Speaker 1: Personally old men.
Speaker 2: My best friends of over a decade are joining me
Speaker 2: this week. We recorded this episode when they were visiting
Speaker 2: me in Nashville for our yearly best friend trip, and
Speaker 2: it was so much fun to do with them. I
Speaker 2: definitely made him do this, so go easy on them,
Speaker 2: but I loved getting to highlight our friendships because I
Speaker 2: have learned so much from them over the years, and
Speaker 2: we have a funny history of how we became friends. Right,
Speaker 2: girly pops. I'm really excited for this episode because two
Speaker 2: of my oldest childhood friends are on the episode with me,
Speaker 2: and they are freaking out that I am making them
Speaker 2: do this. Everybody meet Carla and Ali. Hi, guys, Hi
Speaker 2: you feel that yet? Are we still nervous? We're talking
Speaker 2: about friendship. I made the girls come on because we
Speaker 2: have such a special relationship and we are all in
Speaker 2: very different phases of our lives in multiple different cities.
Speaker 2: We had another friend that was with us for the weekend,
Speaker 2: but she had to jump on a flight because we
Speaker 2: partied a little too hard this weekend and never a
Speaker 2: little bit quite ready time for the podcast. But all
Speaker 2: that to say, these girls are some of my greatest
Speaker 2: friends and we have great stories to share and moments
Speaker 2: of life that I think will be really fun for
Speaker 2: people to hear. So Carla, let's talk how you and
Speaker 2: I first met. That's a story. Yeah, yeah, you want
Speaker 2: to tell it, share with the people how we first met.
Speaker 3: We were long story short, dating the same guy back
Speaker 3: in the day. He was a real winner and continued
Speaker 3: for a little while meeting each other. I guess, and yeah,
Speaker 3: you were the blessing that came out of that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're a dark time. We were both on Facebook
Speaker 2: and messaging each other when we realized we were both
Speaker 2: dating the same guy. It was basically, are we dating
Speaker 2: the same guy? Facebook page? But in real life? Yes,
Speaker 2: We had it before that ever happened, and Carla reached
Speaker 2: out to me. I was like, I'm pretty sure we're
Speaker 2: dating the same guy. And I was like, what is happening?
Speaker 2: And Carla and I? Which is so ironic because I
Speaker 2: feel like in most scenarios we would have hated each
Speaker 2: other for a lot of people, I think that's typically
Speaker 2: what happens. But Carla and I instead were like, no,
Speaker 2: we're going to team up and and that's exactly what happened.
Speaker 2: And we showed up to a party and dumped the
Speaker 2: news on him and we said Syonara. And then you
Speaker 2: and I became best friends instantly, Yeah, we did. And
Speaker 2: then by way of you, I met Ali. Ali. Do
Speaker 2: you remember when we first met.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think it was a house party. I feel like
Speaker 2: it was definitely a house party, but I also think
Speaker 2: it was a house party. That was it was with
Speaker 2: Carla's family. I think we were at Carla's house and
Speaker 2: we were having a sleepover. I think this is one
Speaker 2: of the first times Carla and I had a sleepover
Speaker 2: and you came over and it was us. We're hanging up. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 2: because you guys were neighbors, because you two grew up together. Yes,
Speaker 2: and you've known each other. Okay, were you best friends
Speaker 2: from the start?
Speaker 1: I think so, yeah, for sure. Yeah.
Speaker 2: You guys are both sweet, so I would imagine back
Speaker 2: then too, you guys were just like, you want to
Speaker 2: be my friend? Yes?
Speaker 1: What happened with you? Do you want to be our friend? Yes?
Speaker 3: It was great edition.
Speaker 2: And we still have pictures from that night when our
Speaker 2: first sleepover happened, if you will, And there was cake
Speaker 2: and we hung out with your brother Carla, and we
Speaker 2: were just there was cake. I don't know why, but
Speaker 2: it might have been your brother's birthday maybe something. But
Speaker 2: I have pictures, like on a Facebook album page of
Speaker 2: that night and we sat in your basement taking like
Speaker 2: the stupidest photos for over an hour. It sounds like
Speaker 2: that was all of our first met I'm pretty sure
Speaker 2: that was the first time I met you officially, because
Speaker 2: we did walk this back the other night. We were
Speaker 2: all sitting at dinner together and you were like, didn't
Speaker 2: we all meet up at a water park when this
Speaker 2: first happened to compare stories, Yes, but you guys remember
Speaker 2: that better than me, so can you share that?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I think it was like when we were messaging on Facebook,
Speaker 3: we're like, where should we meet up? We were already
Speaker 3: going to this water I think we're already going to
Speaker 3: the water park maybe, And then we invited you.
Speaker 2: And we're like, did it? But I didn't stay and
Speaker 2: hang out? Did I just come and talk to you guys?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: It was short and sweet.
Speaker 2: Did we meet in the parking lot or did I
Speaker 2: come in the water park?
Speaker 3: This all sounds right?
