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Speaker 1: This is Kelly Henderson and you are listening to the

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Speaker 1: Velvet Edge Podcast. This week, my guest is Caroline Brian,

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Speaker 1: who is wife of country music superstar Luke Brian and

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Speaker 1: also just one of my favorite people in Nashville. While

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Speaker 1: most people know and see what Luke accomplishes on the regular,

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Speaker 1: Caroline is the one back home truly running the show.

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Speaker 1: She opens up to me about how she and Luke

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Speaker 1: still make it work after twelve years of marriage, and

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Speaker 1: the secret that keeps them alive amongst the travel and

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Speaker 1: business of their lives. She also gets really honest about

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Speaker 1: what it's been like to experience the losses their family

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Speaker 1: is faced in losing both Luke's brother and sister, his

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Speaker 1: brother in law, and most recently, her niece Brett, for

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Speaker 1: whom she and other family members have now started the

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Speaker 1: Brett Boyer Foundation. She made me both laugh and cry,

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Speaker 1: and I'm incredibly grateful to her for sharing her truth

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Speaker 1: and warm heart with all of us. Here's Caroline. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so obviously I have to talk with you about how

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Speaker 1: you and Luke met. I mean, I love a story

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Speaker 1: about people who have known each other since he was

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Speaker 1: in college college eight I was eighteen oh my god.

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Speaker 1: We met s surprisingly we met in a bar. I'm sure,

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Speaker 1: I'm sure everyone was shocked. It was my first line

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Speaker 1: out in college. On a Thursday night, I went to

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Speaker 1: a bar with you know, typical friends and a friend

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Speaker 1: of mine who's still a friend of ours today. He's

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Speaker 1: um John Davis, and he goes, I want to I

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Speaker 1: pointed across the bar and all I saw was this

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Speaker 1: was this guy with these big teeth, smiling, awaving. He

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Speaker 1: looked like the biggest googer, but it was Luke. And

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Speaker 1: we met and we talked briefly and then we just

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Speaker 1: that with air quotations for about a month, and then

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Speaker 1: we started we started dating so pretty quick, very quick.

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Speaker 1: I love that. I read some article where you were like,

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Speaker 1: I didn't know what to think about him, because you know,

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Speaker 1: goofy guys. I love goofy guys. I just think they're adorable.

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Speaker 1: And he would just say anything, and I was thinking, what,

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Speaker 1: what is this person? I didn't know if he was drunk,

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Speaker 1: the rest was over. You know how you see sparks life.

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Speaker 1: If you kiss a person, sometimes you just and I

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Speaker 1: knew after we kissed that we were good to date,

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Speaker 1: Like the chemistry was there. It was It is hard

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Speaker 1: with your like I wouldn't be there, what would happen?

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Speaker 1: So you knew immediately yes, but you guys, y'all dated

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Speaker 1: for what a year and then broke a year and

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Speaker 1: a half. I went off, and then he was graduating college.

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Speaker 1: like in your life. In my life, ever, I had

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Speaker 1: But we did date other people, and it was the

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Speaker 1: best thing. We were apart for almost five years. Why

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Speaker 1: we just stayed together. You know, I went on all

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Speaker 1: not at all. So when you guys, Arry, how did

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Speaker 1: That's all I meant for it because I was in

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Speaker 1: Out of the the Blue, I traveled a lot and he

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Speaker 1: This is like right when texting started, so it was

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Speaker 1: twelve minutes to do one text. But we but we

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Speaker 1: And then I invited him to my family's Christmas in

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Speaker 1: loved him. So when I said, um, mom, Dad, I'm

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Speaker 1: Even my dad was like, thank god, oh he wanted

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Speaker 1: so that they were like, of course, sure, but they

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Speaker 1: Like my dad just knew. Yeah. I mean so was

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Speaker 1: But I always knew that if he pursued it, he

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Speaker 1: made But like you went through it with him, right,

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Speaker 1: know that's so that's how we made it. And our

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Speaker 1: still the hardest thing is him being gone. The travel schedule.

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Speaker 1: I hate math. Math is my crypt tonight. Yeah, always

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Speaker 1: has never worked that way. Okay. Well, so you guys

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Speaker 1: so we need some relationship advice of you. So how

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Speaker 1: I mean, obviously you said the traveling is a huge thing.

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Speaker 1: How do you make it work? I honestly think, well,

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Speaker 1: you're just done. It's not gonna work. But you have to.

