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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Sam. This is John the og story

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Speaker 1: time podcast host.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and we got some great stories coming up.

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Speaker 1: But before that, we get a teeny two minute break

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Speaker 1: from the sponsors that keep this show propped up like

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Speaker 1: a little house.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, my stepmother than a law keeps posting pictures

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Speaker 3: of our kids online.

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Speaker 4: So we threaten to cut her off.

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Speaker 1: Or is she saying that these are my kids, like, hey,

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Speaker 1: look at my kids. She's trying manifest, manifest manifest, No,

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Speaker 1: don't do it. The secret babies. My wife and I have.

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Speaker 3: Two children, eight male and five female, and we are

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Speaker 3: expecting a third. Since our oldest was born, we have

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Speaker 3: been clear and consistent about not wanting pictures of them

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Speaker 3: posted online. It was my it was my wife's idea,

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Speaker 3: but mutual decision.

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Speaker 1: So that that's a thing that's like like people are

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Speaker 1: doing nowadays. They're like, oh, like, I don't know, of

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Speaker 1: having our children everywhere online is a good idea. All

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Speaker 1: the cool y Casey Nistat doesn't post his kids online,

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Speaker 1: and he's a cool guy, and he's a cool guy.

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Speaker 4: That's a very freaking cool guy you know who also.

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Speaker 1: Doesn't post her kids. Oh I think Jeff Bezos probably true,

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Speaker 1: but he doesn't have kids, so that's probably one of

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Speaker 1: the main He.

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Speaker 4: Just has these bad boys.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, Jeff is freaking out.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely.

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Speaker 4: Yea, let's get him and Mark Zuckerberg and a ring team.

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Speaker 4: I'd do. My money is a Mark, I'd pay for that.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. Bro bro freaking bro Lex Luthor versus

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Speaker 4: like frat boy. He's not a frat boy, but he

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Speaker 4: looks like one with his curly hair.

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Speaker 1: Dude, but he trains jiu jitsu. Now he's like a

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Speaker 1: BJJ champion.

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Speaker 4: He is a BADDY champion. Have you seen that emphasis

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Speaker 4: on the I have seen a little bit.

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Speaker 1: I know where you're going. I know the emphasis on

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Speaker 1: the the first two letters.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, you know where this story came from.

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Speaker 3: Oh god, but you know this story came from Mission

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Speaker 3: Atmosphere sixteen. And if you want to send me your

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Speaker 3: own stories, go to the arsat Shokey story Time, subur

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Speaker 3: send it in.

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Speaker 1: We might read it.

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Speaker 3: So most of our friends and family have no problem

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Speaker 3: with that, but we've had problems with my wife's stepmother.

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Speaker 3: She has on several occasions posted photos of her children

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Speaker 3: on her Instagram without our consent, crossing the line granny.

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Speaker 3: Most are harmless pictures of her with them or family

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Speaker 3: photos with more people in them, but there have been

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Speaker 3: a few times she took pictures of the kids behind

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Speaker 3: their backs and posted them. Every time we see it's

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Speaker 3: just a bad picture.

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Speaker 1: If it's behind their back.

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Speaker 4: Though, dude, be it better photography?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, get try of them like you want? You want

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Speaker 1: in front of their back?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Well, I guess is behind their back? Wait, if you're

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Speaker 1: taking a picture, yeah, if you're taking a picture behind

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Speaker 1: the back, then you're getting someone's back exactly. Yeah, you

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Speaker 1: want to see like this the face. But also I

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Speaker 1: feel like in front of behind the back almost feels

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Speaker 1: like it's like it like like this is but my

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Speaker 1: front is behind my back.

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Speaker 2: I think you're a dude. You're diving deep into this, dude.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 3: Anyway, every time we see a photo of our children

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Speaker 3: on Instagram page, we tell her to delete it. She

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Speaker 3: always does, but the next time she sees them it

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Speaker 3: happens again. We've been having this discussion with her daughter

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Speaker 3: to ask real quick, everyone in chatt and comments and Sam,

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Speaker 3: how many you set this boundary with your stepmother? How

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Speaker 3: many times? Does she have to like post before you

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Speaker 3: do cut off where it was like you can't see

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Speaker 3: the kids anymore. You told her to No, she keeps

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Speaker 3: posting fifteen fifteen, Wow, I think ten. Maybe guys, let

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Speaker 3: us know in the comments what your number is. I'm

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Speaker 3: very I'm very curious to.

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Speaker 1: Say, only because like this, it's such a normal behavior

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Speaker 1: to like post pictures of people, so it's like a

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Speaker 1: hard behavior to unlearned. So fifteen chances seems.

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Speaker 3: Like a lot of chances. That's an ample themount. I

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Speaker 3: think you're giving them a good opportunity. So my family

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Speaker 3: spent New Year's Eve at a rented beach house with

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Speaker 3: some of my wife's paternal family. We returned home on

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Speaker 3: January first. That same day, my wife's stepmother posted several

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Speaker 3: pictures from the trip. Buried between them were three photos

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Speaker 3: of our kids on the beach. They're wearing swimsuits, except

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Speaker 3: for one of the pictures, don't seem aware they're being photographed.

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Speaker 2: My wife and I talked and we both call.

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Speaker 1: A candid That's that's what everyone's doing these days, the

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Speaker 1: candid Instagram. That's what's most important. That's what that's what Yeah, dude,

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Speaker 1: my my, my Instagram very UNCANDID I need to I

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Speaker 1: need to get on it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, bro, we we don't post. We post one hundred

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Speaker 3: times a day on the show and zero times zero.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know I need to get I need to.

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Speaker 1: I want my Instagram to be aesthetic.

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Speaker 4: We'll get there, guys.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to be like like a like a like

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Speaker 1: a hot girl that only travels. I mean, that's that's

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Speaker 1: what I want. That's peak, that's peak, that's very peak. Now.

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Speaker 3: My wife and I talked and we both agreed we'd

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Speaker 3: given her step mother enough chances. As long as she's

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Speaker 3: active on social media, she will continue posting pictures of

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Speaker 3: our children without our consent. We called her yesterday and

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Speaker 3: said that she he won't be allowed to see back

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Speaker 3: her kids unless she deletes her Instagram account.

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Speaker 4: Ooh, okay, that's a poll. That's a poll.

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Speaker 3: Delete ig or nah dold we tell her to delete

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Speaker 3: ig or nah.

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Speaker 5: I'm very curious to hear what you have to say

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Speaker 5: under or under a thousand followers.

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Speaker 1: Oh, like, if it's like if it's if it's over

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Speaker 1: a thousand followers, then.

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Speaker 4: It's like, oh no, is it monetized?

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Speaker 1: I would I feel I don't know, it's too much.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think like deleting all the photos of your

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Speaker 3: kids totally, that is totally fair, totally reasonable.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, deleting the whole account.

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Speaker 3: She probably she probably just likes posting memories like it's

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Speaker 3: like it's like a photo book, you.

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Speaker 4: Know, a family.

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Speaker 1: I mean like, for example, my dad takes way too

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Speaker 4: You know, he just but he just likes. He just

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Speaker 1: It's like he's not gonna he's not doing anything with it.

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Speaker 1: He just likes he likes just like having them. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and I think a lot of people's instagrams are the same.

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Speaker 1: I think it's too much, it's too I think it's

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Speaker 2: Let us know.

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Speaker 3: So that means that she won't have any kind of

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Speaker 3: contact with them, receive pictures, or be invited to their events.

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Speaker 3: She cried during the call and tried to promise us

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Speaker 3: that she would delete the New Year's Eve post and

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Speaker 3: never do anything like that again. But we told her

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Speaker 3: that we can't trust her. She can keep her account

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Speaker 3: if she wants to, but she won't be allowed or

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Speaker 3: but she won't be allowed near our kids if she does.

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Speaker 3: My father in law, who's also against posting pictures of

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Speaker 3: agreed that her stepmother crossed the line, but said cutting

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Speaker 3: her off from our children was an exaggeration.

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Speaker 1: I agree. I agree with that completely, Like she crossed

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Speaker 1: the line by posting those pictures, which you specifically told

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Speaker 1: her not to. But it like to cut someone off

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Speaker 4: Yeah, cutting off is?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it is. It is aggressive. I'm chew on that one. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: because that's kind of a tricky one. He said that

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Speaker 3: she just started to make money with social media, but

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Speaker 3: she also loves our kids very much, and it's cruel

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Speaker 3: to force her to choose. She's monetized. It's monetizing. Granny's

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Speaker 3: trying to get her bag up. Okay, I don't think

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Speaker 3: that we're in the wrong here, but I'm still worried

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Speaker 3: we're taking this too far?

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Speaker 4: Am I the A hole?

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Speaker 3: We have some relevant comments coming up, but really quickly, first.

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Speaker 2: Is ob the A hole?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Or no? I want to say a hole because it's

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Speaker 1: your kids and you can decide like what yes you want,

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Speaker 1: But it seems overly strictly, yes, she crossed a boundary

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Speaker 1: that you specifically put and maybe yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not it's not a it's not quite an

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Speaker 3: It's not like fifty one percent a hole, but it

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Speaker 3: is it's too much, and it's it's not a crime

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Speaker 1: Like, hey, like we need proof that you're you're you're,

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Speaker 1: you're not going to do this, So I think we

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Speaker 1: maybe that accomplishes the the same thing as like saying

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Speaker 1: really like don't don't want this, but we'll see you

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Speaker 1: in a little bit. And then it's like you know,

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Speaker 1: you know when your iPhone you put in a password

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Speaker 1: too many times and it's like, hey, you can't, You're

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Speaker 1: two minutes, and then I just like keeps going up

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Speaker 1: it's like, hey, you put in too you made too

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Speaker 1: many boo boos. We're not going to see you for

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Speaker 1: like a month, and then you go again and she

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Speaker 1: she posts pictures of your kids two months. Yeah, I

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Speaker 1: go two months later she post pictures foret four months yep,

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Speaker 1: double yeah.

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Speaker 4: That's the perfect solution.

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Speaker 3: That's what I think I would do, because she because

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Speaker 3: that should teach any sane person their lesson.

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Speaker 4: Or or or.

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Speaker 3: Split on the revenue. Hey man, we gotta get this

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Speaker 3: is my kids we're talking about.

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Speaker 1: We got to get compensated. We gotta we gotta bump

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Speaker 1: that up.

