Speaker 1: Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I heard radio podcast.
Speaker 1: Hi Catherine, Hi, I miss you. I miss you too.
Speaker 1: I feel like I haven't like hung out with you
Speaker 1: for a second. It's been like a couple of days
Speaker 1: it's been You're not I feel like you're laughing at
Speaker 1: me and I don't know why. It's like, you know,
Speaker 1: when you feel like you're the butt of someone's joke,
Speaker 1: but yet like you know it, but then in my
Speaker 1: head you kind of are, Oh god, I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: can we fill in me and the listeners with the
Speaker 1: butt of the joke. It's way more fun in my head. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not a don't I'm making No, there's nothing, nothing
Speaker 1: at all. I don't know how you tell me. I
Speaker 1: don't know what you mean. That's how I always feel
Speaker 1: like it is. I'm like, I feel like there's something
Speaker 1: you need to tell me, but I never know what
Speaker 1: it is. Yeah, well, um, I am going to Ireland.
Speaker 1: That's something, and Katherine was supposed to be coming and
Speaker 1: I want to talk about it. Oh, oh, what's fun.
Speaker 1: There's things I don't want to talk about, and there's
Speaker 1: things Katherine doesn't want to talk about. Her passport was expired,
Speaker 1: and then um, I didn't she never got it read whatever.
Speaker 1: It's a long story short, she's not coming, but it's
Speaker 1: going to be. I'm so pumped, like seriously, send me photos.
Speaker 1: I'm so excited for you. Which I started to freak
Speaker 1: out though, because I was telling my therapist, sorry correction,
Speaker 1: our therapist some things that I really want to do
Speaker 1: next year and kind of like, um, like a dream
Speaker 1: list of like what I want, and it was her idea,
Speaker 1: so things that you like spiritually, emotionally, physically, relationally, things
Speaker 1: that would just be and she goes and it's probably
Speaker 1: or financially like so out of reach. She goes, I
Speaker 1: mean like aim super big, so like under financially, it
Speaker 1: was like I want to buy a like house one
Speaker 1: time in a boat, and um, you know, spiritually, it's
Speaker 1: like I wanna uh do like I want to get baptized,
Speaker 1: I wanna go on this spiritual silence like there's like
Speaker 1: just like shooting bang on like everything. And then you know,
Speaker 1: she's like relationally and I was like, I go I
Speaker 1: just started laughing, and she was, what, I just it's cheesy.
Speaker 1: She goes, well, that's what it is. She's like, just
Speaker 1: let it be the cheesy Durne Like she's like, this
Speaker 1: is about like your like not your goals, but something
Speaker 1: that's like what would like what ignites you, what would
Speaker 1: make it exciting and happy? And I go, I have
Speaker 1: this image and she she was like, okay, explain and
Speaker 1: she has her pen and paper. I was like, I
Speaker 1: just have this. I go, but I think it's bad.
Speaker 1: I think it's a bad image. And she's like, can
Speaker 1: you just tell me what it is? Seriously, I'm dying
Speaker 1: to know. Okay. I've always made a big deal about
Speaker 1: my forty birth day. Always. I always said I wanted
Speaker 1: to just like blow it out, you know, even you
Speaker 1: know my acts, like we always talked about I'm like,
Speaker 1: I want a private plane. I want which, by the way,
Speaker 1: I don't have enough money for a private plane. But
Speaker 1: in my brain, I'm like I just wanted to be
Speaker 1: huge and just like fun and we can all fly Delta,
Speaker 1: but like in my flying were Southwest. I don't care
Speaker 1: because I've phoned like three times on a private plane.
Speaker 1: But just in my mind, I'm like, I've got my
Speaker 1: best friends, We're on a plane and we go to
Speaker 1: like an island does not to be a private island?
Speaker 1: Just like an island. I mean pig like go for
Speaker 1: it lane, private island, I know, but like in my
Speaker 1: brain is still like realistic, and so I like having
Speaker 1: all my friends and like dinner on the beach, and
Speaker 1: then I was like I want to get engaged on
Speaker 1: my forty birthday with like and then like fireworks, like
Speaker 1: of course the fucker works. I'm a sucker for fireworks.
Speaker 1: It's just like I cry every time, Like I just
Speaker 1: like I'm a socker. Like they didn't make me cry,
Speaker 1: but they're like so beautiful, you know, like there's just
Speaker 1: something like so like free about fireworks. Um and I
Speaker 1: go and she's like laughing at me, and she's like, no,
Speaker 1: that's great, and I was like, no, that's so bad
Speaker 1: because now I'm like, oh my god. If I'm yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm so nervous, like like it's where I was like
Speaker 1: single under the covers crying because I was just like
Speaker 1: I'm alone. So but I and also don't want to
Speaker 1: settle for you know that either. But at the same time,
Speaker 1: I'm like, after everything that I've been through, wouldn't that
Speaker 1: just be like incredible, It would be amazing. It's gonna
Speaker 1: be like whatever, guy, you're dating. Hey, she's turning for me.
Speaker 1: We're gonna eat fireworks for a ring. It's fine. No,
Speaker 1: I mean it's so like unrealistic. But at the same
Speaker 1: time it was one of those things where I was like, man,
Speaker 1: what did you kids? Just what a dream? But then yeah, um.
Speaker 1: But then another thing on there too was travel, like
Speaker 1: I want to go on a solo vacation, and when
Speaker 1: you were not going to come to Ireland, I was like,
Speaker 1: you know, and I'm not. I'm not ready for it
Speaker 1: right now, Like I'm not ready to go to Ireland,
Speaker 1: Like I'm thinking, like I want to go to like
Speaker 1: Florida by myself. You know. Um, I didn't think for
Speaker 1: a second you would go on around. But I don't
Speaker 1: blame you. I'm not saying that, like would you go
Speaker 1: to I like and yourself very independent person, and I
Speaker 1: don't know if I would go that far by myself. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that just seems like not not necessarily because I'd be
Speaker 1: scared too. I just don't think it would be and
Speaker 1: I love to be by myself, but I just don't
Speaker 1: think it'd be fun. Yeah. Um, But I did just
Speaker 1: do like kind of a solo tripp ish where I
Speaker 1: like did my own stuff this past week in in Boston,
Speaker 1: and it was like really nice. It was like kind
Speaker 1: of the first step into like driving a rental car
Speaker 1: and like exploring and it's really proud of you, and
Speaker 1: it looked yeah, it was. I think my therapist is
Speaker 1: gonna be mad at me. Well i'll tell I'll tell
Speaker 1: the story after, um, because we have an amazing guest
Speaker 1: and she's in the waiting room and it's all about
Speaker 1: dating Patti Stanger, So let's take a break and then
Speaker 1: bring her on and then I'll tell the story of Boston,
Speaker 1: all right now before we bring in Patty. I just
Speaker 1: got botox the other day because um, it was my
Speaker 1: I like to call it my every six month preventative
Speaker 1: lines and wrinkles because I like to still be natural.
