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Speaker 1: It's time to Catch a Cheater. Only on the Jubile Show,

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Speaker 1: Holly is on the phone today for to Catch a

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Speaker 1: Cheater and she thinks that her husband of four years,

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Speaker 1: Alan might be starting to see somebody else. Holly, thank

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Speaker 1: you for coming on the show. I'm sorry that you're

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Speaker 1: dealing with this. What's going on with Alan?

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Speaker 2: We've been there for four years, but we were together

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Speaker 2: probably three and a half years before that, so almost

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Speaker 2: eight years we've been together. He's just been really distant

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Speaker 2: all of a sudden, for like the past five to

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Speaker 2: six months. I don't know what's going on. I've asked him.

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Speaker 2: He's just like, everything's fine or it's not you. I'm

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Speaker 2: just going through some things. So I was like, okay, well,

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Speaker 2: if you're going through some things, do you want to

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Speaker 2: be in therapy or anything like that? And he was

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Speaker 2: like sure.

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Speaker 1: So he started therapy, which I commend.

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Speaker 2: Him for and I'm like, oh, I'm I'm happy that

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Speaker 2: you're doing that. But he's still like distant, and even

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Speaker 2: after therapy, that's not like it got kind of worse.

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Speaker 2: She spends his time on Twitch and on his phone,

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Speaker 2: and we even used to once a week, like we

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Speaker 2: would take our lunch breaks together from work and have

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Speaker 2: lunch together, and that stopped like a two months ago, Like,

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Speaker 2: we don't even do that anymore. Huh. I don't know

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Speaker 2: what to do. So I'm suspecting there's another person.

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Speaker 3: Is there anything that is pointing to another person outside?

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Speaker 3: I mean the distance is definitely a big flag for sure,

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Speaker 3: But have there been any signs of another person?

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Speaker 2: Well, he's always on his phone, right, like I said,

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Speaker 2: and we don't do our once a month lunch breaks

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Speaker 1: So did he give you a reason for stopping those?

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Speaker 2: Well, he just said he's swamped at work, and everybody

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Speaker 2: knows that's a cliche.

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Speaker 1: Come on, really, I mean it could be.

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Speaker 3: I mean, have you tried to just show up at

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Speaker 3: his work with lunch and be like, hey, you couldn't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, surprise.

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Speaker 2: I mean, for lack of a better to, I do

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Speaker 1: That, Okay, okay, fair? Does he interact with his friends

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Speaker 1: the same way that he was before? No?

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Speaker 2: Really, So that's kind of weird too. And I'm like,

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Speaker 2: who is getting all of this attention from him? You know,

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Speaker 2: because it's not me, it's not his friends, it is

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Speaker 2: his phone. So I'm not going to go through his phone,

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Speaker 2: Like I tried to want we got a big argument,

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Speaker 2: didn't work out, so I stay away from going through

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Speaker 2: his phone. I just don't know. I'm like, okay, so

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Speaker 2: everyone's supposed to help, but it got worse. So now

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Speaker 2: that i'd be like, stop going to therapy, I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: look crazy. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: What if he's like having an affair with a therapist, Oh,

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Speaker 1: that would have been a plotwaste. Yeah, then I would say,

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Speaker 1: ask him to stop going to that therapist.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then go to a therapist that can talk

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Speaker 3: about ethics.

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Speaker 1: And yeah, teach you how to get over divorce.

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Speaker 3: Not getting a full blown, like one hundred percent cheating

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Speaker 3: vibe from this, though, I'm getting more of a like

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Speaker 3: something's going on with him and he's just isolating himself

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Speaker 3: from the world's kind of a thing, which is tough

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Speaker 3: because when a guy gets to that space, it's.

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Speaker 1: Hard to break through. But if he's not acting like

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Speaker 1: if he's acting weird with his friends, also, that's what

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Speaker 1: I mean, he's an isolation phase. I don't know, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I just feel like it's got to be something like

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Speaker 2: he's never done a drug in his life, so it's

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Speaker 1: Well that's good. Yeah, all right, Well we'll try to

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Speaker 1: figure it out for you. We'll play a song. You

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Speaker 1: already told us what grocery store he's a Rewards card

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Speaker 1: member at, So we'll do the usual and call up

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Speaker 1: present to be from the grocery store and say that

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Speaker 1: he's this month's lucky winner of thirty six longstim red

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Speaker 1: see if he sends thous to you or to somebody else. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, we'll play a song. Come back and get

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Speaker 1: your to Catch a Teater next if you're just joining

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Speaker 1: us for today's To Catch a Teeter. Holly is on

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Speaker 1: the phone and she thinks that her husband of four

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Speaker 1: single month, we randomly choose one RARS card member who

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Speaker 1: gets free flower delivery from our faid department, and we'll

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Speaker 1: see v sins those flowers to Holly or to somebody else. Hally,

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Speaker 1: before we do that, why don't you refresh everybody's memory

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Speaker 1: on what's going on with Alan.

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Speaker 2: Alan and I have been together total was almost eight years,

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Speaker 2: four of them married. She's guys really distant. He spends

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Speaker 2: most of his time playing Twitch or on his phone.

