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Speaker 1: The Nikky Ger Podcast. Here's Nikki. Hello, good morning. I

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Speaker 1: think it's the first time I've talked today. It's it

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Speaker 1: feels early, but I'm ready to start this day. Damn it. God,

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Speaker 1: I've got a full schedule today and then it clears out.

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Speaker 1: Now it's full the whole day. Who cares? Who cares?

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Speaker 1: I can do it. I can do anything. No I can't.

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Speaker 1: I might. I might cry today in terms of like

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Speaker 1: I can't get it all done. No one's helping me.

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Speaker 1: I'm having I'm on the brink of one of those Noah,

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Speaker 1: which is just not true. Everyone's helping me. I literally

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Speaker 1: have an assistant living with me who's doing everything. Like

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Speaker 1: it's just it's just one of those days where you

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Speaker 1: open the trash and you see a bunch of cans

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Speaker 1: this I'm making oatmeal and I'm like waiting for it

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Speaker 1: to heat up, and I see the cans in the

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Speaker 1: trash and I'm like, Who's going to take out this trash?

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Speaker 1: And I'm just like, not gonna be me. I'm paying

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Speaker 1: for this place. I don't want to keep cleaning this kitchen.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to do any Like, I'm having those

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Speaker 1: kind of thoughts which are like, you know, not fair,

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Speaker 1: just because I'm I should still take out the trash

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Speaker 1: and like do stuff like that, and but I just

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Speaker 1: it's like those like those things that I can just

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Speaker 1: let go. Where I opened the trash and there's eight cans,

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Speaker 1: which whoever did that didn't know that we had recycling,

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Speaker 1: but who doesn't have recycling? That is such a pet

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Speaker 1: peeve of mine. It's one of my biggest pet peeves

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Speaker 1: when people put glass or aluminum cans in the trash. Yes,

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Speaker 1: it's it just takes up so much trash, and it's

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Speaker 1: so it's so lazy. It's like, and I'm talking softly

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Speaker 1: because someone who did it is somewhere in this house asleep.

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Speaker 1: It was either Andrew. It was a meal. I think

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Speaker 1: it was a meal because he cleaned up cans last

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Speaker 1: night because he was being a nice guest. But I'm like,

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Speaker 1: a meal. You're twenty three, like you should know better

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Speaker 1: about recycling and saving the earth, Like, isn't this what

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Speaker 1: you all care about more than we do people who

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Speaker 1: are decades or more younger than us. But no cans

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Speaker 1: in the trash, Cans in the trash cans in the trash. Um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: pet Peeves Like it's like when I'm in a bad mood,

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Speaker 1: little things like that can take me off in a

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Speaker 1: way that it's just I need, I need to calm down,

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Speaker 1: as Taylor supposed would say it, because it's not the

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Speaker 1: big of a deal. It's just like we can just

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Speaker 1: then go, hey, guys, the recyclings over here. But the

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Speaker 1: thing is, the recycling is full already, and that's not

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Speaker 1: why the cans didn't go in. I put the cans

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Speaker 1: in the recycling, and now the recycling is full. And

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Speaker 1: now I'm just waiting because I don't want my assistant

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Speaker 1: to do it, because that's not her job to technically

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Speaker 1: take off the trash. I want Andrew or a Meal

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Speaker 1: ask them because then they'll go, where does it go?

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Speaker 1: And I'll go, you figure it, like I don't know

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Speaker 1: this house any more than you do. It's a thing

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Speaker 1: that can happen. First of all, I'm already having arguments

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Speaker 1: with two people that even that didn't say either of this,

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Speaker 1: what is happening. This is helping me work through things.

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Speaker 1: This is like therapy. Honestly, I was talking about this yesterday.

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Speaker 1: I know that I everyone's like, Nicky, you need an

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Speaker 1: assistant because I keep saying that, like the for when

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Speaker 1: want a husband that like can do this ship, or

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Speaker 1: I need a living made because I work too hard

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Speaker 1: to clean. And I know that everyone's like listening is like,

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Speaker 1: so do I and I know you do. I don't

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Speaker 1: I literally have six different, over hour long things in

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Speaker 1: which I have to be very on and like, and

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be a completely lazy piece of

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Speaker 1: feeling a lot of resentments today and for no reason,

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Speaker 1: I'm the one that offered to pay for everything. So

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Speaker 1: no one I didn't say it is like this is

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Speaker 1: contingent on you taking care of me. Everyone I'm petting up,

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Speaker 1: So why why do I do this to myself? I

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Speaker 1: know this is relatable because I see it happen in

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Speaker 1: every person's relationship that I know that lives with people

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Speaker 1: when you're I'm doing this thing that Like I always

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Speaker 1: these like amazing dinners that I don't care that I'm

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Speaker 1: paying for them. I like that my friends are eating

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Speaker 1: the good food with me at good places. But like

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Speaker 1: maybe there's like you would, but but that's not it's

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Speaker 1: not a part of the deal. So if I want

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Speaker 1: I do all this, and I expect this and this

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Speaker 1: and this because of that. And that's my problem. So

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Speaker 1: resentments lifted, not really still mad. Look at us as

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Speaker 1: setting boundaries rights, yes, not expectations, but boundaries. I need

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Speaker 1: to be better with those. You know, everyone needs to

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Speaker 1: be better with boundaries. But like, I'm just trying to

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Speaker 1: be good about acknowledging my frustrations, like and not flipping

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Speaker 1: out and being like and going off the handle about

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Speaker 1: whatever it is. Actually both these guys that there's it's

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Speaker 1: it's nothing. If I need to thank you for everything

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Speaker 1: I do, then why am I doing it? I'm not.

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Speaker 1: I'm really not doing it for that. I'm doing it

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Speaker 1: because I want to eat good food with my friends

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Speaker 1: and I want them to have good food too, and

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Speaker 1: I can afford it, so it's good. And I want

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Speaker 1: to stay in a nice place and I want my

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Speaker 1: friends here to hang out with me in between like

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Speaker 1: Jimmy Fallon's producers or whatever it is. That's why they're here.

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Speaker 1: They're not here too, you know, me having them like

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Speaker 1: me being able to boss them around. But like today

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Speaker 1: we were talking about Andrew was going through. We were

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Speaker 1: eating oatmeal out in the pie to tear that I

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Speaker 1: have here. We are going through Andrew was like playing

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Speaker 1: me voicemails of people because he's obsessed so all of

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Speaker 1: you guys that are leaving voicemails. Andrew is hearing all

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Speaker 1: of them. He can't stop. And I go by the way,

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Speaker 1: you know, and he keeps telling me things that mispronounced,

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Speaker 1: like someone mispronounced the word, um god, what was it?

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Speaker 1: It was good fatigu. Someone was reading the word fatigue

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Speaker 1: fatigue in a call asks and the guy said fatigo

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Speaker 1: and we were laughing and I was like, that's so good,

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Speaker 1: and he's like, I go, but you understand, we have

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Speaker 1: a segment for that right like we have listener mail

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Speaker 1: that's coming up. And he was like, yeah, but can

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Speaker 1: we like maybe talk about it? And I go talk

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Speaker 1: to Noah about it, like I don't want, like you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm down for anything, Like that's your job to go

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Speaker 1: Do you know what I'm saying? But I guess I'm

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Speaker 1: running it by me. Is a nice idea, but like

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Speaker 1: just so you know, there's a heads up, Noah that

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Speaker 1: Andrew might be coming to you about having some way

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Speaker 1: that we can read all the kids that we've gotten

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Speaker 1: because we usually do collection of because we have a

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Speaker 1: lot of us backed up, We have a lot of

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Speaker 1: Andrew says, we have a lot of pictures which might

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Speaker 1: be harder to describe, so maybe we should post them

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Speaker 1: on our Instagram. I'm just like, I can't. I don't

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Speaker 1: know what to tell you right now. Andrew. Just talk

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Speaker 1: to Noah and he's always chomping at the bit to

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Speaker 1: tell me so many things. My point is, Noah, yes, please.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like you appreciate when people take initiative from

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Speaker 1: what I'm collecting in here, when they just do it

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Speaker 1: past to do it. But then sometimes they do it

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Speaker 1: and they put the recycling in the trash, do you

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Speaker 1: it upon themselves to clean up the cans, and then

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Speaker 1: to the recycling which is full. And that's where I

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Speaker 1: fucking lose my mind. But again, it's about communicating. It's

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Speaker 1: not about whispering on a podcast. Andrew, like, write down

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Speaker 1: the wall room is literally the next room. A meal's

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Speaker 1: upstairs sleeping, and it's just like this is let me

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Speaker 1: just say, it has been really fun having a house

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Speaker 1: with my friends. And this is way better of a

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Speaker 1: stay in another place than being in a hotel, way better.

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Speaker 1: This is the ideal life is to live in a

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Speaker 1: the guesthouse where the owner of this house is staying.

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Speaker 1: He's his name is Roland. He's like a seventies something

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Speaker 1: He's like kind of hot. It's very confusing that this

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Speaker 1: it is the best experience staying here with friends. And

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Speaker 1: let's get one of those friends in here. It's Andrew Colin.

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Speaker 1: Thanks for letting me vent before he gets here. I

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Speaker 1: don't think i'll ever hear this. Hand drew up. Limpy Magoo,

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Speaker 1: you limped over here? What did you do? You know?

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Speaker 1: When you limp? You Sometimes I feel like when people limp,

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Speaker 1: they just want to tend and you're like over limping.

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Speaker 1: You're not actually in pain. And I never would think

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Speaker 1: that for you. Yeah, because I don't. I don't. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you do a lot of things for attention, but I

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Speaker 1: don't think Olympus one of them. I think that the

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Speaker 1: olymp is the last kind of attention you want because

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Speaker 1: you want to seem young and like spry and telling

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Speaker 1: the truth. I mean, that's true. The olymp is the

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Speaker 1: last thing you would be showing off. It's like, you know, well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I tore my hammy the other day. I was running

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Speaker 1: to impress the girl that we talked about it on here.

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Speaker 1: I don't think so uh oh so yeah, I know

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Speaker 1: it says. No. You know, I'm dating this younger girl

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Speaker 1: who's twenty five soon. Um, so we're closer in age

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Speaker 1: than people should not give me shipped for someone said

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Speaker 1: she looks like my daughter when I put a video up.

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Speaker 1: I mean she could be. Let's see was again, how old?

