WEBVTT - Make Me a Match 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:05.359 Wine Down with Janet Kramer and I heard radio podcast. 0:00:06.480 --> 0:00:10.160 Hi Catherine, Hi, I miss you. I miss you too. 0:00:10.160 --> 0:00:12.280 I feel like I haven't like hung out with you 0:00:12.400 --> 0:00:14.720 for a second. It's been like a couple of days 0:00:14.880 --> 0:00:19.880 it's been You're not I feel like you're laughing at 0:00:19.880 --> 0:00:21.479 me and I don't know why. It's like, you know, 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:23.720 when you feel like you're the butt of someone's joke, 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:26.960 but yet like you know it, but then in my 0:00:27.000 --> 0:00:31.120 head you kind of are, Oh god, I'm just gonna 0:00:31.240 --> 0:00:33.600 can we fill in me and the listeners with the 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:38.160 butt of the joke. It's way more fun in my head. Yeah, 0:00:38.360 --> 0:00:41.600 I'm not a don't I'm making No, there's nothing, nothing 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:44.599 at all. I don't know how you tell me. I 0:00:44.640 --> 0:00:48.680 don't know what you mean. That's how I always feel 0:00:48.680 --> 0:00:51.000 like it is. I'm like, I feel like there's something 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:52.839 you need to tell me, but I never know what 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:59.880 it is. Yeah, well, um, I am going to Ireland. 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:04.679 That's something, and Katherine was supposed to be coming and 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:09.000 I want to talk about it. Oh, oh, what's fun. 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:10.840 There's things I don't want to talk about, and there's 0:01:10.840 --> 0:01:13.520 things Katherine doesn't want to talk about. Her passport was expired, 0:01:13.560 --> 0:01:16.720 and then um, I didn't she never got it read whatever. 0:01:16.760 --> 0:01:20.520 It's a long story short, she's not coming, but it's 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:24.759 going to be. I'm so pumped, like seriously, send me photos. 0:01:24.760 --> 0:01:28.000 I'm so excited for you. Which I started to freak 0:01:28.000 --> 0:01:32.920 out though, because I was telling my therapist, sorry correction, 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:39.360 our therapist some things that I really want to do 0:01:39.720 --> 0:01:42.759 next year and kind of like, um, like a dream 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:47.360 list of like what I want, and it was her idea, 0:01:47.520 --> 0:01:52.040 so things that you like spiritually, emotionally, physically, relationally, things 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:53.680 that would just be and she goes and it's probably 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:56.360 or financially like so out of reach. She goes, I 0:01:56.400 --> 0:01:59.680 mean like aim super big, so like under financially, it 0:01:59.720 --> 0:02:01.280 was like I want to buy a like house one 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:03.960 time in a boat, and um, you know, spiritually, it's 0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:07.760 like I wanna uh do like I want to get baptized, 0:02:07.800 --> 0:02:11.560 I wanna go on this spiritual silence like there's like 0:02:11.840 --> 0:02:14.440 just like shooting bang on like everything. And then you know, 0:02:14.560 --> 0:02:18.360 she's like relationally and I was like, I go I 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:23.000 just started laughing, and she was, what, I just it's cheesy. 0:02:24.160 --> 0:02:25.799 She goes, well, that's what it is. She's like, just 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:30.359 let it be the cheesy Durne Like she's like, this 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:33.280 is about like your like not your goals, but something 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:36.160 that's like what would like what ignites you, what would 0:02:36.240 --> 0:02:39.440 make it exciting and happy? And I go, I have 0:02:39.560 --> 0:02:45.000 this image and she she was like, okay, explain and 0:02:45.000 --> 0:02:47.800 she has her pen and paper. I was like, I 0:02:47.880 --> 0:02:50.400 just have this. I go, but I think it's bad. 0:02:50.760 --> 0:02:53.480 I think it's a bad image. And she's like, can 0:02:53.520 --> 0:02:55.680 you just tell me what it is? Seriously, I'm dying 0:02:55.720 --> 0:02:59.520 to know. Okay. I've always made a big deal about 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:02.720 my forty birth day. Always. I always said I wanted 0:03:02.760 --> 0:03:05.200 to just like blow it out, you know, even you 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:07.160 know my acts, like we always talked about I'm like, 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:10.080 I want a private plane. I want which, by the way, 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:11.959 I don't have enough money for a private plane. But 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:14.200 in my brain, I'm like I just wanted to be 0:03:14.560 --> 0:03:18.000 huge and just like fun and we can all fly Delta, 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.160 but like in my flying were Southwest. I don't care 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:24.080 because I've phoned like three times on a private plane. 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:26.000 But just in my mind, I'm like, I've got my 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:29.680 best friends, We're on a plane and we go to 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:31.960 like an island does not to be a private island? 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:35.920 Just like an island. I mean pig like go for 0:03:36.000 --> 0:03:39.680 it lane, private island, I know, but like in my 0:03:39.680 --> 0:03:46.680 brain is still like realistic, and so I like having 0:03:46.680 --> 0:03:49.320 all my friends and like dinner on the beach, and 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:53.920 then I was like I want to get engaged on 0:03:54.040 --> 0:03:58.400 my forty birthday with like and then like fireworks, like 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:03.040 of course the fucker works. I'm a sucker for fireworks. 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:06.680 It's just like I cry every time, Like I just 0:04:06.760 --> 0:04:09.160 like I'm a socker. Like they didn't make me cry, 0:04:09.240 --> 0:04:11.240 but they're like so beautiful, you know, like there's just 0:04:11.280 --> 0:04:16.279 something like so like free about fireworks. Um and I 0:04:16.360 --> 0:04:18.800 go and she's like laughing at me, and she's like, no, 0:04:18.920 --> 0:04:20.560 that's great, and I was like, no, that's so bad 0:04:20.640 --> 0:04:24.680 because now I'm like, oh my god. If I'm yeah, 0:04:24.920 --> 0:04:27.839 I'm so nervous, like like it's where I was like 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:32.200 single under the covers crying because I was just like 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:35.719 I'm alone. So but I and also don't want to 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:39.400 settle for you know that either. But at the same time, 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:43.039 I'm like, after everything that I've been through, wouldn't that 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:47.360 just be like incredible, It would be amazing. It's gonna 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:49.800 be like whatever, guy, you're dating. Hey, she's turning for me. 0:04:50.040 --> 0:04:54.240 We're gonna eat fireworks for a ring. It's fine. No, 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:56.560 I mean it's so like unrealistic. But at the same 0:04:56.600 --> 0:04:58.360 time it was one of those things where I was like, man, 0:05:00.080 --> 0:05:05.520 what did you kids? Just what a dream? But then yeah, um. 0:05:05.560 --> 0:05:07.839 But then another thing on there too was travel, like 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:14.120 I want to go on a solo vacation, and when 0:05:14.200 --> 0:05:16.600 you were not going to come to Ireland, I was like, 0:05:16.680 --> 0:05:17.919 you know, and I'm not. I'm not ready for it 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:20.000 right now, Like I'm not ready to go to Ireland, 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:22.080 Like I'm thinking, like I want to go to like 0:05:22.760 --> 0:05:28.360 Florida by myself. You know. Um, I didn't think for 0:05:28.400 --> 0:05:29.719 a second you would go on around. But I don't 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:31.440 blame you. I'm not saying that, like would you go 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:34.320 