1 00:00:01,160 --> 00:00:04,840 Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's Emily about a Here with a fresh episode 2 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:08,319 Speaker 1: of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle, a podcast that talks to 3 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: everyone from entrepreneurs to top CEOs and athletes about how 4 00:00:11,760 --> 00:00:15,480 Speaker 1: they've gotten through tough times hurdles of sorts by leaning 5 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: into wellness. Today, I'm talking to you guys about something 6 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:23,200 Speaker 1: that I mentioned quite often on the podcast, and it's 7 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:26,280 Speaker 1: this idea of what you see when you look in 8 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:26,880 Speaker 1: the mirror. 9 00:00:27,040 --> 00:00:28,760 Speaker 2: First, a little commentary. 10 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:32,560 Speaker 1: Fresh back off the plane from Hawaii, I've got a 11 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 1: nice tan that I am super thankful for, much more 12 00:00:36,120 --> 00:00:38,080 Speaker 1: relaxed than when I left, and. 13 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 2: Just really grateful. I got a lot of messages from. 14 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:46,000 Speaker 1: Many of you while I was gone asking me for 15 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:50,440 Speaker 1: my best tips for traveling solo, and I have recorded 16 00:00:50,479 --> 00:00:53,840 Speaker 1: a Hurdle Moment before on how to be better by yourself. 17 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: But in the wake of all these requests, I will 18 00:00:56,520 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 1: definitely put that solo trip inspo situation on the docket 19 00:01:01,800 --> 00:01:04,760 Speaker 1: for the weeks to come. But I digress. This week's 20 00:01:04,720 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 1: Turtle moment again talking about what we see when we 21 00:01:08,240 --> 00:01:11,399 Speaker 1: look in the mirror, and now weekly on the podcast. 22 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:13,959 Speaker 1: As I get to the end, I typically ask my 23 00:01:14,080 --> 00:01:17,000 Speaker 1: guests to reflect a little bit, and I ask them, 24 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 1: despite what it is that they may see esthetically, who is. 25 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:22,840 Speaker 2: It that they see looking back at them? 26 00:01:22,920 --> 00:01:27,360 Speaker 1: And I've had some really poignant, thoughtful answers in the past, 27 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 1: answers that I think a lot of the guests probably 28 00:01:30,240 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 1: even surprise themselves with. 29 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:32,840 Speaker 2: And I love that. 30 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: And that's because not always do we take the time 31 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:40,240 Speaker 1: to really reflect about what's going on inside, right, and 32 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 1: the hustle and the bustle and things being crazy, and God, 33 00:01:43,760 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: this time of the year, with the holidays and running around, 34 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:50,360 Speaker 1: it can be hard to take that beat to stop 35 00:01:51,080 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: to reflect. But today I'm going to answer that question myself. 36 00:01:55,600 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: I'm going to get honest with you guys about what 37 00:01:57,760 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 1: it is that I see when I look in the mirror. Again, 38 00:02:01,040 --> 00:02:03,440 Speaker 1: going back to this trip that I took to Hawaii, 39 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:05,600 Speaker 1: I had a lot of time to reflect that I 40 00:02:05,720 --> 00:02:09,920 Speaker 1: wasn't taking necessarily before I left New York. You know, 41 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,400 Speaker 1: twelve hours on a plane there, sitting on the beach 42 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: for days listening to the waves, taking another twelve hour 43 00:02:16,280 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: flight back, that's a lot of me time, a lot 44 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: of time to sit with who it is that I am. 45 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:25,560 Speaker 1: And so I just wanted to open up to you 46 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:28,320 Speaker 1: guys and kind of be honest with what I'm feeling 47 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:31,600 Speaker 1: and where I'm at. Now here is my goal. My 48 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:34,480 Speaker 1: goal is that I'm going to open up to you, 49 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:38,680 Speaker 1: and then hopefully you'll open up with yourself, and then 50 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 1: maybe you'll feel comfortable opening up to me. 51 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:42,640 Speaker 2: So what does that look like? 52 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:45,480 Speaker 1: It looks like me talking to you about what it 53 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: is that I see when I look in the mirror. 