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Speaker 1: reality is different. This comes from Queen Leglis and they

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Speaker 1: say I caught my husband of ten years cheating on

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Speaker 1: with his ego. He was a very insecure man. Whenever

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Speaker 1: Looking back, I regret choosing him because I thought that

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Speaker 1: which is good. His last straw is to make me

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Speaker 1: so he's like, he's like, please, babe, forgive me. So

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Speaker 1: like everyone else doesn't hate me, right, Yeah, but she's.

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Speaker 2: Buddy, Yeah, you laid your bed and now you got

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Speaker 2: to cheat in it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, he got a cheat and sleep in it. You know,

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Speaker 1: I refuse because all the things he said about me,

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: So my friend gave me an idea to hook up

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Speaker 1: with someone else as revenge. I was hesitant. I am

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Speaker 1: not someone who can do random hookups. So I staged

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Speaker 1: having a revenge affair. Okay, let's stop really quick.

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Speaker 2: Yep.

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Speaker 1: Do we think having a revenge affair is a good idea?

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Speaker 2: No? Because an eye for an eye makes the whole

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Speaker 2: world awesome.

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Speaker 1: Blind leaves awesome blindness.

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Speaker 2: I believes the world awesome, the world sick. Revenge you're

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Speaker 2: getting now, it's if we keep going to for tad,

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Speaker 2: than where are we gonna end up? Like four OP

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Speaker 2: moving on as soon as possible and starting to, you know,

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Speaker 2: versus staying in the mess. It just brings you down

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't want to go back, You don't want

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Speaker 1: I think like when you rise above it, then that's

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Speaker 2: It's all external. It can literally be removed in the blink.

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Speaker 1: Of exactly, like when you judge your When you get

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Speaker 1: I staged having a revenge affair. The last time he

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Speaker 2: Put in nice you, but I see you.

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Speaker 1: Do you think this is gonna think he's gonna backfire?

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Speaker 2: So I didn't realize, Hey, they were married and be

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Speaker 1: I don't like I feel like this is just not.

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Speaker 1: And also like this mental energy that is being like

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Speaker 1: if it's like mock you know, mock cheating, it's not

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Speaker 2: Do what Riley's hat says, show him, Riley.

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Speaker 1: Dump him, dump him. Let's get into some relevant comments

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Speaker 1: Old husband's definitely a whole hundred husband's a whole wife?

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Speaker 2: Like it's just not good. She's being the a hole to.

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Speaker 1: So today seems like a good day to give you

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Speaker 2: Probably get this is good. Maybe maybe get one for

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Speaker 1: You're at it, Yeah, I think so. As for me,

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Speaker 1: He will be there for me.

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Speaker 1: I regret wasting so many years in my life over

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Speaker 1: My ex is still trying to convince me to reconsider.

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Speaker 1: He made so many excuses that I can write a

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Speaker 1: when life it's better. And there are some relevant comments,

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Speaker 2: And that is where that story ends. So halfway mark husband,

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Speaker 1: I mean, did she I don't think she said that

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Speaker 1: From this line, yeah, I think she did have like

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Speaker 1: So it feels like she actually got to a place

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Speaker 1: that was better than the first one, but still not

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Speaker 2: I view it as like it's ultimately better for you. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Like it's better to like move on and like build

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Speaker 2: The husband's thirty nine, op's thirty nine, the mistress is

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Speaker 2: So we have been together for fourteen years, living together

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Speaker 2: he has been sulking since last Friday. I got home

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Speaker 1: The audacity, addacity. Oh my god, that's a post sex

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Speaker 2: She left and he came to me apologizing. He said,

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Speaker 2: The deed? Yeh, she can prove Earl Gray at home, buddy.

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Speaker 2: I told him that he had until the end of

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Speaker 2: context exactly when this was posted. This was posted February nineteenth.

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Speaker 2: February nineteenth, twenty twenty four, my birthday, Happy birthday, Obi.