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Speaker 3: Any I'm sorry, but that monstiction about to go to

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Speaker 3: me ninety ten kids, that's a that's a call run

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Speaker 3: right there.

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Speaker 2: Okay, oh man, so we got some relevant comments.

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Speaker 3: Commentary number one says, not the a hole she started

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Speaker 3: making money off of social media translates into my mind too.

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Speaker 3: She knows that posting kids will help engagement and pay more.

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Speaker 3: That is another thing I thought about that we haven't

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Speaker 3: talked about yet, and I would never allow that stand

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Speaker 3: your ground.

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Speaker 1: You've given her true posting kids pays more.

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Speaker 3: Well no, so think about this, right, if she just

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Speaker 3: started monetizing her account and then she noticed, like I mean,

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Speaker 3: it's like puppies, you know, cute kids or whatever, like, oh,

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Speaker 3: that probably she's got she's putting out granny content. Probably

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Speaker 3: cute grandkids is grade a freaking.

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Speaker 1: Great granny influencers.

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Speaker 3: Uh, there's the there's the house with all the old

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Speaker 1: You have to be old. You have to be old though, yeah,

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Speaker 4: But then our generation, it's just gonna be a lot

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Speaker 2: Hey, folks, I thought i'd give you an update.

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Speaker 3: I think I got into a lot of detail in

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Speaker 3: my wife's stepmother is forty five. I'm not bowling the

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Speaker 3: She hasn't gone full granny yet. She has sixty thousand

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Speaker 3: Yeah, her Instagram account is not focused solely on my children.

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Speaker 3: I really shouldn't have to explain why me and my

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Speaker 3: Who has no problems with other postings, uh uh with

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Speaker 2: But I feel like that does paint a lot more context.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, this is this isn't like I was picturing again

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Speaker 4: Like oh hey snap snap snap.

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Speaker 3: No, this is like I am legitimately like I'm influencing.

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Speaker 1: Find you could. And I think that's why I don't

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I think you you, I think, like putting

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Speaker 4: These are not content creator parents.

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Speaker 3: We're dealing with her, Yeah, Okay, we kind of break

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Speaker 3: So we have to take into consideration that one, per

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Speaker 3: Whenever my wife's stepmother saw our kids, she also would

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Speaker 3: She said that she couldn't control how she used her phone.

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Speaker 3: Come on, come on now, come on now. I'd be

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Speaker 1: I can't imagine. I mean, it could for sure be weird,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I feel like she's a mommy blogger, But I

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Speaker 4: That's and she's kind of using it. That's that's what

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Speaker 3: She tried to promise us she'd stop posting the kids again,

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Speaker 2: The four of us hadn't argued about this. My father

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Speaker 3: It lasted for a while, and my wife's stepmother started

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Speaker 3: was only up for a little over twenty four hours

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Speaker 3: before she took it down, but she claimed it was

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Speaker 3: one of her most successful posts ever.

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Speaker 1: WHOA.

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Speaker 3: When I asked her why she thought that had happened,

445
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Speaker 3: she said, it's because the kids look so cute in them.

446
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Speaker 3: My wife looked at my stepmother and said, no, it's

447
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Speaker 3: because they're barely dressing them. You cannot convince us that

448
00:19:40,920 --> 00:19:42,840
Speaker 3: a photo of our five year old daughter in a

449
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Speaker 3: swimsuit is getting attention from thousands of strangers because she's cute.

450
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Speaker 2: Either you're an idiot or you know what you're doing.

451
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Speaker 4: By posting those pictures.

452
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Speaker 2: I mean, just the risk.

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Speaker 4: Alone, and if there's a lot of like the like

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Speaker 4: to comment to save ratio is high. Oh god, yeah,

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Speaker 4: that astly wasn't even really thinking about.

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Speaker 3: That even even the which again is why, like, listen,

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Speaker 3: respect the boundary that these parents have set, because that's

458
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Speaker 3: what they want to do. And then also, why would you,

459
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Speaker 3: you know, if someone's worried about that, why why even

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Speaker 3: go anywhere potentially near.

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Speaker 4: That as a concern, right like go icky? So she

462
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Speaker 4: started crying.

463
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Speaker 3: She said her content was wholesome, her followers are good people,

464
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Speaker 3: and that we had no right to control her like that.

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Speaker 4: My father in law was silent. That is when we

466
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Speaker 4: gave up.

467
00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:45,399
Speaker 3: We told her to keep her Instagram, but except she

468
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Speaker 3: is losing access to our kids. She tried to make

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Speaker 3: more excuses, including some of my followers think they're my kids,

470
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Speaker 3: which my wife was furious about. But we stood our

471
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Speaker 3: ground and went home. By the way you're going home,

472
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Speaker 3: if you're going to work, if you're traveling across the

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Speaker 3: country and you're looking for two thousand episodes of the

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Speaker 3: best show on earth to keep.

475
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Speaker 4: You company, I have some good news for you.

476
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Speaker 3: If you go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, your favorite podcasts happened.

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Speaker 2: Just search okay story time.

478
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Speaker 3: All of our episodes will pop up, full episodes with

479
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Speaker 3: stories just like this. Okay, but Sam, we are near

480
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Speaker 3: the end of the story.

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Speaker 1: I feel weird. Yeah, I feel bad.

482
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Speaker 3: I think, yeah, when it when it reaches like this again,

483
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Speaker 3: I believe already because it was their boundary. They sat

484
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Speaker 3: like that's already the first stop of like, nah, you

485
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Speaker 3: gotta stop doing it. But with all the details and

486
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Speaker 3: context of the step mother, I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if I would.

488
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Speaker 3: Want my kids around her because I'm like one just

489
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Speaker 3: disgusted and just like leaves such a bad, bad vibe.

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Speaker 4: You know what I mean. I I I'm not liking

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Speaker 4: this nether am I like, like, I don't know, how

492
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Speaker 4: can you not realize that?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I thought, just people like taking pictures

494
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Speaker 1: of their kids. Yeah, why does the internet always have

495
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Speaker 1: to be weird?

496
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Speaker 4: It does be doing that. It's people, it does be

497
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Speaker 4: doing that. Yes the end.

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Speaker 3: My father in law called me and my wife later

499
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Speaker 3: that night. He told me he was disappointed in my

500
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Speaker 3: wife and was taking our side. We're not sure how

501
00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:24,560
Speaker 3: to deal with him. Either of us want to cut

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Speaker 3: him off from the kids, but we're not certain we

503
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Speaker 3: can trust him either. My wife just told him we

504
00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 3: need some space, and he said that that was fine.

505
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Speaker 3: I am exhausted, and my wife is doing even worse.

506
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Speaker 3: But we've spoken about this and we're both also relieved.

507
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Speaker 3: We've still got work to do, but nothing we can

508
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Speaker 3: handle over now. We've got two amazing children and a

509
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Speaker 3: baby on the way, and they will always be our

510
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Speaker 3: number one priority.

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Speaker 4: Thank you all for your support.

512
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Speaker 3: I'm busy with the kids, so I can't promise or

513
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Speaker 3: apply to as many comments, but I'll do my best.

514
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Speaker 3: And you know what, I guess hope he didn't because.

515
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Speaker 2: He'll be dead.

516
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Speaker 4: So that's it.

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Speaker 1: That was fun.

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Speaker 4: Yep, Yeah, yeah. I think it's hitting him hard because

519
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Speaker 4: he just looks for the best in people. He was

520
00:23:01,760 --> 00:23:03,159
Speaker 4: and he was just blindsided by this.

521
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Speaker 1: Blindsided was like, I also have sixty thousand Instagram.

522
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Speaker 4: Whoa, whoa, But you get more success posting key on

523
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Speaker 4: his cheeks than you do the other thing. True, and

524
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Speaker 4: you don't do the other thing.

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Speaker 1: There are no.

526
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Speaker 2: Other things here?

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Speaker 4: Yeah? What children there? I don't I've never I've lived

528
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Speaker 4: in LA for a year. Honestly, I haven't seen a kid.

529
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Speaker 4: I haven't. I can't tell you the last time I

530
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Speaker 4: saw a child near this place.

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Speaker 1: Oh do you have a school close? Though?

532
00:23:35,880 --> 00:23:36,960
Speaker 4: Actually, last night.

533
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Speaker 1: Like there's a school like very close. You've never seen

534
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Speaker 1: a kid walking home from school.

535
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Speaker 4: Maybe last year, but there was a kid in his

536
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Speaker 4: dad playing basketball last night. I remember that. Yeah, yeah,

537
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Speaker 4: but don't worry. Sam, You're good. You're good, dude.

538
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Speaker 2: So that's it.

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Speaker 4: That's it.

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Speaker 1: I feel like that's all the gaess. We got to

541
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Speaker 1: take that one. Can we not read stories like that?

542
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Speaker 1: I don't want to read stories like that anymore.

543
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 2: But we got another story for you.

544
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Speaker 1: Hey, it's Sam, your ogi host here. Read it. Back

545
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Speaker 1: My mother kept nagging us to give her grandchildren. I

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Speaker 1: finally snaffed and did it. For context, I male twenty

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Speaker 1: six and my girlfriend of six years, female twenty seven

549
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Speaker 1: are staunchly child free. We were each our own kind

550
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Speaker 1: of autistic and neither of us want children because of

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Speaker 1: how neurotic we can be at times. By the way,

552
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Speaker 1: this comes from Gazoonga on the r slash Okay storytime subreddit.

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Speaker 1: So this is an okay story talk about Rojo. We

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Speaker 1: do quite well for ourselves and have plenty of disposable

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Speaker 1: income because we punt started our careers, kick started our career.

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Speaker 4: Because we can't say right right.

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Speaker 1: That's because we punt started in our careers early and

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Speaker 1: saved early on. I'm a journey man electrician and in

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Speaker 1: the process of getting my electrical engineering degree, and my

560
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Speaker 1: girlfriend is on her way to become a nurse practitioner.

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Speaker 1: We're both super busy, as you can imagine, with both

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Speaker 1: ork and school and such, and it can get rough

563
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Speaker 1: at times, but we manage. My father passed away a

564
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Speaker 1: year ago. SADR, you're on a roll today, brother, you're

565
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Speaker 1: on an absolute today. Sam's back many for the book

566
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Speaker 1: says the censorship is getting aggressive.

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Speaker 2: Out don't get at us.