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Speaker 1: But we're also really good about talking, like you have

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Speaker 1: just we're we're as normal as it gets. We're sometimes

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00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: we're so normal we're boring that we kind of have

429
00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:52,760
Speaker 1: to just go try to have a little bit of fun,

430
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:55,680
Speaker 1: just prank each other and my kids frank me. Now,

431
00:23:56,400 --> 00:24:01,120
Speaker 1: well I've started something horrible. So, um, yeah, they put

432
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 1: fake bugs in my bed and we'll snakes assume no,

433
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:10,160
Speaker 1: they don't do that. That's a m oh wow, it's

434
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,280
Speaker 1: that bad. I can deal with bugs. But if if don't,

435
00:24:13,960 --> 00:24:17,760
Speaker 1: don't throw a snake on me ever ever? Okay, noticed,

436
00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:19,679
Speaker 1: So if you ever bring an airhorn near me, I

437
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 1: know how to get you a snake is where of you?

438
00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:27,400
Speaker 1: I'll have a slight heart attack. Um well, I did

439
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:30,679
Speaker 1: say you and Luke are both to me as a couple.

440
00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:33,000
Speaker 1: Every time I've ever been around you, y'all are laughing,

441
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:38,120
Speaker 1: just so kind, so just generous with everyone around you.

442
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 1: Do you think that that has come a lot from

443
00:24:41,000 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: the stuff that you guys have been through with just

444
00:24:42,920 --> 00:24:47,560
Speaker 1: the loss in your family? Oh yeah yeah. Um. I've

445
00:24:47,600 --> 00:24:52,200
Speaker 1: always said everybody better stay humble because life will humble you.

446
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:56,520
Speaker 1: Life humbles me every day, and we will never be

447
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:02,960
Speaker 1: pretentious or snotty or because we've been through I mean,

448
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:06,879
Speaker 1: we've been through hell. Lucas lost his brother, his sister,

449
00:25:07,840 --> 00:25:12,560
Speaker 1: our brother in law, and our our niece, And just

450
00:25:12,680 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 1: when you think it can't get any worse, we're like, okay,

451
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 1: and we both have anxiety. Now who's next, Like what's

452
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 1: going to happen? So I do I And this is

453
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:24,480
Speaker 1: something a lot of people don't have a clue about.

454
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 1: I deal with horrible anxiety. And I never had anxiety

455
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:32,080
Speaker 1: until we had losses in our family. And and so

456
00:25:32,240 --> 00:25:36,080
Speaker 1: I've had a couple of horrible panic attacks. And that's

457
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:39,840
Speaker 1: just being totally honest, because I'm always scared of what's

458
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 1: gonna happen next, Like I'm just like PTSD, I'm sure,

459
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:46,280
Speaker 1: oh yeah, yeah yeah. And I do have that from

460
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:49,880
Speaker 1: the loss of our from our brother in law who

461
00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 1: passed away of a heart attack, because I was there

462
00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:58,479
Speaker 1: when it happened. And but I've always said that, you know,

463
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:03,439
Speaker 1: I don't. It's not our our job to understand why

464
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:06,560
Speaker 1: God does what he does, but it is our job

465
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:10,880
Speaker 1: to accept it and just try to make something good

466
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 1: out of something horrible. And it's really hard. I mean

467
00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 1: there are days, trust me, where I don't I just

468
00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:19,119
Speaker 1: don't want to deal with anything. I just want to

469
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:21,920
Speaker 1: curl up in a ball. But I have to keep going,

470
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:25,720
Speaker 1: obviously for the kids. But but it's also okay to

471
00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 1: have a shitty day and not want to and just

472
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 1: be sad. That's fine. But people who go through a lot.

473
00:26:34,119 --> 00:26:36,800
Speaker 1: And I always say, you know what, I've been through

474
00:26:36,840 --> 00:26:40,080
Speaker 1: a lot, but people have been through worse, Like I

475
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 1: can't imagine losing a child or watching my child be

476
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:48,400
Speaker 1: sick in the hospital, and I've seen those parents, and

477
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:51,399
Speaker 1: it's so we just try to always stay on the

478
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:54,800
Speaker 1: bright side and just try to help a person who's

479
00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:58,520
Speaker 1: going through hell. And so that's my that's my whole mission.

480
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like that is always. It's always

481
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:02,480
Speaker 1: the families that I look at that I just have

482
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 1: so much respect for and who are so kind to

483
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:07,280
Speaker 1: other people. And I'm like, how do they do it?

