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Thanks for listening to 38 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:36,720 Speaker 3: our podcast and thanks for supporting the ministry. 39 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:39,240 Speaker 1: If you enjoy today's message, why don't you be a 40 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:40,759 Speaker 1: blessing and share it with a friend. 41 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 3: We appreciate you and pray for God's very best in 42 00:01:43,920 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 3: your life. Now, God bless you. It's a joy to 43 00:01:57,600 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 3: come into your homes. We love you, we know God 44 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 3: has good things in store for you, and we just 45 00:02:03,480 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 3: appreciate you tuning in and if you're ever in our area. 46 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,560 Speaker 3: I hope you stop by and be a part of 47 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 3: one of our services. I promise you it will make 48 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 3: you feel right at home. But thanks for being with 49 00:02:13,160 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 3: us today. Thanks for all of you for coming out 50 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:17,400 Speaker 3: as well. I like to get started each week with 51 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:20,000 Speaker 3: something funny, and I heard about this man. He was 52 00:02:20,160 --> 00:02:23,480 Speaker 3: quietly reading his newspaper. His wife snuck up behind him 53 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:25,519 Speaker 3: and hit him on the head with a frying pan. 54 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:28,959 Speaker 3: He said, what was that for? She said, that was 55 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 3: for the note I found in your pocket with the 56 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 3: name Mary Lou on it. He said, oh, honey, that 57 00:02:34,480 --> 00:02:36,519 Speaker 3: was just one of the horses that I bet on 58 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:40,800 Speaker 3: at the racetrack last week. She apologized when about her business, 59 00:02:40,919 --> 00:02:43,040 Speaker 3: and three days later she snuck up and hit him 60 00:02:43,040 --> 00:02:45,320 Speaker 3: on the head with a bigger frying pan. When he 61 00:02:45,440 --> 00:02:47,200 Speaker 3: came to, he said, what in the world was that for? 62 00:02:47,720 --> 00:02:54,119 Speaker 3: She said, your horse just called you. All right, hold 63 00:02:54,200 --> 00:02:56,679 Speaker 3: up your Bible, say it like you mean it. This 64 00:02:57,000 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 3: is my Bible. I am what it says I am. 65 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:02,959 Speaker 3: I have what it says I have. I can do 66 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:05,799 Speaker 3: what it says I can do. Today I will be 67 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:10,120 Speaker 3: taught the word of God. I boldly confess. My mind 68 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 3: is alert, my heart is receptive, I will never be 69 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:19,240 Speaker 3: the same. In Jesus' name, God bless you. I want 70 00:03:19,280 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 3: to talk to you today about your self esteem and 71 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 3: how important it is to think the right thoughts about ourselves. 72 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 3: Every one of us has a conversation going on with 73 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:35,840 Speaker 3: ourselves throughout the day. It's called our internal dialogue. In fact, 74 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,880 Speaker 3: we talk more to ourselves than we do anybody else, 75 00:03:39,640 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 3: and sometimes we've been doing it for so long it's 76 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 3: like a record that plays over and over. This can 77 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 3: either be good or bad. It depends on how we're 78 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 3: talking to ourselves. What do you meditate on positive thoughts, 79 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:58,760 Speaker 3: empowering thoughts, affirming thoughts, or do you go around, like 80 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 3: a lot of people think negative, defeated thoughts. I'm unattractive, 81 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:06,680 Speaker 3: I'm not talented. I've made a lot of mistakes, Joel, 82 00:04:06,840 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 3: I'm sure God's not pleased with me. It's this kind 83 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 3: of negative self talk that keeps so many people from 84 00:04:13,720 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 3: rising higher. And when I say we talk to ourselves, 85 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 3: sometimes it's even subconsciously. You're not even really thinking about it, 86 00:04:21,839 --> 00:04:24,120 Speaker 3: but in the back of your mind you have these 87 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 3: reoccurring thoughts, and for most people it's always negative. I'm clumsy, 88 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 3: I'll never overcome my past. I don't have what it takes. 89 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 3: All through the day, they allow this defeated voice to 90 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 3: talk to them. They see somebody that's successful, somebody that's achieving, 91 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:44,240 Speaker 3: that voice tells them that will never happen for me. 92 00:04:44,760 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 3: I don't have what they have. I'm not that talented. 