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Speaker 2: So basically this is we have a month and a

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Speaker 2: this morning I changed all the locks. Nice. From now on,

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Speaker 2: But his mistress's words stuck with me. So during the

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Speaker 2: that he owns the house, but she does it seems

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Speaker 2: like op owns the house, given that she had she

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Speaker 2: changed all the lock. It seemed like the husband didn't

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Speaker 1: She kind of gold digging? But she she has gold,

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Speaker 2: The golden rug is about to be pulled right from

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Speaker 1: That that is some sweet revenge.

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Speaker 2: That is beautiful. That is beautiful. Unfortunately the loser has

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Speaker 2: which I mean, they're in a cabin. This that is

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Speaker 2: very What else is there to do? That is a

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Speaker 2: But okay, okay, probably bragging about his wealth because her

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Speaker 2: social So I was telling my best friend all of this,

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Speaker 2: She told me that he was scum not telling the

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Speaker 2: mistress the truth. I agreed, I know, right, But then

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Speaker 2: she said I was no better not explaining to her

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Speaker 2: his situation. Either. Is Opie the a hole for not

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Speaker 2: telling the mystery the truth about Opie's poorness?

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Speaker 1: No, not the a hole that helly not.

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Speaker 2: She deserves that the golden rug to be pulled her.

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Speaker 1: And also like giving that information doesn't help Opie like

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Speaker 2: You know, I was dumbfounded, but she was serious. I

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Speaker 1: So in the last story, Opie's husband cheated, and so

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Speaker 1: And I think what she was doing, she was like

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Speaker 1: this person the information, like she doesn't, like that's not

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Speaker 1: her job. Yeah, you know, like that's like like she

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Speaker 1: doesn't she doesn't owe anything this person, and so she's

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Speaker 1: not like actively doing anything. You know her getting involved

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Speaker 2: Although to play Devil's advocate, if you truly want to

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Speaker 2: be the saint of all saints, then I guess you

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Speaker 2: could even to this person who has caused you insane

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Speaker 2: immen's pain, be like, hey, he's not he doesn't have this.

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Speaker 1: Like why does she need to tell her what she

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Speaker 1: needs to do she needs to say, like husband, you

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Speaker 2: My best friend got very angry and demanded I give

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Speaker 2: her the mistress's user name so she could warn her. No,

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Speaker 2: I said, she called me a bigger douche than she is.

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Speaker 2: Whoa the friend is the ahle?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the friend is the a hole. That is So

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Speaker 1: why is not evening so involved? What horse does she

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Speaker 1: have in this race? Yeah, Jesse says, friend's gotta go.

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Speaker 1: Cage Bucksham says, lame friend? Yeah, Love Bubble says who

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Speaker 1: is the friend of exactly?

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 1: Like who is the friend?

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Speaker 3: Like?

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Speaker 1: Who is this friend?

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Speaker 2: You know? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Who's Like how are they even a friend?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And Rados even says, divorce the friend. I think the

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Speaker 2: I agree. I don't know what's going on here with

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Speaker 2: these people. Have I gone mad? Have vague one mad?

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Speaker 2: Or have I it's them? When did our moral compasses

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Speaker 2: go askew? Like this? Can someone tell me that I

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Speaker 2: Opie's not in the wrong.

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Speaker 1: No, Opie's not in the wrong. And I think it's

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Speaker 1: a very different scenario than the last one. Like I

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Speaker 1: like creating a whole crazy scenario all she's doing, Like

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Speaker 1: she has no connection with some information, you know, like

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Speaker 1: it's not it's not on her, it's on it's on

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Speaker 2: A million percent and low key it will all fall

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Speaker 2: apart slightly deliciously with op doing nothing but investigators exactly.

