1 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:04,720 Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hour. I'm Joe 2 00:00:04,760 --> 00:00:07,360 Speaker 1: and I'm Serena, and we are here with the one 3 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 1: and only, first ever, making history Golden Bachelorette Joan. Welcome 4 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: to Bachelor Happy Hour. 5 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:16,840 Speaker 2: Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to be here. 6 00:00:17,200 --> 00:00:20,000 Speaker 1: We're excited to have you. We're going to get into everything. 7 00:00:20,079 --> 00:00:23,560 Speaker 1: We have a lot to discuss in not that long 8 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:26,960 Speaker 1: of time. So before we get into everything, how have 9 00:00:27,040 --> 00:00:30,360 Speaker 1: you been enjoying your time leading up to the premiere? 10 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:34,080 Speaker 3: Oh? Gosh, Like, it's kind of surreal, to be perfectly honest, 11 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:36,160 Speaker 3: I was actually watching TV this morning and I heard 12 00:00:36,159 --> 00:00:38,840 Speaker 3: my voice and it was me on a commercial. So 13 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:42,280 Speaker 3: like every day is kind of a new day. Someone 14 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:44,479 Speaker 3: sent a picture of me on the side of a bus. 15 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:48,599 Speaker 3: So it's just like as it's unfolding, you know, slowly, 16 00:00:48,880 --> 00:00:51,000 Speaker 3: as we get closer to the premiere, it gets more 17 00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:52,040 Speaker 3: and more exciting every day. 18 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:55,279 Speaker 1: Have you thought about the fact that you are the 19 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 1: first ever Golden Bachelorette. 20 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't think I've ever been the at anything 21 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:04,319 Speaker 3: in my entire life, So like, I finally get to 22 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:06,559 Speaker 3: be at OG and it's, like I said, it's surreal. 23 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:09,080 Speaker 2: I keep pinching myself. It could have been so many 24 00:01:09,080 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 2: more people. 25 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:11,840 Speaker 3: I don't know how I got so lucky to land this, 26 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 3: but I did, and I'm so grateful. 27 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 4: Do you think it's more or less pressure because you're 28 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 4: the first one? 29 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 3: Oh gosh, that's a good question. So I think most 30 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:24,080 Speaker 3: of the pressure kind of landed on Gary because he 31 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:27,280 Speaker 3: was really the first one. He was the first golden 32 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 3: of anything. So I feel a little less pressure because 33 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 3: he was kind of the chail blazer and I'm just 34 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:38,520 Speaker 3: somewhat following his lead. But I guess, I guess the 35 00:01:38,560 --> 00:01:41,760 Speaker 3: first golden bachelorette, But I don't think I feel as 36 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:43,000 Speaker 3: much pressure as he certainly did. 37 00:01:43,640 --> 00:01:46,640 Speaker 1: Did you have any did you have a chance to 38 00:01:46,640 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: reach out to him just to ask him for any 39 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: of his advice? 40 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:50,720 Speaker 2: I did, you know. 41 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 3: I spent like two hours on the film with him. 42 00:01:53,920 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 3: We talked through also different scenarios, and he gave me 43 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:00,880 Speaker 3: really good advice, you know. He, like I said, he 44 00:02:00,920 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 3: was kind of a trailblazer, and I think he did 45 00:02:03,480 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 3: it really really well. 46 00:02:04,680 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 2: He made all of. 47 00:02:05,760 --> 00:02:07,920 Speaker 3: Us women on the show feel very comfortable to be 48 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,600 Speaker 3: kind of open and vulnerable, which is kind of scary. 49 00:02:10,600 --> 00:02:14,200 Speaker 3: At this age, and you know, you expose your family, 50 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:17,639 Speaker 3: you expose you know, you have a lot to lose. 51 00:02:17,360 --> 00:02:18,040 Speaker 2: At this age. 52 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:20,640 Speaker 3: So I think he did it really really well and 53 00:02:20,680 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 3: he made us feel really comfortable. So you know, I 54 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:26,679 Speaker 3: relied on him a lot for advice and I still 55 00:02:26,680 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 3: talk to him all the time. 56 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:30,720 Speaker 4: Now, what was the best piece of advice or the 57 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:32,360 Speaker 4: one that stuck out the most that he gave you. 58 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:37,359 Speaker 3: He said, it's a really really quick journey, and to 59 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:41,120 Speaker 3: don't leave anything on the table, and make sure that 60 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:44,640 Speaker 3: you encourage the contestants to be the same way. That 61 00:02:44,840 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 3: you only have one chance sometimes to reveal something about 62 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 3: yourself that's important, and don't squander that opportunity. Make sure 63 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:55,119 Speaker 3: you come clean and you talk about everything that's important 64 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:57,280 Speaker 3: that makes you know kind of you who you are, 65 00:02:57,560 --> 00:02:59,639 Speaker 3: or brought you to this, you know, to this place. 66 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 2: So I did that. 67 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 3: Like first night, I said to the man, you know, 68 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:06,919 Speaker 3: this is quick, so make sure you know we get 69 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:09,440 Speaker 3: to know each other as best we can in the 70 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 3: short amount of time. 71 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,440 Speaker 1: As for our listeners who may not know, and I'm 72 00:03:13,440 --> 00:03:15,639 Speaker 1: assuming most of them do, but can you just kind 73 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 1: of give us a refresher to why you went home 74 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 1: on Gary season. 