WEBVTT - How Men Think with Hunter March 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:03.880 We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:08.680 is how Men thick and I heard radio podcast. Hi guys, 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:12.000 some Hunter March and you're listening to How Men Think, 0:00:12.280 --> 0:00:15.720 where basically I'm going to unveil what I can without 0:00:15.800 --> 0:00:20.960 being excommunicated by my people's you know what though, honestly, 0:00:21.200 --> 0:00:23.760 I don't really care about them. Men are the worst, 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:25.680 right So I'm gonna give you all the down and 0:00:25.720 --> 0:00:28.080 dirty secrets. If you guys don't know who I am. 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:31.800 I host a show on e called Nightly Pop and 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:34.800 I host a show on Netflix called Sugar Rush. So 0:00:36.040 --> 0:00:40.080 I hope you uh enjoy this episode. I'm looking forward 0:00:40.080 --> 0:00:42.040 to answering your questions. But before I do that, let 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:47.280 me do eleven questions about myself. So the first one 0:00:47.360 --> 0:00:51.640 is what are you known for? Tell us about yourself. Um, well, 0:00:51.680 --> 0:00:54.920 besides those two shows, I think I'm known for my 0:00:55.080 --> 0:00:58.960 breakfast skillets. It's something that I've made for quite a 0:00:59.040 --> 0:01:02.120 few people. So women, some very lucky women, have stayed 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:05.600 the night. We'll start this off right now with this stand. 0:01:05.640 --> 0:01:08.000 The night's a tricky one. I am. I have a 0:01:08.120 --> 0:01:11.480 king bed for this reason. I don't want to really 0:01:11.520 --> 0:01:15.319 be touching in the evening. And it's not because I 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:19.800 don't like the person, It's it's the opposite. I like 0:01:19.920 --> 0:01:22.160 them so much that it's going to distract me from sleeping. 0:01:22.760 --> 0:01:25.039 Let's get into the next one. Who are you in 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:28.319 your personal life? But what a lot of people don't 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:33.280 know about me is that outside of my personality on 0:01:33.319 --> 0:01:37.400 television and in my podcast with Paris Hilton, this is Paris. 0:01:38.080 --> 0:01:41.839 Uh what I didn't know. What people don't know about 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:45.120 me is that I'm pretty reserved, like in my personal 0:01:45.160 --> 0:01:48.800 life and and I deal with you know, the same 0:01:49.320 --> 0:01:51.920 anxiety and other things that a lot of people deal it. 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:54.400 But I have used my humor and everything to kind 0:01:54.440 --> 0:01:58.160 of compensate. And uh So, so if you really get 0:01:58.200 --> 0:02:01.480 to know me in my personal life, it's still funny 0:02:01.680 --> 0:02:06.200 and it's still jokes, but you realize that it's there's 0:02:06.240 --> 0:02:08.120 also a deeper side of me where I like to 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:10.800 cook and paint and garden. Um And if you're watching 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:12.520 the video, you can see some of my paintings behind me, 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:16.440 So go check that out. Uh. Three shows that I'm 0:02:16.480 --> 0:02:21.440 binge watching right now, I'm binge watching Get Back the 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:27.080 Beatles documentary on Disney Plus. I just I've never seen 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:31.640 such brilliant people collaborate in such a cool way. And 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:34.440 as someone who's starting my own YouTube channel back up 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:36.800 and I have hired somebody and we're collaborating every day. 0:02:36.919 --> 0:02:38.959 I literally showed my employee. I was like, this is 0:02:39.000 --> 0:02:40.560 what I want us to be like it is like 0:02:40.919 --> 0:02:45.440 the Beatles, which I realized I'm asking this young guy 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:47.440 who I started working with a week ago. I'm like, 0:02:47.560 --> 0:02:51.320 how come you're not my lenin right now? But I, 