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Speaker 2: There is some relevant comments and and it up oh

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Speaker 2: huge into the relevant comments. Jasmin Rugula says, your husband

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Speaker 2: is twisted. He told you in the first place, so

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Speaker 2: to light a fire under your toes, to make you

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Speaker 2: He's not being discreet to get a reaction from you

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Speaker 2: on purpose, and since that fell through, it'll be great

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Speaker 2: when he's not living at the places that mistress came

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Speaker 2: around to scope out your friend. Give her a couple

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Speaker 2: more feet of space because she's not looking out for

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Speaker 2: you right now. Facts OPI responds with, I truly think

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Speaker 2: the cheating was taking a toll on him, so he

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Speaker 2: told me he wanted to open the relationship. He didn't

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Speaker 2: admit it at first that he already cheated. Oh okay,

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Speaker 2: so first he brought up the open marriage, and then

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Speaker 2: he ultimately I've already cheated. Yes, I don't know what

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Speaker 2: to rekindle. We have had a very passionate, at least

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Speaker 2: on my part, and loving relationship with lots of sex.

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Speaker 2: But I but I love that addition. But I can't

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Speaker 2: He's very sad now and crying all the time. I

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Speaker 2: I feel guilty, don't But at the same time I

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Speaker 2: Maybe he needs to sort out his feelings, but far

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Speaker 2: away from me. Shouldn't he be over the moon? Now

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Speaker 2: being newly love I remember nothing would make me cry.

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Speaker 2: When I was newly in love with him, nothing could

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Speaker 2: Disaster sad at eighty five to sixty one says, Nope,

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Speaker 2: not wrong. Get rid of him and wash your hands.

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Speaker 2: Your bestie sounds delusional, op He says, few, because I

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Speaker 2: upset toping a boor, Rex says, you should question why

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Speaker 2: your friend wants to side with the mistress. That's what

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Speaker 2: I'm saying. What the fuck? What? What are like? What

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Speaker 2: kind of motive she have? In what world? Opie responds,

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Speaker 2: Believe me, I have questioned and speculated. I think her

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Speaker 2: the friend's marriage. So the friend was a mistress in

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Speaker 2: her marriage, that's how she found her husband. Oh so

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Speaker 2: she's she's advocating for the mistresses. Yes, she's like, I'm

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Speaker 2: a mistress. I stand with the mistresses, Opie responds to

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Speaker 2: finding out that the friend was a mistress. Mistress. Yes,

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Speaker 2: believe me, I have questioned and speculated. I think her

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Speaker 2: your friends for so long thirty five years in my case,

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Speaker 2: because you've known them your entire life, you don't see

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Speaker 2: how different you are as people. So it's like she's

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Speaker 2: someone and you kind of have that like rose tinted

439
00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:50,879
Speaker 2: view of them, I think, and you're like, well, like, yeah,

440
00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:54,240
Speaker 2: they they cheated to like they or they were a

441
00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:56,480
Speaker 2: mistress to get their husband. But you know that's that's

442
00:20:56,520 --> 00:20:59,919
Speaker 2: Mary of them. Yeah, I know how Mary is. Now

443
00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:02,679
Speaker 2: Mary's like, uh no, you need to I'm gonna I'm

444
00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:03,440
Speaker 2: gonna reach out to it.

445
00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:05,640
Speaker 1: Crazy to be on the side of the mistress.

446
00:21:05,640 --> 00:21:07,720
Speaker 2: Wow, absolutely insane.

447
00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:09,439
Speaker 1: We have an update on this story.

448
00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:12,560
Speaker 2: We do Opie says, I had a showdown with my

449
00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:16,600
Speaker 2: former best friend. Showdown. I did it. I had the

450
00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:19,119
Speaker 2: showdown with my former best friend via text, and I

451
00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:22,720
Speaker 2: confronted her about her non existent support when I went

452
00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:25,119
Speaker 2: to her with my woes. I told her that she

453
00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:27,720
Speaker 2: concentrated on the wrong issue. She should have been my

454
00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:30,560
Speaker 2: shoulder to cry on. She should have shown up with wine,

455
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,680
Speaker 2: ice cream and a shovel. What's a shovel? But instead

456
00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:37,119
Speaker 2: she called me a bigger douche than my husband insane,

457
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:42,679
Speaker 2: how her husband cheated, she's a mistress, sympathized, she'spathizer.

