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Speaker 1: are back. So if I do a little bit more

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Speaker 1: singing for this Grown Ambition episode, it's because I've got

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Speaker 2: You describe our Mike Manny Shmancy.

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Speaker 1: Right, fan shmancy, old school like professional him. Then he

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Speaker 1: can beat you. I don't know why, but it makes

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Speaker 1: me want to sing like those like old and Vogue songs.

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Speaker 2: All right, well, we need you to send it down.

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Speaker 1: And caress the mic.

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Speaker 2: Oh, this is the weekend quiet storms, I know right.

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Speaker 1: We can say welcome next to grab a mission podka?

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Speaker 2: Where is silly? Silly? No one takes us seriously. I

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Speaker 2: don't understand why they take us seriously. Well, the weekend

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Speaker 2: was good. This is This has been the most Monday

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Speaker 2: the weekend was fine. The weekend was The weekend was

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Speaker 2: almost like too chillax, like they were. We were almost

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Speaker 2: been such a hectic past two months of like weddings

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Speaker 1: My weekend was the opposite of to I have not had,

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Speaker 1: And this weekend we shot all of these brown fathers

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Speaker 2: So it'll be like a photo book with photos by

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Speaker 1: Well, I was like, so, Superman, you're gonna be upstairs

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Speaker 2: He's nice, I know, but and I are both ad

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Speaker 1: I know, but I'm like how long before He's like,

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Speaker 2: time is money.

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Speaker 1: No, it is, for sure, it's money.

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Speaker 2: You want to get in some buzzworthies buzz worthy. Everybody's

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Speaker 1: Exactly. I got to bring that back. That's the Emmanuel.

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Speaker 1: Now ever, ever, ever.

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Speaker 1: I can honestly say I'm genuinely happy, but I also

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Speaker 1: live in a perpetual state of overwhelmed. Like if you

436
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Speaker 1: like on the I was maybe we were talking about

437
00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:07,520
Speaker 1: earlier that I have a fertilez What is it called,

438
00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:10,840
Speaker 1: like I'm trying to get regulation. Yeah, it's an ovulation app.

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00:22:11,359 --> 00:22:13,560
Speaker 1: And every day I have to put in like you know,

440
00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:15,639
Speaker 1: how much I weigh? What did I eat? And then

441
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:18,920
Speaker 1: always ask how do you feel? And I'm like, let's

442
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Speaker 1: go go, go right ahead to overwhelmed everything every single day,

443
00:22:24,080 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 1: because I mean, you could choose that it might even

444
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Speaker 1: like it even asked you feel in love to you,

445
00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:30,720
Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, I feel happy in love. Where's overwhelmed?

446
00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:34,280
Speaker 1: So there's no I don't know that. You know, I'm

447
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Speaker 1: not saying that you can't have it and what does

448
00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:38,920
Speaker 1: even having it all mean? But just know that don't

449
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Speaker 1: be fooled by the Instagram pics. I mean, I I'm overwhelmed, Like.

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Speaker 2: Why don't you post a picture of that that screenshot

451
00:22:45,760 --> 00:22:53,120
Speaker 2: of that app? Then vulating and I'm overwhelmed people hashtag fertilization,

452
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:55,720
Speaker 2: hashtag motherhood, hashtag.

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Speaker 1: I love the app. It's free. It's called oh v

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Speaker 1: ohv I a fertility and I love this app. And

455
00:23:02,600 --> 00:23:05,880
Speaker 1: so if you're looking for free like you know, ovulation app,

456
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:07,400
Speaker 1: and I highly record, well.

457
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Speaker 2: Since you're clearly telling the people that you're trying right now,

458
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Speaker 2: people have fertilized fertility tips, do you want some fertility tips?

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Speaker 1: I honestly I would really love that. Like you know,

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Speaker 1: now that I'm engaged and stuff about that have a husband,

461
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:23,160
Speaker 1: you cannot judge me about purposely trying to get pregnant.

462
00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:28,359
Speaker 1: But yes, I would love some fertility So I'm thirty seven.

463
00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:29,800
Speaker 1: Just so we're like, you know, we're all on the

464
00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:32,600
Speaker 1: same age I'm a little older than your average bear.

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Speaker 1: I don't drink, I don't smoke. I am eating better.

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Speaker 1: I mean I was never a crazy terrible eater. I'm

467
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Speaker 1: not like overweight. I mean I'm a little sick and

468
00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:47,800
Speaker 1: I got up the Michelle Obama yams. But my natural

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Speaker 1: frame is like really kind of like on the slimmer side.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, so if you have any tips and tricks and.

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Speaker 2: Whatever that's for acupuncture work, let me just throw my

472
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Speaker 2: two cents in my my birth controlling non baby having

473
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Speaker 2: mom's two cents. I did some giggling.

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Speaker 1: I can't sure more children. Everybody else, girl by, tell

475
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Speaker 1: me what have been those be with our kids? Trying

476
00:24:15,000 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 1: to give me what you need to do is now

477
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:19,679
Speaker 1: I need somebody who has clearly is working.

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Speaker 2: You're just depressing though. My cousin's thirty five and they

479
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:24,840
Speaker 2: say that over What is the age is it where

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00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:27,320
Speaker 2: you're your there's there's a cutoff. It's like mid thirties

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Speaker 2: where they call you a geriatric pregnancy. What Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I kidding, I'm sorry, Yeah it's true. She was like

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Speaker 2: thirty five. She's like, yeah, this is considered a geriatric pregnancy.

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Speaker 1: I mean whatever, man like I feel like, you know,

485
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Speaker 1: like I've been reasonably healthy my whole life, like I

486
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Speaker 1: don't know, suffer from any major illnesses like diabetes.

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Speaker 2: Look at Janet, That's all I'm gonna say. Look at Janet.

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Speaker 1: I know, but clearly Janet hired all the doctors, are you.

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Speaker 2: I think it's funny how every celebrity who's like over

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Speaker 2: forty has twins and they never talk about having it having.

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Speaker 1: Clearly.

492
00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,640
Speaker 2: Clearly celebrities just have twins, no exactly.

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Speaker 1: And so that's why I mean, I told myself, you know,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna try naturally for like, you know, six months

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Speaker 1: or whatever, and then if it seems like it's not

496
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Speaker 1: really like you know, half it six to eight months,

497
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Speaker 1: and that's the road that I'm willing to go down.

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Speaker 1: So you if you, if you had to VICHA, I

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Speaker 1: love to hear your you know your feelings. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I haven't. I'm not even gonna lie. I need to

501
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Speaker 1: like go to my doctor and to be like, so

502
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Speaker 1: is this even possible? Could you just look at my

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Speaker 1: body and just let me know.

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Speaker 2: Have you not been to the doctor yet? So no,

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Speaker 2: I have We can't be soliciting brown ambition listeners when

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Speaker 2: you haven't been to your own doctor yet. Get thee

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Speaker 2: to the doctor.

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Speaker 1: No, mean, well, I'm like I need to go for

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Speaker 1: that's what.

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Speaker 2: You're like going all in. So here's my way. Here's

511
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Speaker 2: my blood tide. You can just skip the skip the

512
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Speaker 2: brown ambition. Here's my email address. Girl, your friend speaking,

513
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:02,000
Speaker 2: go to the doctor.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm going to go to the doctor and my.

515
00:26:04,560 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 2: Annual I need my annual checkup too. For the guy. Now,

516
00:26:06,920 --> 00:26:11,439
Speaker 2: I need a book that yeah, yeah, they should give

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Speaker 2: out lollipops. I feel like because it's awful. Yeah, a lot,

518
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 2: but I hate the experience of going.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I remember that I had one guy

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00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:20,879
Speaker 1: in a college I actually kind of like that. I

521
00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 1: didn't feel weird and odin know he was a dude,

522
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:24,080
Speaker 1: which you.

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Speaker 2: Wouldn't think that you a man guy.