93 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 3: Or they see somebody that's in shape, somebody that looks good, healthy, 94 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 3: that voice tells them, I'm just not that disciplined. I'll 95 00:04:54,720 --> 00:04:58,279 Speaker 3: never get back in shape. There's something on the inside 96 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 3: that's constantly telling something is wrong with them. You're not 97 00:05:03,320 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 3: a good mother, you didn't work hard enough last week, 98 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:09,720 Speaker 3: you got too many weaknesses. And if we make the 99 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 3: mistake of dwelling on these lines and we allow this 100 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:17,360 Speaker 3: negative self talk to take root, it not only saddens 101 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:20,280 Speaker 3: our spirit, but it limits how high we can go 102 00:05:20,440 --> 00:05:24,480 Speaker 3: in life. And too many people are in mediocrity because 103 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:28,840 Speaker 3: they're constantly playing that negative record day after day, over 104 00:05:28,960 --> 00:05:31,839 Speaker 3: and over again. And I found that some of these 105 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 3: wrong thinking patterns has started way back from childhood. The 106 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 3: people that should have been nurturing us and telling us 107 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:42,840 Speaker 3: what we could become, building our confidence, they did just 108 00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:45,800 Speaker 3: the opposite. I know people that are stuck in a 109 00:05:45,920 --> 00:05:51,160 Speaker 3: rut all because growing up, somebody mistreated them, somebody rejected them, 110 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:55,479 Speaker 3: a parent of spouse spoke negative words over them. They 111 00:05:55,520 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 3: didn't know any better. They just let it take root. 112 00:05:58,080 --> 00:06:01,720 Speaker 3: And now those wrong thinking or what's keeping them from 113 00:06:01,760 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 3: becoming all God's created them to be. It starts right here. 114 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:10,040 Speaker 3: We have to reprogram our computer. Please, don't lie in 115 00:06:10,120 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 3: bed every morning thinking about everything that's wrong with you. 116 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:17,719 Speaker 3: Don't lie there and rehearse all your mistakes, thinking about 117 00:06:17,760 --> 00:06:20,200 Speaker 3: what you can't do and how you don't have what 118 00:06:20,320 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 3: it takes. Does it matter who may have told you that, 119 00:06:24,000 --> 00:06:27,040 Speaker 3: doesn't matter who has rejected you, doesn't matter how many 120 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:29,640 Speaker 3: times you've tried and failed. You've got to shake that 121 00:06:29,800 --> 00:06:33,000 Speaker 3: off and put on the new record. You should be 122 00:06:33,120 --> 00:06:35,600 Speaker 3: dwelling on things like I am a child of the 123 00:06:35,680 --> 00:06:38,840 Speaker 3: Most High God. I have a bright future. God is 124 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:42,920 Speaker 3: pleased with me. I am talented, I am creative, I 125 00:06:43,120 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 3: have what it takes. I will fulfill my destiny. That's 126 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 3: the way we should be talking to ourselves, not in arrogance, 127 00:06:51,960 --> 00:06:55,520 Speaker 3: but in a quiet confidence deep down on the inside. 128 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 3: All through the day, we should hear things like I 129 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:02,600 Speaker 3: am annoying. It called I am chosen, I am equipped, 130 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 3: this is my season. Our internal dialogue should always be 131 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 3: positive and hopeful. We should always talk to ourselves with 132 00:07:11,440 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 3: these empowering, affirming thoughts. We have to get out of 133 00:07:15,480 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 3: the habit of thinking negative faults toward ourselves. Don't go 134 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:24,960 Speaker 3: around ever saying I'm so slow, I'm unattractive, I'll never 135 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 3: overcome my past. Now, get those phrases out of your vocabulary. 136 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 3: If you make the mistake of dwelling on that junk, 137 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 3: it will set the limits for your life. And you 138 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 3: may have gone through a lot in the past, you 139 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:40,200 Speaker 3: may have had some unfair things happen, but don't allow 140 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:44,080 Speaker 3: that to continue to pull you down by constantly playing 141 00:07:44,120 --> 00:07:48,280 Speaker 3: the negative record about yourself. You believe what you say 142 00:07:48,360 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 3: about yourself more than you believe what anybody else says. Now, 143 00:07:51,920 --> 00:07:53,880 Speaker 3: I can tell you all day long that God's got 144 00:07:53,880 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 3: a great plan for your life. He has a bright 145 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 3: future in store for you. But until you get it 146 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 3: down on the inside and start replaying it over and 147 00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:05,560 Speaker 3: over throughout the day, it's not going to do you 148 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:09,320 Speaker 3: any good. And I'm asking you today to pay attention 149 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:13,000 Speaker 3: to how you talk to yourself. And I never want 150 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 3: to come off as being arrogant, But you know what 151 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:18,280 Speaker 3: plays in my mind all day long. Joy. You have 152 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 3: what it takes. You can do what God's called you 153 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 3: to do. You're talented, you're creative, you're strong in the Lord. 154 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:27,880 Speaker 3: You're well able to fulfill your destiny. If you, too, 155 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 3: will talk to yourself in the right way, you'll not 156 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:34,959 Speaker 3: only enjoy your life more, but you'll rise higher to 157 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:37,640 Speaker 3: a new level of confidence, a new level of boldness, 158 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:40,319 Speaker 3: and you'll become all that God's created. 