75 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 3: So right after our one and only one on one date, 76 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:26,360 Speaker 3: the next morning, I got a text from my daughter 77 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 3: who had just had a baby and she was having 78 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:31,639 Speaker 3: a really hard time. She had had a hard pregnancy, 79 00:03:31,720 --> 00:03:34,840 Speaker 3: a hard delivery, she almost died during the delivery. I 80 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 3: mean certainly, like a lot of emotional things were happening 81 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:40,160 Speaker 3: to her and she just needed me to come home 82 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:40,520 Speaker 3: and be a. 83 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:42,680 Speaker 2: Mom and help her. She was dealing with a lot. 84 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 2: She even had some best partum depression, and she had not. 85 00:03:46,880 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 3: A super easy baby. She's a doll right now, but 86 00:03:49,920 --> 00:03:52,360 Speaker 3: you know she was an infant she was. I left 87 00:03:52,360 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 3: when the baby was eight days old, and you know, 88 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 3: I dealt with that guilt. To be honest, I knew 89 00:03:57,080 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 3: that I shouldn't be leaving her, or that this wasn't 90 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:03,040 Speaker 3: a perfect time to be leaving, but it was the 91 00:04:03,080 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 3: only opportunity I had, and I selfishly left with the 92 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 3: thought that if I need to come home, I will, 93 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 3: and when she said she needs me, I left. 94 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 4: One of the things emotionally that I'm the most terrified 95 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 4: of when it comes to becoming a mother is mom guilt. 96 00:04:20,200 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 4: I feel like it's something that every mom talks about 97 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:25,279 Speaker 4: of like, you have a child and you literally have 98 00:04:25,320 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 4: mom guilt for the rest of your life. 99 00:04:27,000 --> 00:04:30,040 Speaker 3: It's true, you will have mom guilt. We all we 100 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:31,600 Speaker 3: drink wine, we do what we have to do to 101 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:34,280 Speaker 3: self medicate. But you you will be fine. You do 102 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:36,599 Speaker 3: have mom guilt because you love that child so much, 103 00:04:36,600 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 3: and you love that person more than you love yourself 104 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:41,360 Speaker 3: or anything that you think you could possibly love. So 105 00:04:41,480 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 3: you are you can't, You'll never be perfect, and so 106 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:45,919 Speaker 3: you have mom guilt forever. 107 00:04:46,800 --> 00:04:49,280 Speaker 1: How's your daughter now and the baby? Everyone good? 108 00:04:49,800 --> 00:04:52,400 Speaker 2: They are great. The baby is a year old. She 109 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 2: is a doll. The parents are perfect. 110 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:57,880 Speaker 3: It was such a short amount of time that she 111 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:01,880 Speaker 3: needed me, but it was such an important time, and 112 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:04,400 Speaker 3: you know, it was what it was. But literally two 113 00:05:04,400 --> 00:05:06,279 Speaker 3: months later she was her old self again. 114 00:05:07,240 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 1: You had to you had to do what you had 115 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:10,440 Speaker 1: to do for your family. I respect it. What are 116 00:05:10,480 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: their thoughts on all of this? 117 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:14,239 Speaker 2: So kind of mixed. 118 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:16,080 Speaker 3: I mean, they all want me to find love, They 119 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:19,360 Speaker 3: all certainly want me to have a happy life, but 120 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:22,480 Speaker 3: it's a little scary that they're worried about me kissing 121 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:23,000 Speaker 3: on TV. 122 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:25,040 Speaker 2: And they, oh are they? Oh? 123 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:27,239 Speaker 3: Yeah, very worried about that. The boys are like, please, 124 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:29,719 Speaker 3: you're not kiss anybody. So I lied and said I wouldn't, 125 00:05:30,040 --> 00:05:33,920 Speaker 3: and then very worried about fantasy seeks. They're like that's 126 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:35,360 Speaker 3: They're like, don't even say the word. 127 00:05:35,400 --> 00:05:36,320 Speaker 2: It just sounds gross. 128 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, that's a nightmare as a child. Okay, 129 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:46,480 Speaker 1: when you when you got back from Gary season and then 130 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:49,800 Speaker 1: you had to deal with all your family stuff, but 131 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:54,919 Speaker 1: then you were single, did you start dating again? 132 00:05:57,960 --> 00:06:01,040 Speaker 3: My dating history wasn't super successful full prior to that, 133 00:06:01,120 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 3: which is probably you know why I even filled out 134 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:05,440 Speaker 3: the application to come on the show. I had done 135 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 3: a little bit of you know, I did one dating app. 136 00:06:09,680 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 3: You know, I kept I had this vision that I 137 00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:13,760 Speaker 3: was going to meet somebody organically. I was just going 138 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:15,640 Speaker 3: to be out one day at the grocery store, at 139 00:06:15,680 --> 00:06:19,520 Speaker 3: a wedding someplace, would meet somebody organically. And it seems 140 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:22,440 Speaker 3: that there are not a lot of people like in 141 00:06:22,480 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 3: our situation. So there's not a lot of sixty year 142 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:27,200 Speaker 3: olds that are single, because like, we live in a 143 00:06:27,200 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 3: world of people that are couples. 