484
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:11,399
Speaker 1: Because I remember when Luke's brother in law died, thinking

485
00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:14,399
Speaker 1: to myself, why this family? Why that again? You know,

486
00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 1: because like you said, his brother had passed away. That's

487
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 1: drink of beer is about his brother, right, Um, it's

488
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 1: kind of about his his brother and his sister and

489
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 1: they had both passed when when they wrote that song. Yeah,

490
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:34,360
Speaker 1: and then to have said the sister who the brother

491
00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,560
Speaker 1: in law we're talking about, they had three kids, three

492
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:42,720
Speaker 1: kids and both so young. Yeah, and just unexpected, out

493
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:47,760
Speaker 1: of the blue, no clue, just taken, just taken just

494
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:52,240
Speaker 1: so quickly, and we still don't understand any of it.

495
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:56,439
Speaker 1: But but we're also very thankful that we're able to

496
00:27:56,520 --> 00:27:59,640
Speaker 1: take care of them. Right, did you because we want

497
00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:02,359
Speaker 1: to so? Right? I mean, because you have read to

498
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:05,199
Speaker 1: you guys said the three kids are now, did y'

499
00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 1: all adopt them? We did not adopt, So we're their

500
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:12,880
Speaker 1: guardians guardians. So the oldest now, well, the um girls

501
00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:16,000
Speaker 1: all at the age where they're adults, so they don't

502
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:19,560
Speaker 1: have a legal guardian. We've been til guardian since he

503
00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:25,040
Speaker 1: was twelve. UM. But we never we never questioned it.

504
00:28:25,080 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 1: I mean, it was an honor that they, you know,

505
00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:32,639
Speaker 1: wanted wanted us and our our help. And the girls

506
00:28:32,640 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 1: stayed in Georgia because the the oldest was in college.

507
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:38,600
Speaker 1: In the middle Chris, she was a junior in high

508
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,720
Speaker 1: school and she wanted to stay with her friends, so

509
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:45,640
Speaker 1: she stayed with our family. But we were always until

510
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 1: moved in with us immediately, but we were we've always

511
00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 1: been in contact, like they were just here. They flew

512
00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 1: home yesterday around lunch, so we're we see each other

513
00:28:56,280 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 1: a lot. And you said, y'all never even talked really

514
00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 1: about that. It was just kind of like, yeah, we're

515
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 1: doing this. Yeah. No, there was no talking about it.

516
00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:07,880
Speaker 1: It was just they you know, they taught to us

517
00:29:08,760 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 1: and we were like, of course, So that was it.

518
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:15,080
Speaker 1: So when you say you have anxiety or like, what

519
00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:17,640
Speaker 1: do those days look like? The panic attacks and all

520
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 1: of that, Um, well, I think anybody who has panic attacks,

521
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just speaking for myself. I know,

522
00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:31,480
Speaker 1: like a full blown panic attack. I've only had four major,

523
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 1: full blown attacks in my life, and I know what

524
00:29:35,120 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 1: my triggers are, and so my last one was it

525
00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 1: was just it was awful, so um and it was

526
00:29:44,800 --> 00:29:48,160
Speaker 1: from I was alone in the house. It's something about

527
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 1: being alone. And I was alone in the house. I

528
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: was exhausted because I hadn't been sleeping because we we

529
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,719
Speaker 1: had just lost a child at the hospital who we all,

530
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 1: so I hadn't I hadn't been I hadn't been sleeping.

531
00:30:03,920 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 1: It came out of nowhere and I had to go

532
00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:10,280
Speaker 1: to the r which no it's not it's not fun,

533
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:15,800
Speaker 1: but it's that's a panic attack, like a real one. Um.

534
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:19,520
Speaker 1: So now, and I'll admit it to anybody. I have

535
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:23,360
Speaker 1: emergency meds in case I feel one coming on, I

536
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:27,520
Speaker 1: can stop it because anybody who's had a real panic attack,

537
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 1: I would. I told Luke and he was like, oh

538
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:33,840
Speaker 1: my god, um because I don't think Luke's ever had

539
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 1: like a real one. And he has some anxiety about

540
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:39,800
Speaker 1: you know, death and everything. But I would rather give

541
00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 1: birth with the nomads ever than to ever have another

542
00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:48,640
Speaker 1: full blown panic attack. It's the worst thing ever because

543
00:30:49,000 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 1: you can't reason with with anybody, and it's just it's

544
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 1: the most helpless, it's it's the it's the most awful

545
00:30:55,920 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 1: feeling in the world. Ye. So, and I do battle

546
00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 1: just even my anxiety under wraps because I'm just I'm

547
00:31:03,400 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 1: always scared of is somebody I love about to die?

548
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 1: Or am I about to die and leave these kids

549
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:14,840
Speaker 1: with nothing? And but I keep it under control most

550
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:17,400
Speaker 1: of the time. What do you do? Is there anything

551
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: you do on a day to day to just keep

552
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 1: the positive outlook? Well, honestly, I mean, exercise is a

553
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:28,160
Speaker 1: big that's a big thing. It keeps me busy. I mean,

554
00:31:28,200 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 1: it keeps me feeling good and trying to eat somewhat right.