159 00:08:39,960 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 5: You to be. 160 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:42,760 Speaker 3: And I read a study where they took a group 161 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:46,880 Speaker 3: of college students and they gave them special eyeglasses that 162 00:08:47,040 --> 00:08:51,000 Speaker 3: turned everything upside down, totally opposite of what it should be. 163 00:08:51,559 --> 00:08:54,320 Speaker 3: In the first few days, it was total confusion. They 164 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:57,679 Speaker 3: were stumbling over everything. They couldn't read or write. They 165 00:08:57,720 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 3: had to be led to class. I mean they could 166 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 3: even function. But day after day, little by little, they 167 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 3: started getting used to it. By the end of the 168 00:09:07,480 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 3: first week, they were able to go to class on 169 00:09:09,760 --> 00:09:12,160 Speaker 3: their own. They didn't need any help to get around. 170 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,800 Speaker 3: And these researchers were so intrigued by it they decided 171 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 3: to keep the experiment going. After one month, those students 172 00:09:20,200 --> 00:09:24,520 Speaker 3: had totally adapted to it, their mind had compensated for it, 173 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:27,720 Speaker 3: and now they could read without any problem, they could write, 174 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:31,600 Speaker 3: do their homework, type on the computer, all upside down. 175 00:09:32,679 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 3: This is exactly what can happen to us if we 176 00:09:36,080 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 3: go around with these wrong mindsets long enough, telling ourselves, well, 177 00:09:40,920 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 3: I'm not a good parent, I've made too many mistakes. 178 00:09:44,120 --> 00:09:47,800 Speaker 3: Nothing good ever happens to me. Just like those college students, 179 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 3: even though it's totally backwards, even though it's not the 180 00:09:51,320 --> 00:09:55,400 Speaker 3: way God created us, our minds will eventually adapt and 181 00:09:55,520 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 3: adjust and will end up living at that level. Some 182 00:09:59,160 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 3: of you today, your world is kind of upside down. 183 00:10:02,360 --> 00:10:05,920 Speaker 3: In other words, you're living far below your potential, feeling 184 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:10,079 Speaker 3: wrong about yourself, without the confidence, the self esteem, And 185 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:14,440 Speaker 3: it's all because of what you're constantly telling yourself. Your 186 00:10:14,600 --> 00:10:19,320 Speaker 3: internal dialogue is negative. You have to change that before 187 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:22,960 Speaker 3: anything else will change. I saw a lady on television 188 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:25,480 Speaker 3: last week. She had lost one hundred and seventy five 189 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:28,720 Speaker 3: pounds and she had surgery to remove the excess skin, 190 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:31,960 Speaker 3: and everything went great. They showed the before and after 191 00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:36,199 Speaker 3: picture and she looked fantastic. Night and day difference, But 192 00:10:36,440 --> 00:10:39,520 Speaker 3: several months later, they went back to interview her, and 193 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:43,600 Speaker 3: she was so depressed. She would hardly eat anything, no joy, 194 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:46,800 Speaker 3: no victory. And they said, hey, what's wrong. You look great, 195 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:50,559 Speaker 3: you look fantastic. She said, yeah, that's what everybody's telling me. 196 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 3: But I guess in my mind, I'll always be a fat, 197 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:58,520 Speaker 3: unattractive lady. I thought, you hit the nail on the head. 198 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:02,040 Speaker 3: It's in your mind. She had changed on the outside, 199 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:05,360 Speaker 3: but she had not changed on the inside. She was 200 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:09,479 Speaker 3: still playing that old negative record, I'm fat, I'm unattractive, 201 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:12,079 Speaker 3: I'll never be happy. She could have gotten down to 202 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 3: ninety pounds, she still wouldn't have been happy. You gotta 203 00:11:14,840 --> 00:11:18,640 Speaker 3: quit listening to all the voices that are pulling you down. 204 00:11:19,440 --> 00:11:21,199 Speaker 3: You may not look like you stepped out of a 205 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:24,000 Speaker 3: fashion magazine, but I can tell you this. You were 206 00:11:24,120 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 3: made in the image of Almighty God. God formed you 207 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:32,800 Speaker 3: with his own hands. Quit allowing those negative voices to 208 00:11:32,920 --> 00:11:36,080 Speaker 3: put you down. Don't ever say to yourself, I'm fat, 209 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 3: I'm unattractive, I'll never lose this way, I don't like 210 00:11:39,280 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 3: my hair. No, as long as you're rejecting yourself, you 211 00:11:42,880 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 3: will never be happy, and you will be amazed at 212 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:48,560 Speaker 3: how much more you'll enjoy your life and how much 213 00:11:48,679 --> 00:11:51,319 Speaker 3: better you will feel if you'll learn to talk to 214 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:55,000 Speaker 3: yourself in the right way, in a positive manner. And 215 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 3: even when we make mistakes, even when we do wrong, 216 00:11:57,840 --> 00:12:00,240 Speaker 3: don't go around saying, well, I can't do anything right, 217 00:12:00,800 --> 00:12:04,400 Speaker 3: I'm so clumsy, I'm so slow. I've played sports with 218 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:06,680 Speaker 3: people and they make a mistake and they just beat 219 00:12:06,720 --> 00:12:10,000 Speaker 3: themselves up. They'll call themselves by name, Bill, you can't 220 00:12:10,040 --> 00:12:13,160 Speaker 3: make a shot, you sorry thing. No, don't ever talk 221 00:12:13,200 --> 00:12:15,560 Speaker 3: to yourself like that. That's just gonna keep you right 222 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:18,280 Speaker 3: where you are now. I know people that have gone 223 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 3: through setbacks in life, disappointments, failures, maybe some kind of divorce. 