Speaker 2: Yes? Okay, So from a sketchy meeting on Facebook to
Speaker 2: a water park meeting and a parking lot, a little sketchy,
Speaker 2: all sketchy to becoming lifelong friends. We have all been friends. Now, gosh,
Speaker 2: what was that? What is that? What you're are we on?
Speaker 2: And what you're you guys on?
Speaker 3: That's going to make it seven years old?
Speaker 2: Yeah, this is part of the.
Speaker 3: Twenty six years.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so you guys are twenty six years and I
Speaker 2: believe I met you guys when I was roughly fifteen, yes,
Speaker 2: which should be like sixteen years now? Is that crazy memory?
Speaker 2: We put like that on it and you're like, oh,
Speaker 2: what is happening? So that's our where our friendship stories began.
Speaker 2: And we've had so many memories along the way, and
Speaker 2: I'm going to put you guys on the spot. I
Speaker 2: want to talk about some of our favorite memories. So
Speaker 2: who wants to go first? Who wants to share, like
Speaker 2: maybe one of their favorite memories all of us together
Speaker 2: or one on one whatever it may be. Anybody. They're
Speaker 2: both looking at me like I'm absolutely crazy right now.
Speaker 3: We have so many I'm trying to like think of
Speaker 3: the stories.
Speaker 1: In my head right now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, I think all the trips that we
Speaker 2: go on together are my favorite. So like I love.
Speaker 2: Carla and I did Washington and organ together. So yeah,
Speaker 2: and I'll never forget that trip.
Speaker 3: It was so fun.
Speaker 2: I made Carla trek on so many hikes. She was like,
Speaker 2: what it was happening?
Speaker 3: Did like over twenty like eight miles or something we did.
Speaker 2: But also something to know about Carla is like she
Speaker 2: loves to like party and have a good time. So
Speaker 2: when we booked this trip, she was like, so when
Speaker 2: are we gonna go out or got some drinks out?
Speaker 2: As like yeah, And I was like, Carla, I didn't trip. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I didn't really put that in the schedule this time.
Speaker 2: I think that was our first trip where we didn't
Speaker 2: consume a lot of alcohol. We did a lot of sleep.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And then Ali, I think it was my birthday
Speaker 2: trip to Disneyland.
Speaker 1: That was so so fun.
Speaker 2: We had so much fun out there.
Speaker 1: It was such a last minute trip. I wasn't even
Speaker 1: gonna go because I had just got back from Disney
Speaker 1: and Florida. Oh that's great, and like literally maybe a
Speaker 1: week before the trip, I'm like I'm coming. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: were a birthday trip. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So those are two of my favorites. Anything come to
Speaker 2: mind for you guys, I.
Speaker 3: Was gonna say the Washington organ trip on one, but
Speaker 3: also when you came to visit me in Colorado, that
Speaker 3: was a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah too.
Speaker 2: It's a little bit colder, yeah, and lots.
Speaker 3: Of restaurants and drinking spots, a good spot come snowboard.
Speaker 2: But I know DVD our next trip, Ali.
Speaker 1: So many. We have a lot of funny memories to
Speaker 1: Country Stampede.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah that actually, you know what, I might take
Speaker 2: the Disney one back.
Speaker 3: Was I even invited? I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think you were there, but you were there, you
Speaker 2: might have not been.
Speaker 3: I think I was dating somebody and I was dating
Speaker 3: someone in high school, and I think I was on
Speaker 3: a trip with his family, like a lake trip.
Speaker 2: Yeah that's what it was.
Speaker 1: It was in the summer. Summer.
Speaker 2: Yes, oh yeah, it was summer. Yeah, Ali was there.
Speaker 2: I've told the story on the Bobby Bone Show. Ali
Speaker 2: was there when I missed Zac Brown Band and I
Speaker 2: passed out in the r V. It was one of
Speaker 2: Al's friends and girlfriend. Are you okay? I'm like, I'm not.
Speaker 2: And at this point we maybe been friends like a year,
Speaker 2: so we had it even like truly evolved.
Speaker 1: You were more than sixteen at that point.
Speaker 2: Right, Oh, maybe you're right, Okay, it might have been
Speaker 2: closer to when I was in college. Was I in
Speaker 2: high school? I don't know how old were you trying
Speaker 2: to think? Yeah, it could have been like still regardless,
Speaker 2: I was young, and it was still we were still
Speaker 2: under the five year mark of our friendship, so we're
Speaker 2: still learning each other, like figuring things out. I'm like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, I just passed out this random person's
Speaker 2: RV and I don't know half of these people.
Speaker 1: It was like a little quick naps.
Speaker 2: Your parents were something really good breathing. Yes, that was
Speaker 2: a good one. Also, there was another one when we
Speaker 2: went to an antel party and we were hanging out
Speaker 2: of Ali's house before and we had like our little
Speaker 2: party pregame. Guys, I don't condone after each should not
Speaker 2: be underactreet service and now there's not a lot to
Speaker 2: do in Kansas at the time, okay, And we were
Speaker 2: in Ali's house and then we were going to like
Speaker 2: a house party. But I don't know if you guys
Speaker 2: remember this. I got like a mole concussion because I
Speaker 2: was on a skateboard. Yes, don't ask me why I
Speaker 2: was on a skateboard in somebody else's house, but I
Speaker 2: was and I fell off in him my head on
Speaker 2: the coffee table. Yes, And you guys proceeded to like
Speaker 2: sit up next to me the entire evening to make
Speaker 2: sure I was okay, You're going to make sure. You're
Speaker 2: going to make it. We're like, do we call our parents?