458
00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:43,280
Speaker 1: That's crazy.

459
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:45,680
Speaker 2: She tried to gaslight me, and I realized that she's

460
00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:48,760
Speaker 2: always been a gas lighter, so I interrupt her before

461
00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:51,280
Speaker 2: she made me out to be the villain. I asked

462
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 2: her bluntly, was her husband's name married when you started

463
00:21:54,880 --> 00:21:57,919
Speaker 2: sleeping together? Told us that when he was married before

464
00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:00,439
Speaker 2: we all knew that, But we were all under the

465
00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:04,359
Speaker 2: impression that he was married and divorced before you two met.

466
00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:08,400
Speaker 2: But was he still married? Is that why you related

467
00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:11,080
Speaker 2: to the mistress and felt sympathy for her because you

468
00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:14,000
Speaker 2: were her. She didn't answer me until the next day

469
00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:16,720
Speaker 2: to call me a bitter and jealous bitch.

470
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, she's guilty. She's guilty, I mean because she's like,

471
00:22:19,680 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 1: she's like, like do she I feel like she knows

472
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:25,879
Speaker 1: it's a guest, but she can't admit it to herself,

473
00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:27,320
Speaker 1: so she's just lashing out exactly.

474
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 2: Calling your friend a bigger douche is wild? Is wild,

475
00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:37,840
Speaker 2: especially because of pcachah on bro, It's crazy. What are

476
00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:40,800
Speaker 2: we doing? This was the last one on one interaction

477
00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:43,159
Speaker 2: I've had with her. She's been my friend since preschool,

478
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 2: but now we have to go our separate ways, not

479
00:22:45,400 --> 00:22:48,359
Speaker 2: only to save us from future hurt, but also to

480
00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,400
Speaker 2: save our memories together. I talked to my husband too,

481
00:22:51,640 --> 00:22:54,639
Speaker 2: and asked him not to make the separation difficult and bitter,

482
00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 2: that it ruins all the happiness we felt together because

483
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:01,919
Speaker 2: we cannot think back on our on one third of

484
00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 2: our lives. With resentment, I asked my husband to take

485
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:08,040
Speaker 2: my dad's offer. So he offered to help him find

486
00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 2: the lease on an apartment and pay half the year's

487
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 2: rent if he moved out without giving me problems. He

488
00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:17,040
Speaker 2: offered to pay six the dad Opie's dad offered to

489
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 2: pay six months rent for the husband to leave the

490
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 2: relationship with no problem. When I got home, he and

491
00:23:23,920 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 2: his clothes were gone. He left without Oh, I thought

492
00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:30,639
Speaker 2: he was naked. That's what I thought, too, is a whoa,

493
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:34,719
Speaker 2: hey baby, let's let's let's reconcile it. Screw your dad's money.

494
00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:37,720
Speaker 2: He left an apology letter saying that he will always

495
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 2: love me and never meant to hurt me.

496
00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:41,200
Speaker 1: Bullshit, bro.

497
00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:44,600
Speaker 2: So I have finally been able to cry my eyes out,

498
00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:48,320
Speaker 2: and it felt so good. I've been crying since I

499
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:50,520
Speaker 2: got home. I lost two of the closest people. But

500
00:23:50,600 --> 00:23:53,040
Speaker 2: this is what happens when we hit hardships. We see

501
00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:55,919
Speaker 2: people's true faces. That is my update. I don't know

502
00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 2: if anything major will happen. To make more updates, it

503
00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,920
Speaker 2: is time for me to move on. So this is

504
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:04,879
Speaker 2: op on being told that she is kind. It is

505
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 2: not out of kindness. I can't just kick the man

506
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,480
Speaker 2: out without a fight or abroad. If I started having

507
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:12,199
Speaker 2: eviction proceedings, I would need at least six months to

508
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 2: do so, and I didn't want him in my life

509
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 2: for this long, so I am bribing him. Housing is

510
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:22,680
Speaker 2: very scarce and a primary lease is almost impossible. My

511
00:24:22,800 --> 00:24:25,640
Speaker 2: dad has connections with landlords, so he agreed to move out.