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Speaker 1: It's ridiculous. Don't get I said, kick you out, and

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Speaker 1: we got demonetized the entire channel, but ridiculous. My father

570
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Speaker 1: passed a year ago and it sent shockwaves throughout our

571
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Speaker 1: small family. And now my mother moved us in after

572
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Speaker 1: selling her house because she was getting too old to

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Speaker 1: live on her own. She had me at thirty four.

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Speaker 1: That's that's rather that's rather late. Right, that's rather late.

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Speaker 4: My mom had us at like thirty four and thirty seven.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's rather late. Straight up, Well, she looks great,

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Speaker 1: that's right, she sh That is my Mama, I love

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Speaker 1: you to your mom. She had me at thirty four

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Speaker 1: and she lived out in the country, so it wasn't

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Speaker 1: safest for her there. She cooks and cleans while we work,

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Speaker 1: buys the groceries with her social security, and generally tries

582
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Speaker 1: to make herself useful, even though we tell her it

583
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Speaker 1: isn't necessary. We appreciate her efforts due to how busy

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Speaker 1: we are. Our diets absolutely have improved. That sounds win.

585
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Speaker 1: Sounds like a win. But we're worried because she doesn't

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Speaker 1: have a lot of hobbies and oftentimes doesn't know what

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Speaker 1: to do with herself. I'm not sure why she hasn't

588
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Speaker 1: looked for any hobbies, but that's her choice. I suppose

589
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Speaker 1: get her into underwater aerobics.

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Speaker 4: Ooh smart, I.

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Speaker 1: Kind of want to join like an aerobics class with

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Speaker 1: a bunch of eighty year olds and you just get

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Speaker 1: like all the hot goss.

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Speaker 3: You would absolutely do the hot goss in those with

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Speaker 3: the with their little like yeah, with the bonnets, with

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Speaker 3: the bonnets and everything.

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Speaker 1: Wouldn't that be fun?

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Speaker 4: Be crazy?

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Speaker 1: It would kind of be fun.

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Speaker 4: Dude.

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Speaker 2: There's there's a granny you can find help make friends.

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Speaker 1: Good place to go oh, that's yeah, very visual. Integrate

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Speaker 1: with the grannies, Yep, yeah, I I integrated with an

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Speaker 1: underwater Uh what's it called a gun?

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Speaker 2: I infiltrated underwater.

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Speaker 1: Aerobics class to make friends with Grandma's The date of grandma.

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Speaker 4: Up in the ante. Yeah, I like that and win

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Speaker 4: her love and inheritance. Whoa, now we're talking.

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Speaker 1: That's all right a story, Ali, Rayce and Sam would

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Speaker 1: data immediately immediately say I'm her only child, And recently,

611
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 1: over the past few months, she started to pass to

612
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Speaker 1: the both of us about giving her grandchildren she can spoil.

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Speaker 1: At first, I made a joke about our cat being

614
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:14,119
Speaker 1: her grandchild and it was funny, but did not stop.

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Speaker 1: I figured it was just a phase that she moved on,

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00:28:17,920 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 1: but she didn't. Every day she just kept making these

617
00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:24,640
Speaker 1: little comments about grandchildren and that our kids would be adorable.

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00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: It was easy to ignore her first, but she wouldn't stop.

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Speaker 1: Then one day I had a hard week at work

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Speaker 1: and didn't get enough sleep at all, and while she

621
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Speaker 1: was making breakfast the next morning, she kept bringing it

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Speaker 1: up and kept trying to make it into a serious conversation,

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Speaker 1: talking about how a grandchild would make her so happy.

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Speaker 1: I finally snapped and told her to let it go,

625
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:50,280
Speaker 1: and I got loud, nothing serious, but I did tell

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Speaker 1: her that she was unbearable when all she thought about

627
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Speaker 1: was grandchildren, and I couldn't understand why she couldn't just

628
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Speaker 1: get the f over the fact that me and my sign,

629
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Speaker 1: if we can other, we're child free and happy.

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Speaker 6: Huh.

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Speaker 1: She continued the rest of the meal in silence and

632
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Speaker 1: proceeded to give me the cold shoulder for the rest

633
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Speaker 1: of the day. That was several weeks ago. She's like

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Speaker 1: a completely different person now. She still cooks and cleans

635
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:21,480
Speaker 1: and stuff, but she barely talks it all. And when

636
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Speaker 1: there's nothing to do, she just sits on the couch

637
00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 1: and rots away, eyes glazed over as she watches family feud,

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00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 1: antique road show, and whatever else old people watch.

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Speaker 2: Dude, what a great that was, just such a great portrait.

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Speaker 2: I can just see it so clearly.

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Speaker 4: Am I whoa yeah?

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Speaker 1: Full sad?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, dude.

644
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,600
Speaker 1: She never wants to go anywhere or do anything, especially

645
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 1: not with us. Whenever I try to have a conversation

646
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Speaker 1: with her that's more than discussing a basic necessity, she

647
00:29:53,600 --> 00:29:56,840
Speaker 1: just gives me a dirty look, a dirty bitter look,

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Speaker 1: and I usually back off. She just fall into eternal

649
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 1: sleep with whatever chores she sets out to do that day.

650
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Speaker 1: We don't require anything from her. This is all out

651
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Speaker 1: of her own volition. And then she just watches TV.

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Speaker 1: Watching is a strong word. She more just like sits

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Speaker 1: there and just rocks. I can't think of a better

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Speaker 1: word for it.

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Speaker 4: The O G brain rot, Yeah, O G brain rot.

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Speaker 1: Due for Antique road Show and watching the late night commercials.

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Speaker 1: What what's the thing where you buy stuff?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 1: Oh yeah yeah.

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Speaker 3: Watching that arguably worse than worse than today's brain rot,

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Speaker 3: just because I was around so many freaking Florida grannies

662
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 3: that were just freaking just.

663
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 4: Had a community, you know, it had, it had substance,

664
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 4: it had there was something.

665
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:49,719
Speaker 1: There, something there at QBC. You want to go back

666
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:50,680
Speaker 1: to the QBC.

667
00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 4: Days, I'd probably be happier.

668
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:54,160
Speaker 3: For a second, I thought you were saying I had

669
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:57,440
Speaker 3: a community, the Florida grannies that were yeah.

670
00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 1: No, you've always had. Finally, John, it was around people.

671
00:31:02,560 --> 00:31:03,880
Speaker 2: You can't wait, guys.

672
00:31:04,360 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 1: So recently, me and my girlfriend were talking and we

673
00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 1: found a great deal on a cruise and decided to go.

674
00:31:09,720 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 1: Since we had massed a lot of pto. We bought

675
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 1: the tickets and surprised her with one, thinking a cruise

676
00:31:15,160 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: from Buddha Pist to Amsterdam would cheer her up. She

677
00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 1: just clowered at the tickets like I handed her a

678
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 1: bag of dog crap as a birthday gift and then

679
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 1: asked me what it was for. I told her that

680
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 1: we wanted to go on a cruise with her to

681
00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,640
Speaker 1: maybe cheer her up and help her get out of

682
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:32,000
Speaker 1: the house.

683
00:31:32,160 --> 00:31:32,920
Speaker 4: I like it.

684
00:31:33,040 --> 00:31:34,680
Speaker 1: Her response, John, Oh no.

685
00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 6: Why why did you start to pretend that you care

686
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:43,800
Speaker 6: about my happiness? All of us are that. I want

687
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 6: nothing to do with descifront.

688
00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:50,719
Speaker 4: Dad, dude who turns on a cruise? That is a

689
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 4: sad person. Man.

690
00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:54,200
Speaker 3: It is hard to be happy on a boat with

691
00:31:54,240 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 3: an unlimited cafe, unlimited buffet.

692
00:31:56,640 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 1: It is hard to be happy.

693
00:31:57,880 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 2: It's hard to not be happy. Sorry, my words are

694
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 2: all mixed up.

695
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 1: Have you been on a cruise?

696
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 2: I did go once?

697
00:32:03,760 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, that makes sense. Age.

698
00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:11,320
Speaker 4: He loves them, man, he just loves them.

699
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:15,440
Speaker 1: Gick it enough, gig it enough. Cat that man on

700
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 1: a golf course or.

701
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:20,880
Speaker 2: A cruise playing what's this one? Riley playing Jackson? I

702
00:32:20,920 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 2: don't know stick with the idea.

703
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 4: It's like old person hockey chat comments.

704
00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:30,160
Speaker 1: You should play sick and hoop.

705
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 4: See him on a Thursday night playing bingo, Monday morning

706
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 4: reading the newspaper.

707
00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:41,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, John's out on our porch just getting the kids

708
00:32:41,400 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 1: off our lawn every day. That's why Riley hasn't seen

709
00:32:44,480 --> 00:32:45,479
Speaker 1: any kids in ages.

710
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 2: That's a good callback.

711
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: I felt sooo excited to get.

712
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 4: Frigging shuffle board man. Humble board is fun. It looks

713
00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 4: really try some time.

714
00:33:04,160 --> 00:33:04,959
Speaker 1: You've not tried it?

715
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:06,680
Speaker 4: Next person, next old person? Cruise are gone?

716
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, shoot my shot. I feel like I feel like

717
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 1: doing a cruise would be I feel like the idea

718
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:13,080
Speaker 1: of cruises is fun, but I don't know if it's

719
00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 1: actually fun in practice, I think. But anyway, I felt

720
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:18,120
Speaker 1: so dirty when she said that, Like I couldn't even

721
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:20,480
Speaker 1: be in the same room as her, and I left

722
00:33:20,480 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 1: the house entirely for a few hours to go get

723
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:28,480
Speaker 1: some fresh winter air. And even now I'm still processing

724
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 1: what the heck is going on. My mother is like

725
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 1: a completely different person now, and I don't know if

726
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 1: it's my fault or not. Am IV a hole? Did

727
00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:39,640
Speaker 1: I cause this? There are some comments There is n

728
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:44,200
Speaker 1: up date TLDR for everyone who's just getting in the stream. Ops,

729
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:48,840
Speaker 1: mama wanted some grand babies and ope, and their partner

730
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:52,640
Speaker 1: is like, hey, we're child free and we love it.

731
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 1: And then Mama is like and she lives with them,

732
00:33:57,360 --> 00:33:59,560
Speaker 1: and so it's super sad and now just rots in

733
00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:02,600
Speaker 1: front of the TV and seems completely dejected. And know

734
00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: he's asking, am I the a hole?