144 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 2: Like, you know, this world is full of couples. 145 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 3: And even if I saw somebody that I thought was 146 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:35,719 Speaker 3: my age and that was attractive or whatever. I would 147 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 3: just assume that they were married and I would never like, 148 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 3: you know, try to meet them or whatever. So I 149 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:44,560 Speaker 3: find it very hard to date at this age. So 150 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:47,919 Speaker 3: I came off the show. I was a little healed 151 00:06:48,320 --> 00:06:51,159 Speaker 3: by that, the small little section of that journey that 152 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:53,840 Speaker 3: I got to be part of, and I realized that 153 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:55,680 Speaker 3: I really did want somebody in my life, but I 154 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 3: still didn't really know how to do it, like how 155 00:06:58,160 --> 00:07:01,840 Speaker 3: to meet somebody. So you know, although I had this 156 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 3: hope and this want, I didn't really know how to 157 00:07:03,960 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 3: do it, so I didn't do it very much. 158 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 2: I didn't make an effort. 159 00:07:07,880 --> 00:07:11,240 Speaker 3: And then eventually I got presented with this opportunity, so 160 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 3: you know, obviously jumped at it because you know, I 161 00:07:14,640 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 3: didn't know also find somebody. 162 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:20,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, well, also, Joan, you're like insanely beautiful, so I 163 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 4: feel like finding guys in your league is probably I mean, look, 164 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:28,000 Speaker 4: personality is everything too, but just like you're such a 165 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:31,120 Speaker 4: special person, you deserve someone so special, and like seeing 166 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 4: the cast of men has made us so excited for 167 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 4: your journey because you're amazing, they seem amazing, and we're 168 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 4: just excited to see how everything unfolds. 169 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:44,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, John, I got a question. You say dating is hard, 170 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:48,040 Speaker 1: and I do agree. But you're never getting hit on 171 00:07:48,080 --> 00:07:51,560 Speaker 1: when you go out, when you go to the grocery store. Never, 172 00:07:51,960 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: you're not getting to hit on. 173 00:07:53,520 --> 00:07:58,640 Speaker 3: Well, you know, occasionally, sure, but oddly I was a 174 00:07:58,640 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 3: lot more by people dm ing me after being on 175 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 3: the Bachelor, and I don't know how to navigate. I 176 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:07,760 Speaker 3: know that that's like a big thing, people sliding into 177 00:08:07,760 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 3: your dams. I know that that is a really common 178 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:13,480 Speaker 3: way that people meet each other, but like the younger. 179 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 2: Guys, I don't know how to work that. How do 180 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 2: you how do you vet them? 181 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:23,120 Speaker 3: It's a totally strange ming you and and most of 182 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:25,160 Speaker 3: them don't live anywhere even close to you. They are 183 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 3: like the States, and I don't get how all that works. 184 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:31,920 Speaker 3: Maybe you could educate me, but I you know, occasionally 185 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 3: people certainly at restaurants or whatever, I would see him out, 186 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:37,160 Speaker 3: but really not very often. Like I said, they probably 187 00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 3: assumed I was married, just like I assume people anybody 188 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 3: my age is married. 189 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:45,840 Speaker 2: I just an assumption. Probably they opposite them like younger people. 190 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:48,200 Speaker 3: I think about, like when my youngest son goes out, 191 00:08:48,240 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 3: he probably assumes everybody that's at the bar with then 192 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:51,280 Speaker 3: is single. 193 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:54,520 Speaker 2: I'm the opposite. I think everybody else was married. 194 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 1: That's very true. 195 00:08:56,440 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 4: I never thought about that. I also think with it's 196 00:08:59,520 --> 00:09:01,280 Speaker 4: so interesting that you said, like, how do you vet 197 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 4: these people? 198 00:09:01,800 --> 00:09:02,640 Speaker 1: Because it's so true. 199 00:09:02,640 --> 00:09:05,080 Speaker 4: It's like this could be a total creep or like 200 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:07,439 Speaker 4: a really weird guy. Like you want to put yourself 201 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 4: out there, but you also want to protect yourself. And 202 00:09:09,160 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 4: I do think that's why we see so many people 203 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 4: date within the franchise a lot, because it is this 204 00:09:14,360 --> 00:09:17,079 Speaker 4: group of like pre vetted people. 205 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:18,600 Speaker 2: I totally agree with you. 206 00:09:18,679 --> 00:09:21,560 Speaker 3: I love all it works so well, Like there are 207 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 3: so many success stories that come after people have left shows. 208 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:28,080 Speaker 3: They find other people on patination. You're you're so right, 209 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:29,560 Speaker 3: like that's the reason they've been vetted. 