512
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:27,920
Speaker 2: So not only is getting six months rent, his dad

513
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,720
Speaker 2: has connections to help him find a new apartment to

514
00:24:30,760 --> 00:24:31,120
Speaker 2: get out.

515
00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:32,439
Speaker 1: I mean to the family.

516
00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:35,359
Speaker 2: Hella rich, Hella, Hella rich real estate. He is living

517
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:38,000
Speaker 2: with his parents now until he gets his contract. I

518
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 2: am happy it didn't get more complicated. This was what

519
00:24:41,119 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 2: my lawyer advised me to do because taking the eviction

520
00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:46,600
Speaker 2: route would have made it drag on four months. That's it,

521
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:48,040
Speaker 2: that's it, that's it. Finito.

522
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:50,840
Speaker 1: Oh my god, nto all right? Well, like, I guess

523
00:24:50,960 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 1: that shows it's good to be rich because.

524
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 2: With money, who to thunk it?

525
00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:58,720
Speaker 1: Who would have thunk it? Am of the asshole for

526
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:00,600
Speaker 1: trying to get my ex husband to keep my boyfriend's

527
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:04,160
Speaker 1: mother's dog. In our divorce, I forty three female, am

528
00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:10,760
Speaker 1: getting divorce from my was band a wusband, my husband

529
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:15,000
Speaker 1: my husband fifty mail after twenty years of marriage, twenty

530
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:17,199
Speaker 1: three years in total. We don't have children, but we

531
00:25:17,240 --> 00:25:20,760
Speaker 1: have two pugs, Otter twelve and low Key four. They

532
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,720
Speaker 1: are our babies. We both love them and want only

533
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:27,879
Speaker 1: the best for these squishy faced, fat, hungry, screaming little guys.

534
00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:30,840
Speaker 1: In our divorce agreement, I will be moving out of

535
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:33,640
Speaker 1: our mutual home and the pugs will be staying with him.

536
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:35,920
Speaker 1: Why does he get the pugs? Why get the pugs?

537
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 1: Why we've even made it official in our divorce papers.

538
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 1: So far everything has been pretty amicable. I should mention

539
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 1: now that my husband and I are slash. We're polyamorous

540
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 1: for fifteen years. I'll now be introducing members of my polycule.

541
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:54,680
Speaker 1: Oh so like like we're introducing new players and characters

542
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,120
Speaker 1: in this story. So I'll now, I'll be introducing members

543
00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 1: of my polycule. That sounds like a pokemon. Yeah, I know,

544
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 1: totally says what we want. My partner, forty male, and

545
00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:05,520
Speaker 1: I have been dating for two years. He and his

546
00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:08,440
Speaker 1: wife have been together six years. She has another male

547
00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 1: partner not featured in the story. Man, Dude, Polly relationships,

548
00:26:12,400 --> 00:26:14,960
Speaker 1: which just gets crazy gets crazy. Two months ago, my

549
00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 1: partner's forty male mother ended up being admitted to the hospital.

550
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:19,160
Speaker 1: I think I'm drunk.

551
00:26:19,200 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 2: Actually, it was.

552
00:26:20,320 --> 00:26:24,399
Speaker 1: Recommended that she be discharged to an assisted living facility.

553
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 1: She has two dogs and two cats that we now

554
00:26:27,080 --> 00:26:29,520
Speaker 1: need to find homes for. I took the two dogs,

555
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:31,919
Speaker 1: and my partner's wife found a new home for the cats.

