WEBVTT - Confidence or Confidant? 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:03.079 Oh, Hi everybody, Hi, everybody. This is a very exciting 0:00:03.120 --> 0:00:06.880 episode because it's our season finale of season one, which 0:00:06.880 --> 0:00:08.920 doesn't mean we're leaving you for long, because we're just 0:00:08.960 --> 0:00:12.080 taking a three week hiatus and then I will be back. 0:00:12.680 --> 0:00:18.119 So this is our last episode of this portion of 0:00:18.160 --> 0:00:20.680 the podcast, well season. Really it's the end of season 0:00:20.720 --> 0:00:23.119 one and we'll be back in a few weeks with 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:28.240 the beginning of season two. I have to say that 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:31.040 I had the absolute best time playing the Santa Barbara Bowl. 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:33.120 I want to thank everyone who was there. It was 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:36.680 such good vibes, had tons of friends come out, and 0:00:36.760 --> 0:00:39.760 I'm just really excited about my stand up tour. So 0:00:40.360 --> 0:00:43.200 I wanted to give you guys some more stand up dates. 0:00:43.400 --> 0:00:46.800 If you live in Cincinnati. September, I'm coming to Cincinnati. 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:49.080 If you live there, get your tickets. I'm coming to 0:00:49.159 --> 0:00:54.160 Detroit on October one. October two, I'm coming to Indianapolis. 0:00:54.680 --> 0:00:57.560 That's in Indiana, and then October three, I will be 0:00:57.600 --> 0:01:01.360 in Grand Rapids, Michigan. So I am coming to perform 0:01:01.600 --> 0:01:06.440 Taft Theater, Filmore Detroit, Detroit, the Murat in Indianapolis, and 0:01:06.440 --> 0:01:11.800 then Davos Performance Hall in Grand Rapids. And yeah, and 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:13.200 if you don't live in one of those cities, I'm 0:01:13.200 --> 0:01:16.319 probably coming to a city near you. I'm coming to Florida. 0:01:16.440 --> 0:01:19.280 There's a lot of action in Florida. I'm coming to Portland, Maine. 0:01:19.720 --> 0:01:24.600 I'm coming to Jacksonville, Miami Beach, St. Petersburg, going to Arizona, Reno, 0:01:25.280 --> 0:01:28.959 all of my places anyway, look for tickets at Chelsea 0:01:28.959 --> 0:01:34.080 handler dot com, ticket Master Live Nation only fans. So 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:38.880 I am coming to you, and I hope that you 0:01:38.880 --> 0:01:40.880 guys come and see my vaccinated in Horny to our 0:01:40.920 --> 0:01:44.600 because it's so much fun. And I go off, It's 0:01:44.640 --> 0:01:49.800 O g Chelsea. Okay. So we are gonna supplement our 0:01:49.960 --> 0:01:52.280 weeks off with some little nuggets for you to listen 0:01:52.320 --> 0:01:55.520 to each week, and we have some follow ups from 0:01:55.520 --> 0:01:58.960 our callers, which are always, as they say in Espana, 0:01:59.400 --> 0:02:02.720 in crazy play. So I'm very much looking forward to 0:02:02.760 --> 0:02:06.480 continuing to do this podcast for all of our loyal listeners, 0:02:06.480 --> 0:02:08.440 of which we have many, And I want to thank 0:02:08.480 --> 0:02:11.280 all you guys for listening because you've helped make this 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:14.079 a big success. And I am really really looking forward 0:02:14.120 --> 0:02:18.360 to continuing on Sagimos. As they say, I took Spanish 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:20.400 for three years, but I still can only say about 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:24.560 seven words because I'm such a good student. Oh, I'm 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:27.000 reading this book about autism. What is it called a 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:29.760 Man's Guide How to Be Human? I'm Man's Guide to 0:02:29.800 --> 0:02:32.880 Living with Autism? How to be Human? Yeah, Man's Guide 0:02:32.880 --> 0:02:35.000 to Living with autism. Oh my god. It talks about 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:37.960 the brain, and it talks about like how you know, 0:02:38.000 --> 0:02:40.360 there were so many thousands of years where people didn't 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:42.560 know where our brain, Like they thought our heart was 0:02:42.600 --> 0:02:45.000 the brain, or like the think tank of our body 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:48.320 or our liver, and like people didn't understand that the 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:50.880 brain and how you know, it was before science, so 0:02:50.960 --> 0:02:55.079 nobody could even dissect anything or there's no biology like 0:02:55.240 --> 0:02:58.560 in that way. So it's fascinating and how like autistic. 0:02:58.639 --> 0:03:01.239 Like this guy sees grew of words like go get 0:03:01.280 --> 0:03:03.760 me a glass of water doesn't connect in his mind, 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:06.160 go get me a glass of water, like words lined 0:03:06.200 --> 0:03:08.200 up in order don't make any sense to him. He's like, 0:03:08.240 --> 0:03:10.200 I don't. I don't understand why you would even say that. 0:03:10.680 --> 0:03:14.400 So it's just interesting to see how the brain is different. 