to I like and yourself very independent person, and I 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:37.240 don't know if I would go that far by myself. Yeah, 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:39.840 that just seems like not not necessarily because I'd be 0:05:39.880 --> 0:05:42.000 scared too. I just don't think it would be and 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:43.599 I love to be by myself, but I just don't 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:47.360 think it'd be fun. Yeah. Um, But I did just 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:51.240 do like kind of a solo tripp ish where I 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:53.800 like did my own stuff this past week in in Boston, 0:05:53.839 --> 0:05:56.280 and it was like really nice. It was like kind 0:05:56.279 --> 0:06:00.800 of the first step into like driving a rental car 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:03.200 and like exploring and it's really proud of you, and 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:08.480 it looked yeah, it was. I think my therapist is 0:06:08.480 --> 0:06:10.760 gonna be mad at me. Well i'll tell I'll tell 0:06:10.760 --> 0:06:15.520 the story after, um, because we have an amazing guest 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:17.080 and she's in the waiting room and it's all about 0:06:17.160 --> 0:06:19.280 dating Patti Stanger, So let's take a break and then 0:06:19.320 --> 0:06:22.080 bring her on and then I'll tell the story of Boston, 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:25.120 all right now before we bring in Patty. I just 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:28.280 got botox the other day because um, it was my 0:06:29.160 --> 0:06:32.680 I like to call it my every six month preventative 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:35.360 lines and wrinkles because I like to still be natural. 0:06:35.560 --> 0:06:40.159 But um my, my botox doctor gives me like the 0:06:40.200 --> 0:06:43.400 actor talks, so I still can move, but um it's 0:06:43.400 --> 0:06:45.560 going to help reduce my fine lines and wrinkles. That's 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:48.560 why I love it so much. Um, I've convinced all 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:50.720 my friends, right Catherine, I'm always like, all right, girl, 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:53.880 I love it. It's just so good and it's like 0:06:53.920 --> 0:06:57.080 the makeup doesn't increase in the lines, and um, it's 0:06:57.080 --> 0:07:01.520 been studied and I feel safe using it. It doesn't hurt, 0:07:02.040 --> 0:07:04.800 it looks good, and again it's all about that preventative, 0:07:04.960 --> 0:07:09.840 you know. Um So check out botox in your area 0:07:10.560 --> 0:07:12.080 because if you want to get rid of some of 0:07:12.080 --> 0:07:16.080 those fine lines and wrinkles, botox might just be the 0:07:16.160 --> 0:07:18.360 right option for you, like it was for me and 0:07:18.480 --> 0:07:33.960 Catherine and my friend Pamela down the street. Hi, Hi, 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:36.200 Oh my god, Tyler, you did this good? Is my 0:07:36.240 --> 0:07:39.680 newest sistant. I loved you better closed up than it 0:07:39.800 --> 0:07:43.480 was before. Then it was back. I like that. Okay, 0:07:43.720 --> 0:07:48.000 you guys, we didn't mean to do that. This is 0:07:48.040 --> 0:07:49.760 not what you're gonna wear in a date right now, 0:07:51.560 --> 0:07:53.600 you know what? This is a great intro, Patty you 0:07:53.600 --> 0:07:55.960 mean you are. I'm so first of all honored to 0:07:55.960 --> 0:07:58.720 have you on the show because you are the best 0:07:58.760 --> 0:08:00.920 of the best. But I have question for you because 0:08:00.960 --> 0:08:02.320 you just said, like, I'm not gonna wear it's on 0:08:02.320 --> 0:08:04.160 a date. Why couldn't you're wearing that a date now? 0:08:04.200 --> 0:08:06.400 Unless you let it's the third date hiking but not 0:08:06.520 --> 0:08:08.480 the first day. I was like, what is going on 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:12.920 today with lumberjacks? Did it? There is? But like it's 0:08:12.960 --> 0:08:16.480 me though you know, like I'm like, I like when 0:08:16.480 --> 0:08:18.840 you're like, you just got your boobs done, I want 0:08:18.880 --> 0:08:21.960 you to wear those tank tops and let the girls breathe. Okay, Well, 0:08:21.960 --> 