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Speaker 2: He stopped our monthly lunch date that we do together

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Speaker 2: from work. He did start therapy, but it only got

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Speaker 2: worse after therapy. And I don't want to go through

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Speaker 1: You ready for us to call him? Yeah, okay, here

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Speaker 1: we go. Hi, this is Storable calling from I was

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Speaker 1: looking for our rewards card member named Alan.

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Speaker 4: Uh yeah, this is Alan.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Alan, Please don't hang up. This is not a

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Speaker 1: marketing phone call. I'm calling to give you some exciting news.

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Speaker 1: You're this month's big winner. Thank you very much for

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Speaker 1: shopping with us. Yea, the cloudingf We're here in the

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Speaker 1: office and everything. Hey, every single month, we choose one

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Speaker 1: rewards card member totally random who gets free flowers delivered

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Speaker 1: from our floral department. So it's thirty six long stim

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Speaker 1: red roses, a box of candy or chocolates or whatever,

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Speaker 4: Oh hey, that's pretty cool.

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Speaker 1: You said free right, absolutely, Frank, nothing out of pocket.

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Speaker 1: Will give you a confirmations and everything, so you know

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Speaker 1: it's free. It's just our little way of saying thank

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Speaker 1: you very much for shopping with us.

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Speaker 4: Oh well all right, I mean I guess I could

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Speaker 4: use that for sure.

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Speaker 1: Great. If you know the person that you want to

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Speaker 1: send the flowers to right now, I can do it

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Speaker 4: But yeah, I can do it on the phone now,

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Speaker 1: The first thing that I will need would be the

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Speaker 4: Okay, why don't you make the card out the judy

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Speaker 1: U d Y okay, and your last name on on judy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah it what's the same as my last name?

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Speaker 1: So it was your last name? Is what was that?

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Speaker 4: Or uh no not Actually I'm going to put this

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Speaker 1: Oh that okay, yes, I can do that. Were you

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Speaker 1: And at this point I'll just let you know that

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Speaker 1: I'm not from the grocery store at all. Wait what yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is actually Jewbel from the Jewel Show. That's a

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Speaker 1: radio show. Yeah, I'm mean on the radio show too. Hi,

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Speaker 1: and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and wait, what's going on your wife?

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Speaker 1: Holly? Is I actually on the phone with us?

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Speaker 4: Are you kidding me?

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Speaker 1: Nope? Holly. Do you want to explain what this is?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I kind of. I feel stupid now, but I

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Speaker 2: kinda ask them to do this because you've been getting like,

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Speaker 2: and you've spend most of your time on your phone

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Speaker 2: and you've been canceling Island.

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Speaker 1: State the segue. It's called to catch a cheeter, allan,

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Speaker 1: So if somebody thinks their significant other might be cheating,

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Speaker 1: then they will email us to call them and see

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Speaker 1: see who they send flowers too.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, okay, I've seen now. Well, I gotta tell you, babe,

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Speaker 4: I'm not I'm not cheating on you. I'm so sorry

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Speaker 4: that you even thought that. And yes, I've been distant lately,

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Speaker 4: and the truth is that I do have a secret,

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Speaker 4: but you know it's it's nothing about you. It's actually

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Speaker 4: my mom has been getting sick. Oh, answer. Sorry, Oh,

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Speaker 4: we just kind of figured this out. And you know,

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Speaker 4: my siblings, they're not going to be helping me, so

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Speaker 4: it's it's like pretty much my responsibility here.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm so sorry. I mean, your mom

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Speaker 4: Well, I don't want to put the burden on you.

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Speaker 4: I mean, you know me, I'm the kind of person

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Speaker 1: And yeah, and also Alan, just a quick note, I

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Speaker 3: It sounds like it's been going on for a long time,

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Speaker 3: and you probably you know, you shouldn't have to bear

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Speaker 1: I have six months and if you if your partner

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Speaker 2: I'm even embarrassed that it had to come this far

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Speaker 2: to be on the radio, But like I wish I

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, you know what, it is my fault that

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Speaker 4: I mean you should have let her know and and yeah,

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Speaker 1: So yeah, there you me all that.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, do you want to finish having this conversation

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Speaker 4: Actually, baby, you know what I really missed and we

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Speaker 4: haven't done it in a while because you know, I've

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Speaker 4: been so wrapped up in all this. But you know,

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Speaker 4: we haven't had lunch in a while, and I think

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Speaker 4: if maybe we go to lunch today that would be

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Speaker 4: pretty cool. I'm sure up to it, of course.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do that, Okay. Well, yeah, I mean, you

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Speaker 1: have a lot to talk about, and I'm glad that

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Speaker 1: he wasn't cheating.

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Speaker 4: Ye me too.

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Speaker 3: I am sorry to hear about about your mom, Alan,

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Speaker 3: and this is going to be a tough time for

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Speaker 3: all of you, but thankfully you have each other and

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Speaker 3: a lot of love.

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Speaker 1: So you're lucky in that.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, and I appreciate you guys for that.

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Speaker 1: The Jeuble shows to catch a cheater