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:17.320 It's like they're just kind of devoid of emotion, you know, 0:03:17.760 --> 0:03:22.440 which I think is a bonus. I mean it's direct, 0:03:22.560 --> 0:03:25.880 very directed to the point, and it's like, great, that's perfect. 0:03:26.360 --> 0:03:28.280 But this guy was like, listen, it's so hard to 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:31.320 be in your world. Like, imagine the world is built 0:03:31.440 --> 0:03:34.840 for somebody else, everybody else but you, and you're in 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:37.520 this world and you want to be part of it, 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:40.040 but like, you'll never ever be ordering off of the 0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:42.600 same menu as everybody else. And he's like, to be 0:03:42.640 --> 0:03:44.720 a member of society, I have to put the effort 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:47.440 forth even though I don't feel emotional, and he goes, 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:49.920 I understand what it means to be a member of society, 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:52.440 and I would rather be a member of society than 0:03:52.440 --> 0:03:54.280 not be. So I have to work twice as hard 0:03:54.320 --> 0:03:57.400 to be able to communicate and express to people like hey, 0:03:57.440 --> 0:04:00.040 I might not react the way you want because I 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:05.280 have autism. That sounds exhausting for him, I know, I know, yeah, totally. 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:07.520 Well it's going to be changing because now they say, 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:10.040 like one in four kids is autistic. Well I think 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:11.640 that makes a lot of sense because when we think 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:13.560 about growing up, and there was always kids that were 0:04:13.880 --> 0:04:17.000 seemed slightly off or seemed like their social cues were off, 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:19.640 and like, you know, I remember disregarding people like that, 0:04:19.760 --> 0:04:22.200 thinking like there was something wrong with them, and it's like, obviously, 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:24.880 now we know there's nothing wrong with them. But it's 0:04:24.920 --> 0:04:28.480 really enlightening to learn about that stuff because I didn't 0:04:28.480 --> 0:04:32.320 really understand autism. And this book is fucking awesome. Okay, sweetheart, 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:34.599 what are we doing today? What's going on? Sweetheart? We 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:38.120 are We're talking about something that you have an abundance of. Well, 0:04:38.320 --> 0:04:40.760 people perceive that you have an abundant of this breast 0:04:40.839 --> 0:04:45.880 milk confidence, and I would say that you are inherently confident. 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:48.479 Would you say that, sweetheart? From personal experience, I would. 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:51.039 I think that's something people put on me all the time. 0:04:51.080 --> 0:04:53.039 They think I have no fear, and then I'm super confident. 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.120 I'm like, where did I don't know where I left 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:57.440 that impression. No, see, I can separate those two. I 0:04:57.480 --> 0:05:00.640 think that you have a reasonable amount of fear going 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:03.800 into some things, maybe it's a project or an event, 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:08.360 but your confidence surpasses your fear. You are confident enough 0:05:08.480 --> 0:05:12.279 to accept the fear and move forward, which other people aren't. 0:05:12.320 --> 0:05:14.360 I think that's why people perceive you as being so 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:19.040 confident that you'll go into things, maybe blindly sometimes yeah, right, 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:21.160 I have the confidence in my ability to get through 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:23.960 it and to make it a positive experience. Yes, I do. 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:25.960 I do have that. I believe in myself. A lot 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:27.960 of people don't have that. A lot of people have 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:31.920 issues in so many aspects of their lives with their confidence, 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:34.880 whether it be at work, at home, with their body. 