210 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:40,959 Speaker 4: Yeah, what were you telling when they were casting for 211 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:42,400 Speaker 4: the guys that I am so? I mean, they asked 212 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:44,760 Speaker 4: what your type was, what you were looking for? 213 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:46,120 Speaker 1: What did you tell them? 214 00:09:46,679 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 3: So I didn't like really know I had a type, 215 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:51,600 Speaker 3: you know, because I had been married for thirty two years, 216 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 3: I wasn't thinking about my type. I I already had them. 217 00:09:55,640 --> 00:09:57,640 Speaker 3: But I do feel like I do have a type now. 218 00:09:57,679 --> 00:10:00,520 Speaker 3: That I've been through this whole journey, and I kind 219 00:10:00,559 --> 00:10:04,000 Speaker 3: of like guys that are like gregarious, like that feel 220 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 3: comfortable in their own skin, have self confidence, can walk 221 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:08,679 Speaker 3: into a room and kind of talk to anybody. 222 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:13,200 Speaker 2: And I also am really particular about kind of like 223 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 2: my father. 224 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:15,800 Speaker 3: My father taught me this that you know, men should 225 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:18,640 Speaker 3: be gentlemen, and I like a gentleman. I'd like somebody 226 00:10:18,679 --> 00:10:21,560 Speaker 3: who you know, opens stores and stands up and treats 227 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 3: like the waitress at the restaurant. 228 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 2: Really well, and you know, so a gentleman was important 229 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 2: to me. 230 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:30,320 Speaker 3: So I kind of like an outgeeling guy that's a gentleman, 231 00:10:30,480 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 3: and I just want somebody who's kind. 232 00:10:33,040 --> 00:10:38,439 Speaker 1: Obviously, Yeah, when you were asked to be the bachelorette, 233 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:42,000 Speaker 1: what was what were you what was going on in 234 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 1: your mind? Were you shocked? 235 00:10:44,440 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 3: I was, you know, so there was a little bit 236 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:50,640 Speaker 3: of flurry around, like, you know, there's going to be 237 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:54,400 Speaker 3: a golden Bachelorette, and I certainly knew that I wasn't 238 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:56,480 Speaker 3: the only one being looked at that other women from 239 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 3: my season clearly, and I kind of had idea who 240 00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:01,240 Speaker 3: it might be. So that was like kind of played 241 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 3: on my little heavy on my mind because I really 242 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:07,400 Speaker 3: didn't want this, and so I was like not really 243 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:08,040 Speaker 3: thinking that I. 244 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:08,600 Speaker 2: Was going to get it. 245 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:10,640 Speaker 3: To be honest, I thought you could go to anybody, 246 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:13,760 Speaker 3: and maybe there were people that, you know, people would 247 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:16,200 Speaker 3: consider more deserving from my season since I had left 248 00:11:16,600 --> 00:11:19,000 Speaker 3: so early. So when I was on the Golden Bachelor, 249 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:20,839 Speaker 3: I left so early that you know, people that made 250 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:24,880 Speaker 3: it farther in the journey would have been maybe a 251 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 3: better contender or more deserving of it. So when I 252 00:11:28,280 --> 00:11:32,320 Speaker 3: got the message, and so Jesse Palmer did a zoom 253 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 3: with me and he's the one that told me, and 254 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 3: I was like thrilled, but honestly, I was pretty surprised. 255 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 2: To be totally honest. 256 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 4: You might be the lead with the least experience on 257 00:11:44,040 --> 00:11:47,880 Speaker 4: the show as a contestant. Ever, like Matt James, Oh, 258 00:11:47,960 --> 00:11:52,079 Speaker 4: Matt James, you're right, You're right, But how did yeah, 259 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:54,440 Speaker 4: he was on the show at all before he became 260 00:11:54,520 --> 00:11:57,280 Speaker 4: the lean, but how did that kind of play into 261 00:11:57,880 --> 00:12:01,360 Speaker 4: when you were filming, like getting to a point of 262 00:12:01,400 --> 00:12:04,079 Speaker 4: being like, I haven't actually been here before. 263 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:07,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, and that happened pretty early in the journey. To 264 00:12:07,640 --> 00:12:10,200 Speaker 3: tell you the truth, I learned a Ton and you 265 00:12:10,320 --> 00:12:12,959 Speaker 3: might not need much more than that to get how 266 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 3: all this works. And the thing that I learned most 267 00:12:15,559 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 3: was when I originally got to the house or even 268 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:22,960 Speaker 3: like when I was considering even going on the Golden Bachelor, 269 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 3: I was really apprehensive because this was the first time 270 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:29,120 Speaker 3: that it had ever been done for the Golden and 271 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 3: I was worried about how we were going to look 272 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:35,240 Speaker 3: on TV, like were we going to look like foolish 273 00:12:35,280 --> 00:12:38,439 Speaker 3: old people dating? And was it going to look was 274 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 3: it going to look like. 275 00:12:39,760 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 2: Like tacky wacky? 276 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:43,360 Speaker 3: And I also had like a little bit of the guilt, 277 00:12:43,440 --> 00:12:45,440 Speaker 3: like do I deserve like do we deserve to find 278 00:12:45,480 --> 00:12:46,720 Speaker 3: love this late in life? 279 00:12:46,720 --> 00:12:47,800 Speaker 2: Do we already have our chance? 