735
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:07,800
Speaker 4: Yep? I don't say no, no, say no dude.

736
00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:10,680
Speaker 3: I mean like, I love the effort, you know, I

737
00:34:10,719 --> 00:34:12,920
Speaker 3: love standing on like, hey, I don't want kids.

738
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:14,799
Speaker 4: You're standing on on what?

739
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 1: Standing on business?

740
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:15,960
Speaker 4: What you want?

741
00:34:15,960 --> 00:34:19,240
Speaker 3: You're standing on business owns and and uh, you're also

742
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 3: trying to be like, hey, like let's go on a cruise,

743
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:23,439
Speaker 3: let's get out, let's have some fun.

744
00:34:23,680 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 1: You know. It's again like actively trying to get a

745
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:30,240
Speaker 1: little little gma on her on our feet.

746
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:30,680
Speaker 4: Yeah.

747
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 3: This is actually this is I feel like a great

748
00:34:32,680 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 3: example of where it's like someone could be terrible to you,

749
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:38,879
Speaker 3: where it's like they're disrespecting your boundary, like constantly asking

750
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:40,359
Speaker 3: you to have the kids, and you're like, you know what,

751
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,600
Speaker 3: let me let me fight it with kindness. Yeah, let's

752
00:34:43,640 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 3: go on a cruise. Let's enjoy ourselves. It's not working now,

753
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:48,480
Speaker 3: but I just think it's such a classy move.

754
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:52,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, age Serenity does say, yeah, she is lonely. That's probably.

755
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:53,400
Speaker 1: That's probably that, That's.

756
00:34:53,280 --> 00:34:53,880
Speaker 4: What I'm saying.

757
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:56,480
Speaker 3: Like, and I think she's just so caught up in

758
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 3: that depressive state that she just prefers to just like

759
00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:03,839
Speaker 3: kind of just sit in the anger versus get out

760
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:04,280
Speaker 3: and enjoy.

761
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:06,879
Speaker 4: If she won on one so bad, she could go get one.

762
00:35:07,840 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 1: Sure you can adopt when's too old to adopt.

763
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:14,160
Speaker 4: They there's got to be some kind of rules on.

764
00:35:14,560 --> 00:35:18,880
Speaker 4: They go through an intensive like the innrocess.

765
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:20,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, are you fit? Are you capable?

766
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:23,839
Speaker 4: Yeah? So if it doesn't look like you're functioning live

767
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:25,880
Speaker 4: day to day very well, they probably won't give it

768
00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:27,919
Speaker 4: to you. So sorry, it's true.

769
00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:33,359
Speaker 1: Man has his gird under control. I think he's functioning. Dude,

770
00:35:33,560 --> 00:35:36,760
Speaker 1: well enough, my gourd has not been gurden as hard.

771
00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:39,959
Speaker 1: Oh he hasn't been good, hasn't has hasn't been good?

772
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,439
Speaker 4: Yep, I pooped in a bowl. Pooped in a ball.

773
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:44,719
Speaker 4: I pooped in a bowl. They're going to test it.

774
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:47,759
Speaker 1: They're going I also pooped in a bowl recently dude. Well,

775
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 1: actually it was like a little little diaper that you

776
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:50,480
Speaker 1: put on the toilet.

777
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:53,359
Speaker 3: Oh, they gave me a straight up bowl. They're talking

778
00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:55,960
Speaker 3: hard plastics on, Like did you just like squat?

779
00:35:56,640 --> 00:35:56,839
Speaker 4: Nah?

780
00:35:56,880 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 3: That was straight on? There you standing, not understanding. I

781
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:04,080
Speaker 3: figured it out. You could put it on where you

782
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 3: sit normally. But at first I had it backwards, and

783
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 3: I'm like, if I was a woman, this would work.

784
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 3: And then I'm like, I have it backwards, turn it around.

785
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:13,480
Speaker 2: Fin it worked.

786
00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 1: Bang, I'm I don't. I can't fully visualize it, but

787
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 1: maybe that's for the best. So sounds like she stopped

788
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:25,040
Speaker 1: living for herself and moved into your home in order

789
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 1: to live for your hypothetical children. This is just my opinion,

790
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 1: but I doubt she was too old to live alone

791
00:36:30,680 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 1: since she can still care for herself and for you too.

792
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:34,719
Speaker 1: It sounds like you guys need to sit down and

793
00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 1: discuss what her expectations were when you guys decided to

794
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:40,440
Speaker 1: combine households. It could be that she resents you for

795
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:43,879
Speaker 1: bursting her bubble and hope you replied, I think you're right.

796
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,560
Speaker 1: We were just worried about her living alone, especially since

797
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:50,360
Speaker 1: my dad passed. And another reply said, she's depressed and

798
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 1: still grieving. Need some therapy and somewhere else to live.

799
00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:56,239
Speaker 1: She's making all of your lives miserable. And we got

800
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:59,359
Speaker 1: an update. What do we want to happen here?

801
00:36:59,640 --> 00:37:01,799
Speaker 3: This is a question, And I'm almost like, do we

802
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:03,879
Speaker 3: pull it? Like, do we have her move out? Because

803
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 3: she's living with them right Yeah? She's living with them

804
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:08,399
Speaker 3: right now. That's a tough one, man, because it's like.

805
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:11,959
Speaker 1: Because but also it's like she's super lonely, so would

806
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:16,600
Speaker 1: would would having her move out actually accelerate the brain

807
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 1: rot even worse? Yeah? Would she be? She'd be watching

808
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:24,440
Speaker 1: that QBC twenty twenty four hours a day, seven days.

809
00:37:24,840 --> 00:37:26,880
Speaker 4: Some girlfriends, dude.

810
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think he's granny friends. Need some granny friends. Ye,

811
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,680
Speaker 1: that's true, dude. Underwater aerobics. That's what I'm talking about.

812
00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 1: That's that's what I'm as. I'm talking about what I'm saying.

813
00:37:35,600 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 1: Kimberly find says she resents him for not busting a

814
00:37:39,880 --> 00:37:46,160
Speaker 1: nut with fall through. Kimberly fine, eloquent, eloquent couldn't have

815
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 1: said about ourselves? Yep?

816
00:37:47,080 --> 00:37:47,360
Speaker 4: Couldn't.

817
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:49,440
Speaker 1: Couldn't really couldn't. I mean, you stole the words right

818
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:53,360
Speaker 1: out of my mouth. But we got an update. Hey,

819
00:37:53,520 --> 00:37:55,759
Speaker 1: oh she moved out.

820
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:56,560
Speaker 4: Whoa.

821
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:59,399
Speaker 1: It was all a blurber the day after the whole

822
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:02,440
Speaker 1: ticket and we sat down with her during breakfast and

823
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 1: told her that it might be best if she got therapy.

824
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 6: Oo.

825
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:11,840
Speaker 1: She said she wanted nothing to do with a therapist

826
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:14,319
Speaker 1: and that she knew she was fine, It's just that

827
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 1: she had an ungrateful son. I was in shock from

828
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:22,640
Speaker 1: the sheer audacity of her statement, and my significant other

829
00:38:22,719 --> 00:38:26,319
Speaker 1: almost immediately lost her crap. They started verbally fighting, and

830
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 1: I broke the both of them up so I could

831
00:38:28,280 --> 00:38:31,040
Speaker 1: settle it. My mom looked to me as if she

832
00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:33,840
Speaker 1: expected me to defend her, but I didn't. My significant

833
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 1: other came first. My significant other will always come first,

834
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: unless I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt that

835
00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:43,840
Speaker 1: she's all the way in the wrong. I asked my

836
00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:46,680
Speaker 1: girlfriend to leave me and my mother alone so I

837
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 1: could talk to my mother in private, and I let

838
00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 1: her know that I loved her, just in case it's important.

839
00:38:53,120 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 1: Once we were alone, I told my mother that it

840
00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:58,839
Speaker 1: was therapy and accepting the fact that she wouldn't get

841
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:03,600
Speaker 1: grandchildren or move out, so she chose the latter. She

842
00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:07,239
Speaker 1: packed her bags, cleaning her room, and try to write

843
00:39:07,239 --> 00:39:10,319
Speaker 1: me a check for rents. I told her not to

844
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:12,759
Speaker 1: do that because the intention was never financial, and she

845
00:39:12,840 --> 00:39:15,239
Speaker 1: was welcome to stay here and retire as long as

846
00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:18,680
Speaker 1: she remained pleasant and civil. But then she said that

847
00:39:18,840 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 1: I wasn't acting like her son, I was acting like

848
00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 1: her landlord, so she would treat me as such.

849
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:29,120
Speaker 4: Oh wow, jeez.

850
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:32,960
Speaker 1: I took the check, ripped it up and told her

851
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 1: to get out whoa which I will tell you to

852
00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 1: get the f out if you're not listening to our

853
00:39:40,160 --> 00:39:45,360
Speaker 1: podcast every day we release on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, wherever

854
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:46,880
Speaker 1: you get your podcasts. And the great thing about a

855
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:48,880
Speaker 1: podcast you can be doing other things. You could be

856
00:39:48,920 --> 00:39:52,360
Speaker 1: fun and you could be uh, I know, twinkling your toes.

857
00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:55,000
Speaker 1: You could we could be you could be douche in

858
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:59,040
Speaker 1: your butt. Whatever you need to do that that that

859
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 1: takes hands, you can buy and free, you know, and

860
00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:03,919
Speaker 1: listen to the pod.

861
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:05,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, you could do it, you know.

862
00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:10,720
Speaker 1: So uh, keep everything clean, keep everything tidy, and listen

863
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:14,759
Speaker 1: to the pod that wherever you get your podcasts, there's

864
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 1: a little bit up date. Oh but yeah, what do

865
00:40:18,400 --> 00:40:19,759
Speaker 1: we think about where we are right now?

866
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:20,040
Speaker 4: Yeah?

867
00:40:20,120 --> 00:40:24,720
Speaker 2: I mean, uh, pretty. I like the way that Opie

868
00:40:24,719 --> 00:40:25,239
Speaker 2: handled it.