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:37.440 And so I think you're really I think you're gonna 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:39.720 have a lot to say for this episode. Yes, well, 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:41.400 well that's what we're here for. We're here to build 0:05:41.400 --> 0:05:43.560 people up, right. We want everybody to be a little 0:05:43.560 --> 0:05:46.240 bit braver and a little bit more confident. I had 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:48.560 to say. I was seeing a patient earlier today on 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:50.760 the telephone. I was talking to a friend of mine 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:53.760 who was going through something difficult with her daughter, and 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:57.840 she really was a hot mess. And I spent about 0:05:57.839 --> 0:06:00.400 an hour on the phone with her, like her voice 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:03.600 was shaking and and and there was such fragility in 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:06.880 her voice that I was I just I felt her 0:06:06.920 --> 0:06:09.559 pain so much. And then by the time we got off, 0:06:09.640 --> 0:06:12.720 she was a little bit stronger and a little bit calmer, 0:06:13.560 --> 0:06:17.640 and I told her to do some serious deep breathing exercises. 0:06:17.839 --> 0:06:20.400 And so that's an example for me of people in 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:22.880 my life that don't have that confidence, and I just 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:25.440 I wish I could just you know, you wish you 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:28.400 could just inject them. Yeah, I want to get injected 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:31.160 with a small syringe, but the syringes I used for 0:06:31.240 --> 0:06:33.600 my peptides in the morning, and just give it to 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:35.960 people and be like, here's your confidence shot. You know, 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:39.279 everyone has it in them, within them, they just have 0:06:39.360 --> 0:06:40.760 to tap into it. But I think that you are 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:42.520 able to give that to them in a way just 0:06:42.720 --> 0:06:46.719 by practicing what you preach, that you are able to 0:06:46.760 --> 0:06:49.120 show them that confidence by doing what you say you're 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:51.360 going to do and by operating in a certain way 0:06:51.400 --> 0:06:53.560 like that is powerful for people to see. And we've 0:06:53.560 --> 0:06:55.360 heard it because people will call in and say that 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:57.839 that through your example, they've been able to find that 0:06:57.920 --> 0:07:00.279 strength of that resilience or whatever. That is not tuting 0:07:00.320 --> 0:07:02.560 your own horn. But I do think it's important that 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:05.840 people in our lives set those sort of examples, because 0:07:05.880 --> 0:07:07.839 you really are able to kind of harness your own 0:07:07.880 --> 0:07:09.960 confidence when you see it through someone else. Well. I 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:12.560 just did it also this morning when I was in 0:07:12.680 --> 0:07:14.920 Beverly Hills because I had to go to a dermatologist 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:17.280 to talk about doing something to my under eyed skin 0:07:17.360 --> 0:07:20.440 because it's so creepy. So there's some CEO two laser 0:07:20.480 --> 0:07:22.480 you can do. And I was over there. I aunted 0:07:22.520 --> 0:07:24.840 that to her full face and yeah, but it seems 0:07:24.880 --> 0:07:27.120 like that's a big thing. Yeah, she it was sand 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:28.920 blest stuff. I will say. The recovery time was very 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:30.440 quick for her. That's what I need to talk to 0:07:30.440 --> 0:07:32.080 you about. She told me I could make the recovery 0:07:32.080 --> 0:07:34.480 time four days or two weeks. I'm like, that's like 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:36.600 when you go into a drug store and there's used 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:39.000 infection cure and it's like, you have a used infection. 0:07:39.040 --> 0:07:41.760 They're like, okay, here's monost at seven for seven days, 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:44.200 and here's the one day. It's like, why the fuck 0:07:44.440 --> 0:07:47.240 what I want to go on? That needs to be 0:07:47.320 --> 0:07:50.840 a quick rapper days. Why wouldn't you take the fucking 0:07:50.880 --> 0:07:53.800 one off? It's so stupid anyway, so we'll we'll talk 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:55.760 about that. I don't know. She said I should do 0:07:55.800 --> 0:07:57.720 it to my upper eyes and lower eyes to make 0:07:57.720 --> 0:08:00.160 the skin a little bit tighter there. But that not 0:08:00.240 --> 0:08:02.920 my bravery story. That's just me, you know, being vain. 0:08:03.480 --> 0:08:06.440 I left there and I was in Beverly Hills, which 0:08:06.640 --> 0:08:10.280 I really don't enjoy being in because it's just only 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:12.800 in the mornings. In the afternoons, there's just it's just 0:08:12.880 --> 0:08:15.760 too much for me. Anyway, I thought, I'm so sick 0:08:15.760 --> 0:08:17.720 of looking at my purse. This is my opportunity to 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:19.640 go to Neimans and get a new purse, because the 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:21.960 purse is something that I can't have another person buy 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:28.880 for me. So I I fucking hate shopping. I don't 0:08:28.920 --> 0:08:31.920 do it. I don't want to do it, and there's 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:34.200 nothing of interest to be about it. I wish I 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:37.080 could say it interested me, just to appease some of 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:39.440 my friends who like to talk about that sort of thing. 