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00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, well it was weird, Like it wasn't he was

525
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 1: so I don't know, like his demeanor was just he

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Speaker 1: had the best bedside manner. So it didn't feel awkward,

527
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Speaker 1: like here's this guy down there, Like he was very

528
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Speaker 1: professional and he was my favorite, like I've had I

529
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Speaker 1: had only women, but a friend of mine was like, Tiffany,

530
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Speaker 1: he's amazing. You have to he was an older guy,

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Speaker 1: and I did and he was great.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, Oh so do you still is he still your doctor?

533
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 1: Well, like just last year, I finally got official insurance,

534
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Speaker 1: so we'll see set that in.

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00:27:00,920 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 2: Let me be yeah, let me be the the the

536
00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 2: what do you call it? Not the bearer of bad news.

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00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:10,520
Speaker 2: I was the guinea pig. Yeah, check your insurance first.

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00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:12,880
Speaker 1: I know. That's why I'm just like, I don't even

539
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 1: know if he's still on me. I mean, I've had

540
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,840
Speaker 1: like my regular checkup, but I have to go see

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00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 1: my guy. Now. I know. You got to get a

542
00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:21,679
Speaker 1: lot of TM.

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00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:25,160
Speaker 2: That's what they came for. It is a real life situation, okay, because.

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00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:26,439
Speaker 1: You know in six months when I'm like, see you

545
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 1: guys followed me through the journey to the ring. Now yay,

546
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 1: we're all here. Now we're gonna go through the journey

547
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:34,480
Speaker 1: to you know, I don't know how this whole wedding

548
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:35,840
Speaker 1: thing is gonna happen. And I'm like, let's just go

549
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:38,960
Speaker 1: to Jesse with the piece, but follow me to the

550
00:27:39,040 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 1: journey for the baby, because honestly, the wedding part I'd

551
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Speaker 1: rather we're actually he's looking to buy a house. Uh

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Speaker 1: A four family or three family house. I'm like, well,

553
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:48,760
Speaker 1: let's put the wedding money toward that instead.

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Speaker 2: You know, yeah, that'd be smart.

555
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:54,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you're a spring chicken, so you know you

556
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:56,280
Speaker 1: can do all the whole big wedding thing. I just

557
00:27:56,320 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 1: don't really want it.

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00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:59,320
Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't think that gives me an excuse.

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00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 2: It's still fills really stupid. Really like everything kind of

560
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 2: just feels dumb, but then it also kind of feels fun,

561
00:28:05,240 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 2: and then it's just like conflicting. I'm like, this is stupid,

562
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:11,439
Speaker 2: but I want it. This is stupid, but it'd be fun.

563
00:28:12,000 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 2: But this is like, come on, you can buy a house.

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00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:16,119
Speaker 2: I don't know what. I want to have chicken and

565
00:28:16,160 --> 00:28:27,800
Speaker 2: waffles as an appetizer, though it's crazy. I really just

566
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:30,320
Speaker 2: want mini chicken and waffles because everything else just sounds

567
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:33,160
Speaker 2: the lame. And then you gotta have the you gotta

568
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 2: get the trolleys. I mean, we're having a Savanna wedding.

569
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:37,840
Speaker 2: You gotta get a trolley to take everyone to the venue.

570
00:28:37,840 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 2: It's only one hundred and seventy five dollars an hour.

571
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:43,960
Speaker 2: I'm going insane. It's it's like a slippery slope. But

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00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 2: the good thing. You know that I've said along, I've

573
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 2: been saving for this for many years. It is not

574
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Speaker 2: like we're not going to be in debt for this wedding.

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00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 2: And part of me just kind of feels like, let's

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00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 2: just give us the let's just have a nice I'm

577
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 2: not gonna I sound crazy because it's like you have

578
00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 2: these like back and forth in your mind, like like

579
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:01,960
Speaker 2: you can't be doing this, but you're only gonna have

580
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 2: your family together like this once, so you gotta go

581
00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 2: bigger bo, go home. But come on, it's just a wedding,

582
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 2: but you're bringing them out of Georgia. You gotta give

583
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 2: them a party, like no one even drinks that month.

584
00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:14,280
Speaker 2: But if you don't get an open bar, we wanted

585
00:29:14,360 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 2: to talk about you on your back afterward.

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00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:22,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, they will like this. The other day, Superman was like, man,

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00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 1: we got to go to my friend's winning. It's a

588
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:27,120
Speaker 1: cash bar. We were both like snickering, like cash.

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00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:34,560
Speaker 2: Bar, see my bag. Rude, you have too many burners

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00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,360
Speaker 2: on right now, your fifth blowners your cell phone. That's

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00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:38,920
Speaker 2: true though, I went to a wedding. Well, I went

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00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 2: to a wedding recently and it was four hours. Wait

593
00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 2: for yeah, four hours open bar, but then it turned

594
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 2: to cash bar after night. I thought that was fine

595
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:49,040
Speaker 2: because honestly, you don't people drinking for five hours anyway

596
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:49,880
Speaker 2: just get sloppy.

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00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:53,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah it does, and you just don't want people fighting.

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00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:56,480
Speaker 2: I know, weddings in New York. Bless your hearts. I'm

599
00:29:56,520 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 2: so whid We're getting married in Georgia. Okay, well, sorry

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00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:17,560
Speaker 2: ours our highly personal buzzworthy. I'm sorry, not sorry, not sorry.

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00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 2: All right, let's move on to boost in and breaking.

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Speaker 1: All right, do you want.

603
00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 2: To go first?

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Speaker 1: Yes? This week, I would like.

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Speaker 2: To make a lot of noise.

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00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:34,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that is super man. I'm like, what are

607
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 1: you jumping on the bed?

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00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:37,480
Speaker 2: Lord?

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Speaker 1: Is he?

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00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 2: Okay?

611
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 1: But go upstairs and be quiet. So this this week

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Speaker 1: I would like to boost and I would like to

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00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 1: boost the black flobers just because it was so nice

614
00:30:50,200 --> 00:30:53,479
Speaker 1: like this weekend, it was like a love fest of

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00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 1: going to uh because we didn't just take pictures of

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00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 1: black friend Baja and his son. We did like seven

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00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:03,640
Speaker 1: other fathers and it was just so interesting and beautiful

618
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:06,880
Speaker 1: to see each father interact with his own child differently.

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00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:09,880
Speaker 1: So we went to each father's either home or place

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00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:11,920
Speaker 1: where they liked to hang out with their kid, and

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00:31:12,320 --> 00:31:15,760
Speaker 1: like kids were as young as one years old up

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00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:19,560
Speaker 1: to ten, and so it was just so awesome to see, like,

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00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 1: you know, especially once they forgot that the camera is there.

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00:31:23,200 --> 00:31:26,680
Speaker 1: Like one father, he and his son have this whole routine.

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00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 1: They watch football on Sundays and they put on their

626
00:31:29,200 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 1: jerseys and they throw the football around the living room

627
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:36,080
Speaker 1: and mom makes like you know, like whatever, fun food

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00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:38,760
Speaker 1: and just to see them talking and it was so weird,

629
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,320
Speaker 1: because not weird, but it was so awesome because his

630
00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 1: father used fantasy football to teach his son. His father's

631
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:48,239
Speaker 1: an engineer, to teach his son next level mask and

632
00:31:48,320 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 1: so it was just yeah, so it was just awesome.

633
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: And then to see my best friend Drina and then

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00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 1: her son, who my god son. His son is like

635
00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 1: one and like her dreams or her son Gabe. His

636
00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:05,960
Speaker 1: father Keith is like super cool and chill, you know,

637
00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: like he's one of these like cool cats. And just

638
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:11,360
Speaker 1: to see like, uh them put on like I don't know,

639
00:32:11,600 --> 00:32:14,360
Speaker 1: like some dance music for Gabe and gave to be

640
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 1: dancing and like Keith like indulging him, like you know,

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00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:19,800
Speaker 1: like because normally he's like yeah, you know, I'm just

642
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 1: so here cool, and he was like shaking his booty's

643
00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 1: like come on, dad, you know and one but it

644
00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,760
Speaker 1: was just honestly, it was just beautiful to see and

645
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 1: I'm glad I got to capture it. And so I

646
00:32:29,560 --> 00:32:32,360
Speaker 1: just want to give a boost to brown and black

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00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 1: fathers and their love for their children and how they

648
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 1: expressed it uniquely but equally beautifully.