Speaker 1: But um my, my botox doctor gives me like the
Speaker 1: actor talks, so I still can move, but um it's
Speaker 1: going to help reduce my fine lines and wrinkles. That's
Speaker 1: why I love it so much. Um, I've convinced all
Speaker 1: my friends, right Catherine, I'm always like, all right, girl,
Speaker 1: I love it. It's just so good and it's like
Speaker 1: the makeup doesn't increase in the lines, and um, it's
Speaker 1: been studied and I feel safe using it. It doesn't hurt,
Speaker 1: it looks good, and again it's all about that preventative,
Speaker 1: you know. Um So check out botox in your area
Speaker 1: because if you want to get rid of some of
Speaker 1: those fine lines and wrinkles, botox might just be the
Speaker 1: right option for you, like it was for me and
Speaker 1: Catherine and my friend Pamela down the street. Hi, Hi,
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Tyler, you did this good? Is my
Speaker 1: newest sistant. I loved you better closed up than it
Speaker 1: was before. Then it was back. I like that. Okay,
Speaker 1: you guys, we didn't mean to do that. This is
Speaker 1: not what you're gonna wear in a date right now,
Speaker 1: you know what? This is a great intro, Patty you
Speaker 1: mean you are. I'm so first of all honored to
Speaker 1: have you on the show because you are the best
Speaker 1: of the best. But I have question for you because
Speaker 1: you just said, like, I'm not gonna wear it's on
Speaker 1: a date. Why couldn't you're wearing that a date now?
Speaker 1: Unless you let it's the third date hiking but not
Speaker 1: the first day. I was like, what is going on
Speaker 1: today with lumberjacks? Did it? There is? But like it's
Speaker 1: me though you know, like I'm like, I like when
Speaker 1: you're like, you just got your boobs done, I want
Speaker 1: you to wear those tank tops and let the girls breathe. Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: I will say that people are getting very annoyedive how
Speaker 1: often I show my boobs on social media now and
Speaker 1: have boobs before, Like come on, you're allowed to be proud,
Speaker 1: come on, curiously. But I will say that I did
Speaker 1: go when I was and and I have to say
Speaker 1: to Patty has been incredible with me the last few months,
Speaker 1: like she's just been kind of my dating um go
Speaker 1: to where I'm just like, Patty, what do I do?
Speaker 1: I reached out to you when the Christis happened. I
Speaker 1: was like, call me, call me, call me, because I
Speaker 1: was there, so stick with the first time I did
Speaker 1: your your your pot your radio or podcast show, and
Speaker 1: he was there and it was like awkward and I
Speaker 1: read him him and he said I read him right
Speaker 1: of psychically reading him, and I'm like, yeah, don't do
Speaker 1: it again. Remember yeah, I said to him, do it again.
Speaker 1: You're done. That's it. No second chances, no third chances,
Speaker 1: four chances whatever. And he goes, Okay, I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: do it again. And then I was like, I don't
Speaker 1: know so, and you're so gorgeous and so talented and
Speaker 1: such a fine line with such a little bit low
Speaker 1: self esteem. We're working on your self esteem. We're trying
Speaker 1: to get you back, and I want girls to listen
Speaker 1: to this. You are the deal, not the guy. Okay,
Speaker 1: I know it seems like the guy has leverage right
Speaker 1: now with the you know, slipping into the d M
Speaker 1: s and you know, Cocta Instagram girls or the what
Speaker 1: do they call the only fans girls my favorite sorry
Speaker 1: only fans, But you know, you gotta like know that
Speaker 1: you're worth more and no more sex without monogamy. Okay,
Speaker 1: so that was a lot. I love this woman, Okay,
Speaker 1: who I have so many questions. Let me just start
Speaker 1: with all right, I'm here, Okay, my process breathe, Okay,
Speaker 1: come to me, children and give me your The first
Speaker 1: one is, honestly, I'm still stuck on the clothing because
Speaker 1: I remember I was dating or I was like hanging
Speaker 1: out this that one guy that I was talking to about,
Speaker 1: and I remember being like I asked him, I was
Speaker 1: like heels or these cute booties, and he's like heels.
Speaker 1: But in my mind, I'm like, I want to wear
Speaker 1: the booties, but like he thought heels were sex here.
Speaker 1: So then I'm like, well, why didn't I just wear
Speaker 1: what I want to freaking wear? And you gotta you
Speaker 1: have to mirror the guy. So the guy there's high
Speaker 1: top guys, there's heels, there's boots. You know, like my
Speaker 1: ex he was heels. So when we had sex, he'd
Speaker 1: go down. You know, I have a shoe wall, like
Speaker 1: everybody knows how to me, I'm addicted to shoes. I'm true,
Speaker 1: Carrie Bradshawn that way, he pulled up the shoes and
Speaker 1: we screwed with the shoes on. It was like whatever
Speaker 1: theme was tonight, you know the Red Shoes Diaries or
Speaker 1: you know that, you know the catwoman shoes. It was
Speaker 1: like crazy and I'd like, you know, I changed my
Speaker 1: personality and having sex because of the shoes. I mean,
Speaker 1: and I was like, can I wear my plan? Story?
Speaker 1: And I was like, I'm sorry, sorry, David Story met
Speaker 1: my birks and whatever, asking for a friend. How do
Speaker 1: long distance relationships work? Um, they're actually not bad. My
Speaker 1: mom got married long distance and she was married three
Speaker 1: times and she always got her man. It goes faster,
Speaker 1: so there's more of like do we want to be
Speaker 1: in this or not? And um, if there's a lag
Speaker 1: with holidays because you have kids, or New Year's or
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day, you know it's over because he's not coming forward. Um. Also,
Speaker 1: he has to make more initiative to see you. So
Speaker 1: the rule is every two weeks you must see each other.
Speaker 1: You must smell, taste, touch Tyler, we're live here on
Speaker 1: Kanda Cramer's podcast. Okay, seriously, my new assistant bumbling. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you want to see the person every two weeks.
Speaker 1: Can't just be auditory. Women fall in love auditory between
Speaker 1: between our ears because we're our new transmitters are working
Speaker 1: like that. Men are visual. So in order for the
Speaker 1: connection to solidify, you must taste touch of field. Now
Speaker 1: this obviously if you're in the army, you know, serving
Speaker 1: our country or doing something tremendous like you know, doctors
Speaker 1: that borders or whatever. I'm not talking about this. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about a basic normal. I live in New York,
Speaker 1: you live in l A. Are we gonna see each other?
Speaker 1: And if you don't make the initiative after a certain points,
Speaker 1: it will disintegrate. But a lot of times it heats
Speaker 1: up faster and goes I can't live without you. I'm
Speaker 1: sick of living, um so far away from you. And
Speaker 1: this could be even you know, like an hour away
Speaker 1: in the air, Like I live in New York and
Speaker 1: he lives in Silicon or two hours to San Diego.
Speaker 1: I have to drive, like it's not necessarily just he
Speaker 1: lives in my geographic here, I mean in l A.
Speaker 1: It's like, you know, the long distances west Hollywood to
Speaker 1: the West Side. Nobody wants to drive. So there's that.
Speaker 1: But a man who loves you a k dr Phil
Speaker 1: I posted this yesterday, will swim rivers, climb mountains to
Speaker 1: see you. And he's not engaging like that. The woman
Speaker 1: will get doubt and it'll disintegrate. What do you think
Speaker 1: I have done wrong? From the outside looking in? Well,
Speaker 1: the last one, which we will not mention his name, Um,
Speaker 1: you moved a little too quickly in the sex department,
Speaker 1: and because you were both so newly dating, there was
Speaker 1: this vulnerability between the two of you that you're scared.