555
00:31:32,800 --> 00:31:35,800
Speaker 1: I'm still a glutton for ice cream and French fries.

556
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:39,640
Speaker 1: But and then just you know, I also have the

557
00:31:39,800 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 1: I have the best friends in the world, and they

558
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 1: know everything about me, and if I have a bad day,

559
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:49,240
Speaker 1: they're there in an instant. Yeah, so that's a big deal.

560
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 1: I can't imagine what that would be like. I think

561
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 1: it's like always waiting for that next shoot to drop

562
00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:56,280
Speaker 1: kind of thing when you've been through back to back

563
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 1: to back. But you can't live like that. I try to,

564
00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:03,640
Speaker 1: and I have great days where I'm like, Okay, everything's fine,

565
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:06,680
Speaker 1: Quit worrying about something that's probably going to never happen.

566
00:32:07,640 --> 00:32:10,440
Speaker 1: But then there are those days where you're like, what

567
00:32:10,760 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 1: it's It's the fear of feeling that pain. Yeah, that's

568
00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 1: what my anxiety is, is the fear of feeling the

569
00:32:17,840 --> 00:32:22,880
Speaker 1: pain of another death. And because that pain something nobody

570
00:32:22,880 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 1: should ever ever feel. But that's where mine comes from,

571
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:29,400
Speaker 1: is the fear of feeling that pain again. So we

572
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 1: talked about the loss on Luke's side, but then there's

573
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:36,360
Speaker 1: also on your family side, your brother and sister in

574
00:32:36,440 --> 00:32:40,040
Speaker 1: law lost a child. Was that two years ago? Now, Um,

575
00:32:40,080 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 1: well she would be three, so it's been she passed

576
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 1: away when she was seven months. Well, let's talk a

577
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: little bit about Brett. Tell me about Brett Brett, Sadie

578
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 1: Brett boy or she was, um the probably the greatest

579
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:57,560
Speaker 1: thing to happen to our family. My brother and sister

580
00:32:57,640 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 1: in law, who were the best people in the world, truly,

581
00:33:00,080 --> 00:33:03,840
Speaker 1: like the smartest, that the sweetest, the funniest. They tried

582
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:06,840
Speaker 1: for years to have a baby. It just did not happen.

583
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:10,360
Speaker 1: And we don't know why. They were with rall these tests,

584
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 1: everything was normal, they just it just didn't happen. So

585
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:17,120
Speaker 1: Ellen and Bow went through IVF and they got a

586
00:33:17,160 --> 00:33:21,520
Speaker 1: little girl. And when Ellen was probably I guess about

587
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 1: twelve weeks pregnant, she called me just crying. I remember

588
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 1: I was driving, honestly, of all, be honest, I was

589
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 1: parking at a liquor store to go by one. I

590
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:35,400
Speaker 1: truly was. I was pulling into a store to go

591
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:38,640
Speaker 1: buy by wine. And Ellen called and she was just

592
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:42,640
Speaker 1: hysterically crying. And I knew something was wrong because I

593
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 1: knew that they're gonna have tests done. And she said

594
00:33:45,720 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 1: that Brett had had come back positive that she was

595
00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:53,200
Speaker 1: going to have Down syndrome, and Ellen, this is what

596
00:33:53,400 --> 00:33:57,360
Speaker 1: I love so much about her. She never said why us,

597
00:33:57,400 --> 00:34:01,400
Speaker 1: why this? I don't want this Bay. Maybe her first

598
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 1: words were I can't, I can't even. She goes, my

599
00:34:07,040 --> 00:34:09,919
Speaker 1: heart is breaking over the thought of somebody making fun

600
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 1: of her and that and that's what's so good about Ellen, um.

601
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 1: And I was like, Ellen, you know what. And and

602
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 1: then my brother was so sweet. He goes because he goes,

603
00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 1: We're gonna, We're gonna do this. She's going to be

604
00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:27,879
Speaker 1: a badass. And Brett is still a badass. And then

605
00:34:28,840 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 1: once our our family wrapped our head around it, we

606
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:34,200
Speaker 1: didn't care. We just wanted Brett here. Then we found

607
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 1: out that Brett had a heart condition, which is very

608
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:41,279
Speaker 1: common and Down cyndrome kids. It was supposed to be

609
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 1: an easy fix. Her surgery was supposed to be an

610
00:34:44,440 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 1: easy fix. Something just with with her little body. It

611
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:52,359
Speaker 1: just did not her. The surgery just didn't take. And

612
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:56,319
Speaker 1: Brett fought and fault and fault, she truly did. And

613
00:34:56,800 --> 00:35:00,440
Speaker 1: around seven months her little body just couldn't take anymore.