0:02:52.040 --> 0:02:54.800 uh yeah, that's I'm binge watching that. I'm also binge 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:59.000 watching um Attack on Titan, which is an anime show 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:01.519 I don't never watch. May my brother was like, you 0:03:01.560 --> 0:03:04.160 should check it out. My brother likes anime and I 0:03:04.200 --> 0:03:06.519 watched it and it's really good. It's an intense show, 0:03:06.560 --> 0:03:08.400 but it's good. And then the final thing that I'm 0:03:08.400 --> 0:03:14.360 binge watching is um a lot of YouTube. I'm getting 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:16.079 back into YouTube right now, so I watch a lot 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:18.840 of YouTube videos. I love YouTube. It's how I started 0:03:18.840 --> 0:03:26.040 in this industry. And um, yeah, what is my favorite food? Well, 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:28.320 I already mentioned breakfast skillets and that would be my 0:03:28.360 --> 0:03:31.080 favorite food. I love all breakfast. I just started doing 0:03:31.160 --> 0:03:34.280 a it's a very French way of of scrambling eggs. 0:03:34.280 --> 0:03:37.400 But basically you do a super slow scramble in butter, 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:40.960 like the eggs should barely be cooking as you're whisking 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:46.080 them slowly. Let me do this seductively, whisk those eggs 0:03:46.160 --> 0:03:50.680 so slowly. Not with a whisk. Instead, take a small spatula, 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:54.640 a spoon even, and just slowly push it around the pan, 0:03:54.760 --> 0:03:57.880 letting the butter seep into every crevice of those runny, 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:01.280 runny eggs. Then, is it's cooking up, don't add the 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:04.320 salt yet, Get your hand off the salt. We're gonna 0:04:04.320 --> 0:04:06.800 place that over a nice piece of sour dough that's 0:04:06.800 --> 0:04:09.320 got a thin layer of butter on it. Butter's your friend, 0:04:09.360 --> 0:04:12.000 not your enemy. Then we're gonna top it with chopped 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:17.320 chives and thinly sliced smoked salmon chopped up as well, 0:04:17.440 --> 0:04:20.279 and then we're gonna add ourselves a finishing flake salt, 0:04:20.800 --> 0:04:23.120 a little bit of pepper, and a dash of olive 0:04:23.160 --> 0:04:28.440 oil on top. Oh my god, I'm trying so hard. Um, 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:30.920 all right, let's let's move on. But that that is 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:33.040 an enjoyable food for me, right now. Tell us about 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:38.680 your career. Well, I'm very lucky with my career I've been. 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:41.880 I started as an intern for this company called Awesome's TV, 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:43.640 which was a YouTube channel, and I had my own 0:04:43.640 --> 0:04:46.080 little YouTube channel, but you know, it wasn't anything that 0:04:46.120 --> 0:04:48.039 was paying any bills. And when I got the job 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:51.120 at Awesomeness, I just grinded and grinded for like five, six, 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:53.880 seven years and eventually became the face of the channel. 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:58.320 And then I was hosting, probably hosted thousands of videos 0:04:58.320 --> 0:05:00.320 for them, and I told myself, I was like, Oh, 0:05:00.360 --> 0:05:01.800 wouldn't it be cool to be on TV? And then 0:05:01.839 --> 0:05:05.120 I got a game show network show, and then all 0:05:05.160 --> 0:05:06.520 my friends were all I was like, you guy should 0:05:06.520 --> 0:05:08.200 watch this show. And they're like, we don't have cable 0:05:08.200 --> 0:05:10.400 and I was like, okay, that makes it hard to 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:12.480 watch the show. Neither did I at the time, so 0:05:12.520 --> 0:05:14.719 I couldn't even watch my own show. And then Netflix 0:05:14.720 --> 0:05:16.480 called Netflix, was like, we want you to do this 0:05:16.600 --> 0:05:19.640 baking show called Sure Rush, and I was like absolutely. 