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I you subject Alexa call my bay Do 11 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:36,680 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I'm dating a forty seven year old player. 12 00:00:37,280 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: We've been together for almost two years and I told 13 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:44,080 Speaker 1: him marriage was the goal for me when we started dating, 14 00:00:44,120 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: and he said he wanted to be married too. I 15 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:48,760 Speaker 1: was at his house over the weekend and we were 16 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:51,760 Speaker 1: listening to music through his phone and his phone rang. 17 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:55,120 Speaker 1: He usually won't have his phone connected to Bluetooth because 18 00:00:55,120 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 1: we've had a mishap before when one of his co 19 00:00:58,560 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: workers called and his blue who announced her it was 20 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,720 Speaker 1: a lady named Carmen, and I eventually found out that 21 00:01:04,800 --> 00:01:08,160 Speaker 1: he and Carmen had sex before we started dating. He 22 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: still hangs out with Carmen, even though he knows I 23 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 1: don't like it. Back to the most recent incident, we 24 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 1: were watching a movie and Alexa announced that he had 25 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:22,960 Speaker 1: a call from quote my Bay. He calls his niece 26 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: Bay and she calls him a lot to ask for money. 27 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 1: But my intuition kicked in and I wanted to be 28 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:32,880 Speaker 1: sure it was his niece. He took a shower and 29 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:35,920 Speaker 1: his phone was still connected to the bluetooth. I went 30 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:39,040 Speaker 1: to the front of the house and said, Alexa, call 31 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: my Bay. I got Carmen's voicemail. I confronted him in 32 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:46,679 Speaker 1: the shower, and he calmly told me I was dead 33 00:01:46,720 --> 00:01:49,639 Speaker 1: wrong for what I did and I should leave because 34 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:53,040 Speaker 1: I was not about to ruin his weekend. I left, 35 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: and days later he's still has not addressed who Carmen 36 00:01:56,640 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 1: is to him. He jokingly tells me that I'm crazy, 37 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 1: but he still loves me. He keeps asking me to 38 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: come over and say he can't sleep without me. I'm 39 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:09,799 Speaker 1: not going to let this slide. Why is she my Bay? 40 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:14,680 Speaker 1: Should I leave him alone and let Carmen have him? Wow? 41 00:02:18,400 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: All right, come on this, You're not anything special necessarily 42 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 1: to this man. Because you said yourself, he's a player. 43 00:02:25,639 --> 00:02:29,400 Speaker 1: It's nothing wrong with you wanting to get married and 44 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:32,120 Speaker 1: letting him know how you feel about that. But because 45 00:02:32,160 --> 00:02:36,120 Speaker 1: of his track record with Carmen and god knows who else, 46 00:02:36,400 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 1: he is not a good candidate to be your husband. 47 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:42,040 Speaker 1: He's forty seven years old, still out here in these streets. 48 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:44,720 Speaker 1: If he's doing it, now, what do you think this 49 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 1: so called player is gonna do if you were to 50 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:51,200 Speaker 1: marry him? More of the same. When people show you 51 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:54,520 Speaker 1: who they are, you've heard the saying, please believe them. Okay, 52 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:57,040 Speaker 1: I think you're wasting your time with this guy. You 53 00:02:57,160 --> 00:03:00,440 Speaker 1: also said this is not the first incident. After you 54 00:03:00,520 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: confronted him in the shower, he kicks you out. He 55 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:05,200 Speaker 1: said you should leave because he didn't want you to 56 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:08,959 Speaker 1: ruin his weekend, never addressing you know the fact that 57 00:03:09,560 --> 00:03:13,160 Speaker 1: Carmen is listed as his bay and he still sees her. 58 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:16,640 Speaker 1: I think he's still hanging out with Carmen. You said 59 00:03:16,680 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: he was, And what do