Speaker 1: What do we do?
Speaker 2: That one was a funny memory too, Okay, So I
Speaker 2: want to get into the fun sentimental stuff here, Carla.
Speaker 2: One of your biggest assets we were talking about this
Speaker 2: at dinner, is that you make such a priority for
Speaker 2: your friendships. It is the most important thing to you.
Speaker 2: You make sure everybody is always known, cared for, and
Speaker 2: know this. Carla lives in Denver, Alli lives in Fort Worth.
Speaker 2: Our other friend that was here, Jewelie, lives in all
Speaker 2: of our hometown of Wichita, and we so not only
Speaker 2: are we four friends of been friends for a long time,
Speaker 2: but we're four friends who live import different cities, different
Speaker 2: places in our lives. And Carla, what you are so
Speaker 2: good about is just always showing up physically and on
Speaker 2: the phone and everything. It is so important. Why is
Speaker 2: it so important to you?
Speaker 3: I feel like my friends and family, like everybody close
Speaker 3: to me, brings me so much joy, So that's very
Speaker 3: important to me, and all the memories and just almost
Speaker 3: like soul sisters.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but like you look at most people in life
Speaker 2: and it's really hard to make friendships a priority. Fills
Speaker 2: my cup. Yeah, so how do you make sure you're
Speaker 2: always making the time? What's going through your thought brous
Speaker 2: when you're doing things? You're like, I have to be
Speaker 2: doing this for other people. This is really important to me.
Speaker 3: I feel like just checking in on everybody and making
Speaker 3: sure they're okay, it's important to me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but why give me a breakdown of why.
Speaker 3: I don't know, Like my people, the close people are
Speaker 3: always just so important. Just I don't know, it's like
Speaker 3: almost like a daily thing I.
Speaker 2: Have to do.
Speaker 1: We're just always in your head.
Speaker 3: Yeah basically really so you're just that you're just amazing,
Speaker 3: but everyone before me sometimes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, which which has.
Speaker 3: Like it just makes me very happy to check on everyone.
Speaker 2: Yes, and you do. You're so good at that, And
Speaker 2: that's why I wanted to ask you because I don't
Speaker 2: think I don't think it's easy for most people to
Speaker 2: do that. But you just always make the time.
Speaker 3: It's always been like that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, It's always been important too, Okay, Ali, Now you
Speaker 2: ms mama of two and you also always make time.
Speaker 2: You are a mother of two children and you come
Speaker 2: and spend time and always check in and your making
Speaker 2: sure friendships stay important to you. Why is it important
Speaker 2: to you?
Speaker 1: It definitely fills my cup. I agree with you there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And like I was saying, my mom used to say
Speaker 1: that all of your true friends and you count them
Speaker 1: on your hand.
Speaker 3: Very true.
Speaker 1: True, and you two are a part of that. So
Speaker 1: it's important to me to check on you. Makes me happy.
Speaker 2: Yes, I know you guys are good. Yeah, and it
Speaker 2: is it does?
Speaker 1: It brings us joy.
Speaker 2: How do you feel like you manage with being a mom,
Speaker 2: a wife and then also managing having friends and keeping
Speaker 2: your friends?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I think definitely after having kids that was hard
Speaker 1: because you're always going and it is harder to stay
Speaker 1: in touch with people when you are married with kids,
Speaker 1: like and making sure the kids are good. But you
Speaker 1: guys are my family too, So.
Speaker 2: What benefits you feel like as a mother, Because we
Speaker 2: were talking about this at dinner the other night. To
Speaker 2: make sure that you're keeping that community of friendships, what
Speaker 2: do you feel like that does for you? And if
Speaker 2: you didn't have that, what do you feel like that
Speaker 2: would be.
Speaker 1: I think I would be a terrible mom if I
Speaker 1: didn't have my friendships. Like, I feel like I'm a
Speaker 1: better person because of you guys, and calmer. I get
Speaker 1: a weekend away, I can go back, it's.
Speaker 3: Like your med time and then come back.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel recharged after being with you guys.
Speaker 2: And when you first dated started dating your husband Steven,
Speaker 2: was that a priority for you, like when you were
Speaker 2: finding a partner where you were like, you have to
Speaker 2: be able to manage and be a good partner in
Speaker 2: all facets, so I can also keep my friendships.
Speaker 1: Yes, friendships are important to him too. He has lifelong
Speaker 1: friends and so for both of us that's just a priority.
Speaker 1: That's just part of who we are.