0:08:39.480 --> 0:08:42.960 But I can't get into it. So but I said 0:08:43.000 --> 0:08:44.600 to myself, I was like, you can't do this, like 0:08:44.640 --> 0:08:46.840 you're an adult. You can go there. It's only ten thirty, 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:49.400 it won't be crowded, like you know exactly where you go. 0:08:49.480 --> 0:08:51.840 I always just go straight to the same brand that 0:08:51.920 --> 0:08:56.000 I always buy, which is not worth mentioning. And I 0:08:56.080 --> 0:08:57.720 go and I went in and I was like, this 0:08:57.760 --> 0:08:58.920 is fine, this is fine. You have to go to 0:08:58.960 --> 0:09:00.880 the bathroom by the time you give them the credit 0:09:00.880 --> 0:09:03.400 card to do that transaction, which for some reason takes 0:09:03.840 --> 0:09:06.520 an inordinate amount of time close to minutes to ring 0:09:06.600 --> 0:09:09.200 up a purse. I'm not sure what. And then she 0:09:09.320 --> 0:09:11.520 was wrapping, I was like, please, I just want to 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:13.800 put everything in my old purse in this purse, and 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:16.000 you can take this and throw it in the garbage. 0:09:16.800 --> 0:09:19.160 And I hope that's what she did, or maybe somebody 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:21.240 wanted it. I doubt it. It was so ugly and 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:24.160 beat up, but you did it anyway. That was my confidence. 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:26.560 I don't really think that applies to what we're talking about, 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:28.599 but that was I needed to have the confidence that 0:09:28.640 --> 0:09:32.079 I could go in as finish the task and accomplish 0:09:32.160 --> 0:09:34.720 the task without being annoyed that I had to go 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:37.160 into You know, well, I would argue that it does 0:09:37.200 --> 0:09:39.960 align with it because it's we've talked about this as well, 0:09:40.000 --> 0:09:41.440 that you have to do those little things that make 0:09:41.480 --> 0:09:45.440 you uncomfortable because it's filling your confidence bank. Okay, well, 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:48.400 I think my confidence bank is pretty full, So let's 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:50.679 fill some other people's confidence banks. All right, Well, let's 0:09:50.679 --> 0:09:54.240 start with Meg. She is thirty years old. She writes, 0:09:54.240 --> 0:09:56.000 Dear Chelsea, one of the things I love about you 0:09:56.080 --> 0:09:58.199 is how confident you come across. This is something i've 0:09:58.200 --> 0:10:00.439 always struggled with so I've tried to become an nudist 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:03.280 in private to try and be more confident. I know 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:06.000 you sometimes post naked post on social media, so I 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:08.000 was wondering if you had any advice and if being 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:11.160 naked could help my confidence. Lots of love, Meg, Yeah, 0:10:11.240 --> 0:10:13.600 I think so. I think there is something to being naked, 0:10:13.679 --> 0:10:17.560 Hi Meg, or No, she's not okay. It's like, I 0:10:17.559 --> 0:10:19.800 still don't understand what we're doing here. I know the 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:22.600 other day you exited off of our zoom that we 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:25.480 need for this because you just I thought that was 0:10:25.520 --> 0:10:27.560 how you said goodbye. You just wanted to get get 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:29.679 it wrapped up. Yes, I think there is a lot 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:32.840 of confidence that comes with nudity and also accepting your flaws, 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:35.240 right because I have cellulite, I have all the things 0:10:35.280 --> 0:10:37.240 that like girls don't like to have, and then you 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:38.720 start to look at it and you're like, oh, this 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.240 is kind of part of my life. I mean, I 0:10:41.360 --> 0:10:43.880 work out and I'm very vain and I'm into being 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:46.319 fit and all of that too. So but it's all 0:10:46.559 --> 0:10:49.239 like a nice package, and there is something very liberating 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:53.920 about walking around nude and kind of like really loving 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:57.560 on yourself and loving your body because it's really the 0:10:57.600 --> 0:10:59.440 only one you've got, so you might as well start 0:10:59.480 --> 0:11:01.400 to enjoy it, right right. You know who does a 0:11:01.400 --> 0:11:08.640 great job with this is Lizzo Yeah, and Ashley Graham. Yes, yeah. 