649
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 2: I need to call my dad now. I haven't talked

650
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 2: to him in a week. I'm terrible. He probably like,

651
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 2: I needn't take a brown break from an ungrateful daughter

652
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:48,840
Speaker 2: who never calls me. But I send him bit moojis.

653
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 2: He loves them. He loves a bit moji. Plus it

654
00:32:54,600 --> 00:33:04,880
Speaker 2: saves time, so many emotions one picture. It's terrible. I

655
00:33:04,920 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 2: have a lot of burners, okay, but that Moji helps.

656
00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:12,960
Speaker 1: What are you doing? You break it? You boosted? I was.

657
00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:14,840
Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna do a break because I just

658
00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 2: bought my holiday plane tickets and I just feel like

659
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:20,880
Speaker 2: the airlines just take advantage of people who want to

660
00:33:20,920 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 2: spend Christmas with their mothers in Wisconsin. Okay I can't.

661
00:33:25,600 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 2: And I think also it's like the cost they don't

662
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 2: no one tells you like, so when you're in a relationship,

663
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 2: you're paying for two all of a sudden, like because

664
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:34,120
Speaker 2: your money is being mingled, and like you're picking up

665
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 2: a lot of stuff. The way our budget's working now

666
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 2: is you know, I'm picking up a lot of stuff,

667
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:40,920
Speaker 2: and I'm like, everything is double. It's like nine hundred

668
00:33:41,000 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 2: dollars for tickets home for Christmas.

669
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:44,720
Speaker 1: Oof.

670
00:33:44,840 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 2: But then I just tell myself, you know, I struggle

671
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 2: with the cost. But then I tell myself, like last

672
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 2: Christmas when I didn't go home, I was miserable. I

673
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 2: remember miserable, like so depressed. Oh yeah, I think I

674
00:33:56,560 --> 00:34:00,200
Speaker 2: had some sad podcast episodes. So I just like, it's

675
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,760
Speaker 2: the it's the happiness, it's the experience. You need to go.

676
00:34:02,800 --> 00:34:05,080
Speaker 2: I need to be with my mother. I'm not a

677
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 2: happy camper without her at the holiday time. So it's

678
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 2: money well spent. But it hurts. It hurts. The pain

679
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 2: is real. But this is also a public service announcement.

680
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 2: If you've been putting off your holiday travel the next

681
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:20,680
Speaker 2: couple of weeks, it's the time to do it. With

682
00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:23,200
Speaker 2: the holidays, you typically want to buy your tickets eight

683
00:34:23,239 --> 00:34:26,839
Speaker 2: to six weeks out. We're all sales prices go up

684
00:34:27,640 --> 00:34:28,600
Speaker 2: by huge amounts.

685
00:34:29,800 --> 00:34:32,560
Speaker 1: Ticket to New Orleans from speaking in December, and I

686
00:34:32,600 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 1: was like, it was actually pretty decent. I think I

687
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 1: paid two fifty. But for Christmas, No, it's like December fifth.

688
00:34:40,120 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 2: Okay, that's not helpful. I mean it's expensive. I went

689
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:48,760
Speaker 2: home on December fourteenth.

690
00:34:49,160 --> 00:34:53,080
Speaker 1: We're going to do Yeah.

691
00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:55,440
Speaker 2: I went home last year for my sister's wedding in October.

692
00:34:55,440 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 2: It was two fifty. I can't believe it. Tickets are like,

693
00:34:58,560 --> 00:35:00,640
Speaker 2: we're over four hundred. Do you know what got me? Though?

694
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:04,040
Speaker 2: Here's the thing, So here's a little thing about buying

695
00:35:04,080 --> 00:35:06,759
Speaker 2: two tickets at once. So originally, when I was looking

696
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:09,200
Speaker 2: for prices, I was looking for one passenger and I

697
00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:11,399
Speaker 2: found a flight for like I think it was three

698
00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 2: point thirty for the flight that I needed, and I

699
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:15,799
Speaker 2: was like, oh, I forgot to put two passengers. As

700
00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 2: soon as they changed it to two, the ticket price

701
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:20,720
Speaker 2: went up and I couldn't Yeah, I couldn't figure out why.

702
00:35:21,160 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 2: Like when I put it when I had two passengers selected,

703
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 2: the little error message was like one seat remaining, and

704
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:29,640
Speaker 2: I was like, what is happening? And I was worried

705
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 2: that there was only one seat left from this flight. No,

706
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:35,320
Speaker 2: there's only one seat left at the affordable price point.

707
00:35:35,680 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 1: Oh.

708
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,080
Speaker 2: For some reason, it's like they have different tiers of prices.

709
00:35:39,120 --> 00:35:41,239
Speaker 2: So as soon as I had two people, we were

710
00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:42,960
Speaker 2: bumped up to the next level and it was like

711
00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:45,359
Speaker 2: almost four hundred dollars, and then it definitely was over

712
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 2: four hundred when you factor in taxis, and then I bought.

713
00:35:48,600 --> 00:35:51,640
Speaker 2: I kicked in twelve dollars for the comfortable seats because

714
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,200
Speaker 2: it's a long flight and you know, honey Booboo has

715
00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:56,879
Speaker 2: long legs, so I get in the aisle seat. Yeah,

716
00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 2: it's always nickel and diming. It drives me nuts. So yeah,

717
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 2: all and it was like nine hundred bucks.

718
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:04,200
Speaker 1: Dang. I maybe you were like, oh my gosh.

719
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:06,719
Speaker 2: So yeah, this year, I'm like, Dad, you gotta you

720
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:08,719
Speaker 2: come see me after New Year's cause it's hard to

721
00:36:09,000 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 2: I feel for anyone out there who has parents who

722
00:36:11,080 --> 00:36:13,680
Speaker 2: are divorced and live in different states, because you know,

723
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:15,399
Speaker 2: I used to. I tried for a couple of years

724
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:17,719
Speaker 2: when my mom moved to Wisconsin to uh do the

725
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 2: whole you know, first off fly to Wisconsin, and then

726
00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:22,759
Speaker 2: if fly back to Atlanta, and then off fly to

727
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 2: New York and it's just it's way too much, not

728
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:29,400
Speaker 2: just financially, but just you know, mentally. So and now

729
00:36:29,440 --> 00:36:30,880
Speaker 2: I have a third family with a.

730
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:34,440
Speaker 1: Hey know they you know that's one thing. I'm like,

731
00:36:34,480 --> 00:36:37,920
Speaker 1: you know, my his family and my family, they just

732
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:40,320
Speaker 1: twenty minutes apart. Most of us live in New Jersey.

733
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 1: So it's like, well then I drive too much for

734
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 1: then we drive to Newark.

735
00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 2: That sounds nice. So yeah, it's so easy, Oh my god,

736
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:49,879
Speaker 2: and like so.

737
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:52,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it to It'll be interesting though this year,

738
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:56,759
Speaker 1: like how we're gonna do it, like, because this will

739
00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 1: be the year where it's like, you know, usually I'm like, well,

740
00:36:58,760 --> 00:37:01,360
Speaker 1: i'll see you later, you know, like I will say this.

741
00:37:01,440 --> 00:37:03,400
Speaker 1: He spent like maybe like an hour or so with

742
00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:05,400
Speaker 1: Thanksgiving with my family and then went to go with

743
00:37:05,480 --> 00:37:07,280
Speaker 1: his family and then I met him there there later.

744
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 1: But it'll be interesting. That's just like official, like, so

745
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: what are we doing for the holidays? Like? Am I

746
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 1: making Thanksgiving dinner? You know who? I don't know.

747
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 2: It's like you have to create a new sort of

748
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:24,800
Speaker 2: family schedule or I don't know, like a family dynamic

749
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:26,480
Speaker 2: around the holiday as you get older.

750
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:29,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that'll be. I mean, I kind of feel

751
00:37:29,719 --> 00:37:31,360
Speaker 1: like I don't want to make Thanksgiving there until we

752
00:37:31,480 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: actually get like our house.