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:22.159 Did not tell them that I was gluten intolerant until 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:27.400 season three, um, and then uh, that only shot for 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:28.680 a couple of weeks a year, and then we were done. 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:30.440 I said, how cool would it be to get a 0:05:30.440 --> 0:05:32.600 show that I could shoot every day, and then Nightly 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:35.320 Pop came around, which we shoot four days week and 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:37.480 it's been a dream. And we're about to hit episode 0:05:37.560 --> 0:05:41.200 five hundred of that show, which is just so rare 0:05:41.200 --> 0:05:43.560 and television. I'm so blessed my entire career. I'm very 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:50.240 thankful for. And uh, yeah, what's my biggest fear in life? Um, 0:05:50.240 --> 0:05:56.440 it's it's between two different things I really don't like, uh, 0:05:56.520 --> 0:05:59.479 the idea of bones breaking, Like I don't want to 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:02.960 get hurt. I hate getting hurt. It sucks. And then 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:06.600 the second one is dying alone. No, if you are 0:06:06.680 --> 0:06:08.600 just experiencing who I am as a person right now, 0:06:08.600 --> 0:06:13.040 and this these eleven questions are your intro. Oh boy, 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:18.640 I'm sorry this is an aggressive intro. What is your 0:06:18.640 --> 0:06:22.840 biggest pet? Peeve? My biggest I hate when people don't 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:27.320 say thank you, just be appreciative. It's so easy to 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:31.240 say thank you. I say thank you like it's you know, 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:34.000 candy on Halloween. I give it to everybody. I don't care, like, 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:36.839 thank you for so simple. Someone holds a door if like, 0:06:36.880 --> 0:06:39.320 a guy holds a door open for me on my 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:42.960 way into Starbucks, and I'm like more than five feet away. 0:06:43.240 --> 0:06:45.880 I literally look at dead in the Hind I go, 0:06:46.520 --> 0:06:49.480 thank you so much, man, that was nice, just because 0:06:49.520 --> 0:06:51.720 I just think and so like, if I ever take 0:06:51.720 --> 0:06:53.760 a girl out to dinner, I don't mind. I always 0:06:53.800 --> 0:06:56.560 love paying. I I believe in that I should pay 0:06:56.640 --> 0:06:59.640 just because I asked a person on a date. Um, 0:07:00.040 --> 0:07:03.400 if they don't say thank you, it just it rubs 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:08.000 me the wrong way. It's it's last date. Um. What 0:07:08.160 --> 0:07:13.640 makes you the most happy? I think making my family 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:17.080 laugh makes me the most happy. You know. I think 0:07:18.240 --> 0:07:20.200 getting to do what I do. I get the chance 0:07:20.280 --> 0:07:22.320 to try and joke around for a lot of people, 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:26.080 and luckily I get to do it day and day out. 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:29.440 But there's nothing like seeing my dad or my mom laugh, 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:31.600 or my brother laugh a lot at something. It really 0:07:31.640 --> 0:07:36.240 makes me happy. What is your ideal Saturday morning? UM? 0:07:37.320 --> 0:07:43.600 Ideal Saturday morning would be waking up already off to 0:07:43.640 --> 0:07:46.920 a good start, better than it could have been. Um. 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:50.200 Then making a really yummy breakfast, hanging out with my 0:07:50.240 --> 0:07:54.720 dog Lucy, taking her on a walk, doing a workout, 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:59.960 but preferably playing a sport like paddle, tennis or basketball, 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:02.840 all in the backyard. Something to just get the left flowing, 0:08:02.840 --> 0:08:05.800 and then again hanging out with friends I love and 0:08:05.840 --> 0:08:08.240 going to the beach or doing something. Yeah, and work, 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:10.360 I do love work. I'm very lucky that I like 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:14.240 my job, so i'd get some editing done or some producing. 