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:10.600 I think that there needs to be more of that 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.520 because this is a good practice to put in place, 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:16.200 because I think the more you see what you feel 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:19.120 as a flaw, the more normalized it becomes, so it's 0:11:19.120 --> 0:11:21.400 not something that seems so out of place because your 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:23.280 clothes so often. So I guess the more you could 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:27.319 be nude to assess and accept your body as it is, 0:11:27.520 --> 0:11:31.760 the more confident you could become. Yes, agreed, absolutely. I 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:35.360 think also we tend to fixate sometimes on partions of 0:11:35.360 --> 0:11:37.800 our body, like you have been doing with your lower 0:11:37.840 --> 0:11:41.080 ab thing popping out. We fixate on things, and I 0:11:41.200 --> 0:11:43.000 certainly do the same thing, and then all of a 0:11:43.080 --> 0:11:46.640 sudden you get over it somehow. I used to fixate 0:11:46.720 --> 0:11:49.080 on this, like I have this like tiny little dimple 0:11:49.160 --> 0:11:52.640 on my arm, and I was psychotic about it. I 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:54.719 remember when I was like on Chelsea lately, like I'd 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:56.199 be like, can you see that dimple? Can you see 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:58.360 that dimple? I still have that dimple on my arm, 0:11:58.400 --> 0:11:59.880 but I don't even give a shit about it, and 0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:02.680 more because I just got over it. So when you 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:05.720 are fixated on certain things in your body, it's good 0:12:05.760 --> 0:12:08.520 to try to like push through to the other side 0:12:08.880 --> 0:12:12.160 and accept it so that attention can go elsewhere towards 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:14.920 like positive vibes, towards yourself, rather than being like, oh, 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:17.320 I fucking hate this part of my body. It's like, 0:12:17.400 --> 0:12:20.160 you're healthy, you're strong, and you're getting stronger. If you're 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:23.240 working towards, you know, getting stronger. Well, I think part 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:25.520 of that is also investing energy into the things that 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:27.439 you have or the things that you can enhance. So 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:31.839 like you have an insane amount of ab strength, you're 0:12:31.880 --> 0:12:34.600 just a strong woman. Here we go, sweethearts, jealous of 0:12:34.640 --> 0:12:37.280 my ab strength and this has always been it with you. 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:40.080 I just think that if you can re apply that 0:12:40.200 --> 0:12:42.600 energy into other areas, Like for me, maybe my abs 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:44.760 are never going to be what I want them to be. 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:47.240 But for whatever reason, my chest grows really quickly, and 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:50.439 I guess a lot of men have. I would like 0:12:50.480 --> 0:12:52.000 my chest to be as big as yours, so I'll 0:12:52.080 --> 0:12:53.800 keep working on that. But I think also it's just 0:12:53.880 --> 0:12:57.000 reapplying that purpose and energy into something else, like, don't 0:12:57.040 --> 0:12:59.079 focus and I'm you know, I'm saying this because I'm 0:12:59.080 --> 0:13:01.120 working on this as well. Don't focus on the things 0:13:01.120 --> 0:13:03.120 that your body is not doing for you, focus on 0:13:03.160 --> 0:13:05.000 the things that it is doing. Yeah, there you go. 0:13:05.480 --> 0:13:10.080 Problem solved. Thanks Meg. Okay, let's go to break for 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:12.360 a second so that we can gather and collect ourselves 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:19.400 and come back fuller and stronger and more voluptuous. Okay, 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:22.840 what's our next submission, Brandon? Our next submission comes from 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:26.840 Brittany Spears. We need to talk to her. Well, actually 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:28.480 we need to talk to like her dad says she 0:13:28.480 --> 0:13:31.960 has dementia. He has fucking dementia. Fuck her father. Fuck 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:35.760 Britney Spears father. Give her to her mother. If somebody's 0:13:35.760 --> 0:13:37.880 gonna have a she's gonna have a conservator, let it 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:41.520 be her mother. She needs a maternal character. Yeah, seriously, 0:13:41.880 --> 0:13:46.360 I mean, she's got dementia. Maybe because people lobotomized her, 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:52.160 could be probably rejected her with dementia? Is that? Poor girl? 