday season because I think

1460
01:18:24,640 --> 01:18:26,759
Speaker 1: it's important and this is not my advice to anybody

1461
01:18:26,800 --> 01:18:29,040
Speaker 1: it's it's it really does become an old man sharing

1462
01:18:29,080 --> 01:18:32,599
Speaker 1: a glass of bourbon with him, and he said to me, Ben,

1463
01:18:33,320 --> 01:18:36,799
Speaker 1: if you die one day, which you will, and people

1464
01:18:36,840 --> 01:18:42,400
Speaker 1: remember you as somebody that took less then they gave back,

1465
01:18:42,840 --> 01:18:45,080
Speaker 1: then your life was a success. And so I'm gonna

1466
01:18:45,120 --> 01:18:47,120
Speaker 1: stick with that because I believe that came straight from

1467
01:18:48,000 --> 01:18:54,240
Speaker 1: my God above. So hey with that song, Uh, everybody

1468
01:18:54,320 --> 01:18:57,040
Speaker 1: listening Astley, and I appreciate you, actually, I appreciate you

1469
01:18:57,080 --> 01:18:59,439
Speaker 1: this holiday season. I'm very thankful for you and for

1470
01:18:59,439 --> 01:19:01,720
Speaker 1: this pod will for you and Amy. We are so

1471
01:19:01,800 --> 01:19:04,080
Speaker 1: thankful for you and everybody else in that room over

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