869
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:29,480
Speaker 3: Notice he now it is a hard decision to kind

870
00:40:29,480 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 3: of like either tell or ask or give you know,

871
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:36,319
Speaker 3: your your own mom the option to like move out

872
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:39,279
Speaker 3: when it clearly seems like she would benefit from saying

873
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:41,919
Speaker 3: with someone. But he did give her the option of like, hey,

874
00:40:42,280 --> 00:40:44,880
Speaker 3: you can like live with us and you know, just

875
00:40:44,920 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 3: accept like hey, we won't be having kids and everything,

876
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:50,040
Speaker 3: or like like you can move out because like we're not.

877
00:40:50,719 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 3: I don't know if the.

878
00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 1: Option was better than I think the option. I think

879
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 1: the option really helps. Yeah, and uh, I think it's

880
00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 1: the I think it is the most kind thing to do.

881
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:05,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, you good get over their friend.

882
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:11,080
Speaker 1: Yes, but we got another update. So I'm still in shock.

883
00:41:11,160 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 1: I don't know how to feel. I haven't tried calling her.

884
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 1: I figured it'd be best to give her a week

885
00:41:15,880 --> 00:41:18,560
Speaker 1: or so of time, but part of me also thinks

886
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:20,840
Speaker 1: that I should call her. I don't know where she'd go.

887
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:23,280
Speaker 1: We practically have no family and she sold her house.

888
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:26,680
Speaker 1: She has plenty of cash from that aforementioned sale, though,

889
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 1: so she could rent a place. And a comment says, quote,

890
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:31,600
Speaker 1: I was acting like a son. I was acting like

891
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:34,400
Speaker 1: her landlord. This is what you have to remember. A

892
00:41:34,440 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 1: woman who thinks you having boundaries you won't break for her,

893
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 1: is you not acting like her son? Is not someone

894
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:44,239
Speaker 1: who respects you. A woman who thinks you were expecting respect?

895
00:41:44,760 --> 00:41:47,600
Speaker 1: Is you acting like her landlord? Is someone who will

896
00:41:47,600 --> 00:41:50,960
Speaker 1: give who will only give respect to those she feels

897
00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:54,320
Speaker 1: aren't a position of power over her, not a loved

898
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:57,399
Speaker 1: one or an equal. You are not a problem here.

899
00:41:57,880 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 1: Her premise for your relationship to function and away she

900
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:04,840
Speaker 1: would accept is fundamentally skewed, with her as an authority

901
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 1: and you as a subordinates. And there is a reply.

902
00:42:08,520 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 1: She sees you that child. She sees you as a child,

903
00:42:11,440 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 1: her child, not as a grown adult man. And she's

904
00:42:14,080 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 1: trying to assert control over you, your girlfriend in your home.

905
00:42:16,920 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 1: She's absolutely in the wrong, but she wants parental control

906
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:23,640
Speaker 1: dynamics over you, which means you'll never be able to

907
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:26,279
Speaker 1: live with her because of how she views you and

908
00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:29,520
Speaker 1: your relationship. Aka, she never grew up from being a

909
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,520
Speaker 1: mom to a child to a mom of an adult man.

910
00:42:33,080 --> 00:42:35,400
Speaker 1: Another comment, for the love of all that is holy,

911
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:38,400
Speaker 1: double check any forms of birth control you use for

912
00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:42,360
Speaker 1: signs of tampering if it were me, I'd toss any

913
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 1: form of BC or little little uh action. Yeah, have

914
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:52,440
Speaker 1: some protection that were in the house while she was

915
00:42:52,480 --> 00:42:56,240
Speaker 1: living there and buy new ones just for peace of mind.

916
00:42:57,320 --> 00:42:59,600
Speaker 1: And that is where that story ends.

917
00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:05,680
Speaker 3: Wow, jeez, Yeah, no good good takes. And you know

918
00:43:05,880 --> 00:43:08,120
Speaker 3: Op tried, Oh.

919
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 1: Pep did try. I mean the cruise was really really nice.

920
00:43:10,680 --> 00:43:11,880
Speaker 2: I thought that was really sweet.

921
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not his fault that, you know, she she

922
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 1: you can lead the horse to water, but you can't

923
00:43:18,080 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: take it out of its rotting chair.

924
00:43:19,640 --> 00:43:22,360
Speaker 3: And then where's the point where, uh, you know you

925
00:43:22,360 --> 00:43:27,080
Speaker 3: can just keep going and you know, just fail and just.

926
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 1: Just be miserable. She's gonna make it.

927
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, She's literally gonna make your life miserable.

928
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:33,479
Speaker 1: So it's like there's a point. Yeah, there is a point.

929
00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:37,240
Speaker 2: There's a point, but there's also well, how many minutes

930
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:37,480
Speaker 2: are we?

931
00:43:37,960 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 4: Uh, we have one more story?

932
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, we always have one more story. Hey, it's John here,

933
00:43:43,600 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 3: og host of the show. We're gonna get back to

934
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:46,880
Speaker 3: these juicy stories. But here's a quick three minutes of

935
00:43:46,920 --> 00:43:50,759
Speaker 3: ads from our sponsors. My stepmother screamed my biological mother

936
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 3: during my engagement dinner, so I banned her from my wedding.

937
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, get her out of here, your bank, your band.

938
00:43:56,560 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 1: You can scream in a little straight jackets outside.

939
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:01,359
Speaker 4: And not in here.

940
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:04,839
Speaker 3: Well, I twenty five female, have a wonderful relationship with

941
00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:07,319
Speaker 3: my stepmother and father, as well as with my mother.

942
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 3: My mother had me with my father when she was

943
00:44:10,320 --> 00:44:13,000
Speaker 3: eighteen and my father was nineteen years old. Soon after

944
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:15,480
Speaker 3: my mother brought me home, she ditched me in the

945
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:19,160
Speaker 3: middle of the night ouch, and nobody had seen her

946
00:44:19,200 --> 00:44:21,759
Speaker 3: for years. My stepmother came into my life when I

947
00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:23,719
Speaker 3: was one years old, and she has a daughter of

948
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:25,839
Speaker 3: her own a few years older than me. My father

949
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 3: and stepmother married when I was three and my step

950
00:44:28,239 --> 00:44:30,439
Speaker 3: miss and when my stepsister was eight.

951
00:44:30,560 --> 00:44:32,480
Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from deleted.

952
00:44:32,719 --> 00:44:34,200
Speaker 3: But if you want to submit your stories and not

953
00:44:34,239 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 3: to lead them, good osha shky story time, send them

954
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:37,680
Speaker 3: in and we just might read it.

955
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:40,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, dude, our suburb is at like eleven thousand before

956
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 4: I know, popping off.

957
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 1: Let's let me go pippy poppin'.

958
00:44:43,560 --> 00:44:47,440
Speaker 2: We're our slash shoky story back. That's very better than ever.

959
00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:48,080
Speaker 2: They can't show you.

960
00:44:48,200 --> 00:44:53,919
Speaker 3: Oh anyway, So I saw my stepmother as a mom

961
00:44:54,040 --> 00:44:56,719
Speaker 3: and called her mom. She did everything a mother is

962
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:59,239
Speaker 3: supposed to do for their daughter. She treated she never

963
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:01,759
Speaker 3: treated me like I was an outsider. I'm very close

964
00:45:01,840 --> 00:45:05,359
Speaker 3: with everyone in my family now. My mother did try

965
00:45:05,440 --> 00:45:08,040
Speaker 3: to come back in my life, the bio mother when

966
00:45:08,080 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 3: I was five years old, because she was pregnant at

967
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 3: the time with my little sister, but my father didn't

968
00:45:12,800 --> 00:45:15,480
Speaker 3: let her. He was very hesitant until I turned seven.

969
00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:18,680
Speaker 3: He allowed my mother to slowly come back into my life.

970
00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:21,640
Speaker 3: She was a stranger to me. She did have my

971
00:45:21,719 --> 00:45:23,880
Speaker 3: little sister who I got to meet when and she

972
00:45:24,040 --> 00:45:26,000
Speaker 3: was two at the time. She told me the reason

973
00:45:26,080 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 3: she ran away was that she has mental problems and

974
00:45:28,719 --> 00:45:31,480
Speaker 3: wanted to get help. I was very cold towards her.

975
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:33,800
Speaker 3: I didn't call her mom, and she didn't force me.

976
00:45:34,120 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 3: She took her time and let me have my space

977
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:39,480
Speaker 3: until I finally started to get close to her and

978
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 3: my little sister. My mother did have a great job

979
00:45:42,360 --> 00:45:43,080
Speaker 3: and a big home.

980
00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 4: Okay, so it seems like she kind of got her

981
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:49,440
Speaker 4: act together. It seems like we're kind of on the come.

982
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:52,839
Speaker 1: On up and up, We're up and oh.

983
00:45:53,280 --> 00:45:55,240
Speaker 2: I became very close to my mother and my sister,

984
00:45:55,560 --> 00:45:58,080
Speaker 2: my father and stepmother allowed me to bring my little

985
00:45:58,120 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 2: sister to my house all the time, and everything was.

986
00:46:00,880 --> 00:46:05,880
Speaker 1: Great until there's always an until everything was great, until

987
00:46:05,920 --> 00:46:09,560
Speaker 1: it all went down hill, until until.

988
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 4: My girlfriend proposed to me.

989
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:15,480
Speaker 3: Oh, we are planning a small wedding at my mother's

990
00:46:15,560 --> 00:46:18,880
Speaker 3: lake house with our close friends and family. The whole

991
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 3: problem started when I wanted to have my mother sit

992
00:46:22,200 --> 00:46:25,440
Speaker 3: in the front and my stepmother didn't like that. Remember

993
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:30,399
Speaker 3: the stepmother that was like originally amazing and then mom

994
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:32,800
Speaker 3: bio mom that was not amazing at first. Right, so

995
00:46:32,960 --> 00:46:36,760
Speaker 3: the roles are maybe so now now reverse could be switching,

996
00:46:36,760 --> 00:46:37,320
Speaker 3: could be switching.

997
00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:41,840
Speaker 1: Wait wait wait, so the op's girlfriend proposed and like

998
00:46:42,080 --> 00:46:44,359
Speaker 1: there was like a proposal ceremony kind of thing.

999
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:47,880
Speaker 3: Uh, they're now discussing who's gonna sit where at the wedding.

1000
00:46:48,320 --> 00:46:51,400
Speaker 3: Oh now we're talking, you know, seating arrangement at the wedding.