614
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:03,080
Speaker 1: And they called us and told us to come in

615
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:07,759
Speaker 1: that you know it would be soon, and so our

616
00:35:07,800 --> 00:35:11,640
Speaker 1: whole family was there and ellenor Bow got to hold her,

617
00:35:11,920 --> 00:35:17,359
Speaker 1: and watching them hold Brett after she had passed was

618
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 1: the single hardest thing I've ever seen. So and then

619
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 1: we decided to, you know, take what she taught us

620
00:35:27,880 --> 00:35:32,400
Speaker 1: and what we learned in the hospital about HD and

621
00:35:32,440 --> 00:35:35,359
Speaker 1: about kids who have Down syndrome and just to kind

622
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:38,600
Speaker 1: of hopefully change change the world. And that's what we're

623
00:35:38,600 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 1: trying to do. So she had congenital heart diseases is

624
00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:46,839
Speaker 1: one that in the US, so it's common. It's it's

625
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:50,880
Speaker 1: way more common than anybody knows, but it's under research.

626
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:54,839
Speaker 1: Like it's so common that people don't talk about it,

627
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:57,719
Speaker 1: and there's just and so we're trying to just put

628
00:35:57,760 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 1: it out there. So UM our tagline is UM Support

629
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:05,880
Speaker 1: and Celebrate. So we want to support the families and

630
00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:10,480
Speaker 1: research and then celebrate kids who have Down syndrome because

631
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 1: they are the sweetest, most I mean, just the best light.

632
00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:18,000
Speaker 1: There's so much fun, and they're really intelligent. If they're

633
00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:21,600
Speaker 1: they're very sassy. I love everything about these kids because

634
00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 1: they're they're they're so great. UM. So that's kind of

635
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:28,799
Speaker 1: like our thing because not every kid that goes through

636
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:32,440
Speaker 1: what Brett has gone through, a lot of kids make it.

637
00:36:32,960 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 1: They have the surgery in their home in five days,

638
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:40,160
Speaker 1: and that happens every day. And Brett was just the exception,

639
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:42,600
Speaker 1: like our family has been exception to so many things.

640
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 1: When you say, we are talking about the Brett Boyer Foundation,

641
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 1: which is a charity that you and your sister in

642
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 1: law Ellen started after Brett passed. Right, So the other

643
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 1: question I would say is does it come hand in

644
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 1: hand a lot of times with Down syndrome or is

645
00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:00,399
Speaker 1: that completely separate. It's about half of the kids, Yes,

646
00:37:00,719 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: it is. So it's it's very common, but it's very flexible.

647
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:08,240
Speaker 1: I mean, every child is different. But the the surgery

648
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 1: that Brett had, so many kids are home in five

649
00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:14,400
Speaker 1: days and they're thriving, and they're fine. They're fine, and

650
00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:20,239
Speaker 1: they're fine. We just you know, God gave us this

651
00:37:20,400 --> 00:37:23,960
Speaker 1: for a reason. And you know, and Brett still is.

652
00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:27,319
Speaker 1: We always knew that she would do something amazing to

653
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:30,399
Speaker 1: change to change the world, and she's doing it. Yeah,

654
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:32,879
Speaker 1: she's still doing it. Do you find that the work

655
00:37:32,960 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 1: you guys are doing with the foundation is healing you guys? Oh? Yeah, yeah,

656
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 1: it's it's helping us. It's helping Ellen and Bow because

657
00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:42,240
Speaker 1: they still grieve they of course they lost a child.

658
00:37:42,360 --> 00:37:46,400
Speaker 1: Every day is different, so it's it's helping us to

659
00:37:46,560 --> 00:37:51,359
Speaker 1: just watch what we're doing to help kids, because we've

660
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 1: seen kids that have been saved from a few things

661
00:37:55,160 --> 00:37:57,319
Speaker 1: that we've done to give money and that, and so

662
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:00,160
Speaker 1: that's all worth it. So you guys do have bunch

663
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 1: of different activities, which we'll talk about in a second.