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:18.080 Are you more of the athlete or the armschare quarterback? 0:08:19.960 --> 0:08:26.840 The thing is neither. Really, I'm athletic, but nobody's calling 0:08:26.880 --> 0:08:29.480 me saying, hunter, we need a fifth on the on 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:33.200 the court. It's just not happening. I'm good, I've played 0:08:33.200 --> 0:08:36.320 sports my whole life, but I'm not that good. And 0:08:36.360 --> 0:08:39.040 then the armshair quarterback. Now, I don't care about other 0:08:39.120 --> 0:08:43.760 grown men. I don't get invested like that. I hosted 0:08:43.800 --> 0:08:46.080 a Super Bowl party. I had you know, sixty seventy 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:48.720 people at the house, and I watched maybe twenty five 0:08:48.720 --> 0:08:51.200 seconds of the game. I rather, I just enjoyed having 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:53.280 people over and and taking care of them more than 0:08:53.320 --> 0:08:58.400 I enjoyed the sports. And finally, what keeps you motivated? 0:08:59.040 --> 0:09:02.840 It's mostly money. Um, just the ability to accrue wealth, 0:09:03.480 --> 0:09:06.440 hold it over people with less wealth and kind of 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:09.400 dictate their lives and in the way that I see fit. 0:09:09.440 --> 0:09:12.240 Because I have so much money, that would be that 0:09:12.400 --> 0:09:15.600 would be not it. I'm kidding. What keeps me motivated? 0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:19.080 I I get I've gotten some opportunities to work with 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:25.560 UH people who have disabilities with this company called Ability First, 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:28.120 this program called Ability First, and got to teach painting 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:31.600 classes and stuff like that. And seeing them excited about 0:09:31.600 --> 0:09:34.520 the guy from Sugar Rush is like the only time 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:37.200 I'm excited to be the guy from sugar Rush. So 0:09:38.120 --> 0:09:41.079 doing that getting people excited to like go try cooking 0:09:41.240 --> 0:09:44.360 or get excited to try and make some jokes and 0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:48.600 be funny, that's exciting to me. Anyway. Those are the 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:52.080 eleven questions with me. Now we're going to get into 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:54.640 some callers, but before we do that, we're gonna say 0:09:54.679 --> 0:10:05.319 a quick break. Welcome back. I hope you guys bought 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:07.800 all those products. Let's go ahead and talk to our 0:10:07.840 --> 0:10:11.800 first caller. Hi, how's it going good? How are you? 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:17.880 I'm fantastic, is it, Mara? Yes? It is all right, Maura. Well, 0:10:17.920 --> 0:10:20.280 I'd like to hear more of you right now. So 0:10:20.320 --> 0:10:24.600 what's your question? Okay? So, um I am born and 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:28.440 raised in southern California and I have loved growing up here. 0:10:28.480 --> 0:10:34.240 It's very beautiful, but um in l A unfortunately, UM 0:10:34.280 --> 0:10:37.920 I feel like, especially with like social media, like it's 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:41.560 really hard to find someone who's not like looking for 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:46.599 the best, shiniest, most perfect person. Which brings me to 0:10:46.640 --> 0:10:51.080 my question, Um, Like, I mean in l A, where 0:10:51.080 --> 0:10:55.680 there's like actresses and models and Instagram influencers, how does 0:10:55.880 --> 0:10:58.840 a normal girl who is an in the industry stand out? 0:11:02.880 --> 0:11:06.600 It's a great question because one, I don't think it's 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:09.960 as valid as as some people fear, you know, like 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:13.560 there are is much as l A is known for 0:11:13.720 --> 0:11:19.440 the glitz and glamour, the people here are still you know, 0:11:20.720 --> 0:11:23.719 like I consider myself one of those normal people, Like 0:11:23.760 --> 0:11:25.560 I don't