753
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know where we're going for Thanksgiving. That's

754
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:37,840
Speaker 2: not a hint. I'm just saying out loud.

755
00:37:38,360 --> 00:37:40,880
Speaker 1: No, Like I'm just I don't know either, Like I well,

756
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 1: usually my parents are like, hey, my mom will just

757
00:37:43,880 --> 00:37:45,680
Speaker 1: spend like a little backsick in a while. Okay, we're

758
00:37:45,680 --> 00:37:49,280
Speaker 1: spending Thanksgiving. We like, we rotate aunts and uncle's houses.

759
00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 1: So we're spending Thanksgiving and such and such. Child, we're

760
00:37:51,680 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 1: spending you know, and it might be our time this year,

761
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:55,799
Speaker 1: or it might be another aunt. I think last year

762
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:57,800
Speaker 1: is my sister's house. Caw, that was really nice.

763
00:37:58,120 --> 00:38:00,520
Speaker 2: That's nice, but you used to do that mm hmm.

764
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:04,239
Speaker 2: This is the Yeah, Thanksgiving is my favorite, one of

765
00:38:04,280 --> 00:38:05,439
Speaker 2: my favorite holidays.

766
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:08,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean too actually because it's honestly it's one

767
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 1: of the few times that we well we get together

768
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:12,279
Speaker 1: for Thanksgiving and Christmas.

769
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:14,200
Speaker 2: I feel like it's just about the food. That's why

770
00:38:14,239 --> 00:38:16,480
Speaker 2: I like it so much. There's no presence or like anything.

771
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 2: It's just the food, like just let's have like, let's

772
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:21,799
Speaker 2: have no qualms or be you know about what we're

773
00:38:21,800 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 2: here for everyone's here for the food to get as

774
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:27,200
Speaker 2: full as they possibly can and to sit around and digest.

775
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:30,879
Speaker 1: Yes, and just like I actually dressed for the food.

776
00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:32,040
Speaker 1: Do you do that for Thanksgiving?

777
00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:33,840
Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, don't wear tight tights?

778
00:38:33,960 --> 00:38:37,839
Speaker 1: Nope. I'm like, oh, so what can I wear that's

779
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:42,319
Speaker 1: gonna allow my stomach to fully No jeans? No jeans,

780
00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:45,359
Speaker 1: I got that's the work gee, especially with a belt.

781
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 2: No, no, no, If anything were stretchy jeggings, I might

782
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:50,440
Speaker 2: wear some jeggings.

783
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:52,919
Speaker 1: Or like a really like a big sweater to cover

784
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:55,720
Speaker 1: the whole, you know, shame of the pregnant like looking belly,

785
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:58,440
Speaker 1: or yeah, like a shift kind of dress, like you

786
00:38:58,440 --> 00:38:59,839
Speaker 1: know when those dress you could just throw on. It's

787
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:01,520
Speaker 1: really lose, that's true.

788
00:39:01,560 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 2: But if it's cool, you gotta wear tights with that though.

789
00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:05,040
Speaker 1: That's true.

790
00:39:05,520 --> 00:39:09,400
Speaker 2: You gotta strategize. These are the I have the same

791
00:39:09,719 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 2: conversations in my head and that's funny. But can I eat?

792
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:15,359
Speaker 2: But can I like eat in this dress? I look good,

793
00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 2: but can I eat it.

794
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:20,080
Speaker 1: Pushed through? Or am I gonna be like I hate

795
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 1: that fake sucking thing that you have to do sometimes

796
00:39:22,239 --> 00:39:24,240
Speaker 1: where you're like, well, in my family I don't. I wouldn't,

797
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,160
Speaker 1: but like if I were a dress someplace, then I

798
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:28,480
Speaker 1: know it's gonna be good food. I'm like, wait, but

799
00:39:28,560 --> 00:39:30,759
Speaker 1: after I'm gonna have to like hold it the whole

800
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 1: time I speak the strangers so they're not like, what

801
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:38,440
Speaker 1: the hell is she bright? Now, I'm just chunky.

802
00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:44,000
Speaker 2: Happening is a month away. I can't believe it all right,

803
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:46,400
Speaker 2: So yeah, I gotta get I got I got to

804
00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 2: get to my fitness grind.

805
00:39:48,480 --> 00:39:53,239
Speaker 1: Yeah. But like you know, like my relaxing on the floor, yeo,

806
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 1: I'm like, you ain't. You ain't go a little muscle

807
00:39:55,600 --> 00:40:00,760
Speaker 1: out here. I don't know why I'm gon today.

808
00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:04,440
Speaker 2: I have been to two I won. This is kind

809
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:06,760
Speaker 2: of embarrassing, but I did go to a wedding conference.

810
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:08,560
Speaker 2: I'm just gonna call it that. It was a conference.

811
00:40:09,000 --> 00:40:12,719
Speaker 2: I won some tickets quote unquote to a New York

812
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 2: magazine wedding salon more like a conference last last winter.

813
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:18,960
Speaker 2: And I at this at the thing. I want to

814
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:22,320
Speaker 2: raffle for these pure bar classes. If you heard a purebar,

815
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:26,960
Speaker 2: it's that really trendy like class where it's like ballet,

816
00:40:27,040 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 2: but it's really frickin' hard. You want to kill yourself

817
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:33,399
Speaker 2: and everyone there is like a size negative zero and

818
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 2: they're different shades of blonde, and I had some preconceived notions.

819
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:39,239
Speaker 2: I've been kind of like fearing going to this pure

820
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:43,239
Speaker 2: bar like cause it's it's like it's like flywheel or

821
00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:46,840
Speaker 2: what are like the really the cult exercises. Everyone is

822
00:40:46,880 --> 00:40:49,520
Speaker 2: like obsessed with it, and it's really expensive. It's like

823
00:40:49,640 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 2: forty dollars a class, so it already tells you, like

824
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 2: what kind of people are going there. So it's like, anyway,

825
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:56,840
Speaker 2: I had all these kind of stereotypes for who I

826
00:40:56,880 --> 00:40:59,239
Speaker 2: was going to run into, and yes, they were there,

827
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:03,839
Speaker 2: the Becky's were there, but you know it wasn't. I mean,

828
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 2: the class itself was hord Like I my butt has

829
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:09,840
Speaker 2: been in so many different types of spasms since the

830
00:41:09,880 --> 00:41:13,359
Speaker 2: two classes I went to. It's incredible what you can

831
00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:16,400
Speaker 2: do with like a little tiny rubber ball and like

832
00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:19,719
Speaker 2: a ballet bar. It's it's it's ridiculous.

833
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:20,879
Speaker 1: That sounds crew.

834
00:41:21,920 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 2: Oh it hurts, Like do you think you have upper

835
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 2: body I mean lower body strength? Nope, no, no, no,

836
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:29,400
Speaker 2: but yeah. I went to two classes and then I

837
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:31,840
Speaker 2: started going to zoomba in my building at the office

838
00:41:32,520 --> 00:41:34,560
Speaker 2: trying to get back in it, but yeah, it's hard.

839
00:41:34,640 --> 00:41:37,840
Speaker 2: It's I almost feel like now that it's winter, it

840
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:39,920
Speaker 2: gets even tougher because no one wants to leave the

841
00:41:39,960 --> 00:41:41,800
Speaker 2: house to be active in the winter.

842
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:46,360
Speaker 1: Yeah nobody, I mean yeah. So, like I totally canceled

843
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:49,400
Speaker 1: my ship membership. So I was like, honestly, you have

844
00:41:49,440 --> 00:41:51,719
Speaker 1: not been in here in months on months and months

845
00:41:51,719 --> 00:41:53,360
Speaker 1: and months, like at least six months, So what are

846
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:54,919
Speaker 1: we doing expending this twenty bucks a month?

847
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 2: That's the trap. But I feel like I was only

848
00:41:57,520 --> 00:41:58,800
Speaker 2: twenty now that's not so bad.

849
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, but still twenty dollars of using like not using it,

850
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:02,760
Speaker 1: So what am I doing?