Speaker 1: So it's almost better to find the guy who's been
Speaker 1: divorced a while. Divorcement are the best kept secret because
Speaker 1: they can commit. So I would recommend dating someone who's
Speaker 1: been divorced to three years and is ready for releaship.
Speaker 1: He's not grieving the loss of his ax. He does
Speaker 1: not in drama. There's no like I have to pay
Speaker 1: her child support, I have to pay her alimony, and
Speaker 1: I hate her guts and we're going to courtney. None
Speaker 1: of that. I want to see, like, hey, she's got someone.
Speaker 1: I'm ready to have someone. And you, my dear, I'm
Speaker 1: going to worship an adore you rather than and no
Speaker 1: more fame. Let's get the fame out of the way.
Speaker 1: That's another thing I don't like. Um, I see you
Speaker 1: with a businessman, a ranch owner, somebody who really can
Speaker 1: provide for you that you don't have to worry about money.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I see the best for you a tech guy.
Speaker 1: Let's get a cute tech guy and dress him, you know,
Speaker 1: take him to Bloomingdale's, look hot, and all of a
Speaker 1: sudden he becomes a fine wine. But you know he
Speaker 1: owns Google or something like. That's fair. That's a good plan,
Speaker 1: you know. I'm like, I hear this. We we had
Speaker 1: tried dating someone normal, we had we was and my
Speaker 1: friends were like, you know, they really were like voting
Speaker 1: for like the normal. Um. But it was interesting because
Speaker 1: when because her husband is like my my big brother,
Speaker 1: like he's he's kind of been through like the you
Speaker 1: know the I don't like him and you know he
Speaker 1: did well. He's the barometer to tell you if he's
Speaker 1: a good dude or badger. Because her husband is looking
Speaker 1: at for your best and she's she's like your brother
Speaker 1: and she's like your sister. So you've got family here,
Speaker 1: which I love. Um, she's looking out for you and
Speaker 1: that's good. The last one I really like, the astrology,
Speaker 1: and the last one I was really bummed out the
Speaker 1: way he handled it. I could I could kick him
Speaker 1: right now. But Taurus, you know I told you I'm
Speaker 1: dating one and they're like, I'm Gemini. It's like killing me.
Speaker 1: They are so slow and they think in their head.
Speaker 1: They're in their head too much. You need to be
Speaker 1: more in their dick, you know what I mean, because
Speaker 1: because it becomes like over obsessing. And I want to
Speaker 1: have fun and I want to be light and airy,
Speaker 1: and you want to be romantic. You know what sign
Speaker 1: are you? Jenna? I forgot right. You're like me some Gemini.
Speaker 1: So we need that fluidity. We don't want to be
Speaker 1: grounded to the point where we can't have fun, because
Speaker 1: you already grounded with your kids. So we need someone
Speaker 1: to take you away, you know, give you that fine
Speaker 1: week in a way where your mind is turned off.
Speaker 1: Because we're pretty fast in our brains. So I don't
Speaker 1: mean normal where he doesn't. He's not dynamic, So I
Speaker 1: want normal dynamic. So there's a difference. That's kind of
Speaker 1: like what her husband was saying too, because you know,
Speaker 1: when I had this person come over and meet people,
Speaker 1: you know, he wasn't famous, and um, it was a
Speaker 1: normal person. But her husband was like, he's the farthest
Speaker 1: thing from normal because of I mean, yeah, he's got
Speaker 1: like a normal job, but the way he talks about things,
Speaker 1: the way he you know, it just I don't know
Speaker 1: it just he wasn't and like I don't like someone
Speaker 1: that's like money money, Like like, yeah, I don't care.
Speaker 1: You're hustling, right, I got your Christmas movie coming out.
Speaker 1: You're always on the roster with Lifetime and you know,
Speaker 1: I'm sure you're gonna get Netflix and all that stuff.
Speaker 1: Um in Hallmarks, you come back to hall ork um
Speaker 1: because I make um. But the point I'm making is
Speaker 1: that you've got your pop asked, you got your products,
Speaker 1: your Instagram's cranking, and then you've got this acting career
Speaker 1: which you know you're you're amazing at, and music your
Speaker 1: new single. He's got to understand that this is your
Speaker 1: world and he can't be intimidated. He can't be thinking
Speaker 1: about your money to pay his bills. So dynamic means
Speaker 1: I'm I could be a scientist and an inventor of something,
Speaker 1: and I love what I do and I make money,
Speaker 1: and I come to the table at dinner and I
Speaker 1: talk about my you talk about your We give each
Speaker 1: other advice. Um, so I'm dating somebody like that right now.
Speaker 1: Like he builds homes, and it's like when he talks
Speaker 1: about work, I'm turned on. And the other day I said,
Speaker 1: you haven't talked about work in a while, and he goes,
Speaker 1: I haven't, And I go, I thought you'd be bored
Speaker 1: like a board, like when you talk about work. I
Speaker 1: am so turned on because I love that he builds
Speaker 1: these homes for very famous people and they're gorgeous, Like
Speaker 1: I'm in awe that I went to see one of
Speaker 1: them in Beverlyals and I was like, you made this like,
Speaker 1: it's pretty amazing, so um dynamic. But he's normal, not
Speaker 1: a gazillionaire. He's normal. You know. He pays for the dinner,
Speaker 1: he takes me out, he plants, and the date is
Speaker 1: a true gentleman like that, that's what you want. I'm
Speaker 1: sexually attracted. He has dad energy. I like the dad energy.
Speaker 1: I like that soothing dad energy. You know, like you're
Speaker 1: not it's not dangerous, like when can you have When
Speaker 1: can you have sex with someone? Though, well, when you
Speaker 1: get have sex on the first date, but they have
Speaker 1: to give you monogamy. Okay, okay, I don't have I
Speaker 1: don't have to. I don't have So let's let's preface.
Speaker 1: You're over a certain age and you've got you're in menopause,
Speaker 1: you have no oxytocin, clean your pipes up, protect yourself,
Speaker 1: you know, do your thing, um, use a robber condom whatever,
Speaker 1: perform at birth control to protects you from from STDs
Speaker 1: and all that stuff. But I'm not gonna bond. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be more like, do I really like him after
Speaker 1: of sex? So I'm kind of trying the goods out. Okay, You,
Speaker 1: on the other hand, or opposite that, you've oxytocin. So
Speaker 1: every time you sleep with someone, you emotionally bond and
Speaker 1: it can hurt you take a long time for you
Speaker 1: to get over that person of the way they treated you,
Speaker 1: because to him, sex is sex. Men fall in love emotionally,
Speaker 1: not through sex. But to tell women this, they don't
Speaker 1: get it. They fall in love with the with the routine,
Speaker 1: calling you, seeing you, even going to CBS and waiting
Speaker 1: on that awful line. You know what I'm saying to
Speaker 1: get your drugs, the terrible line. So what I'm trying
Speaker 1: to say is like they fall in love with consistency
Speaker 1: and then they emotionally fault. They do not fall in
Speaker 1: love sexually. They might like you sexually, but they're not
Speaker 1: gonna fall in love with you and give you a
Speaker 1: ring for that, right m hm, I am How do
Speaker 1: I say this? Um? Asking for a friend, I say
Speaker 1: you should vibrate or more and less of him until
Speaker 1: he showed he is. I believe in vibration as your
Speaker 1: favorite boyfriend until that man shows up and says I'm trustworthy.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna text you, I'm gonna pay for you, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna take care of you, I'm gonna show you the
Speaker 1: world if they can't do that. Back to the vibrator,
Speaker 1: I agree with that. I mean, so do I because
Speaker 1: we all need our needs met. You know, you get
Speaker 1: especially if you drink. You know, you get too tequilas
Speaker 1: and you and you are knocking out your brain to
Speaker 1: become beta to alpha. So when a woman drinks, she
Speaker 1: becomes outphas pretty most aggressive. When a man drinks, he
Speaker 1: becomes passive, he becomes beta. So if you keep drinking
Speaker 1: on these dates, you're not really feeling the normalcy of
Speaker 1: who you really are, and you're getting clouded vision and
Speaker 1: it's fought and you can have great sex. Drunk sex
Speaker 1: is the best sex. I mean, come on, I'm the
Speaker 1: first one to say with tequila you get babies. But
Speaker 1: at the same time, it's also clouding your vision of
Speaker 1: the true relationship of what you want because that's just
Speaker 1: a moment in time and that's not gonna give you.