consider myself I don't go out to the 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:30.559 parties or the clubs. I don't meet people that way. Um, 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:32.440 when what have I what have I been doing to 0:11:32.480 --> 0:11:34.920 meet people? So what are you saying? Are you do 0:11:35.000 --> 0:11:36.600 you want to know how to meet people or how 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.040 to stand out at Do you already like go to 0:11:39.080 --> 0:11:44.320 places and you just want to stand out at those places? Um? 0:11:44.360 --> 0:11:47.560 I guess a little bit of both, a little bit 0:11:47.559 --> 0:11:50.520 of both, but especially I think, um, I just feel 0:11:50.559 --> 0:11:52.560 like I don't stand out. I just feel like I 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:56.480 can't compare it to these like women I don't know. Well, 0:11:56.520 --> 0:11:59.280 first of all, these women can't even compare to themselves, 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:04.440 you know, like the Instagram look and the TikTok and 0:12:04.760 --> 0:12:07.160 obviously when they're on TV and in the movies or whatever, 0:12:07.200 --> 0:12:12.079 if there musicians, it's it's so much is put into 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:15.440 building an image that really isn't them, and I think 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:20.640 they obviously are aware of that. And then in the 0:12:20.720 --> 0:12:22.840 same with men, they all kind of put this image up. 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:25.800 But what a lot of people don't realize is like 0:12:26.600 --> 0:12:29.320 that goes away and then you are stuck with the 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:32.280 real person. And if the real person is great, whether 0:12:32.400 --> 0:12:36.360 it's um, someone who's really smart or really funny or 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:40.720 just really genuine. I love authenticity in a partner almost 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:46.080 more than I love anything else. Um, you you'll stand 0:12:46.080 --> 0:12:51.040 out to the right person. Undoubtedly. The thing that happens 0:12:51.080 --> 0:12:53.760 in l A is, and it happens with men and women. 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:59.560 They come to l A looking for something better than themselves, right, 0:12:59.559 --> 0:13:01.000 because a lot of people who come to l A 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:05.960 want something. They want to be famous or successful, and 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:08.400 if they don't have that yet, they do anything to 0:13:08.440 --> 0:13:11.560 elevate their status. But at some point you meet a 0:13:11.600 --> 0:13:15.800 guy or a woman who isn't who doesn't need to 0:13:15.880 --> 0:13:20.320 like date somebody or do something for the cloud for 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:23.480 lack of a less disgusting word, And you mean someone 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:25.800 who's ready to meet someone genuine And I'm at that 0:13:25.840 --> 0:13:29.520 stage in my life now where, um, I don't need 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:31.480 to date someone in the industry by any means. I 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:34.840 would love to date somebody who I met getting coffee 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:38.080 who had nothing to do with this industry. And ah, 0:13:38.440 --> 0:13:41.960 just made me laugh. That's it. So you know, I'm 0:13:42.000 --> 0:13:43.880 still single, so I think we're probably in the same 0:13:43.880 --> 0:13:46.160 boat more. I don't know if that answers your question. 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:49.600 It does. Actually, that made me feel a lot better, um, 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:51.400 because you're I mean, I'm at the end of the day, 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:54.680 I'm looking for authenticity too, So yeah, I mean I 0:13:54.679 --> 0:13:58.120 would actually, you know, just kind of be thankful that 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:00.320 you haven't gotten stuck with one of the guys who's 0:14:00.520 --> 0:14:05.720 you know, like I always the one thing I would 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:08.400 not want for one of my friends or families for 0:14:08.440 --> 0:14:11.520 them to be with somebody who, especially like in l 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:13.200 A where they're just in it for the wrong reasons. 