851
00:42:03,360 --> 00:42:05,359
Speaker 2: That's true, it's almost not enough to make you want

852
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:10,080
Speaker 2: to go, Like, it's only twenty dollars, so it's.

853
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:13,160
Speaker 1: You know, that's a really smart marketing policy, though they're

854
00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 1: like they know eighty percent of people like I. For like,

855
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 1: I think Christmas last year, I bought a gym membership

856
00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:21,439
Speaker 1: for me. I got like the premium at twenty bucks,

857
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:23,600
Speaker 1: and I got one for Superman. His was ten bucks

858
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:26,719
Speaker 1: and he literally's gone once was.

859
00:42:26,880 --> 00:42:30,400
Speaker 2: Playing that fitness yes, And I was really heard to

860
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:31,959
Speaker 2: cancel notoriously.

861
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 1: Really I hate you what I cancel? All they said

862
00:42:35,360 --> 00:42:37,759
Speaker 1: was you want to cancel? You know, where's your I

863
00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:40,239
Speaker 1: had to send show them my my license and that

864
00:42:40,360 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 1: was it.

865
00:42:40,800 --> 00:42:43,480
Speaker 2: You're kidding. My friend had to send a letter to

866
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:45,720
Speaker 2: their headquarters in Arizona or something.

867
00:42:46,080 --> 00:42:48,440
Speaker 1: Oh they they and then today he just canceled his

868
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:50,319
Speaker 1: I was like, bait, go cancel. I'm paying ten bucks

869
00:42:50,360 --> 00:42:52,840
Speaker 1: a months for nothing. It's ten bucks a buncks. But

870
00:42:52,880 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 1: you never go. So he went and he same thing.

871
00:42:55,480 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: They easily let him cancel. Wow. I had heard that too,

872
00:42:58,160 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 1: but they didn't give me any trouble. And I just

873
00:42:59,680 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 1: looked I was in charge.

874
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:03,319
Speaker 2: So maybe it's like a per Maybe every it's kind

875
00:43:03,320 --> 00:43:05,800
Speaker 2: of like a franchise, right, so every like location is

876
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:07,319
Speaker 2: a little bit different. That's good.

877
00:43:07,360 --> 00:43:09,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's true. And plus i'd heard when I

878
00:43:09,960 --> 00:43:13,840
Speaker 1: signed up. I remember asking, you know what, how do

879
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 1: you cancel? Because I did hear some people say you

880
00:43:15,680 --> 00:43:17,759
Speaker 1: have to set a letter, And in my contract it

881
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 1: says that you don't. You really have to come in

882
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:22,000
Speaker 1: and make your request and then thirty days later or

883
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:24,120
Speaker 1: something like that it goes for or something to that effect.

884
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: Good to know, all right, any questions, hey, listeners, yes.

885
00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 2: Can you set that up a little better though, so

886
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:34,200
Speaker 2: I could edit it.

887
00:43:35,080 --> 00:43:38,319
Speaker 1: So we are coming to the question portion of the

888
00:43:38,440 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 1: Brown Ambition Podcast. So if you have questions from Mandy

889
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 1: and myself, please ask them at Brown Ambition podcast dot com.

890
00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:51,399
Speaker 1: You can tweet us there, you can message us there,

891
00:43:51,719 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 1: you can listen some more. But we'd love your questions. So,

892
00:43:54,640 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 1: do we have any awesome, juicy questions today, Mandy?

893
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:01,640
Speaker 2: We do. This is a career quest es. It's I

894
00:44:01,719 --> 00:44:04,440
Speaker 2: feel this woman's pay on a cute level. I've been

895
00:44:04,440 --> 00:44:09,480
Speaker 2: there before. Let's just call her D. So D says,

896
00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 2: I listen to you guys every Tuesday, and it's been

897
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:16,440
Speaker 2: like hanging with girlfriends. All Hey, D, you're our girlfriend too.

898
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:21,880
Speaker 2: And then it goes downhill from there. Jesus, She says,

899
00:44:22,200 --> 00:44:24,799
Speaker 2: I have recently changed jobs and now work for a

900
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:27,440
Speaker 2: company that is very stable. Many of the people have

901
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:31,520
Speaker 2: been there for over twenty years. I work in finance. However,

902
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 2: I work for a boss now that is so dismissive.

903
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 2: I can never ask her anything without her saying I

904
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:39,279
Speaker 2: don't know what you're talking about or where are you

905
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 2: going with this? It is so dismissive. She's a type

906
00:44:42,600 --> 00:44:44,920
Speaker 2: of person who has to determine if a person's on

907
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:48,040
Speaker 2: her level intellectually in order for her to think that

908
00:44:48,080 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 2: person has value. I've worked in finance for over twenty years. However,

909
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:55,160
Speaker 2: I'm at a job now that I am truly miserable.

910
00:44:55,680 --> 00:44:58,000
Speaker 2: It is an environment where everyone has an office and

911
00:44:58,080 --> 00:44:59,719
Speaker 2: most of the time they sit in their office with

912
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:02,759
Speaker 2: the door closed. I'm used to a lot of interaction.

913
00:45:03,760 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 2: I'm miserable. She says, I'm miserable three more times. Although

914
00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:10,399
Speaker 2: this is a good company to work for at age

915
00:45:10,480 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 2: forty eight, I hate to think that this is my

916
00:45:12,800 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 2: last job. I lost a job and I was out

917
00:45:15,239 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 2: of work for the first time for a while before

918
00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 2: I found this one. I'm grateful, However, I'm not happy.

919
00:45:20,280 --> 00:45:22,239
Speaker 2: I hate the work that I'm doing, and there are

920
00:45:22,239 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 2: a total of three black people in this corporate office.

921
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:31,000
Speaker 2: What advice would you give me, d ah dug. Before

922
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:33,600
Speaker 2: the advice, I give you a big fatglass of wine.

923
00:45:33,719 --> 00:45:36,480
Speaker 2: D Cabernet sangnon.

924
00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:43,040
Speaker 1: So one, you are a young woman still forty eight

925
00:45:43,239 --> 00:45:45,560
Speaker 1: to stay someplace and be like, oh, I'm just gonna

926
00:45:45,600 --> 00:45:48,759
Speaker 1: work here, so the end that does not have to

927
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:52,320
Speaker 1: be so. Although I can see why you'd be afraid

928
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 1: because it took you a long time to find this job,

929
00:45:55,120 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 1: But it doesn't mean that you can't find another. I'm

930
00:45:58,040 --> 00:46:01,239
Speaker 1: not suggesting that you quit, you know, and then look

931
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:03,239
Speaker 1: for a job, but I am suggested that you look

932
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:04,000
Speaker 1: for another job.

933
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:08,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, you have the benefit at this point

934
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:10,080
Speaker 2: of having a job while you look for a job,

935
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:13,040
Speaker 2: So I would take advantage of that. Sure, And sometimes

936
00:46:13,040 --> 00:46:14,640
Speaker 2: it can give you like a little bit of bulliancy

937
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:17,359
Speaker 2: to know that you're looking and that something else good

938
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:19,040
Speaker 2: might be around the corner, to kind of give you

939
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:21,080
Speaker 2: that little bit extra, like help you deal with the

940
00:46:21,080 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 2: bs at the office a little bit better than maybe

941
00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:26,440
Speaker 2: you would if there wasn't anything else coming around the

942
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:27,320
Speaker 2: corner potentially.

943
00:46:28,080 --> 00:46:30,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, no since here, So I'll give them to gavel.