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Speaker 1: How about his age difference? She's almost twenty six. Don't

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Speaker 1: make me do the math years. Okay, so you definitely

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Speaker 1: could have had a team team mom or all the time.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I was coming, I was probably coming. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you definitely could have come and impregnated someone. Do you

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Speaker 1: remember your first pube? No, I don't know. I know

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Speaker 1: you were out in the h in the front yard,

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Speaker 1: And then we don't have to go to FOURD classes.

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00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:07,280
Speaker 1: Uh kind of can keep talking about this forever. Um,

427
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:16,000
Speaker 1: let's get to the news first. Boy, I hope everyone

428
00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:18,600
Speaker 1: is having fun out there, having all the swells. We

429
00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:21,320
Speaker 1: sure are up here in this span, Arabella, I'll tell

430
00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:25,080
Speaker 1: you that. Uh cool, alright, So for you say something,

431
00:21:25,440 --> 00:21:27,640
Speaker 1: what's that? Did you want me to say? No? No, no,

432
00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 1: I was doing on purpose. Okay, So you were doing

433
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,840
Speaker 1: it like it was kind of like a face. You

434
00:21:32,840 --> 00:21:35,360
Speaker 1: were like, okay, cool, Like you didn't get a response.

435
00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:37,119
Speaker 1: That's like a stand up thing of like how you

436
00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:39,560
Speaker 1: guys doing tonight? All right, Well, you're not gonna give

437
00:21:39,560 --> 00:21:40,879
Speaker 1: me anything, but there was no one to give you

438
00:21:40,920 --> 00:21:42,560
Speaker 1: anything unless you want me to give you something in

439
00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:44,840
Speaker 1: this moment. No, there, I was hoping the audience at

440
00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:48,280
Speaker 1: home was gonna is in their car going no, we're

441
00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:50,400
Speaker 1: not giving okay, So you're just preparing for how they

442
00:21:50,600 --> 00:21:53,920
Speaker 1: received that on their end. Yeah, you're just okay. Protect

443
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:56,640
Speaker 1: to the audience, straight to the listener, straight to Akia.

444
00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:59,879
Speaker 1: You know a Kia, A person in Akia. Oh if

445
00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:03,840
Speaker 1: you knew, Oh my god, we drove one and the

446
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,640
Speaker 1: Caymans and I miss it so much. I missed driving

447
00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:06,800
Speaker 1: on the other side of the road. I'll tell you

448
00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:08,400
Speaker 1: that I missed doing that. You can do that here.

449
00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:10,800
Speaker 1: I listen. I have a couple of times. I'm not

450
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,480
Speaker 1: gonna lie get back to St. Louis and driving I

451
00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 1: really did do that because for me when I was

452
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:18,760
Speaker 1: in the caymano, no, no, no no, not really. But like

453
00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:22,280
Speaker 1: the thing is is like when you get when you

454
00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:24,840
Speaker 1: go to the Cayman Islands and you or Ireland or

455
00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:26,520
Speaker 1: the UK and you're driving on the other side of

456
00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 1: the road and you're American that's trying to adjust over

457
00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:31,679
Speaker 1: a two month period that you're living there. You just

458
00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:34,159
Speaker 1: convince yourself that everything because you get it wrong so

459
00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:35,920
Speaker 1: many times you get into the passenger seats so many

460
00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 1: times when you're trying to get into the driver's seat

461
00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:41,520
Speaker 1: or whatever. It is that you. In my mind, I go, okay,

462
00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 1: every just convince yourself it's easier. It's easier to remember

463
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:49,160
Speaker 1: just the opposite of what is natural than getting on

464
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:51,280
Speaker 1: what side to get on. So whatever feels natural, do

465
00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 1: the opposite of that. That's what I do, like what

466
00:22:53,320 --> 00:22:55,480
Speaker 1: I did in the Caymans. So if I wanted to

467
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:58,200
Speaker 1: look left to see oncoming traffic, I would just look

468
00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:00,159
Speaker 1: right and know that that was right. But then all

469
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,760
Speaker 1: of a sudden that becomes the normal, and then I

470
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:04,920
Speaker 1: start doing the opposite of the normal because I'm still

471
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:07,200
Speaker 1: on this Does that make sense? She's still just going

472
00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:09,840
Speaker 1: opposite instead of, you know, left side of the road.

473
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:11,840
Speaker 1: I just go opposite. But now left side the road

474
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 1: is normal, so then I go right side the road

475
00:23:13,280 --> 00:23:15,840
Speaker 1: because it's opposite. So I'm all fucked up. It reminds

476
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 1: me of when you like make these like ways to

477
00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:21,560
Speaker 1: remember things, and for me, it's like a thousand times harder.

478
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:24,560
Speaker 1: You memorize more things to memorize one thing, right, But

479
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:27,639
Speaker 1: for me, my brain just goes nikki. Every time you

480
00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 1: uh get into the car. It's embarrassing because you open

481
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 1: the door and Andrew's already in the driver's seat driving

482
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:35,800
Speaker 1: when you think you're getting in the passenger seat. So

483
00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:38,640
Speaker 1: to avoid this, just do the opposite of what you want.

484
00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 1: It's like the George castanza when he does the opposite

485
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 1: of everything and he realized it works. He walks up

486
00:23:44,600 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 1: to a hot girl at accountdar and he's like, I'm

487
00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 1: I'm you know how our thirty eight, I'm unemployed, I'm bald,

488
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:55,320
Speaker 1: and I live with my parents. And she goes take

489
00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 1: a seat. She's just's like, and he looks like a Jerry, Like,

490
00:23:59,600 --> 00:24:02,919
Speaker 1: it's more artic, Jerry. It's working. It's just the opposite works.

491
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:07,440
Speaker 1: Body does that with gambling, where he'll like any he'll

492
00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:11,119
Speaker 1: do the opposite of whatever the population does. He'll just

493
00:24:11,600 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 1: pick against it because they're generally wrong. You know, um,

494
00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:19,000
Speaker 1: first first story, women are more likely to file divorce

495
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:20,760
Speaker 1: than men. Are you ready for what do you think

496
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:25,320
Speaker 1: the percentage of women to men is of filing for divorce?

497
00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:27,440
Speaker 1: Because this blew my mind at five in the morning

498
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 1: when I read it. I mean, I'm guessing because you're

499
00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 1: presenting that, I'm guessing it's like seven seven of women.

500
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:40,400
Speaker 1: What is that? I bet it's because do they know why?

501
00:24:41,359 --> 00:24:46,160
Speaker 1: It's because women men are too big of pussies. That's

502
00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:49,520
Speaker 1: one of them to actually take the initiative. They're too

503
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:51,680
Speaker 1: scared of you know, it would be too lazy to

504
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:55,359
Speaker 1: meet a lawyer. Usually men are They have more to lose.

505
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:57,240
Speaker 1: Men have more to lose in a divorce than a woman,

506
00:24:57,359 --> 00:25:00,919
Speaker 1: usually because money. Interesting, this is breaking me back to

507
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:02,880
Speaker 1: what I was talking about before. I want to get married.

508
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:05,119
Speaker 1: I've been talking about a lot like I would. I

509
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:07,840
Speaker 1: was even talking about this guy that I wasn't too recently.

510
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:09,720
Speaker 1: I was like, I just want to date and then

511
00:25:09,720 --> 00:25:12,680
Speaker 1: I want to get married for two years, and everyone's laughing.

512
00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:15,199
Speaker 1: In like two years. I'm like, yeah, that's a good marriage.

513
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:18,000
Speaker 1: It's a good starter marriage. We'll probably last longer than that.

514
00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 1: But a two year marriage is what I'm down for

515
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:21,960
Speaker 1: with a fucking pren up, you know, and I would

516
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:23,639
Speaker 1: have it very But if it's two years, why even

517
00:25:23,640 --> 00:25:25,800
Speaker 1: get married? Even bring the government because I want to.

518
00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:27,879
Speaker 1: I want to try to make it last forever. But

519
00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: my goal is to be married for two years. Is

520
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,960
Speaker 1: that then if it goes three years, you're happy. Yeah,

521
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:34,679
Speaker 1: I want to go as long as possible, But like

522
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 1: I don't expect to be I don't expect marriage to work,

523
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,200
Speaker 1: because most of the time it doesn't. So it's not

524
00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:45,600
Speaker 1: it's actually I don't approach marriage for the rest of

525
00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 1: my life. Please, anyone's saying I want to be with

526
00:25:47,520 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 1: you for the sort of life you know, there's an out,

527
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 1: there's it's not really a huge commitment. The out is

528
00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 1: filing for divorce and it's a pain in the ass,

529
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 1: and there's kids involved in houses and stuff to divide up.

530
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:01,040
Speaker 1: But honestly, I don't really like think you're doing that

531
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: amazing of a thing to be like, I want to

532
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: spend the rest of my life with this woman. You

533
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:07,639
Speaker 1: can literally duck out at any point divorce. Whenever my

534
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:10,880
Speaker 1: friends are like I hate my husband or you know,

535
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: like my marriage, we're not even having sex, and I go,

536
00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 1: thank god, there's divorce, I just remind them, like, this

537
00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 1: isn't like you didn't put a bullet in your head,

538
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:23,399
Speaker 1: Like there's a divorce is not like unless both parties

539
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 1: are like, all right, sweet, it's never easy, like my parents,

540
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 1: I get it. I get that. Then That's what I'm

541
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,439
Speaker 1: saying to people getting married. Make it easy, because you

542
00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:35,000
Speaker 1: no one thinks they're going to get divorced. No one

543
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:38,359
Speaker 1: I mean some people know deep down if you if

544
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:41,480
Speaker 1: you decide to get divorced, just be like even before

545
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:47,119
Speaker 1: you get before for the divorce, because it's going to happen.