1001
00:46:51,960 --> 00:46:55,759
Speaker 1: Big deal, that's big deal. A lot a lot can

1002
00:46:56,000 --> 00:46:58,520
Speaker 1: a lot can fall apart based on who you're sitting

1003
00:46:58,560 --> 00:47:01,640
Speaker 1: next to. Oh yeah, as we've seen.

1004
00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:04,800
Speaker 4: My goodness ten thousand hours catalog.

1005
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:08,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, who would have known that seats would end relationships?

1006
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:10,160
Speaker 1: But hey they do.

1007
00:47:10,520 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 4: Here we are they do?

1008
00:47:11,880 --> 00:47:13,880
Speaker 1: In one face and on a relationship time.

1009
00:47:15,600 --> 00:47:17,000
Speaker 2: Samuel Daughter twenty twenty five.

1010
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:18,960
Speaker 4: He's just handing him out now, he's just giving him

1011
00:47:18,960 --> 00:47:20,160
Speaker 4: out like freak candy today.

1012
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:23,400
Speaker 1: Just one. I thought that was a chair, not a

1013
00:47:23,600 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 1: jawline that could cut glass all over the flames.

1014
00:47:30,040 --> 00:47:33,080
Speaker 3: Oh, so we're getting back to the story, lares, gentlemen.

1015
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:35,920
Speaker 3: She wanted her family and my father's family to sit

1016
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 3: in the front while while my mother is in the back.

1017
00:47:39,239 --> 00:47:41,600
Speaker 3: My stepfather is fine with my little sister in the front,

1018
00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:44,880
Speaker 3: though I did disagree and thought that that was the

1019
00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 3: end of it. When it came to dancing, I wanted

1020
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:50,479
Speaker 3: to dance with my mother and father. My stepmother asked

1021
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:52,960
Speaker 3: if she was getting a dance. I did say no,

1022
00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:55,480
Speaker 3: and she was quiet for a while. When I was

1023
00:47:55,560 --> 00:47:57,719
Speaker 3: going to get my wedding dress, I bought my three

1024
00:47:57,800 --> 00:47:59,800
Speaker 3: best friends who were my maid of honor in my

1025
00:48:00,320 --> 00:48:04,239
Speaker 3: maids little sister, stepsister, and my mom and my step mom.

1026
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:08,319
Speaker 3: My stepmother was upset and I asked her what was wrong,

1027
00:48:08,880 --> 00:48:10,960
Speaker 3: and she told me that she is uncomfortable that my

1028
00:48:11,080 --> 00:48:13,960
Speaker 3: mother was here. I told her that she is my mother.

1029
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 3: My stepmother cut me off and said that she was

1030
00:48:17,960 --> 00:48:21,480
Speaker 3: she was my mother, not my bio mom. I told

1031
00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:23,560
Speaker 3: her not to say that and to not ruin my day.

1032
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:26,399
Speaker 3: She stayed quiet the whole time. I guess she told

1033
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:29,640
Speaker 3: my stepsister, and my stepsister said that my stepmother has

1034
00:48:29,680 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 3: been upset about the whole wedding planning.

1035
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:36,920
Speaker 1: Now like step mama is gonna be some step grandmam.

1036
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:41,160
Speaker 3: She's oh, she's she's she's not gonna be happy until

1037
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 3: bio mom is taken out by security.

1038
00:48:43,840 --> 00:48:47,320
Speaker 1: That's the only thing I wonder, like, this is not

1039
00:48:47,680 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 1: what you should do. And maybe you just like uninvite her,

1040
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 1: but for peace of mind, potentially, maybe you just give

1041
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:57,560
Speaker 1: her a dance, you know, but like thirty seconds, like

1042
00:48:57,640 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 1: one song.

1043
00:48:58,760 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 2: The problem is, I think this is a creep.

1044
00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 1: This is it's crazy.

1045
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 4: If she if she gets her way in one area,

1046
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:11,440
Speaker 4: who's to say she's not emboldened emboldened to and she

1047
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:12,799
Speaker 4: left open in the middle of the night.

1048
00:49:13,520 --> 00:49:19,880
Speaker 1: Incorrect, That was the biological mom. But but but uh,

1049
00:49:20,000 --> 00:49:22,280
Speaker 1: you know again was misunderstood.

1050
00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:28,520
Speaker 4: Let's talk about that, miss Einstein. And then he invented gravity. Bro, Yeah,

1051
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:29,880
Speaker 4: he invented discovered it.

1052
00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 1: He invented gravity.

1053
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:34,320
Speaker 3: Okay, I said what I said, So watch out for

1054
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:40,000
Speaker 3: Riley's invention coming to the theater. Yeah, this show, this

1055
00:49:40,120 --> 00:49:42,680
Speaker 3: show right here, he is actually inventing a lot of stuff.

1056
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:45,440
Speaker 3: Riley Riley is the Einstein of this pod right now.

1057
00:49:46,000 --> 00:49:49,480
Speaker 3: True literally never been stroken in the existence of you.

1058
00:49:49,760 --> 00:49:52,320
Speaker 3: Come to the Live Shoon tomorrow, you'll you'll definitely see.

1059
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:54,719
Speaker 4: There we go. It's gonna be good, can be good.

1060
00:49:54,800 --> 00:49:55,440
Speaker 1: Oh baby.

1061
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 2: So she feels that my bio mom is in the

1062
00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:01,640
Speaker 2: way the step mom us, when my bio.

1063
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:05,680
Speaker 3: Mom hasn't done anything wrong and respected my stepmother's space

1064
00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:08,080
Speaker 3: as well. I told my stepsister that my step mom

1065
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:12,360
Speaker 3: is not liking my bio bio mom is not my problem,

1066
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:14,759
Speaker 3: and then she needed to just put her big girl

1067
00:50:14,880 --> 00:50:17,319
Speaker 3: pants on an actor age.

1068
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:20,960
Speaker 1: Step mindy put.

1069
00:50:20,840 --> 00:50:21,480
Speaker 4: Your pants on.

1070
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:27,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, stepmom is throwing a fuss for no god

1071
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:30,439
Speaker 1: stop bang good reason, real quick, real quick.

1072
00:50:30,600 --> 00:50:33,840
Speaker 4: My theory is, give me give it to mom. Step

1073
00:50:33,920 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 4: Mom was great when she got the she owned the place,

1074
00:50:38,320 --> 00:50:39,640
Speaker 4: when she owned the related.

1075
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 3: Trophy trophy, and now there's nothing more in your face

1076
00:50:45,200 --> 00:50:48,520
Speaker 3: than you've been demoted. Bio mom gets a dance and

1077
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 3: you don't get a dance. She that's like clear as

1078
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:52,640
Speaker 3: day in her crazy brain.

1079
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, although I you know, like if I all right,

1080
00:50:58,239 --> 00:51:01,040
Speaker 1: all right here, right right, I'm just gonna give you

1081
00:51:01,080 --> 00:51:03,960
Speaker 1: a little little thing, little thing. Right. You're adopted yep,

1082
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:05,399
Speaker 1: from birth?

1083
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:06,640
Speaker 6: What no, no, you.

1084
00:51:08,400 --> 00:51:10,920
Speaker 1: Somewhere cast you out one, but so yeah, you were wanted.

1085
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:14,399
Speaker 1: You were wanted to the point of someone adopting you. Right,

1086
00:51:14,920 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 1: and the step mom just like loves you so much

1087
00:51:19,239 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 1: for one hundred and thirty years. She takes care of you.

1088
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 1: Now he takes care of you until you get married. Right,

1089
00:51:27,920 --> 00:51:31,800
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, all of a sudden, bam,

1090
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:34,920
Speaker 1: biological mom comes in and You're like, hey, I know

1091
00:51:35,080 --> 00:51:37,160
Speaker 1: you just took care of me for my whole life,

1092
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 1: but I'm going to give this dance to my bio mama.

1093
00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:45,560
Speaker 1: I feel like I feel like, you know, adopted mama

1094
00:51:45,640 --> 00:51:49,239
Speaker 1: is going to feel a little sad. Well, just like Rob,

1095
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:54,920
Speaker 1: Just like Rob. This is call back to the Rob story.

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00:51:55,920 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 1: This is the Rob story all again.

1097
00:52:00,239 --> 00:52:02,520
Speaker 3: Here's the thing though, what she started going back in

1098
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:04,359
Speaker 3: Opie's life when she was just seven years old.

1099
00:52:04,520 --> 00:52:05,319
Speaker 4: Bio mom did.

1100
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:11,880
Speaker 3: So. From seven to twenty five, bio mom has been

1101
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:16,280
Speaker 3: a part of Obi's life and and stepmom and stepmom

1102
00:52:16,880 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 3: and Bio mom.

1103
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:19,839
Speaker 4: They were like, hey, you need to take it slow.

1104
00:52:19,840 --> 00:52:21,319
Speaker 4: We're not going to give you, and she was like fuck.

1105
00:52:21,680 --> 00:52:25,040
Speaker 3: She always respected the slowness and the space that everyone

1106
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:25,800
Speaker 3: was requesting.

1107
00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:28,960
Speaker 1: She always did, I think I think you give both

1108
00:52:29,000 --> 00:52:29,359
Speaker 1: a dance.

1109
00:52:30,000 --> 00:52:30,919
Speaker 2: I like both a dance.

1110
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:32,239
Speaker 1: I think I like both both.

1111
00:52:32,360 --> 00:52:32,839
Speaker 4: Dance is fun.

1112
00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:34,680
Speaker 1: I mean it's not like well, it's it's like you

1113
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:38,200
Speaker 1: can extend this thing by three minutes to give another.

1114
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:40,960
Speaker 4: Dance your wedding. Guys, we gotta be fun with it.

1115
00:52:41,120 --> 00:52:42,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, we have fun, dude.

1116
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 4: That's what I would do.

1117
00:52:42,800 --> 00:52:44,439
Speaker 1: Dance with them both at the same time. One gets

1118
00:52:44,440 --> 00:52:46,000
Speaker 1: the back, when that gets the front. A dance A

1119
00:52:46,040 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 1: little little sandwich.

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00:52:48,680 --> 00:52:51,000
Speaker 4: These are moms, bro, so.

1121
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:54,840
Speaker 1: One's not related to Mom's gonna be sandwich.

1122
00:52:57,200 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 4: There he is. You guys missed them so much.

1123
00:53:02,120 --> 00:53:06,919
Speaker 3: Maybe try try five starting this new year off, right,

1124
00:53:07,920 --> 00:53:11,239
Speaker 3: let's go. My stepsister got mad and just walked away.