944
00:46:30,800 --> 00:46:34,360
Speaker 1: So one of my sisters, like my real life blood sister,

945
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:38,640
Speaker 1: she would have written that email to me like two

946
00:46:38,760 --> 00:46:42,960
Speaker 1: years ago. I mean, she was miserable. Her boss was dismissive,

947
00:46:43,320 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 1: her boss was like kind of like a bully. She

948
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:47,799
Speaker 1: was miserable. I mean she I don't think I've ever

949
00:46:47,800 --> 00:46:49,840
Speaker 1: seen her cry as a kid, And all of a sudden,

950
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:51,439
Speaker 1: she's calling me on the phone crying I'm like, who

951
00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 1: is this person. She's not the emotion like I'm the

952
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:55,839
Speaker 1: emotional one, not her at all. So for her to

953
00:46:55,880 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 1: cry was like a big deal. It was to the

954
00:46:59,080 --> 00:47:03,920
Speaker 1: point where, like she was, she was having anxiety attacks

955
00:47:03,920 --> 00:47:06,319
Speaker 1: and she never had anxiety attacks. Her hand would shake

956
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:08,400
Speaker 1: when she was at the computer. I mean, it was

957
00:47:08,680 --> 00:47:11,879
Speaker 1: really bad and she was so unhappy. And it took

958
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 1: me a year of coaching her to leave because it

959
00:47:16,680 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 1: was the only job. It was her first job out

960
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:20,799
Speaker 1: of college. She had been there for, like, I don't know,

961
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:23,120
Speaker 1: over ten years, and she was just like, I thought

962
00:47:23,120 --> 00:47:25,359
Speaker 1: this was going to be like my forever job. But

963
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, but it's making you sick, it's making you miserable.

964
00:47:28,719 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 1: She's like, but I don't know how to do anything else.

965
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:31,080
Speaker 1: So she was afraid.

966
00:47:32,000 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 2: Ten years is a long time.

967
00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:37,479
Speaker 1: It is, you know, especially especially that's your only real

968
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:38,960
Speaker 1: professional job.

969
00:47:38,800 --> 00:47:41,480
Speaker 2: Experience, you know, miserable the whole time.

970
00:47:41,880 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 1: Well, no, she wasn't miserable the whole time. She was

971
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:47,600
Speaker 1: miserable because she I guess in corporate America they have groups,

972
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:49,520
Speaker 1: you know, like I'm not super familiar with I've never

973
00:47:49,520 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 1: worked in corporate America. But she was with one group,

974
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:55,440
Speaker 1: like sometimes there's companies within the company. So she was

975
00:47:55,480 --> 00:47:58,279
Speaker 1: with one side before and then they moved her to

976
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:00,160
Speaker 1: another group and she didn't even want to move. And

977
00:48:00,200 --> 00:48:01,839
Speaker 1: I remember her asking me there, She's like, they wanted

978
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:03,200
Speaker 1: to move me to this new group. I don't want

979
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:05,080
Speaker 1: to go. I said, we'll say no. She's like, you

980
00:48:05,120 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 1: really don't kind of say no to this kind of switch.

981
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:09,759
Speaker 1: I said, well, it's it's it a like upward move

982
00:48:09,880 --> 00:48:12,120
Speaker 1: backward move. She's like, it's a lateral move. So they

983
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 1: moved her, and she was miserable for about probably like

984
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:18,239
Speaker 1: two years, i'd say. So she ended up having to

985
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:23,480
Speaker 1: like really just leave, and she had money saved and like,

986
00:48:23,520 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 1: you know, un aployment coming, and I'm not suggesting that

987
00:48:26,239 --> 00:48:28,680
Speaker 1: for you, but it had gotten really really bad for her,

988
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:34,280
Speaker 1: and so and so she left. And she always, always, always,

989
00:48:34,280 --> 00:48:35,719
Speaker 1: she's the one who buys, like all my budget needs

990
00:48:35,760 --> 00:48:38,879
Speaker 1: to clothes for me, like shots for them, because she's

991
00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:41,000
Speaker 1: always super well dropped. I'm like such a slob and

992
00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:43,360
Speaker 1: I'm like such a conboy. But if you like, have

993
00:48:43,440 --> 00:48:45,239
Speaker 1: you ever see me like all dressed up looking all

994
00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:47,279
Speaker 1: sharp and stuff, it's because she picked out and was like,

995
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:50,880
Speaker 1: buy this now. So she always wanted to be a buyer,

996
00:48:51,320 --> 00:48:56,080
Speaker 1: and so now she worked for a large, well known

997
00:48:57,160 --> 00:48:59,879
Speaker 1: clothing company and she's a buyer. She's like a junior

998
00:49:00,040 --> 00:49:03,120
Speaker 1: her buyer. So even though she does she doesn't even

999
00:49:03,120 --> 00:49:04,840
Speaker 1: make I don't think half of what she made before.

1000
00:49:05,400 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 1: You know, even when she complains about it, I'm like,

1001
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 1: remember how you thought about this time last year. She's like, honestly,

1002
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:12,280
Speaker 1: I don't even know how She's like. She would literally

1003
00:49:12,360 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 1: start shaking Sunday evening because she knew Monday I have

1004
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:16,520
Speaker 1: to go to work.

1005
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:18,320
Speaker 2: And she took a pay cut.

1006
00:49:18,840 --> 00:49:19,040
Speaker 1: Damn.

1007
00:49:19,080 --> 00:49:20,719
Speaker 2: That happens sometimes, yep.

1008
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:23,920
Speaker 1: But she's working her way up and she's enjoying herself

1009
00:49:24,200 --> 00:49:26,720
Speaker 1: and she, you know, because she was living fancy before.

1010
00:49:27,160 --> 00:49:29,719
Speaker 1: She was like, you know, massage is this thing, and

1011
00:49:30,000 --> 00:49:31,880
Speaker 1: manicures here and this and that, and she had to

1012
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:33,560
Speaker 1: cut some of that back, but in the end it

1013
00:49:33,640 --> 00:49:36,160
Speaker 1: was worth it to her. So she can make a move,

1014
00:49:36,680 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 1: and you know, before long, she's slowly but surely. She

1015
00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:42,040
Speaker 1: just had two really great interviews the next level coming

1016
00:49:42,160 --> 00:49:43,719
Speaker 1: and they love her at her new job because she

1017
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:45,719
Speaker 1: loves her new job. So I say to say all

1018
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:47,799
Speaker 1: that to say is that I'm not saying quit your job,

1019
00:49:47,800 --> 00:49:50,319
Speaker 1: but I am saying look for another one, because it

1020
00:49:50,360 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 1: does not make sense to be miserable at work. Your

1021
00:49:53,280 --> 00:49:55,360
Speaker 1: health might start to be effected.

1022
00:49:55,480 --> 00:50:00,200
Speaker 2: We don't want that plan your exit strategy exactly. It's

1023
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:02,280
Speaker 2: kind of like think of it as if a girlfriend

1024
00:50:02,320 --> 00:50:06,879
Speaker 2: of yours were telling you that her boyfriend was dismissive

1025
00:50:06,920 --> 00:50:08,600
Speaker 2: and he treated her bad and didn't want to hear

1026
00:50:08,680 --> 00:50:11,200
Speaker 2: what she had to say and didn't think it, treated

1027
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:14,280
Speaker 2: her like she was intellectually not on his level, and

1028
00:50:14,600 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 2: you know, made her do all the housework all day

1029
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:20,319
Speaker 2: and kept the door shut and ignored her when she

1030
00:50:20,480 --> 00:50:22,640
Speaker 2: was there, like you would tell her to get out, right.

1031
00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:27,600
Speaker 2: It's almost a similar like abusive relationship. I mean on

1032
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:30,439
Speaker 2: the lesser level, Like I've had issues with managers at

1033
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:35,640
Speaker 2: jobs where I have gone to them and told them,

1034
00:50:35,680 --> 00:50:38,239
Speaker 2: like spoken up about the way. You know. There's there

1035
00:50:38,320 --> 00:50:42,280
Speaker 2: was one manager I had who was like textbook micromanaging,

1036
00:50:42,400 --> 00:50:45,080
Speaker 2: like to the point where I, like, my schedule was

1037
00:50:45,120 --> 00:50:47,640
Speaker 2: planned for every fifteen minutes. I had to tell her

1038
00:50:47,640 --> 00:50:49,400
Speaker 2: to know where I was going when I was writing

1039
00:50:49,440 --> 00:50:52,560
Speaker 2: when it was due. It was way too much and

1040
00:50:52,680 --> 00:50:54,759
Speaker 2: I had to tell her and had to tell her

1041
00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:58,160
Speaker 2: bosses that it was really it was too much. It

1042
00:50:58,200 --> 00:51:00,279
Speaker 2: was too much pressure. It was you know, or I

1043
00:51:00,320 --> 00:51:03,680
Speaker 2: was being less productive, it was distracting, it was you know,

1044
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:07,120
Speaker 2: and insulting on some level because I was experienced and

1045
00:51:08,760 --> 00:51:12,160
Speaker 2: I voiced my opinions. And after a while, you know,

1046
00:51:12,280 --> 00:51:16,920
Speaker 2: that manager was asked to leave and it worked out

1047
00:51:16,960 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 2: in the end, I guess in that way. Doesn't always

1048
00:51:18,600 --> 00:51:21,600
Speaker 2: happen that way, especially when it's coming from the top level.