546
00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:49,199
Speaker 1: People change. What if he didn't want to sign a prenup,

547
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 1: would you marry him? No? No, I'm keeping my money

548
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:55,200
Speaker 1: and like that. That's ridiculous. No, I wouldn't because anyone

549
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 1: that I would marry, I don't care how much we

550
00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 1: love each other. People sometimes hit their head on an

551
00:27:01,640 --> 00:27:04,600
Speaker 1: amp at an Iron Maiden show or like a Green

552
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:07,119
Speaker 1: October show, whatever the funk you went to, Noah, Sometimes

553
00:27:07,119 --> 00:27:08,840
Speaker 1: an amp falls off, they hit their head and then

554
00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:11,960
Speaker 1: they turn into a psycho. The thing things that happen

555
00:27:12,000 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 1: with your brain. Sometimes you could go swimming in a

556
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 1: pond and catch a bacteria that would make someone start, like,

557
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:21,320
Speaker 1: you know, punching your kids. You know, things can happen

558
00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,080
Speaker 1: based on that you cannot plan for. That can change

559
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:27,879
Speaker 1: a person's personality, or you might meet I might. I'm sorry,

560
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:30,880
Speaker 1: I reserve the right to meet someone. That is if

561
00:27:31,000 --> 00:27:33,760
Speaker 1: my husband, if I get married, my husband is not

562
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 1: really fucking me anymore, not into me physically, which could

563
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:39,199
Speaker 1: happen based on the fact that I'm not going to

564
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:42,440
Speaker 1: these spin classes every day and I'm eating normal meals.

565
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:44,280
Speaker 1: What if I balloon up and he's not attracted me,

566
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 1: He's totally has a right to do that. Or maybe

567
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,280
Speaker 1: I get some kind of skin disease that he's like

568
00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:52,720
Speaker 1: repulsed by because he has like a a weird like

569
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:54,960
Speaker 1: you know, like there could be things that happen out

570
00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:56,919
Speaker 1: of my control that make my husband not want to

571
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:58,920
Speaker 1: suck me. I want to be in a relationship where

572
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:03,479
Speaker 1: I get fucked. If that happens, like I want out,

573
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:05,680
Speaker 1: and I think he should get out. And also if

574
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:08,719
Speaker 1: I if my husband isn't meeting my needs or it

575
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 1: becomes you know, has a bipolar slip where I don't

576
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:16,280
Speaker 1: recognize him anymore, or here's the thing, here's the one

577
00:28:16,280 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 1: I was really getting out. If I meet someone else

578
00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 1: that's better than my husband, by if I if I am,

579
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:27,639
Speaker 1: I'm sorry future husband. If you're listening, that's why you

580
00:28:28,320 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 1: But the thing is, when I feel loved in a

581
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:34,359
Speaker 1: relationship even a little bit, I don't have eyes for

582
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:37,440
Speaker 1: anyone else. So if I developed eyes for someone else,

583
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:40,840
Speaker 1: it's because you aren't fulfilling your end of the bargain.

584
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 1: And I extend the same thing to you. If you

585
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 1: find if you get a crush on someone else, you

586
00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 1: let me know, because that's gonna let me know that

587
00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,280
Speaker 1: I'm not pulling my weight as a woman in the

588
00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 1: really as a wife in the relationship, and that I

589
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:54,320
Speaker 1: either need to straighten up and fly right, or we're

590
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 1: broken and we need to go to counseling, or we

591
00:28:56,600 --> 00:29:00,480
Speaker 1: need to just call it quits. What about before as

592
00:29:00,520 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 1: well as a pre nup, people have to sign something

593
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 1: that they're not going to let themselves go physically. No, no,

594
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 1: you can't. You can't predict that because physical injury, like

595
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 1: you and you can get some kind of like you know,

596
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 1: I will love a guy if he gets like I

597
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:19,960
Speaker 1: think I could love a guy that could become a

598
00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 1: totally not recognizable version of them. Stuff like I want

599
00:29:22,920 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 1: to get old with someone and like see their saggy body.

600
00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 1: Like it's not about that at all. It's about emotionally loved.

601
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 1: Like when you grow with someone you get real old,

602
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:34,520
Speaker 1: Like you see them when they're younger, Do you see

603
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 1: them as their actual I think you see them as

604
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:39,840
Speaker 1: they are. But you know what I will say, Noah,

605
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 1: I was like the last person I was like really

606
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 1: falling for the person I fell in love with before

607
00:29:46,240 --> 00:29:49,080
Speaker 1: I like admitted myself, I was like in love. I was,

608
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 1: I think early on when I first met this person,

609
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 1: I was like on their Instagram and I saw this,

610
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 1: like they put their face in the Old Age app?

611
00:29:56,280 --> 00:30:00,320
Speaker 1: Do you remember that app? Unfortunately everyone look like women

612
00:30:00,360 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 1: didn't put their face in it because it was if

613
00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 1: you saw that image, it would be like bird box.

614
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:05,720
Speaker 1: You would just walk in front of a fucking train

615
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 1: immediately if you saw what you would look like in

616
00:30:08,280 --> 00:30:11,800
Speaker 1: fifty years. But men, he posted his on his Instagram,

617
00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:13,760
Speaker 1: and I at first, when I before I knew him

618
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 1: and was in love with him, I was just like,

619
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 1: I don't want to see that. No, I don't want

620
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 1: to see like this old Like he looked fucking old

621
00:30:19,040 --> 00:30:25,640
Speaker 1: and not like it. It was just a filterless photo.

622
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: But then when I was in love with him, I

623
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:31,280
Speaker 1: went back and I looked at the photo and I

624
00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 1: was like zooming in on it, being like I want

625
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:36,800
Speaker 1: to fucking wipe this guy when he looks like this

626
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:38,640
Speaker 1: and he's in a bed, like I want to, like,

627
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 1: I love this old man, like I was turned on

628
00:30:43,280 --> 00:30:45,800
Speaker 1: by this, and that's what love can do. Like that's

629
00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:49,760
Speaker 1: I Understation loves Now. It's like initially when I looked

630
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 1: at this guy and I was just like, I think

631
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 1: he's cute, I was just like, I don't want to

632
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 1: see that. I don't want to see him old, like

633
00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:56,440
Speaker 1: I don't need to and it was like repulsive. This

634
00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:58,680
Speaker 1: other time, I was literally zooming in on an age spot,

635
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,600
Speaker 1: being like I want to kiss that, like disgusting age,

636
00:31:01,680 --> 00:31:05,760
Speaker 1: but on it's you know, wrinkly, flabby chin. It's like

637
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:08,800
Speaker 1: and that's because of that. I feel safe knowing that

638
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:12,360
Speaker 1: I for for the first time in my life, I'm like,

639
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:14,280
Speaker 1: I don't when I the other day, I saw some

640
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:16,400
Speaker 1: really bad pictures of myself that I was like, wow,

641
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:17,960
Speaker 1: I look a lot older than I thought I was,

642
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 1: you know, just one of those which I'm not saying

643
00:31:19,760 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 1: I look old, but it was just bad lighting and

644
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:23,280
Speaker 1: it just showed my age in a way that I

645
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:25,880
Speaker 1: haven't seen in a while, which happens I'm an aging woman.

646
00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 1: That it's not a bad thing, but I saw the

647
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 1: truth and I was so sad for a second, and

648
00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 1: then I was like, it doesn't matter, because the person

649
00:31:34,360 --> 00:31:37,160
Speaker 1: out there that's gonna love me doesn't will never look

650
00:31:37,160 --> 00:31:39,320
Speaker 1: at that picture and be like, oh, she's discussing. And

651
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 1: if they do like the I just know now that

652
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,560
Speaker 1: love that I don't need to have good looks too.

653
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 1: Two years but you're going to die, I mean, then

654
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have a bunch of birds and hang out

655
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:58,520
Speaker 1: with all my girlfriends in a well. Do you do

656
00:31:58,560 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 1: you think that you could love someone who gets wrinkly

657
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 1: and old? Like? Have you felt that kind of love

658
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 1: where you're like, I want to grow old with them,

659
00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 1: like you know the wedding singer song. I do think

660
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:09,800
Speaker 1: the older I get, the more I appreciate women for

661
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 1: their flaws as well as like looking great like I do,

662
00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: like you know, and by flaws I mean one armpit hair.

663
00:32:16,680 --> 00:32:19,479
Speaker 1: Um no, but like no, but like I honestly do,

664
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:22,320
Speaker 1: like I do. Think the sunlight, let me see your

665
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 1: armpit hairs and then your mom goes Andrew, No, I

666
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 1: told you my pussy palette is getting more mature. My

667
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 1: my told me this yesterday. My skin seen the face

668
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 1: like eight spots when all my palettes won't get Ankle

669
00:32:38,600 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 1: hair used to be like if you saw a bunch

670
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 1: of hairs on a girl's ankle used to be like,

671
00:32:42,280 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 1: but that's early on. Once you really love someone, you're

672
00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:47,280
Speaker 1: like you can open up the flaw. Yeah, it's like

673
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: the leg hair on a girl that you like, you

674
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 1: don't get turned off by. I'm like, I'm not gonna

675
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,880
Speaker 1: fuck you because you're a tarantula. I'm gonna suck you

676
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:57,720
Speaker 1: because you are a tarantula. Right. I just I didn't know.

677
00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:00,720
Speaker 1: I felt that way with my ex boyfriend. I loved

678
00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 1: when he didn't look the greatest, Like I still loved

679
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:04,960
Speaker 1: him and was like, I don't care if you're twenty

680
00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 1: pounds overweight, and he felt the same way about me.

681
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:10,280
Speaker 1: But I just really know now that like I don't

682
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 1: need my looks to survive, Like I feel like my

683
00:33:13,240 --> 00:33:15,280
Speaker 1: career is good enough, Like I can put on enough

684
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 1: makeup to look serviceable. It feels freeing. I mean, all

685
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:20,560
Speaker 1: of this is connected to the workout classes that not

686
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:24,520
Speaker 1: overeating all of this accepting my body and like their days,

687
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: I am a skinny woman. I'm not saying because there

688
00:33:26,840 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 1: are probably some fat people listening. And I do say

689
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 1: that in just the term that fat acceptance movement is

690
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:34,920
Speaker 1: like people like to be called fat, Like they're like, yeah,

691
00:33:34,920 --> 00:33:37,200
Speaker 1: I'm fat, So they're probably fat people listening being like

692
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: easy for you to say, because I'm trying my best,

693
00:33:40,720 --> 00:33:43,400
Speaker 1: and because I could, this is the way my body

694
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 1: wants to be, Like, this is the way my body

695
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 1: is meant to be. I get my period. Everything is

696
00:33:46,720 --> 00:33:50,440
Speaker 1: working in order, and I'm lucky for me that the

697
00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:53,080
Speaker 1: way my body is is the way that the industry

698
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:56,400
Speaker 1: rewards of, like a lanky lady. So but I know

699
00:33:56,560 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 1: that as I get older, I see yesterday, I was

700
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:00,560
Speaker 1: looking at it. Sorry, no, I'm gonna get to the

701
00:34:00,560 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 1: next ory. But yesterday, and I know women relate to this.