224 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:26,400 Speaker 3: They go around so defeated, focused on what went wrong, 225 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:31,640 Speaker 3: and they especially allow that negative record to just continually play. Man, 226 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:34,480 Speaker 3: you blew it, you had your chance, you messed your 227 00:12:34,559 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 3: life up. But you've got to learn to put on 228 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:39,880 Speaker 3: that new record. You need to be telling yourself things 229 00:12:40,040 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 3: like I am forgiven, I am restored. God has a 230 00:12:44,040 --> 00:12:46,839 Speaker 3: new plan. Good things are in store. And I'm not 231 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:49,200 Speaker 3: saying to just take the easy way out and blow 232 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:52,360 Speaker 3: everything off. But what I am saying is It does 233 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:55,200 Speaker 3: not do us any good to go around feeling wrong 234 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:58,640 Speaker 3: about ourselves. And I know people that just live with 235 00:12:58,720 --> 00:13:02,360 Speaker 3: that black cloud falling them around, a vague feeling. They 236 00:13:02,400 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 3: can't even put their finger on it, but something's always 237 00:13:05,280 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 3: telling them you're not right. You've been through too much. 238 00:13:08,600 --> 00:13:11,760 Speaker 3: You're never gonna be happy. Listen, you cannot just sit 239 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:14,640 Speaker 3: back and accept that. You gotta rise up in your 240 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:17,960 Speaker 3: authority and start talking to yourself in a new way. 241 00:13:18,760 --> 00:13:21,040 Speaker 3: All through the day, you should be telling yourself things 242 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:24,319 Speaker 3: like something good is gonna happen to me. God is 243 00:13:24,400 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 3: pleased with me, I have a bright future. The best 244 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:29,719 Speaker 3: is still yet to come. You've got to change on 245 00:13:29,840 --> 00:13:33,880 Speaker 3: the inside before it's ever gonna happen on the outside. 246 00:13:34,679 --> 00:13:38,520 Speaker 3: Pay attention to how you're talking to yourself. What kind 247 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:41,120 Speaker 3: of record is playing in your mind throughout the day. 248 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:44,320 Speaker 3: It would do us all good to lie in bed 249 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:47,520 Speaker 3: in the morning and before we get up on purpose, 250 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:51,640 Speaker 3: think good thoughts about ourselves. I'm a good parent, I'm 251 00:13:51,720 --> 00:13:54,640 Speaker 3: a good leader, I'm a good husband, I have a 252 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:57,839 Speaker 3: bright future. God is pleased with me. We need to 253 00:13:57,920 --> 00:14:01,559 Speaker 3: learn to think these thoughts on part us. I was 254 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:04,840 Speaker 3: blessed to be raised by parents that instilled this kind 255 00:14:04,880 --> 00:14:08,120 Speaker 3: of confidence and self esteem in me. Growing up, my 256 00:14:08,240 --> 00:14:10,600 Speaker 3: parents always told me what I could do and how 257 00:14:10,679 --> 00:14:14,000 Speaker 3: proud they were of me. And having these nurturing people 258 00:14:14,120 --> 00:14:17,559 Speaker 3: in our lives, especially at a young age when we're 259 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:21,720 Speaker 3: forming so many of our thought patterns, is very important. Parents, 260 00:14:21,760 --> 00:14:25,080 Speaker 3: I would encourage you to make sure that you instill 261 00:14:25,360 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 3: these qualities into your children. They need your love, your encouragement, 262 00:14:30,440 --> 00:14:34,680 Speaker 3: your approval, your affirmation. Don't ever put your children down. 263 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:38,680 Speaker 3: Don't ever say things like why can't you make good 264 00:14:38,760 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 3: grades like your brother when you're just not very smart. 265 00:14:41,640 --> 00:14:43,600 Speaker 3: If you keep that up, you're not going out to anything. 266 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:47,600 Speaker 3: You know, those words are like seeds. They can take 267 00:14:47,760 --> 00:14:50,600 Speaker 3: root and still be playing in their mind years and 268 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:53,760 Speaker 3: years from now, and especially when our children are small 269 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 3: and we have to correct them. Don't make the mistake 270 00:14:56,720 --> 00:14:59,440 Speaker 3: of saying things like, well, you're just a bad boy 271 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:03,560 Speaker 3: a bad girl. Now, they're not a bad person. They 272 00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 3: may have done something wrong, but they are good. They're 273 00:15:05,920 --> 00:15:08,840 Speaker 3: made in the image of Almighty God. God didn't make 274 00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:15,239 Speaker 3: any jump and parents, we have a responsibility to instill confidence, 275 00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 3: self esteem, security into our children. I wonder how many 276 00:15:20,880 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 3: adults today struggle in those same areas, all because they 277 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:28,640 Speaker 3: didn't get what they should have from their parents or 278 00:15:28,680 --> 00:15:32,240 Speaker 3: from the people that raise them. Instead of empowering them 279 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 3: and affirming them, they just beat them down. Or maybe 280 00:15:35,800 --> 00:15:39,640 Speaker 3: they only corrected them without showing them this other side, 281 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 3: the approval side. Parents, Let's not make this mistake. I 282 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:47,280 Speaker 3: love the story my brother Paul told about their son Jackson. 283 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:50,240 Speaker 3: He and his wife Jennifer have the cutest little boy. 284 00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:53,000 Speaker 3: It's always happy, it's so much fun to be around. 