Speaker 1: It's time to Catch a Cheater. Only on the Jubile Show,
Speaker 1: Holly is on the phone today for to Catch a
Speaker 1: Cheater and she thinks that her husband of four years,
Speaker 1: Alan might be starting to see somebody else. Holly, thank
Speaker 1: you for coming on the show. I'm sorry that you're
Speaker 1: dealing with this. What's going on with Alan?
Speaker 2: We've been there for four years, but we were together
Speaker 2: probably three and a half years before that, so almost
Speaker 2: eight years we've been together. He's just been really distant
Speaker 2: all of a sudden, for like the past five to
Speaker 2: six months. I don't know what's going on. I've asked him.
Speaker 2: He's just like, everything's fine or it's not you. I'm
Speaker 2: just going through some things. So I was like, okay, well,
Speaker 2: if you're going through some things, do you want to
Speaker 2: be in therapy or anything like that? And he was
Speaker 2: like sure.
Speaker 1: So he started therapy, which I commend.
Speaker 2: Him for and I'm like, oh, I'm I'm happy that
Speaker 2: you're doing that. But he's still like distant, and even
Speaker 2: after therapy, that's not like it got kind of worse.
Speaker 2: She spends his time on Twitch and on his phone,
Speaker 2: and we even used to once a week, like we
Speaker 2: would take our lunch breaks together from work and have
Speaker 2: lunch together, and that stopped like a two months ago, Like,
Speaker 2: we don't even do that anymore. Huh. I don't know
Speaker 2: what to do. So I'm suspecting there's another person.
Speaker 3: Is there anything that is pointing to another person outside?
Speaker 3: I mean the distance is definitely a big flag for sure,
Speaker 3: But have there been any signs of another person?
Speaker 2: Well, he's always on his phone, right, like I said,
Speaker 2: and we don't do our once a month lunch breaks
Speaker 2: together anymore.
Speaker 1: So did he give you a reason for stopping those?
Speaker 2: Well, he just said he's swamped at work, and everybody
Speaker 2: knows that's a cliche.
Speaker 1: Come on, really, I mean it could be.
Speaker 3: I mean, have you tried to just show up at
Speaker 3: his work with lunch and be like, hey, you couldn't
Speaker 3: do that?
Speaker 1: Yeah, surprise.
Speaker 2: I mean, for lack of a better to, I do
Speaker 2: not have to do.
Speaker 1: That, Okay, okay, fair? Does he interact with his friends
Speaker 1: the same way that he was before? No?
Speaker 2: Really, So that's kind of weird too. And I'm like,
Speaker 2: who is getting all of this attention from him? You know,
Speaker 2: because it's not me, it's not his friends, it is
Speaker 2: his phone. So I'm not going to go through his phone,
Speaker 2: Like I tried to want we got a big argument,
Speaker 2: didn't work out, so I stay away from going through
Speaker 2: his phone. I just don't know. I'm like, okay, so
Speaker 2: everyone's supposed to help, but it got worse. So now
Speaker 2: that i'd be like, stop going to therapy, I'm gonna
Speaker 2: look crazy. Yeah.
Speaker 1: What if he's like having an affair with a therapist, Oh,
Speaker 1: that would have been a plotwaste. Yeah, then I would say,
Speaker 1: ask him to stop going to that therapist.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then go to a therapist that can talk
Speaker 3: about ethics.
Speaker 1: And yeah, teach you how to get over divorce.
Speaker 3: Not getting a full blown, like one hundred percent cheating
Speaker 3: vibe from this, though, I'm getting more of a like
Speaker 3: something's going on with him and he's just isolating himself
Speaker 3: from the world's kind of a thing, which is tough
Speaker 3: because when a guy gets to that space, it's.
Speaker 1: Hard to break through. But if he's not acting like
Speaker 1: if he's acting weird with his friends, also, that's what
Speaker 1: I mean, he's an isolation phase. I don't know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I just feel like it's got to be something like
Speaker 2: he's never done a drug in his life, so it's
Speaker 2: not drugs.