0:08:24.160 I will say that people are getting very annoyedive how 0:08:24.160 --> 0:08:26.280 often I show my boobs on social media now and 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:30.400 have boobs before, Like come on, you're allowed to be proud, 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:33.600 come on, curiously. But I will say that I did 0:08:33.679 --> 0:08:36.360 go when I was and and I have to say 0:08:36.400 --> 0:08:40.760 to Patty has been incredible with me the last few months, 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:43.280 like she's just been kind of my dating um go 0:08:43.440 --> 0:08:45.160 to where I'm just like, Patty, what do I do? 0:08:46.040 --> 0:08:49.320 I reached out to you when the Christis happened. I 0:08:49.440 --> 0:08:51.840 was like, call me, call me, call me, because I 0:08:51.960 --> 0:08:54.320 was there, so stick with the first time I did 0:08:54.400 --> 0:08:57.200 your your your pot your radio or podcast show, and 0:08:57.240 --> 0:08:59.320 he was there and it was like awkward and I 0:08:59.360 --> 0:09:01.680 read him him and he said I read him right 0:09:01.720 --> 0:09:03.800 of psychically reading him, and I'm like, yeah, don't do 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:06.280 it again. Remember yeah, I said to him, do it again. 0:09:06.280 --> 0:09:09.840 You're done. That's it. No second chances, no third chances, 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:12.360 four chances whatever. And he goes, Okay, I'm not gonna 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:14.160 do it again. And then I was like, I don't 0:09:14.160 --> 0:09:19.000 know so, and you're so gorgeous and so talented and 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:21.439 such a fine line with such a little bit low 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:24.320 self esteem. We're working on your self esteem. We're trying 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:25.880 to get you back, and I want girls to listen 0:09:25.920 --> 0:09:29.680 to this. You are the deal, not the guy. Okay, 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:32.000 I know it seems like the guy has leverage right 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:34.720 now with the you know, slipping into the d M 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:38.840 s and you know, Cocta Instagram girls or the what 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:41.680 do they call the only fans girls my favorite sorry 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:45.920 only fans, But you know, you gotta like know that 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:51.040 you're worth more and no more sex without monogamy. Okay, 0:09:51.040 --> 0:09:56.160 so that was a lot. I love this woman, Okay, 0:09:58.320 --> 0:10:00.920 who I have so many questions. Let me just start 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:04.319 with all right, I'm here, Okay, my process breathe, Okay, 0:10:04.520 --> 0:10:07.880 come to me, children and give me your The first 0:10:07.960 --> 0:10:11.120 one is, honestly, I'm still stuck on the clothing because 0:10:11.120 --> 0:10:13.439 I remember I was dating or I was like hanging 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:15.320 out this that one guy that I was talking to about, 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:18.120 and I remember being like I asked him, I was 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:20.440 like heels or these cute booties, and he's like heels. 0:10:20.440 --> 0:10:21.600 But in my mind, I'm like, I want to wear 0:10:21.600 --> 0:10:23.880 the booties, but like he thought heels were sex here. 0:10:23.920 --> 0:10:25.200 So then I'm like, well, why didn't I just wear 0:10:25.200 --> 0:10:27.800 what I want to freaking wear? And you gotta you 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:30.640 have to mirror the guy. So the guy there's high 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:36.520 top guys, there's heels, there's boots. You know, like my 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:41.200 ex he was heels. So when we had sex, he'd 0:10:41.240 --> 0:10:42.880 go down. You know, I have a shoe wall, like 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:45.160 everybody knows how to me, I'm addicted to shoes. I'm true, 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:49.320 Carrie Bradshawn that way, he pulled up the shoes and 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:51.720 we screwed with the shoes on. It was like whatever 0:10:51.880 --> 0:10:55.200 theme was tonight, you know the Red Shoes Diaries or 0:10:55.240 --> 0:10:59.000 you know that, you know the catwoman shoes. It was 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.000 like crazy and I'd like, you know, I changed my 0:11:01.040 --> 0:11:04.200 personality and having sex because of the shoes. I mean, 0:11:04.280 --> 0:11:06.000 and I was like, can I wear my plan? Story? 