702
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 1: I was looking at a picture of God, who was

703
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:09,440
Speaker 1: it that used to be? If you ever look at

704
00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 1: like between Stevie Nicks. Okay, you know we've been watching

705
00:34:13,560 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 1: that Steve Nicks video that you all watched. She's probably

706
00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:19,799
Speaker 1: a size fourteen as a fifty something year old woman

707
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:24,400
Speaker 1: when she sang Silver Springs, which that's that's the way

708
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 1: her body probably should be. Right, But in nineteen there's

709
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,239
Speaker 1: a picture of her nineteen eighty two, she is a

710
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 1: size negative eighteen zeros like Abercrombie zero zero zero zero

711
00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:35,839
Speaker 1: wouldn't have fit this woman in the seventies. And look

712
00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:37,840
Speaker 1: at that, and I go Nikki, whatever weight you are

713
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,359
Speaker 1: at thirty six, like, you are not going to stay

714
00:34:40,400 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 1: this way Like it's not it's You're not going to

715
00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 1: be a Kelly Ripper because I'm not going to do

716
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:46,800
Speaker 1: those workout classes. I'm not going to starve myself the

717
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 1: rest of my life to maintain a body of a

718
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 1: twenty year old when I'm fifty seven, I'm not gonna

719
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 1: be j Lo. But what that's okay? There are sixty

720
00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:58,080
Speaker 1: year old men. There's seven year old that are like

721
00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:01,680
Speaker 1: an amazing shape that are actually in better shape than

722
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 1: when they were forty five. There are those people that

723
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,680
Speaker 1: are naturally like more muscular people. My dad is one

724
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:07,359
Speaker 1: of those people. People think my dad works out all

725
00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:09,200
Speaker 1: the time. He does like, you know, twenty push ups

726
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:11,279
Speaker 1: a day. That's not the same as going to an

727
00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:14,799
Speaker 1: eight hundred calorie spinning class every day. I'm just saying

728
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 1: that I think like Stevie Nicks if I'm not saying

729
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 1: that you should like only work on like your whatever

730
00:35:21,239 --> 00:35:23,359
Speaker 1: your body should be, but like I think like the

731
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:25,600
Speaker 1: idea of like, oh, I'm just gonna be out of

732
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:27,600
Speaker 1: shape because I'm older. You don't. You don't be out

733
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:29,239
Speaker 1: of shape, but you got it as a woman. When

734
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:33,200
Speaker 1: you stop, when you stop being uh, when you get older,

735
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:37,400
Speaker 1: you get a flat, long ass, You get a pupa

736
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 1: that's like this. You know your middle school teacher's big

737
00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:42,759
Speaker 1: belly that looks like she's pregnant. You get that. You

738
00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 1: get saggy hips, your arm skin starts to sack. These

739
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:49,480
Speaker 1: are unavoidable, and I'm I'm bring them on. I honestly

740
00:35:49,520 --> 00:35:51,279
Speaker 1: I will. I think I will for the first time

741
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:54,080
Speaker 1: in life. I'll be okay when I start really decaying

742
00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:57,040
Speaker 1: as a as a body should read the really quick,

743
00:35:57,560 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 1: and I could. I could get some autoimmune to sees

744
00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:03,040
Speaker 1: that makes me gain a hundred pounds over the next

745
00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:06,000
Speaker 1: six months. And although I don't want that, if I

746
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:07,640
Speaker 1: got that, because there are people out there with that

747
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:09,680
Speaker 1: right now that are listening that are like, there's nothing

748
00:36:09,719 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 1: I can do. I have a what's it called a

749
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:17,680
Speaker 1: thyroid condition that makes me fat. You even there's I

750
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 1: could be happy being fat if that's what my body

751
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 1: wanted to be. Yeah, And people like find that very

752
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 1: very hard for me, because I'm not pretending it's not.

753
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 1: Because society treats that people so differently, and that would

754
00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 1: be hard for me. But I am getting better about

755
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 1: like aging, and like, I was talking to a meal

756
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:37,239
Speaker 1: about it that because the meal is twenty three and

757
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:40,440
Speaker 1: we were talking about um, like hotness, and he was like,

758
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 1: but the thing is, nikki, he was like, he made

759
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:45,000
Speaker 1: the point. He was like, women, you should only compare

760
00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:47,319
Speaker 1: yourself to like other women your age, like if you're

761
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 1: hot for your age. And I don't know, that's not

762
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 1: what women are told. He goes, I look at women like, oh,

763
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:55,080
Speaker 1: she's hot for her age. I don't compare like a

764
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:57,359
Speaker 1: hot forty year old to a hot twenty year old.

765
00:36:57,400 --> 00:37:00,880
Speaker 1: And I go, we do women do? Men are constantly

766
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 1: looking at twenty year olds being like I need to

767
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 1: look at that when I liked the way that the

768
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:05,640
Speaker 1: meal looked at it, and I didn't know people even

769
00:37:05,680 --> 00:37:08,279
Speaker 1: looked at it that way. Yeah, I agree with the meal.

770
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 1: Guys break it up in category like that. That's why

771
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,319
Speaker 1: there's you know mills and Okay, so if I'm a

772
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:16,200
Speaker 1: hot forty year old, okay, I'm sorry to get off

773
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:20,520
Speaker 1: to a hot year old. You're a guy. Let's pretend

774
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 1: we don't know each other. You're a guy that's thirty

775
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:27,040
Speaker 1: or your forty one, right, and I'm a forty three

776
00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 1: year old woman who is probably an eight for forty three,

777
00:37:30,160 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 1: like top of the game, forty let's say nine, like

778
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 1: pretty hot for a fourth or year old woman. And

779
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:37,720
Speaker 1: then there is a twenty year old woman or twenty

780
00:37:37,719 --> 00:37:40,160
Speaker 1: five year old woman who is an eight for twenty

781
00:37:40,200 --> 00:37:42,839
Speaker 1: five year old. You're gonna go for the twenty five

782
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:45,040
Speaker 1: year old? Why? As me? That's where I think your

783
00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 1: thing breaks down, because no one's going to go I'm

784
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 1: actually gonna go for the Is this where personality comes in?

785
00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 1: I think men are always going to choose younger. Well,

786
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:54,279
Speaker 1: I think you answered what I was gonna say. Are

787
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,799
Speaker 1: you talking to the person? Are you having conversation? Five

788
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,920
Speaker 1: year old doesn't want to talk yet? She talks and ticked.

789
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:03,239
Speaker 1: That's kind of little dances. This is me being just

790
00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:06,360
Speaker 1: like an out of touch old millennial. Yeah no, I

791
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,799
Speaker 1: mean I I you know she talks like this, the

792
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 1: TikTok voice that everyone uses. What if all little like

793
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:15,520
Speaker 1: jen X is talked like this. I am so tired

794
00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:17,880
Speaker 1: of this voice on TikTok's And what's the fourty year

795
00:38:17,920 --> 00:38:21,600
Speaker 1: old voice? I'm like, oh, well, hey, boys, get around

796
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:23,799
Speaker 1: and look at my view. It sounds like your mom

797
00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 1: and every every impression Andrew does, whether it's his nephews,

798
00:38:28,000 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 1: do your nephews? Hey, do your dad know? Your dad

799
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:40,919
Speaker 1: is not that? Your dad is same voice? I I'm

800
00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:44,359
Speaker 1: so diet. It's all the same person. I spear of God.

801
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:47,919
Speaker 1: There all your fun you changed it? Okay, next story?

802
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:50,680
Speaker 1: Do we want to say the divorce like real quick?

803
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:54,320
Speaker 1: Like all six of them? Okay. They want satisfying careers

804
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 1: of marriages. They become frustrated with men who resist change

805
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 1: as they marry men for their potential, they're unwilling to

806
00:39:00,080 --> 00:39:03,320
Speaker 1: kept unhappy relationships. Men believe that they have more to

807
00:39:03,440 --> 00:39:05,799
Speaker 1: lose than women in a divorce. Women are quicker to

808
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:08,799
Speaker 1: consult the lawyer, and women are more observant of red

809
00:39:08,840 --> 00:39:12,359
Speaker 1: flags and relationships with I had a friend yesterday who

810
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 1: I haven't seen a while, and I found out she

811
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:15,400
Speaker 1: get divorced and I wasn't able to do it, but

812
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:17,440
Speaker 1: usually I almost did it, but it was like a

813
00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:19,440
Speaker 1: work call, so I was uncomfortable and it was in

814
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:21,040
Speaker 1: front of other people. But when I do talk to her,

815
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 1: she was like, Niggie, I don't know if you know,

816
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,640
Speaker 1: but I got divorced, and I usually go congratulations, to

817
00:39:25,680 --> 00:39:27,759
Speaker 1: people who got divorced, because I think it is the

818
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:30,640
Speaker 1: hardest thing to do and it's brave to do. But

819
00:39:30,680 --> 00:39:33,319
Speaker 1: I mean the first one you said about men, not

820
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:35,400
Speaker 1: this is what this is happening in so many of

821
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 1: my friends relationships, and not just men. They these they

822
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:41,719
Speaker 1: these girls marry men because they're like, oh my god,

823
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:43,279
Speaker 1: he's successful and he has all these things. And then

824
00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 1: the women keep working on themselves and then over then

825
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,879
Speaker 1: they become fantastic and the men stay the same because

826
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:52,279
Speaker 1: the men don't really work on themselves as much as women.

827
00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:54,760
Speaker 1: That's why if you have a wife or a boyfriend

828
00:39:54,760 --> 00:39:56,560
Speaker 1: that's working on themselves, you better work on yourself too,

829
00:39:56,560 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 1: because they're gonna get better and there because they want

830
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:00,880
Speaker 1: to earn you, and they're gonna get better than you

831
00:40:00,920 --> 00:40:03,040
Speaker 1: because you're not doing anything. Also, if you meet a

832
00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:06,760
Speaker 1: guy who who's older and you're attracted to him because

833
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:10,000
Speaker 1: he's more powerful in the dynamic, whether it's business or

834
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 1: like just you know, in your life, you're eventually gonna

835
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:16,320
Speaker 1: keep maturing and he's going to become less powerful, and

836
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:18,879
Speaker 1: it's gonna That's what I'm saying. It's unless he's working

837
00:40:18,880 --> 00:40:21,400
Speaker 1: on himself too, and getting better too. You're both you

838
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:23,480
Speaker 1: both gotta work on each other. If you're with someone

839
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:25,320
Speaker 1: that isn't working on the selves and you're working on yourself,

840
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:27,719
Speaker 1: you're eventually gonna end. It's unless you give that guy

841
00:40:27,719 --> 00:40:29,719
Speaker 1: an ultimatum or that girl an ultimatum. And that says,

842
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:31,359
Speaker 1: if you don't go to therapy soon or at least

843
00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:32,759
Speaker 1: look into it, you don't need to solve it. But

844
00:40:32,800 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 1: if you don't start working on yourself, like I am,

845
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 1: I will leave. And here's the date that I will leave.