556
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:34,159
Speaker 1: I was quickly able to find a home with a

557
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 1: friend for the younger and bigger dog. We kept Lady

558
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:40,880
Speaker 1: fifteen female, a long haired dashtound mix. This dog has

559
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:46,160
Speaker 1: been my Metamor's grandfather's before he passed away. Okay, so

560
00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 1: we're collecting more dogs now. I didn't want her to

561
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 1: be completely disconnected from her family. It's Convincing my husband

562
00:26:51,560 --> 00:26:53,440
Speaker 1: to allow her to stay with us wasn't too hard

563
00:26:53,480 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 1: because he loves dashounds. They remind him of his own grandmother.

564
00:26:57,720 --> 00:26:59,439
Speaker 1: I don't know, I have no idea.

565
00:26:59,600 --> 00:27:02,880
Speaker 2: Everything was going okay until last night.

566
00:27:03,240 --> 00:27:05,760
Speaker 1: The other night, my husband asked me when I was

567
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:08,040
Speaker 1: going to move out because they were like breaking up.

568
00:27:08,280 --> 00:27:10,199
Speaker 1: I took that to mean I'm done living with you,

569
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 1: please leave. I am unable to move in with my

570
00:27:12,920 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: boyfriend and his family at this time, so I started

571
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 1: talking to a friend of a friend who was needing

572
00:27:17,280 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 1: a roommate. I mentioned this to my husband. He grew

573
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:24,040
Speaker 1: concerned because now he's saying that he thought I wasn't

574
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:25,760
Speaker 1: going to move out for another for a month. I

575
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:28,439
Speaker 1: walked him through my rationale and we agreed that I

576
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:32,080
Speaker 1: don't need to move out right away. Yeah for communication.

577
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:34,960
Speaker 1: Then I realized when I move out, I wasn't sure

578
00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:37,159
Speaker 1: where a lady was going to live. The pugs are

579
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:39,560
Speaker 1: legally secured. My partner already.

580
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:43,720
Speaker 4: Has six pets plus chickens, so there's not really room

581
00:27:43,880 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 4: for her there.

582
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:50,880
Speaker 2: But the pets and chickens done. What are you talking about, dude?

583
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:58,000
Speaker 4: These polly couples go crazy, broo, How do you admit it

584
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:02,159
Speaker 4: that many relationships you're dating?

585
00:28:02,320 --> 00:28:10,360
Speaker 2: Four other like likes dog? What are we doing? No? No, no, no,

586
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 2: not six chickens, six plus a bro stop.

587
00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 1: I asked my wesband about his real feelings on her.

588
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:22,800
Speaker 1: He was honest with me and said I can't be

589
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:26,400
Speaker 1: left alone with three dogs and his defence. She still

590
00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 1: has accidents around the house, will sometimes snap at her

591
00:28:29,720 --> 00:28:34,440
Speaker 1: older pup. He is deaf and most fun weird if

592
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:37,080
Speaker 1: he gets too close to her face. I told him

593
00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:39,959
Speaker 1: I understood, and it was glad he was honest with

594
00:28:40,000 --> 00:28:42,280
Speaker 1: me communication. But I didn't know if he could take

595
00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 1: her either. If I could, I wouldn't be leaving the

596
00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: pugs with him. I did something I rarely do. I

597
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 1: told him that I could guilt trip him into keeping

598
00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 1: her after I move out. He said I can't guilt

599
00:28:53,800 --> 00:28:56,280
Speaker 1: trip him. I told him that I could. That's when

600
00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,479
Speaker 1: I turned a lady and said the saddest thing I

601
00:28:58,480 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 1: could think of, Lady, it's okay, we won't put all

602
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 1: your things in trash bags when you leave. As soon

603
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 1: as I said it, the room shifted. I dealt a

604
00:29:07,640 --> 00:29:10,480
Speaker 1: low blow one he wasn't aware that I would ever

605
00:29:10,680 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 1: take against him. As a kid, he spent time in

606
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:16,800
Speaker 1: foster care being bounced around with family members that he

607
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:20,040
Speaker 1: believed didn't want him. He pursed his lips, dove into

608
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 1: the phone, and started texting someone. Things were silent for

609
00:29:23,920 --> 00:29:26,320
Speaker 1: a long while. When I told my friends what happened,

610
00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,240
Speaker 1: I asked if I crossed the line. They said maybe,

611
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 1: but they didn't think I was an a hole? But

612
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 1: I feel like I am. So am I the a hole?

