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Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject my husband found the

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Speaker 1: wrong gift. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married to an

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Speaker 1: that's a freshman in college. He works two jobs by

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Speaker 1: Since he works a lot, I have plenty of time alone.

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Speaker 1: It's true that an idle mind is the devil's workshop.

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Speaker 1: And out of sheer boredom, I started flirting with an

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Speaker 1: old acquaintance on Facebook. He knows I'm married, married and

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Speaker 1: someone else to talk to. He asked me where I

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Speaker 1: worked and I told him, but I didn't mention that

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Speaker 1: I'm working remotely right now. This past Friday, he dropped

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Speaker 1: quote a man that's not your husband dropped off something

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Speaker 1: for you that was nothing but shade. But I went

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Speaker 1: right up to my office and got my gift. The

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Speaker 1: slid the box under my bed. When my husband came home,

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Speaker 1: He saw the box and looked at me, smiling. He

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Speaker 1: opened it and started getting giddy. He thought it was

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Speaker 1: his Valentine's present. So I had to play it off

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Speaker 1: and put the lingerie on. It was way too small

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Speaker 1: I couldn't wait for him to rip it off. I

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Speaker 1: he was so happy. I want my one hundred dollars back,

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Speaker 1: and I want to tell him another man gave me

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Speaker 1: that gift because he sent our daughter flowers for Valentine's

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Speaker 1: and he didn't give me any. Should I tell him

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Speaker 1: just to make him jealous? No, you should not, and

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Speaker 1: especially you shouldn't be jealous of your daughter. And I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know, making him think that the gift was for

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Speaker 1: him was the only option you had at the time,

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Speaker 1: because that could have gotten really ugly, but not as

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Speaker 1: ugly as it already is. I mean, I'm surprised you're

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Speaker 1: still sleeping with him. You had so much, so many

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Speaker 1: complaints about him. You stayed in there for not one,

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Speaker 1: but two rounds of bad sex, you say, so, so

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Speaker 1: how long are you gonna put up with that? You

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Speaker 1: got nothing for Valentine's Day, but he got the money,

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Speaker 1: the sexy Undy's, and he got sex with you twice.

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Speaker 1: You said he stopped spoiling you years ago. You did

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Speaker 1: not tell us why why did that stop? I mean,

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Speaker 1: to spoil your daughter, and you're jealous of that. He's

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Speaker 1: not married to his daughter. He's married to you, and

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Speaker 1: the idea that you're no longer number one in his

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Speaker 1: life should be unacceptable to you. You left a lot

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Speaker 1: Now you're thinking about cheating with someone from your past

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Speaker 1: that you met on Facebook. I mean, that's not going

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Speaker 1: to solve your marital issues. You're looking for attention. Your

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Speaker 1: husband sounds coolest to your needs as far as that's concerned,

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Speaker 1: you want someone to talk to, but that's how it starts. Okay,

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Speaker 1: guys need to get in some sort of marriage counseling

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Speaker 1: or therapy right away. Asape surely absolutely brilliant answer. I

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Speaker 1: agree with every single thing you said well said, which

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Speaker 1: leaves me nowhere to go in this letter except to

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Speaker 1: The gift was, oh my goodness, how you hire the

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Speaker 1: he folt? What does he folt? He don't go under

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Speaker 1: the bed? Who hides to give? Who do that? Anyway?

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Speaker 1: You've been married to an interesting man nineteen years old,

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Speaker 1: is to penalize the man for being a great father.

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Speaker 1: But there's more to it. As Shirley said, he stopped

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Speaker 1: spoiling me years ago, and I'm jealous something happened years

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Speaker 1: ago that you're not putting in this letter. Demand just stopped?

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Speaker 1: And did he turn his attention to someone who was

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Speaker 1: you're just married to an interesting man. Then, as you said,

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Speaker 1: And now here we go, and I don't mind is

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Speaker 1: the devil's workshop and out of sheer boredom, I started

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Speaker 1: that this entire letter is really looking like your fault

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Speaker 1: because your husb been working two jobs and spoiling your daughter,

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Speaker 1: it as he stopped spoiling me. I'm jealous, I'm bored,

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Speaker 1: I'm flirting on Facebook. Facebook then ended a lot of marriages.

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Speaker 1: Get ready for yours to be gone to Just hold

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letter subjects

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Speaker 1: I know you just got into it. Today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: my husband found the wrong gift. We'll get right back

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Speaker 1: to it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, let's recap today's Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject my husband found the wrong gift. Everything about

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Speaker 1: this letter is crazy. This woman is married to what

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Speaker 1: she claims as an interesting man who has a freshman

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Speaker 1: He's got two jobs, she says, to give the daughter

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Speaker 1: years ago, and I'm jealous. Well, then she says, since

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Speaker 1: And then she says that it's true that an idol

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Speaker 1: an old acquaintance on Facebook. Facebook and ended a lot

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Speaker 1: He knows I'm married and he's married too, so we

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Speaker 1: everything you're saying, it's like somebody going so what because

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Speaker 1: you're not. All you're doing is justifying the dirt that

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Speaker 1: He asked me where I worked, and I told him. Now,

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Speaker 1: he dropped a small box office. Excuse me, he dropped

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Speaker 1: you that was nothing but shade. Well what you want,

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Speaker 1: lady said that ain't the lady ain't being messy or shady.

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Speaker 1: This is a fact. A man dropped a red box

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Speaker 1: off up hill where you don't work at No MO.

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Speaker 1: And it wasn't your husband. But I went right up

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Speaker 1: my husband buying this girl all this stuff. That girl

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Speaker 1: I don't be there. That's the take the thought that

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Speaker 1: that's it. When you married, and you know she married,

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Speaker 1: all you need is a small ass box with a

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Speaker 1: said with a sweet card, you're just you easy, you easy.

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Speaker 1: You get excited about little or nothing because you want to.

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Speaker 1: When I got home, I slid the box under my bed.

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Speaker 1: Excuse me, you slid the box under y'all's bed. He

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Speaker 1: I ain't that how you get busted always on some

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Speaker 1: sent our daughter flowers for Valentine's and he didn't give

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Speaker 1: me any. Now, the dumbest line in this whole letter

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Speaker 1: is you want to tell your husband. Let me understand this,

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Speaker 1: that another man gave you that gift because your husband

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Speaker 1: sent your daughter flowers for Valentine's then didn't give you any.

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Speaker 1: So your snapback for that is I'm gonna tell him

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Speaker 1: that another man sent this red box up to my job.

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Speaker 1: deceive you. You ripped it off and you took my

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Speaker 1: one hundred dollars. I want one hundred dollars back. Should

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Speaker 1: I tell him just to make Kim jealous, Lady, This

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Speaker 1: ain't going to make Kim jealous. This fing to cause

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Speaker 1: a whole lot of other thing. Jealousy gonna be your

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Speaker 1: least of words in the police report. When y'all feel

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Speaker 1: it out jealousy. It's gonna be other things in the

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Speaker 1: police report, like a sault and battery, receiving stolen property.

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Speaker 1: It's gonna be a lot of stuff in this police report,

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Speaker 1: but jealousy won't be in that. That's the dumbest thing

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