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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with her radio. It is a very special episode of

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Speaker 1: the almost Famous podcast. I'm here and my co host

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Speaker 1: the Beautiful, the Wonderful Ashley. How you doing, the Beautiful,

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Speaker 1: the Wonderful Ben Higgins? I am doing quite well today.

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Speaker 1: How are you doing? Actually? Can I tell your story?

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Speaker 1: This is just gonna start out as a ramble because

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Speaker 1: I use the word quite. I'm here to listen, Okay,

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Speaker 1: my sister is staying with me. I am the kind

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Speaker 1: of person who literally cannot stand getting rid of things

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Speaker 1: in the fridge. I hate wasting food. I hate spending

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Speaker 1: money on food when we have food in the fridge,

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Speaker 1: But mostly I hate wasting food, like you know that

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Speaker 1: little thing that your grandma would say, you know, there

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Speaker 1: are people starving in another country right now. You eat

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Speaker 1: your food always comes back to me. M hmm. And

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Speaker 1: the other day she was looking for like kind of

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Speaker 1: a a ten pm snack. You know, she'd already had dinner,

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Speaker 1: but it was early and she was hungry again. And

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Speaker 1: she was like, Ashley, came here, tell me what was

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Speaker 1: actually edible in your fridge, Like what is not outdated?

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Speaker 1: And before I tell you what, I considered not outdated.

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Speaker 1: What do you ben consider to be outdated food? Like

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Speaker 1: at what day do you stop eating leftovers? Oh, it's

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Speaker 1: I mean, that's that's a tough question. It's dependent on

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Speaker 1: what food we're talking about. Like if we're talking about, um,

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Speaker 1: if we're talking about a cheese, I'll typically look for

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Speaker 1: a mold. If we're talking about a milk, I don't

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Speaker 1: mess with milk like expired milk. If we're talking about meat,

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Speaker 1: I don't mess with expired me um, I'm I'll push

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Speaker 1: like best by date by a few days. Um, but

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Speaker 1: you can. But like those things you don't mess with.

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Speaker 1: Fruit goes bad so fast that you're either gonna eat

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Speaker 1: it or you're not. Vegetables the same thing. Um, So

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Speaker 1: you gotta give me a category because most things, like

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Speaker 1: I grew up am I like I came from a

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Speaker 1: really like like cushy life like my you know, northern

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Speaker 1: like we went to the grocery store in town that

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Speaker 1: had the like Dale bread and like it just like

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Speaker 1: it was the thing I grew up with. Is like, hey,

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Speaker 1: no matter where you're at in life, you're gonna not

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Speaker 1: like over indulge on stuff that's just just as good,

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Speaker 1: and so I've always kind of pushed it. I guess

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Speaker 1: I've never gotten sick. I don't I don't want to

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Speaker 1: do I don't want to walk to that alley. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Like if the jelly says that it expired in April,

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Speaker 1: I'm still eating it through May. Sure. Yeah there's preserve

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Speaker 1: I mean there's preservatives in that, yeah, of course. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So what I'm talking about is like restaurant leftovers or

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Speaker 1: like you make dinner leftovers, and and if it's meat,

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Speaker 1: they probably tell you that on the internet to do

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Speaker 1: it like two to three days. I'm probably okay with

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Speaker 1: It's like if there's like chicken tenders, I'll probably throw

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Speaker 1: the chicken tenders in the air fry or four days

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Speaker 1: later and I'll make it crispy again. A right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm pushing a week on left Okay, I'm playing. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm glad that you said that, because I'm pushing a

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Speaker 1: week too. I probably six days. I had some Chinese

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Speaker 1: food that I got Monday and I ate it Friday,

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Speaker 1: and I wasn't feeling like that was bad. Um, so

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Speaker 1: that when I tell you that, I told her that

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Speaker 1: the spaghetti in the fridge was quite fresh, which I'll

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Speaker 1: say it probably wasn't quite fresh, but it was totally

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Speaker 1: edible and fine. How many days do you think it

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Speaker 1: was in there? Three? Okay, it was. It was made

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Speaker 1: on it was, it was made on Monday, and it

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Speaker 1: There's nothing spaghetti. There's nothing to be poisonous. Is nothing

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Speaker 1: in a spaghetti it's cooked me. Uh, it wasn't even meat.

