1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,520 Speaker 1: Bugle up, hold on tight, we got it to you here. 2 00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:05,960 Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Leaden. Thank you if you subject. 3 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 1: His goal is to please me. Dear Stephen Shirley. I 4 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:14,080 Speaker 1: am a forty six year old, six foot tall black woman. 5 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:18,599 Speaker 1: I became single about four years ago, and until recently, 6 00:00:18,920 --> 00:00:22,319 Speaker 1: I've been enjoying dating and meeting new guys. I don't 7 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:24,759 Speaker 1: look my age, and I attract a lot of men 8 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 1: that are in their twenties with heels on. I'm taller 9 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: than a lot of the guys I date, but they 10 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:33,080 Speaker 1: don't seem to mind. I dated a few of the 11 00:00:33,159 --> 00:00:36,480 Speaker 1: younger guys, but mostly men my age, and I even 12 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:39,200 Speaker 1: gave it up to a few of them. That's when 13 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 1: the problems start. After a few rolls in the hay, 14 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:47,159 Speaker 1: they roll away. When I asked them what happened to 15 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:50,839 Speaker 1: run them away, they all have the same answer. They 16 00:00:50,920 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 1: tell me that it's too much, too much, too hot, 17 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 1: the extra stuff I'd do is too over the top. 18 00:00:58,440 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: I've heard it all, so now I'm seeing a much 19 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 1: younger guy. He's twenty seven and well endowed and full 20 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: of energy. We hung out for the past seven months 21 00:01:08,840 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: and thought I hadn't met my match, but recently he 22 00:01:12,800 --> 00:01:16,319 Speaker 1: confessed that I was too much for him, so I 23 00:01:16,400 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 1: decided to allow him to initiate sex and have more control. 24 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:24,320 Speaker 1: But when he did, I didn't get the satisfaction that 25 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,160 Speaker 1: I needed. He told me that he doesn't want me 26 00:01:27,200 --> 00:01:31,040 Speaker 1: to touch him during sex anymore because I have soft 27 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:35,320 Speaker 1: hands and my touch drives him crazy. I am a 28 00:01:35,440 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: grown ass woman and I love to please a man, 29 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:45,680 Speaker 1: but whenever I do anything besides the basic stuff, he 30 00:01:45,760 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 1: doesn't last long and he gets mad at me. We 31 00:01:48,560 --> 00:01:51,160 Speaker 1: had a talk and he still wants to feel like 32 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:54,240 Speaker 1: a man and please me. For a change, I am 33 00:01:54,280 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 1: willing to tone it down for him so I don't 34 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: run him off. How can we come to a happy 35 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 1: medium in the bedroom If his only goal is to 36 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:06,520 Speaker 1: please me, I want to make him happy. Please help? Okay, well, 37 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 1: you gotta listen. I mean, what are you doing to 38 00:02:08,680 --> 00:02:12,360 Speaker 1: these men? Girl? I've never heard men turn it down 39 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:15,840 Speaker 1: like that? Run away? I've just never heard it complain 40 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:17,679 Speaker 1: and say you're over the top and it's too much, 41 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:22,280 Speaker 1: it's too hot. But evidently you're scaring them off like that. 42 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 1: I mean, you don't mention exactly what you're doing. You 43 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:29,320 Speaker 1: just call it the extra stuff that you do. They 44 00:02:29,440 --> 00:02:33,000 Speaker 1: tell you that it's too much and it's too hot. Honestly, 45 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 1: I don't think we really want to know what she's 46 00:02:35,160 --> 00:02:38,799 Speaker 1: doing though. I don't know's. I don't know what it 47 00:02:38,880 --> 00:02:40,960 Speaker 1: is that it's got her running them off like that. 48 00:02:41,760 --> 00:02:44,800 Speaker 1: This it's no telling. I mean, she might have some 49 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:48,440 Speaker 1: kind of apparatuses and you just never know what she 50 00:02:48,520 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: has going on. So my advice to you is you 51 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 1: got to tone it down a little bit. Okay, If 52 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 1: they're telling you it's too much, it's too hot, you 53 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:59,400 Speaker 1: can't keep them, and they're running away, then yeah, you 54 