Speaker 2: And it always it's easy. It seems easy for you
Speaker 2: guys to always be like, hey, you got this weekend,
Speaker 2: I'm going to go. I don't feel like Stephen has
Speaker 2: ever been someone who's no, you can't do this, and
Speaker 2: I got your back. I'm here for you to do this.
Speaker 1: As he was driving me to the airport, he was like,
Speaker 1: you need to do this more. You need to go
Speaker 1: have more girl trips.
Speaker 3: Okay, well plan the next time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, see, like once an it's rare, and that is
Speaker 2: the partner that you're supposed to have. I think that
Speaker 2: plays such a significant role because one you feel secure
Speaker 2: and leaving because you know he's a good partner, you
Speaker 2: know he's a good dad into that he pushes you
Speaker 2: to be that way. That is such an important part.
Speaker 2: And we get really caught up when even just getting
Speaker 2: in relationships or dating and then you get married and
Speaker 2: friendships really get pushed down when as we were all
Speaker 2: talking about this, like friendships should be one of the
Speaker 2: top priorities because you can't exist to your best self
Speaker 2: much like you were saying without the friendships. There's such
Speaker 2: a big piece of your story and we were looking
Speaker 2: at it of I've seen you as a kid, as
Speaker 2: a girl, as a woman, now a wife and a mother,
Speaker 2: and I will be there for whatever comes next. And
Speaker 2: your friends are the only ones that have that ability
Speaker 2: besides your siblings and your family, but as a human
Speaker 2: that is not blood related, that will be like potentially
Speaker 2: the only person who has seen you in all facets
Speaker 2: of life. And that's crazy to think about. Special Yeah,
Speaker 2: yeah different now And Carla is my fellow single girl
Speaker 2: in the group. Ali and Julie really love hearing our
Speaker 2: crazy dating story.
Speaker 3: They're quite entertaining.
Speaker 1: We could really share some Yeah, we do.
Speaker 2: We can get into that. We can get into that.
Speaker 2: I want to know when you're dating and stuff, do
Speaker 2: you make sure you're looking for someone who is seeing
Speaker 2: the priority for you in friendships? Yes?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 2: What does that look like when you're dating? What are
Speaker 2: you paying attention to be? Like? How is he going
Speaker 2: to handle me having all of these friends and these
Speaker 2: being close in the time?
Speaker 3: What is that like if his close friends are important
Speaker 3: to him? And like family time? Like who wow? Does
Speaker 3: he do his meat time? Kind of like that?
Speaker 2: And then evaluate and be like are we on some
Speaker 2: more pages? Exactly what does this look like?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: This is crazy and we are like in full transparency,
Speaker 2: like we had this girl's weekend because it was important
Speaker 2: and necessary and we always plan a trip. Yes, once
Speaker 2: a year, that's like a priority. We've all made it
Speaker 2: very important that we see each other at least once
Speaker 2: a year, being in different cities, having multiple different styles
Speaker 2: of life. But more important than that, we were in
Speaker 2: a time that Carla really needed us. Yes, and that
Speaker 2: was what this weekend was for Yeah, like we've always
Speaker 2: shown up. I remember, like when I went through my
Speaker 2: breakup last year, all three of you girls had sent
Speaker 2: me like this box of all these goodies. I still
Speaker 2: have the little pickle, the emotional support pickle. It's my
Speaker 2: favorite thing. Like everything else in there was amazing, but
Speaker 2: the emotional support pickle was all that I needed. You did,
Speaker 2: You did, like you guys always find ways to show up.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to get into your guys' brains a little
Speaker 2: bit because being a empathetic and compassionate friend isn't easy
Speaker 2: for everybody, but you guys always do it. Yeah, you
Speaker 2: guys always show up in that way, especially like when
Speaker 2: we are all struggling and going through really hard things,
Speaker 2: Like when I went through my breakup. What was that
Speaker 2: process like for you guys, where you're like, okay, Morgan
Speaker 2: needs us.
Speaker 3: Just trying to be there the best we could for you,
Speaker 3: even though we were afar, whether checking in on you,
Speaker 3: sending you goodies to bring you smile to your face,
Speaker 3: face time calls.
Speaker 1: Knock on the door.
Speaker 3: Yeah too, surprised you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you ended up doing and you weren't far
Speaker 2: behind that you ended up coming in October you for sure,
Speaker 2: that is your one of your strongest quality traits. And
Speaker 2: you're like, I'm just gonna make the time. I don't
Speaker 2: care what is going on, I'll be there, And that's
Speaker 2: it's such a huge trait and it's also a testament.
Speaker 2: Like Ali talked to how Carla is and a really
Speaker 2: good aunt to your kiddo's. I'm also an aunt, but
Speaker 2: like Carla, Carla is above and beyond.
Speaker 1: Always sending the packages, calling, facetiming them like she is
Speaker 1: truly like an aunt to them. Yeah, people know growing
Speaker 1: up forever.
Speaker 2: That Carl I know. And it's so fun to watch, right,
Speaker 2: Like I think it's so cool to watch you have
Speaker 2: become a mom, Julie become a mom, and watch that
Speaker 2: process and then also get to be a part of
Speaker 2: like your little one's life that's half you know, and
Speaker 2: see that transition. Yeah, but also just in this situation itself,
Speaker 2: like Carla could have easily been like you had kids.