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Speaker 1: It just red sauce, just playing on tomato sauce. Oh

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Speaker 1: geez that. Yeah, you're you're you're You're not even cooking

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Speaker 1: with gasoline there. You're just good like you're just you're

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Speaker 1: just solid. Keep She demoralized me. She thought it was

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Speaker 1: so obscene for me to offer her my sister six

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Speaker 1: days spaghetti. I'm not offering a guest to come over

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Speaker 1: and eat my six day spaghetti, but my sister. Come on, no,

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Speaker 1: and like, what are you doing? He's like just having

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Speaker 1: some spaghetti. And then I was like, I will join

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Speaker 1: you in that. And then he and I both ate

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Speaker 1: the five distincts day old spaghetti. How do you feel?

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Speaker 1: We feel great? And then I threw it out afterwards

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Speaker 1: the remainder and Ben, look what I got in here?

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Speaker 1: I got a little generous coffee. The generous coffee in here. Well,

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Speaker 1: I'm very thankful you're drinking generous coffee. Even if you

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Speaker 1: at a hundred percent after your six day old spaghetti,

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Speaker 1: I promise you generous coffee would kick you right back

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Speaker 1: into gear. It's it's like medicinal. I can't make that

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Speaker 1: claim probably publicly, it's public illegal, but it's good coffee. Actually,

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Speaker 1: it was a long weekend for so many people. We do, uh,

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Speaker 1: I mean I I do, and I know you do.

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Speaker 1: Want to sit here and just say, you know, I

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Speaker 1: we can go into the elderly people who have passed,

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Speaker 1: uh serving our country. Um, serving our country, so that

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Speaker 1: So I hope this Memorial Day was a day for

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Speaker 1: the wars and the rumors of wars and our opinions

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Speaker 1: and and and definitely a Memorial Day is a day

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Speaker 1: who probably listened of this because there's many um, and

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Speaker 1: I hope yesterday was a day of celebration and remembrance

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Speaker 1: thank you. Um Ben, do you have anybody in your

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Speaker 1: Like you know, you had the Vietnam War in between

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Speaker 1: But yeah, of course my grandpa is the best example.

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Speaker 1: been a really odd week. Uh last week. Of course,

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Speaker 1: So I spent last week IM. I was invited to

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Speaker 1: in with you and relates with you, it brings you

428
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:56,320
Speaker 1: closer together. And I think Thomas just did a great

429
00:22:56,400 --> 00:22:58,200
Speaker 1: job when Becca was on tour of being a great

430
00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:00,040
Speaker 1: partner to her, and so I had I had a

431
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,919
Speaker 1: feeling this was going to happen sooner and later. I

432
00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 1: definitely had a feeling too. I mean, she's been talking

433
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 1: about how she's going to marry him for a while now.

434
00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:08,800
Speaker 1: She said it in the headline she said on her

435
00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:12,200
Speaker 1: podcast she had she basically told me at your wedding,

436
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:14,720
Speaker 1: she just kind of telling everybody at your wedding that

437
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:16,080
Speaker 1: it was just a matter of time before it was

438
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,320
Speaker 1: going to be them one day. And that was so cool,

439
00:23:18,359 --> 00:23:22,800
Speaker 1: And it's so cool that she was, you know, engaged

440
00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:25,840
Speaker 1: twice through this franchise and then decided to go on

441
00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:28,439
Speaker 1: The Bachelor in Paradise and a lot of people were like,

442
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:32,160
Speaker 1: you know, don't quote quote downgrade yourself. You were the lead,