you think they're doing when 60 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:22,320 Speaker 1: they're hanging out. We say on this show all the time, 61 00:03:22,440 --> 00:03:25,800 Speaker 1: especially Steve, men and women can't be friends. So I 62 00:03:25,840 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 1: think you have a decision to make because you really 63 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:30,519 Speaker 1: don't want to waste two more years with him, and 64 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:34,440 Speaker 1: miss Carmen, do you? So let this go? Steve, let 65 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 1: me start into bottom of Alena Alexa called my bay. 66 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: I'm not going to let this slide. Why is she 67 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: my bay? Should I leave him alone and let Carmen 68 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:50,160 Speaker 1: have him? Well, you don't have to leave him alone 69 00:03:50,200 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 1: to do that. Carmen already got it, and you do too. 70 00:03:58,240 --> 00:04:02,720 Speaker 1: This is a letter of simply, you don't want to 71 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:08,840 Speaker 1: believe what you heard. That's all this is. You just 72 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: don't want to believe what you heard. You you're dating 73 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 1: a forty seven year old player. You ain't hear that. 74 00:04:15,320 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: You ain't hear that you wrote it. I'm dating a 75 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:22,400 Speaker 1: forty seven year old player. You don't want to believe 76 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:26,559 Speaker 1: what you heard. You don't want to believe what you read. 77 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:29,920 Speaker 1: We've been together almost two years and I told him 78 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:32,599 Speaker 1: marriage was the goal for me when we started dating, 79 00:04:32,800 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 1: and he said he wanted to be married too. Yeah, 80 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:39,719 Speaker 1: but he did not tell you he wanted to be 81 00:04:39,920 --> 00:04:46,320 Speaker 1: married to you. You didn't hear that. You don't believe 82 00:04:46,360 --> 00:04:49,479 Speaker 1: that when you heard it he said he wanted to 83 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:53,960 Speaker 1: be married too, He didn't say to who? And he 84 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:58,799 Speaker 1: didn't say to you. He has not one time told 85 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 1: you he wanted to marry you. He said his goal 86 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:05,240 Speaker 1: is to be married. He just did not say to you. 87 00:05:06,200 --> 00:05:07,880 Speaker 1: I was at his house over the weekend and we 88 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 1: listened to music through his phone and his phone ring. 89 00:05:10,160 --> 00:05:13,039 Speaker 1: He usually won't have his phone connected to Bluetooth? Who 90 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: do that? Who do that? Who do that? Because we 91 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:20,839 Speaker 1: had a mishap before. We had a mishap before, and 92 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:24,200 Speaker 1: he's still One of his co workers calling Bluetooth announced 93 00:05:24,240 --> 00:05:27,320 Speaker 1: to it was a lady named Common. I eventually found 94 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:30,120 Speaker 1: out he and Common had sex before we started dating. 95 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:33,120 Speaker 1: He still hang out with Carmen even though he knows 96 00:05:33,160 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: I don't like it. You're what Wait a minute, what 97 00:05:36,040 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 1: part of this you don't believe? You just said you 98 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:43,239 Speaker 1: found out that him and Carmen had sex before y'all 99 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 1: started dating. He still hang out with Common even though 100 00:05:48,120 --> 00:05:51,360 Speaker 1: he know I don't like it. You didn't like having 101 00:05:51,400 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 1: sex with Common, but he did one more time. You 102 00:05:57,720 --> 00:06:03,839 Speaker 1: didn't like having sex with Calming, but he did. He 103 00:06:04,040 --> 00:06:06,320 Speaker 1: still hang out with her even though he know I 104 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:12,919 Speaker 1: don't like it. You ain't posting like it? He do what? 105 00:06:13,400 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 1: You didn't hear that? You don't. You don't. You don't 106 00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:20,400 Speaker 1: want to believe nothing. You hear back to the most 107 00:06:20,440 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: recent incident. We're watching the movie and Alexa announced that 108 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:26,039 Speaker 1: he had a call from my Bay. He calls his 109 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:28,000 Speaker 1: niece Bay and she calls him a lot to ask 110 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:30,320 Speaker 1: for money. My tuition kicked in. I wanted to be 111 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 1: sure it was his niece. He took a shower and 112 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:37,919 Speaker 1: his phone was still connected to the bluetooth. What hang on, Steve? 