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 1: need to you need to change a few things. If 55 00:03:02,080 --> 00:03:04,560 Speaker 1: these are the men you want in your life, my 56 00:03:04,600 --> 00:03:07,400 Speaker 1: advice is just to stop doing all this extra, over 57 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:10,640 Speaker 1: the top, too hot stuff. If all these men that 58 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:14,200 Speaker 1: you're that you've been dealing with, young and old, if 59 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:17,239 Speaker 1: they're running away telling you you're too much, it's just 60 00:03:17,400 --> 00:03:21,440 Speaker 1: too much. If you're hearing that, you gotta listen to them. 61 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 1: You gotta take a listen to them. They want you 62 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:26,240 Speaker 1: to stop doing all this crazy stuff and just have 63 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: regular sex. Sometimes, just have regular sex. Learn how to 64 00:03:30,919 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 1: get back into enjoying just regular stuff, you know, and 65 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:37,800 Speaker 1: not over the top and all of that. You know, 66 00:03:37,840 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: if that's if you want a new man in your 67 00:03:41,240 --> 00:03:43,160 Speaker 1: life that you want to you know, want to be 68 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 1: there for a while. If that's if you're thinking about 69 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 1: remarrying and stuff, you don't want to just take them 70 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 1: too much, too fast, you know, you gotta do that 71 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:55,560 Speaker 1: sort of thing gradually. Just chill for a minute, like 72 00:03:55,840 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: who said that Wesley Snipes the other day? Chill ilaxlax. Okay, 73 00:04:03,720 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 1: come on, come on, Junior, Yeah, come on. You clutching 74 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:15,080 Speaker 1: myself between Sherton Read and that Levin. What is we 75 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: doing it? It's too hot? Lights down in this studio, 76 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 1: these lights down. I don't know what this woman is 77 00:04:22,279 --> 00:04:24,479 Speaker 1: doing to these men. I don't know. I have no 78 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 1: idea what you mean I would I don't know. I 79 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 1: ain't know met no animal like this. What is she doing? Say? 80 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:35,640 Speaker 1: I can't believe this. He asking you now, man, man, 81 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:38,840 Speaker 1: please just tone it down for everybody on this show. 82 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 1: For the show. We are grown a dough that we 83 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:43,480 Speaker 1: don't know what you're doing. Have you ever asked a 84 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:46,880 Speaker 1: woman to tone it down? She was too much? Oh? No, okay, 85 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:50,720 Speaker 1: I've never That's why I said, what is she doing that. 86 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:52,800 Speaker 1: This one is you hanging him from the cinema. What 87 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:56,120 Speaker 1: did you doing? I mean, how strong? Here? You already 88 00:04:56,200 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 1: six foot? This is an amazon in him. Please slow 89 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 1: it down for everybody. Yeah, but the stuff you put 90 00:05:03,240 --> 00:05:05,760 Speaker 1: in this letter head already slowed my breathing down. I'm 91 00:05:05,800 --> 00:05:08,480 Speaker 1: over here, panted. But she didn't tell you what she's doing. 92 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 1: I don't know. But the way you was reading what 93 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 1: I was seeing, I was like, oh, yeah, oh, can 94 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:16,479 Speaker 1: you too much? I've never had too much? I don't 95 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:20,479 Speaker 1: I don't know what that is. Yeah, it makes me 96 00:05:20,600 --> 00:05:23,159 Speaker 1: nervous a little bit. It makes me a little nervous. Yeah, 97 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 1: I'm good, Jay. All right, let's move it on over 98 00:05:25,800 --> 00:05:28,279 Speaker 1: to Jay. What you got Jay? His goal is to 99 00:05:28,440 --> 00:05:32,159 Speaker 1: please me? Is the subject. When we would go to 100 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:35,280 Speaker 1: different people's houses to eat, my mom would always tell 101 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:37,920 Speaker 1: us to get a sandwich before you go over there, 102 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:40,479 Speaker 1: so when you go over there, men will make me 103 00:05:40,520 --> 00:05:43,559 Speaker 1: look stupid and just over eat. So what she needed 104 00:05:43,560 --> 00:05:46,839 Speaker 1: to do before these men show up, she need to 105 00:05:46,839 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 1: get a sandwich. She need to I'm just using that 106 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:52,440 Speaker 1: as a team, you know, like, get a sandwich, you know, 107 00:05:52,760 --> 00:05:54,760 Speaker 1: do what you can do for you. So by the 108 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:58,039 Speaker 1: time they get there, you understand what I'm saying. Take 109 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:01,680 Speaker 1: care of some things yourself that have a check, did that? 110 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:06,479 Speaker 1: Did that check? Check? Did that check? Did that? Thank 111 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:11,240 Speaker 1: myself that time. By time he show up, all right, 112 00:06:12,080 --> 00:06:14,359 Speaker 1: I'm gonna come back. His goal is to please me. 113 00:06:14,480 --> 00:06:17,479 Speaker 1: A forty six year old, six foot tall black woman 114 00:06:17,560 --> 00:06:21,080 Speaker 1: wrote this letter. She's single for about four years until recently, 115 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: she's been enjoying dating and meeting new guys. But all 116 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 1: the guys after they meet her, they run away, mostly 117 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: guys some of her own age and then some of 118 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:33,599 Speaker 1: their twenties. She she doesn't look her age, so she 119 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:36,719 Speaker 1: attracts younger guys. But that's when the problems start, because 120 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:39,240 Speaker 1: she gives it up to them, she says, and then 121 00:06:39,360 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: after a few rolls in the hate, they roll away. 122 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: Those are exact words. They're gone. She has asked them 123 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 1: what happened. They all tell her the same thing. She's 124 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:54,279 Speaker 1: too much. Yes, she's too hot, and the extra stuff 125 00:06:54,279 --> 00:06:59,440 Speaker 1: that she does is way over the top. So now 126 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:01,720 Speaker 1: she's singing much younger guy, she's been seeing him for 127 00:07:01,760 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 1: about seven months. He has even asked her to tone 128 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:10,760 Speaker 1: it down because you know, whenever she does anything besides 129 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: the basic stuff. He doesn't last long and then he 130 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 1: gets mad at her. So he's asked her, you know, 131 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: to reel it in a little bit. You know, you're 132 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:21,440 Speaker 1: way over there to come over here. So she's but 133 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 1: she says she's willing to turn it down. But when 134 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:30,000 Speaker 1: she does that, you know, it doesn't please her enough. So, yeah, 135 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 1: she just wants to know how can she reach a 136 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:36,240 Speaker 1: happy medium in the bedroom if his only goal, this 137 00:07:36,320 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: new guy, the twenty seven year old, is to please him, 138 00:07:38,720 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 1: and she wants to make him happy. But seriously, you 139 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:44,040 Speaker 1: got to tone it down. If they're telling you this 140 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 1: and they're running, you got whatever you're doing, you don't 141 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:52,400 Speaker 1: tell us what you're doing. Your hands, all right, Jay, 142 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: you wanted to finish what you were saying. I was 143 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:57,560 Speaker 1: saying that maybe she needs to take care of some 144 00:07:57,680 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 1: things herself before the man show up, you know, just 145 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:03,840 Speaker 1: get a checklist and check some things off that way 146 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 1: by the time he showed up. Not only that, I'm thinking, 147 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:11,080 Speaker 1: how tall is this lady six feet tall? I'm thinking 148 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:13,840 Speaker 1: with heels on, I'm thinking with six three like that, 149 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:18,200 Speaker 1: and taller than the heels on. Maybe her voice chain 150 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 1: and she you know, she signed like that. There's ain't 151 00:08:20,360 --> 00:08:22,760 Speaker 1: nothing to play with. Now you're not. There's ain't nothing 152 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 1: to play with. This ain't what you thought it was 153 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:28,200 Speaker 1: gonna be. Like, I run this bedroom. Okay, all right, 154 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 1: I stopped crying. Stop crying. Came here. I'm crying crying. 155 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:37,839 Speaker 1: You came to work. We do work. That red light 156 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:42,439 Speaker 1: and that that means work gonna be done. I stop 157 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:47,960 Speaker 1: hugging yourself. Stop crying. Wow sipping. Be a man, Be 158 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:50,680 Speaker 1: a man. You are here to take care of Benny. 