Speaker 1: Well that's good. Yeah, all right, Well we'll try to
Speaker 1: figure it out for you. We'll play a song. You
Speaker 1: already told us what grocery store he's a Rewards card
Speaker 1: member at, So we'll do the usual and call up
Speaker 1: present to be from the grocery store and say that
Speaker 1: he's this month's lucky winner of thirty six longstim red
Speaker 1: roses delivered to anybody that he wants too, and we'll
Speaker 1: see if he sends thous to you or to somebody else. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: all right, we'll play a song. Come back and get
Speaker 1: your to Catch a Teater next if you're just joining
Speaker 1: us for today's To Catch a Teeter. Holly is on
Speaker 1: the phone and she thinks that her husband of four
Speaker 1: years might be messing around. We're about to call him
Speaker 1: and pretend to be from the grocery store that he
Speaker 1: is a RWARS card member at, and say that every
Speaker 1: single month, we randomly choose one RARS card member who
Speaker 1: gets free flower delivery from our faid department, and we'll
Speaker 1: see v sins those flowers to Holly or to somebody else. Hally,
Speaker 1: before we do that, why don't you refresh everybody's memory
Speaker 1: on what's going on with Alan.
Speaker 2: Alan and I have been together total was almost eight years,
Speaker 2: four of them married. She's guys really distant. He spends
Speaker 2: most of his time playing Twitch or on his phone.
Speaker 2: He stopped our monthly lunch date that we do together
Speaker 2: from work. He did start therapy, but it only got
Speaker 2: worse after therapy. And I don't want to go through
Speaker 2: his phone and I'm not a cap.
Speaker 4: Of pop up at works.
Speaker 1: You ready for us to call him? Yeah, okay, here
Speaker 1: we go. Hi, this is Storable calling from I was
Speaker 1: looking for our rewards card member named Alan.
Speaker 4: Uh yeah, this is Alan.
Speaker 1: Hi, Alan, Please don't hang up. This is not a
Speaker 1: marketing phone call. I'm calling to give you some exciting news.
Speaker 1: You're this month's big winner. Thank you very much for
Speaker 1: shopping with us. Yea, the cloudingf We're here in the
Speaker 1: office and everything. Hey, every single month, we choose one
Speaker 1: rewards card member totally random who gets free flowers delivered
Speaker 1: from our floral department. So it's thirty six long stim
Speaker 1: red roses, a box of candy or chocolates or whatever,
Speaker 1: and a car that sent to anybody that you want.
Speaker 4: Oh hey, that's pretty cool.
Speaker 1: You said free right, absolutely, Frank, nothing out of pocket.
Speaker 1: Will give you a confirmations and everything, so you know
Speaker 1: it's free. It's just our little way of saying thank
Speaker 1: you very much for shopping with us.
Speaker 4: Oh well all right, I mean I guess I could
Speaker 4: use that for sure.
Speaker 1: Great. If you know the person that you want to
Speaker 1: send the flowers to right now, I can do it
Speaker 1: quickly over the phone in just a matter of minutes.
Speaker 4: But yeah, I can do it on the phone now,
Speaker 4: so it's it's easy.
Speaker 1: The first thing that I will need would be the
Speaker 1: first and the last name of the person that you
Speaker 1: would like to send the flowers to.
Speaker 4: Okay, why don't you make the card out the judy
Speaker 4: it's j.
Speaker 1: U d Y okay, and your last name on on judy.
Speaker 4: Yeah it what's the same as my last name?
Speaker 1: So it was your last name? Is what was that?
Speaker 1: Your wife?
Speaker 4: Or uh no not Actually I'm going to put this
Speaker 4: in the card. But if you could write I love
Speaker 4: you mom, it's going to be okay.