1049
00:51:21,640 --> 00:51:24,000
Speaker 2: Like I feel like top level people are setting that tone,

1050
00:51:24,160 --> 00:51:27,360
Speaker 2: like the keeping the office doors closed and not really talking.

1051
00:51:27,560 --> 00:51:29,960
Speaker 2: Like if it's that ingrained in the culture, then it's

1052
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 2: probably likely that you know, filing a you know, talking

1053
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:36,799
Speaker 2: to HR, talking to your manager may not work, but

1054
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:39,960
Speaker 2: it can be effective in some cases.

1055
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:42,439
Speaker 1: You should at least do it. Because she, my sister

1056
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 1: spoke to the HR manager and they kind of pull

1057
00:51:44,200 --> 00:51:46,640
Speaker 1: her to the side and they're like, we know you should,

1058
00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:51,200
Speaker 1: like like off the record, you know, you should leave

1059
00:51:51,280 --> 00:51:54,319
Speaker 1: basically because she's she's gearing up the fire. She's been

1060
00:51:54,400 --> 00:51:57,879
Speaker 1: like putting stuff in to like you know, lord, yeah,

1061
00:51:58,000 --> 00:51:59,480
Speaker 1: to build a case against you. Like that was like

1062
00:51:59,520 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 1: off the record, hate girlfriend, Hey, from the HR. She

1063
00:52:02,800 --> 00:52:05,239
Speaker 1: was like, well, how is this allowed? But I told

1064
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 1: her and sometimes I say this is that I told her?

1065
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:10,319
Speaker 1: Why are you fighting to stay in this abusive relationship?

1066
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:11,480
Speaker 2: Yeah?

1067
00:52:11,600 --> 00:52:13,440
Speaker 1: You know, like I get it. What she's doing is

1068
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 1: not right and it's not fair, But why are you

1069
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:20,239
Speaker 1: fighting to stay here? Like it's like even if you

1070
00:52:20,320 --> 00:52:22,200
Speaker 1: win and you're like, hey, you can't fire me, you

1071
00:52:22,200 --> 00:52:24,520
Speaker 1: can continue to abuse me on the job though, and

1072
00:52:24,600 --> 00:52:26,840
Speaker 1: so yeah, so don't you don't have to fight to

1073
00:52:26,880 --> 00:52:30,080
Speaker 1: stay someplace where you're feeling happy. Definitely speak to HR

1074
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:32,799
Speaker 1: and C. But if in general you just don't even

1075
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Speaker 1: like the work that you're doing, then it's time to

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Speaker 1: look for another position. All so you can be.

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Speaker 2: Happy and again you get to do it while you

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00:52:40,680 --> 00:52:42,120
Speaker 2: have a job. That's a nice place to be in,

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00:52:42,600 --> 00:52:45,200
Speaker 2: nicer than you know, being unemployed, and you're desperate, So

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00:52:45,800 --> 00:52:49,319
Speaker 2: hopefully start working your connects. Start with maybe networking. You

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00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:51,879
Speaker 2: say you work in finance. Finance is a pretty people

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00:52:51,920 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 2: are always moving on in finance. I feel like, so

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00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:57,359
Speaker 2: there may be you know, ask friends, like, reach out

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00:52:57,400 --> 00:52:59,799
Speaker 2: to people, let them know that you're looking. You never

1085
00:52:59,840 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 2: know it's out there. Raise a hand, let people know

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00:53:01,560 --> 00:53:04,279
Speaker 2: that you're on the look and me something will come

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00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:08,760
Speaker 2: your way. Good lucky, keep us up and get some wine,

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00:53:08,960 --> 00:53:12,879
Speaker 2: just a little bit of wine. I feel so much.

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Speaker 2: Oh man, all right, we have reached the end of

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00:53:17,280 --> 00:53:18,279
Speaker 2: another show.

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Speaker 1: We have and I had fuzzy me too.

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Speaker 2: We're silly tonight, super silly. Did you have some wine?

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Speaker 1: No? I did not.

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00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:33,960
Speaker 2: I know, because I think I'm just naturally, you know,

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00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:38,000
Speaker 2: naturally giddy. I like to think I bring that out

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00:53:38,040 --> 00:53:38,760
Speaker 2: in you and myself.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: God, that was a little trumpy. That was a little

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00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:46,000
Speaker 2: trumpy of me, wasn't it.

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Speaker 1: You know, guys, you're wrong. You're like, well, mister Trump,

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00:53:54,080 --> 00:53:55,160
Speaker 1: that's not a question.

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Speaker 2: Beautiful day because of me. I'm in a great mood,

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00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:03,799
Speaker 2: I know, because it's I'm here. That's my Trump expression impression,

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00:54:04,400 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 2: A pretty good one. Oh you're happy. I'm happy. Everyone's happy.

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Speaker 2: Uh So let's leave on a on a high note.

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Speaker 2: What are what's your win for the week?

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Speaker 1: You go first.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna do the win for hashtag nasty women because

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00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:22,839
Speaker 2: I love I love how people have turned what Voldemort

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00:54:22,880 --> 00:54:27,000
Speaker 2: hath wrought and had said about Queen Hillary during the debate.

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00:54:27,040 --> 00:54:30,000
Speaker 2: He called her a nasty woman, and everyone has taken

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Speaker 2: it and turned it right back. The phrase I heard

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00:54:32,680 --> 00:54:35,080
Speaker 2: today was that we have weaponized it against him, and

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Speaker 2: I love it so much. Am I my bestie? Who

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00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:41,800
Speaker 2: doesn't know that she's my bestie? Elizabeth Warren, Lizzie I

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00:54:41,840 --> 00:54:45,840
Speaker 2: call her, did a speech today where she just like

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00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 2: she's like, nasty women vote, nasty women pay the bills,

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00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:52,120
Speaker 2: Nasty women get things done. And I was like, yes,

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Speaker 2: go ahead, Lizzie Warren. Where's miss Janet getting a I

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00:54:55,760 --> 00:54:57,719
Speaker 2: feel like Janet should be getting like a little uh,

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Speaker 2: what do you call it? Kickbacks? I'm always mentioned the

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Speaker 2: nasty but I just love it. I feel like it's

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Speaker 2: it feels like we're reaching a crescendo where women are

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00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:09,920
Speaker 2: becoming like a focal point of the election and everyone's

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Speaker 2: talking about women and women are just getting excited about

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Speaker 2: voting and it's going to be the first female president potentially,

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00:55:15,440 --> 00:55:18,000
Speaker 2: and it's kind of like the finish line is coming,

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Speaker 2: it's almost over. We just got to hang in there,

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Speaker 2: and uh, yeah, I'm excited that that nasty woman has

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Speaker 2: come out of that awful awfulness.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I just thought it was hilarious where they put

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Speaker 1: her face on Janna Jackson's body.

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00:55:33,760 --> 00:55:36,239
Speaker 2: Did they I was waiting for someone to talk about

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Speaker 2: jan didn't see that?

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, they did, and I was waiting for

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Speaker 1: a Janet meme. Well, I want to give a win

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Speaker 1: for the Hidden Figures movie with Jel. Do we do that? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Is that coming?

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Speaker 1: You know?

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Speaker 2: This has been the blackest year in cinema? Can I

1141
00:55:56,719 --> 00:56:01,359
Speaker 2: just say that? Because there's like hidden finger Hidden Figures. Yeah,

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00:56:01,400 --> 00:56:06,080
Speaker 2: we talked about that before. That's the the Astronauts.