Speaker 2: This is a different time of our lives. And I
Speaker 2: love you, I support you, but we're distancing ourselves. But
Speaker 2: you chose not to. Why did you choose not to?
Speaker 1: Like?
Speaker 2: Why was that important for you? Even though she was
Speaker 2: transitioning to a new part of her life.
Speaker 3: I feel like I already love kiddos in general, So
Speaker 3: I feel like when your best friend has kids, it's
Speaker 3: like their little best you but also the best friends
Speaker 3: it is, and seeing them like as a mom, like
Speaker 3: all my friends are such wonderful moms. It's just like
Speaker 3: a different version of them you're seeing.
Speaker 2: And you can't what an Ali for you? Were you
Speaker 2: like when you started having kids? Were you worried? And
Speaker 2: I'm going to lose all my friends? This is about to.
Speaker 1: Change, yeah for sure, because I'm like, you know what
Speaker 1: it is busy, Yeah, we're going to have We're going
Speaker 1: to be at a different in our life. What does
Speaker 1: that look like? But really it didn't change at all.
Speaker 1: Our friend should be a lot better after kids.
Speaker 2: I feel like, yeah, I feel like I agree. And
Speaker 2: I have so much to do with priority, like making
Speaker 2: the time and always it doesn't have to be anything big,
Speaker 2: Like Carl and I will randomly be like, we should
Speaker 2: say a FaceTime, it's been a few weeks. We should
Speaker 2: find days go by? Yeah yeah, We're like, okay, we
Speaker 2: need about that on the calendar, or Ali and I
Speaker 2: will randomly message each other on Instagram about everything. That's
Speaker 2: how we stay up to day all the time. We're like,
Speaker 2: this is what's happening in our lives. Yes, Like I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 2: the kids happened today because Ali posts just about as
Speaker 2: much as I do love her kiddos, and it's so
Speaker 2: much fun for me to watch life through that way
Speaker 2: for you. So it's just fun. And I love our
Speaker 2: friendship so much on so many different levels. And it's impressive. Guys,
Speaker 2: we've been friends for over a decade. We're gonna be
Speaker 2: going on to you guys are past two days. You
Speaker 2: guys are going on your third decade, Like, don't remind you.
Speaker 3: It's pretty crazy to think about it.
Speaker 1: It's crazy to think about it's so special. I don't
Speaker 1: feel like a lot of people can say they've had
Speaker 1: a friend.
Speaker 3: How long you make time, things you want to do,
Speaker 3: and the people you want to be with or around.
Speaker 2: And we have all tried to get Karlat to move
Speaker 2: to our respective cities. All of us are trying one day.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 2: But you know what I do like about us all
Speaker 2: living in different cities is we always have fun places
Speaker 2: to go visit. Like you guys came here this weekend
Speaker 2: we've gone to Denver, like I've been to Fort Worth
Speaker 2: with you in Wichita is home, so we always have
Speaker 2: a reason to go home. There's just so much a
Speaker 2: part of the traveling experience. Dukes. We all are little
Speaker 2: travelers too. What's there like similarities? Look at our friendships.
Speaker 2: What do you think draw us to each other despite
Speaker 2: the start of what happened with ours? Why do we
Speaker 2: feel like we all gravitated toward each other and it worked.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I think we're all so similar, like
Speaker 1: we enjoy doing the same thing. Yes, we're kind people.
Speaker 2: I think the kindness is a huge, yeah, huge factor,
Speaker 2: all super kind. I think we also one of the
Speaker 2: biggest things I noticed about all of us is we
Speaker 2: have similar personalities and that we're always up for anything
Speaker 2: and we were willing to go and try everything once. Yes,
Speaker 2: all of us have that on different levels in different ways,
Speaker 2: but that's the base is we all just have this
Speaker 2: very easy going life, will work itself out kind of
Speaker 2: nature on top of also being kind, and we were
Speaker 2: always super friendly and just heartfelt.
Speaker 1: With each other.
Speaker 3: It's a good way to put it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like those were important. I'm looking at Carl's.
Speaker 1: Like at me.
Speaker 2: She's like, or what have you done?
Speaker 3: Nor happening?
Speaker 2: We do have to a funny story. Okay, gosh, like
Speaker 2: I'm telling you guys when I love at Facebook, I
Speaker 2: have the silliest Facebook albums.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I need to delete.
Speaker 2: I don't want to delete. Those are great memory, great memories.
Speaker 3: You can put them in a photo album.
Speaker 2: They're private, nobody else can see them.
Speaker 3: But that's true.
Speaker 2: But guys are so funny. There was times where we
Speaker 2: took pictures on back roads with random and that I
Speaker 2: could not tell you their names today. Yeah, I know
Speaker 2: we knew them. They were our friends at one point,
Speaker 2: but like beyond that moment in time.