0:11:06.200 --> 0:11:09.679 And I was like, I'm sorry, sorry, David Story met 0:11:09.760 --> 0:11:13.840 my birks and whatever, asking for a friend. How do 0:11:14.080 --> 0:11:19.720 long distance relationships work? Um, they're actually not bad. My 0:11:19.800 --> 0:11:22.040 mom got married long distance and she was married three 0:11:22.040 --> 0:11:24.480 times and she always got her man. It goes faster, 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:27.320 so there's more of like do we want to be 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:31.280 in this or not? And um, if there's a lag 0:11:31.360 --> 0:11:35.160 with holidays because you have kids, or New Year's or 0:11:35.240 --> 0:11:40.320 Valentine's Day, you know it's over because he's not coming forward. Um. Also, 0:11:40.760 --> 0:11:42.840 he has to make more initiative to see you. So 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:45.160 the rule is every two weeks you must see each other. 0:11:45.640 --> 0:11:50.360 You must smell, taste, touch Tyler, we're live here on 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:56.840 Kanda Cramer's podcast. Okay, seriously, my new assistant bumbling. Okay, 0:11:57.040 --> 0:11:59.880 so you want to see the person every two weeks. 0:12:00.400 --> 0:12:04.480 Can't just be auditory. Women fall in love auditory between 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:07.480 between our ears because we're our new transmitters are working 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:10.760 like that. Men are visual. So in order for the 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:13.760 connection to solidify, you must taste touch of field. Now 0:12:13.800 --> 0:12:17.280 this obviously if you're in the army, you know, serving 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:20.440 our country or doing something tremendous like you know, doctors 0:12:20.520 --> 0:12:22.839 that borders or whatever. I'm not talking about this. I'm 0:12:22.840 --> 0:12:26.400 talking about a basic normal. I live in New York, 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:28.560 you live in l A. Are we gonna see each other? 0:12:28.880 --> 0:12:31.160 And if you don't make the initiative after a certain points, 0:12:31.240 --> 0:12:34.680 it will disintegrate. But a lot of times it heats 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:36.800 up faster and goes I can't live without you. I'm 0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:39.480 sick of living, um so far away from you. And 0:12:39.520 --> 0:12:41.720 this could be even you know, like an hour away 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:43.240 in the air, Like I live in New York and 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:46.560 he lives in Silicon or two hours to San Diego. 0:12:46.600 --> 0:12:50.920 I have to drive, like it's not necessarily just he 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:52.880 lives in my geographic here, I mean in l A. 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:56.200 It's like, you know, the long distances west Hollywood to 0:12:56.280 --> 0:12:59.920 the West Side. Nobody wants to drive. So there's that. 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:03.520 But a man who loves you a k dr Phil 0:13:03.559 --> 0:13:08.400 I posted this yesterday, will swim rivers, climb mountains to 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:11.959 see you. And he's not engaging like that. The woman 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:16.880 will get doubt and it'll disintegrate. What do you think 0:13:16.920 --> 0:13:20.960 I have done wrong? From the outside looking in? Well, 0:13:21.600 --> 0:13:25.439 the last one, which we will not mention his name, Um, 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:27.840 you moved a little too quickly in the sex department, 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:32.160 and because you were both so newly dating, there was 0:13:32.200 --> 0:13:35.200 this vulnerability between the two of you that you're scared. 