Speaker 1: That's not gonna pay the bills at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, so to speak. I agree. Um Let's say
Speaker 1: you have a boyfriend, right, it's a new relationship. How
Speaker 1: do you how do you keep that relationship? Um? No,
Speaker 1: especially if you're like especially not getting afraid of it. Well, like,
Speaker 1: if you're like afraid of it, what do you mean
Speaker 1: by afraid of it? Give me? Give me more example,
Speaker 1: are we talking about here, We're talking about a friend
Speaker 1: of yours, We're talking about you. What's going on here?
Speaker 1: I mean, we don't need to put a label friend.
Speaker 1: If you want me to assess the situation, I need
Speaker 1: the details, so I need to know. Let's just say
Speaker 1: a newly divorced person has a boyfriend and is like,
Speaker 1: it's scary scary. Let's go to scare Why is it
Speaker 1: scary like a a failure that you're going to fail
Speaker 1: again because you fail before. This person might feel fail yeah,
Speaker 1: that they might fail again or doesn't like or like
Speaker 1: oh lash, would it work because it's long distance? Or
Speaker 1: is he questioning it? Are you questioning it? Are the
Speaker 1: person girl? Is the girl questioning? Or the way is
Speaker 1: the friend? I think the friend is? Um? It's just like,
Speaker 1: how do I say that the friend is worried? Is
Speaker 1: the girl? The girl is worried that you know? Um?
Speaker 1: Because she always goes like, well we don't live in
Speaker 1: the same state and this and that, like how is
Speaker 1: it gonna work? Okay, okay, okay, that's not if you
Speaker 1: are over analyzing. That relationship is over before you got interest.
Speaker 1: So you have to be present in this relationship. You
Speaker 1: have to take it like it's the last. If you
Speaker 1: decided to be exclusive, you're exclusive, give it all you got.
Speaker 1: If you decided to keep your options open and this
Speaker 1: is just dating, then all you can count on is
Speaker 1: the date and time that when you go on the
Speaker 1: date with the person, and no more, nothing less. So
Speaker 1: you can do could data parent a spare like my
Speaker 1: book Become your Own Matchmaker and Amazon talks about this,
Speaker 1: You can data parent a spare three people at all
Speaker 1: times now. The first one is the person you really
Speaker 1: really want. You wait for the phone to ring. You
Speaker 1: can't believe you know he's He's so exciting you can't
Speaker 1: wait to go on the The second one is the customer.
Speaker 1: He's the over analyzer one. He's the one you're like,
Speaker 1: I'm not really sure, maybe not tall enough, not hot enough,
Speaker 1: not rich enough, not whatever enough. And then the third
Speaker 1: is the friend. He's cute, you can hang out with him,
Speaker 1: you can take him to your sister's wedding, but at
Speaker 1: the end of the day, you never see yourself married
Speaker 1: to him. A lot of times, the friend becomes the
Speaker 1: first one, by the way, the one you end up marrying.
Speaker 1: So these positions rotate over time. If you keep busy
Speaker 1: at three at all times, and I know it's hard
Speaker 1: to even get one. Do you tell the other guys
Speaker 1: that you're dating? We're talking? It is an unspoken rule
Speaker 1: that you are dating till he says to you, are
Speaker 1: you dating anyone? Say I'm dating and then stop awkward pause,
Speaker 1: and then he should say, well, alan want to see you,
Speaker 1: and then you have the option to say yes or no.
Speaker 1: Now when he offers you sex, you know, God, you
Speaker 1: need to read my book, Joan. I wanted my books
Speaker 1: last time. We don't know how to date. I don't
Speaker 1: know how to out. I don't know how to date.
Speaker 1: Details are really in there and you can always download
Speaker 1: it on m sound like kind or whatever. So when
Speaker 1: you are in a position of wanting monogamy right off
Speaker 1: the bat, he can do it after the first strike
Speaker 1: with sex, and then you stay to him. You know,
Speaker 1: there's a whole I'm not gonna go through all the dialogue,
Speaker 1: but the basics are. You know, I'm not that type
Speaker 1: of girl who sleeps around. Um, I think you're really attractive.
Speaker 1: I really like you. I just don't feel safe that way.
Speaker 1: He'll go, what will make you feel safe? You'll go monogamy.
Speaker 1: You don't say marriage, just say monogamy. I want to
Speaker 1: I don't want to date. I don't want to sleep
Speaker 1: with a bunch of people. I want to be exclusive. Now,
Speaker 1: in this day and age between COVID and STDs, a
Speaker 1: normal guy would go, what are you talking about? We
Speaker 1: are monogamous? He might assume it, but you have to
Speaker 1: verbally stay down the record and probably the silver lighted
Speaker 1: day not where he's trying to get you in his pants,
Speaker 1: and you have a You have a conversation, And the
Speaker 1: biggest problem women have is they don't have conversations with
Speaker 1: mid All you do is spin in your head? What
Speaker 1: could it be? Why is are you doing this? But
Speaker 1: but you don't say to him, Hey, why'd you do this?
Speaker 1: When I made you confront the last one, you got
Speaker 1: the answer. I said, you need to talk to him
Speaker 1: and get down to you know, get down a business here,
Speaker 1: like no more game playing? What's the story here? And
Speaker 1: even though it was hard for you to process, it
Speaker 1: gave you the strength to go I could do that again,
Speaker 1: and I could do it earlier in the relationship, I
Speaker 1: can say to myself, what do you want and what
Speaker 1: do you want to do? Now, there are a lot
Speaker 1: of men in line going to these women, what do
Speaker 1: you want a relationship? I had one the other day.
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, what do you want? I
Speaker 1: was like, what do you mean? What do I want?
Speaker 1: And I was shocked that he asked me fifty million questions.
Speaker 1: And I really like the other guy, so I was like,
Speaker 1: who cares? But the point I'm making is that, um,
Speaker 1: he went so deep because he's so afraid to get hurt.
Speaker 1: He's hedging. He's like a lawyer, you know, vetting me
Speaker 1: like a politician. And we haven't even got met him yet.
Speaker 1: I haven't even seen him on a FaceTime So I'm like, whoa.
Speaker 1: So that's good, that's good. That's leave this buyer's questions.