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:54.520 Poor girl? You know what, I don't want to have 0:13:54.559 --> 0:13:56.240 a child, But if somebody said you have to take 0:13:56.280 --> 0:13:58.600 care of Britney Spears, I fucking would and she probably 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:01.679 thrive under your way. Yeah, well, she would get all 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:04.120 the help she needs, and she would be allowed to 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:06.280 do what she wants when she wants, and figure out 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:08.559 a way for her to get back together with her children. 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:11.680 She doesn't even see her children. There's a much different 0:14:11.679 --> 0:14:16.320 priority in place now for younger stars and their mental health. 0:14:16.480 --> 0:14:17.960 Like I think a lot of them are kind of 0:14:17.960 --> 0:14:20.560 forced to see a therapist and forced to take time. 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:24.200 They're not workhorses like she was. So it's really interesting 0:14:24.200 --> 0:14:27.400 to see the Ariana Grande is a Demilovado's Taylor Swifts, 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:31.040 who I think have a better foundation for kind of 0:14:31.040 --> 0:14:32.880 a work life balance even though they seem to be 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:35.280 working all the Yeah, I mean, Justin Bieber kind of 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:37.880 lost his way. He didn't get at fifty put on 0:14:37.920 --> 0:14:40.880 him and put in a mental hospital like this happens 0:14:40.880 --> 0:14:43.800 to guys too, so sexist. On top of it, I 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:47.680 would love a man in charge of a girl. Thank 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:53.280 god he's stepping down, Good riddance, Thank you for listening. Well, 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:55.520 I mean, I'm not part of the free Brittney tribe, 0:14:55.520 --> 0:14:58.400 even though I believe in the free Brittney tribe. So 0:14:58.800 --> 0:15:01.680 thank thank God for the sitting period and on their 0:15:01.680 --> 0:15:05.840 behalf and on Britney's behalf. Where were we, Brandon, We're 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:09.240 with Brittany. Brittany is out of Miami. She's twenty three. 0:15:09.680 --> 0:15:12.840 She's on the phone. Her submission says, Dear Chelsea, I've 0:15:12.840 --> 0:15:15.320 always admired you because of your confidence. I'm very much 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:17.240 the same way when it comes to my personal life. 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:19.560 I have the confidence of a six eight m v 0:15:19.680 --> 0:15:23.320 P n B. A player that's aboutful. The problem is, 0:15:23.360 --> 0:15:25.720 now that I am transitioning into adulthood, I realized that 0:15:25.760 --> 0:15:28.200 I don't have the same confidence in my professional life. 0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:31.400 I'm currently applying for grad school for film and video production. 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:33.760 I know it is a male dominated profession and I 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:36.680 shouldn't let that shake me, but it does. Any advice 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:39.360 for a young woman going into a male dominated industry, 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:45.680 Thanks Brittany. Brittany, Hi, hi, bt So tell us about 0:15:45.840 --> 0:15:48.840 how do you feel like you're lacking confidence lately as 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:52.840 comparable to your previous life. Yeah. I think it's just 0:15:52.880 --> 0:15:58.280 a mixture of being young and having no experience in 0:15:58.320 --> 0:16:01.680 the field I want to go into and knowing that 0:16:01.720 --> 0:16:04.880 like I'm a Latina woman going into this very male 0:16:04.960 --> 0:16:10.920 doated industry. And so I find that a little nerve wracking, 0:16:10.960 --> 0:16:13.920 I guess, even though like in my personal life, I've 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:16.760 always never let any of that shake me. Um. I know, 0:16:16.840 --> 0:16:19.280 even underestimated for being a woman, for being Latina, for 0:16:19.360 --> 0:16:22.480 being all these things, but it's never gotten to me. 0:16:22.560 --> 0:16:26.360 And I think it's also the transition of going from 0:16:26.360 --> 0:16:28.800 being a student my whole life to actually being a 0:16:28.840 --> 0:16:33.760 professional adult. And so yeah, I think that's my main issue. 