846
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:40,840
Speaker 1: If you don't have a planet talking about financial potential,

847
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 1: then I mean because yeah, I mean yeah. I mean

848
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:44,880
Speaker 1: like if a guy has been unemployed forever and is

849
00:40:44,880 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 1: not working hard enough to find a job, if you

850
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 1: don't start actually working hard enough to find a job

851
00:40:48,680 --> 00:40:51,399
Speaker 1: in three months, at this date, I am leaving. I'm

852
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:53,840
Speaker 1: leaving the house. And so it gives him an ultimatum.

853
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 1: That's easier said than done. Uh, let's get to why

854
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,719
Speaker 1: do I care? Why do I care? All right? Why

855
00:40:58,760 --> 00:41:02,600
Speaker 1: do you care? A rod Alex Fredriguez is reportedly shocked

856
00:41:02,600 --> 00:41:05,319
Speaker 1: by the photos of Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck and

857
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 1: Montana and has been reaching out to make it work. Yeah,

858
00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:12,680
Speaker 1: I'm sure he is spiraling. I am so excited about

859
00:41:12,719 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 1: Ben and jen benefit getting back together. It is I

860
00:41:17,239 --> 00:41:19,319
Speaker 1: was looking at all these pictures. Yesterday they were caught

861
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:21,239
Speaker 1: getting on a private plane together. I guess they're going

862
00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:24,120
Speaker 1: on to Montana. They are all the pictures of them

863
00:41:24,120 --> 00:41:25,840
Speaker 1: when they were back, when they were together, back in

864
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:29,279
Speaker 1: the late nineties, early two thousands, whenever it was so

865
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: hot they are. I'm excited for them. Now. Do you

866
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 1: think that maybe something was going down because Affleck broke

867
00:41:35,800 --> 00:41:37,759
Speaker 1: up with his girlfriend as well? Do you think they

868
00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:41,520
Speaker 1: were maybe talking, maybe there was an email and yes,

869
00:41:41,760 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 1: And I think there's nothing wrong if you're in a

870
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:46,759
Speaker 1: dying relationship. I don't think there's if you're in a

871
00:41:46,760 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 1: relationship where you're not getting your needs met and you're

872
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 1: not married. I don't find anything wrong with putting it

873
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,160
Speaker 1: out there and being like, who's out there for me

874
00:41:55,200 --> 00:41:56,600
Speaker 1: to funk? Because I'm about to get out of this

875
00:41:56,920 --> 00:41:58,920
Speaker 1: my I know that sounds terrible and you're like, Nikki,

876
00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:01,759
Speaker 1: that's cheating. Well, some people need a fucking lily pad.

877
00:42:01,840 --> 00:42:03,719
Speaker 1: But they're a little frog and they need a lily

878
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 1: pad to jump onto before they take a leap. You

879
00:42:06,040 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 1: need a lily pep and it's probably not going to

880
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:12,359
Speaker 1: be the one. But I like, let's say you were

881
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:15,480
Speaker 1: and you're you're unhappy with a Rod because you think

882
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:18,120
Speaker 1: maybe he's he's might be cheating or whatever, and so

883
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:20,440
Speaker 1: you write an email to Ben Affleck, who used to

884
00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:23,400
Speaker 1: be your boyfriend. I say to A Rod, I'm getting

885
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:25,640
Speaker 1: the suspicion that you're pulling away and being more distanced.

886
00:42:25,640 --> 00:42:28,000
Speaker 1: I think there's something that's going on. If we don't

887
00:42:28,040 --> 00:42:30,920
Speaker 1: address this soon, it's going to I want to get

888
00:42:30,960 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 1: ahead of this because I want to be with you.

889
00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:33,480
Speaker 1: But if I didn't want to be with them and

890
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:35,440
Speaker 1: I felt them pulling away, I would just tell them.

891
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 1: But at the same time that's something Sometimes it's just

892
00:42:37,960 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 1: hard to do that, And I think. I just remember

893
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:43,600
Speaker 1: my therapist giving me, like when I was talking about

894
00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:46,160
Speaker 1: a boyfriend that I wanted to like possibly break up with,

895
00:42:46,239 --> 00:42:48,200
Speaker 1: she was like, I know you, Nikki, You're never going

896
00:42:48,239 --> 00:42:49,719
Speaker 1: to leave him until you find a you have a

897
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:52,359
Speaker 1: crush on someone else. It doesn't mean I'm I'm I'm

898
00:42:52,400 --> 00:42:54,839
Speaker 1: actively making out with someone else or going on dates

899
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: or sneaking around. It means I see, I feel spark

900
00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:00,319
Speaker 1: with someone else, and that will get you to leave.

901
00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:01,719
Speaker 1: And I told that to my friend the other night

902
00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:03,680
Speaker 1: that was talking about leaving her boyfriend. I was like,

903
00:43:04,520 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 1: she was like, I just don't know. I just and

904
00:43:06,080 --> 00:43:08,279
Speaker 1: I don't I know. You're never gonna leave him, it's

905
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 1: going to You need to just start looking around because

906
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:12,239
Speaker 1: the second you feel a little bit of like I

907
00:43:12,280 --> 00:43:15,279
Speaker 1: can recrush on this person, you'll be able to cut loose.

908
00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:16,640
Speaker 1: And I don't think there's anything wrong with that. You

909
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:18,279
Speaker 1: don't need to cheat on him. You just need to

910
00:43:18,280 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 1: feel the spark of hope that there could be someone else,

911
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:22,279
Speaker 1: because that's why so many people don't leave it, because

912
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 1: they don't think there could be someone else. How do

913
00:43:26,480 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 1: um so, But my point though, was like, how do

914
00:43:28,680 --> 00:43:30,800
Speaker 1: you to Ben Affleck? You you write him an email

915
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:37,280
Speaker 1: or text me like hey, yeah, yeah, congratulations on your relapse.

916
00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:41,120
Speaker 1: Yeah I miss you. Yeah, I love that, you know,

917
00:43:41,239 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 1: I wrote on Ben affleckx um. I commented on his

918
00:43:45,080 --> 00:43:49,440
Speaker 1: Instagram that I saw a picture he did a Mother's

919
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 1: Day post for Jennifer Garner with all these pictures of

920
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 1: being a grandmother. Yeah. The other day Sunday, and I wrote,

921
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:57,400
Speaker 1: um co parenting goals because it was sweet because he

922
00:43:57,440 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 1: was saying, like, you're singing the birds. But I almost

923
00:43:59,520 --> 00:44:01,359
Speaker 1: wrote I had it drafted, but I was a little

924
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:02,960
Speaker 1: bit high, and I didn't want I don't ever want

925
00:44:02,960 --> 00:44:04,759
Speaker 1: to like write a comment that I'm taking a chance

926
00:44:04,760 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 1: on when I'm high, even though it's a chance to

927
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 1: even comment on ben Afflex because I have a blue

928
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:10,080
Speaker 1: checkmark and those things get like shot up pretty quick

929
00:44:10,080 --> 00:44:12,279
Speaker 1: in someone's comments. I didn't go back and look at it, though,

930
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:16,520
Speaker 1: but I wrote, Um, I wanted to rate, Uh, it's

931
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:19,520
Speaker 1: it's nice to see the other I was like, I

932
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:23,239
Speaker 1: wanted to say something about, um, it's nice to see

933
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:25,879
Speaker 1: the other side of your relationship other than the one

934
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:29,280
Speaker 1: I some version of other than the one I scroll

935
00:44:29,320 --> 00:44:31,080
Speaker 1: through late at night on the Daily Mail, where you

936
00:44:31,120 --> 00:44:34,120
Speaker 1: guys are dropping your kids off at swim practice outside

937
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:37,360
Speaker 1: and you have a casual conversation while you're holding onto

938
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:40,799
Speaker 1: a fence. They're always like looking through a fence at

939
00:44:40,800 --> 00:44:43,320
Speaker 1: their kids playing baseball and they're kind of having like

940
00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:46,200
Speaker 1: casual chit chat. And she's always wearing like amazing jeans

941
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 1: that make her butt looks so good, and I'm like,

942
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:50,480
Speaker 1: oh my god, she like probably knew she's gonna see

943
00:44:50,480 --> 00:44:53,080
Speaker 1: your ex husband and wanted to look like but I

944
00:44:53,160 --> 00:44:58,760
Speaker 1: always see them meeting up without the bun at the game. Yeah,

945
00:45:02,600 --> 00:45:05,920
Speaker 1: I mean I I just thought it was really sweet.

946
00:45:05,920 --> 00:45:07,919
Speaker 1: I love when parents are able to get along after

947
00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:10,759
Speaker 1: they split up, and whether or not it's a yeah,

948
00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:15,040
Speaker 1: I think we'd yeah, Okay, what were you gonna say? No, no, no,

949
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 1: it's not that important. Honestly, I was just gonna say that, Like,

950
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 1: you seem to like you've gotten back with an X

951
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:24,799
Speaker 1: a lot, so like this kind of in a way

952
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 1: may give you hope not to get with an X,

953
00:45:27,520 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 1: but that I love the idea of, like, seventeen years later,

954
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:33,399
Speaker 1: you're like, we we had sexual chemistry seventeen years ago.

955
00:45:33,640 --> 00:45:37,120
Speaker 1: I'm j lo. I still look I look seventeen years

956
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 1: younger than I probably did then. I'm aging backwards. You're

957
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:42,600
Speaker 1: still hot. You got a new tattoo. I want to

958
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 1: check out. We have a lot to catch up on.

959
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:47,359
Speaker 1: That is amazing that you already have this chemistry with someone.