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:38.559 So it's almost better to find the guy who's been 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:41.440 divorced a while. Divorcement are the best kept secret because 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:44.400 they can commit. So I would recommend dating someone who's 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:47.520 been divorced to three years and is ready for releaship. 0:13:47.559 --> 0:13:50.199 He's not grieving the loss of his ax. He does 0:13:50.280 --> 0:13:53.240 not in drama. There's no like I have to pay 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:55.800 her child support, I have to pay her alimony, and 0:13:55.800 --> 0:13:58.520 I hate her guts and we're going to courtney. None 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:02.280 of that. I want to see, like, hey, she's got someone. 0:14:02.400 --> 0:14:05.280 I'm ready to have someone. And you, my dear, I'm 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:09.120 going to worship an adore you rather than and no 0:14:09.240 --> 0:14:11.680 more fame. Let's get the fame out of the way. 0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:14.920 That's another thing I don't like. Um, I see you 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:18.439 with a businessman, a ranch owner, somebody who really can 0:14:18.440 --> 0:14:20.440 provide for you that you don't have to worry about money. 0:14:21.240 --> 0:14:24.520 I'm sorry, I see the best for you a tech guy. 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:26.960 Let's get a cute tech guy and dress him, you know, 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:29.080 take him to Bloomingdale's, look hot, and all of a 0:14:29.080 --> 0:14:31.560 sudden he becomes a fine wine. But you know he 0:14:31.600 --> 0:14:35.840 owns Google or something like. That's fair. That's a good plan, 0:14:36.600 --> 0:14:41.240 you know. I'm like, I hear this. We we had 0:14:41.240 --> 0:14:45.520 tried dating someone normal, we had we was and my 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:47.680 friends were like, you know, they really were like voting 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:51.040 for like the normal. Um. But it was interesting because 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:54.560 when because her husband is like my my big brother, 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:57.400 like he's he's kind of been through like the you 0:14:57.440 --> 0:14:59.400 know the I don't like him and you know he 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:02.280 did well. He's the barometer to tell you if he's 0:15:02.280 --> 0:15:04.880 a good dude or badger. Because her husband is looking 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:06.480 at for your best and she's she's like your brother 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:09.760 and she's like your sister. So you've got family here, 0:15:09.960 --> 0:15:14.360 which I love. Um, she's looking out for you and 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:18.640 that's good. The last one I really like, the astrology, 0:15:18.680 --> 0:15:20.360 and the last one I was really bummed out the 0:15:20.360 --> 0:15:22.520 way he handled it. I could I could kick him 0:15:22.600 --> 0:15:24.280 right now. But Taurus, you know I told you I'm 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:28.640 dating one and they're like, I'm Gemini. It's like killing me. 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:31.360 They are so slow and they think in their head. 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:32.960 They're in their head too much. You need to be 0:15:32.960 --> 0:15:36.720 more in their dick, you know what I mean, because 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:40.680 because it becomes like over obsessing. And I want to 0:15:40.720 --> 0:15:42.440 have fun and I want to be light and airy, 0:15:42.560 --> 0:15:44.880 and you want to be romantic. You know what sign 0:15:44.880 --> 0:15:48.720 are you? Jenna? I forgot right. You're like me some Gemini. 0:15:48.840 --> 0:15:52.200 So we need that fluidity. We don't want to be 0:15:52.280 --> 0:15:54.360 grounded to the point where we can't have fun, because 0:15:54.360 --> 0:15:57.080 you already grounded with your kids. So we need someone 0:15:57.080 --> 0:15:59.360 to take you away, you know, give you that fine 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:01.720 week in a way where your mind is turned off. 