443
00:23:32,160 --> 00:23:34,800
Speaker 1: don't go on Bachelor in Paradise now, Well look when

444
00:23:34,840 --> 00:23:40,040
Speaker 1: they got her. That is incredible. Um. Also, I think

445
00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:43,040
Speaker 1: people started speculating that they were engaged when they went

446
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:45,280
Speaker 1: to Hawaii, I think like a week ago, and it

447
00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 1: just seemed like there's a vibe about their instagrams in

448
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:53,000
Speaker 1: Hawaii that seemed like they had been engaged, that that

449
00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:55,560
Speaker 1: maybe they were getting engaged, that they had gotten engaged

450
00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:57,720
Speaker 1: in Hawaii, and then they were like going to hide

451
00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:00,520
Speaker 1: it for a few days. Um, but don't really have

452
00:24:00,520 --> 00:24:03,439
Speaker 1: details right on where it happened. He said, it's a

453
00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 1: secret that they've been keeping between them close family and

454
00:24:06,640 --> 00:24:10,439
Speaker 1: friends for quote a while, and now we're excited to

455
00:24:10,800 --> 00:24:14,600
Speaker 1: shout it from the rooftops. I finally found my chauffeur

456
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:16,920
Speaker 1: for life and the one who makes my heart smile

457
00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 1: every single day. I can't wait to do it all

458
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:21,600
Speaker 1: with you, Tommy. Thanks for making me the happiest Galt alive.

459
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:24,400
Speaker 1: I love you to the moon and back. And yeah,

460
00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:27,280
Speaker 1: so he has an engagement ring, even has a little

461
00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:31,120
Speaker 1: dime into is an engagement ring. And she is also

462
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 1: wearing a ring. Yeah, I kind of like here too.

463
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:36,200
Speaker 1: And I'm sure we are part of this group. I'm

464
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:37,879
Speaker 1: sure we were at some point in time or I

465
00:24:37,920 --> 00:24:41,240
Speaker 1: don't know how much we we bought into the whole thing,

466
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:45,679
Speaker 1: but you know, he his story on the Bachelorette. You

467
00:24:45,800 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 1: did buy into it. Men, we didn't. We know. We

468
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 1: were like every week we're like really like keeping get

469
00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:54,800
Speaker 1: some like some heavy proof as to why this guy's

470
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:57,800
Speaker 1: the villain. This doesn't make any sense. We're like, these

471
00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:02,199
Speaker 1: guys just seem to be hating him for are like hearsay, okay,

472
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:04,040
Speaker 1: well that that that makes me feel better. I'm glad

473
00:25:04,160 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 1: that's how we took it, because he just has really

474
00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:09,560
Speaker 1: proved the haters wrong, like he's I mean, and not

475
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:11,920
Speaker 1: that he did got engaged Tobecca to prove him wrong.

476
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:13,520
Speaker 1: I doubt that's the I think that's the furthest thing

477
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:15,159
Speaker 1: from his mind right now. But if anybody was like

478
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:19,160
Speaker 1: questioning his intentions going on the show or questioning who

479
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 1: he was as a person, he's now engaged one of

480
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:24,919
Speaker 1: the most beloved people from the franchise. Uh. He has

481
00:25:24,920 --> 00:25:27,680
Speaker 1: been a tremendous partner to Becca. I know that personally

482
00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:33,640
Speaker 1: they're very very happy together. Uh. And I mean, yes,

483
00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:36,720
Speaker 1: it's been public because it is a public relationship because

484
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 1: they have a falling, But they haven't done things that

485
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 1: makes you go, wow, they're just in this for the

486
00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:44,959
Speaker 1: fame of it. No. In fact, I would say they

487
00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 1: did the opposite, Like they broke up and then they

488
00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:50,560
Speaker 1: got back together and they've kind of dated quietly. They've

489
00:25:50,560 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 1: held this engagement off from telling the public for a while.