0:14:13.240 --> 0:14:17.079 It's so common, um, And I think like you, being 0:14:17.120 --> 0:14:19.840 single and obviously being aware of this industry in this 0:14:19.880 --> 0:14:23.000 world means You're already leaps and bounds above a lot 0:14:23.000 --> 0:14:26.360 of other people who come here, so I think you'll 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:29.840 find the right person for sure, just a matter of 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:33.560 In terms of meeting people. I love going to some 0:14:33.640 --> 0:14:37.240 of these, like group classes and stuff like that, whether 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:41.160 it's painting or cooking or even workout classes. Sometimes it's 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:44.240 odd to go up to somebody, but if you if 0:14:44.280 --> 0:14:47.000 you here's the thing. If a guy's single and you're 0:14:47.040 --> 0:14:49.280 single and there's an attraction, all you have to do 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:52.040 is look at him twice and he'll come up to 0:14:52.800 --> 0:14:54.480 if he if he wants to. You know, it's not 0:14:54.560 --> 0:14:58.400 about the big aggressive move, but um, you can or 0:14:58.440 --> 0:15:00.240 you just go up to me whatever you want. But yeah, anyway, 0:15:00.320 --> 0:15:02.640 I hope that helps much. I love that it really did. 0:15:02.720 --> 0:15:06.880 Thank you so much. Now you're welcome. Thank you all right, 0:15:07.080 --> 0:15:14.040 Bye bye, Hilarissa, Hi Hunter, how's it going. Everything's good. 0:15:14.920 --> 0:15:21.080 I hear you have a question. I do so obviously, 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:23.760 with the state of the world over the past two years, 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:27.920 I haven't had many dating opportunities, so I'm ready to 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:32.320 get back in there, you know. But nowadays I really 0:15:32.480 --> 0:15:36.520 don't know how the game is played, and I really 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:39.800 don't want to play games anymore so. Growing up, I 0:15:39.880 --> 0:15:42.960 was taught to play hard to get, so you know, 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:45.200 that was supposed to keep a guy's attention or keep 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:48.080 his interest. And I kind of feel like that's the 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:50.680 wrong kind of attention these days, and it brings the 0:15:50.720 --> 0:15:52.920 wrong kind of men, Like is this still a thing? 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:57.080 Like how much hard to get do you play? What 0:15:57.160 --> 0:15:59.360 if you're tired of playing games? What are the rules 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:01.360 in twenties one? You too? And what's the best way 0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:07.120 to date? Yeah? I wish that I was smarter so 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:09.200 that I didn't fall for the hard to get thing 0:16:09.440 --> 0:16:12.600 all the time. But boy, oh boy, when a girl 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:15.280 is hard to get, my monkey brain turns on and 0:16:15.320 --> 0:16:19.840 I am I it does affect it. But then eventually, 0:16:20.800 --> 0:16:24.280 hard to get means that at some point you still 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:26.960 have the chance of getting to the point of a relationship, 0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:30.360 right do you get past the games? And if I 0:16:30.400 --> 0:16:32.400 wasn't gonna like in the beginning when you weren't playing 0:16:32.440 --> 0:16:34.800 hard to get, I'm not gonna like you after we're 0:16:34.840 --> 0:16:37.920 done playing hard to get? You know? So I think 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:41.400 like it does work unfortunately on a lot of guys 0:16:41.400 --> 0:16:44.840 and on women too, Like I've played it accidentally, just 0:16:44.920 --> 0:16:47.000 in times where like I started talking to a girl 0:16:47.000 --> 0:16:48.640 and it just happened to be the busiest two weeks 0:16:48.680 --> 0:16:52.200 of my life. And and then afterwards we'll be talking. 