Speaker 3: No idea makes for a good memory now.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Also, we were jumping in fields. I have jumping
Speaker 2: pictures of us in fields.
Speaker 3: At the time I thought it was cool. Now maybe
Speaker 3: not not so much.
Speaker 2: Or the Walmart photo shoots, Yes, there's.
Speaker 3: A lot of those, Like I feel like that was
Speaker 3: like the fun thing to do, or the sonic meet
Speaker 3: your friends, get a slushy tree line made.
Speaker 2: That was another one. We did. Also all attend prom together.
Speaker 2: I came to your guys as prom so we got
Speaker 2: a those pictures. I know, I started dating a guy
Speaker 2: by way of you guys. You guys have been in
Speaker 2: a lot of weird circumstances, and then that I date.
Speaker 2: Also we have to talk about the curse here in
Speaker 2: a second, but that's an important detail. But I had
Speaker 2: started dating a guy that went to you guys as
Speaker 2: high school, and I think that was such a formative
Speaker 2: time in my life. And I spent so much of
Speaker 2: it out there with you guys, because you guys know,
Speaker 2: I had gone through that really horrible stuff that was
Speaker 2: happening in high school, and I spent most of my
Speaker 2: time out there with you guys. Like I really wasn't
Speaker 2: around my high school. I was with you in hand, yeah,
Speaker 2: in a way, And my first really like official boyfriend
Speaker 2: was out there, and so we got to go to
Speaker 2: proms and stuff together. He's not in the picture at
Speaker 2: all anymore, but that was a fun part of it. Yeah.
Speaker 2: It allowed me to go to prom and do things
Speaker 2: with you guys. So if that was all he was
Speaker 2: supposed to serve as a purpose for was for me
Speaker 2: to be able to go to all of your guys events.
Speaker 2: Like I was an andel student.
Speaker 1: That was good friends, friendship.
Speaker 2: It was okay. The curse Carla, that's the curse. Remember
Speaker 2: we were talking about the curse the other night. Yeah,
Speaker 2: our ex that we mutually date that started our friendship. Guys,
Speaker 2: this man was it's the work.
Speaker 1: He was not good a toothpick.
Speaker 2: Yeah, uh huh. If the ick was a thing, him
Speaker 2: chewing on the toothpick would have been the I don't
Speaker 2: I still I don't think he ever actually used it
Speaker 2: to use on his teeth. He simply chewed on it
Speaker 2: like it was bubblegum.
Speaker 3: It was the look.
Speaker 2: It was sick if it was a thing back then.
Speaker 2: He was just not great partner. Who knows where how
Speaker 2: what he is in his life now, but at the time,
Speaker 2: not a great partner. And you're not a great person.
Speaker 2: But Carla and I have had a series of unfortunate relationships,
Speaker 2: this man events literally both of us. Have you also
Speaker 2: been cheated on in all of yours? Yeah, for the
Speaker 2: most part. Yeah, both of us have been cheated on
Speaker 2: in every relationship since besides my last current one. And
Speaker 2: I think we decided as we were sitting over a
Speaker 2: couple of glasses deep of alcohol that we he cursed us.
Speaker 2: How do you feel about our curse?
Speaker 3: Not well, but it can only go up, you break
Speaker 3: it and change it. Yes, maybe try to see the
Speaker 3: positives over.
Speaker 2: Alie seems to think that the curse is broken because
Speaker 2: we finally recognized it. But I don't think that's how
Speaker 2: curses work.
Speaker 3: I don't know curse are the right person.
Speaker 2: I'm hoping, so.
Speaker 3: Yeah, in life's timing, whatever that looks like.
Speaker 2: But just to say, if you've ever known us or
Speaker 2: heard either of our dating stories, just know that we
Speaker 2: have found the source. And the source was absolutely a curse. Unfortunately,
Speaker 2: have a man named Baltimore who should never be named.
Speaker 2: And here's the reason for our bad luck. We are
Speaker 2: the reverse of good luck. Chuck. We got bad luck chucked,
Speaker 2: and that's a bit we can change you, right. I
Speaker 2: haven't had good luck so far, but is definitely coming.
Speaker 2: It is coming. We were out the other night, and
Speaker 2: first of all, I would like you guys to share
Speaker 2: your Thursday night outing. So here's the deal. These girls
Speaker 2: came up to Nashville. I was exhausted that at a
Speaker 2: long day of work. We went and had some dinner.
Speaker 2: It was great. They're like, no, we're going to continue
Speaker 2: on the evening. I said, that's amazing. You guys, go
Speaker 2: have fun y Yeah, talk to me about.
Speaker 3: Why are we going to bed now?
Speaker 2: Honestly, it happens every It was the first on the vacation.
Speaker 1: I'm so excited to be together.
Speaker 3: So we're like, let's continuing for almost twenty four hours.
Speaker 1: We only let you leave because you had to work
Speaker 1: the next morning.
Speaker 2: That's true. I don't think I would have been able to. Yeah,
Speaker 2: so you guys bopped around in all of Nashville. Where
Speaker 2: did where'd you guys go? Started it?