285 00:15:53,440 --> 00:15:56,760 Speaker 3: And every night when Jennifer takes Jackson to bed, she'll 286 00:15:56,880 --> 00:15:59,160 Speaker 3: tell them a story and pray with him, and then 287 00:15:59,400 --> 00:16:02,880 Speaker 3: just before she leaves, she'll say, now, Jackson, let me 288 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 3: remind you who you are, and she'll go through this 289 00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:10,600 Speaker 3: long list of superheroes. Jackson, you're my Superman, You're my 290 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:15,160 Speaker 3: Power Ranger. You're my buzz light Year, you're my rescue Hero, 291 00:16:15,800 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 3: you're my Lightney McQueen. You're a cowboy, you're a baseball player. 292 00:16:19,440 --> 00:16:21,880 Speaker 3: Little Jackson, he just lies there at the big smile 293 00:16:21,960 --> 00:16:24,680 Speaker 3: on his face, taking it all in. You know what 294 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:28,880 Speaker 3: she's doing. She's given him fuel for his internal dialogue, 295 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 3: even though he's only three years old. Jennifer, in her 296 00:16:32,120 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 3: own unique way, is saying to him, Jackson, you're special, 297 00:16:36,200 --> 00:16:38,680 Speaker 3: you're valuable, You're going to do great things in life. 298 00:16:39,360 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 3: Then she goes through this same routine when she puts 299 00:16:41,920 --> 00:16:51,800 Speaker 3: my brother Paul to bed. I couldn't resist, but instead 300 00:16:51,800 --> 00:16:57,120 Speaker 3: of using buzz light Year, she uses Elvis something funny. 301 00:16:57,200 --> 00:16:59,800 Speaker 3: Half in the other day, they got home late and 302 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:02,960 Speaker 3: Jennifer took Jackson to bed in a hurry, and she 303 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:05,639 Speaker 3: couldn't go through the long list of superheroes. And a 304 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:08,200 Speaker 3: few minutes later she heard this little voice calling out 305 00:17:08,240 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 3: from upstairs, Mama, Mama. Jennifer ran over there, said, yes, Jackson, 306 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:15,240 Speaker 3: what's wrong? He said, Mama, you forgot to tell me 307 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:20,119 Speaker 3: who I am. And really, there's a deeper truth to 308 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:23,439 Speaker 3: that simple statement. I found. If we don't tell our 309 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:25,960 Speaker 3: children who they are, somebody else will. 310 00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:26,639 Speaker 5: Now. 311 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:30,280 Speaker 3: I don't know about you, but I'm going to tell 312 00:17:30,359 --> 00:17:33,680 Speaker 3: my children. You've got what it takes. There's nothing you 313 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:37,160 Speaker 3: can't do. Mother and Daddy are behind you. We're proud 314 00:17:37,240 --> 00:17:39,399 Speaker 3: of you. We believe in you. You are destined to 315 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 3: do great things. Speak the blessing over your children, Speak 316 00:17:43,960 --> 00:17:47,640 Speaker 3: victory over their lives. They need your encouragement. They need 317 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:50,560 Speaker 3: your approval, help them to have a big vision for 318 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:54,240 Speaker 3: their lives. I think about Moses. When he was born, 319 00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:57,479 Speaker 3: the king put out a decree that all the children 320 00:17:57,560 --> 00:18:00,159 Speaker 3: two years of age and under would be killed, and 321 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:03,760 Speaker 3: so Moses' mother hid him away. Eventually she put him 322 00:18:03,760 --> 00:18:06,120 Speaker 3: in a basket and sent him down the Nile River, 323 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:09,600 Speaker 3: and one of Faedro's daughters found him and raised him. 324 00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 3: But Moses never knew his earthly father. He didn't have 325 00:18:13,960 --> 00:18:17,280 Speaker 3: that person speaking the blessing into his life. And many 326 00:18:17,400 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 3: years later, God came to Moses and says, Moses, I'm 327 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:25,280 Speaker 3: choosing you to deliver the people of Israel. And it's interesting. 328 00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:28,920 Speaker 3: The first words out of Moses's mouth were, God, who 329 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:32,160 Speaker 3: am I? See when we don't tell our children who 330 00:18:32,200 --> 00:18:35,560 Speaker 3: they are, when we don't instill the confidence and self 331 00:18:35,680 --> 00:18:39,040 Speaker 3: esteem in them, it causes them to struggle with their identity, 332 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:42,080 Speaker 3: with who they are, with what they can do. God 333 00:18:42,160 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 3: said Moses, don't say who am I. You're the one 334 00:18:44,040 --> 00:18:47,480 Speaker 3: that I've chosen. Then Moses asked another question. He said, 335 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:50,920 Speaker 3: but God, who will listen to me? You know, God, 336 00:18:50,960 --> 00:18:53,919 Speaker 3: I'm not a good speaker. You know I stutter. Notice 337 00:18:54,040 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 3: his lack of confidence. He too was playing the wrong 338 00:18:56,880 --> 00:19:00,800 Speaker 3: record in his mind, no doubt, in part because he 339 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:04,080 Speaker 3: didn't have a father, a mother, or people speaking the 340 00:19:04,240 --> 00:19:08,720 Speaker 3: right things into his life. Like Moses. Maybe you didn't 341 00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:11,640 Speaker 3: have that either, But the good news is that does 342 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:14,679 Speaker 3: not have to hold you back in life. Your earthly 343 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 3: father may not have told you who you are, but 344 00:19:17,440 --> 00:19:20,040 Speaker 3: allow me to help you out. You are a child 345 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:21,280 Speaker 3: of the most hied God. 346 00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:23,879 Speaker 5: You have been. 347 00:19:23,920 --> 00:19:28,160 Speaker 3: Crowned with God's glory and honor. You can do all 348 00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:32,280 Speaker 3: things through Christ. You are full of potential. You are 349 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:36,440 Speaker 3: overflowing with creativity. There's nothing in your heart that you 350 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:41,400 Speaker 3: cannot accomplish. You have courage, strength, and ability. The favor 351 00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:44,680 Speaker 3: of God surround you. Wherever you go, whatever you touch 352 00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:47,440 Speaker 3: is going to prosper and succeed. You are blessed and 353 00:19:47,560 --> 00:19:51,480 Speaker 3: you cannot be curse. That's who you really are. Now 354 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:54,400 Speaker 3: you got to put your shoulders back, hold your head 355 00:19:54,440 --> 00:19:56,320 Speaker 3: up I and don't do like Moses and say who 356 00:19:56,359 --> 00:19:59,760 Speaker 3: am I. You need to start telling yourself I am victorious, 357 00:20:00,160 --> 00:20:02,720 Speaker 3: I am well able, I am more than a conquer 358 00:20:02,800 --> 00:20:05,520 Speaker 3: I am the head and not the tell You got 359 00:20:05,640 --> 00:20:09,120 Speaker 3: to get your thoughts going in the right direction toward yourself. 