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:05.640 Because we're pretty fast in our brains. So I don't 0:16:05.640 --> 0:16:09.840 mean normal where he doesn't. He's not dynamic, So I 0:16:09.840 --> 0:16:13.040 want normal dynamic. So there's a difference. That's kind of 0:16:13.080 --> 0:16:15.600 like what her husband was saying too, because you know, 0:16:16.000 --> 0:16:18.000 when I had this person come over and meet people, 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:22.320 you know, he wasn't famous, and um, it was a 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:25.480 normal person. But her husband was like, he's the farthest 0:16:25.480 --> 0:16:29.600 thing from normal because of I mean, yeah, he's got 0:16:29.600 --> 0:16:35.120 like a normal job, but the way he talks about things, 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:37.160 the way he you know, it just I don't know 0:16:37.240 --> 0:16:39.960 it just he wasn't and like I don't like someone 0:16:40.000 --> 0:16:42.680 that's like money money, Like like, yeah, I don't care. 0:16:44.400 --> 0:16:46.840 You're hustling, right, I got your Christmas movie coming out. 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:49.800 You're always on the roster with Lifetime and you know, 0:16:49.840 --> 0:16:51.680 I'm sure you're gonna get Netflix and all that stuff. 0:16:52.040 --> 0:16:54.720 Um in Hallmarks, you come back to hall ork um 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:58.200 because I make um. But the point I'm making is 0:16:58.240 --> 0:17:01.680 that you've got your pop asked, you got your products, 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:05.200 your Instagram's cranking, and then you've got this acting career 0:17:05.240 --> 0:17:07.920 which you know you're you're amazing at, and music your 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:11.560 new single. He's got to understand that this is your 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:14.680 world and he can't be intimidated. He can't be thinking 0:17:14.720 --> 0:17:17.960 about your money to pay his bills. So dynamic means 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:21.480 I'm I could be a scientist and an inventor of something, 0:17:21.480 --> 0:17:23.399 and I love what I do and I make money, 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:25.800 and I come to the table at dinner and I 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:27.879 talk about my you talk about your We give each 0:17:27.920 --> 0:17:31.360 other advice. Um, so I'm dating somebody like that right now. 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:34.160 Like he builds homes, and it's like when he talks 0:17:34.200 --> 0:17:36.840 about work, I'm turned on. And the other day I said, 0:17:36.960 --> 0:17:38.800 you haven't talked about work in a while, and he goes, 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:40.720 I haven't, And I go, I thought you'd be bored 0:17:40.720 --> 0:17:43.560 like a board, like when you talk about work. I 0:17:43.600 --> 0:17:46.280 am so turned on because I love that he builds 0:17:46.359 --> 0:17:50.159 these homes for very famous people and they're gorgeous, Like 0:17:50.240 --> 0:17:52.159 I'm in awe that I went to see one of 0:17:52.200 --> 0:17:54.159 them in Beverlyals and I was like, you made this like, 0:17:54.400 --> 0:17:59.199 it's pretty amazing, so um dynamic. But he's normal, not 0:17:59.240 --> 0:18:02.919 a gazillionaire. He's normal. You know. He pays for the dinner, 0:18:02.960 --> 0:18:04.520 he takes me out, he plants, and the date is 0:18:04.560 --> 0:18:07.600 a true gentleman like that, that's what you want. I'm 0:18:07.720 --> 0:18:12.080 sexually attracted. He has dad energy. I like the dad energy. 0:18:12.080 --> 0:18:14.880 I like that soothing dad energy. You know, like you're 0:18:14.880 --> 0:18:17.320 not it's not dangerous, like when can you have When 0:18:17.359 --> 0:18:20.320 can you have sex with someone? Though, well, when you 0:18:20.359 --> 0:18:22.280 get have sex on the first date, but they have 0:18:22.320 --> 0:18:26.159 to give you monogamy. Okay, okay, I don't have I 0:18:26.160 --> 0:18:29.960 don't have to. I don't have So let's let's preface. 