113 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:42,600 Speaker 1: Right there? Lord? Who do that? We'll have part two 114 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:45,640 Speaker 1: of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after 115 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 1: the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters, subject Alexa, call my Bay. 116 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening 117 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:57,080 Speaker 1: Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, Steve, come on, let's 118 00:06:57,080 --> 00:07:00,719 Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject Alexa, Oh my Bay. 119 00:07:01,680 --> 00:07:04,600 Speaker 1: This woman doesn't want to believe nothing. She here. She's 120 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:07,920 Speaker 1: dating a forty seven year old player. You told him 121 00:07:07,920 --> 00:07:10,560 Speaker 1: you wanted marriage as to go when y'all started dating. 122 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: He said he wanted to be married too. You say, 123 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 1: he's a forty seven year old player. You didn't hear that. 124 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: He said he wanted to be married too, But he 125 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:21,520 Speaker 1: didn't say to you. You didn't hear that you was 126 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:23,560 Speaker 1: at his house listening to music through the phone. His 127 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:26,320 Speaker 1: phone rang. He us, don't have his phone connected to 128 00:07:26,320 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 1: bluetooth because we had a mishap before. Once you had 129 00:07:29,680 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: one mishap with me, you ain't gonna have this one again. 130 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:34,560 Speaker 1: So now whenever you come over, my phone ain't gonna 131 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 1: be on connected on nothing. One of his co workers 132 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: called his bluetooth announcing ladies, they ain't calming. I eventually 133 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:44,240 Speaker 1: found out that he in Common had sex before we 134 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 1: start dating. He still hangs out with Calming even though 135 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:52,520 Speaker 1: he no, I don't like it. He still hanged out 136 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:56,520 Speaker 1: with Common. What do you think him in Calming is 137 00:07:56,680 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 1: doing when they hanging out? They had sex together before 138 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:06,440 Speaker 1: you started dating. Now you dating that he still hang 139 00:08:06,480 --> 00:08:08,800 Speaker 1: out with it, and he no, I don't like it. 140 00:08:08,840 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 1: But he do though, But he dude, though he know 141 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:19,960 Speaker 1: I don't like him having sex would come. You ain't 142 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: got to like the six would come. He likes the 143 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:28,520 Speaker 1: sex would come, and he not giving Calming up. Back 144 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:30,760 Speaker 1: to the most recentes. We're watching the movie and a 145 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 1: Lex announced that he had a call from my bab. 146 00:08:33,400 --> 00:08:35,719 Speaker 1: He calls his niece Bay and she calls him a 147 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:38,400 Speaker 1: lot to ask for money. But my twition kicked My 148 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 1: intuition kicked in, and I wanted to be sure was 149 00:08:40,520 --> 00:08:42,719 Speaker 1: his niece. He took a shower and his phone was 150 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:45,360 Speaker 1: still connected to the bluetooth. Lord him, mister Jesus, what 151 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: you just said in the letter. We had a mishap before. 152 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:53,520 Speaker 1: Now again you had a mishap, and now a third time. 153 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:57,440 Speaker 1: He don't give a damn about you at all, because 154 00:08:57,520 --> 00:09:00,560 Speaker 1: there's no way he should be in that shower and 155 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 1: that phone knocked duck take to his thought, it's no 156 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 1: way to his thought while he taking a shower, Oh 157 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 1: solid and airplane mode. Make sure I went to the 158 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:24,480 Speaker 1: I would took a shower, his phone ticket. I went 159 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 1: to the front of the house and said, Alexa called 160 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:31,199 