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:36.560 And what light of work are you in? She's going 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:40.160 to grad school for film and video production, right, Okay, Well, 0:16:40.320 --> 0:16:42.880 I would say right off the bat, you're in an 0:16:42.920 --> 0:16:46.680 advantageous position right now. You're Latina. That's a good thing. 0:16:46.960 --> 0:16:49.960 That's a good thing. Everyone is being forced to recognize 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:53.520 Latino X people when they're interviewing for jobs in a 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:56.000 way that they haven't been before. And that includes all 0:16:56.040 --> 0:16:59.080 the men that you're intimidated by, So they actually should 0:16:59.120 --> 0:17:01.400 be intimidated by you. So you just need to bring 0:17:01.440 --> 0:17:04.240 it because you know what I mean, They are listening 0:17:04.520 --> 0:17:07.040 and you have an advantage to go in there and 0:17:07.119 --> 0:17:09.840 just knock their socks off. Sorry to use that expression, 0:17:09.880 --> 0:17:11.639 I sound like my father, but I couldn't think of 0:17:11.680 --> 0:17:14.920 anything better. Sometimes I sound like I'm elderly, sweetheart. Well 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:17.159 you're entering that stage of life. I am transitioning into 0:17:17.200 --> 0:17:20.560 an elderly woman. But anyway, Brittany, Yeah, you should have 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:22.439 all the confidence in the world because you have to 0:17:22.560 --> 0:17:27.640 use this moment in time is unique for all marginalized communities. 0:17:27.840 --> 0:17:30.639 You have an advantage now, I know it. Probably I 0:17:30.680 --> 0:17:32.480 can't say that across the board because a lot of 0:17:32.480 --> 0:17:34.480 people are trying to implement that advantage. But you're going 0:17:34.520 --> 0:17:36.680 to end up at a place that is actually serious 0:17:36.720 --> 0:17:40.040 about making change in their company, and so you should 0:17:40.160 --> 0:17:44.159 use that in accompaniment with your skills, with everything that 0:17:44.160 --> 0:17:46.560 you're learning in school, like you're ready to hit a 0:17:46.600 --> 0:17:50.320 home run. So I don't know what the problem is. Yeah, 0:17:50.440 --> 0:17:54.120 I think the mixture of the pressure of like, yeah, 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:57.160 all that change is happening, and now I'm being thrown 0:17:57.200 --> 0:17:59.520 in to that change and to be one of the 0:17:59.560 --> 0:18:02.560 first Growing up, all I saw was especially in the 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:05.760 industry acting. I never even knew there's a hole behind 0:18:05.760 --> 0:18:09.480 the scenes side of this career, and I didn't realize 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:11.240 that tool was older, and so all I knew was 0:18:11.240 --> 0:18:15.960 the latina was the nanny, the maid, the gangster's girlfriend, 0:18:16.320 --> 0:18:19.280 and like how I was portrayed in that industry kind 0:18:19.280 --> 0:18:21.720 of took me aback a bit, and so I was like, 0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:24.320 why is this something I want to go into? And 0:18:24.359 --> 0:18:27.159 then I think now, like I have a chance to 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:29.680 make that difference, to be the person behind the scenes 0:18:30.280 --> 0:18:33.840 to make that recognition, and I think the pressure of 0:18:33.880 --> 0:18:37.960 that also might be Yeah, but what a great motivator. 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:40.520 You're looking at it as pressure, where it's just such 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:42.879 a great boost you know what I mean, It's a 0:18:42.920 --> 0:18:45.680 boost in like you're going to set the tone. Yeah, 0:18:45.680 --> 0:18:48.880 it's a huge responsibility, but go in there and make 0:18:49.000 --> 0:18:52.399 every every Latina girl proud of you and paved the 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:57.000 way for them to follow in your footsteps. Huge opportunity here, Brandon. Yeah. Well, 0:18:57.040 --> 0:18:59.639 and some people can perform and thrive under pressure, and 0:18:59.720 --> 0:19:01.960 i've you're one of those people. I think so too. 0:19:02.040 --> 0:19:03.680 I think you need to believe that you're one of 0:19:03.720 --> 0:19:05.879 those people first, So you just need to accept that 0:19:05.920 --> 0:19:07.720 for what it is. The pressure is not a bad thing. 0:19:07.760 --> 0:19:10.120 The pressure, like Chelsea said, is going to motivate you 0:19:10.400 --> 0:19:13.040 to do your best to get the representation for the 0:19:13.040 --> 0:19:16.280 community that you weren't fortunate enough to see. Like the 0:19:16.320 --> 0:19:20.199 momentum is working in your favor right now. And I 0:19:20.200 --> 0:19:21.960 don't know exactly what you want to do, but I 0:19:21.960 --> 0:19:23.440 just want to tell you about someone that we both 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:25.520 work with. Her name is Darling Higgins, and she is 0:19:25.560 --> 0:19:28.680 one of the most like respected people in her field. 0:19:28.720 --> 0:19:31.960