613
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 1: I'm a little confused. Oh, Tia Martin says, kids that

614
00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 1: end up in the foster's usually put all their stuff

615
00:29:37,680 --> 00:29:38,680
Speaker 1: in garbage bags.

616
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 2: Oh so it was like an insult.

617
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 1: It was almost the low blow. Oh so, oh He's like, lady,

618
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 1: it's okay, we won't put all your things in trash

619
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 1: bags when you leave, because it's like, oh, you're gonna

620
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 1: be given up because like we fostered you, but now

621
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:56,800
Speaker 1: you're just gonna God, you put all your things in

622
00:29:56,840 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 1: trash bags.

623
00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 2: We don't crazy crazy inside.

624
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 1: And also Op's was beend was in foster care, so

625
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 1: it's like it hurts even more. Damn Insatia. Do you

626
00:30:08,960 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 1: want us to call you? We can talk, Yeah, we

627
00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:12,840
Speaker 1: can talk and get something gets.

628
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,760
Speaker 2: Her. I welcome to the OKOP live stream.

629
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:19,720
Speaker 1: So I guess my question to you, how do you

630
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,840
Speaker 1: feel post saying that do you feel bad? Do you

631
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 1: feel good? Was there any fallout from that? Did you

632
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 1: like apologize?

633
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 2: What? What? Like? How did it? Yeah?

634
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:27,920
Speaker 1: How did it work?

635
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:32,840
Speaker 3: I felt bad, which is why I was like, but

636
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 3: I have not apologized because I was hoping me forget.

637
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:41,360
Speaker 3: It sounds like everyone's saying that that was really traumatic.

638
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:45,120
Speaker 2: Well it sounds like people who are specifically I apologize.

639
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 1: Have experienced the Fosters especially, We're like, Oh, that's like

640
00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:52,560
Speaker 1: like because it's just because it's so traumatic, you know,

641
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:54,800
Speaker 1: even though you know you like you set it up

642
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 1: with this like like context where like oh, I bet

643
00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 1: I could guilt trip you, which maybe you success he did,

644
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 1: but like I think pulling on that trauma was maybe

645
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 1: a little bit too harsh, but I think redeemable. If

646
00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 1: you apology can happen, The apology can happen. And like

647
00:31:11,880 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: I think like saying like like, oh no, it's Lizzie

648
00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:16,959
Speaker 1: Joe says, can always apologize now that you know it

649
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 1: was likely way more hurtful than you originally thought, because

650
00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:22,240
Speaker 1: maybe you don't know like how how hard that probably was.

651
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I get that.

652
00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:27,680
Speaker 1: So what do you think you're gonna do?

653
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm going to apologize to him.

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Speaker 1: Let's go when when?

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Speaker 3: Oh, well, he's home right now, so I could apologize

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Speaker 3: to him now, but it'll definitely be a long conversation.

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Speaker 1: Do you want to call him right now, have a

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Speaker 1: talk to him, and then let us know in your

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Speaker 1: back and then we can kind of debrief.

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Speaker 3: Yeah I can do that.

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Speaker 1: Hell yeah, there we go. How did the apology go?

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Speaker 3: I think it went well. I was very fear about

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Speaker 3: how mean it was, and I basically, you know, I

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Speaker 3: basically said, hey, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so would you just go into the room? Like

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Speaker 1: what did you say?

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Speaker 2: First?

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Speaker 3: I said, hey, I want to talk to you about

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Speaker 3: what happened last night, and he was like okay. He

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Speaker 3: seemed confused because he had dropped it, and he was like, well,

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Speaker 3: I was mad for about five minutes, but I've let

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Speaker 3: it go. And I said I was never going to

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Speaker 3: try and gil trip him that way again.