960
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:50,880
Speaker 1: I don't think a week oh she does. She's definitely

961
00:45:50,880 --> 00:45:53,040
Speaker 1: addicted to working out and probably isn't as happy as

962
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:54,960
Speaker 1: we all think she is. But that's for me to

963
00:45:55,000 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 1: project and for you to believe. All right, so now

964
00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 1: it's time for Reddit dump. I saved a bunch of

965
00:46:01,239 --> 00:46:03,239
Speaker 1: things this week on my Reddit account. That is a

966
00:46:03,280 --> 00:46:05,480
Speaker 1: private account that I use and I comment on things

967
00:46:06,080 --> 00:46:08,239
Speaker 1: and um and I never want you to find out

968
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:10,120
Speaker 1: who I am, But I save a lot of cool

969
00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:11,880
Speaker 1: stuff on Reddit, and I want to share some of

970
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 1: it with you. UM. I like this one. It's from

971
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 1: Here's a vegan one. I sometimes save good vegan messaging.

972
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 1: This is from the subreddit vegan and the title is

973
00:46:23,520 --> 00:46:26,239
Speaker 1: some people are so skeptical of trying vegan food. Oh

974
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 1: it's quote from a guy named Christopher Eubanks. I don't

975
00:46:28,800 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 1: know who this is, but will you read that quote

976
00:46:30,600 --> 00:46:32,360
Speaker 1: of his and tell me what you think about it

977
00:46:32,400 --> 00:46:34,839
Speaker 1: as a non vegan, because I think it's some people

978
00:46:34,880 --> 00:46:38,759
Speaker 1: are so skeptical of trying vegan food they act like

979
00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:42,920
Speaker 1: it's made out of dead animals. I like that that

980
00:46:42,960 --> 00:46:45,440
Speaker 1: cuts through the core of like people are like you

981
00:46:46,160 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 1: beat like when someone goes I'm not gonna eat homeless,

982
00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 1: it's like, you know the people that are just like

983
00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:56,319
Speaker 1: meats for life, and they're like, it's so cool. And

984
00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:58,480
Speaker 1: by the way, Christopher, you Banks is an American professional

985
00:46:58,480 --> 00:47:02,160
Speaker 1: tennis player. Okay, so he's a year old tennis player

986
00:47:02,320 --> 00:47:08,640
Speaker 1: six seven damn, and he's a vegan, very fit, very athletic. Um,

987
00:47:08,760 --> 00:47:12,200
Speaker 1: and he said that, But I just love someone made

988
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 1: a point of like like cook, like you know guys

989
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:19,480
Speaker 1: that are like barbecue's life or like home mrs gross.

990
00:47:19,520 --> 00:47:20,960
Speaker 1: And then you're like, do you want this bean dip

991
00:47:21,000 --> 00:47:23,440
Speaker 1: for your for Super Bowl Sunday? And they're like, yeah,

992
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:27,600
Speaker 1: it's like home, muss bean dip, you fucking idiot. It's yeah,

993
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:30,520
Speaker 1: but it's it's gay bean dip. Yeah, you're right, it's

994
00:47:30,800 --> 00:47:34,200
Speaker 1: it's your deep. Now that's manly, but home is dip.

995
00:47:35,239 --> 00:47:38,439
Speaker 1: And then, but I just love that people. Whenever people

996
00:47:38,480 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 1: are trying to argue that vegan food is gross, it's

997
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:43,280
Speaker 1: like your food is made out of literal, dead animals.

998
00:47:43,280 --> 00:47:46,440
Speaker 1: It's so disgusting, and I just yeah, but I used

999
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 1: to eat meat, so I don't judge whatever. Um, this

1000
00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:55,399
Speaker 1: is an interesting one. Like no one lets their brain

1001
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:58,080
Speaker 1: go there, ever, like if you let your brain go

1002
00:47:58,239 --> 00:48:01,080
Speaker 1: to them actually cutting them, well that's the thing. I

1003
00:48:01,200 --> 00:48:02,960
Speaker 1: let my brain go there. Why does anyone want to

1004
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:04,839
Speaker 1: live in denial? My other night, I told my mom

1005
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 1: to watch the Octopus Teacher because you said you watched it,

1006
00:48:07,560 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 1: And I go, did it make you not want to

1007
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:10,920
Speaker 1: want eat octopus? And you go, it made me not

1008
00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 1: want to eat any animal? And I go, great, everyone

1009
00:48:13,719 --> 00:48:15,239
Speaker 1: needs to see that. Then I don't need to see it.

1010
00:48:15,239 --> 00:48:16,920
Speaker 1: I'm already sold. I don't want to see how much

1011
00:48:17,000 --> 00:48:19,080
Speaker 1: octopus this feels, so that I feel sadder when I

1012
00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 1: walked past a sushi restaurant than I already do, Like

1013
00:48:21,200 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 1: I'm already doing my part, but I want my mom to.

1014
00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 1: The other night, I went, I go, mom Andrew, watch

1015
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:28,239
Speaker 1: Octopus Teacher. Let's watch it because my mom loves a

1016
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:32,400
Speaker 1: three octopus salad from deer Berg's in the in the

1017
00:48:32,520 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 1: gross food section, she buys like discount octopus salad. She's

1018
00:48:36,200 --> 00:48:38,680
Speaker 1: or squid salad. I love a good squid salad. Nikki,

1019
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:40,720
Speaker 1: I'm so excited to go to Grease to eat squid.

1020
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:42,840
Speaker 1: And I go watch Octopus Teacher. Mom Andrew said he

1021
00:48:42,840 --> 00:48:45,440
Speaker 1: canny octopus anymore because of it, or maybe any any

1022
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:51,319
Speaker 1: any because it has feelings and it can Yeah, you

1023
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:54,480
Speaker 1: can't develop an emotional relationship with an octopus. Yeah, Now

1024
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,400
Speaker 1: we love that because they're brilliant, But my mom goes, Nikki,

1025
00:48:57,400 --> 00:48:58,520
Speaker 1: I don't want to watch that because I want to

1026
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:01,360
Speaker 1: enjoy octopus, and I go, that's sad that you know

1027
00:49:01,440 --> 00:49:03,839
Speaker 1: there's information out there that would make it impossible for

1028
00:49:03,880 --> 00:49:06,080
Speaker 1: you to eat an octopus, because you would see it

1029
00:49:06,160 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 1: as something of what it is. The truth is out there,

1030
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:11,520
Speaker 1: yet you're in denial. You're just as bad as the

1031
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:14,840
Speaker 1: Trump voters that you pretend to loathe so much, that

1032
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:17,719
Speaker 1: are in denial about climate change and about how much

1033
00:49:17,719 --> 00:49:21,719
Speaker 1: of a sociopathic narcissist he is you are You are not.

1034
00:49:22,480 --> 00:49:24,440
Speaker 1: You're not exposing yourself to inform it. You're watching the

1035
00:49:24,440 --> 00:49:27,279
Speaker 1: Fox News of eating by not exposing yourself to the

1036
00:49:27,320 --> 00:49:31,560
Speaker 1: truth of animal suffering, And that to me made me

1037
00:49:31,640 --> 00:49:34,800
Speaker 1: really sad that people. I don't need to watch factory

1038
00:49:34,800 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 1: farm footage to be convinced to not eat cows. I

1039
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:39,360
Speaker 1: know what happens because I read a paragraph about it

1040
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:41,080
Speaker 1: because I don't want to see it. So if you

1041
00:49:41,080 --> 00:49:43,320
Speaker 1: don't want to see you could read about the stuff

1042
00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:46,680
Speaker 1: and maybe maybe unlock something in your brain that makes

1043
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:48,239
Speaker 1: it impossible for you to do that. Why would that

1044
00:49:48,239 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 1: be so bad? Because you like octopus salad so much,

1045
00:49:50,520 --> 00:49:52,960
Speaker 1: or you like Calamari so much, Get over yourself. Okay,

1046
00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:55,480
Speaker 1: this is the cutest thing from reddit dump. This is

1047
00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:58,800
Speaker 1: I found in the subreddit next fucking level. It's called

1048
00:49:58,840 --> 00:50:01,160
Speaker 1: and it's just like great Vitty. You was so the

1049
00:50:01,200 --> 00:50:03,760
Speaker 1: subredditt next level. It's as six year old helps manage

1050
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:05,560
Speaker 1: four year old brother who is about to have a

1051
00:50:05,560 --> 00:50:09,359
Speaker 1: whole tantrum. His six year old helps manage four year

1052
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:12,040
Speaker 1: old brothers breathing so he could calm down, and his

1053
00:50:12,040 --> 00:50:13,760
Speaker 1: four year old brother was about to have a tantrum.

1054
00:50:13,920 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 1: So watch this little boy. It's hard to read headlines well,

1055
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:20,840
Speaker 1: especially when an idiot writes some first a subreddit, not

1056
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:25,200
Speaker 1: when no, the headlines you read are literally headlines written

1057
00:50:25,200 --> 00:50:27,879
Speaker 1: by like professional journalists, and you can't figure them out.

1058
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Speaker 1: I got hit on her head at the concert, Okay,

1059
00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:53,400
Speaker 1: I think, isn't that so cute? Okay, So what we

1060
00:50:53,520 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 1: just watched is that there's a little boy who's, like

1061
00:50:57,200 --> 00:50:59,759
Speaker 1: I said, six and with his little brother, the four

1062
00:50:59,840 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 1: year it was about to like scream and cry, and

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00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 1: the six year old boy just I just said, breathe

1064
00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:09,120
Speaker 1: in and breathe out, breathe in and breathe out, and

1065
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:11,080
Speaker 1: the little boy, the little boys talking to his shaking

1066
00:51:11,080 --> 00:51:13,920
Speaker 1: his arm like I want to cry, and he goes listen, focus,

1067
00:51:14,200 --> 00:51:16,640
Speaker 1: breathe in and breathe out, and that you can tell

1068
00:51:16,640 --> 00:51:19,759
Speaker 1: the mom is like the secretly videotaping this from like

1069
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Speaker 1: the where they don't know that they're watching, and the

1070
00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:26,759
Speaker 1: little boy calms down the little boy and um, and

1071
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:30,000
Speaker 1: I was reading through this the comments and it said,

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00:51:30,719 --> 00:51:32,440
Speaker 1: hopefully this four year old will be doing that to

1073
00:51:32,480 --> 00:51:35,640
Speaker 1: others in two years time, so like, hopefully the little

1074
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Speaker 1: boy learned. And then uh uh, someone else commented, I'm

1075
00:51:39,040 --> 00:51:40,799
Speaker 1: a pre K teacher and this is a strategy that

1076
00:51:40,840 --> 00:51:43,120
Speaker 1: we teach the kids. We have an entire curriculum devoted

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00:51:43,160 --> 00:51:48,560
Speaker 1: to teaching social emotional issues. My students can identify anxiety, sadness, frustration, anger, etcetera.