360 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:12,120 Speaker 3: All through the day, you should be thinking these things. 361 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:15,920 Speaker 3: And when the old negative record comes back, well, I'm 362 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:18,480 Speaker 3: not a very good parent. I've made a lot of mistakes. 363 00:20:18,520 --> 00:20:21,359 Speaker 3: I'm sure God's not pleased with me. Now, just let 364 00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:23,679 Speaker 3: that be a reminder to put on the new record. 365 00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:27,440 Speaker 3: I'm anointed, i am well able, good things are in store. 366 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:31,200 Speaker 3: We have to make sure we keep the right record, 367 00:20:31,280 --> 00:20:34,679 Speaker 3: the right thoughts playing in our mind. The other day 368 00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:36,959 Speaker 3: I talked to a young lady here in the lobby. 369 00:20:37,280 --> 00:20:40,240 Speaker 3: She was a beautiful girl. On the outside, she seems 370 00:20:40,280 --> 00:20:42,119 Speaker 3: so happy, like she is on top of the world. 371 00:20:42,600 --> 00:20:44,760 Speaker 3: But on the inside she had a war going on. 372 00:20:45,359 --> 00:20:48,680 Speaker 3: She didn't like herself. She thought she was unattractive, she 373 00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:51,800 Speaker 3: thought she was overweight. She had this long list of 374 00:20:51,880 --> 00:20:55,359 Speaker 3: everything wrong with her. Come to find out, she was 375 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:58,879 Speaker 3: raised by a father that always put her down. Her 376 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:02,040 Speaker 3: father was constant telling her what was wrong with her, 377 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:04,639 Speaker 3: what she couldn't do, what she was never gonna be. 378 00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:07,840 Speaker 3: And the sad thing is this young lady had gone 379 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:10,840 Speaker 3: through one marriage, gone through a second marriage, and now 380 00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:13,479 Speaker 3: she was about to end her third marriage in her 381 00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:16,440 Speaker 3: late twenties. And I told her what I'm telling you. 382 00:21:16,880 --> 00:21:20,640 Speaker 3: You got the wrong record playing. You're constantly telling yourself 383 00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:24,880 Speaker 3: I'm fat, I'm unattractive, i have nothing to offer, I'm unlovable, 384 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 3: And as long as you're dwelling on those lives, there's 385 00:21:28,800 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 3: going to be a war on the inside. The reason 386 00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:35,240 Speaker 3: why is because you were not created to live that way. 387 00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 3: God created you to feel good about yourself. He created 388 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:43,760 Speaker 3: you to feel complete, to feel whole, to be confident, 389 00:21:43,840 --> 00:21:48,240 Speaker 3: to be secure, not to constantly be against yourself. And 390 00:21:48,320 --> 00:21:51,240 Speaker 3: if you cannot get along with yourself, you'll never be 391 00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:53,800 Speaker 3: able to get along with other people. It'll spread over 392 00:21:53,880 --> 00:21:57,440 Speaker 3: into every other relationship. And some of you today there's 393 00:21:57,480 --> 00:22:00,200 Speaker 3: no peace in your home. And the problem is not 394 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:02,600 Speaker 3: the other person. You need to get at peace with 395 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:05,520 Speaker 3: who you are. You need to quit allowing the negative 396 00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:08,960 Speaker 3: voice to play in your mind. Many times, like this 397 00:22:09,119 --> 00:22:12,360 Speaker 3: young lady, the root cause was something that happened way 398 00:22:12,480 --> 00:22:15,920 Speaker 3: back in life. What her father didn't give her, the 399 00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:19,720 Speaker 3: negative record that he started, and like many people, she 400 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:22,040 Speaker 3: didn't know how to turn it all. She thought it 401 00:22:22,160 --> 00:22:27,720 Speaker 3: was normal to go around feeling wrong about herself, unattractive, unlovable. Listen, 402 00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:30,000 Speaker 3: you've got to draw the line in the sand. You 403 00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:32,359 Speaker 3: may not have gotten everything you should have from your parents, 404 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:35,680 Speaker 3: from the people that raised you, but always remember this, 405 00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:39,560 Speaker 3: it's not how we start that counts, it's how we finish. 406 00:22:40,119 --> 00:22:42,960 Speaker 3: It may have been unfair, but don't use that as 407 00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:45,639 Speaker 3: an excuse to stay where you are. You've got to 408 00:22:45,680 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 3: put on the new record. You should be telling yourself 409 00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:51,960 Speaker 3: every day. I am the apple of God's eye. I'm 410 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,560 Speaker 3: his most prized possession. I am crowned with glory and honor. 