Speaker 1: That means he's serious about a relationship, probably got hurt,
Speaker 1: probably wants to make sure he's not gonna get hurt again.
Speaker 1: And you could do the same thing, not naggingly. You
Speaker 1: can stay to him. Listen, we're in different cities. How's
Speaker 1: this gonna work? What's the game plan? Where do you
Speaker 1: say yourself in two years you want to be married.
Speaker 1: Can you see yourself your wife moves to you, or
Speaker 1: you moved to your wife, Like could you see these things?
Speaker 1: And then they will tell you the picture. In the
Speaker 1: early stages, there is no attachment, so they'll tell you
Speaker 1: the truth. They won't they won't hesitate to go boom.
Speaker 1: Men are just lunch. They just say it. Women are
Speaker 1: the ones that hold back. We're you know, we're the
Speaker 1: original cheaters, not men. Statistically, women cheat more than then
Speaker 1: we just don't talk about it because we're embarrassed. Okay,
Speaker 1: But the bottom line is if you say to them,
Speaker 1: what's your plan where you see this going, They're gonna
Speaker 1: tell you everything and you will make a decision. Now,
Speaker 1: there's a sociopath in every group, but we're not talking
Speaker 1: about associate bath a person. It's so true though, Like
Speaker 1: how we because I have a little um we're called
Speaker 1: the queendom text thread with you know, three of my
Speaker 1: best girlfriends and you know how when I talk about
Speaker 1: you know who I'm talking to or whatever, and they're
Speaker 1: like just ask and I'm like, because we I we
Speaker 1: make up these things and it's like, it's why why
Speaker 1: don't you do that? What's what is your hesitcy to
Speaker 1: ask what's gonna have, what's the worst thing that's going
Speaker 1: to happen? The what I don't want to hear, which
Speaker 1: is what I don't want to dat you anymore. We
Speaker 1: have rejection. Okay, so when you feel rejection, it's God's protection.
Speaker 1: You must go to the place of this is not
Speaker 1: my person. I want you to watch the series of
Speaker 1: Love Life with Anna Chandrick. I fought watching the series
Speaker 1: when it first came in. I was like, Oh, it
Speaker 1: looks stupid, it looks dumb. It is the best series
Speaker 1: on television for love and I don't say that very often. Um.
Speaker 1: She goes through each episode, she goes through a new
Speaker 1: guy and she's heartbroken and she can't get to the
Speaker 1: one that she wants to get married. So it takes
Speaker 1: place in New York. Um the very famous, um, very
Speaker 1: famous actress is the voice over. She's British Leslie man Bill.
Speaker 1: Amazing actress by the way, and UM, we're watching it
Speaker 1: from her from her point of view. And as a woman,
Speaker 1: I went through the same thing she went. Now, I
Speaker 1: was adopted, so I was a people pleaser. I was
Speaker 1: not good enough to be loved because I was given
Speaker 1: away so I had a bandoment issues and every relationship
Speaker 1: would show up with this threat. And recently the guy
Speaker 1: that I'm dating is like the spiritual guru, and he
Speaker 1: said to me, what if you never get rid of
Speaker 1: your abandonment issue, because you probably won't. It's how you
Speaker 1: handle the abandoned issue. It's get to a point where
Speaker 1: it doesn't trigger me anymore. Like or someone says to me,
Speaker 1: why are you single and why are you not married?
Speaker 1: And you're a matchmaker because I have my own issues,
Speaker 1: you know. And so what you have to do is
Speaker 1: look at the rejection as a gift because it's going
Speaker 1: to teach you to be stronger. And the next guy
Speaker 1: that comes along that says that to you says, he
Speaker 1: goesn't right for me anyway. God is taking him out
Speaker 1: of the game because he's gonna waste my time. He's
Speaker 1: a place card holder. You don't want place card holder.
Speaker 1: You want the real deal. And that's just gonna move
Speaker 1: you further every person you meet as you further further
Speaker 1: to the target. So you can't look at his rejection.
Speaker 1: You got to look at his gift. You dodged a bullet, right,
Speaker 1: But you don't look you don't look at it that way,
Speaker 1: because you look at it like I was pretty enough,
Speaker 1: and you go to these weird and secure places because
Speaker 1: I know you, so you go to like I'm not
Speaker 1: pretty enough, I'm not this enough, I'm not sexy enough.
Speaker 1: And that's not what's about. They have their own issues
Speaker 1: when they come to this this party. Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: I mean, and it is it's that the childhood thing like, oh,
Speaker 1: it wasn't good enough for my dad to stay, you know,
Speaker 1: so of course my dad is an alcoholic. Same thing,
Speaker 1: it's like, why would any other man stay? And the
Speaker 1: other thing is why do you have to track the
Speaker 1: same type of man as the dad he cheated the
Speaker 1: addiction because because your exit edition issues, so it's still
Speaker 1: in the same family of addiction. And you're saying, why
Speaker 1: am I trying to heal this person? You're not the
Speaker 1: doctor here. You're supposed to go you're a good dad,
Speaker 1: but you're not good for me. Well and that yeah,
Speaker 1: and with that, like I've looked at like the pattern,
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, everyone I've ever picked has
Speaker 1: been unavailable to dad was unavailable, Yeah, I mean, it
Speaker 1: was all unavailable. But then when there is the available
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's scary. I don't know, and my friends
Speaker 1: are like, so why is it scary? Is because it's unfamiliar.
Speaker 1: So RECIPI, or the famous note therapist, is one of
Speaker 1: my best friends. You can watch our YouTube talks about this.
Speaker 1: The mind only knows what's familiar. So if you've had
Speaker 1: bad boys, there could be a thousand good guys in
Speaker 1: the room, you will go right to the bad boy
Speaker 1: you were. Mine will generally it's called the RAS, the
Speaker 1: reticulating activated system. Your mind will go straight to the
Speaker 1: one thing it knows and it's familiar. To undo the mind,
Speaker 1: we have to do unfamiliar things that are uncomfortable, that
Speaker 1: are out of our comfort zone. If you start doing that,
Speaker 1: better men are going to show up because you're gonna
Speaker 1: go Like, So the guy that I'm dating, it's totally
Speaker 1: He says, he feels like he knows me for a
Speaker 1: thousand years. I don't feel that way. I said, I'm
Speaker 1: an alien visiting your planet. He's very unusual, and so
Speaker 1: he doesn't feel familiar. But he's unfamiliar where I'm learning
Speaker 1: things about myself through him, and even if we broke up,
Speaker 1: I'm learning stuff about myself that I didn't know about that.
Speaker 1: I'm healing myself, you know, and so every person that
Speaker 1: shows up is a gift. And once you look at
Speaker 1: it this way and go our time together has ended.
Speaker 1: I'm off to the next one. You're not a failure
Speaker 1: once you get on Instagram. You think you're failure. Once
Speaker 1: you watch those idiot couples and you find out, oh
Speaker 1: my god, they weren't in love. Split spill where I
Speaker 1: read about myself on Reddit because those exactly was on
Speaker 1: a terrible trail, like one in the morning last night.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, yeah, I'm a terrible person, right,
Speaker 1: And when you look at those when you look at
Speaker 1: those couples and you feel so bad on a Sunday
Speaker 1: afternoon and you open up the app and they had
Speaker 1: this amazing weekend and they're in the sun, they're on
Speaker 1: the boat. The boat. But but and then you find
Speaker 1: out they really hate each other. So like that's a
Speaker 1: story they're telling to get money, you know, they're like,
Speaker 1: have their image and they want to make money off
Speaker 1: of Instagram. That's not the reality of the situation. You know,
Speaker 1: those couples you see at school with the pickups, lots
Speaker 1: of those, lots of what's going on in that neighborhood
Speaker 1: behind closed doors. I deal with them all the time.