Speaker 3: Jason Aldan's. Yep, it's been good dancing, great music, yes,
Speaker 3: great drinks.
Speaker 2: Okay, dance on the bar. You dance on the bar
Speaker 2: at All Dunes, Yeah, just for a little bit. Was
Speaker 2: it the bar or was it the stage little thing?
Speaker 3: Stage?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Dang. If you guys got on the bar, I would
Speaker 2: have been impressed, because you get kicked out if you
Speaker 2: dance on the bar.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: True, but you're on the stage. Do you guys meet
Speaker 2: any men at Jasonlethan's. Did you get hit on at us?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: Definitely got hit on tis Yeah, no one worthy of
Speaker 3: chatting any younger.
Speaker 2: But it was fun, just fun, little confidence boost exactly. Nice.
Speaker 3: They were nice.
Speaker 1: And then we went to Chief yep.
Speaker 3: That was fun.
Speaker 1: We wanted to go get the little chair drink for
Speaker 1: the members. I'm going to give my daughter in the
Speaker 1: chair so she can play with it with her barbie.
Speaker 2: It came with a little chair and it's called the chair.
Speaker 2: I had seen them post about the chair. But was
Speaker 2: it a good drink?
Speaker 1: Oh? We didn't get the drink we got. We ordered
Speaker 1: our own drink and I said, I want to pay
Speaker 1: extra for the chair, please, I just want the chair.
Speaker 2: Stop.
Speaker 3: So we got the cup in the chair in a
Speaker 3: different drink.
Speaker 2: Yeah, only you. Ali is a massive country music fan.
Speaker 2: Carlos too, but Ali is like probably the most fan
Speaker 2: of all of us. I would say all of us.
Speaker 2: Maybe a tie?
Speaker 1: Yeah, do you love you?
Speaker 2: Do her? I think hers is more specific? Maybe that's
Speaker 2: more what it is.
Speaker 3: That's true.
Speaker 2: She had the request of us going to morganwall In's bar.
Speaker 2: That was like her only request for the weekend. And
Speaker 2: she's wearing her Morgan wall and hat right now? Yes,
Speaker 2: where do we go after that?
Speaker 1: Then we went to Losers Oh, yes, we tried to
Speaker 1: go to Riley Greens Bar. It was close. We were
Speaker 1: just walking up the rampo a little.
Speaker 3: Dark, so that our first clue and then.
Speaker 2: You both rolled into the house clad again, and hilariously,
Speaker 2: these two walk in. It's three o'clock in the morning.
Speaker 2: The dogs are barking. Both Julie and I, who stayed behind,
Speaker 2: were awake because the dogs were obviously barking, they knew
Speaker 2: somebody was home. These two little yahoos. I would go
Speaker 2: downstairs the next line and they are asleep in their
Speaker 2: full outfits and decided to sleep on the couch even
Speaker 2: though there were perfectly available beds upstairs.
Speaker 1: Pick you guys up even though you are.
Speaker 3: Awake, but ind you were really like playing the.
Speaker 2: And at the same time, they also left out chips
Speaker 2: and cazo to which my cat ate, Yeah, she didn't,
Speaker 2: but she definitely had herself a time. She had her
Speaker 2: time as much as you probably guys did Thursday night,
Speaker 2: and then we had two really fun nights at Skinny Dinners,
Speaker 2: which is like a new bar in Nashville, and you
Speaker 2: guys promptly embarrassed me all the time.
Speaker 1: Yes, we do, gladly. That's what friends are for.
Speaker 2: It makes for a great story, right, yeah, oh yeah,
Speaker 2: I have lots of stories after this weekend. But you guys,
Speaker 2: I think it is part of your especially Carla and
Speaker 2: I still get embarrassed from things, yeah, because of certain things,
Speaker 2: not being married, and there's still a lot of shame
Speaker 2: associated with us. I feel like when you get married
Speaker 2: and you start to have kids, there's nothing that faces
Speaker 2: you anymore.
Speaker 1: Not as much some stuff does some stuff.
Speaker 2: Because you guys had no shame. You and Julie were like, no,
Speaker 2: it's fine, we'll go talk to him, and they kept
Speaker 2: making me talk to man and Carlot talk to men.
Speaker 1: I find you, guys a man, okay, real man, a
Speaker 1: real man, good quality man.
Speaker 3: See the diamond in the rough I think these days?
Speaker 2: Right, it is, and this is the married women help
Speaker 2: us be the wingwoman or the best they are. There's
Speaker 2: no because they can just be like, yeah, no, I
Speaker 2: don't like a mean, they know what you like. They
Speaker 2: do too, they see a different side spot on you guys.
Speaker 2: I had the best we can have ever had because
Speaker 2: of you guys. You guys like pushed them some things
Speaker 2: to happen in due time. If anything ever transpires, then
Speaker 2: that'll be talked about.
Speaker 3: For the matchmakers.
Speaker 2: But for this, yeah, you guys really were. Isn't it
Speaker 2: crazy how much your friends played that role for you.