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00:56:05,520 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 1: Right, yeah, American women who helped NASA launch their first

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00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 1: successful space mission. But I just want to say a

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00:56:12,000 --> 00:56:14,640
Speaker 1: win because it's out now. Oh no, that's a release

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00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:17,359
Speaker 1: in January. My bad. But still like the poster looks

1147
00:56:17,440 --> 00:56:22,920
Speaker 1: amazing and it's Tarashi p Henson, Janelmne and Octavia Spencer.

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Speaker 1: I just think it's such a win because, you know,

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Speaker 1: it's a win for me. It's because it's not not

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Speaker 1: Although I have nothing against entertainers and singers and all

1151
00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:35,520
Speaker 1: that kind of stuff, it's nice to have this movie about,

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00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:40,360
Speaker 1: you know, women who are smart outside of just like

1153
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:42,799
Speaker 1: you know, their bodies or their voices or you know,

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00:56:42,920 --> 00:56:44,000
Speaker 1: really just their minds.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, so I can't wait to see it.

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00:56:47,480 --> 00:56:50,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's a huge win. All I do.

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Speaker 2: Real quick, I wanted to say, because if you're talking

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Speaker 2: about black movies, the reason I was like, it's the blackest,

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00:56:57,719 --> 00:57:00,759
Speaker 2: the blackest year ever. So Birth of Nation's been out.

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00:57:00,800 --> 00:57:03,719
Speaker 2: I know controversy will skip that over. But I went

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Speaker 2: to a screening of the movie called Loving, a couple

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00:57:06,080 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 2: of I guess a few weeks back. Loving's out November fourth,

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00:57:09,719 --> 00:57:13,040
Speaker 2: so just a week or two away. Loving is the story,

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Speaker 2: the real life story of Loving versus oh crap is

1165
00:57:16,560 --> 00:57:19,320
Speaker 2: in Virginia. I believe it's It's a famous Supreme Court case.

1166
00:57:19,880 --> 00:57:21,760
Speaker 2: It's the reason I am who I am because it

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00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:27,360
Speaker 2: it legalized interracial marriage in the US. The Supreme Court

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00:57:27,440 --> 00:57:31,920
Speaker 2: declared it unconstitutional to make a couple, you know, uh,

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Speaker 2: in prison, a couple who were interracial for loving each other.

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Speaker 2: So that's coming out. And I saw the movie. It

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00:57:37,640 --> 00:57:40,400
Speaker 2: was really good. It was people were giving a little

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00:57:40,400 --> 00:57:42,680
Speaker 2: bit of flak because the actress who played the woman

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00:57:42,720 --> 00:57:46,480
Speaker 2: who's black was Ethiopian and British or something like that,

1174
00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:49,440
Speaker 2: and I was like, come on, like it's fine, come on,

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00:57:49,480 --> 00:57:52,160
Speaker 2: they're telling a story. Come on. And on top of that,

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Speaker 2: I saw another movie Moonlight, who's starring Jennel Money again.

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Speaker 2: Geneal Money is like in the movies right now. Moonlight

1178
00:57:59,760 --> 00:58:02,479
Speaker 2: is just storry about a young black boy who's gay

1179
00:58:02,680 --> 00:58:06,480
Speaker 2: and he's he's like taken under the wing of a

1180
00:58:06,520 --> 00:58:10,280
Speaker 2: local drug dealer, Okay, and it's getting like amazing reviews,

1181
00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:13,720
Speaker 2: like Oscar reviews. So those are two good films. And

1182
00:58:13,760 --> 00:58:18,880
Speaker 2: then there's Abra du Rene's movie on Netflix, the documentary

1183
00:58:19,080 --> 00:58:22,400
Speaker 2: called The Thirteenth Yes, which is about which I watched.

1184
00:58:22,440 --> 00:58:25,160
Speaker 2: It's really I mean it's it's kind of depressing, but

1185
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:27,040
Speaker 2: it's also really good. I mean, it's not like it's

1186
00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:30,520
Speaker 2: it's not brand new information, but it's like information everyone

1187
00:58:30,520 --> 00:58:32,800
Speaker 2: should be reminded of. It's it's basically talking about the

1188
00:58:32,800 --> 00:58:35,760
Speaker 2: incarceration system in America and kind of the history of

1189
00:58:35,800 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 2: how we got such overcrowded prisons and so many African

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00:58:38,560 --> 00:58:42,200
Speaker 2: American families ripped apart. But like a really well done

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00:58:42,240 --> 00:58:44,160
Speaker 2: one that you can tell was done by somebody who

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00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:48,040
Speaker 2: like takes it seriously. I'm here, Yeah, I'm like loving

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00:58:48,080 --> 00:58:51,040
Speaker 2: all the cinema happening right now. Yeah, it's a very

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00:58:51,080 --> 00:58:55,800
Speaker 2: black year twenty sixteen man, Yes, a very.

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00:58:55,800 --> 00:59:00,640
Speaker 1: Very black, like just year for TV movie all that

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Speaker 1: kind of stuff.

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Speaker 2: We didn't even talk about TV yet. Insecure I'm obsessed.

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Speaker 1: With I was gonna say, I'm boosting that even though

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Speaker 1: I have not seen it. I heard it's hilarious.

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Speaker 2: It's it's a good stuff. It's only half an hour too,

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00:59:11,400 --> 00:59:13,560
Speaker 2: so I mean it's like twenty something minutes. It's it's

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00:59:13,640 --> 00:59:16,760
Speaker 2: good times. And one thing I haven't watched so much

1203
00:59:16,800 --> 00:59:19,600
Speaker 2: of is Queen Sugar because it's an hour and it's

1204
00:59:19,600 --> 00:59:21,320
Speaker 2: hard to find hours to watch the show.

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Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna lie I have not watched. I

1206
00:59:23,200 --> 00:59:24,720
Speaker 1: just don't even have the time. I'm like, one, do

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Speaker 1: I know, you know, because I'm like wonder people, how

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00:59:29,240 --> 00:59:30,840
Speaker 1: so what is this thing called TV?

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00:59:31,280 --> 00:59:33,600
Speaker 2: So you can have your personal assistant like watch it

1210
00:59:33,680 --> 00:59:35,560
Speaker 2: but then give you let the clips recap.

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Speaker 1: That would be awesome. I used to do that, like

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Speaker 1: an ex wayfit of line. He used to like at work,

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00:59:41,240 --> 00:59:42,880
Speaker 1: like he was like, you know, because I would always

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00:59:42,920 --> 00:59:44,480
Speaker 1: watch like all like the shows and stuff when I

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00:59:44,520 --> 00:59:46,760
Speaker 1: was a teacher. I had plenty of that, and then

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00:59:46,800 --> 00:59:48,200
Speaker 1: I would talk to him about it, like I like

1217
00:59:48,240 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 1: made dinner and stuff, and he thought it was foolish

1218
00:59:50,640 --> 00:59:53,240
Speaker 1: until like they talked about it at work and he

1219
00:59:53,280 --> 00:59:55,400
Speaker 1: would like share what I said, and he would come

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00:59:55,440 --> 00:59:57,440
Speaker 1: back and be like, so tell me more stuff because

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Speaker 1: I find at work, and I'd be like, oh, okay,

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01:00:00,440 --> 01:00:05,240
Speaker 1: so how will that you totally love? I thought that

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Speaker 1: was hilarious.

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Speaker 2: That's funny. Well, I'll let you know what happens on insecure. Okay,

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01:00:10,520 --> 01:00:14,280
Speaker 2: it's good stuff, all right, another show in the bag.

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Speaker 2: If you're still listening, bless you, and you can send

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01:00:18,560 --> 01:00:21,480
Speaker 2: your questions for our upcoming debt series. You can go

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01:00:21,520 --> 01:00:26,440
Speaker 2: to Brian Ambition podcast dot com.

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Speaker 1: Yes and we will chat with you next week.

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Speaker 2: Until next week, good night night,