Speaker 1: They are miserable. So what you have to do is
Speaker 1: say I can't. I gotta stay centered and stay on course.
Speaker 1: I want my true love and nothing is going to
Speaker 1: stop me from getting it. Nothing, you know where I
Speaker 1: think I was telling my girlfriends because they were asking me,
Speaker 1: like what I was scared about? I said, I think
Speaker 1: I'm so scared of being duped again. You had trauma, Johnny,
Speaker 1: You've had trauma and you kept taking it back. How
Speaker 1: could you possibly not feel that way? Like, give yourself
Speaker 1: a break. A therapist would probably put you in the
Speaker 1: chair for a hundred years for that. I'm not going
Speaker 1: to do that. I'm gonna fix that now. Yes, love yourself.
Speaker 1: Yes you got duped, you were gasp and lit. But
Speaker 1: that's on him, not you. That's his karma. You don't
Speaker 1: have to come back next lifetime with him, and you
Speaker 1: can say I don't want to. I'm don't want a
Speaker 1: man like that again. So trust is till they don't.
Speaker 1: You can't till you don't get trust enough, like in
Speaker 1: other words, like they will be there showing up and
Speaker 1: giving you until they break the trust they lie to you,
Speaker 1: You're done. We found out X lie to you last time, right,
Speaker 1: he did a little thing on something app so we
Speaker 1: now know he was lying. And so even if he
Speaker 1: wasn't lying, the trust was broken. So if you keep
Speaker 1: looking for it to be broken, it will keep showing
Speaker 1: up broken. You have to say to yourself, I attract
Speaker 1: trustworthy men who love and ador me, who are compatible
Speaker 1: to me. And you got to say it over and
Speaker 1: over again. You changed the brain monitoring is so good
Speaker 1: to change the bain before you go sleep, when you
Speaker 1: wake up on the toilet, do it in the shower.
Speaker 1: Keep saying your mantra. You will make your own mantrap.
Speaker 1: That's your homework assignment. One line that's really quick you
Speaker 1: can remember. And you put now at the end of
Speaker 1: the sentence, so you would go, I attract compatible men
Speaker 1: who are honest, trustworthy, and adore and love me now
Speaker 1: because compatible means you have chemistry, that you have a
Speaker 1: lot of things in common. And then you get in
Speaker 1: the shower and you say it over again. You wake
Speaker 1: up in the morning, you stay it overnight the night before,
Speaker 1: when you get to sleep, and you say it in
Speaker 1: your sleep, it'll seep into your subconscious and it'll retrain
Speaker 1: the brain. Because the brain is programmed to be fearful
Speaker 1: flight or flight dinostaurs are dinostaurs are chasing us. What
Speaker 1: we want to do is feel relaxed, no anxiety. And
Speaker 1: then when you're relax and no anxiety, the guy comes in. Relax,
Speaker 1: no anxiety, Mirror to mirror. This is all it's like,
Speaker 1: this is all subconscious. What's going on your your trauma,
Speaker 1: your childhood does not define you. It's teaching you to
Speaker 1: overcome obstacles. That's all it is. You can do this.
Speaker 1: It is easy. I see this with my clients all
Speaker 1: the time. When I do coaching with clients, I retrain
Speaker 1: their brain so that even if I'm not fixing them up,
Speaker 1: they could step off the plane and there's the magical
Speaker 1: god that they've been looking for. And I see that
Speaker 1: with all my clients. But you've got to do the work.
Speaker 1: It doesn't magically just show up because you have trauma.
Speaker 1: So trauma tracks trauma. You attract another person with trauma too.
Speaker 1: I had some people right in some questions on Instagram,
Speaker 1: and I waited through some of them. But I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go through lightning round with you biggest red flags early
Speaker 1: on there on Instagram too much, and they got a
Speaker 1: lot of hot girls on their Instagram. I mean that's
Speaker 1: the truth. I'm not gonna lie about that now. I
Speaker 1: don't mean that they're Chris Evans and they got a
Speaker 1: five million Instagram girls because it's Chris Evans. He's an avenger. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm talking average guy has more women than men. They're
Speaker 1: all the type that he likes. He's following them. They're
Speaker 1: following men. They're flirting on Instagram or TikTok or whatever
Speaker 1: social media you use. How to move on from an
Speaker 1: X and experience life when you've been in a rut. Well,
Speaker 1: you know, I have a website called Detracting a Soulmate
Speaker 1: and it is It is subliminals, isochronics, bio chronics, which
Speaker 1: you retrains the brain. You listen to music, you could
Speaker 1: be cleaning your house or sleeping. There's typnosis, there's meditation,
Speaker 1: Jovitelly the Star of the Secrets on there, and once
Speaker 1: you start listening. I have one that gets over the X.
Speaker 1: And I have told I have told more people to
Speaker 1: use this and they have come back to me and said,
Speaker 1: this thing works. Kelly howe Is wanted to lead in
Speaker 1: Pioneers of Subliminals, and I was a big fan of person.
Speaker 1: I created my own. It's probably the best thing you
Speaker 1: could do because you're in pain and you want to
Speaker 1: get over the pain, the memories, the loss feeling. Your
Speaker 1: dream is done, so we have to create another dream
Speaker 1: to replace that. Once you start living in that dream
Speaker 1: in your mind, not in reality, in your mind, he
Speaker 1: wipes away, he goes away, because now you're in this
Speaker 1: new dream and then the person shows up. So it's
Speaker 1: a very stuff conscious, this stuff. But these tools that
Speaker 1: I created were because people can't sit in therapy for
Speaker 1: a thousand years and talk about the bullshit. Sure how
Speaker 1: did not get discouraged with online dating. So I was
Speaker 1: online for two years during the pandemic, and I was
Speaker 1: incredibly discouraged, and I was not upset with the apps.
Speaker 1: I was like, bumble, I think Whitney. I'm so proud
Speaker 1: of Whitney being screwed over a Tinder and with those
Speaker 1: guys and creating the greatest app the black Stune just bought.
Speaker 1: She's a billionaire and it's just went back. I'm so
Speaker 1: I'm so in of her. Um. But it was a
Speaker 1: very passive aggress It's about you get men on this
Speaker 1: app and bumble and they want us to make the
Speaker 1: first move, and then it would be men that wanted,
Speaker 1: you know, us to um chase them. So I was
Speaker 1: surprised I found an alfa on that app because I
Speaker 1: found the sky on the app. But it took two
Speaker 1: years and I was miserable. But the last boyfriend I
Speaker 1: met I met on Plenty of Fish who I lived
Speaker 1: with David from the show, and I worked for Marcus
Speaker 1: who owns plenty because she created Swipe left and Swipe right.
Speaker 1: Until Match Bottom, I had a great experience on. So
Speaker 1: you will have good experiences and bad experiences on every app.