Speaker 1: Oh that okay, yes, I can do that. Were you
Speaker 1: And at this point I'll just let you know that
Speaker 1: I'm not from the grocery store at all. Wait what yeah,
Speaker 1: this is actually Jewbel from the Jewel Show. That's a
Speaker 1: radio show. Yeah, I'm mean on the radio show too. Hi,
Speaker 1: and I'm Victoria.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and wait, what's going on your wife?
Speaker 1: Holly? Is I actually on the phone with us?
Speaker 2: Holly?
Speaker 4: Are you kidding me?
Speaker 1: Nope? Holly. Do you want to explain what this is?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I kind of. I feel stupid now, but I
Speaker 2: kinda ask them to do this because you've been getting like,
Speaker 2: really really distant, and you haven't been telling me what's
Speaker 2: been going on when I've been asking you about it,
Speaker 2: and you've spend most of your time on your phone
Speaker 2: and you've been canceling Island.
Speaker 1: State the segue. It's called to catch a cheeter, allan,
Speaker 1: So if somebody thinks their significant other might be cheating,
Speaker 1: then they will email us to call them and see
Speaker 1: see who they send flowers too.
Speaker 4: Oh no, okay, I've seen now. Well, I gotta tell you, babe,
Speaker 4: I'm not I'm not cheating on you. I'm so sorry
Speaker 4: that you even thought that. And yes, I've been distant lately,
Speaker 4: and the truth is that I do have a secret,
Speaker 4: but you know it's it's nothing about you. It's actually
Speaker 4: my mom has been getting sick. Oh, answer. Sorry, Oh,
Speaker 4: we just kind of figured this out. And you know,
Speaker 4: my siblings, they're not going to be helping me, so
Speaker 4: it's it's like pretty much my responsibility here.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I mean, your mom
Speaker 2: has Why why wouldn't you tell me something like that?
Speaker 4: Well, I don't want to put the burden on you.
Speaker 4: I mean, you know me, I'm the kind of person
Speaker 4: who just kind of deals with whatever is in front
Speaker 4: of them.
Speaker 1: And yeah, and also Alan, just a quick note, I
Speaker 1: get what he's saying with that person that deals with
Speaker 1: stuff in front of him. Everybody needs somebody to lean on,
Speaker 1: especially if you have a wife. Sounds like you have
Speaker 1: a supportive partner.
Speaker 3: It sounds like it's been going on for a long time,
Speaker 3: and you probably you know, you shouldn't have to bear
Speaker 3: this by yourself.
Speaker 1: I have six months and if you if your partner
Speaker 1: cares about you, it's not burdening them with anything. They
Speaker 1: want to be there for you. Alli, do you want
Speaker 1: to be there for him? Of course I do.
Speaker 2: I'm even embarrassed that it had to come this far
Speaker 2: to be on the radio, But like I wish I
Speaker 2: would have known, like this is a big deal.
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, you know what, it is my fault that
Speaker 4: you feel this way, and you guys are totally right.
Speaker 4: I mean you should have let her know and and yeah,
Speaker 4: I guess I could use some help myself.
Speaker 1: So yeah, there you me all that.
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, do you want to finish having this conversation
Speaker 2: like outside of.
Speaker 4: Actually, baby, you know what I really missed and we
Speaker 4: haven't done it in a while because you know, I've
Speaker 4: been so wrapped up in all this. But you know,
Speaker 4: we haven't had lunch in a while, and I think
Speaker 4: if maybe we go to lunch today that would be
Speaker 4: pretty cool. I'm sure up to it, of course.
Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do that, Okay. Well, yeah, I mean, you
Speaker 1: have a lot to talk about, and I'm glad that
Speaker 1: he wasn't cheating.
Speaker 4: Ye me too.
Speaker 3: I am sorry to hear about about your mom, Alan,
Speaker 3: and this is going to be a tough time for
Speaker 3: all of you, but thankfully you have each other and
Speaker 3: a lot of love.
Speaker 1: So you're lucky in that.
Speaker 4: Thank you, and I appreciate you guys for that.
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