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Speaker 2: Wow, that's awesome. That's awesome, super awesome.

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Speaker 1: What did he respond to that?

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Speaker 2: After she thanked me?

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Speaker 3: And then I, you know, I told him. I was

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Speaker 3: very upfront. I said, you know, I posted whether you know,

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Speaker 3: I said, I actually told him that I made a

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Speaker 3: post on Reddit. And then everyone overwhelmingly called me the

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Speaker 3: A hole and then I sent him the link.

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Speaker 1: Wow, I mean, how do you feel? You feel good?

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Speaker 3: I feel better now that I've apologized to him. I

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Speaker 3: still feel like what I said was y me, but

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Speaker 3: I mean I can't take that back, but I obviously iologize.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think it's hard to you know, it's

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Speaker 2: hard to not only admit you're wrong, you know, hear

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Speaker 2: it from all all these different places. I think I

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Speaker 2: want to acknowledge that you really took everything in stride,

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Speaker 2: and I think that's something to you. Yeah, acknowledge.

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Speaker 1: I think, like John said, it's like a hard thing

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Speaker 1: to admit when you're wrong. You did, and like everyone said,

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Speaker 1: you're the A whole. But like at least John and

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Speaker 1: I I would love to do what Chat thinks, but

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Speaker 1: I feel like you kind of reversed it, and I

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Speaker 1: would say, uh, not the A hole anymore.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you want me? You want me over?

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Speaker 1: You want Yeah, I think you want both of us us.

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Speaker 2: That was hard. Vote.

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Speaker 1: I think you you you made good. But what everyone

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Speaker 1: else Spiffy Tiffy says, and the puppy and Bonnie founda Yes,

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Speaker 1: the puppies, what happened to the puppies. Mark Graham says,

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Speaker 1: what happened to the chickens? What about the dog though?

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Speaker 1: What happened to the dog?

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Speaker 3: Okay, so so this is all going on right now,

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Speaker 3: and so the dog is here living with me and

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Speaker 3: my husband. I haven't moved out yet, so that's part

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Speaker 3: of what are kind of the crux of the matter was.

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Speaker 3: And I thought I needed to move out soon. He's saying, no,

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Speaker 3: You've bait till August, you know, getting along fine in

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Speaker 3: his roommates. It's it's weird, but it works.

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Speaker 1: And so everyone's kind of living together and this weird

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Speaker 1: happy family.

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Speaker 3: Well I wouldn't call it happy, but functioning, you know,

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Speaker 3: non functioning functioning.

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Speaker 2: Before you move on to the next the next chapter. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Well I'm glad we had that pup date.

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Speaker 3: Thanks, Victoria say, the dog is actually great. I took

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Speaker 3: her to the vet today she got a blood drop,

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Speaker 3: her liver's doing better, and gave her a cup afterwards.

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Speaker 1: Well, congrats to you for like like really like like

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Speaker 1: owning up to it and doing the right thing. We're

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Speaker 1: glad the pup is doing well too.

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Speaker 2: And the chickens and uh, and.

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Speaker 1: The chickens and yeah, we appreciate you calling in and

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Speaker 1: giving an update and like, I don't know, doing the

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Speaker 1: right thing, Like that's awesome.

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Speaker 3: All right, well I'm glad that, Like I said that,

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Speaker 3: everyone could kind of weigh in on that and tell me, yes,

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Speaker 3: you're guilty. Conscious is really because you messed up.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, well thanks for calling in and please submit

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Speaker 1: more stories as you have them.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I have.

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Speaker 2: Lots of stories, so we look forward to it. Thank

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Speaker 2: you much. That is fucking awesome. What a I mean

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Speaker 2: the first time on a on a live or just

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Speaker 2: in actually okay, op history, we've had an update happened

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Speaker 2: live as a result of advice advice y'all gave. We're

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Speaker 2: changing lives out really crazy. That's sick.

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Speaker 1: That is so cool. We're changing lives. Oh my goodness,