411 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:59,200 Speaker 3: I'm valuable, I'm attractive. I have a bright future in 412 00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:03,440 Speaker 3: front of me. We have to understand the negative voices 413 00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:06,680 Speaker 3: always cry out the loudest. You can have twenty people 414 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:10,080 Speaker 3: encouraging you, and one person will come up say something negative, 415 00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:12,680 Speaker 3: and that's what you'll tend to remember. That's what we'll 416 00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,200 Speaker 3: want to play in your mind again and again. You 417 00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:17,680 Speaker 3: can do one hundred things right, and you make one 418 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:21,040 Speaker 3: mistake and you'll have to fight being guilty and condemned. 419 00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:25,119 Speaker 3: The negative voices will come at you the strongest. You 420 00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:28,280 Speaker 3: may have gone through some unfair, hurtful things in life, 421 00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:31,359 Speaker 3: but you've got to learn to let those go. Don't 422 00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:34,960 Speaker 3: keep playing that record as long as you stay focused 423 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:37,600 Speaker 3: on it. You're gonna have a war on the inside. 424 00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:40,560 Speaker 3: You're not gonna feel good about yourself. The only way 425 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:44,640 Speaker 3: to change this is to get your internal dialogue going 426 00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,040 Speaker 3: in the right direction. You got to put the new 427 00:23:47,119 --> 00:23:50,960 Speaker 3: record on, start thinking the right thoughts toward yourself. I 428 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:53,520 Speaker 3: think about the children of Israel. They had been through 429 00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:57,280 Speaker 3: a lot of unfair things, had been mistreated and forced 430 00:23:57,320 --> 00:24:00,720 Speaker 3: to work night and day, spent years and years in slavery. 431 00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:04,359 Speaker 3: But God supernaturally brought them out, and now they were 432 00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:07,360 Speaker 3: about to go into their promised land. And God said 433 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:11,600 Speaker 3: there in Joshua five verse nine, this day have I 434 00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:15,600 Speaker 3: rolled away the reproach of Egypt from you. And a 435 00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:18,840 Speaker 3: lot of people today are living with a reproach. In 436 00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:22,280 Speaker 3: other words, they don't feel good about themselves. They too 437 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:25,920 Speaker 3: have been hurt and mistreated. They allowed the negative record 438 00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:28,879 Speaker 3: to play again and again, and now they go around 439 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:32,480 Speaker 3: with a chip on their shoulder down, discouraged in self pity. 440 00:24:33,000 --> 00:24:35,119 Speaker 3: This is what was happening to the people of Israel. 441 00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:37,639 Speaker 3: But God came along and said, hey, stop doing that. 442 00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:42,119 Speaker 3: I am rolling away the reproach from you. And I 443 00:24:42,240 --> 00:24:45,960 Speaker 3: believe the reproach had to be rolled away before they 444 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:48,880 Speaker 3: could go into the promised Land. It's the same thing 445 00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:51,960 Speaker 3: with us. Some of you today, you're trying to live 446 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:54,320 Speaker 3: in victory, trying to be successful, trying to have a 447 00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:58,880 Speaker 3: good marriage. But the problem is you are negative towards yourself, 448 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:03,159 Speaker 3: feel good about who you are. You're constantly dwelling on 449 00:25:03,280 --> 00:25:06,440 Speaker 3: your past hurts and pains, and until you're willing to 450 00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:10,200 Speaker 3: let go of that and start focusing on your new possibilities, 451 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:12,600 Speaker 3: then it's going to keep you right where you are. 452 00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:17,080 Speaker 3: You cannot have a bad attitude toward yourself and expect 453 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:20,720 Speaker 3: to have God's best. Quit focusing on what you've done wrong. 454 00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:24,000 Speaker 3: Quit having a pity party. Because of what you've been through, 455 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:28,200 Speaker 3: God has already rolled away your reproach. The reproach is 456 00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:32,440 Speaker 3: the shame, the embarrassment, the failures, the set back. God 457 00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:35,639 Speaker 3: has done his part. Now you've got to do your 458 00:25:35,760 --> 00:25:38,400 Speaker 3: part and let it go before you can go into 459 00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:41,439 Speaker 3: your promised land, before these new doors will open up. 460 00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:45,919 Speaker 3: The scripture says in Philammon one, verse six, our faith 461 00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:50,879 Speaker 3: is made effectual when we acknowledge everything good in us. 462 00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:54,879 Speaker 3: Think about this. Our faith is not effective when we 463 00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:58,720 Speaker 3: acknowledge all our hurts and pains. It's not effective when 464 00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:03,040 Speaker 3: we stay focused on our shortcomings, our weaknesses. Our faith 465 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:07,040 Speaker 3: is only effective when we acknowledge the good things that 466 00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:10,080 Speaker 3: are in us, things like I have a bright future, 467 00:26:10,400 --> 00:26:13,720 Speaker 3: I am gifted, I am talented. People like me I 468 00:26:13,840 --> 00:26:17,719 Speaker 3: have the favor of God. That's when our faith comes alive, 469 00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:21,639 Speaker 3: when we believe in ourselves, when we believe we have 470 00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:25,359 Speaker 3: what it takes, when we focus on our possibilities. But 471 00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:29,720 Speaker 3: I found today, unfortunately, most people do just the opposite. 