54 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 1: Then maybe it's you doing this exercise on your own. 55 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:53,200 Speaker 1: Maybe it's talking to yourself in the comfort of your 56 00:02:53,200 --> 00:02:56,079 Speaker 1: own apartment like I'm doing right now. Maybe it's writing 57 00:02:56,080 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: some thoughts down on the subway or on your commute. 58 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:01,480 Speaker 1: And then maybe once you're honest with yourself, you'll feel 59 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:04,120 Speaker 1: comfortable sharing a little bit of that with me, whether 60 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: it's on your Instagram story or over email or whatever 61 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:10,400 Speaker 1: feels right. The goal of this exercise again is to 62 00:03:10,480 --> 00:03:14,760 Speaker 1: hopefully get us all honest with what's going on, not 63 00:03:14,960 --> 00:03:17,960 Speaker 1: because we expect that it's going to be all roses 64 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:22,240 Speaker 1: and perfect and smiles, but because until we take the 65 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 1: opportunity to get honest with ourselves that we cannot make 66 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 1: positive progress, We cannot really grow you guys know the drill. 67 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:31,760 Speaker 1: Tag me with your videos, with your comments, with your 68 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:34,640 Speaker 1: thoughts at Hurdle podcast, at Emily Body, and of course 69 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: always over email. If you have a hurdle moment of 70 00:03:37,320 --> 00:03:39,720 Speaker 1: your own to share, you want to say, Hi, It's 71 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: Emily at Hurdle dot us. And with that, let's get 72 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: to hurdling. What do I see when I look in 73 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:56,680 Speaker 1: the mirror. It's interesting. I actually went to a studio 74 00:03:56,800 --> 00:03:59,240 Speaker 1: of sorts that's relatively new in New York City. It's 75 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:03,080 Speaker 1: called Frequency, And I'm sure, however I explain this right now, 76 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:06,440 Speaker 1: will not be how the company explains what happens in there. 77 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:08,960 Speaker 1: But basically, you walk into a room and you have 78 00:04:09,040 --> 00:04:12,120 Speaker 1: the opportunity to connect with individuals who you don't know 79 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: and talk to them in an open and honest way 80 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 1: that you definitely wouldn't do on the streets. So when 81 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:22,880 Speaker 1: I went to Frequency, I stood in this sphere of 82 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:25,599 Speaker 1: sorts and opened up to one of the co founders, 83 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:28,720 Speaker 1: a man from Israel, and we didn't exercise and where 84 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:33,000 Speaker 1: for one or two minutes, just based off of impressions. 85 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:35,839 Speaker 1: I told him who he is, and then he told 86 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 1: me who I am, and then we switched so it 87 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:43,400 Speaker 1: was phrases like I am a daughter, I am strong, willed, 88 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:47,880 Speaker 1: I am compassionate, things like that, and it was so 89 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:52,760 Speaker 1: interesting to actually see how it is that we describe 90 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:56,960 Speaker 1: ourselves versus some of the nice or maybe outlandish things 91 00:04:56,960 --> 00:04:58,120 Speaker 1: that someone else might say. 92 00:04:58,200 --> 00:04:59,520 Speaker 2: Anyway, I'm rambling. 93 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:02,280 Speaker 1: Basically, what I'm trying to say is that that exercise, 94 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:05,479 Speaker 1: in particular, it really got me thinking about who it 95 00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:06,840 Speaker 1: is that I am. 96 00:05:07,400 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 2: What do I see when I look in the mirror? 97 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:12,280 Speaker 2: So what is it? 98 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:17,120 Speaker 1: Well, I'm going to open my handy cell phone camera 99 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 1: and stare at myself as I do this. This is 100 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:25,279 Speaker 1: not pre rehearsed, all right. When I look in the mirror, 101 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:32,040 Speaker 1: I see a strong woman. I see someone who's been 102 00:05:32,080 --> 00:05:35,880 Speaker 1: through a lot, and a woman that over the past 103 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 1: year has grown more than she could have even anticipated. 