1078
00:51:48,719 --> 00:51:51,520
Speaker 1: They're able to help peers calm down. They give reminders

1079
00:51:51,560 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: to each other, but the rules to ensure no one

1080
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:56,160
Speaker 1: gets in trouble. They are able to comfort comfort peers

1081
00:51:56,160 --> 00:51:59,680
Speaker 1: when they're sad. They're also in full inclusion classroom, meaning

1082
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:02,319
Speaker 1: how off of the class has special needs. I mean,

1083
00:52:02,320 --> 00:52:05,400
Speaker 1: these kids are learning compassion and coping mechanisms for stress,

1084
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:07,800
Speaker 1: which they need more than ever because there a generation

1085
00:52:07,840 --> 00:52:10,600
Speaker 1: that is going to be tethered to their phones, which

1086
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:14,000
Speaker 1: you know, keeps them from actually interacting with people. It

1087
00:52:14,040 --> 00:52:16,680
Speaker 1: was just so sweet to see this, Like, can you

1088
00:52:16,880 --> 00:52:20,800
Speaker 1: imagine if when we're upset, I just go andrew deep breath,

1089
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:25,280
Speaker 1: like that would help. We should do that? Stop taking

1090
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:27,480
Speaker 1: ships in the groom in my green room. Yeah, yeah,

1091
00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:34,040
Speaker 1: yelling you, I think I do. Uh. I think like

1092
00:52:34,040 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 1: when you look at your phone, like you could go

1093
00:52:36,239 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 1: like an hour with looking at your phone and you

1094
00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:39,759
Speaker 1: won't even know that you were breathed. Like you're not

1095
00:52:39,800 --> 00:52:42,879
Speaker 1: concentrated on your breathing. You're not concentrated on yourself at all.

1096
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:47,880
Speaker 1: You're just outward thing looking you like that. So that generation,

1097
00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:51,360
Speaker 1: you know, they're constantly trying to stimulate their mind instead

1098
00:52:51,400 --> 00:52:54,759
Speaker 1: of like sitting there and we don't want to do

1099
00:52:54,800 --> 00:52:58,120
Speaker 1: it turning it off. Oh yeah, I don't know. Last

1100
00:52:58,160 --> 00:53:00,560
Speaker 1: night I was in bed and I literally did the

1101
00:53:00,600 --> 00:53:02,880
Speaker 1: same thing. I go, all of a sudden, something clicked

1102
00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:04,840
Speaker 1: in my head that was like focus on your breathing,

1103
00:53:04,920 --> 00:53:06,879
Speaker 1: and I did, and I was able to calm down

1104
00:53:06,920 --> 00:53:11,720
Speaker 1: from this state that was like so just tumbling forward

1105
00:53:11,800 --> 00:53:15,759
Speaker 1: in this I was in bed thinking about everything I

1106
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:17,839
Speaker 1: have to do today of like, okay, I'm not going

1107
00:53:17,880 --> 00:53:19,839
Speaker 1: to have that figured out for that meeting in time.

1108
00:53:19,840 --> 00:53:21,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to push that. How am I gonna

1109
00:53:21,200 --> 00:53:22,839
Speaker 1: get to that? I have to actually curl my hair

1110
00:53:22,880 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 1: before I go to Theo's podcast, and I want to

1111
00:53:24,560 --> 00:53:26,160
Speaker 1: look hot, so I'm gonna do my makeup in the car,

1112
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:27,920
Speaker 1: but maybe I won't have time to like, and then

1113
00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:31,960
Speaker 1: I just was like, all of these are thoughts. Literally,

1114
00:53:32,680 --> 00:53:34,799
Speaker 1: just pay attention to your to your breathing for one second,

1115
00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:36,840
Speaker 1: because whenever I do the Sam Harris meditation, he always

1116
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:39,240
Speaker 1: goes for the next ten minutes. You if there's nothing

1117
00:53:39,280 --> 00:53:42,040
Speaker 1: you need to do, everything can wait. Literally just be

1118
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:44,640
Speaker 1: in this moment and there you can do that for

1119
00:53:44,680 --> 00:53:46,520
Speaker 1: ten seconds at a time. Of like, for the next

1120
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:49,279
Speaker 1: ten seconds, I can just put those thoughts away, just

1121
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:51,560
Speaker 1: like take a fucking vacation in my head and just

1122
00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:53,920
Speaker 1: focus on my breathing as long as you can, and

1123
00:53:53,960 --> 00:53:56,359
Speaker 1: it really helps. It's so hard to remember talking about

1124
00:53:56,360 --> 00:53:59,240
Speaker 1: it yesterday, about going to a place of pure bliss

1125
00:53:59,280 --> 00:54:02,680
Speaker 1: in your life, so like your brain and your brain

1126
00:54:02,719 --> 00:54:07,359
Speaker 1: will literally go it will experience that again. Like, so

1127
00:54:07,440 --> 00:54:09,000
Speaker 1: let's say you hit a home run when you were

1128
00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:11,920
Speaker 1: in Little League, or or you met the love of

1129
00:54:11,960 --> 00:54:14,759
Speaker 1: your life or whatever. It really take yourself, take your

1130
00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:18,840
Speaker 1: brain to that exact moment of when you felt absolute bliss,

1131
00:54:19,080 --> 00:54:23,080
Speaker 1: and your brain is smart enough to relive that really again,

1132
00:54:23,120 --> 00:54:26,600
Speaker 1: like the exact moment. And I tried it, and yeah

1133
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:28,680
Speaker 1: it did, like it did. Like I thought about, like

1134
00:54:28,880 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 1: coming out to a theater one of our theater shows

1135
00:54:31,120 --> 00:54:33,839
Speaker 1: and the crowd going nuts because it's hard to like,

1136
00:54:34,040 --> 00:54:36,160
Speaker 1: I can't believe how many shows we did in front

1137
00:54:36,200 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 1: of so many people that were so happy, and you

1138
00:54:39,080 --> 00:54:41,799
Speaker 1: forget all of that. I literally would never conjure that

1139
00:54:41,880 --> 00:54:46,200
Speaker 1: image to bring me happiness. I don't in the moment. Well,

1140
00:54:46,200 --> 00:54:48,040
Speaker 1: it's funny because I was watching porn last night and

1141
00:54:48,080 --> 00:54:50,839
Speaker 1: it's the same thing. I let me just compare the two, Like,

1142
00:54:50,880 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 1: I like how you go to that as your memory

1143
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 1: of like something that makes you feel like alive and good,

1144
00:54:55,719 --> 00:54:59,520
Speaker 1: because for me, mine would be like being in bed

1145
00:54:59,560 --> 00:55:02,439
Speaker 1: with someone I love, or like being with friends where

1146
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:03,919
Speaker 1: I like, I'm like, oh my god, my best friends

1147
00:55:03,960 --> 00:55:06,200
Speaker 1: are all here, were just like in this beautiful beach

1148
00:55:06,360 --> 00:55:07,880
Speaker 1: having a picnic, Like it would be like one of

1149
00:55:07,880 --> 00:55:10,960
Speaker 1: those moments even though the moments where I rock out

1150
00:55:11,000 --> 00:55:13,719
Speaker 1: to a screaming crowd, I do feel this moment, but

1151
00:55:13,760 --> 00:55:15,320
Speaker 1: those aren't for me, the ones that I would conjure

1152
00:55:15,400 --> 00:55:17,960
Speaker 1: to put me in a good space. But everyone to

1153
00:55:18,040 --> 00:55:20,200
Speaker 1: each their own. Like yesterday, I was watching porn and

1154
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:24,759
Speaker 1: I was watching this girl get um D paid and

1155
00:55:24,960 --> 00:55:26,920
Speaker 1: I'm trying I'm not trying to say this just to

1156
00:55:26,960 --> 00:55:28,759
Speaker 1: bring up porn, but this is really the same things

1157
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:32,319
Speaker 1: I thought I had, and I was yeah, so I

1158
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:34,880
Speaker 1: was watching that and this girl was getting it in

1159
00:55:34,920 --> 00:55:37,799
Speaker 1: a way that I was like, that would feel crazy,

1160
00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:40,040
Speaker 1: Like that would feel like if that happened to me,

1161
00:55:40,080 --> 00:55:43,280
Speaker 1: I'd be like, how did I get How did I

1162
00:55:43,480 --> 00:55:47,960
Speaker 1: get myself to do this? How did I how do

1163
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:51,239
Speaker 1: I have so many black friends? Um? How did I? Like?

1164
00:55:51,480 --> 00:55:55,600
Speaker 1: I would be like, for me, that's goals. I don't

1165
00:55:55,680 --> 00:55:57,440
Speaker 1: know that I'll ever be in a situation where I'll

1166
00:55:57,440 --> 00:55:58,880
Speaker 1: be in a gang bang, but it's something that I

1167
00:55:58,880 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 1: would like to possibly the entertained in my life someday,

1168
00:56:02,320 --> 00:56:04,080
Speaker 1: which is like a weird thing to say, but it's

1169
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:05,520
Speaker 1: just true and I'm not trying to be I don't

1170
00:56:05,560 --> 00:56:07,840
Speaker 1: want people dm me about it. I just this is

1171
00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:11,279
Speaker 1: just something that like I think, I like, I watched

1172
00:56:11,360 --> 00:56:12,960
Speaker 1: enough gang bangs. That's like there's part of me that's

1173
00:56:12,960 --> 00:56:15,839
Speaker 1: like I could maybe do this, Like this isn't like

1174
00:56:15,880 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 1: me watching baseball as like a fat old man being

1175
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:21,960
Speaker 1: like oh my days are like, oh, it would be great,

1176
00:56:22,080 --> 00:56:24,160
Speaker 1: Like I could do that. That's within like there's sex

1177
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:25,960
Speaker 1: clubs and stuff. So right, So I'm watching this and

1178
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:28,799
Speaker 1: this girl is getting like the be what I would

1179
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:30,680
Speaker 1: consider if you're some a girl who likes that kind

1180
00:56:30,719 --> 00:56:32,879
Speaker 1: of thing, this would be the ideal situation. And she's

1181
00:56:32,920 --> 00:56:35,400
Speaker 1: having it on camera, and she seems very comfortable with herself,

1182
00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:40,279
Speaker 1: but she is not enjoying. Her enjoyment is fake. I

1183
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:43,319
Speaker 1: can tell it's fake. It's like it's honestly sometimes when

1184
00:56:43,400 --> 00:56:45,040
Speaker 1: I don't when I'm depressed and I walk out to

1185
00:56:45,080 --> 00:56:47,879
Speaker 1: screaming fans and I'm like, it doesn't I I can

1186
00:56:47,920 --> 00:56:51,160
Speaker 1: maybe like see it, and but I can't feel it.