664
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Speaker 1: But what is the main thing that you've seen as

665
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:06,759
Speaker 1: a result of the money you've been able to raise,

666
00:38:07,160 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 1: Like what are they doing? Are they researching or so

667
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:15,680
Speaker 1: they so they do research, but also immediate things like

668
00:38:15,800 --> 00:38:19,400
Speaker 1: whether it's buying an artificial heart to help a child

669
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: before the child has a heart transplant, because they need

670
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 1: more of those. So if if a child is on

671
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:27,919
Speaker 1: a list and it could take up to a year,

672
00:38:27,960 --> 00:38:30,880
Speaker 1: I mean, you just don't know, which is a horrible

673
00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:33,880
Speaker 1: thing because in order for a child to have a heart,

674
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:38,479
Speaker 1: another child house has to die, which is it's still

675
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:41,920
Speaker 1: something I have a hard time talking about. But so

676
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:44,520
Speaker 1: if you buy an artificial heart, that can help a

677
00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:47,359
Speaker 1: child stay alive until they get a heart. So it's

678
00:38:47,400 --> 00:38:50,200
Speaker 1: just stuff like that, okay, and then what are some

679
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 1: of the activities because I actually I knew about the

680
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:53,879
Speaker 1: red Burg Games, which I want to talk about too.

681
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:56,600
Speaker 1: But y'all do a lot. There's a lot of different

682
00:38:56,640 --> 00:38:58,279
Speaker 1: Like I was reading about, there's something you do with

683
00:38:58,320 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 1: the preads or you're doing a hockey game. Yeah it's

684
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:03,719
Speaker 1: the um I forgot what it's called, but it's like

685
00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 1: um Pred's, um Pred's love. If Pred's have a heart,

686
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,799
Speaker 1: preds have a heart night. So the preads are going

687
00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:12,919
Speaker 1: to help us with that, which they do so many

688
00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:16,400
Speaker 1: awesome things. Like those guys, like I don't even know

689
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:18,640
Speaker 1: any of them. I mean I've met Mike, you know,

690
00:39:18,960 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 1: a few times, but I don't really know any of

691
00:39:21,239 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 1: these guys, but what they do, Like, I have so

692
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:26,440
Speaker 1: much respect for all those guys, like a lot of

693
00:39:26,480 --> 00:39:30,520
Speaker 1: respect because they truly do good and they aren't even

694
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 1: forced to. They just do it. They just do it.

695
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,440
Speaker 1: And they'll go to the hospital and see all the kids.

696
00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 1: And you know, I have a llama named after Pecca

697
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:43,320
Speaker 1: because because a kid at the hospital wanted to nameing

698
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:46,759
Speaker 1: Pecca because he's his favorite player. Yeah, I love that.

699
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 1: So there's that. There was I read about a meat

700
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:53,400
Speaker 1: Lover's dinner at for a Fur Kitchen, Best Buddies, Friendship walks.

701
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:56,080
Speaker 1: So is there a way that people can get involved

702
00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:58,640
Speaker 1: if they there's tons of ways. You know, if you

703
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:02,440
Speaker 1: go to the site which is um www. The Brett

704
00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:05,319
Speaker 1: Boyer Foundation dot org do work, you can read I

705
00:40:05,400 --> 00:40:09,239
Speaker 1: keep dropping your pillows. Sorry, it's okay. There's ton there's

706
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 1: chairs of offs are not that comfortable. They're just really cute,

707
00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:16,359
Speaker 1: really cute. I like them. I mean, there there are

708
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:19,360
Speaker 1: tons of ways to get involved. There's bike for Brett,

709
00:40:19,400 --> 00:40:22,560
Speaker 1: and there's just always to donate. Then you know, there's

710
00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:25,919
Speaker 1: places to buy you know, a T shirt or all

711
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,759
Speaker 1: kinds of stuff. And Luke's Bar in town. I've got

712
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:33,160
Speaker 1: merched there that we just started and and it's doing great.

713
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:36,480
Speaker 1: So there's outtown Nashville. You can go to Luke's Bar

714
00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 1: and get some Brett Boyer's Foundation merch. I love them.

715
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:43,640
Speaker 1: So last year we did the Red Bird Games, which

716
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:46,359
Speaker 1: tell people what that is. It's so that is a

717
00:40:46,480 --> 00:40:49,640
Speaker 1: day that is a full day. It's a different type

718
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:53,560
Speaker 1: of you know, most of these charity things, a girl

719
00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:56,000
Speaker 1: has to get dressed stuff all the day, fancy and

720
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 1: go to a dinner where the food is you know, yeah,

721
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 1: so far and then so ours. Ours is an all

722
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 1: day event. There's fishing, there's skeet shooting, there's putting for purses,

723
00:41:08,960 --> 00:41:12,839
Speaker 1: there's archery, there's all kinds of stuff. There's golfing um

724
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 1: like on a golf simulator, and we raise money for

725
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:21,399
Speaker 1: the hospital. Wait, you say raise money to tell people

726
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:23,799
Speaker 1: how much money I'll raise. Last last year we raised