280 00:12:47,840 --> 00:12:50,160 Speaker 3: And we had it, and you know, we're were being 281 00:12:50,160 --> 00:12:53,520 Speaker 3: selfish coming on the show and like leaving our families behind, 282 00:12:53,679 --> 00:12:56,280 Speaker 3: who are really like really relying on us now, And 283 00:12:56,640 --> 00:13:02,280 Speaker 3: so I had all this like apprehension going into you know, 284 00:13:02,440 --> 00:13:06,440 Speaker 3: going into the Bachelor series. That was all solved almost 285 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:08,440 Speaker 3: right away. I got there and I got to meet 286 00:13:08,440 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 3: the producers and I got to meet the Bachelor Nation 287 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:13,040 Speaker 3: kind of, and I saw that they really had our 288 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:14,840 Speaker 3: best interest in mind, and that they really want us 289 00:13:14,840 --> 00:13:16,680 Speaker 3: to find love, and that they wanted to make this 290 00:13:16,760 --> 00:13:19,720 Speaker 3: journey look really fun and it picked us as like 291 00:13:19,760 --> 00:13:22,120 Speaker 3: what a really sixteen seventy year old looking for love 292 00:13:22,160 --> 00:13:25,040 Speaker 3: looks like, and that it's not embarrassing and it's not 293 00:13:25,600 --> 00:13:28,480 Speaker 3: degrading and you shouldn't feel guilty about it, and they 294 00:13:28,480 --> 00:13:30,560 Speaker 3: did all that. I learned all that in a really 295 00:13:30,840 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 3: fast amount of time. So everything else that I learned, 296 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:39,000 Speaker 3: you know, after Golden Bachelor and after like kind of 297 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 3: the first set of group dates in the first Rose ceremonies, 298 00:13:41,880 --> 00:13:44,640 Speaker 3: where now this was like new territory for me, I 299 00:13:44,679 --> 00:13:47,120 Speaker 3: felt comfortable with because I knew that the that their 300 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:50,559 Speaker 3: hearts were pure when they were, you know, making this job. 301 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:54,240 Speaker 1: You said, you don't know if people will think you 302 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:57,600 Speaker 1: deserve to find love at that age. Do you think 303 00:13:57,640 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 1: that's a common thought most people around your age have. 304 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:07,440 Speaker 3: So my thought is that, and I thought this for 305 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:12,000 Speaker 3: a long time, that as you get older, you're you're 306 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:15,000 Speaker 3: supposed to be supporting the next generations, like the kids 307 00:14:15,320 --> 00:14:17,840 Speaker 3: like my kids age, so the thirty, the thirty, twenty 308 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 3: and thirty years old that they that now you. 309 00:14:21,480 --> 00:14:22,720 Speaker 2: Should be in like a support role. 310 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:25,400 Speaker 3: So you should now take a backseat and you know, 311 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:29,360 Speaker 3: be a grandmother, maybe help them over financially, that the 312 00:14:29,400 --> 00:14:32,320 Speaker 3: focus is no longer on you, it's on them, and 313 00:14:32,320 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 3: that when you do something for yourself. I felt kind 314 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:38,280 Speaker 3: of guilty, and I know that I wasn't the only 315 00:14:38,320 --> 00:14:41,200 Speaker 3: person because we had that conversation in the mansion when 316 00:14:41,240 --> 00:14:43,000 Speaker 3: I was in the Golden voucher with the other women 317 00:14:43,040 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 3: that we all shared that thought. We felt like we 318 00:14:44,920 --> 00:14:47,440 Speaker 3: were selfish being there, that we had left people behind 319 00:14:47,440 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 3: that needed us. And you know, at this age, you 320 00:14:49,520 --> 00:14:53,160 Speaker 3: have multi generational responsibilities. I have a mother who's still alive, 321 00:14:53,240 --> 00:14:55,360 Speaker 3: she's my YouTube. I have a mother in law, I 322 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:57,080 Speaker 3: have kids, and I have grandkids, and you're a lot 323 00:14:57,160 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 3: of people that rely on you. 324 00:14:58,800 --> 00:15:02,480 Speaker 2: So I do kind of feel like I had. 325 00:15:02,600 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 3: I felt guilt, and that people my age do feel 326 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:08,720 Speaker 3: guilty when they do something for themselves because we feel 327 00:15:08,720 --> 00:15:10,160 Speaker 3: like we're supposed to be in the support will now. 328 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:13,320 Speaker 4: So then, what did it feel like going and filming 329 00:15:13,320 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 4: The Golden Bachelor where it's just like it's your journey, 330 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:19,120 Speaker 4: it's your story, everything is about you. 331 00:15:19,760 --> 00:15:22,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a really good question, because I did like 332 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:24,720 Speaker 3: kind of have to get over that guilt and I 333 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:27,440 Speaker 3: did that, and you know, I give so much back 334 00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:31,040 Speaker 3: to the Golden Bachelor that experience, because I've learned so 335 00:15:31,160 --> 00:15:34,920 Speaker 3: much that made my Golden bachelort experience like so successful. 336 00:15:35,360 --> 00:15:37,400 Speaker 3: And I learned from the other women when they were 337 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 3: talking about, you know, somebody's son had just had an 338 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:42,480 Speaker 3: appendectomy and she kept him in the hospital, and you know, 339 00:15:42,480 --> 00:15:44,480 Speaker 3: people were dealing with all kinds of things at home, 340 00:15:44,800 --> 00:15:46,800 Speaker 3: and as we were talking about this, I was saying 341 00:15:46,800 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 3: to each one of them, oh, my god, you deserve 342 00:15:48,280 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 3: to be here. They'll they'll be fine at home. Yet 343 00:15:50,480 --> 00:15:53,760 Speaker 3: I wasn't embracing that thought for myself. So it did 344 00:15:53,800 --> 00:15:57,920 Speaker 3: take me a little time to like give myself the 345 00:15:57,960 --> 00:16:00,600 Speaker 3: free pass that I am just like that I deserved 346 00:16:00,640 --> 00:16:00,960 Speaker 3: to be here. 347 00:16:01,040 --> 00:16:04,040 Speaker 2: Also, my kids will be fine. If they're not, I'll leave. 348 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:06,960 Speaker 3: I felt that about The Golden Bachelor when I was 349 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 3: on that and so by the time I made it 350 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:11,680 Speaker 3: to Golden Bachelorette, I think my kids and I had 351 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:13,800 Speaker 3: all kind of come to terms with the way that 352 00:16:13,840 --> 00:16:16,240 Speaker 3: this works, and we were all a lot more comfortable 353 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:18,760 Speaker 3: with it, and like, at that point, I did feel 354 00:16:18,760 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 3: like I deserved it. I talked myself into that concept 355 00:16:21,760 --> 00:16:23,120 Speaker 3: and I was really embracing it. 356 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:26,520 Speaker 1: Did you have any expectations going into it? 357 00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:31,240 Speaker 2: I knew what I wanted in the end one person 358 00:16:31,280 --> 00:16:33,880 Speaker 2: at the end that we were going to go out 359 00:16:33,920 --> 00:16:35,960 Speaker 2: into the real world and see if we can make 360 00:16:35,960 --> 00:16:36,360 Speaker 2: it work. 361 00:16:38,320 --> 00:16:42,800 Speaker 4: How did it feel having your friends within the franchise 362 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:45,040 Speaker 4: kind of rally around and support you, because I'm sure 363 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:46,960 Speaker 4: you made some great friendships on Golden Bachelor. 