159 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 1: And I let you know when you're done. Okay, I 160 00:08:53,920 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 1: let you know. Watch something in there. She doing something. 161 00:08:57,400 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 1: She talking like the devil. That's what it is. Yeah, 162 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:07,920 Speaker 1: you do like the devil. All right, put you back 163 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:17,080 Speaker 1: into it. Come on now, boy boy boy? Why all right? Time? Okay, 164 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:21,120 Speaker 1: all right, thank you jay uh Tommy subject. His goal 165 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,959 Speaker 1: is to please me. What you got you just you 166 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:28,760 Speaker 1: know what? You're just doing too much? Yeah, you're doing 167 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: too much. People want regular six yo. You don't see 168 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: you guys when you do want regular weed? Okay, you 169 00:09:38,120 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: want regular sick some stuff people don't want because I 170 00:09:42,120 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 1: want Why am I? Why am I waking up? In you? 171 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 1: You're standing over me drinking a red Bull and chasing 172 00:09:48,640 --> 00:09:50,800 Speaker 1: it with a five hour energy. Why are you doing that? 173 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:55,600 Speaker 1: I just want regular sick? What's wrong with you? Why 174 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: you're doing Why you got hot hunted in Maple sir? 175 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:01,160 Speaker 1: What WI just this to do with all of that? 176 00:10:02,520 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 1: Come on now, okay, you just can't home from yoga? 177 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:07,560 Speaker 1: Why you got me in the down with dog positions? 178 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:11,959 Speaker 1: Why am I doing this? Why didn't you just leave yoga? 179 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 1: Why am I in this posicience? Down? Stop? What? Don't 180 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: hit me with no whip? No damn most down? I 181 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:22,559 Speaker 1: cannot get. I can't go to work with this colla 182 00:10:22,640 --> 00:10:26,360 Speaker 1: on my neck. You gonna have to take okay, unlocked 183 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:29,440 Speaker 1: this so I can go to work. Okay, you're trying 184 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: to do too much. It's just too much. All right. 185 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 1: I understand role playing, but come on now, Game of Thrones, 186 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:47,440 Speaker 1: but you John Snow, you let me John? Now, what 187 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:49,440 Speaker 1: are we doing? Let me ask you this, Tommy, I 188 00:10:49,480 --> 00:10:52,679 Speaker 1: asked you do this. Has it ever been Have you 189 00:10:52,720 --> 00:10:55,280 Speaker 1: ever been in a situation where you've said it's too 190 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:58,640 Speaker 1: much like this? I don't know a man who's done this. Well, 191 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:01,959 Speaker 1: you know I said this, you know extra yeah, I 192 00:11:02,160 --> 00:11:04,679 Speaker 1: said that. It's a bit extra. But you know, but 193 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 1: this right here just too much? Yeah, this is too much? 194 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 1: What are you? What are you? What do you? He's 195 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:11,400 Speaker 1: what are you gonna do? Off's? What do you get 196 00:11:11,480 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 1: ready to do? Just? What are you doing with this popsicle? 197 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:16,439 Speaker 1: What's to do? Man? We know know? What is yours 198 00:11:16,520 --> 00:11:20,720 Speaker 1: to do with this popsic? Okay? Uh? Before we go? 199 00:11:21,520 --> 00:11:27,559 Speaker 1: Where my brother's hand comes in? Where's his hand comes 200 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:29,839 Speaker 1: She's too much? What is yours to do with it? 201 00:11:31,200 --> 00:11:33,480 Speaker 1: Too much? What did you? What did yours to do 202 00:11:33,520 --> 00:11:35,640 Speaker 1: with it? Oh? Hell no, that's a Brandon eye? Oh 203 00:11:35,679 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: hell no, No, what you pulling gas into? What is that? 204 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 1: He's hazing people? You turn the oven on three twenty 205 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:50,840 Speaker 1: five and you want me to put my head in it? For? What? 206 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:58,040 Speaker 1: What is that? Fuck? All right? Guys, listen, email us 207 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:00,800 Speaker 1: or instagram us your thoughts on today Strawberry Letter at 208 00:12:00,840 --> 00:12:04,240 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast 209 00:12:04,400 --> 00:12:08,400 Speaker 1: on demand. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.