490
00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:55,399
Speaker 1: I feel like that this is like one of the

491
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:58,359
Speaker 1: coolest stories that have came out of Paradise or the

492
00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:00,680
Speaker 1: Bachelor franchise in a long time time, and it's one

493
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:04,639
Speaker 1: to definitely celebrate, really really cool story. And it's mind

494
00:26:04,680 --> 00:26:07,720
Speaker 1: boggling to think that they got together a year ago.

495
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,680
Speaker 1: They've been dating for a year. It feels like yesterday.

496
00:26:11,880 --> 00:26:17,000
Speaker 1: It does well, Uh, speaking of couples being together or not.

497
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:22,440
Speaker 1: The Bachelorte alum Michelle Young This is Wild refute claims

498
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:25,480
Speaker 1: that her and Nate have split after she was spotted

499
00:26:25,520 --> 00:26:29,080
Speaker 1: without her ring. This according Las Weekly, So she was

500
00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 1: getting drinks or lunch or something with friends and she

501
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:37,639
Speaker 1: was spotted, like Ben said, without her ring um, and

502
00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:40,480
Speaker 1: somebody put the video on the internet. I'm not sure

503
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: whether or not they put it on the internet just

504
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:44,960
Speaker 1: saying like, look I saw Michelle out to lunch, or

505
00:26:45,000 --> 00:26:47,000
Speaker 1: whether they were like, look I saw Michelle to lunch

506
00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:49,720
Speaker 1: and she wasn't wearing her ring. But whatever happened she

507
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:52,359
Speaker 1: the video hit the internet and people saw that she

508
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:55,000
Speaker 1: wasn't wearing her ring, and it caused all these rumors

509
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,920
Speaker 1: that she and Nate had broken up. And then she

510
00:26:58,000 --> 00:27:01,560
Speaker 1: took to Instagram and she was like, listen, you guys,

511
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:04,439
Speaker 1: I'm not a zoo animal. It's literally literally what she said, like,

512
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:08,200
Speaker 1: our relationship is not like a zoo exhibit. The reason

513
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: that you see me in that video, which I can't believe,

514
00:27:10,880 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 1: I'm like getting on here to explain, is that I

515
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:17,920
Speaker 1: took off my ring at that table, had my friend

516
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,720
Speaker 1: put it on her finger to just see what it

517
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:22,640
Speaker 1: looked like on her finger, because like, you know, she's

518
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 1: a girl, and like girls love to like put engagement

519
00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:26,879
Speaker 1: rings on her finger because like you like to pretend

520
00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:28,879
Speaker 1: like we're engaged if we're not, and we'd like to

521
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 1: see you know, different style rings and all that. She's like,

522
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:35,359
Speaker 1: So if you were like caring enough to take that

523
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,120
Speaker 1: video and point out the fact that I wasn't wearing

524
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:41,159
Speaker 1: my ring that you should be like caring enough to

525
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 1: like make a point that I gave my ring across

526
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:46,320
Speaker 1: the table to my friend and then put it right

527
00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:50,800
Speaker 1: back on. Yeah, so wild and so weird. Just that's small.

528
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:52,399
Speaker 1: I mean, it feels like such a small thing for

529
00:27:52,800 --> 00:27:56,320
Speaker 1: her to have to explain. Well, hey, here's a big news.

530
00:27:56,359 --> 00:28:00,640
Speaker 1: Tasia Adams will host the MTV Movie and TV Awards.

531
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:04,320
Speaker 1: This according to screen Ry, so this is a little

532
00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 1: bit of a misconstrued headline. She will be hosting part

533
00:28:07,840 --> 00:28:11,960
Speaker 1: of the TV and Movie Awards. She's going to be

534
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 1: doing the the reality portion. I believe. Yes, she will

535
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:24,639
Speaker 1: be hosting the MTV Movie and TV Awards unscripted, so

536
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 1: it'll be the component of it that covers reality TV.

