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Speaker 1: First Date to follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Zayin is on the phone today for our first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Marissa, who we

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Speaker 2: went on a date with. In a few minutes, we're

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Speaker 2: going to call her and see if she tell us

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Speaker 2: why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another date.

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Speaker 2: But first, Zayn, how long has it been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Marissa?

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Speaker 3: It's been about a week since I since I've texted her,

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Speaker 3: and I haven't gotten a respond How.

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Speaker 1: Many times you try to reach out to her in

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Speaker 1: the week.

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Speaker 3: Honestly, the last thing I sent it was just asking

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Speaker 3: her if we were going to catch up again, since

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Speaker 3: it was I messaged her follow up. We had a

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Speaker 3: we had a couple of glasses of wine in our

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Speaker 3: date and whatnot, and I kind of made made really joke.

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Speaker 1: About a wine hangover or something, and she just give.

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Speaker 3: Me this like winky tongue came out face. So I

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Speaker 3: kind of thought it was flirty and whatnot, and I said, Hey,

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Speaker 3: when are we going to do this again? And that's

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Speaker 3: really been it. I haven't I don't want to push

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Speaker 3: because I kind of want to you know what I mean?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, that's like the worst one to

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Speaker 4: get go sit on selfies. And then when it's like

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Speaker 4: when are we gonna hang out, let's go backwards sane.

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Speaker 1: Why don't you tell us about the date? How did

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Speaker 1: you meet Marissa?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 3: So we met work. We're going out and they wanted

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Speaker 3: to go to a karaoke bar, and I at a

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Speaker 3: karaoke bar person, I don't like it. I have a

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Speaker 3: musician music background, and just hearing people singing poorly just

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Speaker 3: kind of racks my brain. I mean, more to him,

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Speaker 3: I want them to have fun. I just don't need

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Speaker 3: to listen to it, you know. But I went anyway

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Speaker 3: because it was a group, and you know, I felt

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Speaker 3: like kind of a spoiled sport not going. So I

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Speaker 3: went and I met Marissa at the Marsa and myself

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Speaker 3: when here we met and we actually started flirting a lot,

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Speaker 3: which was a great distraction from the bad singing, and

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Speaker 3: we chatted and chatted and just had a great time.

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Speaker 3: We end up getting up and do a karaoke song

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Speaker 3: and again not a karaoke singer, but we've seen something

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Speaker 3: from Greece on the summer eleven but we had an

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Speaker 3: absolute lass and taught like about it. We finished the night,

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Speaker 3: I got her number. It was very friendly but very fun,

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Speaker 3: but nothing so forward, you know, got her number. We

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Speaker 3: ended up meeting up at a wine bar and I

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Speaker 3: had a really great time. Talked the entire time. We

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Speaker 3: did the whole tasting menu too, so I'm sure the

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Speaker 3: wine helped. The conversation is back and forth. A lot

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Speaker 3: of great bands are back and forth, and it was

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Speaker 3: like we were bouncing off of each other, you know.

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Speaker 3: So the time went really fast and just not a

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Speaker 3: dull moment, you know what I mean. And yeah, we

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Speaker 3: talked literally about everything. So no, I'm a little confused

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Speaker 3: as soad why what's going on? And how I didn't

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Speaker 3: hear anything?

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Speaker 1: I guess was there.

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Speaker 4: A moment at any point where it was like this

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Speaker 4: could be why?

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Speaker 3: So yeah, during the whole conversation or during the whole

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Speaker 3: time we're going through these wine tests and like we're

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Speaker 3: chatting and I can drink relatively fast, but it was

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Speaker 3: obviously that she was a obviously a slow drinker, so

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Speaker 3: I was kind of helping her along so we could

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Speaker 3: get to the next palate.

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Speaker 1: So did you tell your drinks and you chugged hers also.

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Speaker 3: Well, I mean I wouldn't say chug. She would take

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Speaker 3: a ship, maybe another ship, and I'm done, and I'm oh,

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Speaker 3: let me. Oh yeah that's nice, isn't it. Let me

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Speaker 3: take another ship of that? Isn't that nice? And I

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Speaker 3: just kind of help her along, you know, And maybe

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Speaker 3: maybe that's a little really crappy, right, best to play

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Speaker 3: it as a joke, like I wasn't trying to be

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Speaker 3: at a whole about it, which I was making. But

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Speaker 6: Yeah, that that could be it. She's like this dude's

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Speaker 6: just drinking my drink. Yeah, she thought you just were

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Speaker 6: so ciry. Okay, all right, Well we'll try to figure

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Speaker 6: it out for you.

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Speaker 2: Then we'll play a song come back, and then call

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Speaker 2: her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting

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Speaker 2: you and hopefully get you another day.

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Speaker 1: Okay, fantastic, that'd be awesome.

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Speaker 2: Well, please don't come back to get your first day

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Speaker 2: follow up next light in the middle of today's first

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Speaker 2: day follow up, if you're just joining us, the sane

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Speaker 2: is on the phone and he's getting ghosted from a date.