364 00:16:47,520 --> 00:16:50,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean we were all such good friends. Still. 365 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:54,360 Speaker 3: We have a group chat that we that if you 366 00:16:54,360 --> 00:16:56,120 Speaker 3: don't look at your phone five times a day, you 367 00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 3: become like thirty messages behind. 368 00:16:57,960 --> 00:17:01,760 Speaker 2: We are really each other, you know. 369 00:17:01,840 --> 00:17:04,840 Speaker 3: Like I said, when we moved into the mansion, I 370 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:07,680 Speaker 3: felt like I found my tribe here there. Finally, these 371 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:09,520 Speaker 3: are the people that understand what it's like to be 372 00:17:09,600 --> 00:17:13,080 Speaker 3: in your sixties and seventies and single and being then 373 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:17,159 Speaker 3: ninth person at the table at the wedding, and you know, 374 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:20,080 Speaker 3: watching all your friends couples go on vacations together and 375 00:17:20,080 --> 00:17:21,880 Speaker 3: you'd be left behind. You know, it's all these things 376 00:17:21,880 --> 00:17:25,520 Speaker 3: that people don't realize. You know, are you know, are 377 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,240 Speaker 3: sad for you make you sad, and you know, make 378 00:17:28,320 --> 00:17:31,320 Speaker 3: being single even harder. You go out to dinner with 379 00:17:31,400 --> 00:17:33,040 Speaker 3: all your friends who have husbands at home, and you 380 00:17:33,080 --> 00:17:35,479 Speaker 3: go home to the empty house. So I was with 381 00:17:35,560 --> 00:17:38,760 Speaker 3: all these women who understood that, and so we became 382 00:17:38,880 --> 00:17:40,679 Speaker 3: very close because we were a great support group for 383 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:43,800 Speaker 3: each other. So their supportment everything to me because I 384 00:17:43,960 --> 00:17:46,960 Speaker 3: was kind of, you know, represent all of us to 385 00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:49,359 Speaker 3: the world. This is what it's like to be this 386 00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:51,840 Speaker 3: age and dating and it's not comfortable. 387 00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:55,639 Speaker 1: It's hard what you wanted in a partner going into 388 00:17:55,760 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 1: Gary season? Did that change it all all going into 389 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:02,040 Speaker 1: your season? 390 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 3: Maybe a little bit. I've made it very clear that 391 00:18:10,080 --> 00:18:11,840 Speaker 3: I'm not going to leave my family and that they 392 00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 3: are the most important thing to me, and I think 393 00:18:14,000 --> 00:18:17,200 Speaker 3: I knew then that I wanted a man that felt 394 00:18:17,240 --> 00:18:19,920 Speaker 3: the same way about his family, and like that would 395 00:18:19,960 --> 00:18:23,840 Speaker 3: be that's kind of a deal breaker. You're not as 396 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 3: close to your family and value you know, their need 397 00:18:26,280 --> 00:18:28,200 Speaker 3: for you and you wanting to be them with them 398 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:30,680 Speaker 3: as I do with my family, then you're probably not 399 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:33,280 Speaker 3: a good match with you know, for me, So coming 400 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:35,560 Speaker 3: out and figuring out how to live in. 401 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:38,560 Speaker 2: The real world with that expectation is hard. 402 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:42,159 Speaker 4: Yeah, I was there any like worry there of like 403 00:18:42,200 --> 00:18:45,000 Speaker 4: it's a there's goods and bad to that right of 404 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:47,679 Speaker 4: like finding someone that is so close to their family 405 00:18:47,800 --> 00:18:49,400 Speaker 4: just like you are. But then if you're not from 406 00:18:49,440 --> 00:18:51,879 Speaker 4: the same place, then there's that like where are you 407 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:52,440 Speaker 4: going to live? 408 00:18:52,560 --> 00:18:53,000 Speaker 2: Question? 409 00:18:53,240 --> 00:18:55,120 Speaker 4: Was that something you thought about going into this, because 410 00:18:55,160 --> 00:19:01,640 Speaker 4: part of the show is dating people across the country. 411 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:03,720 Speaker 3: So that absolutely, like was something that I thought about, 412 00:19:03,800 --> 00:19:06,800 Speaker 3: and you know, I kind of felt I felt about it. 413 00:19:06,960 --> 00:19:09,399 Speaker 3: I thought I kind of figured out in my mind 414 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:11,960 Speaker 3: how it would work for me, and I just needed 415 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:14,960 Speaker 3: to find somebody that had the same thoughts that you know, 416 00:19:15,560 --> 00:19:16,960 Speaker 3: you can't have your cake and eat it too, you 417 00:19:17,000 --> 00:19:20,679 Speaker 3: can't have your family and you know, possibly they have 418 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:23,000 Speaker 3: their family and then also be together all the time, 419 00:19:23,080 --> 00:19:23,560 Speaker 3: and that. 420 00:19:23,520 --> 00:19:25,639 Speaker 2: You're gonna have to make a sacrifice on something. But 421 00:19:26,240 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 2: I think it can work. You just have to maybe 422 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:30,480 Speaker 2: work harder at that part of the relationship. 423 00:19:31,440 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 1: Makes sense. With your premiere airing later tonight, can you 424 00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:46,440 Speaker 1: tell us how you were feeling going into night one? 425 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:51,600 Speaker 2: So you mean night when like when the limos. 426 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:55,320 Speaker 1: Arived, animals are coming up and you're standing. 