Speaker 1: my babe. I got Calment's voicemen. I confronted him in 161 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:34,360 Speaker 1: the shower, and he calmly told me, hey, baby, you 162 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:37,080 Speaker 1: did wrong for what you did, and you know what. 163 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:40,079 Speaker 1: I want you to leave because I'm not about You're 164 00:09:40,080 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 1: not about to ruin my weekend when all out. I 165 00:09:43,280 --> 00:09:44,960 Speaker 1: ain't got to have you over here doing this here 166 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:47,760 Speaker 1: because common can come over here and ain't she ain't no, Trump, 167 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:51,960 Speaker 1: I left, and days later he has still not addressed 168 00:09:52,080 --> 00:09:58,400 Speaker 1: who Calmon is to him. Calmon is my babe? What what? What? What? 169 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:02,320 Speaker 1: You don't see? He see it? He still has not 170 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:06,920 Speaker 1: addressed who Common is. Common is my baby that I 171 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:09,360 Speaker 1: had sex with before I started dating with you that 172 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:12,120 Speaker 1: you didn't like, but I do. And so I'm still 173 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 1: hanging out with her. And what you think we're hanging 174 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:21,080 Speaker 1: out doing? Yeah, he jokingly tells me that I'm crazy, 175 00:10:21,080 --> 00:10:24,600 Speaker 1: but he still loved me. He jokingly listen to me. 176 00:10:24,880 --> 00:10:28,920 Speaker 1: He jokingly tells you you crazy, but he still loved me. 177 00:10:29,360 --> 00:10:32,920 Speaker 1: You the jealous? That sound? How does that sound? Girl? 178 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: Are you crazy? I love you so crazy? I love you? 179 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:45,480 Speaker 1: You know coming coming? Talk about comment? Baby? You know 180 00:10:45,559 --> 00:10:53,000 Speaker 1: I love you. That's what he did. Yeah, he keeps 181 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:55,400 Speaker 1: asking me to come over and said he can't sleep 182 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 1: without you. Listen to what you're saying. He keeps asking 183 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:01,600 Speaker 1: me to come and say he can't sleep without you. 184 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:04,080 Speaker 1: He keep asking you to come over because he can't 185 00:11:04,080 --> 00:11:12,319 Speaker 1: sleep without you. When Common ain't him. Here's babe that 186 00:11:12,480 --> 00:11:15,640 Speaker 1: he has sex with before y'all start dating, and then 187 00:11:15,840 --> 00:11:17,920 Speaker 1: you found out that you don't like it, but he 188 00:11:18,040 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 1: still hang out with her because he liked her sex. 189 00:11:22,120 --> 00:11:25,320 Speaker 1: Here's the next line. Why is she my babe? Because 190 00:11:25,559 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 1: she has sex with him and no trouble? Should I 191 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:32,240 Speaker 1: leave him alone and let Common have him? Car You 192 00:11:32,280 --> 00:11:35,120 Speaker 1: ain't got to leave him to do that. Carmen already 193 00:11:35,160 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: got him. You don't have to leave him and let 194 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:42,880 Speaker 1: Common have him. Carmen has him. What's your part of 195 00:11:42,920 --> 00:11:47,439 Speaker 1: this letter? Did you not believe lady? Because I believed 196 00:11:47,440 --> 00:11:52,000 Speaker 1: it all. So now let's have up. Let's no matter 197 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:55,840 Speaker 1: what happens, no matter what, Alexa say, watch me fix it. 198 00:11:55,920 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: Go ahead, Shirley Carlin say something. You y'all are Alexa 199 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:03,680 Speaker 1: phone ring. I'm sitting here with this girl and I'm 200 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:05,760 Speaker 1: my Alexa ring and you know it's a woman. But 201 00:12:05,800 --> 00:12:07,800 Speaker 1: I've watched me talking about him. Go ahead, baby, who 202 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:10,839 Speaker 1: is that? I heard a female voice? Who is that? Oh? 203 00:12:10,880 --> 00:12:16,000 Speaker 1: That wasn't no female. I clearly heard a woman. No, No, 204 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:21,400 Speaker 1: that's my nephew. You know your nephew would be a man. 205 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:24,800 Speaker 1: Or Hey, slow down, baby, we accept him. You're gonna 206 00:12:24,800 --> 00:12:38,480 Speaker 1: have to accept him. What are you? Flipped? Back? Two? Next? Alexa? Quickly, Alexa, 207 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:46,439 Speaker 1: who is bad? Babe? Yeah, you ain't reading that Bay 208 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:50,200 Speaker 1: is my niece. Why is your niece? Why do you 209 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 1: call your niece back? I'm listening because her real name 210 00:12:56,960 --> 00:13:05,720 Speaker 1: is Bay Linda. 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