537
00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:31,880
Speaker 1: But still like freaking amazing. Wow, Like, way to go, Tasia,

538
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 1: that is so awesome. This is Paris Hilton. This week

539
00:28:41,960 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 1: on the This is Paris podcast, NICKI and I will

540
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:47,479
Speaker 1: be joined by Anna Delby. You may think you know

541
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:50,560
Speaker 1: her from inventing Anna on Netflix. Get to know the

542
00:28:50,640 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 1: real Anna? Is She a con artist and a fraudster

543
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:59,000
Speaker 1: or risk taking entrepreneur and audacious wanted that lover her

544
00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 1: or hate her, We're all curious. The real heiresses sit

545
00:29:02,600 --> 00:29:05,400
Speaker 1: down with the fake heiress right now on This is Paris.

546
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:09,360
Speaker 1: Listen to This is Paris Now wherever you listen to podcasts.

547
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 1: Well Ashley uh Here's headline about a friend beat the

548
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: Bachelor lumb beck At Tilly talks about not identifying as

549
00:29:19,680 --> 00:29:22,920
Speaker 1: a lesbian, and she dishes more on her romance with

550
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 1: Hailey ki Yoko after finally confirming year long, years long relationship.

551
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:30,960
Speaker 1: This according to Daily Mail, So if you want to

552
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 1: hear everything in anything that Becca is willing to share

553
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 1: about her relationship with Haley, definitely head over to our

554
00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:40,640
Speaker 1: like I want to cast a sister podcast, um Our,

555
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,640
Speaker 1: I heart our fellow, I heart podcast Scrubbing In with Beca,

556
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:46,040
Speaker 1: Tilly and Tanya ride So. On the podcast last week,

557
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 1: she said, so, I was prepared for anything and everything,

558
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:51,600
Speaker 1: you know. Um. When she revealed her relationship with her,

559
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:53,320
Speaker 1: she goes, but I was not prepared for the amount

560
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:56,680
Speaker 1: of love and support that we got. Haley has really

561
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 1: made me feel brave, and she was always like, people

562
00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 1: love you and they want to see you happy. Um.

563
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:07,120
Speaker 1: She also said, I've always said I'll go public. We

564
00:30:07,320 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 1: can go public, if I can be in one of

565
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 1: your videos, if I can be like the video girl. Um.

566
00:30:14,800 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 1: She also said that, um, it was kind of she

567
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 1: when the time came, she was just like, Okay, I

568
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,360
Speaker 1: think I'm ready. I think it's time. And that was,

569
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,680
Speaker 1: you know, four years after she had been in the relationship,

570
00:30:26,440 --> 00:30:29,280
Speaker 1: and you know, like we said last week. I think

571
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:31,840
Speaker 1: we said this last week. Um. She never wants to

572
00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:33,600
Speaker 1: be called secret, you know, she just wanted to be

573
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 1: called like, the relationship is very private, and she said, like,

574
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,880
Speaker 1: we've always been very much ourselves. We've held hands in public,

575
00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:43,600
Speaker 1: wee kiss if I meet someone. I always introduced Haley

576
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:45,320
Speaker 1: as my girlfriend. I've never been like, this is my

577
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:47,560
Speaker 1: friend or this is my best friend. I really made

578
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 1: an effort to make sure that there was this distinction

579
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:54,680
Speaker 1: between private and secret. And she also said that, you know,

580
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 1: this is as far as what you said the headline

581
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 1: was saying. With her not identifying as a lesbian, she

582
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: was leading up to this point, I was like, oh

583
00:31:01,480 --> 00:31:04,320
Speaker 1: my gosh, I'm going to have to address like my sexuality,

584
00:31:04,400 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 1: my label, and I was never concerned with that. She says,

585
00:31:10,200 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 1: I think that my story is different from other people.

586
00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 1: She talks about her sister. She's my sisters when they've

587
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:19,680
Speaker 1: talked to me, Um, they've always said, I'm not I've

588
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:23,520
Speaker 1: never been attracted to men because Becca's sisters are lesbians.