427 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:58,960 Speaker 3: On Yeah, So I will remember probably that moment for 428 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:00,439 Speaker 3: the rest of my life because it's like one of 429 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:04,120 Speaker 3: those iconic moments that starts every season, and I remember 430 00:20:04,200 --> 00:20:08,040 Speaker 3: so many other Bachelor and bachelorettes standing there and looking 431 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 3: nervous and watching that first limo pull up, and it 432 00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:15,320 Speaker 3: is like so exciting and so terrifying at the same time, 433 00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:19,320 Speaker 3: because you thought, like, this is this moment could possibly 434 00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:24,359 Speaker 3: change my life. And I was so excited and I 435 00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:27,600 Speaker 3: felt like the weight of all this suddenly like right 436 00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:29,919 Speaker 3: in that moment. Everything was funny games until then, and 437 00:20:29,960 --> 00:20:32,159 Speaker 3: I was like, Okay, this is it. I could hardly breathe. 438 00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:34,399 Speaker 1: Honestly, Can you tell us about your dress? 439 00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:44,920 Speaker 3: I was very randy Rob and she's a popular designer 440 00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 3: on the show. And I think I was wearing the 441 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:49,240 Speaker 3: most beautiful dress I've ever put on in my life. 442 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:51,959 Speaker 3: I felt so happy in it. I felt like I 443 00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:56,399 Speaker 3: like it was made for me and yeah, you'll see it. 444 00:20:56,440 --> 00:20:58,600 Speaker 1: So do you think if you didn't like you, if 445 00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:00,680 Speaker 1: you didn't feel comfortable in your ress, do you think 446 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:03,200 Speaker 1: that would have messed you up at night? One? 447 00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:09,680 Speaker 5: Sorry, I'm only laughing because we are off because if 448 00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:13,359 Speaker 5: Joe doesn't like what he's wearing, it like impacts everything, 449 00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:14,880 Speaker 5: Like the whole night is ruined. 450 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:16,600 Speaker 4: Like we usually go home early. 451 00:21:17,080 --> 00:21:19,919 Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's a really big deal if I 452 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:20,600 Speaker 1: was the lead. 453 00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 2: That's why he's asking this question, because he's putting himself 454 00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:24,520 Speaker 2: in here. 455 00:21:24,840 --> 00:21:28,920 Speaker 1: I'm if I was the lead and whatever the suit 456 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:31,160 Speaker 1: I wore night one, I felt uncomfortable and I didn't 457 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:33,960 Speaker 1: like it, it would it would really be something that was 458 00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:34,680 Speaker 1: on my mind. 459 00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:40,239 Speaker 3: For honestly, I feel like not in general, but in 460 00:21:40,280 --> 00:21:42,680 Speaker 3: that moment, if I didn't like the dress, I probably 461 00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:44,440 Speaker 3: wouldn't have felt as happy as. 462 00:21:44,440 --> 00:21:46,679 Speaker 4: Yeah, you have to feel confident and beautiful what you're. 463 00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 3: We you do belily, I mean confidence is really important 464 00:21:50,320 --> 00:21:52,159 Speaker 3: that moment, because like I felt like it was my 465 00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:56,120 Speaker 3: responsibility to make the men feel comfortable because I remember 466 00:21:56,240 --> 00:21:58,960 Speaker 3: being in that limousine and like stepping out and. 467 00:21:58,880 --> 00:21:59,720 Speaker 2: I was freaking. 468 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,520 Speaker 3: I was like, I don't know, if why did I 469 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:05,160 Speaker 3: do this to my life? Why did I say yes 470 00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:08,399 Speaker 3: to this? I could hardly breathe, So I really needed 471 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:12,120 Speaker 3: to feel confident and like exude like calmness to them. 472 00:22:12,200 --> 00:22:13,719 Speaker 2: So my dress was important. 473 00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:16,480 Speaker 1: Joe, You're right, I know, I know. 474 00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:20,040 Speaker 4: Did you go into do you go into filming with 475 00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:22,800 Speaker 4: any like non negotiables, Like if a guy says this 476 00:22:23,000 --> 00:22:25,880 Speaker 4: or does this, It's not gonna work out. 477 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 2: M M. 478 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:34,679 Speaker 3: Not really, Like I do have red flags, but you 479 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,320 Speaker 3: certainly don't say that like first night. 480 00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:41,879 Speaker 2: It's all about like. 481 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:42,120 Speaker 3: Like kind of everybody needs to get a free pass 482 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:44,119 Speaker 3: on the first night because everybody's really nervous. Yeah, so 483 00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:46,960 Speaker 3: certainly not the first night. I mean there were things 484 00:22:47,000 --> 00:22:50,280 Speaker 3: that stood out and why I didn't give people roses 485 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:54,480 Speaker 3: in the long run, but you know, no, like I 486 00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:56,040 Speaker 3: didn't have something in my mind that said this is 487 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:59,280 Speaker 3: a no no go for me, because you know, people 488 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:02,639 Speaker 3: have already been bet so like really glaring bad things 489 00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:03,680 Speaker 3: about people there. 490 00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:04,600 Speaker 2: They're not on the show. 491 00:23:04,800 --> 00:23:08,400 Speaker 3: So everybody that you're encountering at this point are really 492 00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:08,879 Speaker 3: good guys. 493 00:23:09,119 --> 00:23:12,640 Speaker 1: Any unexpected challenges that I mean you could tease. 494 00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:15,399 Speaker 4: Can Yeah, what can you tease for your season overall? 