Speaker 1: The key is to find the app that makes you
Speaker 1: feel good. So switch around and there's niche apps. There's like,
Speaker 1: you know, dog lovers or us and there's like I'm
Speaker 1: a vegan and I love politics and I love fitness,
Speaker 1: and their niche apps are smaller and they may not
Speaker 1: be as big as Hinge or Tinder or whatever, but
Speaker 1: they're gonna be more to your interests. And then there's
Speaker 1: meet Up. I think meet Up is one of the
Speaker 1: best places too. I know we were in a pandemic
Speaker 1: for two years, but we're starting to get out there now,
Speaker 1: even if we wear a mask. So if you love wine,
Speaker 1: there's wine lovers. If you love hiking, there's hiking lovers.
Speaker 1: Like start using different mediums till something. If you hit
Speaker 1: one on any of these apps, you're gonna feel good,
Speaker 1: even if it doesn't work out. The key is to
Speaker 1: keep saying I attract quality men on the apps, and
Speaker 1: if you keep saying it over again, like when I'm
Speaker 1: swiping left and right, I'm going I attrack quality ment,
Speaker 1: I attract quality men, attract quality meant and then start betterment,
Speaker 1: start showing up well, Patty, how can how can our
Speaker 1: listeners be a client of yours? Read your stuff? Like
Speaker 1: to give it right now? Okay, So you can go
Speaker 1: to Millionaires Club one to three dot com. There's an
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Speaker 1: just ball the application process, whether you're a millionaire or
Speaker 1: millionaires gear straight our fluid trans whatever, I'm lb G
Speaker 1: t Q probably P. I don't remember all the wet letters,
Speaker 1: but they know what I'm talking about. And then if
Speaker 1: you just want to join and you don't have money
Speaker 1: and you want me to fix you up, you can
Speaker 1: register for free all all those categories. But UM, I
Speaker 1: handle certain selective clients. I handle the v I p s,
Speaker 1: the high end money guys. I'm really mostly work with
Speaker 1: the men. And then my partner who runs my company, Erica,
Speaker 1: she runs the women's division. So we partnered our companies together.
Speaker 1: Um we even have a small millennial company for less
Speaker 1: money called Sinc. So there's that. And you know, we're international.
Speaker 1: We're in two hundred countries, so we're all over the world.
Speaker 1: Caroline Stansbury is about to open up in Europe for me.
Speaker 1: She's one of my close friends from Ladies of London
Speaker 1: and she's shooting a show for BRABO right now. I'm
Speaker 1: really excited about that. So she's going to be opening
Speaker 1: up Europe. We just opened up in Silicon Valley and
Speaker 1: now we're hoping to do Nashville next because I love
Speaker 1: those I love the cowboys. I love to horseback ride.
Speaker 1: So I have a lot of friends in Nashville. Three
Speaker 1: of my friends live a Nashville and they're are like,
Speaker 1: come and buy a house here, you know, and like
Speaker 1: and so I love the country scene. But we do everybody,
Speaker 1: you know, Christian, Jewish, Hindu, Muslim, it doesn't matter. We
Speaker 1: were all encompassing, all access dating. And the other thing
Speaker 1: is you can read my book or you can contact
Speaker 1: me on Instagram. You can DM me if you want
Speaker 1: a console or you want me to coach you. I
Speaker 1: love it well, Patti, thank you so much. I appreciate you.
Speaker 1: I want to I want to tell you one more,
Speaker 1: one more quick thing. So I have a tool for
Speaker 1: everyone to use if you're dating. It's called I Have
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Speaker 1: It's a pheromone strayer, gay, straight or gay. There's different ones.
Speaker 1: You go on I have Love dot Com and it
Speaker 1: will bring them into you. And when I spray that
Speaker 1: stuff on, men go wild. I have tested it without
Speaker 1: at the bar. I would love you, guys to do
Speaker 1: an experiment online with Janna. You take her out, she sprays,
Speaker 1: and then you study who's coming up to her, maybe
Speaker 1: even if maybe like a parents without partners event or
Speaker 1: someplace where they're single men. You know, the merryman might
Speaker 1: come over to I can't stop that. You're kicking up
Speaker 1: the kids one morning. Don't blame me, but like put
Speaker 1: it on when your ex comes over to pick up
Speaker 1: the kids. See what he does. That's one of us.
Speaker 1: You're gonna love that I've loved. We're gonna send out
Speaker 1: some samples or send up some some gifts for you
Speaker 1: chat keys. But everyone should. It's so it's like forty bucks.
Speaker 1: It's nothing, and attracting a soul meat is only. But
Speaker 1: I want to send out Everybody kept saying to me,
Speaker 1: what can I do? What can I do? First of all,
Speaker 1: we got to get out of the house. We can
Speaker 1: FaceTime on the second call like one call FaceTime, then
Speaker 1: go out of the house because of COVID, But um,
Speaker 1: you got to use these tools. You know, it's really
Speaker 1: competitive out there with those little hotti pitaties. This girls.
Speaker 1: It's not easy for the woman. Yeah, no, it's it's
Speaker 1: not especially when uh men just get better looking older
Speaker 1: and women just yes and they just want younger girls.
Speaker 1: You you are studying, and I'm so surprised at some
Speaker 1: actor like some like you know, the cute one that
Speaker 1: I know he's married, but the cute one that produced
Speaker 1: the movie that you were on with Maria. I was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: they're cute together. And that was like he's brobably married
Speaker 1: because all those Hallmark and Lifetime guys are married. But
Speaker 1: I was like, why can't we find someone through like
Speaker 1: from the not the one trill, one tree heel category,
Speaker 1: but like, you know some cute little actor who's like
Speaker 1: a normal guy who's trying to make his own money. Which,
Speaker 1: by the way, um there's there was a site what's
Speaker 1: it called do Do MOI don I just spoke. I
Speaker 1: just did there. I just did them. Well, I just
Speaker 1: they had said something about how it was dating Ryan
Speaker 1: and I'm just like things like that are so that's
Speaker 1: not true. But I'll tell you. I'll tell you it's well,
Speaker 1: it's it's so um, it's so wrong and so um.
Speaker 1: I was telling her. I was like, it's just harmful.
Speaker 1: I'm like, he's married to and I love his wife.
Speaker 1: They're just yes, I'm very fun and flirty on sets
Speaker 1: posting what she can't she can't check it out. She's
Speaker 1: not like a detective. I know he does a really
Speaker 1: good job. She's added a lot of cool stuff. But
Speaker 1: I agree with you. It's very damn. I just think
Speaker 1: for the people that like go on that site and um,
Speaker 1: just just just try just either make up things just
Speaker 1: because they say, oh, we had great chemistry, Like yes,
Speaker 1: Ryan and I had great chemistry, but like you were actors,
Speaker 1: and he's a really good friend of yours, very very
Speaker 1: good friend, married nineteen years, has an amazing wife. And
Speaker 1: it's like that's now, like that's not fair for anybody,
Speaker 1: like you know, and to just make up stuff. And
Speaker 1: so I just like sites like that. I'm like, but
Speaker 1: but Joanne, look look at this. If you're attracted him,
Speaker 1: just hypothetically, not that you are. If you're attracted him,
Speaker 1: I would take him and put it into your visualization
Speaker 1: before you go to sleep tonight and say I want
Speaker 1: somebody like that, or you take any celebrity crush, wrap it.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter. Pick your celebrity crush. Who's your celebrity crush?