104 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:45,320 Speaker 1: I see someone that's motivated beyond belief, and that knows 105 00:05:45,360 --> 00:05:47,400 Speaker 1: that she wants a lot, and that has a lot 106 00:05:47,440 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 1: of big goals, but also recognizes that she needs to 107 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:53,800 Speaker 1: take some time to articulate exactly what those are and 108 00:05:53,839 --> 00:05:54,880 Speaker 1: what she wants. 109 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 2: To do to get to them. 110 00:05:57,000 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 1: I see a body, of course, just my last name, 111 00:06:01,279 --> 00:06:06,480 Speaker 1: but my physical body. This body that I feel at 112 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:10,159 Speaker 1: Sometimes I am so so proud of, and admittedly it, 113 00:06:10,240 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 1: sometimes I'm uncomfortable with. I look down and I see 114 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:17,920 Speaker 1: a stomach that at times has been small and other 115 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: times big. I see some mornings a couple of abs, 116 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:26,240 Speaker 1: and other mornings none at all. And on that note, 117 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 1: I guess I see a fighter. I see someone who 118 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:33,720 Speaker 1: is willing to put in the work, who understands that 119 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: the tough stuff happens for a reason. I see someone 120 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: who's trying to do good and someone that's been hurt. 121 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,120 Speaker 1: I see someone that's just trying to figure it out, 122 00:06:48,160 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: and a person who is compassionate and impulsive and goes 123 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 1: out of their way for people even though maybe they 124 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:59,040 Speaker 1: didn't even ask me for it. I see someone who 125 00:06:59,120 --> 00:07:04,040 Speaker 1: takes risks. I see someone who wants so badly to 126 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 1: be loved and liked, but understands that she's not everybody's 127 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:14,440 Speaker 1: person and that's okay. I see someone who definitely wants 128 00:07:14,480 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 1: to be a partner, but understands more than ever that 129 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 1: she doesn't need a partner to feel whole. I see 130 00:07:21,680 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 1: someone that understands that there's a lot of work to 131 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 1: be done. And I see someone who's willing. 132 00:07:28,200 --> 00:07:30,280 Speaker 2: To do it. I don't know. I feel like I 133 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 2: listed a lot of things. 134 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:34,600 Speaker 1: I think mostly when I look in the mirror, I 135 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 1: just see someone that's determined, someone that is willing to 136 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 1: go after it. And I hope, at the very least 137 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:44,520 Speaker 1: that me talking about these things, me being open about 138 00:07:44,520 --> 00:07:47,440 Speaker 1: these things, me being honest about the fact that I 139 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:52,680 Speaker 1: too struggle with self confidence and articulating exactly what it 140 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 1: is that my goals are. 141 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 2: And that's okay. 142 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: I hope that by sharing this with you, it empowers 143 00:07:58,120 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 1: you to be open and honest with yourself. So, like 144 00:08:01,960 --> 00:08:03,800 Speaker 1: I said in the intro, what I want you to do. 145 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:06,600 Speaker 1: Maybe it's now, maybe it's tonight, maybe it's over the weekend. 146 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:10,240 Speaker 1: Take some time to reflect, to say out loud or 147 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:12,520 Speaker 1: to write down what is it that you see looking 148 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 1: back at you when you look in the mirror. I 149 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 1: don't just want descriptors, although those can be good too. 150 00:08:19,320 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 1: I want you to look deep, to maybe identify what 151 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:25,080 Speaker 1: it is that you want that you don't see, and 152 00:08:25,160 --> 00:08:27,720 Speaker 1: then start to put together a little bit of an 153 00:08:27,760 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 1: action plan of what you can do to make a shift. 154 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:32,560 Speaker 2: It's okay if. 155 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 1: You don't like everything, but what's important is that you're 156 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 1: honest and open with yourself, because until you're open with yourself, 157 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:48,199 Speaker 1: nothing changes. If nothing changes at Emila Body at Hurdle Podcast, 158 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: do me a favor this week. 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