1125
00:53:11,800 --> 00:53:14,120
Speaker 3: She told my father and he called me. He said

1126
00:53:14,560 --> 00:53:16,799
Speaker 3: he said what I said was uncalled for, and wanted

1127
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:19,640
Speaker 3: me to include my stepmother in more and my mother

1128
00:53:19,880 --> 00:53:23,000
Speaker 3: less whoa uh. He said that she raised me like

1129
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:25,720
Speaker 3: her own and that she feels like she's getting replaced.

1130
00:53:26,120 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 3: I told him I wasn't replacing her and she was included. Uh,

1131
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:32,279
Speaker 3: she just having a recent problem with my mother when

1132
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:35,120
Speaker 3: she didn't before. He just hung up and I ignored

1133
00:53:35,160 --> 00:53:38,120
Speaker 3: them both for a while. Then I hosted a late

1134
00:53:38,160 --> 00:53:40,280
Speaker 3: engagement dinner and invited all my friends and family.

1135
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:44,760
Speaker 1: Dude, I think he's been a little whack. I'm nearing

1136
00:53:44,840 --> 00:53:47,480
Speaker 1: on Op's the a hole. Huh oh, I'm near and

1137
00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:50,120
Speaker 1: on it. Yeah, I'm I'm cuspin.

1138
00:53:50,360 --> 00:53:55,879
Speaker 2: I think like, I think that she should respect stepmom's hurt.

1139
00:53:56,360 --> 00:54:00,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's the Rob situation. It's the Robs like for

1140
00:54:00,640 --> 00:54:02,880
Speaker 1: for all those that don't know, Rob was like the

1141
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:05,880
Speaker 1: perfect step dad and then all of a sudden, Op's

1142
00:54:05,920 --> 00:54:08,400
Speaker 1: real dad comes in and then she kicks Rob out

1143
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:11,719
Speaker 1: of the wedding and doesn't allow Rob to walk her

1144
00:54:11,760 --> 00:54:12,280
Speaker 1: down the aisle.

1145
00:54:13,400 --> 00:54:13,960
Speaker 4: We don't like that.

1146
00:54:14,160 --> 00:54:16,400
Speaker 1: We don't like that, not like that. We don't like

1147
00:54:16,480 --> 00:54:17,000
Speaker 1: that one bit.

1148
00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 3: Now, everything was going great until my bio mom wanted

1149
00:54:20,239 --> 00:54:22,880
Speaker 3: to give a speech to me and my fiance. She

1150
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:25,560
Speaker 3: gave a wonderful speech and when she said I was

1151
00:54:25,640 --> 00:54:27,759
Speaker 3: a special daughter she was lucky to raise.

1152
00:54:28,640 --> 00:54:33,560
Speaker 1: Uh oh, put I see you in the chat.

1153
00:54:33,600 --> 00:54:36,800
Speaker 4: In there, guys. Put them, We're just smack them smack.

1154
00:54:38,560 --> 00:54:39,560
Speaker 1: Do see what's coming?

1155
00:54:40,040 --> 00:54:42,880
Speaker 4: You see the big one. It's it's huge. I see you.

1156
00:54:43,040 --> 00:54:44,399
Speaker 4: I don't. I'm sorry, guys, I'm trying.

1157
00:54:45,200 --> 00:54:48,239
Speaker 2: My stepmother got up and told her to shut the

1158
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:50,439
Speaker 2: f up. I'm her mother.

1159
00:54:51,520 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 1: Well she like she like Shrek objected. Yep, oil ob

1160
00:54:55,400 --> 00:54:56,719
Speaker 1: jug that's lame.

1161
00:54:56,880 --> 00:54:57,399
Speaker 2: I'm the mother.

1162
00:54:57,640 --> 00:54:59,800
Speaker 1: That's lame too. I think. I think the difference between

1163
00:55:00,160 --> 00:55:04,640
Speaker 1: this person and Rob is Rob just like silently suffered.

1164
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:07,440
Speaker 4: Just saying just go to op and say, hey, you

1165
00:55:07,480 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 4: know what, I'm gonna be honest with you. I do

1166
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:11,360
Speaker 4: feel hurt. Yeah, you know, I feel like I raised you,

1167
00:55:11,760 --> 00:55:14,480
Speaker 4: and then you can have a good emotional conversation.

1168
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 1: Just just talk it out.

1169
00:55:18,200 --> 00:55:18,560
Speaker 4: Just do it.

1170
00:55:19,080 --> 00:55:21,080
Speaker 1: I think, I think, honestly both are both are a

1171
00:55:21,120 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 1: little bit in the wrong right now.

1172
00:55:22,239 --> 00:55:23,320
Speaker 4: I agree. I agree.

1173
00:55:24,239 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 3: She said that my mom abandoned me when I was

1174
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 3: just a newborn baby and missed a lot of my milestones.

1175
00:55:29,560 --> 00:55:31,600
Speaker 4: And she raised me when I was barely one years

1176
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:32,400
Speaker 4: old and taught me.

1177
00:55:32,520 --> 00:55:36,400
Speaker 3: To walk and talk, changed me, fed me everything a

1178
00:55:36,440 --> 00:55:39,640
Speaker 3: mother was supposed to do, and walked out. Oh wow,

1179
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:42,799
Speaker 3: everyone was stunned, and my mother was crying and wanted

1180
00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:45,160
Speaker 3: to leave. I was comforting her. I went to go

1181
00:55:45,239 --> 00:55:47,759
Speaker 3: after my stepmom and I screamed at her for ruining

1182
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 3: my engagement dinner and what she said to my mom.

1183
00:55:50,760 --> 00:55:50,880
Speaker 6: Uh.

1184
00:55:51,440 --> 00:55:54,120
Speaker 3: Stepmom tried to talk, but I screamed over her, and

1185
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:56,400
Speaker 3: I told her that she is banned from my wedding

1186
00:55:56,640 --> 00:55:58,600
Speaker 3: and I wanted to get her out of my life. Paul,

1187
00:55:59,520 --> 00:56:03,279
Speaker 3: ban or not, I'm very curious. This is so sad,

1188
00:56:03,640 --> 00:56:07,040
Speaker 3: very curious. My stepmother just left and hasn't messaged me

1189
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:09,680
Speaker 3: or anything. My father doesn't want to talk to me

1190
00:56:09,880 --> 00:56:12,600
Speaker 3: or my stepsister. I feel like I did the wrong

1191
00:56:12,719 --> 00:56:14,800
Speaker 3: thing and should have just not said anything.

1192
00:56:15,200 --> 00:56:16,040
Speaker 4: Am I the A hole?

1193
00:56:16,160 --> 00:56:18,400
Speaker 3: We have a quick edit and we're getting that pull up,

1194
00:56:18,680 --> 00:56:21,480
Speaker 3: but first I have to pull the one and only

1195
00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:22,360
Speaker 3: Samuel Donner.

1196
00:56:23,120 --> 00:56:26,000
Speaker 1: Do we pay in the stepmomuh? OPI is the a hole,

1197
00:56:26,640 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 1: but so is the step mom. OPI is the a

1198
00:56:28,800 --> 00:56:31,719
Speaker 1: hole because she kicked step mom out of participating in

1199
00:56:31,760 --> 00:56:34,680
Speaker 1: the wedding. That's not cool. Step moom did have a

1200
00:56:34,760 --> 00:56:42,960
Speaker 1: significant uh responsibility in raising you, and that should be respected. However,

1201
00:56:43,640 --> 00:56:49,000
Speaker 1: when the step mom like objects at your engagement party.

1202
00:56:49,400 --> 00:56:51,759
Speaker 1: I think that's whack. What should have happened is you

1203
00:56:51,760 --> 00:56:53,840
Speaker 1: should have like just had a like a one on

1204
00:56:54,000 --> 00:56:59,840
Speaker 1: one conversation. But like, also the punishment for what Op's

1205
00:56:59,840 --> 00:57:02,840
Speaker 1: doing is going to be She's not going to have

1206
00:57:02,880 --> 00:57:03,919
Speaker 1: her step mom in her life.

1207
00:57:04,320 --> 00:57:05,720
Speaker 4: That's that's what's going to happen.

1208
00:57:05,920 --> 00:57:08,560
Speaker 1: And maybe she doesn't care, but I think Op is

1209
00:57:08,840 --> 00:57:12,080
Speaker 1: was I think Op was the a hole first, but

1210
00:57:13,120 --> 00:57:16,960
Speaker 1: but I think because yeah, because I mean understandable, like

1211
00:57:17,040 --> 00:57:20,040
Speaker 1: she's so hurt, but like that also is just not

1212
00:57:20,120 --> 00:57:22,520
Speaker 1: a good move. And if we're looking at like how

1213
00:57:22,640 --> 00:57:25,080
Speaker 1: do you do it? We look back at Rob and

1214
00:57:25,320 --> 00:57:27,360
Speaker 1: Rob had this happen to him and just kind of

1215
00:57:27,480 --> 00:57:31,080
Speaker 1: like suffered silently, and then after the wedding was like, hey,

1216
00:57:31,240 --> 00:57:33,640
Speaker 1: like this really really hurt me. I want I want

1217
00:57:33,680 --> 00:57:34,840
Speaker 1: you to I want you to know.

1218
00:57:35,080 --> 00:57:36,240
Speaker 2: There we go, There we go.

1219
00:57:36,360 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 3: A shockingly ninety one percent of chat is saying to

1220
00:57:40,520 --> 00:57:44,080
Speaker 3: not ban the step mom from the wedding. Let me

1221
00:57:44,120 --> 00:57:45,960
Speaker 3: know if you guys are understanding that right because everyone's

1222
00:57:45,960 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 3: the hole here though, Yeah, yeah, yeah, everyone is.

1223
00:57:51,440 --> 00:57:54,160
Speaker 1: The a hole. Yeah, Like can we can we go

1224
00:57:54,920 --> 00:57:58,480
Speaker 1: op a hole or everyone's a whole? Let's see it.

1225
00:57:58,720 --> 00:58:00,120
Speaker 1: I would love to know what you guys think on

1226
00:58:00,200 --> 00:58:03,240
Speaker 1: that one. Op's the a whole. Stepmom's reaction was very emotional.