1187
00:56:51,160 --> 00:56:53,520
Speaker 1: I can't let it in like I'm not actually coming

1188
00:56:53,920 --> 00:56:57,279
Speaker 1: quote unquote from that, but I understand that it's something

1189
00:56:57,360 --> 00:56:58,640
Speaker 1: that not a lot of people get to experience. And

1190
00:56:58,640 --> 00:57:01,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, wow, I'm great full, but I'm not like

1191
00:57:01,920 --> 00:57:04,120
Speaker 1: feeling it. And this girl was not feeling it. I

1192
00:57:04,160 --> 00:57:06,680
Speaker 1: could tell she wasn't actually like coming and this was

1193
00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:09,000
Speaker 1: like the best scenario ever. I was like, God, if

1194
00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:11,239
Speaker 1: this was a different girl, I would in front of

1195
00:57:11,280 --> 00:57:14,799
Speaker 1: ten strangers know like that, the position she was in,

1196
00:57:14,840 --> 00:57:16,920
Speaker 1: the guys, she was with, what they were saying, how

1197
00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:19,160
Speaker 1: they were treating her, everything was perfectly the way that

1198
00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 1: she didn't seem to be like in pain. Like a

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00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:23,440
Speaker 1: lot of these gangming things, it's like they're getting so

1200
00:57:23,440 --> 00:57:25,200
Speaker 1: many holes filled that it's like it seems to be.

1201
00:57:27,560 --> 00:57:29,840
Speaker 1: But then I went and found a girl who actually

1202
00:57:30,120 --> 00:57:31,960
Speaker 1: was like enjoying it and letting it in, Like it

1203
00:57:32,000 --> 00:57:34,120
Speaker 1: would be like someone watching me on stage if I

1204
00:57:34,160 --> 00:57:35,600
Speaker 1: was like not letting it in and then going to

1205
00:57:35,600 --> 00:57:37,240
Speaker 1: watch you and they're like, actually I want to watch

1206
00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:40,320
Speaker 1: I'm watching this because I want to imagine what it's

1207
00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:41,920
Speaker 1: like to walk out to a crowd and enjoy it.

1208
00:57:42,160 --> 00:57:45,240
Speaker 1: Probably someone wouldn't enjoy watching me as much as they

1209
00:57:45,280 --> 00:57:47,640
Speaker 1: would enjoy watching you. If that's the feeling they're trying

1210
00:57:47,640 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 1: to get out of it. Does that make sense? Because

1211
00:57:49,440 --> 00:57:51,960
Speaker 1: I'm jaded by it. This girl is like me in

1212
00:57:52,080 --> 00:57:54,280
Speaker 1: terms of porn of like, yeah, I can walk out

1213
00:57:54,280 --> 00:57:56,160
Speaker 1: in front of thousands of people and am not letting

1214
00:57:56,160 --> 00:57:58,280
Speaker 1: it in as much. I will perform as well, and

1215
00:57:58,320 --> 00:58:01,280
Speaker 1: I will give a performance that is top rated on

1216
00:58:01,720 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 1: black draw dot com. But for people like me who

1217
00:58:04,640 --> 00:58:07,160
Speaker 1: are watching it pretending to be that girl and wanting

1218
00:58:07,200 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 1: to be that girl and not just watching it to

1219
00:58:09,240 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 1: jerk off, it's not going to give me the same

1220
00:58:11,760 --> 00:58:15,000
Speaker 1: joy as it would be as a guy that wants

1221
00:58:15,000 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 1: to be comic and walk out in front of a

1222
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:19,160
Speaker 1: crowd and goes, maybe I'll never live that. Someday. I

1223
00:58:19,200 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 1: would rather watch Andrew because that he seems to be

1224
00:58:21,600 --> 00:58:23,600
Speaker 1: really letting it in. Well, here's the thing I think

1225
00:58:23,600 --> 00:58:26,160
Speaker 1: on this tour coming up, I think I could be

1226
00:58:26,200 --> 00:58:28,600
Speaker 1: a goal of yours again, fall in love with what

1227
00:58:28,840 --> 00:58:31,480
Speaker 1: you do so well and what you really Weren't you

1228
00:58:31,560 --> 00:58:34,920
Speaker 1: do this because when you very first started, it wasn't

1229
00:58:35,040 --> 00:58:37,120
Speaker 1: it was really you loved it right like you love

1230
00:58:37,240 --> 00:58:40,000
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's not ever been about it's not the

1231
00:58:40,040 --> 00:58:43,040
Speaker 1: same for us, you and me, I'm not saying, and

1232
00:58:43,040 --> 00:58:45,200
Speaker 1: it never was. It was never that though. It was

1233
00:58:45,240 --> 00:58:47,280
Speaker 1: never what you experienced when you walk out stage. For

1234
00:58:47,360 --> 00:58:49,440
Speaker 1: me of like, oh my god, I can't believe all

1235
00:58:49,480 --> 00:58:51,640
Speaker 1: these people like me. For me, it's like, how did

1236
00:58:51,680 --> 00:58:53,520
Speaker 1: I trick all these people to liking me. I'm going

1237
00:58:53,560 --> 00:58:55,960
Speaker 1: to try my best and like do a magic trick

1238
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:57,960
Speaker 1: for these people and hopefully they won't ask for their

1239
00:58:57,960 --> 00:59:00,480
Speaker 1: money back. And it's not because I don't respect my crowd.

1240
00:59:00,520 --> 00:59:02,680
Speaker 1: I like do more than anything. But for me, I

1241
00:59:02,680 --> 00:59:06,320
Speaker 1: am performing. I'm at the Olympics. I'm like performing a

1242
00:59:06,400 --> 00:59:09,280
Speaker 1: vault routine. I am not like and a lot of

1243
00:59:09,280 --> 00:59:11,680
Speaker 1: times I am having fun with the vaults routine, but

1244
00:59:11,920 --> 00:59:14,160
Speaker 1: essentially I am trying to say on that balance me

1245
00:59:14,200 --> 00:59:16,360
Speaker 1: the whole time, I'm not like, WHOA, I can't believe

1246
00:59:16,680 --> 00:59:19,000
Speaker 1: the Olympics and I would like to maybe do that more.

1247
00:59:19,040 --> 00:59:23,320
Speaker 1: You're right seeing like, yeah, maybe I take this all back,

1248
00:59:23,320 --> 00:59:25,640
Speaker 1: maybe I do feel it. But for the MTV Awards,

1249
00:59:26,080 --> 00:59:28,040
Speaker 1: I'm not going to I don't think I'm gonna be

1250
00:59:28,120 --> 00:59:30,680
Speaker 1: like I'm finally hosting a thing. I'm gonna be like,

1251
00:59:30,800 --> 00:59:32,280
Speaker 1: I can't wait till this is over and I can

1252
00:59:32,520 --> 00:59:34,120
Speaker 1: go to my Spanish villa and hang out with all

1253
00:59:34,160 --> 00:59:35,920
Speaker 1: my friends and take a fucking breath and not do

1254
00:59:35,960 --> 00:59:38,080
Speaker 1: anything tomorrow, even though I've booked a ton of stuff

1255
00:59:38,080 --> 00:59:39,520
Speaker 1: for the next day, even though I was trying not to.

1256
00:59:39,680 --> 00:59:42,520
Speaker 1: But that's porn. The MTV show, that's porn. Where you're

1257
00:59:42,560 --> 00:59:46,680
Speaker 1: performing for should be for yourself. I know, I really

1258
00:59:46,720 --> 00:59:48,080
Speaker 1: get to a place where I'm the girl in the

1259
00:59:48,080 --> 00:59:50,680
Speaker 1: second point I watch where I'm actually feeling the dicks

1260
00:59:50,720 --> 00:59:54,400
Speaker 1: inside me a k A. The collapse and the admiration

1261
00:59:54,480 --> 00:59:57,120
Speaker 1: and the laughter. But if but anything, But I really

1262
00:59:57,160 --> 00:59:58,560
Speaker 1: do feel like a girl who just showed up on

1263
00:59:58,600 --> 01:00:00,360
Speaker 1: set and is like, do they know I've ever done

1264
01:00:00,400 --> 01:00:03,080
Speaker 1: DP before? But I have? I mean I haven't, but

1265
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Speaker 1: I will, okay show today. Thank you so much for listening,

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Speaker 1: and um, we love you, We love you. Keep sending

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Speaker 1: in your voicemails. Andrew cannot stop going through them in

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Speaker 1: my ear so Nikki doesn't hear him. I'll put them

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Speaker 1: close to my ear and I'll be I'll just be smirking.

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Speaker 1: Share share them with me, but I try to keep

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Speaker 1: them for listener mail, the good ones, so that we

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Speaker 1: can hear them fresh on air. And I don't you know,

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Speaker 1: it's better when we get shout out to that guy

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Speaker 1: that said fatigue. Yeah, I already said Fatigo, Hey, what's

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Speaker 1: up Fatigo? Thank you so much for writing in that

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Speaker 1: you you well, I would you want to say? In

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Speaker 1: fifth grade, Tyler Scoonover was reading um a passage in

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Speaker 1: fifth grade and the line was in the crowd filled

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Speaker 1: with applause, and he read and the crowd filled with

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Speaker 1: apple sauce. So I can't wait to accept all the

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Speaker 1: apple sauce I get from you guys when you go

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Speaker 1: to see me on tour this summer, Nicky, you guys

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Speaker 1: are dot com slash tour for tickets, coming to so

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Speaker 1: many freaking cities. I'll see you out there. We'll see

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Speaker 1: you on the show tomorrow. Thanks for listening. Um uh