589
00:31:24,000 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 1: And she said they've always been very confident in who

590
00:31:27,160 --> 00:31:30,960
Speaker 1: they were and that label meant something to them. So

591
00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:35,080
Speaker 1: basically Becca is just not putting a label on her sexuality.

592
00:31:35,880 --> 00:31:38,480
Speaker 1: Well it's uh, you know, I remember even talking to

593
00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 1: Colton and he's like, you know that once he came

594
00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:44,920
Speaker 1: out publicly, there's a process to try to figure it

595
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 1: all out, you know, figure out where you fit, what

596
00:31:47,800 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 1: has to change, what doesn't change. And I think what

597
00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 1: you know Colton was telling us what we're hearing from

598
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 1: Becca here is like nothing about you changes or has

599
00:31:55,520 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 1: to change unless you wanted to. Um, I'm glad because

600
00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:04,600
Speaker 1: I love Becca. I'm glad she's a good human. Care

601
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:08,640
Speaker 1: about her and uh it's good to see her. Um

602
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:14,239
Speaker 1: so happy and uh at peace. Well, Ashley, that's all

603
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:16,880
Speaker 1: the headlines we have for you today. We do have

604
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: a final little note here. Uh it's not a headline

605
00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:24,560
Speaker 1: as much as it just um this Kelly flanagain Peter

606
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 1: thing continues to come up, um, over and over again.

607
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 1: It's like once a year one of them says something

608
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:35,880
Speaker 1: about each other, good or bad. Well right now, Kelly

609
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:40,320
Speaker 1: Flann again says Peter Weber's romance was just fun in Games.

610
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:43,480
Speaker 1: I didn't look at him as my spouse that this

611
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:47,720
Speaker 1: according to US Weekly. I read this headline and I

612
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: need you to break down this story for me, and

613
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: I was like, well, okay, that's fine. They dated, they

614
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:57,480
Speaker 1: had fun, there was a quarantine relationship, I guess, but

615
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 1: it's interesting to see it go to this boys like

616
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 1: it was just funny games. I thought for a while

617
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:04,760
Speaker 1: it was very serious. We had him on the podcast.

618
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 1: I thought it was a big thing for them. Yeah,

619
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 1: I don't know. Okay, so she says in the podcast,

620
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 1: she goes, um, I don't think there was one specific

621
00:33:13,280 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 1: thing that led to the fall down. The downfall for

622
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:18,000
Speaker 1: me and Peter's a lot of little things. Um. Peter

623
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,040
Speaker 1: and I had a lot of fun. But I don't

624
00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:22,080
Speaker 1: know if I looked up to him in the way

625
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 1: that I wanted to look up to my spouse, she said. Um.

626
00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 1: She continued to compare Pete to the men and her family.

627
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 1: She said, I have this with my brothers and my dad,

628
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:36,320
Speaker 1: where if I'm in a moment where I need some

629
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 1: sound advice and look for and to look and look

630
00:33:41,680 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 1: for who to go to on important decisions, like she

631
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 1: goes to her dad and her brother's for important decisions.

632
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:51,480
Speaker 1: But Peter it was just fun in games, she said.

633
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 1: I could have fun with him, but I wanted more

634
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 1: of a man that I look up to. I just

635
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 1: didn't look up to Peter in the way that I

636
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 1: always hoped that I would look up to my husband

637
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:07,120
Speaker 1: who couch h Yeah, well that's all we have for

638
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:11,240
Speaker 1: you today. Thank you, uh for listening to me get

639
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:14,000
Speaker 1: something off my chest. It's been a weird week, and

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Speaker 1: this is a good place, UM where I get to

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Speaker 1: very UM welcomed and important. UH. We hope you here, UM,

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Speaker 1: been been. It's always a pleasure, Ben, I've been Ashley. Thanks.

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