1227
00:58:03,360 --> 00:58:05,360
Speaker 1: Op's the a hole due to three parents not having

1228
00:58:05,400 --> 00:58:08,200
Speaker 1: a conversation. Kayle mc campus says, I feel like OP

1229
00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:10,560
Speaker 1: invited both stepmom and buy a Mom to the engagement

1230
00:58:10,600 --> 00:58:14,760
Speaker 1: party knowing shit would hit the fan. Lucy Ford says

1231
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:17,439
Speaker 1: Opie's huge a hole, Stepmom as a tiny a hole.

1232
00:58:18,480 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 1: Jellybis says to understand, they need to have a conversation.

1233
00:58:20,600 --> 00:58:23,840
Speaker 1: OP needs to grow the f up. Yep.

1234
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:26,560
Speaker 3: People are passionate. Well we gotten met at least gentlemen.

1235
00:58:26,960 --> 00:58:29,919
Speaker 3: To anyone saying that I'm only after my mother's money,

1236
00:58:29,960 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 3: It's not true. My mother insisted she wanted me to

1237
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:35,200
Speaker 3: have my wedding at her lake house. Oh I forgot

1238
00:58:35,200 --> 00:58:38,080
Speaker 3: about that part. I wanted to do it somewhere else

1239
00:58:38,240 --> 00:58:41,440
Speaker 3: in the beginning, so I accepted it. I don't care

1240
00:58:41,560 --> 00:58:44,160
Speaker 3: for an expensive wedding, As I said, it's small weddings

1241
00:58:44,240 --> 00:58:47,880
Speaker 3: only with close family and friends. I'm not after anyone's money.

1242
00:58:48,160 --> 00:58:51,600
Speaker 3: Even at seven, I wasn't. We weren't expecting you to

1243
00:58:51,720 --> 00:58:55,200
Speaker 3: Op to be honest another at it, I am not

1244
00:58:55,360 --> 00:58:59,000
Speaker 3: after my mother's money, just doubling down. My fiance and

1245
00:58:59,040 --> 00:59:00,560
Speaker 3: I are paying for most of it, and we have

1246
00:59:00,680 --> 00:59:03,040
Speaker 3: got decent jobs to pay for a wedding. So again,

1247
00:59:03,280 --> 00:59:05,520
Speaker 3: not after my mom's my mom's money.

1248
00:59:05,640 --> 00:59:08,520
Speaker 1: Oh no, it sounds like you're getting pretty defensive over here.

1249
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:11,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, if you're explaining, you're losing bruh.

1250
00:59:11,520 --> 00:59:14,880
Speaker 3: Edit, my stepmother is not sitting in the back. Please

1251
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:17,200
Speaker 3: stop assuming she's sitting in the front with the rest

1252
00:59:17,240 --> 00:59:19,720
Speaker 3: of the family. Not sure where everyone read that she

1253
00:59:19,880 --> 00:59:21,720
Speaker 3: was sitting in the back. She wanted my mother to

1254
00:59:21,800 --> 00:59:24,320
Speaker 3: sit in the back, which got me upset, and I

1255
00:59:24,480 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 3: never told her she was gonna be sitting at the

1256
00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 3: back of the wedding. So please again, my step mom

1257
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:31,440
Speaker 3: is not sitting in the back of the wedding. She's

1258
00:59:31,440 --> 00:59:32,240
Speaker 3: sitting in the front.

1259
00:59:32,640 --> 00:59:34,400
Speaker 4: Hey, is she sitting in the back or the Is

1260
00:59:34,400 --> 00:59:36,320
Speaker 4: she sitting in the front of the way. I feel

1261
00:59:36,360 --> 00:59:39,880
Speaker 4: like you're really really trying to justify yourself. All right,

1262
00:59:41,160 --> 00:59:42,680
Speaker 4: and we've got the final update.

1263
00:59:42,840 --> 00:59:44,120
Speaker 1: Fire update.

1264
00:59:46,000 --> 00:59:48,960
Speaker 3: Everyone of you guys has called me names and my

1265
00:59:49,080 --> 00:59:53,440
Speaker 3: mom names, which I didn't appreciate. Y'all started assuming I

1266
00:59:53,640 --> 00:59:56,560
Speaker 3: was only after my mom's money. Assumed that my stepmother

1267
00:59:56,760 --> 00:59:58,000
Speaker 3: was to sit in the back.

1268
00:59:58,680 --> 01:00:00,720
Speaker 4: As we've heard, true.

1269
01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:03,720
Speaker 3: All I came here for was opinions of others, not

1270
01:00:03,840 --> 01:00:06,600
Speaker 3: to be degraded or be called names. But here is

1271
01:00:06,680 --> 01:00:09,440
Speaker 3: the update. I finally got a hold of my stepmother

1272
01:00:09,600 --> 01:00:13,560
Speaker 3: through my stepsister. My stepmother and I agreed to meet

1273
01:00:13,600 --> 01:00:16,160
Speaker 3: at my house. When she got there, she looked very sad,

1274
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:18,160
Speaker 3: and I just gave her a big hug. I told

1275
01:00:18,160 --> 01:00:19,840
Speaker 3: her how much I love her and she's the best

1276
01:00:19,880 --> 01:00:22,440
Speaker 3: mom anyone can ask for. We sat down together and

1277
01:00:22,560 --> 01:00:25,600
Speaker 3: had like a three to four hour conversation. We both

1278
01:00:25,640 --> 01:00:28,400
Speaker 3: apologized in the end, and my step mom wanted to

1279
01:00:28,440 --> 01:00:31,520
Speaker 3: apologize to my mom for what she said. She also

1280
01:00:31,600 --> 01:00:34,240
Speaker 3: said she understands if she wasn't getting a dance, she

1281
01:00:34,400 --> 01:00:36,760
Speaker 3: is just grateful to be there and watch her daughter

1282
01:00:37,000 --> 01:00:41,160
Speaker 3: get married, aw, which made us both cry. I told

1283
01:00:41,200 --> 01:00:43,360
Speaker 3: her how sorry I was about shouting at her and

1284
01:00:43,480 --> 01:00:46,000
Speaker 3: banning her. I told her it was in the heat

1285
01:00:46,040 --> 01:00:48,080
Speaker 3: of the moment and I should have just comforted her.

1286
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:51,320
Speaker 3: I didn't want I didn't want her out of my life,

1287
01:00:51,600 --> 01:00:53,400
Speaker 3: and she told me that she will stay in my

1288
01:00:53,520 --> 01:00:56,480
Speaker 3: life forever and accept my decisions and support them.

1289
01:00:56,920 --> 01:00:57,840
Speaker 2: We both hugged it out.

1290
01:00:58,360 --> 01:00:59,000
Speaker 4: She left home.

1291
01:00:59,600 --> 01:01:02,200
Speaker 3: We have been texting and calling each other every day.

1292
01:01:02,800 --> 01:01:05,240
Speaker 3: My dad and stepsister have been texting and calling me too.

1293
01:01:05,840 --> 01:01:08,120
Speaker 3: My mom has also gotten an apology for my step mom.

1294
01:01:08,680 --> 01:01:11,400
Speaker 3: My mom apologized to my stepmother. And now we are

1295
01:01:11,480 --> 01:01:14,040
Speaker 3: all excited for the wedding. Can't wait to marry the

1296
01:01:14,120 --> 01:01:18,760
Speaker 3: girl I have loved forever. Oh, by the way, there's

1297
01:01:18,800 --> 01:01:20,000
Speaker 3: something that you've loved for forever.

1298
01:01:20,480 --> 01:01:23,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, there is, and it's us. And if you a

1299
01:01:23,800 --> 01:01:24,960
Speaker 1: big wet kiss right now?

1300
01:01:25,400 --> 01:01:26,920
Speaker 2: Oh, Sam's given that, not me.

1301
01:01:28,120 --> 01:01:32,200
Speaker 3: But what I will give you is two thousand episodes

1302
01:01:32,720 --> 01:01:37,480
Speaker 3: of full episodes just like this said it wrong, but

1303
01:01:37,560 --> 01:01:40,160
Speaker 3: you get the idea. Go to Spotify, good Apple podcasts,

1304
01:01:40,280 --> 01:01:42,520
Speaker 3: Go to your favorite podcast app search Okay, story.

1305
01:01:42,360 --> 01:01:45,240
Speaker 2: Time and play away. I promise it is something you

1306
01:01:45,280 --> 01:01:45,800
Speaker 2: won't regret.

1307
01:01:46,720 --> 01:01:48,440
Speaker 3: But as we are nearing the end of the story,

1308
01:01:48,680 --> 01:01:52,240
Speaker 3: dear Samuel, we have gotten a phenomenal update here.

1309
01:01:52,920 --> 01:01:55,560
Speaker 1: It's great. I mean it's great. I think this is

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Speaker 1: this is what should have happened way earlier.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I will give him credit for ultimately having conversation

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Speaker 3: too it, because to be honest, we don't.

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Speaker 4: Always see it. We always have that resolution, but it's

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Speaker 4: better late than never.

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Speaker 3: And you know what, maybe this had to happen for

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Speaker 3: them to come to the table like this and be

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Speaker 3: totally I love the vulnerability and as Fanny says, yay

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Speaker 3: communication a communication.

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Speaker 1: We love communication on this show. That is car We're

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Speaker 1: a big communication gap, communicating to the max. Communicate with

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Speaker 1: me now.

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Speaker 3: I'm just grateful for my friends and family, especially my stepmother,

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Speaker 3: who has given me everything I wanted in life. My

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Speaker 3: stepsister and my father are still a bit upset with me,

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Speaker 3: but are still nice to me. All my friends are

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Speaker 3: on my side, and my mom did feel awful about

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Speaker 3: the whole situation. She didn't intend to put my step

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Speaker 3: mother and stepfather and my father down. Even my little

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Speaker 3: sister was really upset with my mother and I. She's

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Speaker 3: not talking to my mother as she really cares for

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Speaker 3: my stepmother and has been spending time with her a lot.

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Speaker 3: She has told me that she sees step mom as

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Speaker 3: her true and only mother. I hope in the future

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Speaker 3: that she will talk to our bio mom and we

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Speaker 3: can all go back to our lives normally and no

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Speaker 3: more hostility towards one underne Hey.

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Speaker 1: Bota Bing bought a boom.

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Speaker 2: That's a great note to end the episode on.

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Speaker 1: There it is there, It is so if you'll love us,

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Speaker 1: make sure to subscribe. We love you and see you tomorrow.