727
00:41:23,840 --> 00:41:26,759
Speaker 1: over two two million dollars and that was our first year. Yes,

728
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,759
Speaker 1: it was an insane as awesome and that was like

729
00:41:30,120 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, I'm like, holy shit, No,

730
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 1: we didn't expect that either. Like, like I told him,

731
00:41:35,719 --> 00:41:38,440
Speaker 1: I said, my goal is to raise a million. They're like,

732
00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:41,320
Speaker 1: there's no way. And we raised over two million dollars

733
00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:43,799
Speaker 1: our first year. This year is gonna be better. And

734
00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:45,920
Speaker 1: then at the end of the night, Luke hops on

735
00:41:46,040 --> 00:41:49,560
Speaker 1: stage with some of his other friends like and does

736
00:41:49,680 --> 00:41:52,400
Speaker 1: a little show which which like some of his other friends,

737
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 1: it's like a little big time. It was so fine.

738
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 1: It was like something that nobody can ever experience because

739
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:05,400
Speaker 1: Luke did it. Um Jason stage a little big talent

740
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:10,680
Speaker 1: John party and so we had it was really something

741
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:13,480
Speaker 1: and We have a few more people showing up this year.

742
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:16,880
Speaker 1: You'll have to wait and see. It's gonna be really

743
00:42:17,719 --> 00:42:20,960
Speaker 1: it's gonna be really cool. There's a bunch of singers

744
00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:23,280
Speaker 1: and non singers who are coming. I have a few

745
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:27,759
Speaker 1: comedian friends who are who are coming, and they were

746
00:42:27,800 --> 00:42:30,399
Speaker 1: the funniest people on this planet. And they're just good

747
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:32,879
Speaker 1: and they're just coming to hang out and a good

748
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:35,120
Speaker 1: time and they'll probably grab the microphone a few times

749
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 1: just to do something funny. Comedy shows are my favorite

750
00:42:38,560 --> 00:42:41,440
Speaker 1: of mine too, mine too, Like I wish I was,

751
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:44,279
Speaker 1: but I'm not talented enough to do what they do

752
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 1: at all. Yeah, it was honestly for me, one of

753
00:42:47,840 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 1: the most fun days of my year. Me too. It

754
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:54,880
Speaker 1: was so fun because well you we we planned this

755
00:42:54,960 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 1: for almost a year, so everything is very well planned out.

756
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:02,399
Speaker 1: And my my baby is the putting for purses that's

757
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 1: dominated and yeah, and that's that's why I had a

758
00:43:05,719 --> 00:43:09,440
Speaker 1: shot stand set up right but right behind it. How

759
00:43:09,520 --> 00:43:12,240
Speaker 1: is that that shot stand? A lot? It was fun

760
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:15,239
Speaker 1: and we have a glam tent. Yes, go get here

761
00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:18,359
Speaker 1: and makeup done do that. And it's been sponsored by

762
00:43:18,600 --> 00:43:21,719
Speaker 1: Netta Porte. So there's gonna be there's gonna be tons

763
00:43:21,760 --> 00:43:24,120
Speaker 1: of stuff there. The putting of purses is like a

764
00:43:24,160 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 1: little area set up with the designer bags and you

765
00:43:26,680 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 1: just have to make a put But people don't realize

766
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 1: how hard it is to put after a tequila shot,

767
00:43:30,600 --> 00:43:32,879
Speaker 1: like you're a pretty smart set it up that way.

768
00:43:33,000 --> 00:43:36,600
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but you can win Gucci. So we've got

769
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:40,360
Speaker 1: all kinds of purses, like real deal stuff. So that's

770
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:44,879
Speaker 1: happening October nine, October nineteenth. Also information for that would

771
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:47,319
Speaker 1: be on the website as well, right, and then we're

772
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:50,560
Speaker 1: also doing um because our teams have sold out, which

773
00:43:51,320 --> 00:43:55,160
Speaker 1: it's unbelievable that our teams have already sold out, but UM,

774
00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 1: Me and Luke and some some other people are going

775
00:43:57,719 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 1: to be live streaming that day. And so there is

776
00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:04,439
Speaker 1: a raffle that we've got on my Instagram. So there's

777
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:07,279
Speaker 1: a raffle where anybody can get involved and win like

778
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 1: free tickets. And how would people find the raffle beforehand? Um,

779
00:44:12,239 --> 00:44:14,799
Speaker 1: I've been putting it on my Instagram story every day

780
00:44:14,920 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 1: so that they can just I think it's twenty bucks

781
00:44:17,719 --> 00:44:21,759
Speaker 1: I needed to dub. And so you're and we pull