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Speaker 2: He went on with a girl named Marissa. So we're

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Speaker 2: why she's ghosting him and hopefully get him another date.

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Speaker 2: But first, Zayne, why don't you recap your date with Marissa?

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Speaker 3: Sure thing? We met at karaoke bar. We got along

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Speaker 3: really really well. We even sang together, which is unheard

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Speaker 3: of for me. We went on a date. It was fantastic.

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Speaker 3: I may, outside of possibly drinking too much of her

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Speaker 3: it was a perfect date.

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Speaker 1: It was fantastic.

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Speaker 3: So just looking to see what happened.

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Speaker 1: All right? You ready for us to call her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's do it.

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Speaker 1: Okay, here we go. Hello him a sweat to Marissa. Please?

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Speaker 5: This is she?

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Speaker 1: Hey Marissa, how are you? My name is Jewbell and

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Speaker 1: I host a radio show. It's called the Jewbill Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi Marissa, the Jewbill Show is here. I'm Nina. Hi,

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Speaker 1: I'm Vicoria. How are you? I'm doing good? Did you

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Speaker 1: listen to the show? I do well? Marissa? Have you

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Speaker 1: ever heard a first date follow up before?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? I do listen to those?

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Speaker 1: Okay, great?

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Speaker 2: How would you like to be on one?

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Speaker 5: I honestly am not sure but I'm here for the rhye.

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Speaker 2: Okay, sweet, Well, we got an email about you from

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Speaker 2: a guy that you're ghosting.

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Speaker 1: Do you have any idea who that could be.

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Speaker 5: I would imagine you're talking about Zane.

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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, correct. Zay emailed us.

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Speaker 2: I said, it's been about a week since your date

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Speaker 2: and he hasn't heard anything from you, and he's wondering why.

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Speaker 5: Well, after so we went on a date to bar

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Speaker 5: Right and it was a great time.

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Speaker 1: I had a good time. But then we were like we.

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Speaker 5: Were getting a little buzzed, and he admitted that he

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Speaker 5: his favorite show was vander Pump Rules and like he

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Speaker 5: loves the Bravo Network. And that to me was a

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Speaker 5: bit of an ick because I mean, I'm a theater kid,

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Speaker 5: and I don't really like reality TV. I think it

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Speaker 5: are real artists. If I'm like, if I'm going to

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Speaker 5: watch something on TV, it's going to be meaningful. I mean,

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Speaker 5: the people that are on reality television, they're famous for

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Speaker 5: no reason. It just itspens TV for me.

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Speaker 1: I just love that it's vander Pump Rules for him.

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Speaker 1: Ghost though, it was just cringe I just don't. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. It really turned me off in a moment.

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Speaker 1: And when you get the ick, you just get the hick.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you just can't get rid of it. I couldn't

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Speaker 1: After that because he likes vander Pump rules.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, okay, well, thank you for telling us.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate that Zaan is actually on the phone listening

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Speaker 2: and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: It's like a reality.

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Speaker 5: Shows, that's it.

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Speaker 3: That's it, because I like, like, I understand that none

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Speaker 3: but it is dumb, simple comedy to me, and it

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Speaker 3: just you don't have to think about it. I don't understand.

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Speaker 3: Why is that, like a that's so odd to me?

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Speaker 3: Why would you not want to talk to me? Because

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Speaker 3: I like to cool down with a little bit of

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Speaker 3: really stupid, mindless television. I work in like really high stress,

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Speaker 3: But I mean, that's really that's why you did you

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Speaker 3: ghosted me. We had such a good time and that

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Speaker 3: the uh, that's that's it. I mean, I'm seeing pathetic.

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Speaker 5: I'm honestly embarrassed. I didn't really want you to hear

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Speaker 5: what I thought, and I don't I certainly don't want

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Speaker 5: to hurt your feelings.

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Speaker 3: Well, trust I did not hurt my feelings.

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Speaker 5: It just comes down to the fact that like, you're

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Speaker 5: not the one, Like I don't want to pursue you.

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Speaker 5: I don't want to pursue you.

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Speaker 6: Well, I didn't.

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Speaker 3: Realize that the RAP network had that much of an

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Speaker 3: influence on your dating outcomes. But okay, I'm my feelings

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Speaker 3: aren't hurt. I understand cool, you don't like it, but.

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Speaker 1: Would you like to go on another day with Zaye?

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Speaker 1: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: I really am sorry about all of this. I don't

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Speaker 5: think I'm interested. I mean, the reality TV of it

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Speaker 5: all is just not for me. I wouldn't want to

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Speaker 5: if that's an interest of yours, that's great for you,

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Speaker 5: but it's not for me.

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Speaker 7: Well that is perfectly okay, because if it's going to

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Speaker 7: be about someone being so sanafi about something is watching

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Speaker 7: something on television that I think the feeling's mutual now

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Speaker 7: than we're all good.

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Speaker 5: Okay, great, have a nice life with all the reality

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Speaker 5: TV stars, have a fun.

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Speaker 3: Time getting that stick out your bum

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