0:16:52.240 --> 0:16:53.800 She's like, I really thought you didn't like me, like 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:55.680 I thought, And I was like, no, no, no no, no, 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:59.920 I was busy, but I understood that it is attracted 0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:03.000 of um to be busy. And I think that that's 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:06.359 the difference. You shouldn't be hard to get. To be 0:17:06.440 --> 0:17:10.680 hard to get, you should be prioritizing yourself and your 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:13.040 job and your hobbies and your friends and your family 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:16.199 before any guy can come into your life and destruct 0:17:16.240 --> 0:17:19.680 any of that. And when you are doing that, you're 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:22.879 not playing hard to get. You just are a little 0:17:22.880 --> 0:17:26.359 harder to get. But it's all while just again making 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:29.480 sure that you are putting you first in the healthiest 0:17:29.480 --> 0:17:32.800 way possible. UM. I think the better way to look 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.199 at it would be like, look at the antithesis of that, 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:40.200 which should be to just be constantly available for virtually 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:44.000 a stranger. Doesn't matter if you've got a one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, ten, dates, 0:17:44.359 --> 0:17:49.520 that person is still a stranger for the most part. UM, 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:53.000 So you know, it's not about again, it's not about games, 0:17:53.040 --> 0:17:56.560 but everybody likes someone who's who's working on them. Everybody 0:17:56.560 --> 0:18:01.879 likes somebody who's busy, successful, career driven in so that 0:18:02.200 --> 0:18:04.359 I hope that answers that question about that. But in 0:18:04.480 --> 0:18:07.680 terms of the other games of of of dating right now, 0:18:08.560 --> 0:18:11.280 I think people are a little tired of games. I 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.400 think we've been in a pandemic for too long where 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:15.520 if you don't like games, now it's kind of the 0:18:15.600 --> 0:18:19.159 chance to date because people just want to cut to 0:18:19.240 --> 0:18:22.040 the to the meat of a relationship and kind of 0:18:22.920 --> 0:18:26.280 have somebody, especially if we've been single for the past, 0:18:26.320 --> 0:18:30.320 you know, two years of isolation. Yes, is that you've 0:18:30.320 --> 0:18:32.480 been single for the pandemic or did you have someone 0:18:33.720 --> 0:18:38.679 to so you at this point? What are you looking for? Mostly? 0:18:39.680 --> 0:18:42.119 I mean just something that can start off as a 0:18:42.160 --> 0:18:46.240 good strong friendship, good common interests, and something that has 0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:51.280 the opportunity to blossom into more, but without the uncertainty 0:18:51.440 --> 0:18:53.800 like is this person really into me? Am I wasting 0:18:53.800 --> 0:18:56.520 my time? Like I understand what you were saying about 0:18:56.560 --> 0:19:00.600 prioritizing yourself and I totally agree with that, um, but 0:19:00.720 --> 0:19:03.000 you also want to know like this that we're both 0:19:03.040 --> 0:19:05.199 on the same page and we're both moving forward and 0:19:05.280 --> 0:19:09.399 we're open to more, but taking it slow and also 0:19:09.520 --> 0:19:13.000 knowing where we're going as opposed to being totally confused 0:19:13.000 --> 0:19:18.280 on what's going on. Yeah, I think having the conversation again, 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:23.240 it doesn't negate the hard to get It doesn't. It 0:19:23.280 --> 0:19:26.639 doesn't stop like that when you have that conversation. I 0:19:26.680 --> 0:19:28.720 was talking to a girl recently and I was I 0:19:29.040 --> 0:19:33.840 liked her, and I told her on the phone because 0:19:33.840 --> 0:19:35.600 we were both really busy. She went back to New York. 0:19:35.640 --> 0:19:38.359 I was in l A And on the phone, I 0:19:38.400 --> 0:19:41.760 just was kind of like, you know, it's nice talking 0:19:41.760 --> 0:19:44.560 to you. I enjoy it because I got a little crush. 