782
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:24,640
Speaker 1: I think five or six names all day and they

783
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:28,720
Speaker 1: win tickets and to Luke Show and maybe maybe something

784
00:44:28,760 --> 00:44:32,320
Speaker 1: else were So since the pretty big prizes for twenty bucks,

785
00:44:32,640 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 1: I'll actually post the link or whatever it is the

786
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 1: flyer about that on my Instagram page, maybe in a

787
00:44:37,960 --> 00:44:40,359
Speaker 1: story to see and like a highlight so you can

788
00:44:40,400 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 1: see and find where to find that, because that sounds

789
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:44,440
Speaker 1: like a pretty good deal. It is, and it's just

790
00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:47,399
Speaker 1: fun and it's I mean, we'll just be on We'll

791
00:44:47,440 --> 00:44:50,799
Speaker 1: go live throughout the day just to show you what

792
00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 1: in the world's happening, because it's it's it's a pretty

793
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:57,480
Speaker 1: good There's a lot going on last year. So if

794
00:44:57,480 --> 00:44:59,560
Speaker 1: you guys want to find out more about c D two,

795
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:01,399
Speaker 1: I know on your website, you guys have a lot

796
00:45:01,480 --> 00:45:05,160
Speaker 1: of different descriptions of kind of what. I can't believe

797
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,360
Speaker 1: how common it is, and it's I've never heard of

798
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 1: it before hearing about Brett. It is. There's all kinds

799
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:17,640
Speaker 1: and all kinds one in kids, yeah, geez. But let's

800
00:45:17,640 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 1: talk about positive to you that your brother and sister

801
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:23,400
Speaker 1: in law did just have another baby. Did wells a

802
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: little boy he just turned one and he's the cutest,

803
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 1: the happiest and he favors Brett a lot, which is

804
00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 1: really funny. He favors Brett a lot. But he's just

805
00:45:35,200 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 1: the happiest, cutest, he's starting to walk. He's just he's

806
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:41,960
Speaker 1: he's the best, and that makes me so happy for them.

807
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 1: He's a little brother and that's what everybody calls him,

808
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: little brother, little brother. So he's just he's just the

809
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,919
Speaker 1: cutest and I'm so in love with him. I love

810
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:55,160
Speaker 1: that you guys have turned your pain now into something

811
00:45:55,200 --> 00:45:58,040
Speaker 1: that's helping other people. I love hearing stories like that

812
00:45:58,239 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 1: just because, like you said, it helps you heel. But

813
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:03,040
Speaker 1: it's also there's so many families out there who probably

814
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:05,560
Speaker 1: are less fortunate than some of the people we know.

815
00:46:05,800 --> 00:46:09,360
Speaker 1: And yeah, I mean, and you know what, I've found,

816
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:12,440
Speaker 1: the first person to pick you up is a person

817
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:15,600
Speaker 1: who's been down, so you know, and a lot of

818
00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 1: people haven't been through horrible things, and you know good.

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00:46:20,040 --> 00:46:21,840
Speaker 1: I don't wish you eat right, I don't wish I

820
00:46:22,040 --> 00:46:26,120
Speaker 1: owned anybody, but I've always found the first person to

821
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:30,040
Speaker 1: show up is a person who's who's been there, because

822
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:33,239
Speaker 1: I know what it feels like. Yeah yeah, yeah, but

823
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:39,480
Speaker 1: so I'm here to pick anybody up. Well. I love

824
00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 1: your spirit, Thank you so much for me for having

825
00:46:42,160 --> 00:46:44,600
Speaker 1: me with me. You guys go check out the Bratt

826
00:46:44,600 --> 00:46:49,319
Speaker 1: Borrier Foundation dot org for all information of just this organization,

827
00:46:49,440 --> 00:46:51,880
Speaker 1: the things that they do where you can help out,

828
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Speaker 1: um if you want to bude these raffle tickets all

829
00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:58,239
Speaker 1: of that. Check out both Carolina and mine and my instagram.

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Speaker 1: It is line of Brian in It's just very It's

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Speaker 1: very Countries lt of Ryan three on Instagram and if

832
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:11,120
Speaker 1: for nothing else, followed for the pranks seriously well worth it.

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Speaker 1: Thanks so much for being here. Thank you guys for

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Speaker 1: listening by. This is Kelly Henderson and you've been listening

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Speaker 1: to the Velvet's Edge podcast. I truly believe that every

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Speaker 1: one of us has a little velvet and a little edge,

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00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:26,840
Speaker 1: so it's so important to remember that to be strong,

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00:47:27,040 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 1: you must be soft too. Thank you so much for

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Speaker 1: sharing in those stories with me. You can follow Velvet's

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