Speaker 1: That's an interesting question. Let me ask you a question.
Speaker 1: Who's your celebrity crush? Mine? Yeah, who's it? Charlie Huntum,
Speaker 1: oh my god, so do I love him? I watched,
Speaker 1: but like it's just Jack's make sense, Like I don't
Speaker 1: know if I like if my if my celebrity crush
Speaker 1: is Charlie Hunt um or it's like I think it's
Speaker 1: Jack's like the girl. I like him and I like
Speaker 1: him in The Englishman, that Englishman movie where he's British,
Speaker 1: so you have to watch him. He's British and he's
Speaker 1: like a it's like the Mafia and he's the connector
Speaker 1: to the mafia. It's like really good. He's amazing part
Speaker 1: of that. But anyway, okay, so take that, use him
Speaker 1: in your power tech start visualism. This is like this works.
Speaker 1: I did this with my best friend, um. He was
Speaker 1: in love with a girl. They broke up six months
Speaker 1: ago and she wouldn't see him. She even send I'm
Speaker 1: gonna send it restraining order to him, and I said, okay,
Speaker 1: do you believe that I could make her come to you?
Speaker 1: He goes, I don't know. I said, no, I go
Speaker 1: watch this. So we worked every day and he was
Speaker 1: going down in Miami and she deemed him and said
Speaker 1: can I see you? And the way we worked it
Speaker 1: as he visualized every day before he went to bed
Speaker 1: that he was in love with her and they were
Speaker 1: having this magical relationship regardless of what she was doing
Speaker 1: in her life or thinking. He didn't let her on
Speaker 1: Instagram affect him. She deemed him another dating So here's
Speaker 1: the story. Take him, put them in your into your workshop,
Speaker 1: your visualization. Every night before you go to bed, tune
Speaker 1: out the lights, tune out the business, tune out the day,
Speaker 1: tune out the kids, and just let him come to you.
Speaker 1: And I bet you'll look alike shows up. If it's
Speaker 1: not him, who knows he's not married yet, so we
Speaker 1: don't know what could happen. We're not looking for him,
Speaker 1: You're looking for someone of that vibrational frequency that looks
Speaker 1: like him, who treats you like gold. Because we don't
Speaker 1: know what Charlie is really like in relationship. And that's good.
Speaker 1: Unless you know the better, you can manifest. So let's
Speaker 1: manifest love for you internally versus going out there externally
Speaker 1: and going on the scene. Because the truth of marriage,
Speaker 1: you don't know what movie you're gonna get next, and
Speaker 1: who's gonna shop and who's in the middle of a
Speaker 1: dworce or who hasn't gotten married. You don't know what's
Speaker 1: gonna happen tomorrow. Or you go to the grocery store
Speaker 1: and a new guy bought a house in your neighborhood.
Speaker 1: You don't know, but you can draw love to you.
Speaker 1: And that's what I'm trying to teach people. It works.
Speaker 1: I did it with this guy. I worked on myself
Speaker 1: for two years straight. I was sick of it and
Speaker 1: I didn't want the same type of man. I kept
Speaker 1: getting the emotionally unavailable hot guy. So I kept getting
Speaker 1: and I was like, why do I keep getting? This
Speaker 1: is because of the abandonment issue, trying to get my
Speaker 1: dad's love or my mom's lave. So you can do this,
Speaker 1: and I bet you it works. I can work with you.
Speaker 1: You can DM me and we can spend We'll do
Speaker 1: some consolets on the phone without the podcast, and then
Speaker 1: we'll come back and talk about it. Okay, thank you, Patty.
Speaker 1: I have her on speed dial. She's funny because she's
Speaker 1: just she's got good, good tips, and I take, you know,
Speaker 1: I take kind of everything what people say, and then
Speaker 1: I form my what I'm gonna do, what I'm really
Speaker 1: good because I'm really gonna end up doing what I wanted.
Speaker 1: Of course, there's she has some great tips. So she
Speaker 1: did like I remember, you know, like I don't really
Speaker 1: listen to people like when Mark's like no and I'm
Speaker 1: like yeah, so it's it's like it's so it's like
Speaker 1: one of those up there is Oh you're in studio
Speaker 1: boss man, check me out. He looks so official. Well,
Speaker 1: thank you very much. It's gonna be back. So you're like,
Speaker 1: back back. Yeah, well we're back back, kind of part time,
Speaker 1: back back, but it's going to be back back. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. It feels like I have a life again.
Speaker 1: It feels like, you know, like I have a purpose
Speaker 1: in the world where they're just never leaving the spare
Speaker 1: room in my house. Yeah, I mean I missed the fan,
Speaker 1: you know, like in the closet and the fans. But no,
Speaker 1: that must be weird though, But that's good that you're
Speaker 1: back in the It is nice. It's starting to get
Speaker 1: back to a little bit of regular left, although it's
Speaker 1: still pretty much a ghost town here. There's really very
Speaker 1: few people here. Wow. Crazy interesting. I wanted to play
Speaker 1: that game, but I don't know if we have time today. Huh. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think the game's gonna take a side side side
Speaker 1: side side. We're gonna, we're gonna, we're gonna put it
Speaker 1: to the side for we're going to do it at
Speaker 1: some point. Yes, maybe. Oh so does that mean that
Speaker 1: one of the race cars has taken the lead? Um?
Speaker 1: One has taken the lead? Yes? Yeah, excellent, Okay, I
Speaker 1: think that I would approve of this. Possibly, that's a
Speaker 1: good question. Can I ask if you questions? Excited and
Speaker 1: he's like, all right, let's do this again. Sure? Okay.
Speaker 1: This is where I feel like I'm gonna vomit. It
Speaker 1: kind of makes me want to vomit to you a
Speaker 1: little bit. Is this person an athlete? Is this person
Speaker 1: a musician? Is this person an actor? Potentially? Is it
Speaker 1: Charlie Huntum? Okay, um, Mark, he's going to get it
Speaker 1: starting like to sweat. Just give me a level of fame,
Speaker 1: like if I went to his IMDb be a long,
Speaker 1: long scroll or would it be a more petite scroll?
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe one page? Um? Respected a respected actor? Wow? Okay,
Speaker 1: this is exciting. I think I think this is exciting.
Speaker 1: I have some concerns, but we don't have We're gonna
Speaker 1: do it now. I know you have things to do,
Speaker 1: but I'm intrigued. I got in three guesses, Amy, we
Speaker 1: already got it, Wilt in three guesses. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but you know what I saw this quote, um Instagram.
Speaker 1: I'm keeping this new dude private. I overhyped the last one.
Speaker 1: That's probably smart. Yeah, I think you know in the
Speaker 1: beginning you just kind of cut out all the outside
Speaker 1: noise and figure it out before you fill in the listeners,
Speaker 1: because who knows, yeah for sure? Right, all right, I
Speaker 1: have a million more questions, but I don't want you
Speaker 1: to feel nauseous, so I'll just stop. Okay, Thanks, I
Speaker 1: love you because right now I'm still focusing on me,
Speaker 1: that's right, and doing my work. So um but out
Speaker 1: to be continued. I'll share the rest of Boston and
Speaker 1: all that stuff later, so you better listen for next week. Goodbye,
Speaker 1: bye m