0:19:44.760 --> 0:19:47.200 You know, saying you have a little crush is and 0:19:47.920 --> 0:19:50.760 isn't a bad thing. Again, It's it's not like I 0:19:50.880 --> 0:19:55.399 want you to date me. I'm gonna take over your life. 0:19:55.840 --> 0:19:58.320 It's not that. You know, you can still put those 0:19:58.359 --> 0:20:00.880 little signs out there. And I think when you put 0:20:00.880 --> 0:20:05.000 those little signs out there, if you're being really really objective, 0:20:05.920 --> 0:20:09.800 you know what signs you get back. There are times 0:20:09.840 --> 0:20:11.760 where some guy will say something and you're like, what 0:20:11.920 --> 0:20:13.840 was that. Does that means that mean he's into me? 0:20:13.920 --> 0:20:15.920 Or does that mean he's not into me, and usually 0:20:15.960 --> 0:20:18.600 if you have to really ask, it means he's not 0:20:19.000 --> 0:20:22.440 giving you what you're given him. Yeah, you know, like 0:20:22.560 --> 0:20:25.080 in my mind, a guy and a woman both should 0:20:25.720 --> 0:20:29.000 make it somewhat known after the second, third, fourth, fifth 0:20:29.080 --> 0:20:32.199 date that there's interest. Otherwise you wouldn't be going on 0:20:32.240 --> 0:20:34.160 these dates. You know, you wouldn't be on the fifth 0:20:34.240 --> 0:20:37.640 date if you weren't into them. So you know, again, 0:20:37.680 --> 0:20:41.240 it's not about jump in the line and basically saying 0:20:41.280 --> 0:20:44.840 I love you or you know, on date two. But 0:20:45.480 --> 0:20:47.720 you can let him know and see what his responses. 0:20:47.800 --> 0:20:49.680 Just say something like I enjoy spend time with you, 0:20:49.840 --> 0:20:53.000 because that could be anything. But if he goes yeah, 0:20:53.119 --> 0:20:56.119 you're like it's like my sister, you know, you're like, 0:20:56.160 --> 0:20:58.160 all right, I'm out of here. But if he goes, 0:20:58.520 --> 0:21:00.159 I jest, I want to spend more time with you. 0:21:00.720 --> 0:21:04.240 Then hopefully that calms that anxiety that we all get 0:21:04.280 --> 0:21:06.240 when we date, you know, like do they like me 0:21:06.280 --> 0:21:09.040 as much as I like them? Blah blah blah. So 0:21:09.800 --> 0:21:11.280 I think I think there's little ways to do it 0:21:11.280 --> 0:21:12.879 with where you're not putting it all on the table, 0:21:13.320 --> 0:21:15.880 and it's like doing little litmus tests and seeing if 0:21:16.240 --> 0:21:19.880 if their feedback gives you the answers you're looking for. Absolutely, 0:21:20.119 --> 0:21:23.679 that's great advice. Thank you, You're welcome. Everybody's saying it's 0:21:23.720 --> 0:21:25.760 great advice, which makes me wonder if you were told 0:21:25.800 --> 0:21:27.440 to say it's great advice at the end of each 0:21:27.440 --> 0:21:30.440 of these calls. And that laugh makes me think that 0:21:30.440 --> 0:21:34.600 that's the case, that was genuine. Okay, well, thank you, Leisa. 0:21:35.119 --> 0:21:39.280 Uh let me know how it goes damn me afterwards. 0:21:39.720 --> 0:21:42.359 I'm ready to put it to the test. All right, 0:21:42.600 --> 0:21:49.760 nice bye bye. Hi Stephanie, Hi are you? I'm good. 0:21:49.800 --> 0:21:53.879 I love your voice. Thank you. I think like just 0:21:53.960 --> 0:21:56.440 being separated by the zoom and only hearing the voice. 0:21:56.440 --> 0:22:01.520 I'm painting the most stunning image of like you and 0:22:01.560 --> 0:22:04.560 where you are. It's like buy a fire somewhere and 0:22:04.880 --> 0:22:07.320 in there's snow outside. I don't know why I envisioned 0:22:07.320 --> 0:22:11.479 that very cozy thoughts. Yes, yeah, well Stephanie, what can 0:22:11.560 --> 0:22:16.080 I answer for you? Well, um, so I was hanging 0:22:16.080 --> 0:22:19.200 out with my boyfriend last night and mind then to 0:22:19.280 --> 0:22:22.000 everything I said earlier, I mean you can still have 0:22:22.040 --> 0:22:25.440 that thought, all right. Um. We were hanging out and 0:22:25.480 --> 0:22:28.040 he got a couple of text messages from a group message, 0:22:28.080 --> 0:22:30.159 which he's in a few groups, so it wasn't strange 0:22:30.240 --> 0:22:33.080 or anything, but I did ask him what group it was, 0:22:33.800 --> 0:22:35.800 and he said it was a bunch of his guy friends. 0:22:35.920 --> 0:22:39.360 They have a group message where they message each other 0:22:39.440 --> 0:22:44.280 about relationships, stuff like problems in their relationship or positives 0:22:44.280 --> 0:22:46.320 in their relationship. They basically just ask each other a 0:22:46.320 --> 0:22:49.240