0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:34.040 You're over a certain age and you've got you're in menopause, 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:38.200 you have no oxytocin, clean your pipes up, protect yourself, 0:18:38.720 --> 0:18:41.920 you know, do your thing, um, use a robber condom whatever, 0:18:42.200 --> 0:18:44.800 perform at birth control to protects you from from STDs 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:47.399 and all that stuff. But I'm not gonna bond. I'm 0:18:47.400 --> 0:18:49.240 gonna be more like, do I really like him after 0:18:49.359 --> 0:18:52.840 of sex? So I'm kind of trying the goods out. Okay, You, 0:18:52.920 --> 0:18:55.600 on the other hand, or opposite that, you've oxytocin. So 0:18:55.680 --> 0:18:58.760 every time you sleep with someone, you emotionally bond and 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:00.600 it can hurt you take a long time for you 0:19:00.640 --> 0:19:03.000 to get over that person of the way they treated you, 0:19:03.080 --> 0:19:07.680 because to him, sex is sex. Men fall in love emotionally, 0:19:08.080 --> 0:19:11.240 not through sex. But to tell women this, they don't 0:19:11.280 --> 0:19:14.360 get it. They fall in love with the with the routine, 0:19:15.440 --> 0:19:19.520 calling you, seeing you, even going to CBS and waiting 0:19:19.520 --> 0:19:22.159 on that awful line. You know what I'm saying to 0:19:22.200 --> 0:19:25.520 get your drugs, the terrible line. So what I'm trying 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:28.080 to say is like they fall in love with consistency 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:30.439 and then they emotionally fault. They do not fall in 0:19:30.440 --> 0:19:32.639 love sexually. They might like you sexually, but they're not 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:33.840 gonna fall in love with you and give you a 0:19:33.920 --> 0:19:41.199 ring for that, right m hm, I am How do 0:19:41.240 --> 0:19:46.080 I say this? Um? Asking for a friend, I say 0:19:46.119 --> 0:19:48.600 you should vibrate or more and less of him until 0:19:48.640 --> 0:19:55.200 he showed he is. I believe in vibration as your 0:19:55.200 --> 0:19:59.359 favorite boyfriend until that man shows up and says I'm trustworthy. 0:19:59.400 --> 0:20:02.280 I'm gonna text you, I'm gonna pay for you, I'm 0:20:02.320 --> 0:20:04.159 gonna take care of you, I'm gonna show you the 0:20:04.200 --> 0:20:06.600 world if they can't do that. Back to the vibrator, 0:20:07.040 --> 0:20:10.440 I agree with that. I mean, so do I because 0:20:10.440 --> 0:20:13.280 we all need our needs met. You know, you get 0:20:13.400 --> 0:20:15.720 especially if you drink. You know, you get too tequilas 0:20:15.800 --> 0:20:20.119 and you and you are knocking out your brain to 0:20:20.280 --> 0:20:23.800 become beta to alpha. So when a woman drinks, she 0:20:24.000 --> 0:20:27.000 becomes outphas pretty most aggressive. When a man drinks, he 0:20:27.040 --> 0:20:30.440 becomes passive, he becomes beta. So if you keep drinking 0:20:30.480 --> 0:20:33.200 on these dates, you're not really feeling the normalcy of 0:20:33.240 --> 0:20:36.480 who you really are, and you're getting clouded vision and 0:20:36.520 --> 0:20:38.600 it's fought and you can have great sex. Drunk sex 0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:40.800 is the best sex. I mean, come on, I'm the 0:20:40.840 --> 0:20:43.280 first one to say with tequila you get babies. But 0:20:43.320 --> 0:20:47.439 at the same time, it's also clouding your vision of 0:20:47.520 --> 0:20:51.000 the true relationship of what you want because that's just 0:20:51.080 --> 0:20:53.119 a moment in time and that's not gonna give you. 0:20:53.119 --> 0:20:54.399 That's not gonna pay the bills at the end of 0:20:54.400 --> 0:20:59.040 the day, so to speak. I agree. Um Let's say 0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:03.520 you have a boyfriend, right, it's a new relationship. How 0:21:03.520 --> 0:21:07.040 do you how do you keep that relationship? Um? No, 0:21:07.280 --> 0:21:10.159 especially if you're like especially not getting afraid of it. Well, like, 0:21:10.200 --> 0:21:13.080 if you're like afraid of it, what do you mean 0:21:13.119 --> 0:21:14.920 by afraid of it? Give me? Give me more example, 0:21:15.600 --> 0:21:17.640 are we talking about here, We're talking about a friend 0:21:17.640 --> 0:21:19.840 of yours, We're talking about you. What's going on here? 0:21:19.880 --> 0:21:22.200 I mean, we don't need to put a label friend. 0:21:23.200 --> 0:21:25.520 If you want me to assess the situation, I need 0:21:25.520 --> 0:21:29.640 the details, so I need to know. Let's just say 0:21:29.640 --> 0:21:34.200