Speaker 2: It's so much more fun than me being on hinge
Speaker 2: and having to date people that way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and meeting them out naturally, yes, and whatever you're
Speaker 3: doing because they like doing that as well.
Speaker 2: And you guys, just being in town brings out a
Speaker 2: different side of me. I just am on a different vibe,
Speaker 2: confidence level, high energy levels, typically high becaudes last night
Speaker 2: when I fell asleep in the bar because I was
Speaker 2: so tired. But you guys make me feel this is
Speaker 2: what's so crazy about such great friendships. You guys make
Speaker 2: me feel like the best version of myself. So when
Speaker 2: I'm out, I do feel like I meet more people
Speaker 2: with you guys, because I am just in such a
Speaker 2: different state of mind than when I'm just like by
Speaker 2: myself or with friends that we go out all the time,
Speaker 2: where you're at dinner, Like when I'm with you guys,
Speaker 2: it is a I truly experience a different level of consciousness.
Speaker 2: I think because of how close a friends we are.
Speaker 3: Yes, it's just different, Yeah, different.
Speaker 2: Vibe it is. There's something that's happening and I just like,
Speaker 2: I don't care. I'm like two sheets still win and
Speaker 2: I'm like whatever, life's good, We'll get home safe.
Speaker 3: And it's like when we're together, we're all like the
Speaker 3: same vibe we are. We're wanting to have a good time,
Speaker 3: just be together, make memories.
Speaker 2: It is so you feel it too, Oh yeah that one, Ali,
Speaker 2: Do you feel it?
Speaker 1: I feel it too.
Speaker 2: It's a vibe. There's a certain level of that.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 2: As we wrap up our episode, I would like to
Speaker 2: know from you girlies advice for other women out there
Speaker 2: in making friendships and sustaining friendships. What are your thoughts
Speaker 2: on that. I feel like it's.
Speaker 1: Hard as you get older, Toris.
Speaker 3: We didn't go to school together or grew up together.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but you just have to be yourself. So you
Speaker 1: just have to find people that like completely, like they.
Speaker 3: Bring you up or do an activity that you like
Speaker 3: to do, and usually you'll meet other people in that way,
Speaker 3: whether it be friends or a guy or yeah, either way.
Speaker 2: And you are really good at that. Girl, you go
Speaker 2: out and you make new friends anywhere you go.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you definitely make friends anywhere.
Speaker 3: Even if you're like shy or nervous. I feel like
Speaker 3: just being yourself and doing your activities.
Speaker 4: Usually you'll tract someone that likes to do so, see,
Speaker 4: you're really take a friend that way or Finally, for
Speaker 4: the fellow mamas out there who are trying to keep
Speaker 4: and sustaining their friendships, any thoughts, advice.
Speaker 1: You just gotta check in. And I don't know you,
Speaker 1: that's very true.
Speaker 2: You guys are so sweet, innocent, and you really both.
Speaker 2: I can see it in your eyes. But if you're
Speaker 2: just looking at me like what has she gotten us
Speaker 2: into for you?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I says, we love you.
Speaker 2: You guys did great and it was good talking to you. Guys.
Speaker 2: Thanks for coming to visit me, of course, thanks for
Speaker 2: having soon always we'll be We're already on our plan
Speaker 2: to plan our next trip, our yearly trip together. Yes,
Speaker 2: and also if anybody out there has a good idea.
Speaker 2: We're trying to figure out our sisterhood of the traveling
Speaker 2: pants thing. We decided that we need to have something
Speaker 2: that we can send to each other. Not jeans, because
Speaker 2: I don't think that actually exists. Something different, Yeah, something
Speaker 2: that we can send to each other and pass around
Speaker 2: because we all are in different cities as a little
Speaker 2: snail mail. I feel like people have to be doing
Speaker 2: something out there that we could by steal their idea
Speaker 2: and continue or I don't know, Yeah, some cute memory
Speaker 2: there's something. So if you're out there and you have one,
Speaker 2: cheated our way, because we need one. We're trying to
Speaker 2: come up with one, the way, the one. All right, friends,
Speaker 2: thanks for being here, Thanks for visiting. I love you
Speaker 2: both so much. You guys are incredible friends, incredible humans,
Speaker 2: and you are both of you guys deserve the world
Speaker 2: and all the happiness too. No, I love you, I
Speaker 2: love you.
Speaker 1: Thanks for having us.
Speaker 2: Maybe this episode reminded you of your friends or pushed
Speaker 2: you to show up for your friends in a new way.
Speaker 2: To me, friendships don't get enough credit for how much
Speaker 2: they impact and play a role in our lives. That's
Speaker 2: why I will continue to highlight friendships and just how
Speaker 2: special they are. I have so many new episodes ready
Speaker 2: and waiting for you, guys, and I really can't wait
Speaker 2: for you to hear. We're going to talk to some
Speaker 2: change makers the next few weeks. And one of them
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Speaker 2: has a new book out and I just think you
Speaker 2: guys are going to love him and so many of
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Speaker 2: single thing. Thanks for being here as always. I love you. Bye.