495 00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:16,680 Speaker 4: And then I think we have a game to play 496 00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:16,919 Speaker 4: with you. 497 00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:21,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, unexpected challenges. I'll tell you. 498 00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:23,520 Speaker 3: The emotional journey was way different than what I thought 499 00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:25,880 Speaker 3: it was going to be. I thought I was in 500 00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:28,040 Speaker 3: like like people kept saying are you one hundred percent 501 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:29,679 Speaker 3: ready to do this? And I kept saying yes, And 502 00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,199 Speaker 3: then I got there and I discovered I wasn't anywhere 503 00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,440 Speaker 3: near one hundred percent ready. I had to go through 504 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:36,840 Speaker 3: kind of a huge emotional journey that I didn't even 505 00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:38,680 Speaker 3: know was going to happen. 506 00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:41,400 Speaker 4: I feel like that happens with every lead, because we've 507 00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:43,240 Speaker 4: now had a lot of leads on right after they've 508 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 4: been announced and then after they've filmed, and usually they 509 00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,520 Speaker 4: come on being like, I'm not nervous, I'm just excited. 510 00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:51,600 Speaker 4: I feel great, and then they come back and they're like, 511 00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:53,000 Speaker 4: that was a lot. 512 00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:55,440 Speaker 2: That was so hard. 513 00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:57,600 Speaker 3: Okay, that is I'm so glad that you're saying that, 514 00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,359 Speaker 3: because I think, you know, maybe that was only me 515 00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:01,800 Speaker 3: and I just was ready, and I was. It was 516 00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:05,560 Speaker 3: so much harder than I ever thought it was going 517 00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:08,680 Speaker 3: to be, and so much more fulfilling than I ever thought. 518 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:08,960 Speaker 2: It was going to be. 519 00:24:10,160 --> 00:24:13,159 Speaker 1: Sweet. Love that, Love that, And I can't wait to 520 00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:16,280 Speaker 1: see your dress. Okay, Joan, you want. 521 00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:18,760 Speaker 2: To play and not seen? 522 00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:20,080 Speaker 5: Oh, I've seen. 523 00:24:20,080 --> 00:24:21,200 Speaker 4: It's in the provos. 524 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:22,159 Speaker 2: I'll show it to you. 525 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:25,200 Speaker 1: It's beautiful. It's called Joe. We're gonna play a quick game, 526 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 1: rapid fire. Get to know Joan. First thing that comes 527 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:34,320 Speaker 1: to your head. You ready, Yeah, I'm ready. What's your 528 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:35,159 Speaker 1: love language? 529 00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:37,240 Speaker 2: Oh? 530 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:43,400 Speaker 1: Yes, gold or silver jewelry? Favorite way to unwind. 531 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:45,639 Speaker 2: Beach? 532 00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:51,399 Speaker 1: What is your go to comfort food? You might be 533 00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:53,920 Speaker 1: the only person that's ever played this game that's that 534 00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:58,080 Speaker 1: has actually played Rapid Fire, So thank you. What is 535 00:24:58,080 --> 00:24:59,000 Speaker 1: your pump up song? 536 00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:03,840 Speaker 2: Hmmm, that's a hard one. Oh gosh, probably. 537 00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:07,960 Speaker 4: Oh that one's hard. That one's hard. That's hard. 538 00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:10,159 Speaker 2: It's probably a Taylor Swift song, but I don't know 539 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:10,520 Speaker 2: which fune. 540 00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:12,320 Speaker 1: Okay, all time favorite movie? 541 00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:19,440 Speaker 3: Well, I was in Santa Ahemo's Fire, so obviously, okay, 542 00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:19,880 Speaker 3: that's with. 543 00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:25,680 Speaker 1: Rob Low. Yeah, okay, all right, I'm gonna I'm gonna 544 00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:29,359 Speaker 1: watch now and look for you. I'm excited. Uh. Cooking 545 00:25:29,480 --> 00:25:30,440 Speaker 1: or ordering takeout? 546 00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:33,800 Speaker 2: Sure, that's a hard one. 547 00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:36,720 Speaker 3: So I'm just gonna can I not be Rapid Fire 548 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:42,360 Speaker 3: in this sw So I love cooking like with a guy. 549 00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:44,400 Speaker 2: I think it's fun. You learned so much about him. 550 00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:45,439 Speaker 2: It's a great date thing to do. 551 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:47,680 Speaker 3: But in the long run, I'd rather order out because 552 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:49,000 Speaker 3: I don't feel like cleaning up the kitchen. 553 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:57,520 Speaker 1: Favorite vacation destination. A fun fact about you, Vetri Nation 554 00:25:57,720 --> 00:25:58,119 Speaker 1: should know. 555 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,560 Speaker 3: Ok, I'm gonna tell you my stupid party trick you ready, Yeah, 556 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:06,959 Speaker 3: I can. I can tie the stem of a cherry 557 00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:07,720 Speaker 3: with my tongue. 558 00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:09,000 Speaker 2: Oh that's a fun one. 559 00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 1: Go to cocktail at a bar. 560 00:26:13,280 --> 00:26:14,120 Speaker 2: French seventy five. 561 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:16,240 Speaker 1: And if you could sum up your season of The 562 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,320 Speaker 1: Golden Bachelorette in one word, what would it be? 563 00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:23,480 Speaker 2: Oh? Jeez, I think kind of? It was emotional? 564 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:29,359 Speaker 1: Emotional? Okay, yeah, Joan, it's been a blast. I'm sure 565 00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:30,840 Speaker 1: this won't be the last time we're going to have 566 00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:33,200 Speaker 1: you on here. I can't wait to watch your season. 567 00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:36,080 Speaker 2: I hope not. I hope I'm bad. This was so 568 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:37,320 Speaker 2: much fun. 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