472 00:26:30,119 --> 00:26:35,639 Speaker 3: They acknowledge everything wrong with them, even subconsciously. They've constantly 473 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:38,760 Speaker 3: got that negative record playing the back of their minds. 474 00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:42,159 Speaker 3: This causes them to have a low opinion of themselves. 475 00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:45,840 Speaker 3: We have to change that record. I know I'm kind 476 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:49,200 Speaker 3: of naive, but I expect people to like me. I 477 00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:52,120 Speaker 3: expect people to be friendly to me. I expect people 478 00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,080 Speaker 3: to want to help me out. I have a positive 479 00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:58,560 Speaker 3: opinion about who I am. What I'm saying is, don't 480 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:02,520 Speaker 3: walk into a room timid and insecure, thinking nobody's gonna 481 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:04,840 Speaker 3: like me in here. Look at them, they're probably talking 482 00:27:04,840 --> 00:27:07,720 Speaker 3: about me already. I knew I shouldn't have worn this suit. 483 00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:09,880 Speaker 3: I knew I should have stayed at home. No quite 484 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:14,600 Speaker 3: expecting the worst. Quit being negative towards yourself. You've got 485 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:17,920 Speaker 3: to get your dialogue going in a different direction. Your 486 00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:22,119 Speaker 3: faith is only effective when you acknowledge the good things 487 00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:25,119 Speaker 3: that are in you. You need to develop a habit 488 00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:28,760 Speaker 3: of being positive towards yourself. You need to have a 489 00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:32,639 Speaker 3: good opinion about who you are. Well, Joel, I'm just 490 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:37,480 Speaker 3: a housewife. I'm just a business person. I'm just a schoolteacher. No, listen, 491 00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:41,080 Speaker 3: You're not just anything. You're a child of the most 492 00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:46,040 Speaker 3: High God. You are fulfilling your purpose. Your steps are 493 00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 3: ordered by the Lord. Goodness and mercy are following you. 494 00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:53,440 Speaker 3: You are a person of destiny. Why don't you shake 495 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:57,159 Speaker 3: off the defeated voices and start talking to yourself in 496 00:27:57,240 --> 00:28:01,080 Speaker 3: the right way. Change starts on the end side, and 497 00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:04,960 Speaker 3: I'm asking you today to get your internal dialogue going 498 00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:08,399 Speaker 3: in the right direction. Don't go around defeating yourself with 499 00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:11,680 Speaker 3: your own words. Get up every morning and say to yourself, 500 00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:15,240 Speaker 3: I am blessed, I am equipped, I have the favor 501 00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:16,960 Speaker 3: of God. This is going to be a great day. 502 00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:20,119 Speaker 3: And then all through the day, play that over and 503 00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:24,080 Speaker 3: over again. Keep the right record on only dwell on 504 00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:29,240 Speaker 3: positive empowering thoughts towards yourself. That's when your faith is energized. 505 00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:33,399 Speaker 3: And remember, the reproach has been rolled away. You've got 506 00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:35,840 Speaker 3: to let go of what didn't work out in your life. 507 00:28:36,480 --> 00:28:38,920 Speaker 3: You've got to let go of all the negative voices 508 00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:42,240 Speaker 3: from your past. Do not make the mistake of acknowledging 509 00:28:42,280 --> 00:28:45,280 Speaker 3: what's wrong with you. Acknowledge what's right with you. Have 510 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:48,280 Speaker 3: a good opinion of who you are. If you'll get 511 00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,960 Speaker 3: in this habit of talking to yourself the right way, 512 00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:55,640 Speaker 3: with these positive, empowering thoughts, you'll not only have more confidence, 513 00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:58,760 Speaker 3: you'll not only rise higher, but you'll see God's blessings 514 00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,400 Speaker 3: and favor in a greater way. And I know you'll 515 00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:03,920 Speaker 3: live the life of victory he has in story. Amen, 516 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:08,320 Speaker 3: do you receive it today. We've never liked to close 517 00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:11,800 Speaker 3: our broadcast without giving you an opportunity to make Jesus 518 00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 3: the lord of your life. Would you pray with me, 519 00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:19,960 Speaker 3: Say Lord Jesus, I'll repent of my sins. Come into 520 00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:24,960 Speaker 3: my heart. I make you my Lord and savior. Friends, 521 00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:27,440 Speaker 3: if you prayed that simple prayer, we believe you got 522 00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:30,560 Speaker 3: born again. Get in a good Bible based church, Keep 523 00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,080 Speaker 3: God first place. He's going to take you places that 524 00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:34,000 Speaker 3: you've never dreamed of. 525 00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:38,240 Speaker 2: Thank you for listening to the Joel Oustine podcast. Help 526 00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:41,040 Speaker 2: us continue to share the message of hope with those 527 00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:45,040 Speaker 2: all over the world. Visit Joeloustine dot com slash give 528 00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 2: Hope to give a gift today. 529 00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:51,040 Speaker 3: Thanks so much for listening to today's message. 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